Speaker 1: I won't let my body out out everything that I'm made,
Speaker 1: won't spend my life trying to change. I'm learning to
Speaker 1: love who I am. I get, I'm strong, I feel free,
Speaker 1: I know who every part of me. It's beautiful. And
Speaker 1: then will always out with if you feel it with joy,
Speaker 1: and there she'll love to the boom that let's say,
Speaker 1: good day, editor, did you and die out? All right?
Speaker 1: We are back with our guest and Marie. She is
Speaker 1: an expert, a personal trainer. She's very passionate about inspiring
Speaker 1: and motivating her clients, including kids, which I don't know
Speaker 1: if you even have kids clients, but I know last
Speaker 1: week you mentioned, okay, you do have kid clients. Okay,
Speaker 1: so you do go speak at the middle schools though,
Speaker 1: and you mentioned the Titans. So are you going with
Speaker 1: the Titans cheerleys or is it the Titan football players.
Speaker 1: So I was a cheerleader for six years and right
Speaker 1: after I got in cheering, they brought me onto the
Speaker 1: NFL initiative that's the Place sixty program where the NFL
Speaker 1: has initiative to inspire kids to move their bodies for
Speaker 1: sixty minutes today. So I go into the middle schools
Speaker 1: and elementary schools with the Titans mascot t rack, and
Speaker 1: we talk all about just basic things like moving your
Speaker 1: body and eating healthy because you know they're at school
Speaker 1: for a majority of their days and so getting this information,
Speaker 1: especially from an organization like the NFL, has just spoken
Speaker 1: volumes from getting this message across. And on top of that,
Speaker 1: I also have quite a few kid clients, But it's
Speaker 1: not necessarily that the kids reach out. It's the parents
Speaker 1: who reach out and they're like, I don't know how
Speaker 1: to inspire my kid to move to eat healthy, or
Speaker 1: the opposite, my kid is moving too much and too restrictive.
Speaker 1: That's my background when it comes to children, and so
Speaker 1: last week was more about movement and exercise, and then
Speaker 1: this week we're focusing on food and body image. And
Speaker 1: it's such a tricky time when you're going through adolescents.
Speaker 1: I mean, we've all been there, we know how it
Speaker 1: was for us, and we want to do anything and
Speaker 1: everything to help make it a little bit smoother for
Speaker 1: our kids. So what kind of things do you talk
Speaker 1: about with those students or with your clients when it
Speaker 1: comes to having a healthy relationship with food and keeping
Speaker 1: that balanced. My disclaimer before all of us when I
Speaker 1: talk about about kids and food in general is the
Speaker 1: acknowledgment of we're not living us kids in this present time.
Speaker 1: And I tell that to all my kid clients. It's
Speaker 1: like I don't know what you are specifically going through
Speaker 1: in this day and age. However, I also know what's
Speaker 1: going to help prepare you for a healthy life, and
Speaker 1: so I'm that's what I help you with, That's what
Speaker 1: I work with. So the main thing I start to
Speaker 1: talk and we talked to kids in schools and I
Speaker 1: talked to my client kids about this is what looks
Speaker 1: like with balance. What does balance look like? You know,
Speaker 1: because a lot of them actually don't get balanced at home,
Speaker 1: whether it's they don't have the opportunity to have food
Speaker 1: beyond packaged foods at home, or they have parents that
Speaker 1: have the opposite behaviors and they're too restrictive, so they
Speaker 1: don't even know what balance looks like. It's like eating
Speaker 1: your grains, eating your proteins, eating your vegetables, your fruits,
Speaker 1: and your dairies, like actually eating the old school meal plan,
Speaker 1: which I know, the food we all which a lot
Speaker 1: of people have their own opinions about if that's good,
Speaker 1: if that's bad. Portions are off. The FDA, you know,
Speaker 1: is often their recommendations of all this. But at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, kids need to understand what each
Speaker 1: of the food groups looks like and how to eat
Speaker 1: from there. There's a reason that we learn this. You know,
Speaker 1: a lot of people in the health and fitness world
Speaker 1: believe the food pyramid is kind of often it's approached
Speaker 1: to portion wise, but kids need to know that, like,
Speaker 1: these are all food groups you need to eat on
Speaker 1: a daily basis. Because a lot of them don't understand it.
Speaker 1: A lot of them don't understand to eat I need
Speaker 1: to eat a protein, I need to eat a dairy,
Speaker 1: and it's I need to eat a fruit, a vegetable
Speaker 1: and all that. They just don't understand that concept. So
Speaker 1: we literally approached food with understanding the food pyramid. Period.
