WEBVTT - INTERVIEW: Kenya Moore Speaks On Acting, Finalizing Her Divorce, RHOA Ratings + More 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.880 Wake that ass up in the morning. Breakfast Club Morning. 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:08.159 Everybody is the dj n V Charlamagne de goud We 0:00:08.200 --> 0:00:10.160 are the Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:10.600 the building. 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:14.320 Thank you. 0:00:14.400 --> 0:00:15.880 Yeah, how are you feeling this morning? 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:16.639 I feel good? 0:00:16.920 --> 0:00:22.080 You look good, look good. No sleep but you know, yes, 0:00:22.280 --> 0:00:23.680 four am, my daughter's here. 0:00:23.880 --> 0:00:24.160 Okay. 0:00:24.560 --> 0:00:30.120 So she helicopters in the bed, you know, turns around, turns, 0:00:29.840 --> 0:00:34.120 she twirls in the bed. She's five. She just turned five. Yeah, 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:37.800 she just turned five. So yes, we had like a. 0:00:37.720 --> 0:00:42.560 Wonderful birthday party for her. She was a princess Disney princesses. 0:00:42.040 --> 0:00:45.200 And to expect nothing other than that. 0:00:48.960 --> 0:00:51.400 Change, you know, custom everything. 0:00:51.479 --> 0:00:52.960 And I know you when you start, when you talk 0:00:53.000 --> 0:00:54.480 about being tired, you put your head down, like. 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:02.319 Well, you're here for the Carlicia Gather's story. Yes, yeah, 0:01:02.400 --> 0:01:05.039 for people that don't know, break down who she is. 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:07.800 She was a young lady abducted and yes, she was 0:01:07.840 --> 0:01:10.120 smart enough to leave clues, so break it down and 0:01:10.120 --> 0:01:11.479 police were able to find an abduct them. 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:12.520 I mean, you just told the story. 0:01:17.959 --> 0:01:21.720 No, So it's the Carlicia Gather story. Abducted off the street. 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:24.720 It's a lifetime movie. It's gonna be premiering on Saturday. 0:01:24.760 --> 0:01:27.880 We're so excited. I'm so excited. But it was a 0:01:27.880 --> 0:01:28.319 young lady. 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:30.960 It was like all in the news. She's from Philadelphia. 0:01:31.680 --> 0:01:34.640 She was a nurse's assistant. She was twenty two, and 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:38.560 she was walking home after a family gathering and there 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:44.280 was this you know, crazy guy, psycho killer rapist who 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:47.240 basically snatchers. You know, you tell your kids, you know, 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:49.440 you better be careful with somebody can snatch her ass, 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:51.520 and that's exactly what happened. 0:01:51.880 --> 0:01:54.360 He forced her into the car, but she was smart 0:01:54.480 --> 0:01:57.559 enough that she started leaving little clues, like. 0:01:59.120 --> 0:02:02.480 Making him like go to the ATM machine and use 0:02:02.520 --> 0:02:05.680 her her ATM car to you know. So of course 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:09.360 there's a trail on that she dropped certain things that 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:11.160 they would get out of the store, like. 0:02:11.120 --> 0:02:13.800 Her her cut, her handcuffs and things like that. 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:18.160 So she was just like really really cognizant of I 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:20.120 need you guys to find me, and this is how 0:02:20.160 --> 0:02:23.160 you can. So she was just leaving clues and she 0:02:23.240 --> 0:02:31.000 ended up getting rescued within seven seventy two hours. Yeah, yeah, 0:02:31.040 --> 0:02:34.079 it was intense. So I play her mom, I know, yes, yes, 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:36.880 I know. I look too young to play this girl's. 0:02:36.600 --> 0:02:40.480 Mom because we was definitely gonna say that, okay. 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:41.919 And the mom's name is Keisha. 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:45.799 Yeah, her name is Keisha, and she was just really determined, 0:02:45.960 --> 0:02:47.560 really determined. 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:48.120 To find her child. 