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Speaker 1: me to talk about today's episode? I wanted to do something. Okay,
Speaker 1: it hits home a little bit.
Speaker 2: Expectations between women and men, who's held to higher standards?
Speaker 2: I really want to know. I've been going on social media.
Speaker 2: I've been seeing so many comments about how men of value,
Speaker 2: you know, valuable men, you know, women that have higher standards,
Speaker 2: men that have higher standards. What are the damn standards?
Speaker 2: I don't understand anymore at this point. When we talk
Speaker 2: about theek and men of value and higher standards, what
Speaker 2: exactly does that mean at this point? Because for example,
Speaker 2: at one point I was even told that my value
Speaker 2: as a woman had You know, I've been kind of
Speaker 2: devalued because now I have children and I am unmarried.
Speaker 1: At one point, being married made.
Speaker 2: You be like, oh, you know, you know, you reach
Speaker 2: your standards in life or your goals in life. But
Speaker 2: since I don't have that, does that mean that I
Speaker 2: have you know, my value has gone down? And not
Speaker 2: only that, but then there's also when it comes to
Speaker 2: the standards and values. I've also heard that once a
Speaker 2: woman hits a certain age point and you still haven't
Speaker 2: gotten married, or you still haven't gotten a man, or
Speaker 2: you still haven't had children, or you still you know, whatever,
Speaker 2: then your value has gone down because supposedly, when you're
Speaker 2: in your twenties you're at like a hundred, right then,
Speaker 2: supposedly based on what men I've heard men say, then
Speaker 2: in your thirties, you know you still have a chance.
Speaker 2: But once you hit forty and fifty, you know you
Speaker 2: kind of get whatever is left. Do you guys believe
Speaker 2: in that crap the same way that I've heard the men.
Speaker 1: Man's value change obviously.
Speaker 2: When obviously, you know, according to some women say once
Speaker 2: they have a lot of several different baby mamas, if
Speaker 2: you have three or four different baby mamas, does your
Speaker 2: standard as a man changes, Your value as a man changes,
Speaker 2: if you still live at home with your mother and
Speaker 2: your father. But let's say you're the one that pays
Speaker 2: all the bills. You know, you're holding your family down,
Speaker 2: but you're still living with your mom and your dad.
Speaker 1: Does your value of a man go down? I don't know.
Speaker 2: I feel like social media these days has allowed people
Speaker 2: to have platforms where they feel that they can just
Speaker 2: give their opinions.
Speaker 1: Which is fine.
Speaker 2: Everybody has the rest to give their opinion that I say,
Speaker 2: whatever you want. But unfortunately some of these comments, especially
Speaker 2: according to who you know, from where they come from,
Speaker 2: who says it, it does affect and influence society to
Speaker 2: a certain extent because they achieve me and whatever is
Speaker 2: that people here, they copy paste and share it and
Speaker 2: then all of a sudden, this now has become the truth,
Speaker 2: which I disagree on. There's a lot of things that
Speaker 2: I disagree on, like who said that your experience is
Speaker 2: the truth? And like I said, today's episode is all
Speaker 2: about expectations.
Speaker 1: What do we expect?
Speaker 2: You know, do we expect more from men that we
Speaker 2: do from women in relationships? Now that's a good point.
Speaker 2: What is a high value man or woman?
Speaker 1: Can you guys let me know on YouTube?
Speaker 2: Go there on exactly amount of on the YouTube and
Speaker 2: give me your opinion.
Speaker 1: What do you consider a high value woman or man?
Speaker 2: Anyways, I also want to go back to this when
Speaker 2: it comes to relationships, right, I don't know. Tell me
Speaker 2: if I'm wrong. When it comes to expect to relationships.
Speaker 2: Do we expect more from men in a religion or
Speaker 2: from a woman? When I say that, I feel like
Speaker 2: a lot of women correct me if I'm wrong. A
Speaker 2: lot of women are looking for a man that's over
Speaker 2: six five. He's speed, he's intellectual, he's respectful.
Speaker 1: He's you know, his high. His hygieneus at a thousand.
Speaker 2: He goes to the gym every day, he wastes up
Speaker 2: in the morning, he does his bed, he has a Ferrari.
