1 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:07,400 Speaker 1: Welcome to j dot il a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:10,520 --> 00:00:16,960 Speaker 1: Hold Everybonny h Welcome, Welcome to j dot Ilga podcast. 3 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:21,319 Speaker 1: You know who I'm here on. I'm sitting here with 4 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:26,720 Speaker 1: my beautiful, beautiful sisters laias Saint Clair. Yes we we that. 5 00:00:26,840 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 1: This me hello an age a grading danceler. Yo yo 6 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 1: yo baby pop come get me better make it fast 7 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:47,560 Speaker 1: or so I'm going to get a kissed. Can't you hear? Push? 8 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 1: Push it really good? Oh my god, we just did 9 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 1: an auntie anthem. Yes we did, Yes, we did. We 10 00:00:57,240 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 1: did out here pushing it. They got to be We 11 00:01:02,280 --> 00:01:09,880 Speaker 1: got some well, we got some sex. And listen, that 12 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:14,319 Speaker 1: is beautiful. Her chapsticks. Let me tell you when some 13 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 1: girls can't get together all i'd the same. That's beautiful. 14 00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:20,479 Speaker 1: This is a moment. It's ad. It's a d summer 15 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:26,920 Speaker 1: as well. We like it. Yes, yea having having some sex, 16 00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 1: so okay, we have to acknowledge it. Man, that's a blessing. Man. 17 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:44,200 Speaker 1: It's a lot of people ain't getting that out here. Man, 18 00:01:44,520 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 1: what I'm saying that and the combination of that and 19 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: some son shit. That's so you're so gleeful, you snorted. 20 00:01:53,920 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 1: That's that's it. That's major, that major. The snort is 21 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:08,919 Speaker 1: an indication telling tell homie, I said, I say, yeah, 22 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:17,720 Speaker 1: you keeping the smile on our face out. Yes, my 23 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 1: brother's over there, so shout and you know, year old 24 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:28,679 Speaker 1: maintenance over this mug. You know what I'm saying. The 25 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 1: stays turned up, stays dirt up. It has to stay 26 00:02:35,080 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 1: dirt up, come on down. That we do get a 27 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 1: little bit of extra alone time, which is always a plus. 28 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 1: I mean, that is the plus to our relationship in 29 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: the way of functions and what we do for a living. 30 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:48,200 Speaker 1: You know, a lot of people don't get a lot 31 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:51,640 Speaker 1: of alone time. You're singing to each other too, and 32 00:02:51,680 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 1: that thing hit different. That thing hit different in the 33 00:02:54,840 --> 00:02:58,680 Speaker 1: hotel because that's you can't even be as loud and 34 00:02:58,720 --> 00:03:00,960 Speaker 1: as rowdy as you can't be on the road. When 35 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:04,400 Speaker 1: you're on the road. She not talking about she talking. 36 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:06,799 Speaker 1: She's not talking about the singing Jill. She was talking. 37 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, okay, yeah, dude, I always talking. But but 38 00:03:12,080 --> 00:03:17,520 Speaker 1: I was just saying, like, you know, you know, four 39 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:21,680 Speaker 1: play comes in a lot of different ways, right, I 40 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:24,720 Speaker 1: was thinking. I always felt as a fan of Cam Drid, 41 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 1: I always felt like y'all you know, give me each 42 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 1: other as a stages stuff in the transparency. Sometimes sometimes 43 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 1: it can be that. Other times we can be a 44 00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 1: little bit on you know, autopilot. And then sometimes I 45 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:44,600 Speaker 1: have given him my aster kids right before we get 46 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:49,840 Speaker 1: on the stage, like all the stars, all the stars 47 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:59,119 Speaker 1: really they look up, always messed up those but but yes, 48 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 1: it is definitely you when when all things are aligned, honey, 49 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:06,160 Speaker 1: and he's doing this good good singing, and we're in 50 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 1: a good good place, good good singing, the good good 51 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:13,680 Speaker 1: place good and this is like the first real summer 52 00:04:13,720 --> 00:04:21,240 Speaker 1: we had a good amen, you know, just like the 53 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 1: first real big good like good summer, good summer touring 54 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:28,920 Speaker 1: and stuff. So y'all really, uh, the numbers must be up? Yeah, 55 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:33,600 Speaker 1: I mean, I mean yeah, I will say this though, 56 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:36,560 Speaker 1: like you know, the pandemic and everything did change how 57 00:04:36,600 --> 00:04:38,880 Speaker 1: we were working and where this is the first summer 58 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 1: that it's felt more like a normal summer. Yes, so 59 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:48,040 Speaker 1: things are definitely you know, kicking. We had a show 60 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 1: last night. Wow. Up, So I've been up early girls 61 00:04:57,839 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 1: and Richli Kwan and I don't today on today, I 62 00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:08,479 Speaker 1: was up late and up early. Oh black Oh oh 63 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 1: that's nice too, that's dance involved ladies and gentlemen. I 64 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 1: want you to know it's vulgar. This is Monday. That 65 00:05:23,440 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 1: happy summer to all, Happy summer to all. Last podcast, 66 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 1: we were talking about the bro Mitzvah that Jet Night 67 00:05:31,760 --> 00:05:35,240 Speaker 1: had um his bro Missfa. I just was able to 68 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 1: accompany him, to show him, give him some world for 69 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:44,520 Speaker 1: his thirteenth birthday and his maturation. Yeah, I mean, and 70 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:48,839 Speaker 1: that was incredible. And I suggest anybody who has a 71 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:51,800 Speaker 1: young man child, even you know, if you gotta if 72 00:05:51,800 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 1: you got a girl since Mitzvah, a girl, a girl mitsvah, 73 00:05:57,560 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 1: it's just a writer passes missin since mits for Yeah, 74 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:05,520 Speaker 1: why not you gotta do some kind of whole African thing. Huh. Yeah. 75 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:08,040 Speaker 1: I just like, maybe we just ditch. I like BroMans 76 00:06:08,040 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 1: for Don't get me wrong, I think that's dope. I 77 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:14,479 Speaker 1: know where's work. Let's put it into just figure out 78 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:18,880 Speaker 1: something that we can just make. Yes, I'm sorry black people, Yes, 79 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:21,000 Speaker 1: you're right, Okay, we're gonna think on it now. You're 80 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 1: making us be more creative. That's fine. I I personally like, 81 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:26,839 Speaker 1: I like the whole concept of bar Mitzvah. I just 82 00:06:26,880 --> 00:06:31,040 Speaker 1: thought that was I think something you know, even the 83 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 1: name very cool something like that. Yeah, I think Hebrew 84 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:45,080 Speaker 1: Jed had to learn. Um I got it made. And 85 00:06:45,640 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 1: he's flailing at best. I'm sorry when yes, I like, 86 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:56,240 Speaker 1: who's I got to me specialists? I gotta be okay. 87 00:06:56,360 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 1: I just want to be clear, you girl, You say 88 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 1: this like everybody in the atmosphere. They don't know. They 89 00:07:01,240 --> 00:07:05,720 Speaker 1: know Jet was born too special as I got to 90 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:14,680 Speaker 1: meet he came, don't. So