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Speaker 1: on the phone for today's second date update named Cassidy,

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Speaker 1: and she said in her email that they did a

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Speaker 1: little social experiment on their first date. Didn't say what

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Speaker 1: it was, but I've done a few myself. So Cassidy,

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Speaker 1: I'm guessing you both went to dinner with no pants

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Speaker 1: on to see if they'd still serve you. No, I

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Speaker 1: want to know it doesn't work. I mean, it really

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Speaker 1: depends on what restaurants you hit up. Well, yeah, if

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Speaker 1: they have one of those make your own omelet stations,

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Speaker 1: then you could probably get away with porky pig in it. There.

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Speaker 1: I see, I see what you're saying. They're pretty lax. Uh,

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Speaker 1: But Cassidy, what are we talking about? Social experiment wise? Here? Cassidy?

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Speaker 1: Oh hi, guys, how are you? Oh Hi, You're doing

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Speaker 1: a second date update? Remember, maybe the social exp she's

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Speaker 1: doing is let's get on the radio and the net

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Speaker 1: talk see what happens. Sorry, I was texting somebody. Oh

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Speaker 1: priority for you. So who's this guy that you want

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Speaker 1: us to call while you text away? Okay? So this

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Speaker 1: mean on Tinder, okay, and I really liked him. He

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Speaker 1: Are you in your twenties, Why are you going for

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Speaker 1: You got the next fifty of them to do that.

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Speaker 1: all right, so Dad, but Sam that's his name? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: all right, and what did you and Flabby do for

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Speaker 1: your day? So we went to go eat seafood okay,

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Speaker 1: and everything was really going great. And that's when the

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Speaker 1: guys came up with together or no, it was something

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Speaker 1: like do you jasmine? Yeah, especially guy you met on Tinder. Yes.

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Speaker 1: all right? So you said yes, what did he want

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Speaker 1: right now. One, two three, Happy birthday, Happy half birthday too. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Has any thing else come to your mind that's gone wrong,

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Speaker 1: let me squeeze those love handles, Cassidy, maybe you didn't

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Speaker 1: think about that? Maybe? Maybe, maybe maybe sheet a little

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Speaker 1: on the date. That's a thing nobody finds mombod sexy.

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Speaker 1: All right, here we go. Hi, can I talk to Sam? Please?

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Speaker 1: This is Sam? Who's this? And this is young Jeffrey

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Speaker 1: work on the radio doing something called a second date update. Okay,

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Speaker 1: oh so we're taking you don't listen very often? That's okay. Uh,

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Speaker 1: man Brooks, right, Like, what's really bothering you? Well, there's

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Speaker 1: People talk a lot about themselves, okay, and I don't

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Speaker 1: you good with that, Cassidy? No? No, hold on, Cassidy,

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Speaker 1: honestly think about it. It It might be kind of fun

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Speaker 1: Really listen to them, listen to what they're saying. I

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Speaker 1: self confidence Cassie. Actually, look, that wouldn't be that bad

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Speaker 1: that's an instant turn off. It's terrible. Congrats Cassidy, Well yeah,

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