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:51.040 And the one thing about this story is, you know, 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:54.720 when we come up missing black women, black girls, the 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:57.120 news coverage is not there. It's just like such a 0:02:57.160 --> 0:03:00.200 disparity and the way they cover us going missing and 0:03:00.280 --> 0:03:05.600 the way they cover other people going missing, so yes, others, 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:09.680 And so I love this for us, I love this 0:03:09.760 --> 0:03:12.440 for a lifetime because they've like taken on this initiative 0:03:13.080 --> 0:03:17.079 to highlight all of these black girls missing stories and 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:18.040 like a series. 0:03:17.760 --> 0:03:18.840 Of lifetime is doing. 0:03:20.080 --> 0:03:23.119 But yeah, but her back to you know, the role 0:03:23.160 --> 0:03:25.240 that I play, it's a really serious role for me, 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:27.200 is one of like I haven't been a lead in 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:27.799 a movie in. 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:32.639 A long time, so I'm just excited. You know. She's tough, she's. 0:03:32.480 --> 0:03:36.840 Brave, and she's like, you know, in a way, very controlled. 0:03:37.320 --> 0:03:41.960 She's a thinker, she's not like emotional, yeah, you know, 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:43.600 fall And I didn't want to play her like that. 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:47.600 I wanted to play her controlled and like methodic. 0:03:49.080 --> 0:03:50.360 Did you get a chance to talk to mom and. 0:03:51.720 --> 0:03:54.440 No, no, they've been active, Like, you know, the story 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:56.520 is pretty fresh, so she's not. 0:03:58.200 --> 0:03:59.360 She didn't come to the set. 0:03:59.600 --> 0:04:03.440 She's but she's been talking to producers and writers Carlsha. 0:04:05.040 --> 0:04:07.760 But it's really, you know, it's still really kind of fresh. 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:09.480 So I don't know if you'll ever like really talk 0:04:09.520 --> 0:04:10.480 to her see her anytimes. 0:04:10.520 --> 0:04:12.680 Did you get to meet Carlsia. How involved was she? 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:13.680 No? Not not either. 0:04:13.720 --> 0:04:16.080 No, Carlish is the one who's been like giving her, 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:18.919 you know, her accounting of what happened. 0:04:18.920 --> 0:04:22.680 But uh, yeah, she hasn't been seen. She may show up, 0:04:22.720 --> 0:04:23.440 but I'm not sure. 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:25.800 But I just respect the fact that through all the 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:30.120 pain and I mean the ordeal, that the man almost 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:35.120 killed her, he raped her multiple times, so she survived 0:04:35.160 --> 0:04:38.480 and she was determined, like her sole focus was I 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:39.719 need to get home to my family. 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:41.760 Did you take this role after I can't remember the 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:43.839 lady's name, but after the girl who was on the 0:04:43.880 --> 0:04:45.160 side of the road, so has she's seen a white 0:04:45.200 --> 0:04:46.080 baby walking down? 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:49.440 That was I shot it. Yeah, I shot it before. 0:04:49.880 --> 0:04:53.880 I shot it before, but imagine like they're kind of parallel, 0:04:53.920 --> 0:04:56.000 but obviously one was lying. But the fact that she 0:04:56.080 --> 0:04:59.839 was trying to capitalize off of like someone kidnapping her, 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:00.920 abducting her. 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:03.200 So that was like and then to see a real story, 0:05:03.279 --> 0:05:06.760 yeah like this, yes, slay out like that that it 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:07.400 has to be. 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:08.640 I just make it feel. 0:05:08.480 --> 0:05:12.560 Bad exactly, like, girl, this stuff is really happening. Girls 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:14.800 are not coming home and you over heere playing with us, 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:15.799 playing in our faces. 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:20.080 So as a mother, how did you relate to the role, Like, 0:05:20.080 --> 0:05:21.640 how did it do? Was it very sensitive for you 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:23.600 some parts just because you are a mom? 