Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, We're brown and
Speaker 1: abusion ambition, ambitition, ambition. Hey and Andrew, how are you girls?
Speaker 2: Hi?
Speaker 3: Gorgeous? Don't you know what your skin is looking? Glowy girl?
Speaker 1: Because the beach said with browner than brown. I used
Speaker 1: to hate getting dark in the summertime, but now I know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was a sad sad uh summertime in Georgia girl.
Speaker 3: Like I I mean, I went to like majority white
Speaker 3: schools and I was out there. I did not need
Speaker 3: to be putting oil on myself and tanning spray. You know,
Speaker 3: it was a struggle for me and my gay ex boyfriend,
Speaker 3: myschool boyfriend. We would go tanning together.
Speaker 1: Like was that not a clue?
Speaker 3: There were so many And I always think about my
Speaker 3: gay ex boyfriend in summertime. I don't know, just something
Speaker 3: about it. I'm like, oh, man, we had fun, we
Speaker 3: had fun, But how's your summer going? You guys just
Speaker 3: wanted the beachy beach.
Speaker 1: Yes, got a little brown. But truthfully, I was thinking about, like, okay,
Speaker 1: like travel for a fall winter, because how far an
Speaker 1: advance are supposed to buy a ticket? Like when isn't
Speaker 1: there like an ideal.
Speaker 3: Six weeks domestic, and I think for international, like eight
Speaker 3: to twelve weeks is usually the rule of thumb, okay,
Speaker 3: or you could be like me and buy tickets. I
Speaker 3: just bought. I bought it. I bought flights to La
Speaker 3: because I'm going to that conference that I wasn't sure
Speaker 3: I was going to go to. I'm turning it into
Speaker 3: a writer and a writering, a writing and a conference retreat.
Speaker 3: So I got an airbnb, okay, and just for me,
Speaker 3: and it has it's really cute. It's like, you know
Speaker 3: how in La and Cali they have like the little
Speaker 3: guest houses in the back. So I got this lady.
Speaker 3: She has a guest house and it has its own
Speaker 3: little pool, like okay, not a huge pool, but a
Speaker 3: saltwater pool, and it looks really cute and tranquil with
Speaker 3: trees and stuff. And so I'm gonna I'm heading there.
Speaker 3: And yeah, the flights actually were really affordable, shock to four.
Speaker 1: So so I.
Speaker 3: Mean I had to book a bunch of one ways
Speaker 3: because I'm dropping the kids off on the way to
Speaker 3: calib Okay.
Speaker 1: So you not you using the trade like the plane
Speaker 1: like a bus.
Speaker 3: No, but for real, like we're commuting. So I'm doing
Speaker 3: a stopover in Saint Louis. The kids are getting dropped
Speaker 3: off with my mom. I'm going to stay at the
Speaker 3: airport catch my flight to LA from there. I want
Speaker 3: to say it was less than three hundred dollars one
Speaker 3: way ticket, so okay, and one way tickets are usually
Speaker 3: more expensive. They don't like selling one way, yes, and
Speaker 3: why did I do that because the lady at Southwest
Speaker 3: told me to for some technical reasons because I'm dropping
Speaker 3: with babies, so if she wanted them they have I
Speaker 3: couldn't like make their separate reservation. This does not matter
Speaker 3: to the listener. The point is I was surprise to
Speaker 3: get like a decent priced flight to LA. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm excited. So, like you said, fall in winter travel,
Speaker 3: I can't even think beyond like September first right now.
Speaker 3: I'm just hanging on for dear life at this point
Speaker 3: is how I feel? Are you actually planning?
Speaker 1: I want still one for sure? Like so still my
Speaker 1: best t get Bro is turning the big five zero.
Speaker 3: Five, I know, fifty, I know wow, Okay.
Speaker 1: Black, don't crack unless you do it, I'm saying no.
Speaker 1: So he he's turning fifty and we're trying to He's
Speaker 1: trying to figure out what he wanted to do. We're
Speaker 1: both Libra's, so his birthdays in October. So he decided
Speaker 1: on Bager's baby. Oh okay, and I said, okay, so
Speaker 1: a group of us are gonna go, and so that's
Speaker 1: like in October. But I am trying to plan to
Speaker 1: start to create like a new because every Christmas I
Speaker 1: get really sad, obviously because you're not here. And so
Speaker 1: doctor Green, my therapist, suggested I create a new tradition.
Speaker 1: And I said, you know, I'm never away for Christmas.
Speaker 1: I'm always like, no, I have to be here my
Speaker 1: family and my family. Meanwhile, last year my mom wasn't here,
Speaker 1: and neither was my sister Lisa. And yet before that,
Speaker 1: my sister Tracy wasn't here. Year before that, my sister care.
