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Speaker 1: Hey, I'm Kadeen and I'm Devout and we're the Ellis's.

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Speaker 2: You may know us from posting funny videos with.

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Speaker 1: Our voys and reading each other publicly as a.

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Speaker 3: Form of therapy.

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Speaker 4: Wait, I make you need therapy most days. Wow.

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Speaker 3: Oh, and one more important thing to mention, we're married.

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Speaker 4: Yes, sir, we are.

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Speaker 2: We created this podcast to open dialogue about some of

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Speaker 2: li's most taboo topics.

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Speaker 3: Things most folks don't want to talk about.

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Speaker 5: Through the lens of a millennial married couple. Dead ass

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Speaker 5: is a term that we say every day. So when

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Speaker 5: we say dead ass, we're actually saying facts one hundred

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Speaker 5: the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

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Speaker 5: We about to take philosof to our whole new level.

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Speaker 3: Dead ass starts right now.

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Speaker 4: What's up Chicago? Oh? Oh my god, I love y'all.

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Speaker 4: This love feels so good. Man. I love y'all.

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Speaker 6: Man.

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Speaker 4: Oh, oh, please, have.

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Speaker 7: A seat, have a seat, Have a seat, have a seat.

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Speaker 4: How A see you see me? It's something light. It's

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Speaker 4: something light. You know what I'm saying. It's something light.

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Speaker 4: I woke up. I woke up.

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Speaker 7: I said, you know what I mean? Need to get bath.

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Speaker 7: There they go you know what I'm saying. But uh

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Speaker 7: see the chain walked out more with my baby got

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Speaker 7: this for me, you know what I'm saying. Last birthday

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Speaker 7: she pimped out on me. So hey, there's something light.

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Speaker 7: Let me tell let me tell you my birthday. She

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Speaker 7: wakes up right, she goes, baby, can we can?

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Speaker 4: We go to the mall.

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Speaker 7: I'm like, it's my birthday, but okay. She gets up first,

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Speaker 7: puts on these short shorts and I was like, something's up,

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Speaker 7: Something is up. She put on her Red Jordan one

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Speaker 7: she loved joining a Red Jordan once.

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Speaker 4: Put her freaking hair banging the point town. She was like,

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Speaker 4: I'm ready. I was like, it's my birthday though, but whatever.

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Speaker 7: We get to the mall, takes me in this elevator,

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Speaker 7: go upstairs. It's a jeweler, and I'm like, she really

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Speaker 7: wants something. This is on my birthday. This song we

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Speaker 7: walk in there, dude goes, how you doing, mister Ellis,

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Speaker 7: have a seat.

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Speaker 4: Me by help me.

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Speaker 7: So now they bought me some champagne, a whole bunch

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Speaker 7: of stuff. So I'm being sophisticated now because I ain't

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Speaker 7: never been in no jeweler like this, So I'm sitting there.

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Speaker 7: Dude comes out with a whole bunch of Cubans, comes

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Speaker 7: in and goes, get whatever you like.

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Speaker 8: Man, when I tell you that night, you said pick

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Speaker 8: whatever I like.

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Speaker 7: And speaking of whoever I like, I know who y'all

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Speaker 7: came to see.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So I'm.

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Speaker 7: Gonna need everybody to get back on your feet. She

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Speaker 7: is the host of That Ass podcast. She is a

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Speaker 7: New York Times best selling author. She is a Webbie

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Speaker 7: Award winning podcaster.

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Speaker 4: She is also the mom to not one, not two, not.

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Speaker 9: Three, but four whole boys my best friend Decad.

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Speaker 4: Chicago.

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Speaker 10: Oh my goodness, wow, Yo, let me tell y'all something.

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Speaker 7: We have been across the country. This has been the

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Speaker 7: greatest welcome that we act in the entire country. Son,

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Speaker 7: big up yourself.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, Yo, it's crazy. So we're like downstak

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Speaker 3: What was that all right?

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Speaker 4: Sir? Yes, sir Ellice.

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Speaker 1: So we're downstage right, and we get back down backstage

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Speaker 1: downstairs and we can hear I.

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Speaker 3: Mean give it up for DJ.

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Speaker 4: Have a seat, how a suit?

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Speaker 11: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Had the party started way before we got here. I

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Speaker 1: was trying to come out early. I was like, I'm

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Speaker 1: ready to go. I heard y'all had y'all dreams you

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Speaker 1: were hanging out doing a little bop.

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Speaker 4: Y'all don't have funny story. I got a real funny story.

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Speaker 4: Is the story time or storytime? Yet?

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Speaker 7: I'm gonna take y'all back to about twenty minutes ago. Okay,

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Speaker 7: So I'm gonna tell you why we started late. This

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Speaker 7: is why we started late. Before every show, my stomach

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Speaker 7: be like legit, and before I before I start the story,

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Speaker 7: we have any handicapped people in the building, I don't

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Speaker 7: think yes. I'm gonna ask you this question directly. I'm

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Speaker 7: gonna ask you this question directly. Go downstairs, use the bathroom, right.

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Speaker 7: I sit on a toilet. Why is the toilet seats

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Speaker 7: so fucking tall?

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Speaker 1: Man, y'all have to see the I don't know if

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Speaker 1: y'all toilets are the same way, but the toilets are

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Speaker 1: while high in our bathroom.

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Speaker 4: Yo.

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Speaker 7: So I'm on the toilet and I'm trying to like

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Speaker 7: and I'm feeling like a bitch.

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Speaker 4: I ain't gonna lie.

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Speaker 7: I'm like, I'm like straightening your toes out, like I

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Speaker 7: can't be on my toes on this, so I straightened

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Speaker 4: Now my feet dangling. My feet was dangling, and when

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Speaker 4: I'm not comfortable, it just won't come out. So that's

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Speaker 4: what took so long.

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Speaker 3: It didn't happen.

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Speaker 4: It happened.

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Speaker 3: Oh I had lets give a t M.

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Speaker 4: I I had to put books.

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Speaker 7: I had to put books at the bottom so I

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Speaker 4: And then that's so stupid. That's why we gotta lay.

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Speaker 7: I apologize though, and I washed my hands for everybody

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Speaker 7: waiting for the meet and grade.

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Speaker 4: I washed my hands.

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Speaker 1: Shout washing taking the ship so you can tell we

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Speaker 1: family off the bat.

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Speaker 3: Clearly, because you know.

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Speaker 1: So the best part about these shows for us is

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Speaker 1: interacting with y'all.

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Speaker 3: Yes, we do so much from our phones from.

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Speaker 1: The house, post videos, record podcasts, but nothing means more

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Speaker 1: to us than being in a space with you guys.

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Speaker 1: So shout out to y'all for showing up today. I mean,

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Speaker 1: we trucked out of the snow in Detroit were you'll

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Speaker 1: supposed to get the part of that snowstorm or no?

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Speaker 3: All right, so we praised.

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Speaker 7: We want nothing to do with Chicago, not what not

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Speaker 7: one bit that snow was up there like on.

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Speaker 1: Wanted No Parts. Who listens to the podcast, Love y'all

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Speaker 1: for that, Love.

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Speaker 3: Y'all for that?

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Speaker 7: And if you know the podcast, what comes after the

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Speaker 7: introduction Story.

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Speaker 3: Times, Story Times.

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Speaker 7: So now y'all are gonna hear a story that I

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Speaker 7: haven't told yet even if you listen to the podcast.

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Speaker 7: It's about how I got of aseectony, got to.

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Speaker 3: The balance, skipped the balls. I'm so excited about it, y'all.

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Speaker 3: I'm me tell you.

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Speaker 1: The first time he came home, the first time he

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Speaker 1: came home and he was healed and we.

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Speaker 3: Were able to do it again.

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Speaker 1: You know a song I played for the first one first.

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Speaker 4: That's not funny to me, that's triggering to me.

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Speaker 1: You know that song I want to swing from the CHANDELI.

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Speaker 3: I was swinging. That gave me the permission to be free. Baby.

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Speaker 4: That's why.

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Speaker 7: That's what I like the most about it. But let

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Speaker 7: me tell you how she told me that we were going.

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Speaker 4: To do this well.

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Speaker 7: First and foremost, the reason why I decided to get

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Speaker 7: he was our fourth child, Kay developed a postpartum pre clamshire.

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Speaker 7: And if you know about postpartum pre Clamshire. It's you

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Speaker 7: could say that again, that's a fact. It's a bit so.

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Speaker 7: The doctor told us, you know, if Kadean were to

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Speaker 7: get pregnant again, she might have full blown proclaimed, which

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Speaker 7: could also lead to her death. Because she was hospitalized

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Speaker 7: after CODA with the postpartum proclaim. Her blood pressure was

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Speaker 7: high and they told her she was on the verge

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Speaker 7: of getting a stroke. So after we decided we weren't

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Speaker 7: gonna have any more kids, we.

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Speaker 4: Tried birth control. The birth control was giving her issues.

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Speaker 7: It was just like yo, yo, yo, it's my time

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Speaker 7: likes as a man.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, I appreciate that.

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Speaker 7: I'm proud of myself and I'm glad y'all clapped for me.

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Speaker 7: All right, I'm glad your clapped for me and my man.

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Speaker 7: You know we both appreciate you. So when you hear this,

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Speaker 7: when you hear this story, you're gonna understand why I'm

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Speaker 7: so mad. You see that applause I got, Now, y'all

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Speaker 7: gonna see why I was fucking fissed. My wife was

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Speaker 7: so excited right I was filming. My wife was so

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Speaker 7: excited that was gonna get a sect to me. She's

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Speaker 7: doing all the research, looking up doctors, just sending me stuff.

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Speaker 7: I don't care, all right, Like I just don't want

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Speaker 7: to hear about it. Just tell me when I gotta go.

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Speaker 7: One morning, I wake up, She's like, I'm like, what's up?

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Speaker 4: Like, what's up? You have an appointment today? I was

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Speaker 4: like for what?

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Speaker 3: She was like, remember you didn't check the calendar.

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Speaker 7: So okay, you did tell me to check my calendar.

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Speaker 7: Never checked, never checked my calendar.

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Speaker 3: Told his brother we were going to be home this weekend.

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Speaker 1: So his brother's at our house, flew all the way

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Speaker 3: Didn't know we weren't gonna be here.

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Speaker 7: Listen, he should have checked my calendar. He has people

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Speaker 7: come over. I told me come over, that's not my problem.

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Speaker 7: So she goes, I gotta get your sected me.

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Speaker 4: I was like, damn, that's today. She's like yeah.

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Speaker 7: So she had sweatpants lined up, slippers lined up school, and.

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Speaker 4: We was matching. So I'm really pissed now, Like I'm like, yo, yo, no,

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Speaker 4: son no no. I said, I'm not.

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Speaker 7: Wearing matching pajama sets. To get it a second me,

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Speaker 7: my nigga, I'm not doing that.

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Speaker 4: Bro.

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Speaker 3: It was your favorite color.

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Speaker 1: I was trying to you comfort so you.

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Speaker 4: I appreciate that for me. Yeah.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, Now you're not gonna get me to agree to that.

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Speaker 4: You're not gonna give me to agree to that.

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Speaker 7: So in a moment of protest, I went in my closet,

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Speaker 7: got my black sweatpants.

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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, Wakanda forever. You know what

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Speaker 4: I'm saying.

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Speaker 7: I'm here with mons. So I come out dressing all black.

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Speaker 7: I'm like, all right, if I'm gonna do this, I'm

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Speaker 7: gonna do this on my terms. So now we go.

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Speaker 7: We get into the car, right, I kid you not.

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Speaker 7: Every inch closer. I got to that fucking doctor's office.

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Speaker 4: Show my stomach.

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Speaker 8: Mom.

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Speaker 4: I told y'all about downstairs, y'all so my stomach, I said.

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Speaker 7: So then we get there, and I kid you not.

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Speaker 7: We pull up in the parking lot. There's like six cars, bro,

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Speaker 7: every car due was a woman driving and a dude

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Speaker 7: in the passage to see like this.

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Speaker 3: It was like a carpool line.

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Speaker 7: So I was like, I was like, Yo, this shit

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Speaker 7: is wild. This is like this is like the handsmade's

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Speaker 7: tail backwards, like y'all just taking all of our nuts.

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Speaker 7: That's why I ain't make you nothing last night. After

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Speaker 4: No, No, you was definitely on service that night. You

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Speaker 7: She was prepared. So then put me to sleep. Right,

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Speaker 7: Like nah nah because but but then in that moment,

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Speaker 7: Like like, that's the neurologist, right, like, you gotta grow up.

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Speaker 4: Does that sound like I just want to know?

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Speaker 3: For a long time.

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Speaker 1: Like older white dude, gray hair, you know the top

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Speaker 3: But the biggest thing that made me cringe, what bulls? Really?

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Speaker 3: I missed the possible moments. When did I say you.

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Speaker 4: Got four sons? You missed the plausible moments you gonna

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Speaker 1: But the best part about it was Deval was really

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Speaker 3: Now, what is it going to be like? Consistency wise?

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Speaker 3: And I'm like, Devo, do.

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Speaker 1: Not embarrass me in front of this man. I'm like, sorry,

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Speaker 1: it's the anesthesia talking. It's not him.

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Speaker 3: Promise he's not.

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Speaker 4: Normally like this. That was not the anesthesia talking. Lie.

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Speaker 7: I was thinking about you right when you get Yes,

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Speaker 7: it's a texture thing. When when when you get you

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Speaker 4: Stayed the same. And I was doing that for you, baby.

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Speaker 3: To him, So let's talk about milk.

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Speaker 1: You got whole milk, you got two percent, you got

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Speaker 1: one percent, you got skim milk. Where do I fall

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Speaker 4: I just wanted to know. I need you don't want

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Speaker 12: That like jo man, it's clear? Why is my not clear?

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Speaker 12: Why this is not fair? Nobody want to have clear?

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Speaker 12: En man, put you on them on plate.

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Speaker 1: But the doctor confirmed that nothing changed any the swimmers.

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Speaker 3: There's proof. Clap him up. Nothing changed, y'all. He's still excited.

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Speaker 4: Ah, thank you, thank you. You know.

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Speaker 3: So I took him home.

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Speaker 1: I took him home, do you know, wheeled him in

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Speaker 1: took him home, nursed him the health passing the peas.

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Speaker 7: So, my trolling ass wife went and bought like ten

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Speaker 4: Them with peas right.

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Speaker 7: And every time she come by to remind me to

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Speaker 4: Past peas like you used to do past.

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Speaker 3: What show is that from?

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Speaker 1: It was his favorite, It was his favorite.

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Speaker 3: I didn't think this whole thing out.

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Speaker 3: Everybody that I know had a vaseect tom me party.

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Speaker 1: I said, de bell, I'm not trying to make fun

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Speaker 3: It was a medical procedure, so I don't want to

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Speaker 1: They got it done and their wife was throwing a party.

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Speaker 3: You didn't throw me no party.

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Speaker 1: I said, Okay, okay, there's nothing to celebrate yet until

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Speaker 3: Have we gone back yet for that sample to be tested?

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Speaker 1: So until then, I'm gonna stay on this pill real quick,

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Speaker 1: though you know, check.

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Speaker 3: Your calendar because Wednesday.

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Speaker 7: You see you see how you see how she's trying to.

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Speaker 4: Just blaze over.

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Speaker 7: Take your calendar.

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Speaker 4: It's fine.

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Speaker 1: Check your calendar because on Wednesday morning, first thing, I

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Speaker 3: Dry. I'm not leaving you out to dry. I will

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Speaker 1: We'll go get it, you know, sample tested. It'll be

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Speaker 4: Okay, can you get this? I need this this.

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Speaker 7: She will be helping me get the specimen that is

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Speaker 1: And then lets me know that everything is copasthetic. Y'all

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Speaker 3: How about that we can celebrate? All right?

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Speaker 3: Who knows our producer's name, Trible. Unfortunately Triple could not

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Speaker 3: Feeling too well. But she is on the end and

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Speaker 1: Trible requested that some of you attended the show right

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Speaker 4: Okay, why cars, Well.

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Speaker 3: You should have your own cards, hosts.

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Speaker 4: I don't use cards.

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Speaker 3: Listen.

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Speaker 1: I was covering my paper in school, so you couldn't

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Speaker 3: That was you, But you lucky you cue, I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: sare my paper.

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Speaker 4: Stop study.

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Speaker 3: That's a fact. Listen.

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Speaker 1: So we decided to play a game, y'all wrote in Now,

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Speaker 1: let me first of all before we go there, how

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Speaker 1: many singles do.

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Speaker 3: We have in the house tonight?

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Speaker 1: Okay, single men, particularly any single men? There are never

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Speaker 3: Listen.

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Speaker 1: If I was the person into women, I would be

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Speaker 3: Don't you think we gotta get the word for other

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Speaker 3: It's here. How about married couples?

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Speaker 4: Yo, my man stood up. Let's go you married men?

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Speaker 4: Un you see that? Because I know your struggle, baby.

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Speaker 13: It ain't no struggle. How about how about any man

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Speaker 3: Know who we are.

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Speaker 1: But your wife brought you out here to come see

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Speaker 1: the show down right hand?

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Speaker 3: How y'all are kids?

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Speaker 4: I rock with you too, I rock with you.

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Speaker 3: It's the matching kicks for me.

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Speaker 7: Now, yup, you're gonna be getting matching for sector me.

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Speaker 7: But jamas later on, baby gonna be walking in there

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Speaker 3: That's how we ease them in.

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Speaker 4: That's how we starts with the sneakers.

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Speaker 1: And anyone here with a boyfriend or girlfriend or partner

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Speaker 3: But yeah right, yeah fabulous.

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Speaker 1: So chances are all these cards. I have three couples.

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Speaker 1: Let's hope that your partner lets you know that they

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Speaker 1: they hear their name and they hear a familiar story

446
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Speaker 1: and they're like, you did not sign me.

