WEBVTT - Rethink what's family friendly

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to rethink what is family friendly. Sometimes jobs

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<v Speaker 1>that aren't known for being family friendly can be more

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<v Speaker 1>doable than you think. Today's tip, like some others this week,

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<v Speaker 1>comes from my book I Know How She Does It,

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<v Speaker 1>which came out ten years ago this month. For this book,

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<v Speaker 1>I collected time diary data from one thousand and one

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<v Speaker 1>days in the lives of women with big careers and

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<v Speaker 1>families to see what life really looked like. It turns

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<v Speaker 1>out that in the one hundred and sixty eight hours

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<v Speaker 1>of a week, there is time to work, have family time, sleep, exercise, read,

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever else people choose to do. Lots of women

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<v Speaker 1>and men quietly and successfully do have it all anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>I collected data from women in all sorts of fields

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<v Speaker 1>that have not historically been known for being family friendly, law, medicine, finance, tech, consulting,

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<v Speaker 1>you name it, and yet these women often had a

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<v Speaker 1>ton of control of their time, and the higher of

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<v Speaker 1>the latter they were, the more autonomy they had. They

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<v Speaker 1>also earned enough that they could afford the help they

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<v Speaker 1>needed to deal with any potential challenges. For instance, a

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<v Speaker 1>woman working at a hedge fund told me that despite

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<v Speaker 1>her field's reputation, she basically worked market hours plus ninety

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<v Speaker 1>minutes on either side. That means that on a normal

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<v Speaker 1>day she worked from eight to five thirty. Her time

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<v Speaker 1>log showed that she did not work at night, she

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<v Speaker 1>did not work on weekends. She got paid a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Not bad, right. Or Consider a physician who told me

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<v Speaker 1>she cringed when she heard young and women say things

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<v Speaker 1>like I'd like to go to medical school, but I

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<v Speaker 1>also want a family. She noted that no one says

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<v Speaker 1>I'd like to be a teacher, but I also want

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<v Speaker 1>to have a family, using that loaded word but. But

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<v Speaker 1>the physician had arranged her life to have way more

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<v Speaker 1>flexibility in her practice than her friends who were teachers

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<v Speaker 1>turned out to have, and she noted she earned multiple

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<v Speaker 1>times what her teacher friends were earning. I am sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>asked what the best job is for working mothers, and

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<v Speaker 1>I like to say, CEO, I'm kidding, but only sort of.

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<v Speaker 1>Because when you run the show, the meeting will happen

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<v Speaker 1>when you want it to happen, And if you want

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<v Speaker 1>to leave early for something, you will and other people

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<v Speaker 1>will figure it out, and if you don't feel like

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<v Speaker 1>cooking dinner, well, you can use some of your extra

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<v Speaker 1>cash to sort out that problem. That is to say,

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<v Speaker 1>the evidence from time diaries is that many jobs that

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<v Speaker 1>aren't known for being family friendly can indeed be quite

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<v Speaker 1>family friendly if you want them to be. So, don't

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<v Speaker 1>rule anything out. If you find something intriguing and you'd

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<v Speaker 1>like to try it, you could. If you are offered

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<v Speaker 1>a job, you can always negotiate to work however you'd like,

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<v Speaker 1>or you can simply work for organizations that focus on results,

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<v Speaker 1>especially if you see that other people there tend to

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<v Speaker 1>be enjoying full lives as well. They are in on

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<v Speaker 1>a little secret. Sometimes things are family friendly that aren't

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<v Speaker 1>known for being family friendly. Maybe you can take advantage

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<v Speaker 1>of that secret too. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've

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<v Speaker 1>got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

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