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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast.

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Speaker 1: Hey what's up.

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Speaker 2: It's Janna Kramer and we are recording live from Macy's

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Speaker 2: in New York City. I have a very special guest

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Speaker 2: on this week's Macy's Special Edition episode of wind Down

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Speaker 2: with my amazing fiance, Alan Russell.

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Speaker 3: Yay, Hi Annie, Hello, how are you especially?

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Speaker 2: You are very special, very very very special. I am

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Speaker 2: excited to be doing this episode with you from Macy's.

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Speaker 2: Macy's is one of my favorite shops that I just

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Speaker 2: I feel like it's one of those iconic stores that

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Speaker 2: you know you're just going to be able to get

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Speaker 2: everything you need in one place, for kids, for yourself,

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Speaker 2: for I mean for the whole family. It's one of

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Speaker 2: my favorite places that I always go to, especially during

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Speaker 2: the holidays. It's like my one stop shop is at Macy's.

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Speaker 2: I thought it would be fun for this episode to

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Speaker 2: just kind of do a Q and a kind of

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Speaker 2: of just chat between us, because I feel like there's

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Speaker 2: so many questions that come in about you, about our relationship,

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Speaker 2: and I thought, you know, what better place to do

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Speaker 2: it in a place where it's you know, the homie.

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Speaker 2: Macy's Vibe Homely Macy's, Vibe Homie Macy's, because like Macy's

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Speaker 2: like as a home you know. So it's like, let's

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Speaker 2: just make this a comfy, little cozy episode.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, let's do it.

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Speaker 1: Let's do it. You want to start first, or let.

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Speaker 4: Me just pick a subject.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's pick a subject. Let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, because you guys the one everyone listening and on Instagram,

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Speaker 2: you guys submitted some questions. So we have a few

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Speaker 2: questions that we kind of thought of last night while

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Speaker 2: we were in New York on our little date night,

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Speaker 2: and then I thought it'd be fun to obviously answer

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Speaker 2: some questions from you guys.

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Speaker 4: Well, Macy's have kindly addressed you today.

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Speaker 3: They have Yeah, and you'll look great, Thank you, beb.

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Speaker 4: So let's start on maybe fashion.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so this is interesting, so last night, thanks vib

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Speaker 2: Wait to start out with that one. Last night when

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Speaker 2: Alan and I were kind of going through the questions

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Speaker 2: and we were trying to come up with some topics

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Speaker 2: that maybe we could talk about, and one of the

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Speaker 2: things he mentioned was fashion, and I was like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 2: like you love fashion. But what I didn't know is

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Speaker 2: that you weren't quite a fan of my fashion.

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Speaker 4: No, that's not true. There's there's certain times where like

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Speaker 4: look at look at you right now, like beautiful, elegant,

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Speaker 4: and then those times were and it's.

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Speaker 1: Easy, easy, it's cute.

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Speaker 4: But you look like a female version of Eminem going

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Speaker 4: at their battle wrap they heard up and the long

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Speaker 4: loss hoodie and the long trousers and your little javonchie trainers.

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Speaker 3: No, wait, what did you say last night? He's like,

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Speaker 3: you're like, I'm wearing two.

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Speaker 4: You got like your eleven dollar Amazon hoo and your

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Speaker 4: nine dollars Amazon sportless joggles and your three thousand dollars

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Speaker 4: Javon trainers.

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Speaker 2: So they're not three thousand, they're like three hundred and

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Speaker 2: I bought them what ten years ago?

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Speaker 4: No, No, I can see that with a scuff marks.

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Speaker 2: So it's it's interesting to me because I never knew, well,

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Speaker 2: I never thought that you thought I dressed like Eminem.

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Speaker 1: So that was quite the topic last night.

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Speaker 4: It's not it's you don't dress like it's just I

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Speaker 4: look at you at times and I just I just laugh.

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Speaker 4: I just laugh. I think it's I think it's an

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Speaker 4: American thing. Well, I think people in America are the more,

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Speaker 4: the more prone to casual dressing than what we are

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Speaker 4: in the UK. Really yeah, I think so when you

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Speaker 4: look at the average American.

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Speaker 1: Guy in America or in Scotland or in.

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Speaker 2: The American guy, I'm sorry, wow, okay, yes, thank you.

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Speaker 4: Baggy Nike, who the pair of jeans that are don't

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Speaker 4: even fat properly in a pair of who care Hoka trainers, sneakers,

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Speaker 4: the hookerka. I don't know how you pronounce it, different subject,

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Speaker 4: but yeah, and that seems to be the staple of

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Speaker 4: American fashion and what not for for not for everyone.