Speaker 1: So I'm like Tiffany, you know, like it's okay if
Speaker 1: you're not here, like sometimes you know, those who are
Speaker 1: here get together and I'm thanksgiving it something we always
Speaker 1: do together. So you know, I haven't decided, and I'm
Speaker 1: almost positive. Alyssa said that she and her mom are
Speaker 1: going to go someplace for Christmas. So I said, okay,
Speaker 1: So I don't know where I'm going to go for Christmas,
Speaker 1: but I feel like I'm feeling something warmish. I don't know,
Speaker 1: I will see who's a belle because Cabral's already like,
Speaker 1: I'm down to go. Where do you want to go?
Speaker 3: You want a couple kids and me and my husband, So.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out I'm going to do. I'm
Speaker 1: feeling something more warmish, you know.
Speaker 3: Okay, I don't.
Speaker 1: Know if it's'll be international maybe, so I'm kind of like,
Speaker 1: you know, the for the listener, like, where's a great
Speaker 1: place to go that's not going to be a freaking
Speaker 1: arm and a lag, which I'm sure it's going to
Speaker 1: be an armored like just because you know.
Speaker 3: How well I have I have had these like moments
Speaker 3: where I at this time of year, probably pre kids,
Speaker 3: I tried to play in a Christmas trip, but I
Speaker 3: usually get guilt tripped out of it by my own mother.
Speaker 3: So put a pin in that, because I think what
Speaker 3: you're doing is amazing and I think it is like
Speaker 3: such a level that I want to get to where
Speaker 3: we can just like start our own traditions. But while
Speaker 3: these kids are small, they're like in demand there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they have to do.
Speaker 3: Yes, it's really what I'm on. I'm on a child.
Speaker 1: Tour of the I love that in demand.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I did make a shift this past year
Speaker 3: to say, well, one I didn't couldn't really couldn't really
Speaker 3: didn't really have a choice. I had so many, like
Speaker 3: you know, family emergencies. We were always traveling with the kids,
Speaker 3: but trying to make more visits throughout the year, so
Speaker 3: there's not so much pressure on like these specific two
Speaker 3: days Thanksgiving and Christmas, and you know, it's just so stressful.
Speaker 3: No one's ever satisfied. Someone always gets the feeling hurt,
Speaker 3: we're not there long enough. But yeah, I love that idea.
Speaker 3: And I just wanted to say, in the past, when
Speaker 3: I have looked at there are some epic places, like
Speaker 3: vacationing on the holidays is for a lot of people normal.
Speaker 3: There are some really epic places that you can go
Speaker 3: in the holidays. But because it's not uncommon for like
Speaker 3: holiday travel, you know abroad, especially in like warm beachy places,
Speaker 3: they book up kind of quickly. Okay, yeah, go ahead
Speaker 3: and start you know looking at way you won't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm trying to think, I'm like, I've never do
Speaker 1: you know I've never done a cruise never ever, ever
Speaker 1: ever ever never have I ever, so I would like
Speaker 1: to do at least one cruise. I mean, I don't
Speaker 1: I'm not saying for Christmas, but these are some kind
Speaker 1: of like upcoming things, even if it's just for a
Speaker 1: few days, just because what if I hate it? But yeah,
Speaker 1: I think you.
Speaker 3: Want to look really carefully at the reviews, you know,
Speaker 3: make sure it's like a there's probably like adults only ones.
Speaker 3: Not that kids are the worst, but you don't want
Speaker 3: to go to one of the ones where it's basically
Speaker 3: an outdoor indoor water park for children and not relaxing.
Speaker 1: Yes, one of my friends said, my very wealthy, wealthy,
Speaker 1: wealthy friend he had went on the rich Carlton has
Speaker 1: like this new fancy Smancy Smancy Smancy cruise and he
Speaker 1: guess how much. I can't remember if it's a week
Speaker 1: or two weeks whever, guess how much it costs rich
Speaker 1: Carlton cruise. Let's just say it's two weeks. I don't
Speaker 1: know how long it is. You will not you will not.
Speaker 3: Believe figure girl. I yeah, okay, lay it on me.
Speaker 1: Two hundred and I think forty five thousand dollars. Yes,
Speaker 1: and he told me, babee, buy yourself a boat, I mean,
Speaker 1: by yourself a house. Well he has a house, but
Speaker 1: still I think the part that bothered me a little
Speaker 1: bit hopefully he's not listening to this.
Speaker 3: Well he don't be listening, but he was still listening.
Speaker 3: He's like, I got it.
Speaker 1: Well, the part that kind of black was like wait what?
Speaker 1: He was like, yeah, you know, you know I treated
Speaker 1: myself whatever. I said, Well, that was a big treat.
Speaker 1: And he was like, yeah, I heard about it from
Speaker 1: my pastor and his wife because they went on I'm like, wait,
Speaker 1: what as.
