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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry letter. Subject, Am I the wife

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Speaker 1: or the other woman? Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband and

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Speaker 1: I have been married for two years. When we met,

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Speaker 1: he told me that he and his ex wife have

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Speaker 1: a great system of co parenting their two children. I

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Speaker 1: did not have a problem with that. I love his children,

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Speaker 1: and I met his ex wife early on, so everything

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Speaker 1: was fine in the beginning. After my husband and I

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Speaker 1: got married and bought a house, the ex wife rented

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Speaker 1: a house down the street from our home. I was livid,

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Speaker 1: but my husband was thrilled that his children would be

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Speaker 1: closer to him so he could spend more time with

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Speaker 1: his daughter and take her to school every morning. His

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Speaker 1: daughter is in high school and his son as a

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Speaker 1: freshman in college, but he and his ex wife talked

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Speaker 1: daily like the children are still toddlers. She has a

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Speaker 1: great job that requires a lot of travel, and my

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Speaker 1: husband usually takes her to the airport and picks her

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Speaker 1: up when she lands. I know she has money for

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Speaker 1: uber or a taxi. My husband will go to her

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Speaker 1: home on any given day to put up a mailbox,

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Speaker 1: move some furniture around, get her mail when she's out

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Speaker 1: of town, et cetera. Whenever I get upset and question him,

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Speaker 1: question his motives, or complain about how much time he

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Speaker 1: spends doing things for her, he gets upset with me.

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Speaker 1: He claims he is only doing these things to make

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Speaker 1: sure his children's home is as nice as his. The

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Speaker 1: ex wife has no boundaries, and my husband does not

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Speaker 1: see anything wrong with his behavior. At this point, I

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Speaker 1: am ready to let him go so he can be

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Speaker 1: with his family full time. He says that he is

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Speaker 1: committed to our marriage and he will never get back

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Speaker 1: with his ex. So am I wrong? I refuse to

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Speaker 1: keep feeling like the other woman in our marriage. I

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Speaker 1: have thought about talking to his ex wife and letting

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Speaker 1: her know how I feel. What do you think? Please help? Wow?

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Speaker 1: I think this is crazy. This is not a marriage.

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Speaker 1: This is not any marriage I know about. Your husband

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Speaker 1: up when she lands. What you go along with that? Really?

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Speaker 1: He says he's committed to your marriage and he'll never

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Speaker 1: get back with his ex. Well, this sure doesn't sound

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Speaker 1: like it in this letter, And you ask are you wrong?

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Speaker 1: You're definitely not wrong? Okay, I'm with you all the

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Speaker 1: way in this. You're right. And to answer your question

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Speaker 1: the subject, am I the wife or the other woman?

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Speaker 1: You're absolutely the wife and you've got to know that

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Speaker 1: though ex wife is out of line, your husband is

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Speaker 1: out of line. He's allowing her to disrespect you and

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Speaker 1: your marriage under the guise of co parenting the children okay,

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Speaker 1: who are really almost grown. Okay, he's disrespecting you because

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Speaker 1: when you try to talk to him about this, how

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Speaker 1: you know, unhappy you are with it, he gets upset

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Speaker 1: with you. What is he getting mad at you for?

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Speaker 1: He is your husband? What's wrong with you? Don't take

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Speaker 1: that from him? Okay, You've got to stand up for yourself.

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Speaker 1: You have to let your husband know that he's got

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Speaker 1: a choice. And yes, right here, right now, I'm talking

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Speaker 1: ultimatum her are you? That's the bottom line, her or you?

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Speaker 1: You don't have to talk to her about anything. It's

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Speaker 1: it's the marriages between you and your husband you need

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Speaker 1: to deal with and talk to him. Steve, This letter crazy, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this letter is damn crazy. Steve. How getting way with

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Speaker 1: idiot is? Who he married too? Who are you? Where

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Speaker 1: you come from? You got a sister? Why was y'all

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Speaker 1: raised this way. I don't even understand this. Y'all ain't

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Speaker 1: told you here, his ex wife got a great system

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Speaker 1: You love his children. You met his ex wife early on,

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Speaker 1: so everything was fine in the beginning. What right there? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: see you meet my ex wife. Damn that to you

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Speaker 1: right now now. I was at my daughter's wedding, sitting

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Speaker 1: between both of them, Steve, this letter is not about you.

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Speaker 1: Did sound like any beginning? Anything? Sound like me? I

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Speaker 1: I was livid. Oh no, this hell fuck didn't right

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Speaker 1: school every day. Everybody do that to high school bus. Yes,

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Speaker 1: one time, all right, I let that go. His daughter's

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Speaker 1: But here and his ex wife talked daily about what exactly?

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Speaker 1: Do you know that? Really? You and your husband or

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Speaker 1: you and your wife don't really talk daily like talk talk,

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Speaker 1: not every damn day every day. Can't call for open discussion,

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Speaker 1: not every damn him not mean, really, come on now,

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Speaker 1: let's stop. Hey good, I'm good, I love you, I

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Speaker 1: love you. That's it. What see you tomorrow? Nah? Man?

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Speaker 1: Hell noah? Who? Newly they talk daily? Him and the

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Speaker 1: When she laft asked the line, I want to get

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Speaker 1: that wrong. How did he do that? Why did he

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Speaker 1: say to you to make you be all right with this?

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Speaker 1: So I want to use that that What did he say?

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Speaker 1: All us men out here, we want to know what

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Speaker 1: did he say that he can take his ex to

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Speaker 1: the airport and pick her up when she laves. This

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Speaker 1: woman wrote this letter two years married to the husband,

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Speaker 1: got a great care co parenting relationship with his ex wife,

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Speaker 1: was livid. Mola CoV cocktail. Yeah. Now, the scary part

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Speaker 1: where we left off at Aletta. My husband usually takes

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Speaker 1: and then you get quiet again. See that's what's happened.

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Speaker 1: You got to turn this knob up on ten and

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Speaker 1: radiant old. He claims he's only doing this thing to

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Speaker 1: he is. What that got to do with dropping her

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Speaker 1: ass off at the airport? Though? I didn't get that either. Man,

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Speaker 1: he's selling you. Let me tell you something. First of all,

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Speaker 1: mailbox you put up? You? You know who mailbox you

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Speaker 1: didn't put up I put your mailbox. If we're sleeping together, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's all about Peter mail. I'm picking I'm taking care

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Speaker 1: airport and picking you up for what I ain't dog,

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Speaker 1: I ain't got a friend or home of mine. Because

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Speaker 1: The ex wife has no boundaries, and my husband does

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Speaker 1: not see anything wrong with his behavior. First of all,

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Speaker 1: this ain't your husband. This y'all's husband sharing. Yeah, he

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Speaker 1: I mean everything, But he downed there doing everything at

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Speaker 1: Stay there. There's some sex going on down that damn house.

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Speaker 1: So never you see me down here hamming up a

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Speaker 1: If i'm hammering outside, i'm hamming inside. That's all I

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Speaker 1: Whoa huh? Where they stopping? How many times he didn't

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Speaker 1: Where y'all being right? I don't know now, Shirley, I

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Speaker 1: I've been sitting here waiting for you all this time.

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Speaker 1: beginning riding what Yeah, you're you're right. He is in trouble.

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Speaker 1: You don't they You don't need to help them find

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna kill nobody for huh what what I got it?

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Speaker 1: But that was strong. That's the mother of them kids.

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Speaker 1: they're not kids. Gerald, dog a dog Know when when

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Speaker 1: when when you called him? Gerald? All Right, we gotta

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