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Speaker 2: Eventually, we're gonna do it.

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Speaker 1: It's happening, it's having to end. That is why mister

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Speaker 1: b Branden, my fiance, is on the episode this week.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for joining, babe, Oh thanks thanks for having me

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Speaker 1: really because I needed a guest this week.

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Speaker 2: I'll take second place medal.

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Speaker 1: You're always my fill in when I need it. So

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Speaker 1: we are going to get into a whole bunch of

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Speaker 1: questions that everybody asked. First, shout out to Nancy and

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Speaker 1: her husband. They're celebrating this year, twenty six years together.

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Speaker 1: We go Nance and her husby husband, husby, Husby.

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Speaker 2: I want to be your husby.

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Speaker 1: You are You're about to be my husband at some point.

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Speaker 1: Let's go well you shout out all the people who

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Speaker 1: asked our questions for us.

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Speaker 2: I feel like Mamo number five. I'm about to say

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Speaker 2: out the name break it down, Baby, Sarah, Kelsey, Kylie, Amanda, Leah,

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Speaker 2: My Homie, James, Jen, Michelle, Emily, Claire, Jacqueline, Lexis, Dana Hailey, Jessica, Cassie, Chris, Alissa,

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Speaker 2: and Tracy. Thank you guys.

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Speaker 1: If we've ever doubted if I have a female audience,

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Speaker 1: you can't know there's.

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Speaker 2: Proof except for my homie James.

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Speaker 1: Shout out, James, shout out to all the ladies and

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Speaker 1: All right, it's time to get into this. Let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Let's go.

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Speaker 3: Remy's ready, naturally, there's a whole bunch of wedding questions.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, you ready to answer some wedding questions?

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Speaker 2: Absolutely?

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Speaker 1: Do you want to marry me or something?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Yes, immediately, yes.

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Speaker 2: Yesterday, I'm ready. Now we could really surprise the listeners.

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Speaker 1: Just do it on the podcast. What do you want

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Speaker 1: in the wedding versus what he wants in the wedding?

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Speaker 2: I guess I always like, I just wanted to be

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Speaker 2: we're in a beautiful place and we have beautiful photos

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Speaker 1: It was also the thing that I brought up first

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Speaker 2: And it's also I think we're learning how to communicate

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Speaker 1: You say, wedding minutes all the way up there in price.

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Speaker 1: I have not made any decisions, as he's seen. I've

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Speaker 2: You'll find clarity in it.

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Speaker 1: It don't have I know because I got you. You

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Speaker 1: Ideal place to go for your honeymoon.

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Speaker 1: We have the idea, right, we have what we really

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Speaker 1: And it's to go to South Africa. It is my

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Speaker 2: So watch ten billion tiktoks on how to not have

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Speaker 1: That's why we don't know if it will end up

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Speaker 1: South Africa. What is your favorite thing about each other?

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Speaker 1: Because I forgot my ring and it was a whole disaster,

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Speaker 2: Yes, I love the way that you love me. You

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Speaker 4: Partners forever, partners forever.

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Speaker 1: Okay, now that we've talked about all the things that

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Speaker 1: Do you feel like you could put into words what

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Speaker 1: date and everything felt like I had known you my

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00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:49,720
Speaker 1: entire life and we had It was like we'd been

440
00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 1: dating for years. That first date felt like we even

441
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:55,560
Speaker 1: took a picture on our first date that you would

442
00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 1: have thought we'd have been a couple for several months

443
00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:02,560
Speaker 1: at least, And from that moment forward, we were inseparable.

444
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:06,159
Speaker 1: So I felt it and I knew it. My body

445
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,160
Speaker 1: knew what was happening, but my brain did not catch

446
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:13,080
Speaker 1: up until everything happened with Hazel. When Hazel got sick

447
00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:16,199
Speaker 1: and I had to take her to the er and

448
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:19,720
Speaker 1: be there with her overnight and her get hospitalized for

449
00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:24,320
Speaker 1: several days, and the way that you showed up not

450
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:28,679
Speaker 1: just for me, but for her, for remy and it

451
00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:32,479
Speaker 1: solidified everything that I had already felt. I needed that

452
00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 1: final confirmation, and that was the final confirmation of this

453
00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:38,879
Speaker 1: is a person who says and does exactly what he

454
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:42,119
Speaker 1: says he's going to do. And it was everything that

455
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 1: I needed to like finally allow those last concrete walls

456
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,679
Speaker 1: to fall down. And once I did, it was like

457
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:53,320
Speaker 1: the floodgates opened. And I don't know if you felt

458
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,240
Speaker 1: a shift at that moment in time, but I think

459
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:57,560
Speaker 1: that was really the moment where I allowed myself. I

460
00:25:57,640 --> 00:26:01,920
Speaker 1: think I knew it way sooner than that, but I

461
00:26:01,960 --> 00:26:05,399
Speaker 1: don't think I allowed myself to feel it until that moment.

462
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:07,159
Speaker 1: Until that all happens.

463
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:09,920
Speaker 2: Like you gain trust in that moment, like true trust,

464
00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:14,359
Speaker 2: and that was there wasn't a huge shift for me

465
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:19,160
Speaker 2: in that moment because that's just who I always knew

466
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 2: that you were going to eventually trust me, and we

467
00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:25,040
Speaker 2: were very open and you would tell me like this

468
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:29,880
Speaker 2: is great, but and I'd be like one day, one

469
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:33,439
Speaker 2: day you'll know that there isn't another shoe. This is

470
00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:36,880
Speaker 2: who I am. This is always going to be who

471
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:40,399
Speaker 2: I am. And so in that moment, I was just

472
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:44,679
Speaker 2: being me, showing up for my family. That's what I

473
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 2: was doing in that moment, and I didn't feel like

474
00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 2: I was doing anything out of the ordinary. We were

475
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:55,480
Speaker 2: sleeping on a little jackknife sofa. It was a twin bed. Yeah,

476
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:57,520
Speaker 2: we brought some pillows in a blanket.

477
00:26:57,840 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 1: That was Remy.

478
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:01,280
Speaker 2: You're thinking of Remy, Oh, that was Remy's.

479
00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:04,000
Speaker 1: But yes, ye, still we still had to go to

480
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:06,280
Speaker 1: the same yard, but we still did lay on that

481
00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:10,600
Speaker 1: couch but different. But yes. We then had it a

482
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,919
Speaker 1: month later with Remy, and then again like only further

483
00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:18,399
Speaker 1: solidified what I was feeling like I already had that moment,

484
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 1: and then when Remy happened, I knew you had my back,

485
00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:25,880
Speaker 1: and yeah, we were I knew what I genuinely could

486
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:28,360
Speaker 1: decide at that moment that I'm going to marry this guy.

487
00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 1: I had it in my head. I definitely told my

488
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:33,560
Speaker 1: friends prior to that you were different, and I felt

489
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:37,120
Speaker 1: like this was going in that direction. But in that

490
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:39,879
Speaker 1: experience was when I said I'm going to marry this

491
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 1: guy if he asked me one day.

492
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 2: See, and even in that you're still coming back. I know,

493
00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 2: even now we're engaged and I'll say something about the

494
00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 2: future and you're like, well, if we even actually get married, Like,

495
00:27:57,119 --> 00:27:58,440
Speaker 2: what more could I do?

496
00:27:59,880 --> 00:28:03,440
Speaker 1: I have never made it incredibly easy on you, which

497
00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:07,920
Speaker 1: is made it fun leads us into our next two questions,

498
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,399
Speaker 1: how does he cope with your past trauma and concerns

499
00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 1: based on past relationships?

500
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:18,200
Speaker 2: I think I always just I'm a pretty calm person,

501
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 2: so I had a calm demeanor when you first opened

502
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:27,439
Speaker 2: up about it. And I'm not one to get super

503
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 2: jealous about talking about exes. And obviously your exes aren't

504
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 2: like shining stars, so it didn't.

505
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:37,360
Speaker 4: It helps your case, right, Yeah, But.

