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Speaker 2: And now sometimes you can be like too much when

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Speaker 2: mean that's what got me here. You know, evolution is beautiful,

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Speaker 2: but like.

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Speaker 1: I will never lose my cord. Thanks for watching, guys.

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Speaker 1: Today's episode is brought to you by Boost Mobile.

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Speaker 3: She grew up in West Baltimore with a mouth that

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Speaker 3: had no filter. She bet on herself with nothing but

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Speaker 3: a phone, a desk, and a rehab center for at

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Speaker 3: risk kids, then went viral. Nick Cannon gave her her shot.

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Speaker 3: Martin Lawrence put her in front of thirteen thousand people.

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Speaker 3: She earned her seat on the Breakfast Club table. But

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Speaker 3: none of that is why she wrote her first book.

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Speaker 3: She wrote it for every cold parent who's had to

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Speaker 3: show up for a person who repeatedly broke their heart

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Speaker 3: because their child needed them to Comedian actress radio host

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Speaker 3: now fulth and my girl Jesslaious in real life.

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Speaker 2: And oh my god, it's an honor to be here

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Speaker 2: just with the mess and her news is real all

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Speaker 1: Angie, Hi mama, how are you?

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Speaker 3: How do you feel in that seat because I know

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Speaker 3: you've been doing a lot of press. Yes, and I've

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Speaker 3: I feel good to be here because girl, you don't

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Speaker 1: Oh you don't.

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Speaker 2: So I love this. This is oh my gosh, royalty.

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Speaker 3: You know you're a radio girl now too, Like for real?

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Speaker 3: Has that said in for you all the way yet?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 3: No, because you're a comedian right first you're comedian and

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Speaker 3: then you step right into this role with a vengeance.

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Speaker 3: Like I'm just saying, they put you into like the

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Speaker 3: Lions then the Lions Den, Yes, you're getting thrown in

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Speaker 1: People don't always understand that, yeah, because if somebody sees

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Speaker 3: Were, you had a following, you had a whole career

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Speaker 3: But that moment when you transition to something new, people

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Speaker 3: just assume, oh, she's talented. Of course she could go

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Speaker 3: But people don't always understand that when it's happening in

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Speaker 1: What was that like for you? That moment? Man? When

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Speaker 1: I get there, Cause, like you said all the things.

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Speaker 2: I already got my own brand already, you know, like

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Speaker 2: I'm used to seeing whatever I want to say. I'm

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Speaker 2: used to being unfiltered jests. You get in, you're a pond, yes, yes,

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Speaker 2: and then you you are now and somebody else's pond

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Speaker 2: you know their dominant figures aufha. Everybody has their their

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Speaker 2: Radio is so different because now I have to be censored.

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Speaker 1: Them a different way.

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Speaker 2: Learned it real quick, and I'm like, oh my god,

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Speaker 2: that's why I want to do the part your podcast.

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Speaker 3: Who angie, I'm still not I'm in my third year

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Speaker 3: at the parksto. I'm still not used to What time

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Speaker 2: Come on, yes, because you got to make up? You

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Speaker 2: I just got edges, So I'm like, damn now I

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Speaker 1: For you, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: And then we got Lauren and I love that dynamic

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Speaker 3: Yes, So I just wonder for you because I would

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Speaker 1: Like I could see it. I could be like, that's tough.

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Speaker 3: You're jumping into something that was already existing, right, somebody

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Speaker 1: And then I get it, and I'm like, I do

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Speaker 2: It's like and then the biggest challenge for me off

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Speaker 2: I mean, you got Charlemagne that everybody got their own niche,

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Speaker 1: He gonna get real deep and gay, like he gonna

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Speaker 1: Then you got Laurie. Yes, Then you got Lauren.

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Speaker 2: She she's gonna bang up in some scene from nineteen

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Speaker 1: What you like to eat?

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Speaker 1: A class that I got to take on? This like

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Speaker 1: I don't help you. I would have helped you to

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Speaker 2: You know what I found to be my Niche is

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean. I have learned to be

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like, okay, this is to be my name

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Speaker 1: It's like, get to the truth of who you are.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll help you answer that question, even in that

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Speaker 1: So when I asked them, how how is your flight?

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Speaker 3: They feel good that the heat is now off for

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Speaker 3: something that they did twenty years ago. Yeah, haven't you

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Speaker 3: the I don't know, the common thing that's.

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Speaker 1: Funny in the moment. Absolutely, and you tap into that,

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Speaker 2: And the fact that I'm a mom too, because we

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Speaker 2: she wants to be a mom, you know, one day,

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Speaker 2: but she's not Envy Charlemagne. They have wives who are

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Speaker 2: So I'm like, all right now, this is my niche too,

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Speaker 2: the funny mom who's gonna love on you a cold

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Speaker 3: play gambling problem called one eight hundred gambler. That must

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Speaker 2: I still was like postpartum depression. No, that's not me,

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Speaker 2: It's gonna hit you when it's gonna hit you. You know,

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Speaker 2: But like I said, I thought, I thought Breakfast Club

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Speaker 2: And it was people who wanted me back. Then it

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Speaker 2: I didn't want the confirmation. Like I was scared for

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just starting to step into That's funny because

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Speaker 1: To be plopped into a new situation where your life fun. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, super random.

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Speaker 1: Same thing when you go to the breakfast club.

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Speaker 3: I'm saying. I use that as a thing because I

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Speaker 3: think that probably happens to a lot of people, Like

441
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Speaker 3: whenever you jump into a bigger pool, it's a price.

442
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Speaker 1: This is the thing that comes with that.

443
00:19:32,320 --> 00:19:34,640
Speaker 2: You know, you got to like almost appeal to them,

444
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Speaker 2: and I think I was getting lost in that.

445
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Speaker 1: That's what I think I was doing. I was getting

446
00:19:38,440 --> 00:19:39,800
Speaker 1: lost in neuse. You're right.

447
00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:43,639
Speaker 2: They change up algorithms and like, now your video is

448
00:19:43,680 --> 00:19:46,200
Speaker 2: popping up for people who don't know you, right, and

449
00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:51,760
Speaker 2: their opinions now are stupid, Yes, are stupid, right, And

450
00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:53,280
Speaker 2: it's a lot of a mixed thing. It's hard for

451
00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:54,960
Speaker 2: you to find yours and you're like, damn, then I

452
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Speaker 2: do something.

453
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Speaker 1: What the hell happened? But really with people exactly you know,

454
00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:00,680
Speaker 1: but you can't maam everybody.

455
00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:04,440
Speaker 2: That's why I'm doing a better job with staying out

456
00:20:04,480 --> 00:20:07,199
Speaker 2: the comments, because girl, I used to be called the

457
00:20:07,280 --> 00:20:08,040
Speaker 2: clap back queen.

458
00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:09,800
Speaker 1: I used to be in there like what I bet

459
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Speaker 1: your mother you know what I mean. But I'm evolved.

460
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Speaker 1: I'm thirty four. I got time to be reading comments

461
00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:16,840
Speaker 1: and responding back to people. You gotta be up at

462
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Speaker 1: three in the morning, girl, And you got two kids and.

463
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Speaker 3: Doing research and doing research on people that comes up.

464
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Speaker 3: And her husband my husband, yes, you know.

465
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Speaker 1: Who wants his wife to uphold her wifely duties. What

466
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Speaker 1: are your wifely duties? Gosh, gosh?

467
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Speaker 3: And first of all, I need you to say say

468
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Speaker 3: it like a little more like you're happy about.

469
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Speaker 2: No, I'm absolutely happy to be married. It's just so

470
00:20:45,320 --> 00:20:47,760
Speaker 2: much like I have. My life is so chaotic, it's

471
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Speaker 2: beautiful chaos. At the end of the day though, because

472
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Speaker 2: my person. I'm so happy I'm married Chris Christopher Tolliver.

473
00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:56,600
Speaker 2: I took his last name, so you know I love

474
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Speaker 2: him because I love my name. Jessica Robin Moore sounds

475
00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:03,200
Speaker 2: package it up, you could sell it to anybody. Now

476
00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:05,600
Speaker 2: I added Tolliver, so it's Jessica Robin Moore Taliver.

477
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Speaker 1: You know I love you. I sound like a vavam.

478
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Speaker 3: All the damn names, you know what I mean. But

479
00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:13,400
Speaker 3: I am very very happy.

480
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Speaker 2: I am and I actually have joy, like because I

481
00:21:17,760 --> 00:21:20,920
Speaker 2: found someone who didn't. I'm not gonna say he didn't

482
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Speaker 2: care about who Jesselarious was.

483
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Speaker 1: He knew that. That's a character, you know. He knew that.

484
00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:29,760
Speaker 2: And it's a lot of Jessica Robin Moore Taliver in

485
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Speaker 2: just larious. But that's my brand that I put that.

486
00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:36,439
Speaker 2: I take that head off at night when you know

487
00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:39,280
Speaker 2: I'm with my husband. He wanted to know who I was,

488
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Speaker 2: and you know, what makes me happy, what brings me

489
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Speaker 2: joy outside of you know, the industry that I'm in.

490
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Speaker 2: You know, he didn't even care about that, and that's

491
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Speaker 2: what I love. I never had that never Wow, how

492
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Speaker 2: did you guys meet? I met him in Baltimore, and

493
00:21:57,680 --> 00:22:00,280
Speaker 2: the look he from Baltimore bornaries too, and I was like,

494
00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:02,240
Speaker 2: I'm not doing no more niggers from Baltimore because the

495
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Speaker 2: all like I'm not.

496
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Speaker 1: They take me back to where I don't want to be,

497
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Speaker 1: you know.

498
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Speaker 2: But he's so well rounded because he was contracted with

499
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Speaker 2: the army, so he lived in Kuwait for like four years,

500
00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:16,360
Speaker 2: and he lived in Thailand, and he's just he's well rounded.

501
00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:18,479
Speaker 2: You would never even know. He ain't even really got

502
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Speaker 2: the accent until he get mad. Then you hear all

503
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Speaker 2: of you and the dou and the suit and I'm like, damn.

504
00:22:22,359 --> 00:22:25,040
Speaker 2: I was trying to get away from that. But I

505
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Speaker 2: met him in Baltimore. I was getting crabs. This was

506
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Speaker 2: February twenty third, twenty twenty three. I was just finishing

507
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Speaker 2: up an episode of Breakfast Club. I was guest co

508
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Speaker 2: host and I caught the train down me and my

509
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Speaker 2: sister and my homegirl with go get some crabs.

510
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Speaker 1: He coming there.

511
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Speaker 2: He's sitting at the end of the bar and he

512
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Speaker 2: beating his people's They knew who I was, but he wasn't.

513
00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:43,360
Speaker 1: Really scoping or anything.

514
00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:45,679
Speaker 2: He was just like down there conversating with them, and

515
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Speaker 2: he was he's a truck driver, so he was like

516
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Speaker 2: on the stop and I tried to buy him around

517
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Speaker 2: the shots. He didn't drink, didn't smoke. He do now

518
00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:58,719
Speaker 2: because I'm a little crazy, but yeah, he didn't, and

519
00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:01,560
Speaker 2: so I was like, I like you, you know what

520
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,200
Speaker 2: I mean. And I'm buying shots and he ain't drinking

521
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:06,520
Speaker 2: none of them. So I get up and I go

522
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:09,199
Speaker 2: to the bathroom and you never know how drunk you

523
00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:12,360
Speaker 2: are until you stand up. And I'm like, sis, walk

524
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Speaker 2: me to the bathroom because I gotta walk past him,

525
00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:16,560
Speaker 2: but I'm drunk a shit and she was like all right, cool.

526
00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:19,119
Speaker 2: We walked past or whatever, and I was like, I

527
00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:21,080
Speaker 2: hope you're not watching me walk away. And I turned

528
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:24,680
Speaker 2: around and he wasn't, and I was like, that's fucked up,

529
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:27,240
Speaker 2: you know. But I came out and he I could

530
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Speaker 2: tell he was getting up, you know, because he was

531
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Speaker 2: ready to leave.

532
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Speaker 1: But he was like, I wouldn't like to take you out.

533
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Speaker 2: I want to get to know you outside of this environment,

534
00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:36,080
Speaker 2: you know, when you sober and everything.

