1 00:00:02,560 --> 00:00:17,480 Speaker 1: Radio Radio Radio Commies a Myth and Bullshit, a radiophonic novella. 2 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:24,279 Speaker 1: Look Radio hosted by Malamn. Welcome to Season three of 3 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:30,760 Speaker 1: Local Radios. Because firm revenge has never sounded so sweet. 4 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:34,120 Speaker 1: Look at Our Radio is a radiophonic novella archiving the 5 00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:37,160 Speaker 1: legacies and brilliance of women and fems of color. I'm 6 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:39,879 Speaker 1: Theos and I'm Mala, and we are less mommies of 7 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:45,159 Speaker 1: myth and Bullshit. Last Look Radio radiophonic novella, which is 8 00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:49,519 Speaker 1: just a really really extra way of saying a podcast. Welcome, 9 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:52,720 Speaker 1: welcome back, welcome back. Last time on Look at Our Radio, 10 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:56,600 Speaker 1: we discussed Catholic guilt, our life as recovering Catholics, and 11 00:00:56,720 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 1: vanity as a social construct. And as always, got Our 12 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:05,319 Speaker 1: Radio is recorded at IT Radio, Espasio here at nine. 13 00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 1: This is a community radio station um here in boil Heights. 14 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:10,600 Speaker 1: Thank you once again for joining us, Thank you for 15 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:14,960 Speaker 1: joining us. So we're gonna jump right in to some announcements. 16 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 1: We have some exciting stuff we want to talk about. 17 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 1: Um So, Mala, can you just start us off please? Okay, 18 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:25,000 Speaker 1: First and foremost read about us in Forbes Bitch number one. 19 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 1: Literally read about us in Forbes. Thank you Vivian Nunez 20 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:32,600 Speaker 1: for reaching out to us, interviewing us, and putting out 21 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:36,720 Speaker 1: a beautiful feature of about us about our podcast in Forbes. Yeah. So, 22 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,559 Speaker 1: if we haven't checked out our article, it's four pieces 23 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:44,400 Speaker 1: of podcasting advice from this Latino podcast duo. So I 24 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:47,480 Speaker 1: was at work, oh my god, like teaching the youth 25 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: of tomorrow, right, and then I get a text from Thesa. 26 00:01:50,800 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: It was so hilarious because, Um, I was getting ready 27 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:56,800 Speaker 1: for work myself and I was, you know, checking our 28 00:01:56,920 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: checking my email, checking our email, and I see that 29 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 1: we have an email from Vivian and she says, hey, like, 30 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 1: here's the link. It's live. And I'm freaking out, and 31 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:08,679 Speaker 1: I'm texting Mala and she's not replying, and I'm like, 32 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:11,799 Speaker 1: oh my god, Mala, we're in Forbes. We're in Forbes. 33 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:13,920 Speaker 1: I'm texting her. I'm just like reading the article. I'm 34 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 1: freaking out. I'm running to my mom's room. I'm just 35 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:19,560 Speaker 1: like literally going everywhere, and Mama, of course is in class. 36 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 1: So I'm like, well, you know, I'm just gonna post 37 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:24,520 Speaker 1: this now. So I like made the executive decision posted 38 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:28,320 Speaker 1: the article. Um and people were replying to it, and 39 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:30,920 Speaker 1: I was telling Joanna from The Unapologetically Brown Girl, I 40 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 1: was like, Um, I'm freaking out because Mala's at work 41 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: and she hasn't seen this text and all of this 42 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:38,240 Speaker 1: is going on. I couldn't have a reaction. I was dying. 43 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:41,520 Speaker 1: It was so exciting. We're still really excited. Thank you 44 00:02:41,600 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 1: everybody who reposted it, who shared it, who read it. Um, 45 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:47,920 Speaker 1: we're in love with the article. I feel like it 46 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 1: really captures us and what we're about, and it's almost 47 00:02:52,400 --> 00:02:54,960 Speaker 1: like we retraced our steps, Like we look at the 48 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 1: podcast and what we've created and we kind of just 49 00:02:57,120 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: looked back and saw like, what's our journey and that's 50 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: how we drew like those pieces of advice you know, 51 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 1: for that article. Definitely, definitely, And I think it's so 52 00:03:06,840 --> 00:03:11,440 Speaker 1: um well timed because we just had our workshop at 53 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:15,200 Speaker 1: the library so fun, you know, so fun and um 54 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:18,000 Speaker 1: so and I think that was our first time actually 55 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:22,520 Speaker 1: talking about our origins and giving advice to other, you know, 56 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 1: folks that want to start a podcast and talking about 57 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:27,400 Speaker 1: what's worked for us and what hasn't worked for us. 58 00:03:27,400 --> 00:03:31,520 Speaker 1: And it's really inspiring and affirming to to see that 59 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:34,079 Speaker 1: people are reaching out to us as authorities, like as 60 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 1: podcast authorities because they respect what we've done and they 61 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 1: see what we've done. So it just feels super affirming 62 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 1: to to have this feedback. It feels good. It feels 63 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 1: really good. And speaking of that podcasting workshops, so at 64 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: the Memorial Branch over on Olympic we hosted our first 65 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 1: of many made in l a podcasting one on one workshops. 66 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 1: It was really fun. It was a full workshop. There 67 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:00,680 Speaker 1: were people there that we recognize, some listeners and look 68 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 1: amotis shoutout to yeah, I know you're probably listening, um. 69 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:08,040 Speaker 1: And there was also like some male podcasters there. There 70 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 1: were been there, there were men there. There were men there. 71 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:13,880 Speaker 1: It's always like when we see men come to our 72 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:16,640 Speaker 1: podcasting workshops, are just our workshops were always like okay, 73 00:04:16,640 --> 00:04:18,960 Speaker 1: are you going to stay for all of this? Right? 74 00:04:19,920 --> 00:04:22,760 Speaker 1: What's yeah? There were what's going on? There were some 75 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:25,360 Speaker 1: white people who like stayed for the lecture portion, but 76 00:04:25,400 --> 00:04:27,919 Speaker 1: when it came to like, you know, do the group 77 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:31,280 Speaker 1: work and outline like your own podcast, they got up 78 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:35,480 Speaker 1: and left. Some of them like complimented us, though one 79 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: white man said that we were geniuses, thank god, and 80 00:04:38,120 --> 00:04:41,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I know, that's how we're doing. That's 81 00:04:41,360 --> 00:04:45,200 Speaker 1: literally why we're we literally archived the legacies and genius 82 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:49,440 Speaker 1: of ourselves. It's in the mission statement. Thanks for right, um. 83 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:51,719 Speaker 1: But yeah, I mean I think we didn't really know 84 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:55,480 Speaker 1: what to expect in terms of turnout for the library 85 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:57,919 Speaker 1: and like, I've never been to a library workshop in 86 00:04:57,920 --> 00:04:59,640 Speaker 1: the middle of a Saturday, you know what i mean. 87 00:04:59,680 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 1: So we didn't really know what to expect. So again, 88 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 1: thank you to everybody that showed up. We had oh 89 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:09,120 Speaker 1: my god, we had a the daughter of a Dodger. 