Speaker 1: What's up everybody. I'm Gammy and I'm her husband, Rodney,
Speaker 1: and this is positively gam what's happening today, babe? How
Speaker 1: are you? I'm good. I'm better now. Yesterday I was
Speaker 1: pretty jet lagged and we you know, I flew in,
Speaker 1: we had to do a show, and I was wiped out. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So the day I'm feeling a lot better. How about you.
Speaker 1: You know what, I'm struggling a little bit. I'm struggling
Speaker 1: a little bit because I am on this journey to
Speaker 1: lose this belly fat that I've gained, and I'm on
Speaker 1: this diet. It's it's really just clean eating, but it
Speaker 1: really involves like no added salt, no sugar, all of that.
Speaker 1: And you know, I love sweets and I like salt.
Speaker 1: Like to me, cooking without salt is like you So
Speaker 1: I'm the struggle is very real for me in that area.
Speaker 1: I'm struggling hardest, the hardest thing. It doesn't the food
Speaker 1: doesn't taste like anything without salt to me. Um, And
Speaker 1: like you know, I like sweets, I enjoy bread, like
Speaker 1: French fries are are my favorite favorite food. And so
Speaker 1: eating clean is cutting all of that out. Anything that
Speaker 1: I think is tasty pizza, um pie, ice cream, French fries, um,
Speaker 1: some bread, you know, every now and again. I mean,
Speaker 1: because I typically have a pretty healthy diet, but to
Speaker 1: specifically cut these things out to try to lose this
Speaker 1: belly fat is really really challenging at my age, at
Speaker 1: sixty eight, trying to lose belly fat. And at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, you can't really lose weight like that.
Speaker 1: You can't lose weight in just one area. So then
Speaker 1: I'm stuck with the potential of, you know, losing other
Speaker 1: inches in parts of my body that you kind of
Speaker 1: enjoy facts and you're doing it and not even you know,
Speaker 1: enjoying it. So but that's your thing. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: the struggle is real, that's all I'm saying. I know
Speaker 1: people don't believe it, you know, because they see all
Speaker 1: these pictures. Those pictures were from five years ago. I
Speaker 1: think you look great now, And I mean people see
Speaker 1: you on the show, and I see you working out
Speaker 1: all the time, and you're posting on Instagram you look fantastic.
Speaker 1: Thank you. I'm you know, I'm I'm I'm trying. Yeah,
Speaker 1: unlike me, I'm still that diet. Yeah, but you think
Speaker 1: it's the peloton, which I'm excited about that. I'm excited
Speaker 1: that you are investing in yourself. Okay, let's get into
Speaker 1: the episode. So today we're going to be discussing some
Speaker 1: relationship headlines in the media. Currently, our first news article
Speaker 1: comes from Mind, Body, Green dot com. The article is
Speaker 1: titled this one simple and surprising habit can Save a relationship.
Speaker 1: In the article, you may be expecting a tip to
Speaker 1: enhance communication skills or keep the spark alive by venturing
Speaker 1: somewhere new, but relationship expert Esther Perel says there's a
Speaker 1: much quicker and simpler way, and that is dancing. I
Speaker 1: know that makes you feel good. Well, it doesn't necessarily
Speaker 1: make me feel good. It's just that I've been saying
Speaker 1: that for how long have we been together? That's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I know that makes you feel good because
Speaker 1: I've been saying this since we first scott together and
Speaker 1: I never doubted that. But but go ahead, you never
Speaker 1: doubted it, but you never really try to. That's not true.
Speaker 1: Well yeah you did try, but you just it's not
Speaker 1: something that you you you kept up. And the thing
Speaker 1: is is that it's the it's the it's the eye connection.
