WEBVTT - Episode 142: Ante Up (Feat. Matt Barnes) 0:00:03.720 --> 0:00:06.000 What's up? Is Angela? You and welcome to ESPN. No, 0:00:06.080 --> 0:00:12.840 I'm kidding fun uh, this might be our friend. We 0:00:12.920 --> 0:00:15.880 had boxox on, we had two, we had Shannon briggs On, 0:00:15.920 --> 0:00:17.720 and we had a j Berto, but we've never had 0:00:17.760 --> 0:00:21.400 an NBA player. This is exciting, but this is Loriae, 0:00:21.440 --> 0:00:23.080 this is g G. And we had Matt Barnes here 0:00:23.079 --> 0:00:24.919 with us. His one rule was he has to be 0:00:24.960 --> 0:00:26.880 allowed to smoke in order to do this interview. So 0:00:27.280 --> 0:00:31.640 we said, okay, cool, where's the sad? You want to? 0:00:31.920 --> 0:00:33.199 I smell it on the way up here. I said, 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:35.800 y'all must have been smoking in here. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:00:35.920 --> 0:00:39.880 it happened. It's good, too good. He's actually really funny 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:43.880 because we've been here talking and she's sounds shocked. He didn't. Yeah, 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:46.199 he's been throwing a little jabs and ship like I 0:00:46.479 --> 0:00:52.440 catch him. Just keep the same tone. You just say 0:00:52.440 --> 0:00:54.280 it and just let it go and keep talking after this. 0:00:54.400 --> 0:00:57.280 Sometimes people be catching that they don't. Sometimes you don't 0:00:57.280 --> 0:01:00.920 catch it at all. I do that sometimes, too. Okay, 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:03.200 all right, so let's go over some hot topics right 0:01:03.200 --> 0:01:05.440 now with you, things that are happening, you know, on 0:01:05.520 --> 0:01:08.880 the blogs. Okay, Mac Miller and Ariana Grande, Right, they 0:01:08.920 --> 0:01:11.840 broke up, and um, mac Miller got into a pretty 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:14.480 bad car accident and he ran off, you know, by 0:01:14.560 --> 0:01:16.759 foot to his house and they caught him because they 0:01:16.840 --> 0:01:19.160 ran the place whatever whatever, But seeing the car were 0:01:19.200 --> 0:01:21.520 offset because what there was what two of his friends. 0:01:21.520 --> 0:01:24.160 But Ariana Grander already has moved on, is dating somebody else. 0:01:25.680 --> 0:01:28.640 So obviously you've had some bad breakups yourself. So what 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:31.119 are some good tips you can give for getting over 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:35.040 a breakup? Smoke a lot of weed, leave that alcohol alone. 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:38.160 I mean, relationships are crazy, man. And I saw that 0:01:38.240 --> 0:01:40.319 mac Miller article this morning. I saw she was dating 0:01:40.319 --> 0:01:42.680 no Boy from Saturday Night Live or something. Yeah, so 0:01:42.720 --> 0:01:45.720 it's breakups are tough, man, And it's tough when your 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:48.480 celebrity because you have no privacy and they're gonna dig 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:50.840 even more, you know, knowing that both both sides, I 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:53.560 mean they're really both celebrities. So um, you know, hope 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:55.000 he just wants a piece, Like I said, man, to 0:01:55.000 --> 0:01:58.240 stay off that alcohol during supposed to week and don't drive, 0:01:58.480 --> 0:02:02.320 definitely don't drive, right, yeah, you know, but you're right, 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:04.120 it is allowed herder when it's public, because then he 0:02:04.160 --> 0:02:05.760 got to see on the blog she's got a new 0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:08.120 man and everybody knows that they broke up, and so 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:09.800 he probably like, I'm gonna just go have some drinks 0:02:09.800 --> 0:02:12.400 at my boys. It's a tough week, and it's crazy 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:14.000 because you know, when the ship like that happens, everyone 0:02:14.040 --> 0:02:15.560 wants to tag you in and like you don't know 0:02:15.600 --> 0:02:18.160 what's going on? Yeah, yeah, I mean so they want 0:02:18.200 --> 0:02:20.600 to make sure you know. So yeah, I mean they 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:22.400 