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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for not bathing my friend's

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Speaker 1: autistic child?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know. Is the role of

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Speaker 2: bathing on the friend?

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Speaker 3: The friend must bathe the autistic child.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's Roman's twelve three right.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Oh, there is an answer for that. We have scripture.

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Speaker 2: Yes, scripture.

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Speaker 1: So I female thirty five, agreed to watch my friend

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Speaker 1: female thirty four child male thirty five five times past.

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Speaker 4: That's a lot of freaking uh sexes and ages we've made.

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Speaker 1: It planned to watch him overnight when her dad had

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Speaker 1: a medical emergency. Now she expected that she'd only be

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Speaker 1: there for a few hours, but at the hospital, her

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Speaker 1: dad fell into a coma, and she asked if it

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Speaker 1: was okay if her son stayed overnight with me, to which, of.

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Speaker 3: Course I said yes. Bro, that sucks got really escalated

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Speaker 3: really quickly.

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Speaker 1: The next evening when she came to pick him up,

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Speaker 1: she was livid because he hadn't been bathed, although he

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Speaker 1: was by no means filthy, just a little sweaty. Uh

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Speaker 1: maybe from the upset in his routine. Wait, a little

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Speaker 1: sweet man's a little sweaty, and.

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Speaker 3: He's a little sweaty from the upset.

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Speaker 4: Bro, I'm a little sweaty, and John's not gonna be

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Speaker 4: like Sam, Why aren't you taking a bath right now?

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Speaker 3: Bathe me?

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Speaker 5: I'm like John, bathe me up? Where's my rubber ducky?

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Speaker 5: I want to be sudsy, not sodsy. In five minutes,

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Speaker 5: we're over.

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Speaker 2: You know you won't like me when I'm not sudsy.

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Speaker 1: Next uh, next, okop series okop, but in and we're

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Speaker 1: just in.

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Speaker 3: That would actually be amazing. That would be amazing. We're

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Speaker 3: just like rubber ducky, like full of phones, you know.

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Speaker 4: It would be funny. We would have to maybe do

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Speaker 4: this at the end or something. But okop in the

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Speaker 4: ice bath, yes, I you're reading a story.

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Speaker 2: All in the ice can do that.

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Speaker 3: We can do that ideas ideas.

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Speaker 2: We have an idea. That's an idea.

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Speaker 3: Now here's the thing.

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Speaker 1: Her son is autistic and terrified of showers. I did

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Speaker 1: not have a bathtub at the time, and knowing his

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Speaker 1: terror of showers, I'd babysat him before and she had

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Speaker 1: left instructions to fill the tub without him in the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: Because that's how triggered he gets. For me, I opted

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Speaker 1: to clean him with baby wipes and a warm washcloth,

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Speaker 1: to which he was cooperative with. Seems like a pretty

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Speaker 1: reasonable compromise.

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Speaker 3: Fair.

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Speaker 1: She put him in his car seat and then returned

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Speaker 1: to the house to say that I had messed up

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Speaker 1: his bedtime routine and she couldn't believe that I would

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Speaker 1: send her son home dirty, and she thought I was

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Speaker 1: a better friend than that.

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Speaker 2: What is this dirtiness?

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 2: All right?

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Speaker 4: Back in the good old day, you had to take

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Speaker 4: a shower for like a year. And our kids I

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Speaker 4: played in the mud, put shit on themselves, shit themselves

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Speaker 4: while they were putting shit on themselves.

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Speaker 1: Come on, walking to school five miles with no shoes

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Speaker 1: but the calluses on my toes.

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Speaker 2: Walking to school five miles up, hailed both ways.

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Speaker 1: A rabbit killed it and strapped to my foot, and gosh,

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Speaker 1: durn it, those were the nikes.

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Speaker 3: Just do it. I just killed this rabbit for some shoes.

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Speaker 2: That's how the original child laborer started.

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Speaker 3: Making their own shoes.

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Speaker 1: Side note, my grandpa told he like grew up in

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Speaker 1: the depression and like hut and all this stuff, and

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Speaker 1: he would eat uh squirrel brains like like peanuts, you

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Speaker 1: would say, would pop them, pop them in?

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Speaker 2: How many squirrel brains did he get a lot.

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Speaker 3: I think he ate a lot of squirrel brains. Dude,

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Speaker 3: us kill kill the squirrels.

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Speaker 1: The brain is kind of like the you know, like

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Speaker 1: the little tree you have just it's like the cherry

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Speaker 1: on the milkshake, you know, you start with that and

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Speaker 1: then you.

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Speaker 2: I would never have thought that, bro, I neither.

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Speaker 4: I'm just imagining, like the the like op from the

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Speaker 4: last story, being like, oh my.

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Speaker 2: God, the more squirrel brains, they're everywhere. He's the murderer.

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Speaker 3: Call the police and my grandpa, just like John good eating.

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Speaker 1: She couldn't believe that I had sent her son home

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Speaker 1: dirty and thought I was a better friend than that,

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Speaker 1: and I needed to be more sensitive to the needs.

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Speaker 3: Of autistic kids.

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Speaker 1: And she posted this rant on her social media once

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Speaker 1: she arrived home.

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Speaker 3: Put her on blast.

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Speaker 4: That's so shitty, crazy, that's that's that's so shitty, that's

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Speaker 4: a that's a bad friend.

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Speaker 1: After your friend watched your kid, after you know you

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Speaker 1: were in the hospital.

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Speaker 2: I'm sking grateful.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, like, this ain't the Marriott, this is my house, Mariot,

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Speaker 4: what's the This ain't the Four Seasons?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, is like, this isn't a two and a half

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Speaker 1: star hotel establishment. This isn't a Motel six with all

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Speaker 1: the grandeur.

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Speaker 3: Uh, this is.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna start saying that. It's like, like, what do

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Speaker 2: you expect motel six? We started some fantasy establishment.

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Speaker 1: What do you want fresh soap in the wrapper? What

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Speaker 1: do you want cumbstains? Not off your blanket? This is

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Speaker 1: luxury now. I thought our time together had gone well.

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Speaker 1: He cried for about fifteen minutes after the drop off,

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Speaker 1: but afterwards we watched his favorite show, ate a snack and.

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Speaker 3: I put him to bed.

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Speaker 2: Yeah that sounds great.

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Speaker 1: In the morning, he woke up asking for her, but

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Speaker 1: no tears. Breakfast and lunch were eaten. We played some

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Speaker 1: of his sign language games, cuddled with my cat, and

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Speaker 1: then I wiped him as clean as like good. So

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Speaker 1: am I the a hole? Should I have pressed the

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Speaker 1: shower issue? I have admittedly very little experience with autism.

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Speaker 1: He's the only person I know that has been diagnosed,

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Speaker 1: and based on prior extructions, I feel I.

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Speaker 3: Did the best I could in the circumstances.

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Speaker 4: All Right, if you want, like, if you explicitly want

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Speaker 4: a shower, then just ask for it, you know. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I think it's ridiculous.

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Speaker 3: I think it's too much like your your friend offered.

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Speaker 4: It's too much, Yeah much like that's what like, well,

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Speaker 4: that's what the friend gets.

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Speaker 2: For doing them a favor. Yeah, come on, that's ridiculous. Yeah,