WEBVTT - The Real Cost (and Value) of Beauty 0:00:06.320 --> 0:00:14.640 Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, We're brown and 0:00:15.280 --> 0:00:21.799 abusion ambition, ambitition, ambition. Hey and Andrew, how are you girls? 0:00:21.920 --> 0:00:22.000 Hi? 0:00:22.079 --> 0:00:26.320 Gorgeous? Don't you know what your skin is looking? Glowy girl? 0:00:26.640 --> 0:00:30.520 Because the beach said with browner than brown. I used 0:00:30.560 --> 0:00:32.960 to hate getting dark in the summertime, but now I know. 0:00:34.320 --> 0:00:39.560 Yeah, I was a sad sad uh summertime in Georgia girl. 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:42.160 Like I I mean, I went to like majority white 0:00:42.240 --> 0:00:45.239 schools and I was out there. I did not need 0:00:45.280 --> 0:00:48.839 to be putting oil on myself and tanning spray. You know, 0:00:49.240 --> 0:00:52.279 it was a struggle for me and my gay ex boyfriend, 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:55.040 myschool boyfriend. We would go tanning together. 0:00:56.040 --> 0:00:57.600 Like was that not a clue? 0:00:58.560 --> 0:01:02.520 There were so many And I always think about my 0:01:02.560 --> 0:01:04.759 gay ex boyfriend in summertime. I don't know, just something 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:08.120 about it. I'm like, oh, man, we had fun, we 0:01:08.160 --> 0:01:14.560 had fun, But how's your summer going? You guys just 0:01:14.640 --> 0:01:15.720 wanted the beachy beach. 0:01:16.120 --> 0:01:20.360 Yes, got a little brown. But truthfully, I was thinking about, like, okay, 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:24.080 like travel for a fall winter, because how far an 0:01:24.080 --> 0:01:26.399 advance are supposed to buy a ticket? Like when isn't 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:27.759 there like an ideal. 0:01:27.640 --> 0:01:32.479 Six weeks domestic, and I think for international, like eight 0:01:32.520 --> 0:01:34.600 to twelve weeks is usually the rule of thumb, okay, 0:01:36.160 --> 0:01:39.520 or you could be like me and buy tickets. I 0:01:39.560 --> 0:01:41.920 just bought. I bought it. I bought flights to La 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:44.080 because I'm going to that conference that I wasn't sure 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:45.680 I was going to go to. I'm turning it into 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:49.640 a writer and a writering, a writing and a conference retreat. 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:53.200 So I got an airbnb, okay, and just for me, 0:01:53.720 --> 0:01:55.760 and it has it's really cute. It's like, you know 0:01:55.800 --> 0:01:58.120 how in La and Cali they have like the little 0:01:58.160 --> 0:02:01.760 guest houses in the back. So I got this lady. 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:03.200 She has a guest house and it has its own 0:02:03.240 --> 0:02:06.080 little pool, like okay, not a huge pool, but a 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:09.800 saltwater pool, and it looks really cute and tranquil with 0:02:09.840 --> 0:02:13.239 trees and stuff. And so I'm gonna I'm heading there. 0:02:13.600 --> 0:02:17.040 And yeah, the flights actually were really affordable, shock to four. 0:02:17.120 --> 0:02:19.000 So so I. 0:02:18.919 --> 0:02:20.400 Mean I had to book a bunch of one ways 0:02:20.440 --> 0:02:22.680 because I'm dropping the kids off on the way to 0:02:22.760 --> 0:02:23.639 calib Okay. 0:02:24.160 --> 0:02:27.280 So you not you using the trade like the plane 0:02:27.320 --> 0:02:28.400 like a bus. 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:31.119 No, but for real, like we're commuting. So I'm doing 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:33.560 a stopover in Saint Louis. The kids are getting dropped 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:34.959 off with my mom. I'm going to stay at the 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:37.079 airport catch my flight to LA from there. I want 0:02:37.120 --> 0:02:40.320 to say it was less than three hundred dollars one 0:02:40.360 --> 0:02:42.960 way ticket, so okay, and one way tickets are usually 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:46.120 more expensive. They don't like selling one way, yes, and 0:02:46.160 --> 0:02:48.440 why did I do that because the lady at Southwest 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:51.519 told me to for some technical reasons because I'm dropping 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:53.560 with babies, so if she wanted them they have I 0:02:54.120 --> 0:02:56.560 couldn't like make their separate reservation. This does not matter 0:02:56.600 --> 0:03:00.560 to the listener. The point is I was surprise to 0:03:00.600 --> 0:03:04.040 get like a decent priced flight to LA. Okay, yeah, 0:03:04.080 --> 0:03:06.880 I'm excited. So, like you said, fall in winter travel, 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:10.800 I can't even think beyond like September first right now. 