Speaker 1: Welcome to Checking In with Michelle Williams, a production of
Speaker 1: iHeartRadio and The Black Effect.
Speaker 2: Hey, everybody, I'm so excited for y'all to hear this podcast.
Speaker 2: This is for those who weren't able to get to
Speaker 2: the podcast festival where I was hanging out with my
Speaker 2: girls Josselle and Robin Dixon of Reasonably Shady. I was
Speaker 2: all my best behavior, y'all, because there is nothing about
Speaker 2: me that is shady at all. Okay, well, I'll let
Speaker 2: you guys be the judge of that. But thank y'all
Speaker 2: so much for tuning in again. I say every episode,
Speaker 2: I can't do what I do without you guys listening
Speaker 2: and subscribing downloading episodes, so please enjoy.
Speaker 3: Okay, It's a privilege and the honor to be in
Speaker 3: business with all of these women. Man One lady is
Speaker 3: a singer, songwriter, actress, member of the biggest selling R
Speaker 3: and B group of all time, and a mental health advocate.
Speaker 4: And you may know the other two ladies from Bravo's
Speaker 4: hit show, The Real Housewives of Potomac. But today they
Speaker 4: are reasonable and shady, and I mean, if you listen
Speaker 4: to this, they shady as hell, y'all.
Speaker 5: And I love it.
Speaker 4: So please welcome Michelle Williams, Robin Dixon, and just ou prior.
Speaker 5: Welcome to Reasonably Shady Checking In.
Speaker 6: My name is Jizelle Bruds, I'm Robin Dixon.
Speaker 5: My name is Michelle Williams. What's up, Atlanta. It is
Speaker 5: so exciting to be here.
Speaker 6: This is the Black Effect Festival number one. This is
Speaker 6: history in the making. Nice to see everybody. Yea, y'all
Speaker 6: give it up for yourself house.
Speaker 5: Look at this. This house is packed. Yeah, it is packed.
Speaker 5: It is sold out.
Speaker 2: So thank y'all so much for supporting the very, very
Speaker 2: first ever podcast festival. We know that it is going
Speaker 2: to be like double next year in triple, but y'all
Speaker 2: are the first. So thank you for being like she said,
Speaker 2: like Joselle said, history bristo, she said.
Speaker 7: You welcome you, thank you, thank you. We really appreciate it.
Speaker 5: Yes, so let me ask you all. Are y'all into.
Speaker 6: Checking in with Michelle?
Speaker 5: Of course? Thank you. Oh this is a reasonably shady.
Speaker 6: This is like a marriage made in heaven because like
Speaker 6: we're the balance up here, we're reasonably shady and Michelle
Speaker 6: is just so beautiful checking in on your mental health
Speaker 6: and so she can put us in check when we
Speaker 6: might be a little off.
Speaker 5: We'll see.
Speaker 2: And now let's let's let's keep it all the way real.
Speaker 2: A lot of us like to.
Speaker 5: Live with boundaries and peace.
Speaker 7: And joy and balance.
Speaker 2: But there's a little sliver of shady in your soul
Speaker 2: that ain't quite God, ain't quite work through yet.
Speaker 5: So that's me, I'm gonna telling me, and.
Speaker 6: Y'all are probably wondering why the three of us are
Speaker 6: doing this together. First of all, we all know that
Speaker 6: Michelle is used to being on stage with two very
Speaker 6: bad queen so she's allowing us to be with her today.
Speaker 2: Thank you, Michelle, I'm really excited to be with your beautiful,
Speaker 2: beautiful ladies today.
Speaker 8: Well, in typical reasonably shady fashion, we start off our
Speaker 8: podcast with our reasonably shady moment of the week.
Speaker 5: Who wants to go first? You go first, I'm gonna
Speaker 5: go first.
Speaker 8: Yeah, okay, guys, it's been a week. First and foremost,
Speaker 8: for those of you all who don't know me, I
Speaker 8: have three beautiful daughters. One is eighteen, her name's Grace.
Speaker 8: I have twins, Angela and the Door. I think their
Speaker 8: dad is here somewhere.
Speaker 6: I think the good reverend.
Speaker 8: I think we don't called him out. I think he's
Speaker 8: here somewhere anyway. Oh, somebody's pointing. Okay, anyway, not that
Speaker 8: that's not Pastor Bryant, but he's he's on.
Speaker 5: His way anyway.
Speaker 8: So this week the girls had a dance recital, and
Speaker 8: you know, they go to a nice Catholic school, and
Speaker 8: the dance recital was a torque of some sort. It
Speaker 8: was it was it was like it was like a
Speaker 8: semi torqu. It was like a uh and a butt roll.
Speaker 5: But that's it. We're gonna keep it cool.
Speaker 6: However, Grace always says that the twins can't dance, and
Speaker 6: they get it from their mama.
Speaker 8: So I'm always like, why y'all throwing shade on me?
Speaker 8: Because I do remember Michelle, the person that taught me
Speaker 8: how to twork.
Speaker 5: Don't you do it over here? I mean, I don't
Speaker 5: know how to work. And I admit that a little bit.
Speaker 8: Okay, So some years I met Michelle, very long time ago,
Speaker 8: and we were going she came to I was married
Speaker 8: to pastor.
Speaker 5: She came to the church.
Speaker 8: We were going to dinner, and I told Michelle, I
Speaker 8: don't know how to twork, and she said Giselle, I
Speaker 8: know how to t work, and I'm gonna show you
Speaker 8: how to t work.
Speaker 5: I did you did? Oh my god, what I do?
Speaker 5: It's in your ankles, right on your knees. Where's that?
Speaker 5: She said? She said, drop it down? Where's the power at?
Speaker 5: And then a little something like this is in your ankles? Right?
Speaker 5: Is that right? Don't be shamed. Do you approve ankle?