yeah, look, we were out 91 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:17,200 Speaker 1: here and I can I can see this. You can't 92 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:20,800 Speaker 1: see it, but I'm gonna describe before you. Layah has 93 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:26,960 Speaker 1: this like this goldie ready thing happening with her skin. 94 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:30,600 Speaker 1: It's really pretty and and I don't know what she's 95 00:07:30,600 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 1: been doing, but she looks great. That's all that is. 96 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:42,120 Speaker 1: This summer Prian girl, it was. I just determined it 97 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 1: might be the best island. I mean, I'd have been 98 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 1: to a few, I ain't been to them all, but 99 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 1: it's just something about Jamaica, the people. It was. It was, 100 00:07:49,400 --> 00:07:51,600 Speaker 1: it was. It was relaxing. I went on a pre 101 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 1: I'll say a pre op a prep baca because I'm 102 00:07:55,320 --> 00:07:57,880 Speaker 1: getting my fabruaries out in a week or so. But 103 00:07:58,400 --> 00:08:00,920 Speaker 1: It's funny because my doctor friend says me. As I 104 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 1: was texting all my friends like yeah, I'm my priat 105 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:05,440 Speaker 1: bac and showing everybody. You know, he was like, yeah, 106 00:08:05,600 --> 00:08:07,480 Speaker 1: enjoy your priat Baca. But you know you are'tupposed to 107 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:09,520 Speaker 1: be smoking a weed to drinking nothing before surgery. I 108 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 1: was like, anyway, I still have that. I'm gonna cleanse 109 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:18,840 Speaker 1: out I got. I just went to this help. I 110 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:21,160 Speaker 1: got five more days and I got me some seed mass, 111 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 1: some maringa, all the things. I'm gonna drink all this alkaline. 112 00:08:24,760 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 1: But yes, Jamaica, it was. It was gorgeous. And I 113 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:29,760 Speaker 1: just said, I just say, everybody, if you get a 114 00:08:29,840 --> 00:08:32,520 Speaker 1: chance and do what Airbnb. I don't. I ain't with 115 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:35,200 Speaker 1: the hotel life no more. Thanks to the COVID me 116 00:08:35,240 --> 00:08:38,720 Speaker 1: and the man we are. Airbnb is for life and 117 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:41,000 Speaker 1: it is just better that way, and especially if you can, 118 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:43,000 Speaker 1: you know, save your coins, get somebody to cook you 119 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 1: a couple of meals, and I have to go out 120 00:08:44,520 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 1: and just sit on the beach. That's what it should be. 121 00:08:48,160 --> 00:08:52,520 Speaker 1: Do you check for cameras? Uh do? But I also 122 00:08:52,640 --> 00:08:54,720 Speaker 1: this particular Airbnb was a friend of a friend and 123 00:08:54,720 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 1: if you could so, I kind of trusted them, but 124 00:08:56,600 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 1: I most times because I'm at airbnber. Yes I do. 125 00:08:59,400 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 1: I check for ambers a little bit. Yeah, but I'm not. Yeah, 126 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:07,280 Speaker 1: it's gonna be on the Just Give A show. I'm joking. 127 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:11,640 Speaker 1: I said, you travel all the time, though you never 128 00:09:11,679 --> 00:09:17,439 Speaker 1: stopped traveling. I did doing the early days of the COVID. 129 00:09:17,480 --> 00:09:19,079 Speaker 1: I kept it on the West side. I might. I 130 00:09:19,240 --> 00:09:28,720 Speaker 1: just did Tahiti, but I still stayed over on the podcast. Listen, 131 00:09:28,920 --> 00:09:31,000 Speaker 1: let me get my my broke bitch. Excuse me. Excuse 132 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:32,840 Speaker 1: me as I get my broth bass claimer to all 133 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 1: like I like to him. Excuse me. You guys should 134 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 1: know that here it comes, my broke bitch. Just claimer is, 135 00:09:39,679 --> 00:09:41,920 Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen. My mother has given forty three years 136 00:09:41,920 --> 00:09:43,960 Speaker 1: of her life to an airline as a flight attendant, 137 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 1: and I am just reaping the benefits of her hard work. 138 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:50,880 Speaker 1: That's why I always encourage everyone with a airport employee 139 00:09:50,880 --> 00:09:53,280 Speaker 1: in their life to take advantage of these things. I 140 00:09:53,360 --> 00:09:57,840 Speaker 1: just live your truth and own it. You can be 141 00:09:57,920 --> 00:10:02,679 Speaker 1: boogie all you damn one to black woman deserves luxury, 142 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:08,520 Speaker 1: she said, I kept it on. I kept it to Tahiti. 143 00:10:08,679 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 1: I was talking to it's to Tahiti. I can I 144 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:17,560 Speaker 1: just ask the reason that we kept it to Tahiti. 145 00:10:17,679 --> 00:10:19,480 Speaker 1: Because when you live on the West coast, right and 146 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:21,640 Speaker 1: you and you want to travel to an island or something, 147 00:10:21,679 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 1: but you don't want to travel because it's COVID. You 148 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:26,079 Speaker 1: don't want to stop in different places. You either got 149 00:10:26,160 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 1: Hawaii or Mexico, or maybe you take eight one eight 150 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:32,280 Speaker 1: dollar flight to Tahiti. Most people don't think of Tahiti, 151 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:35,360 Speaker 1: but it's a lovely place. French, Polynesia and thank you 152 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:38,120 Speaker 1: think of the fantasy Bora Bora or Fiji. But these 153 00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:40,640 Speaker 1: are all related to each other. They're all a part 154 00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 1: of the you know, Polynesian islands. So and Polynesian and 155 00:10:44,679 --> 00:10:46,600 Speaker 1: French is the only language I took in school. So 156 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:48,400 Speaker 1: I kind of like when I can to go places 157 00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:50,360 Speaker 1: where they speaking, because I can use that ship and say, 158 00:10:50,480 --> 00:10:57,079 Speaker 1: you know, la toilet. Excuse him, Joe, that's where's the bathroom, 159 00:10:57,320 --> 00:11:03,800 Speaker 1: That's where's the bathroom. I understood, Yes, I gotta twilet, 160 00:11:04,880 --> 00:11:08,839 Speaker 1: I gotta toilet. Excuse me. I kind of let In fact, 161 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:14,520 Speaker 1: I'm gonna name my daughter twilet. So my children living 162 00:11:14,600 --> 00:11:20,320 Speaker 1: it fresh, fresh air, what is that we're not gonna 163 00:11:20,600 --> 00:11:24,680 Speaker 1: plenty of excellent speak in different languages. I'm gonna fight you. 164 00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:28,599 Speaker 1: If you don't speak, you can't go. You can't be 165 00:11:28,760 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 1: by friend. Do you understand that? Way off? You have 166 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:40,680 Speaker 1: to speak to a color purple? This is ma'am oh shipment, Yo, 167 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:45,320 Speaker 1: I can't believe I fail. Don't. It's okay, baby, We're 168 00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:49,240 Speaker 1: gonna get you on. You have time. There's grace and 169 00:11:49,360 --> 00:11:51,679 Speaker 1: mercy here. This is a safe place. We just want 170 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:54,600 Speaker 1: you to get on the people's Netflix. We just want 171 00:11:54,600 --> 00:11:57,200 Speaker 1: you to get in the people's Amazon plan. When we 172 00:11:57,240 --> 00:12:01,439 Speaker 1: get off for here, I know every other thing. Okay, 173 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 1: We're gonna talk about this later because I'm okay, okay, alright, 174 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:25,480 Speaker 1: because all right, yeah, more conversation after the break. So Asian, 175 00:12:25,480 --> 00:12:27,600 Speaker 1: how was New Orleans? Because I was mad I missed 176 00:12:27,600 --> 00:12:30,000 Speaker 1: out on that trip. I saw you and the girl. Wait, 177 00:12:30,559 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 1: I was just still curious about two heavy give us 178 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 1: a little bit of background, like I'm like, I'm gonna 179 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 1: say it like this. I know that these are not Um. 180 00:12:40,320 --> 00:12:43,000 Speaker 1: I went to Hawaii and I just found it. I 181 00:12:43,040 --> 00:12:45,920 Speaker 1: found it super expensive and I felt like they were 182 00:12:46,240 --> 00:12:49,120 Speaker 1: unless you're in the military. Racist. Yeah, And I did 183 00:12:49,160 --> 00:12:52,000 Speaker 1: not enjoy myself. I got a lot of stairs whenever 184 00:12:52,000 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 1: I walked into a store and people were just looking 185 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:56,920 Speaker 1: and following me, and I was like, this is not 186 00:12:57,720 --> 00:13:00,760 Speaker 1: this is not cool, Like I'm at a resort. Why 187 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 1: are you following me? Why are you staring at me? 188 00:13:03,240 --> 00:13:08,040 Speaker 1: Can I help you? Something? That was not a good feeling. 