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Speaker 1: Buck up man, hold on tight, we got it full

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Speaker 1: you here. It is the Strawberry letter. Thank you Tommy

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Speaker 1: subjects he doesn't call anymore. Hello, Stephen Shirley. I met

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Speaker 1: a guy about a month ago. We met at a

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Speaker 1: restaurant he co owns with a friend. We sat there

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Speaker 1: for the whole night, chatting the night away, and left

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Speaker 1: in the morning. He got my numbers from a girlfriend

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Speaker 1: of mine just before we left the place. He then

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Speaker 1: called thirty minutes later to find out if we got

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Speaker 1: home safe. The next day I called him, We had

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Speaker 1: a chat and during the week he proposed to meet

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Speaker 1: again with me, but he didn't pitch. I don't get

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Speaker 1: that part. I don't get that, but anyway, but he

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Speaker 1: didn't pitch. That's what she says. Then called later to

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Speaker 1: apologize as he had to present reports to his manager.

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Speaker 1: In the same week, Friday, we met again at the restaurant,

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Speaker 1: then later went home, and the next week he called

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Speaker 1: and told me he wanted to see me, even if

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Speaker 1: it was only for a minute. By that time I

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Speaker 1: was on my way home. I called him again. We chatted,

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Speaker 1: then we met again at the restaurant and he offered

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Speaker 1: to give me a full body massage, of which I

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Speaker 1: rejected him nicely. Recently, he doesn't call at all. He

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Speaker 1: doesn't get back to me like he used to. Can

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Speaker 1: you please advise advise on what I can do without

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Speaker 1: compromising myself in this situation? Warmest regards, Laredo. Okay, Laredo.

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Speaker 1: If what I think happened actually did happen, then that

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Speaker 1: could be and it's probably why he's not calling you anymore.

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Speaker 1: You said you guys met at a restaurant then later

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Speaker 1: went home. I gotta ask you if you meant that

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Speaker 1: you went home together, because that's certainly what it sounds like.

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Speaker 1: But then at the end of the letter you said

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Speaker 1: you don't want to compromise yourself. But if you guys

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Speaker 1: earlier in the letter. It's a little confusing right there

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Speaker 1: for me. And there's a lot of stuff going on,

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Speaker 1: a lot of stuff happening really really fast. You called

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Speaker 1: him the next day, You immediately called him the next day.

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Speaker 1: It sounds a little eager, a little desperate to me.

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Speaker 1: That's just that's my opinion, you know, And I have

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Speaker 1: some other questions. Why was he presenting reports to his

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Speaker 1: manager if he owns the restaurant. A lot of confusing

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Speaker 1: stuff going on in this letter. Um. Also, um, you

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Speaker 1: called him again. He asked you for a full body massage.

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Speaker 1: You rejected him nicely. See again, that doesn't sound like

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Speaker 1: you know you guys went home and got busy. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. This letter is confusing to me, Steve, What

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Speaker 1: do you think you can at least get started? This

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Speaker 1: whole thing is just a mess because your letter is

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Speaker 1: s poetic. You've given us information out of order, uh, incomplete,

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Speaker 1: And anytime a woman writes incompletely, it's because she's intentionally

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Speaker 1: leaving something out. You're the most know you're the most

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Speaker 1: arrow communicators I know on Earth. You all will tell

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Speaker 1: it all because you all's gift is probing and digging

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Speaker 1: and and getting into the depth of the conversation. So

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Speaker 1: when you read a letter from a woman who has

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Speaker 1: an incomplete letters because she's trying to pick the information

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Speaker 1: she's going to share with you and leave out other information.

