WEBVTT - Whine About It: Love Goes Global 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:05.399 Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast. 0:00:06.640 --> 0:00:09.720 All Right, Today's Thursday Therapy. We've got Yasna Burza on. 0:00:10.280 --> 0:00:15.600 She's an internationally recognized certified life coach spiritual advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, dreamers. 0:00:15.760 --> 0:00:19.560 She lived in a refuge camp during the war in Bosnia. 0:00:20.480 --> 0:00:22.400 She's got a book out now called Healer and Heels. 0:00:22.520 --> 0:00:24.560 You are the one you have been waiting for simple 0:00:24.600 --> 0:00:28.920 practices to transform your life, also transforming your home into 0:00:28.920 --> 0:00:31.240 an oasis for your mental health. So let's get her 0:00:31.280 --> 0:00:37.280 on and start healing. Hello, yeahs Now, we are so 0:00:37.600 --> 0:00:41.519 excited to have you on wind Down. I'm Jana, I 0:00:41.560 --> 0:00:42.840 guess I'm my baby. 0:00:42.920 --> 0:00:44.000 I got Channa. 0:00:44.440 --> 0:00:47.440 This is Kristen and you know I was reading your 0:00:47.440 --> 0:00:52.960 breakdown and I'm just like man like you've you were 0:00:53.000 --> 0:00:56.279 in a refuge camp during the war in Bosnia, and 0:00:56.400 --> 0:00:59.000 I don't I don't want to butcher the How do her? 0:00:59.280 --> 0:00:59.680 Here's go? 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:02.000 How do you say Bosnia and Herzegovina. 0:01:02.080 --> 0:01:06.160 Yep, Herzegovina. I mean, and now you've just transformed your 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:08.720 life and you've got books out, You've got Healer and Heels. 0:01:08.800 --> 0:01:10.720 You're also doing which I want to talk to you 0:01:10.800 --> 0:01:13.560 about too. You're transforming your home into an oasis for 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:15.680 your mental health because i just moved into a house, 0:01:15.680 --> 0:01:18.200 so I've got questions about everything. But can we just 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:21.720 back up to Bosnia for a minute, because I would 0:01:21.760 --> 0:01:24.920 just love to know just about your upbringing and who 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:25.800 Jazna is. 0:01:26.319 --> 0:01:32.000 Yeah. Absolutely, It's actually quite the topic right now because 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:34.640 of everything happening happening in the Middle East, and it's 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:37.759 been quite triggering because every time I see the images 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:43.000 of shelling, the grenades, the snipers, it is exactly exactly 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:46.760 what I remember growing up. So I was eight when 0:01:46.760 --> 0:01:49.960 war started in former Yugoslavia. It was a combination of 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:54.360 six different countries. And why do we fight? Right, It's 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:56.400 so complex, just like now in the Middle East. My 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:59.800 kids keep asking me, Mama, why can't they just live 0:01:59.840 --> 0:02:03.480 to And that is the really big question throughout Millennia, 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:07.080 why do we fight? And I ended up in a 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:10.600 refugee camp at the age of eight alone for a 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:12.520 month until I was there and I with my mom 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:16.919 while my father was taken to a concentration camp. So 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:19.640 it's even now when I'm talking to it's hard to 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:23.560 believe this happened. In my lifetime, in our lifetime. It's 0:02:23.560 --> 0:02:27.400 not like hundreds of years ago, and it's still happening today. 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:34.920 So the war lasted four and a half years in Bosnia, 0:02:35.160 --> 0:02:40.560 and it's destroyed our lives. It definitely destroyed the health 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:42.799 and well being my father. After he came back from 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:46.519 the concentration camp, he was never the same. And I 0:02:46.600 --> 0:02:50.560 accumulated a lot of trauma, a lot of heartache. But 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:53.760 I also really believe. And here's the kicker, and here's 0:02:53.800 --> 0:02:56.399 the reason why I'm so excited to be talking to you, 0:02:56.680 --> 0:02:59.120 because I know about the next chapter, and I know 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:03.320 about so so much emphasis that you place on this 0:03:03.480 --> 0:03:06.680 idea that we can heal, no matter what it was 0:03:06.760 --> 0:03:10.800 precisely somehow placed in my life, because that I could 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:14.240 break down everything that needs to be broken down inside 0:03:14.240 --> 0:03:17.240 of me, parts of my ego, and to learn how 0:03:17.280 --> 0:03:20.080 to heal, so that I could be the change that 0:03:20.120 --> 0:03:21.239 I wanted to see in the world. 