Speaker 7: She said, that's not a twerk.
Speaker 5: Do you approve of this? I don't.
Speaker 6: I don't approve. So that is the work that my
Speaker 6: children do. I learned it from Michelle, Thank you very much. Well,
Speaker 6: but that's your turking is where she said it.
Speaker 2: It's in your knees with something else shape, it's in
Speaker 2: your knees, I think.
Speaker 5: So I was in the ankles. The ankles, okay, ankles, So.
Speaker 6: What the ankle's gotta do with the What the ankle's
Speaker 6: gotta do with the tort Okay, you're losing them up anyway.
Speaker 6: Pray for my children because they have no rhythm and
Speaker 6: you're blaming it on Michelle Williams.
Speaker 5: Okay, that's a good one. Okay, So y'all, I'm gonna
Speaker 5: keep mind really quick.
Speaker 6: So flying down here, yesterday. I'm on the plane. You know,
Speaker 6: you put your phone in airplane mode and you're on
Speaker 6: your phone browsing the internet, Instagram, whatever, and my phone rings.
Speaker 6: I'm actually in thirty thousand feet in the air, and
Speaker 6: my phone rings, and it's it's a cousin. And so
Speaker 6: I'm like, what do I do? Let me answer the
Speaker 6: answer the phone in case it's important. So I literally
Speaker 6: answer the phone while the flag attendant is serving drinks
Speaker 6: right in front of me. And she turned to me
Speaker 6: and was like, I know you ain't just answered the phone.
Speaker 6: We thirty thousand feet in the air.
Speaker 5: I was like, oh shit, let.
Speaker 6: Me hang out, because I did not want to be
Speaker 6: like that man yelling about a baby, yelling and screaming
Speaker 6: and crying about a baby crying. I said, okay, let
Speaker 6: me hang up really quickly. Yes, but I was the
Speaker 6: shady one for answering an actual phone call on the airplane.
Speaker 5: I was just so shocked that it came through. But
Speaker 5: was it worth it? Was it whatever your cousin?
Speaker 6: It wasn't worth it. It wasn't worth it. And thank god
Speaker 6: they didn't land the plane and kick me off. And
Speaker 6: I said, let me hurry up and get off this phone,
Speaker 6: but the fact and I was traveling with my husband
Speaker 6: and he was like, I can't believe you answered the
Speaker 6: phone in front of the flight attendant, Like who does that?
Speaker 6: So I was the shady one answering the phone in
Speaker 6: front of a flight attendant.
Speaker 5: Michelle, you have a shady moment. I'm trying to think
Speaker 5: of a shady moment.
Speaker 2: I kind of live a boring life, believe it or not,
Speaker 2: really nothing to report on in my neck of the woods.
Speaker 6: Come back to so, okay, if you don't have a
Speaker 6: shady moment, since you are, you know, all about mental
Speaker 6: health and checking in, do you have something to share
Speaker 6: just to help people mentally ground themselves or mental health?
Speaker 2: So if I could ask, I know we are recording
Speaker 2: and we wanted just to teach quieter so that people
Speaker 2: who are actually listening to us up here can hear us.
Speaker 2: And someone asked me, how do you know when you
Speaker 2: are honoring your boundaries?
Speaker 5: Does anybody know what boundaries are? All right?
Speaker 2: So boundaries could be like literally a demarcation in the
Speaker 2: sand where you do not cross this line. And literally
Speaker 2: on my page this week, someone said, how do you
Speaker 2: know that you've honored your boundaries?
Speaker 5: So I said.
Speaker 2: Imagine you say, I'm gonna go to the family reunion
Speaker 2: this year. But if ain't so and so say something
Speaker 2: a little shady, I'm out. That's the boundary that you've made,
Speaker 2: because ain't he so and so or uncle so and
Speaker 2: so always finds a way to be disrespectful because maybe
Speaker 2: you've upped your game in life, You've improved in areas
Speaker 2: of your life, and they haven't. So you know the
Speaker 2: saying when people in your family say you changed, right, well,
Speaker 2: just say I have.
Speaker 5: I've changed. You haven't.
Speaker 7: And that's where the problem is. It's with you and
Speaker 7: now with me.
Speaker 2: Now, the boundary is, how do you know you've honored
Speaker 2: your boundary is when you literally do what you said
Speaker 2: you were gonna do. You don't go back and forth
Speaker 2: with the person. Does anybody know what okay means? I've
Speaker 2: mastered the ministry of okay?
Speaker 5: Right, okay and you leave.
Speaker 7: That's how you know you are honoring your boundaries.
Speaker 5: That's it.
Speaker 8: Yes, right, Actually, Robin and I actually practiced that on
Speaker 8: a show call The Real Housewives of Potomac.
Speaker 5: Yes, indeed, we just sit there, We sit there and.
Speaker 6: Say okay, okay, okay, look I'm gonna give ya a
Speaker 6: little team we are well, we might be doing a
Speaker 6: little something right now, and I have to ask her
Speaker 6: to honor my boundaries.
Speaker 5: But that is something when you are real friends.
Speaker 6: That you can do and you don't have to fall out,
Speaker 6: you don't have to argue, but at some point you
Speaker 6: can say to your friends, no, yeah, that's enough, we're good.
Speaker 5: And we're moving on.
Speaker 6: So you'll see that, yes, yes, all right, well we
Speaker 6: are going to move on because it is now time
Speaker 6: for our reasonably shady Oh no, no, it's our hot topics.
Speaker 5: It is now time for our recent topics.
Speaker 8: It is now time for Robin always gets me together. Okay,
Speaker 8: it is time for our hot topics.
Speaker 6: Okay, before we get into it, I want to tell
Speaker 6: the crowd to.
Speaker 5: It into it.
