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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Tilly and Tanya Rap and iHeartRadio and

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Speaker 1: People's Choice Award nominated podcast. Hello Teddy care Oh did

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Speaker 1: you get it?

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Speaker 2: After a rocky start? Hello everybody, We are scrubbing in

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Speaker 2: and I mean, let's just get right to it. We

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Speaker 2: have Teddy Mellencamp in the building.

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Speaker 3: Thank you guys for having me.

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Speaker 2: He brought us a special guest.

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Speaker 4: Well you know, I had to bring around my my

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Speaker 4: honky husband for the workout.

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Speaker 3: It's important.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, thanks for having him. You guys.

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Speaker 1: I'm obsessed with the two of you, really, Yeah, because Teddy,

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Speaker 1: you are on the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, you

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Speaker 1: have amazing children, you have your own accountability program that

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Speaker 1: I am a part of. And Edwin you started your

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Speaker 1: company from the ground up. You have an amazing story,

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Speaker 1: and also you have such a great marriage. But you're

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Speaker 1: so good individually. Like I just truly admire both of

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Speaker 1: you individually, and I think it's really cool when two

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Speaker 1: powerhouse people come together, because you build an empire.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 4: I think the biggest thing for us is we are

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Speaker 4: constantly telling each other it's one foot in front of

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Speaker 4: the other and something good is going to come of it.

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Speaker 4: If we just keep going. We don't know what it's

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Speaker 4: going to be all the time. We're not always we

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Speaker 4: don't have our finger right on the pulls like this

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Speaker 4: is where we're going. But every single day we wake

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Speaker 4: up early, we set our intentions, and we do our

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Speaker 4: best to complete them.

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Speaker 2: You just describe Tanya's dream relationship.

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Speaker 3: Truly, He's fine.

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Speaker 2: It's something to aspire to.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there's an edmon out there for me.

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Speaker 4: There is, But I want you to know it's not

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Speaker 4: always perfect, right, It's not always perfect. You have to

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Speaker 4: work on it, and you have to constantly be in

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Speaker 4: communication because the second that communication is lost, you start

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Speaker 4: to lose intimacy.

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Speaker 3: You start to lose what it is that you love

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Speaker 3: about each other.

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Speaker 4: And if you can't laugh and you can't cry together,

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Speaker 4: then you lose part of.

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Speaker 3: What it is that you love about that person.

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Speaker 2: I have a question, what if he What if I

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Speaker 2: can tell by looking at him that he enjoys working

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Speaker 2: out and eats clean?

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Speaker 3: I'm assuming sometimes No, he really doesn't.

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Speaker 4: Wait, really, he's just one of those hashtag blested Do

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Speaker 4: you get onto him?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 5: I ate, well, like eighty percent of the time, and

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Speaker 5: then twenty percent of the time, I'm sort of a mess.

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Speaker 3: He's like fully off the rails.

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Speaker 4: But while he's doing it, he's constantly commenting, Like he'll

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Speaker 4: look at me and he'll be.

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Speaker 3: Like, well, it's just for today. I'm like, yeah, I'm sure, buddy,

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Speaker 3: but at this point, I don't even think about it.

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Speaker 4: But he'll be on his like fifth bag of chips

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Speaker 4: and he's like, well, it's just you know, it's because

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Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, yeah, because it's after me, Chips.

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Speaker 5: Ice cream, and cheesecake are the three things I can't

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Speaker 2: Wow, that's a solid food group right there. He's all in, Well,

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Speaker 2: it's funny because, like obviously, when the last time we

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Speaker 2: did the podcast, he kind of talked about the program

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Speaker 2: and like tany doing that with you and how it

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Speaker 2: totally changed her life and I mean it totally changed

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Speaker 2: her body, but it really changed your life, like your

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Speaker 2: life and the way that you view working out and

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Speaker 2: eating healthy and being healthy. And now Teddy follows me

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Speaker 2: and if I talk about getting food or a snack,

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Speaker 2: she'll be like, what snack And I'm like, listen, I'm

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Speaker 2: not doing the program right now.

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Speaker 3: But you did reach out once, so I've reached out

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Speaker 3: I think twice.

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Speaker 1: No, this is what Teddy does, Like you'll like dip

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Speaker 1: your toe in and you'll kind of like have interest,

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Speaker 3: I won't ask him.

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Speaker 4: But I'm just subliminately there just reminded like your tweet.

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Speaker 4: I can't even remember what you tweeted, but you did

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Speaker 4: this like mass tweet and I just wrote back, Hey.

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Speaker 2: I didn't even know you followed me on Twitter at

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Speaker 2: that point, so that kind of scared me. It was like,

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Speaker 2: it's just a very eerie like I'm watching you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, just that you know, I would have never said

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Speaker 2: Wanted to change.

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Speaker 4: I'm not one of those people trolling the internet like

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Speaker 4: I wonder if they.

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Speaker 3: Want to change their lifestyle, but you won't.

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Speaker 1: You won't take anybody on unless they're hundred percent committed. Now, remember,

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Speaker 1: because I did the same thing. I dipped my toe

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Speaker 1: in and was like, boo, but I can't do this,

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Speaker 1: and she was like, Okay, come back to me. I

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Speaker 1: was like, okay, She's.

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Speaker 4: Like, but there's she set up all these different expectations

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Speaker 4: was like, well, that's neat.

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Speaker 3: Well, when you're ready to come back, not really interested.

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Speaker 2: This isn't your program, Tanya, You're not doing your program but.

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Speaker 3: On my program. But I mean you've completely embraced it.

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Speaker 3: You've changed your life.

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Speaker 4: I've seen a difference in your attitude and your confidence,

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Speaker 4: and you know, you start asking for things that you

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Speaker 4: didn't ask for before, you start expecting things that you

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Speaker 4: didn't think you expected before.

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Speaker 1: I think the thing that and I've told Teddy this too,

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Speaker 1: is like it did. It definitely did change me physically,

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Speaker 1: but I think mentally too, because I think when you're

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Speaker 1: you have you think you need the most expensive trainers

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Speaker 1: and you need like a chef to cook you all

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Speaker 1: this like food, and like that's really not what you

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Speaker 1: you need it. And I did the program. I lost

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Speaker 1: sixteen pounds. I'm not like a small chunk of change,

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Speaker 1: Like that's like a significant amount of weight. And I

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Speaker 3: It's not like.

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Speaker 4: You're doing this huge expense that you have to spend

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Speaker 4: maintain your lifestyle.

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Speaker 3: Change right, and I think you know, when you.

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Speaker 4: Live in a place like La where everything is like

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Speaker 4: like not only do you need the personal train or

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Speaker 4: buy these sets of classes at all these different locations,

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Speaker 4: and all of a sudden you're out thousands and thousands

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Speaker 2: I have a question though, because I feel like I've

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Speaker 2: talked to some of my friends who have done your

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna get back on Teddy like I got off,

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Speaker 2: I like went off the rails. And I'm like, are

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Speaker 2: like you know how to do it or what to do.

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Speaker 2: And they're like, there's something about, like can you explain

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Speaker 2: what it is that you do, because it's it's not

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Speaker 2: just because you would think, oh, I could say like hey, Tanya,

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Speaker 2: let's hold each other accountable, but there's some.

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Speaker 4: That you do that the difference is so and why

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Speaker 4: sometimes you'll have returning clients and sometimes you won't.

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Speaker 3: And you know, it really depends. I feel like Some people.

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Speaker 3: They see a big change and then they're like, ohh,

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Speaker 4: But then they don't realize all the work that you

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Speaker 4: have to continue putting into it to make that a

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Speaker 4: complete lifestyle change. And at first you can get away

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Speaker 3: My goal isn't that somebody is a client forever.

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Speaker 4: But my goal is for you to be able to

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Speaker 4: get to a place where you know when you're starting

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Speaker 4: to slip, and to be able to pull yourself back

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Speaker 4: in without me. But if you continue on with me,

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Speaker 4: I will make this such a habit for you that

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Speaker 4: ultimately you won't need me or one of my coaches

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Speaker 4: or whomever. It is like, at this point, I don't

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Speaker 4: every day wake up motivated and wanting to do this,

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Speaker 4: but I do it because it's a habit and I've

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Speaker 4: non negotiable at this point, so you're.

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Speaker 6: Not always to be motivated or inspired.

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Speaker 5: It's the habits and routines that will get you through

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Speaker 5: those days where you don't feel like doing things right.

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Speaker 5: And that's really what separates you know, the the what

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Speaker 5: makes people great is when you can do things on

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Speaker 5: those days that you don't want to do them, and

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Speaker 6: So we're huge on that stuff. Habits and routines.

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Speaker 2: Do do you feel like as a partnership that you

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Speaker 2: all hold each other accountable, Like if she's having a

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Speaker 7: She does the same thing.

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Speaker 6: I mean, you do the same thing.

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Speaker 4: But truthfully, at this point, you know, we we kind

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Speaker 4: you know, I do my five minute journal.

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Speaker 3: He reads the Bible like we do our things.

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Speaker 4: And then if we see that as a person, not

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Speaker 4: like moving to that next step, I'm.

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Speaker 3: Like, we're going to get after it today. Let's do this.

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Speaker 4: You know, you've give each other that little push, But

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Speaker 4: we're also aware that that doesn't happen for everybody. Everybody

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Speaker 4: doesn't have that. And until you put it in yourself.

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Speaker 4: It's not gonna matter. I mean, I was telling my

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Speaker 4: girlfriends who were just here about when I first wanted

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Speaker 4: just I would fly by the wind whatever I felt

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Speaker 4: at that time, and he would he would say, let's

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Speaker 4: go work out, and I'd be like, give him this look,

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Speaker 4: like what I need to work out?

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Speaker 2: What are you trying to say?

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Speaker 3: You know? So it's just it's really within you.

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Speaker 8: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's a lot of people will like

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Speaker 1: come to me and I'm like, you work out every day?

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Speaker 1: How do you do that? I'm like, it's not like

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Speaker 1: I'm doing a ten every day. I'm not like like

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Speaker 1: running a million miles every single day. Some days I'm tired,

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Speaker 1: some days I'm on my period and I'm like gonna

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Speaker 1: go at a two, but I'm still gonna take time

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Speaker 1: for myself. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But I feel like for you, it's all like it's

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Speaker 2: gotten to a point where it's like therapy for you

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Speaker 2: because you're just like, also, sorry, this is off subject,

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Speaker 2: wanted to bring it up. Is that trainer that we

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Speaker 6: Is, he is.

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Speaker 4: It's committed to yourself and it's committed. I've noticed so

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Speaker 4: And as soon as you realize, I don't really care

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Speaker 4: This is what makes me feel good. I don't care

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Speaker 4: Not because I'm trying to make you feel bad. If

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Speaker 4: If you get out and do something for you, you're

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Speaker 5: But no, I think at first I was so nervous

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Speaker 4: But then I filled the tequila up with water and.

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Speaker 4: So that was Listen, if this is going to be

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Speaker 5: Now I just drink, get your energy level, get my

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Speaker 5: you going to leave this job that's paying you seventy

447
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Speaker 5: thousand dollars a year. This is back in nineteen ninety nine,

448
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Speaker 5: which is probably worth a hundred fIF ground now. But

449
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Speaker 5: what I was doing at sixteen years old, I call

450
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Speaker 5: it touching the dream and being exposed to the dream.

451
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Speaker 5: And there's this part of your brain that's called the

452
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Speaker 5: reticular activating system, and it's part of your subconscious mind.

453
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Speaker 5: So your conscious mind, get it can't gather everything you see.

454
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Speaker 5: It doesn't gather it because if you hear, see whatever,

455
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Speaker 5: it will overwhelm your brain. And that's where some conscience

456
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Speaker 5: comes in, because that gathers everything it sees and gathers

457
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Speaker 5: everything it touches. And the reticular activating system is a

458
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Speaker 5: filter that feeds your conscience mind what it needs to know,

459
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Speaker 5: and it filters it by three things, which is what

460
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Speaker 5: your dreams and goals are, what you need for survival,

461
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Speaker 5: and then your belief. So when I was sixteen years old,

462
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Speaker 5: that was my dream, that was my goal. I needed

463
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Speaker 5: that for survival. I needed by my mom's home, so

464
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Speaker 5: all these things. So when that opportunity came, it was

465
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Speaker 5: easy for me because I knew that that's what I

466
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Speaker 5: needed to.

467
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Speaker 6: Do to go after my dreams.

468
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Speaker 5: If I wouldn't have gone out of the bubble that

469
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Speaker 5: I was in because I grew up in Southeast LA,

470
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Speaker 5: which is basically next to Watts and Compton, If I

471
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Speaker 5: wouldn't have left that little bubble, seventy thousand dollars a

472
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Speaker 5: year would have been Like I mean, I was already

473
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Speaker 5: living the life at that point.

474
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Speaker 6: Ye, if I wouldn't have left that bubble.

475
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Speaker 5: But because I left that bubble and I was exposed

476
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Speaker 5: to that dream and I was able to touch the dream,

477
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Speaker 5: it made me want more. So I'm huge on that

478
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Speaker 5: part and I always talk about that part of my successes.

479
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Speaker 5: At a young age, I put myself in places where,

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Speaker 5: you know, even though I wasn't making that much money,

481
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Speaker 5: once a month, I'd go treat myself to a nice

482
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Speaker 5: steak and I'd pay, you know, one hundred and fifty

483
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Speaker 5: bucks for that dinner. But it made me want more.

484
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Speaker 7: It made me.

485
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Speaker 4: Always step out of your comfort zone, because you can't

486
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Speaker 4: grow inside of your comfort zone.

487
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Speaker 5: So you grow the most when you're put yourself in

488
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Speaker 5: pressure situations. We're going in discomfort, and that's what I

489
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Speaker 5: love about the all in brand because all in, when

490
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Speaker 5: you're all in, you put your you put yourself in

491
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Speaker 5: a vulnerable situation. And no one wants to feel vulnerable

492
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Speaker 5: because everyone you know is afraid of getting hurt and

493
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Speaker 5: all that stuff. But that's how you're going to grow

494
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Speaker 5: and whatever you go after, you have to go all

495
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Speaker 5: in and be vulnerable. And I think that's a trait

496
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Speaker 5: that a lot of successful people have, is they put

497
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Speaker 5: themselves in vulnerable situations and if you get hurt, you

498
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Speaker 5: get hurt.

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Speaker 6: But you know that's the way you're going to grow.

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Speaker 1: WHOA, It's true.

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Speaker 2: That's like I didn't. I mean, she just like before

502
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Speaker 2: we even started the workout, she's like, have you ever

503
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Speaker 2: heard a story? I was like no, so I was

504
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Speaker 2: really interested to hear.

505
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Speaker 1: But yeah, and it goes like deep too, because I mean,

506
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Speaker 1: I know you're really rooted in faith and so I

507
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Speaker 1: love that element of it too.

508
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Speaker 5: But belief is you got to have monster belief.

509
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Speaker 4: And when we when we are going to church every Sunday,

510
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Speaker 4: we are the most connected that we ever are. It's

511
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Speaker 4: like we are it's something we do together as a family.

512
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Speaker 4: It's something that we look forward to and when we're not.

513
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Speaker 4: You can feel it and we can fail it in

514
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Speaker 4: our life.

515
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Speaker 2: I know. I think we've discussed often about I mean,

516
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Speaker 2: getting into more like the relationship thing is like having

517
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Speaker 2: that faith is a foundation, Like you know, I think

518
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Speaker 2: there's a lot of people who are in relationships where

519
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Speaker 2: maybe the faith isn't the same or they you know,

520
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Speaker 2: aren't like don't have the same beliefs or whatever. And

521
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Speaker 2: I think it can work, obviously, but I do think

522
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Speaker 2: there is something in the strength of being like rooted

523
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Speaker 2: together in that having that together.

524
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Speaker 4: And so you know, Tanya, when I first met Edwin,

525
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Speaker 4: I had never really gone to church. So just because

526
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Speaker 4: you meet somebody and maybe they don't have the same

527
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Speaker 4: faith that you hope that's what we were talking about with

528
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Speaker 4: that too, It doesn't mean anything because truthfully, at first

529
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Speaker 4: when I met him, he was like, Okay, I go

530
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Speaker 4: to church on Sundays. And I was like, okay, I

531
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Speaker 4: go on Christmas.

532
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Speaker 3: You know, like I have never been exposed to that.

533
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, And Tany, you need to listen right now, because

535
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Speaker 9: you I think your mind sometimes Yeah.

536
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Speaker 1: I've gotten that. Yeah, because I always thought I needed

537
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Speaker 1: to have somebody that was like at the same level

538
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Speaker 1: of faith as me, and now I feel like it

539
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Speaker 1: might be me that is the one that has the

540
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Speaker 1: stronger faith that leads somebody else then and it is

541
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Speaker 1: at the opposite thing.

542
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Speaker 6: And I mean, it comes with time.

543
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Speaker 3: It comes with time, and it's not gonna happen overnight.

544
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Speaker 7: You know.

545
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Speaker 3: I started going.

546
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Speaker 4: You know, I used to work Sundays when I rode

547
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Speaker 4: horses for a living, so I, you know, had my

548
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Speaker 4: excuse and why I couldn't go. Yeah, And then I

549
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Speaker 4: started realizing when he was going every Sunday.

550
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Speaker 3: I was like, he is such a better person.

551
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Speaker 4: When he because every Sunday like I only for that

552
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Speaker 4: reason alone. I was like, all right, I'm starting to go.

553
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Speaker 4: I switched my work schedule. I said, can I work

554
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Speaker 4: this day instead of Sunday? I started going. I watched

555
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Speaker 4: how we started connecting more. I watched how holding ourself

556
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Speaker 4: accountable to doing that together from the you know, non

557
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Speaker 4: negotiable for us changed everything.