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:25.680 Yeah, and I'm so sorry with everything good? How can 0:03:25.680 --> 0:03:26.480 I ask how old you are? 0:03:26.560 --> 0:03:29.200 Sure? Forty two? Just forty two? 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:29.560 Yeah? 0:03:30.400 --> 0:03:32.160 Oh, well happened right behind just this. 0:03:33.440 --> 0:03:36.640 You know, my I'm German in Croatian, so my grandma 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:39.400 she i remember she'd come to our classroom. She wrote 0:03:39.400 --> 0:03:41.160 this big thing and I think it was this middle 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:43.040 school and she talked about how she was in the 0:03:43.040 --> 0:03:46.680 war and the bombing because it was Yugoslavia at that time. 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:51.320 She was born in Zagreb. And you know, it's it's 0:03:51.440 --> 0:03:54.560 wild that you know, we have that generation and then 0:03:54.720 --> 0:03:57.480 you know our generation now as you were as a child, 0:03:57.560 --> 0:04:00.440 and you know the refuge camp and then now again, yes, 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:05.160 everything in the news is just it's just I can't 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:07.640 even like it's it's hard to even go is this 0:04:08.160 --> 0:04:10.360 Obviously I know it's real, but it's so hard to 0:04:10.520 --> 0:04:11.840 just fathom. 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:14.080 That any that's going on now. 0:04:14.520 --> 0:04:16.960 And that's like even when you're saying eight, So Jane 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:19.120 and I have girls that are three months or three 0:04:19.160 --> 0:04:21.440 weeks apart, and they're about to be eight years old. 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:23.040 And I like. 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:25.560 As you're saying, it was like holding back tears, because 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:29.359 how does an eight year old go for a full month, 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:34.200 no mom, no dad, I mean, and turn out to 0:04:34.240 --> 0:04:37.800 be as like beautiful and introspective as you are. It's 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:41.360 just honestly, like I I lost words. I'm like eight 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:44.000 years old, that is, and you don't get to know 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:46.240 where anybody is right. I mean you're put in this 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:52.120 position where and you're all alone family wise, yeah, right, 0:04:52.120 --> 0:04:53.080 there's no one else from your. 0:04:53.000 --> 0:04:53.680 Old someone else. 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:57.279 It was I was imagine love and Jolie feeling that 0:04:57.360 --> 0:04:59.880 like all these kids. Now, I just I can't. That's 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:01.279 piece of breaks some herts the kids. 0:05:01.560 --> 0:05:04.159 I have a nine year old, So the thought of 0:05:04.320 --> 0:05:07.160 him right now being without me for a month, sleeping 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:11.359 on the floor and where his mom is breaks my heart. 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:15.240 The thought of him literally hunting for food and clean water, 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:18.480 the thought of him not being warm. So being cold 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:21.479 is my trigger. We were always so cold, right, So 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:23.800 it's all three of us right now we're sitting in 0:05:23.880 --> 0:05:27.920 it's like I can't possibly imagine it. And as we're 0:05:27.960 --> 0:05:31.919 sitting in this conversation our company offices and chairs, there's 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:34.479 people and children in the Middle East experience in this 0:05:34.960 --> 0:05:39.839 very same thing. So I think it's madness, and it's 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:43.000 the reason why I wrote the book. It is this 0:05:43.360 --> 0:05:47.120 idea of we keep delegating our power to dress The 0:05:47.120 --> 0:05:49.680 government is going to fix it, the influencers are going 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:53.080 to somehow make it all better. What about us and 0:05:53.120 --> 0:05:57.520 the energy and how we are contributing to the chaos 0:05:57.520 --> 0:05:59.960 of the world. We are the ones that are alltimate 0:06:00.240 --> 0:06:04.119 we have been waiting for and the mystics and people 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:06.920 like Roomy and Hafi's have been talking about for millennia, 0:06:06.960 --> 0:06:10.799 and quantum physics now explains that we literally are changing 0:06:10.800 --> 0:06:13.880 the fabric of our society with our emotions and our thoughts. 