Speaker 6: Before we get into it, i'd want to let y'all
Speaker 6: know that we're going to be allowing people to ask
Speaker 6: questions at the end of this show. So if you
Speaker 6: have a question, keep you know, think of something, and
Speaker 6: when we get to that at the end, just raise
Speaker 6: your hand.
Speaker 5: So I just want to prepare y'all for that. Yep.
Speaker 8: Okay, So right off the bat, we gotta check in
Speaker 8: with y'all I'm looking at the crowd.
Speaker 5: I'm seeing the age range.
Speaker 8: Who is concerned about Hulu and the new Freaknick documentary.
Speaker 5: Who's gonna be honest?
Speaker 6: How many are gonna be on the Freaknick documentary? Raise
Speaker 6: your hand if you're gonna be on if you're nervous?
Speaker 5: How many of you raise your hands?
Speaker 2: If you're gonna be nervous that you might be in
Speaker 2: the Freaknik documentary?
Speaker 5: Are you?
Speaker 6: Are you nervous that you're gonna see your mother on
Speaker 6: the Freaknick documentary?
Speaker 5: Are your aunt? Team who was conceived?
Speaker 2: Possibly during that moment, he is jumping up and down,
Speaker 2: he said.
Speaker 5: I know, yes, he is fright and center on the
Speaker 5: Freaknik documentary.
Speaker 6: So I mean it's it's it's funny when we get
Speaker 6: together and when we're on one accord. We are on
Speaker 6: one accord that we want Freaknick documentary shut down?
Speaker 5: Are you gonna be on there? You think you're gonna
Speaker 5: be on there? That might be in a documentary? I
Speaker 5: lost him? Shut down, Jaselle wantn't shut down.
Speaker 6: I want to see it because I want to desist
Speaker 6: right now.
Speaker 5: I want to see it.
Speaker 6: I'm at my popcorn watch and see who do I
Speaker 6: see because I think.
Speaker 5: What year didn't stop?
Speaker 8: I don't know what year stopped. But there was a
Speaker 8: freak Nick Philly. There's a Freaknick Atlanta. There's a freak Nick.
Speaker 8: But the Atlanta one is like, yes, the top tier one,
Speaker 8: that's the one.
Speaker 6: This was before problem wetle holder than you, just before
Speaker 6: your time.
Speaker 2: I mean I was in I graduated high school in
Speaker 2: ninety seven, so could I.
Speaker 5: Have been a part? So we're like the same.
Speaker 7: I didn't go to Freaknick. I was at vacation Bible.
Speaker 5: School, so I might have been there.
Speaker 6: I think Miami turns into the new Freaknick. So they
Speaker 6: we're going to Seejaizh. Everybody keep your eyes open for Jisel.
Speaker 5: And the new freaking and the new and she has
Speaker 5: not changed. She's she's gonna look.
Speaker 2: She looks the same, so she can't say that somebody.
Speaker 2: And I wasn't doing anything that I don't do on
Speaker 2: the Real Housewives of Potomac.
Speaker 5: There we go. That's about that. Okay, okay, We're.
Speaker 8: Very excited about Damar Hamlin. Yes he is now reinstated.
Speaker 6: It's even Damar Hamlin has been clear to play football again,
Speaker 6: to start working out and that is such a blessing
Speaker 6: that he has come through that. But I know there
Speaker 6: are people who feel there are contradicting like feelings about it.
Speaker 6: Some people are excited for him, but some people just
Speaker 6: think he should not be long.
Speaker 5: She should not be on the football field again. Oh
Speaker 5: I didn't know that. Yeah.
Speaker 8: Oh so some some of you guys feel that he
Speaker 8: shouldn't play ever again because he might get hurt.
Speaker 6: I mean, I think they think he went through a
Speaker 6: very traumatic experience and you know, like who knows if
Speaker 6: his body is ready to on that physicality of the
Speaker 6: game of football, right, I mean.
Speaker 2: He's medically cleared, which we know will will be okay,
Speaker 2: which which is fine. Did they find the root cause
Speaker 2: of what of what happened to me question in the
Speaker 2: first place? But someone like Damar Hamlin is probably feeling
Speaker 2: like he's too young yet to sit on the sideline,
Speaker 2: so he's gonna take the risk to do something where
Speaker 2: he's worked years and years to get to that point
Speaker 2: to be on the NFL field.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, I know the incident was like a
Speaker 6: fluke incident. They say it was like the hit hit
Speaker 6: his chest at the same time of like a certain
Speaker 6: I don't.
Speaker 5: Know cardiac rhythmic whatever.
Speaker 6: I don't know the terminology, but it was like a
Speaker 6: very small chance that would happen to me it was
Speaker 6: your son.
Speaker 2: Yeah, ladies, man, if it was your son, yes, would
Speaker 2: you want him to play again?
Speaker 8: And Robin has two sons that are a football playing age.
Speaker 5: How do you feel? So?
Speaker 6: I know an athlete like are hamling, he this is
Speaker 6: what he loves, this is what he knows, this is
Speaker 6: his life, and so to take that game away from
Speaker 6: him like that is probably more damaging to his mental
Speaker 6: health than to his physical health.
Speaker 5: And so for me, if that's something that he knows
Speaker 5: and loves, that's.
Speaker 6: What he eats and breeds and lives, and he's been
Speaker 6: medically clear to play, then I want him to do
Speaker 6: that as long as the doctors around him say that
Speaker 6: he can do it.
Speaker 5: Okay, And how does Wan feel about this? The same way? Okay? Yeah, yes,
Speaker 5: we love one. But we're really happy Jan Dixon is
Speaker 5: not here right now? Is that the same? It might
Speaker 5: be here, y'all, It might be here he flew down.
Speaker 6: Yeah, we absolutely love one. Now, how many of y'all
Speaker 6: on the Twitter? Are y'all on Twitter? Of course?
