WEBVTT - So Long and Dubai with Caroline Stanbury

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<v Speaker 1>Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, Hi, Hello guys. I would just like to say

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<v Speaker 2>that I got a lot of people that were very

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<v Speaker 2>supportive of your dream. Yep, and I can't And what

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<v Speaker 2>if I told you I reached out to Applebee's. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>kidding on a date.

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<v Speaker 1>So we went from Bricktops to Appleby's all you loved it?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you have you been at Applebe's before?

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<v Speaker 3>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>Have you? I'm Applebee San? Have you waitressed? Have not? Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>So Friday's Macaroni girlshot to say, keep a job, you

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<v Speaker 2>are definitely a Joe's crabshot with the coordinated dancy waitress

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<v Speaker 2>and then get fired. That'd be great. A lot of

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<v Speaker 2>people wrote to me and said that they'd like you

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<v Speaker 2>to be a celebrity singing waitress, apparently sending just said.

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<v Speaker 2>Results on the Instagram polls, fifty five percent of people

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<v Speaker 2>think you should waitress. What are the other forty five language?

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<v Speaker 2>But I did talk to my therapists about it, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we had a lovely conversation. I brought up kind of

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<v Speaker 2>what you said too about mourning the loss of freedom

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<v Speaker 2>and just she had said something to me too, and

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of people were like, I pick up one

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<v Speaker 2>day just to go bartend because it's like my own time.

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<v Speaker 2>And I told Amy, it's not about actually waitressing, even

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<v Speaker 2>though yes, I very much enjoyed it, but it was

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<v Speaker 2>just we know you have a deep passion.

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<v Speaker 4>I really do, but.

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<v Speaker 2>It was to help other people. And so we have

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<v Speaker 2>come up with a game plan of what to do,

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<v Speaker 2>which I will roll out eventually, but I'm working on

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<v Speaker 2>it and she's helping me with it. So I'm very excited.

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<v Speaker 2>But it'll be a way to help other people, not

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<v Speaker 2>in a restaurant, but people that are more aligned with

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<v Speaker 2>who I want to help.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that idea. Yeah, so not that I'm totally

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<v Speaker 1>against the waitressing, but.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you just wanted to make fun of me. That

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<v Speaker 2>was she just wanted to be a client.

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<v Speaker 4>No, no, no, I did not want to make of you.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to be a client, and she did to

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<v Speaker 1>be like I'll take this and I'll take this.

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<v Speaker 2>She's like this, I want No, I said, I wanted

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<v Speaker 2>that without you. He said like, no, you didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>And I would literally never actually do that at a restaurant. So,

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<v Speaker 1>even though that might be surprising, literally would hate to

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<v Speaker 1>do that.

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<v Speaker 2>Get with you.

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<v Speaker 4>I would do it for sure, totally so supportive.

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<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't. I would not wait on a legitimately he

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<v Speaker 2>would legitimately. I forget what Alan hates. I'm always like

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<v Speaker 2>Elan tomatoes, right, and he's like, I love tomatoes, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like that's not a good accent. Okay. So we

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<v Speaker 2>have something that I want to discuss. What shouldn't. I

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<v Speaker 2>just wanted to bring it up.

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<v Speaker 5>Uh.

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<v Speaker 2>Jolie came home. By the way, this is a if

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<v Speaker 2>you're listening around children under fifth grade, just turn me

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<v Speaker 2>down for the next five minutes. That's a good warning. Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>So Jolie comes home from school and she's like, Mommy,

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<v Speaker 2>can I talk to you for a second. I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>of course, absolutely. So I was like, we're going to

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<v Speaker 2>jump in, you know, like go in the room or whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>She goes and the Jason was fall She's like, jac

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<v Speaker 2>you can't be in here. And I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, she's probably tell me she has a boyfriend

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<v Speaker 2>or something. You know, they're the third grade, like something's

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<v Speaker 2>going on. So Jace, you know, went into the room.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, you know, go clo your little cars

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<v Speaker 2>or whatever, and Jolie goes, Mommy, I was talking to

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<v Speaker 2>this girl at lunch. I will not name her name

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<v Speaker 2>if she told me the name, but just out of respect,

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<v Speaker 2>it won't say her name. We're not going to blast her.

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<v Speaker 2>Anti Kristin to Anti Kristen is feeling like I'm blowing

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<v Speaker 2>up the Michigan. I can feel it rising. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I really want to, I won't. So I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>what did she say? She's like, she said that Santa

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<v Speaker 2>is not real. I knew this was coming, and she goes,

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<v Speaker 2>so is it true, mommy? Is Santa not real? And

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<v Speaker 2>I just stared at her and I was like, what

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<v Speaker 2>do you believe? What do you think? Because in my mind,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not time for her not to know that Santa's

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<v Speaker 2>not real. I think I would agree fifth grade and above.

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<v Speaker 2>Personally for me, I think third grade is too young. Personally,

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<v Speaker 2>I would endorse that as well. So I just trying

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<v Speaker 2>to turn the question around in her and I just

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<v Speaker 2>said what do you believe? And she said yeah, and

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<v Speaker 2>I said yes. I was like and I was starting

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<v Speaker 2>to like stumble over words. I was like, yes, Santa

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<v Speaker 2>is real, and a part of me was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>but I don't want to lie to her in this.

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<v Speaker 2>So what I did was this is how I I

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<v Speaker 2>concocted the thing I said, but I do want to

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<v Speaker 2>have a conversation around it. She goes because she also

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<v Speaker 2>said that magic isn't real, and I was like ooh.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, baby, the magic of Christmas is like

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<v Speaker 2>the most beautiful time. And she's like, but I mean

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<v Speaker 2>the Easter Bunny isn't real. And I was like, one

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<v Speaker 2>hundred percent not real. Oh. I was like, okay, no,

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<v Speaker 2>so I cause she's like, mommy, like a bunny jumping around.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, one thousand percent that's not real. And

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<v Speaker 2>she's like, in the Tooth Fairy isn't real either, is it?

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like no, baby, oh wow. So she

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<v Speaker 2>got those two because I'm like and on my I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>how can I tell my? Then your daughter almost that

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<v Speaker 2>like the bunny, like there's not a big bunny hopping in.

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<v Speaker 2>So I was like, but we're still going to make

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<v Speaker 2>it fun for Jason Roman. So she's like absolutely, But

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<v Speaker 2>I did adult like age her into the like bunny

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<v Speaker 2>and the tooth Fairy because she just lost a tooth too,

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<v Speaker 2>and she's like, mommy or the tooth fairy and I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, well, that still hasn't caught on to me.

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<v Speaker 2>I think or love is the kind of personality actually

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<v Speaker 2>that would have caught on. But protecting, Yeah, she just

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<v Speaker 2>would keep going, Uh, you.

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<v Speaker 4>Want my opinion on all of it?

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, Well, this coming from a mom who's both of

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<v Speaker 1>my older kids at nine.

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<v Speaker 2>Figured it out.

