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Speaker 1: Welcome back, y'all. That's another hunt. We're closing the end
Speaker 1: of the year, but y'all are not closing your legs
Speaker 1: and beers. Why he as got a k I eight?
Speaker 2: By the way, do you have advice? This is like
Speaker 2: literally the last day of twenty twenty five. If you
Speaker 2: could give a woman advice based on maybe a trend
Speaker 2: that you saw happen this last year, what would your
Speaker 2: advice be?
Speaker 1: A trend? Because I got advice based on a trend,
Speaker 1: you got suffer on your mind, So go because I
Speaker 1: don't know what you're doing, and do so. In the
Speaker 1: last year year and a half, I have had four
Speaker 1: women in my life.
Speaker 2: I'm pregnant or have a baby, buy a nigga that
Speaker 2: they knew three months in.
Speaker 1: And so my advice in twenty twenty six would be,
Speaker 1: if you get pregnant, buy a nigga that you only
Speaker 1: knew for three months.
Speaker 2: You gotta abort, abort mission, abort the baby, and take
Speaker 2: some time to get to know this nigga before you
Speaker 2: decide to have to be connected to him for the
Speaker 2: rest of your goddamn life.
Speaker 1: Okay, I don't have a trend, but now I got
Speaker 1: a hot take, baby, Okay, come on, hot take. Okay.
Speaker 1: So I completely agree with the three months shit. That's
Speaker 1: fucking stupid. I don't care something. I don't care how
Speaker 1: bad you want kids and all that shit. You're bringing
Speaker 1: drama into your life. You don't know the nigga, Like,
Speaker 1: you're dumb? Do what I w d K Williams did.
Speaker 1: That's dumb to me, not calling your friends dumb. I'm
Speaker 1: just saying, like, did no, Yeah, three months is crazy.
Speaker 1: So I just did the Justus podcast with Jacob. We
Speaker 1: love Jacob Willers. He does it with Amber. Yeah. So
Speaker 1: I was in there yesterday and one of the things
Speaker 1: she asked me was have any of your opinions changed
Speaker 1: that you had over the years. Okay, I decided one
Speaker 1: that I'm like, well, am I gonna regrect this later,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna tell y'all a little bit of personal
Speaker 1: friend team. We're not that close, so there's probably no
Speaker 1: one you can connect this Tokay. Here, they're they're a
Speaker 1: mixed black couple. Uh. They live in LA or around LA.
Speaker 1: They love like they're into some water sports, surf type shit.
Speaker 1: They're like, they love each other. They live together. If
Speaker 1: you got to give all these details about it, this
Speaker 1: is important to the story. Okay, they have their thing, like,
Speaker 1: they have a routine together. They're just so happy. He
Speaker 1: works in film and on different gigs and he had
Speaker 1: a female best friend at work. Ended up fucking that
Speaker 1: female best friend. I don't know if it's been around
Speaker 1: six months, but we went out for drinks the other
Speaker 1: day and she was literally like, I'm like, yo, I
Speaker 1: think he made a mistake freaking up with them. She's miserable.
Speaker 1: She broke up with him because he cheated on her.
Speaker 1: He's miserable. She's miserable. He wants her back, she wants
Speaker 1: take him back. She's like, I don't need him, fuck him,
Speaker 1: he's a liar. Whatever. And I was like, Bro, you
Speaker 1: literally said, to my face, is the most compatible person
Speaker 1: you've ever been with. How is there no room for forgiveness?
Speaker 1: Like you dated how many years? Like I get he
Speaker 1: stepped out, but there's no way you could forgive him.
Speaker 1: And so I say that to say my hot take
Speaker 1: was I believe I was one of those people cheat
Speaker 1: I'm done. But now when I'm thinking about this situation,
Speaker 1: I'm like, uh, would I leave my nigga?
Speaker 2: I mean, at this point, he would just be a
Speaker 2: lie because you guys kind of makes it worse, it.
Speaker 1: Does. I mean, we both had non monogamous.
Speaker 2: Relationships where we both felt like we were cheated on
Speaker 2: by those partners, and it did hurt because it was like, nigga,
Speaker 2: why you didn't multiple offenders?
Speaker 1: Okay, But Mandy watching her talk about it, was like, Yo.
Speaker 1: Sometimes when I'm like out there in the morning and
Speaker 1: I got my surf, I'm like, literally like, please don't
Speaker 1: me run into him. Like I was like yo, And
Speaker 1: She's like, I had to change like my social groups
Speaker 1: because we're so into the way they travel to Hawaii
Speaker 1: all these different places. She's like, it's really hard to
Speaker 1: meet black men that are into the same things as me.
