WEBVTT - You've Got Decisions: Homie Hopping 0:00:01.680 --> 0:00:04.399 If you would like to have us answer your questions. 0:00:04.559 --> 0:00:07.880 If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or 0:00:07.920 --> 0:00:14.880 a terrible throatfle guess what you've got decisions. You've got decisions. 0:00:15.120 --> 0:00:17.919 Welcome back, y'all. That's another hunt. We're closing the end 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:20.440 of the year, but y'all are not closing your legs 0:00:20.680 --> 0:00:25.079 and beers. Why he as got a k I eight? 0:00:25.480 --> 0:00:28.680 By the way, do you have advice? This is like 0:00:28.720 --> 0:00:31.080 literally the last day of twenty twenty five. If you 0:00:31.120 --> 0:00:37.080 could give a woman advice based on maybe a trend 0:00:37.159 --> 0:00:40.720 that you saw happen this last year, what would your 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:41.560 advice be? 0:00:43.360 --> 0:00:46.760 A trend? Because I got advice based on a trend, 0:00:47.800 --> 0:00:49.600 you got suffer on your mind, So go because I 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:53.360 don't know what you're doing, and do so. In the 0:00:53.440 --> 0:00:57.480 last year year and a half, I have had four 0:00:57.960 --> 0:00:59.440 women in my life. 0:01:00.720 --> 0:01:03.680 I'm pregnant or have a baby, buy a nigga that 0:01:03.680 --> 0:01:04.959 they knew three months in. 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:09.360 And so my advice in twenty twenty six would be, 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:12.920 if you get pregnant, buy a nigga that you only 0:01:13.000 --> 0:01:13.679 knew for three months. 0:01:13.720 --> 0:01:18.400 You gotta abort, abort mission, abort the baby, and take 0:01:18.440 --> 0:01:20.319 some time to get to know this nigga before you 0:01:20.400 --> 0:01:22.480 decide to have to be connected to him for the 0:01:22.560 --> 0:01:23.919 rest of your goddamn life. 0:01:24.040 --> 0:01:26.040 Okay, I don't have a trend, but now I got 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:29.200 a hot take, baby, Okay, come on, hot take. Okay. 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:33.800 So I completely agree with the three months shit. That's 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:36.200 fucking stupid. I don't care something. I don't care how 0:01:36.240 --> 0:01:38.119 bad you want kids and all that shit. You're bringing 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:39.920 drama into your life. You don't know the nigga, Like, 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:41.920 you're dumb? Do what I w d K Williams did. 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:44.200 That's dumb to me, not calling your friends dumb. I'm 0:01:44.240 --> 0:01:48.720 just saying, like, did no, Yeah, three months is crazy. 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:51.960 So I just did the Justus podcast with Jacob. We 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:54.840 love Jacob Willers. He does it with Amber. Yeah. So 0:01:55.640 --> 0:01:57.360 I was in there yesterday and one of the things 0:01:57.400 --> 0:01:59.640 she asked me was have any of your opinions changed 0:01:59.680 --> 0:02:03.520 that you had over the years. Okay, I decided one 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:05.120 that I'm like, well, am I gonna regrect this later, 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:09.160 but I'm gonna tell y'all a little bit of personal 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:13.560 friend team. We're not that close, so there's probably no 0:02:13.560 --> 0:02:18.799 one you can connect this Tokay. Here, they're they're a 0:02:18.880 --> 0:02:22.520 mixed black couple. Uh. They live in LA or around LA. 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:25.840 They love like they're into some water sports, surf type shit. 0:02:26.240 --> 0:02:28.600 They're like, they love each other. They live together. If 0:02:28.639 --> 0:02:31.520 you got to give all these details about it, this 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:35.120 is important to the story. Okay, they have their thing, like, 0:02:35.240 --> 0:02:37.680 they have a routine together. They're just so happy. He 0:02:37.919 --> 0:02:40.880 works in film and on different gigs and he had 0:02:40.880 --> 0:02:42.960 a female best friend at work. Ended up fucking that 0:02:43.000 --> 0:02:46.000 female best friend. I don't know if it's been around 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:48.160 six months, but we went out for drinks the other 0:02:48.200 --> 0:02:51.000 day and she was literally like, I'm like, yo, I 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:54.600 think he made a mistake freaking up with them. She's miserable. 