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<v Speaker 1>I think there is something about that age and I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I will completely disagree with you in this sense that

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that there's an age.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think it's a grade. I don't think it's a.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just personally not ready for I think I will either. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Think, in my opinion, there's a too young. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it depends on the kid. Like Ramsey's eight, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>foresee her necessarily at nine. But at the same time,

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<v Speaker 1>I did the same thing, well do you believe that

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<v Speaker 1>he is real? And both of my kids said no,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't, and I said, okay, maybe I did differently,

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<v Speaker 1>she said, and I was the same way. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to lie, so I said, well, what do you believe?

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<v Speaker 1>And both of them, in those situations says he's not real,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, Okay, and then we had a

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<v Speaker 1>conversation and then now they helped me with Christmas Eve

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<v Speaker 1>and all the things. But there's something about that age

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<v Speaker 1>and it's and maybe it will be this year for Ramsey.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, but there's very much something about that age, school,

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<v Speaker 1>all the things that it just seems to be pretty

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<v Speaker 1>consistent for us.

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<v Speaker 2>So we went through it in kindergarten. Oh wow, that's

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<v Speaker 2>really real, huh. And we're into Jesus School and they

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<v Speaker 2>said they're truth tellers. And she came home and was like,

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<v Speaker 2>so and so said, and I will not name names.

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<v Speaker 2>Santa isn't real. And I said, well, that's really interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>How do you feel about that, you know, because it's

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<v Speaker 2>like you're in kindergarten. Yeah. So I actually addressed our group,

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<v Speaker 2>our class because I thought, and I I don't remember

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<v Speaker 2>how I put it, but I simply said, there was

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<v Speaker 2>very little magic in my life growing up, and Santo

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<v Speaker 2>was something that I could believe in and felt like magic. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and I am preserving that in our home. And so

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<v Speaker 2>if you have truth tellers, I would kindly ask that

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<v Speaker 2>they have a certain responsibility in their truth.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, and that was another thing I said to I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, it is not your jobs to ever say

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<v Speaker 1>this to other children. And another thing is like some

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<v Speaker 1>kids like me for instance, growing up, like you just

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<v Speaker 1>never said anything to your parents. You just kept on

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<v Speaker 1>going about as But if you have the type of kids,

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<v Speaker 1>in my opinion, they don't want to talk to you

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<v Speaker 1>about it and want to have a conversation. That's where

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<v Speaker 1>it was very important to me to not lie about

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<v Speaker 1>it and to just if they didn't believe, allow them

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<v Speaker 1>to not because they actually wanted to have the conversation

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<v Speaker 1>with me, which isn't always the case.

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<v Speaker 2>I think if she would have said no, then maybe

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<v Speaker 2>it would have been different conversation. But in the meantime, though,

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<v Speaker 2>what I did do is when she had said yes,

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<v Speaker 2>I go, Can I just have a one second to

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<v Speaker 2>try and gather my thoughts? I called Pam and I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, does heart Because I'm like, maybe this is

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<v Speaker 2>the right age, I don't know. She's like, no, no,

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<v Speaker 2>too young. So that's what she said to me. I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, all right, I agree, I'm calling like me back,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you call her reckon because I'm like, maybe

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just trying to keep her young Like these I just.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't think it has to do necessarily with like a

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<v Speaker 1>certain age, different kids are different, and you know, this

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<v Speaker 1>is when they start talking about it though, So I'll

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<v Speaker 1>be interested to see when it gets over to Harlow

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<v Speaker 1>how she handles it.

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<v Speaker 2>She's smart though, I mean they're all smart, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>That's the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I just think that someone like Carlo shan't gonna say anything. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Love probably wouldn't either.

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<v Speaker 2>She has Love asks really specific questions and I answer

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<v Speaker 2>them to the best of my ability. Yeah, but I'm

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<v Speaker 2>also like, I'm not gonna lie to her either. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but we don't sit on this lap. There's no like,

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<v Speaker 2>there's a lot of things about it, and we do

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<v Speaker 2>believe in the tooth fairy, and I think she might

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<v Speaker 2>be skeptical of that Easter bunny. But yeah, changing complete

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<v Speaker 2>gears right now. Uh. There is a new Housewives or

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<v Speaker 2>is it new or is it? Have you watched given

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<v Speaker 2>watch it? I don't even know what it is. The

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<v Speaker 2>it's newer, I know that, yes, real how Wives of Dubai.

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<v Speaker 2>So let's get Caroline Stanbury on the show.

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<v Speaker 3>Hello, nice to see you all.

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<v Speaker 2>Nice to see you. I'm Jan and this is Kat

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<v Speaker 2>and Kristen.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi.

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<v Speaker 2>Where are you currently at are you in Dubai.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm in Dubai, sitting in my bedroom closet where I

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<v Speaker 5>have my podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it fabulous Dubai? I've never been? You love to go?

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<v Speaker 2>I hear it just smells great, smells great the malls

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<v Speaker 2>or whatever. Someone said, the big old mall smells like amazing.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, everything's clean and very fresh and they've sort of

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<v Speaker 5>pumped sent through it.

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<v Speaker 2>And yes, doesn't smell like Abercrombie, is what you're saying,

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<v Speaker 2>which is what we're used to over here.

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<v Speaker 3>No.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, so how long have you been living in Dubai for?

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<v Speaker 3>This will be my nine nearly nine years years.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow. What is the biggest difference that you see from

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<v Speaker 2>moving from London?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, just the safety aspect is amazing. You know, I

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<v Speaker 5>don't have to lock my doors. I you know, we don't.

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<v Speaker 5>We don't sleep.

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<v Speaker 3>We could if you take off your watch at the

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<v Speaker 3>beach and put it on the bed and go for

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<v Speaker 3>a swim, it will be there when you get back.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh really, I feel like London is so safe.

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<v Speaker 5>No mm hmm, you're crazy stabbing No, yeah, it's getting

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<v Speaker 5>it's pretty bad.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, every day there is stabbing and I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>it's safe, safer than.

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<v Speaker 5>Your everybody's getting robbed with mop heads and like, no,

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<v Speaker 5>it's not safe.

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<v Speaker 3>So we don't have any of that here.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that and you are okay. The call to

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<v Speaker 2>get the Real Housewives of Dubai. How did that come together?

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<v Speaker 5>Bravo just contacted me and truly, so you know, I

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<v Speaker 5>don't know how it came together. I mean, I guess

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<v Speaker 5>it was in the planning and then Bravo when they

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<v Speaker 5>planned to make it, Bravo told told the production house

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<v Speaker 5>I was here.

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<v Speaker 2>And you were originally a Lady of London, right and

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<v Speaker 2>that series? Yeah okay. So was it an instant yes

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<v Speaker 2>for you to go back into reality TV or were

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<v Speaker 2>you like I need a second with this.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I mean i'd had a second. I had six

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<v Speaker 3>years off, so.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but that's a good break. I mean, were you

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<v Speaker 2>like eager to go back or did you think, hang on,

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<v Speaker 2>I need to Like.

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<v Speaker 3>I was eager. I was ready. I wanted to go back.