558
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Speaker 5: The first thing I told him when we got married

559
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Speaker 5: was you got to make sure I keep going to

560
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Speaker 5: church on Sundays, otherwise we might have issues.

561
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Speaker 6: And she's there's times where I don't want to go,

562
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Speaker 6: and she pushes me to go.

563
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Speaker 4: Yeah, and I'm like, Okay, great, if we really can't

564
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Speaker 4: go on Sunday, we're going to watch it on TV.

565
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Speaker 4: You know, there's there's so many different avenues to get faith, like,

566
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Speaker 4: and people have this stigma that if if you're a Christian,

567
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Speaker 4: you're judgmental or that you have to follow these set

568
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Speaker 4: of guidelines.

569
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Speaker 3: It's really not. It's believing in something.

570
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Speaker 4: It's believing in a higher power and having faith and

571
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Speaker 4: connect through it and being kind and and that's really and.

572
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Speaker 2: You can get it anyway.

573
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Speaker 4: You can get it on your laptop, you can get

574
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Speaker 4: it by going somewhere. You can get it by listening

575
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Speaker 4: to worship songs, you know, like I listened to like

576
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Speaker 4: learn Danglon and I'm like, Okay, I'm getting it, you know, Like.

577
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Speaker 2: I just think it's I think it's really cool to

578
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Speaker 2: know that, like like y'all met and y'all weren't necessary,

579
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Speaker 2: Like that was probably very important to you, but you

580
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Speaker 2: met her and you were like, whatever, I'm going to

581
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Speaker 2: do my thing still, like whether she wants to go

582
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Speaker 2: or not. And then the fact that.

583
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Speaker 5: Perfect because I mean the way we met was not bad.

584
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean we didn't meet in like a romantic

585
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Speaker 3: I mean, but that's why I'm saying it. There's no judgment.

586
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Speaker 3: You want growth.

587
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Speaker 2: And I like that what you found appealing about it

588
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Speaker 2: was that he you noticed something different about him when

589
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Speaker 2: he went to church. Like that's that's kind of what

590
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Speaker 2: I feel like faith is supposed to be, that there's

591
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Speaker 2: something that stands out with someone. It's like this goodness

592
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Speaker 2: that you do, it.

593
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Speaker 5: Holds you accountable. Yeah, and I think when you stop going,

594
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Speaker 5: you start to derail yourself, right, because there's so many

595
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Speaker 5: things happening that you need to be rooted. And that's

596
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Speaker 5: why I've always been big on that. I've always told Teddy, hey,

597
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Speaker 5: make sure I'm always heading to church, and when I

598
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Speaker 5: stop getting going, make sure that I go back to it.

599
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Speaker 5: So she's been great with that and holding me accountable

600
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Speaker 5: with that.

601
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Speaker 1: That's awesome, it's amazing. Well, thank you so much for

602
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Speaker 1: taking the time. We want to make sure that everybody,

603
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Speaker 1: all of our listeners know. Obviously this is your new

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Speaker 1: I mean, you've had your program all in by Teddy,

605
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Speaker 1: that's like a thing, but you just launched the.

606
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Speaker 3: Workout thirty thirty minute cardio.

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Speaker 1: Yes, so tell everybody where they can find it, how

608
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Speaker 1: they can find it.

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Speaker 4: If you go into all in by Teddy dot com

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Speaker 4: and you go down to the workout tab. You can

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Speaker 4: either do the workout once for four ninety nine or

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Speaker 4: if you do nineteen ninety nine, you can have the

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Speaker 4: video and you can do it as often as you want.

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Speaker 4: It's the perfect workout for if you're in your home,

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Speaker 3: There's really absolutely no.

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Speaker 4: Excuse because you can do it anywhere. You don't need

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Speaker 4: a ton of space, you can do it with friends.

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Speaker 2: That was a lot of I sweated a lot.

623
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Speaker 7: I felt.

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Speaker 2: There's any of me just like laying on the ground.

625
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Speaker 2: I'm like, who took them? Like why did we film

626
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Speaker 2: me that? I was actually doing some stuff at some points,

627
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Speaker 2: and the videos I saw I'm like laying there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was really hard.

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Speaker 3: That was a special birthday treat.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Yeah, thank you so much.

631
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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Guys.

633
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Speaker 2: Is awesome.

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Speaker 1: up to nine pounds in the first two weeks. That's like,

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Speaker 1: I'm not good at math. What is that zero point

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Speaker 1: four of a pound a day?

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Speaker 7: No, No, that's not what that is.

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Speaker 1: But maybe two weeks is fourteen days, right, nine pounds

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Speaker 1: in fourteen days, so it's.

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Speaker 11: Fourteen divided by nine. Yeah, so it's one point one

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Speaker 2: So all I have to do is text.

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Speaker 7: Beca to thirty thirty thirty And what.

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Speaker 2: Should we text to thirty thirty thirty Becca, I mean

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Speaker 2: you took a deep sigh. Do you have an intro ready? Oh?

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Speaker 1: Well, I was gonna say, I mean I loved having

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Speaker 1: Teddy and Edwin here.

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Speaker 2: That was really I know special, I was especial last

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Speaker 2: time she was on the podcast. You're just gonna creep

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Speaker 2: in like, yeah, wait for introduction, Ben, Yeah, but yeah,

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Speaker 2: thank you to Teddy and Edwin for being here. They're awesome.

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Speaker 2: They're a power couple. I mean speaking of awesome and

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Speaker 2: not necessarily a couple, but a powerful human being. We

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Speaker 2: have Ben Higgins in the scrubbing in o R. How

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Speaker 2: does it feel to scribed this is your first official

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Speaker 2: scrubbing I called in once.

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Speaker 7: This is no this Yeah, this is big.

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Speaker 10: Well, it's kind of odd because I was sitting over

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Speaker 10: on the side waiting, and I feel like, now, even

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Speaker 10: though I know you both and respect you, like I

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Speaker 10: was a little nervous because of your nomination that I

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Speaker 10: feel like I'm walking into something like really important, like

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Speaker 10: I don't want to mess it up.

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Speaker 7: Oh no, that's kind of true.

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Speaker 1: I see genuine behind me.

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Speaker 2: Yes, you're a fool. I know. I was on a

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Speaker 2: TV show with him. He walked me dead in the

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Speaker 2: eye said he wasn't gonna send me without a warning,

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Speaker 2: send me home without a warning. You don't trust that,

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Speaker 2: sweet face.

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Speaker 10: I'll never I'll never forget worse on Dan in my hometown,

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Speaker 10: sitting on the park bench in front of the city

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Speaker 10: hall and Beca goes, you told me you would warm me.

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Speaker 7: I was like, how was I supposed to warn you?

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Speaker 2: A hand signal? Anything? Carrier pigeon and there could have

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Speaker 2: been away.

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Speaker 10: She was the only person they really get really mad

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Speaker 10: at me when they left the show, and I was

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Speaker 10: like Becca out of everybody.

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Speaker 7: Like because I asked, Yeah, I was sad.

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Speaker 10: Becca's still on my phone, So can we talk about

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Speaker 10: this now?

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Speaker 7: I think it's time?

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Speaker 2: Is time? Yeah?

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Speaker 7: I think it's time. What well, what's the worst thing

742
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Speaker 7: that can happen? I?

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Speaker 1: Wait, what now you have?

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Speaker 7: Yeah?

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Speaker 10: So Becca and I actually talked before the show, and

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Speaker 10: what happened was we had two phone conversations. I remember this,

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Speaker 10: and we texted probably not a ton and she's like,

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Speaker 10: do you think like we didn't know each other? Well yeah,

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Speaker 10: but she was like, do you think it's worth me

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Speaker 10: at least giving this a shot? At this point, like

751
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Speaker 10: I was already going to be the Bachelor.

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Speaker 2: And producers would reached out to me about going.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, and I said, I do.

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Speaker 10: I think it's really I think it's worth like us

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Speaker 10: exploring if this could be something. And I don't, like,

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Speaker 10: I'm going to do the show, and so it's not

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Speaker 10: like we can now date off the side, and I

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Speaker 10: don't know where this is going to take me, So

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Speaker 10: please come on the show. But she's in my phone

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Speaker 10: back then as Virginia Till. I don't know why I

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Speaker 10: forget the Virginia part because.

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Speaker 2: It's a virgin. Oh, like you told me that. It

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Speaker 2: wasn't like the first I'm hearing about it.

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Speaker 10: No, I forgot that, yeah, because she was a virgin,

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Speaker 10: So I put Virginia Till on my phone. She's still

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Speaker 10: that today.

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Speaker 2: I had a name for you too, but I can't remember.

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Speaker 2: It was like funny or like memorable. No, that is

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Speaker 2: so funny.

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Speaker 10: So we've never I don't think we've ever publicly shared that.

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Speaker 7: But I knew.

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Speaker 10: I knew she was going to be there, or I

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Speaker 10: was expecting her to be there. She's the only one

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Speaker 10: I knew would be there. Is that crazy?

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Speaker 3: Wow?

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Speaker 2: Pretty good? Yeah, But it was like I was nervous

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Speaker 2: because I'm like, I mean, he just it was the

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Speaker 2: same thing as me. Everyone's like, y'all would be great together,

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Speaker 2: Like we hadn't met, like we didn't know, like you know,

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Speaker 2: what the connection would be. So when I walked in

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Speaker 2: that night, I still like even walking in, I was like,

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Speaker 2: what am I?

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Speaker 7: Yeah? But how did you know? How did you get

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Speaker 7: each other's phone numbers?

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Speaker 2: Like Instagram?

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Speaker 7: Yeah? Like a message? Were there multiple contestants that reached

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Speaker 7: out to you? No? No, really? You know.

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Speaker 10: It was a little different with Becca because she had

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Speaker 10: been on the show. Like I, I didn't want to

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Speaker 10: put her through a show again if it wasn't worth it.

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Speaker 10: But I knew that I was interested, and so I

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Speaker 10: was like, what how else are we going to do this?

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Speaker 10: There was no other option other than for her to

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Speaker 10: come on the show. But then again, it just still

795
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Speaker 10: was and I think it worked out like it wasn't

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Speaker 10: a bad decision, right.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, not at all.

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Speaker 10: You know, I love you, I know so, but that

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Speaker 10: was that was it. So nobody has known that until

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Speaker 10: scrubbing in, and I thought this was a good time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's great, that's a great teaser.

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Speaker 11: It's weird kind of the burden that's been lifted off

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Speaker 11: my shoulders.

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Speaker 7: I've cared for years.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so funny. I've always been like I've never told anyonebody,

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Speaker 2: and I don't know why. I thought like everyone talks

807
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Speaker 2: before they go on the show, Like, I don't know why.

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Speaker 2: In my head, I felt like I'm going to get

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Speaker 2: put in jail or something.

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Speaker 7: Yeah.

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Speaker 10: At the time, it was more protecting both of us

812
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Speaker 10: because it was like, I don't want people to think

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Speaker 10: that Becca has an unfair advantage.

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Speaker 7: Yeah she didn't.

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Speaker 12: I know.

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Speaker 2: If anything, I almost felt like it was kind of

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Speaker 2: a disadvantage because it was like all these like fresh

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Speaker 2: people and I was like old news, you know what

819
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Speaker 2: I'm saying.

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Speaker 10: No, well you are thirty now, so wow, take.

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Speaker 2: That job at me a just a weekend to my thirties.

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Speaker 2: You're going to do that?

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Speaker 7: What are you thirty? Bad?

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Speaker 11: Because that's coming yeah two months? Oh no, yeah, three months.

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Speaker 7: Three months of his twenties. I'm thirty. I'm yeah.

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Speaker 10: It is a little exciting. I don't know how you

827
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Speaker 10: felt last week, Becca, but I love it. Yeah, it's

828
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Speaker 10: kind of just like I'm done with it. This is

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Speaker 10: the birthday that I feel like everybody is like scared

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Speaker 10: to get to forty is fine, fifties really fine, sixty

831
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Speaker 10: you know, is whatever it is.

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Speaker 7: But thirty is that.

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Speaker 10: Marthya're like I'm no longer like I no longer have

834
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Speaker 10: the option to be immature, and like that's the mark

835
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Speaker 10: is like I can't just mess around anymore.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, man, you've been mature since you're like twelve.

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Speaker 7: I bad, No, I think. So I've had this there.

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Speaker 10: I I don't know if I've shared this with you too,

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Speaker 10: but you know I've I've smoked my tobacco pipe, I read,

840
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Speaker 10: and I try like I stay very disconnected from technology

841
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Speaker 10: on purpose because here's my three. If I can start

842
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 10: prepping myself to be older younger, then getting older will

843
00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 10: never be a disappointment, will just be like the rest

844
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Speaker 10: of my life.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But then it's like that's all you have, Like you're

847
00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:11,839
Speaker 2: like wasting time of being useful and being dumb.

848
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Speaker 10: Yeah, because.

849
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Speaker 2: Like you're entering that whether you want to or not.

850
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Speaker 1: Is that your excuse for like not texting people back?

851
00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 10: That just starts clapping like we did because I knew,

852
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Speaker 10: I knew Tanya was ready to go.

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Speaker 2: Is that what it is?

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Speaker 1: You just like to like play old and like pet

855
00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:33,040
Speaker 1: your phone technology too much for all?

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Speaker 10: Right, Tanya, let's get into this. I I don't know Tanya.

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Speaker 10: I've been I've I've had this like and this is

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Speaker 10: this is from the heart. I think I've always loved Tanya.

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Speaker 10: I think you know that. Like I just think you

860
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:52,320
Speaker 10: are like a light and you bring a ton of

861
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Speaker 10: light to people around you. And you walked into this

862
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Speaker 10: world of entertainment and media and like shine something different

863
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Speaker 10: than anybody else does. So Tanya to me is like

864
00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 10: this super precious ball of a person. And then I've

865
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Speaker 10: gotten to know Tanya over the last two years, and

866
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Speaker 10: she's gotten increasingly angrier at me as time has gone on,

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Speaker 10: and it just kind of like, I think it just

868
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 10: kind of came to the surface. I hurtfest this year

869
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Speaker 10: was Tanya looked at me, and I think her exact

870
00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:23,800
Speaker 10: words were, what go ahead?

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Speaker 1: Remember when we used to be friends?

872
00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:26,919
Speaker 10: Remember when you used to be friends?

873
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 7: And I said, I never knew we were not friends anymore?

874
00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:32,279
Speaker 7: And your response was.

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00:36:34,320 --> 00:36:35,280
Speaker 1: I can't remember.

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00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 10: She just feels like she puts more effort into our

877
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Speaker 10: relationship than I do. For sure, I do you do?

878
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Speaker 7: And I admitted that she definitely does.

879
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 10: And I was hurt because it took me off guard,

880
00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:48,120
Speaker 10: like it threw me off where I was like, I

881
00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 10: didn't realize that we had tension.

882
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Speaker 1: First of all, it's like not really tension, man.

883
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Speaker 2: Like you're kind of making yourself seem more special, Like

884
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Speaker 2: I see her in the morning and by the afternoon,

885
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Speaker 2: she's like, do you even love me anymore?

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Speaker 7: This is a time we see. I don't get that.

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Speaker 10: So I didn't mean to make myself feel more special.

888
00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:09,040
Speaker 2: I don't sorry, Ben, You're not that You're not she

889
00:37:09,120 --> 00:37:10,160
Speaker 2: don't care that much.

890
00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:12,160
Speaker 7: But I didn't know this with a Tanya move.

891
00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 10: So I went to Beck and I was like, yeah,

892
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:14,840
Speaker 10: that's so sad.

893
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:17,240
Speaker 2: He looked literally like someone had stolen his popcast.

894
00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:19,120
Speaker 7: So that gay.

895
00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:21,640
Speaker 10: I don't know what happened, but I don't like this,

896
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:27,960
Speaker 10: like and she's like, Ben, this is Tanya. I was like, oh, so,

897
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:31,480
Speaker 10: I feel like we were mending because I communicated my care.

898
00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:34,760
Speaker 10: So last week, Tanya facetimes me during my restaurant opening.

899
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:37,440
Speaker 10: We had my restaurant opening, and I listened to the

900
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 10: podcast last week and I heard the quote that Tanya

901
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:42,279
Speaker 10: just likes to FaceTime at the most inappropriate times, and.

902
00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:42,839
Speaker 7: This was one of those.

903
00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:44,319
Speaker 10: So I'm doing this tasting with a bunch of people

904
00:37:44,320 --> 00:37:46,799
Speaker 10: in one room. I get a FaceTime from Tanya. I'm like, oh, okay,

905
00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 10: I'm gonna answer this because it's no longer get am

906
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:50,560
Speaker 10: I ever gonna get criticized for not being a good

907
00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:53,360
Speaker 10: friend of Tanya because I do love Tanya. So I answer,

908
00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:56,120
Speaker 10: she's in a towel, cooking in her kitchen.

909
00:37:57,680 --> 00:38:04,360
Speaker 12: Yeah, make it. I thought it was risk cooking in

910
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:06,400
Speaker 12: the kitchen, big robe. But I could tell them, you

911
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 12: have no shame to FaceTime anybody at any time.

912
00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 1: No, my hair was sopping wet, I had no makeup

913
00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 1: on and had my giant robe on.

914
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:17,560
Speaker 2: In his mind things that your big puffy rope hotewel.

915
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 2: It is really funny.

916
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:22,040
Speaker 1: It's like she's got this little.

917
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:24,080
Speaker 2: Towel, how barely hanging on.

918
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 1: That's a gigantic bathroom. But I appreciate that.

919
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:31,160
Speaker 2: But you answered, I didn't.

920
00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 7: I did.