189 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:10,439 Speaker 1: So Hawaii is out for me, and the Indigenous people 190 00:13:10,440 --> 00:13:14,679 Speaker 1: of Hawaii have made it very clear that they want 191 00:13:14,760 --> 00:13:17,160 Speaker 1: us to chill on that for a minute. Number one 192 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:19,880 Speaker 1: of the coming there because number one, it was like 193 00:13:19,920 --> 00:13:22,040 Speaker 1: a COVID thing. That was number one. They kept telling 194 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:24,800 Speaker 1: people to stay that but on the main land, you know, 195 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:28,720 Speaker 1: not the main land, on the other land. And then 196 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:31,680 Speaker 1: and then also to you know, they have been fighting 197 00:13:31,679 --> 00:13:33,840 Speaker 1: the good fight. You know, everywhere you find indigenous people 198 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:36,959 Speaker 1: that consistently fighting the good fight. So that's the vibe there. 199 00:13:37,000 --> 00:13:39,440 Speaker 1: So they're just kind of like, yeah, don't don't play games. 200 00:13:39,800 --> 00:13:42,439 Speaker 1: But it's cool though. I'm just saying I ain't do nothing. 201 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:45,800 Speaker 1: She's I adn't do nothing. I didn't do Sometimes this 202 00:13:46,720 --> 00:13:55,200 Speaker 1: was before COVID, way before like agows on like Japan 203 00:13:55,360 --> 00:13:57,360 Speaker 1: levels as far as expense when it's for me, So 204 00:13:57,480 --> 00:14:01,240 Speaker 1: I'm like that's always not my first choice. And yeah, 205 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:02,840 Speaker 1: but what I mean, I would say this about French 206 00:14:02,880 --> 00:14:06,200 Speaker 1: Polynesia's dope because they suggested when you go there you 207 00:14:06,280 --> 00:14:09,760 Speaker 1: learn the local language to Tahitian language, like learn how 208 00:14:09,760 --> 00:14:11,800 Speaker 1: to say you know, hello, Yolana and all and all 209 00:14:11,840 --> 00:14:15,440 Speaker 1: of these things. And but yeah, it's a beautiful place. 210 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:17,440 Speaker 1: And you can also take a faery. We rent a 211 00:14:17,440 --> 00:14:21,200 Speaker 1: car and they're small cars and you can drive the 212 00:14:21,240 --> 00:14:24,200 Speaker 1: whole island in probably two hours. But then there's you 213 00:14:24,200 --> 00:14:26,920 Speaker 1: can take a ferry to other places, Like there's another 214 00:14:26,960 --> 00:14:31,520 Speaker 1: island called Marenga Marea Moodea, which is about an hour 215 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:34,480 Speaker 1: out and we stayed there for a minute. But also 216 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:37,800 Speaker 1: check an hour out into the water the water with 217 00:14:37,840 --> 00:14:42,040 Speaker 1: your car, because that means you know an island. But 218 00:14:42,320 --> 00:14:44,360 Speaker 1: I also want to mention this part. Don't forget that 219 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 1: the Marlon Brando Island is out there, right y'all heard 220 00:14:46,960 --> 00:14:51,400 Speaker 1: about this, right Brando? Yeah, at least an island out there. 221 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:55,560 Speaker 1: And so there's one luxury resort on this island. It's 222 00:14:55,640 --> 00:15:00,960 Speaker 1: a huge chi poo poo where Obama went to his memoirs. 223 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:05,200 Speaker 1: So we took a catamarran out there. You cannot see 224 00:15:05,440 --> 00:15:07,560 Speaker 1: the resort. It's very small island, but you can't see 225 00:15:07,560 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 1: the resort from where they bring in the you know, 226 00:15:09,360 --> 00:15:11,280 Speaker 1: the regular folks, and you will not be able to 227 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 1: go over there. You can just enjoy the white sand beaches, 228 00:15:13,560 --> 00:15:16,040 Speaker 1: which are the brightest and could burn your retinas, that's 229 00:15:16,040 --> 00:15:19,280 Speaker 1: how bright they are. The sand bars go out so crazy. 230 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:21,120 Speaker 1: I don't mean if you don't even know. I had 231 00:15:21,120 --> 00:15:23,280 Speaker 1: to learn what the sand bar is for people who 232 00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:24,880 Speaker 1: don't go to the beach. It's kind of like the 233 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:28,160 Speaker 1: sandbars where the sand extends in the water. You can 234 00:15:28,200 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 1: just standel it to your ankles into your water and 235 00:15:30,560 --> 00:15:34,240 Speaker 1: you could just walk to your ankles way out and so. 236 00:15:34,320 --> 00:15:36,040 Speaker 1: And sometimes the sand bar will be in the middle 237 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:37,480 Speaker 1: of an ocean, and so you can just take a 238 00:15:37,520 --> 00:15:39,880 Speaker 1: boat out there and do something like that. So yeah, 239 00:15:40,080 --> 00:15:41,960 Speaker 1: and so stand out in the middle of it. Stand 240 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:44,080 Speaker 1: out in the middle of the ocean. People have parties 241 00:15:44,160 --> 00:15:46,720 Speaker 1: and a sandbar. And Tahiti there's a thew sandbars where 242 00:15:46,720 --> 00:15:49,640 Speaker 1: people like a mobile bar will come up to the 243 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:52,760 Speaker 1: sand bar and stuff like that. So it's really nice. Yeah, 244 00:15:52,960 --> 00:15:55,440 Speaker 1: forget where we were. They had one of those. I 245 00:15:55,480 --> 00:16:00,640 Speaker 1: don't remember where we were though, Galveston, Texas have one. 246 00:16:00,760 --> 00:16:02,440 Speaker 1: I mean I don't know if that. I just know 247 00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:06,440 Speaker 1: that you can walk for really really long time. I 248 00:16:06,480 --> 00:16:08,880 Speaker 1: mean it was at least like a half of my 249 00:16:08,960 --> 00:16:12,000 Speaker 1: own and it was the water in Galveston is what's that? 250 00:16:12,600 --> 00:16:17,200 Speaker 1: Super warm? They get hit by hurricane, so that's usually 251 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:20,600 Speaker 1: an indication of a hurricane. Alley, is the warm water? 252 00:16:21,520 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 1: Is it clear? Super warm? Yes? Okay, because I am 253 00:16:25,360 --> 00:16:27,680 Speaker 1: when it comes to like beach water, I can't see 254 00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:30,480 Speaker 1: my feet. I'm not paying I can't. So no, no 255 00:16:30,480 --> 00:16:34,040 Speaker 1: North Carolina, no Jersey now. And first of all, let's 256 00:16:34,080 --> 00:16:35,760 Speaker 1: keep it funk key, because me and the boyfriend are 257 00:16:35,840 --> 00:16:37,720 Speaker 1: very clear about this. As he watches way too much 258 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:40,280 Speaker 1: shark week after, I will say this about Tahiti. They 259 00:16:40,320 --> 00:16:43,560 Speaker 1: have sharks, but they're like straight dogs, so that means that. 260 00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:45,200 Speaker 1: And we had to learn it's the hard way. We 261 00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:47,440 Speaker 1: were out Snorkeland and the shark came up to us, 262 00:16:47,880 --> 00:16:51,000 Speaker 1: and the boyfriend was like waving his hand like you know, no, 263 00:16:51,000 --> 00:16:53,400 Speaker 1: no, no no. We running to the shore and we see 264 00:16:53,440 --> 00:16:56,240 Speaker 1: two older local Tahitian folks standing in the water. We 265 00:16:56,360 --> 00:16:57,840 Speaker 1: run towards them to let them know that the shark 266 00:16:57,920 --> 00:17:01,240 Speaker 1: is coming and they let us know. Okay, yeah, they 267 00:17:01,240 --> 00:17:04,159 Speaker 1: don't want you. It's enough fish here. The sharks don't 268 00:17:04,240 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 1: bother people. That's something we have to get used to. 269 00:17:07,440 --> 00:17:10,440 Speaker 1: But back to Asia's point, Caroline and all them places, 270 00:17:10,600 --> 00:17:12,760 Speaker 1: they'd be on sharks, they'd be on Shark Week. I 271 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:16,879 Speaker 1: can't be on shark because the water is murky and 272 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:19,480 Speaker 1: you can't really see what was coming and the water 273 00:17:21,080 --> 00:17:28,440 Speaker 1: and the changing climate climate change. Yeah, yeah, but I 274 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:30,520 Speaker 1: don't know if it's about being murky, because it's kind 275 00:17:30,520 --> 00:17:33,919 Speaker 1: of like, I mean, you can see the point. You're right, 276 00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:36,280 Speaker 1: it's not about the murky. Yeah, I just I mean 277 00:17:36,280 --> 00:17:37,720 Speaker 1: you can see how I mean, you just can't see it. 278 00:17:37,840 --> 00:17:39,359 Speaker 1: I just do that out there. I didn't know. I 279 00:17:39,440 --> 00:17:43,119 Speaker 1: just never understood, like going somewhere for a beach vacation 280 00:17:43,320 --> 00:17:45,720 Speaker 1: and I don't hope this don't sound bougie and you 281 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:49,640 Speaker 1: can't see your feet don't sorry? Oh yes, I mean 282 00:17:49,680 --> 00:17:53,600 