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Speaker 2: My neighbor refuses to go away and it's making me crazy.

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Speaker 1: Hire a magician to make him disappear.

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Speaker 2: I thirty one female, moved into a new house two

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Speaker 2: months ago. I have three young kids, which will be

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Speaker 2: very important later. At first, my neighbor forty odd female,

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Speaker 2: was very nice and popped in once in a while

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Speaker 2: to see how we were settling in. This was fine.

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, I'm Keon, and we're.

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Speaker 2: Here to give good advice coofully, but we don't have

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Speaker 2: all the answers. We only know what we do, so

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Speaker 2: let us know what you would do in the comments. Now,

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Speaker 2: she and her daughter, who is twenty three, are calling

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Speaker 2: two to three times a day asking to borrow something

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Speaker 2: or for me to do them a favor. It is

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Speaker 2: never anything huge, but it is really annoying. I have

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Speaker 2: tried not answering the door, but they walk around the house,

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Speaker 2: peering into windows and till they get the aforementioned children's attention,

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Speaker 2: and they asked the kids dance for the doors. I

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Speaker 2: have told them that I am very busy and don't

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Speaker 2: have time, but nothing has changed. I've tried to be

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Speaker 2: nice but firm, but I'm really quiet and non confrontational.

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Speaker 2: I'm in this house for at least the next two years,

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Speaker 2: and I don't want to fight with them. The last

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Speaker 2: straw was today, when the mother asked me to mind

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Speaker 2: their dog for today, tonight, and all day tomorrow so

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Speaker 2: she could go out to a party. I said no,

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Speaker 2: I have two cats and they disliked dogs greatly. She

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Speaker 2: came back twice more. I stuck by my feet and refused.

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Speaker 2: She tied the dog to my gate and went to

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Speaker 2: her party.

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Speaker 3: What the heck?

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Speaker 1: Help?

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Speaker 2: How do I nicely make her go away? At it?

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Speaker 2: Thank you all for answering. I really didn't expect so

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Speaker 2: many responses. You guys are great. I kept the dog

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Speaker 2: inside last night because it wasn't her fault, and I

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Speaker 2: felt guilty leaving it outside. The dog didn't settle at all.

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Speaker 2: I finally got asleep at half five this morning, so

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Speaker 2: I'm exhausted. I've had enough, and I've decided to have

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Speaker 2: it out with her today. I'm going to tell her

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Speaker 2: that her dog kept me up all night, and the

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Speaker 2: next time she pulls that stunt, she won't see the

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Speaker 2: dog again. I will call the ISPCA, but she doesn't need.

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Speaker 3: To know that.

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Speaker 2: I'm also going to tell her that I have had

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Speaker 2: enough of her and she isn't welcome anymore. If she

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Speaker 2: knocks on my door again, I'll call the police. I

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Speaker 2: will update on her reaction and whether it works or not.

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Speaker 2: On a side note, I'm bloody terrified and there are

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Speaker 2: some relevant comments. Belated says not sure how to make

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Speaker 2: her go away, but in terms of being left with

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Speaker 2: the dog, you should take it to a kennel or

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Speaker 2: a dog sitter and leave her with the bill. It

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Speaker 2: is not okay to leave a pet with someone else

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Speaker 2: when they explicitly said no three times, especially when they

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Speaker 2: have a legit reason as you do. OPI says, thank you.

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Speaker 2: I just texted her and said that I was putting

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Speaker 2: the dog outside for the night. She said no, she

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Speaker 2: could sleep in your bed, but I'd have to charge

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Speaker 2: says you text her back and tell her no, you

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Speaker 2: don't want a dog in your bed or in your house.

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Speaker 2: If she wants it to sleep in a bed, she

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Speaker 2: should not have gone anywhere and left it with someone

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Speaker 2: that said they couldn't take care of it. The dog

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Speaker 2: will be outside when she gets back. You can let

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Speaker 2: the dog stay inside if it's behaved and you feel

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Speaker 2: bad for it, but get up early and tie it

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Speaker 2: know you don't want to be rude, but stop being

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Speaker 2: her doormat. Tell the kids there are not allowed to

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Speaker 2: open the door for anyone, and there will be punishment

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Speaker 2: if they do. If she asks to borrow things, make

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Speaker 2: more than one on returned, it means sorry, you still

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Speaker 2: borrow a few ages, ask for a cup of sugar,

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Speaker 2: put up curtains she can't see through, or write notes,

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Speaker 2: and tape them in the windows. Please don't peek through

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Speaker 2: my windows. I didn't answer the door because I'm busy.

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Speaker 2: Try back in an hour. If she won't stop calling,

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Speaker 2: whatever they're excited about. My nephew can rattle on about

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Speaker 2: hotveel cars all day. She asks, you, delp, Sure I

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Speaker 2: can get that in about two weeks. She just comes

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Speaker 2: over to chatt and be nosy. Rope her into whatever

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Speaker 2: task you're working on. Sure, I can talk, but I

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Speaker 2: need to get these clothes folded.

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Speaker 1: Would you mind doing these.

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Speaker 2: Towels for me while we talked. I texted her back

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Speaker 2: and said she's outside. If you're not home by ten am,

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Speaker 2: I'll leave her outside your house as I have plans

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Speaker 2: and will not be home. I have the kids worn

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Speaker 2: not to open the door. I tried the cleaning plan

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Speaker 2: before I saw her walk up the driveway, so I

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Speaker 2: started vacuuming.

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Speaker 1: She knocked.

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Speaker 2: I ignored it. She walked around the house and got

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Speaker 2: in the back door. No woke into your house.

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Speaker 1: Nah, That's when I would hear the ch say who's

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Speaker 1: in my house?

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Speaker 2: I forgot to lock it, and she stood in the

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Speaker 2: When I finished, she was still there and it was

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Speaker 2: got my keys and she asked for a ride to

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Speaker 2: the shop. I said no, it's in the opposite direction

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Speaker 2: from the school, and she got angry. I should point

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Speaker 2: out it's a ten minute walk to the shop. I

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Speaker 2: left her fuming on my doorstep, where I found her

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Speaker 2: when I came back thirty minutes later. This is the

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Speaker 2: level of crazy we're dealing with. When I'm told to

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Speaker 2: call animal control, Opie says, I'm in Ireland. They work

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Speaker 2: from ten am to one pm. It's almost seven pm here,

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Speaker 2: looks like I'm stuck with this bloody thing for the night.

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Speaker 2: Jen y eighty five says, Remember so that this isn't

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Speaker 2: the dog's fault. Make sure it has water and shelter.

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Speaker 2: At least. Opie says, the dog was taking care of

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Speaker 2: last night. She was inside all night, despite my threatening

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Speaker 2: wo was No, that's a good thing.

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Speaker 1: You're going to sell her dog?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and then don't actually do that with the dog.

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Speaker 2: Be nice to the dog. I finally got to sleep

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Speaker 2: at half five that morning, So when the neighbor whom

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Speaker 2: I'm calling Mary, rocked up yesterday afternoon to ask for

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Speaker 2: some milk. I was fit too, I'm alive. I had

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Speaker 2: left the dog tied to her gate at ten am

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Speaker 2: and sent her a text saying the same. She didn't

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Speaker 2: I had locked the front door and warned the kids

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Speaker 2: didn't let her in. Mary said, how is the dog

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Speaker 2: for you? I isn't she a pet? I told her

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Speaker 2: that no, the dog was not a pet. It had

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Speaker 2: been a nightmare. We had gotten no sleep. She replied

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Speaker 2: that if I had just let the dog sleep under

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Speaker 2: my bed, in my bed, under the covers, it would

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Speaker 2: have been fine. She also said that next time I

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Speaker 2: read at that point. I don't let my kids sleep

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Speaker 2: in my bed, never mind a dang dog. I told

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Speaker 2: if she ever left her dog tied to my gate again,

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Speaker 2: the dog would disappear. She stood silently with her mouth open.

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Speaker 2: I went on to tell her that I was not

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Speaker 2: the type of person to ask for favors from people.

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Speaker 2: I didn't know, and I don't expect it to be

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Speaker 2: I hoped we could continue to get on, she was

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Speaker 2: not welcome in my house, uninvited, or to ask me

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Speaker 2: to do something for her. She stormed off. That was yesterday.

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Speaker 2: I haven't seen her since, but the day is young.

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Speaker 2: Relevant comments how long will be too long?

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Speaker 1: Well done?

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Speaker 2: You just wondering what did you tell your kids regarding

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Speaker 2: why they shouldn't let her in. There's definitely a lesson

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Speaker 2: to be learned in this experience, Opie says. I told

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Speaker 2: them he had a new house rule. Only parents could

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Speaker 2: answer the door, no matter who it was. Another person says,

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Speaker 2: what are some other things they would call you about

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Speaker 2: other than the dog? Opie says, milk, sugar, my weighing scales, bread,

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Speaker 2: use my washing machine, you name it. She asked for it.

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Speaker 2: But there is an update. Two weeks later, after I

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Speaker 2: for a while. For around a week she didn't come

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Speaker 2: near me, which was awesome, but she isn't the sharpest

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Speaker 2: she was having a party and came in to invite us.

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Speaker 2: I said no, I should point out that she hadn't

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Speaker 2: out of the blue and honestly a bit weird. Anyway,

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Speaker 2: the party was last Friday. She must have tried to

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Speaker 2: said party starting at six Bring kids, Mary. I didn't.

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Speaker 2: The party started and went on and on and on.

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Speaker 2: At twelve o'clock, I went in and asked her to

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Speaker 2: turn the music down. It was blaring into her backyard

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Speaker 2: and my kids' bedrooms around the back of her house.

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Speaker 2: She said, oh, hi, a pete coming in. I told her, no,

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Speaker 2: thank you, Please turn the music down. My kids can't sleep.

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Speaker 1: She didn't.

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Speaker 2: Instead, I suggested that I get the kids and my

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Speaker 2: husband and we all go to the park at midnight.

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Speaker 2: She thought it was a good idea to bring my

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Speaker 2: kids into a house full of wasted strangers. Really, anyway,

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Speaker 2: I went in twice more to ask her to turn

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Speaker 2: down the music. Then I gave up and called the police.

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Speaker 2: When the cops arrived, they turned it down for about

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Speaker 2: five minutes. Long story short, This happened a few times,

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Speaker 2: and the music was finally turned off at half past four.

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Speaker 2: I met her the next day as I was getting

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Speaker 2: into my car. She said, oh, I hope the music

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Speaker 2: didn't bother you last night. I told her, of course,

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Speaker 2: it had bothered me. I called into her numerous times

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Speaker 2: and resorted to calling the police. She said, well, I

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Speaker 2: turn it off at one o'clock. I said, no, it

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Speaker 2: was half past four. She said, well, at least it

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Speaker 2: was good music anyway. I told her that if it

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Speaker 2: happened again, I would be speaking to her landlord. She

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Speaker 2: hasn't spoken to me since. It seems to be going

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Speaker 2: in cycles. She pushes her luck, gets given out to

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Speaker 2: sulks for a week or two, and then does it again.

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Speaker 2: We can't afford to move for another year or two,

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Speaker 2: And there is a third update eleven years later, you've

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Speaker 1: She moved with you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she followed you. She's like high, happy you moved country.

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Speaker 1: I thought we were best friends forever. For ys.

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Speaker 2: In the meantime, I met a few other neighbors. I

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Speaker 2: My husband's much better, my kids are all in college.

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Speaker 2: There was no noise. I noticed. All's well. That ends well, Pee,

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Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

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Speaker 1: I grew up on a horse ranch in Colorado. We

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Speaker 1: sled Showcase story Time subburn at. I am Dakota, I'm Sophia,

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Speaker 1: have for neighbors. They sued, in won, and we were

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Speaker 1: we because I was the free slave labor, as all

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Speaker 1: Here's where the fun begin. The new neighbors broke ground

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Speaker 1: to wait and see, with a devilish smile on his face.