921
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:34,880
Speaker 10: I answered, and I thought, I thought. After I hung up,

922
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:36,480
Speaker 10: I was like, okay, Like that had to show that

923
00:38:36,520 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 10: I cared. Like I walked out of the restaurant, stood

924
00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:42,120
Speaker 10: outside like told everybody like, sorry, give me a second,

925
00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 10: answered and said, hey, Tanya, how you doing? I met

926
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:47,200
Speaker 10: a restaurant opening. She's like, I get it, Okay, have

927
00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:48,600
Speaker 10: a good one, just wishing you the best, and I

928
00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:51,480
Speaker 10: was like, that's freaking Tanya, just being nice?

929
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:53,560
Speaker 2: Did that? Did that? Do you feel like that mended

930
00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 2: things for you? Did that help?

931
00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:58,839
Speaker 1: It really helped me on the mend? Just be totally fair.

932
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 1: I really never had towards you. I always say that.

933
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:03,399
Speaker 1: I always say, like, remember when you used to love

934
00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 1: me like tobacco, probably say it, probably say it weekly.

935
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:06,840
Speaker 1: Remember when you used to love me?

936
00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:08,840
Speaker 7: I get it bi weekly?

937
00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:12,320
Speaker 1: Really yeah, So just so you know, that is something

938
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:16,120
Speaker 1: that I say and jest. I don't truly, However, I

939
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: do feel like I put more into the relationship than

940
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:19,239
Speaker 1: you do.

941
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:22,279
Speaker 11: I agree, I do. I feel like that's true all

942
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:24,560
Speaker 11: of your relationships. And I don't mean that in the meanyway.

943
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:26,319
Speaker 11: That came off meter than I meant it what.

944
00:39:26,320 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 1: You're saying, because I care a lot, Yes, exactly. Yeah,

945
00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 1: I have some friends that care the exact same way

946
00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:34,160
Speaker 1: back with me.

947
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:36,640
Speaker 10: Okay, how often are you communicating with these people?

948
00:39:36,640 --> 00:39:36,799
Speaker 7: Then?

949
00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:37,280
Speaker 1: Daily?

950
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:38,280
Speaker 7: Like hourly?

951
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:38,759
Speaker 2: No?

952
00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 7: Yeah?

953
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 10: I mean all I can imagine is if like to

954
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 10: show like your amount of care collided with somebody else's

955
00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:48,919
Speaker 10: amount of care would be like a like that gives

956
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:51,760
Speaker 10: me anxiety of just building it with my hands.

957
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:56,200
Speaker 1: Amount of care it could be something as simple as

958
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:58,719
Speaker 1: like showing up for me for something. Does that make sense? So,

959
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:02,120
Speaker 1: like I have a friend who is always there even

960
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:04,359
Speaker 1: when I don't think I need somebody. Does that make sense?

961
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 1: And I can go a day without speaking to her.

962
00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 1: Pauline and Sophia, Yeah, I can go a day or

963
00:40:09,680 --> 00:40:11,399
Speaker 1: two without speaking to them at all, but I know

964
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:13,719
Speaker 1: that they're always they will show up no matter what,

965
00:40:13,800 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 1: even when I don't think I need somebody. So it's

966
00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:19,960
Speaker 1: not necessarily about being in constant communication because like, look,

967
00:40:19,960 --> 00:40:21,719
Speaker 1: I haven't checked my phone, and like, I don't know

968
00:40:21,760 --> 00:40:24,120
Speaker 1: how long we've been doing this. It's been a few

969
00:40:24,160 --> 00:40:27,319
Speaker 1: hours since the five o'clock this morning. So I can

970
00:40:27,400 --> 00:40:29,520
Speaker 1: go a really long time without communicating with people. But

971
00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 1: it's the it's the it's the sentiment behind it. Yeah,

972
00:40:34,760 --> 00:40:36,560
Speaker 1: do you think that's uh, just a little more sentiment

973
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:36,840
Speaker 1: from you?

974
00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 7: Yeah?

975
00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:40,920
Speaker 10: Do guys typically give you that much sentiment? Like do

976
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:43,000
Speaker 10: you know any like males in your life that have

977
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:44,360
Speaker 10: given you that much sentiment?

978
00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:44,920
Speaker 3: Yes?

979
00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:48,120
Speaker 1: Okay, my dad is being one of them, my father

980
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 1: being one of them.

981
00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:54,000
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, dad, Yeah, but that but that makes sense.

982
00:40:54,040 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 11: That's somebody her dad is like that, and so that's

983
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:58,719
Speaker 11: kind of sets up the expectations for the guys in life.

984
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:00,120
Speaker 7: Yeah that's true. True.

985
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:02,560
Speaker 10: Yeah, Well, I've got stuff I need to work on.

986
00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:03,400
Speaker 2: I know that.

987
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:04,359
Speaker 10: That's my takeaway on.

988
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:06,799
Speaker 11: The Almost Famous podcast. Recently, we've learned that Ben's kind

989
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 11: of losing touch with society in the world. I don't

990
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:12,840
Speaker 11: know what's going on with him, but like he hasn't

991
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:14,799
Speaker 11: seen any movies. He didn't know there was a new

992
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 11: Halloween movie, Like that was news to him. He was like,

993
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:19,279
Speaker 11: really it wasn't new one. Oh cool, Like he's kind

994
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:21,360
Speaker 11: of not involved in the world.

995
00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:23,799
Speaker 10: I've like separated somehow, and I don't know how.

996
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:24,879
Speaker 7: I thought.

997
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:27,759
Speaker 10: I thought The Greatest Showman was in twenty eighteen.

998
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:28,759
Speaker 7: It was a new movie. I thought it was a

999
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:30,400
Speaker 7: new movie that really did.

1000
00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:32,960
Speaker 2: Wait, Okay, do you are you?

1001
00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:34,080
Speaker 7: Yeah?

1002
00:41:34,160 --> 00:41:35,200
Speaker 2: Like, are you happy to be.

1003
00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:37,200
Speaker 10: A separate It's not, But it's not like something I'm

1004
00:41:37,200 --> 00:41:39,640
Speaker 10: ashamed of. I've gotten ashamed of it because it's kept

1005
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:41,880
Speaker 10: me disconnected from other people, Like I don't know what

1006
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 10: people are talking about anymore.

1007
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:44,440
Speaker 7: Like That's when I realized it.

1008
00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:46,920
Speaker 10: During the Almost Famous podcast, people were talking about this stuff,

1009
00:41:47,200 --> 00:41:49,400
Speaker 10: and I was just like, I don't get it, Like

1010
00:41:49,560 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 10: I didn't like I wasn't tracking. And so then I realized, Yeah,

1011
00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:55,759
Speaker 10: I've disconnected myself in the world, which isn't a bad thing.

1012
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 10: I'm writing a book right now, so one of those

1013
00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:00,160
Speaker 10: reasons that I've oh, yeah, so I'm writing it, and

1014
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:02,880
Speaker 10: and so I've like anytime I do have to disconnect,

1015
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:08,359
Speaker 10: I purposely disconnect. But I'm realizing I'm doing it better

1016
00:42:08,360 --> 00:42:09,040
Speaker 10: than I thought I was.

1017
00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 2: I think I I don't know if it's just because

1018
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:18,200
Speaker 2: of a lot of the guys. I think you've separated

1019
00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 2: yourself from like the Bachelor World a lot, and I

1020
00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:22,680
Speaker 2: feel like you get out of that and it's all

1021
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:25,920
Speaker 2: it is is about social media and pop culture and

1022
00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:28,239
Speaker 2: like what's going on in the world. So there has

1023
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 2: to be an element where it feels really good to

1024
00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 2: like not have to worry about that or care about that.

1025
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:36,520
Speaker 10: Yeah, I wonder if you you feel like this, and Tanya,

1026
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:40,480
Speaker 10: you have this this job that is going to sustain

1027
00:42:40,520 --> 00:42:42,080
Speaker 10: you for a long time because you're really get at it.

1028
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:47,000
Speaker 10: But for me, you know, almost famous and my heart

1029
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:49,640
Speaker 10: have been incredible to me, But I know that, like

1030
00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:52,640
Speaker 10: my time on the show piece is done, you know,

1031
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:56,080
Speaker 10: it's it's done, and it's and so the the attraction

1032
00:42:56,160 --> 00:42:58,520
Speaker 10: to me getting pulled back into it, or those opportunities

1033
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 10: are getting invited to AMA's and that kind of saf

1034
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:02,560
Speaker 10: like that's going to be fleeting and fading. And I've

1035
00:43:02,600 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 10: always been okay with it, I really but I wonder

1036
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 10: now that I see it like tangibly happening, that I'm

1037
00:43:07,239 --> 00:43:11,840
Speaker 10: actually a little sad. Yeah, you like to disconnect myself

1038
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:14,239
Speaker 10: intentionally from the world because the Bachelor's been good to me.

1039
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:17,719
Speaker 10: The people are great. I made amazing friendships. It's exciting

1040
00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:19,560
Speaker 10: for me. I get super pumped up. When I went

1041
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 10: to Vegas. I was giddy, like I had like anxiety

1042
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 10: because I was so excited to be there with everybody.

1043
00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:27,800
Speaker 10: And I hope that never faced. I hope I continue

1044
00:43:27,800 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 10: to do that stuff. But I have disconnected because of

1045
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:33,600
Speaker 10: other stuff happening in my life. And I wonder now

1046
00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:36,279
Speaker 10: if I'm starting to like get a little bit emotional

1047
00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 10: of the idea that this is all closer to being

1048
00:43:39,320 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 10: done than it ever has been thirty Maybe is that

1049
00:43:41,680 --> 00:43:44,680
Speaker 10: signed for me too. I don't know, I'm I'm dealing

1050
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:46,800
Speaker 10: with it. Mark's right. Almost famous. Podcast has brought to

1051
00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:49,800
Speaker 10: light some some things going.

1052
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:51,440
Speaker 7: On that I need to dig into, and I do

1053
00:43:51,480 --> 00:43:52,200
Speaker 7: find that interesting.

1054
00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 11: The awareness of the finite amount of time that the

1055
00:43:57,680 --> 00:43:59,480
Speaker 11: Bachelor or I need this kind of fame might be

1056
00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:01,200
Speaker 11: connect done to be the batches. Any kind of fame,

1057
00:44:01,239 --> 00:44:03,839
Speaker 11: a lot of it has a certain shelf life to it. Yeah,

1058
00:44:03,880 --> 00:44:06,239
Speaker 11: and that awareness I would think would be very stressful,

1059
00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 11: but also in your case seems like it might be

1060
00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 11: a little exciting.

1061
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:11,520
Speaker 10: It's exciting because the next the next chapter is on

1062
00:44:11,520 --> 00:44:13,640
Speaker 10: the horizon. And I got to do all this when

1063
00:44:13,640 --> 00:44:15,879
Speaker 10: I was younger, right, Like Beck and I both are

1064
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:19,240
Speaker 10: just turning thirty, and all this happened in our twenties,

1065
00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:21,800
Speaker 10: which is when I would have, you know, ideally prefer

1066
00:44:22,040 --> 00:44:23,799
Speaker 10: Ashley said something the other day on the podcast, and

1067
00:44:23,840 --> 00:44:27,440
Speaker 10: she said that every for the first time in a

1068
00:44:27,480 --> 00:44:29,279
Speaker 10: long time, she had a Saturday with nothing to do.

1069
00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:32,000
Speaker 10: She was Scenaria Couch and Jared and Herriston and she's like,

1070
00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:35,080
Speaker 10: I have no plans and it's quiet, and she's like,

1071
00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:38,040
Speaker 10: I got stressed out that how long? That quite could last,

1072
00:44:39,320 --> 00:44:42,759
Speaker 10: and I was like, that's actually, like really true. It's

1073
00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:45,080
Speaker 10: finite for me. So I'm excited for the next chapter.

1074
00:44:45,400 --> 00:44:47,680
Speaker 10: Generous has been incredible, you may not hope. United has

1075
00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:50,799
Speaker 10: been incredible, and my heart still will continue to go

1076
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:52,920
Speaker 10: this podcast I have a blast with and will continue

1077
00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 10: to do what we can while The Bachelor still is

1078
00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:58,200
Speaker 10: living and breathing forever. But it is interesting. I don't

1079
00:44:58,239 --> 00:44:59,640
Speaker 10: know what the check the next chapter is now.

1080
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:01,640
Speaker 2: Well, I think you have a lot of things going on.

1081
00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:03,879
Speaker 2: I mean, I think that's the thing you've established that

1082
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:06,520
Speaker 2: you want to do something beyond that and not like

1083
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:10,040
Speaker 2: rely on this. I guess you could call it instant

1084
00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 2: fame that happens when you come off the show.

1085
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:13,960
Speaker 1: But I also think like you have to look at

1086
00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:16,399
Speaker 1: it too from a different lens, like like I think

1087
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 1: it's a part of life, and you know what I mean,

1088
00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:21,000
Speaker 1: like take the Bachelor, take the fame part out of it,

1089
00:45:21,480 --> 00:45:24,080
Speaker 1: and like this is kind of what happens just in life,

1090
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:25,520
Speaker 1: you know. I mean, you go through different seasons. So

1091
00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:27,520
Speaker 1: it's like when people are gearing up to like you know,

1092
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 1: get married or have a baby, or switch professions, and

1093
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:32,840
Speaker 1: it's like everybody's kind of dealing with this. So it's like,

1094
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 1: I think you can have comfort in the fact that

1095
00:45:34,640 --> 00:45:38,040
Speaker 1: everybody deals with this at different parts of their life,

1096
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:38,960
Speaker 1: you know what I mean.

1097
00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like something coming to it, like college coming

1098
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:42,200
Speaker 2: to it in Yeah.

1099
00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:44,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like everybody deals with it at just different times

1100
00:45:44,560 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 1: and in different ways. So it's like what you're going

1101
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 1: through a lot of people go through in their lives

1102
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 1: is just through a different lens that you're experiencing it.

1103
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:54,600
Speaker 10: Oh well, yeah it is, you're right, like that end

1104
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Speaker 10: of college, end of high school. Like there's like in

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Speaker 10: early life, there's these like direct like endings, Right, the

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Speaker 10: chapter is done, let's move on now, there is it's

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Speaker 10: kind of like less clear when the when it fades

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Speaker 10: and when a new one begins, like it all kind

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Speaker 7: I don't know what that looks like.

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Speaker 10: They could enhance to a whole new arena that's more

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Speaker 10: funding generous. Is incredible, Like they travel the world and

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Speaker 10: sell coffee for a living, Like that's pretty great. I'm

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Speaker 10: pretty stoked about it forever. But you know, but that's

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Speaker 10: a new chapter. Taking over company is a bit as

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Speaker 10: a new chapter. So yeah, it's it's a it's a

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Speaker 10: in this book.

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Speaker 7: The book's a big deal.

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Speaker 10: So like, who knows what that thinks?

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Speaker 2: Switching gears, take me out of it. Who was the

1175
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:41,920
Speaker 2: best kisser on your season of the Bachelor? Was there

1176
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Speaker 2: anyone where you were like outside of you?

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Speaker 10: Because I just don't think it's fair too.

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Speaker 2: No, I don't even want to be involved with pretend

1179
00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:48,000
Speaker 2: I wasn't on the show.

1180
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Speaker 10: Yeah, I would say the best kisser. I mean, you know,

1181
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:56,640
Speaker 10: let's take you and Lauren out of it, except idea,

1182
00:49:57,000 --> 00:49:59,920
Speaker 10: let's just do that for the sake of respect. Respect,

1183
00:50:01,840 --> 00:50:06,160
Speaker 10: you know, I uh, I actually think Jojo. Yeah, we

1184
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Speaker 10: had a lot of chemistry.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we did specifically, all right, what promo it was?

1186
00:50:18,320 --> 00:50:18,800
Speaker 7: The promo?

1187
00:50:19,120 --> 00:50:22,799
Speaker 2: It was a promo showing that Ben was enjoying.

1188
00:50:24,760 --> 00:50:29,239
Speaker 1: Yeahsion, Oh yeah.

1189
00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:32,719
Speaker 10: A lot of screen grabs that, a lot of screen gaps.

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Speaker 7: You can google it. I'm gonna.

1191
00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:38,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll tease it with that photo.

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00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:42,920
Speaker 10: It was okay, So the funny part of this, and

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00:50:42,920 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 10: I'm not ashamed of it, happens, right, Yeah, it's like periods.

1194
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:48,719
Speaker 2: We're going to get to it.

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00:50:48,760 --> 00:50:54,120
Speaker 10: Then it's not crazy, but it's not something like, you know,

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Speaker 10: like my little cousins, my grandma, my mom, like they're

1197
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Speaker 10: watching it. It's already hard enough. So ABC chooses this

1198
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Speaker 10: beautiful scene where Joe jen I are kissing in a

1199
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Speaker 10: Jamaican waterfall and like I'm standing separate from her a

1200
00:51:06,800 --> 00:51:09,839
Speaker 10: little bit. It's very clear, like what's happening, and they

1201
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:12,560
Speaker 10: choose it as the little like the scene that the

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00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:15,200
Speaker 10: picture that stops and the show does the bachelor in

1203
00:51:15,239 --> 00:51:17,040
Speaker 10: front of So it's not just on for like a

1204
00:51:17,040 --> 00:51:20,200
Speaker 10: split second. No, no, no, it's on for thirty seconds. Like

1205
00:51:20,280 --> 00:51:22,520
Speaker 10: you're you get a very good look at what's happening.

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00:51:22,600 --> 00:51:23,440
Speaker 1: Mark you find it.

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00:51:23,600 --> 00:51:25,000
Speaker 7: I don't have a good shot of it. I have

1208
00:51:25,000 --> 00:51:27,880
Speaker 7: something that kind of hint at it. But you google

1209
00:51:28,520 --> 00:51:29,000
Speaker 7: that's the one.

1210
00:51:29,200 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 1: What words did you take?

