WEBVTT - Saying Yes To Change 0:00:03.120 --> 0:00:06.800 Welcome to Deeply Well. This show is a soft place 0:00:06.860 --> 0:00:10.219 to land on your journey. A space where we explore 0:00:10.280 --> 0:00:14.060 what it truly means to live well from the inside out. 0:00:14.980 --> 0:00:21.110 Not perfectly, but honestly. This is Deeply Well. Welcome back 0:00:21.150 --> 0:00:24.810 to Deeply Well. I am your host, Devi Brown. Thank 0:00:24.850 --> 0:00:28.490 you as always for joining us. Oh my Lord, y'all, 0:00:28.530 --> 0:00:33.330 there is so much going on We are in, I 0:00:34.350 --> 0:00:36.570 think I was reading somewhere today, depending on where you 0:00:36.590 --> 0:00:38.930 hear this episode, the days are going to change a bit. 0:00:39.550 --> 0:00:45.470 But we're somewhere around the 100-day mark until 2027, 100 0:00:45.470 --> 0:00:49.270 days until the new year. And it just, God, the 0:00:49.390 --> 0:00:53.710 older you get, the faster it goes. It just blows 0:00:53.850 --> 0:00:58.400 my mind how years feel like months the older you get. 0:00:59.640 --> 0:01:02.640 Blows my mind. And also it just gets like funny 0:01:02.700 --> 0:01:06.300 to me how at different like age groups or different 0:01:06.340 --> 0:01:11.760 seasons in life, like the things about the year, they 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:14.539 start to mean different things. Like summer was always my 0:01:14.580 --> 0:01:17.680 favorite season, but now I would say fall is like, 0:01:17.780 --> 0:01:21.100 and I'm not even a pumpkin spice person. But I 0:01:21.140 --> 0:01:24.940 just love the moodiness of it and the freshness of it. 0:01:25.050 --> 0:01:27.990 And so I've been diving, I have been diving into 0:01:28.030 --> 0:01:32.370 the senses lately. I've been thinking so much about our 0:01:32.450 --> 0:01:36.380 senses and so much about seasons and, you know, just 0:01:36.450 --> 0:01:41.660 the creativity within which we can bring ourselves back to life. 0:01:41.860 --> 0:01:45.110 Like we get such an opportunity to do that. as 0:01:45.150 --> 0:01:47.850 we change the guard for every new season. So as 0:01:47.890 --> 0:01:50.470 we're kind of creeping into fall, and if you are 0:01:50.640 --> 0:01:55.420 an astrology girly like me, been into it since, my God, 0:01:55.460 --> 0:01:58.640 at least the last 25 years, I've been really seriously 0:01:58.700 --> 0:02:05.720 into it. We just got off of some major eclipse seasons. Y'all, 0:02:05.760 --> 0:02:09.840 I'm just ready for something different. When I was reading 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:15.170 today how it's 100 days until 2027, I was thinking 0:02:15.250 --> 0:02:21.359 back to the top of 2026. And this year is 0:02:21.440 --> 0:02:24.720 the year of, in Chinese New Year, it's the year 0:02:25.080 --> 0:02:27.800 of the fire horse. And I was thinking about all 0:02:27.840 --> 0:02:30.840 the symbolism that was so closely connected with that at 0:02:30.870 --> 0:02:35.750 the top of the year and how there are interpretations 0:02:36.030 --> 0:02:39.510 we don't know or don't have until the year starts 0:02:39.570 --> 0:02:41.780 to play out. So I think for those that are 0:02:41.840 --> 0:02:46.510 into astrology, we know that this is a very spicy, spicy, spicy, 0:02:46.590 --> 0:02:50.750 potent year of change. Just so many transits and changes 0:02:50.910 --> 0:02:56.149 and bringing out a lot of intense energies. I mean, 0:02:56.169 --> 0:03:00.030 but really, when is it not like that? While being alive, right? 0:03:00.470 --> 0:03:03.990 Last year felt very similarly. But I remember at the 0:03:04.030 --> 0:03:05.910 top of the year, I'm reading about year of the 0:03:05.970 --> 0:03:09.730 fire horse, and I was thinking a couple of days ago, 0:03:09.770 --> 0:03:14.020 I was like, you know what? Like this, this horse 0:03:14.860 --> 0:03:19.480 burned my ass up. The year of the fire horse 0:03:20.139 --> 0:03:24.690 for me has been less of like fast chariot energy 0:03:25.370 --> 0:03:28.190 and more of like, let me light that ass up. 0:03:29.389 --> 0:03:32.450 So it's been so, it's just so interesting. I think, 0:03:33.570 --> 0:03:34.960 you know, if you listen to the show and of course, 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:37.520 if you've read my book, I'm a grief and joy girly. 