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Speaker 1: All right, let's get into a second date update. This

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Speaker 1: is a situation where somebody's gone out with somebody of

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Speaker 1: they want to know why. You have to ask yourself

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Speaker 1: if you're blown off in an initial chapter of getting

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Speaker 1: know why? Or would you just let it be? I

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Speaker 1: depend on how harsh it was. I I'm of the

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Speaker 1: thinking school of let it be. I don't know that

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Speaker 1: I would need the peace of mind. Certainly. I would

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Speaker 1: never call here to get the peace of mind on

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Speaker 1: the air. Yeah, for sure, not publicly. There's no chance.

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Speaker 1: Let me see. Jacob is an eagle Rock. So is

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Speaker 1: Jacob on a pleasant day. He's in Eagle Rock. That's

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Speaker 1: his coffee. What do you drink? What is your drink

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Speaker 2: I just get ice coffee, cold brew black.

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Speaker 1: Wow, that is Jeff. Yeah, that gave me fire. So

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Speaker 1: Jacob doing that. He's on bumble. He's having a good

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Speaker 1: old time. And then he connects, swipes, swirls whatever he does.

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Speaker 1: What do you do on bumble? You swirl?

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Speaker 2: Uh, swiggle a little bit? No, no, I'll swipe left right?

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Speaker 1: You swipe, all right, So he swipes and he sees

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Speaker 1: what's her name?

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Speaker 2: Allison?

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Speaker 1: Great meets Allison? Alison, You and alson go out. I'm

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Speaker 1: just gonna read what you sent me. You said you

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Speaker 1: had a lot in common, you liked the same music,

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Speaker 2: Yes? Yeah, that's that's it. We've been on bumble like

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Speaker 2: and we had a lot of music in common, like

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Speaker 2: I asked her out and we went to the Goldfish

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Speaker 2: You know. We talked and we laughed, and we talked

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Speaker 2: So I've no idea what could have happened?

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Speaker 1: Can I ask you a couple of questions. Here do

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Speaker 1: you leverage the fact that you're in a band for romance?

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Speaker 2: I mean, it doesn't hurt to mention, but you know.

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Speaker 1: God, just go with me on this. After the kiss,

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Speaker 2: It was about I want to say, minute and a half,

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Speaker 2: two minutes like kiss happened. We chatted a little bit

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Speaker 1: So kiss to the departure is like no time at all.

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Speaker 1: Nothing went wrong in between there. I don't think important,

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Speaker 1: very important to understand, very important. So the kiss bye, okay,

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Speaker 1: You're you're gonna kiss somebody that we are you good?

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Speaker 1: Kiss her?

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Speaker 2: Bro I got no complaints?

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Speaker 1: Have you ever gotten compliments?

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Speaker 2: Yes? Yes I have?

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Speaker 1: And what were the compliments?

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Speaker 2: A compliments? Pillowy lips?

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Speaker 1: Not uh not lips? Good one. That's what that's what

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Speaker 1: Listen, Jacob, hold on one second. We're gonna get her number,

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Speaker 1: We're gonna call her, We're gonna ask her why she's

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Speaker 1: Now it's a second date update. I honestly, I really

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Speaker 1: you don't have chemistry, it's not a thing. But it's rude.

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Speaker 2: It's not rude.

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Speaker 1: If it's a bad kiss, goodbye, it's rude not to

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Speaker 1: so let's get into it. He says he's a good kisser.

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Speaker 1: He says he got a compliment from a girl once.

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Speaker 1: They told him he has pillowy lips. You like that,

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Speaker 1: Therese are like thin and sharp. Huh, Gabby.

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Speaker 3: You here's the thing. It's like, I feel like I

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Speaker 1: It's like so much pillows, how many polls. Do you

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Speaker 3: I don't know Knowillow, Let's get to Alison here, Allison,

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Speaker 3: thank you for holding on.

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Speaker 1: You are on the air. I need you to know

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Speaker 1: that on the air here at kiss Up in Los Angeles.

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Speaker 1: Good morning. My name is Ryan. I've got Sisney and Tanya.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for thank you for accepting our call.

