WEBVTT - Second Cup: Borrow a hobby

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to borrow a hobby if you are

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<v Speaker 1>unsure what might be worth pursuing in your free time,

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<v Speaker 1>see what your friends are doing and try these things out.

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<v Speaker 1>You will learn something about yourself, whether you decide you

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<v Speaker 1>like the new hobby or not. In research for my

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<v Speaker 1>forthcoming book, Tranquility by Tuesday, I heard from a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people who wanted more leisure time in their lives.

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<v Speaker 1>And people certainly were busy, but many did have an

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<v Speaker 1>hour or two a day that wasn't completely spoken for.

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<v Speaker 1>The deeper issue is that they didn't have compelling and

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<v Speaker 1>reasonably accessible that they wanted to do with that time.

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<v Speaker 1>When you feel super busy with work and family, it

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<v Speaker 1>can be hard to think through these things. We stopped

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<v Speaker 1>doing things we once enjoyed, and then eventually you find

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<v Speaker 1>yourself without any hobbies at all, and that is a

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<v Speaker 1>real loss. Having interests besides work and family helps keep

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<v Speaker 1>us interesting. Plus, hobbies tend to be fun, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>that is why people do them. So how can you

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<v Speaker 1>solve this problem? If you are feeling like maybe you'd

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<v Speaker 1>like a hobby, but you're at a loss of what

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<v Speaker 1>to try. You could borrow a hobby from a friend.

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<v Speaker 1>In many cases, your friends probably have similar lifestyles to yours,

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<v Speaker 1>So you could borrow a hobby from a friend and

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<v Speaker 1>see if it works. It's magic for you. This is

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<v Speaker 1>pretty straightforward. A friend mentions that he plays tennis. You

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<v Speaker 1>ask him to take you out one day to hit

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<v Speaker 1>some balls around. You ask a friend who loves scrap

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<v Speaker 1>booking to help you make a few pages for a

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<v Speaker 1>book on your daughter's graduation. You try it out with

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<v Speaker 1>your friends guidance, and see how it goes. If nothing else,

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<v Speaker 1>you will enjoy spending some time with your friend and

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<v Speaker 1>learning that you don't like something is useful in and

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<v Speaker 1>of itself. That is mental energy that you can now release.

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<v Speaker 1>No need to torture yourself with thoughts of how you

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<v Speaker 1>should be playing tennis or scrap booking or what have you. No,

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<v Speaker 1>you shouldn't, it's just not your thing. But you might

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<v Speaker 1>find out that, hey, it's kind of fun to play

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<v Speaker 1>cards or do woodworking or puzzles or gardening or whatever

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<v Speaker 1>it is that your friend likes. Work in your friend's

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<v Speaker 1>garden for a few hours here and there trying it out.

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<v Speaker 1>When you decide that you do, in fact enjoy this,

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<v Speaker 1>you can get a few pots and plants and start small.

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<v Speaker 1>You've established your interest first before committing much capital to

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<v Speaker 1>the project, which is a much better approach than buying

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<v Speaker 1>all the things and the hope that the habit will

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<v Speaker 1>take That ladder approach is a great way to wind

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<v Speaker 1>up with a lot of unused equipment cluttering up space

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<v Speaker 1>in the garage and your attic and your cupboards. And

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<v Speaker 1>while you might want a hobby, you definitely don't want that.

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<v Speaker 1>In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and

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<v Speaker 1>here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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