447
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Speaker 3: Up for this.

448
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Speaker 4: Let me tell you.

449
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Speaker 7: We've been at cities and it was just like, we're

450
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Speaker 7: not gonna say their names. It was like, this couple

451
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:48,439
Speaker 7: met in Brooklyn. They have two sons. Won't you hear

452
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 7: his damn shup? Come on, man, come on, sign up

453
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:54,440
Speaker 7: for this yo.

454
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Speaker 4: I was like, God, dang, he gotta come stand next

455
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Speaker 4: to me.

456
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:02,960
Speaker 1: No, no, no, I guess so we are going to

457
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:05,360
Speaker 1: call up on these three couples.

458
00:25:05,920 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 3: I will read the story if.

459
00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:10,160
Speaker 1: It sounds familiar to you whoever wrote it in make

460
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Speaker 1: sure you hold your partner's hand on.

461
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Speaker 4: The way up.

462
00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:15,880
Speaker 1: You're gonna be on a toilet like the now, right,

463
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Speaker 1: all right, hold it down, now, hold it down.

464
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Speaker 3: First couple, newlyweds.

465
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:27,199
Speaker 1: This couple has only been married for seven months, but

466
00:25:27,320 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 1: already have survived more than most couples will. A cancer diagnosis, guys, No, seriously,

467
00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:47,280
Speaker 1: a'll because I just got to the next sentence. A

468
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:51,880
Speaker 1: cancer diagnosis and a mass shooting could have been the end.

469
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Speaker 1: But they're here today and more in love than ever.

470
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Speaker 1: Please welcome Marquise and Taylor to the stage.

471
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Speaker 4: Here we go.

472
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Speaker 3: What a story, y'all. Give a big round of a

473
00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:08,919
Speaker 3: pause to Marquise and so much. Come on, come on

474
00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:13,160
Speaker 3: down front here. How about your brother? I'm doing so well?

475
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:17,560
Speaker 3: How are you so nice to meet you?

476
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:22,160
Speaker 7: This is the guy that was screaming come back. It's

477
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:22,959
Speaker 7: nice to meet you, bro.

478
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Speaker 1: Y'all can go on down this way.

479
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 3: Okay, And.

480
00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:37,040
Speaker 4: They got that's what I was lying, right?

481
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 1: Are y'all from Brooklyn originally New York?

482
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Speaker 3: Okay? The vibe is given very New York, y'all look great.

483
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:51,440
Speaker 3: You see your wife smart man, smart man.

484
00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:55,080
Speaker 7: Y'all already man matching the second? Me too, for y'all,

485
00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:57,639
Speaker 7: I'll pay for it.

486
00:26:58,000 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 4: Up in the spell.

487
00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:01,520
Speaker 3: Like trying to be.

488
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:05,159
Speaker 4: You gonna cut some nuts and discounts. Will cut some nuts.

489
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:08,719
Speaker 4: You gonna cut some nuts. You gonna cut some nuts.

490
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 4: You gonna cut some nuts.

491
00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:15,640
Speaker 1: You see, the second is the best thing you ever did.

492
00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 1: He's so excited about it, y'all, so excited. All right,

493
00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 1: our next couple. How many people can say their husband

494
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:28,360
Speaker 1: waited five whole years until marriage to have sex?

495
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:33,360
Speaker 4: What that is? A strong man right there?

496
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:40,800
Speaker 3: Well this husband did no way. Now wait, it gets better,

497
00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:47,159
Speaker 3: It gets better. Hear the rest of the story.

498
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:50,720
Speaker 4: Come on up, y'all, come.

499
00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:57,119
Speaker 3: All right before it's nicking devout. That's it for me.

500
00:27:57,240 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 7: Wait stop wait wait stop wait, please stop Okay, Josh.

501
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:07,719
Speaker 4: Said, these exes are here for a reason.

502
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:11,320
Speaker 7: Couple one on the axe, I was told that on

503
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 7: follow directions. Josh got mad before the shower. Be like

504
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 7: thee be telling the people what to do the right way.

505
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,400
Speaker 7: You just be all over the place. So you see

506
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:19,360
Speaker 7: me being responsible.

507
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:24,240
Speaker 4: Step two that's not my problem. You know what I'm saying.

508
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 7: Josh should have checked the calendar, and Josh said, I

509
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:28,600
Speaker 7: gotta stand right here.

510
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:36,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, don't be looking down at me. Yo. Know, I've

511
00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:39,920
Speaker 4: been dealing with this since college. I played with Marcus

512
00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 4: Colston six four.

513
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 7: I played with Calvin Johnson six five, and all they

514
00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:44,720
Speaker 7: used to stand over me.

515
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:45,239
Speaker 4: Who's up?

516
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 7: Daval, Get the funk away from me? Man, anybody was

517
00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:51,600
Speaker 7: sixty three years Don't you know what I'm saying.

518
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:54,640
Speaker 4: You're gonna patronize me.

519
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:58,280
Speaker 7: I appreciate that we're gonna be homeies before the end

520
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 7: of the effect.

521
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:03,000
Speaker 1: So let me finish the story, because I didn't even

522
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:03,840
Speaker 1: get to get finished.

523
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 3: Next story. Now, she slid into his DM's first.

524
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:12,080
Speaker 1: But once numbers were exchanged, look at you shooting your shot.

525
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 1: Sis high five on that because I shot my shot too.

526
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 3: Tell youm yagom right hold on.

527
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:22,959
Speaker 4: You say what you said just now?

528
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 2: I said, she's seen something she liked.

529
00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:34,960
Speaker 4: You see one and the same, one and the same

530
00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 4: that's it.

531
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Speaker 3: Similar stories.

532
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, But once the numbers were exchanged, you guys courted

533
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:45,320
Speaker 1: and learned how to love each other, or you actually

534
00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 1: learned how to love her.

535
00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 3: The way she expected to be loved to look at y'all.

536
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:52,480
Speaker 3: She doesn't know that, she wrote in So let's see

537
00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 3: what he thinks about this. What do you think about this?

538
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:57,520
Speaker 4: Mind blown?

539
00:29:57,760 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 3: Well, we're happy to have y'all here, giving up for Shaman. Yes,

540
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 3: this are some good stories.

541
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:06,640
Speaker 4: Let me tell you.

542
00:30:06,840 --> 00:30:08,760
Speaker 1: We had a little struggle out in Detroit Hill, but

543
00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:10,760
Speaker 1: we won't talk about that, all right, So.

544
00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:13,640
Speaker 3: It's a little awkward.

545
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:20,600
Speaker 4: It was just one guy in particular. Look, we just.

546
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:22,400
Speaker 3: Cut the game short. We're like, everybody go to sleep.

547
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 4: In fact, everybody to be happy to be.

548
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 3: Here, all right? High school sweethearts?

549
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:35,280
Speaker 1: Who's that about to embark on a big move from

550
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 1: Chicago down to the new.

551
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:40,960
Speaker 3: Black Hollywood, Atlanta, So we're gonna be neighbors.

552
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 1: This couple is ready to follow their dreams, and they

553
00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:46,320
Speaker 1: think what better way to see them off than in

554
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:48,760
Speaker 1: a room with another couple who made their own dreams happen.

555
00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:53,239
Speaker 3: Oh that's so sweet. Give it up for Tyler and Amari.

556
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:57,640
Speaker 7: Looking couples up here.

557
00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:00,120
Speaker 4: I need you to stand right.

558
00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:06,640
Speaker 1: So, Josh, we're all following directions tonight. Yes, Josh, good, Josh,

559
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:10,000
Speaker 1: Josh got familiar with Josh?

560
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 3: All right?

561
00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:15,840
Speaker 4: Josh Dave, we.

562
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:18,840
Speaker 1: Can't see, all right, We're great, all right.

563
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 3: So we're gonna play a long game.

564
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:29,600
Speaker 14: Okay, trouble put together some black history, yep, some black

565
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 14: history content.

566
00:31:31,720 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 1: And I know it's March, but black history is every day,

567
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 1: especially Alice Household, all right, so I know it's March fourth,

568
00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:43,960
Speaker 1: or we're gonna keep the celebration rolling, are y'all okay

569
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:44,160
Speaker 1: with that?

570
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 3: Okay? All right?

571
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:50,880
Speaker 1: So this first game, the first round is black history quotes.

572
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:55,320
Speaker 1: Black cinema is indeed black history, and when it comes

573
00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 1: to black movies, being able to quote them at any

574
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 1: given time is a valuable skill because you risk getting.

575
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 3: Your black card revoked. Baby, So let's.

576
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:10,240
Speaker 4: See how many we gotta tell them what they're gonna

577
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:10,720
Speaker 4: win though.

578
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 3: Oh where they gonna win.

579
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 7: If you win, you get two autographed T shirts from

580
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 7: Dead Ass Podcasts, and.

581
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 3: Oh that's cute, and oh the's and a drink on me. Okay,

582
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:26,520
Speaker 3: and no, that's it.

583
00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:31,040
Speaker 4: That's enough. That's enough. These questions are not that hard.

584
00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:34,200
Speaker 1: We hope, We hope because people were struggling in some

585
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:34,800
Speaker 1: other states.

586
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 3: Now, so let's see how many black.

587
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:42,320
Speaker 1: Movies you've seen by testing your black movie quote knowledge.

588
00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 3: Gendaval has the questions over there. Yes, you're ready to

589
00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:51,480
Speaker 3: dive in. You better cover your paper like I did.

590
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 4: Well, excuse me, excuse me.

591
00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:57,320
Speaker 1: So the way it's gonna work, it's gonna be multiple choice, right,

592
00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:01,040
Speaker 1: you were gonna decide amongst yourself what the answer is?

593
00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 3: Is it one A, two B or three C.

594
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 1: After you decide amongst yourselves, we're gonna do a countdown,

595
00:33:09,120 --> 00:33:11,880
Speaker 1: and then after you hear the music finish, you guys

596
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 1: will both either put a one finger, two fingers or

597
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:20,800
Speaker 1: three ABC understood. No cheating, y'all, don't be putting up

598
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 1: No numbers out there either cheat for you you, no lifelines,

599
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 1: none of that.

600
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 7: The purpose of the game is to watch how couples communicate,

601
00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:35,240
Speaker 7: especially during times of stress.

602
00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 1: That's a fact stress.

603
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:44,480
Speaker 3: Question before we dive in. Is this a judgment free zone? Fabulous?

604
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 3: Because a dead ass podcast.

605
00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 1: One thing we want to do is make sure everyone

606
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:49,360
Speaker 1: feels comfortable and no one feels judged.

607
00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:51,160
Speaker 3: What you can do is do what de vo.

608
00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 4: You can hold your judgment till you get in your car.

609
00:33:57,200 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 3: That'll be the same space.

610
00:33:58,920 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 7: Damn here, no judge. Everybody was nice. Their answers is great.

611
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:16,080
Speaker 7: You got your call that nigga stupid no judgments, No judgment.

612
00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:19,320
Speaker 3: Question number one, take it away, Baby Players Club.

613
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 7: In the cult classic Diamond, played by Lisa Ray, feuds

614
00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:28,560
Speaker 7: with her father over wanting to go to what fictional

615
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:34,080
Speaker 7: HBCU don't scream it out. Is it a Southern tech?

616
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:38,759
Speaker 7: Is it B Atlanta A and T? Or is it

617
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:41,320
Speaker 7: C Atlanta Southern?

618
00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 4: All this this one is not easy.

619
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna tell you. I need know to answer, y'all.

620
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:58,600
Speaker 4: Let's play think, thank take love, thank you.

621
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:02,480
Speaker 5: Gotta looking at a shot can a fish tank?

622
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 4: All right?

623
00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:08,760
Speaker 7: All right, we gotta get We gotta get these answers

624
00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:11,719
Speaker 7: back before Atlantic get I mean Chicago get turned up,

625
00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:14,120
Speaker 7: all right. Every time we turned the music on, it's

626
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:15,319
Speaker 7: about to be the club in here.

627
00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:18,239
Speaker 3: That's the facts. Every time this Saturday night, and I.

628
00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:20,279
Speaker 7: Had a couple of drinks and I smoked, so I'll

629
00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 7: be out there with you too, like, uh.

630
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:29,560
Speaker 1: Now, all right, on account of three put your fingers

631
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Speaker 1: out one.

632
00:35:30,800 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 4: Two, three, Oh, y'all all got it wrong.

633
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:41,359
Speaker 7: It was a Southern.

634
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:46,239
Speaker 3: Lies lies. Y'all didn't know neither. I didn't know y'all was.

635
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 7: Watching strip of movies back in the nineties.

636
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:50,919
Speaker 4: We know who all the freaks are now.

637
00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 3: That part reading zame books.

638
00:35:54,280 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 1: Had no business reading zayme books, tell but was reading them?

639
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:00,880
Speaker 4: Number two.

640
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:08,920
Speaker 7: Friday, nobody better never get nothing wrong about Friday, the

641
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:11,320
Speaker 7: late great Chicago legend.

642
00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:12,560
Speaker 4: Bernie mac.

643
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:19,840
Speaker 7: Play the preacher of what church in the classic movie Friday?

644
00:36:20,719 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 7: Was it ebonez a Baptist Church? Was it seventy fourth

645
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:30,800
Speaker 7: Street Baptist Church? Or was it compting?

646
00:36:31,120 --> 00:36:31,520
Speaker 6: All right?

647
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:35,319
Speaker 4: That is it for the club on account of.

648
00:36:35,280 --> 00:36:42,320
Speaker 3: Three one two three two.

649
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:48,520
Speaker 7: It's seventy fourth Street Baptist Church. Because around here between

650
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:52,000
Speaker 7: a arm and knee and weston, we call this here

651
00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:54,920
Speaker 7: a little twin and twin twin.

652
00:36:55,719 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 4: Meg, Thank you, thank you.

653
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 3: That was great.

654
00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 4: I love Chicago, man, I'm bringing the boys.

655
00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 3: Here, all right.

656
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:08,759
Speaker 1: So that's one point one one point one, all right?

657
00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 4: On number three, number three, love Jones.

658
00:37:18,719 --> 00:37:19,520
Speaker 3: That was a good one.

659
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:23,440
Speaker 1: That all the freaks in the front, all the freaks,

660
00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:24,640
Speaker 1: that was a good one.

661
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:30,280
Speaker 7: After Darius and Nina's first night hook up, Nina tells

662
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:33,920
Speaker 7: her friend Josie that his dick just talked to me.

663
00:37:35,080 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 4: What did it say? A love me? B Nina c run.

664
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Speaker 3: All right, all right now.

665
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Speaker 4: Who I think they know what the answer is?

666
00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:50,359
Speaker 15: There?

667
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Speaker 4: You go, all right?

668
00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:55,759
Speaker 3: One, go ahead, go ahead, go ahead, go ahead?

669
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Speaker 4: Baby?

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Speaker 1: On account of three, then one, two, three, we got.

671
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Speaker 3: Two to two.

672
00:38:02,320 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 7: Y'all young? So y'all probably ain't even watch Love Jones?

673
00:38:06,280 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 4: How old are y'all? Are you? Twenty two? You are

674
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:11,360
Speaker 4: you younger than the movie?

675
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:17,120
Speaker 7: That's not even fair. There was like Love Jones. Oh

676
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:18,080
Speaker 7: my god, who wrote that?

677
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:23,440
Speaker 4: He's a ray? Fucking Love Jones? I'm just can we

678
00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 4: see that on YouTube? Baby gotta watch Love Jones?

679
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:30,640
Speaker 1: Yeah right, you gotta watch Love Jones is a classic

680
00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 1: if y'all give it in home movie night.

681
00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:34,480
Speaker 3: Love Jones is a class.

682
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Speaker 7: But I don't blame you for not knowing, though, because

683
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:39,120
Speaker 7: twenty two, all right.

684
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:40,319
Speaker 4: That's the end of round one.

685
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 3: In the lead, were they right?

686
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:42,719
Speaker 4: In the lead?

687
00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:45,160
Speaker 7: It's a couple number one, okay, In second place it's

688
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 7: a couple number two, and the last place the youngest ones,

689
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:49,000
Speaker 7: couple number three.

690
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:51,840
Speaker 1: So how about how do you feel about keeping a

691
00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 1: couple number three around just because we feel bad for

692
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:55,520
Speaker 1: them because they little babies and they didn't know.

693
00:38:55,520 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 3: The answer to that.

694
00:38:56,360 --> 00:38:58,120
Speaker 4: I'm with it, I'm with it. I'm with it.

695
00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 1: We're gonna give them grace and we're gonna let them

696
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:02,600
Speaker 1: stay for Around to that cool.

697
00:39:02,719 --> 00:39:05,439
Speaker 4: Yes, all right, go ahead, baby, all right.

698
00:39:05,440 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 3: Now, round to y'all famous black couples.

699
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:15,280
Speaker 1: So our love for black love has been a staple

700
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:18,360
Speaker 1: in black media over many years. In fact, the Ellis's

701
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 1: Family sitcom that you see on social media, who.

702
00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:23,239
Speaker 3: Shout out to the YouTube channel who watches our videos.

703
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:27,960
Speaker 1: With the boys with our babies, it was inspired by

704
00:39:28,040 --> 00:39:31,279
Speaker 1: many of the black TV couples that we watched growing up.

705
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:33,680
Speaker 1: So let's see how much you know about the relationships

706
00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:36,839
Speaker 1: that we saw on TV that shaped our idea of

707
00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:38,680
Speaker 1: love and everything in between.

708
00:39:38,920 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 3: You ready, all right here, baby, I'm gonna hand this

709
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:42,120
Speaker 3: over to you.

710
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:44,360
Speaker 4: I feel bad for the young couple of Game Man.

711
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:50,319
Speaker 3: She said, she said, you never know, She said, you

712
00:39:50,360 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 3: never know?

713
00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:53,000
Speaker 4: All right.

714
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:53,960
Speaker 3: I have faith in y'all.