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:13.760 I'm just hanging on for dear life at this point 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:15.880 is how I feel? Are you actually planning? 0:03:16.400 --> 0:03:19.880 I want still one for sure? Like so still my 0:03:19.960 --> 0:03:22.640 best t get Bro is turning the big five zero. 0:03:23.160 --> 0:03:27.600 Five, I know, fifty, I know wow, Okay. 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:30.040 Black, don't crack unless you do it, I'm saying no. 0:03:30.240 --> 0:03:34.440 So he he's turning fifty and we're trying to He's 0:03:34.440 --> 0:03:35.720 trying to figure out what he wanted to do. We're 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:39.720 both Libra's, so his birthdays in October. So he decided 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:44.080 on Bager's baby. Oh okay, and I said, okay, so 0:03:44.120 --> 0:03:45.880 a group of us are gonna go, and so that's 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:51.000 like in October. But I am trying to plan to 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:54.280 start to create like a new because every Christmas I 0:03:54.280 --> 0:03:57.640 get really sad, obviously because you're not here. And so 0:03:57.840 --> 0:04:02.640 doctor Green, my therapist, suggested I create a new tradition. 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:05.560 And I said, you know, I'm never away for Christmas. 0:04:05.680 --> 0:04:06.800 I'm always like, no, I have to be here my 0:04:06.800 --> 0:04:09.200 family and my family. Meanwhile, last year my mom wasn't here, 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:11.560 and neither was my sister Lisa. And yet before that, 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:14.000 my sister Tracy wasn't here. Year before that, my sister care. 0:04:14.440 --> 0:04:17.320 So I'm like Tiffany, you know, like it's okay if 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:20.160 you're not here, like sometimes you know, those who are 0:04:20.160 --> 0:04:22.960 here get together and I'm thanksgiving it something we always 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:26.160 do together. So you know, I haven't decided, and I'm 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:28.240 almost positive. Alyssa said that she and her mom are 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:30.520 going to go someplace for Christmas. So I said, okay, 0:04:31.080 --> 0:04:34.159 So I don't know where I'm going to go for Christmas, 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:38.320 but I feel like I'm feeling something warmish. I don't know, 0:04:38.360 --> 0:04:40.479 I will see who's a belle because Cabral's already like, 0:04:40.520 --> 0:04:41.640 I'm down to go. Where do you want to go? 0:04:42.800 --> 0:04:46.919 You want a couple kids and me and my husband, So. 0:04:46.880 --> 0:04:49.479 I'm trying to figure out I'm going to do. I'm 0:04:49.480 --> 0:04:51.560 feeling something more warmish, you know. 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:53.080 Okay, I don't. 0:04:52.960 --> 0:04:56.000 Know if it's'll be international maybe, so I'm kind of like, 0:04:56.520 --> 0:04:59.760 you know, the for the listener, like, where's a great 0:04:59.800 --> 0:05:01.719 place to go that's not going to be a freaking 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:03.000 arm and a lag, which I'm sure it's going to 0:05:03.040 --> 0:05:04.440 be an armored like just because you know. 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:08.599 How well I have I have had these like moments 0:05:08.640 --> 0:05:11.600 where I at this time of year, probably pre kids, 0:05:11.920 --> 0:05:13.520 I tried to play in a Christmas trip, but I 0:05:13.600 --> 0:05:15.479 usually get guilt tripped out of it by my own mother. 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:18.600 So put a pin in that, because I think what 0:05:18.640 --> 0:05:20.960 you're doing is amazing and I think it is like 0:05:21.040 --> 0:05:22.760 such a level that I want to get to where 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:27.400 we can just like start our own traditions. But while 0:05:27.440 --> 0:05:31.039 these kids are small, they're like in demand there. 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:32.200 Yeah, they have to do. 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:36.080 Yes, it's really what I'm on. I'm on a child. 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:38.440 Tour of the I love that in demand. 0:05:38.600 --> 0:05:41.479 Yeah, but I did make a shift this past year 0:05:41.520 --> 0:05:44.120 to say, well, one I didn't couldn't really couldn't really 0:05:44.200 --> 0:05:45.720 didn't really have a choice. I had so many, like 0:05:46.080 --> 0:05:48.960 you know, family emergencies. We were always traveling with the kids, 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:50.960 but trying to make more visits throughout the year, so 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:54.280 there's not so much pressure on like these specific two 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:57.479 days Thanksgiving and Christmas, and you know, it's just so stressful. 