506
00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was just open and willing to hear everything

507
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 2: you wanted to tell me. And whether I never tried

508
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 2: to dig I never tried to even ask. It was

509
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 2: when it came up naturally, of this is a trigger

510
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:55,640
Speaker 2: for me because of this moment in my life, or

511
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 2: I really value when you do this because this is

512
00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:03,880
Speaker 2: my past experience. So I was able to use them

513
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 2: to my advantage to love you better.

514
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, you were learning a lot of lessons just through

515
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 1: the things that I had been through and understanding why

516
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:17,680
Speaker 1: I was the way that I was. You were very

517
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 1: just open and learning to understand me and cope with

518
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:24,959
Speaker 1: the things that I had been dealing with, and I

519
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 1: knew going into our relationships once I felt different, and

520
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 1: once I was feeling that, oh, this is a really

521
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 1: different relationship. I knew from a lot of the therapy

522
00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:40,560
Speaker 1: that I was in that it was going to take

523
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:43,600
Speaker 1: the right relationship to help me learn a lot of

524
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:46,560
Speaker 1: things and a lot of relationship patterns that I had

525
00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 1: just been accustomed to because of the things that I

526
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 1: constantly experienced. And you've helped me through so much of

527
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 1: that so beautifully. You've really walked through all of the

528
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 1: moments with me and allowed me to heal from them individually,

529
00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:06,959
Speaker 1: as you mentioned, as they come up and as they happen,

530
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 1: and there's still even moments where it comes up, and

531
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,640
Speaker 1: it's not because of anything he has ever done to

532
00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 1: lead me in that direction. If anybody who's ever experienced

533
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 1: trauma knows, something can trigger it, even if it's been decades,

534
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 1: or just the right amount of a certain stituation or

535
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:32,160
Speaker 1: a certain uncertain certainty or a certain feeling within yourself,

536
00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 1: and something can just click it on very quickly. And

537
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:38,959
Speaker 1: I'll still have moments of that. I'm really bad at

538
00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:45,960
Speaker 1: using humor with it, and no, right I'm like oh,

539
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 1: so you don't love me anymore? Like I'm doing it

540
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:52,760
Speaker 1: as a joke, but there's a piece of me in

541
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:55,400
Speaker 1: there that's like, Okay, maybe this is the time that's

542
00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 1: really going to be true because and I'm using humor

543
00:30:58,320 --> 00:31:02,640
Speaker 1: to deflect it because I was used to that actually

544
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:05,360
Speaker 1: happening and people leaving and people no longer being around,

545
00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 1: and so I very much use humor a lot to

546
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:15,360
Speaker 1: get through it. And he is really good about looking

547
00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:18,360
Speaker 1: at me and saying, Okay, is this you actually making

548
00:31:18,360 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 1: a funny or is this something we need to talk about?

549
00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 1: And there's been several of those times where I'm like, Okay, yeah,

550
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 1: that's probably something we should talk about, and he recognizes

551
00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:29,080
Speaker 1: it before I do, because I just make a joke

552
00:31:29,120 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 1: about it. But I'm at least good about making the

553
00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 1: joke so that I allow in the space to help

554
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:36,880
Speaker 1: me heel it, so I'll recognize that it's happening, but

555
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 1: in the form of a joke. And then he is

556
00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 1: the one who actually breaks it down to be like,

557
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 1: that wasn't a joke. That was how you feel about

558
00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 1: something that just came out. And you've been really good

559
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 1: about just seeing me and recognizing me and understanding when

560
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:55,160
Speaker 1: I am being silly funny and when I'm being funny

561
00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:59,840
Speaker 1: to protect myself, and you broke down those barriers through

562
00:31:59,880 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 1: that and you're really good about it. So take somebody

563
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:06,880
Speaker 1: having patience in the space and the willingness to walk

564
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:09,920
Speaker 1: through your hardest things with you, and I think I've

565
00:32:09,960 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 1: done that with you as well. They're just different experiences,

566
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 1: and yours come through differently than mine. You're really good about.

567
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:22,560
Speaker 1: It hits you and you just feel it and you're like, oh,

568
00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:28,080
Speaker 1: that's happening, whereas I again deflect to humor. So different

569
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 1: ways that we cope and how it comes out. But

570
00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:33,480
Speaker 1: I think we've both walked to each other through a

571
00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:37,120
Speaker 1: lot of past experiences that I don't know that either

572
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 1: of us actually thought could happen. I don't know that

573
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 1: either of us believed that somebody could walk through that

574
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:46,600
Speaker 1: pain with us and come out the other side. And

575
00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:46,960
Speaker 1: we did.

576
00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:50,600
Speaker 2: Yeah. One thing that I was open with you about

577
00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 2: at the beginning of our relationship was a common theme

578
00:32:55,640 --> 00:33:00,840
Speaker 2: in my past relationships, was just feeling unappreciated and I

579
00:33:00,880 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 2: feel like I do. I'm such a lover, I'm such

580
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:06,800
Speaker 2: a giver. So I think I mentioned it on our

581
00:33:06,840 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 2: first date. It was opening up the car door for you.

582
00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 2: We touched on that and you were like, thank you

583
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 2: so much, and then you thanked me for dinner and

584
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 2: I was like, just so you know, you just being

585
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:22,960
Speaker 2: appreciative means the world to me. And we started off

586
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 2: that that conversation was super early.

587
00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:26,320
Speaker 1: I think it was on our first date.

588
00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you're really good about showing appreciation for the

589
00:33:32,120 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 2: little things, because I do. I put a lot of

590
00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 2: thought into the little things and you coming back and

591
00:33:38,320 --> 00:33:42,320
Speaker 2: saying that was really sweet or I really appreciated when

592
00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:44,680
Speaker 2: you did this. And I'm not just looking for praise.

593
00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 2: That's not what I'm looking for. But you give me

594
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 2: constant reassurance that what I'm doing matters, and that makes

595
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:54,680
Speaker 2: you feel important in a relationship and it makes you

596
00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 2: feel like a good partner. And so that's been something

597
00:33:58,360 --> 00:33:59,680
Speaker 2: really great that you've done for me.

598
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:04,640
Speaker 1: Look at us both healing her hast broken hearts through

599
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:07,960
Speaker 1: each other, her weird habit you had to get used

600
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:09,600
Speaker 1: to and vice versa.

601
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 2: I know there's something.

602
00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:16,920
Speaker 1: I'm like shocked. I didn't just jump out.

603
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:21,640
Speaker 2: It's on the tip of my tongue holes. Oh my gosh,

604
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 2: you are always pokema butt, not just your butt though

605
00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:29,400
Speaker 2: it's yes, my nose.

606
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 1: I love every hole mouth when you.

607
00:34:34,120 --> 00:34:37,759
Speaker 2: Literally yesterday told me that you were sad all day

608
00:34:39,040 --> 00:34:41,800
Speaker 2: because you didn't have any holes to put your finger,

609
00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 2: which just sounds awful.

610
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:58,600
Speaker 1: It's not so like sexual thing either. I just I

611
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:02,840
Speaker 1: don't know what sensory problem I have, but there's.

612
00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:06,120
Speaker 2: Something labeling this sensory problem.

613
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:09,960
Speaker 1: It feels like it. That's a natural fit. I like

614
00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:12,360
Speaker 1: sicking my finger in your ear, up your nose and

615
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:15,120
Speaker 1: your mouth when you yawn. Yes, I like poking your

616
00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:17,400
Speaker 1: butt when you walk up the stairs, or just really

617
00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 1: anytime you put your butt in front of me.

618
00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 2: Sticking my hoodie strings up my nose. Yeah, I definitely

619
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:27,399
Speaker 2: I had to get used to that. I can't walk

620
00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:29,480
Speaker 2: up the stairs in front of you. That is the

621
00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:31,840
Speaker 2: danger zone. Is bad news.

622
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.

623
00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:38,279
Speaker 2: It'll be like doing the dishes after dinner, whoop like

624
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:39,880
Speaker 2: wash water everywhere.

625
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:42,520
Speaker 1: I am just such a goofy girly with you.

626
00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:47,240
Speaker 2: Really, you are goofy. And that's right after our first

627
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 2: couple of dates, and you're like, I'm letting her out

628
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 2: and you are. You're so goofy, and you're so funny.

