WEBVTT - #122 The secret no one wants to hear 0:00:00.360 --> 0:00:03.160 I want to tell you something, Jared. This is like 0:00:03.480 --> 0:00:06.320 the secret, the secret that no one wants to hear 0:00:06.320 --> 0:00:10.720 when they're in it. But if she wants time to 0:00:10.800 --> 0:00:15.200 work on herself, then that means she doesn't love you. 0:00:26.760 --> 0:00:29.640 What's up, everybody, Welcome back to the podcast. Thank you 0:00:29.640 --> 0:00:33.160 for watching, thank you for listening, whatever platform you're coming from. 0:00:33.320 --> 0:00:36.920 I'm grateful to have this podcast, to be able to 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:39.800 talk through your questions. That's what we do here. I 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:44.640 answer your questions. You email Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. 0:00:45.360 --> 0:00:48.279 I'll go through them and we'll archive them and we'll 0:00:48.280 --> 0:00:50.000 get to it. So it could be about any subject. 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:54.120 It could be about life or career, or relationship or 0:00:54.160 --> 0:00:57.880 faith or even music. It's funny that this is actually 0:00:58.000 --> 0:01:02.000 under the music category, but we talk about music unless 0:01:02.040 --> 0:01:05.280 you ask me. And if you found me through TikTok 0:01:05.360 --> 0:01:08.240 or Instagram, thank you for being here. If you're a 0:01:08.240 --> 0:01:10.880 longtime listener, I appreciate you. I haven't had a guest 0:01:10.880 --> 0:01:14.720 in a while. Currently filming a movie, a motion picture 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:17.560 in West Texas, and so I come back home and 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:21.039 I have usually two days per week home and I 0:01:21.120 --> 0:01:22.760 pick one of those days to jump on here and 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:24.759 do the podcast. I don't really know when I'm gonna 0:01:24.760 --> 0:01:27.160 do it, so I haven't had a guest in a while. 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:29.240 So oh Also, if you came from my radio show 0:01:29.240 --> 0:01:32.279 after midnight, thank you for listening to that and showing 0:01:32.360 --> 0:01:35.399 up back here. But let's get this thing started. I'm 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:38.440 going to pull up the first question and it comes 0:01:38.440 --> 0:01:41.600 from Jared in Abilene, Texas, speaking of West Texas. Abilene, Texas. 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:44.800 It says, Hey, Granger, I'm new to the podcast. Absolutely 0:01:44.880 --> 0:01:46.840 love what you have to say each and every week. 0:01:46.959 --> 0:01:49.520 Thank you for that. Here's what I have. So, my 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:52.040 girlfriend broke up with me this week. And we've been 0:01:52.120 --> 0:01:54.960 dating for two months, so not real long, but I've 0:01:55.000 --> 0:01:57.120 known her over a year. And the reason she broke 0:01:57.200 --> 0:01:59.560 up with me is because she needs to get some 0:01:59.600 --> 0:02:02.920 work done on herself and find out what she really 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:05.640 wants in life. Which I respect that because I want 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:09.120 the best for her. But she wants some time to 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:11.360 work on herself and see what she wants. And this 0:02:11.400 --> 0:02:13.600 is where I get confused, because I really want to 0:02:13.960 --> 0:02:16.320 work this out between us because I love this girl. 0:02:16.480 --> 0:02:18.440 Do I wait for her? Do I let her go 0:02:18.639 --> 0:02:21.200 and remain friends down the road. I don't know how 0:02:21.200 --> 0:02:24.240 to process this because we had a conversation on what 0:02:24.280 --> 0:02:26.239 we both want out of a relationship and that went great, 0:02:26.240 --> 0:02:27.880 and then she broke up with me four days later. 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:32.600 I'm twenty one years old in college. So just to 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:36.040 remind her to everyone that's listening, I don't have any notes, 0:02:36.240 --> 0:02:39.000 I don't have any preparation. I don't even read these emails. 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:42.000 So everything is going to be on the fly, as 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:45.480 if we're sitting around a campfire and just having this conversation, 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:48.000 and Jared, you're at first. You sit down at the 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:51.280 campfire and you say, hey, man, I want to talk 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:56.079 about this girl. It needs to be said that I'm 0:02:56.080 --> 0:02:58.320 not always right. I'm just going to give you the 0:02:58.360 --> 0:03:00.840 campfire talk of what I think, what I think of 0:03:00.880 --> 0:03:03.280 the situation from the limited information that I know that 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:09.560 you gave me. Jared, twenty one years old, young, haven't 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:13.680 dated very long. Two months that's like nothing, and I 0:03:13.680 --> 0:03:16.200 mean it's long enough to get a serious crush on her, 0:03:16.919 --> 0:03:21.960 to get the infatuation going on her. You are heartbroken. 