535
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Speaker 1: I want to get to know who you are, you know,

536
00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:41,919
Speaker 1: and then it was that's it. A week later he

537
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Speaker 1: took me on a date and I haven't left his side.

538
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Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's so cute. Yes, three years. I'm

539
00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:51,640
Speaker 3: happy about that. Yeah, I mean you went through a lot, man,

540
00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:56,199
Speaker 3: it's the w Yes, you didn't hold back about how

541
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Speaker 3: you let him know about your baby daddy.

542
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Speaker 1: Yah know with some of the things went wrong there.

543
00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:05,160
Speaker 3: But you guys have figured this out, like you really

544
00:24:05,240 --> 00:24:06,360
Speaker 3: seem to have figured it out.

545
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, we did. Well, what was the motivation behind even Like,

546
00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:11,280
Speaker 1: let me tell this story?

547
00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 3: I mean, I know you've told stories. Yeah, you've been

548
00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:15,639
Speaker 3: open about your relationship with him. You guys done the

549
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:18,080
Speaker 3: pod The Pot Yeah, it was.

550
00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:21,959
Speaker 1: A YouTube series that we developed co parents and therapy.

551
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:24,800
Speaker 2: We used to do those, but like I really wanted

552
00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:28,280
Speaker 2: to put it into like a piece of literature, our story.

553
00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:33,600
Speaker 1: Because girl, I just felt like social.

554
00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:37,679
Speaker 2: Media today, right, you'll go down and use rabbit holes

555
00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:42,680
Speaker 2: and TikTok, Instagram, Facebook X whatever you're on, and you

556
00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 2: see like there is a real category or like a

557
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:54,679
Speaker 2: real like thing where people want to stay stagnant and

558
00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:58,359
Speaker 2: stay dysfunctional and they love toxicity. They feed off of

559
00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:03,679
Speaker 2: that and the code parenting conversations outside of marriage or whatever.

560
00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:08,560
Speaker 2: It's like baby mamas and bitter baby daddies and everybody,

561
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 2: and they are talking about how much they hate the

562
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:15,720
Speaker 2: co parent, like it's not gonna affect your children, like

563
00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 2: your kids ain't gotta see this. Like there's been a

564
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 2: bad stigma put on people, put on couples that don't

565
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 2: stay together, like they feel like once you meet somebody,

566
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 2: you have a baby, you on love all the things.

567
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:29,359
Speaker 1: Y'all break up. Now that's the end of it. You

568
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Speaker 1: take the kid.

569
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:33,919
Speaker 2: I'm gonna take this. We can't even be cool, Like

570
00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:37,440
Speaker 2: fuck my baby mama, fuck you got sexy Red. That

571
00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:38,680
Speaker 2: was like she probably get mad again.

572
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Speaker 1: I don't care. You got it, sexy Red. That's like,

573
00:25:41,040 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 1: fuck my baby dad.

574
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:47,200
Speaker 2: It's like so many it's like that's an audience that like, really, look,

575
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Speaker 2: I'm gonna put it on a sim of the yo.

576
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Speaker 2: On this book press tour, I sat and I did

577
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,480
Speaker 2: many podcasts, right, and I go and do this one

578
00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:57,760
Speaker 2: in particular, And as soon as I sat down, I

579
00:25:57,800 --> 00:25:59,400
Speaker 2: can tell they didn't read the book. But as soon

580
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:03,280
Speaker 2: as I sat down, the one girl's like yes, finally

581
00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:06,800
Speaker 2: we got somebody who finally wrote a fuck my Baby

582
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 2: Daddy book, cause y'all, I can't wait to tell you

583
00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:13,160
Speaker 2: about mine. So I was like, Yeah, you clearly did

584
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 2: not read the book, and you clearly don't know me.

585
00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:18,119
Speaker 2: That's never been me, that's never been my story me

586
00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:20,600
Speaker 2: and Ra I've never been able to say that about wrong.

587
00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 1: Now.

588
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,320
Speaker 2: In the beginning of the book, chapter one, three, maybe four,

589
00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:24,760
Speaker 2: some things went.

590
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Speaker 1: Down, yes, but a little toxic.

591
00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 2: But nah, I've never because you got to think about it, yo,

592
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 2: you once loved this person, you once you know, And

593
00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 2: although y'all not gonna be together, y'all can still come

594
00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:42,359
Speaker 2: together and be friends. Even if you ain't best friends

595
00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:46,439
Speaker 2: like me and Rome like you can still build a

596
00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:50,280
Speaker 2: bond that's healthy for y'all too, because y'all, y'all gotta

597
00:26:50,280 --> 00:26:53,159
Speaker 2: have the mindset for these kids, and you know, the

598
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:57,920
Speaker 2: right mindset for these kids, the right mentality, and y'all

599
00:26:57,960 --> 00:26:59,480
Speaker 2: can raise the kids effectively.

600
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:01,400
Speaker 1: You don't have to hate each other.

601
00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:05,600
Speaker 3: It requires though some well, number one, it requires you

602
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:09,159
Speaker 3: number one to put your children first. It requires actually

603
00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:12,080
Speaker 3: be mindful about doing that. But it also requires you to,

604
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 3: like for have to have forgiveness.

605
00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:18,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I don't know. I feel like you actually

606
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:23,159
Speaker 1: like I do, I do? You give him almost.

607
00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 3: You know, you understand his history and his background, and

608
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:32,040
Speaker 3: maybe some you can kind of just not justify but understand.

609
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:34,119
Speaker 1: Some of his behavior. You can make a decision A

610
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 1: ain't for you, yes, but you could give him grace

611
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:41,280
Speaker 1: in some of his maybe shortcomings or things that he didn't.

612
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:43,639
Speaker 3: Do right in that relationship. And that's hard for a

613
00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 3: lot of people, especially when they.

614
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:49,040
Speaker 1: Still got in it. You got feelings, and I always

615
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 1: say that you say in the book, don't be trying

616
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:53,720
Speaker 1: to jump around, don't be don't jump around in and.

617
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:58,000
Speaker 2: Out No of sex, no, please, no, stop forging maybe daddy,

618
00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 2: don't don't do it. Don't do it, because that's like

619
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:02,480
Speaker 2: false hope in a sense, you know what I mean.

620
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:08,119
Speaker 2: And it's more confusion. Yeah, and you're being let on

621
00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:11,120
Speaker 2: and then vice versa. You got some guys that the.

622
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:12,119
Speaker 1: Baby mama leads on.

623
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 2: Like I've seen it. I've seen it happen before, and

624
00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:19,520
Speaker 2: I know the most complicated thing to do is co

625
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:22,359
Speaker 2: parent with somebody who you feel like you despise, or

626
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 2: you feel like despises you. You feel like there's no end,

627
00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:27,879
Speaker 2: like he hurt me so bad, and that's with me

628
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:29,520
Speaker 2: and wrong with you. In the beginning, I felt like

629
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 2: he had hurt me so bad. I was trying to

630
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:34,119
Speaker 2: show up to be.

631
00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:36,720
Speaker 3: The most bitterest of bitters, Like I was trying to

632
00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:39,680
Speaker 3: be a bitter baby mama and the best parent for Ashton.

633
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 1: And that's like oil and water that don't go you

634
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:42,960
Speaker 1: know what I mean.

635
00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:47,920
Speaker 2: Because it confuses your kids too, because I'm walking around angry,

636
00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:51,719
Speaker 2: holding all of this negativity and energy and I'm angry

637
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 2: most of the time, and his dad, but I'm projecting

638
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:57,440
Speaker 2: on him. And then I start seeing that and my son,

639
00:28:57,520 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 2: like he messing up in school, he talking back to me,

640
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:03,800
Speaker 2: he's being disrespectful, defiant, opposition and all that, and I'm like, well, dad,

641
00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:06,480
Speaker 2: what's wrong with you? And it's like you are what's

642
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 2: wrong with him? And it took me, It didn't take

643
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:12,200
Speaker 2: me a lot of time to see that. But how

644
00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 2: me and Rome got past everything he had done to me.

645
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 2: I had to start realizing that this is bigger than me.

646
00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 2: This has nothing to do with me. Rome came from

647
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 2: a traumatic childhood right he found his mom dead at ten,

648
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 2: and he was the fun one to find her.

649
00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 1: That is how he.

650
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:33,560
Speaker 2: Describes it to be the worst day of his life,

651
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 2: Like nothing comes close to that feeling, and it still

652
00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:39,920
Speaker 2: affects him now. And I think by his family not

653
00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:43,640
Speaker 2: getting him the necessary help to teach him how to

654
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 2: navigate or help him navigate with that loss, or you know,

655
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 2: to cope with mourning at your mom. You know, she

656
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 2: was he was her only child, you know, And then

657
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:58,400
Speaker 2: his life was uprooted at ten and he has a

658
00:29:58,400 --> 00:29:59,760
Speaker 2: different household to go live into.

659
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 1: Think what he started doing was self medicating on.

660
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 2: Women, like with women like as he got older, because

661
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 2: he never got any professional help with that.

662
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:10,800
Speaker 1: And I was able to.

663
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 2: Understand that and change my mindset and my mentality toward him, like, Okay,

664
00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 2: this shit is bigger than me.

665
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:19,440
Speaker 1: Like I got to give him a little grace.

666
00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:23,440
Speaker 2: He got to see somebody though he need professional help,

667
00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 2: but I could tell I was like the first step

668
00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 2: toward therapy because he had never got vulnerable, that vulnerable

669
00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 2: enough to share those things.

670
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:34,760
Speaker 3: What's interesting too, is like you might not have gotten

671
00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 3: to that place to give him that grace if you

672
00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:40,880
Speaker 3: had not removed yourself from that relationship. Yeah, because if

673
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 3: you just stayed in it, because I think women make

674
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 3: the mistake of like, you could have grace for someone

675
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:49,239
Speaker 3: you love and understand their background and why, and it's

676
00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:51,200
Speaker 3: bigger than you. You can understand that. But if you

677
00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 3: stay in it, somebody's going down. You know what I'm saying, Like,

678
00:30:57,120 --> 00:31:00,120
Speaker 3: you can't rise to even have the grace.

679
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 1: If you're in the shit with the person. Yeah, you

680
00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:03,560
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying.

681
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 3: But somehow you got out, somehow you made a decision, yeah,

682
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:08,280
Speaker 3: which I'm sure which was not an easy one.

683
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:09,720
Speaker 1: No, I wasn't. It really was.

684
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:12,920
Speaker 2: It wasn't easy at first because, like I said, I

685
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:15,280
Speaker 2: was still in it and I did go down.

686
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:19,160
Speaker 1: I went that Nigga sent me to jail. Oh my god.

687
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:19,800
Speaker 1: It was wild.

688
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 2: I'm busting out windows, I'm popping up at jobs, and

689
00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 2: I'm fighting the other baby mother and I'm catching them

690
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,400
Speaker 2: with girls, and I'm like, look y'all, all right, this

691
00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:31,400
Speaker 2: this too much, you know, especially when he showed up

692
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:35,440
Speaker 2: at my son's birthday, at our son's first birthday party

693
00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 2: with another bit.

694
00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 1: What what's going on?

695
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:42,560
Speaker 2: Yes, like you know, and then people read that and

696
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:46,000
Speaker 2: they're like, how the hell did you get past that?

697
00:31:46,120 --> 00:31:48,960
Speaker 2: How the hell are you sitting anywhere talking about he

698
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:53,160
Speaker 2: your best friend? I still don't know. I still don't know.

699
00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 2: I was just able to give him grades.

700
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:57,000
Speaker 1: I have no idea.

701
00:31:57,080 --> 00:31:59,000
Speaker 3: I know because the same reason you said, why is

702
00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:01,120
Speaker 3: my son acting up? You did it for your son.

703
00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, you started with your son and then you found

704
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:05,600
Speaker 1: probably graceful him. Yeah. Absolutely.

705
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 3: But yeah, like my son started like acting up, and

706
00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:12,000
Speaker 3: he was such a happy kid, like charming.

707
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:15,360
Speaker 2: Everything was that he did everything like his dad, like,

708
00:32:15,440 --> 00:32:18,000
Speaker 2: because that's how room got me being charming and just

709
00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, his little short ass just

710
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:24,240
Speaker 2: you know, I always say, if ray J and bow

711
00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:25,440
Speaker 2: Wow made a baby, it'll be.