Speaker 3: People got rich pastors?
Speaker 1: I say, Megachurch, is your pastor from Atlanta?
Speaker 3: Good guess how do you.
Speaker 1: Feel about that? When the pastor is we live in that.
Speaker 1: There's a funny in me Instagram channel where it says
Speaker 1: my pastor's watches and then there's like a pastor my
Speaker 1: pastor sneakers, And they will show up one of these
Speaker 1: famous pastors and then they'll say he's wearing a whatever
Speaker 1: watch and that watches one hundred thousand dollars and he's
Speaker 1: wearing such a such sneakers for fifteen hundred. How do
Speaker 1: you feel about that. I was like, wait, your pastor
Speaker 1: told you about a two hundred and fifty feels in
Speaker 1: that La cruise.
Speaker 3: I think that there is no that we all deserve
Speaker 3: love from our heavenly Father and whoever you believe in
Speaker 3: heavenly Mother. Yeah. I guess the way I feel about
Speaker 3: it is like actions, and I have a lot of
Speaker 3: conflict because I have been to those megachurches in Georgia,
Speaker 3: but also I have been to like the down home
Speaker 3: like southern Baptist churches like where my aunt and my
Speaker 3: great uncle they're both pastors, and I think being humble
Speaker 3: and humility is really important. I think it's sad that
Speaker 3: those megachurches like they like I remember going to one
Speaker 3: and they had like a special parking lot just for
Speaker 3: the Falcons players because it was close to their training camp.
Speaker 3: Kind of very best.
Speaker 1: Parking lot because Yad said, there's v IP heaven't baby.
Speaker 3: No but for real, no, but for real And yeah,
Speaker 3: I just found it really like icky and it just Yeah,
Speaker 3: the way I feel about it is like, you.
Speaker 1: Know, I just I remember I was watching on Rich
Speaker 1: Pastors and one of them said, let me tell you something, baby,
Speaker 1: If Jesus was was around during these times. I promise
Speaker 1: you he wouldn't be riding a donkey. I'm like, Sir,
Speaker 1: I Jesus is like, how I get in it?
Speaker 3: Would he be in a bugatti?
Speaker 1: I mean because that that this I was watching this
Speaker 1: documentary and that pastor had like three three private jets
Speaker 1: one two three. I said, sir, I know there are
Speaker 1: people in the congregation now who are hungry, who might
Speaker 1: even be un housed. It's just like that's just the
Speaker 1: makeup of you know. And I just don't understand how
Speaker 1: you need unodos trace private antal planes and you know,
Speaker 1: and then two hundred and fifty. So that's for one
Speaker 1: person two fifty and maybe I don't know, let's just
Speaker 1: pretend that for two people, maybe it's three fifty. I
Speaker 1: don't know. But that you could literally buy a congregation
Speaker 1: member home and transform their whole life. I just I'm
Speaker 1: not here to judge, but I'm judging, you know.
Speaker 3: On the one hand, I want to be like we
Speaker 3: all are individuals. Do what you want. But I think
Speaker 3: the position of being like a church leader, Yeah, you
Speaker 3: put yourself on this pedestal, and it's like you do,
Speaker 3: I think you get held to a much higher standard
Speaker 3: I feel like we hold celebrities to a higher standard
Speaker 3: than like our religious leaders sometimes in terms of like, oh,
Speaker 3: you know that person who tracks Taylor's fwat's private jet
Speaker 3: and how much jet fool she feels she's using. And
Speaker 3: I'm like, but three for a pastor, like I do
Speaker 3: think if I don't know, I wonder what his congregants think,
Speaker 3: because I wouldn't feel comfortable.
Speaker 1: Well, some people like a fancy like you know, pastor
Speaker 1: in church. But I just I just brought that up
Speaker 1: because as we're talking about travel and things like that,
Speaker 1: and you think to yourself, like, I don't know, chall
Speaker 1: this is why, you know, I just believed that, you know,
Speaker 1: I go to God for myself, you know, because it's
Speaker 1: just at the end of the day, that's just a man.
Speaker 1: Oh man? Or were they then? And so they are
Speaker 1: imperfect infallible, so therefore Yeah. But when he told me that,
Speaker 1: because one, I was already like three fifty, I mean
Speaker 1: two fifty Wow, how much what do you make of
Speaker 1: last year? And he was like, yeah, my Fastor told
Speaker 1: me about it. I said, like, because they had heard
Speaker 1: through the grapevine. He's like, no, no, no, because him and
Speaker 1: his wife they had done it and they're going to
Speaker 1: do it again. I'm like, hey, that's a nice erna me.