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Speaker 1: We built a pen in a small enclosure very near

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Speaker 1: I know where this is going, oh I do. Indeed,

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Speaker 1: you know what this has gone. You never perturb a

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Speaker 1: not a wise decision. The next day, one of our

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Speaker 1: Dad insisted on feeding those hogs table scraps and all

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Speaker 1: Now you may not know this, but the smell of

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Speaker 1: their pen condition. The table scraps make them smell bad.

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Speaker 1: I mean bad.

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Speaker 2: Well, your pigs in like bad condition.

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Speaker 1: No, it's just that their doo dooo smells bad, that's all.

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Speaker 1: It ain't bad conditions, they just got stinky dodo. I

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Speaker 1: Then we mucked out the pen with the bobcat. We

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Speaker 1: can't even imagine how bad the smell was living in

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Speaker 1: without ever trying to talk to us, went the legal route.

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Speaker 1: They lost the case asking to have the pen removed,

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Speaker 1: when winter moved in, we sold the pigs to slaughter,

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Speaker 1: the whole time, speaking in his low, steady way as

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Speaker 2: I'm just imagine him like hmm and they're like he's

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Speaker 2: just like mmm mmm mmm.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Well I hear you. But let me tell you,

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Speaker 1: I sure did enjoy making that money.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, six inches does go a long way.

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Speaker 1: Like I said, it can cause a lot of damage.

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Speaker 1: The new neighbors sold their new house in January when

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Speaker 1: the ground was frozen and the new owners would not

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Speaker 1: we tore down the enclosure, spread the nasty stuff on

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Speaker 2: Heck, yeah, love this. Your dad sounds great.

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Speaker 1: This sounds like a smart fella.

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Speaker 2: Angelo's smart fellow.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like a smart fellow. And those neighbors, they were

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Speaker 2: Oh, oh yeah, they were stinky at it.

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Speaker 1: Since I've gotten this question a bunch, this is what

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Speaker 1: You really did want to try to cultivate a good

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Speaker 1: Our back fence line was almost five acres long, so

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Speaker 1: it would have shaved an acre long line off, and

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Speaker 1: that was wooded land that was not good pasture land. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: they were not interested. They had plenty of funds too,

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Speaker 1: they had all the money they needed to take us

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Speaker 1: to court if we didn't comply immediately. My dad asked

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Speaker 1: being hit for the cost all at once. Ranchers are

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Speaker 1: they were not willing to do that. All had to

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Speaker 1: so did my dad. There is no pleasing some people,

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Speaker 1: so he let them take us to court. I later

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Speaker 1: the neighbor would not push it that far and come

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Speaker 1: to work with him rather than go through all that cost.

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Speaker 1: I know my dad reached out a couple more times

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Speaker 1: there are some comments. Comment one as soon as I

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Speaker 1: got to that part about the pigs, I already knew

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Speaker 1: how this story was gonna end. Well played Op's dad

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Speaker 1: well played. Comment two says, I'd like to think your

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Speaker 1: dad has ruined bacon for them for life, just as

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Speaker 1: an added bonus. And number three, I can't stand people

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Speaker 1: too childish to talk to their neighbors like adults. That

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Speaker 2: Oh boy, just be a nice.

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Speaker 1: Agreeable on a solution instead of problem.

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Speaker 2: Literally, just talk to your neighbors see if he can

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Speaker 2: work it out. Be agreeable, complines, Man, you gotta live there.

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Speaker 1: Those folks then won't peace, they won't problems all way.

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Speaker 1: Hah Well, I'll tell you what that is the end

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Speaker 1: of that story.

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Speaker 3: I uninvited my sister to my son's birthday party after

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Speaker 3: she ignored him.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she would probably want his gifts too if she came.

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Speaker 3: And this comes directly from the Okay storytime subreddit. Me

436
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Speaker 3: twenty seven female and my oldest sister thirty six female

437
00:18:24,920 --> 00:18:28,359
Speaker 3: about to be thirty seven do not get along, especially

438
00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:30,960
Speaker 3: now as we got older. Ever since I can remember,

439
00:18:31,160 --> 00:18:34,840
Speaker 3: she's truly been awful. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 3: Commercial Time seventy six, ninety six. And if you want

441
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Speaker 3: us to meet your own stories. Go to the r

442
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Speaker 3: slash Okay storytime subreddit. I'm Carly, I'm Dakota, I'm Keon,

443
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Speaker 3: and we're here to give good advice goofuy. But we

444
00:18:46,160 --> 00:18:48,320
Speaker 3: don't have all the answers. We only know what we

445
00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:50,159
Speaker 3: would do, So let us know what you would do

446
00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:52,919
Speaker 3: in the comments. I've always given her grace because she

447
00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:56,760
Speaker 3: had a terrible childhood, but I can no longer give

448
00:18:56,800 --> 00:18:59,440
Speaker 3: grace for that anymore. Me and my sister pretty much

449
00:18:59,520 --> 00:19:02,280
Speaker 3: always never got along. My mother left me in a

450
00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:05,080
Speaker 3: different state with her when I was fourteen. Then sister

451
00:19:05,160 --> 00:19:07,639
Speaker 3: and I got close. I was always close with my

452
00:19:07,720 --> 00:19:11,600
Speaker 3: two nephews she had. Oldest is six years younger than me,

453
00:19:11,760 --> 00:19:14,760
Speaker 3: and middle is about to be eighteen, and then youngest

454
00:19:14,800 --> 00:19:17,480
Speaker 3: is eight years old. I worked and all my money

455
00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:20,000
Speaker 3: went to her. My sister always did in a lot

456
00:19:20,040 --> 00:19:22,320
Speaker 3: of ways, have my back. She didn't have to keep

457
00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:24,920
Speaker 3: me when my mom abandoned me, but she did, which

458
00:19:24,960 --> 00:19:28,359
Speaker 3: I'm grateful for. We move back. I'm working two jobs,

459
00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:31,679
Speaker 3: helping with bills and her kids at the age of fifteen,

460
00:19:32,040 --> 00:19:34,639
Speaker 3: not going to school. She gets all my money. We

461
00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:37,200
Speaker 3: get into a fight. I move back in with my mom.

462
00:19:37,359 --> 00:19:40,200
Speaker 3: I had my daughter as well as both my sisters

463
00:19:40,320 --> 00:19:43,160
Speaker 3: and my little brother all had our babies the same year,

464
00:19:43,359 --> 00:19:46,119
Speaker 3: twenty seventeen, so we all got really close with the

465
00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:48,480
Speaker 3: kids being the same age. Me and my oldest sister

466
00:19:48,680 --> 00:19:52,440
Speaker 3: stayed fighting, making up, fighting and making up. Fast forward

467
00:19:52,440 --> 00:19:55,560
Speaker 3: to about three years ago. I've really started to distance

468
00:19:55,640 --> 00:19:58,520
Speaker 3: myself from my oldest sister, but I let my daughter

469
00:19:58,560 --> 00:20:01,280
Speaker 3: be around her and go over there. I tried hard

470
00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:03,919
Speaker 3: to keep a relationship with her. She'd say stuff about

471
00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:06,199
Speaker 3: how no one cared about her and this family, and

472
00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:08,679
Speaker 3: she wish she just stayed in the other state away

473
00:20:08,680 --> 00:20:11,280
Speaker 3: from us. I told her that we all invite her

474
00:20:11,280 --> 00:20:13,800
Speaker 3: to do things, but she denies it all the time.

475
00:20:13,960 --> 00:20:16,960
Speaker 3: So me and my other sister we will call her Jill,

476
00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:20,280
Speaker 3: and my oldest sister Betty, ended up hanging out without

477
00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:23,480
Speaker 3: her because she just would always say no. I eventually

478
00:20:23,560 --> 00:20:26,200
Speaker 3: wouldn't ask her to do certain things because Betty would

479
00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:29,280
Speaker 3: always say no. She got upset about that and was like, well,

480
00:20:29,320 --> 00:20:31,520
Speaker 3: you could at least ask. I explained how much it

481
00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:34,080
Speaker 3: hurt every time she said that she wished she was

482
00:20:34,119 --> 00:20:37,159
Speaker 3: never around us. She has put no effort into changing

483
00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:40,640
Speaker 3: anything and just cries that we're all excluding her and

484
00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:44,120
Speaker 3: her children and we treat them less than We've actually

485
00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:47,040
Speaker 3: walked on eggshells around her, and have gone out of

486
00:20:47,080 --> 00:20:50,600
Speaker 3: our way to overpay my nephews for jobs like cutting

487
00:20:50,640 --> 00:20:53,879
Speaker 3: the grass, getting them gifts so she wouldn't feel excluded.

488
00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:57,960
Speaker 3: She was never satisfied. I got with my fiance and

489
00:20:58,000 --> 00:21:00,240
Speaker 3: we now have a son together, who's about to you.

490
00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:02,720
Speaker 3: One before I had him, I was at my mother's

491
00:21:02,760 --> 00:21:05,600
Speaker 3: with both my sisters and their kids. I've not been

492
00:21:05,680 --> 00:21:08,960
Speaker 3: really speaking to Betty that much, just being cordial. Well,

493
00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:11,520
Speaker 3: everyone goes outside, it's just me and her in the

494
00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:14,159
Speaker 3: dining room, and I go to make small talk. I

495
00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:17,400
Speaker 3: started talking about my daughter's hair and how I struggled

496
00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:19,600
Speaker 3: to keep her curls and her hair from drying. Betty

497
00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:21,840
Speaker 3: brought up her hair, saying it does the same thing.

498
00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:25,080
Speaker 3: I said. Mom used something in my daughter's hair and

499
00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:27,720
Speaker 3: it was really good, made her hair soft, not dry,

500
00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:30,560
Speaker 3: and her curls lasted. I don't know what it was, though.

501
00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:33,760
Speaker 3: Betty gets offended and starts going in on me about

502
00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:35,800
Speaker 3: none of us know how much she takes care of

503
00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:38,199
Speaker 3: her hair and how much money she spends on our

504
00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:40,840
Speaker 3: hair products. I just said okay and tried to change

505
00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:44,080
Speaker 3: the subject. Later that evening, I heard her tell our niece.

506
00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:45,119
Speaker 2: No very rudely.

507
00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:47,920
Speaker 3: All I said was, dang, Betty, that was a little mean.

508
00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:51,120
Speaker 3: Evening goes fine. My daughter asks to stay the night

509
00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:53,520
Speaker 3: with Betty and her cousin who's the same age. They

510
00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:56,280
Speaker 3: were really close. I said yes, Betty, let my niece

511
00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:58,320
Speaker 3: hang out for a while too, but not stay the

512
00:21:58,400 --> 00:22:01,239
Speaker 3: night because she's too much. I get a call from

513
00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:03,760
Speaker 3: Betty that the kids, her son and my daughter were

514
00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:06,720
Speaker 3: not treating our niece nicely. She tells me she got

515
00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:09,199
Speaker 3: into them, and then tells me when she was talking,

516
00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:12,160
Speaker 3: she said, we don't bully, and my daughter said why.

517
00:22:12,520 --> 00:22:14,280
Speaker 3: I told her to give the phone to my kid

518
00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:17,520
Speaker 3: because she knows why we don't bully, and that's inexcusable.

519
00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:19,920
Speaker 3: And she does not speak to her aunt that way.