0:06:14.320 --> 0:06:17.039 And I felt this deep desire and need in the 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:20.800 post pandemic world to write a manual for how do 0:06:20.839 --> 0:06:23.640 we navigate a way out of this? Because I really 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:26.520 do believe that it starts with us. And even though 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:29.359 we feel helpless right now and my heartbreaks, I've cried 0:06:29.440 --> 0:06:32.000 more in the last three weeks than I have in 0:06:32.040 --> 0:06:36.000 the last three years, how do we get through this? 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:38.440 How do we make it? 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:40.440 And that's the piece and I want, I want to 0:06:40.440 --> 0:06:42.800 sorry to interject, because I really want to talk about 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:45.480 the ways that you talk about those in Healer and Heels. 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:48.479 But when it comes to the war that's going on now, 0:06:48.480 --> 0:06:51.440 because it's hard sitting here, like you said, in our beautiful, 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:57.120 well conditioned rooms and you know we're safe, we have food, 0:06:56.600 --> 0:07:00.440 what can we do? That's the thing is sometimes I'm like, yeah, 0:07:00.440 --> 0:07:04.560 I could post the things on Instagram, but then it 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:07.599 just keeps happening. I'm one person and I'm like, so, 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:11.320 what can we do that would make a difference. 0:07:11.720 --> 0:07:14.720 I am not a fan of posting and sharing information 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:16.520 that we don't even know is true right now. I 0:07:16.520 --> 0:07:19.080 think that's part of the problem. Good natured people are 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:22.880 sharing things that they feel like they want to do something, 0:07:22.920 --> 0:07:26.080 so they share what their influencers someone they follow is 0:07:26.080 --> 0:07:28.920 shared without even knowing if they're doing harm. So I 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:32.320 think the best way to do the best things to 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:34.240 do right now for all of us is tune out 0:07:34.240 --> 0:07:38.080 the noise. And that's difficult because science is very conclusive. 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:41.480 Doctor John Diamond, he's the father of kinesiology. He talked 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:44.679 about this idea of when we even look at something 0:07:44.800 --> 0:07:48.680 very negative and very very harmful to us, all of 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:51.720 our muscles in our body go weak. So how do 0:07:51.800 --> 0:07:53.720 I help my nine year old and ten year old 0:07:53.960 --> 0:07:56.880 when I'm a complete mess? And I talk about this 0:07:57.280 --> 0:07:59.120 in the book. If I were to pay attention to 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:01.880 everything bad happens in the world and really take it 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:05.040 in because somehow I want to, that's how I feel 0:08:05.040 --> 0:08:07.880 I'm helping, I will be curled up on the floor 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:11.800 by mid morning, unable to help anyone so this is 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:16.280 not to be insensitive. It just means that in this 0:08:16.600 --> 0:08:19.920 very big geopolitical conflict, there's nothing that we can do 0:08:20.040 --> 0:08:23.320 right now directly. I give money, I do aid, I 0:08:23.400 --> 0:08:25.720 pray for people. But I think what we can do 0:08:25.840 --> 0:08:29.720 is pay attention to the discordance and the negative energy 0:08:29.720 --> 0:08:32.920 that we have in our own lives. We keep blaming 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:35.920 others and saying, but terrorists are doing that, and these 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:38.760 are the people that are at fault. But we are 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:42.880 not paying attention to the judgments that we place upon others. 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:46.400 Oh she's so and so, or he is such a jerk, 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:50.320 or all of these really quick reactions that we have, 0:08:50.480 --> 0:08:54.720 I think are just as poisonous. And there's something in 0:08:54.760 --> 0:08:58.080 the world that's called the Higgs field and it was 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:04.120 discovered in twenty twelve in Zern, Switzerland. It's how we 0:09:04.240 --> 0:09:07.400 really discover this Higgs boson, which is the smallest particle 0:09:07.440 --> 0:09:10.480 in the world, and it's so bizarre in it's behavior 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:13.120 that we have no other word for it than God's particle. 