0:03:38.130 --> 0:03:40.890 I accept that both are true. I live that truth. 0:03:41.170 --> 0:03:44.690 I integrate it as much as I can. And, you know, 0:03:44.730 --> 0:03:46.190 like many of us, I have a life that has 0:03:46.230 --> 0:03:50.180 a ton of grief and challenge and my God, an 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:54.460 immense amount of miraculous energy and joy, like just unparalleled. 0:03:55.500 --> 0:04:00.800 And I am firmly set in the center of both again. 0:04:01.980 --> 0:04:08.180 Very similarly to the way I felt in 2020. So 0:04:08.220 --> 0:04:11.220 I was thinking about that too. Like I remember before 0:04:11.260 --> 0:04:14.300 we went into lockdown, we were getting into 2020. And 0:04:14.320 --> 0:04:17.530 I remember I was doing some work with Karma Gang 0:04:18.150 --> 0:04:20.410 and we were going to start, I was going to 0:04:20.450 --> 0:04:22.310 do this retreat and it was going to be called 0:04:22.310 --> 0:04:27.790 2020 Vision. And then the pandemic happened and what the 0:04:27.830 --> 0:04:30.870 hell was that? Even though I do miss it a little, honestly, 0:04:31.230 --> 0:04:34.760 I miss, I'm a homebody and I miss when everybody 0:04:34.800 --> 0:04:38.450 was a homebody. Yeah. But yeah, it's just so interesting. 0:04:38.500 --> 0:04:44.060 There is potent, potent, potent change afoot in the air 0:04:44.779 --> 0:04:51.760 in so many, many ways. And yeah, we got to 0:04:51.839 --> 0:04:55.250 accept it. We got to surrender to it. I personally 0:04:55.290 --> 0:05:00.409 am in like a really awful go of it this 0:05:00.450 --> 0:05:04.370 year and a really good go of it. It's so confusing, right? 0:05:04.810 --> 0:05:07.830 There's so many hard and amazing things happening at once. 0:05:09.390 --> 0:05:10.930 And then, you know, when I get in that kind 0:05:10.970 --> 0:05:14.479 of tizzy, I like to return and remind myself that 0:05:14.560 --> 0:05:19.680 life is all about not necessarily balancing either, but just 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:25.039 harmonizing both, allowing space for both and then seeing what 0:05:25.100 --> 0:05:27.560 comes next. So that is the kind of energy that 0:05:27.660 --> 0:05:30.290 I'm kind of coming into the fall with, that I'm 0:05:30.350 --> 0:05:36.040 walking in life with, that I'm exploring and It's really interesting. Lately, 0:05:36.060 --> 0:05:39.680 I've been getting very, very, very into Substack. I am 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:43.620 loving Substack. And I'm trying to find even more ways 0:05:43.720 --> 0:05:46.779 to add more there in a way that makes sense. 0:05:46.800 --> 0:05:49.360 Because to be quite honest, to grow and build your Substack, 0:05:50.220 --> 0:05:55.700 it is a calling of the heart. Finding time for 0:05:55.870 --> 0:06:02.830 it to build something non-lucrative in this day and age, 0:06:03.070 --> 0:06:05.820 it's you got to love it and you got to 0:06:05.839 --> 0:06:08.520 have intention and you got to have process. And so 0:06:08.720 --> 0:06:12.080 I've been really falling in love with it there and 0:06:12.140 --> 0:06:15.000 trying to find more things that I want to share there. 0:06:15.020 --> 0:06:21.990 And I'm really looking to honestly, potentially like not being 0:06:22.450 --> 0:06:27.290 anywhere else on social, maybe within the next year. We'll see. 0:06:27.330 --> 0:06:31.010 Y'all know I'm a reclusive queen. So yeah, I just 0:06:31.070 --> 0:06:35.130 don't I don't want to be for the world anymore. Um, 0:06:36.089 --> 0:06:38.190 so anyway, I've been thinking about Substack and it's been 0:06:38.230 --> 0:06:41.630 really fun sharing things in a fuller way there with 0:06:41.680 --> 0:06:45.360 a little more context and a little more opportunity to 0:06:45.560 --> 0:06:49.539 storytell past, present, and future. And so I, I put 0:06:49.580 --> 0:06:53.940 an article up a few weeks ago about friendship. Um, 0:06:56.500 --> 0:07:00.839 and what was the, what did we title that article? Um, 0:07:01.029 --> 0:07:03.510 we titled it, I love you and this, this relationship 0:07:03.529 --> 0:07:06.690 is not for me anymore. The article is titled, I 0:07:07.080 --> 0:07:10.580 love you and the relationship is not for me anymore. 