520
00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:22,480
Speaker 3: As I'm getting onto my daughter, telling her she will

521
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:26,040
Speaker 3: have a consequence when she comes home, Betty gets mad

522
00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:29,040
Speaker 3: at something, takes the phone from my daughter and starts

523
00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:32,840
Speaker 3: going off on me about getting onto my daughter. I

524
00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:36,080
Speaker 3: told her I'm not undermining her. I was backing her up,

525
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:38,600
Speaker 3: and I agree with her getting onto the kids, but

526
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:40,960
Speaker 3: I do not agree with how my daughter spoke to her.

527
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:44,760
Speaker 3: Betty isn't having it. She keeps cutting me off, says

528
00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:48,359
Speaker 3: I hurt her feelings before about her hair. Then starts

529
00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 3: going off about my niece and how she's a lot

530
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:53,359
Speaker 3: to handle, and I really just saying a bunch of

531
00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:56,240
Speaker 3: bad things about her. I couldn't get a single word in.

532
00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:59,160
Speaker 3: My fiancee got mad and finally told her to stop

533
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:02,240
Speaker 3: talking about our ne like that. Betty backtracks, says she

534
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:05,040
Speaker 3: didn't say anything bad about her. Her and my fiance

535
00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:09,240
Speaker 3: are arguing. I kind of froze. She hangs up, blows

536
00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:12,200
Speaker 3: my phone up with at least thirteen texts saying I'm

537
00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:14,920
Speaker 3: different now that I'm with someone and I always change,

538
00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 3: blows my fiance's blue app up and blocks him. I

539
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:21,399
Speaker 3: call her. She ignores me, so I said, I'm picking

540
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:23,800
Speaker 3: up my kid. I get there and she has my

541
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:27,240
Speaker 3: kid out the door with her stuff. Turns out the

542
00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:29,840
Speaker 3: story Betty told me wasn't the truth. Me and Betty

543
00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:32,560
Speaker 3: get into an argument that night. I told family I

544
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:35,199
Speaker 3: was done, but everyone begged for me to show up

545
00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:37,640
Speaker 3: to family events and just be cordial, so I did.

546
00:23:37,840 --> 00:23:40,640
Speaker 3: During this time, she never asked about my son, asked

547
00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 3: about his name. Instead, she blames everyone else for the

548
00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 3: reason she didn't know his name. I had my son,

549
00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:49,080
Speaker 3: my daughter was with my mother and nephew, Betty's son.

550
00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:51,720
Speaker 3: My mother had to leave and Betty had my daughter.

551
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:53,600
Speaker 3: I didn't like it, but I was trying to be

552
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:56,679
Speaker 3: cordial and mend the relationship with Betty. I told her

553
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:59,080
Speaker 3: I wanted to talk, but not yet because I had

554
00:23:59,119 --> 00:24:01,480
Speaker 3: my son and I didn't want to be hormonal. She

555
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:04,120
Speaker 3: agreed and said she had a lot going on apparently too.

556
00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:06,399
Speaker 3: I let her see my son when he was born.

557
00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:09,240
Speaker 3: I stay cordial, and a few months go by, she

558
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:12,080
Speaker 3: asks if my daughter can stay the night. I said

559
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:15,680
Speaker 3: she cannot stay the night until we discussed the last incident.

560
00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 3: She said she didn't want to because it would just

561
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:18,320
Speaker 3: cause a fight.

562
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 1: That's the most exhausting perspective to have on talking out

563
00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:25,360
Speaker 1: your problems. No, we can't have a discussion about that

564
00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:28,000
Speaker 1: because I'm just going to make it impossible. That's what

565
00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:28,520
Speaker 1: she meant.

566
00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:30,920
Speaker 3: I apologized for the way I worded getting on to

567
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 3: my kid, making it seem like I was undermining her.

568
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 3: I apologize for not stepping in and finishing the conversation

569
00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:40,119
Speaker 3: with her, since she is my sister. She calls says

570
00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:42,240
Speaker 3: she can't read it. I said, well, let me read

571
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:44,520
Speaker 3: it to you on the phone. She said, okay. As

572
00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:47,200
Speaker 3: I'm reading, she keeps cutting me off, Well what about this?

573
00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,840
Speaker 3: What about my fiance? As I'm currently reading and apologizing,

574
00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:53,360
Speaker 3: then she says, well, if we're going to talk about this,

575
00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:56,040
Speaker 3: then we need to bring up everything from the past.

576
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:58,760
Speaker 3: I said, we don't, but if you have something you

577
00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:01,320
Speaker 3: want to bring up, and we can another time, but

578
00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:04,359
Speaker 3: right now this is about this. She's just cutting me off,

579
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:07,639
Speaker 3: being rude and mocking my apologies. Then it is like,

580
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:10,280
Speaker 3: well what else? And I'm like, Betty, I don't know

581
00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:12,919
Speaker 3: what the heck you want from me. I took accountability,

582
00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 3: I apologize, and I said I'll fix it. There is

583
00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:19,119
Speaker 3: nothing else I can do. She just keeps on cutting

584
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:21,479
Speaker 3: me off, So I finally snap. I tell her to

585
00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:23,960
Speaker 3: just shut up and let me talk, and she'd get

586
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:26,440
Speaker 3: her answers. I said, I'm trying to be a good

587
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:29,800
Speaker 3: sister and work with her, communicate and fix this relationship,

588
00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:33,399
Speaker 3: and she's being impossible. She hangs up. I texted something

589
00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:36,920
Speaker 3: along the same lines and told her to leave me alone.

590
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:39,959
Speaker 3: This was almost exactly a year ago. I didn't want

591
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:42,359
Speaker 3: anything to do with her, but my family asked me

592
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:45,159
Speaker 3: to continue to be cordial at family events, so I do.

593
00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:48,240
Speaker 3: But we're not friends on the blue app. We don't text,

594
00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:51,240
Speaker 3: and we don't hang out, and at family events, I

595
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 3: keep my communication very limited with her. She didn't come

596
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:57,280
Speaker 3: to my daughter's birthday, but dropped off a gift with

597
00:25:57,320 --> 00:25:59,879
Speaker 3: my mom. My son's birthday party is coming up. I

598
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:02,840
Speaker 3: have stayed cordial with my sister in the family chat,

599
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:06,200
Speaker 3: showed up to events, and kept the communication to a minimum.

600
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:09,080
Speaker 3: I invited everyone in the group chat to my son's birthday,

601
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:12,360
Speaker 3: including Betty. We made small talk in the chat and

602
00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:15,680
Speaker 3: liked each other's kids pictures. She would comment on my

603
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 3: kids when I shared pictures. We lost my youngest nephew,

604
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:22,120
Speaker 3: just shy of two months. He passed away, so that

605
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 3: situation kind of broke the no communication as we all

606
00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:26,160
Speaker 3: needed to.

607
00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:26,720
Speaker 2: Be there first.

608
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:30,199
Speaker 3: Sister Jill, this is what brought small communication between me

609
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:30,720
Speaker 3: and Betty.

610
00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:31,119
Speaker 1: Well.

611
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 3: With the government shutdown, Betty posts about WIC and EBT

612
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:37,560
Speaker 3: being shut down. We talk in the chat a little.

613
00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:40,919
Speaker 3: My fiance just being goofy puts that the president is

614
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:43,560
Speaker 3: using tariffs to fund it. Yes, we are red and

615
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:46,680
Speaker 3: sister is blue. My sister doesn't ask nicely or anything.

616
00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:49,520
Speaker 3: She just gets offended and extremely rude to my fiance

617
00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 3: instead of just saying, hey, can we not talk about politics,

618
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:56,160
Speaker 3: says my fiance is rage baiting her. My fiance apologized.

619
00:26:56,359 --> 00:26:58,160
Speaker 3: I told her the way she went about it, being

620
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:00,480
Speaker 3: so rude to him was not right and he wasn't

621
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:03,159
Speaker 3: rage baiting her. She could have just asked nicely. She

622
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:05,440
Speaker 3: leaves the family chat. Someone adds her.

623
00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:07,040
Speaker 1: Back in, well, yeah, I mean you just got to

624
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 1: think about She's being like, yeah, it's gonna be hard

625
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 1: to feed my family, right, and he's just like, yeah,

626
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:13,960
Speaker 1: Trump's got it.

627
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:17,119
Speaker 3: Ever since then, she's completely ignored anything to do with

628
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:19,720
Speaker 3: my kids in the chat. She'll ignore pictures of them

629
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,800
Speaker 3: or my daughter winning her sports tournaments, but has commented

630
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:25,840
Speaker 3: or liked my other nieces and nephew's pictures and activities

631
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 3: like she's purposely being petty towards my kids. My mom

632
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:30,960
Speaker 3: tells me she already said no to coming to my

633
00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:33,639
Speaker 3: son's birthday party, so I decided to text her and

634
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:36,119
Speaker 3: ask her if she was coming. She ignored my text,

635
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:38,600
Speaker 3: but texted in the group chat, this was it for

636
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 3: me not coming to your nephew's birthday party because you

637
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:44,639
Speaker 3: and his father have different political beliefs. So I text

638
00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 3: her telling her out of all our fights, our whole lives,

639
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,119
Speaker 3: I've always been there for her children and I always

640
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:53,160
Speaker 3: will and her treating my kids less than was pitiful.

641
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:56,159
Speaker 3: I told her. After everything, I still tried to include

642
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 3: her in the kids' lives, especially my daughters, because she

643
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:02,960
Speaker 3: wanted a relationship with her aunt. Betty's youngest son's birthday

644
00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:05,280
Speaker 3: was right before my daughters. I brought up how she

645
00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 3: didn't even invite my daughter to it. I told her

646
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 3: I was done now and will no longer be cordial

647
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 3: atte family events. Me and my family will literally not

648
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:15,879
Speaker 3: speak to her. And she was no longer invited to

649
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 3: my son's birthday, but her son was if someone else

650
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 3: could bring him. She didn't respond, so I figured she

651
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 3: blocked me. Well I was wrong. Jill posts in the

652
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 3: family chat about her kids. Guess who responds, yep, Betty.

653
00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 3: Our other sister says something about her kid. Betty responds

654
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:35,159
Speaker 3: to that again, So I called her out in the

655
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:38,600
Speaker 3: group chat. Wow, Betty, replying about other people's kids because

656
00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 3: you like those family members, while you actively ignore my

657
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 3: kids and treat my kids differently because you don't agree

658
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:47,560
Speaker 3: with Mitchell and I. You actually have mental problems that

659
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 3: you would treat daughter and son differently. And it's pathetic

660
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 3: and extremely low even for you being petty about my

661
00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 3: kids or to my kids off limits. And that's all

662
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 3: I have left to say.

663
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Speaker 1: It's getting to a point where I don't think any

664
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:02,240
Speaker 1: one's gonna want to fix it because everyone's just gonna

665
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:06,640
Speaker 1: be too petty and too latched on too like the

666
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 1: fight of it.

667
00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 3: I really could have gotten over her being ridiculous to

668
00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 3: me and my fiance, but to act like this towards

669
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 3: my kids is just beyond me. She didn't respond. Actually,

670
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:20,640
Speaker 3: no one said anything because no one says anything to

671
00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 3: her because they're afraid or don't want to deal with

672
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:26,800
Speaker 3: her rants and outbursts. It's only me that ever says something.

673
00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 3: She says, I've changed, and I know I have. I'm

674
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 3: healing from trauma and I'm maturing, so of course I

675
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:34,640
Speaker 3: won't be the same person six years ago.

676
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:35,480
Speaker 1: Am I the a.

677
00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:37,920
Speaker 3: Hole or am I in the right for officially cutting

678
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:40,520
Speaker 3: ties with Betty, and that is the end of that story.

679
00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 3: My thing is like, Okay, if you're just gonna go

680
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 3: and cut ties Shore, you can't expect the whole family

681
00:29:46,080 --> 00:29:47,640
Speaker 3: to do that. But if you're like, yeah, I'm done

682
00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 3: with it, sure, my advice would be to maybe try

683
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:53,080
Speaker 3: therapy first. And that's the end of this story. We're

684
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 3: gonna go to the next one.