90 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:13,440 Speaker 1: She was there because she's starting a podcast and she 91 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:15,560 Speaker 1: wanted to come and she said she saw us, you know, 92 00:05:15,640 --> 00:05:17,920 Speaker 1: an aalistical so she was like, I'm gonna go check 93 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:21,320 Speaker 1: out this workshop that they're doing. So that was really cool. Yeah. 94 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:23,800 Speaker 1: So she's sitting there talking about casually like when I'm 95 00:05:23,800 --> 00:05:27,440 Speaker 1: starting a podcast for my dad, it's chill. My dad 96 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:31,200 Speaker 1: was one of the Dodgers, it's what EV's And I'm like, 97 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, so who's your dad? Like she goes, Manny 98 00:05:34,839 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: Mota and then we do our our due diligence, our 99 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:40,039 Speaker 1: research and not only did he play for the Dodgers, Dominican, 100 00:05:40,720 --> 00:05:43,240 Speaker 1: but he was also a coach. He coached the Dodgers 101 00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 1: for a period of time, and he's also um what 102 00:05:47,839 --> 00:05:51,400 Speaker 1: are they called when they like report like the live game, 103 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:53,840 Speaker 1: he's like one of the commentators, like the commentator when 104 00:05:53,839 --> 00:05:55,440 Speaker 1: he does that for in Spanish, like for one of 105 00:05:55,480 --> 00:05:58,039 Speaker 1: the Spanish networks. Yeah, so if you're listening, thanks for 106 00:05:58,080 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 1: coming out, Thank you for coming. We love thee some 107 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:04,919 Speaker 1: like l A bitches. I don't really know the players, 108 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:06,720 Speaker 1: but I know that I support the Daughters because I'm 109 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 1: in l A bitch. Absolutely, you know what I mean. 110 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 1: And I will watch them when they go to the 111 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:11,839 Speaker 1: World Series and I'll cry when they don't wait. Absolutely, 112 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:15,359 Speaker 1: Oh my god, wait this gave me a flashback. I 113 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:17,160 Speaker 1: went on a date with this guy once who was 114 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:20,919 Speaker 1: like such the like woke, the woke cheek like quote 115 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:24,240 Speaker 1: unquote that you enjoy the Daughters because n yes, it 116 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: was so funny. We were we all know what you 117 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:28,720 Speaker 1: gotta like that. We were on a fucking date of 118 00:06:28,839 --> 00:06:31,440 Speaker 1: first date girl, and we're talking about what we like 119 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:33,360 Speaker 1: to do for fun. I'm like, oh, I like Dodger games, 120 00:06:33,400 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: and he goes, really, but what about Chavez Ravene what 121 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:42,080 Speaker 1: about imminent domain? Right, I'm like, what about it? Go blue? 122 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:45,039 Speaker 1: Like I love the Dodgers. I don't know what to 123 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:46,920 Speaker 1: tell you. What are you what are you going to do? 124 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:48,640 Speaker 1: What are you going to do about? Like? No, what 125 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:53,560 Speaker 1: are you well going to do? Now? I don't get it? 126 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:55,760 Speaker 1: So why is it your you know what I mean? 127 00:06:56,080 --> 00:06:58,840 Speaker 1: My problem? I mean that you do or don't do 128 00:06:58,960 --> 00:07:01,560 Speaker 1: isn't going to give people back their their home. They're 129 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:04,000 Speaker 1: stolen land, you know what I mean? Right, it was wrong, 130 00:07:04,040 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 1: it was funked up. But what do you want me 131 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:13,240 Speaker 1: to do anyway? Whatever? And the other things. More announcements. 132 00:07:13,240 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 1: So we also had our pop up so if you 133 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:21,400 Speaker 1: were there, thank you for coming out. Um it was 134 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 1: super cute. It was so pink. We really took over 135 00:07:25,560 --> 00:07:31,280 Speaker 1: lasts and made it very local, very very very fem 136 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:32,880 Speaker 1: and a lot of people came out. There was a 137 00:07:32,880 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 1: lot of engagement. People brought their daughters, their kids. Um. 138 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:38,960 Speaker 1: There was a home girl there from U c. L A. 139 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:42,239 Speaker 1: On roller skates skating around the whole time. Shout out 140 00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:47,520 Speaker 1: T was there. Shout out T, shout out sizzle, Shout 141 00:07:47,520 --> 00:07:52,520 Speaker 1: out to my homegirl scarlet. She volunteered. She um worked 142 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:56,760 Speaker 1: our merch and was like super on top of selling 143 00:07:57,120 --> 00:07:59,760 Speaker 1: and getting that for us. So shout out to her. 144 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:02,400 Speaker 1: She's actually my homegirl from high school from the convents, 145 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 1: from the convent that the escaped from. Yeah, that I survived, right, 146 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:09,560 Speaker 1: So thank you to everybody who came out. I think 147 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:11,720 Speaker 1: that we should do it again. Yeah, I think we 148 00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:14,360 Speaker 1: need to do pop up again. So I don't know, 149 00:08:14,400 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 1: look out for those announcements in the future. Definitely it's 150 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 1: going to be coming to a sitting near you. I thinks, yes, 151 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:25,880 Speaker 1: ma'am and hopefully, um, you've all been paying attention to 152 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 1: our Blue Me products and announcements on Instagram. Check out 153 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:36,200 Speaker 1: the Blue Me check out some good stuff. Yes, they 154 00:08:36,240 --> 00:08:39,080 Speaker 1: have intimate so with your one stop shop for intimate 155 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 1: care products. It's a marketplace so you can get your 156 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:48,600 Speaker 1: sex toys, your menstruation products, um, just like wellness products 157 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:52,720 Speaker 1: in general, for like cleansers and oils and sex toys 158 00:08:52,840 --> 00:08:56,120 Speaker 1: and all of that good menstrual hygiene hygiene. So we 159 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:58,320 Speaker 1: have a code. We have a code that you can 160 00:08:58,400 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 1: use look at what our radio ten to go get 161 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:04,960 Speaker 1: your discount on your Blue Me products. Yes, yes, yes, yes, 162 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:08,160 Speaker 1: And we're also really excited to announce a new partnership, 163 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:13,559 Speaker 1: a new collaboration with our faves, Viva Cosmetics. We're both 164 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 1: wearing Viva right now. Yes, of course, yes, I'm wearing 165 00:09:16,480 --> 00:09:18,719 Speaker 1: one of the gam mats and um so we're really 166 00:09:18,760 --> 00:09:21,600 Speaker 1: excited to announce his partnership. So if you use our 167 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:25,680 Speaker 1: code locamotives, you will get off of your order. They 168 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 1: have highlighterst lipsticks and the lipsticks as well. Yes, yes, yes, yes, 169 00:09:32,240 --> 00:09:34,000 Speaker 1: yes yes, We're gonna be talking a little bit more 170 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:37,000 Speaker 1: about Viva Cosmetics in the future to look out for that. 171 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:40,959 Speaker 1: We don't actually have anyone to shout out for giving 172 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:45,959 Speaker 1: Venmo donations this this round womp wamp, but if you 173 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 1: would like to to get a shout out and you 174 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:50,400 Speaker 1: would like to contribute to the podcast, you can always 175 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:54,000 Speaker 1: hit up our Venmo We're at look at a dash radio. Yeah. 176 00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:57,080 Speaker 1: Also this reminds me shout out to our listeners that 177 00:09:57,120 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: came and purchased merchandise from and gett Oh yeah, thank you. 178 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:04,240 Speaker 1: Definitely appreciate we were able to pay our video teams. Yeah, 179 00:10:04,320 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: that was thank god. Thanks guys, thank you, thank you 180 00:10:07,559 --> 00:10:10,439 Speaker 1: for that. Literally, your your donations, your purchases go back 181 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:13,360 Speaker 1: into the podcast. And we can pay our team. So 182 00:10:13,440 --> 00:10:17,360 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. Yeah, as the video team works, yeah, 183 00:10:17,559 --> 00:10:20,520 Speaker 1: as you're you're filming us trying not to last, but 184 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:24,760 Speaker 1: I mean it's true. Shadow Va Michelle our favorite, our 185 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:28,320 Speaker 1: business favorite, um A couple, our favorite artistic couple. Yeah. 186 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 1: So cute. That keeps us on point. Thank you, thank you, 187 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:34,319 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. All right. Yeah, so we have 188 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 1: more library workshops coming up, more made in l A. 189 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:40,040 Speaker 1: We're going to be in the Valley Lord at the 190 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 1: West Valley Branch on Thursday. Yes, and it's going to 191 00:10:43,480 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 1: be cute times. It's going to be a cute times. 192 00:10:45,160 --> 00:10:47,800 Speaker 1: So so at this point, Mala, we go out to 193 00:10:47,840 --> 00:10:50,319 Speaker 1: the Valley when we get paid and when we see 194 00:10:50,400 --> 00:10:52,920 Speaker 1: La La and that's it. That's about it. Or on 195 00:10:52,960 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 1: my way to leave l A, my way out right 196 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:00,720 Speaker 1: right right yeah bye. Don't want to get on all 197 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:04,840 Speaker 1: those freeways to get off. No, thank you. But also 198 00:11:04,840 --> 00:11:06,600 Speaker 1: shout out to our value listeners. Shout out to all 199 00:11:06,640 --> 00:11:08,960 Speaker 1: our value listeners. We love you, love you, we love you, 200 00:11:09,040 --> 00:11:14,760 Speaker 1: We love you so much. Anyway, so reminders, a quick 201 00:11:14,800 --> 00:11:18,240 Speaker 1: word from our sponsors, A quick word from our sponsors. 