Speaker 1: The body connection, the motion, dancing to the music. I mean,
Speaker 1: it is very dance can be very sensual, and I
Speaker 1: don't think that a lot of people men in particular
Speaker 1: take advantage of that, Like that is something that most
Speaker 1: women really enjoy, particularly if they are dancing with someone
Speaker 1: they love. Okay, so do you watch Dancing with the
Speaker 1: Stars or dance videos? I watched dance videos all the time,
Speaker 1: but while usually watch stepping videos. So that is the
Speaker 1: dance that I'm really really into. And no, I don't
Speaker 1: watch Dancing with the Stars because that's not a dance. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's not that's not that's kind of like performance dancing.
Speaker 1: And although it's great, that's not the kind of dance
Speaker 1: that is going to um emotionally connect me to anybody.
Speaker 1: So I don't expect you to do Dancing with the
Speaker 1: Stars dancing. So how did you feel when you first
Speaker 1: tried it out. I feel like you gave up on
Speaker 1: it pretty quickly. To me. That's I've always felt like that. Well,
Speaker 1: first of all, I only tried it because you enjoy
Speaker 1: doing it, and I don't think I ever really did
Speaker 1: it for myself. I was doing for you, yes, And
Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with that. And I and I didn't
Speaker 1: fall in love with it the way you and some
Speaker 1: of your friends did when you first encountered it. I
Speaker 1: didn't have that experience, so it wasn't a lot of
Speaker 1: motivation to continue, although I did take quite a few lessons.
Speaker 1: And it's and and there in lies the problem because
Speaker 1: you know, growing up, I was a pretty good dancer.
Speaker 1: But typically I go to a party, I see a
Speaker 1: new dance. You do it. I'll watch you. Then I
Speaker 1: could do it. I'll do it, you know. But this
Speaker 1: requires you to take a whole lot of lessons and
Speaker 1: you gotta like follow all of these rules, and it's
Speaker 1: it's a very I mean, you have to take a
Speaker 1: lot of classes to learn how to do it. Then
Speaker 1: you got to practice at home, like it's a second
Speaker 1: job almost, and it's not a second job, but you
Speaker 1: do part time job, not a second it's a part
Speaker 1: time So to the listeners, if you don't know what
Speaker 1: we're talking about, we're talking about Chicago stepping. Okay, so
Speaker 1: let me just say this. That is correct. You do
Speaker 1: have to take lessons and you do have to practice.
Speaker 1: And I understand that it's not something that you are
Speaker 1: passionate about, like me, because I'm like obsessed with it.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I get it before Chicago stepping, because otherwise
Speaker 1: people think we're talking about what they do for the
Speaker 1: you know, like you know with the A K S
Speaker 1: or the you know the cues. No, not that, Um,
Speaker 1: I know the point that I was trying to make you.
Speaker 1: You were saying that you did it for me, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: And I get that. But I do that too. I
Speaker 1: think I I I learned about basketball, I learned about football,
Speaker 1: I learned about all those things for whatever. I thought
Speaker 1: my partner's interest was so that we could have some commonality.
Speaker 1: And I think that that's what you do in relationships.
Speaker 1: I agree, and I'm not. I haven't given up on
Speaker 1: the possibility of doing it, um, although I did take
Speaker 1: quite a long hiatus, and now I've agreed to try
Speaker 1: try again because I think, Hi, I thought, I thought
Speaker 1: that if I tried and I didn't like it, and
Speaker 1: you saw the effort, you would you would let it go.
Speaker 1: But you have it like you you're still harassing me
Speaker 1: about this. So I gotta go back in. I gotta
Speaker 1: take some classes and at least learn the basics so
Speaker 1: we can because you you do a lot of traveling
Speaker 1: with this and it's like a big part of your life,
Speaker 1: and I don't want that to not be a part
Speaker 1: of my life as well because it's so important to you. Well,
Speaker 1: you know, I think I think that we've talked about
Speaker 1: it before, and I'm I'm actually okay. If you decide
Speaker 1: that you're that you really don't want to do it,
Speaker 1: I don't think you are. Um, I actually am, because
Speaker 1: the thing that you haven't done is stopped me from going.
