WEBVTT - Miss Taylor Dayne 0:00:08.880 --> 0:00:18.799 Misspelling with Tori Spelling and iHeartRadio podcast. Hi, Oh I 0:00:19.040 --> 0:00:19.760 miss you. 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:23.840 I miss you great. I was like, oh my god, 0:00:23.880 --> 0:00:25.040 we're going to make this work. 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:28.920 Oh my gosh, you look gorgeous. 0:00:28.880 --> 0:00:30.760 Look beautiful. How you doing? 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:34.159 Oh? I have so much to catch you up on. 0:00:34.600 --> 0:00:38.239 I know you do, I know, but I just you know, 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:41.839 I'm honored to be here with you, my love, and 0:00:41.880 --> 0:00:42.800 you look beautiful. 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:49.560 Thank you. I feel like we need another dinner night 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:53.360 a night out. Yeah with Darcy. Yeah, I know, I 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:56.680 gotta be honest, like I kind of felt, you know 0:00:56.720 --> 0:00:59.040 they say when people go through divorce, like you kind 0:00:59.040 --> 0:01:02.920 of like you lose friends, like someone gets the friends 0:01:04.080 --> 0:01:07.240 just so everyone knows. Uh So, Taylor and I are 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:11.840 both friends with Jack and Darcy, who I felt like 0:01:12.120 --> 0:01:17.480 Dean was kind of like Jack's friend, I know, and 0:01:17.560 --> 0:01:20.720 I Darcy. Darcy would say different, she'd be like, no, 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:25.760 Sy's my friend, that's right, like she know. I did 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:28.760 feel a little like, I don't know, because we used 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:32.119 to do double dates with them, and that's and then 0:01:32.120 --> 0:01:39.160 we did a double date with you. Yeah, I know, 0:01:39.840 --> 0:01:43.200 it was like a five top exactly. 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:47.840 I don't know. You know, this is obviously new territory, 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:50.440 but new territory. 0:01:51.560 --> 0:01:59.480 God, I know that ebbs and flows, ebbs and flows. 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:05.000 It's it's it's definitely. It feels really good. But I 0:02:05.040 --> 0:02:05.840 have moments. 0:02:06.560 --> 0:02:09.080 You know, you and Dean had a lot of history, clearly, 0:02:09.600 --> 0:02:12.320 but I mean, I'm family making and there was a 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:12.840 lot to it. 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:16.360 I mean, yeah, we got together and it was fast 0:02:16.560 --> 0:02:22.240 and furious and you know, moved in right away, and gosh, 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:25.040 I think like nine months after we got together, we 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:30.680 were pregnant. Like my priorities changed right away, and you know, 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:34.600 this is a new, young relationship. Like I didn't have 0:02:34.639 --> 0:02:37.840 that opportunity to like go out and explore the world 0:02:37.960 --> 0:02:42.959 and travel and hike with you. I would never fucking 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:43.360 hike it. 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:46.320 But I mean, yes, you would hike. I mean, oh 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:48.800 my god, the probably, you know what. But you know, 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:52.119 you grew you grew up. You went right into mommy mode, 0:02:52.200 --> 0:02:55.680 you really did. I did, and you're quite a mama. 0:02:56.520 --> 0:03:01.840 Yeah, but you know, I mean you know this, like 0:03:02.560 --> 0:03:04.800 you feel the same way. I'm sure like you wouldn't 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:09.799 change your journey at all because everything that happened happened 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:12.519 for a reason. Like if I hadn't been with him, 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:17.560 if I hadn't, you know, my babies wouldn't be my babies, right, 0:03:17.680 --> 0:03:20.880 so I wouldn't go back. But you know it is 0:03:21.280 --> 0:03:26.040 now now I'm seeing Okay, it's and maybe it happens 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:28.239 when you're when you're like feeling it and all of 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:32.680 a sudden you're then you see it everywhere. Like I 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:36.880 feel like Netflix and all the streamers, they're like really 0:03:36.920 --> 0:03:41.600 messing with my brain lately because it's a lot of 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:52.040 shows and movies about women kind of aging out. 0:03:49.560 --> 0:03:54.800 Aging out, or showing what it looks like. And so 0:03:55.120 --> 0:03:57.720 I don't feel like aging out. I feel like, and 0:03:57.760 --> 0:03:58.880 I hear what you're talking. 