WEBVTT - How To Have A Balanced Relationship With Food From A Young Age Without Developing Unhealthy Body Image (Outweigh)

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<v Speaker 1>I won't let my body out out everything that I'm made,

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<v Speaker 1>won't spend my life trying to change. I'm learning to

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<v Speaker 1>love who I am. I get, I'm strong, I feel free,

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<v Speaker 1>I know who every part of me. It's beautiful. And

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<v Speaker 1>then will always out with if you feel it with joy,

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<v Speaker 1>and there she'll love to the boom that let's say,

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<v Speaker 1>good day, editor, did you and die out? All right?

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<v Speaker 1>We are back with our guest and Marie. She is

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<v Speaker 1>an expert, a personal trainer. She's very passionate about inspiring

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<v Speaker 1>and motivating her clients, including kids, which I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if you even have kids clients, but I know last

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<v Speaker 1>week you mentioned, okay, you do have kid clients. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so you do go speak at the middle schools though,

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<v Speaker 1>and you mentioned the Titans. So are you going with

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<v Speaker 1>the Titans cheerleys or is it the Titan football players.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was a cheerleader for six years and right

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<v Speaker 1>after I got in cheering, they brought me onto the

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<v Speaker 1>NFL initiative that's the Place sixty program where the NFL

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<v Speaker 1>has initiative to inspire kids to move their bodies for

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<v Speaker 1>sixty minutes today. So I go into the middle schools

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<v Speaker 1>and elementary schools with the Titans mascot t rack, and

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<v Speaker 1>we talk all about just basic things like moving your

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<v Speaker 1>body and eating healthy because you know they're at school

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<v Speaker 1>for a majority of their days and so getting this information,

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<v Speaker 1>especially from an organization like the NFL, has just spoken

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<v Speaker 1>volumes from getting this message across. And on top of that,

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<v Speaker 1>I also have quite a few kid clients, But it's

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<v Speaker 1>not necessarily that the kids reach out. It's the parents

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<v Speaker 1>who reach out and they're like, I don't know how

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<v Speaker 1>to inspire my kid to move to eat healthy, or

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<v Speaker 1>the opposite, my kid is moving too much and too restrictive.

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<v Speaker 1>That's my background when it comes to children, and so

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<v Speaker 1>last week was more about movement and exercise, and then

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<v Speaker 1>this week we're focusing on food and body image. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's such a tricky time when you're going through adolescents.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, we've all been there, we know how it

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<v Speaker 1>was for us, and we want to do anything and

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<v Speaker 1>everything to help make it a little bit smoother for

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<v Speaker 1>our kids. So what kind of things do you talk

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<v Speaker 1>about with those students or with your clients when it

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<v Speaker 1>comes to having a healthy relationship with food and keeping

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<v Speaker 1>that balanced. My disclaimer before all of us when I

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<v Speaker 1>talk about about kids and food in general is the

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<v Speaker 1>acknowledgment of we're not living us kids in this present time.

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<v Speaker 1>And I tell that to all my kid clients. It's

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't know what you are specifically going through

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<v Speaker 1>in this day and age. However, I also know what's

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<v Speaker 1>going to help prepare you for a healthy life, and

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm that's what I help you with, That's what

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<v Speaker 1>I work with. So the main thing I start to

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<v Speaker 1>talk and we talked to kids in schools and I

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<v Speaker 1>talked to my client kids about this is what looks

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<v Speaker 1>like with balance. What does balance look like? You know,

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<v Speaker 1>because a lot of them actually don't get balanced at home,

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<v Speaker 1>whether it's they don't have the opportunity to have food

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<v Speaker 1>beyond packaged foods at home, or they have parents that

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<v Speaker 1>have the opposite behaviors and they're too restrictive, so they

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<v Speaker 1>don't even know what balance looks like. It's like eating

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<v Speaker 1>your grains, eating your proteins, eating your vegetables, your fruits,

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<v Speaker 1>and your dairies, like actually eating the old school meal plan,

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<v Speaker 1>which I know, the food we all which a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people have their own opinions about if that's good,

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<v Speaker 1>if that's bad. Portions are off. The FDA, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>is often their recommendations of all this. But at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the day, kids need to understand what each

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<v Speaker 1>of the food groups looks like and how to eat

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<v Speaker 1>from there. There's a reason that we learn this. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people in the health and fitness world

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<v Speaker 1>believe the food pyramid is kind of often it's approached

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<v Speaker 1>to portion wise, but kids need to know that, like,

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<v Speaker 1>these are all food groups you need to eat on

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<v Speaker 1>a daily basis. Because a lot of them don't understand it.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of them don't understand to eat I need

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<v Speaker 1>to eat a protein, I need to eat a dairy,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's I need to eat a fruit, a vegetable

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<v Speaker 1>and all that. They just don't understand that concept. So

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<v Speaker 1>we literally approached food with understanding the food pyramid. Period.