Speaker 1: we're doing this now. We're not just right, you just 283 00:17:53,640 --> 00:18:00,439 Speaker 1: can't right if the actual is not like you you 284 00:18:00,520 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 1: know what, I apologize, that is correct. I'm taking this 285 00:18:07,160 --> 00:18:12,080 Speaker 1: is heavy right now, and I shi no. Let me 286 00:18:12,119 --> 00:18:16,400 Speaker 1: tell you something. Black people deserve luxury period. There's no 287 00:18:16,520 --> 00:18:22,639 Speaker 1: extra Black people deserve luxury period. Pooh, there's after that, 288 00:18:23,200 --> 00:18:29,800 Speaker 1: there's no experiation period. Pooh. That's it. Yeah, but we do, 289 00:18:30,119 --> 00:18:32,159 Speaker 1: and we're just not We're not gonna let it go 290 00:18:32,240 --> 00:18:35,679 Speaker 1: any further. We're gonna despair things that we do and 291 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:38,400 Speaker 1: that people should do and if they find their way 292 00:18:38,400 --> 00:18:44,520 Speaker 1: to it, they should and they deserve it. Period. That's it. Yeah, 293 00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:47,639 Speaker 1: that guilt. That guilt is interesting. Now. That guilt is 294 00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:50,360 Speaker 1: interesting because really the way that you responded, and I'm 295 00:18:50,440 --> 00:18:53,280 Speaker 1: joking with you, but I understood the responsibility you felt. 296 00:18:53,520 --> 00:18:55,040 Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, I didn't want that. I just 297 00:18:55,080 --> 00:18:57,320 Speaker 1: wanted to make a little jokey joke, but I have 298 00:18:57,440 --> 00:18:59,840 Speaker 1: my own things. I'm like, I've been a broke bitch 299 00:18:59,840 --> 00:19:02,000 Speaker 1: for long time. So getting out of that mentality when 300 00:19:02,000 --> 00:19:04,199 Speaker 1: you work hard to get to a certain place. But 301 00:19:04,280 --> 00:19:07,400 Speaker 1: it's it's that's it's it'sn't knowing that you deserve things, 302 00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:09,159 Speaker 1: just like what you just talked about with luxury and 303 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:15,399 Speaker 1: what's called survivor's guilt. Is that a thing? Yeah? Yeah, amen, Amen. 304 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:17,280 Speaker 1: I didn't even tell nobody I went away. I was 305 00:19:17,320 --> 00:19:19,919 Speaker 1: like the girl. I don't go away to get pre 306 00:19:20,720 --> 00:19:23,879 Speaker 1: vacation and ship. I never had surgery in my life. 307 00:19:24,040 --> 00:19:26,240 Speaker 1: I never had surgery in my life. So I'm like, 308 00:19:26,320 --> 00:19:28,439 Speaker 1: I don't know, and my summer is over after this. 309 00:19:29,200 --> 00:19:30,960 Speaker 1: Well let's just say this. You don't have to have 310 00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:40,240 Speaker 1: impending surgery to go to Tahiti. Okay, okay, anybody, anybody 311 00:19:40,320 --> 00:19:43,879 Speaker 1: listening to a little bit more free. You feel a 312 00:19:43,920 --> 00:19:49,560 Speaker 1: little freed right now, because because I was explaining this 313 00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:51,879 Speaker 1: to Jet the other day, I was like, the truth 314 00:19:52,359 --> 00:19:55,880 Speaker 1: is just the truth? When if you if you're like, 315 00:19:56,040 --> 00:19:58,720 Speaker 1: the truth is the flex really, if you're trying to 316 00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:01,399 Speaker 1: if you're putting something on it, like I'm saying this 317 00:20:01,480 --> 00:20:05,080 Speaker 1: because I want people to be impressed, then don't say it. 318 00:20:06,320 --> 00:20:09,640 Speaker 1: If the truth is just the truth, there's nothing, there's 319 00:20:09,640 --> 00:20:12,960 Speaker 1: nothing added to it, you know. You know what I'm saying. 320 00:20:13,359 --> 00:20:16,399 Speaker 1: You have an opportunity to go and to places and 321 00:20:16,480 --> 00:20:23,119 Speaker 1: have your entire life. I think nepotism is fire, especially 322 00:20:23,119 --> 00:20:26,680 Speaker 1: because you ain't sitting around lazy and just sucking up. 323 00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:29,679 Speaker 1: You know, whatever benefits there are. You work for a 324 00:20:29,760 --> 00:20:34,000 Speaker 1: living and always have so there's that you know, and 325 00:20:33,760 --> 00:20:36,879 Speaker 1: and you've had traveled enough that dad, you know what 326 00:20:36,920 --> 00:20:39,080 Speaker 1: you're not what you like you know what you're not 327 00:20:39,119 --> 00:20:43,240 Speaker 1: gonna take. But I think also too, people having experiences 328 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:46,640 Speaker 1: helps people who haven't had them, because I think it's 329 00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:49,800 Speaker 1: just also gives you an idea of what you can do, 330 00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:51,639 Speaker 1: where you can go, and if you do have the 331 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:55,159 Speaker 1: resources to go, it saves you time, money, energy based 332 00:20:55,160 --> 00:20:57,280 Speaker 1: on things that other people of the experiences that people 333 00:20:57,320 --> 00:21:00,000 Speaker 1: have had, and we do have to kind of normalize 334 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:02,359 Speaker 1: ees and kill the stereotype that black people don't go 335 00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:04,600 Speaker 1: anywhere and that we don't have an interest of the 336 00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:06,800 Speaker 1: resources to do. So I think at the end of 337 00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:08,960 Speaker 1: the day, it's really more one of those things where 338 00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:14,639 Speaker 1: we feel the heaviness of that you know, maybe everybody 339 00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:18,720 Speaker 1: can and YadA, YadA, YadA, and it's just like we 340 00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:21,320 Speaker 1: have the kind of debt that it's not a weight. 341 00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:24,119 Speaker 1: We carry enough weight. We don't have to put extra 342 00:21:24,160 --> 00:21:28,520 Speaker 1: weight on ourselves because it's unnecessary and it's unnecessary that 343 00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:32,119 Speaker 1: sometimes that sometimes people do put the stink on it. 344 00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:36,000 Speaker 1: People do put the stink on it, and this is 345 00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:40,400 Speaker 1: where more's a lot of react and respond. I mean, 346 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:47,280 Speaker 1: like I'm glessing and that you can and look at you, 347 00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:50,800 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Sometimes I feel so much 348 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:54,720 Speaker 1: like it's just like yes, like like you know, damn, 349 00:21:54,800 --> 00:22:00,760 Speaker 1: I didn't know. I wasn't ship, Like you know what 350 00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:02,560 Speaker 1: I'm saying, I'm just on the payment plan and like 351 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:05,760 Speaker 1: I didn't know what I was that was that was 352 00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:09,639 Speaker 1: messing with my self worth like that these reels be 353 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:12,359 Speaker 1: having you like, oh, I need to step my game up? 354 00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:15,679 Speaker 1: Can I step my game? I'm telling you, I have 355 00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:19,680 Speaker 1: to release myself. If you're going and you saved your 356 00:22:19,680 --> 00:22:22,639 Speaker 1: money to go somewhere and you you know, have a 357 00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:24,960 Speaker 1: wonderful meal and you stay in a in a nice 358 00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:29,800 Speaker 1: hotel like you did that, congratulations, Please celebrate yourself and 359 00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:33,919 Speaker 1: enjoy yourself wholeheartedly. And you know we like you know, 360 00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:36,240 Speaker 1: like Aga was saying, and like yeah, that whole that 361 00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:42,560 Speaker 1: survivor's guilt thing is just out. Let it go on 362 00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:44,560 Speaker 1: this show too much. It's so funny because I'm like, 363 00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:47,280 Speaker 1: I have to take the lessons that I learned on 364 00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:50,679 Speaker 1: my own show. We talk about black people frolicking. It's okay, 365 00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:52,800 Speaker 1: it's okay, it's okay. We're not used to it. We're 366 00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:54,439 Speaker 1: just not used to it, but we deserve well. I 367 00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:57,000 Speaker 1: told for teen, I said my division right now, it's 368 00:22:57,080 --> 00:23:00,399 Speaker 1: Project soft life. I'm done with hard life. Hard life 369 00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:05,920 Speaker 1: is done for me, soft luster projects, soft life. What's 370 00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:09,600 Speaker 1: the first step in life? What's the what's the first thing? 