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Speaker 1: your favorite store. Second date update. We've got a girl
Speaker 1: on the phone for today's second date update named Cassidy,
Speaker 1: and she said in her email that they did a
Speaker 1: little social experiment on their first date. Didn't say what
Speaker 1: it was, but I've done a few myself. So Cassidy,
Speaker 1: I'm guessing you both went to dinner with no pants
Speaker 1: on to see if they'd still serve you. No, I
Speaker 1: want to know it doesn't work. I mean, it really
Speaker 1: depends on what restaurants you hit up. Well, yeah, if
Speaker 1: they have one of those make your own omelet stations,
Speaker 1: then you could probably get away with porky pig in it. There.
Speaker 1: I see, I see what you're saying. They're pretty lax. Uh,
Speaker 1: But Cassidy, what are we talking about? Social experiment wise? Here? Cassidy?
Speaker 1: Oh hi, guys, how are you? Oh Hi, You're doing
Speaker 1: a second date update? Remember, maybe the social exp she's
Speaker 1: doing is let's get on the radio and the net
Speaker 1: talk see what happens. Sorry, I was texting somebody. Oh
Speaker 1: my god. Really, we can't put her phone. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't want you put your phone down now, But
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, concentrate Cassidy. This is a
Speaker 1: priority for you. So who's this guy that you want
Speaker 1: us to call while you text away? Okay? So this
Speaker 1: guy name is Sam and I met on Twitter, I
Speaker 1: mean on Tinder, okay, and I really liked him. He
Speaker 1: was like a really unique guy. He had like the
Speaker 1: perfect dad bod, which I'm very into. So he wasn't
Speaker 1: too muscular, he wasn't too skinny. I like that, stop it.
Speaker 1: Are you in your twenties, Why are you going for
Speaker 1: dad bods? You have the rest of your life to
Speaker 1: be hooked up with a dad bod society. I'm just saying, man,
Speaker 1: you're seeing you years should be not spent on dad bods.
Speaker 1: You got the next fifty of them to do that.
Speaker 1: It sounds like you're too old and you're not taking
Speaker 1: advantage of the dad bots. A she makes a good point. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, so Dad, but Sam that's his name? Yeah,
Speaker 1: all right, and what did you and Flabby do for
Speaker 1: your day? So we went to go eat seafood okay,
Speaker 1: and everything was really going great. And that's when the
Speaker 1: social experiment came in. So wait, is this something you
Speaker 1: guys came up with together or no, it was something
Speaker 1: that he came up with. Oh what was it? So
Speaker 1: he looked at me and he goes, do you trust me?
Speaker 1: And I said yes? Why would you say that? You
Speaker 1: never say yes immediately to a guy that just randomly
Speaker 1: like do you jasmine? Yeah, especially guy you met on Tinder. Yes.
Speaker 1: I mean I think the universe is telling you scream no.
Speaker 1: He is not given a reason to not trust him. Okay,
Speaker 1: be it on Tinder is enough reason not to trust someone,
Speaker 1: all right? So you said yes, what did he want
Speaker 1: you to do? So I hand him my cell phone.
Speaker 1: He tells me I can turn it off, calls over
Speaker 1: the waiter and he hands the waiter both of our
Speaker 1: cell phones and he says to him, don't give it
Speaker 1: back until we're done with dessert. This guy's crazy. What
Speaker 1: no phone? Yeah, I can't call for health now A
Speaker 1: little late, I guess I could see. That's being like
Speaker 1: a classy move, like he wants to focus on just
Speaker 1: the two of them. Distractions. So as the waiter is
Speaker 1: walking away with our cell phones, I was freaking out.
Speaker 1: I was like, what is going on? I don't understand.
Speaker 1: This is really strange, this is really weird. So I
Speaker 1: was like trying not to be vocal about it, but yeah,
Speaker 1: it was a weird kind of thing to do. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she's breaking into cold sweats and her hands start to shake.
Speaker 1: You need your fix. I mean, how is anybody going
Speaker 1: to know what your dessert looks like if you can't
Speaker 1: take a picture of it exactly? You don't answer during
Speaker 1: a date to feel the buzz, just to know it's
Speaker 1: on you. Yeah, yeah, like people are with me on
Speaker 1: this dage, I'm not alone. Sounds so jaded over here.
Speaker 1: But he took the phone away, and so how did
Speaker 1: it go? Actually, after the phones were gone and we
Speaker 1: had no distractions, it ended up being really good and
Speaker 1: we are focusing on each other. You're both listening and
Speaker 1: talking and the whole thing was really sweet. Oh that's awesome.
