WEBVTT - I Like You Maximumly with AJ McLean 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.640 Hell I Suck At Dating with Denglert and Jared Haven 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:11.479 and I heard radio podcast What is Up, Sucky Daters. 0:00:11.520 --> 0:00:14.400 Welcome to an all new episode of Help I Suck 0:00:14.520 --> 0:00:17.239 At Dating. I don't know if you guys believe this 0:00:17.360 --> 0:00:21.000 or not, but we are only three weeks away from 0:00:21.040 --> 0:00:25.560 two thousand one. That is absolutely mind blowing to me. Anyways, 0:00:25.720 --> 0:00:29.680 it's Jared and myself and we have a very special 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:32.400 episode for you guys today. We have a j McClean 0:00:32.520 --> 0:00:35.120 of the Backstreet Boys is gonna be joining us today. 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:38.160 Cheryl Burke Dancing with the Stars is gonna be joining 0:00:38.240 --> 0:00:42.720 us today. They have their own podcast, well podcast podcast, 0:00:42.880 --> 0:00:49.560 it's a podcast, it's podcasts pretty much. And Rene Alizondo 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:52.040 Alizondo are gonna be joining us is today as well. 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:53.760 They're the host of Pretty Messed Up. We're gonna get 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:55.760 to them a little bit later, but before we do that, 0:00:55.880 --> 0:00:57.960 I just want to talk to Jared because Jared, I 0:00:57.960 --> 0:00:59.800 feel like we haven't really had a chance to talk lately. 0:00:59.800 --> 0:01:03.000 It's always been co host guests, so we've never really 0:01:03.000 --> 0:01:04.600 had the you know, the one on one interaction that 0:01:04.640 --> 0:01:06.840 I really strive for a weekend and week out. Where 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:10.760 are you in the world right now. I'm in Santa Monica. Okay, 0:01:10.760 --> 0:01:12.839 so you're back in l A, are you? So? How's 0:01:12.880 --> 0:01:14.360 the house? Have you seen it? Have you been to 0:01:14.400 --> 0:01:16.160 the land? Are you guys building? Well? I know you 0:01:16.160 --> 0:01:18.640 guys just bought a brand new house, right it is 0:01:18.640 --> 0:01:22.120 a brand new it's currently being built. The house. Kaylin's 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:26.399 grandparents lived close by. They walked over and took a 0:01:26.440 --> 0:01:29.520 picture of it. It's you know, it's framed out. That's 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:31.160 about as far as they've gotten. Still about four or 0:01:31.200 --> 0:01:33.360 five months away from being finished. But have you guys 0:01:33.400 --> 0:01:36.440 seen it in person? We have seen it in person. Yeah. 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:39.000 It's funny actually because I just started talking about this 0:01:39.040 --> 0:01:41.760 and Caitlin looks over at me and she's she like grimaces, 0:01:41.800 --> 0:01:43.680 and she says, you told them that we're buying a 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:45.720 house because I guess, like, like I said, we're still 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:48.880 early stages and so you know, we haven't obviously officially 0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:50.880 gotten the keys yet, so we don't want to jakes anything. 0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:54.000 But um, you're just putting it out into the universe, 0:01:54.040 --> 0:01:57.080 that's all. Yeah, Well, it's gonna be embarrassing, like for 0:01:57.120 --> 0:01:59.400 some reason, we don't get qualified for our mortgage alone. 0:01:59.720 --> 0:02:02.040 But will make great content. So either way, we're good 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:04.320 on this podcast. Yeah, we're turning out content. I guess 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:06.120 that's the most important thing. If we turned out enough 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:08.320 content on this podcast, maybe we'll be able to afford 0:02:08.320 --> 0:02:10.880 a house eventually, you know. Yeah in l A. That 0:02:11.040 --> 0:02:13.440 is right right, right right, which would be great. So 0:02:13.440 --> 0:02:17.359 so that's where we're at. Uh, we're hopefully I don't 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:18.960 know if I like did a good job of explaining 0:02:18.960 --> 0:02:21.200 this last time, but so we're buying a house in 0:02:21.400 --> 0:02:25.240 Las Vegas, near Caitlin's grandparents center