202 00:11:18,280 --> 00:11:21,560 Speaker 1: So you know, we're all about therapy for latin X. 203 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:23,920 Speaker 1: We really want to take a moment to shout out 204 00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:27,439 Speaker 1: therapy for latin X UM. They use the latest technology 205 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:29,560 Speaker 1: to make it as easy as possible for people to 206 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 1: find therapists, life coaches, emergency mental health centers, and for 207 00:11:33,720 --> 00:11:36,959 Speaker 1: your low cost community clinics. We really encourage you to 208 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:39,440 Speaker 1: go check out their online database and find a latin 209 00:11:39,559 --> 00:11:44,839 Speaker 1: X therapist near you. Yes, I mean exactly, go and 210 00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:47,000 Speaker 1: check out the database. And you know, I think the 211 00:11:47,080 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 1: latin X community we need a lot of therapy. We 212 00:11:49,040 --> 00:11:51,640 Speaker 1: need a lot of therapy. Can I share real quick 213 00:11:51,640 --> 00:11:54,800 Speaker 1: about my dad? Oh yes, please? I got a frenzied 214 00:11:54,880 --> 00:11:58,599 Speaker 1: text message early in the morning, so I had I 215 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:00,640 Speaker 1: usually got to therapy in the evening beings on like 216 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:04,840 Speaker 1: my day of the week, and um, this session, I 217 00:12:04,880 --> 00:12:06,800 Speaker 1: had to schedule it in the morning. So I was 218 00:12:06,800 --> 00:12:09,480 Speaker 1: waking up, you know, earlier than usual, and I'm telling 219 00:12:09,520 --> 00:12:11,000 Speaker 1: my mom like, oh yeah, I'm going to leave for 220 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: therapy and a little bit, and my dad comes into 221 00:12:12,920 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 1: my room freaking out because he had no idea that 222 00:12:16,200 --> 00:12:19,440 Speaker 1: I see a therapist. Even though I talk about it 223 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:22,679 Speaker 1: all the time, I'm very transparent about it, so he 224 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:26,040 Speaker 1: had no idea he freaked out. He asked me if 225 00:12:26,040 --> 00:12:28,320 Speaker 1: I'm okay, He asked me if I need help like 226 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:30,600 Speaker 1: all these things, and I'm like, well, this is why 227 00:12:30,640 --> 00:12:33,720 Speaker 1: I see a therapist, right. And then this is where 228 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:36,079 Speaker 1: it gets really intense and really deep. He says, well, 229 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:38,440 Speaker 1: do you see a therapist because of me? And I 230 00:12:38,559 --> 00:12:40,360 Speaker 1: was like, wow, the thing, I'm going to therapy right 231 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:42,960 Speaker 1: now because I was not ready to answer that question. 232 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:45,959 Speaker 1: I was still asleep, but me and the hangarst in bed, right, 233 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:48,839 Speaker 1: you know. And then you know, it's like, Dad, if 234 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:51,800 Speaker 1: you're asking the question, you must know that, you must 235 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:55,120 Speaker 1: know the answer. Right, there's some truths. There's a truth 236 00:12:55,160 --> 00:13:00,240 Speaker 1: colonel there, right. So basically our family can trigger us 237 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:04,240 Speaker 1: every day, you know. So when we have these resources, 238 00:13:04,280 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 1: it's good to check out, you know, therapy for latinoxt 239 00:13:08,040 --> 00:13:11,880 Speaker 1: a database, yeah, right there for you. Yeah, now you know? 240 00:13:11,520 --> 00:13:13,719 Speaker 1: Now you know? All right, So we're going to move 241 00:13:13,720 --> 00:13:17,640 Speaker 1: on to our next segment, our favorite segment. Oh yeah, look, 242 00:13:17,679 --> 00:13:23,599 Speaker 1: as have you ever ended a toxic friendship? Who you 243 00:13:23,640 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 1: want to go first? No? I don't, Oh my god, 244 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:33,280 Speaker 1: you know what I think. I think that any toxic 245 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:36,080 Speaker 1: friendships that I've had have sort of just dissipated on 246 00:13:36,120 --> 00:13:41,200 Speaker 1: their own just naturally. Um. I have never had like 247 00:13:41,800 --> 00:13:45,959 Speaker 1: a bad blow up friendship breakup that was like official 248 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:51,319 Speaker 1: or that was like intentionally ended. Sometimes things just fizzla 249 00:13:51,400 --> 00:13:53,760 Speaker 1: on out and you let them and you don't perform 250 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:59,960 Speaker 1: friendship CPR on them. And that's what I've experienced. Yeah, 251 00:14:00,080 --> 00:14:02,840 Speaker 1: I agree. Um, I think the same thing. I've never 252 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:07,360 Speaker 1: had an actual breakup. But UM, I think one one 253 00:14:07,520 --> 00:14:10,160 Speaker 1: instance in particular that really hurt, but it made sense 254 00:14:10,480 --> 00:14:12,800 Speaker 1: was a friend that I was really close to, but 255 00:14:12,840 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 1: I was only close to her because she was my 256 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:18,360 Speaker 1: ex as sorority sister. So I knew whenever, like I 257 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:19,720 Speaker 1: knew in the back of my head, like if this 258 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 1: relationship would end, we're not going to be friends anymore. 259 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:23,680 Speaker 1: And I knew that, and that was like okay, but 260 00:14:23,760 --> 00:14:26,600 Speaker 1: it's still hurt, you know, the friendship ending, But it 261 00:14:26,640 --> 00:14:29,680 Speaker 1: made sense. It was a natural progression of phasing out. 262 00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:33,120 Speaker 1: You know, I'm not going to stay friends with her obviously. Um. 263 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:35,480 Speaker 1: And the same thing, like all of my friendships, either 264 00:14:35,840 --> 00:14:38,520 Speaker 1: I've outgrown them, maybe they've outgrown me. We've grown in 265 00:14:38,520 --> 00:14:43,160 Speaker 1: different directions, we've grown distant, and it happens. It happens. Yeah, 266 00:14:43,320 --> 00:14:47,920 Speaker 1: I just like, you know, a true good friendship that 267 00:14:48,080 --> 00:14:51,960 Speaker 1: had meaning in my life. Um, I haven't had any 268 00:14:52,040 --> 00:14:55,680 Speaker 1: kind of rupture as far as an authentic friendship that's 269 00:14:55,760 --> 00:15:02,200 Speaker 1: long lasting, um other more superficial um surface level friendships. Sure, 270 00:15:02,920 --> 00:15:04,760 Speaker 1: But I think it's also good to point out that, 271 00:15:04,880 --> 00:15:07,760 Speaker 1: like your friends can be really toxic, you know, and 272 00:15:07,800 --> 00:15:11,040 Speaker 1: they're not actually your friends, so more like people can 273 00:15:11,040 --> 00:15:14,280 Speaker 1: be toxic in your life that aren't just relationships, you know. 274 00:15:14,360 --> 00:15:17,360 Speaker 1: So that's I think important to to think about. You know, 275 00:15:17,560 --> 00:15:21,000 Speaker 1: is this person celebrating you when you accomplish something right? 276 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:24,960 Speaker 1: Is this person, um, you know, maybe giving you bad 277 00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:29,000 Speaker 1: advice or actually likes to see your relationships go poorly 278 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:31,480 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like, I think that's definitely 279 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:35,800 Speaker 1: something to pay attention to. Yeah. Or Also I think 280 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:39,320 Speaker 1: what's also been important is even me recognizing what if 281 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:42,600 Speaker 1: I'm the toxic element in a friendship and if things 282 00:15:42,640 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 1: are fizzling out. There's also like I try and give 283 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:50,160 Speaker 1: people their space, Like I don't try and force friendship 284 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:53,720 Speaker 1: onto folks, or like if someone is clearly not trying 285 00:15:53,760 --> 00:15:56,280 Speaker 1: to hang out with me, or is not responding or 286 00:15:56,320 --> 00:15:59,640 Speaker 1: things like that, I let it be like, I don't try. 287 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:04,640 Speaker 1: I don't demand closure or explanations from folks. I sort 288 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:06,880 Speaker 1: of if you wanted to fizzle, I'm gonna let it fizzle, 289 00:16:07,240 --> 00:16:10,480 Speaker 1: you know. Um, And I think that's important too. Yeah. 290 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:13,680 Speaker 1: I echo that because there was like a recent friend 291 00:16:13,720 --> 00:16:17,160 Speaker 1: group or kind of just like naturally just fizzled out 292 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:20,160 Speaker 1: and I couldn't see it happening, and I just very 293 00:16:20,240 --> 00:16:21,920 Speaker 1: much felt like, well, I'm not going to put any 294 00:16:21,960 --> 00:16:24,880 Speaker 1: effort into hitting you up so that we can hang 295 00:16:24,920 --> 00:16:27,160 Speaker 1: out if you're not doing it either, So I'm gonna 296 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:31,680 Speaker 1: just let it go. Yeah, totally totally agree. Yeah, and 297 00:16:31,680 --> 00:16:35,240 Speaker 1: thank you for that. That question. Next question, Um, So 298 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:37,120 Speaker 1: this one came up a lot, so I think it's 299 00:16:37,120 --> 00:16:40,960 Speaker 1: important that we answer address. Um, what are your thoughts 300 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:45,920 Speaker 1: on friends with benefits? Okay, here's my fucking thought. What 301 00:16:45,960 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 1: the fund is? The benefit is what I want to know? 302 00:16:48,120 --> 00:16:51,440 Speaker 1: What is the benefit? I saw this tweet I know 303 00:16:51,480 --> 00:16:53,960 Speaker 1: which one you're talking about, saying she was like, she 304 00:16:54,120 --> 00:16:58,040 Speaker 1: was like, oh I feel scammed friends with benefits. The 305 00:16:58,080 --> 00:17:02,280 Speaker 1: benefits I thought would be like insuring and dental. It's 306 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:05,679 Speaker 1: just sex. What the fuck? That's not a benefits benefiting 307 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:11,000 Speaker 1: And it's not a benefit because of you suckers canceling 308 00:17:11,040 --> 00:17:14,119 Speaker 1: any type of dick to save your own fucking lives, 309 00:17:14,720 --> 00:17:16,960 Speaker 1: never mind benefit me in any kind of a way. 310 00:17:17,480 --> 00:17:20,000 Speaker 1: So that phrase, I don't even know what it means. 