629
00:35:56,080 --> 00:35:58,359
Speaker 2: And it's just so funny because you can go from

630
00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:02,920
Speaker 2: being so serious just an absolute goof in no time.

631
00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:05,479
Speaker 1: I think you would like to say absolute menace because

632
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 1: you've definitely called me a menace.

633
00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:08,600
Speaker 2: Before, like two times.

634
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:12,240
Speaker 1: M hm, you've called it me a menace before.

635
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 2: I ask you, do you just want to be a

636
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 2: menace right now? I'm not calling you a menace. It's

637
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 2: a question. It's different.

638
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:23,080
Speaker 1: Oh man, I don't know. I do have a lot

639
00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:24,840
Speaker 1: of weird habits. I don't know that you have a

640
00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:29,720
Speaker 1: lot of weird habits. Oh there's one that super annoys

641
00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:30,880
Speaker 1: me recently.

642
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:33,080
Speaker 2: Oh have we talked about?

643
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:35,920
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you know about this? Oh okay, it's the dishwasher.

644
00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 2: Oh I don't. Okay.

645
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 1: He always never closes the dishwasher completely. It's not that

646
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 1: it's like it's open open, but it's just open enough

647
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:48,360
Speaker 1: where it's not closed. And every time I walk like,

648
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:51,880
Speaker 1: why do you do this? He's I don't even know

649
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 1: that I'm doing it.

650
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:57,040
Speaker 2: I think. So I have a weird thing about I

651
00:36:57,080 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 2: don't like things being wet. Okay, you do to speak.

652
00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 1: About like sensory things, Yeah, you are definitely more of

653
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:06,440
Speaker 1: a sensory person. Actually, I just have a sensory thing

654
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:09,279
Speaker 1: attached to holes. Don't ask me why. There you go,

655
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 1: And it's not sexual, it's not.

656
00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:13,799
Speaker 2: I'm sure everyone not.

657
00:37:15,120 --> 00:37:17,799
Speaker 1: You're helping it's not. You know it's not.

658
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:20,719
Speaker 2: I know it's not, but I give you a hard

659
00:37:20,719 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 2: time about it. But yeah, So I don't like towels

660
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:27,200
Speaker 2: being wet. I don't like like my coffee pot in

661
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 2: the morning, like I always have to make sure I

662
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 2: dry that as much as possible. So the dishwasher just

663
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:36,760
Speaker 2: like sitting in a box with like dishes wet.

664
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:39,200
Speaker 1: They're supposed to be wet in there.

665
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:41,919
Speaker 2: They get wet when you turn it on.

666
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 1: But they're supposed to be wet anyways. Like it's fine,

667
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:49,080
Speaker 1: that's their environment in there. So how things grow and

668
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:51,319
Speaker 1: then you run a dishwasher and it gets clean.

669
00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:56,319
Speaker 2: Yeah exactly. But I don't know. So I think moving on.

670
00:37:57,239 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 2: I think over time, Like even when I was a kid,

671
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:03,360
Speaker 2: I feel like I didn't close the dishwasher all the way.

672
00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:06,320
Speaker 2: I didn't latch it shut each time. It's like closed,

673
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:08,920
Speaker 2: like it looks like it's closed, but it's just not

674
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 2: closed all the way. Yeah, and it bugs you so bad,

675
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:14,919
Speaker 2: And I'm trying to work on it. I'm digging deep.

676
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:18,319
Speaker 2: I'm trying to work on it. But sometimes when I'm

677
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 2: like running around doing the dishes, clean the kitchen, and

678
00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:22,759
Speaker 2: I just don't close it, and you come over and

679
00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:23,960
Speaker 2: you're like, that's this.

680
00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 1: I'm not a drill sergeant, And I am like, are

681
00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:29,400
Speaker 1: we for real? We've talked about it's like eight times.

682
00:38:29,480 --> 00:38:31,879
Speaker 2: So I'll work on it. I'll get better.

683
00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:35,279
Speaker 1: That is your weird quirk, though it's funny. Honestly, if

684
00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 1: it's something that you'd never change, it will be completely

685
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:39,000
Speaker 1: fine and it will be a funny running joke that

686
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:39,719
Speaker 1: we forever have.

687
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:42,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, my dishwasher, the dishwasher.

688
00:38:42,840 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 2: I'm surprised my coffee habits don't weird you out. I

689
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 2: have weird coffee habits. The guys at work always give

690
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:50,200
Speaker 2: me a hard time for what.

691
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:53,279
Speaker 1: Nothing about your coffee habits are weird to me.

692
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:58,040
Speaker 2: I brew coffee in a French press, yeah, and I

693
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:01,839
Speaker 2: drink half of the French over ice. I drink my

694
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:05,400
Speaker 2: coffee black over ice, and I drink it out of

695
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 2: a mason jar. I take mason jars out of the

696
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 2: house to work, and I just have a mason jar

697
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:15,759
Speaker 2: of coffee okay, But then I put the other half

698
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:18,879
Speaker 2: of the French press in the fridge so that when

699
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:21,040
Speaker 2: I get up the next morning, I already have cold

700
00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 2: coffee in the fridge, and I pour that coffee out,

701
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:25,400
Speaker 2: and I brew a new pot, and I drink the

702
00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 2: second half, or I drink the first half of the

703
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 2: second pot of my fruit. It's just weird. And I

704
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:34,320
Speaker 2: catch a lot of crap from the guys at work,

705
00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:36,520
Speaker 2: so I just figured that would be weird. And you

706
00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:40,239
Speaker 2: don't drink coffee, so I thought, maybe French press in

707
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:43,440
Speaker 2: the fridge, and I gotta line my coffee in a

708
00:39:43,480 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 2: special way, and no.

709
00:39:45,080 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 1: Nothing about it. Maybe the fact that you sometimes leave

710
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:50,720
Speaker 1: a little coffee drippings on the counter and don't wipe

711
00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 1: them up.

712
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:56,160
Speaker 2: I've never known that. I'm sorry, I don't mean to.

713
00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 2: I love very clean you are you.

714
00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:00,440
Speaker 1: Are, And again, these are like nitfiguring the because you

715
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:02,120
Speaker 1: have so many great qualities, I had to find things

716
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:05,359
Speaker 1: that are something's wrong right you, You're basically perfect. So yeah,

717
00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:07,719
Speaker 1: you do leave a little coffee drippings sometimes. That would

718
00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:09,759
Speaker 1: be the only thing about coffee that would necessary. But

719
00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:14,040
Speaker 1: that doesn't even really bother me. Nothing about coffee again,

720
00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:16,360
Speaker 1: probably because I'm not a coffee fan. I just don't

721
00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 1: know or care what the actual system is supposed to

722
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:20,960
Speaker 1: be like. But you might get judged for it now

723
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:21,440
Speaker 1: that you said it.

724
00:40:21,360 --> 00:40:23,719
Speaker 4: On the podcast Old Black Coffee, try it.

725
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 1: I support you in that, so it's fine.

726
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:26,839
Speaker 2: Thanks. Man.

727
00:40:30,719 --> 00:40:33,759
Speaker 1: Do we have cute nicknames for each other? I have

728
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:35,440
Speaker 1: one for you, but I don't think you have one

729
00:40:35,480 --> 00:40:38,719
Speaker 1: for me. I do call you mister B. Still you're

730
00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:42,839
Speaker 1: still mister B on my phone, and we call each

731
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:44,760
Speaker 1: other babe and my love.

732
00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:50,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't. We don't really use our names ever.

733
00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:54,240
Speaker 2: Like even you said my name on the phone today

734
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 2: and I was like I did. Yeah, You're like I'm

735
00:40:58,080 --> 00:41:01,360
Speaker 2: gonna wait. You're looking at the geographer and you're like,

736
00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:03,480
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna wait and send this to Brayden. I

737
00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 2: was like, my government name.

738
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:07,919
Speaker 1: I don't think I realized I used your government name. Sorry. Yeah,

739
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:09,919
Speaker 1: we don't use official government names around here.

740
00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:12,840
Speaker 2: I would never call you Morgan. I would call you

741
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 2: Morgan if we were with friends and Morgan said this,

742
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:20,960
Speaker 2: but at home, it's babe, baby, sweetheart.