715
00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:57,759
Speaker 1: Okay, you got faith and worst casever take an educated yees.

716
00:39:57,719 --> 00:39:59,160
Speaker 4: Side hold on. She says, you got faith.

717
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 3: Watch this its about chance to get it right.

718
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:10,680
Speaker 7: In the classic black sitcom Good Times, this is like

719
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Speaker 7: German to them, Gorge coovet skin Gorge covet skin times,

720
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 7: Covet skinny. They not gonna have no idea, y'all getting

721
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,360
Speaker 7: drinks on me to know German?

722
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:24,520
Speaker 4: You didn't know I knew German.

723
00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:27,640
Speaker 7: I had no idea learn something new every day. Watch out,

724
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:31,800
Speaker 7: you better speak to me in Germany. You like that

725
00:40:31,880 --> 00:40:38,319
Speaker 7: ship right, sniff it, skimming it, drop it?

726
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:42,200
Speaker 3: So stupid shout go ahead, get me.

727
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:45,479
Speaker 7: Get back to the so y'all, y'all crazy. I'm trying

728
00:40:45,520 --> 00:40:47,719
Speaker 7: to be a professional. Can I be a professional host?

729
00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:53,120
Speaker 4: Guys? Please? Y'all got no faith in me?

730
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:57,080
Speaker 7: In the classic black sitcom Good Times, what are the

731
00:40:57,160 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 7: names of J J, Michael and Thelma's parents?

732
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:02,360
Speaker 4: Is it A?

733
00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 7: Jed and Gemma Edwards, b Edda and Evan Michaels c.

734
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:12,200
Speaker 4: James and Florida Evans?

735
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:15,399
Speaker 7: All right, on the count of three, count down, baby

736
00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:19,000
Speaker 7: to us, one, two, three, you.

737
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:20,759
Speaker 4: Right?

738
00:41:21,960 --> 00:41:24,440
Speaker 7: And the best part about it is they got that

739
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:26,320
Speaker 7: with no help from the crowd at all.

740
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:27,399
Speaker 3: Not one bit.

741
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 4: That was amazing at a bloomps line bloom.

742
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:35,880
Speaker 3: No idea how that happens?

743
00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:41,520
Speaker 4: All right? In this episode of Fresh Prince of bel Air,

744
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 4: all right, yeah we're still fucking with.

745
00:41:44,680 --> 00:41:50,840
Speaker 7: Will Lamey, Yeah yeah we are. Can't cancel Will Smith.

746
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:56,720
Speaker 7: He survived a zombie apocalypse. You think you can cancel

747
00:41:56,760 --> 00:42:01,839
Speaker 7: a nigga that ain't here nobody for years? Come on,

748
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:05,560
Speaker 7: and just recently escaped slavery. Did y'all go see Emancipation?

749
00:42:06,800 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 4: Fire? That movie is fire.

750
00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 7: If you have kids of age to understand that I'm

751
00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:14,239
Speaker 7: telling you this is not me joking, take them to

752
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:19,279
Speaker 7: see Emancipation and learn the story telling you Apple TV watch,

753
00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:23,800
Speaker 7: It's a great movie. In the episode of Fresh Prince

754
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:27,479
Speaker 7: of bel Air, did the Earth move for you?

755
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:32,120
Speaker 4: Will? Got stuck in the basement? Sit in on a tricycle?

756
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:34,000
Speaker 4: Girl getting all my nurse?

757
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 7: I thought she was fine, don't know with a body

758
00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:45,319
Speaker 7: is hers? I guess y'all seen it on a day

759
00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:52,719
Speaker 7: played by what famous actress? A Tisha Campbell B Jasmine

760
00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:55,800
Speaker 7: guy see nil long?

761
00:42:58,400 --> 00:42:58,879
Speaker 4: All right?

762
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:01,400
Speaker 3: You want to give nan this one more time?

763
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:04,120
Speaker 4: Do y'all need to hear one more time? Y'all got it?

764
00:43:04,160 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 3: I got it all right on ac count of.

765
00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 4: Three one two? Oh, okay, you say you needed one

766
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:11,759
Speaker 4: more time? Is it?

767
00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 7: A t Sha Campbell B Jasmine guy see Nia long

768
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:19,280
Speaker 7: one two?

769
00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:19,920
Speaker 3: Three?

770
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:24,440
Speaker 12: Oh?

771
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:28,400
Speaker 7: Hey, hey, hey, we said no judgments. Turn the baby's

772
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 7: eyes away, turn the baby no, no, come on, guys, don't.

773
00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:43,319
Speaker 4: Do that to them their children. Can we give them

774
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:44,240
Speaker 4: around them? Applause?

775
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:52,880
Speaker 3: Please? It was Gina before gin yo, ma.

776
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:56,279
Speaker 7: I heard somebody over here and say get them before

777
00:43:56,320 --> 00:44:02,279
Speaker 7: come parder here. No, no, we gotta stop that.

778
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:03,279
Speaker 1: No.

779
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:07,399
Speaker 3: I believe the children are our future. Teach them well

780
00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:08,640
Speaker 3: and let them.

781
00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:12,040
Speaker 4: Lead the way. Thank you.

782
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 3: You're welcome these babies over here. Let me stay close.

783
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:21,799
Speaker 4: Cover them, please cover them. I will cover them. I

784
00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:23,280
Speaker 4: will thank you.

785
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:27,799
Speaker 7: All right, last question before they get hostile in here.

786
00:44:30,320 --> 00:44:38,279
Speaker 7: In season one of my favorite sitcom, y'all really know me?

787
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 4: Huh, y'all know me. I love Martin.

788
00:44:56,880 --> 00:45:02,280
Speaker 7: Shout out Marty, mam my lords, Martin gets a blast

789
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:06,320
Speaker 7: from the past from his first crush, his first grade teacher.

790
00:45:08,239 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 4: What was her name? Ay, Miss James b Miss Trinidad.

791
00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 6: See yeah, everybody get shirts, everybody drinks.

792
00:45:44,719 --> 00:45:47,879
Speaker 1: So at this point in the show, you guys can

793
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:50,160
Speaker 1: take over and ask us some questions.

794
00:45:50,520 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 3: Okay, so don't be shy.

795
00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:55,239
Speaker 1: Just make your way either to the Nora's side or

796
00:45:55,239 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 1: to Josh's side.

797
00:45:56,160 --> 00:45:56,680
Speaker 3: Come on up.

798
00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:57,879
Speaker 4: See a couple of hands, then.

799
00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:02,960
Speaker 3: Come on up and we'll get into this portion of

800
00:46:03,000 --> 00:46:03,440
Speaker 3: the show.

801
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 4: Give me a little yeah, jump out boys as Nike boys.

802
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 4: I've been our coach way to me.

803
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:22,320
Speaker 11: Okay, ready, all.

804
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:25,840
Speaker 4: Right, okay, hey y'all.

805
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:29,000
Speaker 16: I'm super super sex to be here. What's super crazy

806
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:30,400
Speaker 16: is that I didn't even have to take it to

807
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:32,560
Speaker 16: come to the show today, and I waited till the

808
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:35,320
Speaker 16: very last person to get here, me and my boyfriend.

809
00:46:35,440 --> 00:46:40,040
Speaker 16: I literally pulled him and said, we're coming tonight. Shout

810
00:46:40,040 --> 00:46:42,480
Speaker 16: out to Miley, my girl. She was behind us and

811
00:46:42,520 --> 00:46:44,439
Speaker 16: she was like, you know what you should say, and

812
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 16: look we're here.

813
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 3: So thank you godday.

814
00:46:49,840 --> 00:46:53,800
Speaker 16: I have a really big question that I'm sure answering anine.

815
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:59,000
Speaker 4: Sorry, my brother, I know you wanted to watch the

816
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:01,640
Speaker 4: bulls tonight. He like it is some bullshit.

817
00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:06,359
Speaker 16: So we met in college and so long story story,

818
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:08,840
Speaker 16: we've been together for eight years. We just got our house,

819
00:47:09,200 --> 00:47:15,600
Speaker 16: but we are not married yet, and so my my lifestyle.

820
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:17,240
Speaker 7: Is it's get a pressure.

821
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:20,280
Speaker 4: What I see, I see two chips stand up behind

822
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:22,520
Speaker 4: him like this, what's up?

823
00:47:22,560 --> 00:47:22,719
Speaker 15: Though?

824
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:27,920
Speaker 7: What's sure you careful over there?

825
00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:31,160
Speaker 16: But like I grew up with two parent household. My

826
00:47:31,200 --> 00:47:35,359
Speaker 16: parents have been together for thirty one years married and

827
00:47:35,400 --> 00:47:37,839
Speaker 16: he is not. So when I went into this, I

828
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:39,359
Speaker 16: was like, Okay, I know that we came from two

829
00:47:39,360 --> 00:47:41,440
Speaker 16: different backgrounds, but the one of the things that I

830
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:43,440
Speaker 16: loved about him is that he was willing to learn.

831
00:47:43,680 --> 00:47:47,279
Speaker 16: So but now that we're here, what advice can you give?

832
00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:50,000
Speaker 16: Mainly from a man's perspective, and I guess from one's

833
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:54,680
Speaker 16: perspective too, Like grandson, I absolutely love him, But should I.

834
00:47:54,680 --> 00:47:59,320
Speaker 3: Stay that should I say I promise? No, no, I promise.

835
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:01,600
Speaker 3: That's not not quite that's a question. Wait what no.

836
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:07,480
Speaker 7: Damn Chicago Chicago. Remember we said no touchment Chicago, Chicago.

837
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:14,120
Speaker 7: She asked a question. We're going to give her an answer.

838
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:18,360
Speaker 3: Baby girl.

839
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:21,399
Speaker 7: All right, I'm gonna answer the question. I'm gonna answer

840
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:23,320
Speaker 7: the question. I'm gonna answer the question.

841
00:48:24,120 --> 00:48:30,799
Speaker 16: All right, Okay, what advice would you give him to

842
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:33,279
Speaker 16: know that? Okay, I'm going as I said, we just

843
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:35,640
Speaker 16: got a house, he just got me a puppy, so

844
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:36,720
Speaker 16: we're definitely building.

845
00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:37,799
Speaker 1: Right.

846
00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:42,880
Speaker 4: So this is the advice I'm going to give both.

847
00:48:42,680 --> 00:48:45,320
Speaker 3: Of you together for how long is said eight years?

848
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:48,759
Speaker 7: This is the advice I'm going to give both of you.

849
00:48:48,960 --> 00:48:52,359
Speaker 7: All right, remember one second were almost second people. The

850
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:57,080
Speaker 7: first advice is this timeline that You have never put

851
00:48:57,120 --> 00:49:02,719
Speaker 7: a time table on God's gifts. If you say you

852
00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:05,360
Speaker 7: have to get married by a certain time or you

853
00:49:05,480 --> 00:49:07,840
Speaker 7: gotta get engaged at a certain time, pretty much you

854
00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:11,399
Speaker 7: telling God, I have a plan, and my plan has

855
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 7: to be this right now.

856
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:15,840
Speaker 4: That's what I'll say about that time.

857
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:18,960
Speaker 7: But I will also say this, if you're being direct

858
00:49:19,040 --> 00:49:22,239
Speaker 7: and honest with him about what you require to be

859
00:49:22,520 --> 00:49:24,279
Speaker 7: his girlfriend and you want to be.

860
00:49:24,280 --> 00:49:25,839
Speaker 4: A wife, express that to him.

861
00:49:26,280 --> 00:49:29,040
Speaker 7: He then has to decide if that's what he wants

862
00:49:29,080 --> 00:49:31,920
Speaker 7: to do. There's no amount of pressure you can give

863
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:34,400
Speaker 7: him that's gonna make him want to do that. And

864
00:49:34,480 --> 00:49:37,080
Speaker 7: what you can then decide to do is if you're

865
00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:40,239
Speaker 7: not happy with this situation, you have every right to

866
00:49:40,280 --> 00:49:42,880
Speaker 7: say I'm gonna move on to somebody else that will

867
00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:46,800
Speaker 7: And that's just the truth. Don't don't put no pressure

868
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:50,680
Speaker 7: on anybody else. Don't let society put pressure on you.

869
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:52,399
Speaker 3: Don't let this audience put pressure on you.

870
00:49:52,520 --> 00:49:58,040
Speaker 7: Right, my man, my man, don't let anybody put pressure

871
00:49:58,080 --> 00:50:00,279
Speaker 7: on you about when you're supposed to make.

872
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:01,319
Speaker 4: That move, Because I'll tell you.

873
00:50:01,280 --> 00:50:05,760
Speaker 7: Like this, we don't know if this man is like ready,

874
00:50:06,000 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 7: but I do know this. He brought you a home

875
00:50:07,800 --> 00:50:10,000
Speaker 7: that costs money, right, brought you a.

876
00:50:09,920 --> 00:50:13,920
Speaker 4: Dog that costs money. Right. He's definitely investing in you.

877
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:15,759
Speaker 7: You don't know if he's saving up more money to

878
00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:18,480
Speaker 7: get the ring that he wants you to have, saving

879
00:50:18,520 --> 00:50:22,200
Speaker 7: money to give you the wedding that to have. And

880
00:50:22,239 --> 00:50:23,799
Speaker 7: this is why I say you don't ever say shit,

881
00:50:23,880 --> 00:50:28,000
Speaker 7: I leave him. You know what I'm saying, y'all, No, no, no, seriously, seriously,

882
00:50:28,280 --> 00:50:30,560
Speaker 7: hold on, seriously, seriously, don't.

883
00:50:30,640 --> 00:50:33,160
Speaker 4: I don't want you to feel judged because it's a

884
00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:37,600
Speaker 4: fair question. How old are you twenty nine? You're still young.

885
00:50:37,760 --> 00:50:39,719
Speaker 3: You were me at You're still young.

886
00:50:39,640 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 7: Right, And we do understand that the biological clock is

887
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:45,360
Speaker 7: a real thing. So for any man to just be like,

888
00:50:45,400 --> 00:50:48,319
Speaker 7: wait until I'm ready, it's unfair. But what y'all can

889
00:50:48,360 --> 00:50:51,400
Speaker 7: do is have a conversation and decide when y'all already

890
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:53,279
Speaker 7: and be honest about what you want. That's the only

891
00:50:53,320 --> 00:50:55,560
Speaker 7: advice I can give. I can't give you a date.

892
00:50:55,640 --> 00:50:57,360
Speaker 7: I can't tell him he needs to, you know what

893
00:50:57,400 --> 00:50:59,480
Speaker 7: I'm saying. Talk to each other and tell you what

894
00:50:59,520 --> 00:50:59,879
Speaker 7: y'all want.

895
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:02,200
Speaker 1: Understand the timeline and the checklist, because I've been there

896
00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:04,880
Speaker 1: as well too with Deval. They drug de Val and

897
00:51:04,920 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 1: I through the mud when we had an episode where

898
00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 1: we spoke about monogamy and me telling Deval what I

899
00:51:10,239 --> 00:51:12,759
Speaker 1: required from the relationship based on the same timeline I

900
00:51:12,800 --> 00:51:13,399
Speaker 1: had in my head.

901
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:16,000
Speaker 3: Right, I'm approaching twenty seven, I'm like, man, I was

902
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:17,359
Speaker 3: supposed to be engaged.

903
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:18,560
Speaker 1: By now, I'm supposed to be married, have my first

904
00:51:18,640 --> 00:51:19,360
Speaker 1: kid by thirty.

905
00:51:19,440 --> 00:51:21,480
Speaker 3: Like, where are we going with this? You know?

906
00:51:21,719 --> 00:51:25,200
Speaker 1: So every man has a plan, especially if he's intentional

907
00:51:25,280 --> 00:51:26,879
Speaker 1: and purposeful about you.

908
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:29,040
Speaker 4: Okay, there you go.

909
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:32,200
Speaker 3: So trust is time. I'm babe.

910
00:51:33,440 --> 00:51:36,239
Speaker 7: This time, and I could tell he's a good guy.

911
00:51:36,560 --> 00:51:40,520
Speaker 7: He held the camera up the entire even with you

912
00:51:41,080 --> 00:51:44,719
Speaker 7: asking that while last question. But if that was me,

913
00:51:44,760 --> 00:51:45,399
Speaker 7: I'd have been luck.

914
00:51:49,080 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 3: That's a fact.

915
00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:57,840
Speaker 4: That I would have been out. Can't have been like, wait,

916
00:51:57,960 --> 00:52:04,239
Speaker 4: where are you going? But he held that camera up though, Yo.

917
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:07,200
Speaker 3: Shout out to y'all. All the best to you, and

918
00:52:07,200 --> 00:52:08,920
Speaker 3: congrats on the new house and the puppy.

919
00:52:09,040 --> 00:52:10,080
Speaker 4: Yes, congrats.

920
00:52:10,680 --> 00:52:13,799
Speaker 3: All right, Well, switch over to josh as side here. Hey, there,

921
00:52:14,160 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 3: hell out, queen. How are you today? I am so well,

922
00:52:16,719 --> 00:52:19,600
Speaker 3: I'm so happy you're here. How are you? What's your name.

923
00:52:20,239 --> 00:52:23,279
Speaker 3: My name is Angela. Hi, Angela, Hi. My question is

924
00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:23,640
Speaker 3: for you.

925
00:52:23,800 --> 00:52:26,760
Speaker 16: Yes, now you've seen your dreams come true with your husband,

926
00:52:27,400 --> 00:52:29,320
Speaker 16: you've seen him accomplish his career.

927
00:52:29,480 --> 00:52:30,760
Speaker 3: Yes, what is your goals?

928
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:31,400
Speaker 4: Girl?

929
00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:36,360
Speaker 1: I'll y'all ready, because listen, sometimes when you tell people

930
00:52:36,400 --> 00:52:38,840
Speaker 1: their dreams, you have to be careful with them because

931
00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:42,480
Speaker 1: you know they're not gonna hold on to it and

932
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:43,279
Speaker 1: revere you the.