Speaker 1: And I'm just like, bitch, I'm not gonna get your
Speaker 1: nigga back. I'm not gonna hold you weezy. This is
Speaker 1: not a hot take because I would much rather convince
Speaker 1: my friend to stay with her cheating ass niggle that
Speaker 1: she love then to convince my friend to keep a baby.
Speaker 1: After knowing a nigga for three months, I thought it
Speaker 1: was a hot take to take a nigga back. It's not. Now,
Speaker 1: keep your cheating nigga. If you love him, then right
Speaker 1: when I leave dinner, I'm talking about it with three
Speaker 1: or whatever, and I'm like, fuck dog, and I'm just
Speaker 1: like vincing, cause I'm like, fuck, Like when you see
Speaker 1: somebody go through this shit. She's like, Weezy, I'm telling
Speaker 1: you right now, we're getting old. Just no, She's like,
Speaker 1: make him pay for it, Hey, y'all. No, But I
Speaker 1: get it because it's like, Yo, here's the thing. I
Speaker 1: believe we've all had so much trauma that we won't
Speaker 1: let a nigga do shit like you ain't gonna fuck
Speaker 1: with me. I've been hurt before. Fuck you, I'm out.
Speaker 1: I got standards, I got this, I got that. I'ma
Speaker 1: be honest with you. I've been fucking these niggas for
Speaker 1: a long time. They all kind of do the same shit.
Speaker 1: Now I got a good nigga. I'm happy I got
Speaker 1: a good nigga, But that don't mean in these things.
Speaker 1: Almost three years, I don't know, and I love him
Speaker 1: and of course I trust him. But can I for
Speaker 1: sure say five years down the road, he's not gonna
Speaker 1: do something to hurt me. I don't know. I don't know,
Speaker 1: and do what I blow my life up? I don't know.
Speaker 1: If I violated one of our boundaries and did some shit,
Speaker 1: then he didn't like, should my nigga be leaving me? Bitch?
Speaker 1: I don't know. No. So all I'm saying is I
Speaker 1: think you can forgive a little bit. That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Okay, so in twenty want that's the bear telling y'all
Speaker 2: to forgive a little bit and to abort mission if
Speaker 2: you get pregnant in three months by a nigga you
Speaker 2: just met.
Speaker 1: I don't feel like I'm giving up on love, ladies.
Speaker 1: I don't want you to feel like I'm like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: you can't get anybody else out there. It's just that,
Speaker 1: Here's why I think the hot take is relevant. Dating
Speaker 1: has changed, it has well, Okay, hold on, what do
Speaker 1: you mean by that? My daddy has never cheated on
Speaker 1: my mama, But he didn't have Instagram. Not you about
Speaker 1: to blame Instagram for a while. Instagram, he'd have a hinge.
Speaker 1: He'd have had an app. You just did that. Your
Speaker 1: friend's partner cheated on her with his best friend. They
Speaker 1: didn't meet on the Graham their best friendship. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: but this is what I'm saying. This is what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I just think that the way dating goes everything's confusing,
Speaker 1: boundaries getting crossed. My parents didn't have male female friendship
Speaker 1: that's more acceptable today there's just like mad shit that's
Speaker 1: different now, you know what I mean. Like, I can't
Speaker 1: see a world where in the eighties my dad going
Speaker 1: to hang out with his home girl from work makes sense.
Speaker 1: But the world is just different now. I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: hold you. This is why I don't want to deal
Speaker 1: with no millennials.
Speaker 2: Because we're in between the super traditional and conservative generation
Speaker 2: exactly and the generation that is fluid, and we just
Speaker 2: trying to figure out which way to go because we're
Speaker 2: still gonna get talked about if we dated nigga.
Speaker 1: Twenty years older than us or ten years younger than us.
Speaker 1: We can't fucking win. And this other thing your circle.
Speaker 1: All of my dad's friends were married with children. How
Speaker 1: many married friends do each of us have. I have
Speaker 1: a bunch of friends. I have friends who okay, So
Speaker 1: like in Lena, I got two married friends.
Speaker 2: Everyone else is single mothers co parenting or single.
Speaker 1: Eddie and nia Quila and Nag and every Oh hold on, wait,
Speaker 1: wait when I say friend, I mean tight tight I
Speaker 1: type friend. That's why I said too Bryan knows the
Speaker 1: married niggas huh two two? And also their relationships are
Speaker 1: happy too, which is great. You were saying those are
Speaker 1: two relationships, but I know they're not Alan and Serrita.