311 00:17:20,400 --> 00:17:23,600 Speaker 1: At least I have never entered into a beneficial like 312 00:17:23,680 --> 00:17:27,159 Speaker 1: friendship in the way that that phrase is usually used to, 313 00:17:27,280 --> 00:17:30,320 Speaker 1: like suggest we're friends that hook up sometimes and the 314 00:17:30,320 --> 00:17:32,359 Speaker 1: sex is the benefit. I mean, I had one of 315 00:17:32,400 --> 00:17:38,800 Speaker 1: those m and it ended obviously, um and um. I 316 00:17:38,800 --> 00:17:41,280 Speaker 1: think the issue like, aside from that that like men 317 00:17:41,320 --> 00:17:44,960 Speaker 1: actually don't really deserve us, I think, right, I think. 318 00:17:46,480 --> 00:17:48,879 Speaker 1: I think also like at some point, like one of 319 00:17:48,880 --> 00:17:51,520 Speaker 1: you is going to catch feelings, you know, and it's 320 00:17:51,520 --> 00:17:56,000 Speaker 1: gonna be yours fall in love and I can't help that, right, 321 00:17:56,119 --> 00:17:57,879 Speaker 1: you know what It's like, there's like this meme or 322 00:17:57,920 --> 00:17:59,480 Speaker 1: something like when you're trying to be a home but 323 00:17:59,520 --> 00:18:02,320 Speaker 1: you just catch feelings, you know, and then you're like crying, 324 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:05,080 Speaker 1: you know, and that and that can happen, you know. 325 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:07,920 Speaker 1: So I personally don't think that friends with benefits can work, 326 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:12,200 Speaker 1: especially if it's an actual friendship that you have. It's 327 00:18:12,240 --> 00:18:14,520 Speaker 1: one thing where it's like oh you guys, me and 328 00:18:14,560 --> 00:18:17,480 Speaker 1: you decide you don't want to date, but they're still 329 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:19,639 Speaker 1: new to your life, and then you decide to hook up. 330 00:18:19,760 --> 00:18:22,280 Speaker 1: But like taking a friendship and then turning it into 331 00:18:22,320 --> 00:18:25,119 Speaker 1: friends of benefits doesn't work. I don't think so. I 332 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:28,239 Speaker 1: think maybe a friendship to relationship can work. But one 333 00:18:28,280 --> 00:18:30,480 Speaker 1: of you is going to get hurt. Somebody's going to 334 00:18:30,560 --> 00:18:32,480 Speaker 1: get hurt. It's probably going to be you going to 335 00:18:32,600 --> 00:18:37,639 Speaker 1: be it's not going to be the man. It's not 336 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:40,360 Speaker 1: going to be the man that gets hurt. Sure, if 337 00:18:40,359 --> 00:18:43,360 Speaker 1: you're if that's the type of hetero relationship that you're 338 00:18:43,400 --> 00:18:46,720 Speaker 1: in between queer folks, I think that it happens a 339 00:18:46,760 --> 00:18:49,959 Speaker 1: lot because our community is so small, so we end 340 00:18:50,000 --> 00:18:52,639 Speaker 1: up sucking our friends and then we have no friends 341 00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:55,200 Speaker 1: and we have no community. So don't do that either. 342 00:18:55,240 --> 00:18:57,200 Speaker 1: I mean, in my opinion, that's been my experience. I'm 343 00:18:57,240 --> 00:18:59,560 Speaker 1: not friends with any of my friends from college anymore 344 00:18:59,560 --> 00:19:02,919 Speaker 1: because guess what, I dated my friend, right, and now 345 00:19:02,960 --> 00:19:04,280 Speaker 1: I have no friends, you know what I mean? Like 346 00:19:04,359 --> 00:19:09,680 Speaker 1: I literally experienced that, So it's a slippery you know. 347 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:13,680 Speaker 1: So I don't know. I just also want to say 348 00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:15,680 Speaker 1: that when it comes to we were just talking about 349 00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:19,000 Speaker 1: this before we started recording. The dating questions that we 350 00:19:19,040 --> 00:19:22,760 Speaker 1: get are so interesting because we are not dating experts. Like, bitch, 351 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:25,240 Speaker 1: I want to know too. I have the same question. 352 00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:28,920 Speaker 1: I need help, but not damn spicy fix my life 353 00:19:29,119 --> 00:19:31,600 Speaker 1: had spicy body? Where you at? Girls? Like when I 354 00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:33,840 Speaker 1: tell you I couldn't give you the name of a 355 00:19:33,880 --> 00:19:36,760 Speaker 1: crush if I wanted to write, like my d MS 356 00:19:36,880 --> 00:19:41,119 Speaker 1: my phone are bone dry, bitch arid. Okay, it's been 357 00:19:41,160 --> 00:19:46,919 Speaker 1: a drought. What rain? Spicy? What rain? Could you know? 358 00:19:46,960 --> 00:19:50,480 Speaker 1: What I mean? Like right right with the dating questions, 359 00:19:50,520 --> 00:19:52,960 Speaker 1: I'm like, that's a that's a good question, right, I'm 360 00:19:52,960 --> 00:19:59,240 Speaker 1: trying to fire right right anybody out the spicy spicy buddy. 361 00:19:59,760 --> 00:20:02,640 Speaker 1: She the dating consultant, she's a guru, and she actually 362 00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:06,600 Speaker 1: gave us these spicy dating questions. So you asked them 363 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:08,560 Speaker 1: on the first day, and they're typically questions that you 364 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:11,399 Speaker 1: don't you don't want to ask. So my partner and 365 00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:13,000 Speaker 1: I actually did ask them, and we learned to like 366 00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:15,600 Speaker 1: some stuff about each other when we did it. Oh goody, 367 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:21,440 Speaker 1: it was hopeful. Check her out, spicy muddy um. Next question, 368 00:20:21,520 --> 00:20:26,480 Speaker 1: Next question, Okay, another dating just started dating? What are 369 00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:33,440 Speaker 1: good for you? Bitch? We're all very happy for you. Know, 370 00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:36,399 Speaker 1: we are happy for you. But this question, what are 371 00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:41,040 Speaker 1: some good slash bad signs? Let me count the way, right? 372 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:43,440 Speaker 1: I remember? That's so funny that we're answering this question 373 00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:46,200 Speaker 1: because literally this morning I was thinking about the time Alla, 374 00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:48,400 Speaker 1: when I was telling you about someone I was dating, 375 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:51,040 Speaker 1: and I told you something horrible that he did for 376 00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:55,760 Speaker 1: his partner, remember very vividly and goes fosa. He's showing 377 00:20:55,800 --> 00:20:57,760 Speaker 1: you all his flags. He's literally being like, look at 378 00:20:57,760 --> 00:21:01,400 Speaker 1: all my flags are they are here, they are for you, 379 00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:04,439 Speaker 1: and I still look the other way, you know what 380 00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:08,080 Speaker 1: I mean. So, Okay, here's a bad sign. If he's 381 00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:10,560 Speaker 1: living with his girlfriend and cheating on her and going 382 00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:13,720 Speaker 1: out with you, that's a bad sign. There's like there's 383 00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:16,040 Speaker 1: like this meme where it was like you should maybe 384 00:21:16,080 --> 00:21:18,360 Speaker 1: not see him anywhere. I've seen this meme floating around 385 00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:20,080 Speaker 1: where it's like, sis, that married man is not your 386 00:21:20,119 --> 00:21:25,440 Speaker 1: soul mate. It's so true, and yeah, if he's married, no, yeah, 387 00:21:25,480 --> 00:21:28,679 Speaker 1: so bad sign. He hides his family from you, hides 388 00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:33,320 Speaker 1: his significant other, puts his phone down face down, um, 389 00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:37,040 Speaker 1: has stuff on, do not disturb, has messages muted, has 390 00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:41,680 Speaker 1: wild incognito windows everywhere on every device and ship. Let 391 00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:45,800 Speaker 1: me see what else. Um, Yeah, his stories just don't 392 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:48,040 Speaker 1: seem to match up. Don't give him the benefit of 393 00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:51,800 Speaker 1: the doubt. He's lying. Yeah, he's likely, he's a liar. 394 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:53,840 Speaker 1: I think a good A good thing is to just 395 00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:56,480 Speaker 1: assume that he's lying. Assume that he's lying. Let's start there. 396 00:21:56,520 --> 00:21:59,040 Speaker 1: Whatever I start talking to a new guy, I always 397 00:21:59,040 --> 00:22:01,320 Speaker 1: assume that he has a secret family and a wife. 398 00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:04,320 Speaker 1: I just start there because then I can only it 399 00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:08,600 Speaker 1: can the news can only get better if he doesn't. Historically, 400 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:11,200 Speaker 1: that's what's happened. Right, We have all of us dated 401 00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:15,639 Speaker 1: these people that have had secret double lives. I just 402 00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:23,720 Speaker 1: triggered myself. Lord, alright, if I listen, people, listen, everyone like, 403 00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:27,320 Speaker 1: come closer, come closer, listen, tell us well, and tell 404 00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:31,840 Speaker 1: us warm your ears by this fire. Listen. Nearly every 405 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:36,440 Speaker 1: fucking woman that I know has dated multiple guys who 406 00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:40,359 Speaker 1: ended up having a newborn baby somewhere, a fiancee somewhere, 407 00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:44,000 Speaker 1: a pregnant wife or girlfriend somewhere, us a live a 408 00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:46,439 Speaker 1: live at home, a stay at home significant other. The 409 00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:50,639 Speaker 1: list goes on and motherfucking on to this day. Bitch, 410 00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:54,720 Speaker 1: to this day, it's a mess out there. So when 411 00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:57,840 Speaker 1: we talk about like a good signs bad signs, I say, 412 00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:04,399 Speaker 1: proceed with caution on I mean, okay, not to scare you, 413 00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:06,400 Speaker 1: to scare you, so good signs. I'm going to hear 414 00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:13,879 Speaker 1: some good signs. Has a job. Um, let's see taxes. Um. Okay. 415 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:18,080 Speaker 1: When I first started dating my man, I knew that 416 00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:20,639 Speaker 1: I wanted to make you my man good. Yes, good, 417 00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:23,600 Speaker 1: because I felt like he Um. I did obviously, of 418 00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:26,920 Speaker 1: course proceeded with caution. I wasn't like trying to get 419 00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:29,639 Speaker 1: to invest it in this person too early on. But 420 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:33,679 Speaker 1: I knew that there was something different about him, you know. 421 00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:37,040 Speaker 1: And this was also like my first real real relationship 422 00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:40,880 Speaker 1: with a man. They hit man. So I was really 423 00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:43,000 Speaker 1: confused the whole time, you know. I was just like, 424 00:23:43,040 --> 00:23:44,560 Speaker 1: I don't get that this is all new. I felt 425 00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:46,879 Speaker 1: like I was sixteen, you know what I mean, like confusing. 