685
00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 1: Sam here, we're gonna get back to the stories. But

686
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687
00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:04,360
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688
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689
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 1: And this is direct from our Slash Showcase Doretown subreddit.

690
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,040
Speaker 1: So I found out today that my mom's coming out

691
00:30:12,120 --> 00:30:15,400
Speaker 1: from out of state to visit for Christmas. Yay, right,

692
00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 1: Well that's what I thought too. Instead, my family sadly

693
00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:20,400
Speaker 1: has one of those group chats where we try to

694
00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:23,479
Speaker 1: pretend to be a normal family. It doesn't start dinging

695
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,400
Speaker 1: until Mom comes. This group chat consists of my sister

696
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 1: in law, brother, sister, grandmother, and mom. By the way,

697
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Speaker 1: the our slash Showcase Storytime subred it. I'm Dakota, I'm Carly,

700
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Speaker 1: I'm Keon, and we had to just give you a

701
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 1: little bit of good advice. Goofily maybe, but we're just

702
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 1: you know, we're just a little goofball and we don't

703
00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:46,880
Speaker 1: have all the answers. So if you have answers of

704
00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 1: your own, just let us know what they are. In

705
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:50,840
Speaker 1: the comments. Brother messages the group chat, trying to figure

706
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:53,560
Speaker 1: out what to put together. Fair enough, right, I'll say

707
00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:55,959
Speaker 1: I'll bake something because I'm the baker of the family

708
00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:58,800
Speaker 1: besides Grandma. But I remind my brother not to cook

709
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:01,640
Speaker 1: the turkey upside down again. My brother and I have

710
00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 1: this kind of relationship. My sister messaged something. She has

711
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:07,840
Speaker 1: me blocked, so I didn't see it directly get to

712
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 1: the why later, But brother laughed and reacted to it,

713
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 1: and that's how I saw exactly what was said. It

714
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 1: was about I vote cook turkey upside down to piss

715
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 1: off op Cool. One would think she was teasing the

716
00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 1: younger sister, but here lies the issues. Before I even continue.

717
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:25,160
Speaker 1: We're just in petty territory.

718
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 3: This is just the episode of Petty.

719
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 1: It's like your older sister doesn't like you. Your older

720
00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 1: sister said something like, let's make her upset. She already

721
00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:36,240
Speaker 1: has you blocked, So is it really that surprising to

722
00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 1: you that she would say something like this. We have

723
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:42,400
Speaker 1: to learn how to master our own, you know, feelings

724
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 1: about stuff. She has me blocked, so she said it

725
00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:46,960
Speaker 1: thinking I wouldn't even see it too. She never talks

726
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:49,320
Speaker 1: to me just about me. Three. She always makes rude

727
00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 1: remarks like that and worse about me and only me,

728
00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 1: and for if I fight back, everyone gets mad at

729
00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:56,440
Speaker 1: me and expects me to just get over it. So,

730
00:31:56,560 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 1: for some context, my sister and I are seven years apart.

731
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 1: My mom was young and dumb and wasn't the best

732
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:04,200
Speaker 1: mom when she had my older siblings. My grandmother helped

733
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 1: with them, along with other family members who I don't

734
00:32:06,800 --> 00:32:09,280
Speaker 1: know that well. Well, then I came along and Mom

735
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:11,760
Speaker 1: got her act together for lack of better terms, She

736
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 1: was never a bad mom, just young and learning, and

737
00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:16,800
Speaker 1: she was completely there for me. I was her baby.

738
00:32:16,840 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 1: She dated one guy before stepdad aka just dad for me,

739
00:32:21,320 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 1: but outside of that, it was the four of us,

740
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 1: my mom, siblings and I. Well, sister had joy towards

741
00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:29,600
Speaker 1: me because I got the better version of mom from

742
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:32,680
Speaker 1: then on, she held the grudge, not to mention she

743
00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:34,920
Speaker 1: had trauma like the rest of us, but from a

744
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 1: younger age. Not My story, won't even touch on it anymore.

745
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:41,520
Speaker 1: Growing up, I freaking idolized my sister. She was the

746
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 1: coolest thing since slast bread. Well I reached my teen years,

747
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:48,320
Speaker 1: my eyes opened up to her a little bit. You

748
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:50,680
Speaker 1: could tell she had some issues. She had her first

749
00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:53,640
Speaker 1: child and postpartum depression kicked it during the first year

750
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:55,280
Speaker 1: of that kid's life. She had to move back in

751
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 1: with her baby, daddy and child. No big issue, Yay

752
00:32:58,040 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 1: a baby. I love being an aunt. But then I

753
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 1: was cleaning up after her, her baby, daddy and kid,

754
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:06,040
Speaker 1: plus me, my dad and mom. She was sick and

755
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:08,320
Speaker 1: couldn't clean all the time. I was a teen and

756
00:33:08,360 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 1: I already hated my chores, but she never helped around

757
00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:12,840
Speaker 1: the house. I would get yelled at to do it

758
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:14,719
Speaker 1: all and that I should be grateful to do it

759
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 1: because Mom brought me into this world and everyone else works. Okay, cool.

760
00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:22,680
Speaker 1: That lasted six to eight months. Sister and boyfriend get

761
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:27,600
Speaker 1: a place, thank God, right, Well, no, because sister needed

762
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 1: help at her house or needed a free babysitter. And

763
00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 1: my parents would force me to go do whatever she needed.

764
00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 1: Her house in a month was so bad that it

765
00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:38,640
Speaker 1: took me a month to catch up. Her laundry clean,

766
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:42,640
Speaker 1: maggots out of the dishes. Only thing clean was the

767
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 1: coffee pot and one cup. I cooked dinner for her

768
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 1: and her baby. Daddy, who did help when he could,

769
00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:50,160
Speaker 1: but worked almost twenty four to seven as a tow

770
00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 1: truck driver while she worked thirty to forty hours a

771
00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:55,920
Speaker 1: week with a free living nanny basically and did nothing,

772
00:33:56,280 --> 00:34:00,400
Speaker 1: literally nothing. Wouldn't even shower. Now, yes, she was pregnant again,

773
00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:02,760
Speaker 1: oh and lied about it until a month before the

774
00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:06,320
Speaker 1: kid was born. But come on, pregnancy doesn't equal unable.

775
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 1: I think we're making I think we're making a lot

776
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:11,480
Speaker 1: of assumptions. I think we're working on not a full

777
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:13,520
Speaker 1: plate of information here. You know.

778
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:16,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just a little bit lost, Like I get it,

779
00:34:16,400 --> 00:34:19,000
Speaker 3: but part of me is kind of like what I mean.

780
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:22,239
Speaker 1: It sounds like there wasn't you know, enough money to

781
00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 1: go around to afford you know, babysitter, to afford daycare.

782
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 1: You've got two kind of absentee you know, parents, and

783
00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:34,560
Speaker 1: one of which is going through you know, went through

784
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:36,799
Speaker 1: postpartum and is now pregnant again. Probably has a lot

785
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:39,440
Speaker 1: of feelings about that. Already struggling with one child and now

786
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 1: they're gonna have another, A lot of moving pieces. So

787
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:44,160
Speaker 1: that went on for a whole summer, and thank goodness

788
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:46,359
Speaker 1: for school because it was the only break I got

789
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,239
Speaker 1: from her for years. She ends up marrying and divorcing

790
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:51,560
Speaker 1: first baby daddy. I actually grew to like him as

791
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:54,040
Speaker 1: a person a little. He was still flawed and could

792
00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:56,320
Speaker 1: have helped with his kids more, but as a person

793
00:34:56,840 --> 00:34:59,480
Speaker 1: not horrible. She gets with another one and gets pregnant

794
00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:02,600
Speaker 1: for a third time and married again. I didn't like

795
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:05,319
Speaker 1: this guy. He made me hate doing anything for my

796
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: sister because of how uncomfortable he made me and my family.

797
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:10,719
Speaker 1: She got so depressed for her housekeeping got worse, and

798
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:13,360
Speaker 1: he made her take care of all their kids by herself,

799
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:16,799
Speaker 1: so rightfully, she got depressed. I ended up having my

800
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:20,479
Speaker 1: first kid six months after her third and last kid,

801
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:23,440
Speaker 1: But then I got married. Bad move, trust me. I

802
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:26,400
Speaker 1: went through the ringer there, but still whenever my sister

803
00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:29,840
Speaker 1: needed a babysitter, not free anymore, she called me until

804
00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 1: things got really bad, and I would tell her no.

805
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:34,040
Speaker 1: During all of this, though, she would always say something

806
00:35:34,080 --> 00:35:36,680
Speaker 1: snippy and rude and try to monopolize my mom's time.

807
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 1: I mean, she always had my mom's attention because she

808
00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:41,880
Speaker 1: never let our mom forget how she wasn't there for

809
00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:44,600
Speaker 1: her as much when she was younger. So because of that,

810
00:35:44,760 --> 00:35:46,960
Speaker 1: I had to have my dad and sisters help with

811
00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:50,040
Speaker 1: my first period, first heartbreak, et cetera. I'm also the

812
00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:52,759
Speaker 1: only child they never saw graduate in person. I had

813
00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:55,479
Speaker 1: to make it an FB live just so my mom

814
00:35:55,520 --> 00:35:57,840
Speaker 1: and dad could watch me graduate. Then if I was

815
00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:00,479
Speaker 1: around her and my mom, she would always talk about

816
00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:02,959
Speaker 1: how I didn't have friends or anything in school. Maybe

817
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:04,520
Speaker 1: it's because I had to be free to watch her

818
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:06,759
Speaker 1: kids at the drop of a dime for her to

819
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 1: do something with our mom. It's always chalked up to

820
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 1: her just teasing.

821
00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 3: Well.

822
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:12,560
Speaker 1: Last year, our big blow up that completely ruined any

823
00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:15,239
Speaker 1: chance of his sisterly relationship happened. I called about some

824
00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:17,919
Speaker 1: fifty shades of gray books, making sure her kids didn't

825
00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 1: get hold of them, because if they did, it would

826
00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 1: have been my fault. Let me clearly say that, like

827
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:24,239
Speaker 1: I said, she's messed up and had just gotten off

828
00:36:24,239 --> 00:36:26,240
Speaker 1: the phone with one of her ex husbands about the kids.

829
00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:28,800
Speaker 1: She thought I was questioning her parenting, but I wasn't.

830
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:31,719
Speaker 1: I don't judge any parents. If they're trying, they are

831
00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:34,000
Speaker 1: a good parent. The only way to be a bad

832
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 1: parent is to not try for your kids at all.

833
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 1: My sister does try, and she is a good mom,

834
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:42,800
Speaker 1: just strict on some things. Her thinking. I attacked her parenting,

835
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 1: attacked mine by saying I abandoned my kids. Long story,

836
00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 1: but I didn't. I called her a few very cruel

837
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:52,239
Speaker 1: words for a lady of the night she is or

838
00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:54,839
Speaker 1: was Polly, and it was a jab at that because

839
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:57,040
Speaker 1: I don't agree with that, especially the ways she did it.

840
00:36:57,160 --> 00:37:00,719
Speaker 1: This is a little too above our purview of ability

841
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:04,359
Speaker 1: to give real advice on, Yeah, because there's so much

842
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:06,719
Speaker 1: going on that I'm sure we're not even clued into right,

843
00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 1: Like we.

