1 00:00:01,960 --> 00:00:08,080 Speaker 1: This is Unbreakable with Jay Glacier, a mental wealth podcast 2 00:00:08,760 --> 00:00:11,320 Speaker 1: build you from the inside out. 3 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:13,640 Speaker 2: Now here's Jay Glacier. 4 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:17,640 Speaker 1: Welcome into a Breakable mental Wealth podcast with Jay Glazer. 5 00:00:17,680 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 1: I'm Jay Glazer and well, this week we're gonna have 6 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 1: a special podcast. We have a return guest, and the 7 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 1: return guest it is her birthday, but it's also a 8 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:29,640 Speaker 1: return guest and one of the most popular guests we've 9 00:00:29,640 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 1: ever had is my lovely wife, Rosalie Glazer. 10 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:35,320 Speaker 2: Rosie Glazer, I'm a Rosie Tennyson. 11 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:38,639 Speaker 1: But the reason why we're having Rosie on again is 12 00:00:38,800 --> 00:00:44,120 Speaker 1: we've told Rosie's story, but so many of you have asked, hey, 13 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 1: can you give us a guide? 14 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 2: How did you find the love later in life? What 15 00:00:48,120 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 2: is it you two did to find a lot love in. 16 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: Your fifties and the outpouring of questions and I think 17 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:57,920 Speaker 1: hope that we've given people is fantastic. 18 00:00:58,280 --> 00:01:00,560 Speaker 2: But I said, you're right, let's give people guidebook. 19 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:02,600 Speaker 1: Let's give people a little taste of what we did, 20 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:04,840 Speaker 1: because there was a lot of work that. 21 00:01:04,959 --> 00:01:06,200 Speaker 2: Went into our journey. Right. 22 00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:10,639 Speaker 1: Yeah, So Rosie and I honor a honeymoon actually jotted 23 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 1: down a good fifteen things that we've done over the 24 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 1: last four years and in the past to get ourselves 25 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 1: into this position to find love and then get ourselves 26 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:24,960 Speaker 1: in a position where we don't screw up love and 27 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:27,800 Speaker 1: get ourselves in a position we take this love and 28 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 1: we've run with it to where we are right now. 29 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:32,119 Speaker 1: We're going to go back and forth on certain different things. 30 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 1: But first of all, thanks for coming back here on 31 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:35,080 Speaker 1: my podcast. And it was hard to get. 32 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 3: This guest, and this time I'm coming back as your wife, 33 00:01:38,640 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 3: which is super cool. And I just had a recent 34 00:01:42,200 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 3: name change. I'm changing my last name from Tennis andical Eazer, 35 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:48,560 Speaker 3: which is really never thought i'd be doing that, so 36 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:49,400 Speaker 3: that's really special. 37 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:50,280 Speaker 2: I love it. 38 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 1: It's great and just you know, again, a lot of 39 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 1: hard work went into this for the two of us 40 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:59,080 Speaker 1: to find love later on life. I never knew I 41 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 1: was capable of feeling this level of joy until Rosie. 42 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 1: Until this, I always thought that I'd sabotage everything. I 43 00:02:06,480 --> 00:02:09,519 Speaker 1: always thought that I would grow alone. And I think 44 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:12,519 Speaker 1: you also had kind of made it almost a decision 45 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:14,720 Speaker 1: right that, like, yeah, it's not going to happen, and 46 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 1: that's good. I'm just going to take care everybody else 47 00:02:16,320 --> 00:02:17,280 Speaker 1: in the world except for you. 48 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:17,679 Speaker 2: Yeah. 49 00:02:17,720 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 3: I had always been looking for it, but I just 50 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 3: was like I was waiting. I was waiting for the 51 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:25,880 Speaker 3: right person. But meanwhile I kept getting like older and older, 52 00:02:25,880 --> 00:02:27,680 Speaker 3: and then at some point I was like, oh my gosh, 53 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:30,239 Speaker 3: I'm like, you know, my fifties and I still haven't 54 00:02:30,240 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 3: found it. So it was really nice when I was 55 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:36,280 Speaker 3: found you, and I was just preparing myself. 56 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 2: All right, So let's. 57 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 1: Dive in here, right, We're going to go back and 58 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:40,840 Speaker 1: forth here, I think i'll kind of you want me 59 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:41,680 Speaker 1: to read back and forth? 60 00:02:41,840 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, right, So this is this isn't this isn't no order, okay, 61 00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 2: of how we fell in love. 62 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:51,440 Speaker 3: This is the one that I used for the principles 63 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:55,160 Speaker 3: that I used when I was single and looking for love. 64 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:58,160 Speaker 2: So first one here, good Rosie's okay. 65 00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 3: So when you're single, it's the perfect time to work 66 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:03,080 Speaker 3: on yourself so you could present the best version of 67 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:06,640 Speaker 3: yourself to him worker. Nothing would be worse than meeting 68 00:03:06,760 --> 00:03:09,240 Speaker 3: mister Wright or meeting the right person at the wrong time. 69 00:03:09,560 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 3: So change your situation by working on your body, your mind, 70 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:15,520 Speaker 3: your spirit, work on your self confidence so that when 71 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 3: the right person does come along, you're a more confident 72 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 3: and well rounded person, so you can attract yourself me 73 00:03:21,080 --> 00:03:21,480 Speaker 3: right now. 74 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:23,240 Speaker 2: So let's kind of expand on that here. 75 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:26,639 Speaker 1: I think a lot of people look again, Rosie and 76 00:03:26,720 --> 00:03:29,360 Speaker 1: I what she's talking about here. In the past, I 77 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:31,400 Speaker 1: would to sabotage everything, but I went and did so 78 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:33,520 Speaker 1: much work, and Rosie and I broke up at one 79 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:36,960 Speaker 1: point early on. She was you know, Rosie's for people 80 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 1: who don't know, she's an entrepreneur. She's owned thirty clothing 81 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:42,440 Speaker 1: stores brick and mortar, and during COVID that was a 82 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 1: really hard time and she had to go save a 83 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 1: lot of brick and mortar stores, and at the time 84 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:49,200 Speaker 1: was really hard for me. But the best thing that 85 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: ever happened was because I wasn't the best version myself. 