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<v Speaker 5>I was really excited, Like I think, you know, I

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<v Speaker 5>was equate doing something like this, like being pregnant. You know,

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<v Speaker 5>when you're in it, you hate it, and then afterwards

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<v Speaker 5>you're like, let's do it again.

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<v Speaker 2>Just long enough to forget all the things you didn't.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, right, Yeah, one hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 2>That's right. It becomes charming in your brain again. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>And is your your now husband, Sergio? Was he all

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<v Speaker 2>on board or was he needing a minute as well?

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<v Speaker 2>Was this like a unanimous yes for you guys that

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<v Speaker 2>were No, he.

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<v Speaker 3>Was straight on board.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, Sergio's had a level of fame I suppose,

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<v Speaker 5>paying for you know, such a big soccer team for

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<v Speaker 5>seven years. You know that going into the stadium you

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<v Speaker 5>always had like people around you and people talking about

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<v Speaker 5>you and knowing who you are. So he was ready

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<v Speaker 5>and he kind of I think things don't phase him.

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<v Speaker 2>Is there anything off limits for you too? You know

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<v Speaker 2>I would I'd imagine in the reality world like this,

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<v Speaker 2>they want all the dirt and they want all of

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<v Speaker 2>the things, right. That's what makes these shows so wildly

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<v Speaker 2>popular as they get to see all the behind the scenes.

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<v Speaker 2>Is there anything that you two kind of sat down

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<v Speaker 2>and agreed upon ahead of time and said we're absolutely

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<v Speaker 2>not doing this on camera, we're not showing that, or

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<v Speaker 2>we're not talking about this to protect any sort of privacy,

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<v Speaker 2>or do you just go all in.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, we won't be making a sex video.

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<v Speaker 2>Well just really myth by Yeah that's the line.

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<v Speaker 3>We found that. No, not really.

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<v Speaker 5>We you know, we understand that we're on a show,

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<v Speaker 5>and even when we're off the show, we we are

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<v Speaker 5>pretty prolific on Instagram and all of the you know,

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<v Speaker 5>YouTube and things like that. I believe that it's quite

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<v Speaker 5>fun to see because we've such an age gap relationship.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, there's so many misconceptions about how this works,

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<v Speaker 5>why he's here, what, you know, how our what our

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<v Speaker 5>dynamic is. So no, I'm not embarrassed or ashamed about

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<v Speaker 5>any of it. You know, we've we love hard, we

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<v Speaker 5>fight hard, you know, we have we laugh all the time.

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<v Speaker 5>And I think it's nice to show people that this

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<v Speaker 5>relationship how it works, you know, because people don't understand,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, that the age gap relationships this way round

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<v Speaker 5>can work. You know, before I got I became when

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<v Speaker 5>sorry married Sergio, I googled every sort of made to

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<v Speaker 5>December relationship this way round, and I was like, no,

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<v Speaker 5>cannot work. You know, there's just there's no one. There's macron,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, and that's about it. Like it's not gonna work,

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<v Speaker 5>but you know it's working.

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<v Speaker 2>What was the biggest thing that worked in that nineteen

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<v Speaker 2>year gap, and then what's the thing that's been working

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<v Speaker 2>against you? Guys.

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<v Speaker 5>The biggest thing that works, I think is the fun aspect,

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<v Speaker 5>like love, the laughter and at my age and being

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<v Speaker 5>where I am in life, like honestly, there's something about

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<v Speaker 5>belly laughing that is priceless, like literallyking priceless.

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<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't swap it for the world, and like, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not. I've never been motivated by money.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not looking for a rich old man on a

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<v Speaker 5>super yacht, which a lot of the women and.

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<v Speaker 3>These shows are.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm fully aware of what I got and what Sergio

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<v Speaker 5>and I are building together, and I really love the

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<v Speaker 5>journey with him. That's what the hustle and the fun

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<v Speaker 5>of what we're doing, you know, keeps us alive.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's the bit I enjoy.

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<v Speaker 5>The biggest factor against us, I suppose is maybe the

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<v Speaker 5>children thing, because you know, my children are leaving home

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<v Speaker 5>and I'm I've become quite selfish and I love my

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<v Speaker 5>I love my crazy life with Sergia. We get on

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<v Speaker 5>a you know, a plane and we're you know, we're

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<v Speaker 5>just booking Iceland now, you know, and all of that,

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<v Speaker 5>and then we're going to London next week and then

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<v Speaker 5>he's off to Spain and and I'm like, that has

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<v Speaker 5>to change, that will stop. It can't happen with the

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<v Speaker 5>top with a baby. It doesn't doesn't work.

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<v Speaker 2>It's definitely more challenging. Yeah, you know, I mean that's

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<v Speaker 2>is that something he wants there.

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<v Speaker 5>Desperately, and I'm desperately trying to persuade him out of it.

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<v Speaker 3>Called you are I'm forty eight.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, oh you don't look forty eight. Yeah, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>well listen, I mean it's you're in a different age

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<v Speaker 2>with your kids. I mean, that's just something we talk

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<v Speaker 2>about all the time because it's like, you know, she's

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<v Speaker 2>got older kids, you know, oldt so that will be

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<v Speaker 2>on the other side, you know, to start again. And

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<v Speaker 2>it's like, so my.

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<v Speaker 5>Son fourteen, I've got two at fourteen and one at eighteen.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that would be tough.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's like I had another one with my now husband,

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<v Speaker 2>and it is I mean, like granted, both my kids

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<v Speaker 2>they're still like youngish, it's like almost six and nine,

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<v Speaker 2>but then you know, having a baby again, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>it really because it's like, okay, you're back to you know,

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<v Speaker 2>being back for nep schedules in this and you can't

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<v Speaker 2>really travel as much you have to, so that's it's

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<v Speaker 2>limiting certain things that you want to do, right, And

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<v Speaker 2>we had it in the beginning, it was like all right,

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<v Speaker 2>this weeknd, we don't have any kids, and it's like no,

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<v Speaker 2>now we're always going to have a kid. There are

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<v Speaker 2>now like kid free weekends, you know. So it's like

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<v Speaker 2>but so, I mean, that'd be hard, but it's also

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<v Speaker 2>something he doesn't have. So that's got to be really

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<v Speaker 2>tough because if he really wants a baby, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well he's staying.

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<v Speaker 5>That's always the question. But again, you can't live in

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<v Speaker 5>fear of these things. And I don't believe in ever

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<v Speaker 5>living in fear. You know, what what will be will be.

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<v Speaker 5>And you know, I'm not going to also have a

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<v Speaker 5>baby because I'm scared of that for all the wrong reasons.

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<v Speaker 5>And I'm also you know, I'm also very relaxed about

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<v Speaker 5>life and pragmatic about life. You know, you can't force

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<v Speaker 5>somebody to stay for any reason. And I think you know,

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<v Speaker 5>having a baby right now for me, I mean, we

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<v Speaker 5>just started building a hotel in Bali.

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<v Speaker 3>We're back and forth with I love my life.

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<v Speaker 5>As you said, you know, being divorced, you have one

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<v Speaker 5>week on, one week off.

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<v Speaker 3>I quite like being myself again.

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<v Speaker 2>I film.