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<v Speaker 1>It would shock you to know how simple but yet

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<v Speaker 1>effective that concept is because first of all, that removes

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<v Speaker 1>any kind of personal opinion out of it. It's like,

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<v Speaker 1>here's food groups that exists in the world. Let's talk

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<v Speaker 1>about just eating balanced food groups to start with, and

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<v Speaker 1>then conversation kind of escalates from there. But that's the

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<v Speaker 1>initial entry point. Is literally just using the good old

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<v Speaker 1>fashioned food pyramid when it comes to this, No, I

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<v Speaker 1>like that. We've been printing out all kinds of charts

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<v Speaker 1>and I just hang them up. The kids know where

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<v Speaker 1>to go. Now. We used to just talk about things,

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<v Speaker 1>but I realized, Oh, if they had a visual this

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<v Speaker 1>would be so much better. If we could dressed down

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<v Speaker 1>and they could keep track of things, It's so much better.

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<v Speaker 1>And so now I'm envisioning maybe printing out and maybe

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<v Speaker 1>even different facts about the food groups like why protein,

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<v Speaker 1>Why what part of the brain does this benefit it?

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<v Speaker 1>And or what part of what organ does this support?

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<v Speaker 1>Or what is this doing for our muscles or a

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<v Speaker 1>bone health? So they can learn that way too, and

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<v Speaker 1>they can see because I feel like sometimes Amory honestly

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<v Speaker 1>like my approach with my kids as I used to be.

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<v Speaker 1>When I first adopted them, I was in my eating

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<v Speaker 1>disorder and I was so restrictive even with them. I

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<v Speaker 1>get so they almost have a totally different mom now

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<v Speaker 1>because now I'm very laid background food. But again, we've

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<v Speaker 1>talked about that pendulum swinging, and I sort of swung

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<v Speaker 1>all the way for them too, where it's like, okay, whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to be restrictive, whatever you want. And

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<v Speaker 1>then now that I'm balancing out, I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>have a duty to educate them. And this isn't about

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<v Speaker 1>my opinions or anything. This is science, it's facts. It

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<v Speaker 1>is it removes that pressure. Yeah, you need some greens

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<v Speaker 1>in your life. And my daughter looked at me the

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<v Speaker 1>other day and she said, well, I ate a peach,

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<v Speaker 1>And I said, okay, we need to back up, because

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<v Speaker 1>a peach is not not a green, right right, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's and that's the thing. And like I'm even

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<v Speaker 1>my oldest is just only three, and I realized, even

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<v Speaker 1>at this age, she's gotten into her she'll only eat

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<v Speaker 1>crackers and cheese phase. No matter how much I try

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<v Speaker 1>to put healthy foods in front of her, that's all

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<v Speaker 1>she'll eat. So I've definitely been experiencing the whole preaching

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<v Speaker 1>about something for years, but now experiencing it two different things.

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<v Speaker 1>I even take the approach for her at being three

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<v Speaker 1>from an educational standpoint and teaching about foods give us

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<v Speaker 1>energy and why you know, protein gives us energy and

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<v Speaker 1>all this, and I believe, I think the latest pronoun

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<v Speaker 1>is called the my plate approach. So it's not necessarily

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<v Speaker 1>what we're used to with the actual pyramid. It's just

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<v Speaker 1>a plate and there's different colors section of the plates,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's like, this is where your protein goes, this

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<v Speaker 1>is where your vegetables go, this is where your fruit goes.

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<v Speaker 1>Like that's how it looks versus day. You need to

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<v Speaker 1>have two to three servings, three to four servings type

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<v Speaker 1>of approach. But I believe it's called my plate or

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<v Speaker 1>something in that. I'm pretty sure, Yeah, it's my plate.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just thought of someone too that's been a

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<v Speaker 1>great resource for me. I actually am now motivated to

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<v Speaker 1>revisit this because I am feeling this urge in my

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<v Speaker 1>parenting to be more proactive in this lane and that

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay for me now to do this because again

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<v Speaker 1>there's that tricky space and recovery where it's like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>who cares talkie and mac and cheese every meal? Who can?