86 00:03:52,640 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: I had to go work on myself become this version 87 00:03:55,760 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 1: that could accept this love when it was right. So 88 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: you did come into my life and save me now 89 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: at that point, but I was still up to my 90 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 1: old tricks sabotaging I was worthy. 91 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 2: I was pushing you away. 92 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 1: And for people like me who my mental health tells 93 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 1: me you're not worthy of it, you tend to sabotage 94 00:04:14,960 --> 00:04:18,679 Speaker 1: because you know what's gonna end. The living in question 95 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:22,040 Speaker 1: of when it's going to end is more painful than 96 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:25,120 Speaker 1: an ending. So you forced it to end on your 97 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:27,440 Speaker 1: timeline exactly. Sabotage. 98 00:04:27,560 --> 00:04:28,160 Speaker 4: Sabotage. 99 00:04:28,480 --> 00:04:30,479 Speaker 1: So I had to work do an awful lot of 100 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 1: work on myself to make sure when this time came 101 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 1: back around, we were in such a much better position were. 102 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 4: It's gonna be a forever love exactly. 103 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 2: And so but some of the stuff that you worked 104 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:45,040 Speaker 2: on also at that point. 105 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:48,400 Speaker 3: And yeah, and at that time when because my situation was, 106 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:50,320 Speaker 3: you know, I was still with my business and COVID, 107 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:54,320 Speaker 3: so I just like I finally had fell in love, 108 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 3: but then I had all these other outside circumstances that 109 00:04:57,360 --> 00:05:00,600 Speaker 3: I just had to go take care of. And so 110 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 3: when we did break up, that's what I was just 111 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 3: working on, you know, my company and all these drama 112 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:08,640 Speaker 3: with that. So I did that. But during that time, 113 00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:10,680 Speaker 3: you did a lot of work on yourself, which helped 114 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:14,960 Speaker 3: us when we got back together. Yes, you started doing 115 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:16,920 Speaker 3: as well, Gratitude lest you started doing a whole bunch 116 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:17,520 Speaker 3: of your soul. 117 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 2: Right. 118 00:05:18,279 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: You you really work on different things. You make sure 119 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:23,240 Speaker 1: you work on I mean, you're always working on your body. 120 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:25,359 Speaker 1: But but you kind of ramped it up and you know, 121 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:27,680 Speaker 1: to help. I think the physical part helps between the 122 00:05:27,760 --> 00:05:30,680 Speaker 1: years also, but over time, Right, you have all these 123 00:05:30,680 --> 00:05:33,039 Speaker 1: little notebooks to you know that you would write these 124 00:05:33,080 --> 00:05:37,159 Speaker 1: lists to help prepare you to get yourself ready for 125 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: that day. 126 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:38,000 Speaker 2: Yeah. 127 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 3: I was always preparing myself for when I met the 128 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:42,960 Speaker 3: right person so I could be the best version of myself, 129 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:45,240 Speaker 3: so that I didn't have control over when I was 130 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 3: going to meet that person. But what I did have 131 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:50,680 Speaker 3: control over was my actions and what I could choose 132 00:05:50,680 --> 00:05:53,240 Speaker 3: to focus on, because sometimes you get discouraged because you're 133 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 3: like waiting and wanting, and that's what you experienced when 134 00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:59,800 Speaker 3: you're looking for your mister, Right, You're experiencing wanting and 135 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:02,800 Speaker 3: wait and all these things you have no control over 136 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:05,120 Speaker 3: of when you're going to meet that person, but you 137 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 3: do have control over what you can choose to focus on, 138 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:09,920 Speaker 3: which is like the stuff I have control on, which 139 00:06:09,960 --> 00:06:13,560 Speaker 3: is my you know, mind, my body, my spirit, my career, 140 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:15,279 Speaker 3: the things I had control over. 141 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 2: So you know your own podcast is good, right. 142 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:23,080 Speaker 1: So my first one was be Vulnerable, And you know, 143 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:26,960 Speaker 1: for years I created this character to good women, right, 144 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:27,840 Speaker 1: But it was a character. 145 00:06:27,880 --> 00:06:31,279 Speaker 2: It wasn't real, so nothing was sustainable for me on TV. 146 00:06:31,760 --> 00:06:33,480 Speaker 2: It was a mask. I wore a mask. I created 147 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:35,719 Speaker 2: this character, so no one saw the pain that I 148 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 2: was in. 149 00:06:36,520 --> 00:06:41,040 Speaker 1: Once I started opening up to people about my depression anxiety, 150 00:06:41,120 --> 00:06:44,880 Speaker 1: that's when relationships began. And that's the biggest thing. It's 151 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:47,200 Speaker 1: even happening. Like in football, I know of coaches saying 152 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 1: to me, I want. 153 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 2: Players who are vulnerable. I want a team team full. 154 00:06:51,800 --> 00:06:53,000 Speaker 2: So this is football players. 155 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 1: I want a team full of vulnerable people, right, these 156 00:06:56,200 --> 00:06:58,960 Speaker 1: are bad asses. So once I started doing that, I 157 00:06:58,960 --> 00:07:01,479 Speaker 1: think you know when I first met you, I was 158 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 1: the glades and I just come from this big meeting 159 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:05,600 Speaker 1: and I was trying to show off about all the 160 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:07,920 Speaker 1: things I had done, and you didn't really give a 161 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: shit about. 