0:05:57.520 --> 0:06:00.000 No one's ever satisfied. Someone always gets the feeling hurt, 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:04.440 we're not there long enough. But yeah, I love that idea. 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:06.960 And I just wanted to say, in the past, when 0:06:07.000 --> 0:06:09.440 I have looked at there are some epic places, like 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:12.120 vacationing on the holidays is for a lot of people normal. 0:06:12.880 --> 0:06:15.480 There are some really epic places that you can go 0:06:15.480 --> 0:06:18.919 in the holidays. But because it's not uncommon for like 0:06:18.960 --> 0:06:23.520 holiday travel, you know abroad, especially in like warm beachy places, 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:28.960 they book up kind of quickly. Okay, yeah, go ahead 0:06:28.960 --> 0:06:32.400 and start you know looking at way you won't. 0:06:32.920 --> 0:06:34.280 Yeah, I'm trying to think, I'm like, I've never do 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:37.960 you know I've never done a cruise never ever, ever 0:06:38.040 --> 0:06:41.320 ever ever never have I ever, so I would like 0:06:41.320 --> 0:06:42.920 to do at least one cruise. I mean, I don't 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:45.000 I'm not saying for Christmas, but these are some kind 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:46.680 of like upcoming things, even if it's just for a 0:06:46.680 --> 0:06:50.279 few days, just because what if I hate it? But yeah, 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:50.720 I think you. 0:06:50.680 --> 0:06:52.720 Want to look really carefully at the reviews, you know, 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:55.359 make sure it's like a there's probably like adults only ones. 0:06:55.480 --> 0:06:58.280 Not that kids are the worst, but you don't want 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:00.000 to go to one of the ones where it's basically 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:03.560 an outdoor indoor water park for children and not relaxing. 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:07.919 Yes, one of my friends said, my very wealthy, wealthy, 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:12.360 wealthy friend he had went on the rich Carlton has 0:07:12.400 --> 0:07:17.960 like this new fancy Smancy Smancy Smancy cruise and he 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:20.360 guess how much. I can't remember if it's a week 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:23.880 or two weeks whever, guess how much it costs rich 0:07:23.960 --> 0:07:26.840 Carlton cruise. Let's just say it's two weeks. I don't 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:29.160 know how long it is. You will not you will not. 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:35.040 Believe figure girl. I yeah, okay, lay it on me. 0:07:35.320 --> 0:07:38.400 Two hundred and I think forty five thousand dollars. Yes, 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:42.160 and he told me, babee, buy yourself a boat, I mean, 0:07:42.600 --> 0:07:44.840 by yourself a house. Well he has a house, but 0:07:44.920 --> 0:07:46.680 still I think the part that bothered me a little 0:07:46.680 --> 0:07:48.400 bit hopefully he's not listening to this. 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:51.119 Well he don't be listening, but he was still listening. 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:52.360 He's like, I got it. 0:07:53.160 --> 0:07:55.160 Well, the part that kind of black was like wait what? 0:07:55.800 --> 0:07:57.400 He was like, yeah, you know, you know I treated 0:07:57.440 --> 0:07:59.280 myself whatever. I said, Well, that was a big treat. 0:07:59.320 --> 0:08:01.240 And he was like, yeah, I heard about it from 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:04.440 my pastor and his wife because they went on I'm like, wait, 0:08:05.000 --> 0:08:05.800 what as. 0:08:05.520 --> 0:08:06.680 People got rich pastors? 0:08:07.080 --> 0:08:11.160 I say, Megachurch, is your pastor from Atlanta? 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:14.520 Good guess how do you. 0:08:14.560 --> 0:08:17.160 Feel about that? When the pastor is we live in that. 0:08:17.960 --> 0:08:21.840 There's a funny in me Instagram channel where it says 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:24.320 my pastor's watches and then there's like a pastor my 0:08:24.320 --> 0:08:26.720 pastor sneakers, And they will show up one of these 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:29.360 famous pastors and then they'll say he's wearing a whatever 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:31.400 watch and that watches one hundred thousand dollars and he's 0:08:31.400 --> 0:08:33.800 wearing such a such sneakers for fifteen hundred. How do 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:35.800 you feel about that. I was like, wait, your pastor 0:08:35.840 --> 0:08:37.440 told you about a two hundred and fifty feels in 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:38.120 that La cruise. 