0:03:58.800 --> 0:04:00.680 In the men's perspective messy. 0:04:00.720 --> 0:04:02.320 Well, they're showing the messy parts. 0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:06.560 There's so many. I actually had this talk with Dean 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:09.040 and I was like, and it was it was a 0:04:09.120 --> 0:04:12.080 cool deep conversation. I'm like, you know, I just watched 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:14.520 Sirens with Julian Moore. 0:04:15.360 --> 0:04:17.200 Okay, so tell me have you seen it? 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:17.559 Okay? 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:19.960 Oh I took one episode. No, I want to know. 0:04:21.120 --> 0:04:22.760 No, I'm not going to tell you. I don't want 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:24.520 to spoil alert it. 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:27.400 Just tell me what you're feeling is about it. 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:33.359 I'm feeling that men men can keep going. Men can 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:38.760 do trade ins. Men have the ability to be with 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:41.760 a younger woman. And it's like, all of a sudden, 0:04:42.800 --> 0:04:44.360 you know, we just get older. 0:04:45.040 --> 0:04:46.919 I just say this is out loud. I've been in 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:50.600 a room with you, Tory. Yeah, you told me that 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:53.039 guy's hot, Taylor. I'm going to get him over here 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:55.560 in five minutes for you. And I was like, Tory, 0:04:55.839 --> 0:04:59.640 calm down. And you just literally stared this guy down. 0:04:59.680 --> 0:05:04.479 You are not going anywhere. I've never watched anybody just 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:09.320 have such You are a master of like what. 0:05:09.200 --> 0:05:09.960 Do you want? 0:05:10.680 --> 0:05:14.159 Really? Because you must connect with people. You just looked 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:17.680 at him. I said, stop, don't do me this favor. 0:05:17.760 --> 0:05:20.080 Do you remember that night? And You're like, I'll have 0:05:20.160 --> 0:05:22.080 him sitting next to you in five minutes. And within 0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:25.880 five minutes you had this guy engaged that. I mean, 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:29.640 you are literally a magnet. You know how to turn 0:05:29.680 --> 0:05:31.600 it on, you know how to turn I mean I 0:05:31.640 --> 0:05:36.240 don't find and I'm certainly older than you, and I 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:39.359 finally look at well, it comes from within and you 0:05:39.480 --> 0:05:39.800 know that. 0:05:40.120 --> 0:05:42.640 Yes, okay, okay, yes, yes. 0:05:42.279 --> 0:05:45.680 So I don't look at Sirens is a story. There's 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:48.039 there's a sorry about it, and there's a lot of women. 0:05:48.160 --> 0:05:50.320 What it tries to do with I feel like when 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:54.000 women are aging and they're in a power position, it 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:58.919 just doesn't come across. Well, does that make sense? We 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:03.960 come across harder more, you know, And that's kinda think 0:06:04.120 --> 0:06:06.440 that's the thing. You know, you come across a lot 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:09.479 softer than I do came across. But I'm born and 0:06:09.560 --> 0:06:11.640 raised in New York, and I'm born and raised in 0:06:11.640 --> 0:06:15.320 the Bronx, and i have a real, you know, East 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:19.120 Coast mentality about things. I'm not that soft like you know. 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:22.479 But men, when you say that about these shows, I 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:24.760 think you also have to take in consideration that some 0:06:24.880 --> 0:06:27.600 of these women are like in high positions of you know, 0:06:27.720 --> 0:06:30.920 executives and really running their show. And then at some 0:06:31.040 --> 0:06:34.560 point it's not as attractive as it is when you 0:06:34.600 --> 0:06:37.599 see a man running a show. But then you have 0:06:37.880 --> 0:06:40.920 a guy that's been on the are talking about us, 0:06:41.520 --> 0:06:42.159 but we're not. 