712
00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 3: Your own, it'll be my baby. Pun That's what I

713
00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:29,560
Speaker 3: had to deal with, you know.

714
00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 1: But still very charming, you know.

715
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:34,520
Speaker 2: But like, yeah, I started seeing that at my son,

716
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:40,920
Speaker 2: and yeah, maybe that along with me understanding that traumatic

717
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 2: incident that he had at ten walking and seeing his

718
00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:49,520
Speaker 2: mom dead and then like you know, he still don't

719
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 2: know like what happened or whatever. Nobody even tried to

720
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 2: help him figure that out or anything.

721
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 3: You know, the fact that he was that you could

722
00:32:57,480 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 3: identify that he was medicating himself with women. Yeah, I

723
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 3: think a lot of men do that, yeah, and don't

724
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:09,240
Speaker 3: uh what was the word we said before, diagnose it right?

725
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 3: So sometimes that like the baby mother or the wife

726
00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 3: or the woman is like, what is wrong with you?

727
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 3: They don't even know what's wrong with them. They don't

728
00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 3: because it hasn't been diagnosed. This is what you're doing.

729
00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:21,800
Speaker 3: It's like you're medicating.

730
00:33:21,920 --> 00:33:25,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I feel like you're actually ruining your life actually,

731
00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 1: you know. And I feel like Rome.

732
00:33:28,640 --> 00:33:31,840
Speaker 2: Was looking for his mom and a lot of the

733
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 2: women because he he longed for nurturing, Like he loves affection.

734
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 2: He loves to do all the same things he used

735
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:43,120
Speaker 2: to be able to do with his mom.

736
00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 1: With women, it's like, you.

737
00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:46,520
Speaker 2: Know, he hates you if you can't cook him like

738
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 2: you're talking on the internet. He don't like like certain

739
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 2: things like that. And it always goes back to his

740
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 2: mom because he'll mention, my mother would never do no

741
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 2: shit like that all the time. Every time he gets

742
00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 2: into it with like certain girlfriends and certain you know,

743
00:33:57,800 --> 00:34:00,840
Speaker 2: like I noticed that he'd say that this is you know, past,

744
00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:04,200
Speaker 2: But I'm like, yo, you're looking for your mother and

745
00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:06,920
Speaker 2: these girls you know you can't do that.

746
00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:10,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, woof, Yeah, that's a different type of love. Look

747
00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:12,400
Speaker 1: at just the therapist. You know what I'm saying, You

748
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 1: might need a segment the chest the therapist, I do.

749
00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:17,279
Speaker 2: I do a second called jest fix my mess. Yes,

750
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:19,320
Speaker 2: but see they don't take me serious.

751
00:34:19,360 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 1: That's the problem.

752
00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 3: Yes, my message just seems like, you know, the therapists

753
00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:25,680
Speaker 3: just could be a.

754
00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 1: Whole other thing.

755
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:29,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, put on some glasses, you know, and not do

756
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 3: it at work with two childish ass idiots.

757
00:34:32,760 --> 00:34:36,080
Speaker 1: Oh my god. But yeah, not that I thought about that.

758
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772
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:23,320
Speaker 3: honest about and we don't hear a lot of women

773
00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:24,399
Speaker 3: admit to this.

774
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:30,319
Speaker 1: It's using the kid in a way. No, honestly, it's

775
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:42,560
Speaker 1: very common. Nobody admits it. It's like people use the

776
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:45,160
Speaker 1: kid or weaponize that or the other way.

777
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:47,640
Speaker 3: Or you also say something in the book about how

778
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 3: money he would he would kind of use money to

779
00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 3: So you use what you got to.

780
00:35:57,640 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 2: I don't know what you try to get whatever you're

781
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:02,520
Speaker 2: trying to hit like in the gut, because if you

782
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:07,320
Speaker 2: what I knew about Rome, like back then, if he

783
00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 2: didn't love anything else, he loved his kid like he

784
00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:13,080
Speaker 2: loved his son. He was so happy that we were

785
00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:16,080
Speaker 2: having a baby like I was. I was happy that

786
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 2: he was happy. You know, I was happier for him

787
00:36:21,120 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 2: than I was for myself about to step into motherhood.

788
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 2: So like I knew this would get under his skin.

789
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 2: I'm like, heini yours anyway, Like I used that, I

790
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 2: said that ship them. Yeah, and then like later ass

791
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:37,120
Speaker 2: was toxic too, girl, yes, girl, And that's why and

792
00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:42,239
Speaker 2: that and his his response to that because he was hurt.

793
00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:43,960
Speaker 2: That's why he said he bought the bitch to the

794
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,319
Speaker 2: birthday party because you told me that my son wasn't

795
00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:46,880
Speaker 2: mine anyway.

796
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:49,839
Speaker 1: And I understood. I understood that, Like, yeah I did,

797
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 1: I was. I was. I was mad, you know what

798
00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:55,240
Speaker 1: I mean? Shit, you know, but I've done so much growing.

799
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:58,520
Speaker 1: What do you attribute the growth to? Like, is it

800
00:36:58,600 --> 00:36:59,240
Speaker 1: just lessons?

801
00:36:59,280 --> 00:36:59,520
Speaker 3: Life?

802
00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:02,880
Speaker 1: Therapy? I mean therapy? What nothing?

803
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:08,759
Speaker 2: No therapy, girl. He will shove therapy down somebody throat.

804
00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 2: I'm like, are you in it because you need to go?

805
00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 3: Shit, even changed his face and you know his face all,

806
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 3: you know, smooth now and everything.

807
00:37:16,600 --> 00:37:20,200
Speaker 1: Shoot, so but he still need to go. But I

808
00:37:20,200 --> 00:37:20,520
Speaker 1: don't know.

809
00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:23,120
Speaker 2: I'm not opposed to it, to be honest, I don't

810
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 2: know when to fuck.

811
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:27,480
Speaker 1: I have time to do therapy. You have grown?

812
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:31,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think I honestly, I equate that to

813
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:34,040
Speaker 2: like reading my Bibles because I was born and raised

814
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:39,279
Speaker 2: in the church, very structured household, my father being in

815
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:43,400
Speaker 2: a former marine. My mom born and raised in the

816
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:46,160
Speaker 2: church as well, so that's how she raised her kids.

817
00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:49,279
Speaker 2: And keep your heading the Bible. You know, you give God,

818
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:52,359
Speaker 2: give God everything the glory yourself, you know, you ask

819
00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:55,480
Speaker 2: him to use you, you know, and in situations where

820
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:57,800
Speaker 2: you don't know what to do and you drop seeing

821
00:37:57,800 --> 00:37:59,440
Speaker 2: easy and you pray even when you feel like your

822
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 2: prayers go unheard.

823
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:04,000
Speaker 1: Nah, nah, they're not. You know.

824
00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:07,279
Speaker 2: Sometimes you got to sit in a storm like you

825
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 2: sitting in the season, because you gotta face the noise

826
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 2: and shit.

827
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 3: And I felt like I was very, very toxic. Was

828
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 3: a lot of things I needed to work on.

829
00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 2: While I'm so busy trying to help Roam get through

830
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 2: his shit, I'm like, nigga, I'm fucked up to a

831
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:21,839
Speaker 2: little bit, you know, because of this with you, This

832
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:22,319
Speaker 2: is a lot.

833
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 1: We come from two different paths. And what is the

834
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:28,520
Speaker 1: prayer at that moment? Girl? What is the prayer to

835
00:38:28,520 --> 00:38:30,839
Speaker 1: get you out of your own toxicity?

836
00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:31,400
Speaker 3: God?

837
00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 2: Why would you even want me to go to jail?

838
00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:36,320
Speaker 2: Why would you you said, I'm your kid? Why would

839
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:39,960
Speaker 2: you want me to bash this nigga head? And why

840
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:43,520
Speaker 2: would you want me to ride over here and bust

841
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:45,480
Speaker 2: his windows out? Why would you want me to fight

842
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 2: this girl that's sitting on his lamp on the porch

843
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:51,440
Speaker 2: and my son in the house rolling around in a

844
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:52,920
Speaker 2: kittle it in the cat litter.

845
00:38:53,239 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 1: Why would you want me to do that?

846
00:38:54,960 --> 00:38:58,120
Speaker 3: You know? And what was your answer, did you? I

847
00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:01,840
Speaker 3: don't no answer. What's jail like that? You and you

848
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:02,719
Speaker 3: didn't realize.

849
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 1: You didn't realize I had to go through all of that,

850
00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:05,759
Speaker 1: you know.

851
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:10,359
Speaker 3: But even when you don't get a clear answer from God,

852
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 3: it is not all about just prayer.

853
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 2: It's about realizing too, Like, yo, this is more. This

854
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:24,160
Speaker 2: is about more than just you. You got a kid,

855
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:28,200
Speaker 2: You made a decision to have this baby. It's not

856
00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 2: about just praying. Like you really have to do some

857
00:39:31,880 --> 00:39:36,320
Speaker 2: some deep diving into you got to look inside and

858
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 2: be like, all right, what do I really want? Do

859
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 2: I want to keep going through this shit like what

860
00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:41,839
Speaker 2: you said earlier, Like do I want to keep doing this?

861
00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:46,840
Speaker 2: Like it's draining me to be toxic? Like I'm stopping myself.

862
00:39:46,880 --> 00:39:50,080
Speaker 2: I caught charges and shit like all right, because now

863
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:52,360
Speaker 2: you stopping yourself, and I feel like God will keep on.

864
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 2: He will also keep putting you in the same position

865
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:57,600
Speaker 2: to be hurt by the same person until you wake up.

866
00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:00,520
Speaker 1: Because I know, you know, God wants us to.

867
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:03,959
Speaker 2: Love thy brother, love thy sister, and you know, help

868
00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 2: everybody out where you can.

869
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:06,800
Speaker 1: But he still don't want you to be a fucking

870
00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 1: fool either, like you know, you want you to have

871
00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 1: some discernments.

872
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:13,879
Speaker 2: Yes, and I was very foolish, and I just didn't

873
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:16,239
Speaker 2: want to keep getting hurt and keep hurting myself, and

874
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:18,280
Speaker 2: I didn't want to keep seeing home hurt.

875
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:20,319
Speaker 1: Yes. I love that.

876
00:40:20,719 --> 00:40:23,120
Speaker 3: I love that you're not afraid to, I don't know,

877
00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:25,840
Speaker 3: just make mistakes and learn in real time, like out loud,

878
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 3: and to go back to what we were talking about earlier.

879
00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:30,000
Speaker 1: I remember this moment.

880
00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:33,359
Speaker 3: So you had just had this outburst with the breakfast club.

881
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:37,800
Speaker 3: You just came back, you went online and said whatever

882
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 3: you said.

883
00:40:38,080 --> 00:40:41,240
Speaker 1: I don't even remember everything about everybody and everything about everybody,

884
00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:42,200
Speaker 1: and they didn't want you there.

885
00:40:42,280 --> 00:40:44,200
Speaker 3: They were trying to force you out, and the whole

886
00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:47,719
Speaker 3: thing went crazy, and I remember somebody was like she

887
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:50,279
Speaker 3: shouldn't have done that, and I was like myself, I

888
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 3: was like.

889
00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, because.

890
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:57,760
Speaker 3: Sometimes you had to pick moments to live out loud,

891
00:40:57,840 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 3: even if it's uncomfortable for yourself and everybody else. I'm

892
00:41:01,160 --> 00:41:03,120
Speaker 3: not saying on the record, yes, that you should have

893
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:06,000
Speaker 3: done I know, but I also told that I did

894
00:41:06,040 --> 00:41:08,960
Speaker 3: say that to you, right. I love that you should have.

895
00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:12,719
Speaker 3: But I think when you're not afraid to be out

896
00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:14,840
Speaker 3: loud in a moment like that, it also gives you

897
00:41:14,880 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 3: the opportunity to heal out loud, because whenever when people

898
00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 3: seeing you doing that and then reacting.

899
00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:22,440
Speaker 1: You're on the radio every day and you're in a

900
00:41:22,440 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 1: new position.