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:42.600 I think that there is no that we all deserve 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:46.320 love from our heavenly Father and whoever you believe in 0:08:46.720 --> 0:08:50.040 heavenly Mother. Yeah. I guess the way I feel about 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:55.440 it is like actions, and I have a lot of 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:57.720 conflict because I have been to those megachurches in Georgia, 0:08:57.760 --> 0:09:00.720 but also I have been to like the down home 0:09:00.880 --> 0:09:03.480 like southern Baptist churches like where my aunt and my 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:10.720 great uncle they're both pastors, and I think being humble 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:14.320 and humility is really important. I think it's sad that 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:17.319 those megachurches like they like I remember going to one 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:19.079 and they had like a special parking lot just for 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:22.440 the Falcons players because it was close to their training camp. 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:23.640 Kind of very best. 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:27.720 Parking lot because Yad said, there's v IP heaven't baby. 0:09:27.520 --> 0:09:31.360 No but for real, no, but for real And yeah, 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:34.840 I just found it really like icky and it just Yeah, 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:37.160 the way I feel about it is like, you. 0:09:37.080 --> 0:09:42.079 Know, I just I remember I was watching on Rich 0:09:42.120 --> 0:09:44.439 Pastors and one of them said, let me tell you something, baby, 0:09:44.440 --> 0:09:47.200 If Jesus was was around during these times. I promise 0:09:47.280 --> 0:09:51.160 you he wouldn't be riding a donkey. I'm like, Sir, 0:09:51.840 --> 0:09:55.480 I Jesus is like, how I get in it? 0:09:55.600 --> 0:09:56.840 Would he be in a bugatti? 0:09:57.320 --> 0:09:59.480 I mean because that that this I was watching this 0:09:59.559 --> 0:10:03.319 documentary and that pastor had like three three private jets 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:06.840 one two three. I said, sir, I know there are 0:10:06.840 --> 0:10:09.679 people in the congregation now who are hungry, who might 0:10:09.720 --> 0:10:12.160 even be un housed. It's just like that's just the 0:10:12.160 --> 0:10:14.560 makeup of you know. And I just don't understand how 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:19.880 you need unodos trace private antal planes and you know, 0:10:19.960 --> 0:10:21.800 and then two hundred and fifty. So that's for one 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:23.720 person two fifty and maybe I don't know, let's just 0:10:23.720 --> 0:10:26.120 pretend that for two people, maybe it's three fifty. I 0:10:26.120 --> 0:10:29.160 don't know. But that you could literally buy a congregation 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:33.080 member home and transform their whole life. I just I'm 0:10:33.080 --> 0:10:36.880 not here to judge, but I'm judging, you know. 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:38.240 On the one hand, I want to be like we 0:10:38.320 --> 0:10:40.320 all are individuals. Do what you want. But I think 0:10:40.360 --> 0:10:44.520 the position of being like a church leader, Yeah, you 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:47.040 put yourself on this pedestal, and it's like you do, 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:49.560 I think you get held to a much higher standard 0:10:49.960 --> 0:10:52.199 I feel like we hold celebrities to a higher standard 0:10:52.200 --> 0:10:55.760 than like our religious leaders sometimes in terms of like, oh, 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:58.040 you know that person who tracks Taylor's fwat's private jet 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:00.079 and how much jet fool she feels she's using. And 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:03.720 I'm like, but three for a pastor, like I do 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:06.559 think if I don't know, I wonder what his congregants think, 0:11:06.600 --> 0:11:08.040 because I wouldn't feel comfortable. 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:10.559 Well, some people like a fancy like you know, pastor 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:12.200 in church. But I just I just brought that up 0:11:12.240 --> 0:11:14.600 because as we're talking about travel and things like that, 0:11:14.679 --> 0:11:18.240 and you think to yourself, like, I don't know, chall 0:11:18.400 --> 0:11:20.480 this is why, you know, I just believed that, you know, 0:11:21.160 --> 0:11:24.440 I go to God for myself, you know, because it's 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:26.600 just at the end of the day, that's just a man. 