and uncle, um, and 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:27.120 it's in a little suburb we both really like and 0:02:27.160 --> 0:02:29.240 it's close to her family. But then we're also going 0:02:29.320 --> 0:02:31.560 to be signing a lease here in Los Angeles to 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:34.200 rent a house because we want to be in Los Angeles, 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:36.080 but we also want to have the option to be 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:37.919 in Las Vegas close to her family. So we're kind 0:02:37.919 --> 0:02:41.040 of gonna be back and forth. Um, But obviously l 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:42.359 A is just too expensive, so we're not going to 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:46.200 buy in l A. So that's kind of where we're at. Uh, 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:48.520 you're telling us, you're telling me last week that you 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:50.560 guys are buying a house and leasing a place in 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:53.720 l A. Makes me so much more comfortable with the 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:57.600 idea of purchasing a home in Rhode Island and still 0:02:57.639 --> 0:03:00.520 renting a place in l A. Yeah, that was kind 0:03:00.520 --> 0:03:03.840 of our dream scenario for the next couple of years, 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:06.040 where we could be bi coastal. I mean, we'll see 0:03:06.080 --> 0:03:07.680 if we can actually do it or not. And for 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:09.359 the longest time, I was like, there's no way we're 0:03:09.360 --> 0:03:10.960 not doing that. We're not spending the money, We're not 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:12.679 gonna do it. Well, I don't know much about the 0:03:12.720 --> 0:03:14.680 Rhode Island real estate market, but I eventually it's probably 0:03:14.680 --> 0:03:16.799 smilar to the Vegas real estate market, where a lot 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:20.120 goes a long way. Uh, it does, and it doesn't. 0:03:20.160 --> 0:03:24.280 Rhode Island surprisingly is it's certainly not like expensively expensive, 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:26.359 like if you're going to Boston or Los Angeles, New York. 0:03:26.400 --> 0:03:30.120 But it's it's it flies off like the housing market. 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:32.639 And I'm sure this is countrywide is crazy right now, 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:35.040 like nothing is on Zillo for more than twenty four hours. 0:03:35.040 --> 0:03:39.160 It's insane. But but you, like you said, like I said, 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:42.640 like you guys, buying a house and renting for some reason, 0:03:43.000 --> 0:03:45.640 maybe it's just because we're not alone makes me feel 0:03:45.680 --> 0:03:48.720 super more comfortable being like, Okay, maybe we can purchase 0:03:48.760 --> 0:03:51.000 a home within the next year, so and still rent 0:03:51.040 --> 0:03:54.119 our place in l A for the next two years. Right, well, 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:56.720 he doesn't Actually sisters still live with you guys in 0:03:56.800 --> 0:03:58.560 l A. Or no, is that over? No? No, no, no no. 0:03:58.760 --> 0:04:01.360 She's been down here for odd nine ten months now. 0:04:01.560 --> 0:04:04.000 She lives with her boyfriend down here in Rhode Island 0:04:04.400 --> 0:04:08.080 in Virginia, Virginia, right right, right, I guess I was 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:09.520 gonna say it's it's it would have been kind of 0:04:09.560 --> 0:04:12.360 nice to have her paying helping pay rent because then 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:13.840 that kind of obviously a le based a bit of 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:16.080 the cost. Yeah. Now she lived with us for free 0:04:16.080 --> 0:04:20.080 for a long time, right family, you know, freeloaders. Man, 0:04:20.120 --> 0:04:23.560 it's crazy. So so in l A. Um, that's kind 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:24.839 of one thing that we're doing is one of my 0:04:24.880 --> 0:04:27.200 really good friends who Kylin is fond of, is going 0:04:27.240 --> 0:04:29.720 to be signing a lease with us in Los Angeles. 