Speaker 1: So I mean, did you end the date thinking, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I'm never going to use my phone again.
Speaker 1: I mean, listen, I would love to have my phone,
Speaker 1: you know, it's like a part of me. But it
Speaker 1: was really nice for like that hour that we were
Speaker 1: together that I didn't happen and we just got to
Speaker 1: be with each other. Okay, that's great. So besides that,
Speaker 1: did anything like weird happen? No, So afterwards we had
Speaker 1: a really really great time. There was a small kiss. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I thought for sure I would get a text or
Speaker 1: a call. But here's the thing, though, he's not taking
Speaker 1: initiative and he hasn't asked me out on a second date.
Speaker 1: So I'm honestly shocked, Like I don't understand. So have
Speaker 1: you tried to ask him out at all? I mean,
Speaker 1: I've tried to like hint to him that I would
Speaker 1: be really interested in going on another date with him,
Speaker 1: but he's not taking the bait. So what do you
Speaker 1: think it is that maybe turned him off? I don't know,
Speaker 1: and I really want to know because I actually really
Speaker 1: liked him. Right, how long has it been because if
Speaker 1: he's not a big phone guy, obviously, maybe he literally
Speaker 1: isn't checking his phone. Maybe he's writing you letters in
Speaker 1: the mail and maybe a carrier pigeon is going to
Speaker 1: bring it to your doorstep. I mean, it's been a while.
Speaker 1: And so he should have asked by now. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I think this one is actually weird, like for someone
Speaker 1: to be interested in enough to want to actually concentrate
Speaker 1: on you during the date, give you a kiss. And
Speaker 1: I didn't tell you guys, but he was so birst
Speaker 1: meet and super cute during the dessert house. So he
Speaker 1: asked for a candle for the tiramisu and I looked
Speaker 1: at him and I was like, oh, it's not my birthday.
Speaker 1: It's not going to be my birthday for another six months.
Speaker 1: And he was like, well, we should celebrate your half birthday,
Speaker 1: and so the candle came out and he was like, singing,
Speaker 1: happy half birthday to you. That's really cute. Oh my god, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was really cute. I would celebrate corner birthdays if
Speaker 1: we got free dessert. I hope Dad bought. Sam turns
Speaker 1: out as good as you say, is I like you? Yeah?
Speaker 1: All right, Well, Sam apparently has already won over everybody
Speaker 1: in this room. So if you won't go out with you,
Speaker 1: maybe he'll go out with Jose. Yeah, we're gonna play
Speaker 1: a song come back. We'll give him a call and
Speaker 1: see if we can get you a second date. Update
Speaker 1: all right, Cassidy, cool think Okay, Well, on second, we've
Speaker 1: got a very special caller on the phone with us
Speaker 1: right now. One, two three, Happy birthday, Happy half birthday too. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: thank Cassidy. Cassidy celebrated her half birthday recently when she
Speaker 1: went out to dinner with a guy named Sam because
Speaker 1: Sam asked the waiter to bring a candle to put
Speaker 1: in their Tira messiou And when Cassidy said, my birthday
Speaker 1: is not for six months, He's like, well, we'll just
Speaker 1: celebrate your half birthday. Yes, dude, It's so cute. And Casside,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say toomb's up for you because I have
Speaker 1: been trying to get people to celebrate my half birthday
Speaker 1: for years and no one is on board. No one
Speaker 1: can count that high though, so it's really hard to
Speaker 1: celebrate her birthday always. That's what the funniest thing you
Speaker 1: guys said all morning. Oh thanks Cassidy, thanks high praise.
Speaker 1: Has any thing else come to your mind that's gone wrong,
Speaker 1: because so far you have told us about the world's
Speaker 1: most perfect tender date ever. I'm telling you he was
Speaker 1: sweet yet the perfect dad bought everything was amazing. Okay,
Speaker 1: let me squeeze those love handles, Cassidy, maybe you didn't
Speaker 1: have the right amount of dad bod? Did you ever
Speaker 1: think about that? Maybe? Maybe, maybe maybe sheet a little
Speaker 1: bit more tiramisiou the next time before you go out
Speaker 1: on the date. That's a thing nobody finds mombod sexy.
Speaker 1: Yeah it's not a thing. I think it's a thing.
Speaker 1: How dare you say that? So? Yeah, even your own Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're right, you're expecting you're not. We're getting too weird.
