Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio,
Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello Everybody, we are rubbing it so fast.
Speaker 1: I just don't love it.
Speaker 3: Like why.
Speaker 2: You loved it three days ago? You're fine with it.
Speaker 1: I was fine with it.
Speaker 4: Now I'm back to not loving it. But I can
Speaker 4: I can work shop it.
Speaker 1: Say start say it again? Like say how you would
Speaker 1: say it?
Speaker 2: Hello everybody?
Speaker 4: We are I gotta sing something why because it's nice?
Speaker 2: We are What if you're like we are scrubbing? Yeah,
Speaker 2: there we go.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, I like where we're heading.
Speaker 4: Okay, we are scrubbing in. Okay, it either, but I'll
Speaker 4: workshop it.
Speaker 2: We have a deer Bonnie episode which we just love.
Speaker 1: We do love.
Speaker 2: Getting emails from me also or d ms or you know.
Speaker 2: I see a lot of stuff in the Facebook group
Speaker 2: where I'm like, should we bring these to the dear BONI.
Speaker 2: Sometimes they're about anal sex so.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Sometimes podcast we do we want a technical term?
Speaker 1: Do you want to know what I'm doing? Which is
Speaker 1: like funny?
Speaker 4: So I did this thing with Joe Jonas this week
Speaker 4: and I have a polaroid picture with him. They gave
Speaker 4: me the polaroid and I put it up on my like.
Speaker 2: Car, no dash, like.
Speaker 4: Not dash, but it's like like where my little screen
Speaker 4: is like, yeah, my car. Yeah, I'm waiting to see
Speaker 4: If Robbie notices.
Speaker 2: It would be really strange and be doesn't notice that
Speaker 2: if he gets into your car and isn't like you can't.
Speaker 3: See navigation, Like it's right in front of everything you
Speaker 3: need to see.
Speaker 1: First of all, I don't need navigation. I got it all.
Speaker 2: But yeah, that's funny.
Speaker 1: I know that was pretty funny myself.
Speaker 2: I saw a really funny TikTok because his new video
Speaker 2: is about like it's a song about falling in love
Speaker 2: and by heart, heart by heart, and it's this video
Speaker 2: and he's like making out with this girl and stuff,
Speaker 2: and people are like, I'm married with kids, And I
Speaker 2: felt physically sick sing that Joe Jonas kissed another girl
Speaker 2: in this video, and all the comments were like, I'm
Speaker 2: so concerned at how it made me feel like I
Speaker 2: was actually being cheated.
Speaker 4: I don't my heart actually hurt for him in that video.
Speaker 4: At the end, I was like, oh, I didn't watch it. Oh,
Speaker 4: I just saw clips from the TikTok oh, my gosh.
Speaker 2: Immediately yeah, now.
Speaker 3: I watched five seconds of his video.
Speaker 4: I'm sure, yeah, great thing is where it gets you
Speaker 4: in the and you're like ooo, but I'm not like
Speaker 4: a die hard.
Speaker 1: Don't say it.
Speaker 2: I'm saying. I'm not like. I don't I'm not like
Speaker 2: I like their music, but I don't need to go
Speaker 2: watch a video like I used to. Sometimes I watch
Speaker 2: like old Britney Spears videos and stuff. But yeah, but
Speaker 2: I'll go watch it. I mean, you got he piqued
Speaker 2: my interests.
Speaker 1: Okay, good?
Speaker 2: Shall we with the dear bonya from anonymous.
Speaker 3: I moved to a new city two years ago to
Speaker 3: try something different while working remotely, not for a job,
Speaker 3: not for a relationship. I became close with my childhood
Speaker 3: friend's friend group, and at first it was fun, welcoming,
Speaker 3: but over time I realized this group is toxic, drama, gossip.
Speaker 3: People get upset over the smallest things. I heard through
Speaker 3: the grapevine that one of the friends is mad at
Speaker 3: me for not being supportive enough after her minor car accident.
Speaker 3: I reached out and offered her help several times. This
Speaker 3: kind of thing happens a lot with a lot of
Speaker 3: them projecting their emotions and creating tension that doesn't make sense.
Speaker 3: I've noticed as my own life is going well, healthy relationship,
Speaker 3: I got a promotion, some of them seem resentful or
Speaker 3: unhappy with where they're at. Even though I avoid drama,
Speaker 3: I still end getting pulled into it, and it's hurtful.
Speaker 3: It started to take a toll on my self esteem.
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm constantly being judged or told them
Speaker 3: not doing enough. It's a friend. I feel trapped because
Speaker 3: I still have a year left on a lease with
Speaker 3: two of these people. My girlfriend and I have talked
Speaker 3: about moving, but we're unsure where. We're not tied down
Speaker 3: by work, but we want to be near family. I
Speaker 3: know the city isn't right for me anymore, but I
Speaker 3: feel lost trying to figure out what is right for me.