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:26.240 I want to tell you something, Jared. This is like 0:03:26.560 --> 0:03:29.360 the secret, the secret that no one wants to hear 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:33.800 when they're in it. But if she wants time to 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:38.280 work on herself. Then that means she doesn't love you, 0:03:39.400 --> 0:03:41.560 at least not right now, and at least not at 0:03:41.560 --> 0:03:46.200 a level that should continue this relationship. That's not a 0:03:46.200 --> 0:03:50.080 good sign, Jared. And this is what I would tell 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:54.560 you around the campfire, that bro she's using that that's 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:57.680 just like one of the four main excuses. Hey I 0:03:57.720 --> 0:03:59.480 want to work on myself. Hey I want to I 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:03.280 will spend some time with God. Hey I'm starting this 0:04:03.360 --> 0:04:06.440 new career. Or I need more time with my girlfriends. 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:09.960 All these are just excuses to say you're not the 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:12.800 one for me right now. And I know that's tough 0:04:12.840 --> 0:04:17.880 to hear, but the fact is, if you were, if 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:20.880 she loved you like crazy, if she's thought that she 0:04:20.920 --> 0:04:24.400 wants to marry you, she would overcome whatever it is 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:27.479 she's working on herself with, or whatever job she has, 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:30.560 or whatever girlfriend she wants to spend more time with. 0:04:31.920 --> 0:04:35.480 She would make it work with you. So this is 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:38.800 this is a different conversation if it's you guys have 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:42.000 been together for seven years, or you're married, or you're 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:47.200 forty five years old. But this is a classic twenty 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:51.880 one year old quick relationship. The best thing you could 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:55.200 do Jared is give her the space. The best thing 0:04:55.240 --> 0:04:58.760 you could do is get away from your phone, get 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:02.400 away from the the need, the craving to text her 0:05:02.560 --> 0:05:07.600 or to go scope her out on Instagram or Facebook 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:11.960 and see what she's doing. In fact, it's probably smart 0:05:11.960 --> 0:05:14.520 at this point to hide her from your feed on 0:05:14.520 --> 0:05:18.120 all social media. It's like something that I didn't really 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:20.040 have to deal with it with this when I was 0:05:20.160 --> 0:05:23.400 dating because when I was twenty one, there was no 0:05:23.480 --> 0:05:28.400 social media. So it's a thing now where you need 0:05:28.440 --> 0:05:30.440 to be like, I'm not going to tell you to 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:33.920 block her because that might just cause more problems, but 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:36.599 you need to do something of the sort like hide her. 0:05:37.000 --> 0:05:40.159 You could hide her on all your platforms because it's 0:05:40.200 --> 0:05:42.400 just going to perpetuate this feeling that you have. It's 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:45.640 going to keep it alive a little bit longer, and ultimately, 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:51.760 time is your friend. Did you say when this happened? Okay, 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:55.120 I'm not really sure when it happened. I'm assuming very recently. 