Speaker 1: You just have to do this now because you're like, wow, hey,
Speaker 1: so I just I'd be really curious on that kind
Speaker 1: of crew. Who what did it ever? I do for
Speaker 1: a living, and I, on my Bengo card wouldn't have
Speaker 1: been a pastor. You know.
Speaker 3: State farm agents are small business owners too, so they
Speaker 3: know how to help you choose personalized policies that fit
Speaker 3: your needs, like a good neighbor state farm is there?
Speaker 3: Talk to your local agent today. I mean, I just
Speaker 3: think it depends on what kind of vacation you want,
Speaker 3: because a cruise, a solo cruise, it's almost like you
Speaker 3: expect to talk to other people and like meet other
Speaker 3: people in chat chat and like is that the vibe
Speaker 3: you want or do you want something more tranquil? And
Speaker 3: I think, like, yeah, some visualization, like where do you
Speaker 3: see yourself? Do you want to be alone? Do you
Speaker 3: want to be with people? But I love that idea.
Speaker 3: I aspire to get there. I don't think this year
Speaker 3: is going to be the year, but I would love
Speaker 3: to not have so much pressure around the holidays. Last year,
Speaker 3: the holidays nearly broke me, and in fact, they really
Speaker 3: did break me. I just didn't realize it until five
Speaker 3: months later. Okay, yeah, just the Yeah, it's a lot
Speaker 3: of pressure. But it's smart to think about it in advance,
Speaker 3: I would say, and not to be like. If you
Speaker 3: have a mom like mine, she's really trying to get
Speaker 3: you to commit to some dates by about September. It's
Speaker 3: like when the when the pumpkinspice latte comes out, which
Speaker 3: is coming in like the next week or two, because
Speaker 3: every year it gets earlier and earlier. Yeah, my mom
Speaker 3: is like so and no pressure, but also lots of pressure.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I just wanted to get some planning done. Yeah, we'll see, we'll.
Speaker 1: See sidebar speaking about getting ready for like you know,
Speaker 1: like the New Year. There's this girl on Instagram who
Speaker 1: I was following, and I started following her because she
Speaker 1: had this really, like really great breakdown about like the
Speaker 1: pros and cons of veneers, right, I know, just so
Speaker 1: Tracy's like Tracy's yes, She's like, you have such veried
Speaker 1: random interests. I'm like, I know, I'll just get like, huh,
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to get veneers. But it was so
Speaker 1: interesting when she was talking about veneer's and so I
Speaker 1: guess when average veneers are like a thousand dollars plus
Speaker 1: per tooth. Yeah, it's a lot.
Speaker 3: If you go to Turkey. Don't people go to Turkey?
Speaker 1: I know. But then the problem is is that you know,
Speaker 1: if something goes wrong, then you know, I don't know
Speaker 1: because your teeth are like you know, really teeth health
Speaker 1: and gum health is so critical because it can it
Speaker 1: can affect you neurologically in every area.
Speaker 3: I went to Mexico, he went o, he went to Cancun.
Speaker 1: His teeth, So it just makes me nervous, Like teeth,
Speaker 1: that's just makes me nervous. I'm just like, child, let
Speaker 1: me do it here where I could come see you?
Speaker 1: About you?
Speaker 3: You're trying to get the ears.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no girl. I'm just saying no, no, girl,
Speaker 1: like I'm in VISI line. They got your girl together.
Speaker 1: I do have a gummy smile, but which some of
Speaker 1: y'all have rudely pointed out as if it's not cute.
Speaker 1: I don't worry about my gummy smile, child, These are
Speaker 1: the baby teeth God gave me.
Speaker 3: What do you want from us? Like smiles? Don't smile? Wait?
Speaker 3: Your smiles. Why gums like the gum that they're literally holding.
Speaker 3: What do you want me to do? I know?
Speaker 1: Im there, Like when I was on it was like
Speaker 1: some ad I had and someone was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: her smile and you know what, to the credit of
Speaker 1: the dentists that watched the ads, like they were like
Speaker 1: dentists in the comments like defending me, they're like, she's
Speaker 1: got a very healthy set of from.
Speaker 3: Wait they put you in an advertisement. That's how beautiful
Speaker 3: your teeth heart?
Speaker 1: No no, no, no no, this is like you know, like
Speaker 1: a budget needs to add like you know, oh and
Speaker 1: so like you know, like on instant, you know, people
Speaker 1: just in the comments like I don't know her, she's
Speaker 1: got a gummy smile, it's too much. I'm like, well
Speaker 1: take it up with Jesus, what do you want me
Speaker 1: to do? So anyway, I'm bringing that up because what
Speaker 1: an episode not too far back talking about like the
Speaker 1: cost of like you know, like you're kind of like
Speaker 1: feminine maintenance or whatever, or just even just maintenance in general,
Speaker 1: like an ecstatic maintenance. And this girl, the vineer girl,
Speaker 1: was like she spent over two thousand dollars a month
Speaker 1: on me. I mean from botox to filler, to micro
Speaker 1: demobilasi demobration to some like body sculpting to like her
Speaker 1: she had a weave to I couldn't. It was like
Speaker 1: maybe twenty two hundred twenty three hundred, and she she's
Speaker 1: a professional I guess content creator aka influencer. But I thought, like,
Speaker 1: so it was about twenty five thousand dollars a year,
Speaker 1: and I thought to myself, what, it's.