Speaker 3: I'm twenty seven, I'm stuck. I'm confused. How do I
Speaker 3: figure out where to live or where to go? First
Speaker 3: of all, there's a lot of really nice freedom in
Speaker 3: that you could live. The working room only thing is
Speaker 3: interesting to me because you could live. I know, what
Speaker 3: an interesting concept. I know.
Speaker 1: I often think of that too.
Speaker 3: Because I'm stuck here. Even though some of the people
Speaker 3: who work for this company during the pandemic moved far away,
Speaker 3: which is an odd choice. I think when it's never
Speaker 3: it's the company hasn't said this is now a permanent situation.
Speaker 3: I think it's a weird move. But in your life.
Speaker 4: Situation time, if I may please, we were all under
Speaker 4: the impression we were going to be working remotely like forever.
Speaker 3: I was not under that impression.
Speaker 1: Oh I was.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you thought the pandemic was going to go forever
Speaker 5: or yeah, like I thought like whatever, like this was
Speaker 5: going on, like it was just going to keep going
Speaker 5: and we would just like figure out how to work
Speaker 5: not around a lot of people.
Speaker 1: Yeah it was dark.
Speaker 2: Dark, Yeah really Yeah.
Speaker 3: So that I went and then play sorry to commandeer
Speaker 3: this one, But also have a quote that I think
Speaker 3: you're going to enjoy for this situation, anonymous. Some people
Speaker 3: don't like you because your spirit irritates their demons.
Speaker 1: Isn't that a good quote again for the people in
Speaker 1: the bad.
Speaker 3: Some people don't like you because your spirit irritates their demons.
Speaker 3: It sounds like that's happening with a lot of these friends.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think when people when their lives aren't in
Speaker 2: a content place or happy place. They literally cannot handle
Speaker 2: being around people who are content and thriving, and so
Speaker 2: it's like you either are subjecting yourself because these are
Speaker 2: your friends and I'm holding quotes up because you just
Speaker 2: feel like they're your only option and it feels harder
Speaker 2: to go out and meet new people. But it's also
Speaker 2: it's energy that's like totally bringing you down. Like if
Speaker 2: you surround yourself with people who are always negative and
Speaker 2: it's always drama and all they do is talk bad
Speaker 2: about people, it's going to affect you. And especially if
Speaker 2: you're in a good space. It's like why put yourself
Speaker 2: It's like, why take a shower and then put yourself
Speaker 2: in the dirt? In the dirt? Why shower and go
Speaker 2: sit in the dirt? No clue, there's no reason.
Speaker 1: Oh that reminds me. I know, Yeah we can get
Speaker 1: back there.
Speaker 2: Yeah we'll get back to that. But I think that
Speaker 2: you are in a position where it seems like you're
Speaker 2: thriving in your personal life, and it's so important to
Speaker 2: either have conversations about like, hey, I just be honest
Speaker 2: with them, Like if I was always being negative and
Speaker 2: I wasn't self aware enough to realize that I was
Speaker 2: always being negative. I would hope that someone would be like,
Speaker 2: are you okay? Like, I'd hope someone like Tanya would
Speaker 2: check me and be like, it's a hard conversation because
Speaker 2: you're like, I don't know what you're going through. But
Speaker 2: if they were if Tanya was like, Hey, I just
Speaker 2: feel like everything's been a little bit negative and downer.
Speaker 2: Are you doing okay? It might just bring awareness to
Speaker 2: how they're speaking and what they're talking about.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I agree, but I also think not everybody's like receptive.
Speaker 1: To that type of stuff, do you know what I mean? So, yeah, and.
Speaker 2: It's a risk, But at the same time, what do
Speaker 2: you The option is either you have the conversational where
Speaker 2: you can maintain a friendship with them, or you just
Speaker 2: subtly distant, distance yourself and meet new people that align
Speaker 2: with you.
Speaker 4: You can also distance yourself but not cut them off,
Speaker 4: do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: But if I'm saying, if they're like, hey, why have
Speaker 2: you not been hanging out with this? Why have you
Speaker 2: been distant? I think it's like, Hey, I've noticed there's
Speaker 2: a lot of drama and negativity in this in this group,
Speaker 2: and I'm not in a place where I want to
Speaker 2: feed into that or invite that in So I've just
Speaker 2: I've noticed I've intentionally distanced myself and I love you guys.
Speaker 2: It's not like I don't want to have y'all as friends.
Speaker 2: It's just hanging out with you causes more angst angst,
Speaker 2: yeah than I want.
Speaker 1: Yeah, nobody wants angst.
Speaker 6: And also maybe you just find someone to sub sublet
Speaker 6: your place and find another place to live, a better
Speaker 6: roommate situation like Alaska.
Speaker 2: I don't know about Alaska. Maybe yeah, but she said
Speaker 2: she has a healthy relationship, so I don't know if
Speaker 2: that means she they're like bringing reship. But I'm saying, like,
Speaker 2: how fun to go maybe move somewhere fresh and stuff together. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but we truly wish you the best. I think that's
Speaker 2: really hard because you're at that age where it feels like,
Speaker 2: how do you meet friends as an adult? Like, that's
Speaker 2: the age where you really feel it, I think, and
Speaker 2: I mean, I think that's when I met you at
Speaker 2: twenty seven.
