1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 1: Something could be happening to you right now, right this 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:05,920 Speaker 1: very second, and it could either be a great thing 3 00:00:06,320 --> 00:00:08,079 Speaker 1: or something that you don't want to have happened to 4 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: you at all. Oh well, and because you don't know 5 00:00:11,360 --> 00:00:13,760 Speaker 1: what it is, you might miss the opportunity of a lifetime. 6 00:00:13,840 --> 00:00:16,119 Speaker 1: What am I talking about? It's a good question, and 7 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:18,160 Speaker 1: that's why you should hang out for three minutes, because 8 00:00:18,160 --> 00:00:20,640 Speaker 1: I'll tell you what you could literally be missing right 9 00:00:20,680 --> 00:00:23,440 Speaker 1: in front of your own eyes. Next, it's a jewel 10 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:28,840 Speaker 1: showy there, imagine this. Out of all the Starbys in 11 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:31,320 Speaker 1: the world, we end up at the same one at 12 00:00:31,320 --> 00:00:32,280 Speaker 1: the same time. 13 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:32,960 Speaker 2: Wow. 14 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:35,559 Speaker 1: Sure, I know you work here, but don't think I 15 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:37,560 Speaker 1: didn't catch on when you asked me what my name 16 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:41,839 Speaker 1: was after I ordered ow. Hey, wait a second, why'd 17 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 1: you ask him for his name too? Oh? I get it. 18 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:47,879 Speaker 1: It looks like all of us in this Starbies are 19 00:00:47,880 --> 00:00:51,680 Speaker 1: wild animals that need to be tanged. Oh b RB, 20 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:53,920 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go get my cattle Proud from my minivan 21 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: and keep it in things like. 22 00:00:56,040 --> 00:00:57,440 Speaker 3: This cattle product. 23 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: It's the jewel show. And sometimes it's very off when 24 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:03,560 Speaker 1: somebody's flirting with you, and other times it isn't as obvious. 25 00:01:03,600 --> 00:01:05,600 Speaker 1: And I say that because you might not even know it, 26 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:09,080 Speaker 1: but somebody could literally be flirting with you right this 27 00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: very second. It's a new thing called invisible flirting, and 28 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 1: we'll tell you what it is right now, so you 29 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: can spot somebody who's invisibly flirting with you and see 30 00:01:17,920 --> 00:01:18,840 Speaker 1: whether you like it or not. 31 00:01:19,319 --> 00:01:22,520 Speaker 2: Guys are weird, and I'm guessing invisible flirting is the 32 00:01:22,600 --> 00:01:24,160 Speaker 2: opposite of what happened to me this weekend. 33 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 3: But I just don't understand it. 34 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:27,200 Speaker 1: What happened to you this weekend? Victoria. 35 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 2: I was dancing at a club and the club it 36 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:33,039 Speaker 2: was two o'clock, so they made everyone go home. I 37 00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:36,399 Speaker 2: walk outside and this man puts his hand on my 38 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 2: neck and he's like, I bet. 39 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:39,200 Speaker 3: You like to get choked, don't you. 40 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:42,400 Speaker 1: That's the opposite of invisible flirting. 41 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 3: Is ault. 42 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:45,160 Speaker 2: I was like, excuse me, and he was like with 43 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:46,960 Speaker 2: his friend, like talking like with the after party, and 44 00:01:46,959 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 2: I didn't know what to do, so I just stood 45 00:01:48,280 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 2: there and he was like, yeah, you like to be choked, 46 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 2: don't you, And then he put his four arm around 47 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:54,160 Speaker 2: my neck and I was like huh huh. 48 00:01:54,240 --> 00:01:56,720 Speaker 3: Before I know what to do, and then that's when 49 00:01:56,760 --> 00:01:57,279 Speaker 3: you swing. 50 00:01:57,480 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 2: And then my friend was like, Victoria, we have the 51 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 2: uber and he's like, let me get your number, real quicker, 52 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:02,840 Speaker 2: I let me get your number. 53 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 3: And so he gives me his phone taped nine one 54 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 3: one and I run to the uber. 55 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 1: Okay for you for putting nine one one in. I 56 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:09,960 Speaker 1: wish you would have called it right away and be 57 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:11,760 Speaker 1: like I'm gonna call you right now. Just checks eve 58 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 1: is real. It gets on the phone with nine one one. 59 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:17,959 Speaker 3: I wanted to kill you. I I is that invisible flirting? 