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:29.479 Yeah, it was tough because in my mind I put 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:31.479 the script down when I read it the first time. 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:34.640 I think I read ten pages and then I was like, oh, 0:05:34.640 --> 0:05:35.320 I can't do this. 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:37.680 I was like, yeah, no, this one is not for. 0:05:37.680 --> 0:05:41.680 Me, because it did like hit close to home. I 0:05:41.720 --> 0:05:44.680 think a mother's biggest fear, especially a mother of a 0:05:44.800 --> 0:05:50.640 of a of a daughter, a girl, you want to 0:05:50.680 --> 0:05:53.520 protect them at all costs, and your biggest fear is 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:56.000 something will happen to them. 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:59.520 And so when I read the first scenes of. 0:05:59.360 --> 0:06:03.520 Her being matched, her being you know, raped, all that stuff, 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:05.320 I was like, oh, I can't, I can't do this, 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:08.560 you know, And then I thought about, Okay, let me 0:06:09.279 --> 0:06:11.760 why why did this script come to me? Because I 0:06:11.760 --> 0:06:15.760 think it's a higher it's it's it's it's a deeper reason. 0:06:15.480 --> 0:06:17.520 Why projects come to you or work come to you. 0:06:17.640 --> 0:06:20.800 I think it's divine steps. So I said, let me, 0:06:20.960 --> 0:06:23.040 let me look at this in a different way. Why 0:06:23.080 --> 0:06:23.920 should I do it? 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:24.720 Awareness? 0:06:25.000 --> 0:06:28.720 Yeah? Awareness, because honestly, the way that the story is 0:06:28.760 --> 0:06:33.200 written in the movie Unfold, it will save lives. If 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:36.480 you watch this movie, you will get ahead. 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:39.839 Of situations, you will avoid situations, you will know what 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:43.520 to do in situations to basically survive and get back home. 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:44.120 You know. 0:06:45.560 --> 0:06:47.640 So I said, you know, if I can help to 0:06:48.200 --> 0:06:51.440 save lives, especially with girls and women who look like me, 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:54.880 that's that's all the reason I needed to like overcome 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:55.320 my fear. 0:06:55.480 --> 0:06:57.479 I wont how triggering this is for the family, like 0:06:57.520 --> 0:06:59.799 when they watch it, and and for you know, Carlicia, 0:06:59.839 --> 0:07:01.800 like she watches it like you kind of got to 0:07:01.800 --> 0:07:02.560 relive all of that. 0:07:02.839 --> 0:07:04.839 Yeah you do. I don't know. 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:08.320 You know, we haven't had an opportunity to talk to her, 0:07:08.360 --> 0:07:10.200 but I think she was just so brave to tell 0:07:10.240 --> 0:07:13.640 her story. But she has two kids, you know, I 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:15.600 know that she's focusing on that. 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:17.800 And she had kids before. 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:20.040 I've seen photos. 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:22.000 It's actually a photo at the end of the movie, 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:26.640 and she's the children are fairly young, two little boys, 0:07:26.680 --> 0:07:29.880 I think, so, I'm not exactly sure, but you know 0:07:29.920 --> 0:07:32.320 she's focusing on being a mom. So can you imagine 0:07:32.400 --> 0:07:34.880 like being able to talk about I think she had 0:07:34.920 --> 0:07:35.360 them after. 0:07:35.920 --> 0:07:39.880 I think, yeah, well, I want to I want to ask. 0:07:40.720 --> 0:07:42.520 I know your housewives, O G. 0:07:46.560 --> 0:07:47.160 Have to ask. 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:48.920 We talked about the movie while you. 0:07:48.880 --> 0:07:57.400 Hear and Century Okay says she's not doing housewives anymore. 0:07:57.720 --> 0:07:59.240 What's your thoughts after fourteen years. 0:07:59.280 --> 0:08:00.880 I heard you behind the saying how happy you were 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:01.760 that she's not coming back. 0:08:01.880 --> 0:08:12.280 Now, you know, Charlotte was bubblings and rumblings. 