Speaker 1: It is.
Speaker 2: It's when life will bring you your best, most cherished friendships.
Speaker 1: I agree.
Speaker 3: Well, that really ties nicely into the.
Speaker 2: Next one is Jojo and Allie.
Speaker 1: I'm at twenty seven.
Speaker 2: Yeah, twenty six and twenty seven.
Speaker 4: You were given off some pheromones. At twenty six, twenty
Speaker 4: se I.
Speaker 2: Was giving I need friends.
Speaker 3: It ties in quite nicely with what we're talking about
Speaker 3: high scrubbing and team I love you all, but listeners
Speaker 3: at the beginning, I feel like y'all are my besties.
Speaker 3: I know every one of you is happily paired up now,
Speaker 3: but Becca and Tyny, when you were still single, how
Speaker 3: did you deal. I'm twenty nine and all of my
Speaker 3: friends are engaged or married in the last two years.
Speaker 3: I'm the token single friend, and I'm personally content with it.
Speaker 3: I only have two good friends left that are single,
Speaker 3: and I love them, but I can't do everything with them.
Speaker 3: Even my married engaged friends are good about including me,
Speaker 3: but more and more I'm feeling left out. I don't
Speaker 3: know what's going to happen, but it still stings. For example,
Speaker 3: talking about Fourth of July plants, I just found out
Speaker 3: a group of my besties, three couples who recently married.
Speaker 3: When engaged, they've already booked a cabin for the weekend.
Speaker 3: They never even mentioned it to me. Now I totally
Speaker 3: get it. I wouldn't even want a seventh wheel for
Speaker 3: the weekend, but I was still hurt when I found out.
Speaker 3: Now I'm feeling like, what do I do now? How
Speaker 3: do I find new single friends at twenty nine? Am
Speaker 3: I going to feel left out like this until I
Speaker 3: get a partner to bring to these events? Even when
Speaker 3: they do invite me to a casual, casual hang at
Speaker 3: a bar or something, it becomes a couple's retreat plus me,
Speaker 3: and that gets old. Will have any advice, You guys
Speaker 3: are the best.
Speaker 2: It's so funny because I even though I'm in a relationship,
Speaker 2: so it's different than what she's going through. But there's
Speaker 2: been a lot of big events where Haley's been on
Speaker 2: like a work trip or not been able to go
Speaker 2: to things. And I just love my friends and their
Speaker 2: partners so much. I never feel like, well, Tanya, Robbie
Speaker 2: and Tanya told me I'm not a third whell, I'm
Speaker 2: just a wheel, So they've never made me feel like
Speaker 2: it's the third wheel. But I feel like my friends
Speaker 2: all have partners that have never even if I don't
Speaker 2: have Hayley with me, they've never made me feel like
Speaker 2: I'm like ast draggler or like inconvenience to the group.
Speaker 2: And I also think I was twenty nine when I
Speaker 2: met Hailey, so I think that you're in a season
Speaker 2: where maybe it's right around the corner. And also I
Speaker 2: think it's totally normal and fine to want to meet
Speaker 2: people who are in the same life season as you
Speaker 2: meet people who are single and put yourself out there
Speaker 2: and go do things that you love to do, because
Speaker 2: that's how you meet people with like interest bumblebff scrubbing
Speaker 2: in Facebook group.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I really think there is nothing wrong with making
Speaker 4: new friends as adults that are in the same life
Speaker 4: phase as you, because like that, I remember I was
Speaker 4: like so sad, like right after college because all my
Speaker 4: friends just started getting married, Like all my college friends
Speaker 4: just like married babies, like that was that was the path.
Speaker 4: And I remember coming back on like a flight, specifically
Speaker 4: from a baby shower that I was at from one
Speaker 4: of my friends, and I was just like crying hysterically
Speaker 4: because I was like so sad to be single and
Speaker 4: just like.
Speaker 1: I wanted to be in a relationship because I did.
Speaker 4: I felt so left out and that was the only reason,
Speaker 4: do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like everything else is going great, My career was going great.
Speaker 4: I was loving my life, but I just felt left
Speaker 4: out of like that life cycle. And I made a
Speaker 4: lot of great single friends in LA that were all
Speaker 4: like my season of life. And I don't know, It's
Speaker 4: like kind of it's funny because I'm entering into like
Speaker 4: a news wanting to enter into a new season of
Speaker 4: like having a baby and starting a family, and like
Speaker 4: none of my friends are in that phase of life
Speaker 4: right now, right so I feel like I'm gonna have
Speaker 4: to make yes soon some mom friends that like are
Speaker 4: in that baby toddler phase of life.
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: It's like it's always evolving, Like your life is always
Speaker 4: needing to like make new friends, not necessarily get rid
Speaker 4: of the old, no, just like.
Speaker 2: Have connections with people who are going through the same things.