0:09:13.240 --> 0:09:17.520 It's insane. And this field connects everyone, all of us 0:09:17.800 --> 0:09:21.640 across the board, and we now have the quantum physics 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:25.920 and beautiful researchers that prove that is so so when 0:09:25.960 --> 0:09:29.520 we think about that, it means that every single thought 0:09:29.760 --> 0:09:33.360 and the word we utter contributes to the overwhelmed anxiety 0:09:33.440 --> 0:09:36.520 or the chaos of the world. So tune out the noise. 0:09:37.040 --> 0:09:41.040 See if you can fortify yourself, your household when you 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:44.120 are you, when we are in our household with our 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:47.320 little ones, you know, playing room room with our with 0:09:47.480 --> 0:09:50.360 my son on the on the floor, or singing songs 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:53.000 or making great meal. I feel that that's how I'm 0:09:53.000 --> 0:09:56.200 cleaning my energy and then putting that light into the world. 0:09:56.520 --> 0:09:58.240 And I think both of you are sitting there, You're 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:01.640 doing it just by having this converse by week in 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:04.920 and out putting out content that I think heals people. 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:18.440 What do you think you were? 0:10:18.760 --> 0:10:20.520 First of all, selfishly, that makes me feel a little 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:22.800 better because I was like, I have to, like with 0:10:22.840 --> 0:10:25.480 everything going on with the baby coming, I started to 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:28.200 feel at the time, I was like, I mean, I 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:31.120 feel bad for just blocking the noise, but it was 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:33.640 just so loud that I just it was causing anxiety. 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:37.360 Well I did after those After one of the school shootings, 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:40.439 I interviewed one of my therapist friends and we talked 0:10:40.440 --> 0:10:43.880 about exactly this. I like what do we do right 0:10:43.960 --> 0:10:47.520 because it's helpless. But I do think one so many 0:10:47.520 --> 0:10:51.319 things you're saying are literally like pouring into my DNA today, 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:53.480 Like I couldn't be any more in alignment with everything 0:10:53.520 --> 0:10:57.280 you're saying, and it's validating in so many ways. But 0:10:58.000 --> 0:11:00.720 she essentially said, like we forget to just start where 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:04.640 we're at, and we're expending all this energy. But it's 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:06.240 the same thing. She said that the best thing you 0:11:06.280 --> 0:11:08.240 can do is to regulate your own nervous system in 0:11:08.280 --> 0:11:11.640 this moment. So take a walk, cook a meal, hug 0:11:11.679 --> 0:11:15.760 your kids, because when we're all just chaotically bumping into 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:18.839 each other and sharing the misinformation. I mean, I will 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:22.800 admittedly say I was a pray for Israel, when I 0:11:22.800 --> 0:11:25.120 mean Biblically it says we're supposed to pray for Israel. 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:26.320 So I was like, why I pray for Israel? 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:26.520 Right? 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:29.400 And I had followers right to me like okay, this 0:11:29.480 --> 0:11:31.920 is what's happening, and I and we had the most 0:11:31.920 --> 0:11:35.280 beautiful dialogue, but it was honest dialogue because I was 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:37.400 not afraid to say I don't know. But I can't 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:42.040 also get accurate information because there's an agenda woven between 0:11:42.240 --> 0:11:44.800 everything that is going to frame something to be one 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:47.440 way or the other. And truth over volume has always 0:11:47.480 --> 0:11:53.440 been my motto sonable it's a yeah, well, let's hope 0:11:53.520 --> 0:11:55.560 we can all write a book on it someday. But 0:11:56.080 --> 0:11:58.800 it's just but like, the truth over volume is so 0:11:58.920 --> 0:12:01.280 hard to find for us right now because our worlds 0:12:01.320 --> 0:12:05.199 are so inundated by by the influencers. I mean, we're 0:12:05.280 --> 0:12:09.240 friends with these people, I pseudo semi like you know, 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:11.719 will say that I kind of am one, but it 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:14.400 is hard to really find what is truth and to 0:12:14.520 --> 0:12:18.000 help then, Like I just think we have a bunch 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:21.160 of unqualified people saying a bunch of things that aren't true, 0:12:21.800 --> 0:12:24.439 and we're just all we're spinning into each other. 