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:15.680 You know, no, so I knew she had told me 0:08:15.960 --> 0:08:18.160 before that she had made the decision. 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:21.080 And sometimes you. 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:22.720 Know, you need you may need a break. You know, 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:26.040 she's doing a lot of things. That girl is a. 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:29.320 Mini Mogo, you know she's doing She's got her hands 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:34.559 and some of everything, and she's very successful. And honestly, money. 0:08:34.360 --> 0:08:40.120 Just matriculates around Kenny. You know, for years, Kenny, she's 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:42.640 got the Midas touch. Whatever she touches turns to goal. 0:08:42.760 --> 0:08:46.080 So she is going to be obviously all right financially, 0:08:46.160 --> 0:08:47.960 I think she might just be like, you know, I 0:08:47.960 --> 0:08:50.040 want to explore some other things. I think it's because 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:52.360 they did take so long to try to figure out 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:54.839 who's coming back, what are they doing with the cast? 0:08:54.920 --> 0:08:58.120 So I'm happy for you know, I think she's chasing 0:08:58.160 --> 0:08:58.760 her dreams. 0:08:58.800 --> 0:09:03.160 She's happy, her relationship is great, her family is good. 0:09:04.040 --> 0:09:05.920 I remember, now, they were getting rid of everybody at 0:09:05.920 --> 0:09:06.760 one point, didn't they. 0:09:06.880 --> 0:09:12.120 There were rumors, they didn't announce, there were rumors, but everybody. Yeah, No, 0:09:12.240 --> 0:09:15.080 they were trying to do like they were saying that 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:17.679 they possibly could do a recast like New York did. 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:19.760 But I'm like, nah, you can't get it, get rid 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:20.240 of everyone. 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:24.439 It's too many, like network, you know what I mean. 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:25.760 We were the. 0:09:25.760 --> 0:09:30.200 Crown jewel of Bravo above all the other shows. So hopefully, 0:09:30.320 --> 0:09:31.360 you know, we can get back to that. 0:09:33.360 --> 0:09:34.559 Say people saying the ratings were low. 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:38.520 See, that's that is a complete lie. The ratings never drive. 0:09:38.600 --> 0:09:41.520 We are actually doing We're in the top five of 0:09:41.640 --> 0:09:43.800 all of the shows on Bravo, So how are our 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:48.200 ratings doing poorly? That's just again things people say because 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:51.520 of their perception of what they're you know, what they're 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:54.120 looking at in terms of, oh, well, I don't like 0:09:54.200 --> 0:09:57.360 this season, in which you know, people always complain about seasons, 0:09:57.760 --> 0:09:59.640 and then they'll start saying, yeah, that's why the ratings 0:09:59.640 --> 0:09:59.920 are love. 0:10:00.080 --> 0:10:01.600 But they're comparing. 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:05.280 They have to look at the ratings for the network 0:10:05.400 --> 0:10:08.440 and how people are watching TV now. So before they 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:11.880 would always release live ratings, but the ratings count their 0:10:11.920 --> 0:10:15.319 plus ten numbers, so their plus three, their plus sevens, 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:16.000 they're plus ten. 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:17.320 That's what they look at. 0:10:17.679 --> 0:10:20.840 And even our live ratings are again on par with 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:23.600 the top five on the entire network. So what do 0:10:23.679 --> 0:10:25.320 you it's just rumors people. 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:28.000 I believe that they like to be in the comments 0:10:28.000 --> 0:10:37.920 and that that is the comments people, you know, and 0:10:38.160 --> 0:10:40.280 people say that, but you know, people have their favorites 0:10:40.320 --> 0:10:44.560 and everything opinionated. But I want to ask you, it 0:10:44.640 --> 0:10:49.439 took you three years to finalize your divorce? Well, congratulations, 0:10:50.120 --> 0:10:57.760 thank you. 0:11:00.320 --> 0:11:06.040 This is. 