Speaker 2: I told I was thinking about that for Ali, like
Speaker 2: she's really in our big friend group. She's the first
Speaker 2: one to get pregnant, and so I'm like it's going
Speaker 2: to be natural for her to make friends with people
Speaker 2: who are able to relate to what she's going through
Speaker 2: as a new mom. And same with you. And and
Speaker 2: I've said this before that I think all my friends
Speaker 2: are going to be in that season wanting to have babies,
Speaker 2: and I don't know that I want that, and so
Speaker 2: I'm going to have to seek out people who have
Speaker 2: the same interest that I have, yeah, to like have
Speaker 2: those connections. So I think that's just life and you.
Speaker 4: And a huge shift when I met Robbie and I
Speaker 4: had step kids involved in my life because I feel
Speaker 4: like I didn't know in the beginning, like are my
Speaker 4: friends going to want to hang out when when we
Speaker 4: have the step kids, like you know what I mean,
Speaker 4: Like do we do I have my friends come over
Speaker 4: and do we do barbecues together?
Speaker 1: Like I never I didn't really know that balance.
Speaker 4: And now it's just like one big happy family, right
Speaker 4: and everybody just comes and it is what it is.
Speaker 4: But that was an adjustment for me too, because I
Speaker 4: went from like being single to being like in a
Speaker 4: relationship with kids involved.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.
Speaker 4: So that was like very yeah, big jar jarring.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I also she said she's content, like she's not
Speaker 2: even necessarily like, oh my gosh, I need to be
Speaker 2: in a relationship. It's more so just like all of
Speaker 2: her best friends are in a relationship. And I think
Speaker 2: that it's You're in a really nice place of being
Speaker 2: content with your life. So I think you just find
Speaker 2: people who are also content with where they are in
Speaker 2: life and have similar interests. And I also think embrace
Speaker 2: being the like taking the one that's like taking care
Speaker 2: of Like when I go alone with all my friends,
Speaker 2: they all take care of me. They're always like, oh,
Speaker 2: ultra making sure I'm okay. I'm like you guys. We're
Speaker 2: good here, she's around, she's just working. Should we take
Speaker 2: a break.
Speaker 3: I think that'd be great.
Speaker 1: Okay, here's a teas.
Speaker 3: Here's the teas coming up next. Married bestie has a crush.
Speaker 2: WHOA wow, you left us on the edge of our
Speaker 2: seat with that teas mark.
Speaker 3: All right, anonymous, love you all, but listening for years.
Speaker 3: I have two besties going back to middle school. We're
Speaker 3: in our late twenties now. One of the three of
Speaker 3: us got married last year. Are married. Bestie drunkenly admitted
Speaker 3: on a girl's night that she has feelings for her coworker.
Speaker 3: She has a job where they spend many hours. It's
Speaker 3: just the two of them, so I can see how
Speaker 3: you could get very close. But this was shocking news.
Speaker 3: He's also not conventionally attractive. Sorry, so it's not just
Speaker 3: that she thinks he's hot. She specifically said feelings. Married
Speaker 3: bestie recently bought a house and moved farther away. She
Speaker 3: and her husband are trying for a baby this year.
Speaker 3: Do we think it's just called feet panic about the
Speaker 3: lifestyle changes? We haven't all hung out in person since
Speaker 3: she said this? What would you all do to me
Speaker 3: and my other bestie? Pretend we never heard this information?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 3: Do we chalk it up to drunk nonsense although she
Speaker 3: seemed to be aware of what she was saying. Or
Speaker 3: do we confront her about it? I would never tell
Speaker 3: her husband, But now I'm in a weird spot of
Speaker 3: not knowing what to say to her. I'm not even
Speaker 3: sure she remembers telling us, thank you.
Speaker 4: You pretend like you never heard it. You don't know
Speaker 4: what she's talking about. You can't What are you gonna do?
Speaker 4: Confront her?
Speaker 2: I would just be asking questions, how's the coworker situation?
Speaker 2: Like if you told me you had a crush on Mark?
Speaker 3: Understandable?
Speaker 4: I would go.
Speaker 1: I would be like, I can't, how's the crush on Mark?
Speaker 7: Like?
Speaker 2: I'd be like, what's going on with that? Because I'm
Speaker 2: nosy and want to know, like where your head like
Speaker 2: is like, I guess I would be checking in, just
Speaker 2: like I would like I want to just all this
Speaker 2: sudden ignore. You would never just ignore that if I
Speaker 2: told you something really deep about my feelings about anything,
Speaker 2: you would never just like act like you never heard.
Speaker 2: You'd follow up and ask questions about it.
Speaker 4: So I'd be like, Hey, Becka, how's your crush on Mark?
Speaker 2: You have the crush I'll be on Easton. My crush
Speaker 2: will be on Easton.
Speaker 4: So I'll be like, Becca, how's your crush on Easton?