162 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 4: That at all. 163 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:12,680 Speaker 1: You could care less about that at all. Again, Rosie's 164 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 1: done it all. Rosie had a very, very, very successful 165 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:19,080 Speaker 1: career modeling. She was a pioneer as a black model. 166 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:22,120 Speaker 1: She broke the color barrier for Fredericks of Hollywood. She 167 00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:24,240 Speaker 1: for the first black model Fredericks of Hollywood. She step 168 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:28,000 Speaker 1: thirty national ad campaigns. She was a playboy. She's in 169 00:07:28,240 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 1: Price is Right, right, and then she had a very 170 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 1: successful retail clothing company. 171 00:07:34,320 --> 00:07:37,440 Speaker 2: So she didn't care about my businesses, my television. 172 00:07:37,800 --> 00:07:42,800 Speaker 1: She did care about she saw me life coaching veterans 173 00:07:42,880 --> 00:07:46,000 Speaker 1: and players, and the vulnerability is what got you. 174 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:48,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I first saw you, and that's what 175 00:07:48,240 --> 00:07:51,320 Speaker 3: I really like noticed. I was like, wow, this you 176 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:53,240 Speaker 3: were doing something with MVP and you were helping all 177 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 3: these people and. 178 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:56,760 Speaker 4: You were like just doing what you normally do. 179 00:07:57,040 --> 00:07:59,640 Speaker 3: But I was like, wow, this guy is out there 180 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 3: helping so many people, Like he's taking care of so 181 00:08:02,760 --> 00:08:04,680 Speaker 3: many people, but who's taking care of him? 182 00:08:04,720 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 4: Is what I wanted to know. 183 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:08,440 Speaker 3: Because you're so you've always done that and that's what 184 00:08:08,480 --> 00:08:11,520 Speaker 3: attracted me the most to you and really like got 185 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 3: my attention. 186 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 1: So the point is be real and vulnerable and raw 187 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 1: and let that person like, let the person sitting on 188 00:08:20,360 --> 00:08:22,560 Speaker 1: the other side of that table at whatever date or 189 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:25,520 Speaker 1: a bar or gay whatever you're up, let them see 190 00:08:25,560 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 1: that person, Let them like and love that person, because 191 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 1: that's sustainable and then you don't got to fake it, 192 00:08:32,080 --> 00:08:32,720 Speaker 1: you don't got. 193 00:08:32,559 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 2: To show off. It can be real. Yeah right, yeah, Okay, 194 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:40,560 Speaker 2: number three here is well I love this one too. 195 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:43,400 Speaker 3: Oh, this one was, Yeah, this is one that I 196 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 3: really this is one that I still used to this day. 197 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:48,319 Speaker 4: And it's just your one away. 198 00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:51,319 Speaker 3: But you're just one way, one one away from meeting 199 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:54,200 Speaker 3: that person who can change your life forever. You're one 200 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 3: person away from one loved way, one meeting away, one 201 00:08:57,520 --> 00:09:00,520 Speaker 3: dinner away, one conversation away from changing your life life. 202 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, absolutely love that right, Like you never know, 203 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:07,400 Speaker 1: And if I could just jump in here because just 204 00:09:07,400 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 1: you know, Rosie and I are kind of reading down 205 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 1: in our notes from our honeymoon, so we're kind of 206 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:13,920 Speaker 1: going back, so a lot of it is you know, gibberous, 207 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:16,560 Speaker 1: We just kind of see but like we didn't know 208 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 1: that that night all of a sudden and we met. 209 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:20,440 Speaker 2: It's going to change your lives. 210 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,360 Speaker 4: And that's me and that's exactly it could be. 211 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 3: Like just you're just like that one evening and that 212 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:26,960 Speaker 3: one night was something that changed my life. 213 00:09:26,960 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 4: I was just went away from meeting this night, from 214 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 4: meeting you. 215 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:33,560 Speaker 3: And that's what like you have to always remember so 216 00:09:33,600 --> 00:09:35,760 Speaker 3: you don't get discouraged, because it's easy to get discouraged 217 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 3: when things aren't going your way and you're feeling like 218 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:40,320 Speaker 3: it seems so far away, so far away, but you're 219 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:43,720 Speaker 3: just literally one one chance encounter away that you're going 220 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 3: to meet that person and all of a sudden your 221 00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:48,640 Speaker 3: life changes. So instead of getting discouraged, just think that 222 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:50,520 Speaker 3: you know and you want to prepare yourself, which I 223 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:53,320 Speaker 3: talked about earlier, so when you do meet your one away, 224 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:56,480 Speaker 3: you're actually you've got the best presentation of yourself. 225 00:09:56,800 --> 00:09:57,880 Speaker 1: I love that when you said that to me, you 226 00:09:58,040 --> 00:09:59,880 Speaker 1: like just went away, and I'm like, you're right, because 227 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:02,120 Speaker 1: I used to think I'm like, so far you got 228 00:10:02,120 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 1: to meet someone and then you got to court them, 229 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:05,640 Speaker 1: and then you got to have everything fall. 230 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:09,440 Speaker 2: In place, and you know, it's just bam, my life changing. 