743
00:41:20,719 --> 00:41:23,759
Speaker 4: My love, love of my life l O M L

744
00:41:24,640 --> 00:41:25,440
Speaker 4: l mL.

745
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:31,480
Speaker 2: I would never call you Morgan. Yeah, it's aggressive.

746
00:41:31,760 --> 00:41:36,560
Speaker 1: It is aggressive. Thanks for homing every just saying favorite

747
00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:37,720
Speaker 1: meal to make together?

748
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:40,719
Speaker 4: One, two three, Marry me chickpeas?

749
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:45,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, same Marry me chickpieace ironic that we made

750
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 1: that a whole bunch before we did get engaged.

751
00:41:48,360 --> 00:41:50,719
Speaker 2: That's funny because we made that video, which if you

752
00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:54,840
Speaker 2: guys have not watched the reel on Marry Me Chickpeas,

753
00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:57,880
Speaker 2: the whole recipe is there. I literally eat it for

754
00:41:57,920 --> 00:41:59,200
Speaker 2: dinner every single night.

755
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I try, And every Sunday I'll go through making

756
00:42:02,520 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 1: a grocery list, be like what should we make this week?

757
00:42:04,480 --> 00:42:08,600
Speaker 1: Because he a little saint, does my vegan gluten free

758
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:12,600
Speaker 1: eating with me, and so we make a grocery list together,

759
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 1: and every week I try and mix it up, like

760
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 1: what are we gonna have for dinner this week? He's like,

761
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:19,880
Speaker 1: marry me chickpeas. I think he wants to inject it

762
00:42:19,920 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 1: into his veins for the rest of his life.

763
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:22,799
Speaker 2: Freaking good.

764
00:42:23,120 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 1: It's such a guy thing too, to be able to

765
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:27,839
Speaker 1: eat the same meal over and over and over and

766
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:29,440
Speaker 1: over again and never get tired of it.

767
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:33,799
Speaker 2: I've ate the same lunch for three years now, that

768
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 2: is every single day and every day at one or

769
00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:41,800
Speaker 2: two o'clock, depending on how busy I am. I'm eating

770
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:43,840
Speaker 2: and I'm excited.

771
00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:46,840
Speaker 1: And I We have to fluctuate our meal changes because

772
00:42:46,840 --> 00:42:49,400
Speaker 1: of me, because if we do something two weeks in

773
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:52,239
Speaker 1: a row, after that second week, I'm over it. I

774
00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:54,200
Speaker 1: need a new meal. And he'll look at me, like

775
00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:56,120
Speaker 1: you get tired of those? I'm like, yes, because I

776
00:42:56,160 --> 00:42:58,840
Speaker 1: won't eat it. I'll make it and I'll have it

777
00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:01,120
Speaker 1: for one meal and then I'll stop eating it because

778
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:02,719
Speaker 1: I am tired of eating it.

779
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:05,399
Speaker 2: We'll all finish my dinner and I'll look over at

780
00:43:05,400 --> 00:43:08,560
Speaker 2: you and You've taken two bites and I'm like, I'm

781
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:10,840
Speaker 2: eating the rest of Marryman chick bees.

782
00:43:11,040 --> 00:43:15,399
Speaker 1: Shoot, yeah, I wish I didn't have that, but I do.

783
00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:18,480
Speaker 1: I like variety a lot my meals, but definitely Marry

784
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:20,440
Speaker 1: Me chikbies. We also have a rhythm with it, that

785
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:25,120
Speaker 1: and making breakfasts and stuff. Every Sunday when we do

786
00:43:25,239 --> 00:43:28,760
Speaker 1: meals and stuff together, we prep and do everything together.

787
00:43:28,840 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 1: It's our day that we spend together in the kitchen,

788
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:35,279
Speaker 1: and I love it because we're getting to spend time

789
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 1: together while also focused on making our lives healthier and

790
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:42,759
Speaker 1: doing meals. There's something really intimate about just making a

791
00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 1: bunch of meals together. And that's how we spend our

792
00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:47,400
Speaker 1: Sundays most of the time, and we do.

793
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:52,279
Speaker 2: It's creative too, when we try new recipes and we

794
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:54,799
Speaker 2: work really well in the kitchen together. We can jump

795
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 2: back and forth whether one of us is feeding the

796
00:43:57,560 --> 00:43:59,800
Speaker 2: girls and one of us is cooking, or one of

797
00:43:59,880 --> 00:44:02,279
Speaker 2: us is doing dishes and one of us cooking. Like,

798
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:04,160
Speaker 2: we just work really well in the kitchen.

799
00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:07,959
Speaker 1: Symbiotic relationship is.

800
00:44:07,840 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 4: That a thing?

801
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:09,480
Speaker 2: Symbiosis?

802
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:15,440
Speaker 1: Symbiotic is a thing, though too right, Yes, symbiotic, I

803
00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:15,840
Speaker 1: don't know.

804
00:44:15,920 --> 00:44:17,960
Speaker 2: Man. Symbolic it's a little bit late.

805
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:19,719
Speaker 1: Symbolic is a thing.

806
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:22,640
Speaker 2: But I'm just throwing out words.

807
00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:25,560
Speaker 1: It's late and my brain is tired.

808
00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:29,200
Speaker 2: I don't know. And we've been fasting for twenty four

809
00:44:29,200 --> 00:44:29,839
Speaker 2: hours we do.

810
00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:31,920
Speaker 1: We fast once a week together. That's another thing we

811
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:35,440
Speaker 1: do together every week. And it's funny because I'm like,

812
00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:36,799
Speaker 1: you don't have to do this with me, and every

813
00:44:36,800 --> 00:44:39,040
Speaker 1: week never feels he does the fasting with me because

814
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:41,239
Speaker 1: I fast at least for twenty four hours once a

815
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:44,400
Speaker 1: week to reset my body, make it start eating its own.

816
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 1: Bad sales all.

817
00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:46,919
Speaker 2: That good stuff thetophagy.

818
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:49,560
Speaker 1: Yes, Cara Clark taught me that if you want that

819
00:44:49,600 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 1: episode that was really cool. We talked all about that.

820
00:44:52,120 --> 00:44:55,440
Speaker 1: So how do we handle fights or disagreements? Any tips

821
00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:57,000
Speaker 1: for conflict resolution?

822
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:02,200
Speaker 2: We literally s in each other's laps and hold hands

823
00:45:02,440 --> 00:45:05,960
Speaker 2: and talk. And I've never had that in a relationship,

824
00:45:05,960 --> 00:45:08,799
Speaker 2: and I love that we do that because communication is

825
00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 2: just something that hasn't been a highlight of any relationship

826
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 2: I've been in. With me being the easygoing guy, communication

827
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:20,200
Speaker 2: just doesn't need to be at the forefront if you're

828
00:45:20,239 --> 00:45:24,160
Speaker 2: cool with everything. But you and I know each other

829
00:45:24,239 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 2: well enough that we can sit down and just like

830
00:45:28,080 --> 00:45:30,480
Speaker 2: we've been talking about, we can sit down, hold hands

831
00:45:30,560 --> 00:45:33,359
Speaker 2: and I know that you're upset right now, and if

832
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 2: you need to take a second to process everything, we

833
00:45:37,040 --> 00:45:39,160
Speaker 2: need to talk about this, and then we talk about

834
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:43,120
Speaker 2: it and we move on. And that's one thing. When

835
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 2: I get upset, I go inward and I just shut down.

836
00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:49,319
Speaker 2: I know you know, IV up.

837
00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:52,879
Speaker 1: On it right away. Thanks to the impath side of me, I.

838
00:45:52,880 --> 00:45:56,840
Speaker 2: Shut down, and you're really good about let's fix this

839
00:45:57,120 --> 00:46:01,239
Speaker 2: and move on. And so it sounds silly just say communication,

840
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:06,440
Speaker 2: but thoughtful communication. You're never just gonna let me be

841
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:08,920
Speaker 2: mad at you, and now I'm not gonna let you

842
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:12,560
Speaker 2: be mad at me, Like I'm your best friend. We're

843
00:46:12,600 --> 00:46:15,719
Speaker 2: gonna be married. Let's figure this out.

