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Speaker 1: Welcome back to more to It to show that text

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Speaker 1: a deep dive into the biggest stories in sports, entertainment,

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Speaker 1: and culture.

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Speaker 2: Start with headline news and.

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Speaker 1: Then journey to deeper conversations, always finding those life lessons

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Speaker 1: that are presented in every single story. I'm your host

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Speaker 1: for ourselfswhially that dude? Y'all know how we start off

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Speaker 1: every show? What's up with that?

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Speaker 2: Dude?

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Speaker 1: I went to my favorite restaurant last night. I sound

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Speaker 1: like a teenager, don't know. Yeah, those are my best friends.

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Speaker 1: Like this is my latest favorite restaurant. I keep having

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Speaker 1: favorite restaurants. Man, But cast steak right now in La Whoa.

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Speaker 2: It's something.

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Speaker 1: It's a scene too, but it's a scene to pull

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Speaker 1: up there and see all them cars got dang who

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Speaker 1: up in here? Helicopters land in this mark. I have

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Speaker 1: a reservation for.

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Speaker 2: Eight oh man.

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Speaker 1: You see dudes with private security and they guns on

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Speaker 1: their bellies. You ever seen that? You lead the country

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Speaker 1: used to Third world countries too. You'd be seeing cats

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Speaker 1: with they guns on their bellies. They so big, the

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Speaker 1: guns so big that them suckers just be having it

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Speaker 1: right around they chest. Dang, when the hell to you

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Speaker 1: and it's always like calls and more problems than good

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Speaker 1: to me, Like, I ain't know who you were, dude,

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Speaker 1: until I saw all them guards with you. Now I'm thinking, like,

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Speaker 1: what's up? What you got? I'm looking at your head

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Speaker 1: to toe. I'm analyzing with the numbers. I'm like, how

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Speaker 1: much that costs you think?

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Speaker 2: You know? It's just crazy.

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Speaker 1: So sometimes I used to feel that way when I

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Speaker 1: play ball, Like why we go all this security with

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Speaker 1: Usten and the motorcycle cops and now y'all just ushering

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Speaker 1: us through the city.

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Speaker 2: Now everybody know we're here. Everybody know who we are.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Before that, they were just like,

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Speaker 2: look at them big dudes. I wonder what they up to?

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Speaker 1: All love man Steak was killer, Robert Mackie my dog.

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Speaker 1: We talking big, talking branding and sponsorship of the show.

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Speaker 1: So you know, be on the lookout. Once we get that, dope,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna do more, all right, h man, I'm pumped.

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Speaker 1: My manager, Branding all Good, had a lot of rap

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Speaker 1: conversations talking about top five artists ever three albums you

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Speaker 1: would take on the island. Crazy, y'all, y'all leave them

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Speaker 1: in the comments, y'all let me know what y'all thinking.

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Speaker 1: I ain't gonna tell y'all until later, but y'all know

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Speaker 1: high bang, you know that Dog Pound album going. I

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Speaker 1: don't give a damn, but man, this is the weekend.

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Speaker 1: I know you guys enjoying your weekend. It's hot at

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Speaker 1: least in la I hope it's hot where you guys are.

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Speaker 1: Not this hot though. Devil out here making bank selling

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Speaker 1: lemonade right now because it's hot one hundred out here.

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Speaker 1: But I just want to do some bite size stuff

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Speaker 1: for you guys on the weekend. It's just some food

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Speaker 1: for thought. You know, some things we could chew wrong.

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Speaker 1: Thump thump, and just build our bond. Man, keep the

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Speaker 1: community going. And I'm seeing right now the institution of

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Speaker 1: marriage has been in the headlines a lot different ways,

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Speaker 1: different angles. So this is gonna be like the Relationship Show,

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Speaker 1: and really, you know, we're gonna get into it. I

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Speaker 1: saw Stephen A. Smith talk about the incentives of marriage,

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Speaker 1: and every time you turn around it seems like it's

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Speaker 1: a financial transaction. I'm gonna tell y'all why it is

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Speaker 1: a financial transaction, as well as of course other things.

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Speaker 1: But the institution of marriage being under attack is happening everywhere, yep.

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Speaker 1: And it's from self inflict wounds. Yes, not enough cheerleaders

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Speaker 1: from within, and it's getting beat up by the naysayers

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Speaker 1: on the outside who just see the game from their

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Speaker 1: perspective the outside. Right, So let me give y'all some

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Speaker 1: inside information about marriage, you know, let you guys know

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Speaker 1: how it really goes, because I caught some of the

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Speaker 1: rants obviously. I saw what happened with Kevin Costner and

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Speaker 1: him and his ex now battling over insane upsurd amounts

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Speaker 1: of money, right, And you can tell that once people

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Speaker 1: break up, you're like, yo, where the love go? Well,

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Speaker 1: it's a thin line between the love and hate. That's

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Speaker 1: not just a song. But more importantly, you gotta remember,

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Speaker 1: as I'm gonna give you guys this while he is

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Speaker 1: and once again, that any relationship that ends, you literally

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Speaker 1: spend half of that time breaking up.