0:07:11.320 --> 0:07:13.660 And we went deeper in that article based on a 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:17.100 podcast episode that I did a few weeks ago, um, 0:07:18.000 --> 0:07:21.680 answering Q and A's and specifically answering a question on 0:07:22.300 --> 0:07:24.960 how do you know if it's time to leave a 0:07:25.000 --> 0:07:28.750 relationship or if you've outgrown someone or how do you 0:07:29.700 --> 0:07:34.820 let yourself even consider that, especially if it is someone 0:07:34.850 --> 0:07:36.870 that you have known for a long time or has 0:07:36.930 --> 0:07:40.230 been in many seasons of your life. And so the 0:07:40.310 --> 0:07:45.690 response to that article was so big. And it was 0:07:45.730 --> 0:07:49.410 such a reminder that so many of us collectively are 0:07:49.610 --> 0:07:54.150 really experiencing similar themes this year that definitely lean into 0:07:54.170 --> 0:07:57.830 the themes of what eclipse season was, of Even that 0:07:57.910 --> 0:08:01.870 firehorse energy, like what needs to burn fast? That's how 0:08:01.910 --> 0:08:05.110 I've been taking it because I have needed to burn 0:08:05.190 --> 0:08:09.200 things quickly in my life this year and let some 0:08:09.260 --> 0:08:15.880 bridges just ignite. And also I know historically that like 0:08:15.980 --> 0:08:19.420 if that's the season that you're in, just say yes. 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:22.610 Just say yes to it. You don't have to understand 0:08:22.670 --> 0:08:25.050 how it's going to pan out. You don't have to 0:08:25.070 --> 0:08:28.870 have the solves, the solutions. Um, you don't even have 0:08:28.910 --> 0:08:33.550 to light the match, just say yes. And so seeing 0:08:33.590 --> 0:08:40.550 some of the responses, uh, was really, really eyeopening for me. Um, 0:08:41.610 --> 0:08:45.800 and that these are things that I think we don't 0:08:45.940 --> 0:08:49.579 talk about enough, you know, often there, there are, or 0:08:51.020 --> 0:08:53.819 maybe talk about enough outside of ourselves and our gripes. 0:08:53.940 --> 0:08:58.480 I'll say that. Um, Because when you think about the 0:08:58.559 --> 0:09:03.830 ways that people used to learn how to be human, 0:09:03.910 --> 0:09:11.170 how to be adults, how to interact really with society, right? 0:09:11.210 --> 0:09:13.589 Like I love those like back in the day books 0:09:13.650 --> 0:09:17.309 and I collect some of them like, you know, like 0:09:17.330 --> 0:09:21.840 the ones that are, you know, how to manners, you know, 0:09:21.920 --> 0:09:24.540 rules and manners, like those kind of like old timey 0:09:24.580 --> 0:09:29.620 books or books that were more related to, you know, 0:09:29.720 --> 0:09:32.960 this is how you prepare a home. This is how 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:36.319 you fix your car. This is all the things that 0:09:36.340 --> 0:09:39.020 like teach us, right? If we don't have that directly. 0:09:39.679 --> 0:09:42.520 So like in that sense, you know, I think old, 0:09:43.010 --> 0:09:46.970 older books and advice columns and things like that really 0:09:47.010 --> 0:09:53.470 kind of leaned into like the bigger generalized advice about 0:09:54.650 --> 0:09:59.430 maybe foundational behavior or about how to actually technically do 0:09:59.510 --> 0:10:04.970 or create something. But we need guides about the nuance 0:10:05.179 --> 0:10:10.829 of connections. Um, we need guides about navigating and growing wisdom, 0:10:11.130 --> 0:10:13.780 you know, um, And I think that's where I really 0:10:13.840 --> 0:10:18.360 landed with thinking about that Substack article. It's like we 0:10:18.380 --> 0:10:21.040 don't always know that we even have a right to 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:25.160 choose the kind of relationship we're in with people, the 0:10:25.220 --> 0:10:29.500 right