371 00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:13,320 Speaker 1: You know? What's interesting? The first thing is understanding like 372 00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:16,119 Speaker 1: the ongoing process of healing. So one of the things 373 00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:18,600 Speaker 1: that that um that Jill was talking about with the 374 00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:21,439 Speaker 1: bro Mitzfeld was that that was kind of about enlightenment, 375 00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:24,399 Speaker 1: about having a write of passage. And for me, I 376 00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:27,680 Speaker 1: found out that so much of what I was trying 377 00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:30,439 Speaker 1: to do with my kids, which ended up kind of 378 00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:35,000 Speaker 1: coming into our summer activities, was around healing and the 379 00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:38,040 Speaker 1: process of healing. And I just want to make sure 380 00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:40,560 Speaker 1: that I'm clear on this, is that that I've been 381 00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:42,959 Speaker 1: in a in a healing process since the loss of 382 00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:46,119 Speaker 1: my parents, since the pandemic. My children have been in 383 00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:49,520 Speaker 1: the healing process from losing their grandparents, but then also 384 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:54,479 Speaker 1: from just the experience of the pandemic itself. My children 385 00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:56,359 Speaker 1: have all gone through some major kind of changes in 386 00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:59,399 Speaker 1: terms of people have ended their high school careers during 387 00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:02,120 Speaker 1: the pan and make people have gone off to college 388 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:04,200 Speaker 1: and blah blah blah. So all these things have happened. 389 00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:07,600 Speaker 1: So this summer has been the first summer, and I 390 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:10,200 Speaker 1: want to really, I wanna be honest, probably in about 391 00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:15,160 Speaker 1: four years that my family has not been experiencing a 392 00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:18,640 Speaker 1: major like thing that we had to heal from as 393 00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:21,480 Speaker 1: a family, you know what I'm saying, And that we 394 00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:25,119 Speaker 1: could experience the healing in a way that felt like 395 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:27,720 Speaker 1: we were making steps out of it, you know what 396 00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:29,679 Speaker 1: I'm saying, not out of it into another kind of 397 00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:32,560 Speaker 1: stage of the healing process, which I kind of feel 398 00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:34,920 Speaker 1: like it's about redefining, you know what I mean. And 399 00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:37,399 Speaker 1: so I tell say all that to say that my 400 00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:39,640 Speaker 1: my daughters and I took a trip, but that wasn't 401 00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:42,040 Speaker 1: the only thing that happened the month of June. And 402 00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:43,760 Speaker 1: I'm gonna try to make this real quick so I 403 00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:47,600 Speaker 1: don't get long winded, But the month of June is 404 00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:52,040 Speaker 1: a transformative month for me. It really has become a 405 00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:55,000 Speaker 1: season in my life that I pay very close attention to. 406 00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:59,920 Speaker 1: Number One because it's my mother. Her birthday is June twenty. 407 00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:03,280 Speaker 1: But also my mother passed away on June twentieth, and 408 00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:07,680 Speaker 1: we actually had her homegoing on her birthday. Also, it's 409 00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:10,639 Speaker 1: the month of Father's Day, is the month of um. 410 00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,760 Speaker 1: You know that my father transitioned at the end of June, 411 00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:16,080 Speaker 1: so he the first week of July, really, but it 412 00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:18,200 Speaker 1: was also the end of June, so my parents transitioned 413 00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:20,919 Speaker 1: around the same season. So a lot of their energy 414 00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:23,959 Speaker 1: just gets very strong in present during that time period. 415 00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:27,960 Speaker 1: And it has been always in the past eight years really, 416 00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:30,359 Speaker 1: but definitely in the past four years a time I 417 00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:32,400 Speaker 1: pay a lot of close attention to you. This year 418 00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:37,240 Speaker 1: it was really powerful because my daughter, my third born, 419 00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:41,800 Speaker 1: was graduating from high school, and you know, and it's 420 00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:43,880 Speaker 1: also the month of my second daughter's birthday as well, 421 00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:47,440 Speaker 1: and she was graduating high school, and it started getting 422 00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:49,720 Speaker 1: too the month of June, and so many beautiful things 423 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,919 Speaker 1: were happening. I was getting the child ready for prim 424 00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:55,080 Speaker 1: which in a lot of ways, PRIM ends up being 425 00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:57,960 Speaker 1: like a write of passage to you know, especially for 426 00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:00,680 Speaker 1: for for for black kids. It's not just about putting 427 00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:03,440 Speaker 1: on the gown. You know. Black kids got a whole 428 00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:06,800 Speaker 1: what they called a send off, and the whole NNE 429 00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:15,800 Speaker 1: got music and I ain't gonna When I first got 430 00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:17,560 Speaker 1: the Philly, I was like, what is this ghetto ship? 431 00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:22,719 Speaker 1: But here's the thing, Just like most ghetto things, it's beautiful. 432 00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:25,879 Speaker 1: It's black people defining who they are for themselves. And 433 00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:28,040 Speaker 1: once you can step outside of what the white man 434 00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:29,879 Speaker 1: say it is and start really looking at what it 435 00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:32,240 Speaker 1: really is, then you can kind of get into it. 436 00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:35,679 Speaker 1: And doing this for my daughter after two years of 437 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:38,320 Speaker 1: them being all in the house and everything, and some 438 00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:40,880 Speaker 1: kids didn't have a prom, they didn't have a graduation, 439 00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:43,800 Speaker 1: and to know she was going to have both, we 440 00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:47,080 Speaker 1: did it up, really did it up. And going through 441 00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:50,360 Speaker 1: that process with her was amazing for me. And it 442 00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:54,760 Speaker 1: wasn't just about a dance. It was about just exchanging 443 00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:58,960 Speaker 1: ideas with her and and and going to the fittings 444 00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:01,840 Speaker 1: and deciding on colors and all of these different things. 445 00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,080 Speaker 1: And I know this sounds like something so simple, but 446 00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:07,400 Speaker 1: really it was a great experience for me. And while 447 00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:10,159 Speaker 1: it was being able to bond with her, you know. 448 00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:13,320 Speaker 1: And so then she graduated into my daughter's birthday came, 449 00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:16,679 Speaker 1: she turned twenty years old, and it made me realize 450 00:27:16,720 --> 00:27:18,960 Speaker 1: something too that out of six children, only one of 451 00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:23,800 Speaker 1: my children has had both her grandmother's present during her birth. 452 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:27,880 Speaker 1: And that's my dear, that's my oldest daughter. And when 453 00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:30,280 Speaker 1: I thought about that energy and what that meant she 454 00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:33,760 Speaker 1: had both her grandmother's present and in the doorway when 455 00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:36,520 Speaker 1: she was birthed in in her in the bedroom that 456 00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:39,240 Speaker 1: she that she ended up living in because we had 457 00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:42,639 Speaker 1: a home birth. In the hallway were all of her aunts. 