0:05:57.200 --> 0:05:59.760 Time is your friend. You're going to need that time 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:02.560 and as days go by, you know, some days might 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:06.520 might you might miss her more, but but ultimately you're 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:11.120 gonna heal this heartbrokenness is gonna heal and then you're 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:14.360 gonna find somebody else. And the best thing about finding 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:16.479 somebody else, And in your mind you're like, I don't 0:06:16.480 --> 0:06:21.080 want anybody else, Like she's the one I don't want 0:06:21.120 --> 0:06:24.200 to try. And that's okay, it's okay to think that. 0:06:25.839 --> 0:06:29.600 It's natural to think that. But when you do you 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:32.760 do find somebody else, it's like all this stuff is 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:35.039 going to start making sense to you and you're gonna go, Wow, 0:06:35.240 --> 0:06:40.159 I'm better my I'm better myself because of the past 0:06:40.240 --> 0:06:44.560 relationships that didn't work. I have more understanding of myself 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:48.240 now to put into the new relationship that I'm currently in. 0:06:48.920 --> 0:06:51.440 And every time that happens, it's like this cycle and 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:53.440 and the next one you'll you know, you might break 0:06:53.520 --> 0:06:56.080 up with her, but you get a little closer to 0:06:56.640 --> 0:06:59.840 who you are and and who you need and who 0:06:59.880 --> 0:07:02.920 you want and all this what I'm talking about is 0:07:03.240 --> 0:07:08.520 your future spouse. That's the goal here. On top of 0:07:08.520 --> 0:07:11.600 all that, there is this element where you have to 0:07:11.640 --> 0:07:14.960 be content alone. And there's nothing in your email that 0:07:15.040 --> 0:07:16.840 leads me to think that that's a problem with you, 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:20.440 but I have to throw it out that there's this 0:07:20.600 --> 0:07:26.240 concept that you have to be content single, content on 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:29.960 your own, by yourself, without anybody. You don't need anybody 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:34.480 to complete you or fill a gap that's missing in you. 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:40.480 You find contentment, learn contentment alone with yourself, and then 0:07:40.480 --> 0:07:44.640 when someone else comes and just adds to that, you 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:49.640 don't need anyone else you want and it makes your 0:07:49.680 --> 0:07:54.400 life that much sweeter. So I hope, I hope this helps, 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:56.480 and I know it doesn't make it easier, but I 0:07:56.520 --> 0:07:59.800 hope it helps to clarify that you're in this right 0:07:59.840 --> 0:08:03.280 now and it's going to pass and you're gonna feel better. 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:14.040 But don't stalk her on Instagram? All right? The next 0:08:14.040 --> 0:08:16.600 one I pulled up says getting over someone. Should I 0:08:16.640 --> 0:08:19.720 read it? Should we repeat this? Okay? What's up Grandeur? 0:08:19.800 --> 0:08:24.920 My name's Wesley. I'm sixteen from Alabama. Seriously, he says, 0:08:24.960 --> 0:08:27.320 I'd like to leave my name anonymous, but he just 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:29.200 put it in the first senute, so I'm sorry about that. 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:32.600 I'm a fan of the podcast. I've been listening for 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:34.920 about a week now, and I've been dealing with something 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:36.720 for about a year and I wanted your advice on it. 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:38.840 I really like this girl who's currently one of my 0:08:38.840 --> 0:08:42.160 best friends, and she only sees me as a friend. 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:45.480 I'm trying to get over her, but every time we 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:49.319 hang out with her, all those feelings come back. I 0:08:49.440 --> 0:08:51.760 sat with her down. I sat with her, sat her down, 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:53.880 talked to her about my feelings like you said in 0:08:53.920 --> 0:08:57.439 the other podcast, episode one fourteen. But she just wishes 0:08:58.000 --> 0:09:00.000 that she could say the same, but she only sees 0:09:00.160 --> 0:09:03.040 me as a friend. I spend lots of time praying 0:09:03.080 --> 0:09:06.360 about this. I appreciate this podcast and everything you stand for. 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:10.199 Have a great day. Well, thank you, brother, thanks for listening, 0:09:10.400 --> 0:09:14.880 and shout out to Alabama. I wish I wish I 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:18.080 could just shower you with good news here, buddy. But 0:09:19.320 --> 0:09:22.120 this is this is similar to the last question, but 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:25.720 a little bit different in terms of it doesn't sound 0:09:25.840 --> 0:09:29.559 like there ever was a relationship, and it doesn't sound 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:33.760 like there is going to be. That's okay, you're sixteen, 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:38.840 that that's okay. It's it's it's okay to have this 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:41.640 feeling for