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Speaker 2: Right, ten year relationship, Oh my god, you made it

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Speaker 2: ten years? Amazing?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you can add up about five years worth of

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Speaker 1: arguments decline deceleration distance. Right, That's just the way the

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Speaker 1: game goes. Why, Because if you're really invested in something,

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Speaker 1: that takes you time to lose that connection to lose

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Speaker 1: that attraction and what makes you lose it are really

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Speaker 1: a lot of bad incidents, a lot of bad moments,

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Speaker 1: a lot of moments where you walk away. Not only

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Speaker 1: did you guys have your verbal exchange, but you also

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Speaker 1: got your mental dialogue going on, and you really battling yourself.

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Speaker 1: Is this worth it? Come on, man, she's beautiful, she's nice,

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Speaker 1: she's sweet. But dog, you hear what she said. You

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Speaker 1: know what she thinks. But nah, mama, you know.

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Speaker 2: That's what it is. Add that up. That's half that time. Right.

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Speaker 1: So I caught this rent and I saw what Stephen A.

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Speaker 1: Smith was saying, and he was like talking about infidelity.

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Speaker 1: He was talking about marriage and the money and just

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Speaker 1: he's like, in this country we talk about marriage, but

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Speaker 1: every time you turn around, it's a financial transaction. Is

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Speaker 1: getting to the point where prenups sayings safe because you

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Speaker 1: got couples out there contesting even the p I mean,

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Speaker 1: what the hell is going on y'all? And then you

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Speaker 1: see the Kevin Costner situation and everybody just looks at

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Speaker 1: it like, God, dang, what is it about? Okay, let

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Speaker 1: me just break this down little bite size, real quick.

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Speaker 1: Not gonna keep y'all too long.

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Speaker 2: The greatest transactions of wealth in this world.

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Speaker 1: You know what number one is? I hope you do.

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Speaker 1: It's inheritance, right. That's why it's important for you as

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Speaker 1: a parent, mother or father to go get yours, because

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Speaker 1: that's the number one way to set your kid up

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Speaker 1: economically for success is to give it to them, just

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Speaker 1: simple as that. Don't go with these narratives. Don't let

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Speaker 1: nobody lie to you talking about, oh my god, you're

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Speaker 1: born on third base. No, you want to be born

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Speaker 1: on home plate, right like I just did the inside

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Speaker 2: People will get it's weird.

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Speaker 1: People just like all of a sudden, want to push

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Speaker 1: back at the reality or the affluence that they were

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Speaker 1: afforded when that's the number one transaction of wealth worldwide

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Speaker 1: in history. Inherentense you as a kid, first words don't

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Speaker 1: need to be mommy or daddy.

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Speaker 2: It needs to be please.

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Speaker 1: I hope y'all saved me some money and giving me

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Speaker 1: some right for really please, that's what they really saying. Man, manny,

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Speaker 1: he's trying to say money. He just can't say syllable jet.

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Speaker 1: Come on, y'all, that's number one. Oh man, what do

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Speaker 1: they say? The trick of the rich is to fool

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Speaker 1: the poor. That of the evil of money or something

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Speaker 1: like that. I butchered it like hell. Matter of fact,

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Speaker 1: I butchered it so much. I don't usually do this,

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Speaker 1: but I gotta get this one right because people out

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Speaker 1: there are really set tripping about money. So I'm going

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Speaker 1: to read this trick, this one right. I think it's

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Speaker 1: from the Godfather, right, the trick of the rich. Got

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Speaker 1: it right here? Look at me. See this is what

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Speaker 1: it is. Discontent for money is just a trick of

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Speaker 1: the rich to keep the poor without it. I knew

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Speaker 1: I find it. Come on, thank y'all for hang it

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Speaker 1: with you boy. Okay, So that's what it is. Discontent

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Speaker 1: for money is just a trick of the rich to

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Speaker 2: Man, come on, y'all better stop playing. So that's number one.

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Speaker 2: What they gotta do with marriage.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you what Number two is marriage, the

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Speaker 1: institution of marriage, and unfortunately, the business of divorce.

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Speaker 2: Number two transaction, right, So.

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Speaker 1: It is a money maker and it's a money breaker

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Speaker 1: for the one who makes the most in that relationship.

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Speaker 1: I think number three is like tech startups, damn, like

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Speaker 1: Apple or something like you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: I'm clowning.