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:56.880 She broke up with him because he cheated on her. 0:02:57.520 --> 0:03:00.000 He's miserable. She's miserable. He wants her back, she wants 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:02.480 take him back. She's like, I don't need him, fuck him, 0:03:02.560 --> 0:03:06.120 he's a liar. Whatever. And I was like, Bro, you 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:08.919 literally said, to my face, is the most compatible person 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:12.720 you've ever been with. How is there no room for forgiveness? 0:03:12.760 --> 0:03:16.040 Like you dated how many years? Like I get he 0:03:16.120 --> 0:03:18.640 stepped out, but there's no way you could forgive him. 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:22.320 And so I say that to say my hot take 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:25.520 was I believe I was one of those people cheat 0:03:25.600 --> 0:03:30.320 I'm done. But now when I'm thinking about this situation, 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:35.800 I'm like, uh, would I leave my nigga? 0:03:37.080 --> 0:03:39.640 I mean, at this point, he would just be a 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:42.960 lie because you guys kind of makes it worse, it. 0:03:44.640 --> 0:03:48.800 Does. I mean, we both had non monogamous. 0:03:48.400 --> 0:03:50.480 Relationships where we both felt like we were cheated on 0:03:50.640 --> 0:03:54.200 by those partners, and it did hurt because it was like, nigga, 0:03:54.200 --> 0:03:56.240 why you didn't multiple offenders? 0:03:56.320 --> 0:04:00.480 Okay, But Mandy watching her talk about it, was like, Yo. 0:04:00.600 --> 0:04:03.040 Sometimes when I'm like out there in the morning and 0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:05.600 I got my surf, I'm like, literally like, please don't 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:08.840 me run into him. Like I was like yo, And 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:10.920 She's like, I had to change like my social groups 0:04:10.960 --> 0:04:13.400 because we're so into the way they travel to Hawaii 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:15.360 all these different places. She's like, it's really hard to 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:17.200 meet black men that are into the same things as me. 0:04:17.480 --> 0:04:19.600 And I'm just like, bitch, I'm not gonna get your 0:04:19.720 --> 0:04:24.359 nigga back. I'm not gonna hold you weezy. This is 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:27.600 not a hot take because I would much rather convince 0:04:27.680 --> 0:04:31.080 my friend to stay with her cheating ass niggle that 0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:35.520 she love then to convince my friend to keep a baby. 0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:37.520 After knowing a nigga for three months, I thought it 0:04:37.520 --> 0:04:40.480 was a hot take to take a nigga back. It's not. Now, 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:44.600 keep your cheating nigga. If you love him, then right 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:47.400 when I leave dinner, I'm talking about it with three 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:49.480 or whatever, and I'm like, fuck dog, and I'm just 0:04:49.480 --> 0:04:51.479 like vincing, cause I'm like, fuck, Like when you see 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:53.600 somebody go through this shit. She's like, Weezy, I'm telling 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:56.760 you right now, we're getting old. Just no, She's like, 0:04:56.960 --> 0:04:59.560 make him pay for it, Hey, y'all. No, But I 0:04:59.680 --> 0:05:04.040 get it because it's like, Yo, here's the thing. I 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:06.680 believe we've all had so much trauma that we won't 0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:10.719 let a nigga do shit like you ain't gonna fuck 0:05:10.720 --> 0:05:12.600 with me. I've been hurt before. Fuck you, I'm out. 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:15.560 I got standards, I got this, I got that. I'ma 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:18.560 be honest with you. I've been fucking these niggas for 0:05:18.560 --> 0:05:21.839 a long time. They all kind of do the same shit. 0:05:22.440 --> 0:05:25.080 Now I got a good nigga. I'm happy I got 0:05:25.080 --> 0:05:27.160 a good nigga, But that don't mean in these things. 0:05:27.279 --> 0:05:30.320 Almost three years, I don't know, and I love him 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:32.800 and of course I trust him. But can I for 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:36.679 sure say five years down the road, he's not gonna 0:05:36.720 --> 0:05:39.840 do something to hurt me. I don't know. I don't know, 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:43.520 and do what I blow my life up? I don't know. 