0:04:29.880 --> 0:04:32.279 So it'll be nice to like we don't have to 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:35.560 shoulder the whole burden of an entire rental agreement. Uh. 0:04:35.600 --> 0:04:37.719 And then obviously we can help start paying our more 0:04:37.760 --> 0:04:39.400 because there and the house that we're hoping to get 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:40.760 here in l A. Is pretty big. It's like a 0:04:40.760 --> 0:04:43.119 big four bedroom in Venice. So it's like enough space 0:04:43.200 --> 0:04:45.479 for us all to kind of, you know, not being 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:49.480 each other's faces all day long, but still affordable enough 0:04:49.480 --> 0:04:50.880 for it to make sense for us. Yeah, you need 0:04:50.920 --> 0:04:53.440 your own room. That's what I've discovered. I remember a 0:04:53.480 --> 0:04:55.280 buddy of mine who has been married for quit some time, 0:04:55.279 --> 0:04:57.880 when Ashley and I first got together and engaged, He's like, 0:04:57.920 --> 0:05:00.640 I'm telling you, just at one point, wherever you guys go, 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:03.520 just make sure you have your own room. What does 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:07.520 that mean? Like, what do you put an office that's 0:05:07.600 --> 0:05:11.040 just to yourself? Like whatever? It is just a room 0:05:11.120 --> 0:05:13.839 that you're able to go in and just be surrounded 0:05:13.839 --> 0:05:17.680 by whatever you like. For me, that's Tom Brady posters, uh, 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:22.760 Superman posters, anything Boston sports related. And it really has 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:25.000 made all the difference because Lauren lived with us in 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:28.200 our apartment for a couple of years in l A. 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:30.719 And when she moved out, her room became like an 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:34.640 office slash man cave, and it's freaking awesome. Man. It 0:05:34.720 --> 0:05:37.520 makes like it's a It makes for a healthier relationship 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:41.400 between Ashley and I because like when she's watching whatever, 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:43.279 she wants to watch in the living room, Like I 0:05:43.279 --> 0:05:44.720 can go to my room and just like play a 0:05:44.800 --> 0:05:47.240 video game and and do whatever the hell I want 0:05:47.279 --> 0:05:49.800 to do. Telling you, man, that's the key to make sure. Yeah, 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:53.040 wherever you guys go, you just are able to have 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:55.839 your own room. Well, so the house that we have 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:58.520 perspectively bought is a three bed, two bath, and so 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:01.159 we have the master bedroom, and and we assumed one 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:04.040 bedroom would be hers and the other bedroom would be mine. 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:07.839 So TBD. But I agree with that. And it's funny 0:06:07.839 --> 0:06:09.680 because I remember going to your apartment for the first time. 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:13.640 I saw, like obviously everything is like is decorated seemingly 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:16.039 by Ashley, and then you go into the man cave 0:06:16.160 --> 0:06:18.360 room and it still is very well decorated. I want 0:06:18.400 --> 0:06:21.720 to point out, Uh, it's not like because like when 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:23.279 I think man cave or like when I think about 0:06:23.279 --> 0:06:25.560 when I was decorating my rooms, it was like a 0:06:25.560 --> 0:06:27.320 college dorm room, you know, like you have like just 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:29.240 posters on the wall that aren't framed or anything. But 0:06:29.279 --> 0:06:32.679 your man cave actually is like it's like an upgraded 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:34.080 version of all of the things that we did when 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:35.760 we're in college. You know what I mean, well, I'm 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:37.600 not going to say that Ashley didn't have a hand 0:06:37.640 --> 0:06:40.720 in that, right. Well, I wanted to decorate it exactly 0:06:40.720 --> 0:06:44.320 how I wanted it to be. She you know, x 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:47.000 that out