231 00:10:09,480 --> 00:10:11,680 Speaker 2: It was one conversation. You and I have a conversation 232 00:10:11,679 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 2: about God. 233 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, and we're. 234 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:18,120 Speaker 1: Both very spiritual book but God people and you seem 235 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:20,480 Speaker 1: religion or anything like that, we're just we're vulner and 236 00:10:20,480 --> 00:10:22,240 Speaker 1: we just talked about I talk about how God's my 237 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:24,120 Speaker 1: best friend, and it took me a long time to 238 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 1: get to where I am, and I just wouldn't ask 239 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:29,839 Speaker 1: God to help get me a job or get me money, or. 240 00:10:29,760 --> 00:10:31,560 Speaker 2: Make me rich, or make this happen and make that 241 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:32,800 Speaker 2: It's just like Hey, I got it. 242 00:10:33,280 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 1: Just I'm willing to get knocked down more than But 243 00:10:35,000 --> 00:10:37,320 Speaker 1: then plant be Up brushed me off and just let's 244 00:10:37,360 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 1: keep walking this walk together to. 245 00:10:39,360 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 2: Just have our numbers. And she's like, oh my god, 246 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 2: that's that's great. 247 00:10:42,240 --> 00:10:43,719 Speaker 1: And I said, I wake up every day, said I 248 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:46,000 Speaker 1: love you God, because it's easier to go about life 249 00:10:46,000 --> 00:10:48,320 Speaker 1: and you have loved and it just changed. 250 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 2: Everything has one conversation. 251 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:52,199 Speaker 3: It was we were to start one to wait, one conversation, 252 00:10:52,400 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 3: one meeting, one run, one night away from our lives changing. 253 00:10:56,080 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 1: Okay, sure's my second one. Both people have to change, 254 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:00,840 Speaker 1: you know. They say, oh, don't want mean anybody who's 255 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:03,960 Speaker 1: going to change you. That's garbage. You've got to change. 256 00:11:04,000 --> 00:11:06,640 Speaker 1: You both have to change right now the core are you. 257 00:11:06,640 --> 00:11:09,040 Speaker 1: You don't want anybody changing the core you. But you've 258 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:11,880 Speaker 1: got to change. Like you know, Rosie and I both 259 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:14,560 Speaker 1: had to what are they call it? Now? You give 260 00:11:14,559 --> 00:11:19,880 Speaker 1: it your your you meet in the middle. Compromising is changing. 261 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:21,400 Speaker 1: But people are like, I don't want this. I'm not 262 00:11:21,400 --> 00:11:23,320 Speaker 1: going to change with this person. You gotta change. It's 263 00:11:23,320 --> 00:11:25,480 Speaker 1: two different lots. So I don't want you to be 264 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:27,079 Speaker 1: hard at it. So I realized Okay, I've got to 265 00:11:27,120 --> 00:11:29,959 Speaker 1: change a lot of things to make it fit Rosie's life. 266 00:11:30,280 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 1: Rosie has changed a lot of things to fit my life, 267 00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:34,880 Speaker 1: and that's okay, So don't be hard headed about that. 268 00:11:35,360 --> 00:11:38,040 Speaker 1: So many of us we stand firm on that. A 269 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:41,640 Speaker 1: lot of it is ego. If I didn't compromise, I 270 00:11:41,640 --> 00:11:44,160 Speaker 1: wouldn't be here with Rosie right now. She didn't compromise, 271 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 1: she wouldn't be here right now. And I think we're 272 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:48,560 Speaker 1: both happier that we have to change for. 273 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:52,320 Speaker 3: Each other exactly and compromise and communicate, which is really good, 274 00:11:52,640 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 3: so you both can get what you need out of 275 00:11:54,880 --> 00:11:55,559 Speaker 3: the relationship. 276 00:11:56,160 --> 00:11:57,640 Speaker 2: All right, here's your number three. 277 00:11:57,920 --> 00:11:59,760 Speaker 4: So this is what you know I was. 278 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:02,359 Speaker 3: This is the third one is just say yes to opportunities, 279 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 3: opportunities instead of saying no, even if it doesn't sound 280 00:12:05,520 --> 00:12:07,719 Speaker 3: like seting you normally want to do, just do it. 281 00:12:08,679 --> 00:12:11,719 Speaker 4: If you don't have one, If you don't the only 282 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 4: people who the FedEx guy in the ups. 283 00:12:15,559 --> 00:12:17,080 Speaker 3: That's if you don't get out of your house and 284 00:12:17,120 --> 00:12:19,199 Speaker 3: you don't just get out there, could you never know 285 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:20,600 Speaker 3: like it could be you could be. 286 00:12:20,880 --> 00:12:22,439 Speaker 2: You know, wherever. 287 00:12:22,559 --> 00:12:25,679 Speaker 3: But you have exactly you have to to get out, 288 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:28,080 Speaker 3: so you put yourself in situations that you normally wouldn't 289 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:30,360 Speaker 3: be in it so you can meet other people. Because 290 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:33,160 Speaker 3: when you're alone, it's it's easy to isolate and then 291 00:12:33,160 --> 00:12:34,840 Speaker 3: you're like, oh, I'm just going to stay here and 292 00:12:34,880 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 3: watch TV and hang out with my dog. But if 293 00:12:36,920 --> 00:12:40,600 Speaker 3: you're doing that, you're really your chances really go down. 294 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:42,720 Speaker 3: So it's always even if you're. 295 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:44,800 Speaker 2: Not in the mood. 296 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:48,280 Speaker 4: You know, fight that isolation like your life, love life 297 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:48,800 Speaker 4: depends on it. 298 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:50,680 Speaker 2: Because I want you to say that again. 299 00:12:50,840 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 3: So fight the isolation like your love life depends on it, 300 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:56,000 Speaker 3: because it actually does. 301 00:12:56,320 --> 00:12:58,679 Speaker 1: That's great, and that's a lot of us sit here. 302 00:12:58,840 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 1: I'm gonna sit home and I'm not going to go out, 303 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:02,400 Speaker 1: and nobody's gonna like me. I don't want to deal 304 00:13:02,440 --> 00:13:06,040 Speaker 1: with it at all. And then we just the isolation. 305 00:13:06,160 --> 00:13:08,679 Speaker 1: Mans just more depressed, and then it seems so much 306 00:13:08,679 --> 00:13:12,120 Speaker 1: further away. So as Rosie saying, yeah, just there was 307 00:13:12,160 --> 00:13:14,160 Speaker 1: a time I said, how do you mean guys? He said, 308 00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:16,160 Speaker 1: I talked to the FedEx guy. That's what I said. 309 00:13:16,160 --> 00:13:16,920 Speaker 2: You date the finest guy. 310 00:13:16,960 --> 00:13:19,040 Speaker 1: She goes, No, it's really the only guy I see though, 311 00:13:19,200 --> 00:13:21,040 Speaker 1: because he comes to my business every day to drop 312 00:13:21,080 --> 00:13:23,079 Speaker 1: off packages. I said, how are you supposed to meet 313 00:13:23,080 --> 00:13:24,719 Speaker 1: the guys? She's like, well, that's why how to change? Yeah, 314 00:13:24,720 --> 00:13:27,040 Speaker 1: that's why you came over that time ready to. 315 00:13:27,000 --> 00:13:29,959 Speaker 3: Start coding, exactly because that was something I normally may 316 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:32,120 Speaker 3: not have done because I had drive all the way 317 00:13:32,120 --> 00:13:35,160 Speaker 3: across town. But I did, and so by doing so, 318 00:13:35,480 --> 00:13:37,760 Speaker 3: that's what like, you know, I ended up meeting you 319 00:13:37,760 --> 00:13:39,440 