60 00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 1: I mean that's the opposite. That is the opposite of 61 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:24,760 Speaker 1: invisible flirting, all the way, the other side of invisible flirting. 62 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:29,679 Speaker 1: It's like, okay, bye, but what is invisible flirting? Invisible 63 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:33,840 Speaker 1: flirting is nonverbal, energy based communication that creates intimacy without 64 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:38,079 Speaker 1: explicit signals. It's not playing hard to get. It's I'm 65 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:40,480 Speaker 1: into you, but I'll let you know with my energy. 66 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:43,720 Speaker 1: Like that's what they say. So here are the techniques 67 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:46,839 Speaker 1: of somebody who might be invisibly flirting with you. They're 68 00:02:46,840 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 1: not grabbing you outside of a club and feeling like 69 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 1: I bid you like to be Joe, let me get 70 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 1: the number? 71 00:02:51,480 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, you want to go back to my place. 72 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I'm good at the sweet talk. Baby. 73 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:02,960 Speaker 2: The friend was like laughing, and I'm like, is this 74 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:04,320 Speaker 2: is this your way of hitting on something? 75 00:03:04,400 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 1: Sorry about that my friends was a pervert. 76 00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:07,400 Speaker 3: Yeah all right. 77 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:11,600 Speaker 1: Anyway, that's what is invisible flirting. Here's the eye contact 78 00:03:11,639 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: techniques that come with invisible flirting. The three second rule. 79 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:19,440 Speaker 1: Making direct eye contact for about three seconds, hold the 80 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:22,120 Speaker 1: gaze to build tension, and then look away with a 81 00:03:22,160 --> 00:03:25,679 Speaker 1: smile or glance down into the side. Three seconds is 82 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:27,880 Speaker 1: a long time for eye contact. It is you don't 83 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:29,760 Speaker 1: realize how quick like a second goes by because you 84 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:31,280 Speaker 1: get somebody's eye real quick. A lot of times like 85 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:33,520 Speaker 1: oh oh my god, we read each other's eyes. Yeah, 86 00:03:33,560 --> 00:03:34,880 Speaker 1: three seconds is a long time. 87 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 3: But that's why I. 88 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:37,800 Speaker 4: Feel like when anytime somebody is making eye contact with you, 89 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 4: you can either assume that they are like judging you 90 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:44,280 Speaker 4: hardcore or they're they're flirting because nobody can hold eye contact. 91 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 3: Everybody looks at the ground. But then it gets weird 92 00:03:46,960 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 3: if you hold it for like too long and anything 93 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 3: about it your head. 94 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: You're like, oh my god, am I holding it too long? Now? 95 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 1: And also now that I've held it for so long? 96 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 1: Is it weird? If I look away? Do I have 97 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:57,040 Speaker 1: to wait for them to look away? 98 00:03:57,080 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 4: Now? 99 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:59,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, he's gonna be the first one to look away. 100 00:03:59,240 --> 00:03:59,839 Speaker 3: Look at his nose. 101 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:01,440 Speaker 2: I'm not looking at his eyes, but he's looking at 102 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 2: me in the eyes my lower. 103 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: Lip while I do it? Do I buy my lower 104 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:05,920 Speaker 1: lip while I'm gazing it? 105 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 3: Or you lick your lips? 106 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:08,720 Speaker 1: Oh? Wow, I do. 107 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 4: I'm a big fan of invisible flirting. I don't like 108 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,760 Speaker 4: to be outward with it. So this is right up 109 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:15,200 Speaker 4: my alley. 