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Speaker 4: I think there's more of a thres more of a

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Speaker 4: look like you don't gathersh yeah.

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Speaker 2: And what is it verse versus the British Man? How

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Speaker 2: do they because I guess I don't. I mean, well, okay,

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Speaker 2: I'll say this. When I first met you, obviously you

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Speaker 2: were in your peacoat and your turtleneck. And is you

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Speaker 2: guys just care more of about the image.

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Speaker 4: Or I think it's just a culture of high address standards.

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Speaker 4: I don't want to be pretty much as wow.

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Speaker 2: I mean, my mind is a semi blown right now

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Speaker 2: because I I now I'm visioning my closet and I have,

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Speaker 2: I would say eighty percent in our sweatshirts.

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Speaker 1: Old sweatshirts too.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, few days ago you had a Gianet Jackson, who

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Speaker 4: the own?

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Speaker 1: What is wrong with Janet Jackson. Here's the thing.

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Speaker 2: I'm a mom of three now and so it's no

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Speaker 2: but what I'm cozy. I've got to spit up on

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Speaker 2: me one hundred percent of the day. So like, what

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Speaker 2: is the point of work?

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Speaker 1: What would you like me to wear?

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Speaker 4: A sweetheart, I'm not complaining about your fashion that you

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Speaker 4: just amuse me sometimes your choice of dress. That's all

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Speaker 4: I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: I just like to be cozy. And I think in

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Speaker 2: the era that I'm the mom era that I'm in,

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Speaker 2: we're used to yoga pants and just comfy clothes and

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Speaker 2: I and honestly, I don't have and I think a

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Speaker 2: lot of people would think otherwise. I don't own a

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Speaker 2: lot of clothing. I don't have like a lot of stuff.

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Speaker 2: I really don't. I know, I I to do like

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Speaker 2: my you know, I like to shop at times, but

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Speaker 2: I don't really have a lot of clothes.

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Speaker 4: I think, to be fair that I'm talking about the

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Speaker 4: kind of eminem battle wrap, but that's mostly airport attire

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Speaker 4: for you. And part of that is because if we leave,

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Speaker 4: if we're leaving the house, if it's an early flight

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Speaker 4: and we're leaving the house at five thirty am, you

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Speaker 4: set your alarm for five twenty five.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, I only need five minutes whereas you need.

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Speaker 4: So one day I'm going to put I'm going to

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Speaker 4: test you because I don't even think you look at

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Speaker 4: the clothes that you lay out in the morning.

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Speaker 5: I'm going to replace them with even wasp clothes.

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Speaker 4: And then we're in the open, we're in the over

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Speaker 4: the airport. You're then going to be like, oh no,

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Speaker 4: what am I wearing? That's if we stuck with it.

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Speaker 1: Thanks Ben, You're so sweet to me. I love it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, moving on from fashion, Well, the good news is

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Speaker 2: is I can get all my fashion tips from Macy's

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Speaker 2: stylus that they have online. So maybe I should start

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Speaker 2: relying more on their stylus portions.

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Speaker 4: Just look at the airport. Well, do you know what?

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Speaker 3: Actually, thank you. I have a great idea.

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Speaker 2: I should start a leisure where where it's like airport leisurewear, yeah,

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Speaker 2: but stylish to Alan's liking, and it has not like

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Speaker 2: a clothing standards.

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Speaker 1: It's Alan standards. How's that?

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Speaker 1: Okay, sounds great. Okay.

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Speaker 2: I think a lot of people to have asked more

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Speaker 2: about your background. Obviously you're from Scotland. Can you give

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Speaker 2: the elevator ish pitch of your background and kind of

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Speaker 2: how you got to where you're at today, because a.

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Speaker 1: Lot of people don't even know that. I don't think

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Speaker 1: know that you played. I think they just know you

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Speaker 1: as a coach.

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Speaker 4: That says a lot about my Kidia.

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Speaker 2: No, but I mean like Americans don't know. I mean

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Speaker 2: ninety percent of people don't really follow soccer football.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, well, I think I grew up in Glasgow

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Speaker 4: and like every young British kid, I'm being coached on

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Speaker 4: the UK, but ninety nine percent want to be footballers.

