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Speaker 1: I ghosted my exit. Now be my new boss? What

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Speaker 1: should I do? This is OKOP, the Home of the

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Speaker 1: Craziest stories on Earth. I'm Sam and Sophia John, what

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Speaker 2: Double down? How do you double down? Hey, shirdy, you're

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Speaker 2: my boss and my girl.

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Speaker 1: Now can I get a raise? All right, let's get

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Speaker 1: into it. This is from a manager blog. So I

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Speaker 1: was hoping you'd be able to help me with a

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Speaker 1: conundrum I got myself into. I've been an expat since graduating,

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Speaker 1: and I move around a lot. More than a decade ago,

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Speaker 1: when I was still young, I was in a relationship

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Speaker 1: with a woman, Sylvia, in a country where we both lived.

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Speaker 1: Sylvia wanted to settle down, but I was not ready

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Speaker 1: to commit. So young man's a young buck. We clearly

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Speaker 1: had different expectations from the relationship. I did not know

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Speaker 1: what to do, and well I ghosted here. Oh dang,

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Speaker 1: what immature?

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Speaker 3: But he's that's immature.

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Speaker 1: He's young. He's young and dumb. He is young in

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Speaker 1: a country where they both live.

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Speaker 2: That's all we know, John, All we know.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I think that's not cool.

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Speaker 1: I also think it's not cool. Same good because he's

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Speaker 1: that young.

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Speaker 3: He graduated.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but we don't know if he graduated middle school.

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Speaker 4: Yet.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, Well, you could be an ex pat just means

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Speaker 1: you no longer, Yeah, but you could. We moved away

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Speaker 1: when we were children. We were technically expats in Australia

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Speaker 1: for eight months. Yeah, but we were expats in Australia

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Speaker 1: at eight. I think he has graduated something and he's

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Speaker 2: Boom.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, over the Christmas break, while she was visiting her family,

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Speaker 1: I simply moved out and left the country. He's super

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Speaker 1: her about it. I simply wanted to avoid being untangled

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Speaker 1: in a breakup drama. Sylvia was rather emotional and became

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Speaker 1: obsessed with the relationship, tracking me down, even causing various

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Speaker 1: scenes with my friends and family, with my parents and friends.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, sounds like Sylvia is kind of immature too,

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Speaker 1: What okay?

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Speaker 3: This guy just like we don't know how long their

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Speaker 4: I know, but if it was, like, let's say it

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Speaker 3: She's like what what hello? Like, She's like, did he die?

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Speaker 3: Let me call up his parents.

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Speaker 2: It is true about storytime. Worried juicy? Okay, story time

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Speaker 2: after the story, get ready. I feel like he could

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Speaker 4: At least yeah literally leaving bye bye.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't want to see you anymore.

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Speaker 1: Okay, still a dick, but at least he thinks you're

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Speaker 1: not dead. Yeah, although that's what the kidnapper murderers would

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Speaker 5: Yeah, a snapchat, that's what I did.

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Speaker 2: What two fingers up? Okay, storytime, we're saving them up.

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Speaker 1: Anyway. Fast forward to now. I now work as a

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Speaker 1: math teacher in an international school. I have been in

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Speaker 1: What a guy?

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Speaker 3: Did you also ghost your other relationships?

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Speaker 1: We'll find out sadly till now.

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Speaker 3: Oh, it's sort of sort of forgotten history.

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Speaker 1: Sadly. Yeah, and now we're about to learn something about Sylvia.

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Speaker 1: This week, I learned that our fantastic school director suddenly

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Speaker 1: I read the bio of the new boss and googled

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, in a different country.

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Speaker 1: Different country. Has she been tracking him this whole time?

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Speaker 2: I mean, honestly, maybe she table.

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Speaker 1: We have not been in touch and do not have

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Speaker 1: You caused, Yeah, he did cause that, you caused. I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe he's telling breaking up with people with your words,

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Speaker 1: You can't do words, Sophia, you can only do math symbols.

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Speaker 1: Me happy it was clear this will not be only embarrassing,

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Speaker 1: present because he's immature, and it sucks.

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Speaker 4: IFLP had like it was in a position to find

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Speaker 4: another job. I feel like it's in the real HeSE

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Speaker 4: that they would just leave like they don't seem like.

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Speaker 1: The cosation, and he would leave the school without saying

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Speaker 2: Wool, he's got to stay on break.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there are no other international schools, so finding another

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Speaker 1: These jobs usually open up for school terms, so I

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Speaker 1: I am happy and settled here, so do not want

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Speaker 1: to move to make the situation worse. The XPAC community

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Speaker 1: socialize a lot. Do you have any suggestions for me

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Speaker 1: I understand that this would not have happened if I

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Speaker 1: asked how long they were together, we were together for

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Speaker 1: three years. Oh, and live together for two of those years.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I know that ghosting is not a way to end

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Speaker 1: the relationship, but I cannot do much about that now.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate the trouble you are taking with getting back

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Speaker 1: to me. Oh yeah, there is a thick juicy update.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, that changes everything.

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Speaker 1: Sophia, I called it. John, any advice for this poor ghost?

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Speaker 4: Apologize now, yeah, apologize now, say like sorry, that was a.

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Speaker 2: Horrible thing I did.

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Speaker 1: Written the relationship directly to her.

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Speaker 4: And he's like, wow, she kept trying to like call

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Speaker 4: that was crazy of her.

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Speaker 1: Three year relationship, probably paying rent together.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, oh my god, I didnt even think about that.

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Speaker 6: They were living.