933
00:52:43,200 --> 00:52:45,040
Speaker 3: Same way you do. But I feel like y'all will rever.

934
00:52:45,120 --> 00:52:49,160
Speaker 1: Me right I I'm actually and I'll be a little

935
00:52:49,200 --> 00:52:54,479
Speaker 1: vulnerable vulnerable right now. At the end of last year,

936
00:52:56,040 --> 00:52:57,480
Speaker 1: I kind of felt like I was in a place

937
00:52:57,520 --> 00:53:02,440
Speaker 1: of discomfort. I felt very uncomfortable with just where I

938
00:53:02,640 --> 00:53:05,440
Speaker 1: was as Kadeen, right because y'all see me as Kadeen

939
00:53:05,480 --> 00:53:08,719
Speaker 1: the wife, Kadeen the mom. You know Kadin on Instagram,

940
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 1: the content creator, podcaster. But after having Dakota, getting through

941
00:53:13,600 --> 00:53:18,040
Speaker 1: that first year a little bit of postpartum I wouldn't

942
00:53:18,040 --> 00:53:20,560
Speaker 1: say depression, but just getting through the kinks of postpartum,

943
00:53:20,560 --> 00:53:23,359
Speaker 1: a bit of depression. I was struggling, and I feel

944
00:53:23,400 --> 00:53:26,600
Speaker 1: like I'm still even now starting to figure out what

945
00:53:26,800 --> 00:53:29,680
Speaker 1: it is that I want to do now. Right went

946
00:53:29,719 --> 00:53:34,200
Speaker 1: to school for broadcast journalism, have my master's in speech

947
00:53:34,239 --> 00:53:37,120
Speaker 1: communication and performance graduating mad.

948
00:53:39,480 --> 00:53:42,839
Speaker 4: Don't sell yourself short, baby, thank you. I appreciate that.

949
00:53:42,920 --> 00:53:44,080
Speaker 4: I know because I cheated off you.

950
00:53:46,440 --> 00:53:47,759
Speaker 3: He changed his whole major to B.

951
00:53:48,239 --> 00:53:53,240
Speaker 1: Yes, I did.

952
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:53,240
Speaker 4: Go ahead and finished.

953
00:53:53,360 --> 00:53:53,799
Speaker 3: Thank you.

954
00:53:54,239 --> 00:53:56,360
Speaker 1: But I feel like I'm in a place of discomfort

955
00:53:56,400 --> 00:53:58,839
Speaker 1: right now, y'all. I'm gonna be completely honest because I'm

956
00:53:58,840 --> 00:54:00,880
Speaker 1: still trying to figure out what the rest of my

957
00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:01,920
Speaker 1: life is going to look like.

958
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:07,200
Speaker 3: I'll be forty in December, okay, and I feel like

959
00:54:07,280 --> 00:54:08,920
Speaker 3: I've invested.

960
00:54:09,239 --> 00:54:12,280
Speaker 1: A large portion of my adult life into my family.

961
00:54:13,080 --> 00:54:15,400
Speaker 1: So I'm trying to figure things out. And I'll be honest,

962
00:54:15,440 --> 00:54:16,840
Speaker 1: I don't have it all figured out. But you know

963
00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:17,719
Speaker 1: what's helping me.

964
00:54:19,840 --> 00:54:20,239
Speaker 3: Thank you?

965
00:54:20,560 --> 00:54:22,279
Speaker 1: Thank you because I can come and rattle off a

966
00:54:22,320 --> 00:54:23,799
Speaker 1: bunch of dreams and this is what I'm doing to

967
00:54:23,840 --> 00:54:26,360
Speaker 1: make it seem like I'm so busy doing all these things.

968
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:28,839
Speaker 3: And I am busy, don't get me wrong, But.

969
00:54:29,200 --> 00:54:32,320
Speaker 1: I feel like that discomfort it just means that there's growth.

970
00:54:33,320 --> 00:54:35,960
Speaker 1: The discomfort means that there's something on the other side.

971
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:38,279
Speaker 1: So instead of shying away from that now, y'all, I'm

972
00:54:38,360 --> 00:54:41,160
Speaker 1: leaning into it. I'm leaning into it. We hit the

973
00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:44,239
Speaker 1: ground running twenty twenty three. We were on a couple

974
00:54:44,280 --> 00:54:48,080
Speaker 1: of daytime talk shows, Today's show, tammeron Hall. Anybody caught

975
00:54:48,080 --> 00:54:53,080
Speaker 1: those episodes, and I'll share a little tidbit with you.

976
00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:56,000
Speaker 1: Donorra after one of the interviews that we did, said

977
00:54:56,640 --> 00:55:01,120
Speaker 1: we had a broadcast agent reach out to you or

978
00:55:01,120 --> 00:55:04,799
Speaker 1: to us about you, and I was like, maybe my

979
00:55:04,880 --> 00:55:12,759
Speaker 1: broadcasting dreams will come true? Maybe will I mean, can

980
00:55:12,840 --> 00:55:14,560
Speaker 1: y'all see that it's giving talk shoall.

981
00:55:15,520 --> 00:55:17,320
Speaker 3: I mean, it's giving radio hosts.

982
00:55:17,560 --> 00:55:20,440
Speaker 1: Whatever the Good Lord has in store for me, I

983
00:55:20,520 --> 00:55:21,120
Speaker 1: receive it.

984
00:55:21,239 --> 00:55:22,600
Speaker 3: I'm willing to do the work now.

985
00:55:22,719 --> 00:55:26,479
Speaker 1: And I have a partner, my boys, my mom, my dad,

986
00:55:26,520 --> 00:55:29,760
Speaker 1: a family, a village who really just support me, y'all,

987
00:55:30,040 --> 00:55:33,560
Speaker 1: you know who support me. So thank you for asking that,

988
00:55:33,600 --> 00:55:36,400
Speaker 1: because far too long and far too often women kind

989
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:39,239
Speaker 1: of get lost in the shuffle of just tending to

990
00:55:39,360 --> 00:55:41,520
Speaker 1: kids and tending to the husband in the house. And

991
00:55:41,840 --> 00:55:44,239
Speaker 1: you know, I'm just looking forward to what's next for me.

992
00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:45,840
Speaker 1: So I'm still trying to figure it out. It's a

993
00:55:45,880 --> 00:55:48,239
Speaker 1: short answer, but whatever it is, I know it's going

994
00:55:48,280 --> 00:55:48,520
Speaker 1: to be.

995
00:55:48,440 --> 00:55:48,920
Speaker 3: In God's time.

996
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:50,920
Speaker 1: It's going to be so amazing, and I appreciate y'all

997
00:55:50,960 --> 00:55:52,000
Speaker 1: always supporting.

998
00:55:51,600 --> 00:55:52,120
Speaker 4: Me, for sure.

999
00:55:53,400 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 1: I'm leaning into that discomfort y'all, and see where we

1000
00:55:56,640 --> 00:56:00,160
Speaker 1: end up next up.

1001
00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:06,359
Speaker 4: Man. No, it's just it's funny to hear you. See

1002
00:56:06,360 --> 00:56:08,360
Speaker 4: how you flirted with me, right, don't play with me

1003
00:56:08,440 --> 00:56:12,440
Speaker 4: you be pregnant. No, I can make them come back.

1004
00:56:12,440 --> 00:56:14,600
Speaker 4: I make all come back. Keep playing with me.

1005
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:17,280
Speaker 3: You know why I picked that doctor too. That doctor

1006
00:56:17,520 --> 00:56:21,440
Speaker 3: was top with reversals dress in case we're feeling funky

1007
00:56:21,520 --> 00:56:22,840
Speaker 3: one day. I'm just kidding.

1008
00:56:22,960 --> 00:56:25,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, I know you want me to get

1009
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:32,279
Speaker 4: it's fair. Mm hmm. That girl is not happening. My

1010
00:56:32,400 --> 00:56:36,160
Speaker 4: sons will marry very nice girls. Yes, there you go.

1011
00:56:36,719 --> 00:56:40,040
Speaker 1: I manifesting wonderful daughters and law granddaughters, whatever whatever.

1012
00:56:40,160 --> 00:56:42,000
Speaker 4: I'm just gonna say this real quick though.

1013
00:56:42,320 --> 00:56:44,040
Speaker 7: It's funny to hear you say you don't know why

1014
00:56:44,200 --> 00:56:46,800
Speaker 7: actually walking in your purpose. You are a webbe award

1015
00:56:46,840 --> 00:56:50,040
Speaker 7: winning podcaster. You do dead ass podcast live shows. You

1016
00:56:50,080 --> 00:56:54,320
Speaker 7: are a talk show host. Right now, we interviewed Sterling K.

1017
00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 7: Brown and Regina Hall in Atlanta. You are doing it.

1018
00:56:57,880 --> 00:56:59,800
Speaker 7: You're a high earner. You make a ton of money

1019
00:56:59,800 --> 00:57:02,839
Speaker 7: doing things that you do with your family, like your

1020
00:57:03,160 --> 00:57:05,480
Speaker 7: your version of life doesn't have to look like what

1021
00:57:05,520 --> 00:57:09,200
Speaker 7: you wanted it to look like. It's happening. It's happening.

1022
00:57:09,719 --> 00:57:10,960
Speaker 3: I guess I don't give myself.

1023
00:57:11,400 --> 00:57:13,880
Speaker 4: You don't give yourself no credit. You try to play small.

1024
00:57:14,000 --> 00:57:16,760
Speaker 3: It's that Jamaican in me. I got mad jobs.

1025
00:57:16,440 --> 00:57:18,320
Speaker 7: And trying to do mad things once and you're doing

1026
00:57:18,320 --> 00:57:19,120
Speaker 7: them well.

1027
00:57:19,480 --> 00:57:21,200
Speaker 4: And I'm gonna big your ass up. You ain't gonna

1028
00:57:21,200 --> 00:57:23,920
Speaker 4: be playing small.

1029
00:57:24,120 --> 00:57:30,360
Speaker 17: Yes, okay, Hello, I just wanted to say I'm very

1030
00:57:30,400 --> 00:57:32,240
Speaker 17: proud of you all. I've been a fan since you

1031
00:57:32,320 --> 00:57:36,960
Speaker 17: are in Brooklyn, yeah, following your kids. And I'm glad

1032
00:57:37,000 --> 00:57:39,480
Speaker 17: the podcast restarted because I know it had to stop

1033
00:57:39,520 --> 00:57:40,080
Speaker 17: for COVID.

1034
00:57:40,160 --> 00:57:42,680
Speaker 3: I'm not from Chicago, so I came here with friends

1035
00:57:42,960 --> 00:57:45,160
Speaker 3: to see you all. Thank you for that.

1036
00:57:45,600 --> 00:57:46,040
Speaker 4: Thank you.

1037
00:57:46,080 --> 00:57:48,200
Speaker 3: But my question is I look to you all as a.

1038
00:57:48,200 --> 00:57:51,160
Speaker 17: Successful black couple and I just want to know, as

1039
00:57:51,200 --> 00:57:54,240
Speaker 17: a single young black woman, what advice would you give

1040
00:57:54,440 --> 00:57:56,560
Speaker 17: the dating scene is really it's a struggle.

1041
00:57:56,680 --> 00:57:58,920
Speaker 4: Let me just say that I heard.

1042
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:01,000
Speaker 3: Give to a.

1043
00:58:01,000 --> 00:58:03,240
Speaker 17: Single black girl in the day and scene as a

1044
00:58:03,280 --> 00:58:05,360
Speaker 17: single woman from the want of me.

1045
00:58:06,120 --> 00:58:12,720
Speaker 1: So I haven't been in this dating scene in a minute,

1046
00:58:12,720 --> 00:58:15,280
Speaker 1: says I don't think I hadn't really got into it.

1047
00:58:15,320 --> 00:58:17,320
Speaker 7: To be honest, this is the only tip I will

1048
00:58:17,320 --> 00:58:18,080
Speaker 7: give you pause.

1049
00:58:19,800 --> 00:58:21,600
Speaker 4: I gotta grow up. I can't help myself.

1050
00:58:22,240 --> 00:58:24,919
Speaker 7: But no, I would say this, this, This is something

1051
00:58:24,960 --> 00:58:27,200
Speaker 7: that most people don't ever say to women. I'm gonna

1052
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:29,720
Speaker 7: say it to you, Okay, don't sit back and wait

1053
00:58:30,040 --> 00:58:33,280
Speaker 7: for a suitor to come and sweep you off your feet.

1054
00:58:33,440 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 7: This woman came in got me. She came and said

1055
00:58:36,720 --> 00:58:39,960
Speaker 7: DIVI and Brian Ellis. She gave me her phone number.

1056
00:58:40,240 --> 00:58:42,560
Speaker 7: I called her all summer she was working. I couldn't

1057
00:58:42,560 --> 00:58:44,720
Speaker 7: get in contact with her. She then came to the

1058
00:58:44,760 --> 00:58:46,919
Speaker 7: school and found me like she wasn't just sitting back

1059
00:58:46,960 --> 00:58:50,000
Speaker 7: like I'm gonna wait. No, be deliberate about what you

1060
00:58:50,040 --> 00:58:52,320
Speaker 7: want in life. And that's not even just about love.

1061
00:58:52,400 --> 00:58:55,880
Speaker 7: That's about everything, right, Like oftentimes we sit back and

1062
00:58:55,920 --> 00:58:57,400
Speaker 7: we just like, I hope this happens.

1063
00:58:57,640 --> 00:59:00,800
Speaker 4: I hope that. No, don't hope it make it.

1064
00:59:00,840 --> 00:59:02,520
Speaker 7: Wake up in the morning and say, I'm gonna go ahead,

1065
00:59:02,560 --> 00:59:04,880
Speaker 7: I'm gonna see someone. If I'm interested in that guy,

1066
00:59:04,880 --> 00:59:07,040
Speaker 7: I'm gonna walk up to that guy and say something

1067
00:59:07,080 --> 00:59:09,200
Speaker 7: to him. What's the worst he could say, I'm not interested.

1068
00:59:10,760 --> 00:59:14,400
Speaker 7: Don't be afraid of rejection, because all it takes is

1069
00:59:14,440 --> 00:59:15,800
Speaker 7: one person to fall in love with you.

1070
00:59:15,760 --> 00:59:18,440
Speaker 4: And make you that queen. You know what I'm saying.

1071
00:59:18,800 --> 00:59:19,360
Speaker 3: That's a fact.

1072
00:59:19,400 --> 00:59:19,800
Speaker 4: That's it.

1073
00:59:19,880 --> 00:59:23,720
Speaker 7: So don't hide behind societal norms till I gotta wait.

1074
00:59:24,160 --> 00:59:25,480
Speaker 4: Go get it, Go get it.

1075
00:59:25,800 --> 00:59:28,160
Speaker 1: And in the social media age, it's so hard to navigate.

1076
00:59:28,240 --> 00:59:30,120
Speaker 1: I can imagine just the dating scene or trying to

1077
00:59:30,120 --> 00:59:34,080
Speaker 1: meet people. People's into personal communication skills suck, you know,

1078
00:59:34,240 --> 00:59:36,840
Speaker 1: trying to even start a conversation with someone with their

1079
00:59:36,880 --> 00:59:37,840
Speaker 1: attention span.

1080
00:59:37,680 --> 00:59:40,360
Speaker 3: It's probably you know, not even anymore.

1081
00:59:40,880 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 1: But also to one tip I can give you, and

1082
00:59:42,400 --> 00:59:44,840
Speaker 1: I think that it would work for me maybe if

1083
00:59:44,880 --> 00:59:47,120
Speaker 1: I was dating now. Is just making sure that you're

1084
00:59:47,160 --> 00:59:48,920
Speaker 1: showing up as your authentic self. I feel like a

1085
00:59:48,960 --> 00:59:51,600
Speaker 1: lot of people have this facade that they keep up,

1086
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:53,400
Speaker 1: this representative of themselves, and I'm like.

1087
00:59:53,400 --> 00:59:56,320
Speaker 3: No, be who you are and who is for you will.

1088
00:59:56,200 --> 00:59:58,560
Speaker 1: Naturally find you, because the last thing you want to

1089
00:59:58,560 --> 01:00:00,840
Speaker 1: do is find somebody on the false sen isn't having

1090
01:00:00,840 --> 01:00:04,560
Speaker 1: to keep that up. The authenticity, the organic you needs

1091
01:00:04,560 --> 01:00:06,200
Speaker 1: to shine through. So good luck out there.

1092
01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:06,479
Speaker 4: Girl.

1093
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:09,080
Speaker 1: Don't be afraid to shoot your shot because I shot

1094
01:00:09,120 --> 01:00:11,160
Speaker 1: my shot straight buckets, y'all.

1095
01:00:12,120 --> 01:00:14,480
Speaker 3: Curry gift, Steph Curry.

1096
01:00:16,360 --> 01:00:16,840
Speaker 4: Sorryboy.

1097
01:00:17,040 --> 01:00:19,720
Speaker 7: Jackson scored twelve points to nineties AU basketball game.

1098
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:22,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, shoutut, today's game over.

1099
01:00:22,720 --> 01:00:26,760
Speaker 7: Now, it's over now, twelve score. I rebounds for assists,

1100
01:00:26,800 --> 01:00:28,880
Speaker 7: three turnovers. We're gonna clean up the turnovers, you know,

1101
01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:29,560
Speaker 7: don't clean up.

1102
01:00:29,600 --> 01:00:30,520
Speaker 3: He's still play well.

1103
01:00:30,560 --> 01:00:32,560
Speaker 1: He played well, he's still learning, trying to be parents

1104
01:00:32,560 --> 01:00:33,840
Speaker 1: and be on stage at the same time.

1105
01:00:33,920 --> 01:00:39,440
Speaker 3: Y'all did Cairo Cairo probably the ref No.