somebody that doesn't that doesn't have it the 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:45.200 same feeling back. That's what I mean by okay is 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:51.560 it's normal. It's it's a natural thing, and you're going 0:09:51.600 --> 0:09:54.839 to go through this many more times, and there's you're 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:56.400 gonna be on the flip side of it. There's gonna 0:09:56.400 --> 0:09:59.040 be girls that like you and you don't feel the 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:04.040 same way, and that's okay, that's normal. The great news 0:10:04.040 --> 0:10:05.599 of your email, the best part of your emails is 0:10:05.920 --> 0:10:11.080 you're sixteen and you're getting closer to understanding who you 0:10:11.160 --> 0:10:15.320 are and what you like in your future long time 0:10:15.360 --> 0:10:19.959 hopefully from now, spouse. So, brother, there's nothing you can 0:10:20.000 --> 0:10:22.080 do right now. There's nothing you could do. I would 0:10:22.160 --> 0:10:25.520 recommend if it hurts to be around her, I would 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:28.720 recommend you just tell her straight up. Hey, you remember 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:31.559 what we talked about a few weeks ago. Remember what 0:10:31.679 --> 0:10:35.640 I told you. I was vulnerable. I told you because 0:10:35.640 --> 0:10:39.720 of that, I need for myself to back away a 0:10:39.760 --> 0:10:42.800 little bit from you and spend some time with other people. 0:10:43.120 --> 0:10:46.440 I'm sorry if if that hurts you, and she's going 0:10:46.520 --> 0:10:48.240 to take this fine. Trust me, she's going to be 0:10:48.240 --> 0:10:51.120 fine with it. But you should probably not keep her 0:10:51.160 --> 0:10:59.120 in your close friends group because it's tearing you up. Man. 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:05.840 A lot of lot of relationship questions today. Here's this 0:11:05.880 --> 0:11:09.200 one says dating Advice, subject line dating advice, Hey Gringer, 0:11:09.240 --> 0:11:12.160 my name is Andrea from Kingsland, Texas. Shout out to Texas. 0:11:12.160 --> 0:11:14.640 We're back in Texas again. Here. So, I've been listening 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:16.840 to your podcast for a couple months and I've become hooked. 0:11:17.200 --> 0:11:20.559 I love everything you and your family stand for. Listening 0:11:20.640 --> 0:11:22.320 to you and Amber has opened my eyes to God 0:11:22.360 --> 0:11:25.240 and family. My question, though, is this, I'm trying to 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:27.880 get back into the dating field again. It's been very tough. 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:31.120 I'm lost as far as seeing red flags before I 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:34.360 start planning a date with these guys. I've been hurt 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:37.040 so much, and I'm really trying to not bring my 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:40.440 past relationships into the current ones. I have low self esteem, 0:11:40.480 --> 0:11:42.839 I'm extremely shy, and I don't know how to talk 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:45.640 to guys anyways. I have two kiddos, one of six 0:11:45.679 --> 0:11:48.520 and the other is eleven months. I work seventy hours 0:11:48.559 --> 0:11:50.920 a week as a truck driver. I'm having a real 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:54.000 hard time with all this. I have no idea where 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:56.480 to even attempt to possibly give a man a chance, 0:11:57.080 --> 0:11:59.000 or to even be okay with talking to a man. 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:03.040 Last question is how does a woman build up enough 0:12:03.080 --> 0:12:06.400 confidence to approach a man. I'm so lost. I can't 0:12:06.440 --> 0:12:08.440 even tell if a man's flirting with me or just 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:11.240 being super nice. Sorry this was long. Thank you for 0:12:11.280 --> 0:12:18.280 everything you do. Sincerely, Andrea. Andrea, thank you, thank you 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:23.360 for emailing heavy stuff here. The heaviest part of your 0:12:23.400 --> 0:12:26.960 email is that you are working seventy hours a week 0:12:27.040 --> 0:12:31.600 and you have two kiddos, young kiddos six and eleven months, 0:12:32.040 --> 0:12:37.600 and so I can understand that more of the reason 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:42.120 you have this urgency to find a man, because part 0:12:42.120 --> 0:12:43.760 of it, you know, I read this part of it. 0:12:43.800 --> 0:12:46.920 I just say, you don't need to be looking for 0:12:46.960 --> 0:12:51.240 a man right now, Andrea. You need to You need 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:55.120 to find yourself. You need to find contentment alone and single, 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:58.280 just like I said in the last question. But I 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:01.160 understand that there's this urgent see because you have babies 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:03.920 at home, and I wish you didn't. I wish you 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:08.000 didn't and well, I'm sorry, I'm so glad you have 0:13:08.160 --> 0:13:10.400 these two, but I wish you weren't in the situation 0:13:10.520 --> 0:13:12.600 of being single with them, is what I meant to say. 