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:47.200 If I violated one of our boundaries and did some shit, 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:50.839 then he didn't like, should my nigga be leaving me? Bitch? 0:05:50.880 --> 0:05:55.400 I don't know. No. So all I'm saying is I 0:05:55.400 --> 0:05:57.880 think you can forgive a little bit. That's what I'm saying. 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:02.880 Okay, so in twenty want that's the bear telling y'all 0:06:02.880 --> 0:06:06.360 to forgive a little bit and to abort mission if 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:08.479 you get pregnant in three months by a nigga you 0:06:08.560 --> 0:06:08.920 just met. 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:12.719 I don't feel like I'm giving up on love, ladies. 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:14.320 I don't want you to feel like I'm like, oh, well, 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:16.560 you can't get anybody else out there. It's just that, 0:06:17.800 --> 0:06:20.640 Here's why I think the hot take is relevant. Dating 0:06:20.720 --> 0:06:24.680 has changed, it has well, Okay, hold on, what do 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:27.719 you mean by that? My daddy has never cheated on 0:06:27.720 --> 0:06:31.680 my mama, But he didn't have Instagram. Not you about 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:34.760 to blame Instagram for a while. Instagram, he'd have a hinge. 0:06:34.920 --> 0:06:37.240 He'd have had an app. You just did that. Your 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:42.560 friend's partner cheated on her with his best friend. They 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:45.360 didn't meet on the Graham their best friendship. Okay, okay, 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:46.559 but this is what I'm saying. This is what I'm saying. 0:06:46.760 --> 0:06:49.599 I just think that the way dating goes everything's confusing, 0:06:49.680 --> 0:06:53.120 boundaries getting crossed. My parents didn't have male female friendship 0:06:53.200 --> 0:06:56.520 that's more acceptable today there's just like mad shit that's 0:06:56.560 --> 0:06:58.919 different now, you know what I mean. Like, I can't 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:02.400 see a world where in the eighties my dad going 0:07:02.440 --> 0:07:04.839 to hang out with his home girl from work makes sense. 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:07.520 But the world is just different now. I'm not gonna 0:07:07.520 --> 0:07:09.920 hold you. This is why I don't want to deal 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:11.520 with no millennials. 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:16.560 Because we're in between the super traditional and conservative generation 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:21.560 exactly and the generation that is fluid, and we just 0:07:21.600 --> 0:07:23.760 trying to figure out which way to go because we're 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:25.920 still gonna get talked about if we dated nigga. 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:28.560 Twenty years older than us or ten years younger than us. 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:32.679 We can't fucking win. And this other thing your circle. 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:37.080 All of my dad's friends were married with children. How 0:07:37.080 --> 0:07:39.080 many married friends do each of us have. I have 0:07:39.160 --> 0:07:42.560 a bunch of friends. I have friends who okay, So 0:07:42.680 --> 0:07:45.080 like in Lena, I got two married friends. 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:50.760 Everyone else is single mothers co parenting or single. 0:07:51.800 --> 0:07:57.960 Eddie and nia Quila and Nag and every Oh hold on, wait, 0:07:57.960 --> 0:08:00.160 wait when I say friend, I mean tight tight I 0:08:00.320 --> 0:08:02.720 type friend. That's why I said too Bryan knows the 0:08:02.760 --> 0:08:08.560 married niggas huh two two? And also their relationships are 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:10.320 happy too, which is great. You were saying those are 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:13.000 two relationships, but I know they're not Alan and Serrita. 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:15.840 So I'm thinking of three sorry three other than that, 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:18.600 so these are friendships between I'd say a fifteen year 0:08:18.680 --> 0:08:20.720 span and a five year span or no, I make 0:08:20.760 --> 0:08:23.480 Geel eight years ago when moving here. But that so 0:08:23.560 --> 0:08:26.520 I see the trajectory. Cool. Everyone else be going through 0:08:26.560 --> 0:08:30.720 the pain, bab It's tough, no, I remember Gila said 0:08:30.720 --> 0:08:32.200 the other night. Well, I hope she won't get mad. 