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Speaker 4: Grew up in Glasgow, played for the local professional team

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Speaker 4: when I was younger, through the younger age groups Glasgow Rangers,

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Speaker 4: high school to go to be footballers. That was sixteen.

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Speaker 4: Fast forward to the age of thirty thirty three and

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Speaker 4: I was lucky enough that I didn't have a I

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Speaker 4: didn't have an amazing playing career, but I was lucky

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Speaker 4: enough to sustain it for seventeen eighteen years.

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Speaker 3: How many professional games did you play?

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Speaker 4: Six hundred and twenty, I.

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Speaker 1: Would say you had a really successful playing It's.

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Speaker 4: A lot of I mean, it's a lot of games.

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Speaker 4: But my I mean, my highlights came as a as

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Speaker 4: a coach that I hadn't played that it took me

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Speaker 4: to then Norwich too. So now having just signed the

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Speaker 4: to be their attacking coach. So it's a pretty yeah,

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Speaker 4: my coaching career is a lot more interesting than my

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Speaker 4: football career, of my actual playing career.

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Speaker 2: See, I think you're downplaying it because there's not many

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Speaker 2: people that can say they played professionally that many games

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Speaker 2: for that long and sustained it that long. I mean,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's true, So but it was insignificant compared to

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Speaker 4: I sustained that for many years, which was just not easy.

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Speaker 2: Did you always did you want to live in America

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Speaker 2: like when you met me? Well, before you met me,

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Speaker 3: Or did you have desires to want to move to America?

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Speaker 4: Well? I knew that I wanted to finish my playing

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Speaker 4: career here, and that was always something I wanted to do.

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Speaker 4: Like in the US, it's less of a grind, there's

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Speaker 4: less pressure, less stress. The fan the fans are completely different.

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Speaker 4: So it was a nice way to cap off and

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Speaker 4: finish my career in a good introduction into the detail

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Speaker 4: of coaching because in the UK I wouldn't have been

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Speaker 4: able to play and coach at the same time, whereas

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Speaker 4: out here I was able to finish my career but

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Speaker 4: also develop the coaching pro So I pretty much did

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Speaker 4: what I wanted to do, which was finished my career

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Speaker 4: in the US.

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Speaker 2: Well, we met when you were living in so when

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Speaker 2: you were working in Norwich. What was your kind of

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Speaker 2: thought then, Like did you always, like you said, want

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Speaker 2: to come back to the to the to America and live.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I like part of me feels at home in

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Speaker 4: America and I left in two thousand. All the cheese, yeah,

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Speaker 4: every really got cheese. I'm trying to think of something

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Speaker 4: chocolate bar or something. Anyway, Yeah, I feel at home

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Speaker 4: back to England. Spent eight years seven eight years back there.

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Speaker 2: But I have never felt more beautiful ever in those

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Speaker 4: And I don't really we don't really call it sex,

438
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Speaker 4: do we?

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Speaker 1: No, we don't.

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Speaker 4: What do we call it?

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Speaker 2: It's the balance thing. He's like, Babe, we don't have sex.

442
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Speaker 2: We make love. And I'm like, oh, it's so cute. Okay,

443
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Speaker 2: it's for Alan. What is Jenna's favorite movie?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 4: When is this question?

446
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Speaker 2: This question from Jacqueline? Who's for Alan? What is Jenna's

447
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Speaker 2: favorite movies?

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Speaker 4: Flipping back and forth, I can't follow you.

449
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Speaker 1: Oh, here we go? What is Rance fair movie show?

450
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Speaker 1: She has? Start in?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

452
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Speaker 4: Shit? Started?

453
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Speaker 1: Okay, I didn't finished the question.

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Speaker 4: M I don't know. I'm probably gonna go. There's a

455
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Speaker 4: click with Adam Sandler.

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Speaker 2: He's my favorite celebrity I've ever worked with. But my

457
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Speaker 2: favorite show I've ever been in was Friday Night Lights.

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Speaker 2: Do you know what that show is?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what's it about.

461
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Speaker 4: The high school football's football players. Right, Yeah, yeah, I

462
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Speaker 4: think I watched ten minutes of it.

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Speaker 1: Have you still never watched an episode of onunchre Hill?

464
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Speaker 4: No? Not one.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is interesting because how do you keep the

466
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Speaker 2: spice alive in your relationship? Going through a dry spell

467
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Speaker 2: with my significant other, I think he had a date

468
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Speaker 2: the person, and I think that's.