Speaker 1: You don't stop me from going and dancing and having
Speaker 1: and and going to my step and sets and having
Speaker 1: fun with my friends. So as long as it's not
Speaker 1: a problem for you, then you know that, then you know,
Speaker 1: I don't have a choice but to be cool with it.
Speaker 1: You know it is what it is, Okay, So let
Speaker 1: me just say this though, even though you may not
Speaker 1: be stepping with me, you did do a couple of
Speaker 1: TikTok's with me. So I did that. Yeah, I did
Speaker 1: agree to make a fool out of myself and do
Speaker 1: some TikTok. I have another one coming up to you
Speaker 1: to so you know. Okay. Next headline, men are more
Speaker 1: heartbroken than women during a breakup study. Say, now, do
Speaker 1: you agree with that, I find that kind of hard
Speaker 1: to believe, but that's what the study says. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: kind of find that hard to believe to I think that,
Speaker 1: at least from my experiences, men typically don't process their
Speaker 1: emotions after a relationship. They kind of just jump right
Speaker 1: back into something else and they just go next, kind
Speaker 1: of keep it moving, where women tend to stop process
Speaker 1: what went wrong, um or at least get that relationship
Speaker 1: out of their system before they move on to the
Speaker 1: next situation. You know, I'm not so sure that. Well, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that. That's true. That's true. I mean I've had
Speaker 1: some some breakups that have taken me years to get over. Yeah, years,
Speaker 1: and and I kind of and it's not like I'm
Speaker 1: I'm wallowing in it. Well, you know, I think I
Speaker 1: would tend to wallow for a little while, and you know,
Speaker 1: I would talk about it and kind of mope about it,
Speaker 1: and um. But I think when you are emotionally connect
Speaker 1: there was someone like that, and it ends regardless of
Speaker 1: whether it ends poorly, if it's not something that you
Speaker 1: that you wanted, you know, like I I would tend
Speaker 1: to sit in that unhappiness for a little while, and
Speaker 1: it's not as easy to move on, I I don't think. Well,
Speaker 1: I'll also add that typically the person the person who
Speaker 1: who broke up with the other person tends to move
Speaker 1: on faster. Well yeah, and the person who, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: who you know, was broken up on if that who's
Speaker 1: on the receiving ends of the breakup, tends to linger
Speaker 1: in that because I mean, they might have felt like
Speaker 1: everything was great and now the relationship is over, and
Speaker 1: what's wrong with me that this person didn't see my
Speaker 1: value or whatever? And a lot of times, isn't it
Speaker 1: that you've already moved on and that's why you're breaking
Speaker 1: up in the first place, because you already got your
Speaker 1: eye on something something else, or you've already moved on
Speaker 1: to somebody else, and now you're just making it official.
Speaker 1: Because when I think that I was handling with us
Speaker 1: early or when for those in the audience that don't know,
Speaker 1: Rodney and I have a long history. We've been in
Speaker 1: each other's lives for many, many years, and we dated
Speaker 1: years and years ago, and I think that's what happened
Speaker 1: when we broke up the first time, you know, like
Speaker 1: you already had kind of moved on, and then I
Speaker 1: I found out about it and yeah, that's that's just
Speaker 1: how it was. Like I found out about it and
Speaker 1: when I questioned you about it, and you were like,
Speaker 1: you know what, You're right, that is what happened the
Speaker 1: first time. But that's that's not you always the case,
Speaker 1: like something you just emotionally move on with and you
Speaker 1: don't have anybody and in mine, you just know that
Speaker 1: you don't want to be at that anymore. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: you just you know, you have a need to get
Speaker 1: out of that relationship and be available for something new. Yeah.
Speaker 1: But how many times was that the case for you?