and that was impossible. So it was like 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:51.080 a compromise. I'd say seventy was was first. She just 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:55.200 wanted it to be you know, pristine. Um, but we'll see, 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:57.080 we shall see. I remember when you came over. That 0:06:57.160 --> 0:06:58.560 was the time I kicked dressing Madden. That was a 0:06:58.560 --> 0:07:01.839 good night I was. I was so confident to I 0:07:01.880 --> 0:07:03.440 was like, I've never lost a game of Madden into 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:05.520 my life. And then I get roasted about like thirty 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:08.680 five against you. I played well that day of my friend. Um. 0:07:08.720 --> 0:07:12.240 So I did want to talk about Christmas gifts because 0:07:12.360 --> 0:07:16.040 it's the holiday season. Obviously, I'm assuming you're gonna get 0:07:16.040 --> 0:07:18.679 something for Kaylin for Christmas, and I was thinking about 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:21.800 what I'm gonna get for ash and I was looking 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:24.560 it up online and I came across this article. It's 0:07:24.600 --> 0:07:27.920 on a website called Money, Money under thirty. I don't 0:07:27.920 --> 0:07:30.040 know what that is, but the point is it's pretty 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:32.920 good article and it's called Love and Money Get gift giving. Right, 0:07:33.200 --> 0:07:38.200 this Christmas. Uh, and pretty much it's the idea of 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:43.880 like changing your whole uh, changing like the perspective of 0:07:44.000 --> 0:07:46.920 Christmas gift giving. Like she she makes the argument that, like, 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:50.520 don't just get something for the fact of getting something, 0:07:50.560 --> 0:07:52.040 you know, Like my parents did that all the time, 0:07:52.040 --> 0:07:53.760 and I love my parents and I would never change that. 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:56.200 But like the amount of times they've gotten me button 0:07:56.240 --> 0:07:59.960 down shirts or jackets that I legitimately have never worn 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:03.080 in my life. Like there is this green and black 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:05.720 plaid shirt that I always have in my closet and 0:08:05.760 --> 0:08:08.520 my parents got it for me like seven years ago 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:11.720 for Christmas from Express that I've never worn, and I 0:08:11.760 --> 0:08:13.400 tell myself every year I'm going to wear it. But 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:14.880 then I look at it and I'm like, I just 0:08:14.960 --> 0:08:16.800 don't want to do it. I don't want to do it. 0:08:17.320 --> 0:08:20.920 And so this article says, you know, everybody has different 0:08:20.920 --> 0:08:24.040 love languages, and so I'm trying to change the way 0:08:24.080 --> 0:08:27.120 I give gifts. So instead of you know, being like, 0:08:27.160 --> 0:08:30.720 well what should I get Ashley, you know, something practical, 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:33.880 I'm trying to think of gifts in a way of 0:08:34.000 --> 0:08:38.200 giving them an experience. So, for example, for our anniversary 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:41.960 this year, instead of getting ash you know a gift that, 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:44.800 you know, like a toaster, that would be a horrible gift. 0:08:44.880 --> 0:08:46.400 But you know what I'm going at with this one. 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:50.520 I got her a weekend getaway at Monarch, which is 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:53.520 a resort in southern California, and I figured I put 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:56.040 my money to good use there to create an experience, 0:08:56.080 --> 0:08:59.880 like a romantic getaway. So my what I'm saying is, Dean, 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:02.720 have you thought about what you're gonna get for Kalin 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:04.280 and are you thinking you might get her more of 0:09:04.320 --> 0:09:06.840 an experience. Are you that type of gift giver or 0:09:07.000 --> 0:09:09.520 you more of like a practical gift giver. I have 0:09:09.559 --> 0:09:11.559 a question. Was that it was that a sponsored plug 0:09:11.600 --> 0:09:14.520 for Monarch Resorts in southern California. It was not. No, 0:09:14.679 --> 0:09:18.360 I I got I got it as an actual gift. 0:09:18.640 --> 0:09:20.480 I mean they were very you know, I'm not gonna 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:22.240 say I didn't reach out to them, and they were 0:09:22.400 --> 0:09:25.840 very kind in certain aspects. But no, that was not 0:09:25.920 --> 0:09:28.320 a plug. Look, I respect the hustle on or the other. 