Speaker 1: So I'm thinking of three sorry three other than that,
Speaker 1: so these are friendships between I'd say a fifteen year
Speaker 1: span and a five year span or no, I make
Speaker 1: Geel eight years ago when moving here. But that so
Speaker 1: I see the trajectory. Cool. Everyone else be going through
Speaker 1: the pain, bab It's tough, no, I remember Gila said
Speaker 1: the other night. Well, I hope she won't get mad.
Speaker 1: I'm telling his tea. Her man is on a kickball
Speaker 1: team and they love kicking it with kickball, and she's like,
Speaker 1: girl the kickball team. She's like, they got an event
Speaker 1: after every fucking game. And she's on the team too.
Speaker 1: She's like bruh. She's like there's always something to do
Speaker 1: because they're all single, like they're the married ones that
Speaker 1: are everyone on their team is single. She's like, they
Speaker 1: always got something to fucking do. I'm like, yeah, Monday
Speaker 1: joining that team bach because they trying to uhuh every
Speaker 1: time we have a little date night. He's like, you'd
Speaker 1: be good, bro hella nah every night live listen.
Speaker 2: Well, we hope that you take our unsolicited advice that
Speaker 2: we just gave you. If you don't, we're sure that
Speaker 2: we'll get letters from you and our email of you.
Speaker 1: Telling us the terrible decision you made and how to
Speaker 1: get out of it.
Speaker 2: If you want to send those to us, though, make
Speaker 2: sure you send it to decisions pod at gmail dot com.
Speaker 2: Now this is a great way to end the year
Speaker 2: out because good God, damn y'all just be doing whatever.
Speaker 2: The subject line for this one Weezy is should I
Speaker 2: feel bad for homie hopping? I want to say no,
Speaker 2: because we both homi hopped before. Let's do this, Hello
Speaker 2: Mandy and Weezy. I wanted to start off by saying
Speaker 2: I love your guys, Pod. So I've been on and
Speaker 2: off for years with this man I met at the
Speaker 2: gym but then left to the military. We would text
Speaker 2: all the time and FaceTime while he was deployed, and
Speaker 2: when he came home, we would always hang out and
Speaker 2: of course be intimate. I was so attracted to this
Speaker 2: guy and gained a lot of feelings. He bullshitted me
Speaker 2: and made it seem like we were going to be something,
Speaker 2: and we weren't. To fast forward, he ended up getting
Speaker 2: a girlfriend when he got home, and then they broke
Speaker 2: up and I went back. He called me names and
Speaker 2: just overall treated me poorly. Now I met one of
Speaker 2: his friends, which.
Speaker 1: I got too.
Speaker 2: He's really cool and always wants to treat me well.
Speaker 2: After a drunk night, we ended up kissing, and I
Speaker 2: can't stop to think but to feel bad. I didn't
Speaker 2: do it out of spite either, I genuinely wanted to.
Speaker 2: Should I feel bad?
Speaker 1: Well started talking about something else.
Speaker 2: No, I don't care about the first guy's feelings, but
Speaker 2: yes I look bad as a person that I homie hoopped.
Speaker 2: This new guy is honestly so sweet and treat feel
Speaker 2: like a lady. I'm not sure if feelings are getting
Speaker 2: wrapped up, but I'm confused.
Speaker 1: What do I do? Bit, you better go fuck that
Speaker 1: nigga friend, Bit you better fuck that nigga friend And
Speaker 1: tape it and send it and put oops.
Speaker 2: Because if this man is treating you better than this
Speaker 2: other man, did you admitted that he treated you poorly.
Speaker 2: You admitted that he went and got into a relationship
Speaker 2: even though it didn't last, and even though you expressed
Speaker 2: your feelings. He said, bitch, I don't really want nothing
Speaker 2: more for a kiss. Bruh, a kiss? You better kiss
Speaker 2: the head of that dude. So I told you, I
Speaker 2: don't think that.
Speaker 1: Now. There's one thing, though, said Stern before we fucking nikka.
Speaker 1: Historically they treat us real good before it go in facts.
Speaker 1: So you saying the feelings is getting there and shit
Speaker 1: like that, you need to make sure that nigga ain't
Speaker 1: trying to play your ass. He then just get some
Speaker 1: pussy because he heard your pussy was good because they could
Speaker 1: have had a conversation.