Speaker 2: His bank account is like I don't know how many
Speaker 2: millions of dollars. And I feel like that it's expectations
Speaker 2: in many occasions from women what they expected a man
Speaker 2: sometimes can be a little bit okay, let's be a
Speaker 2: little bit more realistic, is it me? But then again,
Speaker 2: I also feel like, can you have your cake and
Speaker 2: eat it too? There are men out there that are
Speaker 2: like that. Bet, you have to mind me. I'm not
Speaker 2: go searching. It's like pay the lottery, like the possibilities
Speaker 2: of you pointing it. And then on top of that,
Speaker 2: a man who's loyal, you know that he's faithful, that
Speaker 2: you know he's gonna be with you forever and everything
Speaker 2: he's ever gonna cheat. And then you know he loves
Speaker 2: your mother, and he loves your children if you have kids,
Speaker 2: and then he'd be saygun the pause. Where are these
Speaker 2: men that supposedly women have these standards for that you're
Speaker 2: supposed to find a lot of women are just out
Speaker 2: here sitting around waiting for that guy to come. Where
Speaker 2: the hell is he supposed to be at the same
Speaker 2: way that I feel that a lot of men are
Speaker 2: expecting these women that are fine as hell. You know,
Speaker 2: their bodies are perfectly no stretch marks, no selling light,
Speaker 2: boobs held all the way up.
Speaker 1: To her freaking chin. You know, her bud is round
Speaker 1: and bubbly.
Speaker 2: She cooks, she cleans, she does the bed, she you
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, handles you as soon as you
Speaker 2: come from work.
Speaker 1: That she you know, has money, and it takes you
Speaker 1: out and pays.
Speaker 2: Where the hell have we gone to the point that
Speaker 2: now we both have these high, unrealistic expectations from each other.
Speaker 2: Then now I feel like it's so much harder for
Speaker 2: women to have real, like realistic relationship in men as well,
Speaker 2: I feel like it's harder for men to be in
Speaker 2: a stable relationship.
Speaker 1: It's my opinion.
Speaker 2: I also feel that even porn men that watch porn,
Speaker 2: women that watch porn whatever. I watch it myself, but
Speaker 2: I feel like even that part that has been so normalized,
Speaker 2: from only fans to social media to everything, you know,
Speaker 2: being overly sexualized, I think that that also has affected
Speaker 2: the standards of what we expect in a relationship. We
Speaker 2: expect the women to, oh, she's gonna, you know, do this,
Speaker 2: and she's gonna be a porn star and she's gonna.
Speaker 1: Circus, so lay me.
Speaker 2: And then the guy is supposed to do this and
Speaker 2: do that, and he's supposed to look like this, and
Speaker 2: wait a second. I feel like what has happened to
Speaker 2: relationships these days?
Speaker 1: I feel that social media has also affected so much.
Speaker 2: And this is only but my opinion, we're so busy
Speaker 2: looking at all these fake photoshop, face tuned relationships on
Speaker 2: social media, about how everybody has this pertur relationship. The
Speaker 2: dinners are so expensive and fabulous, that they're you know,
Speaker 2: they're doing TikTok dances all day together.
Speaker 1: They're here a resorts and da da la dah. You
Speaker 1: know they they bought a house together.
Speaker 2: I'm not saying that it's not possible, but how much
Speaker 2: of it is it truly realistic? How many of these relationships,
Speaker 2: how many of these you know couples are posting when
Speaker 2: they argue, when they wake up looking you know, crunchy
Speaker 2: as hell, when you know the bills aren't being paid.
Speaker 1: When they have disagreements.
Speaker 2: How many of us are really looking at the real
Speaker 2: part of what a quote unquote relationship should look like.
Speaker 2: So that's why I feel personally that these standards of
Speaker 2: what men expect in a relationship and what women expect
Speaker 2: are so realistic. Then now everybody just feels so much
Speaker 2: more comfortable being single and having all these options. Something
Speaker 2: else I've heard is that obviously in your youth you
Speaker 2: want to solidify and find a partner, right because the
Speaker 2: older you get, Supposedly a lot of people will say.
Speaker 1: That it's harder to find someone.