0:09:28.520 --> 0:09:30.400 Uh No, I agree with that because I'm the same 0:09:30.440 --> 0:09:32.920 way too. It's and I always kind of tell her 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:34.040 when she's always like, what do you want me to 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:36.000 get you for Christmas, I'm like, listen, if I want 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:37.800 to if I want something, I'm gonna go out and 0:09:37.800 --> 0:09:40.160 get it myself. Like there's nothing that you can get 0:09:40.200 --> 0:09:42.000 me that I don't already have, you know what I mean, 0:09:42.080 --> 0:09:43.560 Because if I want it bad enough, I'm gonna go 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:46.680 get it essentially, uh, And so I fully agree with that. 0:09:46.760 --> 0:09:49.360 It's like, you know, I don't necessarily need something that's 0:09:49.400 --> 0:09:52.720 gonna uh sit around and collect dust for the next 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:55.080 seven years. All the brown and green button up that 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:57.839 your parents got all those years ago. I really hope 0:09:57.880 --> 0:10:00.520 my parents told listen to this podcast, really, son of 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:04.440 a bitch, even more than one, he never wore that shirt. 0:10:08.120 --> 0:10:10.080 You should walk like next once once you can like 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:11.360 go to an event again, you should like walk a 0:10:11.400 --> 0:10:12.920 red carpet in the event and like send it to them. 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:16.360 It'd be funny anyways. Um, I definitely think that the 0:10:16.840 --> 0:10:20.440 experience is a better gift than like a product in 0:10:20.480 --> 0:10:23.400 a sense. It's like, I don't know, it's I think 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:27.000 it also shows more thought. Yeah. And the nice thing 0:10:27.040 --> 0:10:29.600 about that too is like I remember when I was 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:32.040 a kid, uh, Like my mom would always get presents 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:33.480 for like the kids, or for my dad or something 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:36.000 but she would, like she would always get them a movie, Like, 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:37.680 like she would get my brother a movie, right, my 0:10:37.720 --> 0:10:40.400 brother loves getting movies and watching movies, but she would 0:10:40.400 --> 0:10:42.559 always get him a movie that she wanted to watch. 0:10:42.640 --> 0:10:44.640 So then like they would all want like he gets 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:46.400 the satisfaction of getting a gift, but then she gets 0:10:46.440 --> 0:10:47.599 to watch the movie that she wants to watch, you 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:50.880 know what I mean. The nice thing about a situation 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:53.199 like this is if you know, you get Ashley a 0:10:53.280 --> 0:10:55.880 vacation to monarch, you get to go on that vacation 0:10:55.920 --> 0:10:57.360 to monarch with her, so like you kind of got 0:10:57.360 --> 0:10:58.960 to reap the benefits of the gift as well. You know, 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:01.439 it wasn't the worst gift for me either, Right, It's 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:03.000 kind of like a win win in a sense, So 0:11:03.040 --> 0:11:05.360 I definitely agree with that. Like for our anniversary, I 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:08.240 got Kalen a trip to Japan, which hopefully is going 0:11:08.280 --> 0:11:10.120 to happen in our lifetime at this rate. Who the 0:11:10.120 --> 0:11:14.800 hell knows. Um Oh, I'm sorry it was for her birthday, 0:11:14.880 --> 0:11:17.840 she corrected me. I sell you, I'm waited for that 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:19.040 because I saw you look it off to the side. 