844
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 3: Are not ultimately psychologists and therapists, So it's like very

845
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 3: easy just to be like, go to therapy. I'm just

846
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 3: kind of like, I'm sure it's because of a lot

847
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:18,279
Speaker 3: of how they were raised and like trauma that they

848
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:21,000
Speaker 3: went through and stuff like they go after each other

849
00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 3: for some things that I'm like, this really is something

850
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:25,799
Speaker 3: that we probably didn't need to be like bringing up

851
00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:27,799
Speaker 3: like we probably didn't need to be like and then

852
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:31,040
Speaker 3: I jabbed at her because she's Polly at one point.

853
00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:34,279
Speaker 1: So now I'm blocked and have been. I've been told

854
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:37,000
Speaker 1: to apologize and said I would when she does first,

855
00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:40,600
Speaker 1: because I always apologize first, like when I smacked her

856
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:44,359
Speaker 1: for getting in my face and she gets away without apologizing.

857
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:46,960
Speaker 1: My sister literally has never apologized to me, so her

858
00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 1: remark in the family group chat is my breaking point.

859
00:37:49,160 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 1: I mentally can't keep doing it and being expected to

860
00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 1: stay quiet or if I speak up, I'm the disrespect

861
00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:56,520
Speaker 1: for one and I need to respect boundaries. So I

862
00:37:56,560 --> 00:37:58,560
Speaker 1: said I'm not going. Am I the a hole for

863
00:37:58,640 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 1: not going? Even though my mom is coming from out

864
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:01,400
Speaker 1: of state?

865
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:03,359
Speaker 3: I feel like if you really don't want to go,

866
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:04,880
Speaker 3: and it's like it's just not gonna be good and

867
00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:06,879
Speaker 3: they're gonna take just like they're just gonna go out

868
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:09,239
Speaker 3: each other the whole time, Like, sure, don't go to

869
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 3: that one, but I'm sure that you can still plan

870
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 3: something or time to see your mom, like one on

871
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 3: one with just you and your mom, and it can

872
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 3: still be like a whole thing. You just probably wouldn't

873
00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:22,399
Speaker 3: get Christmas because the plan for Christmas is already kind

874
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:22,920
Speaker 3: of preset.

875
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:25,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just such a that's a that's a wild vibe.

876
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 1: To have the family group chat and there's like five

877
00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:30,920
Speaker 1: people in it and two of them have each other blocked,

878
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,640
Speaker 1: that's a that's a pretty that's a wild vibe.

879
00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 3: If you have someone blocked in a group chat, you

880
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 3: wouldn't see their messages.

881
00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 1: Still, right, Yeah, but she saw the reaction. Okay, so

882
00:38:41,400 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 1: the messages. So it was like the loophole, not the

883
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 1: a hole. I grew up in a similarly toxic family.

884
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 1: My brothers and I don't communicate with anyone else in

885
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,720
Speaker 1: our family. We got tired of being the whipping posts

886
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:53,439
Speaker 1: and scapegoats until they needed money or childcare. You don't

887
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,120
Speaker 1: waste time with bullies and abusers anymore. Keep your peace,

888
00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:59,080
Speaker 1: leave the family group chat permanently. They try to add you,

889
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:01,800
Speaker 1: just leave again. There's no need to keep being the adult.

890
00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:04,880
Speaker 1: When your sister gets to have tantrums, block you and

891
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:07,719
Speaker 1: keep everyone on her side. The family is enabling her

892
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:11,120
Speaker 1: bullying towards you, so they are spared by her wrath.

893
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:13,160
Speaker 1: You do not need this toxicity in your life. Any

894
00:39:13,200 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 1: longer joy the holidays as you see fit without having

895
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:17,879
Speaker 1: a tiptoe around her moods and tantrums. Ope, he says.

896
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 1: The thing is, I have great relationships with my grandma

897
00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:23,320
Speaker 1: and love seeing her because she randomly says crazy crap

898
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:26,000
Speaker 1: when there isn't bs from sister. Mom and I got

899
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:28,680
Speaker 1: a chance to heal our relationship. Brother and I outgrew

900
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:32,200
Speaker 1: our sibling rivalry. And but sister, even when we are good,

901
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:34,719
Speaker 1: it's like walking on eggshells. And that is the end

902
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:36,920
Speaker 1: of that story. Maybe you two, and you know, if

903
00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:38,840
Speaker 1: everything else is all right, maybe you two could just

904
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:42,080
Speaker 1: benefit from some therapy, some group, Yeah, therapy.

905
00:39:41,800 --> 00:39:44,440
Speaker 3: Even if the person, like the sister for the story,

906
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:47,880
Speaker 3: isn't willing to go. I always still think it's a

907
00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:50,440
Speaker 3: great idea for you to still go get some for

908
00:39:50,560 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 3: like your side of things. And I'm sure the therapists

909
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:56,359
Speaker 3: can offer, like even without sister there can kind of

910
00:39:56,400 --> 00:39:58,719
Speaker 3: be like, uh, well, look at things from this way

911
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:00,480
Speaker 3: or look at things from this way. It could still

912
00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:03,359
Speaker 3: hope you have more of an understanding of your sister. Yeah,

913
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:06,120
Speaker 3: even though she's not doing her own healing, which she

914
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:10,520
Speaker 3: needs to do, absolutely, there's still benefits from one fully

915
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:11,480
Speaker 3: one party.

916
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:14,080
Speaker 1: Going fully agreed there and that's the end of this story.

917
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:16,000
Speaker 1: We're going to go on to the next one.

918
00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 2: My father tried to steal the house sale money after

919
00:40:19,680 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 2: abandoning us for years.

920
00:40:21,239 --> 00:40:22,720
Speaker 1: That's my house. I just left.

921
00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:25,640
Speaker 2: My dad forty nine mail and I twenty nine mail,

922
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:28,520
Speaker 2: have been trying to sell the house. He's not fluent

923
00:40:28,600 --> 00:40:31,080
Speaker 2: in English, so I've been doing the majority of the paperwork.

924
00:40:31,120 --> 00:40:32,840
Speaker 2: He's also fixed up the house a bit with what

925
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 2: money he could scrounge up. By the way, this comes

926
00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:37,479
Speaker 2: from KPE ninety six, and if you want to submit

927
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 2: your own story, go to the r slash Okay storytime

928
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:40,400
Speaker 2: separate it.

929
00:40:40,560 --> 00:40:43,960
Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, and I'm Keon, and we're here to.

930
00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:46,799
Speaker 2: Give good advice goofully. But we don't have all the answers.

931
00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:49,239
Speaker 2: We only know what we do, So let us know

932
00:40:49,280 --> 00:40:51,279
Speaker 2: what you would do in the comments. A few weeks ago,

933
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:55,400
Speaker 2: we signed our closing documents and discussed how to distribute

934
00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:58,960
Speaker 2: the proceeds. We did finalize on an equal split of

935
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 2: fifty to fifty between my father and I. I explained

936
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:04,320
Speaker 2: it to him in which he understood fully. Fast forward

937
00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:07,760
Speaker 2: to today, I get an email with final documents to sign.

938
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:09,840
Speaker 2: When I went to review them, it showed one hundred

939
00:41:09,880 --> 00:41:14,839
Speaker 2: percent proceeds going to my dad. I was confused as

940
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:17,960
Speaker 2: to why that was the case when we both agreed

941
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:21,319
Speaker 2: on it during our last signing, so I reached out

942
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 2: to the closing agent for an explanation as to why

943
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:27,719
Speaker 2: this was the case speel. I never got an answer

944
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 2: from them. The buyer for our house is closing in

945
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:32,239
Speaker 2: a few days, so we needed to get this matter

946
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:36,040
Speaker 2: dealt with asap. Then later that day, my dad calls

947
00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:38,440
Speaker 2: me to discuss why I reached out to the agent

948
00:41:38,760 --> 00:41:41,160
Speaker 2: and add them to a fifty to fifty split instead

949
00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 2: of giving them one hundred percent of the closing proceeds.

950
00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:46,359
Speaker 2: For a little backstory to explain, we bought the house

951
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:48,440
Speaker 2: six years ago, in which I had to help co

952
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:51,520
Speaker 2: sign with my dad. Yeah, it was a terrible idea

953
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:53,680
Speaker 2: to do so that we could grab the house. The

954
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:56,680
Speaker 2: first year was pretty normal. Everyone kind of pitched in

955
00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:59,279
Speaker 2: to pay for utilities and rent. There were six of

956
00:41:59,360 --> 00:42:02,239
Speaker 2: us living there, five who had stable income. Second year

957
00:42:02,320 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 2: comes around and my dad found new avenue to go

958
00:42:04,719 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 2: and do shady work in the West side of the country,

959
00:42:07,160 --> 00:42:08,960
Speaker 2: so he took some money and left to go follow

960
00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:11,880
Speaker 2: but out this time, my mother forty eight female, lost

961
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 2: her job, my sister twenty four female, left before she

962
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:18,920
Speaker 2: got married, and my younger brother nineteen males, started college

963
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:20,759
Speaker 2: so he couldn't work it enough. That left me with

964
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:23,600
Speaker 2: paying most to all the bills on a single income.

965
00:42:23,719 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 2: I did get a second job to bust butt, but

966
00:42:26,560 --> 00:42:28,799
Speaker 2: that took quite a toll on me, so I went

967
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 2: back to the one. Mind you, My dad was only

968
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:33,480
Speaker 2: ever back for a week once a month, so you

969
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:36,360
Speaker 2: can pretty much say he was never really around. He

970
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 2: would also ask us to send him money. My mom

971
00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:40,839
Speaker 2: would send it home she could.

972
00:42:40,640 --> 00:42:42,520
Speaker 1: If he was back for a week every month. If

973
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:45,720
Speaker 1: somebody came around and said, I'm taking twenty five percent

974
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:48,480
Speaker 1: of your paycheck, would you say that that basically is

975
00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 1: not taking any of your paycheck because he was technically there,

976
00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:53,400
Speaker 1: twenty five percent of the time one fourth of the

977
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 1: month is more than zero, more than not significantly more

978
00:42:56,719 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 1: than none.

979
00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:59,200
Speaker 2: My mom would send what she could, but I told

980
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:01,520
Speaker 2: her not to do so since he wasn't even here

981
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:03,880
Speaker 2: to help her. The next four years ended up with

982
00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 2: me having to pay all the bills and take care

983
00:43:06,680 --> 00:43:08,960
Speaker 2: of three other people with the majority of my income.

984
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:12,120
Speaker 2: I pulled work here and there to really scrape by

985
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:14,160
Speaker 2: as best as I could so that the others could

986
00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:16,439
Speaker 2: still have a roof above their head. Now, I'll mention

987
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:19,279
Speaker 2: that my dad never once sent us money to help

988
00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 2: the family, only to pay for his bills. I love

989
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:25,280
Speaker 2: my dad, but his inability to help the more important

990
00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:28,799
Speaker 2: matters was beyond sad. Fast forward. Early last year, we

991
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 2: found out that my dad had been an affair with

992
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 2: another woman from overseas. US as kids were pretty straightforward

993
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 2: with our disgust because we were old enough to understand,

994
00:43:38,200 --> 00:43:40,799
Speaker 2: whereas my mother took it the worst. It broke her

995
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 2: emotionally and mentally. There are a bunch of things that

996
00:43:43,239 --> 00:43:46,239
Speaker 2: happened that I can't go into detail about. Eventually, my

997
00:43:46,320 --> 00:43:50,240
Speaker 2: dad decided to return permanently, but the damage had been done.

998
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:52,600
Speaker 2: We didn't look at him the same, and then divorce

999
00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 2: papers came running. My parents had a whole entire episode

1000
00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 2: of back and forth that ended with my mother moving

1001
00:43:58,160 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 2: out since the house was under me and my dad.