Speaker 4: Have you talked talked to Haley about it?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I'd be like, I don't know. I don't know what
Speaker 2: to do. We're spending so much time together in the
Speaker 2: stew in the studio, but that is weird. I think
Speaker 2: the problem with that type of work relationship is when
Speaker 2: you're solo time with someone, it puts you in a
Speaker 2: compromist position no matter what. And I think that I
Speaker 2: don't think that the best friends should or the anonymous
Speaker 2: should say anything or obviously don't tell the husband or anyone.
Speaker 2: But I definitely think it's normal best friend behavior to
Speaker 2: be like, Hey, what's going on with your feelings for
Speaker 2: your crush at work?
Speaker 3: I've heard relationship experts say that this is perfectly normal,
Speaker 3: it happens. In fact, I just brought up the old
Speaker 3: Ai Surgeru. It's normal for a married person to have
Speaker 3: a crush on a coworker, attraction, infatuation, or natural human experiences.
Speaker 3: It's common to be drawn to others. It's just crucial
Speaker 3: to distinguish a casual crush and a situation that could
Speaker 3: jeopardize a marriage.
Speaker 8: They're usually like a very brief thing.
Speaker 1: Too sad. That would make me so sad if I
Speaker 1: like knew that.
Speaker 2: Well, it's also like you don't You can't control. You
Speaker 2: can't control attraction or feelings. You control on how you
Speaker 2: act on it.
Speaker 1: And but but but no, I feel like.
Speaker 2: You mean to tell me. You meet Robbie. You're working
Speaker 2: with Robbie and he you're both married, and you're working
Speaker 2: side by side alone, and you see those hands in action,
Speaker 2: typing on a keyboard.
Speaker 4: You're not married to Yes, Garth, you married Garth. Okay,
Speaker 4: so I'm married to Garth. Okay, and I meet Robbie.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So the thing is my vagina tingles belong to Garth,
Speaker 4: My everything belongs to Garth.
Speaker 2: You can control that.
Speaker 4: My heart controls that, and my heart is with Garth.
Speaker 4: When Garth has my heart, no vagina is not tingling.
Speaker 2: Because you're just not. Your heart is the reason why
Speaker 2: you put distance there. That your heart is the reason
Speaker 2: why she should go. Hey, I'm spending too much one
Speaker 2: on one time. It's like confusing my brain. It's I
Speaker 2: don't want it to affect my marriage. So I'm either're
Speaker 2: going to remove myself or suggest that we are in
Speaker 2: a space where we're working remotely and we're not physically together.
Speaker 2: That's what your heart does because your brain does not
Speaker 2: know how to differentially my.
Speaker 4: Brains with Garth to my heart and my brain are
Speaker 4: with you telling us that if you're married to Garth
Speaker 4: and you all those hands on.
Speaker 3: Robbie, they would just look like normal hands to you. Yes, wow, wow.
Speaker 4: Look I'm on the I've only been with what we've
Speaker 4: been together now for five and a half years. Okay,
Speaker 4: I don't know what it's like to be married for
Speaker 4: ten years, for twenty years, for thirty years.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 4: But all I'm saying is myself, in this very moment,
Speaker 4: my head and my heart belonged to Garth, even Robbie
Speaker 4: and his hot ass hands come around me.
Speaker 1: They're not doing it.
Speaker 3: You would go to Arth. I wouldn't even know radars off.
Speaker 1: It's with Garth.
Speaker 3: Seventy four percent of full time employees and committed relationships
Speaker 3: revealed they've been attracted to en office colleague.
Speaker 8: Attracted is different than a crash though, perhaps Yeah?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Well, and also she said she said it's feelings. She said, yeah,
Speaker 2: she did say, is.
Speaker 1: Like I was, like finding someone attractive. There's crush and
Speaker 1: then there's feelings.
Speaker 2: I think I'd rather I would rather I would hate
Speaker 2: any of it. But if I had to choose, I'd
Speaker 2: rather someone just find someone at track, Yes, because then
Speaker 2: I could be like, yuh, she's borty y. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Well, it's got to be people Hailey finds attractive.
Speaker 2: I mean, she better not.
Speaker 3: All right to move or not to move. I've been
Speaker 3: a big fan since COVID after my best friend introduced
Speaker 3: me to you guys. Some days, you guys help me
Speaker 3: get out of bed in the morning. I feel like
Speaker 3: laughing with friends brightens my spirits on hard days. Well,
Speaker 3: in twenty six I married my high school's sweetheart. We
Speaker 3: broke up for two years, like Tany and Robbie, but
Speaker 3: I always knew he was my person. I'm twenty six,
Speaker 3: he's twenty five. He's a project manager in construction, which
Speaker 3: offered the chance to train to become VP of his
Speaker 3: company in Florida. His reaction was, no way. We've built
Speaker 3: a life in Missouri with our support system and our
Speaker 3: family and our lifelong friends. But I said, maybe considerate.
Speaker 3: Becoming a VP of twenty seven is rare and you
Speaker 3: deserve it. We're now leaning towards staying, but we're unsure.