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:47.880 We must be very it's emasculating for men to be 0:06:48.040 --> 0:06:50.560 with powerful, do you think so? 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:53.760 Men, I think you have to find the man that 0:06:54.400 --> 0:06:57.680 you have that friendship with first, and that really is 0:06:57.760 --> 0:07:03.800 not intimidated, has his own jam going on. And I 0:07:03.880 --> 0:07:07.160 do not feel like it would be emasculating. I mean, 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:10.760 if you are respectful, I mean respect is the okay. 0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:14.720 Men want respect, Women want to feel cherished. I want 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:17.000 my feelings heard. I want to make sure my feelings 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:18.680 are heard. Even though I sound like a guy from 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:21.200 you know that that's coming in and I do. I 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:23.200 wheel and deal. But my guy always is like, just 0:07:23.280 --> 0:07:25.640 take it easy, take it easy. 0:07:25.800 --> 0:07:28.040 Take your guy waits here with so much. 0:07:29.640 --> 0:07:32.120 I've got a guy for three years, but he's man 0:07:32.240 --> 0:07:33.240 man three years? 0:07:33.280 --> 0:07:34.600 How did I not know this? 0:07:34.800 --> 0:07:37.600 Because it's it's not quite three years, it'll be three years. Well, 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:41.680 Darcy knows. They met him. We call him pants, don't 0:07:41.680 --> 0:07:49.160 e ants. It's a good story too, Who cares? What 0:07:49.160 --> 0:07:53.040 do you call Dean? What's his nickname? What was it? Wait? 0:07:53.200 --> 0:07:56.320 Like with my friends now, like, well, didn't you have 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:58.320 a nickname for the Dean? Babe? 0:07:58.560 --> 0:07:58.640 No? 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:04.280 I called them babe, but still do babe? Babe? God 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:09.160 so unoriginal. Look at these men that are like in 0:08:09.200 --> 0:08:12.560 their seventies and eighties and like young women and like 0:08:12.640 --> 0:08:14.640 having babies and starting all over. 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:17.119 But that I can't do. Okay, So now we're talking 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:21.160 about like the de Niro's, the Mick jaggers. We're talking 0:08:21.160 --> 0:08:23.680 about guys in there, Yes, in their eighties. You know 0:08:23.720 --> 0:08:27.600 why because why they are on their fifth chapter in life. 0:08:27.920 --> 0:08:33.120 They have six seven children already. They're like finally they're 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:35.400 with a partner maybe in their thirties that can have 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:40.200 a child, righty do about this? What not to say 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:42.679 that this is a negative, but like what is to 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:45.240 live for? Like when you have all the money and 0:08:45.280 --> 0:08:47.600 you've had all the acclaim and you're still working hard 0:08:47.640 --> 0:08:50.360 and you don't want to retire as a man, And 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:52.960 I think I see myself the same way. I could 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:55.840 see myself in seventy eight, still touring, doing everything. And 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:58.679 I'm sure you feel the same way. Would you want 0:08:58.800 --> 0:09:01.720 somebody to say, ah, you know, and now if it 0:09:01.760 --> 0:09:04.360 comes through for a man where he needs to have 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:08.320 somebody on the level of energy that actually can give 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:10.720 him a child actually says to him, you know what, 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:13.840 don't even worry about diapers, worry about nothing, but just 0:09:14.000 --> 0:09:17.920 enjoy some time with a young child, and then you 0:09:17.920 --> 0:09:22.040 know his life. Here's life part seven for you. They 0:09:22.080 --> 0:09:25.000 have young children at this age. I know you you 0:09:25.120 --> 0:09:27.680 might listen, I'm not coming from a divorce, but I 0:09:27.720 --> 0:09:29.600 can see it from a man's I can see it 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:33.800 from a male perspection of why they would continue to 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:39.560 do this. A Because they fucking can number one. B 0:09:40.040 --> 0:09:42.800 Because it's also life affirming. They're still in the game 0:09:42.840 --> 0:09:46.200 of life. I think it's brilliant, is it? 