901
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 3: So now people are getting to know you new people

902
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:27,799
Speaker 3: are getting to know you in a different way, and

903
00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:29,600
Speaker 3: so now they see you in this conflict.

904
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 1: But guess what, now we get to see you.

905
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 3: You you heal the conflict, and now we've gone on

906
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:36,920
Speaker 3: that ride with you and we know you better. And

907
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 3: I think sometimes to live out loud in those moments,

908
00:41:40,719 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 3: if you're ready to and willing to deal with the

909
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:45,400
Speaker 3: comments and deal with the opinions and deal with everybody,

910
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 3: if you're willing to do that, especially as a public figure,

911
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:48,840
Speaker 3: I don't know.

912
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:53,759
Speaker 1: Sometimes I think it could serve you. You know, it was.

913
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 1: It was a very.

914
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:59,879
Speaker 2: Uncomfortable moment, you know, like I and girl, I had

915
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:02,759
Speaker 2: to go live talk about everybody, and then go to

916
00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 2: work the next day, like my bad was going to work.

917
00:42:04,719 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 1: I did not.

918
00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:05,279
Speaker 3: No.

919
00:42:05,400 --> 00:42:08,040
Speaker 2: I thought I was like, oh shit, I think I'm done. Yeah,

920
00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:10,200
Speaker 2: I think I'm done. But I still went, and I'm like, nah,

921
00:42:10,239 --> 00:42:11,440
Speaker 2: I forget it. Whatever I'm going.

922
00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:14,879
Speaker 1: And I go in there and I.

923
00:42:14,800 --> 00:42:17,040
Speaker 2: See the bus bus don't be coming in At five

924
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:20,480
Speaker 2: point thirty she was there. I was like, oh shit, hey,

925
00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 2: how you doing.

926
00:42:24,120 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 1: She's like, you are right? You good? I was like, yeah,

927
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:27,879
Speaker 1: I'm good. Why what's good?

928
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:29,880
Speaker 3: You know, like I didn't just do this shit like

929
00:42:29,880 --> 00:42:31,640
Speaker 3: everybody didn't see you talking? Yeah?

930
00:42:31,800 --> 00:42:36,399
Speaker 2: Right, And then ooh, I walk in and there they

931
00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 2: want to have. Actually, Envy wanted to have the conversation

932
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:45,200
Speaker 2: on air, you know. And at first I was like, nah, nah,

933
00:42:45,239 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 2: we not doing that, but then I was. Then I

934
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:50,920
Speaker 2: said to myself, no, what I did was public. They

935
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:54,200
Speaker 2: got every right the one I had this conversation with me, yes, publicly,

936
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:57,320
Speaker 2: like nah, I'm not going you know, hot.

937
00:42:57,200 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 1: Tuck my tail hot?

938
00:42:58,239 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 2: Like nah, all right, Well in his right to yeah,

939
00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 2: and he was hurt by it, you know. And I

940
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 2: feel like I got a certain connection, like a different

941
00:43:10,560 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 2: type of connection with Envy because he's like the big

942
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:18,480
Speaker 2: teddy bear, like big brother, Like Hi, don't play about loyalty.

943
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:20,799
Speaker 2: That's one thing about him and me getting to know him,

944
00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 2: because I had a long standing relationship with Charlotte before

945
00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:26,160
Speaker 2: I came to the show, just got.

946
00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:26,479
Speaker 1: To meet Lauren.

947
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:30,160
Speaker 2: But I really didn't like have like that bond with

948
00:43:30,800 --> 00:43:34,080
Speaker 2: Envy until I came on to Breakfast Club and like

949
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:37,080
Speaker 2: he like welcomed me, open arms, whatever you when your

950
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:39,880
Speaker 2: kids need whatever you and Chrisny like he just accepted me.

951
00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:41,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, damn, real family.

952
00:43:41,640 --> 00:43:44,759
Speaker 2: Guy, stand up dude, solid love him, you know so

953
00:43:44,800 --> 00:43:46,680
Speaker 2: that I can tell it hurt him more than it

954
00:43:46,760 --> 00:43:50,439
Speaker 2: hurt anybody, you know. And that's what really made me cry.

955
00:43:50,600 --> 00:43:54,640
Speaker 2: Like Envy, I just I burst into tears, but I

956
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:59,319
Speaker 2: still felt like, yo, I'm not crazy, Like yeah, maybe

957
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 2: a little post part of me and ship, Yeah that's cool,

958
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:04,319
Speaker 2: but like, nah, y'all feel like y'all playing with me.

959
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:06,719
Speaker 2: Like I'm asking, yo, what's going on? Like am I

960
00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:08,680
Speaker 2: being replaced? Like what are y'all doing with her? She's

961
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:10,520
Speaker 2: gonna be the fourth chair, Like what's happening?

962
00:44:11,600 --> 00:44:13,680
Speaker 1: Hey? But I don't know. I mean, you know, like

963
00:44:14,160 --> 00:44:16,359
Speaker 1: senior news producer. She's gone.

964
00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:18,680
Speaker 2: But I'm like, producers really don't be on air like that,

965
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like I wanted her to

966
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 2: sit in the third chair. Wow, I was out having

967
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 2: my baby and shit, but I come back and we

968
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:31,360
Speaker 2: had a plan and now the plan is like different

969
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:35,160
Speaker 2: and didn't and nobody told me, and so I'm asking her, like, yo,

970
00:44:35,239 --> 00:44:36,600
Speaker 2: it's Shane, no even I'm like.

971
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:38,040
Speaker 1: But you know what's going on? Stop bag.

972
00:44:38,080 --> 00:44:42,680
Speaker 2: You are from TMZ. If anybody know anything, it's you, Like,

973
00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:43,800
Speaker 2: I know, you know what's.

974
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:47,719
Speaker 1: Up, you know, But it was it was, it was.

975
00:44:48,680 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 2: It was just no communication. And I felt like the

976
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:53,400
Speaker 2: rapport that I built with them before.

977
00:44:55,040 --> 00:44:56,280
Speaker 1: Going to maternity leave.

978
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 2: I felt like I was at least old some type

979
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:01,759
Speaker 2: of heads up, you know, and I didn't get that.

980
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:05,480
Speaker 2: So I acted out in a tantrum type of manner

981
00:45:05,680 --> 00:45:10,680
Speaker 2: and we had that big blow up on air, and

982
00:45:10,719 --> 00:45:17,239
Speaker 2: everything got better eventually. I don't regret doing that on air.

983
00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:20,120
Speaker 2: I don't regret doing it because, like, it was a

984
00:45:20,239 --> 00:45:22,880
Speaker 2: very real thing and it was a moment of the

985
00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:24,960
Speaker 2: beginning of a healing process, like all right, come on,

986
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:25,480
Speaker 2: let's do it.

987
00:45:25,560 --> 00:45:27,240
Speaker 3: I guess that's what I was saying at the beginning

988
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:30,279
Speaker 3: of this. It's like, yeah, I'm not saying.

989
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:33,640
Speaker 1: I know, but I feel like I know you were.

990
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:39,000
Speaker 3: You were in a state of like postparty, new job,

991
00:45:39,080 --> 00:45:42,960
Speaker 3: you needed support, you needed guidance. You weren't getting it

992
00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 3: and you had a tantrum. Yeah, you had a.

993
00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:47,680
Speaker 1: Tantrum, you did, But like.

994
00:45:47,680 --> 00:45:51,720
Speaker 3: Sometimes I don't know, I feel like, what a great

995
00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 3: opportunity for you for the fans of the show or

996
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:57,879
Speaker 3: people in the public to see you work through that

997
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:01,320
Speaker 3: with everyone as a team, to see you and Lauren

998
00:46:02,640 --> 00:46:05,360
Speaker 3: get to the other side of that. It's beautiful to

999
00:46:05,360 --> 00:46:07,319
Speaker 3: see that. And so I think you don't get to

1000
00:46:07,360 --> 00:46:09,520
Speaker 3: see that if you don't see the tantrum. For us,

1001
00:46:09,600 --> 00:46:11,200
Speaker 3: you don't get to see the healing if you don't

1002
00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:13,839
Speaker 3: get to see the tantrum. And so I love that

1003
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:16,000
Speaker 3: we got to.

1004
00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:18,520
Speaker 2: Sit down with you Angela ye, like you know, because

1005
00:46:18,600 --> 00:46:22,640
Speaker 2: remember that women's event girl, that was like immediately after

1006
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:25,440
Speaker 2: the live and shit. And so I'm imagine coming back

1007
00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 2: to work after something like that and you saw all

1008
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 2: the white people walking down, Hey, Jesse, Okay, I'm like, yeah,

1009
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:33,640
Speaker 2: I'm good, damn Like all right, relax y'all. And then

1010
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:37,360
Speaker 2: Lauren actually was the one like, hey, we should go

1011
00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:40,680
Speaker 2: to the women's like it's Women's Day. It was all

1012
00:46:40,719 --> 00:46:44,680
Speaker 2: the girls of iHeart, like, let's I'm like girl, hell no,

1013
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:45,919
Speaker 2: I just went live last week.

1014
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:47,680
Speaker 1: I don't even know how you talking to me, you know,

1015
00:46:47,840 --> 00:46:49,759
Speaker 1: Like no, She's like, no, let's go for real. I

1016
00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:50,439
Speaker 1: think it'd be great.

1017
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:54,879
Speaker 2: Lauren is really a girl's girl, like she I love

1018
00:46:54,960 --> 00:46:57,600
Speaker 2: that how she didn't even of course in the moment

1019
00:46:57,640 --> 00:46:59,440
Speaker 2: she was upset, like you bitch said you ain't like

1020
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:01,319
Speaker 2: me online and all of that, you know, but she

1021
00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 2: was able to see, like also what I was going through,

1022
00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:06,919
Speaker 2: and she was able to put herself in my shoes, like, yeah,

1023
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:08,640
Speaker 2: I would kind of feel that way too. I wouldn't

1024
00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:10,879
Speaker 2: do what you did, but I would feel that way too.

1025
00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 2: And then we sat down with you and Angelaue and

1026
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:17,239
Speaker 2: also like and you gave us that that I thought

1027
00:47:17,239 --> 00:47:19,520
Speaker 2: that was the most genius idea to remake The Boy

1028
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:21,840
Speaker 2: is Mine, The Job is Mine. I thought that was

1029
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 2: so fucking great.

1030
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:27,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was.

1031
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:30,400
Speaker 3: I was trying to express to you guys that to

1032
00:47:30,640 --> 00:47:33,479
Speaker 3: own the narrative. I just wanted you to to own

1033
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:36,920
Speaker 3: your own narrative, like, don't let people say what she is.

1034
00:47:37,360 --> 00:47:38,200
Speaker 1: Don't let Lauren.

1035
00:47:38,239 --> 00:47:42,360
Speaker 3: Don't let people tell you just ain't shit and hate you, Lauren,

1036
00:47:42,400 --> 00:47:44,279
Speaker 3: don't you know, just don't let people tell you that

1037
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:46,360
Speaker 3: Lauren is trying to take you out because like, y'all

1038
00:47:46,680 --> 00:47:48,920
Speaker 3: control the narrative and I just I don't know. I

1039
00:47:49,000 --> 00:47:50,719
Speaker 3: just wanted to say that, so then that I did

1040
00:47:50,840 --> 00:47:53,120
Speaker 3: came up. But then you actually not only did you.

1041
00:47:53,080 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 2: Do it, but y'all took it and bodied yes, I

1042
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:56,799
Speaker 2: thought it was so.

1043
00:47:56,920 --> 00:47:59,920
Speaker 3: And then Brandy to hear Brandy say like that was

1044
00:48:00,160 --> 00:48:04,359
Speaker 3: Jean Lauren just saw her at the Roofs picnic and

1045
00:48:04,400 --> 00:48:05,960
Speaker 3: Brandy was so happy about that.

1046
00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:09,759
Speaker 1: She was loved that. She loved it. So that makes

1047
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:14,880
Speaker 1: me so happy. Yeah, I know, right, yes, And we

1048
00:48:14,920 --> 00:48:15,680
Speaker 1: don't do the same thing.

1049
00:48:15,680 --> 00:48:18,760
Speaker 2: I'm a comedian, she's a journalist, you know, like Lauren

1050
00:48:18,800 --> 00:48:19,960
Speaker 2: being caught with niggas.