couldn't maybe have nothing to do with each other, but 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:25.120 you know, it's unfortunate. I'm glad it's okay. Though. Now 0:02:25.160 --> 0:02:28.840 we've seen our Kelly allegedly gave someone her pies and 0:02:30.120 --> 0:02:33.800 this guy, right, So what do you think the punishment 0:02:33.800 --> 0:02:35.520 should be if you know you have herpes and you 0:02:35.560 --> 0:02:38.840 give it to someone, and if they're a child that 0:02:38.880 --> 0:02:42.600 he's given it to, Like if you have if you 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:45.880 know that you're passing on the HIV virus or eats, 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:50.160 then you that's like attempted murder. What's chlamydia than just 0:02:50.240 --> 0:02:57.959 like a pass approbation? No, but seriously, like, do you 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:01.000 think somebody should go to jail for giving you her? Bees? Are? Fine? 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:02.679 Like what can you do? I mean, that's a tough 0:03:02.720 --> 0:03:04.560 situation to be in, you know what I mean. And 0:03:04.720 --> 0:03:07.040 and he's got a whole little what it seems like 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:09.079 a little colt going on over there. So, like I said, 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:10.960 I just read up on that earlier today too, So 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:15.440 it's just like I heard, he's colt. It's crazy over there. Man. Uh, 0:03:15.639 --> 0:03:18.480 you don't know what's true what's not true. Um, but 0:03:18.560 --> 0:03:20.800 for some reason he keeps sliding around and around it. 0:03:20.919 --> 0:03:23.400 So yeah, for a little while now he he just 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:25.200 even put out you said that video they put up, 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:28.639 but he's like, look, my music has already infect injected everybody. 0:03:29.280 --> 0:03:34.440 He said, it's too late. Y'all should have did this 0:03:34.560 --> 0:03:37.720 decades ago. I posted on my Snapchat was nobody watches anyway, 0:03:37.760 --> 0:03:40.640 so I put anything my Snapchat. We used to be 0:03:40.720 --> 0:03:42.920 like three hunted, four hunting, like nobody watching that, like 0:03:42.960 --> 0:03:45.360 people got off snap I love. Yeah, it used to 0:03:45.360 --> 0:03:47.640 be like twelve hundred. But then once install started with 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:52.800 the story that Snapchat said that ship about Rihanna, that 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:55.640 was it. But I snapped, Um, I was listening. I 0:03:55.720 --> 0:03:57.160 was at the house the other day and we have 0:03:57.360 --> 0:04:00.760 the you know that you got it, yeah, right, so 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:02.840 you know, if it's not your phone control of the music. 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:06.880 Then you can't control was playing and R Kelly came 0:04:06.920 --> 0:04:09.440 on and I was just like, whose house for you? 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:11.640 At that they was listening to? R Kelly was the 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:14.520 only point man this guy still listen to. I still 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:16.760 like his music though, because I'm a nineties like R 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:20.159 and B head, so I still like his music. I 0:04:20.200 --> 0:04:22.200 really funk with his music. So it's just unfortunate to 0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:28.880 see all this other stuff transpired. But I don't know 0:04:29.160 --> 0:04:32.000 Kelly music anymore. Like I played it in a while. 0:04:33.120 --> 0:04:35.160 It was hard for me not to like swing along 0:04:35.240 --> 0:04:36.920 and like I had snapped the bottle, Like how can 0:04:36.960 --> 0:04:41.600 I mwork Kelly? Like listen to this whectically? Girls a last? 