Speaker 3: because we don't run in the same circles, we don't 320 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:41,480 Speaker 3: hang around the same people. So I never would have 321 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:44,240 Speaker 3: met you had I not did something different out. 322 00:13:44,120 --> 00:13:46,720 Speaker 4: Of the norm than I normal that I wouldn't do. So, right, 323 00:13:47,120 --> 00:13:47,599 Speaker 4: that's what you have. 324 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:50,360 Speaker 1: By the way, people are like, oh, of course she's 325 00:13:50,400 --> 00:13:53,160 Speaker 1: with your europe television this and that. Rosie does not 326 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:56,240 Speaker 1: watch sports. She had no idea. No I was, and 327 00:13:56,320 --> 00:13:58,160 Speaker 1: Rosie had her own money, I mean, nothing to do 328 00:13:58,200 --> 00:14:00,520 Speaker 1: with it. In fact, one of in one of her 329 00:14:00,520 --> 00:14:03,480 Speaker 1: business was going through with COVID. My gay bab, I'm 330 00:14:03,480 --> 00:14:06,760 Speaker 1: gonna jump in. She's like, absolutely not. I'm not going 331 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:08,920 Speaker 1: to be like every other girl who's. 332 00:14:08,679 --> 00:14:11,520 Speaker 2: Taken from you. If anything, I'll help you. 333 00:14:11,679 --> 00:14:15,440 Speaker 4: You're not gonna help me, right, Yeah, you were operating 334 00:14:15,440 --> 00:14:15,800 Speaker 4: and stuff. 335 00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:17,439 Speaker 3: But I was like, you know what, I got myself 336 00:14:17,440 --> 00:14:19,080 Speaker 3: into this mess, I'll get myself out, which I did 337 00:14:19,160 --> 00:14:20,320 Speaker 3: and that felt good to work. 338 00:14:20,360 --> 00:14:23,120 Speaker 4: And you know, like do what I have to do. 339 00:14:23,160 --> 00:14:24,920 Speaker 1: And by the way, the message, you know, really again 340 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:27,480 Speaker 1: had these clothing stories in covid Here in California, nothing 341 00:14:28,200 --> 00:14:30,840 Speaker 1: open and rent you gotta pay a rent. 342 00:14:30,880 --> 00:14:33,080 Speaker 2: Really, nothing's opening. It was just it was hard for us. 343 00:14:33,080 --> 00:14:33,800 Speaker 2: I'm break uple. 344 00:14:33,800 --> 00:14:37,520 Speaker 1: Everywhere in Caltown. Okay, So here's my next one. This 345 00:14:37,680 --> 00:14:41,720 Speaker 1: is our sixth point. Here, be reassuring without having to 346 00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:44,280 Speaker 1: be asked for assured. So in other words, like a 347 00:14:44,280 --> 00:14:48,040 Speaker 1: lot of times a lot of us have these insecurities, right, 348 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:51,200 Speaker 1: and the only time a lot of us and we 349 00:14:51,320 --> 00:14:54,920 Speaker 1: get the reassurance after we melt down about it, after 350 00:14:54,960 --> 00:14:57,240 Speaker 1: we do something about it. So be proactive when you 351 00:14:57,280 --> 00:15:00,320 Speaker 1: are with that person. Reassure let them know how much 352 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:00,640 Speaker 1: you love. 353 00:15:00,560 --> 00:15:01,320 Speaker 4: I tell you you're. 354 00:15:03,120 --> 00:15:03,840 Speaker 2: So yeah. 355 00:15:03,880 --> 00:15:04,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, we both do that. 356 00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:05,040 Speaker 2: Yeah. 357 00:15:05,160 --> 00:15:06,920 Speaker 1: And who also come to me, how you doing today? 358 00:15:06,960 --> 00:15:09,160 Speaker 1: What's going on with you today? And if you see 359 00:15:09,200 --> 00:15:10,760 Speaker 1: them off, hey, what's going on with you today? You 360 00:15:10,760 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 1: don't you won't wait for me to melt down. If 361 00:15:13,600 --> 00:15:16,200 Speaker 1: we're assure me Hey, Hey, what's what's going on. Hey, 362 00:15:16,280 --> 00:15:18,280 Speaker 1: let's go do something together. Hey, I got you today. 363 00:15:18,520 --> 00:15:21,120 Speaker 1: So even if Rosie has something else going on, she 364 00:15:21,280 --> 00:15:23,440 Speaker 1: reassures me everything is going to be okay with us. 365 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:26,400 Speaker 2: And that was me. I had abandonment issues, which is weird. 366 00:15:26,440 --> 00:15:26,960 Speaker 2: I don't know why. 367 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:29,040 Speaker 1: Look, it's not my folks. My folks didn't leave her 368 00:15:29,080 --> 00:15:31,000 Speaker 1: anything like that, and I think I kind of know why. 369 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:34,840 Speaker 1: But but she constantly reassures me. And I think you 370 00:15:34,920 --> 00:15:38,840 Speaker 1: never get tired of it, right, and that's at all. 371 00:15:38,920 --> 00:15:43,160 Speaker 1: Don't make me feel like I'm tired of always reassuring you. 372 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:44,880 Speaker 1: A lot of us are in a place where, again, 373 00:15:44,960 --> 00:15:48,800 Speaker 1: we're never felt that we're worthy of being loved. So 374 00:15:48,800 --> 00:15:50,520 Speaker 1: it's odd for us, and we always think it's going 375 00:15:50,600 --> 00:15:52,400 Speaker 1: to go away and get taken away. 376 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 2: So spend your life were assuring the next person you're 377 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:55,760 Speaker 2: really good at that. 378 00:15:55,960 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 1: Right, you spend your life doing that. And also the 379 00:15:59,400 --> 00:16:01,640 Speaker 1: kind of part of it that is you're on the 380 00:16:01,640 --> 00:16:05,480 Speaker 1: same team. Okay. So the reassuring thing is we don't 381 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:09,360 Speaker 1: even win arguments, right, we give each other multiple get 382 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:10,000 Speaker 1: out of jail. 383 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:12,480 Speaker 3: For you, and you know what we don't hold. I 384 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:15,080 Speaker 3: don't hold a grudge at all. If we like have 385 00:16:15,120 --> 00:16:17,520 Speaker 3: a disagreement or whatever, I shake it off. 386 00:16:17,560 --> 00:16:17,840 Speaker 2: I don't. 387 00:16:17,880 --> 00:16:19,120 Speaker 4: I don't carry it on. 388 00:16:19,200 --> 00:16:22,160 Speaker 3: I'm just like, you know what, I forget and forget, 389 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:24,600 Speaker 3: and that's how it should be so your relationship can 390 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:26,600 Speaker 3: can move on. Because if you're always keeping score and 391 00:16:26,600 --> 00:16:29,080 Speaker 3: always holding a grudge and always coming at that angle, 392 00:16:29,080 --> 00:16:31,640 Speaker 3: then it's really hard for the other person to get 393 00:16:31,680 --> 00:16:32,120 Speaker 3: off the hook. 394 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:33,840 Speaker 2: And that's one of the greatest things. You don't try 395 00:16:33,880 --> 00:16:34,760 Speaker 2: and win arguments. 396 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 1: I do sometimes, and then at the end of it, 397 00:16:37,520 --> 00:16:40,480 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm an idiot. I'm sorry, And no matter what, 398 00:16:40,600 --> 00:16:42,920 Speaker 1: I make sure she's good. We never go to bed 399 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:46,200 Speaker 1: angry any show like. We always make sure we talk 400 00:16:46,240 --> 00:16:48,440 Speaker 1: it up, because that's part of the reassurance. I can't 401 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:51,000 Speaker 1: have a night living in question of oh I gonna 402 00:16:51,000 --> 00:16:53,480 Speaker 1: wake up and she's gonna be gone, Like, we just 403 00:16:53,560 --> 00:16:54,520 Speaker 1: make sure it ends there. 404 00:16:54,920 --> 00:16:56,680 Speaker 2: That's one of the things Rosie does for me. She goes, hey, 405 00:16:56,680 --> 00:16:57,600 Speaker 2: I'm not going anywhere. 