0:12:24.559 --> 0:12:26.600 Amen. And I think and. 0:12:26.600 --> 0:12:27.760 It does feel helpless. 0:12:27.800 --> 0:12:30.120 So when you say, like start with you, I'm like, think, 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:32.800 thank you for giving us a start, Like nobody even 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:34.800 knows what is point A and to. 0:12:34.760 --> 0:12:36.760 Start with you, Jasmin, what would you say is the 0:12:36.800 --> 0:12:40.559 first step on someone's healing journey? Like what is when 0:12:40.600 --> 0:12:43.360 they're like I'm done with this, I want to start 0:12:43.360 --> 0:12:44.240 the healing process. 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:45.400 Like what is that first? 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:48.240 Is it? Is it recognizing that or what would you say, 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:53.680 like to be that first step into this the journey 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:54.040 of healing. 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:56.680 Well, it's always understanding that we that something is off, 0:12:56.760 --> 0:12:58.600 and I think we know that it is we I 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:00.360 have to admit that I have a problem more, that 0:13:00.480 --> 0:13:03.679 something is not right. And I was reminded by that 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:06.760 through throughout your journey and the book, and you write 0:13:06.760 --> 0:13:09.280 about that so beautifully. So many times I felt like, 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:13.520 oh my gosh, she's literally telling my story. And it's 0:13:13.600 --> 0:13:17.120 in that awareness that we first tune out the noise. 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:19.880 And I did this. I remember the book was really 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:23.840 for me. I started writing it a decade ago when 0:13:23.880 --> 0:13:27.200 I went through a series of miscarriages. I had nine. 0:13:27.640 --> 0:13:30.080 And I know that that hits home for you too, Jana, 0:13:30.120 --> 0:13:36.679 And that's the We're always going to go through something. 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:39.040 No matter who you are and what you do in 0:13:39.080 --> 0:13:41.280 this world, you are going to experience some kind of 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:44.839 a hardship. So even back then, what I did was 0:13:44.880 --> 0:13:48.480 say something has to change because this keeps showing up 0:13:48.520 --> 0:13:52.319 for me, meaning I either I changed or change the environment. 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:54.920 So I tuned out the noise. I said no to 0:13:55.000 --> 0:13:58.199 every happy hour, I said no to all of the events. 0:13:58.280 --> 0:14:00.840 I literally could coon myself in my eye and I 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:03.720 focused on me, and that's what I needed at the time. 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:07.360 But even now, right now, I think that the healing 0:14:07.440 --> 0:14:11.040 journey is so individual, and we have all of these 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:14.360 gurus telling us this is the exact prescription for how 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:16.600 you heal, how you do X, Y and Z, and 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:19.240 there is no such a thing because we are so all, 0:14:19.400 --> 0:14:25.520 so unique, so beautiful, so divinely manufactured orchestrated to be 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:27.960 in this world. So it starts with saying, what do 0:14:28.040 --> 0:14:31.400 I first need right now? For some people is that 0:14:31.440 --> 0:14:33.560 they need people, They need to reach out to others 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:37.400 and not be alone, and for others it's exactly the opposite. 