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:43.880 But let me ask you this, look here and think 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:46.359 of the music differently now that you have heard all 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:47.960 these stories, is it like I mean, I think it's 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:49.760 kind of how people are looking at Kanye right now. 0:04:49.760 --> 0:04:51.400 Are you still working with this music or not? And 0:04:51.440 --> 0:04:54.000 I'm still like, actually, once all this ship hit and 0:04:54.080 --> 0:04:55.880 not even to jump to Kanye, but I started listening 0:04:55.880 --> 0:04:58.279 to the college dropping just thinking like how is this 0:04:59.040 --> 0:05:00.680 turned into this? You know what I mean? So I 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:03.400 try to I try to separate the artists the artists 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:05.080 from them, you know what I mean, the person from 0:05:05.080 --> 0:05:06.640 the music. You know what I mean when it is 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:10.960 something that might be a crime. Yeah, it mean to 0:05:11.040 --> 0:05:13.000 go back to the color, to the Kanye West thing. 0:05:13.040 --> 0:05:15.599 I agree with Snoop Flo said on The Breakfast Club 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:17.159 even though it was like a lot of jokes, but 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:19.520 it was some underlying the truth into that, like he 0:05:19.640 --> 0:05:22.520 needs a strong black woman, he needs the influence. He 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:25.840 is not there now, Like they say that come can cook, 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:29.760 but he needs some real good souls they come in 0:05:31.760 --> 0:05:33.560 like he needs. I'm just staying like he needs that 0:05:33.640 --> 0:05:37.239 and flu that real good like black, strong woman, proud. 0:05:37.320 --> 0:05:39.200 You know, it seems like, you know, he lost mom 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:40.720 and then you know him and Jay are kind of 0:05:40.800 --> 0:05:42.080 up in the air. So the too. I think the 0:05:42.080 --> 0:05:44.200 two people he leaned on the most. You know, we're 0:05:44.240 --> 0:05:46.720 not really there right now. So it's kind of like, okay, 0:05:46.760 --> 0:05:49.160 what what are you? What are you leaning on now? 0:05:49.320 --> 0:05:53.560 Foundation is weak, but he has three beautiful kids. That's 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:55.800 something to make sure you get right. Well, that's why 0:05:55.760 --> 0:05:57.520 I mean, I did a whole little post on it. 0:05:57.560 --> 0:05:59.240 I don't really ever talked about some stuff like that, 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:01.320 but my whole thing from the father standpoint, you know, 0:06:01.480 --> 0:06:04.640 having three beautiful kids in an amazing family, and you 0:06:04.680 --> 0:06:06.719 know what you do always gonna reflect on your family. 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:08.360 So cam is gonna take the heat. The kids are 0:06:08.360 --> 0:06:09.919 going to eventually end up taking the heat, and you 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:12.240 don't think about that in the present moment. So it's 0:06:12.279 --> 0:06:14.560 it's unfortunate from that standpoint, But you know, I want 0:06:14.560 --> 0:06:15.919 to see him to get it together just so he 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:18.760 had he's around for his kids, hopefully just gonna meat 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:20.919 this that he's going right now with all this music 0:06:20.960 --> 0:06:22.680 that he's working on in all these albums, that he's 0:06:22.680 --> 0:06:24.640 about to bring out his worn chess some new right 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:26.880 and get his mind back to where we know it 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:32.640 could be. Because we do love Kanyeus. That's my favorite. 0:06:33.440 --> 0:06:36.160 His music is amazing. No matter how crazy he's ever 0:06:36.240 --> 0:06:39.880 been at any point, his music has always pretty been Yeah, 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:42.720 but that to me that he's really trying to put 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:44.600 that out as a single like that, and look how 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:48.760 many people tweeted it and quoted it, and it's crazy 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:52.280 yet but now after the novelty of it, So let's 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:54.080 be honest. Back in the day, there used