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Speaker 1: But the real is, man, these comments and everybody's thinking

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Speaker 1: about marriage and these respects are attacking it. Let me

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Speaker 1: tell you what's the beautiful part about marriage outside of

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Speaker 1: the love. Because a lot of you guys feel loved

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Speaker 1: outside of marriage. So you're like, why I gotta go

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Speaker 1: to the city all, Why I gotta go to poort

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Speaker 1: the vayata and invite thirteen people and they got to

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Speaker 1: sit there and witness and eat up all my food

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Speaker 1: and then make me spend all this.

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Speaker 2: It's funny just to.

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Speaker 1: Say I love you because I could do that outside

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Speaker 1: the institution. Okay you can't. Let me tell you what

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Speaker 1: the institution of marriage does for you too. Like everything,

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Speaker 1: it's about accountability, right, and there are layers to accountability.

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Speaker 2: You could be self accountable, right, but let's be real.

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Speaker 1: In any group setting, or like God said, if you

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Speaker 1: want to get biblical or to a more is.

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Speaker 2: Gathered, right, I am present? Well why two or more?

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Speaker 1: Because it's an accountability conversation even from up top.

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Speaker 2: Bruh.

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Speaker 1: It's like yo, when somebody else is there to check

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Speaker 1: you outside of your self check man, it's a whole

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Speaker 2: It's like going to the damn grocery store.

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Speaker 1: You know they got that self check line and they

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Speaker 1: always got somebody watching too.

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Speaker 2: You're like, no, I thought was self check? Why are

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Speaker 2: you watching me? Cause I don't trust you? Right? So

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Speaker 2: that accountability, seriously, that exchange of accountability to a Tyler's

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Speaker 2: like a really tirelessly place, like.

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Speaker 1: You're beyond always checking in like me and my wife

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Speaker 1: always checking in and yeah at nausea, like to the

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Speaker 1: pointment're like, come on, man, I'm exhausted of this. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: you don't even want to pick yourself up. Sometimes you

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Speaker 1: just want to be that cows potato. Sometimes you just

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Speaker 1: want to just sit there and be like man, whatever,

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Speaker 1: and there's someone there to pick you up. Now, why

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Speaker 1: do you need to be married to do that? Because

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Speaker 1: it's another level of the accountability, right, be real, stop

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Speaker 1: lying if I if I'm in a relationship, if I

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Speaker 1: just met somebody, it's easy to break up with them

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Speaker 1: or a ghost them or knock on them.

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Speaker 2: Right, Okay, I'm.

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Speaker 1: With somebody for six months, a little tougher, but I

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Speaker 1: can still do it. I want somebody for a year,

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Speaker 1: tougher than six months, but I could do it. Right,

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Speaker 1: And all these layers keep adding up. Now, what if

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Speaker 1: I'm investing? What if we share apartment?

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Speaker 2: Tougher?

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Speaker 1: But I can do it right? What if we don't

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Speaker 1: share apartment. What if we actually went half on the

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Speaker 1: down payment for a house?

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Speaker 2: Tougher? But I can do it right? Now?

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Speaker 1: Wow, Remember I said number two is the investment into

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Speaker 1: marriage financially as well? You know the repercussions, you know

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Speaker 1: the consequences.

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Speaker 2: What about that situation?

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Speaker 1: Oh damn now, ah tough, but I can do it right.

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Speaker 1: It's just another layer of accountability to lock you in.

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Speaker 1: You may think those are prison cells. Well it is

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Speaker 1: And the lyrics go, I don't want nothing but you.

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Speaker 1: They're separated because they didn't remind themselves of who they

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Speaker 2: It only comes after a surgery.

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Speaker 1: So uh, separation, I mean it all most feels inevitable

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Speaker 1: to prioritize what those things are, to give it your time,

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Speaker 2: Man.

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Speaker 1: People don't know that equations. So therefore people chase money,

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Speaker 1: And you Ganda, and I'm like, damn, don't they live

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Speaker 2: Daddy always an't gotten then to Daddy? You know Amsterdam?

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Speaker 1: Like you imagine all the times where you were like,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, world tour amazing and it is amazing,

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Speaker 1: like in other terms like damn they can't sit still?

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Speaker 1: Damn are they taking everybody with them?

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Speaker 1: Like, if you start thinking about it, man, we all

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Speaker 2: Like for what if your kids? Man? When your kids?

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Speaker 1: Some of the best moments are when you wake up

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Speaker 1: Because your daughter is stuck in your armpit and you

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Speaker 2: Come on, bruh, come on, y'all.

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Speaker 1: Some of the best moments are when you're like, oh,

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Speaker 1: How many of those moments are lost in the pursuit

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Speaker 2: And then while we not lovey dovey no more crazy man.

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Speaker 1: So all y'all out there think about it and think

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Speaker 2: How that ain't gonna work?

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Speaker 1: Kidding, it could work for y'all if y'all want to

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Speaker 1: make it work. But I'm really saying to you, just

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Speaker 2: It's right there with all right, y'all got to do it.

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