Speaker 1: It would shock you to know how simple but yet
Speaker 1: effective that concept is because first of all, that removes
Speaker 1: any kind of personal opinion out of it. It's like,
Speaker 1: here's food groups that exists in the world. Let's talk
Speaker 1: about just eating balanced food groups to start with, and
Speaker 1: then conversation kind of escalates from there. But that's the
Speaker 1: initial entry point. Is literally just using the good old
Speaker 1: fashioned food pyramid when it comes to this, No, I
Speaker 1: like that. We've been printing out all kinds of charts
Speaker 1: and I just hang them up. The kids know where
Speaker 1: to go. Now. We used to just talk about things,
Speaker 1: but I realized, Oh, if they had a visual this
Speaker 1: would be so much better. If we could dressed down
Speaker 1: and they could keep track of things, It's so much better.
Speaker 1: And so now I'm envisioning maybe printing out and maybe
Speaker 1: even different facts about the food groups like why protein,
Speaker 1: Why what part of the brain does this benefit it?
Speaker 1: And or what part of what organ does this support?
Speaker 1: Or what is this doing for our muscles or a
Speaker 1: bone health? So they can learn that way too, and
Speaker 1: they can see because I feel like sometimes Amory honestly
Speaker 1: like my approach with my kids as I used to be.
Speaker 1: When I first adopted them, I was in my eating
Speaker 1: disorder and I was so restrictive even with them. I
Speaker 1: get so they almost have a totally different mom now
Speaker 1: because now I'm very laid background food. But again, we've
Speaker 1: talked about that pendulum swinging, and I sort of swung
Speaker 1: all the way for them too, where it's like, okay, whatever,
Speaker 1: I don't want to be restrictive, whatever you want. And
Speaker 1: then now that I'm balancing out, I feel like I
Speaker 1: have a duty to educate them. And this isn't about
Speaker 1: my opinions or anything. This is science, it's facts. It
Speaker 1: is it removes that pressure. Yeah, you need some greens
Speaker 1: in your life. And my daughter looked at me the
Speaker 1: other day and she said, well, I ate a peach,
Speaker 1: And I said, okay, we need to back up, because
Speaker 1: a peach is not not a green, right right, Well,
Speaker 1: and that's and that's the thing. And like I'm even
Speaker 1: my oldest is just only three, and I realized, even
Speaker 1: at this age, she's gotten into her she'll only eat
Speaker 1: crackers and cheese phase. No matter how much I try
Speaker 1: to put healthy foods in front of her, that's all
Speaker 1: she'll eat. So I've definitely been experiencing the whole preaching
Speaker 1: about something for years, but now experiencing it two different things.
Speaker 1: I even take the approach for her at being three
Speaker 1: from an educational standpoint and teaching about foods give us
Speaker 1: energy and why you know, protein gives us energy and
Speaker 1: all this, and I believe, I think the latest pronoun
Speaker 1: is called the my plate approach. So it's not necessarily
Speaker 1: what we're used to with the actual pyramid. It's just
Speaker 1: a plate and there's different colors section of the plates,
Speaker 1: and it's like, this is where your protein goes, this
Speaker 1: is where your vegetables go, this is where your fruit goes.
Speaker 1: Like that's how it looks versus day. You need to
Speaker 1: have two to three servings, three to four servings type
Speaker 1: of approach. But I believe it's called my plate or
Speaker 1: something in that. I'm pretty sure, Yeah, it's my plate.
Speaker 1: And I just thought of someone too that's been a
Speaker 1: great resource for me. I actually am now motivated to
Speaker 1: revisit this because I am feeling this urge in my
Speaker 1: parenting to be more proactive in this lane and that
Speaker 1: it's okay for me now to do this because again
Speaker 1: there's that tricky space and recovery where it's like, oh
Speaker 1: who cares talkie and mac and cheese every meal? Who can?
Speaker 1: And then I know that they're not going to wake
Speaker 1: up feeling their best, or they're going to have certain
Speaker 1: food swings and whatnot, or when they're trying to take
Speaker 1: a test at school, are they going to be able
Speaker 1: to concentrate? And I come, I know that I'm speaking
Speaker 1: from a place of privilege and having access to certain
Speaker 1: foods that I know can help them. And that's a
Speaker 1: whole another conversation of you know, every child getting access
Speaker 1: to certain foods that are going to be good for them,
Speaker 1: which is why working with the Titans program going into
Speaker 1: the schools, you know a lot of kids that we
Speaker 1: talked to don't necessarily have the resources that we talk about,
Speaker 1: and so we're very sensitive to that and keep it
Speaker 1: very We explained them very basic, using them my plate
Speaker 1: concept about what can even look like eating your grains,
Speaker 1: what can look like your protein that you have the
Speaker 1: importance of drinking milk, because milk has gotten such a
Speaker 1: bad rap now in the in the diet culture. It's like, no,
Speaker 1: kids actually do need the nutrients that you get in milk.