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:21.000 I was like, I'm pretty sure she's correcting him. Right now. 0:11:21.160 --> 0:11:24.120 She literally just poked in for for one second and said, 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:26.560 it was my birthday. Uh, and I can fully agree 0:11:26.559 --> 0:11:27.760 with that. Like I, you know, I want to go 0:11:27.760 --> 0:11:29.439 back to Japan. She wants to go to Japan, and 0:11:29.480 --> 0:11:31.120 we want to go together, and said the perfect way 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:33.080 to get a gift for that would be just to 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:35.560 get a gift for her to go with us. I 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:36.800 don't know. That was the worst day of saying that, 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:37.880 but you know what I mean, I agree with what 0:11:37.880 --> 0:11:40.600 you're saying. Long story short, so I know, last last 0:11:40.640 --> 0:11:43.079 Christmas actually got me a gift to Disney World because 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:45.840 I really wanted. They were opening up a new Star 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:49.200 Wars land with a great ride called the Rise of 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:51.760 Rise of the Resistance, and I could not wait to 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:53.559 go on this thing, and it was opening up in February. 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:55.480 So she planned a trip like at the end of February, 0:11:55.480 --> 0:11:58.040 but we ended up canceling the trip because that's when 0:11:58.040 --> 0:12:00.720 COVID started rising. We thought, well, welldre's wait and see 0:12:00.760 --> 0:12:02.440 how this plays out. And then of course, obviously in 0:12:02.440 --> 0:12:06.200 the beginning of March everything should have gone. I know, right, Um, 0:12:06.240 --> 0:12:09.640 I've got a question regarding the gift. The experiential gift 0:12:09.720 --> 0:12:12.200 giving that you were talking about, do you think I mean, 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:14.040 obviously it's changed a little bit during COVID, but what 0:12:14.080 --> 0:12:18.000 are some other COVID friendly gifts, maybe like more experiential 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:23.520 gifts that you would recommend for people that are um listening. Well, um, 0:12:23.640 --> 0:12:25.520 you know, it's tough right now because nobody knows what 0:12:25.559 --> 0:12:28.000 the future holds. I mean, the vaccine is might be 0:12:28.000 --> 0:12:31.240 getting approved as we speak. Uh, so we're all assuming 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:36.600 that normalcy will be returned, probably in the summer. So maybe, um, 0:12:36.640 --> 0:12:39.319 you know kind of like, uh, this is gonna sound stupid, 0:12:39.360 --> 0:12:43.199 but like a gift card to kayak or maybe like 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:47.959 I don't know, plan the trip for September October. Uh, 0:12:48.280 --> 0:12:50.320 you know, by plane tickets, so on and so forth. 0:12:50.360 --> 0:12:52.200 If you want to do an experience, I'm just all 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:55.160 four experiences. Unfortunately, you can't buy concert tickets right now. 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:58.000 I used to be a big concert ticket giver because 0:12:58.000 --> 0:13:00.080 I thought that was a great experience. You know, you 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:02.839 you get to enjoy something music together. It's an experience 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:04.880 that you get to bond over, whether it be your 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:07.480 friends or significant other. It doesn't doesn't have to be 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:11.000 somebody that you're in a relationship with. Can be you know, 0:13:11.360 --> 0:13:14.520 other family members, friends, co workers whoever. Maybe don't get 0:13:14.520 --> 0:13:17.000 concert taking of coworkers because that's a little bit expensive. 