Speaker 2: Why because now you no longer which is okay, you
Speaker 2: can smell and see through the bullshit you no longer
Speaker 2: put up with a lot of things. You confront things
Speaker 2: straight to the point, and now maybe it'll be you know,
Speaker 2: a little bit harder for you to find someone. But
Speaker 2: with that being said, I just feel like I don't
Speaker 2: know what's happening. I feel like if we don't figure
Speaker 2: out ways of even having we don't even listen to
Speaker 2: the elderly anymore.
Speaker 1: We don't even listen to our elders anymore for advice.
Speaker 2: Those relationships that used to left in the last forty
Speaker 2: sixty years, now it's like you date for a couple
Speaker 2: of years, that things don't work out, then you're ready
Speaker 2: to step out. It shouldn't be that way. We found
Speaker 2: a study by the University of Michigan and the University
Speaker 2: of Texas at Austin which measured the expectations and standards
Speaker 2: of potential romantic partners.
Speaker 1: And let me tell you what they said.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna read you later, I want you to catch
Speaker 2: it up. But what they said was crazy. I also
Speaker 2: want to give you, you know, my personal thoughts, like I've
Speaker 2: said before, on how I feel about this. But like
Speaker 2: I said before, I want you guys to also go
Speaker 2: and give me your opinion on the YouTube channel Goal subscribe,
Speaker 2: Go right now, go to the YouTube channel exactly a'm
Speaker 2: matat and tell me how you feel about it. Have
Speaker 2: you ever felt that you've been in a relationship where
Speaker 2: your partner has expected too much from you based off
Speaker 2: social media, based off TV, based off what their mother,
Speaker 2: their father, their friends.
Speaker 1: Tell you, you know, tell them that you should be. Have
Speaker 1: they ever compared you to.
Speaker 2: Like Meganita's you know wife or Menganito's you know husband. Oh,
Speaker 2: Fulanito does this for her? Fulanita does that?
Speaker 1: Like? Have they ever done that.
Speaker 2: To you that you feel like, yo, their relationship is theirs?
Speaker 2: Why are you comparing what we got going on.
Speaker 1: To what they have going on? And just because you
Speaker 1: see that part, that doesn't mean that that's the truth
Speaker 1: of what their relationship is. That's just part of it.
Speaker 1: Is it me or not?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: I also feel like the physical.
Speaker 2: Attraction for your partner, the standards have also changed so
Speaker 2: much because we have these expectations of you know, you're
Speaker 2: supposed to have a six pack, and you're supposed to
Speaker 2: have you know, your body's supposed to be all this,
Speaker 2: But in a real solidified relationship at one point, the
Speaker 2: possibilities of your body changing are one thousand percent happening.
Speaker 2: Does that mean that you stop loving the person that
Speaker 2: you're with? Does that mean that you automatically go out
Speaker 2: there and cheat? How are you supposed to handle that?
Speaker 2: How are you supposed to stay in love with your partner?
Speaker 1: I don't know. How are you supposed to stay in
Speaker 1: love with your partner?
Speaker 2: When you see you know, people on social media consistently
Speaker 2: throwing this overly sexualized images of what oh if this
Speaker 2: doesn't work out, just go to the next person, Go
Speaker 2: to the next person. But all these people that you
Speaker 2: see on social media giving you advice on if she
Speaker 2: ain't this, then drop her.
Speaker 1: If he is that, then dropper. Then you'll see.
Speaker 2: Those same people ending up being lonely as hell in
Speaker 2: their house, still trying to figure it out.
Speaker 1: So no, so they give you do whatever you think.
Speaker 2: That is right, and if you really love somebody, you
Speaker 2: work things out physically, you're not you know, you feel like,
Speaker 2: oh me, nah, you've let yourself down a little bit.
Speaker 1: Let's talk it out as partners. But don't fall for this.
Speaker 1: I am a woman of value.
Speaker 2: Therefore, at this point in my life, if you don't
Speaker 2: look like William Levy, if you don't look like rapid
Speaker 2: if you don't look like you know Michael B.
Speaker 1: Jordan's Yeah, I can't do it.