1051
00:48:20,080 --> 00:48:22,759
Speaker 1: That ain't me. I'm not sitting behind Diddy for forty

1052
00:48:22,760 --> 00:48:24,960
Speaker 1: five days. I'm not doing it. She was there. She

1053
00:48:25,360 --> 00:48:26,480
Speaker 1: that's TMZ girl.

1054
00:48:26,560 --> 00:48:29,759
Speaker 3: She's about that life. She is about that life. Respect

1055
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:32,800
Speaker 3: that that's a grind. The reason I love that is

1056
00:48:32,840 --> 00:48:36,040
Speaker 3: because I've made mistakes like that in my career, where

1057
00:48:36,440 --> 00:48:39,800
Speaker 3: you let people make you feel some way about somebody,

1058
00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:44,080
Speaker 3: And when I would get to the other side of it,

1059
00:48:44,160 --> 00:48:47,239
Speaker 3: I realized, Man, it's so much better when you could

1060
00:48:47,280 --> 00:48:52,160
Speaker 3: just get it out, get to it, because usually usually

1061
00:48:52,680 --> 00:48:54,320
Speaker 3: nobody really wants the problem.

1062
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 1: They want solutions, yeah, and things.

1063
00:48:56,880 --> 00:48:59,640
Speaker 2: It's not somebody I'm seeing every day. Like you spend

1064
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:01,279
Speaker 2: more time with the people you work with then you

1065
00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:04,240
Speaker 2: do your family. So yeah, that that part.

1066
00:49:04,080 --> 00:49:07,920
Speaker 3: Too, not every day every day beefing with somebody every day,

1067
00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:10,840
Speaker 3: Like damn, I got to come up with a roast

1068
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:12,400
Speaker 3: every day. You know.

1069
00:49:12,440 --> 00:49:15,799
Speaker 1: I didn't have to do that. Yeah. People have done

1070
00:49:15,880 --> 00:49:17,280
Speaker 1: ship like that to me my whole career.

1071
00:49:17,520 --> 00:49:20,200
Speaker 3: I told that story we were with Ryan Coogler about

1072
00:49:20,200 --> 00:49:23,239
Speaker 3: how when I when they first put me on Afternoons. Yeah,

1073
00:49:23,320 --> 00:49:26,280
Speaker 3: I was like struggling with something and they put and

1074
00:49:26,280 --> 00:49:29,040
Speaker 3: they put ed lover on against me at Power. I

1075
00:49:29,080 --> 00:49:33,360
Speaker 3: think Afternoons and I love it, love right, yes, whatever,

1076
00:49:33,480 --> 00:49:35,640
Speaker 3: But all of a sudden he was like my competition,

1077
00:49:36,080 --> 00:49:37,719
Speaker 3: and I let a little bit of that get in

1078
00:49:37,760 --> 00:49:41,200
Speaker 3: my head. And then he booked Oprah Winfrey on his

1079
00:49:41,280 --> 00:49:44,840
Speaker 3: after you know She's Yes, still haven't really interviewed Oprah.

1080
00:49:45,760 --> 00:49:47,920
Speaker 3: He got the Oprah interview on Power. So it's new

1081
00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:51,719
Speaker 3: radio station, new lover right against me. Oh god, I

1082
00:49:51,920 --> 00:49:54,320
Speaker 3: caught myself feeling a way about Ed. I caught myself

1083
00:49:54,320 --> 00:49:55,000
Speaker 3: on like hey what.

1084
00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:57,120
Speaker 1: And then I was like, wait a minute, you don't.

1085
00:49:57,520 --> 00:49:59,520
Speaker 1: You don't feel like that about it, you love it.

1086
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:03,480
Speaker 3: I had to check myself and I was by myself

1087
00:50:03,480 --> 00:50:06,560
Speaker 3: in the car to check myself, and I thought checking

1088
00:50:06,600 --> 00:50:07,720
Speaker 3: myself wasn't enough.

1089
00:50:07,920 --> 00:50:11,160
Speaker 1: I had to like hit ed and say, Yo, you

1090
00:50:11,320 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 1: killed that interview. Wow, it was so good. And then

1091
00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:18,480
Speaker 1: hear him say to me, man, feel thank you so

1092
00:50:18,640 --> 00:50:20,279
Speaker 1: much for calling me so much to me.

1093
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:22,440
Speaker 3: And then I was like, oh, I'll never make that

1094
00:50:22,520 --> 00:50:25,360
Speaker 3: mistake again because what was almost happening.

1095
00:50:26,120 --> 00:50:29,560
Speaker 1: It's like you have to cut that shit, yeah.

1096
00:50:29,360 --> 00:50:31,799
Speaker 2: Right at the root, because he probably didn't know how

1097
00:50:31,840 --> 00:50:34,400
Speaker 2: you were feeling either. He's probably like shit, probably just

1098
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:35,920
Speaker 2: automatically felt guilty to you.

1099
00:50:35,920 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 1: Like for sure.

1100
00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:39,160
Speaker 3: I just use that as an example, but we've all

1101
00:50:39,200 --> 00:50:42,120
Speaker 3: been through that in different things at the job. But

1102
00:50:42,360 --> 00:50:45,279
Speaker 3: whatever people put you in, it's like if you don't

1103
00:50:45,360 --> 00:50:47,160
Speaker 3: check yourself, and then if you want to go further

1104
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:50,600
Speaker 3: and actually clear the air, a lot of times the

1105
00:50:50,680 --> 00:50:51,879
Speaker 3: air feels better like that.

1106
00:50:52,000 --> 00:50:54,440
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna lie let Lauren me over before me.

1107
00:50:54,440 --> 00:50:57,680
Speaker 1: I'm going live again. I oh no, damn what no shit.

1108
00:50:57,840 --> 00:51:03,919
Speaker 1: I don't hate upsy no, but damn no more live

1109
00:51:04,040 --> 00:51:05,640
Speaker 1: for you. No, no, no more, no more.

1110
00:51:05,800 --> 00:51:09,920
Speaker 3: Let's go to our bowl I r L bowl or

1111
00:51:09,960 --> 00:51:14,600
Speaker 3: our voice note which one? All right, let's do bowl? Okay,

1112
00:51:14,719 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 3: all right, there's our I r L bowl. Question you

1113
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:20,000
Speaker 3: can't go in. You've seen the pods, so you know

1114
00:51:20,040 --> 00:51:21,799
Speaker 3: I'm gonna go to my favorite one after. But we'll

1115
00:51:21,800 --> 00:51:28,479
Speaker 3: save that for the end. Okay, damn what what can't

1116
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:29,000
Speaker 3: figure out?

1117
00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:29,680
Speaker 1: Yes?

1118
00:51:29,800 --> 00:51:31,879
Speaker 2: Because this one is what do people hope to learn

1119
00:51:31,920 --> 00:51:37,000
Speaker 2: from you? What do you think people can people know?

1120
00:51:37,160 --> 00:51:39,200
Speaker 3: I think people should learn. What do you hope people

1121
00:51:39,280 --> 00:51:46,279
Speaker 3: learn from you? Being yourself is never too much? Like honestly, like,

1122
00:51:47,400 --> 00:51:49,920
Speaker 3: it's not always beautiful, it's not always easy, it's not

1123
00:51:49,960 --> 00:51:52,040
Speaker 3: always pretty, but like.

1124
00:51:54,480 --> 00:52:02,000
Speaker 2: It's real, definitely real. But sometimes some people so emotional?

1125
00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:09,719
Speaker 1: What is that? What's happening? What are you thinking? Why

1126
00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:19,319
Speaker 1: is that? Why does that sting? Because sometimes you you

1127
00:52:19,360 --> 00:52:28,440
Speaker 1: can be too much or for people mm hmm you

1128
00:52:28,480 --> 00:52:31,160
Speaker 1: want to petition? You can we get a petition?

1129
00:52:31,320 --> 00:52:36,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, sometimes you you can be too much, right or

1130
00:52:37,040 --> 00:52:37,880
Speaker 3: people have told you that.

1131
00:52:37,920 --> 00:52:45,279
Speaker 1: I guess like, yeah, sorry, I don't make sure that

1132
00:52:45,440 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 1: your makeup is so good.

1133
00:52:46,239 --> 00:52:51,360
Speaker 2: I don't want to think you know, but not Sometimes

1134
00:52:51,400 --> 00:52:53,840
Speaker 2: you can be like too much for people, And I

1135
00:52:53,880 --> 00:52:54,840
Speaker 2: have been told that.

1136
00:52:54,800 --> 00:52:57,279
Speaker 1: Like like.

1137
00:52:58,800 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 2: Tone it down, like you you know that Baltimore can't

1138
00:53:02,640 --> 00:53:06,200
Speaker 2: come with you, which you mean that's what got me here,

1139
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:16,120
Speaker 2: you know, like and second guess yourself a lot while

1140
00:53:16,200 --> 00:53:21,359
Speaker 2: you want to be known for who you are and

1141
00:53:21,440 --> 00:53:23,279
Speaker 2: staying authentic and just like.

1142
00:53:25,120 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, being who you are.

1143
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:33,279
Speaker 2: You know, sometimes that's not always accepted right away by

1144
00:53:33,320 --> 00:53:36,480
Speaker 2: the people that you think will accept it. You know,

1145
00:53:37,239 --> 00:53:43,880
Speaker 2: like I've never been cookie cutter, never been over polished,

1146
00:53:43,880 --> 00:53:49,080
Speaker 2: and shit, I evolve for sure, elevating and evolution is beautiful,

1147
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:53,680
Speaker 2: but like I will never lose my core and like.

1148
00:53:57,400 --> 00:53:58,400
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot.

1149
00:53:58,239 --> 00:54:01,919
Speaker 2: Of my nose that I get like no, no, you're

1150
00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:03,360
Speaker 2: not good for this roller, you can't do this.

1151
00:54:03,480 --> 00:54:03,799
Speaker 1: You can't.

1152
00:54:03,840 --> 00:54:09,000
Speaker 2: It's because I'm a little I'm still a little rugged

1153
00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:12,640
Speaker 2: too much. Like it's you know, oh, she goes rogue

1154
00:54:12,680 --> 00:54:15,880
Speaker 2: if things don't happen her way, or she's from the

1155
00:54:15,920 --> 00:54:17,080
Speaker 2: same city monique from me.

1156
00:54:17,160 --> 00:54:18,440
Speaker 1: You see how that shit ended up.

1157
00:54:18,480 --> 00:54:21,839
Speaker 2: Like I actually have heard those conversations. I'm like, then,

1158
00:54:21,880 --> 00:54:23,920
Speaker 2: know Jada Pinkett, you see how she going around she

1159
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:24,879
Speaker 2: on this book tour, she.

1160
00:54:24,800 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 1: Talking about she wasn't never happened.

1161
00:54:26,000 --> 00:54:30,120
Speaker 3: I'm like, God, damn, these Boughtimore bites Manning, you know what,

1162
00:54:30,520 --> 00:54:32,360
Speaker 3: they put us all in the God that you know,

1163
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:37,880
Speaker 3: But everybody's journey is different, everybody's everybody's different.

1164
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:39,880
Speaker 1: Then oh my god, then you see Krishawn.

1165
00:54:40,080 --> 00:54:44,239
Speaker 3: It's like why everybody always gotta like it's like we

1166
00:54:44,400 --> 00:54:47,160
Speaker 3: constantly get it. Like, but.

1167
00:54:50,200 --> 00:54:53,120
Speaker 2: What I what I still want for people to learn

1168
00:54:53,160 --> 00:54:55,439
Speaker 2: from me, Like, yo, just be yourself. It may take

1169
00:54:55,480 --> 00:55:02,680
Speaker 2: you longer than you're expected to grow, right, don't change,

1170
00:55:02,920 --> 00:55:07,279
Speaker 2: grow get better with time like wine, Like even going

1171
00:55:07,280 --> 00:55:13,080
Speaker 2: back to my book, I got better, like from experiencing

1172
00:55:13,160 --> 00:55:16,799
Speaker 2: things and learning from myself and learning from my son.