0:13:17.080 --> 0:13:20.120 But I think you just I think it's so much 0:13:20.120 --> 0:13:22.880 more fun trying to think of what a fun gift 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:26.920 could be instead of going through Amazon and being like, well, 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.000 what I gotta get them something, so let me just 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:32.320 scroll through here. So instead of taking ten minutes scrolling 0:13:32.320 --> 0:13:35.760 through Amazon trying to find a random product to buy someone, 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:38.720 take that ten minutes and think about, well, what is 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:40.800 this person, Like, what could I get for them? What's 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:44.079 what's creative? You know what? What would they have fun with? 0:13:44.200 --> 0:13:47.840 That would be my advice. I have a question for you. 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:51.520 So Kalin has been talking a lot about getting this 0:13:51.559 --> 0:13:54.160 new blender that she just she like just raves about 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:55.920 it all the time. Every time she uses our blender, 0:13:55.960 --> 0:13:57.920 she's like, oh, this blender sucks. I want a new one. 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:00.400 And she always like shows me this very specif pick one, 0:14:00.440 --> 0:14:02.760 and I feel like she's like throwing subtle hints at me, like, hey, 0:14:02.800 --> 0:14:06.160 like this is a blender I want it's five just 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:09.280 so you know, and she like hasn't purchased it for 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:11.520 some reason. And I think that The reason she keeps 0:14:11.520 --> 0:14:13.480 telling me about the blenders because she wants me to 0:14:13.480 --> 0:14:16.679 get it for her for Christmas. But I don't get it. 0:14:17.360 --> 0:14:20.720 I don't know a blender for Christmas? Like how it 0:14:20.840 --> 0:14:23.440 just seems so impersonal, you know. I would say, don't 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:25.920 just get the blender. Get the blender because it's a 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:28.880 thoughtful gift. Because what else do I have to get? 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:31.920 I don't know. Maybe oh you know what, if you're 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:36.480 spending money on a blender, then instead of spending money 0:14:36.480 --> 0:14:38.720 on another gift, why don't you get, like her, a 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:43.920 gift of like writer or a note. Sometimes I write 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:48.880 Ashley poems all the time. I write her rhyming poems, childish. 0:14:49.000 --> 0:14:55.840 Will you give us an example? Um? Yeah, I guess. Um, well, 0:14:56.000 --> 0:14:57.520 I don't have any in front of me. But like 0:14:57.600 --> 0:15:02.560 I remember one line was like, um, like my heart 0:15:02.680 --> 0:15:06.480 is a lock and you have the key. Uh like 0:15:06.640 --> 0:15:12.360 something like uh forever in the future, it's just you 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:15.360 and me, something like that. I know, very cute, right, 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:20.720 I'm quite endearing. Um, So do that, like, spend two 0:15:20.720 --> 0:15:25.920 dollars on a card, get some crayons or markers, whatever 0:15:25.920 --> 0:15:28.280 you like, maybe some paint. She really want to go 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:31.440 over board and like get her like a really cute 0:15:31.440 --> 0:15:33.680 see card along with the blenders. So the blender is 0:15:33.720 --> 0:15:36.360 a practical gift that you're spending money on that she wants. 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:39.320 So it's also thoughtful because you remember that she wants it, 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:42.200 even though she probably reminds you daily. And then you 0:15:42.280 --> 0:15:46.600 get like something very personal that's very cheap. But fuflet okay, 0:15:46.680 --> 0:15:48.560 let me let me just continue to pilot the questions here. 0:15:48.600 --> 0:15:50.720 Let's say I get her five blender and she only 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:53.400 comes back with like a fifty dollar you know, pair 0:15:53.440 --> 0:15:55.800 of shorts that I say I wanted. Do you think 0:15:55.800 --> 0:15:58.840 that there should be an imbalance on Christmas gifts? Or 0:15:58.840 --> 0:16:01.760 do you think you should set a limit on spending 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:04.280 before you go into the holidays, Like, hey, no more 0:16:04.280 --> 0:16:07.880 than hundred dollars per person? Uh, what do you and 0:16:07.880 --> 0:16:10.600 