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<v Speaker 5>We've just been on a speaking tour. We're never you know,

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<v Speaker 5>we are all over the place, you know, and the

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<v Speaker 5>thought of like as you said, once you have a baby,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, when school starts, you can't even get on

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<v Speaker 5>a plane. You have to stay. So you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 5>looking forward to those days. So I really don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>That is the biggest biggest challenge and age gap relationship

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<v Speaker 5>this size is because you're right, he doesn't have a

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<v Speaker 5>baby and he deserves to experience being a father obviously.

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<v Speaker 2>If do you think'll come down to that like ultimatum

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<v Speaker 2>where he's like, I want a baby or I'm out.

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<v Speaker 3>He says not.

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<v Speaker 5>But you know, I can't be sure of that. But

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<v Speaker 5>you can't be sure of anything in life, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>And that's the decision I'll have to live with for

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<v Speaker 5>the rest of my life.

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<v Speaker 3>You know. Whether I make the right one or the

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<v Speaker 3>wrong one, you just don't know, but you know it

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<v Speaker 3>is what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>Right on this season of Real Housewiods of Dubai, you

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<v Speaker 2>mentioned that you think that your relationship will be ten

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<v Speaker 2>to fifteen years. Is this a piece of that or

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<v Speaker 2>is there something else that goes on in your brain

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<v Speaker 2>that just gives you this like decade decade and a

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<v Speaker 2>half kind of time frame.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well that's a big piece of it.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, he will want to start a family, and

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<v Speaker 5>if I can't or don't want to that, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>he has every right to. And that's the way it is,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, And I can't fault him for that. If

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<v Speaker 5>I decide not to and he really decides he can't

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<v Speaker 5>live without a baby, that's a very very big decision

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<v Speaker 5>for him to live childless because I've decided I've got

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<v Speaker 5>my own.

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<v Speaker 1>How is his relationship with your children and how do

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<v Speaker 1>they get along?

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<v Speaker 5>It's it's you know, it's up and down. Sometimes it's great,

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<v Speaker 5>sometimes it's just not. That's the relationship that many stepparents have.

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<v Speaker 5>The more people I speak to families, it just is

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<v Speaker 5>the way it is. When they love you, they love

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<v Speaker 5>you and you're cool and like they love to play

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<v Speaker 5>you off the other the father, and there a lot

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<v Speaker 5>of times they use a step parent as you know,

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<v Speaker 5>as bargaining and all of these things to get what

0:19:35.320 --> 0:19:39.680
<v Speaker 5>they want and kids, A kid's a you know, it's

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<v Speaker 5>not easy being a step parent for anyone, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>and throw in an age gap as well, you sort

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<v Speaker 5>of miss a lot of the respect level that maybe

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<v Speaker 5>they would have for an older parent. You know, it's

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<v Speaker 5>it's challenging. It's very challenging, but as good as it

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<v Speaker 5>can be.

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<v Speaker 3>We have it right now good.

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<v Speaker 1>Can imagine those older ages and with the age gap,

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<v Speaker 1>that would be tough, Like if you had younger kids

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<v Speaker 1>like you've had, you know, I mean just that would

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<v Speaker 1>be that I feel like that would be a really

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<v Speaker 1>hard thing to maneuver for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I also feel like I'm just like in this,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, Okay, what would I do? You know, because

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<v Speaker 2>Alan and I were just having yet again another conversation

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<v Speaker 2>about a baby, and it was one of those things

0:20:24.560 --> 0:20:30.920
<v Speaker 2>where ketherne where you know, eat it. I wonder if

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<v Speaker 2>you're just like, if your hard no is now so

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<v Speaker 2>that way it doesn't have to be a thing that

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<v Speaker 2>continues to just linger on in the relationship where it's

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<v Speaker 2>just like this is just what it is. It's a no,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, let's continue our lives and not have

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<v Speaker 2>this thing that is on our back the entire next

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<v Speaker 2>ten years. You know, it's really you can.

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<v Speaker 5>Make a hard no because it's not you know, I waiver.

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<v Speaker 5>It's not like I do give the children and go okay.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, friends bring over their babies and I'm like, no, no,

0:20:59.200 --> 0:21:02.520
<v Speaker 5>I can't do this, you know, I just I don't

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<v Speaker 5>feel that maternal. But then maybe he always tries to

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<v Speaker 5>persuade me that, you know, when it's our baby, it'll

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<v Speaker 5>be you know, different, which is true.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, do you feel maternal to other people's babies.

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<v Speaker 2>To Janice only to Janice's baby? But I don't. But

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<v Speaker 2>when I do. When I was pregnant with and you

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<v Speaker 2>and you had I was pregnant and she had just

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<v Speaker 2>what last year you were had Lion, and I was

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<v Speaker 2>just like, oh my god, what did I do? Because

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<v Speaker 2>I just I was I wasn't ready to step back

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<v Speaker 2>into that again. And I'm just like I'm forty and

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, and like you know, and just I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>this isn't And I had this and I remember Sarah

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<v Speaker 2>came up to me and she was like, you will

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<v Speaker 2>love your baby, and I'm like, well, I ca, can

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<v Speaker 2>you give us a minute? I think that I love

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<v Speaker 2>I love lying. I'm just saying. But in that moment,

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I don't know if I'm ready to

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<v Speaker 2>step back into this, and I but now I'm eight

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<v Speaker 2>months pregnant and oh my god, and like that anxiety

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<v Speaker 2>of like, I will say this, though, I think for

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<v Speaker 2>the is deeply and as deeply as you feel about

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<v Speaker 2>him and the things that you have to say about him,

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<v Speaker 2>I think that I'm just gonna I'm gonna sit back

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<v Speaker 2>and watch because I feel like there's such a respect

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<v Speaker 2>for him that I think this would be really beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>And I will say this, it is much different. Our

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<v Speaker 2>gaps are the same. So almost nine six and a

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<v Speaker 2>baby one year old. Oh wow, this time around has

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<v Speaker 2>been and I'm forty two, but it has been so

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<v Speaker 2>special and different because we know how fleeting it is,

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<v Speaker 2>I think, and we know how fast it goes, so

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<v Speaker 2>like I didn't travel for the end of pregnancy year

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<v Speaker 2>and for a lot of the first year. But I

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<v Speaker 2>also just, oh, I just like soaked it up because

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<v Speaker 2>I know how fast it goes, you know. And I

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<v Speaker 2>think when you get to look at like a little Sergio,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you guys are just a stunning couple and

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<v Speaker 2>you seem to have really beautiful respect for each other,

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<v Speaker 2>which is something that a lot of couples are missing.

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<v Speaker 2>And just like this idea that you get to build

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<v Speaker 2>a fun life together, I would say baby over split exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>He is my best friend.

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<v Speaker 5>We have so much fun, and I think on the

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<v Speaker 5>show you don't see as much fun as that we

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<v Speaker 5>do have. So you know, that's why I don't want

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<v Speaker 5>to give him a hard note. It's not a hard note.