1173
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:28,640
Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, it's hard though I feel that, Yeah,

1174
00:55:28,640 --> 00:55:31,440
Speaker 1: well you are enough clearly. Yeah, that's not the problem.

1175
00:55:31,440 --> 00:55:32,879
Speaker 1: You don't think you're not enough.

1176
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:35,520
Speaker 3: You think you're too much, or you're worry you're too much.

1177
00:55:35,640 --> 00:55:38,440
Speaker 3: That's your struggle, right, Am I too much?

1178
00:55:38,680 --> 00:55:41,440
Speaker 1: Right? But then what you're supposed to do mute yourself

1179
00:55:41,560 --> 00:55:45,960
Speaker 1: right with yourself. And I think that's what also I

1180
00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:48,480
Speaker 1: was going through in the breakfast club that I'm just

1181
00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:51,359
Speaker 1: trying to I mean that I'm just getting out of

1182
00:55:51,520 --> 00:55:54,640
Speaker 1: like am I too much, do I gotta I'm in

1183
00:55:54,719 --> 00:55:58,759
Speaker 1: my head asking all these questions and yeah, it'll get

1184
00:55:58,800 --> 00:56:00,600
Speaker 1: you every time, girl. Yes.

1185
00:56:01,239 --> 00:56:04,239
Speaker 2: And then Shar calls me. You know, Envy will call like, Yo,

1186
00:56:04,400 --> 00:56:06,319
Speaker 2: he was quiet? They was wrong, you know, And then

1187
00:56:06,360 --> 00:56:10,440
Speaker 2: Shar calls me. Yeah, Envy is always there with it.

1188
00:56:10,600 --> 00:56:10,799
Speaker 3: You know.

1189
00:56:11,239 --> 00:56:13,160
Speaker 1: He's a good soul. Yeah he is.

1190
00:56:13,280 --> 00:56:17,400
Speaker 2: Man, and Shar will call me and man, Shar is

1191
00:56:17,440 --> 00:56:20,000
Speaker 2: like a tough big brother but still a brother nonetheless,

1192
00:56:20,040 --> 00:56:22,120
Speaker 2: Like he's the type if you walk past him and

1193
00:56:22,160 --> 00:56:24,120
Speaker 2: you crying here, don't come around me all because I

1194
00:56:24,120 --> 00:56:25,280
Speaker 2: ain't gonna ask you what's wrong?

1195
00:56:25,440 --> 00:56:28,400
Speaker 1: You know. And then when we get off work, you know,

1196
00:56:28,719 --> 00:56:31,720
Speaker 1: what's what's going on? What's wrong? And don't be tough,

1197
00:56:32,000 --> 00:56:35,719
Speaker 1: like you don't gotta be tough. What's wrong? You know?

1198
00:56:35,880 --> 00:56:36,520
Speaker 1: You're quiet?

1199
00:56:36,600 --> 00:56:39,760
Speaker 2: What's going on? Where's your funny? Where are you? What's happening?

1200
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:42,160
Speaker 2: Why you're not right? And I can tell what's going on?

1201
00:56:42,200 --> 00:56:42,400
Speaker 3: You know.

1202
00:56:43,239 --> 00:56:47,239
Speaker 2: That makes me feel better, makes me feel good, you know,

1203
00:56:47,360 --> 00:56:49,680
Speaker 2: cause these are like in my opinion, Oh geez, man,

1204
00:56:49,719 --> 00:56:50,720
Speaker 2: y'all been doing this shit.

1205
00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:54,120
Speaker 1: For so long. No, we didn't learn this.

1206
00:56:54,120 --> 00:56:59,040
Speaker 2: This is the way, y'all learned, but it's still hard,

1207
00:56:59,080 --> 00:57:01,399
Speaker 2: it still new, and it's like shit, it's like being

1208
00:57:01,480 --> 00:57:04,920
Speaker 2: thrown in you know. But what I do realize is,

1209
00:57:04,960 --> 00:57:09,640
Speaker 2: you know, to wrap it up like it's still other days.

1210
00:57:09,680 --> 00:57:11,760
Speaker 2: You know, it's always the next day, it's always tomorrow.

1211
00:57:11,760 --> 00:57:15,000
Speaker 2: If you don't get it right today, yeah you got another,

1212
00:57:15,520 --> 00:57:16,600
Speaker 2: got another day to get it right.

1213
00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:19,880
Speaker 1: And we just people try to try to wing, to

1214
00:57:19,960 --> 00:57:21,600
Speaker 1: try to wing with me, you know what I mean,

1215
00:57:21,720 --> 00:57:22,560
Speaker 1: We just people.

1216
00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:25,960
Speaker 3: So yeah, I just heard somebody say that today about

1217
00:57:26,080 --> 00:57:28,480
Speaker 3: yesterday about somebody. Oh, we were talking about a friend

1218
00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:31,320
Speaker 3: of mine who's super successful and she just did something

1219
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:34,120
Speaker 3: kind of nuts and one of our friends was like,

1220
00:57:34,800 --> 00:57:35,320
Speaker 3: what's wrong.

1221
00:57:35,440 --> 00:57:37,480
Speaker 1: You're human, right.

1222
00:57:37,840 --> 00:57:41,800
Speaker 3: You're showing you're showing that you're human because we all like,

1223
00:57:42,960 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 3: we're all just trying.

1224
00:57:43,880 --> 00:57:46,600
Speaker 1: Our best out here. By the way, you answered that

1225
00:57:46,680 --> 00:57:50,520
Speaker 1: question amazing. I know I think I did not. I

1226
00:57:50,640 --> 00:57:53,280
Speaker 1: didn't want it, but we didn't want it, but you it.

1227
00:57:53,400 --> 00:57:56,440
Speaker 1: You didn't want it, but you needed it. The damn

1228
00:57:56,440 --> 00:57:59,040
Speaker 1: bol will get you every time, right damn.

1229
00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:01,280
Speaker 2: And I was watching that so I'm like, shait, watch,

1230
00:58:01,360 --> 00:58:03,080
Speaker 2: I'm gonna pick a good question and I'm gonna ace

1231
00:58:03,160 --> 00:58:03,480
Speaker 2: this shit.

1232
00:58:03,520 --> 00:58:06,760
Speaker 1: The whole time. I'm up this motherfucker crying. I know,

1233
00:58:07,080 --> 00:58:08,680
Speaker 1: but damn I ain't want to get all deep.

1234
00:58:09,600 --> 00:58:12,960
Speaker 3: Oh I was trying to hold it together because we

1235
00:58:13,000 --> 00:58:14,960
Speaker 3: can't move be here crying.

1236
00:58:15,680 --> 00:58:17,320
Speaker 1: You know how I felt that to him. We probably

1237
00:58:17,400 --> 00:58:17,880
Speaker 1: feel it too.

1238
00:58:17,960 --> 00:58:21,000
Speaker 3: It's like we all go through those moments where we're

1239
00:58:21,040 --> 00:58:24,560
Speaker 3: like somebody judges you or they want you to be

1240
00:58:24,600 --> 00:58:27,000
Speaker 3: a different version of yourself, and we're like, am I okay?

1241
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:29,640
Speaker 1: Am I enough? Am I good enough? Am I something

1242
00:58:29,640 --> 00:58:32,920
Speaker 1: wrong with me? Like, even if we don't show it,

1243
00:58:34,080 --> 00:58:37,280
Speaker 1: we all have those internal feelings sometimes. And it's like

1244
00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:41,560
Speaker 1: you were just throwing in the fire. It's on overload,

1245
00:58:42,280 --> 00:58:44,200
Speaker 1: and so I feel you on that.

1246
00:58:44,400 --> 00:58:47,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm so proud of you that you are fighting

1247
00:58:47,760 --> 00:58:49,840
Speaker 3: and continue to fight through that things.

1248
00:58:50,160 --> 00:58:54,280
Speaker 1: So you're so worth it. Thank you man. Yeah, it's good.

1249
00:58:54,440 --> 00:59:00,439
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna make it cry against I know, right. Yeah,

1250
00:59:01,800 --> 00:59:05,000
Speaker 1: I appreciate it though for real. Yeah, you're so dope.

1251
00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:07,040
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1269
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Speaker 3: go to our voice note. We have a voice notte

1270
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Speaker 3: segment here. You know this from the iralius. This is

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00:59:58,920 --> 01:00:02,400
Speaker 3: a listener or a fan show. Yes, friend, let's having it.

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01:00:03,480 --> 01:00:07,640
Speaker 4: Hi, Jess, I've been seeing somebody for almost a year now,

1273
01:00:08,240 --> 01:00:11,720
Speaker 4: and he's asking me questions about when he's gonna be

1274
01:00:11,800 --> 01:00:14,760
Speaker 4: introduced to my child. How do you know when it's

1275
01:00:14,800 --> 01:00:18,800
Speaker 4: a good time to introduce your new partner to your child?

1276
01:00:21,240 --> 01:00:23,280
Speaker 1: Good question? Yeah, that is a good question. I actually

1277
01:00:23,280 --> 01:00:24,240
Speaker 1: talk about this in the book.

1278
01:00:24,320 --> 01:00:28,800
Speaker 2: I because what I did, what I did, what I

1279
01:00:28,800 --> 01:00:31,200
Speaker 2: thought was wrong now looking back, I was introducing my

1280
01:00:31,360 --> 01:00:33,120
Speaker 2: son to everybody.

1281
01:00:33,840 --> 01:00:38,720
Speaker 3: Yes, girl, and it was like I'm who is Like

1282
01:00:38,800 --> 01:00:41,280
Speaker 3: my son was literally like who is this?

1283
01:00:41,480 --> 01:00:42,000
Speaker 1: You know what I mean?

1284
01:00:42,080 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 2: I'm And I wasn't even dating good guys, like great guys.

1285
01:00:47,000 --> 01:00:48,680
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna say they weren't great. They weren't great

1286
01:00:48,760 --> 01:00:50,000
Speaker 2: for him, my son.

1287
01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:51,560
Speaker 1: I was. I was dating selfishly.

1288
01:00:51,920 --> 01:00:54,080
Speaker 3: But were you introducing them as your boyfriend or just

1289
01:00:54,120 --> 01:00:56,960
Speaker 3: like my mommy's friend, Oh yeah, my friend like yeah nah,

1290
01:00:57,120 --> 01:01:00,720
Speaker 3: And a lot of them wasn't even around long enough

1291
01:01:00,720 --> 01:01:02,040
Speaker 3: to become boyfriends.

1292
01:01:02,080 --> 01:01:05,680
Speaker 2: But like I wouldn't introduce my son to ooh gosh,

1293
01:01:05,720 --> 01:01:07,760
Speaker 2: Like I feel bad even talk about it now, but

1294
01:01:07,800 --> 01:01:11,720
Speaker 2: I did do that. And when I'm at my husband,

1295
01:01:11,720 --> 01:01:13,520
Speaker 2: this is this is like the answer to the question.

1296
01:01:13,920 --> 01:01:17,880
Speaker 2: When I met my husband, I feel like I had

1297
01:01:18,200 --> 01:01:20,680
Speaker 2: went through all the bad seeds. I knew what not

1298
01:01:20,760 --> 01:01:23,760
Speaker 2: to do in this relationship, so I was like, all right, cool.

1299
01:01:24,120 --> 01:01:26,960
Speaker 1: I asked him questions about because he wasn't a parent.

1300
01:01:27,080 --> 01:01:30,280
Speaker 2: I gave my husband his first child, so I was

1301
01:01:30,320 --> 01:01:32,720
Speaker 2: asking him like like how are you good? How are

1302
01:01:32,760 --> 01:01:37,200
Speaker 2: you with kids? How are you with conflict resolution? With baby?

1303
01:01:37,280 --> 01:01:39,840
Speaker 2: Daddy's Like, you know, have you ever dealt with somebody

1304
01:01:39,880 --> 01:01:41,480
Speaker 2: with a kid, because I know you don't have kids?

1305
01:01:41,920 --> 01:01:43,960
Speaker 2: Was how how was you brought up?

1306
01:01:44,080 --> 01:01:44,320
Speaker 1: Mark?

1307
01:01:44,520 --> 01:01:47,080
Speaker 2: You know, like does your mom and your dad speak?

