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Speaker 1: All right time now, guys for today's Strawberry Letter. If

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Speaker 1: you need some advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one today. And this

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Speaker 1: one is a doozy. Okay, it's a doozy. Here we go.

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Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on type. We got it for

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Speaker 1: you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. Subject my ex

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Speaker 1: wife ran my fiance off. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am

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Speaker 1: in a desperate need of advice. I was engaged here

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Speaker 1: for you. I was engaged to be married, but my

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Speaker 1: caused a whole lot of problems in our relationship. When

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Speaker 1: my ex heard I was engaged, she called me. I

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Speaker 1: told her that I was extremely happy and excited to

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Speaker 1: me and wished me met, wished me well, which was

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Speaker 1: a big lie. Oh, this ain't about me. Mine ain't

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Speaker 1: never said nothing. A few days after we talked, well,

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Speaker 1: listen again, listen keep listening, keep listening. No, this not

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Speaker 1: be okay, cool, go ahead, keep listening. I'm trying to ignorant, right,

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Speaker 1: said she was happy for me and wished me well. Well,

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Speaker 1: it was a big he said, it was a big lie.

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Speaker 1: A few days after we talked, h this, this must

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Speaker 1: be will Smith. Go ahead because they had that great

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Speaker 1: here we go a few days after we talked, my

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Speaker 1: My ex found out about her breakup and claimed she

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Speaker 1: felt awful about it, so she sent my fiance an

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Speaker 1: sorry that she interfered. My fiance still doesn't want to

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Speaker 1: Please help. Yeah, yeah, this is this is this is funky, funky,

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Speaker 1: funky right here. I don't I don't like your ex wife.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't care who she hurts. Yeah you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean. She doesn't care how many lives she destroys,

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Speaker 1: how many lives she tells. She doesn't care. She's cage,

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Speaker 1: she's tricky, all of that. It's just so wrong on

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Speaker 1: so many levels what she did, and you're right, You're right.

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Speaker 1: just never about It's not about your ex. This is

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Speaker 1: all this stuff make her doubt you? Okay, and do

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Speaker 1: you guys are making wedding plans here. Okay. Yeah, she

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Speaker 1: agree with you one. I think you've hit it spot on. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she couldn't take. But yeah, the words of Marvin Gaye's

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Speaker 1: song to his ex wife Janet, you were my wife,

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Speaker 1: my flower, my hopes, my dreams, and for you to

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Speaker 1: understand what this means, I shall explain I will stood

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Speaker 1: all your jealousies, yes, and your two, but I forget

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Speaker 1: it all once in bad with you. But oh dolly,

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Speaker 1: how could we end up like this? All right, Marvin here, okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, Steve sings us out of this, uh this

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Speaker 1: letter right here. We'll be back with his second response

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Speaker 1: at twenty three after the hours, subject my ex ran

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Speaker 1: off my fiance. We'll be right back right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening, all right, Steve. Please let's recap today's strawberry

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Speaker 1: letter and get to your response, subject my ex wife

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Speaker 1: was a big laugh. A few days after we talked,

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Speaker 1: His damn mama see her damn mama in it. This

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Speaker 1: I can't go know where everybody has seen this here

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Speaker 1: this is new. When everything hit the fan, I told

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Speaker 1: because I don't deal with my ex at all. Your

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Speaker 1: She called your ex, and your ex gave her an

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Speaker 1: ear full of lies. Oh, man, see hit this? Why

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Speaker 1: you dog that? Man? Hell hath no fury like a woman? Scorn? Now?

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Speaker 1: I thought, hell hath no fury like a woman scoring?

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Speaker 1: I really thought for years until it. Sureley told me

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Speaker 1: last year that that's not a scripture, and then I

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Speaker 1: just think it's if some order being there, why that

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Speaker 1: do that, so I got off of that. So you're

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Speaker 1: so she told your ex wife said that y'all still

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Speaker 1: had something on you seeing her, she wouldn't have said

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Speaker 1: got texas, I got pictures, because you gotta text, somebody

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Speaker 1: gotta picture. You gotta have phone records. They don't have

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Speaker 1: that on your dog. She lied and said I still

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Speaker 1: with each other and we talk often where the phone records.

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Speaker 1: Of course, my fiance was all confused and didn't know

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Speaker 1: we broke up. She broke up because of that phone

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Speaker 1: call and her damn mama, Wait what her damn mama, mama,

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Speaker 1: she felt awful about it. So she sent my fiance

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Speaker 1: an email admitting that she lied. About everything, and she

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Speaker 1: was sorry that she interfered. My fiance still don't want

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Speaker 1: I cannot stand my ex wife for this, but I'm

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Speaker 1: of all, I want you to take this notion to her.

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Speaker 1: If she said try to see her, what's prevented her

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Speaker 1: with each other, your ex would see you, but she didn't. Also, man,

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Speaker 1: phone records exist. Pull up your phone records, man, and

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Speaker 1: extensive so excuse me. See you're saying he needs proof

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Speaker 1: that you worked as hard to research. See a thirty

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Speaker 1: That's hey, what you're doing? Hey? Look, I ain't got time.

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Speaker 1: I want to talk to you click. See a lot

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Speaker 1: So you gotta get your phone records and then where

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Speaker 1: the text messages. And you can't arrange nothing, no more

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Speaker 1: on the LOWLO without texting. You can't do it, though,

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Speaker 1: So get your get your records, and get to texting. Now,

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Speaker 1: once you do that, you gotta present your case. Hey man,

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Speaker 1: Even though you didn't do nothing wrong. You want your

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Speaker 1: girl back. Now. Here's what young dudes don't like to do.

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Speaker 1: God deal with him. So you got some kind of sense.

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Speaker 1: You got to get to your girl and you gotta

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Speaker 1: refresh her memory of what you gotta Michael Jackson, h

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Speaker 1: you gotta remember the time we fell in love, Remember

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Speaker 1: the time when we first met girl. You got to

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Speaker 1: get to Michael Jackson, this girl which to remember on

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Speaker 1: that tong? You got to get it down all right, guys,

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