Speaker 5: Now, y'all gonna pay for y'all blue check? Right, who
Speaker 5: paid for a blue paid for a blue check?
Speaker 6: It's only eleven dollars a month, y'all, you pay for yours?
Speaker 5: You did? She who else paid for a blue check? Okay?
Speaker 2: Now now, but I think the new verified is not
Speaker 2: to be verified. Everybody's gonna be a point those of
Speaker 2: us who were verified my blue check was taken away
Speaker 2: minus like, well all right, well right.
Speaker 6: Well, I just so I did a little research because
Speaker 6: I don't go on Twitter, but I went on Twitter
Speaker 6: and I saw that my blue check is gone. Yes,
Speaker 6: so I just deactivated my account.
Speaker 5: I'm like, I don't need it, but can I go
Speaker 5: on there?
Speaker 2: But can someone do a new account in your name
Speaker 2: and likeness?
Speaker 5: Sure?
Speaker 6: I mean, at this point, if you're gonna be paying
Speaker 6: for blue if people can pay for blue checks, they
Speaker 6: can do whatever.
Speaker 5: Well, so I deactivated my account.
Speaker 8: I did see that at first the blue check costs
Speaker 8: like one hundred and twenty two dollars a year, and
Speaker 8: then it went on sale because nobody's buying it.
Speaker 5: It's like a one hundred and fourteen one fourteen or that.
Speaker 5: Wait until it goes down to zero.
Speaker 6: So wait, I'm gonna tell you there was somebody did
Speaker 6: a little research on who from the real house as
Speaker 6: a Potomac has a blue check? Oh oh, who paid
Speaker 6: for that blue check? Y'all?
Speaker 5: Who do y'all think paid for that blue check? Can't?
Speaker 5: She said? Karen? Who? Karen? Who else? Candace? Who else?
Speaker 5: So I'm gonna tell you Mia and Karen have blue checks, y'all.
Speaker 6: They paid there one hundred and fourteen dollars to make
Speaker 6: sure that they were verified. So it's fourteen dollars a month, no, no, no,
Speaker 6: eleven dollars a month and one hundred and fourteen dollars
Speaker 6: a year. So you can either pay for the year
Speaker 6: or you can pay eleven dollars a month. I paid
Speaker 6: zero and I deactivated my account.
Speaker 5: And I'm waiting for it to go down to zero.
Speaker 6: Now, who is voting for Afroman in the next election?
Speaker 5: Do y'all know who Afroman is? Y'all?
Speaker 9: Do?
Speaker 5: Okay? Who? Business? And I got high vote Afroman? Okay?
Speaker 5: I need we need more information about Afroman.
Speaker 9: So.
Speaker 6: Afroman is running for president in the twenty twenty four
Speaker 6: election as an independent, and he has proclaimed himself to
Speaker 6: be the next cannabis Commander in chief.
Speaker 5: Can't.
Speaker 6: Yes, and the pothead of states. Yes, now, now for
Speaker 6: all of y'all. Clearly, his platform is about legalizing marijuana.
Speaker 5: Everywhere but already legal. So who is voting for Afroman
Speaker 5: just based on that?
Speaker 6: A larger it's okay? Okay, Afroman has some momentum. Okay,
Speaker 6: are you still recovering from dogs?
Speaker 5: Is running me? She's still she's celebrating for twenty she's.
Speaker 2: Still recovering from four twenty.
Speaker 5: Every day is four twenty. Every days every day is
Speaker 5: four twenty? Do y'all agree with that? Ask? I think
Speaker 5: that I think we should give Afroman a shot.
Speaker 6: We shall allow him to to go and do all
Speaker 6: the debates, campaign and listen and see if he talks
Speaker 6: about anything other than we.
Speaker 5: But what all right, but what does a.
Speaker 6: United States of America led by President Afroman look like?
Speaker 10: Like?
Speaker 8: We don't know, Robin, nobody will be able to see
Speaker 8: we'll all being a poll.
Speaker 5: No, we do know.
Speaker 6: Everybody be calm, everyone's going to relax.
Speaker 5: They won't had no information in.
Speaker 6: Their body, so everybody will removing inflammation. Okay, Yes, are
Speaker 6: we going to get anything done like what happens when
Speaker 6: Russia comes to bomb us?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 7: Are we going to be ready or are we going
Speaker 7: to be a little delayed?
Speaker 5: What what are we going to do? I don't know.
Speaker 6: Okay, So if you're not interested in voting for Afroman,
Speaker 6: you can also vote for Robert F.
Speaker 5: Kennedy Junior. He's running as well. So we got option y'all.
Speaker 6: Now, I know, Michelle, you had a hot topic about
Speaker 6: Oh my gosh, it was so much going on. She's
Speaker 6: she's a dear heart to me, Chloe Bailey, Chloe.
Speaker 2: She's gonna be a concert like literally tomorrow here in Atlanta,
Speaker 2: And there was so much talk about everybody was mad
Speaker 2: or there was rumblings about people mad at Beyonce for
Speaker 2: not supporting Chloe's album, and so it's kind of too
Speaker 2: sortid here because Beyonce promoted it. Everybody would be like,
Speaker 2: that's unfair.
Speaker 5: You got her.
Speaker 7: Promoting, and then you feel like she didn't do enough.
Speaker 2: She's on her label, that's enough promotion, that is enough support.
Speaker 2: So Chloe's been doing her thing, she's been doing her
Speaker 2: thing and every and as she said, she said, you know,
Speaker 2: people know her music.
Speaker 5: She's on a sold out tour.
Speaker 2: So I just had to throw that out there, like
Speaker 2: why was that such a big deal about who's who
Speaker 2: was supporting who?
Speaker 7: I think it was just because it was beyond of.
Speaker 5: Course, y'all gonna leave beyon alone, leave her alone. Let's see.