Speaker 1: And was that always the case for you? Because what
Speaker 1: did you have any did you have any breakups in
Speaker 1: your life that you really didn't want to happen? I
Speaker 1: would say yes to that, Yeah, I say that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Well I wasn't always the breakup. I was the breakup
Speaker 1: e Yeah, And how did you and how did you
Speaker 1: feel about that? How did you how did you deal
Speaker 1: with that? Because I'm thinking I'm thinking back when you
Speaker 1: were much younger. It's the relationship that comes to mind
Speaker 1: my head. Um, I mean, like anybody that hurts and
Speaker 1: how did you deal with that? Though? Because they're saying
Speaker 1: that men that to take it harder. Well, it's tough
Speaker 1: to quantify that, if you know, you can only speak
Speaker 1: for yourself. So I don't know how the next guy
Speaker 1: felt as in relation to how I felt or the woman,
Speaker 1: whether I took it harder than she did. I can
Speaker 1: only speak for me. So I mean, yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: when you're hurt, you feel like well, I guess my
Speaker 1: question is more, how did you respond to it? What
Speaker 1: did you do? Like? I think I think for women,
Speaker 1: I think women we you know, call our girlfriends or
Speaker 1: we we we look to our support systems to help
Speaker 1: us get through those feelings. Right, So there's a there's
Speaker 1: there's a support system we I mean, we're just not
Speaker 1: sitting home by ourselves like we there's a support system
Speaker 1: that we typically have. Women will talk to their supports
Speaker 1: him about this kind of stuff, and I'm not sure
Speaker 1: that that happens. Like when you broke up with the person,
Speaker 1: did you call your buddy and say, man, yeah, I
Speaker 1: think I'm feeling something. I don't even know what to do. Yeah, definitely,
Speaker 1: I think God's God's process like that. I know I
Speaker 1: did you know? Really? Yeah for sure, Yeah, I processed
Speaker 1: like that. I'd call I'd call one of my friends
Speaker 1: and we talked about it, UM, and you know, and
Speaker 1: typically be like, you know, well, you know you're gonna
Speaker 1: get through it. It's not it's not the end of
Speaker 1: the world. Might yeah, you you know, you're got some
Speaker 1: stuff on the ball. You'll you'll you'll bounce back, You'll
Speaker 1: find somebody that whatever the case, you just say, okay, next. No,
Speaker 1: I think I think when I wasn't, when I wasn't
Speaker 1: emotionally moving on in those instances, no, I had to,
Speaker 1: I had to sit in process. But when I was,
Speaker 1: when I was the person that was ending the relationship,
Speaker 1: like you said, I was already the ending of the
Speaker 1: relationship was the last phase of it. I was emotionally disconnected,
Speaker 1: connected already um in a lot of cases, and then
Speaker 1: the breakup was just the last part of it. Um.
Speaker 1: But the need to move on was already cemented in
Speaker 1: my mind. Yeah. Did you ever feel like you broke
Speaker 1: up with someone and there was not finality to it?
Speaker 1: There was, you broke up with them, but you I
Speaker 1: felt like that with us the first time. Really, Yes,
Speaker 1: Oh that's the first time I'm hearing that. That's interesting
Speaker 1: because it ended not on my I mean, it ended
Speaker 1: because you found out that I was seeing someone else,
Speaker 1: truth be told, So it wasn't on my terms. It
Speaker 1: wasn't on my so I didn't even have an opportunity
Speaker 1: to process like, Okay, this new person is cool, but
Speaker 1: do I really want to be with her or do
Speaker 1: I wanna? Um? And you know, it was it was other.
Speaker 1: It was other things going on in our relationship at
Speaker 1: the time, that was right. So just I mean, people
Speaker 1: know that I had I was an addict, and so
Speaker 1: that was something that you were pretty tired of dealing
Speaker 1: with and you did try to help me in in
Speaker 1: that area, but it wasn't working at the time. But um,
Speaker 1: it's still interesting because I felt like you had already
Speaker 1: made that decision. And that's kind of I mean, because
Speaker 1: you I probably had at that particular time. I never
Speaker 1: got the opportunity to have that conversation or to even
Speaker 1: have that option. M okay, And that yeah, because I
Speaker 1: think when I came to you with it, you know,
Speaker 1: I was, I was, um kind of giving you an ultimatum.