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<v Speaker 1>And then I know that they're not going to wake

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<v Speaker 1>up feeling their best, or they're going to have certain

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<v Speaker 1>food swings and whatnot, or when they're trying to take

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<v Speaker 1>a test at school, are they going to be able

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<v Speaker 1>to concentrate? And I come, I know that I'm speaking

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<v Speaker 1>from a place of privilege and having access to certain

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<v Speaker 1>foods that I know can help them. And that's a

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<v Speaker 1>whole another conversation of you know, every child getting access

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<v Speaker 1>to certain foods that are going to be good for them,

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<v Speaker 1>which is why working with the Titans program going into

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<v Speaker 1>the schools, you know a lot of kids that we

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<v Speaker 1>talked to don't necessarily have the resources that we talk about,

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<v Speaker 1>and so we're very sensitive to that and keep it

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<v Speaker 1>very We explained them very basic, using them my plate

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<v Speaker 1>concept about what can even look like eating your grains,

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<v Speaker 1>what can look like your protein that you have the

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<v Speaker 1>importance of drinking milk, because milk has gotten such a

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<v Speaker 1>bad rap now in the in the diet culture. It's like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>kids actually do need the nutrients that you get in milk.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it's it's taking everything from a science standpoint

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<v Speaker 1>and presenting it and removing adult diet standards from anything

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<v Speaker 1>in our minds. But especially when talking to kids about

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<v Speaker 1>the foods they need to eat. Parents bring me on

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<v Speaker 1>first and foremost to talk to them about food, to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to them about just eating healthy and balance because

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<v Speaker 1>they either don't know how to eat them balance themselves

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<v Speaker 1>as parents, or just don't the kids don't listen to them, period.

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<v Speaker 1>And so another resource as a parent if you're having

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<v Speaker 1>a hard time getting your kid to even listen to

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<v Speaker 1>it all when it comes to food, is just remove

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<v Speaker 1>yourself from the equation and try to look for these

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<v Speaker 1>other resources. If you have the means to bring somebody in,

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<v Speaker 1>bring somebody in, if you, you know, utilize your schools,

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<v Speaker 1>Utilize school counselors to have these conversations, Utilize school health coaches,

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<v Speaker 1>peat teachers. I mean, they do exist, and they do

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<v Speaker 1>want to help your kids, and so just go utilize

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<v Speaker 1>them and have them talk to your kids. So you

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<v Speaker 1>can just be the parent on the sidelines with this

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<v Speaker 1>and have them talk to somebody else. Yeah, and the

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<v Speaker 1>other resource that I was going to mention a second ago,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I get sidetracked is kids eating Color, Kids

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<v Speaker 1>eating color dot com And I know, I think her

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<v Speaker 1>instagram might be like kids dot eat Dot and dot

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<v Speaker 1>color dots. Anyway, you might be able to find some

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<v Speaker 1>helpful ways to encourage your children to try some new

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<v Speaker 1>things and consume it. And then I just went to

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<v Speaker 1>fit city world dot com because that's your website and

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<v Speaker 1>marine I know that your your story is up there.

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<v Speaker 1>If people want to go back and read that if

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<v Speaker 1>they missed you a couple of weeks ago on the

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<v Speaker 1>first episode that we did with you, because I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like you're full of all kinds of knowledge. Are there

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<v Speaker 1>any other things that you'll try to talk with the

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<v Speaker 1>kids about when you're there. I keep thinking of the

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<v Speaker 1>school setting, but I know you have clients as well.

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<v Speaker 1>But when it comes to having a healthy body image,

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<v Speaker 1>I know we've been talking about the food, but just

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<v Speaker 1>to shift quickly before we wrap. Yeah, the battle that

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<v Speaker 1>you probably talk about all the time, and the battle

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<v Speaker 1>that's going to be in textbooks for years to come,

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<v Speaker 1>is the role that social media plays with all this.

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<v Speaker 1>At the end of the day, control what you can

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<v Speaker 1>control about the narrative and about the conversation, and how

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<v Speaker 1>you're showing up as the parent to these conversations, and

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<v Speaker 1>how you're showing up with your own body image approach,

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<v Speaker 1>because we worry so much about what's being exposed to

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<v Speaker 1>these kids outside of our control, and the reality is

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<v Speaker 1>it's outside of our control. Yes, we can control studyings

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<v Speaker 1>on bones, we can have them not hang out with people,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's like, how are you showing up as a parent,

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<v Speaker 1>What are the things that you are saying to yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>what are the things that the people around you? For instance,

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<v Speaker 1>both my mom and my mother in law have made

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<v Speaker 1>comments about their own bodies in front of my toddler,

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<v Speaker 1>and I strictly strike that down, and I'm like, we

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<v Speaker 1>don't talk about our bodies when it comes to that

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<v Speaker 1>at all, even with her being three years old. And

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<v Speaker 1>I talked to some of my clients parents about that

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<v Speaker 1>conversation without my my kid, clients around being like, how

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<v Speaker 1>are you talking about your body? What are you saying

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<v Speaker 1>that you don't even realize? Because a lot of times

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<v Speaker 1>as adults, we've got into patterns where we don't even

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<v Speaker 1>realize what we're saying and how it's coming out of

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<v Speaker 1>our mouth and how we're like, we'll put her shirt

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<v Speaker 1>on like this looks ugly on me, or we'll put

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<v Speaker 1>pants on like, oh, these don't feel good. Like kids

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<v Speaker 1>pick up on those statements so easily, and so it's

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<v Speaker 1>control what you can control, and that's the narrative coming

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<v Speaker 1>out of your mouth at the end of the day.