458 00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:48,159 Speaker 1: So all my sisters and my husband's sisters lined the 459 00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:50,520 Speaker 1: hallway in front of the door as she was coming 460 00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:53,800 Speaker 1: into the world, and I was flanked by my mother 461 00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:57,520 Speaker 1: and my husband's mother. And when I realized what a 462 00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:00,639 Speaker 1: powerful energy that was about her coming in to the world, 463 00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:04,560 Speaker 1: it linked her to this June season in a way 464 00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:09,280 Speaker 1: that I wasn't thinking about before. So, you know, so 465 00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:11,479 Speaker 1: I don't get too complicated with it. At the end 466 00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:15,560 Speaker 1: of the day, June for me is an ancestral coming 467 00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:23,760 Speaker 1: together for me, and so that has it has defined 468 00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:26,840 Speaker 1: itself as that. It wasn't even like I you know, 469 00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:28,760 Speaker 1: there was no plan, There was no nothing. There was 470 00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:31,840 Speaker 1: just a being in tune with a kind of healing 471 00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:35,720 Speaker 1: and being in tune to listening and hearing God and 472 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:40,080 Speaker 1: hearing my ancestors and feeling them. That helped me to know, oh, 473 00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:43,200 Speaker 1: this is the time, and that is something that is 474 00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:46,520 Speaker 1: that is the africanness of us. Is that the feeling 475 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:50,480 Speaker 1: and the opening up the spirit to understanding what is 476 00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:53,240 Speaker 1: happening and being open to hearing that part of it. 477 00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:55,440 Speaker 1: So that's kind of what I feel like, you know, 478 00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,240 Speaker 1: that's that's the communication that I've been having with the 479 00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:01,280 Speaker 1: Creator around this time and round, you know, around that time. 480 00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:03,800 Speaker 1: So it culminated to a degree with this trip that 481 00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:05,960 Speaker 1: I took with my daughters, one who was turning in 482 00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:08,040 Speaker 1: twenty years old, like I said, the other who was 483 00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:12,040 Speaker 1: graduating high school. And I'm like, I have two grown daughters. 484 00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:17,160 Speaker 1: We need to take a trip. So we decided to 485 00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:19,880 Speaker 1: go to New Orleans because I love New Orleans. Number one, 486 00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:24,880 Speaker 1: because New Orleans is blackly black, black, black blackie, and 487 00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:27,320 Speaker 1: you know, I got to be someplace extra black, because 488 00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:33,160 Speaker 1: that's just the way childbroys black girl, you know what 489 00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:35,920 Speaker 1: I'm saying. And you know you could trace almost all 490 00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:40,360 Speaker 1: of American music to Congo Square. I mean, New Orleans 491 00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:46,640 Speaker 1: is a serious center of ancestral power. So we went 492 00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:51,760 Speaker 1: and it was amazing. It was amazing to eat and 493 00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:55,640 Speaker 1: to laugh and to party and to be creative with 494 00:29:56,240 --> 00:30:01,480 Speaker 1: my daughters. And I finally got the sense at um 495 00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:04,640 Speaker 1: that I was passing a thing on, you know what 496 00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:09,440 Speaker 1: I mean, and that these were women that wasn't that 497 00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:13,080 Speaker 1: was that was insane for me, because I'm like, these 498 00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:16,920 Speaker 1: are these are women and and and they're my babies 499 00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:19,320 Speaker 1: and my daughters. But for the first time I understood 500 00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:25,240 Speaker 1: I had raised black women and that was everything to me. 501 00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:30,480 Speaker 1: And I wanted so badly not to make it as 502 00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:32,800 Speaker 1: big as it was in my mind to them. I 503 00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:36,800 Speaker 1: wanted them to just experience the time with me, so 504 00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:38,800 Speaker 1: that they could go back and listen to it, I mean, 505 00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:41,760 Speaker 1: and think about it later and and then they decide 506 00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:44,880 Speaker 1: what the significance was for them. But the significance for 507 00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:49,160 Speaker 1: me was that this was the transition of my life, 508 00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:54,240 Speaker 1: that oh wow, I've gone from raising little black girls 509 00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:57,160 Speaker 1: to raising black women. And so how I talked to 510 00:30:57,200 --> 00:30:59,400 Speaker 1: them and what I talked to them about and how 511 00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:05,120 Speaker 1: I related them has changed forever. And I'm so glad 512 00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:09,360 Speaker 1: that we did something to market. And so what was 513 00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:12,640 Speaker 1: so beautiful about the season of my ancestors being in 514 00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:15,480 Speaker 1: June is that the day that we left town, and 515 00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:18,400 Speaker 1: I didn't even realize this, I scheduled the trip, and 516 00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:22,560 Speaker 1: the day that we left town, I realized that I 517 00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:24,440 Speaker 1: was scheduled to leave down the day that my mother 518 00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:29,800 Speaker 1: passed away. June the twentieth, and that that was the 519 00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:33,560 Speaker 1: anniversary of my mother's passing. And that four years prior, 520 00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:36,360 Speaker 1: I had been in the airport on that day, but 521 00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:41,880 Speaker 1: I was going to Atlanta to see my mother because 522 00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:43,800 Speaker 1: she had passed, and so I had just gotten word 523 00:31:43,840 --> 00:31:44,880 Speaker 1: that she passed. This so I had to go to 524 00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,400 Speaker 1: Atlanta and and and you know, do the business of 525 00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:50,920 Speaker 1: that with my sister. And so four years prior, I 526 00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:57,680 Speaker 1: was broken in that airport, broken. And when in four years, 527 00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:01,680 Speaker 1: you know, ahead of time, I was in such a 528 00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:07,440 Speaker 1: healing space. And I wasn't gleeful because it was a 529 00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:12,400 Speaker 1: grieving moment for me, but I felt so full because 530 00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:14,760 Speaker 1: I was like, this is a moment that will be 531 00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:17,720 Speaker 1: forever redefined for me. It won't be just about the 532 00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:21,320 Speaker 1: grief today for me now. And I had gone to 533 00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:25,160 Speaker 1: therapy before, and um, I was told that when you 534 00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:29,080 Speaker 1: have hard days, plan make plans for your hard days, 535 00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:32,160 Speaker 1: because that helps you to not have it so centered 536 00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:35,320 Speaker 1: on the harshness of it, you know. And I was 537 00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:37,480 Speaker 1: so happy because I was like, I felt like this happened, 538 00:32:37,680 --> 00:32:41,080 Speaker 1: and I felt like, oh good, redefining. And so we 539 00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:44,080 Speaker 1: jumped into it and we did have a beautiful time 540 00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:47,600 Speaker 1: and I'm grateful. Oh and one thing did happen while 541 00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:50,200 Speaker 1: we were there that I thought was pretty dope. So 542 00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:53,440 Speaker 1: my daughter who graduated, she's a singer. She sings, but 543 00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:55,320 Speaker 1: she don't want to be a singer. That's not her vibes. 