to be 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:58.039 songs that came out that we're just beat or like past. 0:06:58.200 --> 0:07:02.120 Are you trying to say, just saying that is the pie? 0:07:02.839 --> 0:07:05.480 Like I don't, I can't. It just used to be music, 0:07:05.520 --> 0:07:09.520 pick up the Pizza, the Holy School, But you give 0:07:09.560 --> 0:07:12.400 what I'm saying, Like at the time, what happened to 0:07:12.400 --> 0:07:16.080 the day, it would be a bolt before the person 0:07:16.120 --> 0:07:18.040 starts singing, like it would be a whole intro of 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:19.880 I'm gonna tell you what happened, like like a good 0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:22.520 Shaka Kan song, I'm gonna tell you what happened. Rapping 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:26.000 started taking the fucking beat, looping that ship and ruining it. 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:27.720 So now you gotta do the clip. You know that 0:07:27.800 --> 0:07:29.800 doesn't even look talk When they used talking to being 0:07:29.840 --> 0:07:36.360 the song, Yeah, don't talk, just listen. I have to 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:42.160 be honest with you. Lies. Yeah, that used to be cool. 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:45.120 Now it's cool or even I was listening to the 0:07:45.200 --> 0:07:48.080 Motown station the other day and they was playing um, 0:07:48.120 --> 0:07:49.520 I think it was hell I'm Moving in the Blue 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:51.320 notes and something I Miss You and he talks for 0:07:51.480 --> 0:07:57.400 like fifteen minutes, but he's always started like hey girls, yeah, 0:07:57.440 --> 0:08:00.920 he was like walking. I think it's just a different 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:04.400 time that you said. Jim Jim Orange did about to 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:06.560 say he got a song like that, But you said 0:08:06.600 --> 0:08:08.040 it's different. I think it's a different time now, and 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:10.000 I think back, you know, when we were a little 0:08:10.000 --> 0:08:12.080 bit younger, it was all about courting them and being 0:08:12.120 --> 0:08:14.160 in love and the family thing. And now it's about 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:16.320 popping pills and sucking on the first nine. It's just 0:08:16.360 --> 0:08:18.880 a whole different climate. So the music is different now, 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:20.200 you know what I mean, Like, no one is really 0:08:20.280 --> 0:08:22.480 singing the court, no one, no more. You're singing to 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:24.120 try to work on the first night. That's what all 0:08:24.120 --> 0:08:26.200 these songs are about, are rapping about. So it's just 0:08:26.240 --> 0:08:28.600 a different time in music. And that's why I love 0:08:28.640 --> 0:08:31.160 the nineties from rap to R and B because the 0:08:31.560 --> 0:08:33.360 rap was definitely saying something and then R and B 0:08:33.480 --> 0:08:36.000 they were singing, like really singing to you. You know 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:38.679 what I mean today? To me today is just it's 0:08:38.760 --> 0:08:42.080 just a little different man. So what about for you now? Relationships, 0:08:42.080 --> 0:08:44.120 being that you've gone through everything doesn't make you a 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:46.640 little wary about dating, it does? It does from a 0:08:46.720 --> 0:08:49.320 standpoint of just you just never know. Now. Um, you know, 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:50.840 me and my ex know each other for a long 0:08:50.880 --> 0:08:52.679 time and it just didn't work out, you know, I mean, 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:54.640 sometimes you ruin out of love. And you know, I 0:08:54.640 --> 0:08:57.200 think from the standpoint of me just leaving says a 0:08:57.240 --> 0:08:59.959 lot because the time it's the woman leaving the man 0:09:00.000 --> 0:09:02.120 in and I just wasn't happy, you know what I mean. 0:09:02.200 --> 0:09:04.480 So you know, I just fell after I got over 0:09:04.520 --> 0:09:06.400 the Factor film, like I left my kids behind. I 0:09:06.440 --> 0:09:08.360 was just like, you know, now I'm happy, and it 0:09:08.360 --> 0:09:11.600 