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:34.640 I'm telling his tea. Her man is on a kickball 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:37.120 team and they love kicking it with kickball, and she's like, 0:08:37.200 --> 0:08:40.760 girl the kickball team. She's like, they got an event 0:08:40.880 --> 0:08:43.240 after every fucking game. And she's on the team too. 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:46.800 She's like bruh. She's like there's always something to do 0:08:46.840 --> 0:08:49.280 because they're all single, like they're the married ones that 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:51.640 are everyone on their team is single. She's like, they 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:53.840 always got something to fucking do. I'm like, yeah, Monday 0:08:54.120 --> 0:08:56.800 joining that team bach because they trying to uhuh every 0:08:56.800 --> 0:08:58.160 time we have a little date night. He's like, you'd 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:03.959 be good, bro hella nah every night live listen. 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:08.079 Well, we hope that you take our unsolicited advice that 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:11.320 we just gave you. If you don't, we're sure that 0:09:11.400 --> 0:09:14.319 we'll get letters from you and our email of you. 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:17.800 Telling us the terrible decision you made and how to 0:09:17.840 --> 0:09:18.400 get out of it. 0:09:18.720 --> 0:09:20.400 If you want to send those to us, though, make 0:09:20.440 --> 0:09:28.400 sure you send it to decisions pod at gmail dot com. 0:09:31.000 --> 0:09:33.600 Now this is a great way to end the year 0:09:33.640 --> 0:09:36.400 out because good God, damn y'all just be doing whatever. 0:09:37.679 --> 0:09:41.200 The subject line for this one Weezy is should I 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:45.560 feel bad for homie hopping? I want to say no, 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:50.880 because we both homi hopped before. Let's do this, Hello 0:09:50.960 --> 0:09:53.160 Mandy and Weezy. I wanted to start off by saying 0:09:53.320 --> 0:09:56.720 I love your guys, Pod. So I've been on and 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:59.480 off for years with this man I met at the 0:09:59.520 --> 0:10:03.319 gym but then left to the military. We would text 0:10:03.320 --> 0:10:07.080 all the time and FaceTime while he was deployed, and 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:09.600 when he came home, we would always hang out and 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:12.320 of course be intimate. I was so attracted to this 0:10:12.360 --> 0:10:15.440 guy and gained a lot of feelings. He bullshitted me 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:17.840 and made it seem like we were going to be something, 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:21.760 and we weren't. To fast forward, he ended up getting 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:24.960 a girlfriend when he got home, and then they broke 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:28.120 up and I went back. He called me names and 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:31.640 just overall treated me poorly. Now I met one of 0:10:31.679 --> 0:10:32.679 his friends, which. 0:10:32.520 --> 0:10:33.320 I got too. 0:10:34.000 --> 0:10:37.040 He's really cool and always wants to treat me well. 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:40.480 After a drunk night, we ended up kissing, and I 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:43.480 can't stop to think but to feel bad. I didn't 0:10:43.480 --> 0:10:46.280 do it out of spite either, I genuinely wanted to. 0:10:47.320 --> 0:10:49.600 Should I feel bad? 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:51.240 Well started talking about something else. 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:54.240 No, I don't care about the first guy's feelings, but 0:10:54.480 --> 0:10:57.400 yes I look bad as a person that I homie hoopped. 0:10:57.800 --> 0:11:00.320 This new guy is honestly so sweet and treat feel 0:11:00.360 --> 0:11:03.320 like a lady. I'm not sure if feelings are getting 0:11:03.320 --> 0:11:05.280 wrapped up, but I'm confused. 0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:09.680 What do I do? Bit, you better go fuck that 0:11:09.760 --> 0:11:12.120 nigga friend, Bit you better fuck that nigga friend And 0:11:12.240 --> 0:11:14.359 tape it and send it and put oops. 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:18.520 Because if this man is treating you better than this 0:11:18.640 --> 0:11:21.079 other man, did you admitted that he treated you poorly. 