426 00:23:46,960 --> 00:23:50,359 Speaker 1: It was very confusing. Um. And I don't know. A 427 00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:53,600 Speaker 1: good sign Um, if they take you around your their friends, 428 00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:57,680 Speaker 1: I think that's a good sign because they're not hiding you, right. 429 00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:03,320 Speaker 1: If they If they take you to work events like 430 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:06,040 Speaker 1: my man has, you know, works for the city so 431 00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,159 Speaker 1: like I go to some work events stuff, you know, like, 432 00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:09,840 Speaker 1: I don't know if they're trying to keep these like 433 00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:13,720 Speaker 1: really clear divisions and not including you in their life. 434 00:24:13,720 --> 00:24:16,840 Speaker 1: I think that that's early on. I think that that's 435 00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:19,240 Speaker 1: a bad sign. I think that's a bad sign. I 436 00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:21,280 Speaker 1: went back to the bad signs. So they're doing it, 437 00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:24,080 Speaker 1: then that's a good sign. Okay, Good Signs, Good signs. 438 00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:27,600 Speaker 1: Good Signs is respectful of your time. Yes, UM is 439 00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:32,639 Speaker 1: supportive of your career and educational like goals, pace for dinner, 440 00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:35,000 Speaker 1: pays for dinner, pace for dates, pay for date, picks 441 00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:37,959 Speaker 1: you up, picks you up. Is not stingy all that 442 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:43,320 Speaker 1: good stuff. UM compliments you, compliments you, does not compare 443 00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:47,040 Speaker 1: you good good if he doesn't compare you to his 444 00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:52,560 Speaker 1: previous situation, right right, right? And I think also UM, 445 00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:55,479 Speaker 1: for me, what was difficult is that my my partner 446 00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:59,520 Speaker 1: isn't word of affirmations are not his thing. I remember this, right, 447 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,800 Speaker 1: So life for us was like we really had to 448 00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:05,080 Speaker 1: work at it, really had to work at it. But 449 00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:08,199 Speaker 1: that was like something I was willing to invest in, 450 00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:11,280 Speaker 1: like how do we both learn how to love each other? 451 00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:17,199 Speaker 1: Absolutely Good Signs is willing to hear about feminism and 452 00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:19,800 Speaker 1: is willing to hear about men being trash in plain 453 00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:24,560 Speaker 1: language without getting um, you know, hysterical and throwing up 454 00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:28,800 Speaker 1: sucking tantrum right, important tantrums. That is also I think 455 00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:31,040 Speaker 1: another like question that we've got on a lot is 456 00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:33,920 Speaker 1: like how do I talk to my sis head boyfriend 457 00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:38,720 Speaker 1: about feminism? Like, I don't know, if they're not willing 458 00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:41,840 Speaker 1: to like talk about or listen to what you're going through, 459 00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:43,520 Speaker 1: I mean, that's not a good sign. That's not a 460 00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:47,199 Speaker 1: good sign, you know, Yeah, yeah, because it's not just 461 00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:49,800 Speaker 1: it's not just like, oh, feminism is like this theory. 462 00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:51,640 Speaker 1: I mean, it is a theory, but it's also our 463 00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:54,480 Speaker 1: lived experience. That's you know what I mean, Like day 464 00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:57,600 Speaker 1: to day, this is what we're experiencing. The street harassment, 465 00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:02,000 Speaker 1: the internet harassment, all of it, even like the very 466 00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:06,399 Speaker 1: subtle imgressions. Yeah, we can't escape it, you know, I 467 00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:09,280 Speaker 1: can't walk down the street. So if you're not willing 468 00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:11,359 Speaker 1: to hear about it, then well that's not a good sign. 469 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:14,840 Speaker 1: Then he doesn't care about your ass, bitch, Okay, but 470 00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:18,920 Speaker 1: we care about your asket all right. Um, let me 471 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:21,440 Speaker 1: see what else? What else? What else? What else? Because 472 00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:24,639 Speaker 1: I know that there's more. Um oh no, this just 473 00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:27,360 Speaker 1: reminds me so like the one time I went out 474 00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:31,359 Speaker 1: in North Hollywood, like I went with Melissa, And there's 475 00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:34,280 Speaker 1: a reason I don't date white guys, y'all. Oh my god, 476 00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:36,480 Speaker 1: I remember this story. Let me count the ways. I 477 00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:38,359 Speaker 1: don't know if I've shared this story on the podcast, 478 00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:41,159 Speaker 1: but share it again. It's a funny story. It's a 479 00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:44,080 Speaker 1: good story trauma. So I go, we go out to 480 00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:46,760 Speaker 1: the valley and this white man like comes up and 481 00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:49,280 Speaker 1: is buying his drinks and talking to us. First of all, 482 00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,359 Speaker 1: white men are on like some other ship. Because he 483 00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:55,520 Speaker 1: starts showing us his various like cryptocurrency apps and investments, 484 00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:58,200 Speaker 1: and he's like showing us his cryptocurrency stocks and ship. 485 00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:01,760 Speaker 1: And I'm like, what the fun is he on? Like? 486 00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:04,239 Speaker 1: And then, because I like to test the waters when 487 00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:06,639 Speaker 1: I'm talking to men that I don't know, I start 488 00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:09,679 Speaker 1: talking about men being trashed. I don't know how we 489 00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:13,040 Speaker 1: got on that subject. This white man took his white 490 00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:16,080 Speaker 1: hand and covered my mouth with his white hand. When 491 00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:19,159 Speaker 1: I said men are trash, he took his white hand 492 00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:22,600 Speaker 1: and covered my mouth with it. And it was some 493 00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:25,480 Speaker 1: wild ship. And this is why I don't date white guys. 494 00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:29,359 Speaker 1: So if he does that and physically silences you when 495 00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:33,360 Speaker 1: you talk about men being trashed, he's not the one, girl, right, 496 00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:36,600 Speaker 1: thank you for that question. All right, well that was 497 00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:42,040 Speaker 1: our ted talk um. Next question, this is our last question. Okay, 498 00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:45,320 Speaker 1: this one's important. You'll pay attention. How do you know 499 00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:48,960 Speaker 1: when a guy is no longer worth chasing? First of all, 500 00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:53,000 Speaker 1: don't chase men? Never worth chasing? Never ever? Ever? What 501 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:56,360 Speaker 1: is what is chasing me? Like? Pursuing them because they're 502 00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:59,679 Speaker 1: showing no interest in you? Because if that's the case, no, 503 00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:06,119 Speaker 1: or um, Because you know, these motherfucker's love attention and 504 00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:10,840 Speaker 1: they will dangle themselves. Men are little hussy's, bitch men 505 00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:14,760 Speaker 1: are little attention seeking hussy horrors. They are, you know, 506 00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:17,720 Speaker 1: and I know. I know because I am one too, 507 00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:21,159 Speaker 1: so I can identify the patterns of behavior when I 508 00:28:21,240 --> 00:28:25,040 Speaker 1: see them. So some sometimes these guys will instigate a 509 00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:30,240 Speaker 1: chase and they will dangle themselves. You do, girl, yes, 510 00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:33,480 Speaker 1: you do. Most of my friends they will instigate a chase, 511 00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:36,880 Speaker 1: and they will instigate like the conditions to get you 512 00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 1: to like fawn over them, and this set or the 513 00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:43,000 