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:51.680 Wait? Have you seen Four Seasons? No? Okay, another one 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:56.559 that fucked me up. It was originally an Alan Alda. 0:09:56.960 --> 0:10:00.959 I think Carol Burnett Ellie. They just did the remake 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:08.559 and Tina Fey Steve Carell. Anyway, it's about friends and 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:12.480 I'm not spoiling this one. Oh no, no, you know, 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:17.079 a twenty fifth wedding anniversary and the wife wants to 0:10:17.120 --> 0:10:19.640 like renew their vows and he wants to get a 0:10:19.679 --> 0:10:23.400 divorce because he found a younger girlfriend. And it's about 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:27.280 all the other friends who are in long term relationships 0:10:27.320 --> 0:10:30.040 kind of looking at their life. And Tina Fey has 0:10:30.080 --> 0:10:35.600 this great I'm not going to quote it, but basically 0:10:35.679 --> 0:10:39.320 she says to him, like, who are you? Like you're 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:43.160 doing all this, Like you know, you're going paddleboarding and 0:10:43.200 --> 0:10:48.880 you're climbing rocks, and like aren't you tired? Like I 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:51.600 know you you're a foodie and we used to go and 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:55.760 have great wine and you just wanted, who's this person? Yeah, 0:10:56.080 --> 0:10:59.800 you've had this full life and she just said, as 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:02.800 your best friend for you know, twenty five thirty years 0:11:02.880 --> 0:11:06.600 or whatever. What you know? Are you tired? How do 0:11:06.640 --> 0:11:08.920 you keep up? And he said, I've never felt better 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:13.440 or orn't alive because it's they get tired. 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:17.040 People do and those are the ones you really, honestly are. 0:11:17.120 --> 0:11:19.959 It's not life affirming. This guy's taking his life by 0:11:20.000 --> 0:11:23.720 his horns. I I honestly, you know, I struggled with 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:26.720 with a pretty terminal disease. There for a hot minute, 0:11:26.880 --> 0:11:31.120 I feel like I'm back in another chapter. I'm training harder, 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:34.880 I'm doing different things, I'm doing. Everything has switched gears. 0:11:35.200 --> 0:11:38.440 Your gear switches. So you're having a divorce because you 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:43.640 want to what change your life? Something inside of you says, 0:11:44.480 --> 0:11:46.800 I need to affirm my life in a new way. 0:11:46.880 --> 0:11:48.800 So it's a new challenge. Is it's new things? 0:11:48.880 --> 0:11:49.360 What are men? 0:11:49.679 --> 0:11:53.280 Challenges? Hunters? Right? What are we? Gathers? But I find 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:56.600 the masculine side of me really wants to go out there. 0:11:56.520 --> 0:11:58.480 What are we? We're the humans that do it all? 0:11:58.520 --> 0:11:59.800 Actually you do. 0:11:59.840 --> 0:12:02.760 But you've done the mother part, So now what's next? 0:12:03.080 --> 0:12:06.559 The mother part is in you. But you see, what 0:12:07.040 --> 0:12:10.160 have you never done? And where's that partner? You know, 0:12:10.200 --> 0:12:12.280 when you look at a partner and you say, you 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:14.520 know what I want somebody that brings something to the 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:17.839 table that's interesting, unique, something that I can learn from, 0:12:17.880 --> 0:12:20.680 something I can grow with and maybe find those hobbies, 0:12:20.720 --> 0:12:23.680 those passions that you've never I mean, one time I 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:25.800 dated a guy that was so into nature and he 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:28.120 taught me a camp. I mean, I learned so much 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:31.200 and now nature to me is a prayer. It's like 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:33.880 walking in nature is a prayer bead. I mean I 0:12:34.000 --> 0:12:37.600 learned so much from that relationship that I never turn 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:40.400 my back. I mean nature has been become the greatest 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:43.920 gift to me as far as healing and finding ways 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:47.120 to connect with it as far and also spiritual things. 