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:30.480 Oh man? Or were they then? And so they are 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:35.959 imperfect infallible, so therefore Yeah. But when he told me that, 0:11:36.120 --> 0:11:38.240 because one, I was already like three fifty, I mean 0:11:38.240 --> 0:11:40.680 two fifty Wow, how much what do you make of 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:42.440 last year? And he was like, yeah, my Fastor told 0:11:42.440 --> 0:11:45.040 me about it. I said, like, because they had heard 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:47.199 through the grapevine. He's like, no, no, no, because him and 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:48.439 his wife they had done it and they're going to 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:51.400 do it again. I'm like, hey, that's a nice erna me. 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:54.040 You just have to do this now because you're like, wow, hey, 0:11:54.920 --> 0:11:59.640 so I just I'd be really curious on that kind 0:11:59.640 --> 0:12:01.720 of crew. Who what did it ever? I do for 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:03.640 a living, and I, on my Bengo card wouldn't have 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:05.680 been a pastor. You know. 0:12:07.280 --> 0:12:10.520 State farm agents are small business owners too, so they 0:12:10.600 --> 0:12:13.400 know how to help you choose personalized policies that fit 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:16.080 your needs, like a good neighbor state farm is there? 0:12:16.280 --> 0:12:21.040 Talk to your local agent today. I mean, I just 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:23.680 think it depends on what kind of vacation you want, 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:26.640 because a cruise, a solo cruise, it's almost like you 0:12:26.679 --> 0:12:28.720 expect to talk to other people and like meet other 0:12:28.720 --> 0:12:31.000 people in chat chat and like is that the vibe 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:33.240 you want or do you want something more tranquil? And 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:37.599 I think, like, yeah, some visualization, like where do you 0:12:37.640 --> 0:12:39.199 see yourself? Do you want to be alone? Do you 0:12:39.240 --> 0:12:43.040 want to be with people? But I love that idea. 0:12:43.160 --> 0:12:45.800 I aspire to get there. I don't think this year 0:12:45.840 --> 0:12:48.680 is going to be the year, but I would love 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:51.920 to not have so much pressure around the holidays. Last year, 0:12:52.000 --> 0:12:54.520 the holidays nearly broke me, and in fact, they really 0:12:54.559 --> 0:12:56.480 did break me. I just didn't realize it until five 0:12:56.480 --> 0:13:00.839 months later. Okay, yeah, just the Yeah, it's a lot 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:04.480 of pressure. But it's smart to think about it in advance, 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:07.120 I would say, and not to be like. If you 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:09.439 have a mom like mine, she's really trying to get 0:13:09.440 --> 0:13:13.160 you to commit to some dates by about September. It's 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:15.839 like when the when the pumpkinspice latte comes out, which 0:13:15.880 --> 0:13:18.120 is coming in like the next week or two, because 0:13:18.160 --> 0:13:22.000 every year it gets earlier and earlier. Yeah, my mom 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:26.040 is like so and no pressure, but also lots of pressure. 0:13:26.280 --> 0:13:26.480 Yeah. 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:32.240 I just wanted to get some planning done. Yeah, we'll see, we'll. 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:35.719 See sidebar speaking about getting ready for like you know, 0:13:36.679 --> 0:13:38.880 like the New Year. There's this girl on Instagram who 0:13:38.880 --> 0:13:40.920 I was following, and I started following her because she 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:43.760 had this really, like really great breakdown about like the 0:13:43.800 --> 0:13:46.400 pros and cons of veneers, right, I know, just so 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:50.080 Tracy's like Tracy's yes, She's like, you have such veried 0:13:50.160 --> 0:13:52.160 random interests. I'm like, I know, I'll just get like, huh, 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:53.880 I'm not trying to get veneers. But it was so 0:13:54.000 --> 0:13:56.920 interesting when she was talking about veneer's and so I 0:13:56.920 --> 0:13:59.640 guess when average veneers are like a thousand dollars plus 0:13:59.720 --> 0:14:02.480 per tooth. Yeah, it's a lot. 0:14:03.400 --> 0:14:05.560 If you go to Turkey. Don't people go to Turkey? 