Speaker 1: other right and again. Next thing, you know, wife and 514 00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:46,160 Speaker 1: kids and the whole other ship. Right, don't chase them, ever, 515 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:49,720 Speaker 1: it's all a trap. Don't don't do it. I mean, 516 00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:52,440 Speaker 1: you can be bold and express interests and put your 517 00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:55,520 Speaker 1: intentions out there that That's what I did with current 518 00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,560 Speaker 1: Boom did with my partner. I will, like made it 519 00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:01,479 Speaker 1: very clear, these are my intentions. I want to date you. 520 00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:03,800 Speaker 1: I even kissed him first, because it's fool would not 521 00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:05,760 Speaker 1: kiss me because he was trying to be respectful, and 522 00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:09,280 Speaker 1: I was like, disrespect me, damn it, make out with 523 00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:13,480 Speaker 1: me already goad anyway. So I mean, like I was 524 00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:16,080 Speaker 1: very utter than the beginning of that relationship. Um, and 525 00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:19,520 Speaker 1: then I stepped back because I also needed to be wooed, 526 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:23,280 Speaker 1: you know, and like I am also you know, the gold. 527 00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:25,840 Speaker 1: I am the prize. You know, you get to date me. 528 00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:28,560 Speaker 1: You're very lucky, you know, and that's important to remember, 529 00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:32,040 Speaker 1: Like you're the commodity, not that you're an object, but 530 00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:35,560 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like they're really lucky to 531 00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:38,680 Speaker 1: have you. Whoever this person is, just remember that you 532 00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:41,760 Speaker 1: are the prize, you know. And so I think it's 533 00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:45,040 Speaker 1: sometimes it's just better to like sit it out and 534 00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:48,240 Speaker 1: just chill. You know and let it come to you 535 00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:51,600 Speaker 1: because it will. They will find you. They always do, 536 00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:57,000 Speaker 1: they always do. Yeah, speaking of um, my man finally 537 00:29:57,000 --> 00:29:59,440 Speaker 1: paid for my nails finally, I'm like you must have 538 00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:06,040 Speaker 1: listened to because we were talking about nail sponsors. So 539 00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:12,360 Speaker 1: that leads us to our next segments vision. So we 540 00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:15,440 Speaker 1: are now needing to get on the same nail cycle, right. 541 00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:18,800 Speaker 1: We need our menstrual cycles to match up, and our 542 00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:21,239 Speaker 1: nail cycles also need to sync up, right. I mean 543 00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:24,400 Speaker 1: we're both on birth control, so that would happened awkward, right, 544 00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:27,600 Speaker 1: but this is the only cycle that we can get 545 00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:32,239 Speaker 1: to sync up right now, right is so what are 546 00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:37,040 Speaker 1: you doing today with? Okay? So today I am doing, um, 547 00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:39,840 Speaker 1: a nude. I wanted something you know, sometimes like a 548 00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:43,560 Speaker 1: really pretty nude can be really sexy, you know. So 549 00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:47,560 Speaker 1: I got my claws beautiful shaped, you know, so they're 550 00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:49,640 Speaker 1: even points here them before and I really liked them. 551 00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:52,320 Speaker 1: And then I also got some jewels. They're adorable. Um 552 00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:56,360 Speaker 1: it's like a subtle but still kind of flashy look, 553 00:30:56,960 --> 00:30:58,960 Speaker 1: you know. And I so the women that did my nails, 554 00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:02,200 Speaker 1: she's also at the Wittier Beauty Collective and her I 555 00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:05,960 Speaker 1: g is clawed by Jojo and she does bomb mass nails. 556 00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:09,640 Speaker 1: They're gorgeous and they do look very pointy. They're very sharp. 557 00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:12,960 Speaker 1: I'm really happy with Yeah, I got mine. They're not 558 00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:14,720 Speaker 1: quite as fresh as I would like them to be. 559 00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:16,520 Speaker 1: I got them about a week ago. But I did 560 00:31:16,800 --> 00:31:21,120 Speaker 1: like a Matt Matt salmon. Yeah. I like the Matt too. 561 00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,840 Speaker 1: This is my first time getting Matt and I'm into 562 00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:26,120 Speaker 1: them and I really like the color. They're a salmon. 563 00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:29,520 Speaker 1: I did a simple nail this time because last time 564 00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:33,240 Speaker 1: I had like flex the flex. Yeah, So I like 565 00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:38,160 Speaker 1: going to gloss on Sunset Yessica's spots. She recommended me there. 566 00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:40,080 Speaker 1: And it was funny because when I sat down and 567 00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:42,760 Speaker 1: got this set done, the tech who was doing my nails, 568 00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:45,880 Speaker 1: she goes, oh, your friend, yesgo was here yesterday. So 569 00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:49,600 Speaker 1: we talked about yes ago though. It was cute. Yes, perfect. 570 00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:56,680 Speaker 1: So this has been vision vision alright, So, um, we 571 00:31:56,800 --> 00:32:08,200 Speaker 1: are going to go into a songbreak or and and 572 00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:15,640 Speaker 1: and and and and and and and and and and 573 00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:35,760 Speaker 1: and and and and and and um um um um 574 00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:46,120 Speaker 1: um um um um um of it and ship. So 575 00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:49,760 Speaker 1: there's a lot that's been going on out in the world. Um, 576 00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,080 Speaker 1: today we're gonna do a little bit more pop culture 577 00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:54,680 Speaker 1: analysis than we usually do. We don't have a guest 578 00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:58,920 Speaker 1: or really like a super specific theme for today, but 579 00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:01,040 Speaker 1: some things have been going on in the world that 580 00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:03,400 Speaker 1: you know. Of course, we can talk about as far 581 00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:07,120 Speaker 1: as like multidimensional host ship look up pistemology ship, victim 582 00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:10,320 Speaker 1: blaming survivor center type ship. So I think something that's 583 00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:14,320 Speaker 1: on everybody's mind is the situation with Jordan Woods and 584 00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:18,000 Speaker 1: the Kardashians and Tristan Thompson and all that bullshit. So 585 00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:20,480 Speaker 1: I just want to say that we are a team 586 00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:24,320 Speaker 1: Jordan Would. We're in support of Jordan's um. She's a 587 00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:28,120 Speaker 1: young woman, twenty one years old. From my understanding, I 588 00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:30,440 Speaker 1: watched a couple of clips of that Red Table talk 589 00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:33,360 Speaker 1: that Jordan did with Jada Pinkett, and based on Jordan's 590 00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:35,520 Speaker 1: first of all, she look gorgeous. She looks so good, 591 00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:40,200 Speaker 1: makeup was flawless. Jordan's beautiful. She's very beautiful. Number one UM, 592 00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:41,640 Speaker 1: and I hope she gets a lot of work from 593 00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:44,240 Speaker 1: the Scandal tvh Like, I hope she gets hired because 594 00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:46,040 Speaker 1: you already know that they're going to try and black 595 00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:48,480 Speaker 1: ball her. Oh yeah, they will, So I hope she 596 00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:50,920 Speaker 1: flips it and makes it work for her, and I 597 00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:54,040 Speaker 1: hope that Jordan's like lands on her feet and creates 598 00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:57,280 Speaker 1: her own brand independent of the Kardashians after this. This 599 00:33:57,360 --> 00:34:00,320 Speaker 1: is maybe the break that she needed, end of a 600 00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:07,240 Speaker 1: toxic friendship. There's a theme the friendship. Yeah, there you go. 601 00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:11,720 Speaker 1: But according to Jordan Woods, her accounting of what happened 602 00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:17,279 Speaker 1: that fateful night at Tristan Thompson's home, that everyone had 603 00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:19,200 Speaker 1: been drinking, blah blah blah blah blah, She's on her 604 00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:23,160 Speaker 1: way out leaving the place, and that Tristan Thompson went 605 00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:26,359 Speaker 1: up and like kissed her and she wasn't expecting it, 606 00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:28,960 Speaker 1: she wasn't asking for it. It's not something that had 607 00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:31,680 Speaker 1: happened before. It's not something she was looking for. So 608 00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:34,880 Speaker 1: when I hear that description, I