Speaker 3: Just so wonderful.
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean she's beautiful. Obviously you had to
Speaker 1: be beautiful girl, damn, but like she's beautiful.
Speaker 3: Listen, if you got the free time, that's you know,
Speaker 3: like it takes a lot of time, and like not
Speaker 3: just the money for that kind of stuff, Like I
Speaker 3: really have not had and I'm okay with this. I
Speaker 3: have only had one manicure in the last year, and
Speaker 3: I only got my nails done because I was going
Speaker 3: on a morning show and I was like, I got
Speaker 3: to get my nails and my feet done. And I
Speaker 3: just like I used to and I used to go
Speaker 3: a lot before I had the baby. And now I'm like,
Speaker 3: it's not that I don't value that kind of self
Speaker 3: care time, but I just found out that like I
Speaker 3: was only doing it for the look, and I really
Speaker 3: hated the process, like I didn't like sitting. The only
Speaker 3: kind of self care that I enjoyed going and spending
Speaker 3: the time, and I feel better having done it. It's
Speaker 3: like when I get a massage or a facial because
Speaker 3: it is time, you know. But I did think about
Speaker 3: the access to those types of like treatments is so
Speaker 3: much more available now. It's not as pie in the sky.
Speaker 3: Plus groupon I think the groupons are only around now
Speaker 3: to give you discounts and that kind of stuff. Yes,
Speaker 3: like you shout out to laser hair removal, thank you.
Speaker 1: Does laser hair removal. That's what I do. And I
Speaker 1: just was like, to your right, to your point, it's
Speaker 1: not just money, it's also time, you know. And I
Speaker 1: guess depending on what you do for a living, you know,
Speaker 1: because I have friends who are like in the entertainment
Speaker 1: industry and they are, you know, constantly making sure that
Speaker 1: they have to look a certain way in order to
Speaker 1: be able to work. But I just was just thinking
Speaker 1: like wow, because like when does it And this young
Speaker 1: woman was very young, like only in her twenties, and
Speaker 1: I just I guess I keep thinking to myself like
Speaker 1: what does the opportunity cost versus I mean to be
Speaker 1: fair to her, you know her looks for how she
Speaker 1: makes her money. But I thought to myself, what does
Speaker 1: she invest in that? What would that look like? You
Speaker 1: know in ten twenty thirty years, twenty five to thirty
Speaker 1: thousand dollars a year on like you know her looks, which,
Speaker 1: like I said, to be fair, she uses her looks
Speaker 1: to make money.
Speaker 3: That's a slippery slope. The slippery slope because I think
Speaker 3: you could point the same finger. I mean, be like,
Speaker 3: what how where would my investments be if I spent
Speaker 3: three thousand or four thousand dollars and put that in
Speaker 3: an index fun every month instead of sending my children
Speaker 3: to a bare minimum daycare that cost And there's a
Speaker 3: really good I don't know if I know you don't
Speaker 3: want you don't want tons of TV, although I would
Speaker 3: feel like social media accounts, you get your you cat,
Speaker 3: I do get your scrolling, it get I get my
Speaker 3: screen time.
Speaker 1: It just different.
Speaker 3: I know, what's your average screen time on your phone?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: No, but there's a show on to Be to Be,
Speaker 3: which is northas like free streaming apps. Anyway, I only
Speaker 3: downloaded it because my favorite actress is in the show
Speaker 3: Nicola Coughlan from Bridgerton. It's called Big Mood and one
Speaker 3: of the characters is like two girls in their early
Speaker 3: thirties figuring shit out in London, and one of them
Speaker 3: says like, some people choose to have a husband and
Speaker 3: a wife and in their thirties, and some people choose
Speaker 3: to get high on ketamine, you know, on the weekends.
Speaker 3: Both choices are valid. And that's what I just want
Speaker 3: to say, because I think everyone we have all this options, yes,
Speaker 3: and I look at the girlies who have the disposable
Speaker 3: income that I have to dispose of with my kids,
Speaker 3: and I'm just like, that's a choice that they made,
Speaker 3: good form, you know, and it just makes me feel
Speaker 3: like there is so much I could do with that
Speaker 3: money if I do have to, you know, pay.