1106
01:00:39,560 --> 01:00:41,720
Speaker 7: Cairo was pissed because I wouldn't let him play tackle

1107
01:00:41,720 --> 01:00:44,320
Speaker 7: football and I only met him play flag football. So

1108
01:00:44,480 --> 01:00:48,080
Speaker 7: every week he scored six touchdowns on six carries, and

1109
01:00:48,160 --> 01:00:50,560
Speaker 7: when he came back, he said, this isn't even real football.

1110
01:00:52,640 --> 01:00:53,400
Speaker 4: He didn't celebrate.

1111
01:00:53,440 --> 01:00:55,360
Speaker 7: He would just score the touchdown and walk right to

1112
01:00:55,400 --> 01:00:57,240
Speaker 7: me and just drop the ball.

1113
01:00:57,440 --> 01:01:01,080
Speaker 1: Was coaching the team, so I was trying to be like,

1114
01:01:01,160 --> 01:01:03,000
Speaker 1: you know, he's trying to disperse the ball to different

1115
01:01:03,080 --> 01:01:05,040
Speaker 1: kids and they're running in the wrong direction or whatever,

1116
01:01:05,240 --> 01:01:07,160
Speaker 1: and Kyrol was like, why don't you just pass me

1117
01:01:07,200 --> 01:01:07,600
Speaker 1: the ball?

1118
01:01:08,360 --> 01:01:09,960
Speaker 3: I'm going to make the touchdown dad.

1119
01:01:10,320 --> 01:01:11,960
Speaker 7: But here's the worst part, right, I'm trying to have

1120
01:01:11,960 --> 01:01:14,000
Speaker 7: a moment with him, right, and I'm just like, listen,

1121
01:01:14,000 --> 01:01:15,760
Speaker 7: you gotta learn how to share. Other of the dads

1122
01:01:15,800 --> 01:01:17,520
Speaker 7: come when we start losing a are we gonna give

1123
01:01:17,600 --> 01:01:22,440
Speaker 7: Kyrol the ball? I'm like, they're like, we're trying to win,

1124
01:01:22,560 --> 01:01:23,480
Speaker 7: like my kids want to win.

1125
01:01:23,480 --> 01:01:24,520
Speaker 4: They're happy when they win.

1126
01:01:25,160 --> 01:01:27,479
Speaker 1: All right, fine, I was like, you're right, your kids

1127
01:01:27,480 --> 01:01:28,480
Speaker 1: eating grass over there.

1128
01:01:28,560 --> 01:01:31,960
Speaker 3: So ship here we are, all right, who's next?

1129
01:01:33,200 --> 01:01:34,000
Speaker 4: I was doing well?

1130
01:01:34,000 --> 01:01:36,560
Speaker 3: Low, thank you for asking? What's up? Brother?

1131
01:01:36,760 --> 01:01:40,120
Speaker 4: Hey? How are you doing? Jeremy? Jeremy?

1132
01:01:40,200 --> 01:01:44,680
Speaker 5: Hey, I just got married yesterday?

1133
01:01:44,960 --> 01:01:50,919
Speaker 6: Congratulations y'all married yesterday, y'all here today.

1134
01:01:50,960 --> 01:01:51,720
Speaker 3: I feel honored?

1135
01:01:51,880 --> 01:01:55,240
Speaker 4: Yes three? So okay, so.

1136
01:01:55,440 --> 01:01:59,800
Speaker 3: Cute advice for it's a vibe.

1137
01:02:00,080 --> 01:02:03,760
Speaker 7: Any advice, I would say. The biggest thing, how long

1138
01:02:03,880 --> 01:02:07,840
Speaker 7: y'all known each other? Y'all been together six years.

1139
01:02:08,760 --> 01:02:12,800
Speaker 4: I'm gonna quarius you a scorpio, so we Oh okay.

1140
01:02:12,640 --> 01:02:16,920
Speaker 7: So y'all, he said, realize that what.

1141
01:02:21,120 --> 01:02:25,520
Speaker 4: He said popping, and we'll be getting the popping kids.

1142
01:02:25,920 --> 01:02:28,840
Speaker 7: I would say, from this point on, right, you have

1143
01:02:28,920 --> 01:02:32,240
Speaker 7: to understand that everything you're gonna figure out in your

1144
01:02:32,280 --> 01:02:34,280
Speaker 7: life is gonna come from within these two people.

1145
01:02:35,960 --> 01:02:39,360
Speaker 4: We hate the term couple goals. We freaking hate it.

1146
01:02:39,400 --> 01:02:43,200
Speaker 7: You want to know why no couple can imitate another

1147
01:02:43,240 --> 01:02:46,720
Speaker 7: couple better than that couple is themselves already, so you

1148
01:02:46,760 --> 01:02:47,920
Speaker 7: will always fall.

1149
01:02:47,720 --> 01:02:49,640
Speaker 4: Short and feel inadequate.

1150
01:02:50,560 --> 01:02:52,880
Speaker 7: Build the life you want by talking to each other

1151
01:02:53,280 --> 01:02:54,919
Speaker 7: saying exactly what you want.

1152
01:02:55,360 --> 01:02:56,760
Speaker 4: And here's the last piece of advice.

1153
01:02:57,640 --> 01:02:59,560
Speaker 7: If you ask your wife how she feels about something

1154
01:02:59,560 --> 01:03:04,640
Speaker 7: and she's said, don't judge her about how she feels, listen, understand,

1155
01:03:04,720 --> 01:03:06,280
Speaker 7: try to explain why you.

1156
01:03:06,240 --> 01:03:08,200
Speaker 4: Did what you did, but don't judge her.

1157
01:03:08,280 --> 01:03:12,360
Speaker 7: If your husband tells you he feels a certain way,

1158
01:03:12,760 --> 01:03:14,440
Speaker 7: don't judge him about how he feels.

1159
01:03:15,120 --> 01:03:16,720
Speaker 4: Just say, I understand where you're coming from. This is

1160
01:03:16,760 --> 01:03:17,480
Speaker 4: what I meant to do.

1161
01:03:17,840 --> 01:03:20,360
Speaker 7: I think the first five years of our marriage we

1162
01:03:20,440 --> 01:03:22,640
Speaker 7: suffered a lot because every time Kate told me how

1163
01:03:22,640 --> 01:03:24,840
Speaker 7: she felt about it, I judged her. And what I

1164
01:03:24,880 --> 01:03:27,360
Speaker 7: tried to do is change her mind about how she felt.

1165
01:03:27,880 --> 01:03:30,080
Speaker 7: And you can't win that way. You know what I'm saying.

1166
01:03:30,240 --> 01:03:31,840
Speaker 7: I slapped her on the leg and she's like devo.

1167
01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:34,000
Speaker 7: That hurts I was the guy that's trying to tell

1168
01:03:34,040 --> 01:03:37,960
Speaker 7: you how I slapped you here, it shouldn't hurt. That's you,

1169
01:03:37,960 --> 01:03:42,680
Speaker 7: you know what I'm saying, or you be liking a slap.

1170
01:03:42,760 --> 01:03:44,200
Speaker 4: Sometimes it depends on where it is.

1171
01:03:45,080 --> 01:03:46,480
Speaker 3: It's time and place for everything.

1172
01:03:46,520 --> 01:03:50,280
Speaker 4: Now you will get pregnant. I will. It's and we're

1173
01:03:50,280 --> 01:03:53,640
Speaker 4: gonna name the baby Chicago. Keep playing with me, Keep

1174
01:03:53,720 --> 01:03:55,320
Speaker 4: playing with me, keep.

1175
01:03:55,160 --> 01:03:56,200
Speaker 3: Playing with me.

1176
01:03:57,040 --> 01:04:00,400
Speaker 7: But no, when we started to put that in our

1177
01:04:00,480 --> 01:04:03,760
Speaker 7: relationship and we were together twenty years, twenty years we've

1178
01:04:03,760 --> 01:04:06,040
Speaker 7: been together. We just figured this out two years ago.

1179
01:04:07,240 --> 01:04:11,200
Speaker 7: So being married is going to take time and work.

1180
01:04:12,120 --> 01:04:14,880
Speaker 7: If it doesn't, if it doesn't feel the greatest after

1181
01:04:15,000 --> 01:04:17,040
Speaker 7: year one, year two, year three, you don't feel like

1182
01:04:17,200 --> 01:04:18,000
Speaker 7: abandoned ship.

1183
01:04:18,160 --> 01:04:18,360
Speaker 12: Nope.

1184
01:04:18,640 --> 01:04:21,720
Speaker 1: Our first five years were trashed, rash, right. We were

1185
01:04:21,720 --> 01:04:24,800
Speaker 1: like literally divorced and remarried within the marriage in the

1186
01:04:24,800 --> 01:04:26,520
Speaker 1: first five years or three times.

1187
01:04:26,560 --> 01:04:27,640
Speaker 4: Like literally it was bad.

1188
01:04:27,720 --> 01:04:28,120
Speaker 3: Literally.

1189
01:04:28,120 --> 01:04:30,360
Speaker 1: But you know what helped, and this actually helped recently

1190
01:04:30,400 --> 01:04:32,080
Speaker 1: because you would think that we've been together twenty years

1191
01:04:32,080 --> 01:04:33,240
Speaker 1: we should have everything figured out.

1192
01:04:33,280 --> 01:04:35,280
Speaker 3: We don't, because we're still learning.

1193
01:04:35,040 --> 01:04:36,520
Speaker 1: Each other on a day day basis a thing that

1194
01:04:36,640 --> 01:04:39,120
Speaker 1: helped change things for me and my perspective, and I'll

1195
01:04:39,120 --> 01:04:39,800
Speaker 1: speak to you as.

1196
01:04:39,680 --> 01:04:42,000
Speaker 3: A wife, a new wife at that.

1197
01:04:44,160 --> 01:04:47,760
Speaker 1: Deval asked me one morning going into twenty twenty one,

1198
01:04:49,120 --> 01:04:51,919
Speaker 1: what I think about the first thing in the morning, right?

1199
01:04:52,920 --> 01:04:55,280
Speaker 1: And I said, oh, when I wake up, you know,

1200
01:04:55,960 --> 01:04:58,640
Speaker 1: thank God for another day, and then think about what

1201
01:04:58,680 --> 01:05:00,520
Speaker 1: I got to do, right looking at the calendar that

1202
01:05:00,600 --> 01:05:02,479
Speaker 1: I look at that he doesn't look at, and it's

1203
01:05:02,520 --> 01:05:05,400
Speaker 1: like what I have to do for work, deadlines, kids,

1204
01:05:05,800 --> 01:05:09,120
Speaker 1: you know, activities, all that in between. And he was like,

1205
01:05:09,160 --> 01:05:12,640
Speaker 1: do you realize that you didn't mention me once? And

1206
01:05:12,680 --> 01:05:16,720
Speaker 1: I was like heartbroken, Like how could I not even

1207
01:05:16,800 --> 01:05:21,040
Speaker 1: consider my husband in my day because I just expect

1208
01:05:21,080 --> 01:05:26,080
Speaker 1: him and typically most black men we just expect. Now,

1209
01:05:26,960 --> 01:05:31,760
Speaker 1: husband's listen, right, and we just I just expect him

1210
01:05:31,760 --> 01:05:34,640
Speaker 1: to have everything figured out because he's the man. He's

1211
01:05:34,640 --> 01:05:37,640
Speaker 1: the protector, he's the provider. He's always made me feel

1212
01:05:37,680 --> 01:05:42,120
Speaker 1: like he's good. So if I'm not taking care of him,

1213
01:05:42,320 --> 01:05:43,800
Speaker 1: then how can he take care of us?

1214
01:05:44,920 --> 01:05:47,840
Speaker 3: So I said, you're absolutely right.

1215
01:05:48,560 --> 01:05:51,040
Speaker 1: And what's helped us most recently to get back to

1216
01:05:51,080 --> 01:05:52,840
Speaker 1: this place that we're in where we're just like so

1217
01:05:52,960 --> 01:05:56,720
Speaker 1: madly in love again, is just taking the time to

1218
01:05:56,840 --> 01:05:58,760
Speaker 1: be invested in what he needs on a day to

1219
01:05:58,800 --> 01:06:01,280
Speaker 1: day basis, and as simple as as just asking you

1220
01:06:01,520 --> 01:06:03,840
Speaker 1: what he may do and what he may need in

1221
01:06:03,920 --> 01:06:04,520
Speaker 1: that day.

1222
01:06:04,760 --> 01:06:05,640
Speaker 3: How can I make your day?

1223
01:06:05,680 --> 01:06:09,200
Speaker 1: Brider babe? What do you need from me today? Do

1224
01:06:09,280 --> 01:06:12,760
Speaker 1: you know your schedule? Like simple questions and just forward

1225
01:06:12,800 --> 01:06:15,880
Speaker 1: thinking the things that he may need is then freeing

1226
01:06:15,920 --> 01:06:19,840
Speaker 1: up time for him, but also giving him the desire

1227
01:06:20,400 --> 01:06:24,200
Speaker 1: to want to pour back into me. And then I

1228
01:06:24,280 --> 01:06:28,320
Speaker 1: am like, wow, now you're taking the time to think

1229
01:06:28,360 --> 01:06:28,800
Speaker 1: about me.

1230
01:06:30,200 --> 01:06:31,560
Speaker 3: I thought about you me.

1231
01:06:31,640 --> 01:06:34,240
Speaker 7: It caught the spirit. He got his hand up in

1232
01:06:34,240 --> 01:06:40,720
Speaker 7: the air. The doors of the church are now open.

1233
01:06:41,880 --> 01:06:43,560
Speaker 7: We would like to pass this play for the building

1234
01:06:43,560 --> 01:06:44,840
Speaker 7: of renovation for that part.

1235
01:06:46,200 --> 01:06:50,880
Speaker 1: But no, seriously, all that literally caused this like reciprocal

1236
01:06:50,920 --> 01:06:55,160
Speaker 1: effect of where we're both constantly pouring into each other.

1237
01:06:55,240 --> 01:06:58,400
Speaker 1: And it could be the simplest thing, but just feeling

1238
01:06:58,520 --> 01:07:04,320
Speaker 1: like your spouse is invested every day making that choice

1239
01:07:04,880 --> 01:07:06,560
Speaker 1: every day to show up for you.

1240
01:07:07,360 --> 01:07:09,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm gonna be all right, Ya gonna be right.

1241
01:07:11,480 --> 01:07:14,320
Speaker 3: Hope that helps. Congrats to y'all, y'all honeymoon and soon

1242
01:07:14,400 --> 01:07:18,680
Speaker 3: or not. Okay, take your time, enjoy it, enjoy it,

1243
01:07:19,160 --> 01:07:20,360
Speaker 3: love that. Heysis.

1244
01:07:20,520 --> 01:07:24,240
Speaker 18: Yeah, mister nor opinion, I'm a fan of you. I'm

1245
01:07:24,240 --> 01:07:24,919
Speaker 18: a fan of you too.

1246
01:07:25,160 --> 01:07:29,760
Speaker 1: Norah has fans to y'all, to Josh, Hey, y'all.

1247
01:07:30,000 --> 01:07:34,439
Speaker 3: So I don't have a relationship question. Unfortunately I don't

1248
01:07:35,080 --> 01:07:36,200
Speaker 3: single recoding go out here.

1249
01:07:37,320 --> 01:07:41,520
Speaker 18: But as a person who's recently started to really bet

1250
01:07:41,600 --> 01:07:46,720
Speaker 18: on themselves, like really in the past two years, what

1251
01:07:46,760 --> 01:07:49,800
Speaker 18: advice would you have as somebody who's I've been lucky

1252
01:07:49,800 --> 01:07:51,640
Speaker 18: and fortunate enough to have people who you know, do

1253
01:07:51,720 --> 01:07:52,160
Speaker 18: believe in me.

1254
01:07:52,200 --> 01:07:53,760
Speaker 3: I do have a support system.

1255
01:07:53,600 --> 01:07:56,520
Speaker 18: But they don't really get it. I don't really have

1256
01:07:56,560 --> 01:07:58,080
Speaker 18: a lot of people I can count on, even though

1257
01:07:58,120 --> 01:08:02,040
Speaker 18: I know I have support. What would be like your

1258
01:08:02,040 --> 01:08:04,280
Speaker 18: advice besides, like, you know, just push through, keep doing

1259
01:08:04,280 --> 01:08:06,560
Speaker 18: because you know, stopping isn't an option. But I don't

1260
01:08:06,560 --> 01:08:08,600
Speaker 18: want to get in my own way what you're starting.

1261
01:08:08,360 --> 01:08:11,200
Speaker 7: Your own business among other things.

1262
01:08:11,320 --> 01:08:13,880
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, you.

1263
01:08:13,920 --> 01:08:16,080
Speaker 4: Got to be clear. I'm sorry, I don't know what

1264
01:08:16,160 --> 01:08:20,960
Speaker 4: the fuck are you talking about. No, no, but I'm

1265
01:08:21,000 --> 01:08:21,400
Speaker 4: trying to.

1266
01:08:21,400 --> 01:08:25,200
Speaker 7: Understand, and you, like, people don't support me, and I'm trying.

1267
01:08:24,960 --> 01:08:28,080
Speaker 4: To support you. But I said, you start a business

1268
01:08:28,080 --> 01:08:31,280
Speaker 4: and you like, maybe maybe.

1269
01:08:31,120 --> 01:08:32,679
Speaker 3: Not, You're trying to figure it out.

1270
01:08:33,960 --> 01:08:36,080
Speaker 4: I want to support you, baby, bro.

1271
01:08:36,120 --> 01:08:37,720
Speaker 18: I'm up here, fangirl and I'm doing the best I

1272
01:08:37,760 --> 01:08:43,080
Speaker 18: can look. But no, like I just started, I started

1273
01:08:43,120 --> 01:08:44,800
Speaker 18: my own business. I've been trying to do acting since

1274
01:08:44,800 --> 01:08:46,559
Speaker 18: I was like thirteen. I had my first role when

1275
01:08:46,560 --> 01:08:48,400
Speaker 18: I was eighteen, and it's been plugging along and stuff

1276
01:08:48,439 --> 01:08:50,599
Speaker 18: like that. You know, I want to, you know, build

1277
01:08:50,640 --> 01:08:51,719
Speaker 18: a legacy from my family.