0:12:47.240 --> 0:12:50.959 But it's those relationships. Like for men, they usually have 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:54.440 to find it with a partner. Women tend to have 0:12:54.520 --> 0:12:56.280 to go out there and find it on their own. 0:12:56.559 --> 0:12:59.880 Men usually switch gears by finding a partner or the 0:13:00.200 --> 0:13:03.959 therapist or that one mood. The divorce makes them push 0:13:04.000 --> 0:13:08.040 into something different, makes them see things differently. 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:10.800 You just said you found nature through a partner. 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:14.679 I found it through him because that's what he wanted 0:13:14.720 --> 0:13:19.000 to do. And I never got more excited and more loving. 0:13:19.320 --> 0:13:21.920 I was a New York girl. So at first were 0:13:21.960 --> 0:13:24.640 you like, ooh, no, this isn't me taking me. 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:27.480 No, he was taking me. We were in Colorado, we 0:13:27.520 --> 0:13:31.360 were doing His brother was a big climber. I started 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:36.080 going to Joshua Tree. I started climbing. I started what fildering, Yes, 0:13:37.360 --> 0:13:41.280 because you know you want to physically you know it's 0:13:41.320 --> 0:13:44.559 not about getting tired. It's about physically demanding more from 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:46.760 your body and then actually knowing that you have it 0:13:46.800 --> 0:13:49.520 within your body and you can push yourself further. And 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:52.720 it became this real and it's become this real truth. 0:13:52.840 --> 0:13:56.280 Like I switch up trainers, I do pilates now, I mean, 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:59.400 you know, anything to keep switching it up and figuring 0:13:59.440 --> 0:14:01.280 it out. Same thing with diet. 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:01.560 Now. 0:14:01.640 --> 0:14:06.120 For me, I'm always listening, I'm always learning. So are you? 0:14:06.120 --> 0:14:09.199 You know you are being tired? Isn't an option? How 0:14:09.240 --> 0:14:10.560 old is your youngest right now? 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:11.280 Eight? 0:14:12.120 --> 0:14:12.800 Jesus? 0:14:12.880 --> 0:14:19.640 I know, I started, I know not yes, my friend okay? 0:14:19.880 --> 0:14:21.440 And the eldest is how old? 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:22.440 Eighteen? 0:14:23.120 --> 0:14:30.040 Okay? So you're in a mixed bad My love eight 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:34.920 is baby time and eighteen it's got it? And you 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:36.400 have how many children? Three? 0:14:36.480 --> 0:14:37.600 With life? 0:14:39.200 --> 0:14:40.800 Jesus Christ, I'm tired. 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:46.440 What hearing that shit? So am I I'm tired. I'm 0:14:46.480 --> 0:14:49.160 getting tired of all your children? 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:51.640 Or did you take these? Are any of the step 0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:53.400 kids or no? This is all? 0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:56.520 Oh well yeah, if we mentioned stepkids, I have sex, 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:58.640 then Jesus. 0:14:59.120 --> 0:15:04.160 It's about a lot. I know you're tired, but you 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:04.960 need to. 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:07.920 I need escapism. 0:15:08.800 --> 0:15:11.440 Okay, that's called finding a hobby. 0:15:11.480 --> 0:15:11.720 Girl. 0:15:19.240 --> 0:15:20.960 What did you do when you were young? Did you 0:15:21.040 --> 0:15:24.520 ride horses? What were you doing? Sports? What you guys? 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:29.840 What did they have you in? Dennis golf? You want 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:32.200 a golf course with slay? 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:37.080 No? I tried once. I tried to take a golf lesson, 0:15:37.640 --> 0:15:40.080 and they honestly to. 0:15:40.120 --> 0:15:41.040 Give you the lessons. 