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:16.480 They were a blessing, and I understand that, but I 0:13:16.520 --> 0:13:19.720 wish that you. I wish that you'd weren't in this 0:13:19.880 --> 0:13:23.360 searching place with them, because they're gonna feel that pain 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:25.880 with you, and so I would encourage you instead of 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:28.920 where's the next guy? Are they flirting? It should have 0:13:28.920 --> 0:13:32.840 go on a date. Just pump the brakes. Pump the brakes, 0:13:33.720 --> 0:13:41.440 gather yourself, breathe, drive your truck, listen to podcast, read 0:13:41.480 --> 0:13:49.680 the Bible, find God, and let this whole situation just 0:13:49.880 --> 0:13:51.760 settle a little bit. It's like it's like you have 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:55.080 a glass of water with glitter in the bottom and 0:13:55.120 --> 0:13:58.120 you've just shaken it up and the glitter's going everywhere. 0:13:58.120 --> 0:14:02.720 But if you just put the glass down, everything settles 0:14:02.760 --> 0:14:06.400 to the bottom until you want to stir it again. Right, 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:09.679 So just leave it alone for a second. Pump the brakes. 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:13.680 And I know that's hard because you want somebody to 0:14:13.760 --> 0:14:17.880 take care of you and to complete your family. And 0:14:17.880 --> 0:14:24.440 that's why, that's why, that's why God created man and 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:27.400 woman to be together and to be married and to 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:30.119 start a family, because it just it's it's a complete 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:32.960 circle that way. And if it gets out of order, 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:35.200 which it does, and sometimes it's just not our fault. 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:39.960 I'm just not your fault. But but Andrea, it's just 0:14:40.160 --> 0:14:42.520 that's why you're in this difficult situation. I would ask 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:45.640 you to just let it settle to the bottom. For 0:14:45.680 --> 0:14:52.440 a minute and and focus on driving and don't. This 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:55.080 isn't a big math problem. This is not like a 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:57.880 Batman riddle to try to figure out the next man. 0:14:58.760 --> 0:15:02.400 You're not taking cues and learning. Just live your life, 0:15:05.000 --> 0:15:10.080 read your Bible, grow your faith, get on that path 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:14.120 as being a great mother and a great employee. And 0:15:14.280 --> 0:15:17.600 watch as someone comes around and parallels you with that path, 0:15:18.520 --> 0:15:21.680 someone that's right for you, that comes alongside you, with 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:25.440 you moving the same direction, not some truck passing you 0:15:25.480 --> 0:15:27.280 in the night, flying by. And if you don't, if 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:30.720 you don't flash your brights at them, they're gonna miss you. 0:15:30.720 --> 0:15:32.800 You know. That's that's what the game that you're playing 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:35.320 right now is like, Oh God, I'm gonna miss them 0:15:35.520 --> 0:15:38.440 if I don't do something or notice them or catch 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:41.400 on to the cues or the clues or the riddle. 0:15:41.480 --> 0:15:45.000 You know, it's like it's like none of that. You want. 0:15:45.120 --> 0:15:46.760 You want a truck to just pull up right next 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:49.680 side you and go. You going that way, I'm going 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:54.760 that way too. Let's go together and it will happen. Okay, 0:15:54.960 --> 0:16:02.160 thank you for your email, Andrea. Next one says, subject 0:16:02.240 --> 0:16:05.440 line marriage, faith and mental health. Hey Granger, I'm twenty 0:16:05.480 --> 0:16:07.520 seven years old. I've been married to my wife for 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:10.960 six years. We have three children, ages five, three, and two. Recently, 0:16:11.000 --> 0:16:14.280 my wife had an affair at our home, among sending 0:16:14.280 --> 0:16:17.360 photographs to him and another I'm at a place in 0:16:17.360 --> 0:16:21.280 my life where I carry great sadness. I struggle to 0:16:21.280 --> 0:16:23.000 see the path that I should be on in my life, 0:16:23.480 --> 0:16:26.080 and it has been flipped upside down. I pray for 0:16:26.200 --> 0:16:29.200 healing for both my wife and I that our marriage 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:31.440 may be saved. This is the darkest my life has 0:16:31.480 --> 0:16:34.800 ever been, and I know that something must change so 0:16:34.840 --> 0:16:36.920 that I can be able to be the father of 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:39.800 my children that they need, and possibly a better husband. 