to be acquaintances if we want to and nothing 0:10:29.580 --> 0:10:32.280 more than that, or the right to say no to 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:35.950 an offer of new friendship just as easily as we 0:10:36.110 --> 0:10:38.329 can say no to an offer of a date with 0:10:38.370 --> 0:10:41.620 someone we're not interested in. And also all the reasons 0:10:41.660 --> 0:10:45.300 that that doesn't have to mean anything significant about you 0:10:45.500 --> 0:10:48.080 or them. It doesn't have to be judgment that something's 0:10:48.140 --> 0:10:52.330 wrong with that person or wrong with you. It's just 0:10:52.990 --> 0:10:56.230 we get to make these choices and then we learn 0:10:56.270 --> 0:10:59.840 and grow and decide based on the choices that we make, 0:10:59.880 --> 0:11:05.300 you know, that will come, but we all deserve our 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:09.340 own lives. And I think after kind of reading through 0:11:09.380 --> 0:11:11.300 like the comments on that article and some of the 0:11:11.340 --> 0:11:15.160 discourse around it, one, I just, I love this for 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:19.620 all of us that we get to slow down enough 0:11:19.780 --> 0:11:24.790 to recalibrate and investigate what our agreements are with ourselves 0:11:24.830 --> 0:11:31.550 and with other people. I think it's also really special 0:11:31.590 --> 0:11:34.990 to know that once we unleash that quality within ourselves 0:11:35.070 --> 0:11:37.720 and can do that with one thing, we then open 0:11:37.790 --> 0:11:40.630 up the ability to do it with absolutely everything, with 0:11:40.750 --> 0:11:44.400 so many things in our lives. And so as we're 0:11:44.420 --> 0:11:47.059 thinking about what is the right fit for who I 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:53.780 am and my life right now, it's like, yeah, in 0:11:53.840 --> 0:11:57.530 all the ways. I've been thinking about that with absolutely everything. 0:11:57.809 --> 0:12:00.270 I went through the season of thinking about that with friendship. 0:12:02.820 --> 0:12:05.520 I've been in seasons of thinking about that, you know, 0:12:05.660 --> 0:12:11.480 with closer relationships, with work, with the way like my 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:17.850 day flows with absolutely everything. And that is truly my 0:12:17.910 --> 0:12:20.650 intention for this season of my life is I want 0:12:20.670 --> 0:12:26.550 to be in right relationship with absolutely everything. I want 0:12:26.570 --> 0:12:32.030 to be in right relationship with friendships, with colleagues, in 0:12:32.150 --> 0:12:37.809 right relationship with my mornings. I want to be in 0:12:37.970 --> 0:12:41.340 right relationship with work. I want to be in right 0:12:41.380 --> 0:12:46.200 relationship with myself. I want to be in right relationship 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:51.579 with my dreams. And I'm noticing in this season of 0:12:51.640 --> 0:12:54.959 my life how much my dreams are wrapped up in 0:12:55.720 --> 0:13:06.620 doing less, wanting to do less. I'm dreaming of doing less. Yeah, 0:13:06.880 --> 0:13:09.100 it's interesting. So this can be a really good time 0:13:09.140 --> 0:13:12.699 to investigate that because we're in fall. So we have 0:13:12.760 --> 0:13:15.500 about a quarter and then we move into winter and 0:13:15.580 --> 0:13:19.640 winter is, as I usually talk about yearly, winter is 0:13:19.980 --> 0:13:24.030 naturally hibernation. It's not the go hard or go home time. 0:13:24.190 --> 0:13:30.010 It's really the time to rest in your ideas and 0:13:30.090 --> 0:13:35.270 let yourself kind of nourish and complete certain cycles and 0:13:35.309 --> 0:13:38.490 then really get ready for spring. So as we are 0:13:38.690 --> 0:13:41.850 entering fall right this moment, start to think about some 0:13:41.870 --> 0:13:46.429 of those questions I'm asking aloud. Where are you in 0:13:46.510 --> 0:13:50.060 wrong relationship in your life? What about your life in 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:54.160 the most finite way should be allowed to change? And 0:13:54.179 --> 0:13:57.469 I think also notice that in terms of developmentally where 0:13:57.490 --> 0:13:59.790 you're at in your age, because there are certain things 0:13:59.830 --> 0:14:04.189 that we have a natural disposition and an energy and 0:14:04.210 --> 0:14:07.250 a momentum to depending on what decade we're in, right? 