Speaker 2: I feel like we're falling into this trap where we're
Speaker 2: supposed to women have become so you know, independent. Shout
Speaker 2: outs to all the independent feminist women of the shout
Speaker 2: outs to you, a to each his own. I'm just
Speaker 2: giving my personal opinion. We become so independent and we
Speaker 2: don't need no men, and we don't need this, and
Speaker 2: we don't need that that at the end, we're we're
Speaker 2: finding a lot of like the real conversations that are
Speaker 2: happening behind closed doors. We're finding a lot of lonely
Speaker 2: you know, I don't want to say bitter, A lot
Speaker 2: of lonely, hurt women, you know, the same way that
Speaker 2: we find a lot of hurt, angry men. There's just
Speaker 2: so much disconnection in this generation that I don't know
Speaker 2: where we're supposed to go from here. Financially, let's go
Speaker 2: to that too. I find a lot of men that
Speaker 2: are looking for women that are financially stable. Yeah, it's
Speaker 2: really nice to find you a girl that she's a boss.
Speaker 2: She got you know what I'm saying, She got her money,
Speaker 2: she got her apartment, her house, she got this, she
Speaker 2: got that, Da da da da, But do you know
Speaker 2: what that also comes with? And I and I saw
Speaker 2: something on social media that I would agree with one
Speaker 2: hundred percent. Most women don't want to have masculine energy,
Speaker 2: but a lot of us have had to, you know,
Speaker 2: get you know, become that masculine energy because we haven't
Speaker 2: been able to find someone. And even when you do
Speaker 2: find a man, in many occasions, when they don't stand
Speaker 2: up to the plate, when they don't stand up to
Speaker 2: what a man should be doing, you know, provide protect
Speaker 2: all of them out that we already know, then.
Speaker 1: You feel like you have to fill in that void.
Speaker 2: The same way when we have a lot of men
Speaker 2: that are being raised by Please forgive me. There's a
Speaker 2: lot of mothers out there that do a great job,
Speaker 2: but there's a lot of mothers out there get song
Speaker 2: om and apolo ad ass everything that your son does.
Speaker 2: You're right there to oh, baby, everything's gonna be okay.
Speaker 2: You know that he's doing wrong. You see him cheating
Speaker 2: on his wife, You see him, you know, cheating on
Speaker 2: his girlfriend, doing all types of and you don't say anything.
Speaker 2: You're creating a there's a whole generation of a lot
Speaker 2: of soft, gentle tender, you know, with a lot of
Speaker 2: feminine energy men that are not stepping.
Speaker 1: Up to the plate as well.
Speaker 2: So the roles have somewhat changed, and we find a
Speaker 2: lot of men no longer wanting to be providers, no
Speaker 2: longer looking to protect. No, they're looking to be protected.
Speaker 2: They're looking to be financially you know, and invested in.
Speaker 2: And I'm not saying that if you're a good man,
Speaker 2: you don't deserve to get treated with gifts and love
Speaker 2: and appreciation and a lot of beautiful things and be
Speaker 2: treated and be shown you know that I love you,
Speaker 2: that I appreciate that I am. I'm not talking about
Speaker 2: they could go buy him some socks and some boxers
Speaker 2: and some No, go out there and put some effort
Speaker 2: into your man as well. If he's holding you down,
Speaker 2: if he's tired of working, if he's providing, if when
Speaker 2: something is wrong you feel like you can go to
Speaker 2: your man and he got your back, or he's going
Speaker 2: to stand up to the plate. That man deserves every
Speaker 2: little bit of respect and love and appreciation etolo emas.
Speaker 2: But then there's also in this new generation a lot
Speaker 2: of men that are looking for a woman a's a
Speaker 2: boss to just you know, all I got really is
Speaker 2: is this piece of a body to provide, you know
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. And with that being said, because I
Speaker 2: look good, because I'm high, because I'm this, then you're
Speaker 2: just supposed to do for me. No, So then that's
Speaker 2: what we find so many women becoming financially independent and
Speaker 2: no longer feeling that they like they need a man.
Speaker 2: We find so many women now that just feel like, oh,
Speaker 2: I can just have as many one nine stands, as
Speaker 2: many things as I want, and now I'm the one
Speaker 2: who's empowering myself. I'm the one taking control and blah
Speaker 2: blah blah, all the nonsense that I personally don't believe.
Speaker 1: I don't believe that.