406 00:16:57,720 --> 00:17:01,240 Speaker 1: I got you, even if she's angry, she does it, 407 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:04,480 Speaker 1: And that's the part of again not keeping score, right, 408 00:17:04,600 --> 00:17:07,199 Speaker 1: And so you'll try and break up situations for me, 409 00:17:07,880 --> 00:17:10,120 Speaker 1: But at the same time with you. Also, like you've 410 00:17:10,119 --> 00:17:12,800 Speaker 1: had some rough things, you know, with your dog passing 411 00:17:12,840 --> 00:17:15,320 Speaker 1: or your business something. I always made sure that I 412 00:17:15,440 --> 00:17:17,480 Speaker 1: made everything else in your life great. 413 00:17:18,000 --> 00:17:21,719 Speaker 3: Yeah, so we won't you Sure, you're definitely that's you're 414 00:17:22,600 --> 00:17:24,320 Speaker 3: very very supportive and reassuring. 415 00:17:24,680 --> 00:17:27,399 Speaker 1: So if you're your husband or wife are struggling with 416 00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:30,239 Speaker 1: work or something like that, just reassure them with your 417 00:17:30,280 --> 00:17:33,200 Speaker 1: words but also with your actions and make it every day. 418 00:17:33,119 --> 00:17:33,800 Speaker 2: And every night thing. 419 00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:36,400 Speaker 3: And sometimes the person just needs to communicate and talk 420 00:17:36,440 --> 00:17:38,760 Speaker 3: and just get it all out and then you can 421 00:17:38,960 --> 00:17:43,040 Speaker 3: move on from there here baby. So so yeah, and 422 00:17:43,080 --> 00:17:46,520 Speaker 3: then like when when I was, when I did get 423 00:17:46,520 --> 00:17:50,159 Speaker 3: my opportunity to find date or whatever, you just have 424 00:17:50,200 --> 00:17:52,320 Speaker 3: to get really interested in the person that's sitting across 425 00:17:52,320 --> 00:17:54,639 Speaker 3: from you. That's one of the biggest turn ons is 426 00:17:54,800 --> 00:17:58,800 Speaker 3: showing interest in everything you know. That's you so share 427 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:00,560 Speaker 3: the real stuff and not what you think that people 428 00:18:00,600 --> 00:18:02,680 Speaker 3: want to hear. Just really, you know, get to know them, 429 00:18:02,720 --> 00:18:06,000 Speaker 3: and you know, listen just as much as you talk. 430 00:18:06,119 --> 00:18:08,040 Speaker 3: So then that way they can get to know you. 431 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:10,160 Speaker 3: You can get to know them, but really be interested 432 00:18:10,240 --> 00:18:11,160 Speaker 3: in getting to know them. 433 00:18:11,200 --> 00:18:12,080 Speaker 4: I think that's a turn on. 434 00:18:12,160 --> 00:18:15,640 Speaker 1: Too. I think the biggest takeaway from that bit is 435 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:18,480 Speaker 1: when we go on dates, we tend to lead with 436 00:18:19,200 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 1: our highlights and like us. So instead of talking about 437 00:18:23,320 --> 00:18:25,560 Speaker 1: the other person, you're trying to lead what's so great 438 00:18:25,600 --> 00:18:28,439 Speaker 1: about you to the person who like you. What Rosie 439 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:30,080 Speaker 1: is saying the thing that she loved the most is 440 00:18:30,520 --> 00:18:34,240 Speaker 1: again she didn't know anything about sports or football or anything. 441 00:18:34,320 --> 00:18:37,320 Speaker 2: That, although crazy part is what real. Here's my add Giffin. 442 00:18:37,840 --> 00:18:42,560 Speaker 1: Rosie actually graduating UCLA with broadcast journalism and in turn 443 00:18:42,680 --> 00:18:45,439 Speaker 1: at Fox Sports in the nineties before I ever got there. 444 00:18:45,440 --> 00:18:47,399 Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, we didn't have anybody is when you 445 00:18:47,400 --> 00:18:49,919 Speaker 1: were doing Playboy. You don't have anybody in the research 446 00:18:49,960 --> 00:18:52,800 Speaker 1: department through Playboy like you got to kidd me. But 447 00:18:53,119 --> 00:18:55,360 Speaker 1: oh my god. But so even with that, she knows 448 00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:59,800 Speaker 1: nothing about sports. So the biggest thing I could do 449 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:02,640 Speaker 1: with hers, hey tell me about you, telling about your life, 450 00:19:02,840 --> 00:19:05,320 Speaker 1: and she still says to me, hey, ask more about me, 451 00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:07,240 Speaker 1: because I get self absorbed. 452 00:19:07,240 --> 00:19:09,439 Speaker 2: I'm in my football world that ask more about me. 453 00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:11,320 Speaker 1: Now we're a point where then we know everything about 454 00:19:11,320 --> 00:19:13,800 Speaker 1: each other for the most part, but if something does 455 00:19:13,840 --> 00:19:16,679 Speaker 1: come up, I know what she what turns around the 456 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:19,480 Speaker 1: most is for me to ask more about her, her family, 457 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:22,960 Speaker 1: her upbringing, her journey, her story. So instead of leaving 458 00:19:23,000 --> 00:19:25,680 Speaker 1: with all your highlights, the highlights should be that person 459 00:19:25,720 --> 00:19:26,280 Speaker 1: across from. 460 00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:26,880 Speaker 4: You, exactly. 461 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:28,760 Speaker 3: And that's that's and that's a turn on for there 462 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:32,359 Speaker 3: or just and it's like, it's attractive to if someone's 463 00:19:32,359 --> 00:19:33,960 Speaker 3: really interested in you and they want to find out 464 00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:36,240 Speaker 3: where you you know, how your family was and growing 465 00:19:36,320 --> 00:19:39,680 Speaker 3: up and just just anything that's it's very right, it's 466 00:19:39,960 --> 00:19:41,040 Speaker 3: really good quality. 467 00:19:41,520 --> 00:19:45,919 Speaker 1: Next one here, shower your partner with compliments. 468 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:48,679 Speaker 4: You're really good at that you do every day every day. 469 00:19:48,920 --> 00:19:51,440 Speaker 2: My job is and lift her up. My friend J. C. 470 00:19:51,560 --> 00:19:55,399 Speaker 1: Blick is saying, we lift while we climb, And you 471 00:19:55,400 --> 00:19:57,440 Speaker 1: know that's what you're doing together with your partner. You 472 00:19:57,480 --> 00:19:59,600 Speaker 1: guys are climbing together. You're climbing these mountains, you're climbing 473 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:01,920 Speaker 1: these hurdles. You don't need guide books when things are great. 474 00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:04,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's when things aren't so great that you really 475 00:20:04,640 --> 00:20:05,760 Speaker 4: wanted you have. 476 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:07,520 Speaker 2: To do the work. So we got to climb over together. 477 00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:08,040 Speaker 4: Exactly. 478 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:12,040 Speaker 1: So if you're constantly building your partner up, when the 479 00:20:12,240 --> 00:20:15,639 Speaker 1: rough stuff happens, you're both at a higher level to 480 00:20:15,720 --> 00:20:18,320 Speaker 1: jump over those to hurdle them. If you're both sitting 481 00:20:18,320 --> 00:20:22,240 Speaker 1: there in this pit, you got a much higher level, 482 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:25,000 Speaker 1: You got much more room to go. 483 00:20:24,920 --> 00:20:25,399 Speaker 2: To jump it. 484 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:28,439 Speaker 3: Yeah, and sometimes you're like, when one person's life is 485 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:30,760 Speaker 3: good at that time, the other one's not. So it's like, 486 00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:32,920 Speaker 3: you know, it's always like it's very rare that both 487 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:35,800 Speaker 3: partners everything's going great at the same time. 488 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:36,640 Speaker 4: So it's good. 489 00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 3: If another person's you know, a little weak, then you 490 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:42,280 Speaker 3: can be strong. And it's it's it's given a take, right, 491 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:45,119 Speaker 3: all right, So number ten here, Oh I think this 492 00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 3: might be yours, but I think this is yours. This 493 00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:47,879 Speaker 3: is yours? 