0:11:21.480 --> 0:11:23.680 You admitted that he went and got into a relationship 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:26.880 even though it didn't last, and even though you expressed 0:11:26.880 --> 0:11:30.360 your feelings. He said, bitch, I don't really want nothing 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:35.240 more for a kiss. Bruh, a kiss? You better kiss 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:38.240 the head of that dude. So I told you, I 0:11:38.280 --> 0:11:38.920 don't think that. 0:11:39.040 --> 0:11:42.760 Now. There's one thing, though, said Stern before we fucking nikka. 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:48.199 Historically they treat us real good before it go in facts. 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:50.400 So you saying the feelings is getting there and shit 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:51.920 like that, you need to make sure that nigga ain't 0:11:51.920 --> 0:11:53.160 trying to play your ass. He then just get some 0:11:53.160 --> 0:11:56.560 pussy because he heard your pussy was good because they could 0:11:56.559 --> 0:11:57.479 have had a conversation. 0:11:57.600 --> 0:12:02.160 And clearly this other guy only wants sex with you. 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:04.280 We don't know if the other guy, oh you mean 0:12:04.320 --> 0:12:06.560 the first one, the first one right, right, So we 0:12:06.559 --> 0:12:08.000 don't know if the new nigga, like. 0:12:08.400 --> 0:12:12.240 If they had a conversation about you. And now if 0:12:12.240 --> 0:12:14.200 you're a rapper and athlete, A lot of these niggas 0:12:14.200 --> 0:12:15.679 don't want to be like, oh, I'm not foun to 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:20.000 date him. I'm not gonna wife her. He had her first. Yeah, 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:22.640 I don't know. I guess. Let me ask you, like 0:12:22.679 --> 0:12:25.880 how good of the friends and we can both share stories. 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:32.320 Has Homie hopping ever and did really really good? Like 0:12:32.440 --> 0:12:33.640 was it a really good decision? 0:12:33.920 --> 0:12:37.320 And on the other side, when did homie hopping for 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:43.000 you become regrettable? I have two examples for both as well. 0:12:44.280 --> 0:12:46.000 I told you on CAMMI Show, I don't regret it 0:12:46.000 --> 0:12:49.040 because it was an old base friend, okay, and he 0:12:49.160 --> 0:12:53.880 deserved it, But you did it. I was krying of this. 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:56.160 Yeah, this was She's saying that she's not doing this 0:12:56.200 --> 0:12:58.640 out of spite. So you homie hopped one time out 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:02.000 of spite, you don't regret? No, was there a homie 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:04.240 hop that you did regret? 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:09.040 It's hard to go back when I was on my 0:13:09.120 --> 0:13:11.440 real host shit, I was younger, Like there's I feel 0:13:11.480 --> 0:13:12.760 like there's a nigga that's gonna come up to you 0:13:12.760 --> 0:13:14.280 one day and say we fucked. I'm like, no, we didn't. 0:13:14.320 --> 0:13:15.680 He gonna hold up the phone and be like, so 0:13:15.720 --> 0:13:22.040 this HL number I really did. I I didn't regret 0:13:23.800 --> 0:13:26.000 the thing. That's most regretful for me when I was 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:29.920 young and dumb, if my homegirls knew a trick ass nigga, 0:13:30.120 --> 0:13:31.800 maybe I would have fucked with one of them or 0:13:31.840 --> 0:13:34.240 something like that, and it was like, you know, club shit, 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:39.560 but that don't knopping. Then I would honestly say no, 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:43.640 it never really backfired. Okay, but I've never ended up 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:48.080 with a friend. Okay, I will tell you this why 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:51.160 I feel that she's like feeling the most feelings. The 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:55.079 most recent situation I had was a few years ago, 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:58.679 maybe a twenty twenty two situation where there was a 0:13:58.760 --> 0:14:01.120 nigga that Obey knew and it wasn't that one, but 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:04.160 me and him were having like a really strong chemistry 0:14:04.200 --> 0:14:06.320 and I always thought he was attractive when I was 0:14:06.400 --> 0:14:09.600 dating old Bay. I think the chemistry was only strong 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:11.719 because we were like, oh now it's time we could 0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:14.360 if we wanted to. But it never made me feel like, 0:14:14.840 --> 0:14:16.960 oh it's him, like I begain. I got a flight 0:14:17.160 --> 0:14:19.360 that I sparked like a car, So I feel like 0:14:19.400 --> 0:14:23.760 when when when something is forbidden and bad, it's more exciting. Okay. 