took a long time for me to get happy. But um, 0:09:11.640 --> 0:09:14.200 you just kind of approach everything now with caution because 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:15.520 you know, I lost a lot of money in that 0:09:15.720 --> 0:09:18.800 and a lot of bullshit being said about it. So 0:09:18.880 --> 0:09:21.280 it's it's tough because you know, private matters are always 0:09:21.400 --> 0:09:25.040 you know, handled in a public life. Um, in my life. Yeah, 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:26.440 and then you feel like you have to address it 0:09:26.480 --> 0:09:29.280 publicly because I said the most recent thing, she says, 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:31.520 you don't want to no wedding gift from you at all, 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:34.520 and you know, like I want to come to your wedding, 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:36.560 like I think you forgot that I left you, like 0:09:36.600 --> 0:09:38.800 I'm not tripping off the wedding like my whole thing 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:40.840 and the reason why I squashed it with there because 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:42.640 because my kids really like them, you know what I mean. 0:09:42.679 --> 0:09:44.520 And to me, it's all about my kids being happy. 0:09:44.559 --> 0:09:46.080 So you know, if you want to be in my 0:09:46.320 --> 0:09:48.600 good luck, bro, already know what that's like. But from 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:50.760 a standpoint, I wanted to come to a wedding or 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:52.800 come on, man, what are you talking about right now? 0:09:52.840 --> 0:09:54.280 That must have been hard too for the kids because 0:09:54.280 --> 0:09:57.040 they probably know, like what's going on and they see everything. 0:09:57.080 --> 0:09:59.559 But then they do like them. But but I'm very 0:09:59.600 --> 0:10:01.160 up front with boys, you know what I mean from 0:10:01.200 --> 0:10:03.000 the beginning, you know, And I told her wife thought 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:05.480 him and I really broke it down to him. You know, 0:10:05.960 --> 0:10:08.560 him and Daddy were friends. Mommy and Daddy were married. 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:10.719 You don't do that, said, you don't do that to 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:12.079 your brother. You wouldn't do that to your cousin. You 0:10:12.080 --> 0:10:14.600 wouldn't do that to your friend, you know, without dogging 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:17.000 either of them would just explain, like the situation rest right. 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:19.319 But sometimes things happened, you know what I mean. That 0:10:19.520 --> 0:10:21.360 happening all the time, but brothers, like in movies, you 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:28.480 are seen the five heart beats, Yeah, oh you didn't. 0:10:28.520 --> 0:10:30.679 That also happened with the Jackson's in real life. Now 0:10:30.760 --> 0:10:35.040 that's real life. They had kids by the same woman. See, 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:37.200 those are the things that really happened. When you're close 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:41.480 to somebody and people always end up getting with it happened. 0:10:41.480 --> 0:10:47.360 It soful movies. Now we had a conversation since we 0:10:47.480 --> 0:10:49.760 talked about music and we're talking about this. In your 0:10:49.800 --> 0:10:51.760 car when you were driving to go fight, what were 0:10:51.800 --> 0:10:58.520 you listening to? We had more like mp Ann would 0:10:58.559 --> 0:11:05.000 be like, if you book it was Tupac the crazy part. Well, 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:06.599 So I was playing at Memphis at the time, so 0:11:06.640 --> 0:11:08.199 I went back to my condo in LA because I 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:10.319 had training camp of Santa Barbara. So Kanne wrapped that. 