Speaker 2: And clearly this other guy only wants sex with you.
Speaker 2: We don't know if the other guy, oh you mean
Speaker 2: the first one, the first one right, right, So we
Speaker 2: don't know if the new nigga, like.
Speaker 1: If they had a conversation about you. And now if
Speaker 1: you're a rapper and athlete, A lot of these niggas
Speaker 1: don't want to be like, oh, I'm not foun to
Speaker 1: date him. I'm not gonna wife her. He had her first. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I guess. Let me ask you, like
Speaker 1: how good of the friends and we can both share stories.
Speaker 2: Has Homie hopping ever and did really really good? Like
Speaker 2: was it a really good decision?
Speaker 1: And on the other side, when did homie hopping for
Speaker 1: you become regrettable? I have two examples for both as well.
Speaker 1: I told you on CAMMI Show, I don't regret it
Speaker 1: because it was an old base friend, okay, and he
Speaker 1: deserved it, But you did it. I was krying of this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this was She's saying that she's not doing this
Speaker 2: out of spite. So you homie hopped one time out
Speaker 2: of spite, you don't regret? No, was there a homie
Speaker 2: hop that you did regret?
Speaker 1: It's hard to go back when I was on my
Speaker 1: real host shit, I was younger, Like there's I feel
Speaker 1: like there's a nigga that's gonna come up to you
Speaker 1: one day and say we fucked. I'm like, no, we didn't.
Speaker 1: He gonna hold up the phone and be like, so
Speaker 1: this HL number I really did. I I didn't regret
Speaker 1: the thing. That's most regretful for me when I was
Speaker 1: young and dumb, if my homegirls knew a trick ass nigga,
Speaker 1: maybe I would have fucked with one of them or
Speaker 1: something like that, and it was like, you know, club shit,
Speaker 1: but that don't knopping. Then I would honestly say no,
Speaker 1: it never really backfired. Okay, but I've never ended up
Speaker 1: with a friend. Okay, I will tell you this why
Speaker 1: I feel that she's like feeling the most feelings. The
Speaker 1: most recent situation I had was a few years ago,
Speaker 1: maybe a twenty twenty two situation where there was a
Speaker 1: nigga that Obey knew and it wasn't that one, but
Speaker 1: me and him were having like a really strong chemistry
Speaker 1: and I always thought he was attractive when I was
Speaker 1: dating old Bay. I think the chemistry was only strong
Speaker 1: because we were like, oh now it's time we could
Speaker 1: if we wanted to. But it never made me feel like,
Speaker 1: oh it's him, like I begain. I got a flight
Speaker 1: that I sparked like a car, So I feel like
Speaker 1: when when when something is forbidden and bad, it's more exciting. Okay.
Speaker 1: I was telling that the reason y'all know each other
Speaker 1: is from a person you used to fuck. It's kind
Speaker 1: of like, oh, okay, I'm not mad at that. I'm
Speaker 1: not mad at that.
Speaker 2: For me, a good homie Hop was a teammate that
Speaker 2: nigga he introduced me as a friend, So he's bad.
Speaker 2: And that teammate ended up being somebody that I dealt
Speaker 2: with for years. Wow, And he was the first guy
Speaker 2: that I got to peg, So to me, that was
Speaker 2: a good homie Hop, Like, I went for one motherfucker
Speaker 2: to the next, and that person actually was my first
Speaker 2: experience with pegging.
Speaker 1: So I would say that homie Hop thumbs up.
Speaker 2: The thumbs down Homie Hop was uh one that I
Speaker 2: shared on this podcast multiple times. I slept with this
Speaker 2: other guy athlete. It was the worst dick I ever
Speaker 2: got in my life, terrible. Wouldn't recommend. What's funny about
Speaker 2: that is just found out a homegirl recently is fucking
Speaker 2: him now and it's still bad.
Speaker 1: So to know that fifteen years old, the dick still sucks. Crazy.
Speaker 1: Is this the one with the attractive baby mama? No,
Speaker 1: he doesn't have a baby mama. Oh there was a
Speaker 1: nigga you fucked years ago and I was like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, he's so cute and he was athlete and
Speaker 1: you were like terrible. There was terrible and you don't
Speaker 1: that might be the wait let me go in the chat.
Speaker 1: Wait no, wait public do people see it? Which one
Speaker 1: you talking? No, but they can't see this which one
Speaker 1: you talk about? I never fucked him. There was another
Speaker 1: cute nigga from back then then.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I ain't ever fucked that nigga, y'all. I'm just
Speaker 2: gonna say it because she put it in the chat.