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Speaker 1: If you all are the best at it in the world,

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Speaker 1: communicating and talking. So how she didn't wrote a letter

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Speaker 1: that we don't understand, it's because she did left some

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Speaker 1: stuff out, but she trying to figure out. But now,

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Speaker 1: how does she clean up and fix this mess? Well,

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Speaker 1: I got some news for you when we come back, ma'am. Um,

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Speaker 1: And you probably not gonna like this answer right here,

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Speaker 1: But this answer is the truth because you are a

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Speaker 1: chapter in the book, and sport fishing, she's she's the

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Speaker 1: chapter in the book. That's why I wrote it. I'll

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Speaker 1: explain it to you when we come back. Go on,

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Speaker 1: Steve two. Of your response to today's Strawberry letter, here's

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Speaker 1: a letter he doesn't call anymore. You know, ma'am, you

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Speaker 1: left a lot of information out of your letter. Uh,

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Speaker 1: Laredo or Larado, whatever your name is. You met a

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Speaker 1: guy about a month ago. You met a restaurant he

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Speaker 1: he cawns a restaurant, why is he um filling out

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Speaker 1: reports to his manager? Uh? The owner don't feel out

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Speaker 1: reports to the manager. The manager feels out of reports

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Speaker 1: to the owner. Uh. Here's see, here's what here, here's

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Speaker 1: here's what started this whole thing. Ladies, be careful of this.

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Speaker 1: Right here. We chatted the whole night and left in

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Speaker 1: the morning. He got my numbers from a girlfriend of

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Speaker 1: See right there, you're impressed by that, Ladies, listen to me.

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Speaker 1: Don't be totally impressed by the things that we are

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Speaker 1: impressed with that. I mean, it's nice that he does it.

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Speaker 1: It's reason's troublesome if he does it, that's the red flag.

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Speaker 1: But please don't bring out the band just because he

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Speaker 1: called to see if you got home safe. Hell, that's routine.

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Speaker 1: Player move one O one first night, okay. Then the

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Speaker 1: next day I called him, you had a chat. Then

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Speaker 1: he proposed to meet you again, but he didn't pitch.

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Speaker 1: I think that's meaning that he didn't show up. He

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Speaker 1: didn't play. Then later called to apologize, and in the

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Speaker 1: same week we met again at the restaurant, YadA YadA.

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Speaker 1: The next week he called told me he wanted to

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Speaker 1: see me for a minute, but you was on the

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Speaker 1: way home. I called him again in the restaurant. Then

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Speaker 1: he offered to give you a full body massage and

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Speaker 1: you rejected him nicely. Now recently he doesn't call at all.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't get back to me like he used to.

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Speaker 1: Can you please advise on what I can do without

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Speaker 1: compromising myself in this situation? Okay? First of all, what's

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Speaker 1: wrong If all y'all deal was chat a few times

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Speaker 1: at the restaurant, at the house, he offered to do

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Speaker 1: a full body massage. You told him. Now now he

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Speaker 1: don't call no more. Okay. Then that's the chapter in

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Speaker 1: the book that spurred the sports fisherman theory. He's fishing

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Speaker 1: not to keep but to throw back. Now you are

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Speaker 1: a throwback, not because of the actions you did, but

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Speaker 1: because he just not looking for someone like you. Here's

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Speaker 1: the deal. See, it seems like she did everything right.

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Speaker 1: I agree with Shirley. Did you sleep with the guy

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Speaker 1: when you went home? What does that mean? But if

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Speaker 1: you didn't, you've done everything right enough soul that you

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Speaker 1: found out he was wrong. See, ladies, that's what you

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Speaker 1: gotta get yourself in the position to do constantly, do

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Speaker 1: enough of the right things, and then you'll find out

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Speaker 1: if the guy is wrong or not. Is it not

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Speaker 1: better to find out right now that he won't call you?

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Speaker 1: Then if you didn't broke off the cookie, gave him

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Speaker 1: your time. This is only a week or two we're talking.

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Speaker 1: But now she's so distraught she wrote a letter because

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Speaker 1: she can't figure out what's wrong. It's nothing wrong. You

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Speaker 1: figured out that he was wrong. You did everything right.

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Speaker 1: He didn't call you back, walk away. She was feeling

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Speaker 1: him though, and she just wanted to quit feeling you

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Speaker 1: because he ain't feeling you exactly. He's not that into you.

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Speaker 1: I'm not working next to her anymore. Okay, alright, Steve,

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Speaker 1: we gotta get out of here. You can email us

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Speaker 1: or Instagram. That's your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter. At

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Speaker 1: my Girls, Shirley, you're listening to Steve Morning Show