Speaker 2: I hear a lot of women saying it, I do
Speaker 2: it because I want to, I do it because I'm empowered,
Speaker 2: or do it because of my body. I personally don't
Speaker 2: believe that any woman at the end of the day,
Speaker 2: realistically just wants to be jumping from one bed to
Speaker 2: the other just because you have the power to do it,
Speaker 2: you know, because if you give it up, they're gonna
Speaker 2: take it.
Speaker 1: Period. If you're out here exposing it. That's just what's
Speaker 1: gonna happen.
Speaker 2: The same way that there's men out there that you know,
Speaker 2: there's women who if you look good and you're giving it.
Speaker 1: Up, a lot of them would just take it.
Speaker 2: But where is the love, the appreciation, the comfort, the
Speaker 2: you know, moral and spiritual and mental support. Where is
Speaker 2: where is the foundation of that? Let's talk about being faithful,
Speaker 2: the faithful aspect of relationships. Do we expect men to
Speaker 2: be more faithful than women in relationships with than men?
Speaker 2: I feel like men in many occasions have been caught
Speaker 2: more cheating and women are have stayed. And according to
Speaker 2: a lot of men, these high value men, we're supposed
Speaker 2: to allow men to cheat and not even cheats just
Speaker 2: you know, they're in relationship, not even in a relationship. Kay,
Speaker 2: you're the main one, and I'm just you know, it's
Speaker 2: just sex. It doesn't mean anything. I'm just you know,
Speaker 2: I'm hogh and I got money and I'm a high
Speaker 2: value man and you know the women want me and
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna wait pause. So are we no longer
Speaker 2: holding each other accountable for being respectful and loyal into relationships?
Speaker 2: Are we just supposed to be you know, what I'm saying,
Speaker 2: like just having sex here and there, and what does
Speaker 2: that mean? So if you're a high value men and
Speaker 2: you're allowed to have several women, does that mean that
Speaker 2: high value women can also do the same. Not really,
Speaker 2: because if they do it, which they physically can, will
Speaker 2: society look at them the same? No, because even then
Speaker 2: society has given us their own version of the standards
Speaker 2: that we should be held upon. Just like when you
Speaker 2: go to social media, the first thing that you see
Speaker 2: you see a rich.
Speaker 1: Guy with a whole sack of women.
Speaker 2: Anyways, we've seen many, many occasions where there is marriages
Speaker 2: that work, you know, one husband, several wives, one wife,
Speaker 2: several husbands.
Speaker 1: But that's not the majority of society.
Speaker 2: And even when you look at that, you see all
Speaker 2: the negative comments that men and women have to say
Speaker 2: about a woman that you know that is surrounded by
Speaker 2: several men. I don't know, I just feel like I
Speaker 2: feel like social media affects a lot of relationships. The
Speaker 2: things that you see visually every day does affect what
Speaker 2: is being programmed and put into your mindset.
Speaker 1: We barely see, you know, a lot of.
Speaker 2: Relationships or people telling you to be realistic with your
Speaker 2: standards and I feel like you have the rest that
Speaker 2: have as high standards as you want. But when you
Speaker 2: see yourself, you know, with're fifty sixty years old, still lonely,
Speaker 2: with no relationship, trying to figure it out. Then you know,
Speaker 2: I guess that's just on you, because I think we
Speaker 2: also have to understand that nobody is perfect, no relationship
Speaker 2: is perfect. You gotta work with That's what marriage is,
Speaker 2: That's what a relationship is. That's what having a partner
Speaker 2: is about. Is working through things. You work things out,
Speaker 2: you get to know each other, your partners in life.
Speaker 2: You're looking for a partner in life. We're not meant
Speaker 2: to my understanding, we're not meant to get you know,
Speaker 2: we're born by ourselves, but God has put us so
Speaker 2: that we can find someone else.
Speaker 1: Everyone needs that physical affection.
Speaker 2: And it's not just the sexual you know, affection, it's
Speaker 2: the emotional affection.
Speaker 1: You know. And I just I don't know, is it me?
Speaker 2: I feel like my mom raised me old school and
Speaker 2: I'd be like, but I get don't saying not They
Speaker 2: all this crap about morals and respect you to Lina,
Speaker 2: when at the end of the day, people.
Speaker 1: Don't even use it anymore.