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<v Speaker 5>You know what's sad. Actually it is that we're just

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<v Speaker 5>starting to build our brands together and we've really got

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<v Speaker 5>into the rhythm of working together as husband and wife.

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<v Speaker 5>And in an ideal world, you know, we would we would.

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<v Speaker 5>He doesn't want a baby today, you know, we would

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<v Speaker 5>have it in two to three years, except I'm forty eight,

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<v Speaker 5>so that makes me, you know, fifty one before we start,

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<v Speaker 5>and that's a whole different thing. Right, So if the

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<v Speaker 5>time crunch wasn't there, then you know, we do it

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<v Speaker 5>in just not while we're in the middle of all

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<v Speaker 5>of this, but as it happens, we don't have a choice.

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<v Speaker 5>It's like everyone's like, you don't have long like you

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<v Speaker 5>have to do it now. If you're going to do it,

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<v Speaker 5>you've got to do it now, and I'm I'm that piece.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I hate that too, and that's the piece that

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<v Speaker 2>is stopping me. Is like age, you know, I just

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<v Speaker 2>I hate that. And my husband's older, so I feel

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<v Speaker 2>that on the other side, you know, like I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>our babies don't deserve to have, like, you know, an

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<v Speaker 2>eighty year old dad when they're graduating college or whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>So we have to stop. I mean not that I

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<v Speaker 2>feel young. This last one really did me and it

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<v Speaker 2>was beautiful. But okay, moving on from the baby talk.

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<v Speaker 2>If you could fire one member of the cast, who

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<v Speaker 2>would it be? Oh my god, that's only one, Carolyn said.

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<v Speaker 3>I agreely.

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<v Speaker 5>Actually, I've just got to a place where they don't

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<v Speaker 5>all hate me, sob I'm sure you will know my

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<v Speaker 5>answer really, but I'm not going to say that.

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<v Speaker 2>Why why do they not like you? I don't because

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<v Speaker 2>I have not I have not watched yet, which now

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to. But what why don't they like you?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh? I don't know, just never have I guess probably intimidated.

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<v Speaker 3>Who knows.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I love you a lot, well, usually because you're

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<v Speaker 2>you're the big housewife watching in this and it's like

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<v Speaker 2>most women hate the women that yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, absolutely know, and yeah, yeah that's usually the case.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I'm definitely confident and happy in my own skin

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<v Speaker 5>and I don't want to be anywhere else.

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<v Speaker 3>So maybe that just bothers them.

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<v Speaker 4>That is very intimidating for a lot of women, insecure

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<v Speaker 4>women in general.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. So then are you hated by the fans too?

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<v Speaker 3>Then no, not at all. That's why I don't think

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of women.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I've get a lot of love from women,

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<v Speaker 5>believe it or not, like a lot because they feel

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<v Speaker 5>like I get a lot of words that, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>I give them hope that I show, you know, like

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<v Speaker 5>I left my.

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<v Speaker 3>Very stable, normal life.

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<v Speaker 5>I've you know, done marrit a twenty four year old,

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<v Speaker 5>I've done everything that's different, moved to the Middle East,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, gone onto the reality show. I think I've

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<v Speaker 5>shown women, you know, a totally different side of what

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<v Speaker 5>is possible, you know, outside of what we've been told

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<v Speaker 5>is possible or what society says we should be doing.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, you have your podcast uncut and uncensored. What is

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<v Speaker 2>one of the biggest lessons that you've learned in life just.

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<v Speaker 5>To be able to pivot? I think that life never

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<v Speaker 5>goes the way you think it's going to go. I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>I could not have foreseen this journey at all. I

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<v Speaker 5>mean if you told me. And when I moved to

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<v Speaker 5>the Middle East, I did not think Housewives was coming

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<v Speaker 5>to the Middle East. You know, I didn't know. I

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<v Speaker 5>didn't know I'd be married to a twenty four year

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<v Speaker 5>old my age. You know, all of the things that

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<v Speaker 5>have happened to me, I did not foresee. And I

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<v Speaker 5>think being able to be resilient, to be able to pivot,

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<v Speaker 5>and to be able to make those choices and just

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<v Speaker 5>go with the flow, is that is the biggest thing. Like,

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<v Speaker 5>don't turn things down because you're scared. You know, if

0:26:38.720 --> 0:26:41.840
<v Speaker 5>you're scared, you should do them.

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<v Speaker 2>If you're scared, you shouldn't marry him. How did you

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<v Speaker 2>meet your husband?

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<v Speaker 5>He had just come back from playing football in Europe

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<v Speaker 5>and he was in Newport Beach and I was doing

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<v Speaker 5>a podcast live in Newport Beach, so and he it

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<v Speaker 5>was like women's empowerment and he was one of the

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<v Speaker 5>only men in the audience.

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<v Speaker 3>Can you believe it?

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<v Speaker 2>And then how did he get your attention? He was

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<v Speaker 2>the only man in the audience.

0:27:11.800 --> 0:27:12.480
<v Speaker 3>He came to the.

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<v Speaker 5>Meet and greet with a friend of his because it

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<v Speaker 5>was all women basically, and I actually thought he was

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<v Speaker 5>quite good looking for a single girl friend of mine.

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<v Speaker 5>So we got talking and I was like, oh, you're single.

0:27:24.520 --> 0:27:26.040
<v Speaker 5>He said yes. I said I've got a girl for

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<v Speaker 5>a few and so we swapped numbers and that was that.

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<v Speaker 5>Then it just ended up being me and me en.

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<v Speaker 3>So cute.

0:27:34.760 --> 0:27:38.200
<v Speaker 2>That's so cute. Oh, I really love Carol. Everyone watched

0:27:38.240 --> 0:27:40.960
<v Speaker 2>Real Housewives is Dubai, Aeron and Bravo, and listen to

0:27:41.080 --> 0:27:44.879
<v Speaker 2>Uncut and Uncensored podcast new episodes every Wednesday. Thank you

0:27:44.920 --> 0:27:46.720
<v Speaker 2>so much for coming on the show. We appreciate it.

0:27:47.320 --> 0:27:48.280
<v Speaker 3>Thank you for having me.

0:27:48.640 --> 0:27:52.879
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna wait for your birth announcement. I'm pretty pumped

0:27:52.920 --> 0:27:53.680
<v Speaker 2>for you, Carolyn.

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<v Speaker 1>I will thanks bye bye you too.

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<v Speaker 2>Can we hit two pop culture things really fast?

0:28:14.280 --> 0:28:14.560
<v Speaker 1>Sure?

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<v Speaker 2>Thoughts on Ben and Jen I'm thoughtless.

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<v Speaker 4>This one just makes me sad.

0:28:22.359 --> 0:28:23.960
<v Speaker 2>It doesn't make me a little sad too. I just

0:28:23.960 --> 0:28:27.120
<v Speaker 2>can't imagine all the layers they navigate.