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:43.520 I think your boobs are too big? 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:46.240 Who is your trainer? Who is your coach? 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:49.760 I don't know. I went to some golf course and 0:15:49.800 --> 0:15:52.480 said I want a new hobby. I'm gonna try golf 0:15:52.480 --> 0:15:55.560 and they told me that and I never did it again. 0:15:55.720 --> 0:16:00.960 My husband, my ex, is an avid golfer. I don't know. 0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:03.840 I don't think it's for me. I don't like the outfits. 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:05.520 I'm all about fashion. I don't know. 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:08.960 Well, I think you get well what about tennis? But 0:16:09.120 --> 0:16:10.560 you just don't want to go that hard. 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:12.080 I'm not physical. 0:16:13.000 --> 0:16:16.040 Well you gotta do I know you look at your body. Well, 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:17.920 what are you doing? Pilate's anything? 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:22.479 No, it's called good genes in the last two years Monjaro. 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:26.520 Other than that, I don't know. But well, but here 0:16:26.680 --> 0:16:30.200 is the thing I did dancing with the Stars, which 0:16:30.240 --> 0:16:32.760 I had. Have you done dancing with the stars? You've done? 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:33.280 Oh my god? 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:37.480 Quite frankly, I've done everything. But yeah, that's a beat up. 0:16:37.640 --> 0:16:40.600 So how did you do that? That's hardcore physical? 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:42.840 Oh you know that? Then? 0:16:44.080 --> 0:16:44.760 How could I not? 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:48.640 Because they told me, like if I was doing it, 0:16:48.680 --> 0:16:50.440 they were like, you know, it's up to you. You 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:53.400 can train, you know, dance as little or as much 0:16:53.440 --> 0:16:57.720 as you want. But I'm I'm a perfectionist and I'm 0:16:57.760 --> 0:17:02.280 in person competitive. I'm all so if I commit to something, 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:07.400 I'm going all in. But it was the hardest thing 0:17:07.520 --> 0:17:12.320 I've ever done. Yeah, and you're gonna love this. I 0:17:12.320 --> 0:17:15.840 I mean, I gotta elimonae it first, so what and 0:17:16.359 --> 0:17:20.600 to go home to Rod Taylor? Okay, but but I 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:23.879 got to tell you that, like month of training, I 0:17:23.960 --> 0:17:28.199 have never felt more alive. You're like, bingo, bitch, I 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:29.040 just told you this. 0:17:30.280 --> 0:17:32.520 You never felt more alive because you've never been that 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:35.399 connected to your body other than being a mom and 0:17:35.400 --> 0:17:40.000 physically what it takes to have children. This connection is 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:42.719 something missing in your life. You have to be in 0:17:42.760 --> 0:17:46.760 your body, body, mind and spirit is spiritual, right, but 0:17:46.800 --> 0:17:50.399 the physical is what you give to yourself now is 0:17:50.440 --> 0:17:55.560 going to fuel this entire renaissance. Just dou Pilate's try it. 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:56.359 I want to. 0:17:56.480 --> 0:17:59.040 I used to when I was young at fifty minutes. 0:17:59.119 --> 0:18:01.480 Now they're just fifty minute, Sonny. They turn these cs 0:18:01.640 --> 0:18:05.760 like yoga, good yoga, forty five minutes, you're out. I'm like, oh, 0:18:05.840 --> 0:18:07.399 none of this ninety minute crap. 0:18:07.600 --> 0:18:12.840 No. I tell myself that I'm way too busy. I'm 0:18:13.119 --> 0:18:16.919 you know, I'm definitely a workaholic and I work in 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:21.640 mom and it's like I have no mean time. But yeah, 0:18:21.720 --> 0:18:26.560 the reality is, you know, I could fit in fifteen minutes, 0:18:26.760 --> 0:18:29.560 and I don't. I don't because it's like an old 0:18:30.400 --> 0:18:32.639 record in my head. It's an old story that I 0:18:32.720 --> 0:18:36.960 keep telling myself. I can't work out. 0:18:35.880 --> 0:18:38.520 They're all in school though now so they're all in school, 0:18:38.640 --> 0:18:42.960 they're all taking off to another school. Yeah, this you 0:18:43.000 --> 0:18:45.400 need to do. You have to connect the physical. It's 0:18:45.440 --> 0:18:48.960 funny because you're competitive. I