1211
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:37,160
Speaker 12: That's the one.

1212
00:51:37,719 --> 00:51:41,920
Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm making it bigger. That's that. Don't don't kill

1213
00:51:41,960 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 7: my you go that, I'm making it bigger. Expand the

1214
00:51:47,760 --> 00:51:49,520
Speaker 7: screen putting.

1215
00:51:49,280 --> 00:51:51,919
Speaker 1: That Wait, shirtless, are you sureless of lists?

1216
00:51:51,960 --> 00:51:52,200
Speaker 7: I am?

1217
00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:56,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, Wow, it'd be weird if a waterfall hurdle then.

1218
00:51:56,280 --> 00:51:57,960
Speaker 1: I don't know if you've heard, but your chest is

1219
00:51:57,960 --> 00:51:58,360
Speaker 1: my awais.

1220
00:51:58,600 --> 00:51:59,239
Speaker 7: Yeah.

1221
00:51:59,760 --> 00:52:03,160
Speaker 10: I appreciate it because not many people nowadays appreciates it.

1222
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:04,200
Speaker 7: Harry Chest.

1223
00:52:04,320 --> 00:52:06,319
Speaker 10: Yeah, I know, and I just don't see the point

1224
00:52:06,320 --> 00:52:07,200
Speaker 10: in shaving any longer.

1225
00:52:07,480 --> 00:52:09,800
Speaker 7: But before we get to that, here's a picture.

1226
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Speaker 1: First of all, it's not as bad. It's not as bad.

1227
00:52:18,680 --> 00:52:23,640
Speaker 2: As I mean, they have to have some censorship on ABC.

1228
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:25,920
Speaker 7: It's enough.

1229
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:28,920
Speaker 1: It's more of a side.

1230
00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:31,799
Speaker 11: The fact that you can tell that it is to

1231
00:52:31,840 --> 00:52:34,040
Speaker 11: the side this issue.

1232
00:52:37,360 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 2: I really there.

1233
00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:40,439
Speaker 7: Yeah, wait, I'm glad.

1234
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Speaker 10: I'm glad somebody finally brings it up to me. So

1235
00:52:42,560 --> 00:52:45,680
Speaker 10: all my buddies send me this picture, right, and you

1236
00:52:45,680 --> 00:52:47,680
Speaker 10: would be the only one, probably out of that whole

1237
00:52:47,680 --> 00:52:50,120
Speaker 10: group of girls that I would feel even a tad

1238
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:53,160
Speaker 10: bit comfortable with being like beccho, Like what the hell?

1239
00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:54,640
Speaker 7: Like why would this be a picture?

1240
00:52:54,680 --> 00:52:57,080
Speaker 10: Like we could joke about it because anybody else I'm

1241
00:52:57,120 --> 00:53:00,319
Speaker 10: not that close with. But like, finally somebody is up

1242
00:53:00,360 --> 00:53:01,759
Speaker 10: to me, because like this has been on my mind

1243
00:53:01,760 --> 00:53:02,439
Speaker 10: for a long time.

1244
00:53:02,640 --> 00:53:05,000
Speaker 2: You haven't talked about this is the US.

1245
00:53:05,120 --> 00:53:09,000
Speaker 10: This is the still shot that like is the promotion

1246
00:53:09,080 --> 00:53:12,759
Speaker 10: of my season. Wow, Like it's like it's yeah, I

1247
00:53:12,920 --> 00:53:16,120
Speaker 10: had it could be worse. It could be worse. It

1248
00:53:16,160 --> 00:53:16,920
Speaker 10: could be worse things.

1249
00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:24,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, from what I saw, looks pretty big. Okay, so

1250
00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:26,000
Speaker 1: how is that going for you?

1251
00:53:26,080 --> 00:53:35,160
Speaker 2: How the Big Ben good?

1252
00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:40,239
Speaker 1: It should resume just Big Ben, just Big Ben? And

1253
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:42,799
Speaker 1: when they and yeah, like underneath like you know, you

1254
00:53:42,840 --> 00:53:46,000
Speaker 1: put like the bullet and then the sub bullet like

1255
00:53:47,160 --> 00:53:49,920
Speaker 1: view promoends.

1256
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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, we want to talk. I want to

1257
00:53:56,760 --> 00:54:00,120
Speaker 2: go into your chest being an oasis because when we

1258
00:54:00,000 --> 00:54:03,839
Speaker 2: were at iHeart, we were at the pool and all

1259
00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:08,880
Speaker 2: the guys were like very clean shaven, no hairless on

1260
00:54:08,920 --> 00:54:10,879
Speaker 2: the chest, ridiculously.

1261
00:54:10,320 --> 00:54:14,279
Speaker 1: Hairless, so like child liked like, I'm like, I don't

1262
00:54:14,320 --> 00:54:16,560
Speaker 1: want to like touch it.

1263
00:54:17,560 --> 00:54:23,680
Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, You've always liked Harry, always talked about that.

1264
00:54:23,760 --> 00:54:27,359
Speaker 2: She likes Harry min Harry everywhere everywhere. She loves hair,

1265
00:54:27,400 --> 00:54:30,319
Speaker 2: a man with hair. And so then I remember you

1266
00:54:30,360 --> 00:54:31,799
Speaker 2: were like, what do you like? What do you think?

1267
00:54:31,880 --> 00:54:33,920
Speaker 2: And I was like, I like it. It's different, and

1268
00:54:34,280 --> 00:54:36,040
Speaker 2: we started. I don't even know how it came up

1269
00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:42,200
Speaker 2: on the podcast come up, but Tanya really expressed her

1270
00:54:42,280 --> 00:54:42,799
Speaker 2: love for it.

1271
00:54:42,960 --> 00:54:44,160
Speaker 7: Yeah, that was nice.

1272
00:54:44,239 --> 00:54:47,640
Speaker 10: I appreciate it, yes, because I I'm not like, I'm

1273
00:54:47,680 --> 00:54:48,520
Speaker 10: not ashamed of it.

1274
00:54:49,520 --> 00:54:49,799
Speaker 7: I don't.

1275
00:54:49,800 --> 00:54:51,920
Speaker 10: I'm not insecure about it, like I could fix it

1276
00:54:52,040 --> 00:54:53,719
Speaker 10: if I needed to write, just like all those other

1277
00:54:53,760 --> 00:54:54,120
Speaker 10: guys do.

1278
00:54:54,560 --> 00:54:56,399
Speaker 7: For me, it's more of a I don't.

1279
00:54:56,560 --> 00:54:58,799
Speaker 10: I don't get it on why I would use so

1280
00:54:58,880 --> 00:55:02,360
Speaker 10: much time and effort in my life shaving. It's painful

1281
00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:06,440
Speaker 10: and painful, and it's just it doesn't throw me off

1282
00:55:06,440 --> 00:55:08,160
Speaker 10: at all. And the only time it ever bothers me

1283
00:55:08,560 --> 00:55:13,560
Speaker 10: is when I'm around those guys, right, because they're you know, hairless.

1284
00:55:13,120 --> 00:55:15,480
Speaker 7: Ken dolls, they're kin dolls, and so I'm.

1285
00:55:15,320 --> 00:55:17,479
Speaker 10: Staying there, like I feel pretty good about myself ninety

1286
00:55:17,560 --> 00:55:19,319
Speaker 10: nine percent of the time, except when I'm on by

1287
00:55:19,360 --> 00:55:21,400
Speaker 10: a pool in Vegas and then I'm going to keep

1288
00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:21,960
Speaker 10: my T shirt on.

1289
00:55:22,120 --> 00:55:23,960
Speaker 1: It's so interesting because the reason why I am very

1290
00:55:24,040 --> 00:55:26,600
Speaker 1: vocal about it is because I have dated guys in

1291
00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:29,399
Speaker 1: the past that have hairy chest and I enjoy it,

1292
00:55:29,480 --> 00:55:32,080
Speaker 1: I support it, and there it's something that they're really

1293
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:35,400
Speaker 1: insecure about, yeah, and like they've been vocal about that

1294
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:37,160
Speaker 1: to me. So I'm like, I don't know why you're

1295
00:55:37,200 --> 00:55:39,279
Speaker 1: so insecure about it. I think it's so sexy. I

1296
00:55:39,280 --> 00:55:42,000
Speaker 1: think it's so hot. I think it's so manly, and

1297
00:55:42,040 --> 00:55:44,319
Speaker 1: it's something that guys can be insecure about. So I

1298
00:55:44,360 --> 00:55:47,200
Speaker 1: do like to voice my opinion on that because I

1299
00:55:47,200 --> 00:55:48,880
Speaker 1: do think that.

1300
00:55:48,239 --> 00:55:51,319
Speaker 7: Back care would be too much for me. I'm just

1301
00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:51,759
Speaker 7: fine with it.

1302
00:55:53,080 --> 00:55:55,080
Speaker 1: I'm not into it. I'm not like, oh, bring on

1303
00:55:55,160 --> 00:55:57,360
Speaker 1: the back here, but if it's there, like, it's fine.

1304
00:55:57,280 --> 00:56:03,160
Speaker 10: Yeah, okay, Well, I like people like you. It actually happened, you.

1305
00:56:03,120 --> 00:56:06,200
Speaker 12: Know, you know, yeah, and you know when all this

1306
00:56:06,280 --> 00:56:07,960
Speaker 12: happened was right before the show.

1307
00:56:08,280 --> 00:56:10,719
Speaker 10: I was getting ready to groom myself for night one,

1308
00:56:11,560 --> 00:56:14,640
Speaker 10: one of one of the executive producers came in along

1309
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:17,200
Speaker 10: Gale and he said, what are you about to do?

1310
00:56:17,320 --> 00:56:20,120
Speaker 10: I was like, I'm gonna shave my chest and my body.

1311
00:56:20,160 --> 00:56:21,879
Speaker 10: And then I asked, how can I do this one

1312
00:56:21,920 --> 00:56:22,319
Speaker 10: on the road?

1313
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:22,520
Speaker 2: Like?

1314
00:56:22,600 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 10: Am I going to have the clippers to do this

1315
00:56:23,960 --> 00:56:26,520
Speaker 10: on the road? And he goes, yeah, I guess. He goes,

1316
00:56:26,760 --> 00:56:29,680
Speaker 10: but here's the thing. What if you just from night

1317
00:56:29,719 --> 00:56:31,520
Speaker 10: one on you set the standard that, like, you're not

1318
00:56:31,520 --> 00:56:33,080
Speaker 10: gonna shave a chests, Like you have to be okay

1319
00:56:33,120 --> 00:56:35,200
Speaker 10: with that now because you can't regret this later. But

1320
00:56:35,239 --> 00:56:37,480
Speaker 10: what if you just tried to change the way men

1321
00:56:37,600 --> 00:56:40,560
Speaker 10: groom themselves? Yeah, And I said, that sounds like a

1322
00:56:40,560 --> 00:56:42,440
Speaker 10: lot easier than me. So we just went with it.

1323
00:56:42,760 --> 00:56:45,920
Speaker 10: So from night one on, I never trimmed. I just

1324
00:56:45,920 --> 00:56:46,440
Speaker 10: just left.

1325
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:49,239
Speaker 2: That oasis ready the girls.

1326
00:56:49,200 --> 00:56:51,719
Speaker 1: Just out of curiosity. Do you so you trim it?

1327
00:56:51,760 --> 00:56:53,239
Speaker 1: You don't shave it? You do trim it?

1328
00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:55,520
Speaker 10: Yeah, every once in a while matters this scenario. I mean,

1329
00:56:55,719 --> 00:56:57,759
Speaker 10: got a four guard, Yeah, like a four.

1330
00:56:57,920 --> 00:56:58,960
Speaker 7: It's it's it's.

1331
00:56:58,840 --> 00:57:03,240
Speaker 1: Sick that I know that. Yeah, Ryan, it's Ryan a three?

1332
00:57:03,320 --> 00:57:06,840
Speaker 10: Yeah, yeah, yeah, so it's a four. It is a

1333
00:57:06,880 --> 00:57:09,799
Speaker 10: four on a on a straight like electrical razor.

1334
00:57:11,080 --> 00:57:16,000
Speaker 2: And riveting colmbo. Yeah, oh is it not? I don't know.

1335
00:57:16,040 --> 00:57:18,280
Speaker 2: Maybe they want to hear, maybe they want their guys

1336
00:57:18,320 --> 00:57:19,680
Speaker 2: to know how to do it the way.

1337
00:57:20,120 --> 00:57:24,240
Speaker 13: I'm taking some notes. There's no grooming whatsoever on this.

1338
00:57:24,280 --> 00:57:26,000
Speaker 7: On this No, there is.

1339
00:57:26,240 --> 00:57:29,480
Speaker 10: There is this way too, and that you could do

1340
00:57:29,600 --> 00:57:32,480
Speaker 10: like different links to make yourself look like you have abs.

1341
00:57:32,640 --> 00:57:34,800
Speaker 10: I do know people that do that, like really like

1342
00:57:34,960 --> 00:57:38,560
Speaker 10: really short touring. Yeah, contouring on the stomach and then

1343
00:57:38,560 --> 00:57:40,439
Speaker 10: a little longer on top so it makes your chest look bigger,

1344
00:57:40,520 --> 00:57:42,480
Speaker 10: abs look smaller. People do that. I just go four

1345
00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:44,440
Speaker 10: all the way top bottom, taking me about five seconds.

1346
00:57:44,600 --> 00:57:46,560
Speaker 10: I'm good to go. You know, a little hair down

1347
00:57:46,600 --> 00:57:47,600
Speaker 10: the drain, move on.

1348
00:57:47,920 --> 00:57:50,640
Speaker 2: Wow, clean the sink, clean the clean the sink.

1349
00:57:51,160 --> 00:57:51,400
Speaker 1: Nice.

1350
00:57:51,520 --> 00:57:54,640
Speaker 11: I have some ask guy questions since spens here, we're

1351
00:57:54,720 --> 00:57:56,880
Speaker 11: just not solicited. I picked him from the Facebook group

1352
00:57:56,920 --> 00:57:59,800
Speaker 11: that have been posted Maddie wanted to know and ask

1353
00:57:59,840 --> 00:58:02,120
Speaker 11: a question. And this actually ties in nicely with what

1354
00:58:02,160 --> 00:58:04,720
Speaker 11: we're talking about. How do guys really feel about being

1355
00:58:04,720 --> 00:58:07,080
Speaker 11: intimate with women who have not whacked or shaved. I've

1356
00:58:07,120 --> 00:58:08,919
Speaker 11: had men tell me they don't care other men say

1357
00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:09,640
Speaker 11: they prefer a whax.

1358
00:58:09,760 --> 00:58:10,280
Speaker 7: I need to know.

1359
00:58:10,880 --> 00:58:15,640
Speaker 10: It's a great question. I particularly don't care. So when

1360
00:58:15,720 --> 00:58:18,960
Speaker 10: you say shaved, I'm assuming like the pubic grease region, not.

1361
00:58:18,920 --> 00:58:19,480
Speaker 7: Like the legs.

1362
00:58:19,560 --> 00:58:22,040
Speaker 10: Right, I think that's what she means, because I'll be honest,

1363
00:58:22,280 --> 00:58:24,360
Speaker 10: in today's age, I still would have a hard time

1364
00:58:24,400 --> 00:58:26,960
Speaker 10: with like hairer legs.

1365
00:58:26,960 --> 00:58:29,480
Speaker 11: It's just not as evolved as we become. That's still

1366
00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:32,800
Speaker 11: a bugaboo. That's still a bugaboo. Yeah, yeah, it is.

1367
00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:35,120
Speaker 10: That would still be That would still be something that

1368
00:58:35,400 --> 00:58:38,360
Speaker 10: threw me off. Even though I bet and I, you know,

1369
00:58:38,760 --> 00:58:40,200
Speaker 10: have been in a loving relationship.

1370
00:58:40,240 --> 00:58:42,080
Speaker 7: You get over it, like it's not that big a deal.

1371
00:58:42,200 --> 00:58:44,400
Speaker 10: Ice you love somebody, you're like, come on, like I

1372
00:58:44,400 --> 00:58:47,000
Speaker 10: would prefer this, but not a big deal. But if

1373
00:58:47,040 --> 00:58:50,040
Speaker 10: like you're talking about, I think that's like a hookup thing, it.

1374
00:58:50,120 --> 00:58:52,360
Speaker 11: Still would be an issue with me as far as

1375
00:58:52,360 --> 00:58:55,320
Speaker 11: the arm pits and as far as the bikini area

1376
00:58:55,440 --> 00:58:58,320
Speaker 11: as whatever. Because and that's my opinion too, because deep

1377
00:58:58,400 --> 00:59:00,000
Speaker 11: down on every guy is a fourteen year old boy

1378
00:59:00,200 --> 00:59:02,400
Speaker 11: who can't imagine that one day he might be able

1379
00:59:02,440 --> 00:59:04,640
Speaker 11: to be intimate with a woman. That's the most exciting

1380
00:59:04,680 --> 00:59:07,120
Speaker 11: thing he can even imagine. So when it's happening, we

1381
00:59:07,160 --> 00:59:09,240
Speaker 11: are so excited to be there and the fact that

1382
00:59:09,280 --> 00:59:10,960
Speaker 11: it's happening, we don't really.

1383
00:59:10,760 --> 00:59:12,080
Speaker 7: Worry about other stuff like that.

1384
00:59:12,320 --> 00:59:14,840
Speaker 11: We're not judging, we're not grading, we're not critiquing.

1385
00:59:14,880 --> 00:59:16,280
Speaker 7: We're just so happy to be there.

1386
00:59:16,360 --> 00:59:16,840
Speaker 2: Great to know.

1387
00:59:17,120 --> 00:59:18,320
Speaker 7: Thank you, Well, you're welcome.