Speaker 2: Is it just me These expectations may be influenced by
Speaker 2: so much, so much of the things that's just around us,
Speaker 2: including social media, you know, which I like I said before,
Speaker 2: I think it pays a huge part in the way
Speaker 2: that people behave their habits, how men and women are
Speaker 2: viewed by.
Speaker 1: Those who consume all this action on social media, I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 2: Without also being said, what does it mean these days
Speaker 2: to actually be in a relationship? So here goes a question,
Speaker 2: what does it mean for us in our you know, generation,
Speaker 2: to be in a relationship? What is your definition of
Speaker 2: being in a relationship? What it means that we should
Speaker 2: be aware of our expectations and standards and how they
Speaker 2: may differ from those of our partners.
Speaker 1: I feel like.
Speaker 2: Even now, when you when you date, when you go out,
Speaker 2: you have to specify what you're looking for and what
Speaker 2: a relationship exactly is, because everybody has their own version
Speaker 2: of it. Can we're just going out, We're just talking,
Speaker 2: we're just dating, we're getting to know each other, we're
Speaker 2: you know, we're just friends. We are in an open relationship,
Speaker 2: we are in a committed relationship. So even now you
Speaker 2: have to specify what exactly is it that you're in Listen.
Speaker 2: I'm not here to judge anyone because I'm only giving
Speaker 2: but my opinion.
Speaker 1: And like I.
Speaker 2: Said, I wanted to talk about these high expectations of
Speaker 2: men and women because every day I see more videos
Speaker 2: on social media Facebook, here and there, all over the
Speaker 2: page Instagram where people are talking about what women should
Speaker 2: look like, what women should stand up for, what women
Speaker 2: should expect from a man in every aspect financially, you know, morally, physically,
Speaker 2: all these standards of what we expect men to do
Speaker 2: and provide for us. In many occasions, we're no longer
Speaker 2: talking about providing as far as I need to to,
Speaker 2: you know, take care of the family, take care of
Speaker 2: the household, while as a woman, I'm gonna also hold
Speaker 2: you down and I'm gonna take care of this. If
Speaker 2: you you know you do this, then my role will
Speaker 2: be to do that. Or we can discuss it and
Speaker 2: then we both do this for each other.
Speaker 1: Whatever.
Speaker 2: Now, I just feel like there's there's so many distorted
Speaker 2: versions of we're all expecting and looking for these billionaires,
Speaker 2: these millionaires. They're just gonna have us on yachts and
Speaker 2: private planes and they're gonna be doing all these things,
Speaker 2: and you know, we're we're now giving more importance and
Speaker 2: value to a burken bag and Chanel bags and all
Speaker 2: these other crap and all the ferraris and the bedleys
Speaker 2: and all this other stuff that we're not you know,
Speaker 2: we're not really talking about like are you respectful?
Speaker 1: Can you really you know, will you love me and
Speaker 1: my family?
Speaker 2: Can you be a good father figure to our children
Speaker 2: if we have children, like you know, like looking at
Speaker 2: all the other things besides the materialistic part, where does
Speaker 2: that go? Do we appreciate man for all the other
Speaker 2: things that they can bring to the table, that they
Speaker 2: can provide, that they can do, that they that they
Speaker 2: are willing and meant to do.
Speaker 1: Are we looking at their potential and.
Speaker 2: The way that they can grow with us in a partnership,
Speaker 2: you know, knowing that they're not perfect, but they're willing
Speaker 2: to try, that they're willing to love. I feel like
Speaker 2: in many occasions we let go of those people that
Speaker 2: have truly shown us that they're willing to sacrifice for us,
Speaker 2: that they really do love us, But they may.
Speaker 1: Financially not be there.
Speaker 2: They may not physically be as hot or be the
Speaker 2: version of men or women that you expect. But at
Speaker 2: the end of the day, a lot of those people,
Speaker 2: at the long run, I'm sure you've thought about them,
Speaker 2: like this person really loved me, this person really cared
Speaker 2: about me.
Speaker 1: I'm sure this person today.
Speaker 2: We would have been this far in life because of X, Y,
Speaker 2: and Z, but because of your standards that in many
Speaker 2: occasions can be unrealistic.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying don't have standards.