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:26.880 I was telling that the reason y'all know each other 0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:29.280 is from a person you used to fuck. It's kind 0:14:29.320 --> 0:14:33.560 of like, oh, okay, I'm not mad at that. I'm 0:14:33.600 --> 0:14:34.120 not mad at that. 0:14:34.280 --> 0:14:42.840 For me, a good homie Hop was a teammate that 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:45.400 nigga he introduced me as a friend, So he's bad. 0:14:46.000 --> 0:14:49.400 And that teammate ended up being somebody that I dealt 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:54.720 with for years. Wow, And he was the first guy 0:14:54.760 --> 0:14:57.200 that I got to peg, So to me, that was 0:14:57.280 --> 0:15:00.760 a good homie Hop, Like, I went for one motherfucker 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:04.840 to the next, and that person actually was my first 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:05.920 experience with pegging. 0:15:06.160 --> 0:15:08.680 So I would say that homie Hop thumbs up. 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:12.520 The thumbs down Homie Hop was uh one that I 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:18.400 shared on this podcast multiple times. I slept with this 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:21.800 other guy athlete. It was the worst dick I ever 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:25.520 got in my life, terrible. Wouldn't recommend. What's funny about 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:29.360 that is just found out a homegirl recently is fucking 0:15:29.440 --> 0:15:31.240 him now and it's still bad. 0:15:31.440 --> 0:15:35.360 So to know that fifteen years old, the dick still sucks. Crazy. 0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:38.480 Is this the one with the attractive baby mama? No, 0:15:38.560 --> 0:15:40.640 he doesn't have a baby mama. Oh there was a 0:15:40.720 --> 0:15:42.720 nigga you fucked years ago and I was like, oh 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:44.400 my god, he's so cute and he was athlete and 0:15:44.440 --> 0:15:48.560 you were like terrible. There was terrible and you don't 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:51.240 that might be the wait let me go in the chat. 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:55.800 Wait no, wait public do people see it? Which one 0:15:55.840 --> 0:15:57.840 you talking? No, but they can't see this which one 0:15:57.880 --> 0:16:03.080 you talk about? I never fucked him. There was another 0:16:03.120 --> 0:16:04.360 cute nigga from back then then. 0:16:04.560 --> 0:16:06.920 Yeah, I ain't ever fucked that nigga, y'all. I'm just 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:08.280 gonna say it because she put it in the chat. 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:10.240 She thought I fucked d Rose girl. 0:16:10.280 --> 0:16:13.840 That is not It was someone else from that time, 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:15.960 and he was really silent. I'm about to type it 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:21.680 in the chat, just oh, terrible dick. AnyWho? So I 0:16:21.800 --> 0:16:25.880 ended up dealing with one got terrible different somebody else too, 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:26.040 So I. 0:16:28.000 --> 0:16:30.000 Ended up I ended up sucking with one of his 0:16:30.080 --> 0:16:33.960 childhood friends, and we ended up dealing with each. 0:16:33.800 --> 0:16:38.480 Other for years. His childhood friend. Yeah, girl. And when 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:42.840 I say I thought me and this man was gonna 0:16:42.840 --> 0:16:46.480 be together, really really liked him. And when we got 0:16:46.520 --> 0:16:49.880 to really like getting on that level, like girl, I'm 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:52.920 his family. I was going to I can't even. 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:54.520 Say what city because now it's gonna give it away, 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:56.600 but I was going to his city, and you know, 0:16:56.680 --> 0:16:58.800 all the things you mad city too. 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:00.680 It ain't like she could say Atlanta. It's saying like 0:17:01.840 --> 0:17:02.640 it's all the city. 0:17:04.359 --> 0:17:09.120 But he was like, I know that you slept with 0:17:09.240 --> 0:17:13.239 my friend, and so my mind goes to if we 0:17:13.320 --> 0:17:17.400 ever get married, I had to know that a man 0:17:17.440 --> 0:17:20.119 who would be considered one of my best men, my groomsmen, 0:17:21.040 --> 0:17:23.000 slept with my wife, and I don't think I could ever. 0:17:22.920 --> 0:17:23.600 Get past that. 0:17:24.320 --> 0:17:28.760 And so because he could never envision even a wedding 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:31.359 because he knew that someone at his wedding would have 0:17:31.400 --> 0:17:34.640 fucked his wife, He's like, I don't think we can 0:17:34.720 --> 0:17:36.880 really ever go forward, and baby. 0:17:36.800 --> 0:17:38.879 I was distraught. 