Ashley do? And what do you recommend we don't do 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:15.000 a cap I feel like it's just kind of known that, like, hey, listen, 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:21.040 don't spend more than like two on me. Um. But 0:16:21.160 --> 0:16:23.240 I don't think there's anything wrong with talking to your 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:27.040 significant other and saying, listen, I want to get you something, 0:16:27.520 --> 0:16:29.120 hopefully you want to get me something to Let's just 0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:31.640 you know, let's not be stupid here, like, don't spend 0:16:31.680 --> 0:16:33.640 more than like a hundred fifty bucks. Like I'll spend 0:16:33.640 --> 0:16:35.400 a hundred fifty, you spend a hundred fifty, we'll call 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:39.520 it a day. I don't think that's really outrageous to ask. 0:16:39.560 --> 0:16:42.760 What about? Do you think that's weird? Mark's coming on? 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:45.480 Here we go the husband's well, look, I've got some 0:16:45.560 --> 0:16:49.560 experience in this area, Dean. That is best case scenario. 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:53.360 What you're describing is if you completely overwhelm her with 0:16:53.400 --> 0:16:56.520 an amazing gift and she gets you something that's fine 0:16:57.960 --> 0:17:00.360 shorts you asked for. That is a way tell me 0:17:00.400 --> 0:17:02.680 what I can ride that for as long as you 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:07.119 want to. He has the upper hand, So coming come April, 0:17:07.160 --> 0:17:09.359 I can say, hey, remember that Christmas President I got you. 0:17:09.560 --> 0:17:12.160 Is that we're talking too saying lourda over her. I'm 0:17:12.160 --> 0:17:14.399 not saying through it in her face. I'm just saying 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:17.040 you can rest easy, you can sit back in the 0:17:17.080 --> 0:17:20.880 easy chair and knowing that you did goodness, and she 0:17:20.920 --> 0:17:24.040 can brag to her friends like it's all upside. That's 0:17:24.119 --> 0:17:25.639 that's a fair point. I will say. The nice thing 0:17:25.680 --> 0:17:29.240 about my situation is, let's say she underperforms on Christmas 0:17:29.320 --> 0:17:31.640 and I just blow it out of the water. She's 0:17:31.640 --> 0:17:33.520 got four months to plan for my birthday, which is 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:35.320 in April, and then I would you know, if if 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:38.359 she feels like she underperformed her mark situation here, then 0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:40.920 she's gonna go all out for the birthday. So it's 0:17:40.960 --> 0:17:42.960 kind of like investing. I guess four months on the line, 0:17:42.960 --> 0:17:46.120 I get I respected, I respected. That makes a lot 0:17:46.119 --> 0:17:48.520 of sense. And plus you get to like use it 0:17:49.400 --> 0:17:53.000 when you're in a fight. I was gonna say, like, 0:17:53.040 --> 0:17:54.600 don't throw it in her face, but like, next time 0:17:54.640 --> 0:17:56.359 you guys fight, you can be like, oh, yeah, I 0:17:56.359 --> 0:17:58.399 remember those shorts you got me for Christmas and this 0:17:58.560 --> 0:18:02.480 five dollar piece jewelry I got you blend shorts and 0:18:02.520 --> 0:18:05.280 the blender. Yeah listen, the blender is a good gift. 0:18:05.320 --> 0:18:07.719 I'm a big smoothie guy, so I would love a blender. 0:18:07.760 --> 0:18:10.440 Why not? Um? All right, Well that's enough for Christmas gifts, 0:18:10.440 --> 0:18:12.960 So hope, I would love to know what you guys 0:18:13.040 --> 0:18:16.400 out there Suck Army is gonna get. Uh. I would 0:18:16.400 --> 0:18:18.440 love some ideas for Christmas. So if you guys want 0:18:18.440 --> 0:18:20.760 to d M S email us comment under one of 0:18:20.760 --> 0:18:22.960 our pictures let us know where you're getting your significant 0:18:22.960 --> 0:18:26.119 other for Christmas, because I'm always open to the idea 0:18:26.320 --> 0:18:29.399 of uh, I just like to know. I want to 0:18:29.400 --> 0:18:31.399 know what people are getting because it gives me ideas, 0:18:31.480 --> 0:18:34.040 you know, So this is really just for me selfishly, 0:18:34.720 --> 0:18:37.080 let me know what I should get Ashley. But coming up, 0:18:37.119 --> 0:18:39.320 we have the host of the podcast I Heart Radio 0:18:39.440 --> 0:18:42.600 podcast Pretty Messed Up, A J. Cheryl and Renee coming 0:18:42.680 --> 0:18:44.840