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<v Speaker 1>Because there are there's a wealth of knowledge when it

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<v Speaker 1>comes to social media and how to deal with that

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<v Speaker 1>and dealing with you know, friends and mean girls at school.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's like, you're gonna drive yourself crazy trying to

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<v Speaker 1>think about controlling that every second of the day. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's not what I'm an expert in, So I don't

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<v Speaker 1>even want to start to go down that route of

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<v Speaker 1>how to control that. But it's personal responsibility on you

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<v Speaker 1>as an adult and parent. And what you're saying, what

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<v Speaker 1>if you have a spouse in the picture, what the

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<v Speaker 1>spouse is saying. If you have friends that are coming over,

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<v Speaker 1>if you have family members, what are they saying around

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<v Speaker 1>your kids about body image? And it's another topic of conversation,

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<v Speaker 1>which is a whole another probably podcast. But if their

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<v Speaker 1>dialogue that's coming out of their mouth is negative when

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<v Speaker 1>it comes to body image, it's like, don't just have

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<v Speaker 1>them shut it down with their around kids, Like that's

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<v Speaker 1>something else that needs to change completely in their own life.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's a whole another topic for another day. But

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<v Speaker 1>it's just making sure what's in their ears is not

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<v Speaker 1>negative body related information. And like I have a mantra

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<v Speaker 1>that my daughter and I kind of we started preaching

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<v Speaker 1>together and I say I'm strong, and she says I'm strong,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I say I'm smart. She says I'm smart,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I say I'm brave. She says, I'm brave,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I'm beautiful and I'm beautiful. Because I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay for girls to think that they're beautiful and

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<v Speaker 1>to know that they are beautiful, and that word has

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<v Speaker 1>gotten such a bad rap, but it's like, no, every girl,

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<v Speaker 1>every boy is beautiful. Have these monsters that they preach

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<v Speaker 1>and that you preach with them, and so that kind

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<v Speaker 1>of sticks in their head as they as they grow up.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that let's do the mantra together. You say

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<v Speaker 1>it and I'll say it back, like I'm your I'm strong,

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<v Speaker 1>i am strong, I'm smart, i am smart, I'm brave,

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<v Speaker 1>i am brave, I'm beautiful, I am beautiful. To anybody

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<v Speaker 1>that might be new to a mantra, someone you're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm embarrassed, or that feels cheesy, or any any thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>that are going to counter that. They slipt into your brain.

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<v Speaker 1>But who cares. Let it cares. It is not It

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<v Speaker 1>is important and there is a reason why people adopt

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<v Speaker 1>mantras and why they see them work. Yeah, And I

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<v Speaker 1>actually with my daughter, she was born fourteen weeks early,

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<v Speaker 1>and then the nick you because she was in the

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<v Speaker 1>hospital for a ninety seven days after she was born.

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<v Speaker 1>I would speak that mantra into her ear every night

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<v Speaker 1>at the hospital bed when we visit her, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>just kind of something that's the same mantra that I

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<v Speaker 1>spoke then. Obviously, you know, one could argue if she

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<v Speaker 1>retained it that or not, but it's something we've carried

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<v Speaker 1>around because I and she'll get to be a high

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<v Speaker 1>school and probably not want to say that with mom,

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<v Speaker 1>but get these words in their head early. And also,

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<v Speaker 1>don't just have these words, have them something that you

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<v Speaker 1>mean in all the words that you say to them.

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<v Speaker 1>So I make sure that she knows that she's brave.

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<v Speaker 1>We talk about bravery a whole lot. Now we talk

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<v Speaker 1>about strength the whole lot. You know, it's a whole

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<v Speaker 1>action speak louder than words situations. So it's not just

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<v Speaker 1>the mantra that we're staying at night and making sure

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<v Speaker 1>we also execute these mantras during the day with what

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<v Speaker 1>we do as well. Blavery. I loved our time together.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds like I might be able to have you

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<v Speaker 1>back for another topic for lots of bs that come out. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>of that, yes, so we'd love to have you back

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<v Speaker 1>any time that you're available. So in the meantime, y'all

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<v Speaker 1>can find Anne Marie on Instagram. I mentioned her website

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<v Speaker 1>a minute ago, which is fit city World dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>But then your instagram is fit city Perl. Yeah it's

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<v Speaker 1>not World, it's at fit city p. I have both instagrams.

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<v Speaker 1>I just in my social media hiatus have not done

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<v Speaker 1>much for my business and and put more into my

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<v Speaker 1>personal So hey, I love to see it. And it's

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<v Speaker 1>been a joy talking with you the last three weeks

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<v Speaker 1>and we will be back next Saturday. So in the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>take care of yourself. I thank you.