Speaker 3: Parents are nearby, friend groups, nearby, best friend. I've never
Speaker 3: pictured life without them. The idea of leaving makes me emotional.
Speaker 3: At the same time, I've always done with all we's
Speaker 3: don't was expect that. I've never taken a leap like this,
Speaker 3: and part of me wants to prove to myself that
Speaker 3: I could. I'm a mental health counselor just finished grad school.
Speaker 3: I can get licensed in Florida, which is an issue,
Speaker 3: but hey, I could do that. My mind is spinning.
Speaker 3: I'd love to hear your thoughts on what to do.
Speaker 2: Love you all so much, Missouri, your family, your bff
Speaker 2: are not going anywhere. Nope, you can move to Florida.
Speaker 2: He can become the VP, which is epic at twenty seven,
Speaker 2: and y'all could live there for however long makes sense,
Speaker 2: like a year, and if you hate it, you can
Speaker 2: always go back. I think this is an opportunity for
Speaker 2: y'all to expand and do something like really cool for
Speaker 2: his career, and your family can come visit. I don't
Speaker 2: know where in Florida. Maybe there's a beach nearby theme park,
Speaker 2: perhaps a theme park or beach, some something cool, some
Speaker 2: gators or something. But I think that this is the
Speaker 2: time where you should do that, like chase those opportunities
Speaker 2: and know that those people are going to be there.
Speaker 6: See.
Speaker 2: I don't know what you're friend does. See if she
Speaker 2: wants to move to Florida, why not.
Speaker 4: I just feel like if you don't do this, it's
Speaker 4: gonna be something that you're going to always be thinking about,
Speaker 4: like what if we did that? And if it sucks,
Speaker 4: like Becca said, then just move back. But I feel
Speaker 4: like if you don't do it, you're always going to
Speaker 4: be questioning what if we had done that.
Speaker 3: I think it only enhances your life to live somewhere
Speaker 3: else in America, in the world, whatever it is. You'll
Speaker 3: become a better and more rounded person than staying in
Speaker 3: the same place forever.
Speaker 2: Agree, And every single person who has ever moved anywhere
Speaker 2: has felt fear and nerves and what sure and what
Speaker 2: you're feeling is totally normal. But what if you don't,
Speaker 2: You're always going to wonder.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: The night I got into to Los Angeles from Wisconsin,
Speaker 3: I was scared to bet. What have I done? Was
Speaker 3: all I kept thinking to myself. It was so scary,
Speaker 3: so scary. Yeah, but we've all done it except Tanya
Speaker 3: Tiny grew up here, the rest of us somewhere else,
Speaker 3: but she went.
Speaker 4: To Arizona for ye, and I grew up in Orange County,
Speaker 4: which is like a totally different universe from Los Angeles.
Speaker 3: That's true.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: All we have to say is if not now, when
Speaker 2: and if not you, who, and if not there where?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Hey, we have two fun questions to wrap up. Wow,
Speaker 3: dear Vonya today, that's next.
Speaker 2: All right, we are back with some ending questions.
Speaker 3: Stephanie Hi beca Eastern Marcantania alphabetical order. You're a podcast,
Speaker 3: especially in the episodes with the four of you, brings
Speaker 3: me so much joy each week. And I only complained
Speaker 3: is that I wish they were longer a fun game.
Speaker 3: My family, friends and I like to play a desert
Speaker 3: island movies. These are the top three movies you would
Speaker 3: bring to a desert island. By the way, it is
Speaker 3: desert island. I always feel like that's a misnomer. They
Speaker 3: can't have a desert island. An island is surrounded by water,
Speaker 3: Isn't it island?
Speaker 2: Deserted deserted island?
Speaker 8: Yet I'm staying with desert. Okay, it can be arid
Speaker 8: and dry.
Speaker 4: Uh.
Speaker 3: These are not necessarily the best movies you've ever seen,
Speaker 3: but the movies you can watch over and over again.
Speaker 3: What would yours be?
Speaker 8: I've got mine ready, so go ahead.
Speaker 1: It's how many three?
Speaker 3: Three?
Speaker 9: I always have a hard time remind you remembering what
Speaker 9: insurance I have. But this thing I've got ready to go? Baby,
Speaker 9: it would be Uh, it would be the first Transformers movie.
Speaker 9: It would be Captain America The Winter Soldier Wow.
Speaker 8: And it would be Back to the Future Wow. I
Speaker 8: watched those at least like once a month.
Speaker 2: Wait was Captain America the sequel?
Speaker 8: That's right, and you liked it better.
Speaker 2: Than the first?
Speaker 1: Okay, it's rare. I have mine, my gosh. Well, Okay,
Speaker 1: he's just not that into you.
Speaker 4: Wow, home alone too, because I need something. I would
Speaker 4: need something for the holidays time. And my third one
Speaker 4: would be I'll just guy in ten days.
Speaker 2: Oh that's I'm going. Do you have yours?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Okay, please.