Speaker 1: For Lego's not for a place to judgment, because Lorden knows,
Speaker 1: like you know, I get my nails done now, I
Speaker 1: get my feet done, and brows. I've always got my
Speaker 1: brows done. And I don't do anything to my skin
Speaker 1: as of yet because it's African. Is still African, little skin,
Speaker 1: little little you know, basic maintenance at home. But I
Speaker 1: just think about you know, as we're making our choices
Speaker 1: about where to put because to her, she probably would say,
Speaker 1: this is an investment, and I can't argue with that
Speaker 1: because like I'm a content creator. I show up physically
Speaker 1: like this, this is an investment so I can continue
Speaker 1: to make money. And so it's just like where do
Speaker 1: you place the investment and what return are you looking for?
Speaker 1: And so to me, I think the only wrong way
Speaker 1: to do it is not to consciously make the decision
Speaker 1: about the desired outcome, just to kind of be just
Speaker 1: doing it. It's like, no, no, no, no, I'm putting this
Speaker 1: twenty five thousand dollars a year in because it generates
Speaker 1: me three four hundred thousand dollars a year. I'm just
Speaker 1: making it that I don't know how much she makes
Speaker 1: versus like I'm just kind of doing the thing because
Speaker 1: I'm doing the thing, you know. Yeah, So no, I
Speaker 1: wasn't an adjudstment. I follow her and I love how
Speaker 1: open she is because she's a black girl, and she
Speaker 1: said not enough women and women of color kind of
Speaker 1: share the ends out, the costs, the pros and the
Speaker 1: cons of kind of like this up like this next
Speaker 1: level of beauty maintenance she said, because this hasn't been
Speaker 1: done just secretly. So so some of your faiths are
Speaker 1: doing this. They're like girls, she's lying, she's anybody working
Speaker 1: out no more. This is what they're doing. And so
Speaker 1: I follow her because I love that she breaks down
Speaker 1: the financial aspect of beauty, you know, and so it's
Speaker 1: really interesting, Like, Okay, I didn't know veniers were like
Speaker 1: like a thousand to more plus a tooth. So you
Speaker 1: know you get ten veneers, that's over ten thousand dollars.
Speaker 1: You're like, okay, you know, I didn't know.
Speaker 3: That's so big all the time, just making them a
Speaker 3: little bit smaller.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Do you know my mom always for my wedding and
Speaker 3: she modeled her teeth after mine, He said, who did
Speaker 3: my mom?
Speaker 1: She got vaniers?
Speaker 3: Yeah, before my wedding she did. Ok they look so natural.
Speaker 3: And she didn't go in there saying I want like
Speaker 3: the big Taylor Swift teeth, no offense. She's the only
Speaker 3: one whose teethchaking. They're just so in your face. But
Speaker 3: my mom she was like, she gave them a picture
Speaker 3: of my teeth.
Speaker 1: Oh, I love that you have great teeth. I love it.
Speaker 3: See, I love that I have little bunny teeth and
Speaker 3: they're her teeth, but you know, they weren't looking like
Speaker 3: that anymore.
Speaker 1: So oh no, see, and that's what I mean, like,
Speaker 1: you know, yeah, the only thing, like I didn't know
Speaker 1: for example, that I guess she's supposed to replace your
Speaker 1: veneers every ten to fifteen years or something like that.
Speaker 3: Oh shoot, I did not know that either.
Speaker 1: Well I don't know for sure, but I just remember
Speaker 1: that was one of the girls that she was just
Speaker 1: like being mindful that veneer's. I guess the same thing
Speaker 1: for like a crown, Like I've got a crown. It
Speaker 1: doesn't last forever and never never, I'm assuming you're supposed to,
Speaker 1: like you know, there's always maintenance.
Speaker 3: And so as I get older, you realize ten years
Speaker 3: seems like a million years, you know what I mean,
Speaker 3: Like when you're younger, and then ten years rolls around
Speaker 3: and you're like, wait, it was ten years since that
Speaker 3: damn Like our fridge is starting to be funky and
Speaker 3: my husband's like, well, what husband? Eight years? I'm like
Speaker 3: since when we just got here, I know, And.
Speaker 1: You know that crazy because like I think she's the last,
Speaker 1: like your great grandmother's fridge is still running someplace like
Speaker 1: you know, but obviously they make it not less on purpose,
Speaker 1: so you can continue to buy. But there's another random
Speaker 1: Instagram account that I followed that talks about old fridges.
Speaker 1: They show fridges from like the twenties and thirties and
Speaker 1: forties and fifty and they show you how they still
Speaker 1: work in all the cool gadgets they used to have
Speaker 1: that we don't have. And I'm like, we are developing backwards.
Speaker 3: It's almost like corporate greed is running our lives. No,
Speaker 3: you heard your first BA faan survive with us survive.
Speaker 1: Well, we'd love to know, Like what are your travel plans?