Speaker 1: You know, I had the nerve to be trying to
Speaker 1: give you an ultimatum about the situation. I mean, I
Speaker 1: wasn't nasty about it, but I didn't want to. I
Speaker 1: didn't want to share you, you know, and you and
Speaker 1: you were like, yeah, okay, well I'm done. I'm done.
Speaker 1: And I and I you know, and I had to
Speaker 1: deal with that, you know, I left, and I and
Speaker 1: and and I had to I had to deal with that.
Speaker 1: And one thing, this is the one thing I want
Speaker 1: to talk about too, well, I don't really want to
Speaker 1: talk about I don't want to dwell on it. But
Speaker 1: I never felt any kind of way about the other woman, right,
Speaker 1: I never felt any kind of way about her because
Speaker 1: I felt like she like she didn't have anything to
Speaker 1: do with it. It was it was between you and I. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not sure why people take that me either me
Speaker 1: either and get mad at at the woman or get
Speaker 1: mad at the other person, the third party that might
Speaker 1: be involved, because it is the responsibility of the two
Speaker 1: people in the relationship. And nine times out of the ten,
Speaker 1: the third party doesn't even know what the fun is
Speaker 1: going on, you know, they don't. They don't owe you anything. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they don't, they don't. So I had I had no issue,
Speaker 1: excuse me, issues with that party. But then getting back
Speaker 1: to the topic and off me. Yeah, the topic was
Speaker 1: do you think it's harder for a man to move
Speaker 1: on after relationship. I don't that just has not been
Speaker 1: by experience. I don't see it. I don't see it.
Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like men break up and
Speaker 1: and move on. And that goes back to my point
Speaker 1: that typically the person who's doing the breaking up going
Speaker 1: the breaking up has man old woman man old woman
Speaker 1: has moved on faster than the person that is, so
Speaker 1: typically that person tends to stay in it longer, just
Speaker 1: based on So then it's not it's not it's not
Speaker 1: based on it's not gender it's not gender based. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I knew that that relationship was over. I knew
Speaker 1: that that relationship has gone, had gone as far as
Speaker 1: it could go. Basically, Yeah, And here's the hit. A
Speaker 1: lot of times the person that is the other person
Speaker 1: knows it's over too, but out of some either comfortability
Speaker 1: or just not wanting to do any new work, they
Speaker 1: want to stay in it, even if it's toxic, even
Speaker 1: if it's not healthy, even if it's not growing like,
Speaker 1: they will want to remain and in that type of
Speaker 1: relationship and knowing and them knowing too that it's probably
Speaker 1: not or else them not being able to recognize you
Speaker 1: know where the you know where the failures are and
Speaker 1: where the disconnect is. They're just not getting it, Like
Speaker 1: you can only go but so far in a relationship
Speaker 1: with someone who is not willing to do the work
Speaker 1: necessary to make the relationship successful. So we I'm gonna
Speaker 1: toss that out to that we should toss that out
Speaker 1: to the listeners and and let the listeners respond to
Speaker 1: to what they have thoughts on this. So, um, this
Speaker 1: is something that I'm thinking about because I know that
Speaker 1: this was, um a big concern for one of our
Speaker 1: friends that got married around at the same time that
Speaker 1: that we got married. Actually um, but one of the
Speaker 1: reasons for them to get married, Uh, for the husband
Speaker 1: was that he did not want to grow old by himself. Right,
Speaker 1: And but I think gets it's also something to think
Speaker 1: about for people. Maybe people don't want to commit because
Speaker 1: they don't want to end up being a lifelong caregiver. Interesting,
Speaker 1: you know, because you know it's marriages in sickness and
Speaker 1: in health and as you get older, things things come up.