1002
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:02,880
Speaker 2: My two younger brothers went with my mom since they

1003
00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:05,520
Speaker 2: enjoyed her company more. I left the house soon after

1004
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 2: as well, since I had gotten engaged and my fiance

1005
00:44:08,680 --> 00:44:11,439
Speaker 2: and I found better work in our south, which left

1006
00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:13,880
Speaker 2: my dad with a low income job paying for the

1007
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:16,120
Speaker 2: house by himself. I would send a little of what

1008
00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:18,719
Speaker 2: I could to help him straight by. Now back to

1009
00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:21,279
Speaker 2: the present, my dad asked why I was unwilling to

1010
00:44:21,280 --> 00:44:23,440
Speaker 2: give him one hundred percent of the proceeds and he

1011
00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:25,799
Speaker 2: would distribute it how he saw fit. I told him

1012
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:28,399
Speaker 2: exactly why we both agreed to a fifty to fifty

1013
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:31,360
Speaker 2: split when we were signing the documents with the closing agent.

1014
00:44:31,680 --> 00:44:33,400
Speaker 2: And now you're telling me to turn around and have

1015
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 2: them write it all to you, says Sophie. He then

1016
00:44:35,760 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 2: went in a long story as to why it should

1017
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:39,840
Speaker 2: be a hundred percent to him and he should split

1018
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:42,360
Speaker 2: it how he saw fit. It all culminated on because

1019
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:45,160
Speaker 2: for the last year since you all left, I've been

1020
00:44:45,200 --> 00:44:47,800
Speaker 2: paying for the mortgage and even used my own money

1021
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:50,080
Speaker 2: to fix it up before it got up on the market.

1022
00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 1: Oh you mean that thing that we were doing the

1023
00:44:52,080 --> 00:44:54,719
Speaker 1: whole time. Yeah, Oh, the thing we were doing the

1024
00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:58,640
Speaker 1: whole time, full time. Oh, we already did that.

1025
00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:00,160
Speaker 2: We did that, and you did it, and you did

1026
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:01,160
Speaker 2: it for one month.

1027
00:45:01,280 --> 00:45:02,680
Speaker 1: We did that more than you. Actually, we did that

1028
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:04,319
Speaker 1: a lot more than you did, So that's a good point.

1029
00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:05,480
Speaker 1: I'll give you twenty percent.

1030
00:45:05,640 --> 00:45:08,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're actually getting list now. I don't know about you,

1031
00:45:08,280 --> 00:45:10,759
Speaker 2: but you aren't entitled to it all just because you

1032
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:13,719
Speaker 2: did that for the year. If by his logic he's

1033
00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 2: entitled to it because of the year and fixing it up,

1034
00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:19,520
Speaker 2: then the four years that he was absent and I

1035
00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:22,440
Speaker 2: took care of everything there meant I too was entitled

1036
00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:24,360
Speaker 2: to the money. My dad and I had quite a

1037
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:26,919
Speaker 2: bit of back and forth until I eventually said, if

1038
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:29,279
Speaker 2: it you know what, I never cared about the money

1039
00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:31,840
Speaker 2: in the first place, but because you keep making it

1040
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:34,400
Speaker 2: out like you're entitled to it, let's just do forty

1041
00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 2: me and sixty percent you and call it a day.

1042
00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:39,479
Speaker 2: He did seem to agree, but kept trying to guilt

1043
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:41,720
Speaker 2: trip me with sob stories so that I would agree

1044
00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 2: to the one hundred percent. I told him clear as day,

1045
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:46,640
Speaker 2: I'm telling you here now, Dad, I'll take forty and

1046
00:45:46,719 --> 00:45:50,240
Speaker 2: you sixty. Once been the call. Here, I'm letting both

1047
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:53,320
Speaker 2: our real estate agents and closing agents know. My dad

1048
00:45:53,360 --> 00:45:55,719
Speaker 2: went silent for a little while before trying to guilt

1049
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 2: trip me again with if you see me as your dad,

1050
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 2: then you'd put it as a hard dred for me,

1051
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:03,319
Speaker 2: and I'll give you what you deserve as my son.

1052
00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 1: That's actually insane because clearly he wants to give you less.

1053
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:10,359
Speaker 2: Than forty percent. I think he was going to give

1054
00:46:10,360 --> 00:46:12,400
Speaker 2: you a dollar. I think he was. I think he

1055
00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:13,319
Speaker 2: was going to give you an egg.

1056
00:46:13,440 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 1: He's like, if you really see me as your father,

1057
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:20,120
Speaker 1: you'll trust me to screw you over and you'll let

1058
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:22,520
Speaker 1: it happen. You'll thank you because I'm your dad.

1059
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:25,080
Speaker 2: I ended the call right there, and then I emailed

1060
00:46:25,080 --> 00:46:27,359
Speaker 2: our agents and I'm now just waiting to hear back

1061
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:29,799
Speaker 2: before the closing date for our buyers. I would have

1062
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:32,560
Speaker 2: lowered my portion more had he not been so insistent.

1063
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:35,080
Speaker 2: Am I the ale for doing it the way I did?

1064
00:46:35,239 --> 00:46:38,640
Speaker 2: And there are some comments, but Dakota.

1065
00:46:38,560 --> 00:46:41,080
Speaker 1: No, in fact, you should have. You should have actually

1066
00:46:41,160 --> 00:46:43,239
Speaker 1: started to be like, I'm starting to feel like I

1067
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 1: deserve more money just for dealing with you like this.

1068
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:48,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't just I would not have cave to

1069
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:52,360
Speaker 2: giving him even sixty percent, because that is too much

1070
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:55,120
Speaker 2: money to money. He does not deserve any of it.

1071
00:46:55,360 --> 00:46:59,000
Speaker 2: Comment one the most important information is not given to us.

1072
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:01,880
Speaker 2: In your post, you say you consigned his loan for

1073
00:47:01,920 --> 00:47:03,880
Speaker 2: the house and that your mom moved out because the

1074
00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:06,879
Speaker 2: house was in your and your father's name. But please

1075
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:09,000
Speaker 2: say straight out, are you also on the deed as

1076
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:12,520
Speaker 2: an equal owner? Opie says, dang, can't believe I forgot that.

1077
00:47:12,640 --> 00:47:15,399
Speaker 2: I was still livid while typing it all down. Yes,

1078
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Speaker 2: my name is on both the deed and the loan.

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00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:20,759
Speaker 2: Then why are you giving him sixty? Take forty? Take

1080
00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:26,319
Speaker 2: that forty? Reply? Listen, I'm gonna be nice here, but

1081
00:47:26,600 --> 00:47:30,520
Speaker 2: you're not the brightest crayon in the box. What your

1082
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 2: family thinks don't matter. Their opinions. Don't pay the bills.

1083
00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:37,880
Speaker 2: Opie says, Yeah, that's fact, and it's not gonna be productive.

1084
00:47:38,040 --> 00:47:40,879
Speaker 2: I'm fine leaving the fund sitting there, and another common

1085
00:47:40,920 --> 00:47:43,440
Speaker 2: says not the ahle in the absence of any other language,

1086
00:47:43,480 --> 00:47:46,040
Speaker 2: you and your father are equal co owners and entitled

1087
00:47:46,040 --> 00:47:48,560
Speaker 2: to an equal split. I suggest doing a spreadsheet of

1088
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:52,960
Speaker 2: the house expenses the actual building only, so mortgage insurance taxes, ETCA.

1089
00:47:53,160 --> 00:47:56,120
Speaker 2: Tell your father that if his contribution is over fifty percent,

1090
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:58,960
Speaker 2: then he can add the overage to his half if

1091
00:47:58,960 --> 00:48:02,240
Speaker 2: his contribution is less than fifty percent, if you're feeling generous,

1092
00:48:02,520 --> 00:48:05,160
Speaker 2: you can still give them fifty percent. But you're legally

1093
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:07,440
Speaker 2: entitled to your half. So if you don't want to

1094
00:48:07,480 --> 00:48:10,319
Speaker 2: bother with all that, just take it. Dad's either being

1095
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:13,520
Speaker 2: greedy or he wants to be the big man for opie.

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00:48:13,600 --> 00:48:16,759
Speaker 1: I think you should start itemizing from now on anything,

1097
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:19,360
Speaker 1: any any expense you incur because of your father, you

1098
00:48:19,400 --> 00:48:21,440
Speaker 1: need to like list it and then send him an

1099
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 1: invoice for it forever. Yeah, emmer say, if you see

1100
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 1: me as your son, you will pay for these.

1101
00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:28,879
Speaker 2: You'll pay if you see me as your son, you'll

1102
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:31,759
Speaker 2: pay for my in and out. I want this burger.

1103
00:48:31,960 --> 00:48:35,040
Speaker 2: Someone mentioned if my name was on the deed. Short answers, Yes.

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00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:35,960
Speaker 1: Update two.

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00:48:36,239 --> 00:48:38,880
Speaker 2: My dad decided if he wanted to escalate the issue

1106
00:48:39,320 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 2: to our relatives. So now we're going to discuss this

1107
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:43,920
Speaker 2: with relatives and come to a consensus.

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00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 1: Why why, like, what does that? How to do it? Whow? Well?

1109
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:49,880
Speaker 1: I think we should talk about it with more people

1110
00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:52,680
Speaker 1: who don't really have any bearing on it.

1111
00:48:52,840 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 2: Your relatives aren't on the freakin' lease or the anything.

1112
00:48:57,000 --> 00:48:59,359
Speaker 1: The equivalent of that is he's like, what he's really

1113
00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:02,840
Speaker 1: saying is, well, I'm gonna make this everyone's problem, and

1114
00:49:02,840 --> 00:49:05,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make people choose sides, and I'm gonna mess

1115
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:07,319
Speaker 1: up our entire family.

1116
00:49:07,040 --> 00:49:09,279
Speaker 2: Over this, and you're gonna be happy about it. If

1117
00:49:09,280 --> 00:49:12,120
Speaker 2: you're my son, I'm already pulling documents to show why

1118
00:49:12,160 --> 00:49:15,080
Speaker 2: he shouldn't get one hundred percent proceeds. I've got my

1119
00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:17,759
Speaker 2: stuff ready to retort any statement my dad will come

1120
00:49:17,840 --> 00:49:19,799
Speaker 2: up with. Even if my relatives agree that my dad

1121
00:49:19,840 --> 00:49:22,759
Speaker 2: should get one hundred percent, it doesn't matter because they

1122
00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 2: have no say.

1123
00:49:24,000 --> 00:49:25,640
Speaker 1: They have literally no say.

1124
00:49:26,360 --> 00:49:29,640
Speaker 2: It's like me being like like me being like, well,

1125
00:49:29,800 --> 00:49:33,400
Speaker 2: I think that freaking prime minister in London should be different.

1126
00:49:33,520 --> 00:49:34,279
Speaker 2: I don't have a say.

1127
00:49:34,320 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 1: I don't live there, I don't do they. I don't

1128
00:49:36,680 --> 00:49:39,719
Speaker 1: even think people in London have a say an It's

1129
00:49:39,760 --> 00:49:42,239
Speaker 1: like something that doesn't the Parliament vote for that. There's

1130
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:44,480
Speaker 1: a very select group of people who have a say

1131
00:49:44,480 --> 00:49:46,600
Speaker 1: in that. Well know they vote, So then I guess,

1132
00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:48,360
Speaker 1: do the people vote for their parliament?

1133
00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:50,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, they vote for the Perlman and then the parliament.

1134
00:49:50,320 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 1: Vote so it's like yeah, by proxy, Yeah, I mean

1135
00:49:53,040 --> 00:49:54,839
Speaker 1: that's what we do in a way. If we don't,

1136
00:49:54,920 --> 00:49:55,399
Speaker 1: let's not.

1137
00:49:55,440 --> 00:49:57,319
Speaker 2: I'm still not going to agree to anything. And that's

1138
00:49:57,320 --> 00:49:58,120
Speaker 2: the end of the story.