Speaker 1: Let's just make the call to Sam and Cassidy. We're
Speaker 1: gonna try and get your second date update. All right? Cool?
Speaker 1: All right, here we go. Hi, can I talk to Sam? Please?
Speaker 1: This is Sam? Who's this? And this is young Jeffrey
Speaker 1: work on the radio doing something called a second date update. Okay,
Speaker 1: oh so we're taking you don't listen very often? That's okay. Uh,
Speaker 1: I think I heard of it. I don't know us.
Speaker 1: It's okay. This is actually probably pretty good news for you.
Speaker 1: I would think a girl named Cassidy told us about you.
Speaker 1: She said that you guys went on a date and
Speaker 1: she had a great time. So you're calling me why?
Speaker 1: I mean, what's going on? I don't understand. Well, we're
Speaker 1: calling you because part of the second date update is
Speaker 1: that we reach out to you and try and figure
Speaker 1: out the reason why you're not calling someone back after
Speaker 1: you go on a date with them. And Cassidy had
Speaker 1: a great time with you, and for some reason, you
Speaker 1: haven't asked her out again. So I'm assuming she talked
Speaker 1: to you guys about this. Yeah, yep, she told us
Speaker 1: all about how sexy your dad bought is. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: the little thing that you did with the Tierra messioux
Speaker 1: and the candles. Applause, good move with a half birthday thanks.
Speaker 1: On our end, the date seemed really good. So what's
Speaker 1: the reason that you're not calling her back? Well, I mean,
Speaker 1: after this first experience, I just can't really see myself
Speaker 1: with her. I guess you could say I don't know
Speaker 1: just the type of girl that she is. Yeah, what
Speaker 1: does that mean? Well, I mean just her personality. I
Speaker 1: just see some red flags. Okay, can you be more
Speaker 1: specific When we first met, I mean, you know, first
Speaker 1: impressions or everything. And my first impression on her was
Speaker 1: really really good. It was it was almost kind of
Speaker 1: too good. Oh that's it, red flag too good. That's
Speaker 1: usually the number one. What does that mean? That's too good?
Speaker 1: How is something too good? Look, normal people, they don't
Speaker 1: make a really great first impression. Okay, there's usually something off,
Speaker 1: something a little weird or awkward, and with her every
Speaker 1: and we just postict and really comfortable. Okay, Sam, we
Speaker 1: need to sit down because it sounds like you've been
Speaker 1: on Tinder too long and what you expect at a
Speaker 1: first date has really changed, because that is what you want. Yeah,
Speaker 1: man Brooks, right, Like, what's really bothering you? Well, there's
Speaker 1: one thing about her. It's this listening thing. What listening
Speaker 1: thing she's She's a really good listener. I thought he
Speaker 1: was gonna I don't know, what do you mean? I
Speaker 1: feel like you're not even hearing yourself right now, Sam,
Speaker 1: hear him out. When somebody's a really good listener, it
Speaker 1: just puts a lot of pressure on me to kind
Speaker 1: of talk well and to be interesting. Okay, I'm not
Speaker 1: used to being on a date with a girl that
Speaker 1: was so focused on me. Well, but it wasn't that
Speaker 1: your whole plan because she told us about the like
Speaker 1: social experiment you did where you had the waiter take
Speaker 1: your phones. Yeah, but because you wanted to have the
Speaker 1: time for you to to content right on each other,
Speaker 1: and that's exactly what happened. So yeah, your idea worked. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I know you're saying that you're upset that she was
Speaker 1: listening to you. She just seemed like when when you
Speaker 1: too good of a listener? And it just it rubbed
Speaker 1: me a long way, it really did. You know, I
Speaker 1: actually do kind of see what he's saying, because she
Speaker 1: has been listening to this whole conversation. So basically, I'm
Speaker 1: too good of a listener, So you don't want to
Speaker 1: go on a date with me. See she did hear it.
Speaker 1: She's listening. She's got the other line listening to the
Speaker 1: conversation that was Cassidy. Hi, Like, are you serious? This
Speaker 1: is honestly the most bizarre thing I've ever heard. I've
Speaker 1: literally never heard a man complain about being too good
Speaker 1: of a listener. I mean, are you normally do you
Speaker 1: normally listen that? Well? That has happened in the dating world,
Speaker 1: you guys like you, your red flag is all positives?
Speaker 1: Like you realize that, Sam, I feel like this is
Speaker 1: really about listening or fun conversations, Like, what's the real issue?
