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Speaker 1: I've been noticing on social media it's not even women

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Speaker 1: women are sort of portrayed as these like weaklings. Like

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Speaker 1: everything on social media is like he didn't call you,

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Speaker 1: do this, he ghosted you, blah blah blah, match his energy,

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Speaker 1: Like can we just fuck all that? Can we scratch

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Speaker 1: all that and scrap that? Like why aren't they saying

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Speaker 2: This is what you do? How do you know she

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Speaker 2: likes you? Or always like he do you know he

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Speaker 1: And it's always like the loser guy, like that show

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Speaker 1: tell me lies that like cretent guy who has shifty,

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Speaker 1: beady eyes, who you know, has a crazy fucking mother,

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Speaker 1: not that I can't relate to that, who's like not wealthy,

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Speaker 1: doesn't treat her well, like cheats everywhere. That's the trick guy.

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Speaker 1: I invented that a long time ago Housewives. The trick guy,

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Speaker 1: the guy that, like you think because he's like a

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Speaker 1: little off and a little homely, but he's just gonna

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Speaker 1: be so into me. That's the guy who didn't get

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Speaker 1: laid in high school and has something to prove. That's

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Speaker 1: all the finance, hedge fund guys that were dorks but

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Speaker 1: smart that now have a lot of money. All the

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Speaker 1: tech guys with the hoodies that have money. Those are

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Speaker 1: the trick guys. It's like, not the good looking guys.

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Speaker 1: They're gonna fuck you sideways. So stop with this, like

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Speaker 1: everything's cow telling to them. Run your own shit.

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Speaker 2: That's it. There's no why didn't they text you back?

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Speaker 1: There's no And you can always get the ball back, Okay,

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Speaker 1: Can I just tell you can always get the ball back.

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Speaker 1: I had a situation where someone would like not respond

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Speaker 1: or not text for hours, like they'd text you and

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Speaker 1: then you text them right back, and then they don't

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Speaker 1: respond for hours, and now you're like wait a minute,

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Speaker 1: and you're you know, then the minute they text you again,

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Speaker 1: it's called you get.

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Speaker 2: One shot, baby. This is M and M on eight Mile.

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Speaker 2: You get one shot.

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Speaker 1: You text me, I text you, you don't text me back,

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Speaker 1: You're fucking fired for days, like you're done. I don't

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Speaker 1: even know you exist, I don't have f I don't

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Speaker 1: know you alive. And that's getting the ball back. There

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Speaker 1: have been times where I felt a little like not gravelly,

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Speaker 1: but like I don't have the ball, like I have

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Speaker 1: texted them, or maybe you've texted twice and then they

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Speaker 1: haven't responded, and then you'd be like, Hi, I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 1: so sorry.

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Speaker 2: Was with my kid? Was doing this? My dog ate

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Speaker 2: my homework.

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Speaker 1: And that's when I'll say something like guess what, and

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Speaker 1: then I won't even finish my thought.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't even intentional, is it? Guess what?

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Speaker 1: You don't deserve to fucking no, guess what? And like

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Speaker 1: that's it. And then I'll go five days a week,

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Speaker 1: a month, a year, forever, I'll be in the ground.

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Speaker 1: You'd be putting me in the box, dirt on top

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Speaker 1: of me. I didn't fucking doesn't matter be a mystery.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't act in a way where they're saying what

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Speaker 1: the fuck is going on with her? Not where you're

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Speaker 1: just running around like with your tongue panting hitting the

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Speaker 1: ground because of all your worries about what they're doing

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Speaker 2: You're the prize, but you literally are.

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Speaker 1: They're creating fucking animals with their hands down their pants

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Speaker 1: holding a goddamn remote. It's not that interesting. And everyone

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Speaker 1: I know has one sitting next to them, snoring, holding

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Speaker 1: the route with the remote with their hands down their pants.

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Speaker 1: Football is religion growing out like eating food, gross smacking

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Speaker 1: their food. They're dirty, they're disgusting, they're hairy. They don't

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Speaker 1: know how to man escape, or they may escape too much,

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Speaker 1: like enough basta. Don't be the one that is like

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Speaker 1: reacting to what the fuck they're doing. If they're a god. Listen,

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Speaker 1: if Chris Appleton calls me up and says, I'm no

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Speaker 1: longer gay, I go to your church now, let's go. No,

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Speaker 1: even still, even still, I'm still gonna fucking match his energy.

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Speaker 1: He's not gonna run the goddamn show. I dated An

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Speaker 1: Adonis years ago. My team used to call an Adonis

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Speaker 1: and Adonis he was a fucking half a dope and

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Speaker 1: I dumped him. It was a thousand times better looking

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Speaker 1: there's nobody. So yes, I dated An Adonis. Okay, I've

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Speaker 1: gone out with the best looking guys, the richest guys,

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Speaker 1: the billionaires, all of them. They're all the fucking same.