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:05.160 There. 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:08.400 I love it. Look it's amazing. 0:11:08.640 --> 0:11:11.679 Why the judge still didn't sign off yet, So the 0:11:11.679 --> 0:11:14.280 paperwork is there. So I'm waiting every day, I'm checking 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:18.959 online to see if he signed off. He didn't get foolishness, 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:22.200 you know, I'm one I'm very sensible. Like I know 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:24.640 what y'all might think of me on TV or whatever, 0:11:24.960 --> 0:11:29.040 I'm on a show, but I am very reasonable if 0:11:29.080 --> 0:11:31.000 you sit down and you talk to me and you 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:31.520 make sense. 0:11:31.559 --> 0:11:34.400 Okay. I didn't think we should ever go to court. 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:37.200 I think we didn't have any property together, we didn't 0:11:37.200 --> 0:11:38.200 build anything together. 0:11:38.280 --> 0:11:38.960 We had a child. 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:40.800 We can agree on the child support because he was 0:11:40.840 --> 0:11:43.079 already paying a number already. 0:11:43.280 --> 0:11:44.240 I'm like, I'll take this. 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:48.080 I'm not gonna ask for more or less, and let's 0:11:48.160 --> 0:11:50.640 just you come in and you leave with what you 0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:52.320 came in, you know with, you leave with what you 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:54.280 came in with, and that's what it should have been. 0:11:54.320 --> 0:11:57.400 And I don't think that all the money that we 0:11:57.520 --> 0:12:01.880 spent for him fighting me, he ended up with less 0:12:01.880 --> 0:12:02.959 than what he started with. 0:12:03.120 --> 0:12:05.840 And I'm out of three years of tuition for my 0:12:05.960 --> 0:12:06.400 child to. 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:06.800 Go to school. 0:12:07.000 --> 0:12:08.160 So he wanted more? 0:12:08.640 --> 0:12:09.240 What did he want? 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:11.640 Because it seems like like you said, you come in 0:12:11.679 --> 0:12:13.440 with I can that's what he wanted. 0:12:13.520 --> 0:12:15.280 Drama. He wanted drama. 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:18.679 He started off the line just kept moving whenever, and 0:12:18.720 --> 0:12:19.480 at some point I. 0:12:19.400 --> 0:12:21.160 Was like, here you go, this is what you want. 0:12:21.559 --> 0:12:25.079 Here you go, and the line kept being moved on 0:12:25.120 --> 0:12:25.679 what he wanted. 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:26.880 Then it was this, then it was that, and then 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:27.920 he had the nerve to want. 0:12:27.960 --> 0:12:29.640 Now you remember how he was saying he didn't want 0:12:29.640 --> 0:12:32.480 to be on TV, okay, and then so he at 0:12:32.480 --> 0:12:36.200 the end he supposedly had some opportunity to be on 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:37.280 TV and he wanted to. 0:12:37.240 --> 0:12:38.240 Film with my daughter. 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:41.040 And I was like, but that's why I sued you 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:43.840 to begin with, because you you wouldn't sign the release 0:12:43.880 --> 0:12:45.800 for Brooklyn to film with me, someone who's been on 0:12:45.840 --> 0:12:49.800 the show for ten years. And then you want to say, oh, well, 0:12:49.840 --> 0:12:54.000 if I go, I'm taking Brooklyn with me. So I'm like, yeah, no, no, no, 0:12:54.280 --> 0:12:57.960 that's the one thing I stood on business with Yeah, 0:12:58.000 --> 0:12:59.360 because I'm like, that's the. 0:12:59.320 --> 0:13:00.400 One thing you're not gonna take. 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:02.199 I take care of this child twenty four to seven, 0:13:02.559 --> 0:13:05.839 and it is my right as the primary custodio parent 0:13:06.120 --> 0:13:08.040 to be able to allow her to do whatever I 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:14.320 want her to do. And he tried to basically remove 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:17.640 that right for me when it comes to him because 0:13:17.640 --> 0:13:19.280 he wanted to do his little TV show. 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:21.240 Yeah, because that there was a statement that he tried 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:22.599 to undo your rights. 