1 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:07,600 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:15,600 Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: Today's tip is to borrow a hobby if you are 4 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:24,720 Speaker 1: unsure what might be worth pursuing in your free time, 5 00:00:25,720 --> 00:00:29,479 Speaker 1: see what your friends are doing and try these things out. 6 00:00:30,840 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 1: You will learn something about yourself, whether you decide you 7 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 1: like the new hobby or not. In research for my 8 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:44,920 Speaker 1: forthcoming book, Tranquility by Tuesday, I heard from a lot 9 00:00:44,960 --> 00:00:47,960 Speaker 1: of people who wanted more leisure time in their lives. 10 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:52,839 Speaker 1: And people certainly were busy, but many did have an 11 00:00:52,880 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: hour or two a day that wasn't completely spoken for. 12 00:00:57,680 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 1: The deeper issue is that they didn't have compelling and 13 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 1: reasonably accessible that they wanted to do with that time. 14 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:10,800 Speaker 1: When you feel super busy with work and family, it 15 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:14,640 Speaker 1: can be hard to think through these things. We stopped 16 00:01:14,680 --> 00:01:18,959 Speaker 1: doing things we once enjoyed, and then eventually you find 17 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:23,760 Speaker 1: yourself without any hobbies at all, and that is a 18 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 1: real loss. Having interests besides work and family helps keep 19 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:34,520 Speaker 1: us interesting. Plus, hobbies tend to be fun, I mean, 20 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: that is why people do them. So how can you 21 00:01:39,560 --> 00:01:43,679 Speaker 1: solve this problem? If you are feeling like maybe you'd 22 00:01:43,720 --> 00:01:46,240 Speaker 1: like a hobby, but you're at a loss of what 23 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 1: to try. You could borrow a hobby from a friend. 24 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:56,440 Speaker 1: In many cases, your friends probably have similar lifestyles to yours, 25 00:01:57,400 --> 00:01:59,400 Speaker 1: So you could borrow a hobby from a friend and 26 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:04,120 Speaker 1: see if it works. It's magic for you. This is 27 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:10,200 Speaker 1: pretty straightforward. A friend mentions that he plays tennis. You 28 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: ask him to take you out one day to hit 29 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 1: some balls around. You ask a friend who loves scrap 30 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: booking to help you make a few pages for a 31 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:23,800 Speaker 1: book on your daughter's graduation. You try it out with 32 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:30,360 Speaker 1: your friends guidance, and see how it goes. If nothing else, 33 00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: you will enjoy spending some time with your friend and 34 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:38,480 Speaker 1: learning that you don't like something is useful in and 35 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:43,840 Speaker 1: of itself. That is mental energy that you can now release. 36 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 1: No need to torture yourself with thoughts of how you 37 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:53,200 Speaker 1: should be playing tennis or scrap booking or what have you. No, 38 00:02:54,160 --> 00:02:59,359 Speaker 1: you shouldn't, it's just not your thing. But you might 39 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: find out that, hey, it's kind of fun to play 40 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:07,240 Speaker 1: cards or do woodworking or puzzles or gardening or whatever 41 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 1: it is that your friend likes. Work in your friend's 42 00:03:10,919 --> 00:03:14,080 Speaker 1: garden for a few hours here and there trying it out. 43 00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:18,400 Speaker 1: When you decide that you do, in fact enjoy this, 44 00:03:19,280 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 1: you can get a few pots and plants and start small. 45 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 1: You've established your interest first before committing much capital to 46 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:33,519 Speaker 1: the project, which is a much better approach than buying 47 00:03:33,680 --> 00:03:37,120 Speaker 1: all the things and the hope that the habit will 48 00:03:37,160 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 1: take That ladder approach is a great way to wind 49 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:45,800 Speaker 1: up with a lot of unused equipment cluttering up space 50 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 1: in the garage and your attic and your cupboards. And 51 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 1: while you might want a hobby, you definitely don't want that. 52 00:03:56,600 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 1: In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and 53 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, 54 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:14,360 Speaker 1: I'd love to hear from you. You can send me 55 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:18,039 Speaker 1: your tips, your questions, or anything else. Just connect with 56 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:22,480 Speaker 1: me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram at Before Breakfast pod. 57 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:27,480 Speaker 1: That's b the number four, then Breakfast p o D. 58 00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: You can also shoot me an email at Before Breakfast 59 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 1: podcast at i heeart media dot com. That Before Breakfast 60 00:04:34,800 --> 00:04:37,360 Speaker 1: is spelled out with all the letters. 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