1388
00:59:18,720 --> 00:59:19,720
Speaker 2: I'm glad you brought that up.

1389
00:59:19,720 --> 00:59:21,320
Speaker 1: I think that you or I can't remember if it

1390
00:59:21,360 --> 00:59:23,080
Speaker 1: was you or somebody else, but I wax. I'm like

1391
00:59:23,120 --> 00:59:25,400
Speaker 1: an avid waxer. So every single month, I whax. So

1392
00:59:25,440 --> 00:59:27,680
Speaker 1: for like two weeks, I'm like, I do it for

1393
00:59:27,760 --> 00:59:29,800
Speaker 1: myself because I'm clearly not in a relationship right now.

1394
00:59:30,080 --> 00:59:32,800
Speaker 1: But everyone says, what do you do the last two

1395
00:59:32,840 --> 00:59:34,960
Speaker 1: weeks when you like have hair go back? And I'm like, well,

1396
00:59:35,000 --> 00:59:37,120
Speaker 1: it's just a little bit of hair and it's fine.

1397
00:59:37,200 --> 00:59:39,800
Speaker 1: I was like, the person that I'm intimate with doesn't care,

1398
00:59:40,000 --> 00:59:41,200
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like everyone thinks it's like

1399
00:59:41,200 --> 00:59:42,400
Speaker 1: this big thing to have like a little bit of

1400
00:59:42,440 --> 00:59:44,440
Speaker 1: hair out on there, and I'm like, really.

1401
00:59:44,440 --> 00:59:47,440
Speaker 7: Just just a thing. It's it's not that big a deal.

1402
00:59:47,480 --> 00:59:49,520
Speaker 10: So yeah, I could, I would say that would be

1403
00:59:49,520 --> 00:59:53,960
Speaker 10: a very very low turn off on my list.

1404
00:59:54,040 --> 00:59:54,480
Speaker 7: Good to know.

1405
00:59:55,040 --> 00:59:58,000
Speaker 11: Danielle is wondering if guys overthink as much as we do.

1406
00:59:58,000 --> 00:59:59,880
Speaker 11: And this is a pretty standard ask a guy, because

1407
01:00:00,640 --> 01:00:02,960
Speaker 11: girls think that the only ones who obsessed over texts

1408
01:00:03,000 --> 01:00:04,800
Speaker 11: and what words he sent and what did he mean

1409
01:00:04,840 --> 01:00:07,080
Speaker 11: by that and they over analyzed. Do guys do that

1410
01:00:07,120 --> 01:00:09,520
Speaker 11: as well? I mean, I think so. I think I

1411
01:00:09,560 --> 01:00:13,320
Speaker 11: think we like to stereotype each to be super incredibly different.

1412
01:00:13,840 --> 01:00:18,360
Speaker 11: I don't think guys hang on to it maybe as long.

1413
01:00:18,560 --> 01:00:20,520
Speaker 10: And so what I mean, so like a text comes through,

1414
01:00:20,960 --> 01:00:22,919
Speaker 10: it doesn't seem like what you want it to be.

1415
01:00:23,480 --> 01:00:24,320
Speaker 7: I think you would.

1416
01:00:24,880 --> 01:00:27,800
Speaker 10: I've met more women that i've dated now in the

1417
01:00:27,880 --> 01:00:29,760
Speaker 10: last year and a half, and that hasn't been a lot,

1418
01:00:29,800 --> 01:00:32,280
Speaker 10: but even just texting back and forth that are a

1419
01:00:32,280 --> 01:00:35,840
Speaker 10: lot more direct than I ever remember six seven years

1420
01:00:35,840 --> 01:00:37,480
Speaker 10: ago when I was like in college, like where they'll

1421
01:00:37,520 --> 01:00:39,040
Speaker 10: be like, all right, what's actually going on? Are you

1422
01:00:39,040 --> 01:00:40,960
Speaker 10: really into me? Are you just like Tanya?

1423
01:00:41,040 --> 01:00:42,840
Speaker 7: Are we friends? Are we not? No?

1424
01:00:42,920 --> 01:00:45,200
Speaker 10: We're friends, Tanya, Like I love you dearly.

1425
01:00:45,920 --> 01:00:47,000
Speaker 1: No discounts over here.

1426
01:00:47,120 --> 01:00:52,200
Speaker 10: No, But yeah, I don't think.

1427
01:00:52,600 --> 01:00:55,160
Speaker 7: I don't think we're that far off from each other.

1428
01:00:55,640 --> 01:00:58,960
Speaker 11: Kelsey posted and ask a guy. He's thirty nine and

1429
01:00:59,040 --> 01:01:01,240
Speaker 11: she's twenty nine and they just don't do it. It's

1430
01:01:01,280 --> 01:01:02,919
Speaker 11: been two and a half years and she can count

1431
01:01:02,960 --> 01:01:05,240
Speaker 11: on two hands the number of times the magic has happened.

1432
01:01:05,720 --> 01:01:07,560
Speaker 11: Is low libido with a guy a normal thing? Or

1433
01:01:07,600 --> 01:01:08,960
Speaker 11: is there something else going on here?

1434
01:01:09,880 --> 01:01:12,040
Speaker 10: I mean the question there like there's a little bit

1435
01:01:12,080 --> 01:01:15,720
Speaker 10: like morals and values and is there any religious reasons

1436
01:01:15,840 --> 01:01:18,560
Speaker 10: or you know, I know it's been a crazy week

1437
01:01:18,760 --> 01:01:21,360
Speaker 10: the last two weeks where I've been exposed to a

1438
01:01:21,360 --> 01:01:23,840
Speaker 10: couple and we did this almost famous too, where there's

1439
01:01:23,840 --> 01:01:26,600
Speaker 10: been a lot of trauma and pain when it comes

1440
01:01:26,600 --> 01:01:29,520
Speaker 10: to physical intimacy and sex that has caused people to

1441
01:01:30,040 --> 01:01:31,640
Speaker 10: push back. And I think we're hearing about it more

1442
01:01:31,680 --> 01:01:33,360
Speaker 10: and more and people are talking about it and we're

1443
01:01:33,400 --> 01:01:37,320
Speaker 10: realizing why people aren't entering into being intimate with their partner.

1444
01:01:37,960 --> 01:01:39,320
Speaker 10: I would say, if you've been together two and a

1445
01:01:39,320 --> 01:01:42,760
Speaker 10: half years and you love that person, there is something

1446
01:01:42,800 --> 01:01:45,560
Speaker 10: going on there. And if there's no like conscious choice,

1447
01:01:45,560 --> 01:01:48,440
Speaker 10: where as partners you've said hey, we're not gonna have

1448
01:01:48,560 --> 01:01:51,320
Speaker 10: sex or hey, like this is still a reminder to

1449
01:01:51,400 --> 01:01:53,360
Speaker 10: me if you're not just talking. If like there's no

1450
01:01:53,440 --> 01:01:55,840
Speaker 10: agreement and you aren't clear on it, first talk about it,

1451
01:01:55,880 --> 01:01:57,919
Speaker 10: and second, like, there does seem to be an issue.

1452
01:01:58,400 --> 01:02:00,200
Speaker 11: Her concern is that he's getting it from some when

1453
01:02:00,200 --> 01:02:02,720
Speaker 11: else we're watching adult videos.

1454
01:02:03,080 --> 01:02:04,560
Speaker 10: I mean, I think that's a fair concern.

1455
01:02:04,720 --> 01:02:08,240
Speaker 7: It is a fair concern. But again, maybe I'm crazy.

1456
01:02:08,240 --> 01:02:10,120
Speaker 10: But if you're in a loving relationship for two and

1457
01:02:10,120 --> 01:02:11,880
Speaker 10: a half years, talk to him about it. Yeah, Like,

1458
01:02:12,000 --> 01:02:14,680
Speaker 10: that's a very easy question to say, I want to

1459
01:02:14,680 --> 01:02:17,640
Speaker 10: be this person for you, Like, I'm missing this part

1460
01:02:17,640 --> 01:02:19,560
Speaker 10: of our relationship. Are you getting it somewhere else? Or

1461
01:02:19,560 --> 01:02:23,440
Speaker 10: are you doing something to satisfy yourself? If so, how

1462
01:02:23,440 --> 01:02:25,520
Speaker 10: can I become that? Or how can we replace that

1463
01:02:25,600 --> 01:02:28,560
Speaker 10: with me? How can we get physical together? I think

1464
01:02:28,560 --> 01:02:30,640
Speaker 10: that's a very easy and fair conver not an easy

1465
01:02:30,640 --> 01:02:32,440
Speaker 10: convert I think it's a fair conversation.

1466
01:02:32,680 --> 01:02:36,280
Speaker 11: Absolutely, Alicia, what's the best way for a single girl

1467
01:02:36,360 --> 01:02:38,560
Speaker 11: to get a guy's attention? Maybe it's someone you see

1468
01:02:38,600 --> 01:02:40,040
Speaker 11: in real life and don't know them. Is it a

1469
01:02:40,040 --> 01:02:43,360
Speaker 11: pickup line, a smile, sliding into their dms, asking them out,

1470
01:02:43,400 --> 01:02:46,240
Speaker 11: buying them a drink? She says, help a modern woman out,

1471
01:02:46,320 --> 01:02:48,520
Speaker 11: please yeah, well, yeah, we.

1472
01:02:49,320 --> 01:02:52,040
Speaker 2: Talked about this sliding into the DMS at the AMAS

1473
01:02:52,920 --> 01:02:55,120
Speaker 2: that you were like, well, we were just talking about

1474
01:02:55,160 --> 01:02:58,240
Speaker 2: and you were like, I've never done it, and so like,

1475
01:02:58,440 --> 01:03:02,280
Speaker 2: do I try it? Do I try? Like what's you

1476
01:03:02,320 --> 01:03:03,960
Speaker 2: were like, what if they don't respond or what if

1477
01:03:03,960 --> 01:03:04,760
Speaker 2: they're not into it.

1478
01:03:05,240 --> 01:03:07,680
Speaker 10: I'm worried about that because of the document, Like I'm

1479
01:03:07,720 --> 01:03:09,040
Speaker 10: worried that it will come back to bite me.

1480
01:03:09,280 --> 01:03:09,720
Speaker 7: It's like.

1481
01:03:11,640 --> 01:03:16,640
Speaker 10: I still something in writing. I still have the just

1482
01:03:16,680 --> 01:03:19,240
Speaker 10: a fear of rejection. I know I do, and so

1483
01:03:19,560 --> 01:03:22,360
Speaker 10: putting myself out there like that seems tough. But we're

1484
01:03:22,400 --> 01:03:26,439
Speaker 10: at the AMAS and it was everybody was talking about

1485
01:03:26,440 --> 01:03:28,600
Speaker 10: how they've met on dms or they've talked through dms,

1486
01:03:28,680 --> 01:03:30,760
Speaker 10: or that's how they connect with people today. And I

1487
01:03:30,800 --> 01:03:32,160
Speaker 10: was like, I've never done it. I'd even though there's

1488
01:03:32,160 --> 01:03:34,160
Speaker 10: a world that was acceptable. But they're like, of course

1489
01:03:34,200 --> 01:03:36,120
Speaker 10: it is. You just DM somebody if you find them,

1490
01:03:36,160 --> 01:03:37,640
Speaker 10: you like them, you find them on Instagram and you

1491
01:03:37,720 --> 01:03:41,200
Speaker 10: DM them. So I think that's one way. I think

1492
01:03:41,600 --> 01:03:44,240
Speaker 10: it goes both ways. I think the second piece is

1493
01:03:44,280 --> 01:03:47,000
Speaker 10: if you're trying to get a guy's attention, there is

1494
01:03:47,160 --> 01:03:49,760
Speaker 10: nothing and this is going to be so cliche, but

1495
01:03:49,800 --> 01:03:51,720
Speaker 10: I think it actually has truth to it. There is

1496
01:03:51,800 --> 01:03:53,800
Speaker 10: nothing that is more attractive than you can tell that

1497
01:03:53,840 --> 01:03:57,720
Speaker 10: a girl is genuinely interested in being authentically themselves. And

1498
01:03:57,760 --> 01:04:01,800
Speaker 10: so if you're interested and you're confident, and you're intentional,

1499
01:04:02,200 --> 01:04:05,000
Speaker 10: and you're clear, but then you're you also can see

1500
01:04:05,000 --> 01:04:08,080
Speaker 10: and know that that person is is being themselves, are

1501
01:04:08,080 --> 01:04:09,920
Speaker 10: not trying to impress anything, and the person that you

1502
01:04:09,960 --> 01:04:11,560
Speaker 10: know in that moment is going to be the person

1503
01:04:11,560 --> 01:04:13,280
Speaker 10: that you can build a foundation on to get to

1504
01:04:13,320 --> 01:04:15,120
Speaker 10: know maybe for the next one hundred years of your.

1505
01:04:15,080 --> 01:04:15,680
Speaker 7: Life or whatever.

1506
01:04:15,960 --> 01:04:17,960
Speaker 10: I think that's what attracted to me is when that

1507
01:04:18,000 --> 01:04:19,640
Speaker 10: first interaction, when you know that that's going to be

1508
01:04:19,640 --> 01:04:22,840
Speaker 10: the start of something really special for as long as

1509
01:04:22,840 --> 01:04:23,400
Speaker 10: it can last.

1510
01:04:24,080 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 1: I was going to say, though, before you slide into

1511
01:04:25,680 --> 01:04:28,600
Speaker 1: somebody's DM, make sure you have a friend in common,

1512
01:04:28,640 --> 01:04:31,960
Speaker 1: because that is there. That's how I actually met and

1513
01:04:32,000 --> 01:04:34,320
Speaker 1: started dating the last guy that I dated, and that

1514
01:04:34,560 --> 01:04:39,320
Speaker 1: ended not great. So from that I decided that now on,

1515
01:04:40,400 --> 01:04:43,200
Speaker 1: anybody that I date has to have one person connected

1516
01:04:43,280 --> 01:04:44,920
Speaker 1: to me so that they can vouch.

1517
01:04:45,000 --> 01:04:47,000
Speaker 10: So interesting that that's our standard to day too, like

1518
01:04:47,160 --> 01:04:49,280
Speaker 10: that you can actually tell if you know one person

1519
01:04:49,560 --> 01:04:53,280
Speaker 10: in common via social media, like ten fifteen years ago,

1520
01:04:53,320 --> 01:04:54,920
Speaker 10: we would have never known if we had mutual friendship.

1521
01:04:54,960 --> 01:04:55,400
Speaker 10: We talked about.

1522
01:04:55,520 --> 01:04:57,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it is interesting.

1523
01:04:58,520 --> 01:05:00,160
Speaker 11: I was going to ask this because I know, know,

1524
01:05:00,200 --> 01:05:01,640
Speaker 11: this is what a lot of the listeners are thinking

1525
01:05:01,680 --> 01:05:03,800
Speaker 11: right now, So I'm gonna put it out there. Everyone

1526
01:05:03,880 --> 01:05:07,360
Speaker 11: right now listening is thinking, Wow, Tanya and Ben just seem.

1527
01:05:07,200 --> 01:05:08,160
Speaker 7: Perfect for each other.

1528
01:05:08,640 --> 01:05:13,400
Speaker 11: They both are, They're both very genuine people. They're both

1529
01:05:13,480 --> 01:05:16,280
Speaker 11: very kind people. They really like to give back, they're

1530
01:05:16,360 --> 01:05:20,240
Speaker 11: very they're very much people of faith. What's happening? How

1531
01:05:20,240 --> 01:05:22,320
Speaker 11: Come this hasn't gone any further than it has because,

1532
01:05:22,400 --> 01:05:25,080
Speaker 11: God darn it, it trure seems like it should.

1533
01:05:25,520 --> 01:05:26,920
Speaker 7: God darn it. Bugaboo.

1534
01:05:29,040 --> 01:05:32,000
Speaker 10: My response, well, who do you want to respond?

1535
01:05:32,040 --> 01:05:33,000
Speaker 1: First?

1536
01:05:34,240 --> 01:05:34,680
Speaker 2: Generous?

1537
01:05:36,240 --> 01:05:37,520
Speaker 1: Just giving my mental name.

1538
01:05:37,600 --> 01:05:43,000
Speaker 10: Yeah, go ahead. We get that a lot every time

1539
01:05:43,040 --> 01:05:45,240
Speaker 10: I come, Like every time there's an interaction between Tanya

1540
01:05:45,240 --> 01:05:49,280
Speaker 10: and I, it pops up and I get why, right,

1541
01:05:49,960 --> 01:05:54,720
Speaker 10: But I think that Tanya's need and like her effort

1542
01:05:54,760 --> 01:05:59,360
Speaker 10: into relationships is something that I don't necessarily like I

1543
01:05:59,400 --> 01:06:02,520
Speaker 10: don't connect on my phone very often, like I do

1544
01:06:02,920 --> 01:06:07,120
Speaker 10: take time away from myself I think that would have

1545
01:06:07,120 --> 01:06:08,880
Speaker 10: been maybe the first sign that, oh, this is a

1546
01:06:08,920 --> 01:06:13,320
Speaker 10: really good friendship, not romantically. Could I satisfy the needs

1547
01:06:13,360 --> 01:06:15,640
Speaker 10: that Tanya has and not a bad way.

1548
01:06:15,600 --> 01:06:17,520
Speaker 7: Just like I am a lot more.

1549
01:06:20,360 --> 01:06:22,320
Speaker 10: I just have to be alone a lot more like

1550
01:06:22,400 --> 01:06:25,120
Speaker 10: and I think like for me to isolate myself from

1551
01:06:25,120 --> 01:06:27,760
Speaker 10: the world is really important and if I want to

1552
01:06:27,800 --> 01:06:29,360
Speaker 10: be the best version of myself when I enter into

1553
01:06:29,360 --> 01:06:30,840
Speaker 10: the world, I have to know that in that time

1554
01:06:30,880 --> 01:06:34,400
Speaker 10: that I have away, I am away. And so I

1555
01:06:34,440 --> 01:06:36,560
Speaker 10: think that would be one thing that'd say that could

1556
01:06:36,600 --> 01:06:37,800
Speaker 10: be an issue. If we were on a date, I'd

1557
01:06:37,800 --> 01:06:39,080
Speaker 10: be like, what do you think about that?