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Speaker 4: One thing be there really well, as we at least

470
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Speaker 4: at least once or twice a month, we we bring

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Speaker 4: the babysitter around. Do you call the babysitters? Yeah, bring

472
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Speaker 4: the babysitter and we again, but we go downtown, we

473
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Speaker 4: have a meal, We have a proper date every couple

474
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Speaker 4: of weeks. I mean, we do a lot together in

475
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Speaker 4: all honesty, but we make a point of always making

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Speaker 4: the effort to date each other, make each other feel

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Speaker 4: feel special. I mean the question about a dry spell

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Speaker 4: is why why is it a dry spell? What you

479
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Speaker 4: both do and that makes it? Do you not feel

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Speaker 4: like dry? I mean if it's a spell, then it's

481
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Speaker 4: obviously gone up and down. And what makes it?

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Speaker 2: Sorry no, I just whenly said what makes it dry?

483
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Speaker 2: As I just went a little sexual on.

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Speaker 4: It, as your mind normally does. Yeah, I think you

485
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Speaker 4: make me feel loved, and I make you feel loved,

486
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Speaker 4: and I make you feel attractive, and so therefore we don't.

487
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Speaker 4: It's difficult because we've not had a dry spell.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but again, I think it's one of those things

489
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Speaker 2: where you just if you date each other, you make

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Speaker 2: the effort, make the effort to. Sometimes I don't want to,

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Speaker 2: but I I do. I'm tired anyways, Arlette. What annoying

492
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Speaker 2: habits does the other person have that drive you crazy?

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Speaker 4: Probably, and that's a good thing. The two different people

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Speaker 4: when it comes to schedule, and I'm more do it

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Speaker 4: when it needs done, your more planet four years in advance,

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Speaker 4: and put it on the calendar.

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Speaker 2: Four years in advance, I mean the week before, so

498
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Speaker 2: I can just know what is going on that week

499
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Speaker 2: so we can make sure we have help that week

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Speaker 2: since we don't have an any and if we have

501
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Speaker 2: conflicting schedules. And my most annoying habit with you is.

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Speaker 1: That you.

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Speaker 2: Are either a always late, and I do not being

504
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Speaker 2: I like to be early. I think early is on time.

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Speaker 2: And there was the scheduling. Ka, well no, not anymore

506
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Speaker 2: because I give you a fake time. But it's it's

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Speaker 2: they would say. The scheduling because you just you don't know,

508
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Speaker 2: and so i'm I'm when I'm trying to jigsaw everything together.

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Speaker 2: It can be frustrating at times.

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Speaker 4: I think it's I've not necessarily needed it so much

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Speaker 4: in my life up until this point where I look

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Speaker 4: at my eye calendar so much. I mean, I look

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Speaker 4: at your eye calander and it's like, okay, it makes

514
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Speaker 4: my eyes hot. So then, but because we've got I've

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Speaker 4: got go back to see Troy, We've got we've got

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Speaker 4: our own travel, We've got Rome and the kids to

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Speaker 4: get to school. We've got Chicago consider that things a week,

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Speaker 4: We've got your movie that's coming up. I think now

519
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Speaker 4: it's so important that the schedules are in place.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I would like to plan our honeymoon. I

521
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Speaker 2: know it's the end of March. We're maybe going in July.

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Speaker 2: Like I think it's you know, time to maybe schedule it, you.

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Speaker 5: Know, yeah, yeah, but there's things like a bit of

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Speaker 5: what you're doing on this day in May? And I'm like,

525
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Speaker 5: actually serious, what am I doing on this day in May?

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Speaker 4: I asked me to begin the May and I'll tell.

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Speaker 2: You right, But it's like, hey, we've got to go

528
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Speaker 2: to Paris for you know something, so I need to

529
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Speaker 2: It's not just like little things.

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Speaker 1: Oh it's fine, okay.

531
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Speaker 2: From Lynn Alan, how would you describe your relationship with

532
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Speaker 2: Julian jas Are you comfortable disciplining them?

533
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Speaker 4: My relationship with Julian Jays, I mean.

534
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Speaker 1: I think it's so special.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, they're there, so they're easy kids there, well mannered,

536
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Speaker 4: the polite, the the soft. They don't throw tantrums. There's

537
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Speaker 4: there's I mean, you've it's a credit to you and

538
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Speaker 4: how you've brought them up really because they're respectful and

539
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Speaker 4: kind and they're easy. And Mike also how he's brought

540
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Speaker 4: them up. But they're just so easy to to be around.