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:40.880 So it's being radically honest with saying what is it 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:43.960 that I really truly need to heal? What I know 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:47.080 for sure is that it is difficult to heal today 0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:52.560 in this very noisy world where there's incessant chatter, simply 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:55.960 because there's so much incoming and it's very difficult to 0:14:56.000 --> 0:15:00.040 ask ourselves these questions when there's barrage of noise coming 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:03.200 at us and demands of life every single day. So 0:15:03.280 --> 0:15:07.280 how do I make my world extremely small for just 0:15:07.320 --> 0:15:09.720 a few weeks so I can actually ask myself what 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:12.640 I need and take the first step, and then I'm 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:17.120 a really big fan of simplifying and reducing my life, 0:15:17.600 --> 0:15:21.280 saying no to everything that is absolutely unnecessary. An example 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:23.960 of this for so many of my mamas for doing 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:27.240 the bake baking muffins in school when they haven't had 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:29.960 any he sleep the night before because they've been up 0:15:29.960 --> 0:15:32.680 with their newborn. That's not the time to be mom 0:15:32.760 --> 0:15:35.040 of the year. That's the time to get more sleep. 0:15:35.440 --> 0:15:39.480 So I think it's tuning out the noise and refocusing 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:43.040 on simplifying our lives so we can tune out the 0:15:43.120 --> 0:15:46.400 noise and hear the whispers of our own soul. When 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:48.400 we do that, the answers do come. 0:15:50.000 --> 0:15:52.600 Whispers of my own soul. That's another book. 0:15:53.320 --> 0:15:55.680 Yeah, but that's so true. It is true. 0:15:55.720 --> 0:15:55.920 I do. 0:15:56.440 --> 0:15:59.080 I call it soaking prayer in my bathtub at night, 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:03.160 and it's I tell my husband. I'm like because he'll say, like, oh, 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:04.200 can I come in and talk to you? 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:05.560 And I'm like, I. 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:07.520 Wish you could, but I need to hear my own 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:10.960 heartbeat for a minute, like you, just because I mean, 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:13.920 we're moms, right, so like that even the people we've 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:18.800 created we love are noisy. So at some point it 0:16:18.840 --> 0:16:21.680 is about just like getting silent with yourself and you 0:16:21.840 --> 0:16:25.160 also believe then I think I read this that you're 0:16:26.040 --> 0:16:29.920 a big advocate for your space. Also like resembling the 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:32.080 amount of noise and kind of like what is the 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:36.360 reflecting words are really hard for me today, but reflecting 0:16:36.680 --> 0:16:40.120 kind of these the noiseless way of life. 0:16:40.200 --> 0:16:43.440 To say this, even last night with the baby coming, 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:46.120 there's my house is a mess. There is like this, 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:48.840 I'm looking at this, going I still got to hang that, 0:16:48.920 --> 0:16:51.080 and then this, the nursery needs to be done, all 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:54.280 the things, and I'm like, I what I told my 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:58.320 fiance was I have to I need to have these 0:16:58.360 --> 0:17:01.080 areas put together before the baby came, because I'm starting 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:06.240 to just feel chaos kind of in my soul and 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:09.800 I feel agitated, and I don't want to have to 0:17:09.840 --> 0:17:12.040 deal with this when the baby comes and I and 0:17:12.800 --> 0:17:15.200 but we have two rooms that are done. So there's 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:17.240 the master, which is kind of my oasis. So when 0:17:17.240 --> 0:17:20.520 I start to feel a little oh God, there's so 0:17:20.600 --> 0:17:22.080 much to do, I just go sit in my room 0:17:22.080 --> 0:17:24.600 and it's just it's very peaceful. So I'm so thankful 0:17:24.600 --> 0:17:27.040 to have that. But last night there was just crap 0:17:27.119 --> 0:17:28.840 everywhere on the island, and I'm the kind of person 0:17:28.840 --> 0:17:31.080 I don't like sink. I don't like any stuff in 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:33.320 the sink. That's just I can't go to bed with 0:17:33.320 --> 0:17:35.159 stuff in the sink. It has to be in the 0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:38.560 dishwasher or running or whatever. And I just looked at it, 0:17:38.600 --> 0:17:40.680 and you know when it just feels like everything's being 0:17:40.760 --> 0:17:41.400 left for. 0:17:41.320 --> 0:17:42.960 You to to do, which. 