Speaker 1: You know that you look one way, or you can
Speaker 1: turn around. I could turn around and have a heart
Speaker 1: attack tomorrow and you're my husband. You would be responsible
Speaker 1: for me, and if you're in a relationship, you don't
Speaker 1: think that people would step up, And um, I would
Speaker 1: hope that people would, but they're not. They're they're not
Speaker 1: obligated to. They're not legally obligated to. So I don't
Speaker 1: know that, but I would be like, that's pretty sucky
Speaker 1: if you just now that there's sick, it's involved, you
Speaker 1: want to cut out, Like that's not much of a
Speaker 1: commitment and that's not much of a relationship. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I get that though, I mean, you didn't sign on
Speaker 1: to be a lifeline caregiver like you would. You would
Speaker 1: help them and support them, but it's not your place
Speaker 1: to make sure that everything is in place for them.
Speaker 1: That's that's not your role. Yeah, so I kind of
Speaker 1: get that. I mean, if somebody wanted to take that route,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be mad at him for that. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: turn the tables a little bit because we've kind of
Speaker 1: been focusing on our age group, So I'm gonna turning
Speaker 1: around a little bit and just talk about how, you know,
Speaker 1: it's actually relationships are actually challenging even for younger people
Speaker 1: these days, not only because of COVID and the pandemic.
Speaker 1: But just because I think, UM, you know, times are changing,
Speaker 1: and I think younger people and I don't know that
Speaker 1: it was that much different for us, that younger people
Speaker 1: want something different. I think, you know, younger people see
Speaker 1: that the standard or typical or what the norms are
Speaker 1: for relationship with societal norms have been for relationships UM
Speaker 1: have not been working all that great, and I think
Speaker 1: young people want something different, and so trying to figure
Speaker 1: out what your relationships are and what kind of relationships
Speaker 1: you want UM has been challenging. I mean I see
Speaker 1: it with my own grandkids. I think you see it
Speaker 1: with with your with your kids, how they're struggling to
Speaker 1: UM make their relationships work and find relationships that are
Speaker 1: meaningful for them. Is that any different from when we
Speaker 1: were at that age, though, I don't know. I think
Speaker 1: we talked about it a little bit in the beginning
Speaker 1: that I wanted what I saw that my parents had,
Speaker 1: you know, and that was just commitment. And even though
Speaker 1: my parents showed love differently, my parents didn't show a
Speaker 1: lot of physical love UM. They weren't demonstrative in in
Speaker 1: their love in that way between with each other in
Speaker 1: front of us UM. And how they showed love to us,
Speaker 1: but we knew that we were loved, and we knew
Speaker 1: that they loved and were totally committed to each other. Um.
Speaker 1: It's just how they demonstrated it back and those days
Speaker 1: was different than you know, than what we see now. UM.
Speaker 1: But I think you know, younger people today are like
Speaker 1: they seeing people divorce and fighting for us and carry
Speaker 1: on in it, and they don't want it, and they
Speaker 1: don't they don't believe that monogamy works. I think a
Speaker 1: lot of people don't. Like when we grew up, everybody
Speaker 1: had a mother and father and a lot of there's
Speaker 1: there's a lot of single, single parent households now more
Speaker 1: so than ever before. So I think a lot of
Speaker 1: people seeing that um or growing up in that environment
Speaker 1: unlike what we were exposed to. UM. Although I didn't
Speaker 1: have that same loving I didn't see my parents like
Speaker 1: loving on each other. I mean, we knew we were loved.
Speaker 1: I wasn't sure they loved each other, but they stayed
Speaker 1: together for over what fifty years sixty But there was
Speaker 1: a demonstration. They showed their love by their commitment to
Speaker 1: each other, but it wasn't always expressed. It was a
Speaker 1: lot of like you say fussing and yeah, shut the door.
Speaker 1: You were leving over like over nothing turned? Who changed
Speaker 1: the TV? But you don't know what you're doing there.