0:14:07.890 --> 0:14:10.310 So if you're in your 20s, this may not be 0:14:10.370 --> 0:14:15.350 your decade for rest, right? This is your decade of experimentation, 0:14:15.550 --> 0:14:19.120 of having the opportunity to kind of pick and choose 0:14:19.180 --> 0:14:21.980 and not take any one thing too, too seriously to 0:14:22.940 --> 0:14:25.720 give yourself the opportunity to change your mind a lot, 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:31.680 to really just experiment and create with friends, with work, 0:14:31.740 --> 0:14:38.120 with school, with home, with adult life. I think your 0:14:38.140 --> 0:14:41.840 30s are when you start to really go hard, like hard, hard. 0:14:42.520 --> 0:14:46.370 Not just I'm exhausted hard, like in your 20s, but 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:49.850 you add in a lot more lived experience and strategy 0:14:49.990 --> 0:14:52.450 in your 30s. So you really get to start to 0:14:53.930 --> 0:14:56.820 There's a different level of maturity inside of you and 0:14:56.840 --> 0:15:01.120 a different level of life practice that now exists in you. 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:04.120 You have muscle memory for a lot of things. It's 0:15:04.140 --> 0:15:06.820 the chance to be kind of still, if you're like 0:15:06.840 --> 0:15:11.180 in corporate settings, like young but powerful, your chance to 0:15:11.240 --> 0:15:15.090 still take a few more reckless choices because there's some 0:15:15.130 --> 0:15:18.310 time to catch up. And then in your 40s, I 0:15:18.390 --> 0:15:21.930 think if you've been kind of already working pretty hard 0:15:21.950 --> 0:15:28.100 and you get a chance to kind of recalibrate yourself 0:15:28.220 --> 0:15:31.500 in a way that work should also really be working 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:34.960 for you too. And you can get very creative because 0:15:35.000 --> 0:15:37.800 now you have like two decades or more of work 0:15:37.820 --> 0:15:41.580 history under your belt, a friendship history under your belt, 0:15:41.780 --> 0:15:48.460 of romantic experiences under your belt, that at this age 0:15:48.500 --> 0:15:53.040 you should be starting to really mine your wisdom and 0:15:54.160 --> 0:16:00.200 take advantage of the privilege of having so much lived 0:16:00.280 --> 0:16:07.450 experience and potentially contacts or opportunities and communities that you 0:16:07.490 --> 0:16:10.970 can kind of maneuver within and pull from. And you 0:16:11.010 --> 0:16:14.270 also definitely really have even more of an opportunity than 0:16:14.310 --> 0:16:18.750 in your 30s to uplift others and to bring people 0:16:18.810 --> 0:16:23.130 with you and give others opportunity and to Be wise 0:16:23.250 --> 0:16:36.570 counsel for people. I think everyone in their 20s deserves 0:16:36.630 --> 0:16:42.080 to have a safe friend, a safe, wise friend in 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:46.240 their 30s and their 40s. I think everyone in their 0:16:46.660 --> 0:16:50.060 30s deserves a safe, wise friend in their 40s and 0:16:50.100 --> 0:16:54.030 in their 50s. and beyond and beyond and beyond. I'm 0:16:54.070 --> 0:16:58.010 one of those people that has very multi-generational friendships and always, 0:16:58.050 --> 0:17:06.270 always have. So I have friends in 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 0:17:06.470 --> 0:17:10.639 even 90s. And I just get so much out of that. 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:13.800 I love that. And I love all the ways that 0:17:14.020 --> 0:17:16.679 I get to grow and become more of myself and 0:17:17.630 --> 0:17:26.189 from those different layers and mirrors and generations. So yeah, 0:17:26.450 --> 0:17:28.530 I think starting to look at that for each of 0:17:28.710 --> 0:17:33.090 us this fall, so that you can really sit with 0:17:33.109 --> 0:17:39.220 it this winter, and then potentially be in deep experimentation 0:17:39.380 --> 0:17:42.940 and new beginning. with all of it by this spring. 