Speaker 5: I got aase.
Speaker 6: I gotta play the devil's advocate though, Oh, Robin, I
Speaker 6: mean why why.
Speaker 5: Wouldn't she support her? Oh she didn't? Who said she
Speaker 5: didn't support? Well? Right, so I did she do? We
Speaker 5: know who.
Speaker 7: Said she did not support?
Speaker 2: She's very she's very involved in helping people creatively. Now
Speaker 2: Chloe can write, she makes her own, beats herself. Now
Speaker 2: did she help like kind of maybe finess some things visually? Absolutely?
Speaker 2: But does she need to be on her Instagram?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 2: No, because y'all would have had something. Not y'all because
Speaker 2: we're family, We cousins are the folks that ain't related
Speaker 2: to us in this room would have had something to
Speaker 2: say because they didn't do it in here, y'all wasn't
Speaker 2: part of that.
Speaker 5: Part of me feel like.
Speaker 8: If she did continuously support and support and support, people
Speaker 8: will then say Chloe is not where she is on
Speaker 8: her own, and it would be all because Beyonce is
Speaker 8: supporting and Beyonce is pushing. No, Chloe is where she
Speaker 8: is on her own, and we have to support that.
Speaker 8: And beyond, Beyonce is busy. She's raising her kids, she's
Speaker 8: working on a world tour.
Speaker 5: She is busy.
Speaker 6: Okay, So why didn't y'all support Why didn't y'all Why
Speaker 6: didn't y'all support the album.
Speaker 5: She got?
Speaker 7: She said she watched the movie.
Speaker 2: She does have a sold out tour, and I think
Speaker 2: sometimes sometimes seeing stuff live in person helps a person.
Speaker 7: Say, I gotta cop that album.
Speaker 2: So you're obviously a fan of hers if her tour
Speaker 2: is sold out, her very first one is sold out.
Speaker 2: Boom saying you make more money on tours and merch
Speaker 2: than album sales.
Speaker 5: Anyway, listen to that.
Speaker 6: Yeah, so the feed the album and I guess we
Speaker 6: just didn't really know about it, and.
Speaker 5: It just fine. She's gonna be just fine.
Speaker 2: Every artist doesn't go platinum their first album out.
Speaker 5: She's gonna be just right right. And as I think
Speaker 5: about it, Beyonce doesn't.
Speaker 6: She doesn't promote anybody else on her on her platforms,
Speaker 6: you know what I mean, Most of her pages just
Speaker 6: her beautiful, artistic looking fashion pictures, and so it would
Speaker 6: be out of her. It wouldn't be something that she
Speaker 6: ordinarily does, and so I think for her it's probably
Speaker 6: all or nothing.
Speaker 5: It's probably like, I'm not going to promote.
Speaker 6: Anything so that individuals can't be upset that I didn't. Yes,
Speaker 6: you know, it's not like she promoted.
Speaker 2: Individually and solo wise, Destiny's Child put in the work.
Speaker 2: There was no there was nobody really endorsing and putting
Speaker 2: us on. Destiny's Child worked for everything, which I think
Speaker 2: equates to the to the longevity of the group and
Speaker 2: us being able to me being able to be up
Speaker 2: here solo wise with y'all so hard work does that?
Speaker 2: Yes's gonna She's gonna be foul. She's keeps us here
Speaker 2: absolutely all right, we.
Speaker 6: Gotta be to our next segment, Is it reasonable or
Speaker 6: is it shade? If anybody out here has a reasonably
Speaker 6: shady situation that they want to discuss, start thinking about it,
Speaker 6: and if we have time, we'll do it right. But first, so,
Speaker 6: if there's something you want us to weigh in on,
Speaker 6: like say you have an argument between you and your
Speaker 6: mom or your you know, your neighbors or something, and
Speaker 6: you want to get our opinions, think about it and
Speaker 6: raise your hand when we give you the opportunity to
Speaker 6: raise your hand. So this is Asia. Asia is a
Speaker 6: faithful Hey girl, she's faithful reasonably shakester.
Speaker 5: Yes, yes, Asia. Where are you from? Asia? So? Asia
Speaker 5: lives in Connecticut.
Speaker 6: She came to our live show in New York and
Speaker 6: she triedls to Atlanta to be here for us.
Speaker 5: So she is, y'all live it up for Asia. We
Speaker 5: appreciate her so much.
Speaker 6: She and she's been a faithful listener and supporter of
Speaker 6: the podcast. So Aga has a reasonable or is this
Speaker 6: reasonable or shady scenario to ask us?
Speaker 5: Yeah, and y'all got away in So y'all listen. Okay, Okay.
Speaker 6: So I was in a breakroom and my coworker she
Speaker 6: was like complaining.
Speaker 5: She's like, I have kids, eggs are expensive. So I'm
Speaker 5: I'm agreeing with her. I'm like, yeah, it is.
Speaker 6: You know, gas is out of control, rents out of control.
Speaker 6: She turns to me and goes, you don't have any
Speaker 6: kids and you still live at home, so what are
Speaker 6: you complaining about. I'm like, I have a cardinal, I
Speaker 6: have car insurance. Everything else.
Speaker 5: Being a girl is just expensive. So is that reasonable
Speaker 5: or is it shady? Okay? So did y'all hear what
Speaker 5: she said.
Speaker 8: She's saying she was talking to her girlfriend no co
Speaker 8: world over, talking to her ride worker, and she was
Speaker 8: talking about how expensive things are out here in these streets.
Speaker 5: And her coworker was like, but you live with y'all, mama.
Speaker 6: You don't have kids, and you don't have no kids,
Speaker 6: and well, she said, and that was it. And is
Speaker 6: that reasonable or is that shady? So if you all right,
Speaker 6: raise your hand if you think that's a reasonable statement
Speaker 6: for her to.