Speaker 3: I don't watch a lot of movies over and over again,
Speaker 3: but these are the ones I've gotten the most joy
Speaker 3: out of watching over and over again. La La Land,
Speaker 3: I love La La Land, and I could watch it
Speaker 3: again and again and again. I am so mesmerized by
Speaker 3: Emma Stone in that movie. She's brilliant in it. Eternal
Speaker 3: Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.
Speaker 2: I have been wanting to rewatch that lately.
Speaker 1: So I've never even heard.
Speaker 3: Of this Jim Carrey and Kate Winslet, and it's just glorious.
Speaker 2: I think I would have a deeper response because I'm
Speaker 2: in a relationship now because I watched it long time ago,
Speaker 2: so I think I would have a different reaction to it.
Speaker 3: And there's so much to it. There's so many little
Speaker 3: things that you miss unless you watch it again and
Speaker 3: again and again. Okay, and now need a comedy and
Speaker 3: I'm torn on that. I've always said my favorite movie
Speaker 3: of all time is Airplane, the original Airplane movie from
Speaker 3: nineteen eighty. You know it's the first parody movie.
Speaker 1: You know what about planes, trains and automobile.
Speaker 3: Oh, that's a pretty good one. That might be better. That's
Speaker 3: probably the good voice I'll do.
Speaker 1: That's a little holiday.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're right. It is idea.
Speaker 1: You're gonna want something during the holidays.
Speaker 3: Airplane is not age that well, is what I have found.
Speaker 2: I don't know about that one. I have never seen it.
Speaker 2: It's funny, but I was gonna do huddle those today's.
Speaker 2: But I'm gonna let that be yours, because you have
Speaker 2: the rental from the Desert the Island Blockbuster. I'm gonna
Speaker 2: do Malana. Wow, I love Malanna, my sick comfort man.
Speaker 3: The line where the sky makes.
Speaker 2: Okay, I would feel inspired to leave the island. I'm
Speaker 2: gonna say the holiday for my holidays.
Speaker 1: You need one. You're gonna need one around November December
Speaker 1: t Yeah, and.
Speaker 2: Then I'm gonna go. I'm gonna go. Bride's aids so funny.
Speaker 2: It makes me laugh, even when my real preference would
Speaker 2: be to get to pick three seasons of friends.
Speaker 4: But I don't know when I was gonna say in
Speaker 4: the City movie because I like, I feel like I
Speaker 4: would like to dabble with my gals, But I didn't
Speaker 4: love the movie as much as was controversial.
Speaker 3: Yeah all right, Riley asks I Beka, Tanya Mark and
Speaker 3: Eastern Day eighteen scrubber but one true life? Wow, I too,
Speaker 3: like the light had a fun question at the end
Speaker 3: of your Bonnie, So here's one. Haley Kyoko, the director
Speaker 3: is now casting for the Scrubbing and Uncut movie. Who
Speaker 3: would you each cast for yourself and the three others
Speaker 3: could be actor, actor, singer, influencer, whoever you want. But
Speaker 3: let's be fun and creative so that this movie wins
Speaker 3: a golden globe. Look forward every podcast. Love you guys.
Speaker 3: I want Jason Bateman to play me.
Speaker 1: Good one, Thank you Solid. Netflix might pick it up
Speaker 1: with oh.
Speaker 6: Do you know?
Speaker 2: Also there is a guy the lead in Conclave. His
Speaker 2: voice reminded me of you, Anthony.
Speaker 3: Ray Fine? Right? Is Ray Fine? Is he the lead?
Speaker 8: And he's in Conclave? He is the lead?
Speaker 3: I love?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I have an idea for Becca Madeline Kleinting.
Speaker 2: I'm honored. I think she's beautiful but random?
Speaker 1: Oh really?
Speaker 3: Also, twenty seven are we care about maybe it's like
Speaker 3: the Origin because I cast somebody.
Speaker 2: Mark, so.
Speaker 1: I already have mine to who you have a guess?
Speaker 3: I do.
Speaker 1: I've always wanted her to.
Speaker 3: Play me, Jennifer Goodwin.
Speaker 1: No, what do you mean?
Speaker 3: No, didn't she didn't somebody compare you to her?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Oh but no, that's not the correct answer.
Speaker 2: Okay, wait is she in our age range?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 2: Oh, younger, yes, younger yes, Florence.
Speaker 4: No, but I wouldn't be a post Yeah, that would
Speaker 4: work any other guesses, guys, it's like so easy. She's
Speaker 4: been on the podcast many times. Very memorable guest.
Speaker 3: If you will, Letington just a capsule, Sabrina Carpenter.
Speaker 8: Yeah, yes, I was just gonna say that, Yes, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm looking at actress.
Speaker 1: She's an actress, Megan Trainer. She can do whatever she wants.
Speaker 1: She's a chameleon.
Speaker 3: But Easton, we haven't gotten to Easton.
Speaker 8: I'm saying Adam Brody, he's pretty good.
Speaker 9: She's older than me, significantly older than me, so much
Speaker 9: older than Fred Savage.
Speaker 8: Fred Savage like Adam Brody.