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Speaker 4: Together and he just vanished and is published, Like is

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, this is what I was expecting, Like, oh,

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Speaker 1: Then what I thought initially because like who goes someone.

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Speaker 2: For three years and living together? That's absolute insane. I

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Speaker 4: And he's living on his own or with the person.

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Speaker 4: So he's got to be over eighteen.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so I think we've established that he's graduated college.

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Speaker 2: Yeah no, no, he's the hardest working ten year old

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Speaker 2: and the excuse me, now, thirteen year old?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that is so terrible, so horrible. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: let's get into this upide just now is my advice update.

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Speaker 1: So those who blame me for ruining Sylvia's life for good,

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Speaker 1: we're wrong. She has done very well for herself. She

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Speaker 1: is married with kids, and her husband is originally from here.

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Speaker 1: They relocated because of his business opportunity, not because she

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Speaker 1: would be stalking me or would orchestrate in some elaborate vendetta.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, I never thought you, but I was always under side.

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Speaker 2: That'd be crazy. Ultimate nuclear event.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, ultimate nuclear event. I tracked you down and got

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Speaker 1: therefore I resigned on the spot. WHOA. So basically it

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Speaker 1: that he had to quit.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, well it's forty chess going on over here.

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Speaker 1: My resignation was later accepted and a summary. As many

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Speaker 2: WHOA, I mean, why not ride it out until you

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Speaker 2: get fired to get a severance?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just from a self like a selfish especially like

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Speaker 1: I mean, you can't like do you have? You can't

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Speaker 2: No jobspects, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Obviously, I have to leave as I need to make

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Speaker 1: and I will see what to do next later. So

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Speaker 1: I had my comeuppance. I am most certainly not asking

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Speaker 1: for pity. I only wish there were not other individuals

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Speaker 6: Job.

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Speaker 1: He has to go back to his home country and

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Speaker 2: Tragic irony of this situation.

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Speaker 4: Oh so now he's saying that Sylvia didn't even deserve

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Speaker 2: I thought he was implying that she's kind of pulling

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think he may be also implying

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Speaker 2: I don't understand why you ghosted your partner of three years.

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Speaker 1: Do you think she was doing it vindictively to bring

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Speaker 4: Brought the chair in. No, I feel like that makes sense. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: He already dropped a line to HR, so that's true.

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Speaker 2: It was kind of fifty to fifty. But for the chaos,

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Speaker 1: So the measures included things like, we are never to

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Speaker 1: Not understand how this could work. It would be very

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Speaker 4: No, because I don't think that you should be professionally professionally, However,

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Speaker 1: And you don't think Sylvia was like had any like

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Speaker 2: I think that's the most plausible.

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Speaker 1: Because also I think if you're the director and you're

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Speaker 4: I think that's what they are exactly what they said,

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Speaker 2: Not saying that this justifies it necessarily, But I could

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Speaker 3: Again professionally is not fair to yah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I feel most bad for his current partner, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: But that is why it never goes somebody, because you

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's that's I feel bad for Op. But

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Speaker 2: I want to come around and play rock, paper scissor

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Speaker 2: shoot with Riley to see who's okay story time goes first,

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Speaker 2: because we have my okay storytime and your okay storytime ready.

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Speaker 1: I want to know if any of you guys in

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Speaker 1: the comments have ever dated a superior in the workplace

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Speaker 1: that's a good one, or dated a jew here. That

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Speaker 1: sounds weird, but you know what I mean, A.

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Speaker 2: Person that is not on your hierarchical organizational level. Al Right, ready,

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Speaker 2: rock paper scissors. Shoot, damn it, that's you, buddy, Riley

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Speaker 2: Snapchat okay, story time.

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Speaker 5: As soon as I was low key in like a

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Speaker 2: Someone, yep, okay, dating someone, dating.

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Speaker 6: Someone, yes, and I was looking at someone else to date,

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Speaker 6: I just sent her a snapchat on Snapchat saying hey,

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Speaker 6: And that directly dated the other person. That was my Okay,

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Speaker 1: We're exposing Riley's villain Eira.

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Speaker 2: That is really true. In the comments below, was Ryley

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Speaker 1: Y'all thought Riley was cute guy. I thought he was wholesome.

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Speaker 1: Everyone's like, we want to marry Riley, but guess what,

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Speaker 5: I met with her at brunch. We talked it over.

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Speaker 5: We're good now.

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Speaker 2: This was young.

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Speaker 5: Friends.

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Speaker 1: We're still just graduated, Riley.

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Speaker 2: It's true, was.

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Speaker 5: Young just graduated.

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Speaker 2: However, I do want to see our comment section e

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Speaker 2: viscerate Riley. I want to see our comment section on Fire.

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Speaker 1: On Fire say Riley's villain Era if you think Riley is.

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Speaker 3: It was wearing the backwards caps fitting.

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Speaker 1: Oh, here we go to any of the girls that

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Speaker 1: you're seeing watch the show.

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Speaker 5: Yes they do, Sam. They plural, and we don't talk

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Speaker 5: about them.

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Speaker 2: You know what else is plural? The words In this

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Speaker 2: next story, I'm about to thank you. What is your okay? Storytime,

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Speaker 2: Juice Jay, that's to the end. What glitter strip club

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Speaker 2: t help me? Or remember at the glitter street clubs

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Speaker 2: of the Mexico one.

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Speaker 1: That's it's a good line. It's so excited you're doing

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Speaker 1: for you, how are you doing? We'll never tell. This

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Speaker 1: next story is if you don't let.

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Speaker 3: Me go, I'm going to you. If you don't let

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Speaker 3: me go, all right, John, let me go.