Speaker 2: Make, because she feels like you got extra money laying
Speaker 2: around because you don't have hands, so she ain't a
Speaker 2: pocket book.
Speaker 6: Now raise your hand if that's a shady statement for
Speaker 6: her coworking.
Speaker 5: Okay, that is yes, so all the way live shady.
Speaker 6: I agree, right, that is all the way shady, because
Speaker 6: nobody should be counting anybody's coins, their coins, their bills,
Speaker 6: their scenario.
Speaker 5: They don't know.
Speaker 6: Asia could be trying to save up for a house,
Speaker 6: she could be she could be planning for children, and
Speaker 6: so she's feeling the same effects that we're all a
Speaker 6: feeling feeling in relation to how expected.
Speaker 2: Or saving up. Because Netflix keep going up, everybody keep
Speaker 2: going up in their prices, so you keep your coins.
Speaker 6: Yes, right, So don't let her make you feel like
Speaker 6: don't let her minimize your issues or what you're going through.
Speaker 6: Because you don't have children, because you live at home
Speaker 6: with yourself.
Speaker 5: You know everything that you go through matters.
Speaker 6: And just because it may not seem as big to
Speaker 6: somebody else, that doesn't mean it doesn't matter to you. Right,
Speaker 6: thank you, lady teacher.
Speaker 5: Y'all giving up?
Speaker 2: She drove all the way from Canada with.
Speaker 5: Her fresh silk price.
Speaker 6: Come on you too, all the way from Connecticut. I
Speaker 6: mean her silk press is just bouncing. Okay, wait, y'all
Speaker 6: some raise y'all hands. If you came from another state,
Speaker 6: if you don't live here, wow, my.
Speaker 8: Gosh, if you came from out the country.
Speaker 5: Who came fout the country? Who's I can't hear? From Canada? Wow,
Speaker 5: that's awesome. What country? Okay, you are a vacation from
Speaker 5: Turks of Cake Coast, don't count?
Speaker 6: Okay because you were from Atlanta. Oh you're a California, California,
Speaker 6: that's a that's amazing.
Speaker 5: Anybody from Chicago right quick?
Speaker 10: Hey?
Speaker 8: Yeah, anybody from Maryland from where me and Robin are
Speaker 8: from Maryland.
Speaker 5: Marylyn's house in the house. Okay, be more super spring. Yes,
Speaker 5: Arkansas wants some love. Chack, give Arkansas some love? All right?
Speaker 5: All right, Michelle, you do you have any reasonably shared
Speaker 5: this question?
Speaker 2: A I can answer this too. Is it reasonable or shady?
Speaker 2: If you brought a bottle to an event to take it.
Speaker 5: Back at the end of the event if it wasn't open? Okay?
Speaker 5: Who says this reason? Or is reasonable?
Speaker 10: Rage?
Speaker 5: Adams? Reasonable? Okay? All right? Hold on, y'all, hold on,
Speaker 5: raise your hand in it? Shady? Rick? Wait? Who wait? I
Speaker 5: didn't see all right, So this is like it's fifty
Speaker 5: to fifty. Who says reasonable? Who? Okay? It depends. Let
Speaker 5: me tell you who? Can I tell you why it depends.
Speaker 5: There's a whole lot of things that it depends on.
Speaker 5: Who has done this before. Let me tell you why
Speaker 5: it depends.
Speaker 2: If it was a potluck and everybody brings their own
Speaker 2: stuff and then and then you take it back.
Speaker 5: But if I got a nice dinner that.
Speaker 2: I prepared for you, and the ship prepared for you,
Speaker 2: and you didn't pay for nothing, and I invite you away,
Speaker 2: you bring a bottle.
Speaker 5: It belongs to me? Okay, you got that right? Yes? Okay,
Speaker 5: I also think it.
Speaker 6: Depends on is it an expensive bottle of champagne or
Speaker 6: did you get it from the five and dime? Like
Speaker 6: what shelf is this bottle bro So it depends. It depends.
Speaker 2: There are certain red ones that I like from publics
Speaker 2: that are really, really, really good, right, and then there
Speaker 2: are some that should come from publics that are more expensive.
Speaker 9: Right.
Speaker 6: Yes, So I actually was faced with this dilemma one day.
Speaker 6: My girlfriends and I was probably about eight of us.
Speaker 6: We had a dinner party at my girlfriend's house, and
Speaker 6: I can remember correctly, we all like chipped in for
Speaker 6: the dinner, but the girlfriend that was hosting it told
Speaker 6: everyone to bring a bottle.
Speaker 5: So I brought a bottle of Tito's.
Speaker 6: I brought a large bottle of Tito's vacuum during the pandemic,
Speaker 6: And y'all know how expensive liquor was during the pandemic.
Speaker 6: So we go there and there was already a bottle
Speaker 6: on Tito's that was opened, so we were we were
Speaker 6: drinking on that Tito's bottle.
Speaker 5: Okay, so wait a minute, So at the end.
Speaker 6: Of the night, at the end of the night, my
Speaker 6: bottle was unopened, and and as I was about to leave.
Speaker 6: As I was about to leave, I'm like walking towards
Speaker 6: the bottle to grab it to take it home. And
Speaker 6: my girlfriend was like, oh, girl, thanks for the bottle.
Speaker 6: I love Tito's. It's my favorite. And I was like, oh,
Speaker 6: you welcome, and I and I left and I went home.
Speaker 6: So just to give y'all, I wanted my bottle back,
Speaker 6: but I was just like, okay, so she was, But
Speaker 6: that was nice of you rapping for it, but she
Speaker 6: should have given it back to me.
Speaker 5: No, Robin, you brought it to her house.
Speaker 9: No.