Speaker 2: I'm saying, don't let social media, don't let society influence
Speaker 2: you to the point that you end up by yourself
Speaker 2: because or you end up with the wrong person because
Speaker 2: of the quote unquote standards and the value that you
Speaker 2: see yourself in there or that you're supposed to hold.
Speaker 2: The same thing goes for women. There's so many good
Speaker 2: men out there, because unfortunately I haven't found one myself
Speaker 2: for me. But I can't discredit and say that there
Speaker 2: isn't some men out there that are willing to give
Speaker 2: you their last piece of bread, that are not willing
Speaker 2: to work and sacrifice and be a good father figure
Speaker 2: and love you or respect you and just give you
Speaker 2: the world because I have seen it. I've seen that
Speaker 2: happen for other women. It hasn't happened for me. Yet,
Speaker 2: it doesn't mean that I've lost hope. It doesn't mean
Speaker 2: that it's not going to happen. But it also does
Speaker 2: mean that I might have to be a little bit
Speaker 2: more flexible with my standards, right, I might have to
Speaker 2: be a little bit more flexible and not I guess
Speaker 2: I don't know if you're saying the word realistic is
Speaker 2: the right term, but I might have to be a
Speaker 2: little bit more flexible and say, you know what, you
Speaker 2: may not have the X, Y and Z that I want,
Speaker 2: it that I expect.
Speaker 1: Maybe we can work on that together. Maybe we can
Speaker 1: build that together.
Speaker 2: Maybe you have the potential that I'm looking for to
Speaker 2: do those things.
Speaker 1: But I don't know. I just see that a lot
Speaker 1: of us are getting lost in the mix.
Speaker 2: We're getting lost in the mix looking for this perfect
Speaker 2: body and this perfect all this crap and perfection doesn't exist.
Speaker 2: We got to be flexible and be aware, you know,
Speaker 2: and be also respectful of your partners. You know they're
Speaker 2: vision because they also have a vision and they have
Speaker 2: their own standards for you as well.
Speaker 1: But I think that communication is key.
Speaker 2: Being able to just communicate and talk and negotiate those expectations,
Speaker 2: be willing to figure out you know what, you don't
Speaker 2: have this, I don't have that, but we both have
Speaker 2: this and we're willing to do that.
Speaker 1: Does that make sense anyways?
Speaker 2: Don't get yourself lost in the mix of this perfection.
Speaker 1: We don't live in a movie. We don't live you
Speaker 1: know this TV.
Speaker 2: Like I said before, photoshop, social media, picture this, you
Speaker 2: know TikTok version of what a relationship is is not realistic.
Speaker 1: It's not true.
Speaker 2: Remember then, when people show you something on social media,
Speaker 2: they're showing you what they want you to see.
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that that is the truth, you understand.
Speaker 2: Don't let society and social media make you lose someone
Speaker 2: that really cares for you because you're trying to be
Speaker 2: like on social media or because you're trying to I
Speaker 2: saw that. No no, no, no, no no y. What
Speaker 2: works for you? Do what's best for you and be honest.
Speaker 2: Be honest with yourself as well, because I'm sure that
Speaker 2: all the things that you're requesting and that you want
Speaker 2: from somebody else, do you have that?
Speaker 1: Can you provide?
Speaker 2: Then?
Speaker 1: Do you can't? Those standards that you want? You want X,
Speaker 1: Y and Z, But are you that?
Speaker 2: Because I'm sure that the person that wants to be
Speaker 2: with you may be also looking for X, Y and Z.
Speaker 2: Can you provide those things? Can you be even if
Speaker 2: a man is looking even if a woman is looking
Speaker 2: for this millionaire that's like this and all these great
Speaker 2: things that he comes from a good family, what do
Speaker 2: you think that man is looking for. Let's work on
Speaker 2: ourselves before we start requesting and asking all types of
Speaker 2: crazy things from other people that are coming into our lives.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's be.
Speaker 2: A little bit more realistic with these values and high
Speaker 2: standards and not miss out on good opportunities and the
Speaker 2: right people in our lives going crazy.
Speaker 1: If you agree or disagree, just go ahead and let
Speaker 1: me know. I want to know.
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Speaker 2: l end like I always say thank you, thank you
Speaker 2: so much for being part of exactly Amana because I
Speaker 2: am here because of y'all. And this has been a
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