1278
01:08:51,960 --> 01:08:55,080
Speaker 7: I got you. You know you're talking about purpose. Yes, yes,

1279
01:08:55,439 --> 01:08:57,439
Speaker 7: this is the biggest thing you gotta understand about purpose.

1280
01:08:57,760 --> 01:09:03,040
Speaker 7: Have a fiscal plan, right, My purpose was always to

1281
01:09:03,160 --> 01:09:06,280
Speaker 7: get to TV. And every time I had a dream

1282
01:09:06,280 --> 01:09:08,320
Speaker 7: and could Dean stop me if I'm lying my dream.

1283
01:09:08,439 --> 01:09:11,280
Speaker 4: Always had a plan to make money while.

1284
01:09:11,040 --> 01:09:12,720
Speaker 7: I'm chasing my dream so that I don't have to

1285
01:09:12,720 --> 01:09:13,679
Speaker 7: be a starving artist.

1286
01:09:14,040 --> 01:09:14,240
Speaker 4: Right.

1287
01:09:14,640 --> 01:09:18,240
Speaker 7: When you have a way to generate revenue on your own,

1288
01:09:18,600 --> 01:09:21,320
Speaker 7: you then be able to have autonomy over your time.

1289
01:09:22,000 --> 01:09:23,640
Speaker 7: Make choices that are going to help you push your

1290
01:09:23,720 --> 01:09:26,080
Speaker 7: dream forward. You won't have to ask so many people

1291
01:09:26,080 --> 01:09:26,519
Speaker 7: for help.

1292
01:09:26,400 --> 01:09:27,559
Speaker 4: Because you support yourself.

1293
01:09:27,920 --> 01:09:29,640
Speaker 7: But then you'll also have time to focus on what

1294
01:09:29,760 --> 01:09:30,960
Speaker 7: that dream actually is.

1295
01:09:31,360 --> 01:09:33,120
Speaker 4: It always starts with a fiscal plan.

1296
01:09:33,320 --> 01:09:35,040
Speaker 7: So you have to say to yourself, like you want

1297
01:09:35,080 --> 01:09:38,160
Speaker 7: to act right, how can I act and be able?

1298
01:09:38,200 --> 01:09:39,400
Speaker 4: And this would be my thought process.

1299
01:09:39,439 --> 01:09:41,679
Speaker 7: If I'm your age right now, how can I act

1300
01:09:41,720 --> 01:09:43,680
Speaker 7: and still be able to support myself?

1301
01:09:44,200 --> 01:09:46,000
Speaker 4: I got to get a job. Wait a minute, If

1302
01:09:46,040 --> 01:09:46,439
Speaker 4: I get.

1303
01:09:46,320 --> 01:09:48,559
Speaker 7: A job, I have to get a job that works

1304
01:09:48,600 --> 01:09:50,400
Speaker 7: certain hours so that I can go to auditions.

1305
01:09:50,479 --> 01:09:50,639
Speaker 4: Right.

1306
01:09:51,040 --> 01:09:53,120
Speaker 7: So it's like, let me figure out a trade where

1307
01:09:53,160 --> 01:09:55,920
Speaker 7: I can work a trade and have different type of hours.

1308
01:09:55,960 --> 01:09:57,599
Speaker 7: What I did was I said to Okay, I said,

1309
01:09:58,120 --> 01:10:01,240
Speaker 7: I studied exercise physiology and can you theology. I'm gonna

1310
01:10:01,280 --> 01:10:04,120
Speaker 7: get my certifications to be a trainer. If I'm a trainer,

1311
01:10:04,600 --> 01:10:07,640
Speaker 7: I can take my clients around my acting schedule. It

1312
01:10:07,720 --> 01:10:11,000
Speaker 7: allowed me an opportunity to make money while chasing my dream.

1313
01:10:11,640 --> 01:10:15,200
Speaker 7: Because if you don't know how to put yourself in

1314
01:10:15,240 --> 01:10:18,160
Speaker 7: a position to support yourself, you'll always be forced to

1315
01:10:18,160 --> 01:10:20,840
Speaker 7: do things you don't want to do. And if you're

1316
01:10:20,880 --> 01:10:24,320
Speaker 7: an actor, you're gonna get out here and somebody gonna say.

1317
01:10:24,160 --> 01:10:25,599
Speaker 4: To you, if you want to get on, you have

1318
01:10:25,680 --> 01:10:26,120
Speaker 4: to do this.

1319
01:10:26,720 --> 01:10:29,400
Speaker 7: And if them lights cut off tomorrow, you want to

1320
01:10:29,439 --> 01:10:31,639
Speaker 7: be able to walk away from something that say that's

1321
01:10:31,680 --> 01:10:34,160
Speaker 7: not mine anymore, just like me walking.

1322
01:10:33,920 --> 01:10:35,439
Speaker 4: Here to play inmate number three.

1323
01:10:36,000 --> 01:10:38,280
Speaker 7: Only reason why I could walk away is because at

1324
01:10:38,280 --> 01:10:40,719
Speaker 7: the time I owned a gym. I got my degree

1325
01:10:40,760 --> 01:10:43,280
Speaker 7: from HOFTRA, so I was doing a color commentary for

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Speaker 7: MSG Varsity, I was doing substitute teaching and now's with

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Speaker 7: Regional High School.

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Speaker 4: And I just did.

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Speaker 7: I made as much money and revenue as I can

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Speaker 7: and I saved it so that when my time came

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Speaker 7: to focus on my dream, I could do it.

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Speaker 4: On my terms.

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Speaker 1: Good stuff. Hope that helps it and coming out all right,

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Speaker 1: Hey there, hello, there you go?

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Speaker 4: Or how you doing. My name is Seanelle.

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Speaker 19: I've been following you guys for a long time, so

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Speaker 19: I love you.

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Speaker 4: Oh we love you back, Seanell. Thank you. Honestly.

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Speaker 19: My question is I have a eleven year old daughter

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Speaker 19: about to turn eleven, and around the time I started

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Speaker 19: following you guys, is when you was having Jackson and

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01:11:26,880 --> 01:11:29,200
Speaker 19: going through it with Kiro And I just want to

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Speaker 19: ask this question as a parent because I am a

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Speaker 19: single mother, but I have a great relationship with her father.

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Speaker 19: Were co parent well, but lately I've been trying to

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Speaker 19: balance you know, working, having her, being there for her

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Speaker 19: and her activities, but still kind of getting lost within

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Speaker 19: myself and kind of been into what lately, but still

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Speaker 19: trying to feel like, am I keeping up with her grades?

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Speaker 19: Am I doing what I'm supposed to do as a parent,

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Speaker 19: but still taking care of myself. So I want to know,

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Speaker 19: from y'all's perspective of having a busy schedule and being

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Speaker 19: active parents, how do.

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Speaker 4: You keep that balance?

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Speaker 19: How are you able to feel like you're involved in

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01:12:03,840 --> 01:12:06,280
Speaker 19: your children's life making sure that they're doing what they're

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Speaker 19: supposed to do, but yet just making sure your mental

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Speaker 19: health is good and that you're just checking up on

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Speaker 19: yourself and making sure your kids is good. Because if

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Speaker 19: you're not healthy, your kids are not healthy.

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Speaker 3: That is the whole fact.

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Speaker 1: Actually, in the book, one of the chapters is called

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Speaker 1: the Kids Ain't First, And we got a little bit

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Speaker 1: of backlash from that, people like, how could your children

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Speaker 1: not be first?

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Speaker 3: I mean, they depend on you, you know, they came

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Speaker 3: here because of you.

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Speaker 1: But Deval and I realized, if we're not mentally in check,

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Speaker 1: if we're just not in check as a couple, as

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Speaker 1: the head of the household and the leaders, if we're

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Speaker 1: not in Unison.

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Speaker 3: Nothing flows. The children feel it. They're off. They can

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Speaker 3: sense the energy.

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Speaker 1: One time, Deval and I had an argument when Jackson

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Speaker 1: was about four years old.

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Speaker 3: Was it?

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Speaker 1: He was five, is in kindergarten and we were arguing

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Speaker 1: over something stupid. It was like the stroller or something

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Speaker 1: like that. The stroller argument. And that morning Jackson was

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Speaker 1: supposed to go to school and Deval took them to

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Speaker 1: school and they normally have their little handshake that they

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Speaker 1: do and Jackson gets out of the car, and that

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Speaker 1: morning Deval just you know, said all right, you know

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Speaker 1: later and kind of let Jackson go into school.

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Speaker 7: We will arguing so long that we were late to school.

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Speaker 7: I typically put on the radio and I'm driving in

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Speaker 7: the car, listen to the radio.

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Speaker 4: There was no radio one.

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Speaker 7: We typically get out do our handshake that you've seen

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Speaker 7: us do so many times. He get out the car,

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Speaker 7: he's already late for school, and he's like, Daddy, we

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Speaker 7: ain't do a handshake.

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Speaker 4: I was like, just goingside the school.

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Speaker 7: You late, not realizing that I was projecting all of

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Speaker 7: my anger that Kadeen and I were going through on him.

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Speaker 4: So then he walked into school. I took off.

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Speaker 7: We went back and finished our conversation, and.

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Speaker 1: We always finished our conversation and then Jackson Deval goes

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Speaker 1: to pick Jackson up.

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Speaker 3: From school at the end of the day.

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Speaker 7: Now and every day when I picked Jackson up from school,

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Speaker 7: he runs out and jumps in my arms. On this day,

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Speaker 7: all the kids came out. I'm like, yohe's Jackson. He's

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01:13:51,240 --> 01:13:54,920
Speaker 7: walking out the last I'm like, yo, what's the matter, bro?

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Speaker 4: He says to me, Are you still mad at me?

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Speaker 4: When I tell you?

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Speaker 7: I felt like the biggest piece of shit because I said,

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Speaker 7: I have one job as a father, and that's to

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Speaker 7: make sure that my children wake up feel like they

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Speaker 7: can be the best version of themselves, go to school

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01:14:10,000 --> 01:14:13,280
Speaker 7: and be that person in school. But instead I sent

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Speaker 7: my child to school wondering if his dad was mad

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Speaker 7: at him. So all day he's not the best version

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Speaker 7: of hisself because it's something I did. And I realized that,

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Speaker 7: And it also made me realize that if I do

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Speaker 7: that to my son, I probably do that to my wife.

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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 7: So it's like you start to learn as a parent

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Speaker 7: that everything you're going through you project on your children.

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Speaker 7: Even when you hide it. So I think what Kadean

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Speaker 7: was saying, well, you can finish it.

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Speaker 3: That was the story with the story of Honey.

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Speaker 1: But I just say that to say that children feel

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Speaker 1: and they know everything, and I mean it's difficult for

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Speaker 1: us think about it. We've been traveling since the year started,

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Speaker 1: and yesterday during the Detroit show, Deval promised Jackson that

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Speaker 1: he would call him before his first game. At eight

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Speaker 1: thirty pm, we were on stage in the Detroit show

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Speaker 1: and we let the audience know, hey, guys, we have

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Speaker 1: to FaceTime, so everybody sat quiet in the background. We

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Speaker 1: facetimed him on stage in the middle of the show,

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Speaker 1: just to let him know that we're there.

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Speaker 3: Thank goodness for face time.

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Speaker 1: Trying to be their show up for those moments, always

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Speaker 1: letting them know that they're present. I don't know if

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Speaker 1: your daughter has like a phone, but you know, we text.

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Speaker 1: Deval and I have our own little relationship with Jackson individually,

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Speaker 1: of course, but we check in all the time. We

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Speaker 1: just try to constantly let them know that we're there.

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Speaker 1: When we are home, we try our best to devise

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Speaker 1: time or divide our time instead, so that way we're

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Speaker 1: completely invested in the children.

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Speaker 3: And present in that moment.

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Speaker 1: So that means putting work away, putting the phones away.

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Speaker 3: It's easy to get distracted.

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Speaker 1: I told the story to y'all might have heard on

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Speaker 1: the podcast about Cairo trying to tell me a story

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Speaker 1: one day and I'm too busy trying to probably text

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Speaker 1: the Nora or something that she needs, and he's telling

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01:15:45,920 --> 01:15:47,479
Speaker 1: me the story and he's like, Mommy, you're not even

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Speaker 1: listening to me. You're not looking at me.

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Speaker 3: And I was like, shoot, like another moment where you

1453
01:15:51,800 --> 01:15:52,160
Speaker 3: feel like.

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01:15:52,080 --> 01:15:53,880
Speaker 1: Crap, because it's like, damn, I'm trying to juggle all

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01:15:53,960 --> 01:15:56,680
Speaker 1: these things to make sure that everything stays afloat with

1456
01:15:56,720 --> 01:15:58,760
Speaker 1: work and provide this legacy that we're trying to build

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Speaker 1: for our kids.

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Speaker 3: The same time I'm not present from my child.

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Speaker 1: So in those moments, they were teachable for us as

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01:16:04,680 --> 01:16:08,640
Speaker 1: parents to know, you know what, the kids don't necessarily

1461
01:16:08,640 --> 01:16:12,400
Speaker 1: come first, but they are so impressionable. They feel everything,

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01:16:12,479 --> 01:16:14,719
Speaker 1: they know everything, and we try to be very completely

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01:16:14,760 --> 01:16:17,240
Speaker 1: honest and transparent with them, let them know that we're

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Speaker 1: here even when we're not. And we have a great

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01:16:19,560 --> 01:16:21,720
Speaker 1: village at home with our parents who try to just

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Speaker 1: continue on what we would be doing at home with them,

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Speaker 1: you know, so stick stick it out, girl, and hang tough.

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01:16:28,479 --> 01:16:30,800
Speaker 1: I know it's hard sometimes.

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01:16:31,000 --> 01:16:31,880
Speaker 4: Be honest with your daughter.

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Speaker 7: She's eleven, like if she's intelligent, emotionally intelligent like Jackson is.

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Speaker 7: I explain to Jackson, listen, I'm not gonna be here

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Speaker 7: all the time. There's reasons why I'm not going to

1473
01:16:40,479 --> 01:16:42,719
Speaker 7: be here. I have to protect and provide for this family.

1474
01:16:42,960 --> 01:16:44,560
Speaker 7: And when you have your family, you're gonna have to

1475
01:16:44,600 --> 01:16:46,920
Speaker 7: make these hard decisions. Back in the day, when we

1476
01:16:46,960 --> 01:16:49,400
Speaker 7: was kids, our parents just hid stuff from us and

1477
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Speaker 7: they would be gone, Like my parents literally would drop

1478
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Speaker 7: us to our grandparents and go back to New York

1479
01:16:54,680 --> 01:16:57,599
Speaker 7: and we'd be in Tennessee for eight weeks. And they

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Speaker 7: did that because they didn't have no date, no datecare,

1481
01:17:00,000 --> 01:17:01,240
Speaker 7: they didn't have money for it, so they.

1482
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Speaker 4: Drove us to Tennessee.

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Speaker 7: We would fall asleep one night, wake up and be

1484
01:17:05,160 --> 01:17:10,640
Speaker 7: like and they be going on that's wild, traumatic, traumatized,

1485
01:17:11,000 --> 01:17:13,439
Speaker 7: and it's like, my parents literally just left me here,

1486
01:17:13,640 --> 01:17:16,720
Speaker 7: right and it's your grandparents, so you're still like, okay, yeah, I.

1487
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Speaker 4: Love you, but.

1488
01:17:19,680 --> 01:17:23,040
Speaker 7: Right part going through that made me realize i'd rather

1489
01:17:23,520 --> 01:17:27,120
Speaker 7: talk to my sons. So Jackson, Kyle, Kaz, we line

1490
01:17:27,120 --> 01:17:28,840
Speaker 7: them up. We're going away.

1491
01:17:28,840 --> 01:17:30,879
Speaker 4: We gotta do showing Detroit, we got do showing Chicago.

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01:17:31,160 --> 01:17:32,960
Speaker 7: This is what we're gonna do. I'm teaching them about

1493
01:17:32,960 --> 01:17:36,040
Speaker 7: physical responsibility. I'm like, if daddy makes this amount of money,

1494
01:17:36,120 --> 01:17:38,080
Speaker 7: we can do this, put this towards the mortgage. So

1495
01:17:38,120 --> 01:17:41,240
Speaker 7: it makes them feel included. When you make them feel included,

1496
01:17:41,280 --> 01:17:43,719
Speaker 7: they don't feel like they're just being left behind. Because

1497
01:17:43,760 --> 01:17:46,400
Speaker 7: now when I come home, my kids and how much

1498
01:17:46,400 --> 01:17:46,880
Speaker 7: money do you make?

1499
01:17:48,400 --> 01:17:49,360
Speaker 3: So how much do we get?

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01:17:49,800 --> 01:17:51,920
Speaker 4: Right, did you reach your goal? How much do mommy

1501
01:17:51,960 --> 01:17:57,120
Speaker 4: spending it? And he has a zel so.

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01:17:57,720 --> 01:18:00,280
Speaker 7: But but what it does is it teaches them how

1503
01:18:00,320 --> 01:18:04,080
Speaker 7: to be independent, yeah, you know, individuals.

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01:18:03,400 --> 01:18:05,599
Speaker 3: Because we can't always be there for them. That's another thing.