Speaker 6: I think if that was me, if it was my
Speaker 6: house and everyone chipped in and her and the bottle
Speaker 6: was unopened, I would be like, oh girl, we don't
Speaker 6: open your bottle. You want to take it back. I
Speaker 6: think it depends on how No, it depends on how
Speaker 6: close you are with the person. Like, if it's my sister,
Speaker 6: I'm taking a bottle back. If it's people I don't
Speaker 6: really know that, well, I'm gonna let it. I'm gonna
Speaker 6: let you have it. Your bottle expensive. This is real quick,
Speaker 6: it's real quick. This is a little see.
Speaker 8: So you know how if you watch housewives, any housewives,
Speaker 8: if you watch our show in particular when we go
Speaker 8: to each other's house, typically we bring a bottle of something.
Speaker 8: Karen always says, give me my bottle back after we're
Speaker 8: done filming.
Speaker 5: She's done that to me three times. She's like, give
Speaker 5: me my bottle back. So we do. It's a joke.
Speaker 5: It's a running joke.
Speaker 6: But anyways, like recycling bottles, it's like she brings it
Speaker 6: to one.
Speaker 5: Event and she I mean, we don't want to belabor
Speaker 5: the topic.
Speaker 2: But if you invite me to your home for a
Speaker 2: nice dinner and all I have to do is show up,
Speaker 2: the nice thing to do is you bring a bottle,
Speaker 2: so you present it as a gift. I don't want
Speaker 2: it back, Like I said, if it was like a
Speaker 2: pot look situation, you know how you take a little
Speaker 2: three bean potato salad back home that you made, and
Speaker 2: you take you a little RC or seven up bottle
Speaker 2: that you brought, you take your bottle back. If it
Speaker 2: was a pot look life situation. All right, we got
Speaker 2: we gotta move on.
Speaker 8: But it is now time for you guys to ask
Speaker 8: us any.
Speaker 5: And whoever is asking us something, you're gonna keep it. PG. Thirteen.
Speaker 6: Tell us your names, tell us your name, where you're from.
Speaker 5: Hey, y'all, my name is Denise. I'm from Charlotte, North Carolina.
Speaker 5: Oh hear me.
Speaker 10: Hey y'all, I have a quick question for jaseell So,
Speaker 10: I just finished the Ultimate Girls Trip. What was your
Speaker 10: reaction after you found out what really happened to your bottle?
Speaker 5: I'm so happy you're asking me that question.
Speaker 8: Oka, I'm gonna get for those of y'all who don't
Speaker 8: know what she's talking about. I was on a show
Speaker 8: called Ultimate Girls Trip. It was a bunch of different housewives,
Speaker 8: some different shows. It's on Peacock and I had a
Speaker 8: fit because someone took my bottle of tequila. Okay, so
Speaker 8: and all of y'all have DM me your bottle and
Speaker 8: to say that y'all found it, which is so hilarious.
Speaker 8: At the end, the producers the Salt Lake City Girls
Speaker 8: were joking that the bottle was in the show the
Speaker 8: outside shower.
Speaker 5: That was a joke. The Salt Lake Girls don't have it.
Speaker 5: Leah from New York had a bottle.
Speaker 8: That she brought in her confessional and she was like, oh,
Speaker 8: I got yourselves bottle.
Speaker 5: She's joking too.
Speaker 8: The truth is, we have no idea what a bottle is,
Speaker 8: but I know who has the bottle. Okay, I know
Speaker 8: who took the bottle, But the truth is, we don't know.
Speaker 5: Does the does the name? Does the name start with
Speaker 5: a C?
Speaker 6: It starts with a C? Okay, and it ends with
Speaker 6: the asks no it? Yeah?
Speaker 5: All right, what's the next question? Guys?
Speaker 11: Hey, y'all, I'm Toya from Little Rock, Arkansas.
Speaker 5: In the building. I have a.
Speaker 11: Podcast called The spiel Podcast. It's amazing.
Speaker 5: Mike question. Hey, sourr Joseah, excuse me.
Speaker 11: My question is for the beautiful Michelle Williams. I absolutely
Speaker 11: love your podcast. I have a segment on Mike pie
Speaker 11: Cast called Mental Chicken to where my spillers, my peers,
Speaker 11: whom ever is on my show have to do a
Speaker 11: mental check in. When you are doing that or just
Speaker 11: coming up with your podcast? Was it hard to be
Speaker 11: extremely vulnerable? I did counseling, I did therapy, and it's.
Speaker 6: Something that I feel like everybody should, of course look into.
Speaker 6: But when you start your podcast to you know, just
Speaker 6: focus on that.
Speaker 5: Was it challenging because.
Speaker 6: I'm like shy, but I'm talkative, but I don't like
Speaker 6: being vulnerable. But I'm super vulnerable and sometimes to a
Speaker 6: fall so how do you handle the ups and down
Speaker 6: the back?
Speaker 2: Thank you for asking and congratulations on your podcast. Amazing.
Speaker 2: So I've learned on my mental health journey. We all
Speaker 2: have mental health, but everybody does.
Speaker 7: Not have mental illness. So let's know the two.
Speaker 2: Mental health is like your cardiovascular health reproductive health.
Speaker 7: We all have that right.
Speaker 2: So what I learned on my journy and is there
Speaker 2: is a difference. I think I spoke to y'all about
Speaker 2: the difference between being transparent and being vulnerable.
Speaker 5: I'm an open book.
Speaker 2: I can be transparent, but vulnerable is when you in
Speaker 2: that transparent moment is when you say how something feels,
Speaker 2: how it made you feel, and you allow yourself.
Speaker 5: In that moment.