1308
01:01:47,360 --> 01:01:49,480
Speaker 2: Do you speak to your father? Do you speak to

1309
01:01:49,520 --> 01:01:52,160
Speaker 2: your mother? You know what I mean? Like, just certain

1310
01:01:52,360 --> 01:01:57,320
Speaker 2: certain things and you'll be able to see rather quickly

1311
01:01:58,800 --> 01:02:01,840
Speaker 2: what type of person you did with, you know. And

1312
01:02:02,720 --> 01:02:05,880
Speaker 2: it took me like four months to introduce my husband

1313
01:02:05,960 --> 01:02:08,680
Speaker 2: to my my son. Although I knew I was gonna

1314
01:02:08,680 --> 01:02:11,480
Speaker 2: be with him before that, it was just a feeling

1315
01:02:11,480 --> 01:02:16,040
Speaker 2: I had. I still was very cautious approaching that meetup

1316
01:02:16,120 --> 01:02:22,320
Speaker 2: because I'm like, well, Ashton seen so many just clown

1317
01:02:22,560 --> 01:02:26,520
Speaker 2: ass dudes, Yo, come in and out. This one gotta

1318
01:02:26,560 --> 01:02:28,720
Speaker 2: be right because I can't keep doing the shit. He's

1319
01:02:28,720 --> 01:02:31,680
Speaker 2: gonna get older and he's gonna be like, all right, mine,

1320
01:02:31,880 --> 01:02:32,680
Speaker 2: yeah you tripping?

1321
01:02:33,360 --> 01:02:35,200
Speaker 1: Like what the hell you know?

1322
01:02:35,920 --> 01:02:38,760
Speaker 2: So to answer her question, you gotta get to know

1323
01:02:38,880 --> 01:02:40,840
Speaker 2: it is no time to put on it.

1324
01:02:41,000 --> 01:02:44,840
Speaker 1: Just when you feel.

1325
01:02:43,320 --> 01:02:47,600
Speaker 2: Like you've asked all the questions and you can see

1326
01:02:48,840 --> 01:02:51,280
Speaker 2: that he's a good guy, that that he or she

1327
01:02:51,640 --> 01:02:53,440
Speaker 2: is a good because you know, just for guys too,

1328
01:02:53,520 --> 01:02:57,840
Speaker 2: you gotta you really have to do evaluations these days. Man,

1329
01:02:58,280 --> 01:03:02,000
Speaker 2: it's like on a first on those first three dates,

1330
01:03:02,280 --> 01:03:04,000
Speaker 2: you got to get to know the person. Don't just

1331
01:03:04,040 --> 01:03:07,200
Speaker 2: be on the phone, please don't. Don't don't take pictures.

1332
01:03:07,240 --> 01:03:08,960
Speaker 2: Oh look where he bought me at, Like look he

1333
01:03:09,080 --> 01:03:11,040
Speaker 2: took me. Look you all I'm at Ruth Chris Like

1334
01:03:11,240 --> 01:03:14,520
Speaker 2: nah nah nah. Really get to know that man, especially

1335
01:03:14,560 --> 01:03:16,440
Speaker 2: if you've got children and you come as a package.

1336
01:03:16,480 --> 01:03:17,240
Speaker 1: You are a package.

1337
01:03:17,240 --> 01:03:20,000
Speaker 2: You have to realize, I mean, you have to approach

1338
01:03:20,520 --> 01:03:22,280
Speaker 2: dating as a package.

1339
01:03:22,600 --> 01:03:24,440
Speaker 1: And that's what I didn't do. That's what I learned

1340
01:03:24,560 --> 01:03:26,400
Speaker 1: what a good question is to get to know that man.

1341
01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:30,120
Speaker 2: Ooh, Like, how are you with your Were you raised

1342
01:03:30,120 --> 01:03:32,160
Speaker 2: in a two parent home? And it's okay if they

1343
01:03:32,360 --> 01:03:35,440
Speaker 2: if they, if they weren't, because just because you are

1344
01:03:35,840 --> 01:03:37,600
Speaker 2: raising the two parent house old don't mean you won't

1345
01:03:37,600 --> 01:03:39,080
Speaker 2: be fucked up. I know some fucked up people that

1346
01:03:39,160 --> 01:03:42,440
Speaker 2: have three parents in the house. It don't matter, you know,

1347
01:03:42,680 --> 01:03:45,600
Speaker 2: it's about what you're taught. Like morally, does this person

1348
01:03:46,120 --> 01:03:48,760
Speaker 2: align with you? You know, like me and my husband are

1349
01:03:48,760 --> 01:03:49,480
Speaker 2: equally yoked.

1350
01:03:49,520 --> 01:03:49,680
Speaker 1: Yo.

1351
01:03:49,760 --> 01:03:52,400
Speaker 2: We read the Bible together, we pray together. We like

1352
01:03:52,440 --> 01:03:55,160
Speaker 2: he asked me about my faith on the first date.

1353
01:03:55,320 --> 01:03:57,200
Speaker 2: Oh you know, do you have God?

1354
01:03:58,040 --> 01:03:58,360
Speaker 1: Asked me?

1355
01:03:58,440 --> 01:04:00,720
Speaker 2: Was I e an therapy? I was like, damn, Like

1356
01:04:00,760 --> 01:04:02,840
Speaker 2: do you think I'm I'm messed up? And he was

1357
01:04:02,880 --> 01:04:05,040
Speaker 2: just like nah, I just want to know, Like this

1358
01:04:05,120 --> 01:04:08,320
Speaker 2: comes from me just dating anybody. So I'm like, oh damn.

1359
01:04:08,360 --> 01:04:10,920
Speaker 2: So we both have done that. The difference is I

1360
01:04:10,920 --> 01:04:12,840
Speaker 2: got a kid, so I want to make sure you're right.

1361
01:04:12,920 --> 01:04:14,960
Speaker 2: So you have to ask about their parents, how they

1362
01:04:14,960 --> 01:04:17,240
Speaker 2: were raised, if they were raised by grandparents, what did

1363
01:04:17,280 --> 01:04:20,040
Speaker 2: they see? How how do they resolve conflict? Are they

1364
01:04:20,080 --> 01:04:25,080
Speaker 2: still the same person when they're angry? Because seeing somebody

1365
01:04:25,160 --> 01:04:29,320
Speaker 2: angry you kind of get to see, Okay, do I

1366
01:04:29,360 --> 01:04:30,640
Speaker 2: still feel like you love.

1367
01:04:30,480 --> 01:04:31,520
Speaker 1: Me when you're angry?

1368
01:04:32,080 --> 01:04:35,160
Speaker 2: How do you handle arguments like are you gonna try

1369
01:04:35,160 --> 01:04:37,160
Speaker 2: to hip below the belt so bad where I can't

1370
01:04:37,160 --> 01:04:39,920
Speaker 2: even I can't even come back from some shit you said?

1371
01:04:40,120 --> 01:04:41,440
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, because you're so busy trying

1372
01:04:41,480 --> 01:04:44,560
Speaker 2: to win the argument like all those things. You know,

1373
01:04:44,640 --> 01:04:48,320
Speaker 2: you got to evaluate these people, man, because making your

1374
01:04:48,360 --> 01:04:49,280
Speaker 2: own people.

1375
01:04:50,880 --> 01:04:52,800
Speaker 1: That's hard. That's really hard.

1376
01:04:52,840 --> 01:04:56,600
Speaker 2: That you got to approach that like more careful than

1377
01:04:56,640 --> 01:05:01,000
Speaker 2: you approach marriage, because marriage is in relationships and contracts

1378
01:05:01,040 --> 01:05:04,560
Speaker 2: and but parenting doesn't you know what I mean? That's

1379
01:05:04,640 --> 01:05:07,080
Speaker 2: like a life sentence that you that you know without

1380
01:05:07,080 --> 01:05:11,040
Speaker 2: the negative connotation like that, that's a life sentence that

1381
01:05:11,120 --> 01:05:14,080
Speaker 2: you do. You know, get to know the person.

1382
01:05:14,800 --> 01:05:17,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, questions, Jesse, good questions.

1383
01:05:17,880 --> 01:05:21,360
Speaker 3: Speaking of questions, let's go to our IRL questions in

1384
01:05:21,440 --> 01:05:22,680
Speaker 3: real life, Jess.

1385
01:05:22,960 --> 01:05:25,080
Speaker 1: When I walk in a room, I want people to

1386
01:05:25,160 --> 01:05:38,800
Speaker 1: feel I can relate to her. I can relate to her.

1387
01:05:38,880 --> 01:05:39,440
Speaker 1: She's funny.

1388
01:05:39,440 --> 01:05:44,200
Speaker 2: But Jess, Jess is she's so many different layers, she

1389
01:05:44,200 --> 01:05:45,360
Speaker 2: has so many different layers.

1390
01:05:45,400 --> 01:05:48,240
Speaker 1: I can relate to her. What's the last piece of

1391
01:05:48,280 --> 01:05:50,520
Speaker 1: great advice someone that's given you?

1392
01:05:54,520 --> 01:06:00,240
Speaker 2: Don't accept being canceled because you're not really ever can too.

1393
01:06:01,000 --> 01:06:04,960
Speaker 1: Don't accept it. As soon as you accept it, then

1394
01:06:05,000 --> 01:06:07,520
Speaker 1: that's when you start living.

1395
01:06:07,280 --> 01:06:10,160
Speaker 2: That that you're canceled. You can't be canceled. Just a

1396
01:06:10,160 --> 01:06:12,360
Speaker 2: few people mad in the comments that don't mean you canceled?

1397
01:06:12,800 --> 01:06:13,520
Speaker 1: Who told you that?

1398
01:06:13,560 --> 01:06:17,160
Speaker 2: Comedian Nate Jackson one of my one of my one

1399
01:06:17,160 --> 01:06:19,960
Speaker 2: of my good friends. Man, Like yeah, comedian Nate Jackson

1400
01:06:20,000 --> 01:06:21,840
Speaker 2: told me that, So, yeah, what are your.

1401
01:06:21,760 --> 01:06:25,440
Speaker 1: In real life pet peeves or triggers?

1402
01:06:27,000 --> 01:06:32,120
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, yeah, Like, first of all, I don't

1403
01:06:32,160 --> 01:06:34,760
Speaker 2: like my husband will be so many I do not

1404
01:06:35,080 --> 01:06:38,200
Speaker 2: like when like now, I love little cute stuff him

1405
01:06:38,240 --> 01:06:41,040
Speaker 2: feeding me, but don't blow my food because then that's breath.

1406
01:06:41,280 --> 01:06:43,720
Speaker 1: Like I do not like when somebody blow their breath

1407
01:06:43,840 --> 01:06:44,640
Speaker 1: on your food.

1408
01:06:44,760 --> 01:06:46,840
Speaker 2: Like I don't even like doing that to my kids,

1409
01:06:46,880 --> 01:06:48,840
Speaker 2: like like, oh my gosh, like.

1410
01:06:50,920 --> 01:06:52,800
Speaker 1: You not blow your breath. What do you do on

1411
01:06:52,840 --> 01:06:53,320
Speaker 1: your birthday?

1412
01:06:54,080 --> 01:06:56,080
Speaker 3: I know, I don't even I don't even eat the cake,

1413
01:06:56,880 --> 01:06:59,200
Speaker 3: especially if the kid, Like if the kid look back

1414
01:06:59,560 --> 01:07:02,240
Speaker 3: look bad, I know they think, do not blow your

1415
01:07:02,280 --> 01:07:04,000
Speaker 3: candles out, and then think, my kid.

1416
01:07:03,880 --> 01:07:07,400
Speaker 1: Is gonna eat this cake? Because ill you know what

1417
01:07:07,440 --> 01:07:10,080
Speaker 1: I'm saying. What is wrong with you? I do not know.

1418
01:07:10,120 --> 01:07:12,480
Speaker 2: I don't like that though, it is something about them, like,

1419
01:07:12,600 --> 01:07:15,200
Speaker 2: oh my god, what happened?

1420
01:07:15,480 --> 01:07:18,480
Speaker 1: I don't like that. Don't blow my food? Yeah, you're

1421
01:07:18,560 --> 01:07:21,320
Speaker 1: so funny. What is your real life superpower?

1422
01:07:22,240 --> 01:07:26,919
Speaker 2: Ooh, resilient. I'm resilient. I bounce back from you really

1423
01:07:27,000 --> 01:07:28,000
Speaker 2: do almost anything.