0:17:43.960 --> 0:17:51.960 It could be a very, very useful and important way 0:17:52.180 --> 0:18:00.410 to start looking ahead at your life. So subscribe on Substack. 0:18:00.510 --> 0:18:03.790 I say all that to say, because I want to 0:18:03.810 --> 0:18:07.949 get even more into the nuances. My Substack, if you 0:18:07.970 --> 0:18:11.230 don't know, it's called Self-Care Simplified. And That's really how 0:18:11.270 --> 0:18:13.570 I look at all of this. Like the work of boundaries, 0:18:13.630 --> 0:18:18.899 the work of, um, self-actualization, personal, personal growth, the work 0:18:19.140 --> 0:18:22.740 of mindfulness, the work of tools and practices and all 0:18:22.760 --> 0:18:25.379 of it, all of it, all of it is an 0:18:25.460 --> 0:18:28.760 ecosystem that feeds itself in your life. All of it 0:18:28.820 --> 0:18:32.400 is self-care and all of it is worthy of being 0:18:32.440 --> 0:18:36.560 like demystified and simplified. So you can actually see, um, 0:18:37.750 --> 0:18:41.600 the practical and modern application of all of it into 0:18:42.380 --> 0:18:45.100 absolutely your everyday life. So you can live it. You 0:18:45.119 --> 0:18:49.800 can be it. You can integrate and embody it. So 0:18:49.859 --> 0:18:53.480 that is what's happening over there. A couple other things 0:18:53.530 --> 0:18:56.910 I've been thinking about. My son just started third grade. 0:18:57.369 --> 0:19:01.070 He's eight years old. It is such a pleasure raising 0:19:01.130 --> 0:19:05.730 an eight-year-old. We're having so much fun. And I'm just so, 0:19:05.760 --> 0:19:09.800 I feel so like, I'm always like this, but I just, 0:19:09.880 --> 0:19:12.900 I feel so excited about my son. Like I just 0:19:13.020 --> 0:19:18.980 enjoy him so much. And like some of the ways 0:19:19.040 --> 0:19:22.640 his like personality and who he is and his interests 0:19:22.740 --> 0:19:27.240 are just evolving and springing to life. And it's just, 0:19:27.830 --> 0:19:33.890 it is so damn cool and so inspiring. And I'm 0:19:34.010 --> 0:19:38.430 so lucky and grateful that I have him. And I 0:19:38.470 --> 0:19:41.030 have this space in my own mind and my heart 0:19:41.170 --> 0:19:48.330 to really give it all to him and, yeah, be 0:19:48.450 --> 0:19:54.379 slowly present deeply. present with him, um, and observant and 0:19:54.460 --> 0:19:58.220 witnessing to all that he is. It's, it's the best y'all. 0:19:58.320 --> 0:20:02.690 It is the best. Um, yeah. So that's been, that's 0:20:02.730 --> 0:20:05.590 been really, really, really, really sweet. It's been interesting too, 0:20:05.670 --> 0:20:09.159 cause he doesn't get a ton of, um, screen time, 0:20:09.200 --> 0:20:14.359 like he gets to use his iPad to talk to 0:20:14.540 --> 0:20:18.680 two friends from school and play this one math game 0:20:20.440 --> 0:20:26.120 for about 45 minutes on Friday. And that's kind of it. 0:20:27.109 --> 0:20:28.890 And I don't know if I'm even going to keep 0:20:28.930 --> 0:20:32.070 that going. I want him to be able to understand 0:20:32.490 --> 0:20:38.180 technology and interact with his peers in a way that 0:20:38.220 --> 0:20:41.020 they're interacting. I don't want him to be behind there. 0:20:41.040 --> 0:20:45.540 And at the same time, even that little bit of 0:20:45.619 --> 0:20:49.730 screen access has added a lot of stress. I'm really 0:20:49.750 --> 0:20:52.770 interested to look up some of that. I know there's 0:20:52.830 --> 0:20:55.690 studies and articles on it. So I want to dive 0:20:55.750 --> 0:21:01.230 into some of that actually this weekend. But It's fascinating 0:21:01.450 --> 0:21:07.270 how quickly that can shape a brain and how like 0:21:07.430 --> 0:21:13.150 overwhelmed and even upset and anxiety ridden or frustrated that 0:21:13.369 --> 0:21:17.010 makes a young person's brain just so fast. So I'm 0:21:17.050 --> 0:21:21.440 not digging that. So I might be going over those agreements. 