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01:18:05,680 --> 01:18:08,320
Speaker 1: Jackson had to figure some things out this weekend and

1506
01:18:08,360 --> 01:18:10,559
Speaker 1: that empowered him. He came out on the other side

1507
01:18:10,560 --> 01:18:12,120
Speaker 1: because he's like, man, mom and dad are not here

1508
01:18:12,160 --> 01:18:15,000
Speaker 1: to help me or be evade or assistance, So I

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01:18:15,080 --> 01:18:16,599
Speaker 1: want to have to figure this out with my coach

1510
01:18:17,000 --> 01:18:19,439
Speaker 1: and do my thing. And it's crazy the growth that

1511
01:18:19,479 --> 01:18:21,919
Speaker 1: he's had just in a weekend. We're just like, wow,

1512
01:18:22,320 --> 01:18:23,240
Speaker 1: it's crazy to see.

1513
01:18:23,360 --> 01:18:24,639
Speaker 4: Let me tell you something about Jackson.

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01:18:25,400 --> 01:18:27,639
Speaker 7: I'm calling his coach. Well, they in the same group

1515
01:18:27,680 --> 01:18:29,840
Speaker 7: text and this is my friend Jay. If y'all follow me,

1516
01:18:29,880 --> 01:18:33,160
Speaker 7: y'all know J Cole trains Jackson. J Cole sometimes be

1517
01:18:33,479 --> 01:18:37,040
Speaker 7: in another world. And I'm like, hey, did you guys

1518
01:18:37,080 --> 01:18:39,640
Speaker 7: get the calendar? This is Jackson is answering all of

1519
01:18:39,720 --> 01:18:43,360
Speaker 7: the questions with detail, then sending screenshots from the other

1520
01:18:43,439 --> 01:18:45,880
Speaker 7: coach to let us know what time we play. And

1521
01:18:45,920 --> 01:18:48,559
Speaker 7: when I tell you, I was so proud because I

1522
01:18:48,640 --> 01:18:50,599
Speaker 7: was like, here, it is my eleven year old. We're

1523
01:18:50,640 --> 01:18:53,200
Speaker 7: on a flight and we accidentally told our driver to

1524
01:18:53,240 --> 01:18:55,320
Speaker 7: come pick us up, but BT had sent us a driver.

1525
01:18:55,760 --> 01:18:57,080
Speaker 7: We didn't know how to get in contact with the

1526
01:18:57,160 --> 01:18:59,719
Speaker 7: driver because he has an Android. I text my eleven

1527
01:18:59,800 --> 01:19:03,280
Speaker 7: years roads, hey get in contact with black.

1528
01:19:03,720 --> 01:19:04,479
Speaker 4: Text black.

1529
01:19:05,000 --> 01:19:08,799
Speaker 7: He texted me back copy text black.

1530
01:19:09,080 --> 01:19:10,879
Speaker 4: Hey, yo, Black, this is Jackson.

1531
01:19:11,120 --> 01:19:13,120
Speaker 7: My dad and my mom got double book, but you

1532
01:19:13,160 --> 01:19:14,640
Speaker 7: could go back and pick triple up.

1533
01:19:14,640 --> 01:19:21,479
Speaker 20: Please confirm literally then literally screenshots his confirmation and sends

1534
01:19:21,520 --> 01:19:25,240
Speaker 20: it to Kadeen with a message that says, I knew

1535
01:19:25,280 --> 01:19:27,759
Speaker 20: you would get this because daddy does never checks his stuff.

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01:19:29,560 --> 01:19:32,360
Speaker 4: I was proud, like you know what I'm saying, like I.

1537
01:19:32,360 --> 01:19:33,320
Speaker 3: Was proud.

1538
01:19:34,479 --> 01:19:38,080
Speaker 4: Included you got it for sure? Got it? So good?

1539
01:19:38,240 --> 01:19:38,680
Speaker 3: Nice to be.

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01:19:38,760 --> 01:19:40,240
Speaker 1: Do you know how much time do we have? Only

1541
01:19:40,280 --> 01:19:45,519
Speaker 1: two more questions? Having such a good time. I'm sorry

1542
01:19:45,560 --> 01:19:47,680
Speaker 1: we couldn't get y'all, but right into listening letters. We'll

1543
01:19:47,720 --> 01:19:49,880
Speaker 1: get to him at the show.

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01:19:51,640 --> 01:19:54,960
Speaker 4: Hi, what's up? You know each other?

1545
01:19:55,880 --> 01:19:56,360
Speaker 3: Friends?

1546
01:19:56,880 --> 01:19:57,720
Speaker 4: Oh, that's what's up?

1547
01:19:59,479 --> 01:20:02,519
Speaker 21: First of all, I just wanted to say I'm super like,

1548
01:20:02,600 --> 01:20:06,400
Speaker 21: I'm nervous right now because I'm huge fans literally following

1549
01:20:06,479 --> 01:20:12,920
Speaker 21: y'all forever, like so proud, thank you. So my I'm

1550
01:20:13,080 --> 01:20:17,519
Speaker 21: thirteen weeks postpartum and this is night's first date night out,

1551
01:20:17,600 --> 01:20:18,320
Speaker 21: me and my husband.

1552
01:20:18,640 --> 01:20:19,799
Speaker 3: I just had twin girls.

1553
01:20:20,000 --> 01:20:24,240
Speaker 1: Congratulations girls, that's amazing to ground.

1554
01:20:24,960 --> 01:20:27,479
Speaker 21: So of course, you know, my babies are at home,

1555
01:20:27,520 --> 01:20:31,200
Speaker 21: and I'm like, ah, my babies. But I wanted to

1556
01:20:31,360 --> 01:20:36,879
Speaker 21: know I'm having like, you know, the postpartum like feeling

1557
01:20:36,960 --> 01:20:41,160
Speaker 21: you're sexiest, Like it's not the bos there, I got you.

1558
01:20:42,160 --> 01:20:46,040
Speaker 21: So what advice would you give to like me? And

1559
01:20:46,080 --> 01:20:47,880
Speaker 21: then to my husband? I'm like, how we can kind

1560
01:20:47,880 --> 01:20:51,559
Speaker 21: of get our sexy back, you know, post post post

1561
01:20:51,640 --> 01:20:53,040
Speaker 21: part you.

1562
01:20:53,200 --> 01:20:57,120
Speaker 3: Know shout out to getting the sexy dad. Yes, the

1563
01:20:57,160 --> 01:20:57,720
Speaker 3: biggest thing.

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01:20:58,360 --> 01:21:02,200
Speaker 1: You're thirteen weeks postpartum, girl, you ain't even seeing the

1565
01:21:02,280 --> 01:21:04,960
Speaker 1: half of it yet. You have to give yourself time.

1566
01:21:05,320 --> 01:21:08,840
Speaker 1: You have to give yourself grace. Scientifically, women do not

1567
01:21:08,960 --> 01:21:12,959
Speaker 1: recuperate hormonally after pregnancy until they are nine to twelve

1568
01:21:13,200 --> 01:21:15,520
Speaker 1: months postpartum.

1569
01:21:15,000 --> 01:21:15,840
Speaker 3: And that's a fact.

1570
01:21:16,320 --> 01:21:19,320
Speaker 1: So you not feeling super sexy, you not feeling like yourself.

1571
01:21:19,360 --> 01:21:20,280
Speaker 1: It's completely normal.

1572
01:21:20,360 --> 01:21:23,559
Speaker 3: Sis. You grew two whole human beings in your body.

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01:21:23,600 --> 01:21:28,160
Speaker 1: Baby, you're at the same damn time. You have to

1574
01:21:28,160 --> 01:21:30,280
Speaker 1: give yourself grace. But you know what's wonderful about what

1575
01:21:30,320 --> 01:21:33,639
Speaker 1: your question is. You are even asking about it because

1576
01:21:33,680 --> 01:21:36,080
Speaker 1: you're probably considering yourself as well as your husband. Right

1577
01:21:36,360 --> 01:21:38,479
Speaker 1: you want to be intimate with him again in a

1578
01:21:38,520 --> 01:21:41,080
Speaker 1: space where you both feel comfortable, and you particularly feel

1579
01:21:41,120 --> 01:21:44,200
Speaker 1: sexy after that. So I completely understand where you're coming from.

1580
01:21:44,360 --> 01:21:46,920
Speaker 1: The best part about it, if your husband's anything like mine,

1581
01:21:47,120 --> 01:21:50,360
Speaker 1: he loves me through all phases and he supports me

1582
01:21:50,400 --> 01:21:53,599
Speaker 1: through all phases, shapes if I'm a little more squishy

1583
01:21:53,640 --> 01:21:58,080
Speaker 1: than others. So if he's anything like my hubby over here,

1584
01:21:58,120 --> 01:22:00,120
Speaker 1: which I think he is because you're smiling big. He

1585
01:22:00,160 --> 01:22:01,920
Speaker 1: will give you your time, He'll give you your grace.

1586
01:22:01,960 --> 01:22:03,479
Speaker 1: But I know de Val can speak on the male

1587
01:22:03,520 --> 01:22:05,320
Speaker 1: perspective because he was always like that.

1588
01:22:05,840 --> 01:22:07,920
Speaker 4: Yeah I wasn't. I just didn't know any better.

1589
01:22:08,280 --> 01:22:11,839
Speaker 7: And no one tells you in high school or college

1590
01:22:11,920 --> 01:22:14,439
Speaker 7: or any point that a woman's body goes through so

1591
01:22:14,439 --> 01:22:17,479
Speaker 7: many physiological changes after birth. We just think that after

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01:22:17,560 --> 01:22:20,200
Speaker 7: six weeks everything is back to normal and everything goes back.

1593
01:22:20,640 --> 01:22:22,280
Speaker 4: So we don't know. So I would say give him

1594
01:22:22,320 --> 01:22:23,040
Speaker 4: some grace, But I.

1595
01:22:23,080 --> 01:22:25,559
Speaker 7: Also say to him, it is important for you to

1596
01:22:25,680 --> 01:22:27,639
Speaker 7: educate yourself about what your wife is going through.

1597
01:22:27,640 --> 01:22:28,960
Speaker 4: And I'll just give you this quick analogy.

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01:22:29,280 --> 01:22:32,200
Speaker 7: The most dedicated, disciplined people in the United States are

1599
01:22:32,280 --> 01:22:35,160
Speaker 7: Marine Corps right, Navy seals right.

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01:22:35,360 --> 01:22:36,719
Speaker 4: These are the most dedicated people.

1601
01:22:37,000 --> 01:22:42,040
Speaker 7: They train specifically to deal with sleep deprivation, and these

1602
01:22:42,080 --> 01:22:46,320
Speaker 7: are the most disciplined people. But when it comes to motherhood,

1603
01:22:46,439 --> 01:22:49,559
Speaker 7: we expect a mom to deal with sleep deprivation, still

1604
01:22:49,560 --> 01:22:52,320
Speaker 7: be a wife, still be a mom, still go to work,

1605
01:22:52,560 --> 01:22:55,920
Speaker 7: and it's impossible. So that feeling of your not feeling

1606
01:22:55,960 --> 01:22:58,639
Speaker 7: like yourself isn't just your physiological change. Is the fact

1607
01:22:58,640 --> 01:23:01,920
Speaker 7: that you're not sleeping, are feeding every two and a

1608
01:23:01,960 --> 01:23:05,200
Speaker 7: half hours, you up with two children, it's hard to

1609
01:23:05,280 --> 01:23:06,719
Speaker 7: feel sexy when you tired.

1610
01:23:07,200 --> 01:23:08,280
Speaker 4: You understand what I'm saying.

1611
01:23:08,800 --> 01:23:10,840
Speaker 7: So, and the only reason why I'm saying is because

1612
01:23:10,840 --> 01:23:13,000
Speaker 7: I want you to understand that you're not by yourself.

1613
01:23:13,320 --> 01:23:14,479
Speaker 4: Don't think it's just you.

1614
01:23:15,160 --> 01:23:17,160
Speaker 7: And I want him to understand it's not just her,

1615
01:23:17,400 --> 01:23:19,160
Speaker 7: because when I was young and didn't know better, I

1616
01:23:19,240 --> 01:23:19,800
Speaker 7: thought it.

1617
01:23:19,720 --> 01:23:21,160
Speaker 4: Was just my wife.

1618
01:23:21,200 --> 01:23:23,400
Speaker 7: Like I said, my mom had kids and went back

1619
01:23:23,400 --> 01:23:25,559
Speaker 7: to work and she was fine. That's the only woman

1620
01:23:25,600 --> 01:23:28,040
Speaker 7: I saw go through it. So I just want you

1621
01:23:28,080 --> 01:23:29,640
Speaker 7: to I just want to tell him that and tell

1622
01:23:29,640 --> 01:23:31,639
Speaker 7: you that everything you're going through right now is normal.

1623
01:23:31,880 --> 01:23:32,639
Speaker 4: But if you give.

1624
01:23:32,520 --> 01:23:35,880
Speaker 7: Yourself grace, and y'all both educate each other on what.

1625
01:23:35,800 --> 01:23:37,760
Speaker 4: You're going through, it's easier.

1626
01:23:37,320 --> 01:23:40,880
Speaker 7: To give each other grace and work together towards it

1627
01:23:41,000 --> 01:23:43,080
Speaker 7: if you build yourself with knowledge. So do some research,

1628
01:23:43,120 --> 01:23:45,320
Speaker 7: see how you can get yourself in the best, best

1629
01:23:45,400 --> 01:23:46,520
Speaker 7: version of yourself.

1630
01:23:46,840 --> 01:23:48,120
Speaker 4: But definitely give yourself grace.

1631
01:23:48,160 --> 01:23:51,640
Speaker 1: You're only sixteen weeks thirteen, come on, like, that's like

1632
01:23:51,880 --> 01:23:52,360
Speaker 1: no time.

1633
01:23:52,520 --> 01:23:54,400
Speaker 7: No time, that's like no time, Like I didn't bother

1634
01:23:54,520 --> 01:23:57,840
Speaker 7: Kadeen for like at least six months after the fourth one.

1635
01:23:58,200 --> 01:24:03,479
Speaker 3: That's a lie. Are you just gonna lie to the

1636
01:24:03,479 --> 01:24:04,120
Speaker 3: people like that?

1637
01:24:04,400 --> 01:24:05,639
Speaker 4: All right? I ain't gonna lie.

1638
01:24:05,760 --> 01:24:10,160
Speaker 7: I bothered them, but she was of service to me

1639
01:24:10,200 --> 01:24:12,880
Speaker 7: while I was of service to her. We found ways

1640
01:24:12,920 --> 01:24:15,600
Speaker 7: to do it, you know what I'm saying. You know,

1641
01:24:15,760 --> 01:24:17,120
Speaker 7: you find ways to get it done.

1642
01:24:17,240 --> 01:24:19,800
Speaker 4: So but don't don't feel like something's wrong with you.

1643
01:24:20,200 --> 01:24:21,720
Speaker 7: And I hope he doesn't feel like something's wrong with

1644
01:24:21,760 --> 01:24:23,680
Speaker 7: his girl, because I definitely felt like that with the

1645
01:24:23,680 --> 01:24:26,000
Speaker 7: first one. By the fourth one, I was like, oh, yep,

1646
01:24:26,080 --> 01:24:29,439
Speaker 7: it's around that time. She's about to go apcient and too.

1647
01:24:33,600 --> 01:24:36,560
Speaker 7: Hey you want something to eat? Yeah, that's what it

1648
01:24:36,680 --> 01:24:39,800
Speaker 7: was like living with her during that time. So you

1649
01:24:40,080 --> 01:24:41,920
Speaker 7: shake your head yeah, because you're like, that's me right

1650
01:24:41,960 --> 01:24:44,639
Speaker 7: now to cry my breast leaking.

1651
01:24:44,680 --> 01:24:46,040
Speaker 4: I gotta go breastfeed right now.

1652
01:24:46,640 --> 01:24:51,360
Speaker 1: Yeah. All the best to you and your baby girls,

1653
01:24:52,320 --> 01:24:57,360
Speaker 1: all right, come on with night, saving the best for last.

1654
01:24:57,520 --> 01:25:01,479
Speaker 3: Just kidding. I love your guy, I mean, into your

1655
01:25:01,479 --> 01:25:03,160
Speaker 3: whole squad earlier at Nando's.

1656
01:25:04,120 --> 01:25:06,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm so quick.

1657
01:25:06,920 --> 01:25:07,160
Speaker 3: Question.

1658
01:25:07,320 --> 01:25:09,679
Speaker 22: I just I'm a student and I recently just took

1659
01:25:09,680 --> 01:25:12,280
Speaker 22: a negotiations class, and I just want to know, like,

1660
01:25:12,320 --> 01:25:15,000
Speaker 22: how do you both negotiate on a day to day

1661
01:25:15,040 --> 01:25:17,800
Speaker 22: but like partnership, like marriage, all of that, how do

1662
01:25:17,840 --> 01:25:18,600
Speaker 22: you negotiate?

1663
01:25:18,680 --> 01:25:22,280
Speaker 3: Like what what does that look like? M don't really negotiate.

1664
01:25:22,320 --> 01:25:27,280
Speaker 4: It's not the highway, Yeah, it's what do you need? Okay?

1665
01:25:27,640 --> 01:25:29,240
Speaker 4: What do I need? Okay?

1666
01:25:29,400 --> 01:25:32,559
Speaker 7: Literally get it done, Like when you get to this

1667
01:25:32,640 --> 01:25:34,800
Speaker 7: point when you out number two to one by your

1668
01:25:34,840 --> 01:25:37,200
Speaker 7: kids and you live with your in laws and you

1669
01:25:37,320 --> 01:25:40,080
Speaker 7: have to make sure Josh got his stuff done and

1670
01:25:40,160 --> 01:25:42,080
Speaker 7: Denor got her stuff done, and you got you got

1671
01:25:42,120 --> 01:25:44,040
Speaker 7: all these people that are helping you build what we're.

1672
01:25:43,880 --> 01:25:45,840
Speaker 4: Trying to build. I have to wake up and be

1673
01:25:45,920 --> 01:25:47,360
Speaker 4: directly to say, babe, what do you need today? What

1674
01:25:47,360 --> 01:25:47,760
Speaker 4: do you need?