541
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Speaker 4: I mean those times where if they crossed the line

542
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Speaker 4: a little bit with you then and naturally I have

543
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Speaker 4: to step in and slightly raise my voice, but and

544
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Speaker 4: not it's not even discipline them because they don't really

545
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Speaker 4: need disciplined.

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Speaker 2: It's more just corrections, like what you had to correct

547
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Speaker 2: Rol the other day, which I thought was because I

548
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Speaker 2: kind of looked at you like, all right, here's your

549
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Speaker 2: he's she's testing you to see what you're going to

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Speaker 2: do because you asked her to do something. She didn't

551
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Speaker 2: do it, and then I just kind of looked back.

552
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Speaker 2: I'm like, this is on you, this is you know,

553
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Speaker 2: she's and I think it's important how you it's it's

554
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Speaker 2: great how you've stepped in to obviously that role and

555
00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 2: and you know, the kids listen to you and you

556
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Speaker 2: help them, like, hey, this is not how you don't

557
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:05,480
Speaker 2: leave this stuff sitting in the sink or you don't

558
00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 2: even turn the light offer and you know, they they

559
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Speaker 2: know now to you know, I mean they call you that.

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Speaker 4: And so I think we've got a house We've got

561
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Speaker 4: a household where like respect for each other as the

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Speaker 4: highest thing, and I think it's what we always say

563
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Speaker 4: with our relationship. But I think the householders run easily

564
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Speaker 4: because everybody respects the rules, the boundaries, and everyone's relationship.

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Speaker 1: Agreed.

566
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Speaker 2: The biggest parenting concept you disagree on.

567
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:45,240
Speaker 4: Concept Molly Coddling.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmmm, yeah, okay, I'm not even a defend.

569
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Speaker 4: You're right, yeah, I don't. This is what happens when

570
00:31:55,960 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 4: you grew up in Glasgow in the eighties. Empathy and softness.

571
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Speaker 4: I'm not even in the dictionary, so I've had to

572
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:06,920
Speaker 4: learn a lot about that. But I think I think

573
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Speaker 4: you Molly Coddle Jesse at times, and I don't agree

574
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Speaker 4: with it, and I tell you that there's a lot

575
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Speaker 4: of times he'll say, Alan, can you do this? So

576
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Speaker 4: can you help me with that? And I'm like, no,

577
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 4: do it yourself. Do it yourself because he needs to learn,

578
00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 4: and you're like, I'll do that. Come here, I'll do it.

579
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Speaker 4: Like It's actually funny with the smoothie the other day

580
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Speaker 4: because if I make something that doesn't eat it, I'm like, okay,

581
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 4: well you're not getting in else you like that, you

582
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Speaker 4: just choose not to eat it because you've eaten it before.

583
00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 4: And they're like with he smoothie, if he doesn't like it,

584
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Speaker 4: I will not make him another smoothie because he drinks

585
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Speaker 4: it most mornings where you're like, oh do you want

586
00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 4: banana in there? Do you want a bit of extra this?

587
00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:54,080
Speaker 4: And I'm like, don't Molly Gordland let him drink it. So, yeah,

588
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:59,120
Speaker 4: I disagree with that. It's not a big thing, but yeah,

589
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Speaker 4: I do disagree with one things.

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Speaker 1: From Phoebe One did Alan know Jane was the one?

591
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:06,080
Speaker 1: I like that question.

592
00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 4: As soon as I met you, and I know it's

593
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:12,560
Speaker 4: cliche and it's it can be a little bit cheesy

594
00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 4: and over used at times, but I did. I did.

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Speaker 4: I phoned my brother a few hours after and said

596
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Speaker 4: that I'm in trouble. Yeah, bro, this one is. She's

597
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Speaker 4: got me. So I think as soon as I met you,

598
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Speaker 4: and we'd spoken a lot beforehand and FaceTime stop it,

599
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:36,160
Speaker 4: as soon as I met you, I knew it would

600
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Speaker 4: be together from that point.

601
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Speaker 1: I mean, you called it all.

602
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Speaker 2: You said, we're going to get married, We're going to

603
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Speaker 2: have a kid, We're gonna Yeah, all happened. Well, thank

604
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Speaker 2: you for coming on being my guest. I appreciate you.

605
00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 2: I love you.

606
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Speaker 3: And how about we get married in a couple months.

607
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Speaker 4: What do you say, can't wait?

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Speaker 1: You're ready?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: All right?

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Speaker 1: Thank you.

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