know you are. I've watched 0:18:49.000 --> 0:18:53.840 you girl. You get you get things done, so I know. 0:18:54.040 --> 0:18:55.800 And then also I. 0:18:55.680 --> 0:19:00.399 Love the word no. I love it. Someone tells we know. 0:19:00.480 --> 0:19:04.560 I'm like, oh, it's on. No. No is the first 0:19:04.760 --> 0:19:06.119 word towards yes. 0:19:07.119 --> 0:19:10.040 Did you even hear that? Do you hear yourself? No, 0:19:10.800 --> 0:19:17.560 first word towards yes, honey? Bang agreed because the nose 0:19:17.600 --> 0:19:20.760 were big. The nose or the nose are huge, and 0:19:20.840 --> 0:19:23.720 sometimes they really can get to you. But I don't 0:19:23.760 --> 0:19:27.040 think we'd be having this conversation thirty years into our 0:19:27.080 --> 0:19:31.800 careers if we didn't understand how nose work. So now 0:19:31.840 --> 0:19:35.800 your body, your mind, your spirit, you know. It just 0:19:35.880 --> 0:19:38.320 sounds like you just need a little kick in the 0:19:38.359 --> 0:19:41.080 ass and you need some supportive people on your side 0:19:41.080 --> 0:19:41.600 in that way. 0:19:42.680 --> 0:19:47.359 I do I do I have wait, do you mind 0:19:47.400 --> 0:19:49.119 me asking how old pants is? 0:19:50.600 --> 0:19:52.200 Pants is fifty four? 0:19:53.000 --> 0:19:58.800 Okay? Yeah, a little younger. I mean, that's exactly what 0:19:58.880 --> 0:20:02.200 I need. I can't be do you? I mean unless 0:20:02.280 --> 0:20:04.600 Kevin Costner asked me out, No, I'm not. I don't 0:20:04.640 --> 0:20:08.000 I don't see you know, is he single again? I 0:20:08.040 --> 0:20:08.440 don't know. 0:20:08.800 --> 0:20:10.800 I'm just joking, but I mean I do live upon 0:20:11.760 --> 0:20:14.679 so you never know. But I'm just saying he's you know, 0:20:14.920 --> 0:20:17.840 he's vibrantly attached to his life. I doubt that man 0:20:17.880 --> 0:20:20.960 wants another child at this point, but you know, he 0:20:21.040 --> 0:20:23.400 went back in there and did it again. He's got 0:20:23.400 --> 0:20:27.399 young ones. So I'm just saying, like chest Pants have kids, 0:20:27.880 --> 0:20:29.720 Pants has adult children like I do. 0:20:30.359 --> 0:20:35.359 Right, So that was my question. Did you feel like 0:20:35.760 --> 0:20:40.760 you needed to find somebody that had children, that had 0:20:40.840 --> 0:20:42.879 gone through that, that knew what it was. 0:20:43.760 --> 0:20:46.439 It is a wonderful Yeah, I'm not looking for a 0:20:46.440 --> 0:20:48.920 thirty year old. I wasn't looking for that. And at 0:20:48.920 --> 0:20:51.280 the same time, I wanted a guy that was totally 0:20:51.280 --> 0:20:52.200 in a different world. 0:20:52.720 --> 0:20:53.760 Okay, he is. 0:20:53.880 --> 0:20:58.960 My guy's into race cars, he's into he's a master welder, 0:20:59.040 --> 0:21:03.680 he's into a lot of Yeah ask Jack, Yeah, he's 0:21:03.720 --> 0:21:06.960 into this whole different world. And he's a guy guy. 0:21:07.240 --> 0:21:11.040 So when our biggest business together is now building and 0:21:11.200 --> 0:21:14.800 not quite flipping, but he's a master build a contractor. 0:21:14.880 --> 0:21:17.960 He's working on my house in Santa Barbara. Like it's 0:21:18.119 --> 0:21:19.320 the greatest, that's. 0:21:19.119 --> 0:21:20.639 Like Hampson's great. 0:21:21.440 --> 0:21:26.840 Hanson is a man, he's a good man's me. I 0:21:26.880 --> 0:21:30.959 met him on hinge. Who doesn't. 0:21:31.720 --> 0:21:37.159 I am terrified of dating apps? Why, I don't. 0:21:37.160 --> 0:21:40.840 Know where do you think you're going to meet that 0:21:40.960 --> 0:21:43.679 kind of person? Because once you start going down, like 0:21:43.760 --> 0:21:46.600 what really turns you on, it's like you get to 0:21:46.640 --> 0:21:48.879 be able at least to pick it. Listen, I watched 0:21:48.880 --> 0:21:50.720 you in a room. You could pick any man you want. 0:21:50.760 --> 0:21:53.200 I've seen it. I've watched you and you brought them over. 0:21:53.240 --> 0:21:55.880 I was like, no, I'm. 0:21:55.680 --> 0:21:59.000 Too for you. I wouldn't do it for myself. 0:22:00.119 --> 0:22:02.439 No, I mean you were good like that. You're a 0:22:02.480 --> 0:22:05.120 girl's girl. I get it, you know what. And more 0:22:05.160 --> 0:22:07.520 than that, like you know, we had a lot of 0:22:07.520 --> 0:22:11.160 fun and I love you and I hate to see 0:22:11.160 --> 0:22:14.760 you when you're feeling I just feel like life is 0:22:14.760 --> 0:22:17.160 a it's a brand new chapter for you. This is it. 0:22:17.359 --> 0:22:18.880 This is a brand new day. 0:22:20.040 --> 0:22:24.600 I honestly is fifty two. I don't want to go 0:22:24.760 --> 0:22:28.479 on a first date and make small talk and like 0:22:28.560 --> 0:22:32.879 I don't want that, So you're right, it might be 0:22:32.880 --> 0:22:36.240 better to find someone that I become friends with. So 0:22:36.680 --> 0:22:39.480