1139
00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:00,960
Speaker 1: Hey y'all, it's John Oghos. We're gonna get back to

1140
00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:02,600
Speaker 1: the stories, but here's a quick three minute break from

1141
00:50:02,640 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 1: as for more.

1142
00:50:03,040 --> 00:50:07,600
Speaker 2: Sponsors, my parents in law committed fraud and tried to

1143
00:50:07,640 --> 00:50:08,520
Speaker 2: disturb my life.

1144
00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:10,560
Speaker 1: Fraud can be disturbing and this.

1145
00:50:10,560 --> 00:50:16,080
Speaker 2: Comes directly from the r slash Okay story time subridt it. Yes,

1146
00:50:16,719 --> 00:50:19,359
Speaker 2: I've been married six years to my husband thirty five mail,

1147
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:22,000
Speaker 2: I'm thirty three. I've had the same phone number for

1148
00:50:22,120 --> 00:50:26,560
Speaker 2: fifteen years, and on Thursday October thirtieth, the day before

1149
00:50:26,680 --> 00:50:30,279
Speaker 2: my husband's birthday, my father in law committed fraud and

1150
00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:32,120
Speaker 2: stole my number.

1151
00:50:32,239 --> 00:50:34,280
Speaker 1: So did he commit fraud with your number?

1152
00:50:34,480 --> 00:50:37,000
Speaker 2: I think that yeah. He pretended to be my husband

1153
00:50:37,080 --> 00:50:40,560
Speaker 2: to deactivate it permanently. By the way, this comes from

1154
00:50:40,560 --> 00:50:42,759
Speaker 2: Clumsy Vampire ninety two, and if you want to submit

1155
00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:45,239
Speaker 2: your own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime

1156
00:50:45,320 --> 00:50:49,279
Speaker 2: subreed it. I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, I'm Carly, and we're

1157
00:50:49,320 --> 00:50:51,239
Speaker 2: here to give good advice. Goofy, But we don't have

1158
00:50:51,320 --> 00:50:53,680
Speaker 2: all the answers, We only know what we'd do, so

1159
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:55,240
Speaker 2: let us know what you would do. In the comments,

1160
00:50:55,360 --> 00:50:59,160
Speaker 2: and OP says I tried my best to be kind

1161
00:50:59,320 --> 00:51:02,120
Speaker 2: and respect to my in laws, But ever since I

1162
00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:04,640
Speaker 2: told my father in law that no, he could not

1163
00:51:04,880 --> 00:51:08,440
Speaker 2: give my six month old son coca cola, he's hated me.

1164
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:14,240
Speaker 2: Now you cannot give my six month old son soda?

1165
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:17,839
Speaker 1: Well, you mean when this is clearly a personal issue

1166
00:51:17,960 --> 00:51:18,840
Speaker 1: that you have with me.

1167
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:20,840
Speaker 2: I don't even think those babies are supposed to be

1168
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:21,959
Speaker 2: drinking water yet.

1169
00:51:22,400 --> 00:51:25,560
Speaker 3: Really, Yeah, it's true. You can't give babies water.

1170
00:51:25,880 --> 00:51:28,840
Speaker 2: Oh, babies that age are still supposed to drink milk

1171
00:51:29,080 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 2: or formula. He admitted to trying to push my buttons

1172
00:51:32,040 --> 00:51:34,680
Speaker 2: at every visit since then, and when I didn't react,

1173
00:51:34,719 --> 00:51:37,560
Speaker 2: it made him angrier. I was pressured into joining a

1174
00:51:37,560 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 2: family phone plan to lower everyone's bills. It did lower

1175
00:51:41,040 --> 00:51:44,560
Speaker 2: everyone else's bill, but raised mine by ten dollars. It

1176
00:51:44,680 --> 00:51:46,440
Speaker 2: was only a favor to them, and it gave my

1177
00:51:46,480 --> 00:51:50,040
Speaker 2: father in law access to steal my number. I was

1178
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:53,040
Speaker 2: married for three years before I convinced my husband to

1179
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:55,360
Speaker 2: let me meet His father has been always referred to

1180
00:51:55,480 --> 00:51:58,680
Speaker 2: him by name, not Dad. Which I understand now. I'd

1181
00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:00,880
Speaker 2: heard a lot of bad things about this man. I

1182
00:52:00,920 --> 00:52:03,160
Speaker 2: look for the good in people and thought kindness would

1183
00:52:03,160 --> 00:52:06,160
Speaker 2: make him better. Yeah. I made crafts with my son's

1184
00:52:06,200 --> 00:52:09,480
Speaker 2: handprints for them, sent birthday and holiday cards, hugged them

1185
00:52:09,480 --> 00:52:12,760
Speaker 2: at gatherings, and gave thoughtful gifts. I sent them texts

1186
00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:14,920
Speaker 2: and pictures of the kids, and checked in often. I

1187
00:52:14,920 --> 00:52:17,239
Speaker 2: even pushed my husband to contact his father when he

1188
00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:20,200
Speaker 2: never wanted to. Don't do that. I don't like that

1189
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:23,759
Speaker 2: that's being seen, I don't know, or presented as like

1190
00:52:23,800 --> 00:52:27,200
Speaker 2: a nice thing when clearly your husband has a very

1191
00:52:27,239 --> 00:52:30,200
Speaker 2: complicated relationship with his father, who doesn't seem like a

1192
00:52:30,200 --> 00:52:30,719
Speaker 2: good guy.

1193
00:52:31,320 --> 00:52:33,520
Speaker 1: I do think there is something to be said, though,

1194
00:52:33,560 --> 00:52:36,480
Speaker 1: because it's like, you know, if people are like I

1195
00:52:36,520 --> 00:52:39,720
Speaker 1: don't speak to that guy and they can't like really

1196
00:52:39,760 --> 00:52:43,359
Speaker 1: explain why succinctly, not in like a I don't want

1197
00:52:43,400 --> 00:52:45,400
Speaker 1: to talk about it. Why, but in like a I

1198
00:52:45,440 --> 00:52:47,760
Speaker 1: don't know, we just kind of like stopped, then maybe

1199
00:52:47,800 --> 00:52:48,320
Speaker 1: you should.

1200
00:52:48,440 --> 00:52:49,960
Speaker 2: There are different scenarios.

1201
00:52:50,080 --> 00:52:53,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, this person is like, no, like I don't

1202
00:52:53,440 --> 00:52:56,080
Speaker 1: want to relateship with Martin because he's he's Martin.

1203
00:52:56,320 --> 00:52:59,239
Speaker 2: Yeah. Meanwhile, father in law and mother in law secretly

1204
00:52:59,400 --> 00:53:02,240
Speaker 2: hated me. I noticed mother in law wrote on Facebook

1205
00:53:02,239 --> 00:53:05,040
Speaker 2: about how much he loves and misses my husband's ex,

1206
00:53:05,160 --> 00:53:08,120
Speaker 2: calling her beautiful. This was after we'd been married for

1207
00:53:08,239 --> 00:53:11,439
Speaker 2: two years, before our first son was born. The ex

1208
00:53:11,480 --> 00:53:15,960
Speaker 2: replied and called her mom ew how embarrassing. The ex

1209
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:18,960
Speaker 2: tried to contact my husband after we got married. He

1210
00:53:19,040 --> 00:53:22,320
Speaker 2: told her to leave him alone, that he's happily married

1211
00:53:22,520 --> 00:53:25,680
Speaker 2: and blocked her. She still tries to contact him. I

1212
00:53:25,760 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 2: saw she messaged him at four am, right after I

1213
00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:32,200
Speaker 2: gave birth to our second son. According to her Facebook,

1214
00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:36,040
Speaker 2: she's been engaged for seven years. So embarrassing for this woman.

1215
00:53:36,080 --> 00:53:37,600
Speaker 1: It's a very long engagement.

1216
00:53:37,880 --> 00:53:41,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, also true. My husband and her broke up about

1217
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:44,680
Speaker 2: fifteen years ago. I mentioned this because father in law

1218
00:53:44,719 --> 00:53:47,680
Speaker 2: recently texted my mother saying, my husband's going to replace

1219
00:53:47,719 --> 00:53:50,399
Speaker 2: me with his ex. My husband and I realized mother

1220
00:53:50,440 --> 00:53:52,840
Speaker 2: in law must have talked to father in law about

1221
00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:56,640
Speaker 2: this ex. I trust my husband completely, he said, even

1222
00:53:56,760 --> 00:53:59,400
Speaker 2: if we broke up, which he never would want, he'd

1223
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:03,000
Speaker 2: never go back to her because she cheated, laid games,

1224
00:54:03,120 --> 00:54:06,640
Speaker 2: and acted disrespectful to him and doesn't like kids. A

1225
00:54:06,680 --> 00:54:09,279
Speaker 2: few months ago I let my in laws babysit my

1226
00:54:09,360 --> 00:54:12,239
Speaker 2: son because they asked. Even though I didn't need it,

1227
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:14,719
Speaker 2: I thought it would be good for our relationship. My

1228
00:54:14,800 --> 00:54:17,040
Speaker 2: son and I would both cry when I dropped him off.

1229
00:54:17,200 --> 00:54:19,680
Speaker 2: I wanted my in laws to be happy and like

1230
00:54:19,800 --> 00:54:22,600
Speaker 2: me every time I was around father in law, though

1231
00:54:22,719 --> 00:54:25,880
Speaker 2: he talked down to me and also his wife, even

1232
00:54:26,000 --> 00:54:29,040
Speaker 2: in front of everyone. At my son's third birthday, as

1233
00:54:29,080 --> 00:54:32,080
Speaker 2: we were leaving, father in law insisted on giving my

1234
00:54:32,080 --> 00:54:35,000
Speaker 2: son a popsicle in our car. My son had already

1235
00:54:35,040 --> 00:54:38,120
Speaker 2: had cake and ice cream, despite being told no by

1236
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:39,280
Speaker 2: multiple family members.

1237
00:54:39,320 --> 00:54:40,880
Speaker 1: He said, you don't tell me what I can do.

1238
00:54:41,280 --> 00:54:43,839
Speaker 2: I don't know what I want, not with my child. No,

1239
00:54:43,960 --> 00:54:45,440
Speaker 2: I wonder you could hate that popstacle.

1240
00:54:45,600 --> 00:54:47,520
Speaker 1: I don't know where does that come from. And it's

1241
00:54:47,600 --> 00:54:50,120
Speaker 1: like he's been like, I'm a man, I'm a man.

1242
00:54:50,200 --> 00:54:51,960
Speaker 1: You can't know me what to do. I'm a man.

1243
00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:54,279
Speaker 1: I will give this child the popsicle.

1244
00:54:54,560 --> 00:54:58,080
Speaker 2: In my eye, I'm gonna do it. You can't tell anything.

1245
00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:00,919
Speaker 2: Later that day, I texted my in law and told

1246
00:55:00,920 --> 00:55:03,319
Speaker 2: her my sons would no longer be allowed over there

1247
00:55:03,360 --> 00:55:06,000
Speaker 2: without my husband and me present. A few weeks past

1248
00:55:06,080 --> 00:55:08,640
Speaker 2: and we invited mother in law to a Renaissance festival

1249
00:55:08,680 --> 00:55:11,239
Speaker 2: with us. She acted excited for a week, but the

1250
00:55:11,320 --> 00:55:14,719
Speaker 2: night before she said she couldn't go because she wasn't allowed.

1251
00:55:15,040 --> 00:55:16,680
Speaker 2: That is terrifying.