0:16:40.200 --> 0:16:42.600 I pray when I can, which isn't enough. But we 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:46.040 do not attend church anymore. As my wife disclosed she 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:50.440 believes in a higher power, just not the Christian faith. 0:16:51.720 --> 0:16:56.960 I'm unsure what to do or where to turn. Another 0:16:57.000 --> 0:17:02.680 tough one. Logan twenty seven years old, six years married, 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:07.400 three kids and going through a tough time. Logan, I'm 0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:10.359 so sorry. I'm so sorry that you have to you 0:17:10.359 --> 0:17:13.000 have to be in this storm right now and you 0:17:13.040 --> 0:17:18.080 have to turn to this podcast and another people around you. 0:17:19.960 --> 0:17:23.400 I would go, I would go tomorrow. If you hear this, 0:17:23.880 --> 0:17:28.359 I would go tomorrow to that church, the one that 0:17:28.440 --> 0:17:30.119 you want to go to. I could tell you want to, 0:17:30.200 --> 0:17:34.320 but you don't. I would go tomorrow, and I would 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:37.200 I would go to their, to the offices and just go, hey, 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:39.080 my name is Logan, and I need some help. I 0:17:39.119 --> 0:17:42.800 need some help, and they're gonna know what to do 0:17:42.920 --> 0:17:46.960 if it's the right church, and it probably is. My 0:17:47.040 --> 0:17:50.080 name is Logan. I need some help. I'm struggling. I 0:17:50.119 --> 0:17:53.919 feel alone. I'm a father, I'm in a dark spot 0:17:53.960 --> 0:17:56.600 in my marriage. My wife is not a Christian anymore. 0:17:57.000 --> 0:18:00.480 She believes in a higher power which is created problems. 0:18:02.080 --> 0:18:04.360 And I need some counseling. I need some I need 0:18:04.400 --> 0:18:07.840 some counsel some wise counsel around me, and I need direction. 0:18:08.760 --> 0:18:10.760 I would do that, Logan would. I would go there 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:14.359 and until and you you stay there until you find 0:18:14.359 --> 0:18:17.520 somebody that can sit with you and and go come 0:18:17.560 --> 0:18:20.840 on in. Yeah. Absolutely, Can you meet on tuesdays? How 0:18:20.880 --> 0:18:22.919 about how about your lunch break on Tuesdays? Can you 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:25.800 come in here? Yes I can, and commit to that 0:18:26.880 --> 0:18:29.400 and commit to figuring this out with this with this 0:18:29.760 --> 0:18:35.120 person at the church. You also mentioned that you pray, 0:18:35.160 --> 0:18:37.520 but not enough. And so I would ask you around 0:18:37.520 --> 0:18:42.199 the campfire here, I would say, why is that we 0:18:42.240 --> 0:18:44.080 have this tendency in our life to think that prayer 0:18:44.160 --> 0:18:48.280 is the last resort. You've heard people say nothing left 0:18:48.280 --> 0:18:51.200 to do now but pray. Well, this is funny because 0:18:51.200 --> 0:18:54.080 the Bible says that's the first thing we do. I'm 0:18:54.080 --> 0:18:57.600 talking logan, I'm talking on your knees at night. I'm 0:18:57.640 --> 0:19:03.840 talking against your bedside. Hard God, I feel alone, Be 0:19:04.000 --> 0:19:08.320 present to me, Show yourself to me. I'm in this storm. 0:19:08.920 --> 0:19:12.200 When is the sun coming up? Right? I can't take 0:19:12.280 --> 0:19:15.920 the rain anymore. But I know you could bring the sun, God, 0:19:16.040 --> 0:19:19.280 show it to me, Show me the light in this 0:19:19.280 --> 0:19:21.680 This is too dark for me to handle. And that's 0:19:21.720 --> 0:19:27.760 the truth. And do that every day, repeat every day, 0:19:28.080 --> 0:19:32.760 every day, and go to that church every day. There's 0:19:32.800 --> 0:19:35.760 deeper problems here. There's deeper issues going on here than 0:19:35.800 --> 0:19:37.760 what you just mentioned in your email. And you know that, 0:19:39.560 --> 0:19:43.239 wise counsel, it's time let's take a break and bear 0:19:43.280 --> 0:19:51.120 it back. 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I'm gonna I'm gonna hold off on 0:23:13.280 --> 0:23:15.680 the podcast for a month, like pause it for a month. 0:23:15.720 --> 0:23:18.920 And then I'm like, oh, I can't. I can't. There's 0:23:18.960 --> 0:23:22.800 too many questions, and I just I feel like it matters, 0:23:22.960 --> 0:23:29.560 you know, And in life, listen, I used to think 0:23:29.640 --> 0:23:32.720