hear, uh, like she 609 00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:37,640 Speaker 1: was sexually her asked or kissed without her consent. She's 610 00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:40,600 Speaker 1: much younger than him, he's much older than her. She 611 00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:43,320 Speaker 1: had been drinking, and I'm not here for the victim 612 00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:47,960 Speaker 1: blaming shit right, no, right, And you know, um kim Alan, 613 00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:53,720 Speaker 1: my favorite like fem scholar, artists, writer, everything she tweeted 614 00:34:53,800 --> 00:34:56,080 Speaker 1: and I wanted to read this, she tweeted. Jada Pinkett 615 00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:59,319 Speaker 1: handled the conversation with so much grace and forgiveness, the 616 00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:02,160 Speaker 1: kind that is usually only afforded when white boys commit 617 00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:05,239 Speaker 1: actual crimes. She made a point to remind Jordan that 618 00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:07,600 Speaker 1: she has loved, she has family, and this is not 619 00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:10,960 Speaker 1: all that will define her. And I think that's really important, 620 00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:15,080 Speaker 1: especially for black women. Right. The Kardashians have profited, made 621 00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:20,480 Speaker 1: an entire empire off of like taking the black culture. Yeah, 622 00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:23,640 Speaker 1: this actual black woman is being harassed, sent death threats, 623 00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:26,279 Speaker 1: her sister can't go to school, her mom can't go 624 00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:28,839 Speaker 1: to work. I don't know what I mean, like over 625 00:35:28,920 --> 00:35:34,840 Speaker 1: a kiss. Right, And then folks are also blaming um 626 00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:38,080 Speaker 1: the end of the Chloe's marriage with Tristan, when we 627 00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:40,520 Speaker 1: know that that's not that was not the end. You know, 628 00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:43,200 Speaker 1: this was not the marker that defined the end of 629 00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:47,640 Speaker 1: their relationship. Now and Chloe, my dear, my sweetie, you 630 00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:52,600 Speaker 1: lose him how you got Yes, let there be a 631 00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:56,880 Speaker 1: lesson for everybody, and you will lose him the exact 632 00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:58,759 Speaker 1: same way that you got on. Sweetheart, you are not 633 00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:01,399 Speaker 1: the exception. He's not going to change for you. That 634 00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:05,799 Speaker 1: fairy tale does not exist. Don't believe the hype. You 635 00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:10,319 Speaker 1: took him from his pregnant like girlfriend fiance. Right, This 636 00:36:10,360 --> 00:36:13,440 Speaker 1: is his pattern, This is what he does. This is 637 00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:17,000 Speaker 1: his m O. Right, so we can't expect anything else. 638 00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:18,719 Speaker 1: Going back to what are the good signs and the 639 00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:22,960 Speaker 1: bad signs? If he leaves his pregnant fiance to be 640 00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:25,759 Speaker 1: with you, that's bad. He will do that to you. 641 00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:29,279 Speaker 1: He will do that to you, guaranteed. Just don't wait 642 00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:33,279 Speaker 1: for it to happen to you. Right. So, anyway, pro 643 00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:36,879 Speaker 1: Jordan's Jordan, I'm in support of Jordan. I'm not here 644 00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:39,320 Speaker 1: for any of the bashing of her, the victim blaming. 645 00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:42,600 Speaker 1: She didn't do anything wrong. In my opinion, Jordan Woods 646 00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:45,600 Speaker 1: did nothing wrong and she didn't deserve this backlash. Well, okay, 647 00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:47,440 Speaker 1: so I guess I have been following it, and it's 648 00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:49,799 Speaker 1: so funny because yesterday I don't know. I'm also not 649 00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:53,759 Speaker 1: a Kardashian follower fan. I don't even follow any of 650 00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:56,920 Speaker 1: them on social media. You know what, if you do whatever, 651 00:36:57,400 --> 00:36:59,719 Speaker 1: But I have been following this, and probably because Jordan 652 00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:01,279 Speaker 1: would is in it, and I actually had never heard 653 00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:03,879 Speaker 1: of her until this all happened. But I was at 654 00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:06,719 Speaker 1: so for her. Yesterday and the women were talking about it. 655 00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:08,319 Speaker 1: The makeup artists were like, I don't know why I'm 656 00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:10,480 Speaker 1: so invested in this drama, but I've been following it. 657 00:37:10,760 --> 00:37:14,879 Speaker 1: Everyone around me has been talking about it everyone, So 658 00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:18,280 Speaker 1: I think I think that's also why we wanted to say, like, 659 00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:21,480 Speaker 1: you know, we support Jordan Woods, and like people are 660 00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:23,520 Speaker 1: really going to try and drag her through the mud. 661 00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:27,000 Speaker 1: And it's so much easier when it's a woman of color, 662 00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:30,319 Speaker 1: especially a black woman, to just try and tarnish her 663 00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:34,279 Speaker 1: name and her reputation, like ruin her. And we had 664 00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:37,080 Speaker 1: we've talked about this in depth. We have an entire 665 00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:42,120 Speaker 1: episode about and this sort of pathologizing that happens when 666 00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:44,759 Speaker 1: you are classified and put into the spot of being 667 00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:48,480 Speaker 1: the other woman or the mistress. It is this marginalized 668 00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:52,400 Speaker 1: like social positioning. We can talk about Monica Lewinsky, we 669 00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:54,920 Speaker 1: can talk about all these different women historically who have 670 00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:58,480 Speaker 1: just been trashed and just thrown, you know, dragged through 671 00:37:58,480 --> 00:38:01,680 Speaker 1: the mud, like you're saying, their involvement with an ancient 672 00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:04,120 Speaker 1: man who was doing something he was not supposed to 673 00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:08,040 Speaker 1: be doing to begin with, the blame is always placed 674 00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:11,680 Speaker 1: on that woman and this is just another instance, you know, 675 00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:14,120 Speaker 1: and history repeats itself, and it's just so wild that 676 00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:17,560 Speaker 1: like we love falling into this, like we love throwing 677 00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:20,799 Speaker 1: stones at like a wayward woman that we think did 678 00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:25,040 Speaker 1: something she wasn't supposed to do. It's like this like 679 00:38:25,239 --> 00:38:28,680 Speaker 1: social sport that we engage in, and it's fucked up. 680 00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:30,640 Speaker 1: I'm not here for it. I think. Also, we like 681 00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:32,719 Speaker 1: love a villain, and we love when the villain is 682 00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:36,400 Speaker 1: a beautiful woman. You know. I think any any opportunity 683 00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:39,880 Speaker 1: to really like tear a woman down, we will see 684 00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:44,200 Speaker 1: social media do it at all levels, like women doing it, 685 00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:47,440 Speaker 1: men doing it, of course, men doing it, like calling 686 00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:49,840 Speaker 1: her a hoe, calling her all kinds of names. Any 687 00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:54,319 Speaker 1: opportunity to really be a misogynist, they'll take it, take it, 688 00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:59,759 Speaker 1: you know. So there, so there, I think, um, And 689 00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:02,720 Speaker 1: I wanted to say something. I've heard some people saying 690 00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:06,840 Speaker 1: things like Jordan's like, oh so much to the Kardashians, 691 00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:11,040 Speaker 1: because as if like Jordan's is like poor and impoverished 692 00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:14,480 Speaker 1: when she comes from like an elite black family and 693 00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:18,920 Speaker 1: comes from her own like wealth separately and apart from 694 00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:22,160 Speaker 1: the Kardashians, which I think was also so I really 695 00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:25,840 Speaker 1: liked the way Jada framed the conversation of like we're 696 00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:29,239 Speaker 1: still we're your family, and like we're here to protect you, 697 00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:32,319 Speaker 1: and like, you know, let's be honest, and you know, 698 00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:34,640 Speaker 1: we've all made mistakes. And I love that Jada said, 699 00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:37,160 Speaker 1: like I have been there in one way or another, 700 00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:40,200 Speaker 1: you know, because we've all done something shady at some 701 00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:45,520 Speaker 1: point in our lives, especially a sucking twenty one. Let 702 00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:47,359 Speaker 1: me not even I don't even want to get into it. 703 00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:51,879 