1558
01:06:39,200 --> 01:06:40,800
Speaker 7: Will that always be the case with you? Like, I

1559
01:06:40,800 --> 01:06:42,560
Speaker 7: don't know. I find though one maybe you'd want to

1560
01:06:42,560 --> 01:06:44,640
Speaker 7: get away with her. I don't know.

1561
01:06:44,680 --> 01:06:47,040
Speaker 10: That's a big That's actually a question that I don't

1562
01:06:47,160 --> 01:06:48,920
Speaker 10: know how to answer. I mean when I was in

1563
01:06:49,040 --> 01:06:51,080
Speaker 10: when I was living with Lauren, there would be moments

1564
01:06:51,160 --> 01:06:53,000
Speaker 10: and she was great about it that I would have

1565
01:06:53,080 --> 01:06:56,080
Speaker 10: to get away for an afternoon like driving the mountains

1566
01:06:56,080 --> 01:06:59,520
Speaker 10: and read or whatever, and she I don't think she

1567
01:06:59,560 --> 01:07:02,240
Speaker 10: took it a fly, but it was really important that

1568
01:07:02,240 --> 01:07:03,600
Speaker 10: I did that so that when I came back into

1569
01:07:03,600 --> 01:07:06,280
Speaker 10: the household that I was the best person I could

1570
01:07:06,320 --> 01:07:08,920
Speaker 10: be for her, because I knew that the more and

1571
01:07:08,920 --> 01:07:11,600
Speaker 10: more that I was around people, I always felt like

1572
01:07:11,920 --> 01:07:14,280
Speaker 10: there was something I had to satisfy, and so I

1573
01:07:14,320 --> 01:07:16,240
Speaker 10: was getting tireder and tireder. So for me to get

1574
01:07:16,240 --> 01:07:19,960
Speaker 10: away it was important. But I mean, Laura and I

1575
01:07:20,000 --> 01:07:21,360
Speaker 10: went on a couple of vacations and it was like

1576
01:07:21,400 --> 01:07:23,240
Speaker 10: the best vacations I've ever had. Like to have that

1577
01:07:23,280 --> 01:07:25,240
Speaker 10: person with you, that partner with you, to explore and

1578
01:07:25,280 --> 01:07:28,480
Speaker 10: to eat out with and to just you know, do

1579
01:07:28,560 --> 01:07:31,840
Speaker 10: whatever it was. It was awesome. But that was the

1580
01:07:31,880 --> 01:07:34,000
Speaker 10: first time in my life that that had been the case.

1581
01:07:34,520 --> 01:07:37,360
Speaker 10: So I think that would be the first thing we'd

1582
01:07:37,360 --> 01:07:38,040
Speaker 10: have to talk through that.

1583
01:07:40,960 --> 01:07:44,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, that would be the first obstacle. Yeah, yeah, verse challenge.

1584
01:07:45,120 --> 01:07:46,000
Speaker 2: How do we get through this?

1585
01:07:46,160 --> 01:07:46,880
Speaker 10: How do we get through this?

1586
01:07:46,960 --> 01:07:48,720
Speaker 1: It is interesting though, because a lot of people think

1587
01:07:48,840 --> 01:07:52,439
Speaker 1: because I am this way, that I am always with people,

1588
01:07:52,520 --> 01:07:55,400
Speaker 1: But I do actually recharge on my own, Like I'm

1589
01:07:55,440 --> 01:07:59,640
Speaker 1: now living alone and I love it so much. I

1590
01:07:59,720 --> 01:08:01,560
Speaker 1: never thought I would like be this happy.

1591
01:08:03,520 --> 01:08:04,240
Speaker 10: That's interesting.

1592
01:08:04,400 --> 01:08:09,120
Speaker 1: It is alone, yeah, newly okay, But I'm like kind

1593
01:08:09,120 --> 01:08:10,600
Speaker 1: of obsessed with it.

1594
01:08:11,440 --> 01:08:13,880
Speaker 7: But what is your response to the question about you?

1595
01:08:14,120 --> 01:08:18,760
Speaker 1: Okay, my response Honestly, I did have a crush on

1596
01:08:18,800 --> 01:08:22,479
Speaker 1: you a while ago, and I think I feel like

1597
01:08:22,479 --> 01:08:24,760
Speaker 1: I told Beca about it. But it was like at

1598
01:08:24,760 --> 01:08:27,200
Speaker 1: a weird time where you just like weren't you were

1599
01:08:27,280 --> 01:08:29,360
Speaker 1: kind of your eyes weren't really open anything. You were

1600
01:08:29,400 --> 01:08:31,599
Speaker 1: kind of still just like not in a great place.

1601
01:08:32,040 --> 01:08:37,120
Speaker 1: So I think I just kind of turned that key off.

1602
01:08:37,160 --> 01:08:38,599
Speaker 1: And this is kind of what I do with guys

1603
01:08:38,640 --> 01:08:40,560
Speaker 1: like you weren't interested. So then I just kind of

1604
01:08:40,560 --> 01:08:42,240
Speaker 1: put you in the friend box and just put you there,

1605
01:08:42,600 --> 01:08:43,160
Speaker 1: and that's it.

1606
01:08:44,120 --> 01:08:47,160
Speaker 11: Chiny has a hard time switching that putting that switch back.

1607
01:08:47,200 --> 01:08:48,960
Speaker 11: Once you put somebody in the friend box, they tend

1608
01:08:49,000 --> 01:08:51,519
Speaker 11: to stay in the friend box. Yeah, no matter what happens.

1609
01:08:51,760 --> 01:08:54,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I want somebody that like wants like, because

1610
01:08:54,760 --> 01:08:56,320
Speaker 1: I did have a crush on you, and you I

1611
01:08:56,360 --> 01:08:58,080
Speaker 1: didn't get that back. I was like, oh, well, I

1612
01:08:58,120 --> 01:08:59,519
Speaker 1: don't want someone that doesn't want me.

1613
01:09:00,080 --> 01:09:01,720
Speaker 10: So then I just kind of was like, man, that

1614
01:09:01,840 --> 01:09:04,320
Speaker 10: makes sense, that does make sense. And I would fully

1615
01:09:04,360 --> 01:09:06,360
Speaker 10: agree that. I mean, I think you both were around

1616
01:09:06,400 --> 01:09:08,200
Speaker 10: for a while. Mark and Easton were around for all

1617
01:09:08,240 --> 01:09:13,639
Speaker 10: that my eyes were completely shut for a good solid year,

1618
01:09:13,760 --> 01:09:16,639
Speaker 10: like not even interested, not even like capable of talking,

1619
01:09:17,280 --> 01:09:19,559
Speaker 10: not even desiring to find a relationship, you know, every

1620
01:09:19,760 --> 01:09:21,080
Speaker 10: are you moving on in the UK? I was like,

1621
01:09:21,080 --> 01:09:22,719
Speaker 10: I'm good. I just know that this is the place

1622
01:09:22,720 --> 01:09:25,720
Speaker 10: I need to be at. So yeah, I could see

1623
01:09:25,720 --> 01:09:28,960
Speaker 10: that being completely true. Is if you did find any interest.

1624
01:09:29,000 --> 01:09:33,360
Speaker 10: It was like, but he's just a walking, talking, uninterested

1625
01:09:33,400 --> 01:09:35,000
Speaker 10: man in anything right now, And.

1626
01:09:35,080 --> 01:09:35,920
Speaker 2: I guess that sack.

1627
01:09:36,080 --> 01:09:39,080
Speaker 10: He's a sad sack. It's a sad sack that you know.

1628
01:09:39,160 --> 01:09:43,760
Speaker 10: I'm I listened to the podcast last weekend. Your breakup song,

1629
01:09:43,920 --> 01:09:47,920
Speaker 10: Your lyrics unbelievable. First off, that is a banger.

1630
01:09:48,800 --> 01:09:55,680
Speaker 2: My banger, but I wonder just a repressure.

1631
01:10:01,120 --> 01:10:04,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, but I get what you're I get what

1632
01:10:04,479 --> 01:10:06,160
Speaker 1: you're saying, because I think I was like a mess

1633
01:10:06,160 --> 01:10:08,120
Speaker 1: of a human for probably a good year after that,

1634
01:10:08,280 --> 01:10:13,360
Speaker 1: Like I went through like the phase of like going

1635
01:10:13,400 --> 01:10:17,040
Speaker 1: crazy where it was just like hot mess express and

1636
01:10:17,080 --> 01:10:18,920
Speaker 1: then I went through the phase of like being sad.

1637
01:10:19,720 --> 01:10:21,080
Speaker 1: Don't I think that was like a full year.

1638
01:10:21,880 --> 01:10:24,160
Speaker 11: Well, when a couple of months ago I said to

1639
01:10:24,200 --> 01:10:25,600
Speaker 11: something on the podcast about how I would like to

1640
01:10:25,600 --> 01:10:27,559
Speaker 11: tell you to not date somebody in the bachelor world.

1641
01:10:27,600 --> 01:10:28,400
Speaker 7: I'd like her to think.

1642
01:10:28,280 --> 01:10:30,400
Speaker 11: Outside that box and go outside the bachelor And a

1643
01:10:30,400 --> 01:10:31,880
Speaker 11: bunch of people on the Facebook group said to me, well,

1644
01:10:31,880 --> 01:10:32,679
Speaker 11: what about Ben Higgins.

1645
01:10:32,720 --> 01:10:34,840
Speaker 7: Did of course my responses, Oh, well, yeah, I mean'd

1646
01:10:34,960 --> 01:10:37,559
Speaker 7: you're right, but yeah, that was the thing.

1647
01:10:37,640 --> 01:10:41,840
Speaker 10: We can't have everything that was nice, Mark, But yeah,

1648
01:10:42,320 --> 01:10:44,639
Speaker 10: it makes sense now because it you know, it would

1649
01:10:44,640 --> 01:10:46,960
Speaker 10: have been in I guess it didn't make sense on

1650
01:10:47,000 --> 01:10:49,439
Speaker 10: why we didn't at least go on a date, you know,

1651
01:10:49,760 --> 01:10:51,559
Speaker 10: like back in the day if there was into your

1652
01:10:51,640 --> 01:10:53,880
Speaker 10: any any interest and we both knew it, why there

1653
01:10:53,920 --> 01:10:57,000
Speaker 10: wasn't a date back then, But I just wasn't. I

1654
01:10:57,080 --> 01:10:58,840
Speaker 10: just don't think I was interested. I still don't know

1655
01:10:58,880 --> 01:10:59,960
Speaker 10: how I'm where I'm at with that.

1656
01:11:00,640 --> 01:11:01,559
Speaker 7: I'm more and.

1657
01:11:01,560 --> 01:11:05,640
Speaker 10: More confident in my singleness than ever before, like and

1658
01:11:05,760 --> 01:11:08,040
Speaker 10: confident in that, like feel good about it, not even

1659
01:11:08,080 --> 01:11:10,920
Speaker 10: ashamed of it, just able to live in it, excite

1660
01:11:10,960 --> 01:11:14,360
Speaker 10: about what's next, that new chapter, whatever that is, which

1661
01:11:14,439 --> 01:11:18,559
Speaker 10: makes me, which makes me think, just based on the

1662
01:11:18,600 --> 01:11:20,559
Speaker 10: life that I've lived so far, that when I got

1663
01:11:20,560 --> 01:11:23,720
Speaker 10: really confident in my singleness, something's about to explode. Like

1664
01:11:24,520 --> 01:11:26,639
Speaker 10: singleness will no longer be an off. I don't know,

1665
01:11:26,920 --> 01:11:28,840
Speaker 10: you know how like when you get really comfortable with

1666
01:11:28,880 --> 01:11:30,800
Speaker 10: something and it's like, no, we're gonna pull you away

1667
01:11:30,800 --> 01:11:31,160
Speaker 10: from him.

1668
01:11:31,160 --> 01:11:31,559
Speaker 7: So I don't know.

1669
01:11:31,600 --> 01:11:35,559
Speaker 11: It's well, Tanya saw I had her tarot card reading

1670
01:11:36,360 --> 01:11:40,040
Speaker 11: and she was told that somebody she already knows is

1671
01:11:40,080 --> 01:11:42,639
Speaker 11: going to be the person for her and she's going

1672
01:11:42,680 --> 01:11:45,920
Speaker 11: to realize it. She's going to realize it in May May.

1673
01:11:46,320 --> 01:11:49,240
Speaker 2: So what that's such a long time.

1674
01:11:49,479 --> 01:11:50,680
Speaker 10: I was gonna say, what are you going to do

1675
01:11:50,800 --> 01:11:54,040
Speaker 10: Tanya till May?

1676
01:11:51,920 --> 01:11:58,439
Speaker 1: No, It's interesting because like three weeks ago, it was

1677
01:11:58,439 --> 01:12:01,080
Speaker 1: like just all this craziness because I think like because

1678
01:12:01,080 --> 01:12:03,080
Speaker 1: I have been like I'm very vocal about being single

1679
01:12:03,080 --> 01:12:04,720
Speaker 1: and dating and the last guy that I dated, I

1680
01:12:04,760 --> 01:12:06,920
Speaker 1: was like, this could be it, and like you know

1681
01:12:06,960 --> 01:12:08,080
Speaker 1: what I mean, just this has just been like this

1682
01:12:08,160 --> 01:12:09,840
Speaker 1: roller coaster. So a couple of weeks ago was like

1683
01:12:10,120 --> 01:12:12,479
Speaker 1: just all these guys like just it was just like

1684
01:12:12,560 --> 01:12:15,000
Speaker 1: really hectic. And Brad, one of my best friends, was like, Tanya,

1685
01:12:15,120 --> 01:12:17,479
Speaker 1: like all these guys that you're dealing with right now,

1686
01:12:17,880 --> 01:12:20,000
Speaker 1: they're not your guys, Like you need to just like

1687
01:12:20,280 --> 01:12:23,280
Speaker 1: it's hectic energy, like you need to just like be done.

1688
01:12:23,760 --> 01:12:25,680
Speaker 1: You're moving like out on your own, you need to

1689
01:12:25,720 --> 01:12:27,880
Speaker 1: just like stop. And so I think I like mindfully

1690
01:12:27,960 --> 01:12:30,280
Speaker 1: just at that point kind of like snapped and was

1691
01:12:30,320 --> 01:12:34,360
Speaker 1: like because I haven't really been interested, I haven't not realized, No,

1692
01:12:34,400 --> 01:12:36,519
Speaker 1: not at all. And I think it was funny because

1693
01:12:36,560 --> 01:12:38,840
Speaker 1: I did. We did this tarot card thing for Halloween,

1694
01:12:39,640 --> 01:12:43,280
Speaker 1: and she starts flipping everything and everything was career. It

1695
01:12:43,320 --> 01:12:47,120
Speaker 1: was like all it was like this crazy career card stuff,

1696
01:12:47,160 --> 01:12:50,000
Speaker 1: like crazy like really spot on with some stuff. And

1697
01:12:50,040 --> 01:12:51,640
Speaker 1: then there was one card and it had to do

1698
01:12:51,720 --> 01:12:54,360
Speaker 1: with it was a guy that I is in my

1699
01:12:54,400 --> 01:12:56,280
Speaker 1: life right now, not in this city.

1700
01:12:57,280 --> 01:13:00,880
Speaker 7: That was the depend for most of the time, and.

1701
01:13:00,800 --> 01:13:03,320
Speaker 1: So she flipped it over and she was like it

1702
01:13:03,439 --> 01:13:03,840
Speaker 1: was like.

1703
01:13:06,400 --> 01:13:08,040
Speaker 2: I like living over here.

1704
01:13:09,520 --> 01:13:11,479
Speaker 1: Then like of course, I'm like, no, let's just breeze

1705
01:13:11,479 --> 01:13:13,000
Speaker 1: by it because I like I wanted to hear about

1706
01:13:13,000 --> 01:13:14,680
Speaker 1: my career because that's like where I'm at right now,

1707
01:13:14,720 --> 01:13:16,760
Speaker 1: you know. So she flips that one over and then

1708
01:13:16,760 --> 01:13:19,240
Speaker 1: all the girls assistanting and the producers and like see her,

1709
01:13:19,280 --> 01:13:20,559
Speaker 1: and everyone was like no, no, no, we need to ask

1710
01:13:20,560 --> 01:13:22,800
Speaker 1: about the guy. Ask about the guy. So then she

1711
01:13:22,880 --> 01:13:24,960
Speaker 1: like does these other things, and she goes, it's gonna happen.

1712
01:13:25,120 --> 01:13:28,640
Speaker 1: It's somebody that you know in your life, but he

1713
01:13:28,720 --> 01:13:33,080
Speaker 1: has to figure something out. And then around May, I swear,

1714
01:13:33,120 --> 01:13:37,280
Speaker 1: I'm not even making this up. Around Mayna, it's gonna

1715
01:13:37,320 --> 01:13:39,479
Speaker 1: come to a head and you're gonna know, like it's

1716
01:13:39,520 --> 01:13:41,080
Speaker 1: all gonna make sense in May.

1717
01:13:41,200 --> 01:13:43,040
Speaker 11: But the other element to this is that she knows

1718
01:13:43,040 --> 01:13:45,799
Speaker 11: the initials of the person, don't you or an initial,

1719
01:13:46,200 --> 01:13:47,280
Speaker 11: and she won't tell anyone.