Speaker 1: You know, it's it's taking everything from a science standpoint
Speaker 1: and presenting it and removing adult diet standards from anything
Speaker 1: in our minds. But especially when talking to kids about
Speaker 1: the foods they need to eat. Parents bring me on
Speaker 1: first and foremost to talk to them about food, to
Speaker 1: talk to them about just eating healthy and balance because
Speaker 1: they either don't know how to eat them balance themselves
Speaker 1: as parents, or just don't the kids don't listen to them, period.
Speaker 1: And so another resource as a parent if you're having
Speaker 1: a hard time getting your kid to even listen to
Speaker 1: it all when it comes to food, is just remove
Speaker 1: yourself from the equation and try to look for these
Speaker 1: other resources. If you have the means to bring somebody in,
Speaker 1: bring somebody in, if you, you know, utilize your schools,
Speaker 1: Utilize school counselors to have these conversations, Utilize school health coaches,
Speaker 1: peat teachers. I mean, they do exist, and they do
Speaker 1: want to help your kids, and so just go utilize
Speaker 1: them and have them talk to your kids. So you
Speaker 1: can just be the parent on the sidelines with this
Speaker 1: and have them talk to somebody else. Yeah, and the
Speaker 1: other resource that I was going to mention a second ago,
Speaker 1: and then I get sidetracked is kids eating Color, Kids
Speaker 1: eating color dot com And I know, I think her
Speaker 1: instagram might be like kids dot eat Dot and dot
Speaker 1: color dots. Anyway, you might be able to find some
Speaker 1: helpful ways to encourage your children to try some new
Speaker 1: things and consume it. And then I just went to
Speaker 1: fit city world dot com because that's your website and
Speaker 1: marine I know that your your story is up there.
Speaker 1: If people want to go back and read that if
Speaker 1: they missed you a couple of weeks ago on the
Speaker 1: first episode that we did with you, because I feel
Speaker 1: like you're full of all kinds of knowledge. Are there
Speaker 1: any other things that you'll try to talk with the
Speaker 1: kids about when you're there. I keep thinking of the
Speaker 1: school setting, but I know you have clients as well.
Speaker 1: But when it comes to having a healthy body image,
Speaker 1: I know we've been talking about the food, but just
Speaker 1: to shift quickly before we wrap. Yeah, the battle that
Speaker 1: you probably talk about all the time, and the battle
Speaker 1: that's going to be in textbooks for years to come,
Speaker 1: is the role that social media plays with all this.
Speaker 1: At the end of the day, control what you can
Speaker 1: control about the narrative and about the conversation, and how
Speaker 1: you're showing up as the parent to these conversations, and
Speaker 1: how you're showing up with your own body image approach,
Speaker 1: because we worry so much about what's being exposed to
Speaker 1: these kids outside of our control, and the reality is
Speaker 1: it's outside of our control. Yes, we can control studyings
Speaker 1: on bones, we can have them not hang out with people,
Speaker 1: but it's like, how are you showing up as a parent,
Speaker 1: What are the things that you are saying to yourself,
Speaker 1: what are the things that the people around you? For instance,
Speaker 1: both my mom and my mother in law have made
Speaker 1: comments about their own bodies in front of my toddler,
Speaker 1: and I strictly strike that down, and I'm like, we
Speaker 1: don't talk about our bodies when it comes to that
Speaker 1: at all, even with her being three years old. And
Speaker 1: I talked to some of my clients parents about that
Speaker 1: conversation without my my kid, clients around being like, how
Speaker 1: are you talking about your body? What are you saying
Speaker 1: that you don't even realize? Because a lot of times
Speaker 1: as adults, we've got into patterns where we don't even
Speaker 1: realize what we're saying and how it's coming out of
Speaker 1: our mouth and how we're like, we'll put her shirt
Speaker 1: on like this looks ugly on me, or we'll put
Speaker 1: pants on like, oh, these don't feel good. Like kids
Speaker 1: pick up on those statements so easily, and so it's
Speaker 1: control what you can control, and that's the narrative coming
Speaker 1: out of your mouth at the end of the day.
