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Speaker 1: through to well, what can I do about it? What

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Speaker 1: reminding me that I've forgotten? What wisdom is inside of

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Speaker 1: this that I need to learn? As soon as you

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Speaker 1: you're totally overthinking it. Overthinking, spiraling, crashing out are things

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Speaker 1: we do every single day. It almost feels like our

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Speaker 1: minds are overflowing with the same negative thought patterns all

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Speaker 1: the time. What do we do If you've experienced any

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Speaker 1: of those things before, this episode is for you. I

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Speaker 1: want to share with you spiritual truths that help us

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Speaker 1: understand how to stop overthinking and actually learn to let go.

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Speaker 1: The first is everything is impermanent. It's important that we

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Speaker 1: learn to let go gracefully. The bugwd Guita has a

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Speaker 1: beautiful verse two point fourteen that says, the non permanent

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Speaker 1: appearance of happiness and distress and their disappearance in due

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Speaker 1: course are like the appearance and disappearance of the winter

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Speaker 1: and summer seasons. They arise from sense perception, and one

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Speaker 1: must learn to tolerate them without being disturbed. I love

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Speaker 1: this verse from the bugwd guitar, and it's something that

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Speaker 1: I really want you to take in. When you wake

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Speaker 1: up in the morning and it's raining, if you let

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Speaker 1: that define your mood, if you overthink it, it will

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Speaker 1: totally ruin your day. If you wake up and you

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Speaker 1: only feel happy when it's sunny, it sets you up

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Speaker 1: not sunny. How do we learn to tolerate this, as

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Speaker 1: the bugger Ghita is saying, how do we get to

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Speaker 1: a point where we don't overthink everything that happens around

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Speaker 1: I want to talk to you about the skill of

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Speaker 1: recognizing impermanence. There's a beautiful story of the farmer and

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Speaker 1: While the son is wondering the land, he comes across

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Speaker 1: they say to the father, this is amazing, what great

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Speaker 1: never let the horse come back. The farmer says, good thing,

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Speaker 1: What this story teaches us is not that we want

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Speaker 1: we've realize that all of these things are impermanent. They're

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Speaker 1: not going to last forever. They're ephemeral. A sunny day

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Speaker 1: Letting go isn't about doing nothing. It's about focusing on

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Speaker 1: what you can prepare. Letting go is not the act

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Speaker 1: Whatever season is going to come your way, do you

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Speaker 1: bad experiences are both impermanent. Now, let's say that you

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Speaker 1: The same things trigger you, block you, and slow you down.

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Speaker 1: What do you do about it? The first piece of

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Speaker 1: wisdom is getting the thought out of your head and

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Speaker 1: write down how you're feeling, you're extracting that emotion from

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Speaker 1: can get tactile with it. If a thought's outside of

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Speaker 1: One of the things that's recommended is either ripping it

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty four found that participants who wrote down their

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Speaker 1: a significant reduction in anger. In contrast, those who kept

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Speaker 1: The act of physically disposing of the paper played a

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Speaker 1: crucial role in alleviating negative emotions. Think about that for

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Speaker 1: trash burning it actually starts to free you from that

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Speaker 1: And did you notice what I said there in the study.

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Speaker 1: Another example is the Ohio State University research from twenty twelve.

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Speaker 1: that burning photographs of an ex partner can serve as

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Speaker 1: a powerful symbolic act to facilitate emotional release and closure

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Speaker 1: after a breakup. This is from a study that I

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Speaker 1: read in PMC. How many of you have held on

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Speaker 1: stills connected to them. Burn it, let it go, discard it.

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Speaker 1: If you truly want to release someone from your life,

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Speaker 1: release items, memories, and things like that physically actually let

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Speaker 1: study from research Gate that analyzed personal grief rituals found

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Speaker 1: that symbolic actions, including the disposal of objects through elements

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Speaker 1: like fire, support emotional healing by providing a tangible method

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Speaker 1: to express and release complex feelings. I remember when I

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Speaker 1: interviewed Nessa Barrett on my podcast on Purpose, and she

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Speaker 1: had this song called burn box, this idea of really

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Speaker 1: I want you to rip it up. I want you

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Speaker 1: the fire, burn it and let it go, and see

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Speaker 1: how you feel lighter and liberated from that weight. Spiritual

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Speaker 1: truth number two. We all have heard that your inner

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Speaker 1: hidden truth here. Your outer reality shapes your inner world.

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Speaker 1: If you feel like you're overthinking, clean that closet, tidy

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Speaker 1: that cupboard, reorganize your desk. The practical act of cleaning, tidying,

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Speaker 1: or reorganizing literally cleans and orders your mind. Waking up

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Speaker 1: I'm Jay Sheddy. Thank you for listening on purpose, and

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Speaker 1: remember I'm forever in your corner and I'm always rooting

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Speaker 1: my episode with Selena Gomez on befriending your inner critic

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