Speaker 2: And I was thinking for you, Lady Hudson, a little
Speaker 2: older than you, but fine, love, I.
Speaker 3: Was thinking Tom Everett Scott for Easton, Tom from that
Speaker 3: thing you do?
Speaker 8: Oh yes, uh you also just like decades older than me.
Speaker 1: I'm going to do Freddy Prince Junior for Easton.
Speaker 2: Wow, that's crazy, that's literally insane.
Speaker 8: I'll take it.
Speaker 2: I like Adam Brody the bust.
Speaker 3: Adam Brodie is pretty strong.
Speaker 8: How about Tom Hanks, Tomminks now for me?
Speaker 3: That would win a Golden Globe?
Speaker 8: Yeah, yes it would.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm not seeing anyone that I resonate with.
Speaker 2: I mean, like I they're all beautiful, but I don't.
Speaker 8: See I was thinking Addison Ray for you me.
Speaker 2: Yes, well, she's like twenty two, thanks you soon, She's.
Speaker 8: Been in a movie. She knows what she's doing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we went to she went to the high
Speaker 2: school I graduated, brom.
Speaker 8: So really, wow, do they have a statue there of you?
Speaker 2: So do you like thought of me?
Speaker 4: Maybe of her like Addison Ray or Madeline Klein? Better
Speaker 4: you have the ultimate say because it's your depiction.
Speaker 2: You know who I'd like. That's just like is like
Speaker 2: Olivia Wilde.
Speaker 3: Oh oh nice.
Speaker 2: More of my age range. They're both like low twenties
Speaker 2: that people all gave me, which I really appreciate.
Speaker 3: Actually Green is a suggestion from Google.
Speaker 1: Ai Rebecca, Yeah, yeah, okay, what do they said for me?
Speaker 3: Well, let's ask it, scared, I don't even know, but
Speaker 3: I don't know if chat epet knows you. Okay, here,
Speaker 3: I'll just hear it. We'll do this. This will be
Speaker 3: easier and faster with the type someone did did you
Speaker 3: put a photo and said, I said, Beca Tilly? What
Speaker 3: celebrity does she look like? And it said She's been
Speaker 3: compared to many actors, a few different celebrities. Some people
Speaker 3: say she looks like Ashley Green, We'll others compare her
Speaker 3: to Olivia Munn. Wait, so I've also mentioned selverted with
Speaker 3: Jessica Walter. I don't know who that is.
Speaker 2: Are we sure we're not talking about Becca Kufrian from
Speaker 2: the Did you put Becka from The Bachelor.
Speaker 3: Beca Tilly's that's so crazy. Let's ask chat gipt and
Speaker 3: see what they say. Lily ryinhurt, I'm seeing you're familiar
Speaker 3: with what Tanya Rad looks like.
Speaker 7: I'm familiar with Tanya Rad as a co host on
Speaker 7: the radio show, but I can't provide descriptions of how
Speaker 7: someone looks. If you have any other questions or need
Speaker 7: assistance with something else, feel.
Speaker 9: Free to ask.
Speaker 3: I don't need a description. I'm just wondering if you
Speaker 3: can think of any celebrities that she looks like.
Speaker 7: I understand it's common for people to hear comparisons to celebrities.
Speaker 7: If you're asking for a general idea, I can help
Speaker 7: with that. Let me know if you have any other questions,
Speaker 7: or if there's anything else you'd like to do.
Speaker 3: Chest This is so worth the gallon celebrity does Tanya
Speaker 3: rad look like?
Speaker 7: I don't have the ability to compare people's appear oay wait.
Speaker 2: I just did chat GPT what actress would Beckettilly play?
Speaker 2: Would play Beckettilly in a movie? And they said, if
Speaker 2: Beckettilly from The Bachelor, podcasting and influencer fame were portrayed
Speaker 2: in a movie, here are a few actresses who could
Speaker 2: play be a good match based on looks, vibes, and personality.
Speaker 2: Britt Robertson, I love her. I don't know who that is.
Speaker 4: She was in one of my favorite shows that got
Speaker 4: canceled and it should not have gotten canceled.
Speaker 2: Okay, Lily James, I think she's in James is great?
Speaker 3: She was real.
Speaker 2: What it says, especially if you're leaning into Becca's more
Speaker 2: glamorous influencer side, Sophia can capture that media savvy confidence.
Speaker 1: Wow, that's amazing. So random, Robertson's not a bad idea.
Speaker 3: So I asked the same that as Becca has, what
Speaker 3: time you're brat and they say, Sophia Carson.
Speaker 2: Wait, that is so funny. Okay, well well we'll think
Speaker 2: more on that, but that was fun. Riley, thanks for
Speaker 2: sitting in that queue. That's all for now, folks, have
Speaker 2: a wonderful weekend. We enjoy and be safe. Be safe,
Speaker 2: and thank you to those who have served.
Speaker 3: And we'll see you Tuesday.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll be back Tuesday.
Speaker 8: I love you.
Speaker 1: Continued