Speaker 1: Because there are there's a wealth of knowledge when it
Speaker 1: comes to social media and how to deal with that
Speaker 1: and dealing with you know, friends and mean girls at school.
Speaker 1: But it's like, you're gonna drive yourself crazy trying to
Speaker 1: think about controlling that every second of the day. And
Speaker 1: that's not what I'm an expert in, So I don't
Speaker 1: even want to start to go down that route of
Speaker 1: how to control that. But it's personal responsibility on you
Speaker 1: as an adult and parent. And what you're saying, what
Speaker 1: if you have a spouse in the picture, what the
Speaker 1: spouse is saying. If you have friends that are coming over,
Speaker 1: if you have family members, what are they saying around
Speaker 1: your kids about body image? And it's another topic of conversation,
Speaker 1: which is a whole another probably podcast. But if their
Speaker 1: dialogue that's coming out of their mouth is negative when
Speaker 1: it comes to body image, it's like, don't just have
Speaker 1: them shut it down with their around kids, Like that's
Speaker 1: something else that needs to change completely in their own life.
Speaker 1: But that's a whole another topic for another day. But
Speaker 1: it's just making sure what's in their ears is not
Speaker 1: negative body related information. And like I have a mantra
Speaker 1: that my daughter and I kind of we started preaching
Speaker 1: together and I say I'm strong, and she says I'm strong,
Speaker 1: and then I say I'm smart. She says I'm smart,
Speaker 1: and then I say I'm brave. She says, I'm brave,
Speaker 1: and then I'm beautiful and I'm beautiful. Because I think
Speaker 1: it's okay for girls to think that they're beautiful and
Speaker 1: to know that they are beautiful, and that word has
Speaker 1: gotten such a bad rap, but it's like, no, every girl,
Speaker 1: every boy is beautiful. Have these monsters that they preach
Speaker 1: and that you preach with them, and so that kind
Speaker 1: of sticks in their head as they as they grow up.
Speaker 1: I love that let's do the mantra together. You say
Speaker 1: it and I'll say it back, like I'm your I'm strong,
Speaker 1: i am strong, I'm smart, i am smart, I'm brave,
Speaker 1: i am brave, I'm beautiful, I am beautiful. To anybody
Speaker 1: that might be new to a mantra, someone you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm embarrassed, or that feels cheesy, or any any thoughts
Speaker 1: that are going to counter that. They slipt into your brain.
Speaker 1: But who cares. Let it cares. It is not It
Speaker 1: is important and there is a reason why people adopt
Speaker 1: mantras and why they see them work. Yeah, And I
Speaker 1: actually with my daughter, she was born fourteen weeks early,
Speaker 1: and then the nick you because she was in the
Speaker 1: hospital for a ninety seven days after she was born.
Speaker 1: I would speak that mantra into her ear every night
Speaker 1: at the hospital bed when we visit her, and it's
Speaker 1: just kind of something that's the same mantra that I
Speaker 1: spoke then. Obviously, you know, one could argue if she
Speaker 1: retained it that or not, but it's something we've carried
Speaker 1: around because I and she'll get to be a high
Speaker 1: school and probably not want to say that with mom,
Speaker 1: but get these words in their head early. And also,
Speaker 1: don't just have these words, have them something that you
Speaker 1: mean in all the words that you say to them.
Speaker 1: So I make sure that she knows that she's brave.
Speaker 1: We talk about bravery a whole lot. Now we talk
Speaker 1: about strength the whole lot. You know, it's a whole
Speaker 1: action speak louder than words situations. So it's not just
Speaker 1: the mantra that we're staying at night and making sure
Speaker 1: we also execute these mantras during the day with what
Speaker 1: we do as well. Blavery. I loved our time together.
Speaker 1: It sounds like I might be able to have you
Speaker 1: back for another topic for lots of bs that come out. Yeah,
Speaker 1: of that, yes, so we'd love to have you back
Speaker 1: any time that you're available. So in the meantime, y'all
Speaker 1: can find Anne Marie on Instagram. I mentioned her website
Speaker 1: a minute ago, which is fit city World dot com.
Speaker 1: But then your instagram is fit city Perl. Yeah it's
Speaker 1: not World, it's at fit city p. I have both instagrams.
Speaker 1: I just in my social media hiatus have not done
Speaker 1: much for my business and and put more into my
Speaker 1: personal So hey, I love to see it. And it's
Speaker 1: been a joy talking with you the last three weeks
Speaker 1: and we will be back next Saturday. So in the meantime,
Speaker 1: take care of yourself. I thank you.