494 00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:51,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, well okay, well because yeah, this. 495 00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:55,200 Speaker 4: Is not like how I would talk about. 496 00:20:55,040 --> 00:20:56,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I wrote it down for it, but 497 00:20:57,000 --> 00:20:58,600 Speaker 1: it was your thing like those, well it's the two 498 00:20:58,600 --> 00:20:58,840 Speaker 1: of them. 499 00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:01,399 Speaker 2: Yeah, business, we're the old rules like there used to be. 500 00:21:01,520 --> 00:21:03,000 Speaker 4: Oh yes, yes, yeah. 501 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:05,480 Speaker 2: The book there's a book basically about how to date. 502 00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:07,640 Speaker 1: And it was like if they text, don't text back, 503 00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:11,440 Speaker 1: wait two days wait that rules of change total. 504 00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:13,680 Speaker 3: Wait, yeah, you can't because if you're if you're playing 505 00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:16,280 Speaker 3: hard to get and you're like not if someone you know, 506 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:18,640 Speaker 3: I think those rules have changed. So if someone texts 507 00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:20,520 Speaker 3: you and or text you and you want to text 508 00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:22,760 Speaker 3: them back, text them back and respond, don't be like, oh, 509 00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:24,840 Speaker 3: they always have to be the one to make the move, 510 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:28,200 Speaker 3: because then the guy or the girl might be like, oh. 511 00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:31,600 Speaker 4: They're not interested because there's so many get. 512 00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:34,280 Speaker 2: It's tender in this and that, and then mumble in whatever. 513 00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:36,560 Speaker 1: Right, well, you can just it's it's your turner tips 514 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:38,840 Speaker 1: Like back in the day, you could afford to do 515 00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:40,560 Speaker 1: it even though I don't agree with it. Then even 516 00:21:40,560 --> 00:21:42,679 Speaker 1: back then, like I'm gonna express a person and be 517 00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:44,440 Speaker 1: like I like this person, I'm gonna call and they'll 518 00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:46,520 Speaker 1: be like, oh, no, this person called. 519 00:21:46,320 --> 00:21:50,080 Speaker 3: Too soon exactly exactly, or you know, sometimes it's nice 520 00:21:50,200 --> 00:21:52,399 Speaker 3: to sit of thinking of you or whatever, so a 521 00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:55,080 Speaker 3: person they're on the mind, because if you're just making 522 00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:57,120 Speaker 3: the other person do all the work that it really 523 00:21:57,119 --> 00:21:59,720 Speaker 3: appears like they're maybe you're not interested, and you play 524 00:21:59,760 --> 00:22:02,160 Speaker 3: to your to get then they give up. So that's 525 00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:06,159 Speaker 3: a really important one is that, Yeah, don't play games 526 00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,439 Speaker 3: by not texting back right away or playing you know 527 00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:11,440 Speaker 3: hard to get show interest in that you're genuinely interested. 528 00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:14,919 Speaker 3: If you have fun, express it put out enough to 529 00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:17,240 Speaker 3: where the person is filled with hope that you want 530 00:22:17,280 --> 00:22:18,200 Speaker 3: to they want you. 531 00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:19,280 Speaker 4: Guys want to see each other again. 532 00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:20,879 Speaker 3: Then if you're playing too hard to get and you're 533 00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 3: waiting for them to do all the work, then they 534 00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:23,200 Speaker 3: just give up. 535 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:25,760 Speaker 4: Because it's like, oh, she's not interested. So that's like 536 00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:27,720 Speaker 4: I would, I would find. 537 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:28,600 Speaker 2: Reasons to reach out to you. 538 00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:32,600 Speaker 1: Now again, like Rosie's very successful business career, So I 539 00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:34,320 Speaker 1: was at that point, I'm like, hey, do you have 540 00:22:34,960 --> 00:22:37,240 Speaker 1: an attorney for this or do you have some different 541 00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:40,119 Speaker 1: So for my business, visus unbreakable, and I would just 542 00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:43,080 Speaker 1: kind of come up with excuses to. 543 00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:42,760 Speaker 2: To just stay. 544 00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:44,639 Speaker 1: And then when I would ask her about it, we 545 00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:46,520 Speaker 1: just talked for a little bit. We got to know 546 00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:49,160 Speaker 1: each other, so I didn't and I understand. Look, there's 547 00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:52,040 Speaker 1: a balance of people going, oh my gosh, this person's crazy, 548 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:56,160 Speaker 1: but also how about this for something, If someone's texting, calling, 549 00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:59,960 Speaker 1: maybe they're not needy, maybe they just really like you exactly, 550 00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:01,840 Speaker 1: and that's for you lot. 551 00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:03,520 Speaker 4: But you if they don't call, then you're like, wait, 552 00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:04,280 Speaker 4: they're not calling her. 553 00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:06,760 Speaker 3: But when they do, you have to like be you know, 554 00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:08,120 Speaker 3: it goes, it goes a ping pong. 555 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:10,440 Speaker 4: If you so, then you can get you know, the 556 00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:11,359 Speaker 4: relationship going. 557 00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:14,879 Speaker 1: But also like if someone isn't needy and you guys 558 00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:16,120 Speaker 1: kind of meet in this middle. 559 00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:19,320 Speaker 3: Here, like I was very neat, yeah, but you're not 560 00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:20,240 Speaker 3: not so much now. 561 00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:23,280 Speaker 2: Turned into me run away from that, Yeah exactly. 