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:12.560 I went ninety Mileston and I came from Santa Barbara, 0:11:12.559 --> 0:11:13.920 but I was already in l A. I just came 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:16.400 from Santa Barbara earlier in that day, but both my 0:11:16.440 --> 0:11:19.800 cars were in Memphis. So when my son calls me, like, yo, Dad, 0:11:19.840 --> 0:11:21.440 your friend Derek is over here. And then I called 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:23.520 my other son, he says, mommy's friend Derek's over here, 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:27.040 I'm like this, he was tripping. So I called my 0:11:27.080 --> 0:11:29.440 homeboy and like he I knew he had the Bentley downstairs, 0:11:29.440 --> 0:11:31.960 but I couldn't find the keys. I rummaged for the keys, 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:33.240 to me thirty minutes to find the keys, and I 0:11:33.280 --> 0:11:35.600 go down and the Bentley's on the flat. And this 0:11:35.640 --> 0:11:37.199 is before I had uber or anything, and so I'm 0:11:37.240 --> 0:11:39.160 like this, I'm like, I'm making this car work. So 0:11:39.200 --> 0:11:41.840 I drove a Bentley like three blocks to the gas station, 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:44.240 pumped the tire up with Tupac blasts in the whole time, 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:46.640 and then drove over there. So he really didn't stand 0:11:46.640 --> 0:12:01.600 the shoot, I know one getting right over there. So yeah, 0:12:01.600 --> 0:12:03.160 I mean I was. I was. I was determined to 0:12:03.160 --> 0:12:05.760 get some air in that tire, and you did and 0:12:05.800 --> 0:12:08.200 I did that. We were like, what do you listen 0:12:08.240 --> 0:12:10.280 to when you're about to go? I mean, you could 0:12:10.320 --> 0:12:12.440 listen to top tupop for anything, you know what I mean, 0:12:12.480 --> 0:12:14.360 you trying to go to your girl, You're trying to 0:12:14.600 --> 0:12:17.680 fight somebody trying you could be funny. Go ahead, I 0:12:17.679 --> 0:12:29.000 want to laugh. That's where he was going, and that's 0:12:29.000 --> 0:12:33.040 how he felt. He didn't act like it, so yeah, yeah, 0:12:34.360 --> 0:12:38.880 to keep that right right, So that's funny. Have you 0:12:38.880 --> 0:12:40.920 ever stayed in a relationship that you didn't really want 0:12:40.920 --> 0:12:42.520 to be in but just stayed because I think a 0:12:42.520 --> 0:12:44.400 lot of people do that. I think it just I mean, 0:12:44.440 --> 0:12:46.079 this is no disrespect to my ex. I just think 0:12:46.120 --> 0:12:47.560 I ran out of love at the end, and I 0:12:47.600 --> 0:12:49.720 stayed longer than I should have because of the kids. 0:12:49.760 --> 0:12:51.280 Like my kids in my life, I had had a 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:53.120 fund up childhood, you know what I mean. Parents were 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:55.640 on drugs, tripping abuse and everything. So I you know, 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:58.080 I promised myself if I was ever fortunate enough to 0:12:58.080 --> 0:12:59.520 have kids, I was gonna be the best dad ever. 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:01.720 And I felt like, that's why it's so hard for 0:13:01.720 --> 0:13:03.120 me to leave her, because I felt like I was 0:13:03.160 --> 0:13:04.640 giving up on my kids. But at the end of 0:13:04.679 --> 0:13:06.480 the day, I was just like, yo, my kids were 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:08.839 feeling my energy. And one of my sons was three 0:13:08.960 --> 0:13:10.480 or four years old, like, daddy, what's wrong? I was 0:13:10.520 --> 0:13:12.120 watching TV. I guess I had to fund up look 0:13:12.160 --> 0:13:14.360 at my face like they feel your energy. And once 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:16.600 they started realizing my energy was AWFU was just like, man, 0:13:16.800 --> 0:13:19.280 I really am not happy, but I don't want to 0:13:19.320 --> 0:13:20.920 leave my kids hanging. So it was that was that 0:13:20.960 --> 0:13:22.679 was the hardest part of me getting over the adjustment 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:24.800 of feeling like I really left my kids, but I didn't. 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:27.480 I just found a happy place. Are you dating now? 0:13:28.200 --> 0:13:31.360 I am dating? Um, you know, I definitely date back 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:32.960 out at me and it's been almost four years. I mean, 0:13:33.000 --> 0:13:40.440 people still talk about Hell yeah, party a girl, thank 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:44.080 you Gods, better than a girl walking there. We would 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:46.079 talk about it like this ship just happened. But it's 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:48.040 been you know, it's going on four years in June, 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:50.560 so I'm definitely moved on. I mean, I'm not looking 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:52.280 to get married in time soon, and I would get married. 