1720
01:13:47,360 --> 01:13:49,439
Speaker 7: She won't tell anyone what the initial is, yeah, because

1721
01:13:49,760 --> 01:13:50,599
Speaker 7: want to jinx.

1722
01:13:50,400 --> 01:13:51,759
Speaker 1: It or I don't know, because.

1723
01:13:51,600 --> 01:13:59,400
Speaker 7: It's just I understand that I get that. WHOA.

1724
01:13:56,400 --> 01:14:03,160
Speaker 2: That's honestly though, Tanya. I was thinking about this last

1725
01:14:03,200 --> 01:14:06,280
Speaker 2: week when I was up all night. I went into

1726
01:14:06,280 --> 01:14:10,280
Speaker 2: this place of just really deep thinking, and I started thinking, like,

1727
01:14:11,240 --> 01:14:13,200
Speaker 2: obviously we always talk about like you're gonna find your

1728
01:14:13,200 --> 01:14:18,400
Speaker 2: guy whatever, like that's but you're such a I was.

1729
01:14:18,920 --> 01:14:21,040
Speaker 2: I was just thinking about how like much of an

1730
01:14:21,040 --> 01:14:23,639
Speaker 2: example and like a champion you are for single women

1731
01:14:23,680 --> 01:14:26,280
Speaker 2: who are in their same phase of their life right now,

1732
01:14:26,320 --> 01:14:30,879
Speaker 2: and how like having someone like you to like see

1733
01:14:31,000 --> 01:14:33,479
Speaker 2: and think like when they're struggling or not feeling confident

1734
01:14:33,520 --> 01:14:36,000
Speaker 2: in like not being with someone. To have someone like

1735
01:14:36,080 --> 01:14:38,639
Speaker 2: you who's successful in her career and has amazing friends

1736
01:14:38,640 --> 01:14:42,000
Speaker 2: and is doing like really well in her life, Like

1737
01:14:42,120 --> 01:14:44,920
Speaker 2: that's your purpose right now, because like the people that

1738
01:14:45,000 --> 01:14:49,160
Speaker 2: you're reaching being single right now, you wouldn't be able

1739
01:14:49,200 --> 01:14:51,040
Speaker 2: to reach them if you were in a relationship.

1740
01:14:51,160 --> 01:14:53,840
Speaker 1: I totally agree. I've had so many people like I mean,

1741
01:14:54,080 --> 01:14:56,280
Speaker 1: it's like insane some of the messages that I get,

1742
01:14:56,280 --> 01:14:58,120
Speaker 1: and I just like cry because I'm like, I think

1743
01:14:58,120 --> 01:14:59,640
Speaker 1: it's weird too, because a lot of people, a lot

1744
01:14:59,680 --> 01:15:01,880
Speaker 1: of women that are single, they get they're not it's

1745
01:15:01,880 --> 01:15:04,479
Speaker 1: not an insecurity, but it's like they feel like they

1746
01:15:04,520 --> 01:15:06,599
Speaker 1: can't stay in on a Friday night, Like I love

1747
01:15:06,680 --> 01:15:08,320
Speaker 1: staying in on a Friday night, Like I'm single and

1748
01:15:08,320 --> 01:15:10,760
Speaker 1: I could care less, Like I love staying home on

1749
01:15:10,800 --> 01:15:13,559
Speaker 1: a Friday night by myself, cleaning my makeup brushes. And

1750
01:15:13,600 --> 01:15:15,679
Speaker 1: it's so weird how just little things like that people

1751
01:15:15,680 --> 01:15:17,559
Speaker 1: can really like cling onto and be like I love

1752
01:15:17,600 --> 01:15:19,600
Speaker 1: that you're single, and yet you don't have to be

1753
01:15:19,760 --> 01:15:21,640
Speaker 1: like out at a bar on a Friday trying to

1754
01:15:21,640 --> 01:15:23,320
Speaker 1: meet someone. And I'm like, because I think that it's

1755
01:15:23,320 --> 01:15:24,840
Speaker 1: all going to happen when it's supposed to happen. I

1756
01:15:25,280 --> 01:15:28,439
Speaker 1: have a bigger faith and trust and something bigger. So

1757
01:15:28,479 --> 01:15:29,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't have to go out of my

1758
01:15:29,720 --> 01:15:31,280
Speaker 1: way to do something that I really don't want to do,

1759
01:15:31,560 --> 01:15:38,320
Speaker 1: like to force it. Yeah, So thanks Becca.

1760
01:15:37,280 --> 01:15:39,519
Speaker 2: Yeah you're welcome. Well I was just thinking, I'm like,

1761
01:15:40,080 --> 01:15:42,080
Speaker 2: that's that's where you're at right now, and you're like

1762
01:15:42,160 --> 01:15:44,120
Speaker 2: reaching a lot more people than if you're in a relationship.

1763
01:15:44,160 --> 01:15:46,639
Speaker 2: I think you're like doing a lot of like really

1764
01:15:47,160 --> 01:15:51,720
Speaker 2: cool things for people. That is like what you're doing,

1765
01:15:51,920 --> 01:15:53,160
Speaker 2: like it's you have part of your life.

1766
01:15:53,200 --> 01:15:55,240
Speaker 1: But and like I thought at this point, I thought

1767
01:15:55,240 --> 01:15:57,360
Speaker 1: I would be married for four years at this point,

1768
01:15:57,360 --> 01:15:58,200
Speaker 1: like I fully was like.

1769
01:15:58,400 --> 01:16:00,439
Speaker 2: I was like married with two kids. But by now

1770
01:16:00,439 --> 01:16:01,439
Speaker 2: I would have had.

1771
01:16:01,280 --> 01:16:03,599
Speaker 1: Four of this and I've done things like even living alone.

1772
01:16:03,600 --> 01:16:05,439
Speaker 1: I never in a million years that I would live alone.

1773
01:16:05,720 --> 01:16:08,000
Speaker 1: And the fact that I'm like capable of doing that

1774
01:16:08,080 --> 01:16:09,720
Speaker 1: on my own and want to do it on my

1775
01:16:09,760 --> 01:16:13,280
Speaker 1: own is like really crazy. Like if you would have

1776
01:16:13,280 --> 01:16:15,479
Speaker 1: asked Tanya at twenty four if she'd be doing this

1777
01:16:15,560 --> 01:16:17,519
Speaker 1: right now, I would be like, what, in no way,

1778
01:16:17,920 --> 01:16:20,000
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have two babies by now, you know. So

1779
01:16:20,040 --> 01:16:22,000
Speaker 1: it's really weird. It's really weird because the things that

1780
01:16:22,000 --> 01:16:25,639
Speaker 1: I'm doing that I never even thought. We're in the cards.

1781
01:16:25,720 --> 01:16:28,519
Speaker 10: Well yeah, and this is your story. You know, it's

1782
01:16:28,560 --> 01:16:30,360
Speaker 10: not going to always go how we predict, but it's

1783
01:16:30,400 --> 01:16:33,280
Speaker 10: a beautiful story that will all makes sense in the end.

1784
01:16:33,800 --> 01:16:36,920
Speaker 10: And it's just crazy to see how was playing out. Tanya,

1785
01:16:36,960 --> 01:16:39,280
Speaker 10: You're You're good, You're you're you really are a light

1786
01:16:39,560 --> 01:16:42,680
Speaker 10: to everybody, die heart. There is not one person in

1787
01:16:42,720 --> 01:16:44,800
Speaker 10: here has who has not been affected in some way

1788
01:16:44,800 --> 01:16:47,400
Speaker 10: by you. The best part about Tanya to me, and

1789
01:16:47,439 --> 01:16:49,160
Speaker 10: maybe I just see her, you know once every week

1790
01:16:49,160 --> 01:16:52,639
Speaker 10: when I fly in or a whatnot, is that when

1791
01:16:52,720 --> 01:16:55,720
Speaker 10: you enter into a room, people get more joyful than

1792
01:16:55,760 --> 01:16:58,720
Speaker 10: if you weren't there, Like there is this tangible like

1793
01:16:58,880 --> 01:17:02,680
Speaker 10: joy that enters in with you. And so that's I

1794
01:17:02,720 --> 01:17:04,800
Speaker 10: think that's like a message in I.

1795
01:17:04,720 --> 01:17:06,480
Speaker 2: Told you you're like human sunshine.

1796
01:17:06,680 --> 01:17:07,480
Speaker 7: That's true.

1797
01:17:07,560 --> 01:17:10,080
Speaker 11: And you said also earlier that Tanya brings something entertainment

1798
01:17:10,080 --> 01:17:11,040
Speaker 11: that nobody else brings.

1799
01:17:11,120 --> 01:17:12,120
Speaker 7: Yeah, and that's really true.

1800
01:17:12,240 --> 01:17:15,439
Speaker 10: Yeah, and consistently, not just like for the first three

1801
01:17:15,439 --> 01:17:17,880
Speaker 10: months that she worked. It's like no, no, no, this

1802
01:17:17,960 --> 01:17:21,760
Speaker 10: is Tanya. This is intentional, this is her purpose, and

1803
01:17:21,800 --> 01:17:24,519
Speaker 10: it's happened consistently for the time that you've been around.

1804
01:17:24,720 --> 01:17:26,360
Speaker 7: Like, that's that's unique. I think it is.

1805
01:17:26,479 --> 01:17:29,639
Speaker 10: Yeah, it's so nice.

1806
01:17:29,680 --> 01:17:33,480
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm like, what's happening your birthday?

1807
01:17:33,720 --> 01:17:35,759
Speaker 2: It's your half birthday. Wow.

1808
01:17:35,920 --> 01:17:38,639
Speaker 10: Well, I hope you won an award next week? All right,

1809
01:17:39,360 --> 01:17:39,720
Speaker 10: thank you?

1810
01:17:39,880 --> 01:17:42,439
Speaker 2: Same, It's it's not so much hope though, Like it's

1811
01:17:42,439 --> 01:17:45,240
Speaker 2: when we win the award. Thank you for your pre congratulations.

1812
01:17:45,280 --> 01:17:45,880
Speaker 2: We appreciate it.

1813
01:17:45,960 --> 01:17:46,800
Speaker 7: Yeah, thanks Ben.

1814
01:17:46,840 --> 01:17:48,439
Speaker 11: They want to talk about periods, so I'm going to

1815
01:17:48,600 --> 01:17:49,960
Speaker 11: give you an opportunity. Do you want to go or

1816
01:17:50,040 --> 01:17:52,240
Speaker 11: stay for this next part? I'm gonna head out.

1817
01:17:54,600 --> 01:17:55,840
Speaker 7: All right, I'll see you guys.

1818
01:17:56,080 --> 01:17:59,120
Speaker 2: Ben. Thank you. I'm so glad. We got to talk

1819
01:17:59,120 --> 01:18:01,479
Speaker 2: about the Virginia thing. We got to talk about the

1820
01:18:01,520 --> 01:18:04,679
Speaker 2: tawny thing, we got to talk about the the boner thing.

1821
01:18:05,439 --> 01:18:08,360
Speaker 2: It's all really special. I feel like you like visibly

1822
01:18:08,400 --> 01:18:08,960
Speaker 2: look lighter.

1823
01:18:09,080 --> 01:18:09,679
Speaker 7: Yeah I do.

1824
01:18:10,000 --> 01:18:12,280
Speaker 10: It's interesting now that you repeat it, I felt I

1825
01:18:12,320 --> 01:18:14,599
Speaker 10: feel like a burd's been lifted from coming on this podcast.

1826
01:18:14,680 --> 01:18:16,519
Speaker 10: But as you say that back, I'm like, what did

1827
01:18:16,560 --> 01:18:17,240
Speaker 10: we just talk about?

1828
01:18:17,280 --> 01:18:20,680
Speaker 2: And how far did we take this America?

1829
01:18:20,920 --> 01:18:22,879
Speaker 10: Yeah, I gotta go take Lindsay shopping.

1830
01:18:23,960 --> 01:18:26,920
Speaker 7: We're going to the Palisades and uh again.

1831
01:18:26,960 --> 01:18:30,200
Speaker 10: Lindsay has donated her money and time for Humane and

1832
01:18:30,240 --> 01:18:33,640
Speaker 10: Hope United, which is awesome. So thanks to iHeart for

1833
01:18:33,680 --> 01:18:35,280
Speaker 10: setting that up. And Lindsay and I are going to

1834
01:18:35,320 --> 01:18:37,519
Speaker 10: go shop and drop and I don't know, probably ice

1835
01:18:37,560 --> 01:18:39,920
Speaker 10: cream because Lindsay seems like pretty special. So I'm going

1836
01:18:40,000 --> 01:18:42,120
Speaker 10: to eat ice cream for her at the very end

1837
01:18:42,160 --> 01:18:44,280
Speaker 10: of our time together so that I can be somewhere

1838
01:18:44,320 --> 01:18:45,920
Speaker 10: safe afterwards.

1839
01:18:47,640 --> 01:18:48,960
Speaker 7: All right, see you guys buye.

1840
01:18:49,920 --> 01:18:53,040
Speaker 1: I wonder if, like any of us, are somehow related

1841
01:18:53,040 --> 01:18:55,759
Speaker 1: to Ben Higgins. I'd love to be, I know, right,

1842
01:18:56,080 --> 01:18:57,120
Speaker 1: Do you know how we could find out?

1843
01:18:57,640 --> 01:18:58,360
Speaker 7: How could we do that?

1844
01:18:58,720 --> 01:18:59,360
Speaker 1: Twenty three and me?

1845
01:18:59,560 --> 01:18:59,760
Speaker 2: Yes?

1846
01:19:00,520 --> 01:19:03,519
Speaker 1: Actually, twenty three in me is named after the twenty

1847
01:19:03,520 --> 01:19:06,439
Speaker 1: three pairs of chromosomes in your DNA.

1848
01:19:06,600 --> 01:19:08,280
Speaker 7: But if you're related to then then you wouldn't be

1849
01:19:08,320 --> 01:19:09,080
Speaker 7: able to date him.

1850
01:19:10,840 --> 01:19:14,760
Speaker 1: Oh that's true. I don't want to be related to him.

1851
01:19:14,840 --> 01:19:18,519
Speaker 1: Fair enough, Okay. Their service provides you with over seventy

1852
01:19:18,520 --> 01:19:22,280
Speaker 1: five genetic reports about your health, like lactose intolerance and

1853
01:19:22,320 --> 01:19:26,320
Speaker 1: sleep movement. Traits, your eye color, hair color, or hair curl.

1854
01:19:26,720 --> 01:19:29,120
Speaker 1: Actually I did this and it told me. My spit

1855
01:19:29,200 --> 01:19:32,360
Speaker 1: told me that I was gonna be left handed. How

1856
01:19:32,360 --> 01:19:33,360
Speaker 1: do they know I'm left handed?

1857
01:19:33,400 --> 01:19:34,800
Speaker 7: I didn't know you were left handed. Yeah, I've known

1858
01:19:34,960 --> 01:19:35,519
Speaker 7: for a long time.

1859
01:19:35,560 --> 01:19:37,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm left handed. And it said it in my

1860
01:19:37,520 --> 01:19:38,639
Speaker 1: twenty three and meter results.

1861
01:19:38,640 --> 01:19:39,200
Speaker 7: That's crazy.

1862
01:19:39,840 --> 01:19:41,679
Speaker 1: All you have to do is spit into the tube

1863
01:19:41,760 --> 01:19:44,800
Speaker 1: provided and mail it back to the lab. So now

1864
01:19:44,840 --> 01:19:48,200
Speaker 1: they have a new podcast. It's called Spit and the

1865
01:19:48,240 --> 01:19:50,880
Speaker 1: new podcast from iHeartRadio with twenty three in me. It

1866
01:19:50,960 --> 01:19:54,400
Speaker 1: discusses how science and DNA plays a role in society

1867
01:19:54,800 --> 01:19:57,160
Speaker 1: and in our lives, and how your DNA story can

1868
01:19:57,200 --> 01:20:01,200
Speaker 1: be experienced today, and a whole lot more so. It's uh.

1869
01:20:01,520 --> 01:20:04,680
Speaker 1: The host sits down with the biggest artists and influencers

1870
01:20:04,720 --> 01:20:08,960
Speaker 1: of our time, including Emmy winning Darren Chris who we

1871
01:20:09,040 --> 01:20:13,880
Speaker 1: love right singer John Legend to discuss their own twenty

1872
01:20:13,880 --> 01:20:16,960
Speaker 1: three and me. So join us. Subscribe to the Spit podcast,

1873
01:20:17,320 --> 01:20:19,920
Speaker 1: learn more about the DNA found in your spit and

1874
01:20:20,040 --> 01:20:23,719
Speaker 1: understand who we are genetically and how we are connected

1875
01:20:23,720 --> 01:20:26,520
Speaker 1: to the world around us. So listen to full episodes

1876
01:20:26,520 --> 01:20:29,800
Speaker 1: now on iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to podcasts.

1877
01:20:30,439 --> 01:20:32,639
Speaker 11: As we said goodbye to Ben, they took some selfies

1878
01:20:32,920 --> 01:20:36,120
Speaker 11: and Tanya, who has taken maybe ten thousand selfies in

1879
01:20:36,160 --> 01:20:38,320
Speaker 11: her life, just figured out where to look for the

1880
01:20:38,360 --> 01:20:39,240
Speaker 11: first time ever.

1881
01:20:39,360 --> 01:20:41,880
Speaker 2: Truly, I've never seen you not look at the That

1882
01:20:42,000 --> 01:20:43,880
Speaker 2: was you were looking like off though.

1883
01:20:44,040 --> 01:20:46,240
Speaker 1: Look, yeah, it was weird my eyes ever about that

1884
01:20:46,320 --> 01:20:49,439
Speaker 1: weird something something went awry, something to go right. But

1885
01:20:49,479 --> 01:20:53,200
Speaker 1: I've never looked at the dot before the actual camera.