Speaker 1: I think he's scared? Are you scared of commitment? Is
Speaker 1: that what it is? You're scared of liking? Are you
Speaker 1: in love with your mom? There's some deep seated route
Speaker 1: to this behavior. I'm trying to figure it out. Listen, Cassidy,
Speaker 1: you were so focused on me, and you were just
Speaker 1: so overly kind of attentive. It just makes me think that, well,
Speaker 1: she doesn't know how to behave without her phone? Are
Speaker 1: you kidding me right now? That's how you think you're crazy? Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is this is pretty crazy talk. I think I
Speaker 1: know now I don't. Yeah, it's like the same thing.
Speaker 1: I can never remember people's names. If someone can remember
Speaker 1: my name and met me once, I'm always like, how
Speaker 1: did you do that? So if the whole day goes flawlessly,
Speaker 1: I can kind of see why. It's like, how did
Speaker 1: that even happen? But how frustrating, Cassidy, Like I would
Speaker 1: be so frustrated right now if I were you. Honestly,
Speaker 1: it just sounds like he wants another type of girl
Speaker 1: and not me. You think it's an excuse. You don't
Speaker 1: believe him. You think that he's just saying you're too perfect,
Speaker 1: just to let you down easy, totally one hundred. Listen, No,
Speaker 1: It isn't like that at all. I really I would
Speaker 1: like to do this again. I just think that maybe
Speaker 1: I could throw out a couple of suggestions for you
Speaker 1: the next time we do go out, you know, Oh yeah, sure, Sam,
Speaker 1: why don't you list them off? I told you before
Speaker 1: that you made a really good first impression. How about
Speaker 1: this second time around? Maybe don't do that. What do
Speaker 1: you want her to do like show up late? No?
Speaker 1: Maybe not be so engaging. Maybe I want her to
Speaker 1: have more awkward pauses. Yeah, stumble over your words? Make
Speaker 1: him feel more comfortable, like he's not intimidated by this
Speaker 1: perfect woman. I can't believe this is happening right now, Cassidy.
Speaker 1: People talk a lot about themselves, okay, and I don't
Speaker 1: want that. But I want someone that kind of talks
Speaker 1: about themselves, you know, a decent amount, to the point
Speaker 1: where I have to kind of fight to get a
Speaker 1: word in. You know that makes me listen, Kessie. Okay, Wait,
Speaker 1: hook is what you're trying to say? Sam? You just
Speaker 1: want her to be more vulnerable with you and more herself.
Speaker 1: I just don't want somebody that makes that good of
Speaker 1: a first impression. I want somebody that doesn't listen that great.
Speaker 1: I mean, even if you want to be kind to
Speaker 1: clingy towards me, I'm totally cool with it. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: So just drop the y just to cling you just
Speaker 1: want a little, a little cling from your ladies. Are
Speaker 1: you good with that, Cassidy? No? No, hold on, Cassidy,
Speaker 1: slow down. I thought you're a good listener. Let me
Speaker 1: ask would you like to go out on another date
Speaker 1: with Sam? We will pay for it. Come on, Cassie,
Speaker 1: honestly think about it. It It might be kind of fun
Speaker 1: to just go and try to have the worst date
Speaker 1: you possibly can. I mean, just try to mess it
Speaker 1: up bad. Forget his name. It'd just be a fun night. Cassidy,
Speaker 1: Really listen to them, listen to what they're saying. I
Speaker 1: know you're a good listener. And if you just go
Speaker 1: buy a couple of the suggestions that I made, I
Speaker 1: think it's gonna be good. It's gonna be not too good,
Speaker 1: but it's gonna be good. I don't we don't want
Speaker 1: it to be great. So what do you say, Cassidy?
Speaker 1: Do you want to be as imperfect woman? He doesn't
Speaker 1: deserve me. He needs to be with someone who's got
Speaker 1: all of these things. That he wants because he's a
Speaker 1: crazy person. Yeah. Still, he just needs a little less
Speaker 1: self confidence Cassie. Actually, look, that wouldn't be that bad
Speaker 1: because she did come off very self confidence. Oh gosh, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's an instant turn off. It's terrible. Congrats Cassidy, Well yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean congrats, but sorry we couldn't get you a
Speaker 1: second day. Yeah, as we got to the bottom of it.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, thanks for trying, you guys. Oh all right,
Speaker 1: so did she say yes, I wasn't listening Moving ninety
Speaker 1: two point five