0:28:27.359 --> 0:28:29.879
<v Speaker 4>So that the announcement was interesting to me.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even see. I think people read into things

0:28:33.359 --> 0:28:38.560
<v Speaker 2>too much. Like, for example, Mica texts me, I can't

0:28:38.600 --> 0:28:41.520
<v Speaker 2>remember now, but this was uh when we had released

0:28:41.520 --> 0:28:43.479
<v Speaker 2>a story we actually released on his birthday. I had

0:28:43.480 --> 0:28:46.840
<v Speaker 2>no idea. No, I'm like, I'm like, I don't think

0:28:46.880 --> 0:28:49.440
<v Speaker 2>she purposely planned to do it on that day. I

0:28:49.720 --> 0:28:50.080
<v Speaker 2>don't think.

0:28:50.600 --> 0:28:53.480
<v Speaker 4>I meant, Okay, you know that means nothing to me.

0:28:53.520 --> 0:28:56.560
<v Speaker 2>That I was like, I don't even as your birthday

0:28:56.560 --> 0:28:59.360
<v Speaker 2>and I would never purposely, ever plan a single really

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<v Speaker 2>on your birthday, calmed down, happy birthday.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, No, not that part at all.

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<v Speaker 1>What's interesting to me is I feel like we truly

0:29:07.160 --> 0:29:11.080
<v Speaker 1>haven't known what's going on, who wants out, who, whatever?

0:29:11.400 --> 0:29:15.160
<v Speaker 1>And then her sources comments were just interesting to me

0:29:15.240 --> 0:29:18.920
<v Speaker 1>because it was basically like she's tired of waiting was one.

0:29:18.800 --> 0:29:19.920
<v Speaker 2>Of the quotes.

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<v Speaker 1>That makes me sad, And I'm like, interesting because we

0:29:22.800 --> 0:29:26.560
<v Speaker 1>truly don't know like who, and so it made it

0:29:26.640 --> 0:29:28.920
<v Speaker 1>sound like I don't know what the case is that

0:29:29.040 --> 0:29:31.320
<v Speaker 1>she truly and again who knows what the truth is,

0:29:31.360 --> 0:29:33.160
<v Speaker 1>but that she's been wanting to make it work and

0:29:33.200 --> 0:29:37.840
<v Speaker 1>he has just been like done, which I understand most

0:29:37.840 --> 0:29:40.360
<v Speaker 1>people are going to go obviously she's terrible to him,

0:29:40.520 --> 0:29:44.640
<v Speaker 1>like and I hold out hope that she's a nice human. However,

0:29:44.760 --> 0:29:49.920
<v Speaker 1>people have said otherwise so I understand that maybe there

0:29:49.920 --> 0:29:53.120
<v Speaker 1>were things that probably happened and he was unhappy, and

0:29:53.200 --> 0:29:54.720
<v Speaker 1>you know, then she was trying to make it work.

0:29:54.720 --> 0:29:56.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, it was just the quotes were very interesting.

0:29:56.840 --> 0:29:58.560
<v Speaker 1>It sounded like she was trying to make it work,

0:29:58.600 --> 0:30:01.719
<v Speaker 1>but it was sick of waiting so wild and I just

0:30:01.920 --> 0:30:04.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, what I mean, I don't know, it's none

0:30:04.280 --> 0:30:05.920
<v Speaker 1>of our business. But the same time, I'm just like,

0:30:06.040 --> 0:30:06.920
<v Speaker 1>what happened here?

0:30:07.240 --> 0:30:10.480
<v Speaker 2>No, it's not. I just I will always be sad

0:30:10.520 --> 0:30:12.680
<v Speaker 2>for the girl that keeps fighting for love. Yeah, I

0:30:12.800 --> 0:30:15.480
<v Speaker 2>know it isn't that isn't happy and in love.

0:30:15.640 --> 0:30:18.000
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I mean he looked miserable from the kick go.

0:30:18.400 --> 0:30:19.160
<v Speaker 4>Let's be honest.

0:30:19.240 --> 0:30:21.960
<v Speaker 2>He kind of has resting miserable face though. I mean

0:30:22.880 --> 0:30:25.280
<v Speaker 2>see him like I know I do too, but like

0:30:25.320 --> 0:30:26.280
<v Speaker 2>I don't ever see it.

0:30:26.360 --> 0:30:29.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't did we see him happy before her or

0:30:29.680 --> 0:30:32.080
<v Speaker 1>did all of these memes just start coming out once

0:30:32.120 --> 0:30:32.800
<v Speaker 1>he was with her.

0:30:33.440 --> 0:30:34.800
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, That's what I'm saying, Like, I don't

0:30:34.920 --> 0:30:37.200
<v Speaker 2>know that. I maybe he just default is you know,

0:30:37.320 --> 0:30:40.400
<v Speaker 2>like guys, I might have and I don't feel like

0:30:40.440 --> 0:30:44.240
<v Speaker 2>I have resting happy face. I'm just a person out in.

0:30:44.240 --> 0:30:47.400
<v Speaker 1>The wild looks extra miserable, and again I love him too.

0:30:47.960 --> 0:30:50.520
<v Speaker 2>That he's just he looks just is it the smoke

0:30:50.640 --> 0:30:54.440
<v Speaker 2>breaks one that you're talking closing the door one that

0:30:54.440 --> 0:30:57.760
<v Speaker 2>that was funny every because I feel like every relationship

0:30:57.760 --> 0:31:00.720
<v Speaker 2>has been in that where just like closing the door.

0:31:01.080 --> 0:31:03.600
<v Speaker 1>Opens the door where and shut his face like it

0:31:03.720 --> 0:31:05.080
<v Speaker 1>just makes me laugh every time.

0:31:05.520 --> 0:31:07.680
<v Speaker 2>I feel like that just explains like our relationship.

0:31:07.760 --> 0:31:10.960
<v Speaker 4>It does it totally point but no, I just but

0:31:11.040 --> 0:31:11.480
<v Speaker 4>it makes.

0:31:11.320 --> 0:31:14.400
<v Speaker 2>Sense everyone to be happy, Yeah, but it makes me sad.

0:31:14.680 --> 0:31:18.400
<v Speaker 2>Thoughts on have you guys seen it ends with us?

0:31:18.240 --> 0:31:20.160
<v Speaker 2>It's on Blake Lively stuff, m.

0:31:22.240 --> 0:31:23.240
<v Speaker 4>Someone else go first.

0:31:25.640 --> 0:31:27.520
<v Speaker 2>I feel very out of touch right now. I'm a

0:31:27.560 --> 0:31:30.320
<v Speaker 2>little in the weeds of my own four walls. But

0:31:30.400 --> 0:31:34.520
<v Speaker 2>what I have gathered is that Blake's co star has

0:31:34.560 --> 0:31:39.040
<v Speaker 2>a very different interview process and words to say than

0:31:39.080 --> 0:31:40.920
<v Speaker 2>she does about the movie.

0:31:41.200 --> 0:31:43.560
<v Speaker 1>Yes, is that accurate? And I think that he has

0:31:43.640 --> 0:31:46.120
<v Speaker 1>been very kind. I think that he has told people

0:31:46.160 --> 0:31:53.640
<v Speaker 1>to lay off. However, that interview which that woman has

0:31:53.920 --> 0:31:56.440
<v Speaker 1>really again, I don't know much about Blake Lively. I

0:31:56.480 --> 0:31:59.640
<v Speaker 1>don't have an opinion on Blake Lively. To be completely honest.