110 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:19,360 Speaker 1: Another eye technique for invisible flirting. We're going over what 111 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 1: experts say is invisible flirting, so you can see if 112 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:25,080 Speaker 1: somebody's flirting with you today. The triangle method. Look from 113 00:04:25,320 --> 00:04:27,600 Speaker 1: one of the person's eyes to the other and then 114 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 1: down to their mouth. So a triangle between the eyes 115 00:04:30,320 --> 00:04:31,839 Speaker 1: and then the mouth and then back up to the 116 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:35,240 Speaker 1: first eye draws attention to the mouth and creates a 117 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:37,800 Speaker 1: sense of intimacy. So just sit there and it looks 118 00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 1: like you kind of are rolling your eyes at them. 119 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: If you do it too hard, I think, oh that's true. 120 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:42,919 Speaker 2: If you do it to you past it kind of 121 00:04:43,240 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 2: and then you're just looking at the person's eyes going and. 122 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:47,719 Speaker 1: Trying with me? Are you like looking back and forth 123 00:04:47,720 --> 00:04:50,039 Speaker 1: between their eyes and their mouth like like a cartoon 124 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:51,600 Speaker 1: character using it? 125 00:04:52,279 --> 00:04:54,599 Speaker 3: You need to be smooth with it, and it's like, hello, 126 00:04:54,680 --> 00:04:56,720 Speaker 3: give me those lips. Has it ever worked for you? 127 00:04:57,120 --> 00:05:02,720 Speaker 4: I mean a lot of the staring works. 128 00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:02,919 Speaker 1: The different So the steiring is good, Okay. 129 00:05:04,160 --> 00:05:06,680 Speaker 3: Guys know they're like, oh, she's still looking. This is 130 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 3: a sign. 131 00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 1: There's also some invisible flirting examples. Energy mirroring is what 132 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 1: they're calling this. You start by matching their mood, their voice, 133 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 1: and posture. Oh, not on purpose, just naturally sinking with them. 134 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:22,680 Speaker 1: Uh so their voice is kind of strange, right, the 135 00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:24,800 Speaker 1: mood okay, I think I guess it could see you 136 00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:27,800 Speaker 1: could do that with somebody. The posture could be weird 137 00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:30,800 Speaker 1: based on how their posture is. It's really sunken over 138 00:05:30,839 --> 00:05:32,760 Speaker 1: and you're just like sunken over and they have a 139 00:05:32,760 --> 00:05:34,599 Speaker 1: really deep voice in your lady and you're like, oh, 140 00:05:35,040 --> 00:05:38,640 Speaker 1: my name's Janet. Might not work for you very well. 141 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:41,160 Speaker 3: You're doing the widespread yeah. 142 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 4: And then you're also threaded so awkward, very animalistic. 143 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 1: It says you can also do the slow smile if 144 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:50,120 Speaker 1: you want to invisible flirt, the small delayed grin after 145 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:51,239 Speaker 1: they've already looked away. 146 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:56,560 Speaker 2: But are you smiling slowly or is this action of 147 00:05:56,640 --> 00:05:57,720 Speaker 2: smiling slow? 148 00:05:58,279 --> 00:06:02,240 Speaker 1: Yes? Yes, so like very slowly move your mouth and 149 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:04,400 Speaker 1: do a smile to a smile, like if there's a 150 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 1: guy at the gym that I think is really cute, 151 00:06:05,960 --> 00:06:07,720 Speaker 1: I'll make eye contact you a little smile and then 152 00:06:07,720 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 1: I'll look away and walk away. 153 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:12,880 Speaker 3: Obviously that hasn't worked yet, but in the moment, I 154 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,160 Speaker 3: feel so like that's right. 155 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: How we watched this, you would know, Victoria accidental touches. 156 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:25,960 Speaker 1: There's another piece of invisible flirting, and says, the brush 157 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:30,039 Speaker 1: of a hand when passing or standing just close enough 158 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:31,679 Speaker 1: where your arms might touch. 159 00:06:32,040 --> 00:06:32,520 Speaker 3: That's hot. 160 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 1: Not to move. 161 00:06:33,400 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 2: It's a moment that sounds like it would happen in Bridgerton. 162 00:06:37,560 --> 00:06:39,080 Speaker 1: Oh we do it. 163 00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:40,160 Speaker 3: That's so hot. 164 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:43,279 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you're getting like shoulder checked and not 165 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 2: like it wouldn't be like a cute little victory is. 166 00:06:46,480 --> 00:06:48,080 Speaker 1: Like it would be. Yeah, they'd misjudge it and the 167 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:49,320 Speaker 1: boom and knock you over. 168 00:06:49,480 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm so sorry as it fell from 169 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:55,839 Speaker 2: my presence, you're gonna get choked out again Oh, it 170 00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 2: was very interesting. 171 00:06:56,560 --> 00:07:00,719 Speaker 3: I never been choked before. Yeah, was like, I don't 172 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 3: know if I'd actually like, I don't think this at all, 173 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:04,480 Speaker 3: not in that scenario.