0:21:22.000 --> 0:21:24.100 But it's just interesting to see. And I'm curious to 0:21:24.140 --> 0:21:27.430 know for any other parents listening, like, Just how they're 0:21:27.470 --> 0:21:32.189 navigating that, what they think maybe the benefit of the 0:21:32.230 --> 0:21:35.250 trade-off is. Because I do also understand as parents sometimes, 0:21:35.770 --> 0:21:39.490 you need a little screen help. You might need some 0:21:39.530 --> 0:21:44.270 help or something to hold their attention, especially when out 0:21:44.310 --> 0:21:47.750 and about or if you're needing to do things. Definitely 0:21:47.770 --> 0:21:52.510 get that. And this is their only brain. We do 0:21:52.630 --> 0:21:56.210 have to make sure we are doing our due diligence. 0:21:56.859 --> 0:21:59.700 to know the effect these things that we're giving them 0:21:59.790 --> 0:22:03.630 that they think they want, but they don't really know 0:22:03.650 --> 0:22:06.490 what's happening. So we don't fully have their consent for 0:22:06.570 --> 0:22:09.010 what it could do. We need to be on top 0:22:09.030 --> 0:22:10.909 of that and we need to be vetting those things. 0:22:10.990 --> 0:22:13.450 So that's something that is just kind of like always 0:22:13.530 --> 0:22:19.159 on my mind. I've been learning a lot as a 0:22:19.340 --> 0:22:24.490 teacher this month. in ways that have been really cool. 0:22:24.650 --> 0:22:27.640 I had this opportunity to teach and do this really 0:22:27.660 --> 0:22:34.820 amazing retreat with this company, Figs. Shout out to everybody 0:22:34.880 --> 0:22:38.120 in healthcare that was already up on knowing how amazing 0:22:38.160 --> 0:22:44.100 Figs is. Figs is amazing. I was so blown away 0:22:44.160 --> 0:22:47.439 by this company and their leadership working with them and 0:22:47.580 --> 0:22:53.840 how much and how deeply they truly authentically care about 0:22:54.140 --> 0:22:59.119 healthcare professionals and how much resource they are willing to 0:22:59.180 --> 0:23:02.940 put behind that care. Like they really put their money 0:23:02.980 --> 0:23:07.449 where their mouth is. I went to this just exceptional 0:23:07.609 --> 0:23:10.209 retreat that they put together for a hundred or so 0:23:10.530 --> 0:23:14.600 of their ambassadors, which is pretty much all corners of 0:23:14.640 --> 0:23:19.969 the healthcare field, from surgeons and general doctors to nurses 0:23:20.090 --> 0:23:26.120 to caretakers, just absolutely everyone in the field. And we 0:23:26.140 --> 0:23:30.160 have this incredible retreat in Ojai, which is in California 0:23:30.180 --> 0:23:35.860 near Santa Barbara, for those that aren't familiar. And I just, 0:23:35.920 --> 0:23:39.619 I taught for a few days, nervous system regulation, meditation, 0:23:39.640 --> 0:23:44.240 and there is nothing I love more than reverse engineering, 0:23:44.580 --> 0:23:47.659 like barriers to this work. And we got to get 0:23:47.700 --> 0:23:51.500 into the fibers and I just met so many incredible 0:23:51.560 --> 0:23:55.420 people that are doing so much for all of us. 0:23:55.980 --> 0:23:59.070 They convene literally from all over the country and from 0:23:59.350 --> 0:24:01.750 all over the globe. There were people traveling in from 0:24:02.230 --> 0:24:05.730 so many other continents. And to just get to really 0:24:05.869 --> 0:24:11.729 know and learn and understand more about this group of 0:24:12.090 --> 0:24:15.030 human beings that give all of us so much that 0:24:15.150 --> 0:24:20.550 we go to in crisis, in fear, in emergency, and 0:24:21.290 --> 0:24:24.490 to really get to know them and what they walk 0:24:24.550 --> 0:24:27.770 with and what they need. It was just so amazing. 0:24:28.070 --> 0:24:29.470 Oh my God, I loved it. I loved it. I 0:24:29.590 --> 0:24:34.100 loved it. I love to teach and I love to learn. Yeah, 0:24:35.500 --> 0:24:38.480 so that was amazing. And then I loved all the 0:24:38.520 --> 0:24:41.150 gear that I got too. That The Figs gear, though 0:24:41.170 --> 0:24:43.949 I am not a healthcare professional, you will see me 0:24:43.990 --> 0:24:46.689 wearing it on all my flights. You'll see me wearing 0:24:46.750 --> 0:24:51.780 it to drop off, especially their compression socks. Like, ah, 0:24:52.359 --> 0:24:58.639 so good. So that was really special this month. And yeah, 0:24:58.660 --> 0:25:02.040 I just love getting in there. And then we brought 0:25:02.200 --> 0:25:08.330 Wellness Oasis to London this month, which was insane. Insane. 