544 00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:58,720 Speaker 1: But she does sing beautifully. Well, we were in New 545 00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:00,680 Speaker 1: Orleans and she got her opportun to do her first 546 00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:04,240 Speaker 1: open mic while we were there. We went to an 547 00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:06,120 Speaker 1: open mic and she didn't even tell me she was 548 00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:08,880 Speaker 1: gonna do it. She just came hover and so what 549 00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:11,000 Speaker 1: if I got up there? And then she did it, 550 00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:15,320 Speaker 1: and she got up there and she sang so beautifully. 551 00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:19,800 Speaker 1: She wasn't scared or anything. And I just in my 552 00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:22,800 Speaker 1: home girl who was with me, was like, oh baby, 553 00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:25,920 Speaker 1: I know you're about to be a mess. And I 554 00:33:26,000 --> 00:33:29,320 Speaker 1: was like, I'm gonna hold it. I'm gonna hold it. 555 00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:32,400 Speaker 1: And I and I just watched that, And I mean 556 00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:35,440 Speaker 1: I got to witness her first time on stage for real, 557 00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:39,280 Speaker 1: like in a club. I got to witness that. That 558 00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:42,320 Speaker 1: was just good for me. It was good. My mother 559 00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:45,800 Speaker 1: was in the midst, my grandmother was in the midst. 560 00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:50,320 Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. I mean they were there, they were they 561 00:33:50,320 --> 00:33:54,800 Speaker 1: were all up in all up in it, and um, 562 00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:56,280 Speaker 1: I never got to take a trip like that with 563 00:33:56,360 --> 00:34:01,760 Speaker 1: my mom and sister and and it just felt like 564 00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:06,320 Speaker 1: all the things were right, all the things were in place. 565 00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:09,879 Speaker 1: I love this for you. I love this for you 566 00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:12,440 Speaker 1: so much. Oh, I love this for you so much 567 00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:20,480 Speaker 1: because it's it's it's been heavy. Yes, it's been real heavy. Yes, 568 00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:27,439 Speaker 1: and it's sporadic. It's not necessarily only in Junie. It's 569 00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:31,759 Speaker 1: it's been it's been really heavy. And it looks like 570 00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:35,719 Speaker 1: it got lighter for you. Oh. Yes, that was a 571 00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:44,520 Speaker 1: huge release. Yeah, redefining and healing, it's it's everything. When 572 00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:47,120 Speaker 1: your focus is on the loss, When your focus is 573 00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:51,360 Speaker 1: on that, you you can't move forward, and then no 574 00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:54,680 Speaker 1: one can tell you when that time is over. It's 575 00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:58,920 Speaker 1: different for everybody, but once you can release it, and 576 00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:01,120 Speaker 1: a lot of that has to do with defining and 577 00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:05,480 Speaker 1: redefining spaces and times and places and and and and 578 00:35:05,640 --> 00:35:10,000 Speaker 1: implementing joy in a place where there was pain. That 579 00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:13,839 Speaker 1: I think is a real big deal. And and that 580 00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:16,880 Speaker 1: was that will forever be the summer of for me. 581 00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:26,080 Speaker 1: It's it's it will forever be that. We'll be back 582 00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:38,880 Speaker 1: after the break. You know how you sat there and 583 00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:42,279 Speaker 1: you watched your daughter perform for the first time, first time, 584 00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:48,680 Speaker 1: first time. Asia. It's hard for me to hold this. 585 00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:52,480 Speaker 1: It's hard. It's very hard for me. Like i'd like, 586 00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:58,040 Speaker 1: I'm trying to keep it together because I think it's 587 00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:02,319 Speaker 1: just wonderful. I really, I just think it's just it's 588 00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:09,400 Speaker 1: just wonderful. Uh boy, this is this is the reason 589 00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:13,240 Speaker 1: why we travel friends. You know, this is the reason 590 00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:16,279 Speaker 1: why you know, you put money aside. And I know 591 00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:19,279 Speaker 1: you know what you might be thinking about me. I 592 00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:24,040 Speaker 1: know the reality of my you know, my existence. But 593 00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:27,000 Speaker 1: I'm just telling you that I put money aside for 594 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:30,640 Speaker 1: two years to prepare for this trip because I wanted 595 00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:36,160 Speaker 1: it to be everything. I really didn't hear, you know, 596 00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:40,440 Speaker 1: and you know, down to the helicopter, we called a 597 00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,640 Speaker 1: couple of them because I just wanted him to see 598 00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:49,560 Speaker 1: and you know, coming from North Philadelphia, I just you know, 599 00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:52,000 Speaker 1: you don't imagine that you're going to be able to 600 00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:56,240 Speaker 1: experience world like this to you know, to this extent. 601 00:36:57,120 --> 00:37:01,800 Speaker 1: But every little bit of world you get, every little 602 00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:04,799 Speaker 1: bit of world you get, is an expansion to your 603 00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:08,719 Speaker 1: to your life, to your spirit, to your horizons, to 604 00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:14,120 Speaker 1: to It's a place to leave uh troubles. It's a 605 00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:17,880 Speaker 1: place to meet a tree and let it have it. Like, 606 00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:20,560 Speaker 1: let it have it. Go out there to that ocean 607 00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:25,839 Speaker 1: and scream your bloody screaming, hollering. Give that ocean because 608 00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:28,319 Speaker 1: it's bigger. It's bigger than you, and it's bigger than 609 00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:31,319 Speaker 1: your problem and it can handle it. You know, a 610 00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:39,600 Speaker 1: place to to release yourself and renew yourself. Yeah, I'm so, 611 00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:42,960 Speaker 1: I'm so proud of all of us. Oh girl, me too. 612 00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:45,480 Speaker 1: And let me say this too. You did the work 613 00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:48,920 Speaker 1: that was necessary for your son to see what you 614 00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:53,520 Speaker 1: wanted him to see before y'all went on that trip. See, 615 00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:55,680 Speaker 1: that is a part I don't want people to miss. 616 00:37:56,600 --> 00:37:59,360 Speaker 1: You can give a kid what you didn't have, but 617 00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:01,319 Speaker 1: if you don't do the work in order for them 618 00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:04,239 Speaker 1: to see the thing you want them to see, it's 619 00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:07,360 Speaker 1: just gonna be something that they never knew someone didn't have. 620 00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:09,480 Speaker 1: It'll just be a norm for them, which is fine. 621 00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:12,279 Speaker 1: But that thing that you really want them to get, 622 00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:16,160 Speaker 1: that's the connection. The connection that you make with your sons, 623 00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:18,719 Speaker 1: the connection that you the things in ways you teach 624 00:38:18,760 --> 00:38:21,279 Speaker 1: them to be and look at the world is he 625 