0:13:22.600 --> 0:13:22.880 He did. 0:13:23.480 --> 0:13:25.400 Yeah, when it comes to that yeah. 0:13:25.640 --> 0:13:30.160 Yeah, he supposedly he told me that, yeah, that they 0:13:30.160 --> 0:13:32.920 were filming he wanted Brooklyn the film or. 0:13:33.400 --> 0:13:37.800 He doesn't say a lot of details on purpose. So 0:13:38.120 --> 0:13:39.480 but now I have soul custodies. 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:41.040 I was gonna say, is he still doing that? Okay? 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:43.200 No, no, the judge awarded me sold custody. 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:44.680 It sound like he didn't want to let you go. 0:13:45.160 --> 0:13:47.240 It was that he didn't want he wanted his marriage. 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:49.440 I know people see and say things a lot of 0:13:49.440 --> 0:13:50.520 crazy stuff on TV. 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:52.720 At the end of the day, that man will not 0:13:52.800 --> 0:13:55.839 sign those papers. Because if you want somebody to leave, sure, 0:13:56.160 --> 0:13:58.520 and y'all don't have anything together. Why are you sitting 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:01.480 here fighting. I'm not with you about child support? What 0:14:01.520 --> 0:14:02.280 else is there? 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:04.439 Why can't he just be honest about it? Why can't 0:14:04.440 --> 0:14:05.600 he just come to you and say, can you I want 0:14:05.600 --> 0:14:05.800 to work? 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:09.920 He did, He did, he did before, and and I 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:12.280 was just like at some point I was like, it's 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:15.760 too toxic. They're not doing the work. You know, he 0:14:15.800 --> 0:14:18.280 wasn't doing the work to me. He needed he needed 0:14:18.320 --> 0:14:21.400 to go to therapy, and then we needed to go together. 0:14:21.800 --> 0:14:24.240 I always go to therapy, you know, I think that 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:25.120 it's a great thing. 0:14:25.200 --> 0:14:29.360 I think so many years it's been like this dark 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:32.600 stigma of you know, black people think, you know, oh therapy, 0:14:32.680 --> 0:14:34.840 When are you crazy? You know, saying things like that, 0:14:35.120 --> 0:14:39.680 But it is so beneficial to to just learning about yourself, 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:43.400 how you interact with people. It's just necessary. So I 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:45.680 was just like, well, you keep saying you want the marriage, 0:14:45.680 --> 0:14:47.440 but you're not doing the work. And then at some 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:50.800 point I was just like, yeah, I'm okay, Yeah. 0:14:50.840 --> 0:14:51.320 I'm okay. 0:14:51.440 --> 0:14:52.680 What if he started doing the work now? 0:14:53.040 --> 0:14:55.120 Oh well, apparently he has a fiance now, so I 0:14:55.120 --> 0:15:03.880 don't know. Is she she's not black? 0:15:08.680 --> 0:15:11.040 Jesus, how you feel about that? 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:13.200 Come through with the breakfast club ex. 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:20.640 How do you feel about him and his wife? 0:15:24.160 --> 0:15:27.160 Right races? I don't really care what she is. Good 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:29.080 good luck to her, that's you know. 0:15:29.840 --> 0:15:31.080 And at some point that's all you can do is 0:15:31.920 --> 0:15:34.400 I wish you well, it's not my problem anymore. 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:37.960 Please Judge, hurry up inside my papers. And then that's it, 0:15:38.120 --> 0:15:40.880 you know. I just feel a relief like this is 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:42.560 like the new era of me. I'm going to do 0:15:42.640 --> 0:15:44.600 any and everything that I want to do. I feel 0:15:44.600 --> 0:15:49.080 like when you have someone taking up that space in 0:15:49.120 --> 0:15:51.400 your life, you can't have anybody else come feel it 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:52.560 because there's no space there. 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:55.120 They always in the back of your mind, you know, 0:15:55.600 --> 0:15:56.120 doing all. 0:15:56.080 --> 0:15:58.080 Kinds of things to try to bring you down, hurt you, 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:01.320 prevent you from thriving. And I feel like, you know what, 0:16:01.520 --> 0:16:03.400 You're not gonna hold me down anymore. 