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Speaker 1: One guy said I would rap the I would wrap

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Speaker 1: the mood in a bow for you, as he gave

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Speaker 1: me a five thousand dollars leak sculpture on our second day,

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Speaker 1: kicked his ass to the curb too. They're all the same,

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Speaker 1: so no one's gonna treat you like shit. You're not

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Speaker 1: gonna find one that like is such a good deal,

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Speaker 1: the ones that are gems, the ones that are gems,

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Speaker 1: like the ones that are such gems, like kissing your

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Speaker 1: ass every day. They're on their mom's teet half the time.

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Speaker 1: I've had the mom on the teat ones too. Nobody

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Speaker 1: gets out without paying the bill. No one's got a

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Speaker 1: perfect one. There's gonna be a problem. Oh, they treat

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Speaker 1: you like gold. They buy you diamonds and furs and

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Speaker 2: Guess what.

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Speaker 1: They're fucking mom's boys. They're on the mom's teeth. They're

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Speaker 1: sick all the time. They're sick all the time. They

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Speaker 1: have all these different ailments. They eat egg white almelets,

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Speaker 1: they eat fucking overnight. Oh, it's like enough enough, you're

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Speaker 1: the fucking prize. But get it through your head when

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Speaker 1: it has nothing to do with looks, It has nothing

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Speaker 1: to do with looks. I'll take on a girl half

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Speaker 1: my age all day, air day, and twice on Sunday, okay,

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Speaker 1: twice on Sunday. I'll fucking walk right into your church

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Speaker 1: and take you down. I don't care hold you are,

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Speaker 1: I don't care how hot you are. All the girls

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Speaker 1: are focused on what they look like, wrong road. Focus

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Speaker 1: on your personality, your intelligence, your attitude, and your electricity

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Speaker 1: and energy when you're in the room. That's what does it?

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Speaker 1: Your humor? So sick of girls being at the bottom

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Speaker 1: of the goddamn.

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Speaker 2: Bad when's he tech? What did he say?

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Speaker 1: He's doing that if he goes to you not me,

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Speaker 1: and then people making fun of themselves like oh, I

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Speaker 1: thought he sent me flowers, and then like but no,

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Speaker 1: instead this dried flower company sent it to me.

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Speaker 2: Woe is me? No fuck off? He didn't want you

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Speaker 2: didn't want flowers? Buy your fucking sell flowers? Got am

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Speaker 2: I on it today? And back to the dating. Are

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Speaker 2: we exclusive? What are you a goddamn dog asking? Are

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Speaker 2: we exclusive? You'll know when it's time.

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Speaker 1: You'll know, because I'm will get jealous enough for you

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Speaker 1: to be like, wait, why do you think we're not?

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Speaker 2: Like it's not gonna be like just out of the Blue.

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Speaker 1: Like one day, like we are you am I the

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Speaker 1: underwear and the jewey, but do not be a desperado. Okay,

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Speaker 1: run your own fucking rodeo. Okay, let's get something else

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Speaker 1: out of the way. All my mistakes are your gifts. Okay,

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Speaker 1: all my mistakes are your gifts. I was with alex

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Speaker 1: Or all this influencer the other day and she was like, wait,

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Speaker 1: just bring it all these nuggets. I'm like, yep, she does. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I've made every mistake. I was raised by wolves. I

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Speaker 1: was not given any direction. I had to just fucking

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Speaker 1: fumble my way through the entire game. Okay, so guess

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Speaker 1: what I will tell you for the seventy fifth time.

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Speaker 1: I may suck at relationships, which I actually don't anymore,

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Speaker 1: and I may suck at choosing. But no, maybe nobody's

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Speaker 1: bigger than the game, but I come close. I'm good

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Speaker 1: at the game. I'm good at the get. I'm good

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Speaker 1: at the gat. Not in a game like manipulation kind

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Speaker 1: of way.

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Speaker 2: I just mean good. I'm good at knowing.

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Speaker 1: So just like, it doesn't matter what age you are, okay,

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Speaker 1: from fourteen to ninety nine, I know what I'm talking about.

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Speaker 2: When it comes to like how to run your dating game. Okay, So.

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Speaker 1: Red flags are red flags. Pink flags are red flags.

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Speaker 1: You know when like you know, when you take a

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Speaker 1: sip of coconut water and it's got that faint pink tint,

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Speaker 1: it's a red flag. Any any flag, any flag, any

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Speaker 1: fifty shades of red and pink, blush ivory, any kind

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Speaker 1: of fucking flag is a red flag.

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Speaker 1: If you have to say the word flag, it doesn't

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Speaker 2: It's a flag.

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Speaker 1: If you feel something is wrong, it is very wrong.

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Speaker 1: If you feel something is wrong, it is very wrong.