0:17:39.160 --> 0:17:42.000 Mind you, this is pre pandemic. This is pre my 0:17:42.160 --> 0:17:44.600 ex that I was with for mad years or whatever. 0:17:44.840 --> 0:17:48.000 But this was a nigga that went from kind of 0:17:48.080 --> 0:17:49.200 like a fuck. 0:17:49.080 --> 0:17:53.199 Buddy situationship to a situationship to let's just be together. 0:17:53.440 --> 0:17:55.960 And we even had the same career path at one point, 0:17:56.440 --> 0:17:59.480 and I was just throwed, y'all. I was motherfucking throwed. 0:18:00.119 --> 0:18:02.280 And that homie hoppy. 0:18:02.440 --> 0:18:06.679 Situation clearly ended up not good. So commes down do 0:18:06.760 --> 0:18:07.400 not recommend. 0:18:07.560 --> 0:18:09.720 So it's the same thing I thought, It's like. Then 0:18:09.720 --> 0:18:13.840 they gonna never want a wife. Yeah, so yeah, I 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:17.640 mean I do know Nigeria and wedder recently. And I'm 0:18:17.640 --> 0:18:20.320 not even lying to you. One of the girls there 0:18:20.400 --> 0:18:23.120 was with another family member when I first started dating 0:18:23.160 --> 0:18:26.520 my nigga and I was like, whoa, but maybe you 0:18:26.560 --> 0:18:31.200 could cousin hop oh or like third cousin. Like, that's 0:18:31.200 --> 0:18:34.920 not worse. No, you're right, that's family. Okay, that's worst. 0:18:35.040 --> 0:18:36.000 That's worse. That's worse. 0:18:36.200 --> 0:18:39.080 But if they don't have the same last name, I 0:18:39.080 --> 0:18:41.520 don't think it's that bad. That would be considered homie hoppingness. 0:18:42.480 --> 0:18:43.920 Oh yeah, it's like we all aunties. 0:18:43.960 --> 0:18:44.359 That's true. 0:18:44.440 --> 0:18:46.800 Yeah, like if it's a different last name. But also, 0:18:46.960 --> 0:18:48.119 this is some host shit advice. 0:18:48.240 --> 0:18:51.320 All right, people got married to a homie hop. See 0:18:51.359 --> 0:18:54.280 like some homie hops end out. Well, I would say, 0:18:54.520 --> 0:18:56.639 I don't know if it counts, Okay, their story is 0:18:56.680 --> 0:18:58.399 not one of the people like that, y' all. Sorry's 0:18:58.400 --> 0:19:02.320 not Serena and Niya or Gila. But I remember she 0:19:02.800 --> 0:19:06.000 and I were talking about it because she was like, oh, 0:19:06.359 --> 0:19:10.040 I met him ten years before we got married, and 0:19:10.119 --> 0:19:11.680 I was like, shut the fuck up. Were you dating 0:19:11.720 --> 0:19:14.240 someone else? As she said, I sure was and that's 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:17.120 when I found out. So she said when they were 0:19:17.119 --> 0:19:19.280 in college. They're in their forties now. When they were 0:19:19.320 --> 0:19:22.600 in college, she was fucking one of his friends. Broke up. 0:19:22.840 --> 0:19:26.280 They both ended up moving to New York. Met through 0:19:26.320 --> 0:19:27.919 the app and he was like I know you and 0:19:27.920 --> 0:19:30.080 she's like I know you too. Boom. 0:19:30.520 --> 0:19:32.800 Yeah, So you don't count excess from high school in 0:19:32.840 --> 0:19:34.960 college for I don't think so? 0:19:35.440 --> 0:19:37.520 All right, Well, I thought I could also pull that 0:19:37.680 --> 0:19:39.680 up to make it less homely happyish. 0:19:40.000 --> 0:19:44.720 Anyways, our advice to you is move forward past first 0:19:44.760 --> 0:19:47.960 base with this motherfucker because the other one ain't taking 0:19:48.000 --> 0:19:49.879 you serious, isn't giving you what you want. 0:19:50.119 --> 0:19:53.800 And also you admitted that he treats you poorly. Why 0:19:53.800 --> 0:19:57.160 do y'all be feeling sad or guilty for men who 0:19:57.200 --> 0:19:58.359 don't treat you well? 0:19:59.080 --> 0:20:03.040 Make it makes since you need to treat them niggas 0:20:03.040 --> 0:20:05.440 out they treat you so hurt is feelings by sleeping 0:20:05.440 --> 0:20:07.800 with his friend. That is our final advice to you, 0:20:08.320 --> 0:20:15.479 and we welcome this activity into the new year. Have 0:20:15.640 --> 0:20:18.720 fun cis anyways, Again, if you want to send your 0:20:18.800 --> 0:20:22.080 letters over to us, send it over to Decisions Pod 0:20:22.200 --> 0:20:26.000 at Gmail. Y'all can hear this every Wednesday on our feed, 0:20:26.040 --> 0:20:29.040 and if you want to watch the video, go ahead 0:20:29.080 --> 0:20:32.639 and join us over on Patreon, aspatreon dot com, backslash 0:20:32.640 --> 0:20:35.920 Horrible Decisions for the fifteen dollars tier, which is where 0:20:35.960 --> 0:20:40.160 you get all of the video content. 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