Speaker 2: If you're still angry or sad about that moment, you
Speaker 2: acknowledge it and you literally feel your feelings. So when
Speaker 2: I talked about like one time my father passing away,
Speaker 2: or a moment where something happened, I believe it was
Speaker 2: something maybe with police brutality. I allowed myself to cry
Speaker 2: on the podcast or to get choked up. That's me
Speaker 2: being vulnerable than me just reading off my personal moment
Speaker 2: that I had this week. I think we all can
Speaker 2: be open books. But it's hard to be vulnerable and
Speaker 2: cry about something or be like, bro, it hurt my
Speaker 2: feelings when you said this or when you talk to
Speaker 2: me this way.
Speaker 7: This is how it makes me feel.
Speaker 2: That's being vulnerable all right, then being just then instead
Speaker 2: of being just a transparent hot head.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I love that. I love like giving its a title.
Speaker 8: You hurt my feelings when you did X, as opposed
Speaker 8: to just yelling at the person you do or responding
Speaker 8: to the person.
Speaker 5: I like that, Michelle, gonna use that well well.
Speaker 2: When a person is yelling that anger is a secondary emotion.
Speaker 2: So let's unpack that. I'm angry because I'm angry because
Speaker 2: I feel overlooked. I'm angry because I feel like you
Speaker 2: ignored me when I told you. I don't like when
Speaker 2: you do this, so if I got to tell you again,
Speaker 2: I might blow up.
Speaker 5: Anger is what's come second.
Speaker 2: Being feeling left out, feeling talked about, feeling betrayed, feeling abandoned.
Speaker 5: That's the first emotion.
Speaker 2: But when it festers, when it seems unseen or unheard,
Speaker 2: that's when anger comes in.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 6: And that's also that's also communication, you know, using your
Speaker 6: communication skills it's hard to communicate those feelings sometimes.
Speaker 2: Why is it so hard to communicate being vulnerable? But
Speaker 2: we can communicate the anger, right, that's true.
Speaker 5: We all working on that. We work in progress. Yes, indeed,
Speaker 5: I know I am all right. We got another question minutes, y'all.
Speaker 2: Hi.
Speaker 5: My name is Leah.
Speaker 6: I live in Orlando. I have a podcast called Adoptees
Speaker 6: Crossing Lines. I'm a black adoptee and I host it
Speaker 6: with two other black adoptees and we're pretty vulnerable on
Speaker 6: our show. My question is for you, Michelle. I'm wondering
Speaker 6: how you take care of yourself when you're, you know,
Speaker 6: talking about all these different things constantly and just sharing
Speaker 6: your life, sharing your story. How do you take care
Speaker 6: of yourself afterwards or in between shows, in.
Speaker 7: Between shows, depending on the topic.
Speaker 2: If it's something I know I've already walked through and
Speaker 2: I've healed from, I can.
Speaker 5: Go eat a bag of chips afterwards.
Speaker 2: But when it's something that seems still a little for
Speaker 2: there are little things that can calm the nervous system down.
Speaker 2: You gotta take a walk, go let some water, sit
Speaker 2: in the pool if you can.
Speaker 5: But just taking a.
Speaker 2: Walk and getting away and separating yourself from the situation
Speaker 2: or the topic is really the best thing. Because us
Speaker 2: when we host podcasts, we have to research some heavy,
Speaker 2: heavy stuff or you could be walking through something heavy,
Speaker 2: but you still.
Speaker 7: Got to host a guest and beat upbeat.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 8: I also say take a drive. When we do reasonably shady,
Speaker 8: I do it at Robin's. We do it at Robin's house,
Speaker 8: and I have to drive. Maybe it's about thirty five
Speaker 8: minutes away, So that drive home, I like decompress and
Speaker 8: get my mind right because when I hit the door
Speaker 8: with my kids, I gotta be I gotta be ready
Speaker 8: for that, right for sure.
Speaker 5: Okay, we have time for questions. Let's be learning question y'all.
Speaker 5: God bless you. Oh yes, it's God.
Speaker 9: I just want to say, each one of you ladies
Speaker 9: look like full rid scholarships to Ivy League.
Speaker 5: HBCUs give these.
Speaker 9: Ladies around of applause but looking so goddamn good. Thank you,
Speaker 9: And to end the questions, I just want to know,
Speaker 9: is it reasonable or shady?
Speaker 5: It's Sunday, right.
Speaker 9: It's Saturday, So I just want to know, Michelle, when
Speaker 9: Jesus say what, I just want how to sing the
Speaker 9: reply When Jesus say what.
Speaker 5: Nobody can't say what I mean? They paid me the top.
Speaker 5: Come on, but it's Michelle. What okay? Give my question?
Speaker 9: Man?
Speaker 2: All right, all right, when Jesus say yes, nobody can
Speaker 2: say no.
Speaker 6: When Jesus nobody no.
Speaker 10: All right, bye, love you.
Speaker 8: I want to try to ask nobody can say no.
Speaker 8: Just say nobody can say no.
Speaker 2: Jiselle will be leading praise and worship at new Birth
Speaker 2: tomorrow morning.
Speaker 5: Ain't give it up for the right. Reverend Jamal Brain
Speaker 5: is in the belt. Are y'all?
Speaker 8: Thank you so much for having us. Thank y'all for
Speaker 8: being a part of our show. It is reasonably shady.
Speaker 5: Check it out. Now, did y'all learn anything?
Speaker 2: Okay, So I guess y'all learned that I taught Jsell
Speaker 2: how to twerk. Don't ask me how, why, when, or where.
Speaker 2: That's why you gotta be careful about things that you do,
Speaker 2: because you might not remember it, but years down the line,
Speaker 2: there's always going to be somebody that reminds.
Speaker 5: You of something you did, even though you threw it
Speaker 5: into the sea of forgetfulness. I forgot that.
Speaker 2: So the lesson is, I guess, be careful what you do,
Speaker 2: or just evolve to the point where if somebody does
Speaker 2: try to bring something up that you did or said
Speaker 2: ten years ago, and you don't even care no more.
Speaker 5: All Right, okay, love y'all.
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