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:56.320 I wouldn't let that one situation ruined my my future. 0:13:56.360 --> 0:13:58.240 But you know, I'm just not there yet, but I 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:01.120 look forward to it one day on jank bank accounts 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:03.280 for the next wife. I didn't even have it that 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:05.160 it's a lot. We didn't have joint bake accounts for 0:14:05.200 --> 0:14:07.760 this wife. So don't yeh, don't be fooled by everything 0:14:07.760 --> 0:14:10.400 you read like our ship was separate. So what happened 0:14:10.440 --> 0:14:12.680 was I can't talk about it, but yeah, we didn't 0:14:12.679 --> 0:14:17.480 have drunk Yeah yeah, she's saying that, um it was 0:14:17.520 --> 0:14:20.880 a Ford signature, right. I just wondered just period, like 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:22.960 because now that you're in a situation like that, like 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:26.000 what if you um got into a relationship with a 0:14:26.080 --> 0:14:29.120 woman that had her own stuff going on and she's like, 0:14:29.160 --> 0:14:31.160 you know, I think we should do everything together, Like 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:33.720 you don't want to that you've been through I just 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:38.800 let's just keep it separates even to me, and I mean, 0:14:38.840 --> 0:14:41.160 you know, even to me going in the situation where 0:14:41.200 --> 0:14:43.200 I'm above my pay grade, like I still like as 0:14:43.200 --> 0:14:45.080 a man, I wouldn't want if it didn't work out, 0:14:45.080 --> 0:14:46.880 I wouldn't want nobody's Actually, you know, I wouldn't want 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:49.160 no woman's money definitely if I didn't earn it. So 0:14:49.280 --> 0:14:51.280 to me, it's I want to just let's keep it, 0:14:51.400 --> 0:14:56.040 Let's keep it real. That's it. So no joint bank account, Shane, Okay, 0:14:56.040 --> 0:14:58.320 what about the pay deals? Like you, I'm gonna I'm 0:14:58.320 --> 0:15:00.160 gonna pay all that. I'm gonna take care of everything. 0:15:00.360 --> 0:15:07.400 I mean, yeah, yeah, and then you know, I'm always 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:09.280 if I have a girl, to make sure she's straight, 0:15:09.320 --> 0:15:11.240 whatever she needs. But like there's no need to cross 0:15:11.280 --> 0:15:14.520 bank accounts. Okay, Now, let me ask you a question. 0:15:14.600 --> 0:15:16.520 Let's say you took your girl, you went shopping right 0:15:16.560 --> 0:15:18.480 to buy yourself some things, spent a lot of money. 0:15:18.800 --> 0:15:20.560 Do you feel like if I'm buying things, I gotta 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:23.400 buy her things also, probably not as many things, but 0:15:23.520 --> 0:15:26.720 because because yeah, because girls are always buying ship. So 0:15:28.440 --> 0:15:29.720 I mean, I mean, if I'm gonna go out and 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:32.000 get myself something. I might see something I think fit you, 0:15:32.040 --> 0:15:33.240 I'm gonna get it for you too. But if she's 0:15:33.280 --> 0:15:36.040 with you, you got to be like come shopping me. Now. 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:38.680 What if she got a couple of her friends with her, Okay, 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:41.640 figure out, I was just trying to stretch it out, 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:46.920 even a shirt. Yeah, I heard rappers do that. I 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:51.080 don't do that. Get a pair of What about if 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:53.080 you all go out to eat your Yeah, yeah, I 0:15:53.360 --> 0:15:55.640 mean food is nothing. I'm not gonna buy like her friends. No, 0:15:55.800 --> 0:15:57.680 you know, gifts and let's not like I'm I'm cool 0:15:57.720 --> 0:16:00.320 with them when my girl's cool and understand like