Speaker 2: She thought I fucked d Rose girl.
Speaker 1: That is not It was someone else from that time,
Speaker 1: and he was really silent. I'm about to type it
Speaker 1: in the chat, just oh, terrible dick. AnyWho? So I
Speaker 1: ended up dealing with one got terrible different somebody else too,
Speaker 1: So I.
Speaker 2: Ended up I ended up sucking with one of his
Speaker 2: childhood friends, and we ended up dealing with each.
Speaker 1: Other for years. His childhood friend. Yeah, girl. And when
Speaker 1: I say I thought me and this man was gonna
Speaker 1: be together, really really liked him. And when we got
Speaker 1: to really like getting on that level, like girl, I'm
Speaker 1: his family. I was going to I can't even.
Speaker 2: Say what city because now it's gonna give it away,
Speaker 2: but I was going to his city, and you know,
Speaker 2: all the things you mad city too.
Speaker 1: It ain't like she could say Atlanta. It's saying like
Speaker 1: it's all the city.
Speaker 2: But he was like, I know that you slept with
Speaker 2: my friend, and so my mind goes to if we
Speaker 2: ever get married, I had to know that a man
Speaker 2: who would be considered one of my best men, my groomsmen,
Speaker 2: slept with my wife, and I don't think I could ever.
Speaker 1: Get past that.
Speaker 2: And so because he could never envision even a wedding
Speaker 2: because he knew that someone at his wedding would have
Speaker 2: fucked his wife, He's like, I don't think we can
Speaker 2: really ever go forward, and baby.
Speaker 1: I was distraught.
Speaker 2: Mind you, this is pre pandemic. This is pre my
Speaker 2: ex that I was with for mad years or whatever.
Speaker 2: But this was a nigga that went from kind of
Speaker 2: like a fuck.
Speaker 1: Buddy situationship to a situationship to let's just be together.
Speaker 1: And we even had the same career path at one point,
Speaker 1: and I was just throwed, y'all. I was motherfucking throwed.
Speaker 1: And that homie hoppy.
Speaker 2: Situation clearly ended up not good. So commes down do
Speaker 2: not recommend.
Speaker 1: So it's the same thing I thought, It's like. Then
Speaker 1: they gonna never want a wife. Yeah, so yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean I do know Nigeria and wedder recently. And I'm
Speaker 1: not even lying to you. One of the girls there
Speaker 1: was with another family member when I first started dating
Speaker 1: my nigga and I was like, whoa, but maybe you
Speaker 1: could cousin hop oh or like third cousin. Like, that's
Speaker 1: not worse. No, you're right, that's family. Okay, that's worst.
Speaker 1: That's worse. That's worse.
Speaker 2: But if they don't have the same last name, I
Speaker 2: don't think it's that bad. That would be considered homie hoppingness.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it's like we all aunties.
Speaker 1: That's true.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like if it's a different last name. But also,
Speaker 2: this is some host shit advice.
Speaker 1: All right, people got married to a homie hop. See
Speaker 1: like some homie hops end out. Well, I would say,
Speaker 1: I don't know if it counts, Okay, their story is
Speaker 1: not one of the people like that, y' all. Sorry's
Speaker 1: not Serena and Niya or Gila. But I remember she
Speaker 1: and I were talking about it because she was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I met him ten years before we got married, and
Speaker 1: I was like, shut the fuck up. Were you dating
Speaker 1: someone else? As she said, I sure was and that's
Speaker 1: when I found out. So she said when they were
Speaker 1: in college. They're in their forties now. When they were
Speaker 1: in college, she was fucking one of his friends. Broke up.
Speaker 1: They both ended up moving to New York. Met through
Speaker 1: the app and he was like I know you and
Speaker 1: she's like I know you too. Boom.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So you don't count excess from high school in
Speaker 2: college for I don't think so?
Speaker 1: All right, Well, I thought I could also pull that
Speaker 1: up to make it less homely happyish.
Speaker 2: Anyways, our advice to you is move forward past first
Speaker 2: base with this motherfucker because the other one ain't taking
Speaker 2: you serious, isn't giving you what you want.
Speaker 1: And also you admitted that he treats you poorly. Why
Speaker 1: do y'all be feeling sad or guilty for men who
Speaker 1: don't treat you well?
Speaker 2: Make it makes since you need to treat them niggas
Speaker 2: out they treat you so hurt is feelings by sleeping
Speaker 2: with his friend. That is our final advice to you,
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