562 00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:25,679 Speaker 3: But you've changed because I've reassured you that you know 563 00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:28,520 Speaker 3: I'm not going anywhere, and it's something that you know 564 00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:32,200 Speaker 3: through time, Like it's not you're not that way at all, right, 565 00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:33,320 Speaker 3: But and. 566 00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:37,439 Speaker 1: Like like my mental health issues, the depression tells me 567 00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:39,600 Speaker 1: that like a lot of times I wake up. 568 00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:42,720 Speaker 2: In the morning like everybody hates me. Yeah, I know 569 00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:44,600 Speaker 2: the universe. Everybody hates me. 570 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:47,359 Speaker 1: All my friends hate me, and it sucks, like and 571 00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:49,240 Speaker 1: I didn't sign up for this, Like I don't want 572 00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:51,320 Speaker 1: to live life like this. I don't mean to here. 573 00:23:51,400 --> 00:23:55,800 Speaker 1: I I'm fifty turn in fifty four and I still 574 00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:59,520 Speaker 1: have it. So if I control it, I would, but 575 00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:01,879 Speaker 1: I can't. And it's just how I wake up. And 576 00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:03,399 Speaker 1: it's like it could be in the middle of a 577 00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:05,960 Speaker 1: day or someone doesn't call me back. A lot of 578 00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:08,000 Speaker 1: times somebody doesn't calling back, I'm like, ah, they're business, 579 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:11,520 Speaker 1: but sometimes they I'm calling back and I just think that, oh, 580 00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:13,760 Speaker 1: this person just hates me, this person's angry. 581 00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:15,520 Speaker 2: So it's something that's still there. 582 00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:17,960 Speaker 1: So that's the whole thing of like I was very needy, 583 00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:21,040 Speaker 1: but she constantly was like, Okay, I'm going to work 584 00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:21,640 Speaker 1: on that with him. 585 00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:22,800 Speaker 2: And now look what you got. 586 00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:25,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, and you're way more sure, you're right, more confident, 587 00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:29,200 Speaker 3: and it's something that it built over time and now 588 00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:29,639 Speaker 3: you know that. 589 00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:32,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, sometimes it's just right. 590 00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:35,760 Speaker 1: And part of this and I'm going to jump in again. 591 00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:39,400 Speaker 1: The playing field is different now than always ask me right. 592 00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:43,960 Speaker 1: So there's apps, there's social media, there's I say that 593 00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:48,760 Speaker 1: playing feels different is people are constantly posting their highlights 594 00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:51,240 Speaker 1: or what they think you want to hear. We brought 595 00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:53,440 Speaker 1: that up before, where they think you want to hear, 596 00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:59,159 Speaker 1: and that isn't a connection. But also because this world 597 00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:02,120 Speaker 1: is so in there's so many things that we get 598 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,760 Speaker 1: so wrapped up. Data takes up so much of our 599 00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:07,879 Speaker 1: brain that we might get blown off or pushed away. 600 00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:11,000 Speaker 2: It may have nothing to do with us whatsoever. 601 00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:14,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, don't take things personal because sometimes you do, and 602 00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:15,879 Speaker 3: you like think that there's something wrong with you or 603 00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,040 Speaker 3: why you know, what's the matter with me? 604 00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:18,480 Speaker 4: But it's not. 605 00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:21,119 Speaker 3: Sometimes it's not. So just that's a good advice. I 606 00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:23,680 Speaker 3: could get someone to just don't take things personal, right 607 00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:24,159 Speaker 3: and then. 608 00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:25,480 Speaker 2: Just hey, thing's good. 609 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:27,879 Speaker 1: And like for Rose again, in the early days, it 610 00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:29,440 Speaker 1: was hard for her to come see me a lot 611 00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:31,960 Speaker 1: because she had all these stores and in COVID she 612 00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:34,760 Speaker 1: had everybody aroundages off and everybody off, so she had 613 00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:36,720 Speaker 1: a bounce around all over this but from Stuart to 614 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:39,439 Speaker 1: store to store, and she didn't have the time for me. 615 00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:41,720 Speaker 4: And I liked you. I just I was in a 616 00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:45,920 Speaker 4: situation where like during that yes, and you're like. 617 00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:47,040 Speaker 2: Look, I like you. It's not you. 618 00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:51,080 Speaker 1: I just have all these responsibilities. So really, again, over communicate, 619 00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:53,000 Speaker 1: I really do like you. I know it's going to 620 00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:55,200 Speaker 1: seem like I don't want to see you, but hey, 621 00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:56,640 Speaker 1: and know she would over communicate. 622 00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:57,560 Speaker 2: Here's my schedule. 623 00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:02,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm working eighteen hours days I have but also 624 00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:04,720 Speaker 1: you make the effort like I have one hour on 625 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:08,000 Speaker 1: this day and I'm one free hour and if you 626 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:10,560 Speaker 1: can get over here, I'd love to spend it with you, right, 627 00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:11,040 Speaker 1: do it? 628 00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 2: And you're sacrificed too. 629 00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:14,800 Speaker 1: You'd be like, well, I'm exhausted, but no, but I've 630 00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:16,119 Speaker 1: got to put I've got to work. 631 00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:16,720 Speaker 2: On this right. 632 00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:19,560 Speaker 3: And sometimes I'm like that, it never happens when you're 633 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:21,840 Speaker 3: thinking it's going to happen like that. When we met, 634 00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:25,040 Speaker 3: it was, you know, in awkward, like the timing was 635 00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:26,520 Speaker 3: a little off, but we made it work.