Speaker 1: What's your most expensive beauty expense? How much does it
Speaker 1: costing you? Is it worth it?
Speaker 3: Where do you think Tiffany should go? Yes, holidays to
Speaker 3: change her scenery, make a new tradition. Yes, maybe there's
Speaker 3: some good ideas. I bet some BA listeners travel and I.
Speaker 1: Would love that, Like, yeah, how it is? It's like
Speaker 1: or don't go here, girl is so crazy. I don't
Speaker 1: want to go anywhere. I want someplace where it's going
Speaker 1: to be peaceful and serene and beautiful. Those are my rules.
Speaker 1: And not too cold, peaceful, serene, beautiful, not too cold.
Speaker 1: I don't mind traveling internationally. I don't mind staying domestically. Yeah,
Speaker 1: just peaceful, serene, beautiful, like naturally beautiful and yeah and
Speaker 1: not too cold. Yeah. So if we should take a
Speaker 1: break and come back with some brown girl lookt me aoray.
Speaker 3: For the brow boos brown yeahkur type B A fan
Speaker 3: will be right back and we back to be based
Speaker 3: and break back.
Speaker 2: Were back, We back, and now it's time to boost up.
Speaker 2: Break up, boost up, break up, boost up? Break Are
Speaker 2: you gonna boost? Is you gonna break?
Speaker 1: What you're gonna do, what you're gonna take? You want
Speaker 1: to go first? You want to go second? When do
Speaker 1: you want to go?
Speaker 3: I will go first? Because this how happens to be
Speaker 3: if the show is airing, when I think it's airing.
Speaker 3: This happens to be Black Breastfeeding Awareness Month, which sounds
Speaker 3: so specific because it is. It's actually really important because
Speaker 3: it's not just that in hospitals that a lot of
Speaker 3: new moms. I think now we're finally getting educational on
Speaker 3: how to like breastfeed, but especially among black women who
Speaker 3: tend to not have the care and love that we
Speaker 3: need in a hospital setting. I think it's really important
Speaker 3: to have months like these, and I thought I would
Speaker 3: use it to spotlight Elaine Welterrot's new nonprofit called Birth Fund,
Speaker 3: which I think we talked about a little bit before
Speaker 3: when it first came out. But birth Fund is basically
Speaker 3: like an answer to the fact that the healthcare system
Speaker 3: is failing black women, especially black mothers. I don't think
Speaker 3: that these numbers have truly sunk in yet, but I
Speaker 3: just wanted to read some of them. But the US
Speaker 3: maternal mortality rate is ten times higher, not just in
Speaker 3: other countries, other high income countries, our comparable economies. You
Speaker 3: were ten times more likely to die as a mom
Speaker 3: in the United States. That is embarrassing, embarrassing and crazy.
Speaker 3: Black women, however, are dying at three to four times
Speaker 3: the rate of white women during and after childbirth. That
Speaker 3: is insane. That is I don't know why. That's not
Speaker 3: like a presidential platform we should be running on, like
Speaker 3: we have to save the mothers. So I just wanted
Speaker 3: to shout out birth Fund. It's founded by one of
Speaker 3: my idols, Elaine welter Roth, who is just this phenomenal
Speaker 3: former journalist and now everything is so if you want
Speaker 3: to check it out, go to thebirthfund dot Com where
Speaker 3: you can invest, you can join the community, because it's
Speaker 3: really about matching black women, black mothers to doulas and
Speaker 3: what's the other thing besides adula midwives who can help
Speaker 3: like get you through that process with less trauma. I'm
Speaker 3: very lucky because I had a really great like experience
Speaker 3: at the hospital that I go to, uh, that I
Speaker 3: went to for my two births. But clearly the majority
Speaker 3: of or like a lot of women of color who
Speaker 3: were giving birth are not having the same experience, and
Speaker 3: in fact, it's like threatening our lives. So the birth
Speaker 3: fund dot Com. Check it out, and happy National Black
Speaker 3: Breastfeeding Month. Shout out to your nipple Creams and uh,
Speaker 3: I salute to you. I was so happy to pack up
Speaker 3: my pump for maybe the last time.
Speaker 1: Oh well, I'm going to take just a little lighthearted break,
Speaker 1: brown break because you know, y'all know I've recently moved
Speaker 1: and so when Jrell was here, we had brought like
Speaker 1: a sleep number bed for a bajillion dollars. I want
Speaker 1: to say, we've probably spent around seven thousand dollars. They're
Speaker 1: so freaking expensive.
Speaker 3: Damn, that's we got to be like, well, you're going
Speaker 3: to sleep on it for one hundred thousand million days,
Speaker 3: so it's only eight cents a day.
Speaker 1: And so yeah, and I asked a friend of mine, Leela,
Speaker 1: who does my makeup, you know when I do TV?