hey, birthday, 0:16:00.400 --> 0:16:01.800 let me get you something type thing. But I'm not 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:04.560 just gonna go out in What if you're saying somebody 0:16:04.560 --> 0:16:05.840 and one of her friends tried to higl at you, 0:16:05.920 --> 0:16:08.320 would you tell her? Yeah, I can't do that, you 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:10.200 know what I mean. Like I said, I think there's 0:16:10.240 --> 0:16:12.800 just too many people out there, you know what I mean. 0:16:12.800 --> 0:16:14.720 And I've been in situations like that before where I 0:16:14.760 --> 0:16:16.360 had to pull the check to the side, like like 0:16:16.400 --> 0:16:17.840 what do you you know, what are you trying to do? 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:20.280 Like this is not so I think just the real 0:16:20.360 --> 0:16:22.080 Like if you play games back and forth. You're giving 0:16:22.120 --> 0:16:23.720 them an idea that there's a chance, you know what 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:25.680 I mean. So to me, there's just there's too many 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:27.400 women out here. I don't care how bad your home 0:16:27.480 --> 0:16:30.360 goodish girl is to wanting, you know, mess with her. 0:16:31.000 --> 0:16:33.120 And what did she the girl tried to get with 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:35.560 you before you met your current day what if she 0:16:35.640 --> 0:16:40.080 had really so she tried to get at me before. 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:42.040 I mean probably my girl at the time would know 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:45.960 about it, you know what I mean, she didn't. I mean, 0:16:45.960 --> 0:16:51.240 it's just mean I gotta be you know like that. Yeah, 0:16:51.240 --> 0:16:52.360 you know, you don't want to come off with sir. 0:16:52.520 --> 0:16:54.680 I mean, like I said, the past doesn't matter if 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:56.400 she if I'm with you know, if I'm with you 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:57.840 and she tries to get at me while we're together, 0:16:57.880 --> 0:17:00.880 it's a problem. If before we you work together, it's 0:17:00.920 --> 0:17:05.200 not a problems. That's what everybody they're not that cool. 0:17:05.400 --> 0:17:17.000 But yeah, they just playing the team. Yeah. So yeah, 0:17:17.040 --> 0:17:19.919 because Gloria was literally making faces at us, you know, 0:17:19.920 --> 0:17:23.199 because we have discussions before we sit down, and I 0:17:23.320 --> 0:17:26.880 was saying that I think if somebody tried to talk 0:17:26.880 --> 0:17:30.000 to me and they um dating somebody state friend, I 0:17:30.000 --> 0:17:32.280 would tell them, like even if it's not some funny 0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:35.480 like you know your homeboy do just because you want 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:37.000 to kind of. I mean, you don't want your circle 0:17:37.080 --> 0:17:38.439 like that anyway, you know, I mean you don't want 0:17:38.440 --> 0:17:40.080 them kind of people that are scheming on your girl 0:17:40.119 --> 0:17:44.880 are scheming on your man around before before it's different 0:17:44.880 --> 0:17:47.680 even just to be honest, like, you know, it's nothing, 0:17:47.760 --> 0:17:49.600 So what am I hiding it for? Not what if 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:52.159 he tells them? Now you're sitting there looking stupid like 0:17:52.400 --> 0:17:54.600 while you didn't tell me. But like you said, it's nothing. 0:17:54.680 --> 0:17:57.080 It's not like you had. It's not like it won't 0:17:57.080 --> 0:17:58.720 be a problem. But that's why I sense it's nothing. 0:17:58.720 --> 0:18:00.840 You can say it, you know what I mean, and 0:18:00.960 --> 0:18:03.480 stay ahead of the problem I feel you feeling on that. Now, 0:18:03.520 --> 0:18:05.600 let's talk about revenge porn for a second, because I 0:18:05.600 --> 0:18:07.680 know we all saw this whole tel in the ree situation. 0:18:10.280 --> 0:18:14.159 To me, man, you're putting I've never done no video 0:18:14.440 --> 0:18:16.880 just because you just never can really can you really 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:18.960 trust people? So when all these girls get hurt in 0:18:19.000 --> 0:18:22.440 their feelings about them getting called giving head or having sex, 0:18:22.480 --> 0:18:25.320