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Speaker 4: Good morning.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so hi, and forgive our intrusion, but we're gonna

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Speaker 1: talk to you about a guy you met on Bubble

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Speaker 1: named Jacob. How to go with Jacob? What's going on

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Speaker 4: Uh?

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Speaker 2: What did you say? More than here?

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Speaker 1: Jacob? Guy? You met him bumble? I think he's in

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Speaker 1: So how how did it go? And are well? How

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was not good.

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Speaker 1: Actually the date was not good.

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Speaker 4: No, not really. So first of all, I so I

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Speaker 4: I tell people that right away, like it just don't

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Speaker 4: I'm not recovering or anything like that. I just don't drink.

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Speaker 4: But I mean, good lord, he drank enough for the

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Speaker 2: So, yeah, that.

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Speaker 1: So do you think he thought you guys were vibing

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Speaker 4: I mean, there's no hell in what he thought, right, Like,

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Speaker 4: I don't know if he was still in the same

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Speaker 1: So there's not a future there. Have you let him know?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 4: No, I haven't spoken to him since.

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Speaker 1: Do you think he should know? Would you like for

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Speaker 4: I mean, I I could go either way. I don't.

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Speaker 1: He knows.

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 1: Well, Allison, before anything else, Sisney wanted me to ask you,

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Speaker 1: is he a good kisser?

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Speaker 4: He was?

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Speaker 1: Well, how would you describe his lips?

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Speaker 4: I mean his lipstorted and like soft and nice?

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Speaker 1: Enough, Allison. Jacob is on the phone here, and the

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Speaker 1: good news is he now knows where you stand. I

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Speaker 1: it's positive Jacob that you now know where you stand.

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Speaker 1: How is it, though, Jacob, that you had such a

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Speaker 1: different picture of the day, Alison. He's here and he

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean.

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Speaker 4: I think he thought that things went well because, like

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Speaker 1: He's here, Jacob, Jacob speak, why do you think it

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Speaker 2: Wait? I was in coherence? Wait what happens fast? Oh yeah,

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Speaker 4: Yously asked me like the same questions, like, well.

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Speaker 1: I am that's not good.

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Speaker 4: So that carved your initials into one of the tables.

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Speaker 1: Oh wait, one of those tables where you should.

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Speaker 3: Like everybody was doing it on that table or.

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Speaker 4: No, no, all like it was he did. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So look, Jacob, this is good news. You're hearing some

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Speaker 1: clearly not going to work out. You guys have totally

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Speaker 1: think it's time to move on for both of you. Agreed.

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean I remember kissing her though, and that

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Speaker 2: was that was awesome? Like she was good? Like it was?

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Speaker 2: It wasn't I thought it was going really well. I mean,

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Speaker 2: I what what what did you think Alison? Was It

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Speaker 2: was that a good kiss at the very least because

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Speaker 2: it was good for me?

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Speaker 4: I mean, listen, like the kiss was great, that was fine,

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Speaker 4: but everything else was pretty much a disaster.

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Speaker 1: So let's leave it at that. Jacob, thank you for

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Speaker 1: reaching out. Alison, thank you for staying on with us.

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Speaker 1: We wish you guys best of luck. Dating is not easy.

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Speaker 1: It's a challenge. This has happened to me before this.

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Speaker 1: This is something you are not alone and we love

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Speaker 1: Good luck in a rock band, the guy in a

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Speaker 1: rock band? What a rock star move? Carve your initials

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Speaker 1: in a table. Jacob was here. Yeah, I'd be prepared

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Speaker 1: for Michael to start too, and that isn't in a

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Speaker 3: Michael does not drink, barely drink. He has like a

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Speaker 3: beer a drink or I'll drink like whiskey.

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Speaker 1: Last time I was with him beer, Yeah, you'll have

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Speaker 1: like a drink. We never get strunk. It's what I'm

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Speaker 1: trying to say. But you know how I knew he

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Speaker 1: was at my house. I looked under the table. Michael

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Speaker 1: was here. Seven gives a f. That's called a second

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Speaker 1: date update. Do that every once in a while. If

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Speaker 1: you're in that dating world and you really have no

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Speaker 1: peace of mind. That's what it's for. Reach out to us,