844
00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:17,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, at the end of the day, we're on a

845
00:46:17,960 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 1: team together. The goal is us against the world. The

846
00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:24,000
Speaker 1: goal is us as a team working together.

847
00:46:24,040 --> 00:46:25,120
Speaker 4: It's not me against you.

848
00:46:26,120 --> 00:46:28,879
Speaker 1: And you said something there that I think is really

849
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:31,719
Speaker 1: important that I've noticed I think really helps us is

850
00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:35,040
Speaker 1: every time we talk about something, we're touching each other,

851
00:46:35,640 --> 00:46:38,360
Speaker 1: whether we're holding hands. Sometimes I'll sit on top of

852
00:46:38,400 --> 00:46:40,759
Speaker 1: you and be like, look at me, pay attention to me,

853
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:43,399
Speaker 1: or we'll sit there and hold hands, or we're right

854
00:46:43,400 --> 00:46:44,960
Speaker 1: next to each other and we touch each other's leg

855
00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:50,360
Speaker 1: like something about that touch signifies, Hey, we're on the

856
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:53,640
Speaker 1: same team. But we do need to talk about this.

857
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:56,319
Speaker 1: This is important to not let it fester, not let

858
00:46:56,360 --> 00:46:58,839
Speaker 1: it form into a resentment. Let's talk about it right

859
00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:02,880
Speaker 1: now before it goes anywhere. And I've a huge advocate

860
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 1: one of that of making sure you have some form

861
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:09,600
Speaker 1: of touch when communication happens, because to your point, communication

862
00:47:09,760 --> 00:47:12,799
Speaker 1: is so vulnerable and it makes us feel a lot

863
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:17,200
Speaker 1: of things and the only way to feel like you're

864
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:21,799
Speaker 1: connected in a moment that you're unconnected is to physically

865
00:47:21,840 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 1: connect yourselves. And I think touch really matters, and it's

866
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:28,919
Speaker 1: been a part of every conflict resolution we've had. And

867
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:33,040
Speaker 1: also that is another point is we just don't let

868
00:47:33,080 --> 00:47:36,400
Speaker 1: things sit for very long. And I think it's easy

869
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:39,520
Speaker 1: to do that when life happens. But anytime you and

870
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:43,120
Speaker 1: I have ever had a disagreement, it never turns into

871
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:46,600
Speaker 1: further than that because we don't let it. We both

872
00:47:46,600 --> 00:47:49,279
Speaker 1: feel the change, like one of us says, hey, this

873
00:47:49,360 --> 00:47:51,440
Speaker 1: is how that made me feel, and we sit with

874
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:53,879
Speaker 1: it for a moment, and then whether it's a couple

875
00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 1: of minutes later, an hour later, or within that same day,

876
00:47:58,080 --> 00:48:02,240
Speaker 1: we're addressing it again. And I think there's certain times

877
00:48:02,239 --> 00:48:04,279
Speaker 1: and moments where you might need more space than that.

878
00:48:04,400 --> 00:48:07,560
Speaker 1: I think that's absolutely valid, and it completely depends on

879
00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:12,000
Speaker 1: the disagreement, but we've never had that. So far. Everything

880
00:48:12,080 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 1: we've dealt with has been dealt with within twenty four hours.

881
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:21,080
Speaker 1: Because resentment is something I never want to allow inside

882
00:48:21,120 --> 00:48:24,120
Speaker 1: of our relationship. I think we've been really good about

883
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 1: not allowing it.

884
00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:30,319
Speaker 2: I think we respect each other to a level where A,

885
00:48:30,480 --> 00:48:34,600
Speaker 2: We're not going to disrespect each other. But I'm definitely

886
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:38,200
Speaker 2: not a yeller. You've said in your past, like with

887
00:48:38,280 --> 00:48:41,480
Speaker 2: your parents and stuff, you'd like that was part of

888
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:44,359
Speaker 2: your childhood. My family just didn't yell. So I will

889
00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 2: never raise my voice at you. Like, that's just not

890
00:48:48,120 --> 00:48:50,640
Speaker 2: There's nothing I could think of that would make me

891
00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:52,799
Speaker 2: do that. So it's like you have to have that

892
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:56,719
Speaker 2: level of respect and then when something's off, fix it.

893
00:48:57,239 --> 00:48:59,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I do believe there's a whole lot of respect

894
00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:03,040
Speaker 1: between which is why I'm going to marry the heck Autia.

895
00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:06,200
Speaker 2: Yes, it's so excited.

896
00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:09,200
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. Okay, how do you listen to any

897
00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 1: of my past relationship stories or have you listened to

898
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:14,920
Speaker 1: any of them since we've been together? Anything in that realm?

899
00:49:15,560 --> 00:49:19,719
Speaker 2: No? I never. So the night that we met. The

900
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:22,640
Speaker 2: next morning, I woke up and I did what any

901
00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:25,680
Speaker 2: sane person would do, and I googled your name and

902
00:49:25,680 --> 00:49:28,400
Speaker 2: you came up with all these fancy pictures and you

903
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:32,200
Speaker 2: had told me you worked in radio, but didn't say anything,

904
00:49:32,280 --> 00:49:34,879
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh gosh, she's a big deal.

905
00:49:35,040 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 2: I haven't met a big deal. Last night. Then, after

906
00:49:38,080 --> 00:49:40,600
Speaker 2: I had found you, on Instagram and I saw that

907
00:49:40,640 --> 00:49:46,880
Speaker 2: you had a giant following. I immediately retracted and I

908
00:49:46,920 --> 00:49:49,480
Speaker 2: was like, I don't want to let that cloud my

909
00:49:49,600 --> 00:49:53,319
Speaker 2: vision of getting to know you, and so I never

910
00:49:53,440 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 2: scrolled on your Instagram. I only saw like the first

911
00:49:56,000 --> 00:49:59,400
Speaker 2: couple posts. I never scrolled. I never went back and

912
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:03,960
Speaker 2: like stuck or went back and watched YouTube videos or

913
00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:07,080
Speaker 2: anything like that. I only wanted to know what you

914
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:09,359
Speaker 2: wanted to tell me, and I thought that was kind

915
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:12,360
Speaker 2: of a special At the very beginning. I was like,

916
00:50:12,520 --> 00:50:15,719
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, she's super famous, and I was like,

917
00:50:16,640 --> 00:50:20,480
Speaker 2: it must be nice for her for someone to just

918
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:23,239
Speaker 2: want to get to know her. For her, it was

919
00:50:23,320 --> 00:50:26,160
Speaker 2: like my I don't know why I thought that way,

920
00:50:26,280 --> 00:50:29,239
Speaker 2: but I right after we met that's because.

921
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:30,800
Speaker 1: You have a good heart and you're a good person,

922
00:50:30,880 --> 00:50:33,480
Speaker 1: and you always have been outside of meeting me, so

923
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:35,000
Speaker 1: that tracks.

924
00:50:35,360 --> 00:50:38,200
Speaker 2: I probably thought about it too much, but I just

925
00:50:38,280 --> 00:50:42,120
Speaker 2: made the decision that I wasn't going to I still

926
00:50:42,280 --> 00:50:46,040
Speaker 2: haven't seen your Instagram other than what you've showed me

927
00:50:46,239 --> 00:50:48,200
Speaker 2: or oh yeah I made this reel, or oh I

928
00:50:48,280 --> 00:50:51,400
Speaker 2: went there and you show me, Like I never only

929
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:53,440
Speaker 2: what you've shared with me, and we've had some pretty

930
00:50:53,440 --> 00:50:57,719
Speaker 2: emotional conversations sitting on the couch, and so I know

931
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:00,560
Speaker 2: about everything, but I didn't go back and watched the

932
00:51:00,600 --> 00:51:04,440
Speaker 2: media version of it. I got the real raw version

933
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:04,799
Speaker 2: of it.

934
00:51:05,080 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Yeah, and you were really great about that.