1886
01:20:53,360 --> 01:20:56,800
Speaker 2: It was almost like you were looking for like almost

1887
01:20:56,880 --> 01:20:58,760
Speaker 2: like you were looking at me and the camera. That's

1888
01:20:58,760 --> 01:21:01,680
Speaker 2: how far over your own are you checking out? What

1889
01:21:01,720 --> 01:21:02,640
Speaker 2: were you interested in?

1890
01:21:02,920 --> 01:21:05,360
Speaker 1: I guess our symmetry?

1891
01:21:06,000 --> 01:21:08,160
Speaker 2: I don't know. But I don't like being the one

1892
01:21:08,160 --> 01:21:10,040
Speaker 2: to take the selfie because I feel like I look

1893
01:21:10,120 --> 01:21:12,040
Speaker 2: prettier when someone else takes the selfie.

1894
01:21:12,560 --> 01:21:15,080
Speaker 1: I just can't get everybody thin face.

1895
01:21:15,120 --> 01:21:19,439
Speaker 11: I don't like when i'm why something, but yeah, like.

1896
01:21:19,479 --> 01:21:21,719
Speaker 1: When I do it, I can't get everybody in the frame.

1897
01:21:21,760 --> 01:21:23,280
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, because you're in the middle of that one.

1898
01:21:24,240 --> 01:21:25,360
Speaker 1: And how much better is that?

1899
01:21:25,800 --> 01:21:31,440
Speaker 2: I did? Okay? On this Ben is a gem great guy.

1900
01:21:31,520 --> 01:21:32,759
Speaker 7: Why to catch for somebody?

1901
01:21:32,960 --> 01:21:40,280
Speaker 2: He doesn't seem like he's not looking really, that is insane. Yeah,

1902
01:21:40,560 --> 01:21:45,320
Speaker 2: who else do we know from different cities? Like are

1903
01:21:45,320 --> 01:21:46,600
Speaker 2: there certain? Are there some?

1904
01:21:46,920 --> 01:21:52,000
Speaker 1: I mean no, Bobby, but like oh Jason Tartic.

1905
01:21:53,920 --> 01:21:58,360
Speaker 2: Chicago guy, it said they did say like it might

1906
01:21:58,560 --> 01:22:02,000
Speaker 2: you know they but for some of those things that

1907
01:22:02,080 --> 01:22:04,559
Speaker 2: have to take a very serious turn in a different direction.

1908
01:22:04,760 --> 01:22:07,160
Speaker 2: But yeah, never know. There's a lot of time in

1909
01:22:07,200 --> 01:22:08,040
Speaker 2: between now and May.

1910
01:22:08,240 --> 01:22:09,960
Speaker 11: All right, So for weeks, Tony, he's been wanting to

1911
01:22:09,960 --> 01:22:12,080
Speaker 11: talk about periods and we have some time. Now, what

1912
01:22:12,240 --> 01:22:13,800
Speaker 11: is it the exactly that you would like to say

1913
01:22:13,840 --> 01:22:14,920
Speaker 11: about periods?

1914
01:22:15,680 --> 01:22:19,920
Speaker 1: So many things, like so many things.

1915
01:22:19,960 --> 01:22:22,360
Speaker 11: All right, I'm going to turn my mic off. You guys, well,

1916
01:22:22,360 --> 01:22:23,960
Speaker 11: I don't have much to contribute to this.

1917
01:22:24,160 --> 01:22:26,120
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Okay.

1918
01:22:26,360 --> 01:22:28,720
Speaker 13: I think periods are wonderful. I look forward to them

1919
01:22:28,720 --> 01:22:29,120
Speaker 13: every night.

1920
01:22:29,160 --> 01:22:31,240
Speaker 1: I just feel like we need to like open the

1921
01:22:31,240 --> 01:22:34,479
Speaker 1: conversation because guys get squirmy about like I always want

1922
01:22:34,479 --> 01:22:35,720
Speaker 1: to talk about periods on the Morning show.

1923
01:22:35,760 --> 01:22:38,360
Speaker 11: And Mark so I was like, well, that's an interesting

1924
01:22:38,400 --> 01:22:42,240
Speaker 11: thing because you're broadcasting to all of Los Angeles, all

1925
01:22:42,320 --> 01:22:44,680
Speaker 11: ages and families and old and young, and we just

1926
01:22:44,760 --> 01:22:46,439
Speaker 11: have to keep that in mind that some people would

1927
01:22:46,479 --> 01:22:47,880
Speaker 11: not be enjoying that conversation.

1928
01:22:48,240 --> 01:22:48,720
Speaker 7: I hate this.

1929
01:22:49,160 --> 01:22:51,760
Speaker 2: This show is different like talking about it. If there's

1930
01:22:52,240 --> 01:22:54,720
Speaker 2: something to talk about about, it is fine. But like

1931
01:22:55,120 --> 01:22:57,760
Speaker 2: I don't like getting my period, Like it's not comfortable.

1932
01:22:57,800 --> 01:23:00,439
Speaker 2: I don't like thrive when I'm on my so I

1933
01:23:00,439 --> 01:23:01,719
Speaker 2: don't like to like really talk.

1934
01:23:01,800 --> 01:23:03,600
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just exactly, but that's the thing, Like

1935
01:23:03,640 --> 01:23:06,240
Speaker 1: we're all not thriving when we're on our period, but

1936
01:23:06,280 --> 01:23:07,240
Speaker 1: we all get them.

1937
01:23:07,760 --> 01:23:10,479
Speaker 2: But like me, not talk about me. Not talking about

1938
01:23:10,479 --> 01:23:13,040
Speaker 2: it isn't because I'm scared or embarrassed about it, or

1939
01:23:13,200 --> 01:23:16,320
Speaker 2: it's literally because I'm already on it. I don't want

1940
01:23:16,360 --> 01:23:17,679
Speaker 2: to talk about being on it.

1941
01:23:18,080 --> 01:23:21,479
Speaker 1: So I get like really tired around my period, like

1942
01:23:21,800 --> 01:23:26,240
Speaker 1: the last thing I want to do is or anything

1943
01:23:26,680 --> 01:23:29,280
Speaker 1: like anything like that. And so really takes a lot,

1944
01:23:29,280 --> 01:23:31,519
Speaker 1: Like I literally have to sit there and be like Tanya,

1945
01:23:31,640 --> 01:23:33,519
Speaker 1: you can do this, and I will literally stand there

1946
01:23:33,520 --> 01:23:35,360
Speaker 1: and just say Tanya, you can do this.

1947
01:23:35,960 --> 01:23:39,439
Speaker 2: I I get like the day before mine, I am

1948
01:23:39,520 --> 01:23:42,880
Speaker 2: so irritable. I almost punted Phoebe off of the balcony

1949
01:23:43,400 --> 01:23:47,160
Speaker 2: because she is fully potty trained in my apartment and

1950
01:23:47,360 --> 01:23:49,400
Speaker 2: she looked at me. She got I guess was mad

1951
01:23:49,400 --> 01:23:50,720
Speaker 2: at me and looked at me and the eye am

1952
01:23:50,720 --> 01:23:55,599
Speaker 2: peede on my carpet, and I, oh, it was so

1953
01:23:55,720 --> 01:24:02,160
Speaker 2: disrespectful and like the I would have been upset anyway,

1954
01:24:02,200 --> 01:24:04,600
Speaker 2: but I'm normally pretty chill most of the time. The

1955
01:24:04,880 --> 01:24:07,160
Speaker 2: level of anger I felt, I was like, Oh, I'm

1956
01:24:07,200 --> 01:24:09,360
Speaker 2: about to start my period. And I started my period

1957
01:24:09,400 --> 01:24:09,840
Speaker 2: the next day.

1958
01:24:09,840 --> 01:24:12,080
Speaker 1: It's true, Becca can really call it like you have. Really,

1959
01:24:12,120 --> 01:24:14,400
Speaker 1: you're really in tune with your emotions.

1960
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Speaker 2: Yeah, Because when I start feeling like things are bothering

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Speaker 2: me that shouldn't bother me, I'm like, I think I

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Speaker 2: can blame this on my period.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you get irritable. I get really emotional. I'm super

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Speaker 1: emotional around my period.

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Speaker 2: You're emotional all the time.

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Speaker 1: That's true, but it's heightened around my period.

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Speaker 2: Do y'alls wives get different? Like are they do? They

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Speaker 2: act out?

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Speaker 11: I don't really notice much difference, and that's certainly not

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Speaker 11: something I would call attention to if I did.

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Speaker 7: That doesn't seem like a good move. Yeah, is that time?

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Speaker 11: Yeah, that's not nice and that's not a good thing

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Speaker 11: to say. No, I don't really notice much of that. Yeah,

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Speaker 11: how much pain do you experience on a monthly basis,

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Speaker 11: because that seems to be a wide range. Some women

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Speaker 11: it's no big deal, but some women are down for

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Speaker 11: the count.

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Speaker 2: I mine's like the first day, I'm like uncomfortable and cramping,

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Speaker 2: but if I take mite all, it'll go away. I

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Speaker 2: have friends who literally can't do like they're like you said,

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Speaker 2: they're down for the count. Heating pads. Some of them

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Speaker 2: have to go to the hospital sometimes, like it can

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Speaker 2: get really bad.

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Speaker 1: I've had days writing like a heating pad plus motor

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Speaker 1: and plus all the things.

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Speaker 13: It sounds horrible. I always feel so bad because men

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Speaker 13: don't go through this, you know. And Allison and I

1988
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Speaker 13: used she probably hates them bringing this up. We used

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Speaker 13: to work at a movie theater together and she would

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Speaker 13: come in with one of those hot water bottles, like

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Speaker 13: the kind you see in a cartoon, like the big

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Speaker 13: rubber ones. Become one of those just kind of like

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Speaker 13: by your side, and it was felt like very like

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Speaker 13: depression era. But she's like, I need this, I am

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Speaker 13: in so much pain. I felt so bad.

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Speaker 8: For her, And uh, yeah, it's just not It's like

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Speaker 8: there's a lot about it that's not physically comfortable, and

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Speaker 8: on top of that, you do feel like mentally like

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Speaker 8: you're just irritable and you feel exhausted.

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Speaker 1: And you're like losing of yourself. Like I truly feel

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Speaker 1: like I'm losing parts of myself and I like I

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Speaker 1: feel like I'm being drained when I'm on my period.

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Speaker 13: What's happening?

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 1: Nobody wants to have this conversation.

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Speaker 2: It's just it's like if I was like I really

2007
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Speaker 2: it was like when we talked about Olive Garden and

2008
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Speaker 2: You're like, why are we talking about all of Garden

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Speaker 2: because it's.

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Speaker 13: Like you're there your family.

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Speaker 2: When you're there, your family, But it's like, I mean, yeah,

2012
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Speaker 2: we all get them. For the most part, I would

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Speaker 2: think that they suck. I guess unless you are not

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Speaker 2: trying to get pregnant, it's very exciting to get your period.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you know you know what?

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Speaker 7: Then have you had that when you're like, oh, thank God?

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Speaker 7: Have you had those moments when.

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Speaker 1: I get my period?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like thank you? Like I would, I would do

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Speaker 1: the deal with God, Like if I get my period,

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Speaker 1: I will glady blah blah blah blah. So we can

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Speaker 1: table this, we can throw it to listeners to shout

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Speaker 1: us out if there's anything about periods topics is really generic?

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Speaker 11: Yeah, if there's tampons are the industry standard, right, paths

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Speaker 11: don't seem as common, and I'm sorry for my ignorance.

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Speaker 1: No, that's not ignorant at all. Actually, I know one

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Speaker 1: woman that we work with that only uses time. Really, yes, I.

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Speaker 2: Also know people who, because of the like chemicals and

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Speaker 2: stuff that tampons are soaked in, won't use them and

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Speaker 2: we'll only use pads. I could never because that sounds

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Speaker 2: like torture torre.

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Speaker 7: What's wrong with paths? Just you're just like.

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Speaker 1: Stewing in your own filth.

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Speaker 2: Do you remember wearing a diapers?

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Speaker 7: It feels like that.

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Speaker 13: Yeah, we're at the diva cup. Where do you stand

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Speaker 13: on that?

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Speaker 2: I've never tried to Oh yeah, if you're our listeners,

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Speaker 2: if you've tried it in way in here, and we

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Speaker 2: like to know what you wanted?

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Speaker 1: What would you like to talk about with the period?

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Speaker 11: And we see commercials where they have wings on the pads.

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Speaker 11: I don't even know what that is.

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Speaker 2: They like you can fold them in, they stick and

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Speaker 2: stay in place on it.

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Speaker 13: I always thought that's what they were job back home

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Speaker 13: in Santa Cruz. I went over to a young lady's

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Speaker 13: house and opened her refrigerator and I saw a mason

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Speaker 13: jar full of liquid. And I understood that some people

2051
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Speaker 13: keep the discharge and they cook with it.

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Speaker 1: Actually, like I'm going to vomit.

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Speaker 7: They cook with it, cook with it.

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Speaker 13: This is a very very hippie diippy thing to do.

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Speaker 13: And I immediately canceled my planes to have spaghetti and

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Speaker 13: meatballs that night. Hit her else But uh, that that's crazy, right,

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Speaker 13: Like I mean, I want to judge you're kidding.

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Speaker 7: I'm not kidding.

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Speaker 13: This is oneris Can I tell you?

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Speaker 1: I have heard that this is a thing if you

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Speaker 1: put some of your period blood, if you put it

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Speaker 1: in your guy's food and he eats it, he'll marry you.

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Speaker 1: Why is that funny?

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Speaker 2: I hope that the guy in may is. I hope

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Speaker 2: he's not listening. I'm not saying.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying I have this, but I have encouraged

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Speaker 1: people to do it.

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Speaker 7: It just became May of twenty twenty seven, May twenty nine,

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Speaker 7: kept getting pushed.

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Speaker 1: Back, what year, Oh my goodness, she did?

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Speaker 2: I know?

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Speaker 7: Well, Easton took it to a dark place. But I

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Speaker 7: think we can wrap it up.

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Speaker 2: No I love where Easton took it.

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Speaker 1: That's right.

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Speaker 1: Okay, can I tell you that this is my family's

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Speaker 1: and I was like, this cake is beautiful. First of all,

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Speaker 7: Say about cake, it needs to taste great, it needs

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Speaker 7: to look great.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and they taste delicious, but they really do an

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Speaker 1: extraordinary job of making them look so good. So when

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Speaker 1: Products and mark what do the both of them? Us

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Speaker 1: eat every single morning? Oatmeal?

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Speaker 7: Eat oat meal every day every day, we eat out mail.

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Speaker 11: Yeah, and Teddy Mellencamp, what can you say about her?

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean there's not enough time, but the all

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Speaker 1: in by Teddy The thirty Minute Cardio workout is all

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Speaker 1: with two different impact levels in one video, you can

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Speaker 1: decide which is perfect for you. So I obviously I

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Speaker 1: love Teddy, support her, and I think you guys should.

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Speaker 11: Do thirty minute cardio. Yeah, that's great, do that every

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Speaker 11: day and thank her.

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Speaker 1: Later, thank her later, or if you want to get

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Speaker 1: extra credit, do it twice nice fullow.

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Speaker 7: Good call sixty minute cardio.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: Anyways, thank you. We have had some big shows, like

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Speaker 2: I am like so proud of this podcast. I have been.

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Speaker 2: I've been proud of this podcast since day one or

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Speaker 2: really I yeah, since day one, but obviously once Tanya

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Speaker 2: came on, it really became an element of like this

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Speaker 2: could really be something. And so these past few weeks

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Speaker 2: have made me realize, like I know, we have the

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Speaker 2: People's Choice nomination and we're gonna win. It's gonna be awesome,

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Speaker 2: but like, beyond that, we're doing something really cool here.

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Speaker 11: Ryan suppressed, Sarah Drew, Justin Brunig, James Maslow, the Lady Gang, peak, scrubbing.

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Speaker 1: It, peak.

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Speaker 2: Of this and like Ryan Seacrest asked to be on

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Speaker 2: our he did. Indeed, So like now we can be

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Speaker 2: like Ryan Seacrest asked to be on our podcast? Do

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Speaker 2: you want to be on it?

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Speaker 1: What you like to be on it? Joe?

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Speaker 2: You know, like we have some leverage here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, should get audio of him asking and he's like,

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Speaker 1: send that to people in boxes.

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Speaker 2: But anyways, I'm proud to work with y'all, and I'm

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Speaker 2: really proud of this podcast. It's really just like something

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Speaker 2: that feels like right and that we're doing something bigger

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Speaker 2: than just talking about periods every week and other things.

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Speaker 1: I agree with your sentiment, Beckatilly, and I think that

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Speaker 1: we are all better people for having you in our lives.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, thank you. I'm really thriving in my thirties.

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Speaker 1: That's that's right.

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Speaker 2: A weekend, so far, so good. I think we we

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Speaker 2: haven't really gotten to do well. We did a lot

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Speaker 2: to ask you guys with Ben so.

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Speaker 7: That we did.

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Speaker 11: Yeah, but keep the emails coming, scrubbing in at iHeartMedia

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Speaker 11: dot Com.

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Speaker 7: We'll get to a bunch of the next week.

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Speaker 2: I would like next week, I'd like to talk more

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Speaker 2: about Grays. I had some breakthroughs with storylines that I'm

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Speaker 2: interested in.

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Speaker 7: Me too good.

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Speaker 2: You need to talk to that, Yeah, do you want

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Speaker 2: to call. I called it last week, so it's up

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Speaker 2: to you.

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Speaker 1: Fifteen oh four Time of Death fifteen oh fourn get

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Speaker 1: rusty when you don't do it for a couple of

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Speaker 1: weeks