1675
01:25:47,960 --> 01:25:49,280
Speaker 3: That alleviated so much for us.

1676
01:25:49,360 --> 01:25:51,720
Speaker 1: We took the thing out of it, literally and we

1677
01:25:51,880 --> 01:25:53,840
Speaker 1: just are like, what do you need? Be honest and

1678
01:25:53,920 --> 01:25:56,040
Speaker 1: upfront about what you need in real time so we

1679
01:25:56,040 --> 01:25:59,240
Speaker 1: can figure it out. It's been a lot smoother than

1680
01:25:59,240 --> 01:26:01,960
Speaker 1: having to try to tiptoe and navigate around what each

1681
01:26:01,960 --> 01:26:02,519
Speaker 1: other needs.

1682
01:26:02,560 --> 01:26:03,759
Speaker 4: For sure, and we don't.

1683
01:26:03,600 --> 01:26:06,559
Speaker 7: Judge when they tell us what we need. If k

1684
01:26:06,720 --> 01:26:08,639
Speaker 7: need time, I'll give a time. If Kate want to cuddle,

1685
01:26:08,640 --> 01:26:11,679
Speaker 7: I'll give a cuddle. It's just understand that your partner's

1686
01:26:11,680 --> 01:26:13,760
Speaker 7: saying they need something in that moment, if you can

1687
01:26:13,800 --> 01:26:16,960
Speaker 7: provide it. This is what you got married for, right,

1688
01:26:17,000 --> 01:26:20,800
Speaker 7: Your marriage is servitude and perpetuity. Like you wake up

1689
01:26:20,840 --> 01:26:22,720
Speaker 7: every day knowing that that person in front of me

1690
01:26:22,800 --> 01:26:24,360
Speaker 7: is a person I chose to provide for.

1691
01:26:24,560 --> 01:26:26,479
Speaker 4: So you get up and you be like, boom, what

1692
01:26:26,560 --> 01:26:28,320
Speaker 4: you need? All right? And if she asked me, I

1693
01:26:28,439 --> 01:26:30,040
Speaker 4: tell her and we just get it done.

1694
01:26:30,160 --> 01:26:32,800
Speaker 1: As a fat marriage is one long, never ending conversation.

1695
01:26:32,920 --> 01:26:35,519
Speaker 1: Y'all know what you're getting into ahead of time.

1696
01:26:35,560 --> 01:26:37,720
Speaker 3: And when it comes to business stuff and negotiation, we

1697
01:26:37,840 --> 01:26:39,320
Speaker 3: just hand it to do Nora because we don't got

1698
01:26:39,320 --> 01:26:42,280
Speaker 3: time for that. We handed off to do Nora.

1699
01:26:42,439 --> 01:26:43,840
Speaker 4: So I may ask you guys a question. Did y'all

1700
01:26:43,800 --> 01:26:44,360
Speaker 4: have a good time?

1701
01:26:44,520 --> 01:26:45,759
Speaker 3: Did y'all have a good time tonight?

1702
01:26:47,920 --> 01:26:50,160
Speaker 4: Because we had a great time. I appreciate that, brother,

1703
01:26:50,240 --> 01:26:51,559
Speaker 4: we had a great time time.

1704
01:26:51,960 --> 01:26:54,439
Speaker 1: I have to say, officially, of all the shows that

1705
01:26:54,439 --> 01:26:59,759
Speaker 1: we've ever done, Chicago, Baby, Yeah, Chicago, y'all, there's something

1706
01:26:59,800 --> 01:27:03,320
Speaker 1: that this night. There's something about the space that we're in.

1707
01:27:03,400 --> 01:27:06,360
Speaker 1: This is the fifth show, our fifth and final show

1708
01:27:06,400 --> 01:27:08,840
Speaker 1: for this leg of the tour that we're not thinking.

1709
01:27:09,000 --> 01:27:10,880
Speaker 3: We're not sure that we can even make it back

1710
01:27:10,920 --> 01:27:11,719
Speaker 3: the best of the last.

1711
01:27:11,920 --> 01:27:13,559
Speaker 1: Yes, we're not even sure if we'll be able to

1712
01:27:13,600 --> 01:27:15,320
Speaker 1: make it back out this year to get on tour

1713
01:27:15,439 --> 01:27:16,840
Speaker 1: for the summer or fall.

1714
01:27:16,920 --> 01:27:20,160
Speaker 3: Just because the vow is out here booking rolls and whatnot.

1715
01:27:21,320 --> 01:27:25,800
Speaker 7: Yes, so'll be busy a little inside. I booked the

1716
01:27:25,880 --> 01:27:31,360
Speaker 7: lead in the new Netflix film Coming Out. Yes, yes, so, yeah,

1717
01:27:31,400 --> 01:27:33,160
Speaker 7: I'm excited. That's all I can say about it. But

1718
01:27:33,200 --> 01:27:36,200
Speaker 7: I'm definitely very very exciting. Thank you, thank you.

1719
01:27:36,400 --> 01:27:38,840
Speaker 1: So we're going straight from tour back home to spend

1720
01:27:38,880 --> 01:27:41,800
Speaker 1: some time with the kids real quick before he heads

1721
01:27:41,800 --> 01:27:43,880
Speaker 1: to Toronto, Canada. So I was looking forward to being

1722
01:27:43,920 --> 01:27:45,280
Speaker 1: on the beach for spring break, but we're going to

1723
01:27:45,320 --> 01:27:46,120
Speaker 1: be up in Toronto.

1724
01:27:46,280 --> 01:27:49,679
Speaker 3: So thank y'all for coming out tonight. I'm so excited.

1725
01:27:49,720 --> 01:27:50,639
Speaker 3: Before we let.

1726
01:27:50,520 --> 01:27:54,200
Speaker 7: Y'all go, so this is actually my favorite part of

1727
01:27:54,240 --> 01:27:54,559
Speaker 7: the show.

1728
01:27:54,560 --> 01:27:55,800
Speaker 4: Can everybody stand up please?

1729
01:27:57,080 --> 01:28:02,080
Speaker 3: Well, before we do that, we wanted to.

1730
01:28:03,800 --> 01:28:11,600
Speaker 1: Acknowledge someone in the crowd, someone who is so diligent

1731
01:28:12,240 --> 01:28:16,720
Speaker 1: when it comes to de Valeni, someone who is so

1732
01:28:16,960 --> 01:28:22,280
Speaker 1: invested in making sure that we not only look our best,

1733
01:28:23,120 --> 01:28:26,960
Speaker 1: but feel our best. She has a birthday coming up, y'all,

1734
01:28:27,320 --> 01:28:29,120
Speaker 1: one of our favorite pisces.

1735
01:28:29,560 --> 01:28:33,599
Speaker 3: Give it up to our stylish Charie Simmons. Yes, come

1736
01:28:33,640 --> 01:28:44,400
Speaker 3: on up, Chari, because we love our pools so so much.

1737
01:28:44,720 --> 01:28:48,599
Speaker 3: Everyone up there, they put into us so much. They

1738
01:28:48,600 --> 01:28:53,080
Speaker 3: bring over us. They have our best. So we had

1739
01:28:53,120 --> 01:28:57,000
Speaker 3: today show we show us some love tonight. Her birthday

1740
01:28:57,040 --> 01:28:59,360
Speaker 3: is on Funday.

1741
01:29:00,040 --> 01:29:11,080
Speaker 10: Shut up, Yes, yea need Joelapo sticking on this part.

1742
01:29:11,120 --> 01:29:20,040
Speaker 10: So this part right here, sticking real Knox a humble shot.

1743
01:29:26,600 --> 01:29:28,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, birthday.

1744
01:29:28,560 --> 01:29:32,160
Speaker 1: I love little birthday coming out from knock the picture

1745
01:29:32,240 --> 01:29:35,280
Speaker 1: birth baby, shout out to the birth We got your

1746
01:29:35,320 --> 01:29:35,760
Speaker 1: nol on.

1747
01:29:35,720 --> 01:29:41,800
Speaker 15: Here birth take, Okay, Nelly on bank looking at birth take.

1748
01:29:41,960 --> 01:29:47,679
Speaker 3: We got Sniley looking at the barber.

1749
01:29:48,160 --> 01:29:53,760
Speaker 1: Birthday, my baby fresh Jay's second birthday on the word.

1750
01:29:55,520 --> 01:30:00,559
Speaker 3: Do you have whot in the back, We got bend down,

1751
01:30:02,840 --> 01:30:05,080
Speaker 3: Sir Joshua. Where is Joshua?

1752
01:30:05,560 --> 01:30:07,519
Speaker 4: I want to see josh somewhere.

1753
01:30:07,760 --> 01:30:10,639
Speaker 3: Little bag on a birthday, give up from.

1754
01:30:10,439 --> 01:30:16,559
Speaker 4: Mad man in the back. We got Dasha. You don't

1755
01:30:16,600 --> 01:30:17,320
Speaker 4: need no love.

1756
01:30:17,520 --> 01:30:20,599
Speaker 3: They're all out there somewhere. We love y'all so much.

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01:30:22,479 --> 01:30:24,919
Speaker 3: Give it up for thee his birthday.

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01:30:25,160 --> 01:30:27,200
Speaker 15: I'm trying to put you back home in your birthday.

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01:30:28,080 --> 01:30:28,840
Speaker 4: Why are you not having.

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01:30:29,040 --> 01:30:32,320
Speaker 3: Birth She look back to a merch All right.

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01:30:32,800 --> 01:30:33,280
Speaker 1: Give it up.

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01:30:37,240 --> 01:30:40,960
Speaker 15: One time for the birthpay, bent two times for the birthday,

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01:30:41,000 --> 01:30:44,600
Speaker 15: bitch three times for the birthpay. Bitch fucking up a

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01:30:44,680 --> 01:30:48,960
Speaker 15: vis your birthpayer. Fucking up official birthpay. Bitch, suck it

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01:30:49,000 --> 01:30:52,280
Speaker 15: up and fish your birthpay. Bitch fucking up offs your birthpay.

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01:30:52,320 --> 01:30:55,080
Speaker 15: Bitch fucking up afs your birth pay per you a

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01:30:55,200 --> 01:30:59,080
Speaker 15: dammit and his birthday broad sucking up through the worst place.

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01:30:59,680 --> 01:31:04,880
Speaker 3: Man, y'all so much. Appreciate y'all. Teams.

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01:31:04,920 --> 01:31:10,640
Speaker 7: All right, so this is my favorite part of the

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01:31:10,720 --> 01:31:13,960
Speaker 7: show after that, because that was something else that Kay

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01:31:14,000 --> 01:31:15,120
Speaker 7: did not put on my calendar.

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01:31:16,680 --> 01:31:18,200
Speaker 4: But we love you, sure we happy birthday.

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01:31:18,560 --> 01:31:20,080
Speaker 3: We have to acknowledge our team, y'all.

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01:31:20,160 --> 01:31:20,360
Speaker 4: Yes.

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01:31:21,680 --> 01:31:26,360
Speaker 7: After season one, as a teamer, Nathan, who's played by

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01:31:26,400 --> 01:31:28,600
Speaker 7: Cam said, the value have to be one of the

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01:31:28,600 --> 01:31:32,120
Speaker 7: greatest manifestos I've ever seen in my life because everything

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01:31:32,160 --> 01:31:35,120
Speaker 7: I said, what's gonna happen, What's gonna happen? I said,

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01:31:35,120 --> 01:31:37,400
Speaker 7: We're gonna get season two happened. I said, we're gonna

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01:31:37,439 --> 01:31:40,519
Speaker 7: get twenty episodes happened. We even got renewed for season

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01:31:40,520 --> 01:31:46,120
Speaker 7: three before season two came out surprised. So what I

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01:31:46,120 --> 01:31:48,559
Speaker 7: want to do is share with y'all what I do

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01:31:48,640 --> 01:31:50,559
Speaker 7: to manifest. And I want all of us to take

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01:31:50,560 --> 01:31:55,880
Speaker 7: a moment so close your eyes. I want you to

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01:31:55,920 --> 01:31:59,800
Speaker 7: think about the biggest house you've ever seen that you

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01:31:59,800 --> 01:32:03,920
Speaker 7: want to live in. Think about the most amount of

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01:32:03,960 --> 01:32:07,160
Speaker 7: money you ever want to make. Think about that love

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01:32:07,200 --> 01:32:10,759
Speaker 7: of your life that you haven't met yet. Think about

1789
01:32:10,760 --> 01:32:15,000
Speaker 7: that car, that job, that career, those children, those pets,

1790
01:32:15,040 --> 01:32:18,240
Speaker 7: think about everything. Are you thinking about it? Can you

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01:32:18,320 --> 01:32:21,439
Speaker 7: see it? I need you to understand this. If you

1792
01:32:21,439 --> 01:32:25,360
Speaker 7: can see it, that means it's already happened. Open your eyes.

1793
01:32:25,960 --> 01:32:28,040
Speaker 7: If it's already happened, that means it's up to.

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01:32:28,080 --> 01:32:29,640
Speaker 4: You to claim it.

1795
01:32:29,840 --> 01:32:31,360
Speaker 3: You better go get it, y'all.

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01:32:31,120 --> 01:32:33,320
Speaker 4: Go get it, Go get it, because it's yours.

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01:32:33,439 --> 01:32:36,800
Speaker 3: We are a living, walking testimony. Yes, y'all, and thank you.

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01:32:36,760 --> 01:32:39,000
Speaker 1: So so much for your love and support over the years.

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01:32:39,560 --> 01:32:41,880
Speaker 4: Oh God, there you go. I knew he was gonna

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01:32:41,920 --> 01:32:51,240
Speaker 4: come on you, Hormona. Are you pregnant. No, Chicago has

1801
01:32:51,320 --> 01:32:52,960
Speaker 4: been amazing.

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01:32:53,920 --> 01:32:59,400
Speaker 7: Yeah, when I was downstairs, I had just had a

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01:32:59,560 --> 01:33:03,160
Speaker 7: drink and I could hear y'all from downs from up here,

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01:33:03,200 --> 01:33:05,439
Speaker 7: I could hear them downstairs, and I started getting this

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01:33:05,520 --> 01:33:08,080
Speaker 7: feeling in my legs and I was like in my

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01:33:08,160 --> 01:33:11,880
Speaker 7: nervous or in my high and I was a little

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01:33:11,880 --> 01:33:15,479
Speaker 7: bit scared, right, But then I realized, like, man, I

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01:33:15,479 --> 01:33:17,559
Speaker 7: ain't smoke that much. And as I walked up the

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01:33:17,560 --> 01:33:19,479
Speaker 7: stairs to get ready, my legs.

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01:33:19,280 --> 01:33:20,960
Speaker 4: Were getting heavier and heavier, and it.

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01:33:20,880 --> 01:33:23,719
Speaker 7: Was really like the love that I could feel from

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01:33:23,840 --> 01:33:24,880
Speaker 7: everybody out here.

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01:33:25,200 --> 01:33:28,320
Speaker 4: When I came out here and heard that scream y'all

1814
01:33:28,400 --> 01:33:28,880
Speaker 4: have no idea.

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01:33:28,920 --> 01:33:31,120
Speaker 7: I feel so invigorated to go out and do ten

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01:33:31,200 --> 01:33:33,120
Speaker 7: times more than I ever thought I was gonna do.

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01:33:33,840 --> 01:33:36,200
Speaker 1: So the day, y'all, the days that we want to stop,

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01:33:36,240 --> 01:33:38,519
Speaker 1: and the days that I'm contemplating if we should go on,

1819
01:33:38,720 --> 01:33:41,280
Speaker 1: and the days I want to just delete the Instagram

1820
01:33:41,320 --> 01:33:44,160
Speaker 1: from my phone, we have moments like this that just

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01:33:44,200 --> 01:33:45,799
Speaker 1: reassure us that we are walking.

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01:33:46,680 --> 01:33:51,559
Speaker 4: Come back, you come back. Yes.

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01:33:52,120 --> 01:33:55,679
Speaker 1: It just further gives me the confirmation that I'm walking

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01:33:55,680 --> 01:33:58,639
Speaker 1: in my purpose and whatever that looks like for.

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01:33:58,680 --> 01:34:01,320
Speaker 3: Me and for y'all. Either way, we just appreciate y'all

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01:34:01,360 --> 01:34:01,760
Speaker 3: so much.

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01:34:01,840 --> 01:34:04,360
Speaker 7: So one time for the one time Chicago. This is

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01:34:04,360 --> 01:34:06,840
Speaker 7: what we're gonna do with y'all. Were gonna get this

1829
01:34:06,920 --> 01:34:10,240
Speaker 7: video selfie with y'all. Right, I'm gonna say where we at?

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01:34:10,479 --> 01:34:14,000
Speaker 7: You're gonna say Chicago. I'm gonna say for what you

1831
01:34:14,120 --> 01:34:14,639
Speaker 7: gonna say?

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01:34:15,120 --> 01:34:20,559
Speaker 4: Dead Ass Podcast? Y'allready? Three? Oh?

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01:34:20,840 --> 01:34:25,280
Speaker 7: How about how about I hit the record buddy on

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01:34:25,280 --> 01:34:27,040
Speaker 7: this one. I'm talking gonna make sure I get everybody.

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01:34:27,240 --> 01:34:31,280
Speaker 7: Shout out to everybody up here. Yeah, yeah, year, shout

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01:34:31,280 --> 01:34:32,759
Speaker 7: out to everybody over here.

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01:34:33,320 --> 01:34:38,519
Speaker 4: Yeh yeh yeah. All right, where we at?

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01:34:38,920 --> 01:34:41,920
Speaker 3: Shut and what are we here for?

1839
01:34:42,560 --> 01:34:48,720
Speaker 4: Ut as PoCA. Dead Ass is.

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01:34:48,720 --> 01:34:51,840
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01:34:51,880 --> 01:34:55,679
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01:34:55,720 --> 01:35:07,120
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