0:31:59.440 --> 0:32:01.840
<v Speaker 2>With my thing that I posted about my therapists and opinions.

0:32:02.480 --> 0:32:05.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I did see. Yeah, it was because you had

0:32:06.000 --> 0:32:08.880
<v Speaker 1>told you had told me about it and then listening

0:32:09.160 --> 0:32:11.280
<v Speaker 1>and I understood what you were saying. But it was

0:32:11.360 --> 0:32:14.520
<v Speaker 1>really help and never fully express the way that the therapist.

0:32:14.520 --> 0:32:16.680
<v Speaker 1>It was super helpful to listen to it, and I

0:32:16.760 --> 0:32:20.760
<v Speaker 1>was like absolutely. But watching the clip from that interview

0:32:20.880 --> 0:32:23.760
<v Speaker 1>where she said congratulations on your bump and she said

0:32:23.760 --> 0:32:27.880
<v Speaker 1>congratulations on your bump, that that did not sit well

0:32:27.920 --> 0:32:31.480
<v Speaker 1>with me. I didn't see it's, yeah, I didn't. I

0:32:31.480 --> 0:32:31.960
<v Speaker 1>did not love that.

0:32:32.640 --> 0:32:34.880
<v Speaker 4>But maybe it was a bad day. I don't know.

0:32:35.800 --> 0:32:36.840
<v Speaker 4>I don't know much about it.

0:32:36.800 --> 0:32:39.959
<v Speaker 1>Other than that I did come across that, and that

0:32:40.000 --> 0:32:43.160
<v Speaker 1>woman has spoken out about how it made her feel

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, all the things. So I don't think

0:32:46.320 --> 0:32:48.920
<v Speaker 1>that that And maybe she did something wrong in a

0:32:48.920 --> 0:32:51.880
<v Speaker 1>part I haven't seen in the interview. Maybe there was

0:32:51.920 --> 0:32:54.480
<v Speaker 1>something that set her off. I do not know. However,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that the reporter or the interviewer did

0:32:57.200 --> 0:32:59.600
<v Speaker 1>anything wrong saying congratulations because it was out that she

0:32:59.640 --> 0:33:03.520
<v Speaker 1>was pretty. But it sounds like I'm the only one

0:33:03.560 --> 0:33:05.520
<v Speaker 1>that's going to say my opinion on this, I don't I.

0:33:05.480 --> 0:33:07.920
<v Speaker 2>Really don't have one. I just haven't had like enough

0:33:08.120 --> 0:33:11.200
<v Speaker 2>like bandwidth to go in and go Like I didn't

0:33:11.200 --> 0:33:13.400
<v Speaker 2>even know what the movie was truly about. I just

0:33:13.520 --> 0:33:15.960
<v Speaker 2>was the title was intriguing to me. And then I

0:33:16.080 --> 0:33:17.920
<v Speaker 2>kept kind of like it was trying to pop into

0:33:17.960 --> 0:33:19.960
<v Speaker 2>an algorithm and I'm like, you're messing up my therapy

0:33:19.960 --> 0:33:22.480
<v Speaker 2>homeschooling algorithm Instagram, So get her out of here.

0:33:22.800 --> 0:33:25.400
<v Speaker 1>But it was everywhere because they started going down rabbit holes.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess so, And then what about you, Kramer, what's

0:33:28.320 --> 0:33:28.800
<v Speaker 1>your opinion?

0:33:31.560 --> 0:33:37.600
<v Speaker 2>Well, I think, how did my therapist say this? My

0:33:38.240 --> 0:33:45.400
<v Speaker 2>only opinion goes to what I would hope that I

0:33:45.440 --> 0:33:50.400
<v Speaker 2>would love the messaging to go to dB with media

0:33:50.680 --> 0:33:55.160
<v Speaker 2>instead of talking about riffs and everything else, Like the

0:33:55.200 --> 0:33:58.480
<v Speaker 2>movie is about domestic violence. I haven't seen the movie.

0:33:58.680 --> 0:34:03.000
<v Speaker 2>A lot of things. I have a tough time watching movies. Yeah,

0:34:03.040 --> 0:34:08.480
<v Speaker 2>sure deal with domestic violence. Given my history with it. It

0:34:07.920 --> 0:34:10.600
<v Speaker 2>was obviously very challenging to act and that the movie

0:34:10.640 --> 0:34:12.640
<v Speaker 2>that I did this past summer, But I still have

0:34:12.719 --> 0:34:14.200
<v Speaker 2>a tough time. And I had asked Sydney, who's our

0:34:14.239 --> 0:34:15.920
<v Speaker 2>producer on the shows, like, hey, how heavy is the

0:34:16.160 --> 0:34:18.120
<v Speaker 2>because from what I had just heard of things, it

0:34:18.160 --> 0:34:20.560
<v Speaker 2>was more of a I thought it was kind of

0:34:20.600 --> 0:34:22.280
<v Speaker 2>like a rom com bring a Girls to the movie,

0:34:22.320 --> 0:34:24.440
<v Speaker 2>just kind of from what I've like was seeing and

0:34:24.480 --> 0:34:26.320
<v Speaker 2>I love like Lively, So I was like, you know,

0:34:26.360 --> 0:34:27.840
<v Speaker 2>I really want to see the movie and she was like,

0:34:27.880 --> 0:34:29.719
<v Speaker 2>you know, it's really heavy and DV and I'm like, oh, like,

0:34:29.719 --> 0:34:31.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I'll be able to watch it

0:34:31.120 --> 0:34:33.719
<v Speaker 2>then yeah. And I started hearing, you know, stuff about

0:34:33.719 --> 0:34:35.600
<v Speaker 2>the interviews, and for me, I was just like, it

0:34:35.719 --> 0:34:37.960
<v Speaker 2>made me sad because I just want the messaging to

0:34:38.000 --> 0:34:41.000
<v Speaker 2>be about domestic violence and how to help people and

0:34:41.040 --> 0:34:44.319
<v Speaker 2>how to get help. And I think it's hard because

0:34:44.360 --> 0:34:47.520
<v Speaker 2>when you're in interviews, they're going to ask the lead

0:34:48.040 --> 0:34:49.799
<v Speaker 2>a bunch of questions. Like even when we were doing

0:34:49.880 --> 0:34:52.920
<v Speaker 2>my very small movie in New York, they ask about everything,

0:34:52.920 --> 0:34:54.719
<v Speaker 2>and it's unfortunate that you're just going to get certain

0:34:54.719 --> 0:34:56.719
<v Speaker 2>clips like they asked about my wedding, they asked about this,

0:34:56.800 --> 0:34:58.920
<v Speaker 2>they asked about that, and so, you know, and I

0:34:58.960 --> 0:35:01.800
<v Speaker 2>talked about those things. So because that's in the interviews,

0:35:01.840 --> 0:35:04.240
<v Speaker 2>and I don't know if people are just editing certain

0:35:04.280 --> 0:35:06.840
<v Speaker 2>I have no idea. But to your point, the reason