00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:24,239 Speaker 1: took those tools with him on that trip. Yeah, yeah, 626 00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:27,839 Speaker 1: you feel me so yeah, yo, I was gonna say 627 00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:30,759 Speaker 1: to y'all, not for nothing. That's definitely prepared. And this 628 00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:33,000 Speaker 1: is a full circle moment because I'm listening to y'all 629 00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:35,480 Speaker 1: talk about traveling with your kids and like not and 630 00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:37,000 Speaker 1: not for nothing. Me and my mom my mom, But 631 00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:38,799 Speaker 1: like I said, as a fight tender, for forty three years, 632 00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:41,600 Speaker 1: I've traveled the world where her never on vacation, always 633 00:38:41,840 --> 00:38:43,880 Speaker 1: while she's working, but even in that sense, getting to 634 00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:46,120 Speaker 1: see her work, so we could live in this way 635 00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:49,359 Speaker 1: and travel in these ways, like in the connection that 636 00:38:49,440 --> 00:38:52,520 Speaker 1: we have now, me and Kareema. So it's funny to 637 00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:55,520 Speaker 1: hear y'all talk about that and make sense of that 638 00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:59,040 Speaker 1: as a daughter, and note that that connection that me 639 00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:01,200 Speaker 1: and Karema guy O of that came from our time 640 00:39:01,239 --> 00:39:05,359 Speaker 1: together traveling. And guess what, sometimes my grandmother was with us. 641 00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:07,960 Speaker 1: Sometimes we my mom had to work on Christmas, she 642 00:39:08,000 --> 00:39:09,600 Speaker 1: had to fly out of Brazil on Christmas. Guess what 643 00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:11,440 Speaker 1: me and Margaret was doing packing up and we was 644 00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:13,440 Speaker 1: gonna be there for Christmas. So y'all are so right, 645 00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:15,800 Speaker 1: like this is sent't you. I was just adding it 646 00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:17,160 Speaker 1: up for me I'm sorry. I had a light bulb 647 00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:20,239 Speaker 1: moment like, wow, yeah, and that's an important light bulb 648 00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:24,200 Speaker 1: mom because I think we don't know. You mentioned that 649 00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:26,759 Speaker 1: helps us to understand what will happen later down the 650 00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:30,680 Speaker 1: line and how that will impact the relationship that we 651 00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:33,840 Speaker 1: have with our kids and how it's gonna their Also 652 00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:35,919 Speaker 1: just made me go, I need to plan a trip 653 00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:40,480 Speaker 1: with Kareema understood the same thing, like I gotta go somewhere. 654 00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:44,080 Speaker 1: That was something that me and my mom and my 655 00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:46,560 Speaker 1: sister always wanted to do and we didn't get the chance. 656 00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:49,840 Speaker 1: And so you know, when everything happens for a reason, 657 00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:52,520 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But if you have that opportunity, 658 00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:56,919 Speaker 1: take But have you done it with Tasha? Not really, 659 00:39:56,960 --> 00:39:59,359 Speaker 1: we did. Me and Tasha took a trip once. See 660 00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:02,719 Speaker 1: we are is at the same age basically, so we're 661 00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:05,480 Speaker 1: just getting to the point in our lives where where 662 00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:07,680 Speaker 1: you can have freedom you start to play the pro 663 00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:11,440 Speaker 1: for sure, we definitely. I talked to her about it 664 00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:13,280 Speaker 1: when I took the girls and she was like, girl 665 00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:16,239 Speaker 1: that you know, and we were like it's all like, 666 00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:18,600 Speaker 1: you know, you know what we need to do, like 667 00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:21,359 Speaker 1: I do, I do. But when I posted about it. 668 00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:23,879 Speaker 1: I posted a photograph of me and my mom and sister, 669 00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:26,359 Speaker 1: and in the picture of me and my girls, and 670 00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:29,400 Speaker 1: I just that was crue. That was gang, you know 671 00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:32,920 Speaker 1: what I mean. That was gag. And everybody knows it's 672 00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:36,279 Speaker 1: Susan and the girls, or Agent Tasha and Susan. It's 673 00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:38,760 Speaker 1: like it's us, you know what I mean. So anyone 674 00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:41,360 Speaker 1: listen to this who knows me, they know me, my 675 00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:43,399 Speaker 1: mom and sister, gang gang, you know what I mean. 676 00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:44,960 Speaker 1: So to be there with my girls like they even 677 00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:47,880 Speaker 1: though I have four daughters and they are all amazing, 678 00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:54,040 Speaker 1: being there as a threesome like that was significant for me. Yeah, 679 00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:57,239 Speaker 1: you have so many opportunities because each time that you 680 00:40:57,320 --> 00:41:02,080 Speaker 1: travel with one of your children too, you know you're 681 00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:06,000 Speaker 1: going to have the most different experience every time. I 682 00:41:06,040 --> 00:41:10,200 Speaker 1: think that's amazing. My grandmother was born in nineteen seventeen, 683 00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:13,479 Speaker 1: and um, she had never she never rode a bike, 684 00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:18,120 Speaker 1: she never learned to swim. She stopped her her education 685 00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:23,000 Speaker 1: at sixth grade. Um, it wasn't a choice, and I 686 00:41:23,080 --> 00:41:27,680 Speaker 1: had the privilege. When she turned eighty, she says she 687 00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:31,279 Speaker 1: wanted to go to Disney World. So we went to 688 00:41:31,360 --> 00:41:35,560 Speaker 1: Disney World and the best part of it all because 689 00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:38,240 Speaker 1: it was it was a lot of organizing and making 690 00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:40,520 Speaker 1: sure that she was going to be comfortable, you know, 691 00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:43,680 Speaker 1: with a little schooter. She kept hidding people. That was funny. 692 00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:46,800 Speaker 1: But the best part of it all was her face 693 00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:53,759 Speaker 1: when she saw this guy from that ankle. I just 694 00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:57,560 Speaker 1: want to encourage you to see this guy from different angles. Friends. 695 00:41:59,160 --> 00:42:02,600 Speaker 1: It could be a buzz, it could be traded, it 696 00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:05,759 Speaker 1: could be a walk. But there's more to see and 697 00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:12,320 Speaker 1: more to do, and while we're breathing. While we're breathing, 698 00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:14,879 Speaker 1: thank you so much for listening to Jay dot Ill 699 00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:29,000 Speaker 1: the podcast as always our pleasure. Later, how do you 700 00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:35,840 Speaker 1: eat an elephant? One? By? It time? Hey listeners, it's Amber, 701 00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:39,719 Speaker 1: the producer of Jay dot Ill here. I love how 702 00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:43,319 Speaker 1: life brings us these full circle moments, and travel can 703 00:42:43,360 --> 00:42:46,160 Speaker 1: be a huge part of that. If you haven't been 704 00:42:46,200 --> 00:42:48,880 Speaker 1: convinced with these last two episodes yet, I want to 705 00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:52,040 Speaker 1: share travel in your's website with you. For some more 706 00:42:52,160 --> 00:42:55,640 Speaker 1: inspiration for your next vacation, I'll drop a link in 707 00:42:55,640 --> 00:42:58,399 Speaker 1: the show notes. You can also go back to last 708 00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:02,160 Speaker 1: week's show notes for some resources on saving for your 709 00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:18,320 Speaker 1: big trip. Hi. If you have comments on something we 710 00:43:18,440 --> 00:43:22,360 Speaker 1: said in this episode called eight six six. 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