Speaker 1: And so I said, Leila, is it worth it? She's like,
Speaker 1: is I? And that's exactly how I feel? So I
Speaker 1: have to disconnect it. There's so many pieces to disconnect
Speaker 1: when you move a sleep number bed, because there's like
Speaker 1: a sleep What makes us sleep number bed quote unquote
Speaker 1: so special is that like it's like a you can
Speaker 1: make it as firm or as dense as you want.
Speaker 1: And so there's like a pump and an air filtration,
Speaker 1: which sounds all good until it's time to move. Also, too,
Speaker 1: there's like a magnetic system that you're almost going to
Speaker 1: lose your life in order to like disconnect. And then
Speaker 1: I had a footwarmer, and so there's like that. It was,
Speaker 1: I mean, I felt like an engineer. I said, I
Speaker 1: have graduated in NASA. I can now fly to the moon.
Speaker 1: And so because I was nervous, I mean I was
Speaker 1: nervous for the clean for the moving guys to do it,
Speaker 1: because I watched the video online. I was like, oh no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I don't want anyone to come in here without the care,
Speaker 1: not as seven thousand dollars, honey, you know. And so
Speaker 1: I disassembled. I didn't have to move the mattress or anything,
Speaker 1: but just like unplugging child, only for me to lay
Speaker 1: in the bed like a regular mattress. Ask me if
Speaker 1: I use after the last time I lifted my head
Speaker 1: up on my feet or I mean.
Speaker 3: You're like, you know what also works is the pillows, girls,
Speaker 3: behind your head.
Speaker 1: That's literally what I use when I tell you I
Speaker 1: am a pillow under my arm between my legs. Girl,
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't actually like a high head because
Speaker 1: at this age my neck is like, don't do that.
Speaker 1: And who sleeps with their feet up unless you have
Speaker 1: some sort of like foot injury, and like, I mean
Speaker 1: my firmness of mattress, I don't switch it from night
Speaker 1: to night. So I could just buy it at this
Speaker 1: it was a lot of.
Speaker 3: I bet you Superman was he the advocate for that day?
Speaker 3: Of course he was, because men loved their goddamn badgets
Speaker 3: and gives me just settings. I mean, I just my
Speaker 3: husband was actually jealous of the baby. Remy took the
Speaker 3: remote control and found some kind of setting by just
Speaker 3: pressing buttons twenty minutes. And my husband was like, he's like, god,
Speaker 3: how did remy find that saying? And it was like
Speaker 3: something I was like, just just yes, tinkering.
Speaker 1: So so if you were sorry to sleep number and
Speaker 1: not that you were gonna, like, you know, advertise here anyway,
Speaker 1: if you're thinking about one of them fancy spancy s,
Speaker 1: fancy beds, unless you have some sort of medical condition
Speaker 1: where it's like, oh I have to sleep my head
Speaker 1: up or my feet up or whatever, is it worth it.
Speaker 1: It's a nice bed to have, so I'm not like, oh,
Speaker 1: to some bad bed, is it worth a seven eight five? Now,
Speaker 1: get you a regular mattress at the firmace that you're liking,
Speaker 1: and put some extra pills behind your head. It'll be
Speaker 1: much easier to move as well, Like where this leap
Speaker 1: where this sleeping number bed is going to stay put
Speaker 1: if I move, is going to the next people who
Speaker 1: have my place you get to keep is yours? Congratulations.
Speaker 1: So yeah, it's just that is my brown break that
Speaker 1: like it is not to me. The juice is not
Speaker 1: worth the squeeze, Although in general it's a nice bed
Speaker 1: it's just not worth the cost that you have to
Speaker 1: you know that you have to buy it for. So
Speaker 1: that was it because I was just thinking about that
Speaker 1: as I was moving, Like you know, some things you
Speaker 1: move you're like, oh easy, busy, and some things you're like,
Speaker 1: oh should this just stay with the house child, you know,
Speaker 1: because it's too much. But you know, I mean I'm settling.
Speaker 3: Is it going to rich John Tyland or is it?
Speaker 1: Yeah? It has to girl for seven thousand.
Speaker 3: Dollars that better be in heirloom, Like you better be.
Speaker 1: Roaming and me going to inherit that bit and my
Speaker 1: will yeah, and to you are bequeathing my seat number.
Speaker 3: With the bag of Alan Rinch's.
Speaker 1: So so yeah, that was just my brown bird. So
Speaker 1: like you know, if you're looking for a mattress, that
Speaker 1: ain't it. Yeah, So you know what, the guys, it's
Speaker 1: the time again when we say goodbye farewell. I do,
Speaker 1: I do, and stay rich girls and guys. We'll see
Speaker 1: you guys. Oh we actually we'll see you on Friday
Speaker 1: for be
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