1424
01:07:28,080 --> 01:07:29,920
Speaker 1: What is something that you are still working on in

1425
01:07:29,960 --> 01:07:39,480
Speaker 1: real life. Hmmm, my delivery, my delivery. Oh that's a

1426
01:07:39,480 --> 01:07:40,520
Speaker 1: great answer. Yeah.

1427
01:07:40,560 --> 01:07:45,280
Speaker 2: I can't change my accent, but I can work on

1428
01:07:45,320 --> 01:07:48,800
Speaker 2: how I deliver things. They can be very intimidating sometimes,

1429
01:07:49,040 --> 01:07:52,040
Speaker 2: you know, and I can say something and people will

1430
01:07:52,080 --> 01:07:57,760
Speaker 2: receive it more harshly because of how I deliver it,

1431
01:07:58,200 --> 01:08:02,560
Speaker 2: because you can you can come the same message, but

1432
01:08:02,640 --> 01:08:03,920
Speaker 2: it's different ways to say it.

1433
01:08:05,000 --> 01:08:08,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, my delivery. What do you pray for most?

1434
01:08:08,720 --> 01:08:16,400
Speaker 2: Mm hmm, balance? Healthy balance with me being a wife, mom, comedian,

1435
01:08:16,520 --> 01:08:22,599
Speaker 2: stand up comedian, radio host. Now I'm live on Netflix.

1436
01:08:22,760 --> 01:08:24,840
Speaker 2: That's the worst thing to do is be live for me.

1437
01:08:26,760 --> 01:08:29,640
Speaker 3: Child, what I'm like, Damn Now if I'm mad, I

1438
01:08:29,760 --> 01:08:31,559
Speaker 3: just got to go in the bathroom, you know.

1439
01:08:31,720 --> 01:08:35,760
Speaker 2: But yeah, just finding balance, like a healthy balance so

1440
01:08:35,800 --> 01:08:39,519
Speaker 2: I can be everywhere at the same time or try

1441
01:08:39,600 --> 01:08:42,679
Speaker 2: my best to be and be present right and be present?

1442
01:08:43,040 --> 01:08:47,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, balance. How's that going for you? It's going.

1443
01:08:47,600 --> 01:08:50,679
Speaker 1: I don't know how it's going, but it's going. I'm trying,

1444
01:08:51,280 --> 01:08:51,920
Speaker 1: really trying.

1445
01:08:52,080 --> 01:08:57,120
Speaker 3: What do you still want to accomplish? Like what is

1446
01:08:57,960 --> 01:09:00,160
Speaker 3: does have to be a bucket list thing? Yeah, that's

1447
01:09:00,160 --> 01:09:02,880
Speaker 3: just something that you're still I.

1448
01:09:02,800 --> 01:09:06,000
Speaker 1: Want more people to know who I am.

1449
01:09:06,120 --> 01:09:09,599
Speaker 2: Like I've been doing this shit since I was well

1450
01:09:09,640 --> 01:09:15,000
Speaker 2: since twenty fourteen, so eleven years, like twenty fifteen. Yet

1451
01:09:15,040 --> 01:09:19,280
Speaker 2: like eleven years, and I still feel like I haven't

1452
01:09:19,320 --> 01:09:23,640
Speaker 2: scratched the surface and stand up comedy where everybody.

1453
01:09:23,320 --> 01:09:25,679
Speaker 1: Knows who I am, Like.

1454
01:09:25,600 --> 01:09:29,200
Speaker 2: You know, people people know of just celerious, people got

1455
01:09:29,200 --> 01:09:31,640
Speaker 2: an idea, A lot of people know me, But I

1456
01:09:31,720 --> 01:09:34,320
Speaker 2: want way more people to know who I am through

1457
01:09:34,320 --> 01:09:36,839
Speaker 2: my comedy. That's why I can't wait to drop my special.

1458
01:09:37,320 --> 01:09:39,479
Speaker 2: But it has to be special, that's the whole point

1459
01:09:39,479 --> 01:09:43,759
Speaker 2: of a special, and that's where I'm going to introduce

1460
01:09:43,800 --> 01:09:45,720
Speaker 2: who I am. I want the world to see that

1461
01:09:45,800 --> 01:09:50,400
Speaker 2: I'm funny as shit, talk shit. Just I'm really funny yo,

1462
01:09:50,760 --> 01:09:54,639
Speaker 2: like and and I give you that nineties raw feel

1463
01:09:54,760 --> 01:09:58,720
Speaker 2: of comedy, Like comedy is supposed to be limitless, and

1464
01:09:58,800 --> 01:10:01,000
Speaker 2: I feel like it can't be no a ceiling put

1465
01:10:01,040 --> 01:10:06,680
Speaker 2: on comedy, you know. And that's the best introduction to me,

1466
01:10:07,400 --> 01:10:10,600
Speaker 2: Like if all else fails, you know, Breakfast Club is

1467
01:10:10,640 --> 01:10:12,680
Speaker 2: gone or whatever is gone, this is going to take

1468
01:10:12,760 --> 01:10:13,200
Speaker 2: this away.

1469
01:10:14,000 --> 01:10:15,280
Speaker 1: The stage will always.

1470
01:10:15,040 --> 01:10:18,280
Speaker 2: Be there, like for me to go and stand up

1471
01:10:18,320 --> 01:10:21,639
Speaker 2: and make people laugh, like I'm a vacation away from

1472
01:10:21,800 --> 01:10:28,120
Speaker 2: people's work life, kids going through something, to your marriage, friendships,

1473
01:10:28,160 --> 01:10:30,280
Speaker 2: fucked up, whatever, Like I can.

1474
01:10:30,160 --> 01:10:32,639
Speaker 1: Make you laugh about I can make people laugh about anything.

1475
01:10:32,880 --> 01:10:36,439
Speaker 1: You've always been like that too, Yes, Yes, since a kid, Yes,

1476
01:10:36,600 --> 01:10:40,040
Speaker 1: since I was like seven. I will say that. My

1477
01:10:40,080 --> 01:10:41,679
Speaker 1: mom told me it was a funeral.

1478
01:10:43,640 --> 01:10:45,760
Speaker 2: My great great uncle was my mom's great uncle that

1479
01:10:45,840 --> 01:10:48,240
Speaker 2: passed away, and you know the wake, right when everybody

1480
01:10:48,240 --> 01:10:50,240
Speaker 2: walking down the line to see who's in the casket

1481
01:10:50,280 --> 01:10:50,760
Speaker 2: and all of that.

1482
01:10:51,360 --> 01:10:53,480
Speaker 1: And I was real cool with this uncle.

1483
01:10:53,360 --> 01:10:56,200
Speaker 2: And my mom said, I was like, why she was

1484
01:10:56,240 --> 01:10:59,400
Speaker 2: crying and saying her last words to uncle Reggie. I

1485
01:10:59,439 --> 01:11:02,000
Speaker 2: looked at my was like that Uncle Reggie, why is

1486
01:11:02,040 --> 01:11:04,840
Speaker 2: he great? Like that ain't who I saw alive the

1487
01:11:04,880 --> 01:11:06,760
Speaker 2: other day? And I'm like I was seven and eight.

1488
01:11:06,840 --> 01:11:10,920
Speaker 2: She was like yes, And I whooped your ass because

1489
01:11:11,040 --> 01:11:13,679
Speaker 2: I was crying. That was my favorite uncle and you

1490
01:11:13,760 --> 01:11:16,479
Speaker 2: made your cousins laugh and everybody.

1491
01:11:16,479 --> 01:11:18,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, we in a goddamn funeral.

1492
01:11:18,160 --> 01:11:20,200
Speaker 2: She whooped my ass, but she said I knew that's

1493
01:11:20,280 --> 01:11:22,440
Speaker 2: when you were gonna be funny and courageous.

1494
01:11:23,320 --> 01:11:26,160
Speaker 1: And I was like, damn at a funeral, that's what's up.

1495
01:11:26,840 --> 01:11:29,600
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Yeah, you know, because you know,

1496
01:11:29,720 --> 01:11:30,639
Speaker 1: niggas died every day.

1497
01:11:30,680 --> 01:11:33,479
Speaker 2: But it's like, damn, if you if you can make

1498
01:11:33,479 --> 01:11:36,439
Speaker 2: somebody laugh at a funeral, oh you got it.

1499
01:11:36,680 --> 01:11:38,719
Speaker 1: Good, she must be proud.

1500
01:11:38,840 --> 01:11:41,800
Speaker 3: She is, she is, She's still be like you did

1501
01:11:41,800 --> 01:11:44,599
Speaker 3: not have to say that, but she'd be laughing.

1502
01:11:44,680 --> 01:11:47,800
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, and you and your son is showing signs

1503
01:11:47,840 --> 01:11:51,439
Speaker 1: of oh my god, yes, he a little too real.

1504
01:11:51,520 --> 01:11:53,479
Speaker 2: I'm like, damn, you know what I mean. But yeah,

1505
01:11:53,720 --> 01:11:57,400
Speaker 2: I'm very excited. I'm excited for what for for people

1506
01:11:57,479 --> 01:12:01,240
Speaker 2: to know who I am? Yeah, that more people to

1507
01:12:01,360 --> 01:12:02,000
Speaker 2: know who I am.

1508
01:12:02,400 --> 01:12:04,600
Speaker 1: All right, Our final question on I ral question? You

1509
01:12:04,640 --> 01:12:11,800
Speaker 1: know what it is? No what you said? You said now,

1510
01:12:11,880 --> 01:12:14,080
Speaker 1: I'm just excited to be it's in the ball. But

1511
01:12:14,160 --> 01:12:15,320
Speaker 1: if if people if people.

1512
01:12:15,560 --> 01:12:17,240
Speaker 3: Don't pick it, I ask it anyway because it's my

1513
01:12:17,280 --> 01:12:22,280
Speaker 3: favorite question. If God were to text you, you know

1514
01:12:22,320 --> 01:12:24,679
Speaker 3: this question, what would it say?

1515
01:12:25,000 --> 01:12:31,600
Speaker 1: What would the text say.

1516
01:12:30,040 --> 01:12:35,120
Speaker 2: I did not tell you to do that. Shit, don't

1517
01:12:35,200 --> 01:12:38,000
Speaker 2: keep lying on me. I did not tell.

1518
01:12:37,880 --> 01:12:39,639
Speaker 1: You to do that. Ship.

1519
01:12:39,960 --> 01:12:42,920
Speaker 2: Yeah that's what he would literally text me that, like

1520
01:12:43,120 --> 01:12:44,439
Speaker 2: a few times out the week.

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01:12:44,720 --> 01:12:47,720
Speaker 1: Yeah. I use God for everything, Like yeah, I like

1522
01:12:47,800 --> 01:12:50,920
Speaker 1: God moved me that. No I didn't. I didn't tell

1523
01:12:51,000 --> 01:12:54,400
Speaker 1: you to do that. No, don't lie, nigga, Like I'm

1524
01:12:54,400 --> 01:12:57,920
Speaker 1: telling you he how God told me. Yeah, Yeah, I

1525
01:12:58,040 --> 01:13:00,880
Speaker 1: receive it just like that. Yeah yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: He reads me and Baltimore, and that's how I feel

1527
01:13:03,160 --> 01:13:06,000
Speaker 2: like I've been receiving him, very baltimoreish.

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01:13:06,160 --> 01:13:10,280
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yes, me and God got our old love language.

1529
01:13:10,280 --> 01:13:12,000
Speaker 1: I'll be like, nah, I know I f up. I

1530
01:13:12,080 --> 01:13:15,160
Speaker 1: fucked up. I know I did. I'm gonna just say

1531
01:13:15,160 --> 01:13:18,519
Speaker 1: it was because of you. For real. He's like, cut

1532
01:13:18,560 --> 01:13:22,880
Speaker 1: it out, yep, like for real, get your together. Just

1533
01:13:22,960 --> 01:13:29,559
Speaker 1: hilarious and real life. Yay, this is just hilarious and

1534
01:13:29,680 --> 01:13:31,559
Speaker 1: real life. Hey guys, thanks for watching.

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01:13:35,080 --> 01:13:36,720
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