0:16:04.000 --> 0:16:05.920 So this is new era of me, you know. So 0:16:06.240 --> 0:16:08.600 I'm actually happy. It feels good. When I heard that, 0:16:08.640 --> 0:16:11.360 I just laughed. I was like, oh, girl, not girl, 0:16:11.400 --> 0:16:12.400 but you know, but yeah. 0:16:12.320 --> 0:16:22.400 Yeah, is not an issue with him at all? 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:25.720 Now, Well he doesn't see her to co parent, so 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:29.000 you don't even see her. No, Yeah, I think the 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:31.080 last time was like last year March. 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:35.200 Yeah, are you keeping that because of you? Because he's 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:36.560 just not making the effort. 0:16:36.840 --> 0:16:39.880 He's not making the effort, is you know, he's not 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:44.200 making the effort. She's here now and he's from lives 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:44.840 in Williamsburg. 0:16:45.040 --> 0:16:45.920 You had a party in New York. 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:48.640 What you said you had a birthday party? 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:53.000 You had no birthday party is in Atlanta. Yeah, he 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:56.720 lives across the bridge and she's here and he's too. 0:16:56.600 --> 0:16:57.360 Busy to see her. 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:02.520 Damn ain't being a single I don't know. 0:17:02.640 --> 0:17:06.440 Yeah, it's it's different, you know actually the days. Yeah, 0:17:06.480 --> 0:17:09.560 it's different, it's different, but you know, thanks to us. 0:17:09.560 --> 0:17:09.760 Sure. 0:17:10.560 --> 0:17:12.760 Oh it's been a lot of activity in the d N. 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:13.119 You know. 0:17:13.880 --> 0:17:19.440 You know when when he serenated, Yeah that was oh 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:20.800 so you mean like people saw the video and it 0:17:20.880 --> 0:17:21.639 was like, damn. 0:17:21.400 --> 0:17:22.000 Can you steel that? 0:17:22.320 --> 0:17:23.480 Like you forgot about this? 0:17:27.320 --> 0:17:28.680 Talked about. 0:17:32.640 --> 0:17:37.760 You know, Yeah, it was fun. Likes it's interesting. Yeah, 0:17:37.800 --> 0:17:38.959 I'm dating. I'm dating. 0:17:39.040 --> 0:17:41.399 So what if somebody take Kenya that that you that 0:17:41.480 --> 0:17:43.440 you love? I mean because I remember that list came out. 0:17:43.480 --> 0:17:45.000 They can't take you to at of Garden. 0:17:48.040 --> 0:17:52.840 Cheese you mean because she was like a cheese factory 0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:55.600 probably twice a week, like with my daughter. I mean, 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:57.280 I don't care about stuff like that. 0:17:57.560 --> 0:17:59.879 I like somebody that I can have fun with, that 0:18:00.200 --> 0:18:02.600 is a good person, that's a good partner, who can. 0:18:02.440 --> 0:18:03.119 Make you laugh. 0:18:03.280 --> 0:18:06.040 They don't have to match me dollar for dollar, you know, 0:18:06.480 --> 0:18:08.160 they just have to I don't want to take care 0:18:08.200 --> 0:18:09.760 of anybody, but. 0:18:09.680 --> 0:18:11.520 You know what I mean, be gainfully employed. 0:18:11.640 --> 0:18:14.280 But you don't have to be a mega millionaire, you 0:18:14.320 --> 0:18:16.920 know with your own yacht and private plane and all that, 0:18:16.960 --> 0:18:18.080 but just be a good person. 0:18:18.320 --> 0:18:20.520 Yes, we can eventually build and get there. 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:22.320 Yeah, you can get there together. You have to have 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:23.720 the potential and. 0:18:23.720 --> 0:18:28.439 The desire, you know, you have to be ambitious, I think, yeah, 0:18:28.560 --> 0:18:29.080 and you are. 0:18:30.000 --> 0:18:32.720 Yes, absolutely, yeah, absolutely, I love that. 0:18:32.800 --> 0:18:35.480 I love that because you hear how you know some marriages, 0:18:36.359 --> 0:18:38.200 you know, it doesn't work for women, and then they 0:18:38.280 --> 0:18:39.280 just be like, I'm not doing this. 0:18:41.000 --> 0:18:44.880 Yeah, and then here she got married three years later. 0:18:45.560 --> 0:18:49.040 You just can't let one. You can't break my soul. Yeah, 0:18:50.359 --> 0:18:51.359 you can't break my soul. 0:18:51.600 --> 0:18:53.879