935
00:51:07,600 --> 00:51:09,520
Speaker 1: It was a game changer for me, and so much

936
00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:12,560
Speaker 1: of dating for me was that was just a part

937
00:51:12,560 --> 00:51:16,240
Speaker 1: of my life. And gosh, I remember when I was dating.

938
00:51:16,280 --> 00:51:19,120
Speaker 1: At one point there was a guy who saw me

939
00:51:19,320 --> 00:51:21,080
Speaker 1: on Hinge and I think I told you this story.

940
00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:23,160
Speaker 1: I think we talked about this. There's a guy who

941
00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:25,960
Speaker 1: saw me on Hinge and he matched with me, and

942
00:51:26,000 --> 00:51:28,279
Speaker 1: we messaged a little bit back and forth and talked

943
00:51:28,320 --> 00:51:29,600
Speaker 1: about going on a date, and then he was like,

944
00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:32,120
Speaker 1: we should FaceTime first, and I thought that was pretty normal,

945
00:51:32,200 --> 00:51:35,000
Speaker 1: you FaceTime or talk on the phone before. And we

946
00:51:35,080 --> 00:51:38,080
Speaker 1: ended up talking on the phone, and he pretty blatantly

947
00:51:38,120 --> 00:51:40,440
Speaker 1: within the first two or three minutes, which is like,

948
00:51:40,640 --> 00:51:43,520
Speaker 1: I know who you are, and I don't really approve

949
00:51:43,960 --> 00:51:48,359
Speaker 1: of my life being talked about on the radio. And

950
00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:50,799
Speaker 1: I was like, what a bold assumption to think I

951
00:51:50,920 --> 00:51:52,800
Speaker 1: was going to talk about you in the first place,

952
00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:55,799
Speaker 1: But okay, we're going there and just let me have

953
00:51:55,880 --> 00:51:58,000
Speaker 1: it of like how he felt, and I was like, man,

954
00:51:58,560 --> 00:52:01,319
Speaker 1: we haven't even met. You think you know me, You

955
00:52:01,360 --> 00:52:04,040
Speaker 1: think you have this whole idea and scope of me,

956
00:52:04,160 --> 00:52:07,160
Speaker 1: but you shouldn't even give me a chance to be

957
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:10,239
Speaker 1: who I am. And I think that's an irony in

958
00:52:10,360 --> 00:52:12,840
Speaker 1: social media and just in the way of the world.

959
00:52:12,920 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: And he had already decided who I was. And obviously

960
00:52:17,080 --> 00:52:19,520
Speaker 1: we did not go on a day after that. Towards

961
00:52:19,760 --> 00:52:22,600
Speaker 1: the end of the very short phone call, because I

962
00:52:22,640 --> 00:52:25,799
Speaker 1: didn't want to continue being berated by a stranger, I

963
00:52:25,920 --> 00:52:28,880
Speaker 1: just was like, Yeah, this isn't for me. Thanks for

964
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 1: I guess telling me how you felt, and good luck

965
00:52:31,600 --> 00:52:33,719
Speaker 1: with your life and into the phone call, and so

966
00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:36,520
Speaker 1: to have somebody show up in the way that you

967
00:52:36,640 --> 00:52:41,640
Speaker 1: did and just very much take a completely different and

968
00:52:41,840 --> 00:52:45,440
Speaker 1: very empathetic approach of just this person is also a

969
00:52:45,560 --> 00:52:47,799
Speaker 1: human and I'd like to know her how she wants

970
00:52:47,840 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 1: me to know her. And letting me tell you all

971
00:52:51,040 --> 00:52:54,560
Speaker 1: of my stories instead of living them through social media

972
00:52:55,040 --> 00:52:57,120
Speaker 1: was really cool for me, and I think it made

973
00:52:57,239 --> 00:53:00,080
Speaker 1: our connection all the more deeper because of it. And

974
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:01,520
Speaker 1: you still haven't gone back and looked at a lot

975
00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:04,560
Speaker 1: of things, you know, A lot of things, but yeah,

976
00:53:04,600 --> 00:53:08,440
Speaker 1: you haven't really gone back in control. You're like, something'll

977
00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:09,920
Speaker 1: pop up, be like, I haven't seen that, and it's

978
00:53:09,960 --> 00:53:11,520
Speaker 1: from three years ago. I was like, dang, you really

979
00:53:11,520 --> 00:53:13,960
Speaker 1: didn't do any stalking on my page.

980
00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:16,279
Speaker 2: It's nice because if I see a picture of you

981
00:53:16,480 --> 00:53:20,000
Speaker 2: with bangs, I'm like, oh, that's a long time ago,

982
00:53:20,480 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 2: like that, that's my timeline and you love Yeah, I

983
00:53:24,560 --> 00:53:25,440
Speaker 2: love all Morgan.

984
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:29,000
Speaker 1: I thought your I wish you around when I had bangs.

985
00:53:29,040 --> 00:53:30,560
Speaker 1: It would have been really supportive since there was a

986
00:53:30,600 --> 00:53:31,359
Speaker 1: lot of haters of.

987
00:53:31,320 --> 00:53:33,360
Speaker 2: My bangs, like caters.

988
00:53:33,480 --> 00:53:36,440
Speaker 1: Okay, we're gonna do some rapid fire questions here at

989
00:53:36,440 --> 00:53:38,880
Speaker 1: the end to end this all in. So, your thoughts

990
00:53:38,880 --> 00:53:41,719
Speaker 1: on the cruise and the fur babies while Morgan was gone.

991
00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:45,320
Speaker 1: Did you have fomo from the cruise or were you jealous?

992
00:53:45,719 --> 00:53:46,840
Speaker 1: Everything wrapped into that.

993
00:53:47,400 --> 00:53:51,040
Speaker 2: I was so happy that you were getting to experience it,

994
00:53:51,239 --> 00:53:55,200
Speaker 2: and I know being away from the girls was gonna

995
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:58,520
Speaker 2: be hard on you, but I felt like I could

996
00:53:59,120 --> 00:54:02,120
Speaker 2: be the solid foundation here so you could actually go

997
00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:05,120
Speaker 2: have some fun. You work really hard, and so it

998
00:54:05,200 --> 00:54:08,120
Speaker 2: was like I was really excited to watch you have fun.

999
00:54:08,200 --> 00:54:11,440
Speaker 2: Of course, I wanted to be there, but giving you

1000
00:54:11,600 --> 00:54:13,919
Speaker 2: the peace of mind of having the girls taken care

1001
00:54:13,960 --> 00:54:17,120
Speaker 2: of that was worth more than both of us going

1002
00:54:17,160 --> 00:54:19,319
Speaker 2: on the cruise. We'll go on cruise. We'll go on

1003
00:54:19,400 --> 00:54:23,520
Speaker 2: amazing vacations. This one was just it was one for you,

1004
00:54:23,560 --> 00:54:24,840
Speaker 2: and I was really excited for you.

1005
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:27,880
Speaker 1: He really wants to go to Pittsburgh for the draft

1006
00:54:27,920 --> 00:54:29,480
Speaker 1: coming up, and I was like, you should go, go

1007
00:54:29,520 --> 00:54:31,319
Speaker 1: do it and figure it out. And I don't know

1008
00:54:31,320 --> 00:54:32,960
Speaker 1: if I can make that work, but I want you

1009
00:54:33,040 --> 00:54:35,719
Speaker 1: to go. There's so much support between the two of

1010
00:54:35,800 --> 00:54:38,640
Speaker 1: us to do the things that we need to do,

1011
00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:41,239
Speaker 1: and if we can make at work where we're both there,

1012
00:54:41,400 --> 00:54:43,920
Speaker 1: then we will absolutely do it. And if we can't,

1013
00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:46,520
Speaker 1: then it's supporting each other in the things that we

1014
00:54:46,560 --> 00:54:47,680
Speaker 1: want to do that matters.

1015
00:54:47,960 --> 00:54:50,480
Speaker 2: But don't get it twisted. The second that I say

1016
00:54:50,520 --> 00:54:54,000
Speaker 2: I'm leaving for Pittsburgh, you're going to be saying, oh, well,

1017
00:54:54,080 --> 00:54:55,920
Speaker 2: since you don't love me anymore.