1252
00:55:16,960 --> 00:55:21,040
Speaker 1: Look, honestly, I'm fully not contacting either of them. As

1253
00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:23,279
Speaker 1: soon as I find out as Op's partner that my

1254
00:55:23,520 --> 00:55:27,440
Speaker 1: mom was texting my ex, being like, oh yeah, you

1255
00:55:27,560 --> 00:55:29,080
Speaker 1: are actual.

1256
00:55:29,160 --> 00:55:31,120
Speaker 2: There's like no contact going forward.

1257
00:55:31,239 --> 00:55:33,560
Speaker 1: I mean, it's one thing about being like not supportive

1258
00:55:33,600 --> 00:55:37,560
Speaker 1: of my relationship. Okay, you're not the most supported, actively

1259
00:55:37,640 --> 00:55:40,759
Speaker 1: trying to sabotage it, and like, have my ex be

1260
00:55:41,080 --> 00:55:44,120
Speaker 1: still interested in me. You're way out of line.

1261
00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:44,760
Speaker 3: Agreed.

1262
00:55:44,840 --> 00:55:47,040
Speaker 2: I found out the car seat in their car for

1263
00:55:47,160 --> 00:55:50,960
Speaker 2: my son was forward facing when I'd specifically asked for

1264
00:55:51,000 --> 00:55:53,560
Speaker 2: it to be rear facing. My husband asked mother in

1265
00:55:53,640 --> 00:55:55,440
Speaker 2: law about it, and she told father in law I

1266
00:55:55,520 --> 00:55:58,319
Speaker 2: called her a liar. I never called her that, but

1267
00:55:58,400 --> 00:56:01,439
Speaker 2: I wasn't sure if I was being lied to. Father

1268
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:04,080
Speaker 2: in law flipped. He told my husband he must divorce

1269
00:56:04,160 --> 00:56:09,720
Speaker 2: me immediately and take my home, my cars, and my kids.

1270
00:56:10,040 --> 00:56:12,520
Speaker 2: He said to take everything from me or he'd be

1271
00:56:12,640 --> 00:56:14,800
Speaker 2: cut out of his will. My husband told father in

1272
00:56:14,880 --> 00:56:17,759
Speaker 2: law f the will and that he'd screwed seeing us

1273
00:56:17,840 --> 00:56:20,640
Speaker 2: ever again. We had doctor appointments that week at a

1274
00:56:20,640 --> 00:56:23,840
Speaker 2: new location and I needed my phone for GPS. The

1275
00:56:23,880 --> 00:56:26,719
Speaker 2: doctor's office send paperwork over text that I couldn't fill

1276
00:56:26,719 --> 00:56:30,560
Speaker 2: out because my number was gone. It was affecting our kids.

1277
00:56:30,880 --> 00:56:33,480
Speaker 2: My mom felt bad for me and my kids. She

1278
00:56:33,600 --> 00:56:35,719
Speaker 2: texted mother in law saying she needs to get father

1279
00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:38,920
Speaker 2: in law in check because this is affecting the grandkids

1280
00:56:38,960 --> 00:56:42,439
Speaker 2: and I need my phone for emergencies. Get off that plan, girl,

1281
00:56:42,560 --> 00:56:43,239
Speaker 2: Get off that plan.

1282
00:56:43,400 --> 00:56:45,400
Speaker 1: You just get back on the plan you were on before.

1283
00:56:45,640 --> 00:56:48,880
Speaker 2: Father in law then threatened my parents over texts, insulted

1284
00:56:48,880 --> 00:56:51,680
Speaker 2: them and said disgusting things. Mother in law said it

1285
00:56:51,719 --> 00:56:54,520
Speaker 2: was okay because my mom texted first, even though she

1286
00:56:54,600 --> 00:56:58,120
Speaker 2: didn't swear, insult or threaten anyone. Father in law lied

1287
00:56:58,280 --> 00:57:02,400
Speaker 2: and said he's a million hours, give us thousands of dollars. Actually,

1288
00:57:02,480 --> 00:57:05,920
Speaker 2: my husband's grandma gave father in law ten thousand dollars

1289
00:57:06,000 --> 00:57:08,480
Speaker 2: to buy my husband's truck, but he only gave us

1290
00:57:08,520 --> 00:57:10,920
Speaker 2: seven thousand dollars when we could have sold it to

1291
00:57:10,960 --> 00:57:14,080
Speaker 2: someone else for eight thousand dollars. We sold it for

1292
00:57:14,160 --> 00:57:17,320
Speaker 2: hospital bills were still baying off. My husband sold his

1293
00:57:17,400 --> 00:57:19,760
Speaker 2: old house for about one hundred and seventy five thousand

1294
00:57:19,920 --> 00:57:22,280
Speaker 2: and gave all that money to his parents to save

1295
00:57:22,360 --> 00:57:22,960
Speaker 2: their house.

1296
00:57:23,280 --> 00:57:28,480
Speaker 1: Why something about duty, I guess so, and responsibility and honor.

1297
00:57:28,840 --> 00:57:31,760
Speaker 2: They never paid him back, but constantly treat him like

1298
00:57:31,800 --> 00:57:34,160
Speaker 2: he owes them more. Father in law has also been

1299
00:57:34,200 --> 00:57:37,120
Speaker 2: on mother in law's Facebook pestering my husband. We found

1300
00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:39,640
Speaker 2: out mother in law is two faced and has always

1301
00:57:39,680 --> 00:57:42,600
Speaker 2: talked badly about me behind my back, but would smile

1302
00:57:42,720 --> 00:57:45,160
Speaker 2: to my face and hug me. She fed any information

1303
00:57:45,240 --> 00:57:47,800
Speaker 2: about me, mostly wrong, to father in law to try

1304
00:57:47,840 --> 00:57:50,880
Speaker 2: and use my insecurities to hurt me. Verizon said they

1305
00:57:50,920 --> 00:57:54,080
Speaker 2: already disconnected and recycled my phone number and couldn't give

1306
00:57:54,120 --> 00:57:57,680
Speaker 2: it back, even though their contract says they're not supposed

1307
00:57:57,680 --> 00:58:01,000
Speaker 2: to recycle a deactivated number for fifty days. I had

1308
00:58:01,000 --> 00:58:05,040
Speaker 2: that number for fifteen years. It's tied to all our

1309
00:58:05,080 --> 00:58:08,480
Speaker 2: hospital bills, our dentist, our I doctor, and my kid's

1310
00:58:08,480 --> 00:58:11,960
Speaker 2: hospital information. I lost a voicemail of a deceased relative

1311
00:58:12,000 --> 00:58:14,640
Speaker 2: I'll never get to hear again. It took a week

1312
00:58:14,720 --> 00:58:17,360
Speaker 2: of arguing over the phone and being at the Verizon

1313
00:58:17,440 --> 00:58:21,080
Speaker 2: store from open until close, with every associate telling me no,

1314
00:58:21,400 --> 00:58:24,520
Speaker 2: and my husband started the process to sue the phone company,

1315
00:58:24,840 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 2: and suddenly they were able to give me my phone

1316
00:58:26,680 --> 00:58:29,080
Speaker 2: number back. I switched to straight talk and recovered my

1317
00:58:29,080 --> 00:58:32,480
Speaker 2: old voicemails. My husband wasn't able to recover his number,

1318
00:58:32,600 --> 00:58:35,400
Speaker 2: but he decided it was probably best his parents wouldn't

1319
00:58:35,400 --> 00:58:38,600
Speaker 2: know his new number anyway, or his ex. This has

1320
00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:41,720
Speaker 2: been a nightmare. I plan on never seeing or talking

1321
00:58:41,760 --> 00:58:44,560
Speaker 2: with them again. They also won't be seeing the children

1322
00:58:44,560 --> 00:58:47,400
Speaker 2: I suffer to create, and my husband agrees. He feels

1323
00:58:47,400 --> 00:58:50,080
Speaker 2: disrespected and stabbed in the back by them as well.

1324
00:58:50,200 --> 00:58:53,120
Speaker 1: We're sick of these mother in law's.

1325
00:58:53,680 --> 00:58:56,520
Speaker 2: If they're alive in eighteen years, and if my children

1326
00:58:56,600 --> 00:58:58,960
Speaker 2: want to meet them when they're adults, that will be

1327
00:58:59,040 --> 00:59:02,320
Speaker 2: my children's choice. For now, I'm done, and there is

1328
00:59:02,360 --> 00:59:04,400
Speaker 2: an update. But yeah, I think that's the only thing

1329
00:59:04,440 --> 00:59:07,280
Speaker 2: you can do. They literally stole your number.

1330
00:59:07,760 --> 00:59:10,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's it. And isn't it funny how once you

1331
00:59:11,320 --> 00:59:13,520
Speaker 1: are like why, I guess I will sue you for

1332
00:59:13,640 --> 00:59:17,400
Speaker 1: breach of contract. Horizon goes Hey, now wait, whoa whoa

1333
00:59:17,440 --> 00:59:21,800
Speaker 1: whoa Wait a minute, Suddenly I have found your number.

1334
00:59:22,000 --> 00:59:23,640
Speaker 2: So crazy that what was that doing?

1335
00:59:23,680 --> 00:59:23,880
Speaker 1: There?

1336
00:59:24,040 --> 00:59:26,560
Speaker 2: Update? My mother in law tried to contact my husband

1337
00:59:26,640 --> 00:59:29,680
Speaker 2: through his aunt over Facebook, saying she's filing for divorce.

1338
00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:30,840
Speaker 2: My husband and I.

1339
00:59:30,840 --> 00:59:33,680
Speaker 1: Laughed, ha ha ha.

1340
00:59:34,400 --> 00:59:36,280
Speaker 2: He says he'll believe it when he sees it, and

1341
00:59:36,360 --> 00:59:38,040
Speaker 2: I said, father in law tried to get you to

1342
00:59:38,080 --> 00:59:41,560
Speaker 2: divorce me and is now being reversed. We both laughed.

1343
00:59:41,680 --> 00:59:44,440
Speaker 1: We dealt with her for a long time, David, we

1344
00:59:44,600 --> 00:59:47,520
Speaker 1: dealt with Jane Lange for a long time, and now

1345
00:59:47,520 --> 00:59:49,120
Speaker 1: we're gonna deal with him for no.

1346
00:59:49,160 --> 00:59:52,320
Speaker 2: Time, No time at all, zero time. Actually, I looked

1347
00:59:52,320 --> 00:59:54,680
Speaker 2: through my husband's phone while he was asleep and noticed

1348
00:59:54,720 --> 00:59:57,560
Speaker 2: his mom before we blocked her, said a lot of

1349
00:59:57,680 --> 00:59:59,960
Speaker 2: hurtful things about me and my mom, trying to blame

1350
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:03,840
Speaker 2: ay for everything. I hadn't even texted, called, or contacted

1351
01:00:03,880 --> 01:00:07,240
Speaker 2: either in law during everything. I only blocked them before

1352
01:00:07,360 --> 01:00:09,520
Speaker 2: I read what she was texting. I thought maybe if

1353
01:00:09,520 --> 01:00:11,600
Speaker 2: she got a divorce and her life back in order,

1354
01:00:11,960 --> 01:00:13,840
Speaker 2: I could forgive her and let her be in our

1355
01:00:13,920 --> 01:00:17,760
Speaker 2: lives again. But after that, all the disrespect and no remorse,

1356
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:19,880
Speaker 2: I think we're better off without her or.

1357
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:20,600
Speaker 1: Father in law.

1358
01:00:20,640 --> 01:00:22,640
Speaker 2: My husband didn't tell me what mother in law said,

1359
01:00:22,680 --> 01:00:24,880
Speaker 2: because he already decided he didn't want her in our

1360
01:00:24,920 --> 01:00:27,920
Speaker 2: lives again, and thought it would only hurt me more,

1361
01:00:28,280 --> 01:00:30,400
Speaker 2: and that is the end of the story.