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Speaker 1: If you don't know, yes, it's no. You got to

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Speaker 1: know this so you can dick around, fuck around and

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Speaker 1: say you can handle it. But cut bait. You feel

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Speaker 1: anything is wrong, something is wrong. There's no such thing

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Speaker 1: as communication styles. Matchmakers will be like, don't get into that.

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Speaker 1: If he doesn't text you to the next day, he's busy,

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Speaker 1: he's at work. Eh, wrong answer matchmakers.

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Speaker 2: False.

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Speaker 1: That's matchmakers that want to like keep their clients and

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Speaker 1: keep everyone happy and think everyone was a good match

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Speaker 1: and a good No. Immediately, no, absolutely no, this is

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Speaker 1: what text was invented for. Okay, it's not a coconut

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Speaker 1: with a string attaching the two coconuts taffs.

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Speaker 1: Text is for I'm texting you, texting me back within

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Speaker 1: a reasonable amount of time. You didn't have the phone

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Speaker 1: up your asshole. Because if your kid or your boss

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Speaker 1: or the guy with the billion dollar deal text you,

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Speaker 1: We just it's the communication style. I don't know, he's

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Speaker 1: it's not working. There's no there's no communication styles. Yes,

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Speaker 1: there can be some language, some words, some people can

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Speaker 1: be slightly awkward. It's called you're responsive where you're not.

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Speaker 1: And I will say it again. The most powerful people

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Speaker 1: in entertainment, in finance, and straight up billionaires by the

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Speaker 1: dozen respond immediately immediately. Very successful people respond immediately. Let

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Speaker 1: me give you some people that respond immediately. Mark Cuban

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Speaker 1: an immediate responder, Kevin O'Leary, Damon John a very close

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Speaker 1: to immediate responder. Dave Portnoy an immediate responder. Okay, I'm

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Speaker 1: thinking of a couple of billionaire women now that are

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Speaker 1: immediate responders. Yeah, someone's not responding. They ain't that into you,

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Speaker 1: So just know that. Okay, you can jedi mind fuck

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Speaker 1: them into being into you. Do whatever you want to do.

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Speaker 1: But commun munication styles is code for the guy. Is

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Speaker 1: if you're saying communication style, the person is into you,

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Speaker 1: just letting you know right now.

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Speaker 1: About their communication style, it means you're trying to dip

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Speaker 1: the shit in frosting.

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Speaker 2: Been there, done that.

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Speaker 1: People have to discuss more when they're unhappy in relationships

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Speaker 1: with their friend groups, with their peers, because the problem

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Speaker 1: is you discuss your unhappy and then they know, and

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Speaker 1: they'll bring things up and your word. It's like telling

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Speaker 1: knows and she's always a eye rolling and she hates him.

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Speaker 1: And that is a problem. But a worst problem is

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Speaker 1: not knowing how your friends and the people around you

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Speaker 1: really think because you're wrapped in bubble wrap and they

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Speaker 1: don't want to tell you the truth because your friends

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Speaker 1: know all your friends. Now, your family knows, your mother knows,

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Speaker 1: your sister knows, your coworkers know, everyone around you knows. Okay,

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Speaker 1: everyone knows. They're like, yeah, no, that's great, amazing, and

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Speaker 1: no they're not fucking jealous. Most of them are not jealous.

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Speaker 2: They just know.

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Speaker 1: They know that you're with that dick, and you're not

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Speaker 1: telling them because you also know you're with that dick

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Speaker 1: and you just want to let them. If you're gonna

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Speaker 1: do that, you should say, guess what. I know I'm

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Speaker 1: not ending up with him, and he's like a loser,

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Speaker 1: but I gotta flush this out and I got to

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Speaker 1: go through the process. I've done that with people, and

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Speaker 1: you say to people, I know he's and they'll then

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Speaker 1: listen and they'll validate. But you don't want your friends

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Speaker 1: to think you're a fucking dormat. You don't want people

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Speaker 1: around you to think you're some dormat. So at least

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Speaker 1: let them know, Hi, this is a proactive doormat discussion.

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Speaker 1: I know that I'm going through something right now. I'm

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Speaker 1: not ready to let this go. Maybe something else happened,

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Speaker 1: maybe it's a transition at work. Maybe you're stressed out.

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Speaker 1: I can't take this band aid off right now because

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Speaker 1: I can't emotionally deal with it. But I know I'm

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Speaker 1: dating a loser, Like say something, say something, see something,

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Speaker 1: say something. But your friends, know friends, your family, everybody

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Speaker 1: around you knows that you're dating a loser, so get

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Speaker 1: the fuck out or let your friends know that you're

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Speaker 1: gonna get the fuck out. And then you've said it

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Speaker 1: out loud and you've told people, and that's half the battle,

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Speaker 1: Like admitting you have a problem, being with a loser

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Speaker 1: is something you have to admit to others, and it

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Speaker 1: makes you actually less of a loser than people thinking

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Speaker 1: you're just a loser for being with a loser and

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Speaker 1: not even acknowledging or realizing it.