1018
00:54:56,680 --> 00:54:59,279
Speaker 1: It just a joke. Those are my actual jokes. Those

1019
00:54:59,280 --> 00:55:02,640
Speaker 1: are we actually and those are not related to trauma.

1020
00:55:03,080 --> 00:55:05,279
Speaker 1: I just miss him a lot, and you did the

1021
00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:07,200
Speaker 1: same thing when I was on the cruise. You were like,

1022
00:55:07,280 --> 00:55:10,120
Speaker 1: I miss you and you love to make jokes and

1023
00:55:10,160 --> 00:55:11,719
Speaker 1: you're like, I guess you don't love me enough. You

1024
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:12,880
Speaker 1: didn't want me to come along.

1025
00:55:13,560 --> 00:55:16,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, she didn't want me there. That was the because

1026
00:55:16,560 --> 00:55:18,520
Speaker 2: people were like, did you go on the cruise too,

1027
00:55:18,560 --> 00:55:21,920
Speaker 2: and no, she didn't want me there, see, and I did.

1028
00:55:22,920 --> 00:55:24,520
Speaker 1: Really. One of the things we thought about, too, was

1029
00:55:24,560 --> 00:55:26,399
Speaker 1: this being the first time I didn't know how much

1030
00:55:26,400 --> 00:55:28,880
Speaker 1: I was going to have to work spartlier alert I

1031
00:55:28,960 --> 00:55:33,319
Speaker 1: did work a whole crafton and I just didn't want

1032
00:55:33,360 --> 00:55:36,360
Speaker 1: him to take off from work for something that I

1033
00:55:36,400 --> 00:55:38,640
Speaker 1: didn't know, Like I'd rather be for a vacation for

1034
00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:41,640
Speaker 1: us and with us wanting to get married and have

1035
00:55:41,640 --> 00:55:43,959
Speaker 1: a honeymoon and do all this in the next two

1036
00:55:44,040 --> 00:55:46,799
Speaker 1: years or whatever. I just didn't want to waste a

1037
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:49,560
Speaker 1: week if it wasn't actually going to be us getting

1038
00:55:49,600 --> 00:55:51,880
Speaker 1: to spend a whole lot of time together. And I

1039
00:55:52,000 --> 00:55:54,600
Speaker 1: was right in making that call. So we'll see what

1040
00:55:54,640 --> 00:55:55,480
Speaker 1: happens next year.

1041
00:55:55,520 --> 00:55:58,640
Speaker 2: But you wouldn't call me until after midnight when you

1042
00:55:58,640 --> 00:56:01,280
Speaker 2: were done working, and then you were usually up before

1043
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:05,799
Speaker 2: me for work. You've got like thirty six minutes of.

1044
00:56:05,760 --> 00:56:08,120
Speaker 1: Sleep every night I did, and you would have been

1045
00:56:08,120 --> 00:56:09,520
Speaker 1: along for a lot of it, you would have been

1046
00:56:09,560 --> 00:56:11,440
Speaker 1: with me, but I still would have been working, which

1047
00:56:11,600 --> 00:56:14,239
Speaker 1: negates the fact that I want you to have a

1048
00:56:14,280 --> 00:56:17,720
Speaker 1: vacation with me, that we both get enjoy and actually

1049
00:56:17,760 --> 00:56:20,600
Speaker 1: have vacation together, because that's special for us to connect

1050
00:56:21,560 --> 00:56:24,399
Speaker 1: any national park or road trips planned for this year.

1051
00:56:25,280 --> 00:56:26,759
Speaker 1: A wedding is planned for this year.

1052
00:56:26,880 --> 00:56:29,479
Speaker 2: A wedding is planned for this year, and there will

1053
00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:31,320
Speaker 2: be a road trip involved.

1054
00:56:31,560 --> 00:56:34,440
Speaker 1: And maybe another Hopefully at one point we can go

1055
00:56:34,480 --> 00:56:37,920
Speaker 1: on a vacation this year. We'll see how everything lines up.

1056
00:56:38,000 --> 00:56:40,640
Speaker 1: There's a lot of planning and things happening, so we'll

1057
00:56:40,640 --> 00:56:43,400
Speaker 1: just see how it all plays out. But we'd love to.

1058
00:56:43,920 --> 00:56:45,880
Speaker 1: But we have a lot of exciting things also planned

1059
00:56:45,880 --> 00:56:47,040
Speaker 1: with the wedding and everything.

1060
00:56:47,120 --> 00:56:49,040
Speaker 2: So we need to go down and visit my mom

1061
00:56:49,080 --> 00:56:51,279
Speaker 2: in Florida. Yes, we've been talking about that.

1062
00:56:51,440 --> 00:56:53,000
Speaker 1: We need to go see here in Florida. I do

1063
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:55,320
Speaker 1: need to go to Pittsburgh because I want to visit Pittsburgh.

1064
00:56:55,360 --> 00:56:58,600
Speaker 1: I've never been, and we really want to do a

1065
00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:03,040
Speaker 1: Glacier National Park and Banff together for a full road trip.

1066
00:57:03,120 --> 00:57:05,840
Speaker 1: So we'll see. It's just harder to get over to

1067
00:57:05,880 --> 00:57:07,920
Speaker 1: the West coast than I would like because of the

1068
00:57:07,960 --> 00:57:10,439
Speaker 1: girly pops. They can't ride with us in a road trip,

1069
00:57:10,560 --> 00:57:13,880
Speaker 1: so that long anyway Remy could, Remy would pass out anywhere.

1070
00:57:13,920 --> 00:57:14,879
Speaker 1: Hazel not so much.

1071
00:57:15,040 --> 00:57:17,320
Speaker 2: She likes to travel while traveling.

1072
00:57:17,800 --> 00:57:20,560
Speaker 1: Literally, what is your dream vacation together?

1073
00:57:22,160 --> 00:57:26,040
Speaker 2: I think if we're not talking about honeymoon, we've talked

1074
00:57:26,040 --> 00:57:30,200
Speaker 2: a lot about Glacier and baf like that would be incredible.

1075
00:57:30,320 --> 00:57:36,600
Speaker 2: But we send reels. Our travel section on Instagram is

1076
00:57:36,680 --> 00:57:39,080
Speaker 2: just growing by the day, like that Thailand one you

1077
00:57:39,240 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 2: sent me to day, I was like, I'm going to

1078
00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:42,160
Speaker 2: Thailand tomorrow.

1079
00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:46,520
Speaker 1: We both want to do everything, see everything. So I

1080
00:57:46,520 --> 00:57:49,360
Speaker 1: think our dream vacation is just making it all happen

1081
00:57:49,680 --> 00:57:52,560
Speaker 1: together through the course of our life together, and it

1082
00:57:52,600 --> 00:57:55,800
Speaker 1: will be an important part. And it leads into the

1083
00:57:56,560 --> 00:57:58,560
Speaker 1: do you all want to have kids? Then that's where

1084
00:57:58,560 --> 00:58:05,200
Speaker 1: we are seventy thirty No, I think that's last we

1085
00:58:05,400 --> 00:58:07,400
Speaker 1: checked in. I could have changed a little bit. My

1086
00:58:08,440 --> 00:58:10,840
Speaker 1: niece very much makes me want to I get baby

1087
00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:12,840
Speaker 1: fever when she's around, but then I also love that

1088
00:58:12,880 --> 00:58:15,240
Speaker 1: I get a pass her back and not have any

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00:58:15,280 --> 00:58:19,040
Speaker 1: actual responsibilities. I don't know. There's moments where I'm like,

1090
00:58:19,120 --> 00:58:20,800
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, it would be so cool to have

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00:58:20,840 --> 00:58:24,280
Speaker 1: a kid, because you would be such an incredible dad

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00:58:24,600 --> 00:58:27,120
Speaker 1: and it'd be fun to watch you be a dad.

1093
00:58:27,560 --> 00:58:30,920
Speaker 1: But that alone, to me, is not enough reason to

1094
00:58:30,960 --> 00:58:33,160
Speaker 1: have a kid. I don't know. We go back and forth.