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:07.800 I know. But then the problem is is that you know, 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:11.560 if something goes wrong, then you know, I don't know 0:14:11.600 --> 0:14:14.560 because your teeth are like you know, really teeth health 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:16.480 and gum health is so critical because it can it 0:14:16.520 --> 0:14:18.480 can affect you neurologically in every area. 0:14:18.480 --> 0:14:21.920 I went to Mexico, he went o, he went to Cancun. 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:25.360 His teeth, So it just makes me nervous, Like teeth, 0:14:25.520 --> 0:14:27.120 that's just makes me nervous. I'm just like, child, let 0:14:27.120 --> 0:14:28.600 me do it here where I could come see you? 0:14:28.600 --> 0:14:29.040 About you? 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:30.440 You're trying to get the ears. 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:34.640 No, no, no, no girl. I'm just saying no, no, girl, 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:36.880 like I'm in VISI line. They got your girl together. 0:14:36.920 --> 0:14:38.520 I do have a gummy smile, but which some of 0:14:38.560 --> 0:14:41.480 y'all have rudely pointed out as if it's not cute. 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:45.680 I don't worry about my gummy smile, child, These are 0:14:45.720 --> 0:14:46.880 the baby teeth God gave me. 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:50.640 What do you want from us? Like smiles? Don't smile? Wait? 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:55.440 Your smiles. Why gums like the gum that they're literally holding. 0:14:57.880 --> 0:14:59.200 What do you want me to do? I know? 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:02.840 Im there, Like when I was on it was like 0:15:02.920 --> 0:15:06.720 some ad I had and someone was like, oh my god, 0:15:06.760 --> 0:15:08.680 her smile and you know what, to the credit of 0:15:08.720 --> 0:15:11.200 the dentists that watched the ads, like they were like 0:15:11.280 --> 0:15:14.120 dentists in the comments like defending me, they're like, she's 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:17.400 got a very healthy set of from. 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:19.840 Wait they put you in an advertisement. That's how beautiful 0:15:19.880 --> 0:15:20.360 your teeth heart? 0:15:20.440 --> 0:15:21.720 No no, no, no no, this is like you know, like 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:24.400 a budget needs to add like you know, oh and 0:15:24.440 --> 0:15:26.000 so like you know, like on instant, you know, people 0:15:26.080 --> 0:15:29.120 just in the comments like I don't know her, she's 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:30.960 got a gummy smile, it's too much. I'm like, well 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:32.960 take it up with Jesus, what do you want me 0:15:33.000 --> 0:15:35.360 to do? So anyway, I'm bringing that up because what 0:15:35.440 --> 0:15:38.360 an episode not too far back talking about like the 0:15:38.400 --> 0:15:40.680 cost of like you know, like you're kind of like 0:15:40.880 --> 0:15:43.760 feminine maintenance or whatever, or just even just maintenance in general, 0:15:43.880 --> 0:15:47.239 like an ecstatic maintenance. And this girl, the vineer girl, 0:15:47.760 --> 0:15:50.840 was like she spent over two thousand dollars a month 0:15:51.200 --> 0:15:55.960 on me. I mean from botox to filler, to micro 0:15:56.040 --> 0:16:01.880 demobilasi demobration to some like body sculpting to like her 0:16:02.360 --> 0:16:05.040 she had a weave to I couldn't. It was like 0:16:05.080 --> 0:16:08.000 maybe twenty two hundred twenty three hundred, and she she's 0:16:08.040 --> 0:16:13.040 a professional I guess content creator aka influencer. But I thought, like, 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:14.920 so it was about twenty five thousand dollars a year, 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:18.440 and I thought to myself, what, it's. 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:19.600 Just so wonderful. 0:16:20.000 --> 0:16:23.440 I mean, I mean she's beautiful. Obviously you had to 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:25.920 be beautiful girl, damn, but like she's beautiful. 