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Speaker 1: It is a strawberry letta. All right, thank you, nephew.

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Speaker 1: Am I trifling or ungrateful? Dear Stephen Shirley. I am

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Speaker 1: a forty two year old single mother and I have

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Speaker 1: I started looking for an affordable place to buy. My

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Speaker 1: me a house. Hesitantly, I agreed. I found a small,

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Speaker 1: but the house is in my mom's name, which is

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Speaker 1: why I was hesitant to go through with the deal.

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Speaker 1: I should have followed my first mind, because since I

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Speaker 1: have moved in, I have not had any peace in

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Speaker 1: my home. On several occasions, I came home to find

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Speaker 1: She is a thrifty shopper, so I don't like any

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Speaker 1: of the design choices she has made. One day, she

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Speaker 1: house to liven it up. She comes over every other

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Speaker 1: day and she stays overnight too. This is unacceptable, so

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Speaker 1: I had to tell her that enough is enough. I

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Speaker 1: She made sure to remind me that it's her house,

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Speaker 1: that it's her house. She called me an ungrateful heffa

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Speaker 1: today and said I was trifling for not appreciating the

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Speaker 1: way she's trying to help me to decorate the house.

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Speaker 1: I haven't talked to her, nor have I seen her

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Speaker 1: want to be at odds with my mom. I'm very

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Speaker 1: grateful for all she's done, but I need her to

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Speaker 1: respect my space. Am I wrong? Help? No, you're not wrong.

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Speaker 1: You are absolutely not wrong, especially you know, as long

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Speaker 1: and it sounds like you did. But boy, this is

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Speaker 1: really a case for going with your first mind, for

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Speaker 1: in the top five of that you know you knew

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Speaker 1: it would be a problem though, which is why you

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Speaker 1: said you were hesitant in the first place. But that

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Speaker 1: down payment, your mama's money, was dangling in your face,

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Speaker 1: so you went forward. The lesson for you here is,

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Speaker 1: you know you should have got your name on the

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Speaker 1: house as well. You know, yeah, your mom paid the

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Speaker 1: down payment, but you could have put your name on

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Speaker 1: the deed surely after portrait you could have done like

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Speaker 1: a quick claim um, you know, transaction, or just waited

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Speaker 1: until you came up with the money for your own house.

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Speaker 1: You could have done that because you've been looking for

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Speaker 1: a while. You could have been a little more patient.

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Speaker 1: I understand you wanted to get the house though, and

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Speaker 1: you found one it was right there, and your mom

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Speaker 1: was there. But in the meantime, yes, your mom is

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Speaker 1: out of order. When you know, when you give someone

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Speaker 1: a gift, you don't hover it over them, you know,

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Speaker 1: and and and invade their space like your mom's doing,

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Speaker 1: constantly remind you that it is her house. That's not right.

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Speaker 1: I mean, she's throwing it up in your face every

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Speaker 1: so it's it is your house. I'm glad she's decided

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Speaker 1: call her and you know, make your apologies, you guys,

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Speaker 1: make up. She's your mom. She's not going anywhere. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: she's wrong to do all of this. I mean, nice

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Speaker 1: to help you, but wrong as far as this is concerned. Steve, Well, anytime,

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Speaker 1: y'all ready for me to make the clear fine statement

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Speaker 1: it and ask me at any time, Steve, do you

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Speaker 1: have a clear, fine statement and I'm gonna make it.

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Speaker 1: Let's start with the letter forty two single mama, two

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Speaker 1: That's a great goal in life, you know, be at

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Speaker 1: an affordable place. Your mom ran into a financial blessing.

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Speaker 1: See now here we go. Let's start. This is a

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Speaker 1: financial blessing that all your problems started with what you

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Speaker 1: considered a blessing. See careful, your mama came up with

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Speaker 1: a financial blessing. It's wasn't yours. It's wasn't them kids.

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Speaker 1: It's what your dad is. It's what none of your siblings.

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Speaker 1: and my mother bought it. Your mama bought it. I

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Speaker 1: paid a mortgage, but the house is in my mama name. Now,

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Speaker 1: which is why I was hesitant to go through the deal.

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Speaker 1: I should have followed my first mind. I have not

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Speaker 1: That's just gonna get to this right. On several occasions,

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Speaker 1: her house from my house. That's cause it's her house.

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Speaker 1: Party two of your response. Anytime y'all want to clear

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Speaker 1: ask you. Mama ran into a financial blessing a gift

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Speaker 1: from God. Hallelujah. Yeah, then her mama decided she'd help

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Speaker 1: It ain't your worst? On several occases, I came home

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Speaker 1: Excuse me her house. She's a thrifty shopper, so I

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Speaker 1: You want it anytime you want it, can't you? What's

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Speaker 1: the clarifying statement? Can't let black people put their name

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Speaker 1: that's the clarifying statement. I'll give it to you anytime

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Speaker 1: They can't co sign, no damn long. They can't rich you,

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Speaker 1: can't do nothing. You can't put that black people put

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Speaker 1: called me ungrateful health. For that's that's the beginning. That's

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Speaker 1: said I was trifling and for not appreciating the way

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Speaker 1: nobody want all the old declarations in here, because Mamma,

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Speaker 1: you old. Got all these blue farm plates sitting up

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Speaker 1: the corner break, Mamma, where you get that floor? That's

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Speaker 1: a TV staying, baby, a TV stand for the color

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Speaker 1: this flash screens is the devil? Howes all that little

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Speaker 1: But that's say you're gonna get a picture tube. It's

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Speaker 1: That's her house, that's that's her TV, that's her room,

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Speaker 1: that's ho cor that's poach that's ho treet long. Can't

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Speaker 1: pop people don't share good. I just want to let

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Speaker 1: I'm just trying to teach y'all something that stop because

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Speaker 1: Soon as a Pope person get a little something hand

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Speaker 1: you fitting here? Body? I ain't when clarifying statement before

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Speaker 1: we go, you can't let black people put their name

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Speaker 1: and pick Joe as say fitting here from cable Cable

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Speaker 1: email US, Instagram. I don't even like spokes Center. I

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Speaker 1: just want a regular package. Man, f M. You're listening

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