0:25:09.109 --> 0:25:12.409 For those that know, I'm the chief impact officer and 0:25:12.430 --> 0:25:17.080 the host and a partner in Wellness Oasis with my very, very, very, 0:25:17.300 --> 0:25:21.920 very dear friend and also my agent, Jared Schoenfeld. And 0:25:22.100 --> 0:25:29.420 he has created this community, this just beautiful platform of 0:25:29.980 --> 0:25:35.070 deep learning and experience. We've been doing this since 2023. 0:25:35.070 --> 0:25:39.810 We have the amazing, we've had some just amazing experiences 0:25:40.570 --> 0:25:43.310 at Cannes every year, at Art Basel every year, and 0:25:43.350 --> 0:25:47.389 we've done some pop-ups in New York and Austin and 0:25:47.430 --> 0:25:52.350 Los Angeles. And we've curated these rooms and communities of 0:25:52.410 --> 0:26:00.379 people that are taking understanding of well-being, longevity, wellness, mental health, 0:26:01.060 --> 0:26:04.980 mental illness, to deeper levels. Like we get really into 0:26:05.000 --> 0:26:08.119 the nuance. We have some incredibly special people that join 0:26:08.240 --> 0:26:13.570 us and just conversations that are mind-blowingly expansive and a 0:26:13.630 --> 0:26:16.730 lot of activation so that you can really try and 0:26:16.830 --> 0:26:21.310 test out tools for nervous system regulation, tools for health, 0:26:22.430 --> 0:26:26.850 tools for peace. And so we brought that for the 0:26:27.010 --> 0:26:29.710 very first time to London. I actually just got back 0:26:29.750 --> 0:26:33.230 a few days ago and it was exceptional. And one 0:26:33.270 --> 0:26:37.919 of the things that we were in partnership with Buckman Philanthropies, 0:26:38.020 --> 0:26:43.639 which is this incredible philanthropic arm led by Daria Buckman, 0:26:44.040 --> 0:26:48.240 where they are just looking to deeply serve women and 0:26:48.359 --> 0:26:52.990 children in emotional health and other arms of wellness. And 0:26:53.109 --> 0:26:57.870 so they partnered with us on this really, really special launch. 0:26:58.230 --> 0:27:01.080 And We had a few hundred people come out. I 0:27:01.900 --> 0:27:04.820 was able to speak with so many wonderful voices in 0:27:04.840 --> 0:27:09.360 the space and friends in the space. I had Emma 0:27:09.420 --> 0:27:13.090 Greed joined us actually as a surprise fireside chat with 0:27:13.119 --> 0:27:17.169 me that we did. And I really enjoyed it. And 0:27:17.190 --> 0:27:20.010 I know that there were all these soundbites about things 0:27:20.050 --> 0:27:21.990 she had said about motherhood that had been kind of 0:27:22.050 --> 0:27:25.660 circulating the internet that I heard. And in this conversation, 0:27:25.800 --> 0:27:27.780 she and I actually were able to go a lot 0:27:27.880 --> 0:27:31.320 deeper in her love for her children and in her 0:27:31.380 --> 0:27:35.260 philosophy on parenting. And I was just, I was really, 0:27:35.300 --> 0:27:41.500 really moved. She's a really authentic woman, obviously incredibly strategic 0:27:41.600 --> 0:27:44.800 and successful and just brilliant. And I was really, really 0:27:44.840 --> 0:27:50.379 moved by that conversation and the genuineness and the authenticity 0:27:50.820 --> 0:27:54.600 of like the very deep, real work that she's done 0:27:54.660 --> 0:27:57.490 on herself. So we started the morning. My day was from, 0:27:57.510 --> 0:28:00.550 I think I did interviews from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m., 0:28:01.490 --> 0:28:06.650 which is a long day. But I really wasn't tired. 0:28:06.730 --> 0:28:11.100 And it just reminded me, I kind of activated all 0:28:11.160 --> 0:28:14.280 the muscle memory from my FM radio days and hosting 0:28:14.320 --> 0:28:17.359 concerts and events and just having those really kind of 0:28:17.460 --> 0:28:22.240 long days where you're in it and but it was amazing. 0:28:22.510 --> 0:28:25.610