Speaker 1: It was a lot of that. Um. But I think
Speaker 1: that there's a lot of single family how souls now
Speaker 1: and and young people see that and that kind of
Speaker 1: it's it's okay. They see that as being okay for them,
Speaker 1: Like they grew up in that, like I wanted what
Speaker 1: my parents had. You wanted what your parents had. But
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people now they they see
Speaker 1: a single family home and and if that's all you know,
Speaker 1: that's all you know. So it's okay to be a
Speaker 1: single parent. And I think a lot of people just
Speaker 1: kind of either choose that to fall into that. Um.
Speaker 1: So in my situation, let me talk about me. I
Speaker 1: have two daughters, one is married, one is not. And
Speaker 1: one of my married, you know, my my daughter that's
Speaker 1: married seems to want that traditional what we had. My
Speaker 1: younger daughter doesn't seem to you know, really um at
Speaker 1: least not yet. And according to her, she doesn't she
Speaker 1: doesn't find a lot of um, she doesn't see a
Speaker 1: lot of candidates for marriage out you know, and and
Speaker 1: dating for her she doesn't. You know, I'm like, you
Speaker 1: need to have this kind of guy, and she was like, okay,
Speaker 1: well then where the hell is he? Yeah, you know
Speaker 1: it's that kind of thing, like I'll take him if
Speaker 1: he shows up. But these jokers that's out here now,
Speaker 1: you know, they don't, they don't want that. Have you
Speaker 1: ever talked to her about using the dating app? Like?
Speaker 1: I wonder like if you were singing that, would you
Speaker 1: use a dating app? I would? I did that before
Speaker 1: I met you, I mean before we got back together. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I tried the dating app. Really, I did not know
Speaker 1: that I was on e harmony really and match dot
Speaker 1: com out here under under an alias with no picture?
Speaker 1: Did do that? Did you get it? I'm sure you
Speaker 1: didn't get any responses? I did. I had a nice bio,
Speaker 1: you know, I worked up this nice bio. So it's
Speaker 1: kind of like, well, let me see if this no
Speaker 1: picture guy is. I would never respond to you. That's crazy.
Speaker 1: And then was before before you really Now, this was
Speaker 1: before FaceTime, so you actually you couldn't even call somebody
Speaker 1: and be like, let me see if this joker looked
Speaker 1: like and you know, FaceTime somebody, so you had to
Speaker 1: actually go on a date. You had to go on
Speaker 1: a coffee day to something to see the person, did
Speaker 1: you I did? Really, I went on. I went on
Speaker 1: a couple. I can't believe we have been together all
Speaker 1: these years and I never went on a couple. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I didn't didn't go beyond that. I went
Speaker 1: on like two and they were for coffee and it
Speaker 1: was like, nah, we didn't really make a connection. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I tried it. Were the people that responded to you? Well,
Speaker 1: did you see their pictures before I did? Okay, so
Speaker 1: you knew what they look like. That's messed up. You
Speaker 1: do what they look like? They didn't, so but interesting.
Speaker 1: I know we have a couple of friends that we
Speaker 1: are trying to encourage to use the the dating app
Speaker 1: because it's difficult. It's the called nowadays to to meet someone.
Speaker 1: And I think I think the pandemic has a lot
Speaker 1: to do with it. But I just think I'm wondering too.
Speaker 1: Is as you get older, if it's just more difficult?
Speaker 1: I don't, I don't know. And everything is a you
Speaker 1: know that culture is kind of like a right now culture.
Speaker 1: So you know, you want something you swipe, you know,
Speaker 1: like what in my and our day you had to
Speaker 1: go to a club, you had to meet somebody, You
Speaker 1: had to work up enough carriage to go over there
Speaker 1: and say something if that wasn't really your thing. So
Speaker 1: how often could you meet people that way? With a
Speaker 1: With an app you can meet ten people a day easily,
Speaker 1: just by and and you go through a catalog and
Speaker 1: you see, you know, you kind of like pick out
Speaker 1: what you like and like physically, and yeah, and I
Speaker 1: would also be interested in hearing what people's perspective was
Speaker 1: on that. And that's our show for this week of
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