0:35:06.920 --> 0:35:09.360
<v Speaker 2>you may perceive it as a rom com is because

0:35:09.600 --> 0:35:12.879
<v Speaker 2>of the way her interviews seem to have a common thread. Well,

0:35:12.920 --> 0:35:14.640
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if it's just being edited that way,

0:35:15.160 --> 0:35:17.200
<v Speaker 2>you know, I think that whole thing is I just

0:35:17.400 --> 0:35:21.880
<v Speaker 2>literally just the only thing I will say is I

0:35:21.880 --> 0:35:24.520
<v Speaker 2>think it's hard for people to talk about domestic violence

0:35:24.520 --> 0:35:30.160
<v Speaker 2>when they haven't themselves been in real life had the

0:35:30.239 --> 0:35:34.200
<v Speaker 2>hands of domestic violence on them. So for people to

0:35:34.239 --> 0:35:38.080
<v Speaker 2>say it doesn't define you, it does define you. It's

0:35:38.680 --> 0:35:43.239
<v Speaker 2>now it's not how do I say this any therapists, Well,

0:35:43.239 --> 0:35:45.160
<v Speaker 2>it doesn't define you, but it has made me who

0:35:45.239 --> 0:35:48.799
<v Speaker 2>I am. So though people can say it doesn't define you,

0:35:48.960 --> 0:35:51.640
<v Speaker 2>it is one of the biggest pieces of me is

0:35:51.640 --> 0:35:54.960
<v Speaker 2>domestic violence and has been the biggest thread in my life.

0:35:55.320 --> 0:35:59.960
<v Speaker 2>So I just think instead of all the media outlet

0:36:00.040 --> 0:36:02.000
<v Speaker 2>it's talking about riffs and this and that, I'm like,

0:36:02.040 --> 0:36:05.000
<v Speaker 2>can we just get to the subject and educate people

0:36:05.040 --> 0:36:06.640
<v Speaker 2>on what to do and those things? And I'm not

0:36:06.719 --> 0:36:09.000
<v Speaker 2>this is this is this is nothing even against like

0:36:09.400 --> 0:36:12.080
<v Speaker 2>because I have I have no real opinion about the

0:36:13.600 --> 0:36:17.319
<v Speaker 2>everything else. I just can we just go to the

0:36:17.360 --> 0:36:21.040
<v Speaker 2>messaging of how I man can get help and project

0:36:21.239 --> 0:36:22.720
<v Speaker 2>this exists? Why exactly?

0:36:22.880 --> 0:36:23.080
<v Speaker 3>You know?

0:36:23.120 --> 0:36:25.720
<v Speaker 2>And it's okay to answer other questions in interview because

0:36:26.080 --> 0:36:29.719
<v Speaker 2>interviewers ask other questions. They're gonna they're not just going

0:36:29.719 --> 0:36:32.560
<v Speaker 2>to solely ask questions about domestic violence. It is then

0:36:32.600 --> 0:36:34.799
<v Speaker 2>the media who's picking up the things that are not

0:36:34.880 --> 0:36:37.080
<v Speaker 2>about and that's what makes me frustrated when I did

0:36:37.160 --> 0:36:40.319
<v Speaker 2>my media outlet and this is in defense of Blake,

0:36:40.719 --> 0:36:43.840
<v Speaker 2>because when I was doing again, a very small, not

0:36:44.560 --> 0:36:49.280
<v Speaker 2>big movie, but people picked up, oh about her wedding

0:36:49.320 --> 0:36:51.000
<v Speaker 2>and this, that and the other, and I'm like, where's

0:36:51.080 --> 0:36:53.600
<v Speaker 2>the messaging of domestic violence that we talked about, and

0:36:53.640 --> 0:36:55.920
<v Speaker 2>like that should have been the story, not the I'm

0:36:55.960 --> 0:36:57.840
<v Speaker 2>going to be wearing this too. The It's like I

0:36:57.920 --> 0:37:00.439
<v Speaker 2>talked about a really heavy subject and that's not even

0:37:00.440 --> 0:37:03.239
<v Speaker 2>the headline because they don't care about that. Not even

0:37:03.280 --> 0:37:04.759
<v Speaker 2>don't care about it, but they're not Like that's not

0:37:04.840 --> 0:37:06.719
<v Speaker 2>the click that they're going to get. People want to

0:37:06.719 --> 0:37:09.920
<v Speaker 2>click oh what, you know, if they're wearing kilts or something,

0:37:10.080 --> 0:37:12.560
<v Speaker 2>you know, And so I think that's the Like I

0:37:12.719 --> 0:37:16.040
<v Speaker 2>just wish with a heavy topic, the media would be

0:37:16.360 --> 0:37:20.960
<v Speaker 2>talking about how people can get help and yeah.

0:37:20.920 --> 0:37:23.439
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and maybe Blake did talk about that a lot.

0:37:23.520 --> 0:37:26.480
<v Speaker 1>I think the problem is is when people went back

0:37:26.640 --> 0:37:29.920
<v Speaker 1>and dug in in the past, not even just about

0:37:29.920 --> 0:37:35.520
<v Speaker 1>this movie, they found a lot of unflattering interview pieces,

0:37:35.560 --> 0:37:37.759
<v Speaker 1>and then now that's become the story and now that's

0:37:37.760 --> 0:37:40.120
<v Speaker 1>what everybody It did start with, like the riffs and

0:37:40.160 --> 0:37:41.040
<v Speaker 1>like why is there a riff?

0:37:41.040 --> 0:37:43.080
<v Speaker 4>Why are they not following? Which is so silly to me,

0:37:43.760 --> 0:37:44.240
<v Speaker 4>and then.

0:37:44.080 --> 0:37:45.320
<v Speaker 2>It doesn't care about that.

0:37:45.120 --> 0:37:48.200
<v Speaker 4>Now people can get out silly.

0:37:48.400 --> 0:37:49.400
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so silly.

0:37:49.880 --> 0:37:53.000
<v Speaker 1>But I can see where this has manifested, and I

0:37:53.080 --> 0:37:56.960
<v Speaker 1>hate it because it does overshadow the domestic violent stuff. However,

0:37:57.880 --> 0:38:00.200
<v Speaker 1>I can understand why people are now going, wait, this

0:38:00.320 --> 0:38:02.560
<v Speaker 1>wasn't okay what she did here and what she did

0:38:02.600 --> 0:38:05.319
<v Speaker 1>there in certain interviews, So I can see both sides

0:38:05.360 --> 0:38:05.520
<v Speaker 1>of that.

0:38:06.320 --> 0:38:07.239
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's a tough one.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Well, I will see you guys next week. On

0:38:13.719 --> 0:38:16.799
<v Speaker 2>that note, love you guys. I'm bye. I love you.

0:38:20.840 --> 0:38:23.080
<v Speaker 2>If you or someone you know needs help, call the

0:38:23.120 --> 0:38:26.520
<v Speaker 2>Domestic Violence Hotline at one eight hundred seven ninety nine

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<v Speaker 2>seven two three three. Help is available