Speaker 1: I can't get into it for legal reason. Literally we 704 00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:54,759 Speaker 1: shall not get on record and not talking about that, 705 00:39:55,440 --> 00:40:01,360 Speaker 1: but nice try, right. I think also like the Kardashian family, 706 00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:04,839 Speaker 1: like we've talked about them before when we have our 707 00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:08,200 Speaker 1: don't leak my nudes episode, like Rob Kardashian leaking Black 708 00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:12,719 Speaker 1: China's New you know, like they're not like some holier 709 00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:17,600 Speaker 1: than now family, you know that, like poor me, I 710 00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:19,919 Speaker 1: don't feel bad for them. I don't look at them 711 00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:23,600 Speaker 1: as like upstanding members of the community that are like 712 00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:27,680 Speaker 1: an example of ethical and moral behavior at all by 713 00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:31,880 Speaker 1: any stretch of the imagination. It's really fucking weird. Anyways, 714 00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:36,560 Speaker 1: um x out, Chloe, You're being a dumb bitch. I'm 715 00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:40,280 Speaker 1: just saying it's not cute. It's too much. It's not cute, 716 00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:43,239 Speaker 1: and it's not cute. Get your man, No, don't get 717 00:40:43,239 --> 00:40:48,400 Speaker 1: your man. Believe him, you know, get your kid. Keep going, like, 718 00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:52,000 Speaker 1: stop trying to bring this young girl. You know you 719 00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:54,400 Speaker 1: can send down. You can send out a public tweet 720 00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:58,000 Speaker 1: talking about your cheating husband. She did, actually she did. 721 00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:00,520 Speaker 1: I actually saw it this morning because she shared it. 722 00:41:01,040 --> 00:41:04,680 Speaker 1: She said, what's this is? This morning? Literally March second. 723 00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:07,040 Speaker 1: What's been harder and more painful is being hurt by 724 00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:09,879 Speaker 1: someone so close to me, someone who whom I love 725 00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:12,440 Speaker 1: and treat like a little sister. But Jordan's is not 726 00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:14,600 Speaker 1: to be blamed for the breakup of my family. This 727 00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:18,560 Speaker 1: was Tristan Well, good b thank you for acknowledging. Yeah, 728 00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:21,520 Speaker 1: because people were tweeting at her yesterday because she tweeted 729 00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:28,640 Speaker 1: something stupid, so she had to come and correct herself backpedal. Lord. Yeah, 730 00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:33,000 Speaker 1: the drama. It's true. It's also like a obviously like 731 00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:35,480 Speaker 1: a large scale example. This is a very public thing 732 00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:39,800 Speaker 1: that happened. But literally like your partner, you know, you 733 00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:42,120 Speaker 1: being married him and having a kid with with him, 734 00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:45,759 Speaker 1: with whomever this partner is, and then like cheating on 735 00:41:45,800 --> 00:41:48,880 Speaker 1: you like, it's a very real example. It's happened to us, 736 00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:50,759 Speaker 1: it's happened to our mom's, it's happened to someone in 737 00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:53,279 Speaker 1: our family, our friends, you know what I mean. And 738 00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:58,120 Speaker 1: the woman is not to be blamed really truly, it's 739 00:41:58,120 --> 00:42:03,040 Speaker 1: not her fault, you know. Yeah, now, yes, yes, absolutely, 740 00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:05,640 Speaker 1: because she didn't make the wedding value. She's not in 741 00:42:05,680 --> 00:42:07,400 Speaker 1: a relationship. Like if you really want to get mad 742 00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:09,160 Speaker 1: at someone, you need to get mad at the person 743 00:42:09,200 --> 00:42:12,239 Speaker 1: who actually betrayed you and broke your trust and had 744 00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:15,319 Speaker 1: an agreement with you. We can have our feelings, you 745 00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:19,640 Speaker 1: know about the folks that are significant others leave us 746 00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:22,360 Speaker 1: for We can have those feelings, your internal to your feelings. 747 00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:26,520 Speaker 1: But why the public dragging, Why the scarlet letter? Why right? 748 00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:32,080 Speaker 1: Why any home? Go Jordan's I'm here for you and 749 00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:37,200 Speaker 1: you look great, girl, she does look great. So this 750 00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:43,799 Speaker 1: has been another has been a we're wrapping up now, 751 00:42:43,880 --> 00:42:47,359 Speaker 1: we are wrapping up. We have said a lot today today, 752 00:42:47,400 --> 00:42:50,399 Speaker 1: thank you for listening. So we wanted to end with 753 00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:54,680 Speaker 1: some March announcements. We have a lot of stuff happening. Yes, 754 00:42:54,880 --> 00:43:00,960 Speaker 1: so we have our Sun Valley Library Branch workshop. Sorry 755 00:43:01,040 --> 00:43:09,040 Speaker 1: to pull the date one on. So on March fourteenth, 756 00:43:09,200 --> 00:43:11,399 Speaker 1: we will have our Sun Value Workshop at five thirty 757 00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:15,359 Speaker 1: pm and that is actually a three part series. So 758 00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:19,560 Speaker 1: we will be having three workshops at Sun Valley Library 759 00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:22,000 Speaker 1: Branch and that will be the first of three and 760 00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:26,240 Speaker 1: that's podcasting one oh one, So unlike the other library 761 00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:28,759 Speaker 1: branch podcasting one o one workshops, that one is going 762 00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:32,040 Speaker 1: to be broken up, so it's going to be sequential, right, 763 00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:34,160 Speaker 1: so you can come to the first workshop and get 764 00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:37,240 Speaker 1: the first piece of information and then the second workshop 765 00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:39,799 Speaker 1: is a follow up and continuing the info. Right, So 766 00:43:39,880 --> 00:43:42,239 Speaker 1: planned to come to all three. We will post all 767 00:43:42,280 --> 00:43:44,960 Speaker 1: three dates um and we're gonna teach you how to 768 00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:48,279 Speaker 1: build your podcast in chunks like that, so please join us. 769 00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:51,680 Speaker 1: It's going to be cute. And then the following day, Friday, 770 00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:56,400 Speaker 1: March fift we are going to FEMC at the Echo, 771 00:43:56,680 --> 00:44:01,080 Speaker 1: so we're really excited. It's their Women of Gumbia events, 772 00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:05,240 Speaker 1: their takeover and we love this party with them seed 773 00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:08,759 Speaker 1: this you know Women's Takeover at once before and it 774 00:44:08,880 --> 00:44:11,360 Speaker 1: was a good fucking time and we cannot wait for 775 00:44:12,360 --> 00:44:15,080 Speaker 1: so much fun. It's going to be amazing. Their lineup 776 00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:18,680 Speaker 1: is incredible, so they are going to be featuring different 777 00:44:18,719 --> 00:44:21,640 Speaker 1: DJs from across the U s So DJ ben Bona 778 00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:25,680 Speaker 1: from New York is so fucking amazing, Gracie Chavis from 779 00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:30,120 Speaker 1: the House, our favorite l A, DJ Sizzle, Fantastic, Funky Garamello, 780 00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:34,440 Speaker 1: Killed by Synth, and our resident DJ Zuti We're really excited, 781 00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:38,359 Speaker 1: and a live performance by It's gonna be a night, 782 00:44:38,480 --> 00:44:39,800 Speaker 1: it's going to be an event. It's going to be 783 00:44:39,800 --> 00:44:42,319 Speaker 1: an occasion. We're gonna go and party and have a 784 00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:45,560 Speaker 1: good time. Start planning your outfits. Start planning your outfits, 785 00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:48,920 Speaker 1: bring your friends, think about what you want to drink. 786 00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:52,680 Speaker 1: There's going to be vendors come ready to shake your ass. 787 00:44:53,080 --> 00:44:55,399 Speaker 1: It's going to be cute, you know. Also, the last 788 00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:59,280 Speaker 1: we don't really remember. We don't really remember their December 789 00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:02,279 Speaker 1: one there, but that's all right. That's how that was 790 00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:06,400 Speaker 1: sent off. I didn't necessarily want to remember, right right 791 00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:10,200 Speaker 1: right right right. So that's what you need. This is 792 00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:12,480 Speaker 1: the party for you, the party for you. So much 793 00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:16,399 Speaker 1: is so much fun. Definitely roll through, get your crew, 794 00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:22,240 Speaker 1: get your home girls. Ye is my safe space, yes absolutely, yeah, alright, 795 00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:25,560 Speaker 1: so so so um. Once again. You can follow us 796 00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:31,000 Speaker 1: on Instagram on Twitter, We're on Facebook, We're on YouTube. Um, 797 00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:34,520 Speaker 1: we're across platforms. You can listen to us on Spotify, 798 00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:40,200 Speaker 1: on Apple, podcasts, on audio Boom, Subscribe, like, follow, comment, share, 799 00:45:40,400 --> 00:45:42,600 Speaker 1: all that good stuff. You know what to do exactly 800 00:45:42,719 --> 00:45:46,680 Speaker 1: the venmo. Yes, alrighty, so we will catch you next time. 801 00:45:46,719 --> 00:45:47,480 Speaker 1: Look on what is