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:27.640 Listen, if you got the free time, that's you know, 0:16:28.040 --> 0:16:29.880 like it takes a lot of time, and like not 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:32.200 just the money for that kind of stuff, Like I 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:34.520 really have not had and I'm okay with this. I 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:37.200 have only had one manicure in the last year, and 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:38.800 I only got my nails done because I was going 0:16:38.840 --> 0:16:41.360 on a morning show and I was like, I got 0:16:41.400 --> 0:16:42.880 to get my nails and my feet done. And I 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:45.040 just like I used to and I used to go 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:47.240 a lot before I had the baby. And now I'm like, 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:50.400 it's not that I don't value that kind of self 0:16:50.400 --> 0:16:51.960 care time, but I just found out that like I 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:53.840 was only doing it for the look, and I really 0:16:53.880 --> 0:16:56.920 hated the process, like I didn't like sitting. The only 0:16:56.960 --> 0:16:59.080 kind of self care that I enjoyed going and spending 0:16:59.080 --> 0:17:01.200 the time, and I feel better having done it. It's 0:17:01.240 --> 0:17:03.800 like when I get a massage or a facial because 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:08.040 it is time, you know. But I did think about 0:17:08.119 --> 0:17:11.439 the access to those types of like treatments is so 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:16.280 much more available now. It's not as pie in the sky. 0:17:16.400 --> 0:17:19.359 Plus groupon I think the groupons are only around now 0:17:19.400 --> 0:17:21.240 to give you discounts and that kind of stuff. Yes, 0:17:22.040 --> 0:17:25.200 like you shout out to laser hair removal, thank you. 0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:29.080 Does laser hair removal. That's what I do. And I 0:17:29.240 --> 0:17:31.600 just was like, to your right, to your point, it's 0:17:31.640 --> 0:17:35.040 not just money, it's also time, you know. And I 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:37.159 guess depending on what you do for a living, you know, 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:39.080 because I have friends who are like in the entertainment 0:17:39.080 --> 0:17:42.240 industry and they are, you know, constantly making sure that 0:17:42.280 --> 0:17:44.440 they have to look a certain way in order to 0:17:44.480 --> 0:17:47.280 be able to work. But I just was just thinking 0:17:47.440 --> 0:17:51.480 like wow, because like when does it And this young 0:17:51.520 --> 0:17:55.399 woman was very young, like only in her twenties, and 0:17:55.480 --> 0:17:57.639 I just I guess I keep thinking to myself like 0:17:57.680 --> 0:18:01.320 what does the opportunity cost versus I mean to be 0:18:01.320 --> 0:18:03.040 fair to her, you know her looks for how she 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:05.080 makes her money. But I thought to myself, what does 0:18:05.119 --> 0:18:07.600 she invest in that? What would that look like? You 0:18:07.600 --> 0:18:10.560 know in ten twenty thirty years, twenty five to thirty 0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:15.440 thousand dollars a year on like you know her looks, which, 0:18:15.560 --> 0:18:17.520 like I said, to be fair, she uses her looks 0:18:17.520 --> 0:18:18.159 to make money. 0:18:19.359 --> 0:18:22.880 That's a slippery slope. The slippery slope because I think 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:24.760 you could point the same finger. I mean, be like, 0:18:25.440 --> 0:18:28.920 what how where would my investments be if I spent 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:32.240 three thousand or four thousand dollars and put that in 0:18:32.240 --> 0:18:34.399 an index fun every month instead of sending my children 0:18:34.440 --> 0:18:40.159 to a bare minimum daycare that cost And there's a 0:18:40.200 --> 0:18:42.000 really good I don't know if I know you don't 0:18:42.040 --> 0:18:44.040 want you don't want tons of TV, although I would 0:18:44.040 --> 0:18:46.040 feel like social media accounts, you get your you cat, 0:18:46.359 --> 0:18:48.320 I do get your scrolling, it get I get my 0:18:48.359 --> 0:18:48.920 screen time. 0:18:48.960 --> 0:18:49.679 It just different. 0:18:50.080 --> 0:18:53.040 I know, what's your average screen time on your phone? 0:18:53.920 --> 0:18:54.240 Yeah? 0:18:55.480 --> 0:18:58.359 No, but there's a show on to Be to Be, 0:18:58.560 --> 0:19:02.080 which is northas like free streaming apps. Anyway, I only 0:19:02.080 --> 0:19:04.200 downloaded it because my favorite actress is in the show 0:19:04.280 --> 0:19:08.880 Nicola Coughlan from Bridgerton. It's called Big Mood and one 0:19:08.880 --> 0:19:10.920 of the characters is like two girls in their early 0:19:11.000 --> 0:19:13.840 thirties figuring shit out in London, and one of them 0:19:13.840 --> 0:19:16.199 says like, some people choose to have a husband and 0:19:16.200 --> 0:19:18.760 a wife and in their thirties, and some people choose 0:19:18.800 --> 0:19:21.240 to get high on ketamine, you know, on the weekends. 0:19:21.240 --> 0:19:24.280 Both choices are valid. And that's what I just want 0:19:24.320 --> 0:19:28.080 to say, because I think everyone we have all this options, yes, 0:19:28.400 --> 0:19:30.880