1095
00:58:33,360 --> 00:58:36,240
Speaker 1: I think we lean more towards no at this moment

1096
00:58:36,280 --> 00:58:40,000
Speaker 1: in time if you asked both of us, and yeah,

1097
00:58:40,040 --> 00:58:41,920
Speaker 1: I hope. We just want to travel a lot, We

1098
00:58:42,000 --> 00:58:44,560
Speaker 1: want to rescue animals, We want to follow our passions,

1099
00:58:44,600 --> 00:58:46,960
Speaker 1: and we want to live a full life together and

1100
00:58:47,200 --> 00:58:49,760
Speaker 1: support all of our friends who want to have kids

1101
00:58:49,840 --> 00:58:53,200
Speaker 1: and support their lives. And at this moment in time,

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00:58:53,800 --> 00:58:56,000
Speaker 1: and as our whole relationship has developed, I feel like

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00:58:56,040 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 1: that's been where we've both been at. Anything else to.

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00:59:00,800 --> 00:59:03,760
Speaker 2: That you want to add from when we met our

1105
00:59:03,880 --> 00:59:08,280
Speaker 2: conversation that we had on Sunday, that first Sunday when

1106
00:59:08,320 --> 00:59:12,600
Speaker 2: we talked about kids, I said I couldn't even contemplate

1107
00:59:12,680 --> 00:59:16,400
Speaker 2: that because I had never been with someone who I

1108
00:59:16,440 --> 00:59:20,440
Speaker 2: could see myself having kids with. And I could absolutely

1109
00:59:20,480 --> 00:59:24,280
Speaker 2: I could see myself having kids with you. But would

1110
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:28,960
Speaker 2: that enrich our lives? You don't know. Every mom is

1111
00:59:29,000 --> 00:59:31,120
Speaker 2: going to tell you. Every mom and Dad is going

1112
00:59:31,200 --> 00:59:33,720
Speaker 2: to tell you the love you have for your children

1113
00:59:34,120 --> 00:59:39,360
Speaker 2: is something you can't understand until it happens. But that's

1114
00:59:39,360 --> 00:59:44,400
Speaker 2: a big that's a commitment, and I think there's some

1115
00:59:44,480 --> 00:59:47,400
Speaker 2: people out there that don't really think about that commitment.

1116
00:59:47,520 --> 00:59:50,360
Speaker 2: And that's what makes bad parents. And then you have

1117
00:59:50,480 --> 00:59:55,120
Speaker 2: wonderful people, which I think we're wonderful people, and we

1118
00:59:55,240 --> 00:59:59,280
Speaker 2: probably should have kids to raise babies the way that

1119
00:59:59,680 --> 01:00:02,160
Speaker 2: we live our life, and so there it's just this

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01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:05,480
Speaker 2: back and forth. But if you're not one hundred percent in,

1121
01:00:05,600 --> 01:00:08,160
Speaker 2: it should be one hundred percent out. Yeah, you should

1122
01:00:08,360 --> 01:00:12,240
Speaker 2: want to be a parent. Yeah, that's what makes good parents.

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Speaker 1: And that's what we've very much had the conversation around

1124
01:00:14,680 --> 01:00:16,400
Speaker 1: is both of us are just not at this moment

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01:00:16,400 --> 01:00:19,960
Speaker 1: in time one hundred percent in. And until we get

1126
01:00:19,960 --> 01:00:21,880
Speaker 1: to that point, or if we ever do get to

1127
01:00:21,920 --> 01:00:25,440
Speaker 1: that point, then that's a conversation to be had. But

1128
01:00:25,520 --> 01:00:29,320
Speaker 1: for now it's just not. And we love being aunts

1129
01:00:29,360 --> 01:00:32,080
Speaker 1: and uncles and that's so much fun for us, and

1130
01:00:32,240 --> 01:00:34,920
Speaker 1: for now that's good enough for us right now. So

1131
01:00:34,960 --> 01:00:36,760
Speaker 1: we'll see, we'll see what the future holds. I don't

1132
01:00:36,760 --> 01:00:39,880
Speaker 1: think you ever say never to anything. And if life

1133
01:00:40,000 --> 01:00:42,280
Speaker 1: has plans in store for us to have a kid.

1134
01:00:42,320 --> 01:00:44,360
Speaker 1: Then that's what's going to happen, and we'll be great

1135
01:00:44,400 --> 01:00:47,720
Speaker 1: at it. But for now, we have for baby's.

1136
01:00:47,640 --> 01:00:49,000
Speaker 4: We got this for a baby.

1137
01:00:49,000 --> 01:00:51,400
Speaker 2: We have our doctor. We do.

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01:00:51,680 --> 01:00:54,320
Speaker 1: Okay, that's where we leave, unless you would like to

1139
01:00:54,320 --> 01:00:56,439
Speaker 1: share a thought on the Steelers' new coach and who

1140
01:00:56,440 --> 01:00:58,680
Speaker 1: you want to be a quarterback To end us out.

1141
01:00:59,520 --> 01:01:02,120
Speaker 2: What you didn't tell me? This one slipped in. I

1142
01:01:02,160 --> 01:01:04,880
Speaker 2: actually didn't know any of the questions, so that's really fun.

1143
01:01:05,240 --> 01:01:08,560
Speaker 2: So Mike McCarthy, we'll see. I don't know. He's not

1144
01:01:08,680 --> 01:01:11,560
Speaker 2: a top tier coach, but not a bottom tier coach

1145
01:01:11,600 --> 01:01:14,120
Speaker 2: at all. I think he will be good for the Steelers.

1146
01:01:15,120 --> 01:01:19,720
Speaker 2: And this is my hot take, Will Howard. It is

1147
01:01:19,760 --> 01:01:24,720
Speaker 2: Will Howard's time. He's the backup quarterback for the Pittsburgh Steelers.

1148
01:01:24,720 --> 01:01:28,640
Speaker 2: Now he's a national champ at Ohio State, and we

1149
01:01:28,840 --> 01:01:30,760
Speaker 2: just need to give him a chance and he's going

1150
01:01:30,800 --> 01:01:33,360
Speaker 2: to be the next big thing. Aaron Rodgers, it was

1151
01:01:33,400 --> 01:01:37,400
Speaker 2: a fun little experiment. I was patient with you. Morgan

1152
01:01:37,520 --> 01:01:41,640
Speaker 2: was not as patient with you. But it's Will Howard's time.

1153
01:01:41,840 --> 01:01:44,400
Speaker 2: I feel like the Steelers they have all kinds of

1154
01:01:44,480 --> 01:01:46,920
Speaker 2: draft Capital and they did great in free agency, so

1155
01:01:47,000 --> 01:01:48,120
Speaker 2: it's gonna be a fun season.

1156
01:01:48,440 --> 01:01:52,120
Speaker 1: Thank you, babe, thanks for coming on sharing more of

1157
01:01:52,160 --> 01:01:56,920
Speaker 1: our love adventures, relationship, marriage adventures, and everything in between.

1158
01:01:57,200 --> 01:02:00,040
Speaker 2: I hope more people don't come on your podcast so

1159
01:02:00,240 --> 01:02:01,760
Speaker 2: I can be on your podcast.

1160
01:02:01,840 --> 01:02:04,360
Speaker 1: Just be here forever. Yeah, talk about random things with me.

1161
01:02:04,520 --> 01:02:07,240
Speaker 2: I'm like the substitute teacher that i'll that everyone gets

1162
01:02:07,280 --> 01:02:08,800
Speaker 2: excited comes in.

1163
01:02:09,080 --> 01:02:11,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you're my real teacher, You're my forever teacher.

1164
01:02:11,600 --> 01:02:13,440
Speaker 1: You're just the podcast substitute teacher.

1165
01:02:13,600 --> 01:02:15,080
Speaker 2: Okay, I'll take that.

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01:02:15,480 --> 01:02:16,080
Speaker 1: Does that work?

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01:02:16,160 --> 01:02:16,400
Speaker 2: Yeah?

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01:02:16,440 --> 01:02:18,880
Speaker 1: Okay, thanks for coming on. Then. I love you too.

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01:02:19,160 --> 01:02:19,960
Speaker 2: Can't wait to marry.

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01:02:20,920 --> 01:02:22,040
Speaker 1: We're gonna get married.