0:17:45.640 --> 0:17:47.520 I know and I don't think they like it because 0:17:47.600 --> 0:17:50.320 he don't mean the biggest help wherever, like he's amazing 0:17:50.359 --> 0:17:52.359 around the house. But just in that moment, I just 0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:55.240 saw everything and I was just like, I'm a ticking 0:17:55.280 --> 0:17:58.680 time bomb. And we got like a week to get 0:17:58.680 --> 0:18:02.360 this train roll here. And so I think for you, Jasmine, 0:18:02.359 --> 0:18:05.240 like what I'm obviously you you're in alignment with that too, 0:18:05.359 --> 0:18:09.000 that you need things put together in the house. 0:18:09.240 --> 0:18:10.040 Is that kind of what. 0:18:09.960 --> 0:18:12.600 We're what we're simplified declared. 0:18:12.720 --> 0:18:14.200 But there's a brea good reason. 0:18:14.400 --> 0:18:17.480 Tell us everything. I'm drinking everything you're saying with a straw, 0:18:17.520 --> 0:18:18.600 I'm like, tell me. 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:22.520 It has become such a big part of my life. 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:26.439 I actually went for three years. I researched, had my 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:29.800 spiritual teacher, and then I went really deep into quantum physics, 0:18:29.880 --> 0:18:33.520 and I'm like, wait a minute, these two branches are 0:18:33.520 --> 0:18:37.200 talking about exactly the same thing. Let me write about 0:18:37.280 --> 0:18:39.520 it in a way that's really understandable. So there's a 0:18:39.640 --> 0:18:43.440 there's a science behind why we feel distraught when things 0:18:43.440 --> 0:18:47.040 are all over the place, the messy kitchen, the messy environment, 0:18:48.480 --> 0:18:52.320 everything in our space. Our spaces are not empty, they're 0:18:52.320 --> 0:18:55.320 fully alive. We think of space as empty, but it 0:18:55.359 --> 0:18:59.960 actually carries information, and that is this information, this vie 0:19:00.720 --> 0:19:05.240 information that can be molded and changed with our thoughts, 0:19:05.560 --> 0:19:09.200 with the things that are in our environment. So when 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:11.680 we have a lot of clutter and things are all 0:19:11.720 --> 0:19:16.000 over the place, that creates something in physics called negentropy, 0:19:16.359 --> 0:19:19.200 And what that means is that every part of that 0:19:19.320 --> 0:19:23.440 clutter or things out of place creates disorder in our 0:19:23.560 --> 0:19:27.320 minds and carries that energy that then envelops us. So 0:19:27.440 --> 0:19:29.600 what I've learned in my research is that we can 0:19:29.760 --> 0:19:34.280 actually create holy spaces in our homes and mimic the 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:38.280 energy that we feel, for example, in Westminster Abbey or 0:19:38.480 --> 0:19:40.800 a temple or church. Every time we go into a 0:19:40.840 --> 0:19:45.840 holy space where there's reverence, it's actually no miracle. It's physics, 0:19:46.280 --> 0:19:49.320 people go into that space every single day that's orderly, 0:19:49.800 --> 0:19:54.000 and they condition it with their good thoughts wishes, and 0:19:54.119 --> 0:19:57.760 over time that space imprints the energy of our own 0:19:57.760 --> 0:20:01.439 emotions and thoughts. It starts really first and foremost with 0:20:01.480 --> 0:20:04.320 the physical clutter, because that is the easiest way to 0:20:04.520 --> 0:20:07.600 fix our environment and change it. So I always tell everyone, 0:20:07.680 --> 0:20:11.800 if you're feeling all over the place, really first and foremost, 0:20:11.800 --> 0:20:13.720 even for your dinner right now, I'm like, I can't 0:20:13.720 --> 0:20:16.280 even imagine or remember being in the last weeks and 0:20:16.320 --> 0:20:18.960 feeling like, oh my god, my whole life is going 0:20:19.000 --> 0:20:23.919 to change again. You can just set this intention of right, 0:20:24.440 --> 0:20:27.119 you can just set an intention of you know what, 0:20:27.320 --> 0:20:29.760 I'm going to take a deep breath in and a 0:20:29.800 --> 0:20:33.920 deep breath out, and I will handle this before baby arrives. 0:20:34.280 --> 0:20:39.800 And that intention molds not just your reality. We now 0:20:39.840 --> 0:20:44.720 know through observer effect in quantum physics that our thoughts 0:20:44.800 --> 0:20:49.919 change physical matter, and intention is a focused thought. So 0:20:50.000 --> 0:20:52.840 if you do that, you're molding your environment. You're making 0:20:52.920 --> 0:20:58.639 your future so and then you're also changing the material 0:20:58.680 --> 0:21:02.800 composition of your and making sure that your space reacts 0:21:02.800 --> 0:21:04.800 to you as well. If that makes sense. Does that 0:21:04.800 --> 0:21:06.480 make sense because I don't want to be too sciencey, 0:21:06.560 --> 0:21:08.560 but this is really important for us to know. 0:21:10.359 --> 0:21:12.520 It makes so much sense. I love the idea. 0:21:12.960 --> 0:21:14.560 I was just as you were saying, I'm like, what 0:21:14.600 --> 0:21:17.080 spaces in my house feel holy to me? Because there 0:21:17.160 --> 0:21:20.800 are certain rooms that are less than holy right now, 0:21:20.880 --> 0:21:24.639 my closet being one of them. Make another yes, oh yeah. 0:21:24.680 --> 0:21:27.199