WEBVTT - Expectations Between Women and Men, Who is Held to the Higher Standard? 0:00:04.080 --> 0:00:06.080 Welcome, Welcome, guys, was good? Was popping? 0:00:06.120 --> 0:00:10.760 Is your girl Amada? And you're listening to exactly Amada? 0:00:10.840 --> 0:00:13.760 A production of iHeart. Thank you once again for tuning 0:00:13.800 --> 0:00:17.079 in and as usual, Levigo, don't forget to subscribe to 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:20.599 the podcast on your favorite podcast platform, whatever it may be, 0:00:20.680 --> 0:00:22.919 and go ahead and rate us those five stars and 0:00:23.040 --> 0:00:24.120 leave us a review. 0:00:24.560 --> 0:00:26.080 Yeah, am one of the Hamasavada. You like the show? 0:00:26.079 --> 0:00:27.160 If you don't like to show, what do you want 0:00:27.160 --> 0:00:30.200 me to talk about today's episode? I wanted to do something. Okay, 0:00:30.480 --> 0:00:31.760 it hits home a little bit. 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:37.560 Expectations between women and men, who's held to higher standards? 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:40.360 I really want to know. I've been going on social media. 0:00:40.400 --> 0:00:44.559 I've been seeing so many comments about how men of value, 0:00:45.120 --> 0:00:48.720 you know, valuable men, you know, women that have higher standards, 0:00:48.920 --> 0:00:52.680 men that have higher standards. What are the damn standards? 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:55.200 I don't understand anymore at this point. When we talk 0:00:55.240 --> 0:00:58.040 about theek and men of value and higher standards, what 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:00.520 exactly does that mean at this point? Because for example, 0:01:00.840 --> 0:01:04.959 at one point I was even told that my value 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:07.640 as a woman had You know, I've been kind of 0:01:07.640 --> 0:01:11.080 devalued because now I have children and I am unmarried. 0:01:11.560 --> 0:01:14.120 At one point, being married made. 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:16.199 You be like, oh, you know, you know, you reach 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:18.840 your standards in life or your goals in life. But 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:21.360 since I don't have that, does that mean that I 0:01:21.400 --> 0:01:24.560 have you know, my value has gone down? And not 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:26.840 only that, but then there's also when it comes to 0:01:26.880 --> 0:01:30.640 the standards and values. I've also heard that once a 0:01:30.680 --> 0:01:34.240 woman hits a certain age point and you still haven't 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:36.319 gotten married, or you still haven't gotten a man, or 0:01:36.360 --> 0:01:38.760 you still haven't had children, or you still you know, whatever, 0:01:39.120 --> 0:01:42.039 then your value has gone down because supposedly, when you're 0:01:42.080 --> 0:01:45.440 in your twenties you're at like a hundred, right then, 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:49.640 supposedly based on what men I've heard men say, then 0:01:49.680 --> 0:01:51.480 in your thirties, you know you still have a chance. 0:01:51.520 --> 0:01:53.760 But once you hit forty and fifty, you know you 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:56.280 kind of get whatever is left. Do you guys believe 0:01:56.320 --> 0:02:00.120 in that crap the same way that I've heard the men. 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:02.760 Man's value change obviously. 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:05.320 When obviously, you know, according to some women say once 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:07.600 they have a lot of several different baby mamas, if 0:02:07.600 --> 0:02:09.600 you have three or four different baby mamas, does your 0:02:09.720 --> 0:02:13.520 standard as a man changes, Your value as a man changes, 0:02:14.120 --> 0:02:16.520 if you still live at home with your mother and 0:02:16.560 --> 0:02:18.560 your father. But let's say you're the one that pays 0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:21.400 all the bills. You know, you're holding your family down, 0:02:21.400 --> 0:02:23.399 but you're still living with your mom and your dad. 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:26.680 Does your value of a man go down? I don't know. 0:02:26.880 --> 0:02:29.399 I feel like social media these days has allowed people 0:02:29.440 --> 0:02:32.280 to have platforms where they feel that they can just 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:33.080 give their opinions. 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:33.680 Which is fine. 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:35.680 Everybody has the rest to give their opinion that I say, 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:40.600 whatever you want. But unfortunately some of these comments, especially 0:02:40.960 --> 0:02:43.040 according to who you know, from where they come from, 0:02:43.080 --> 0:02:46.680 who says it, it does affect and influence society to 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:50.160 a certain extent because they achieve me and whatever is 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:53.440 that people here, they copy paste and share it and 0:02:53.480 --> 0:02:55.880 then all of a sudden, this now has become the truth, 0:02:56.440 --> 0:02:58.520 which I disagree on. There's a lot of things that 0:02:58.520 --> 0:03:02.000 I disagree on, like who said that your experience is 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:04.480 the truth? And like I said, today's episode is all 0:03:04.480 --> 0:03:05.519 about expectations. 0:03:05.639 --> 0:03:06.520 What do we expect? 0:03:06.600 --> 0:03:08.480 You know, do we expect more from men that we 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:12.240 do from women in relationships? Now that's a good point. 0:03:12.440 --> 0:03:14.600 What is a high value man or woman? 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:16.399 Can you guys let me know on YouTube? 0:03:16.680 --> 0:03:19.680 Go there on exactly amount of on the YouTube and 0:03:19.800 --> 0:03:20.959 give me your opinion. 0:03:21.400 --> 0:03:24.239 What do you consider a high value woman or man? 0:03:24.440 --> 0:03:26.919 Anyways, I also want to go back to this when 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:29.400 it comes to relationships, right, I don't know. Tell me 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:32.280 if I'm wrong. When it comes to expect to relationships. 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:34.840 Do we expect more from men in a religion or 0:03:34.880 --> 0:03:36.880 from a woman? When I say that, I feel like 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:39.320 a lot of women correct me if I'm wrong. A 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:41.640 lot of women are looking for a man that's over 0:03:41.760 --> 0:03:47.520 six five. He's speed, he's intellectual, he's respectful. 0:03:46.960 --> 0:03:49.840 He's you know, his high. His hygieneus at a thousand. 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:52.360 He goes to the gym every day, he wastes up 0:03:52.360 --> 0:03:55.240 in the morning, he does his bed, he has a Ferrari. 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:57.520 His bank account is like I don't know how many 0:03:57.520 --> 0:04:00.520 millions of dollars. And I feel like that it's expectations 0:04:00.560 --> 0:04:03.960 in many occasions from women what they expected a man 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:06.720 sometimes can be a little bit okay, let's be a 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:09.320 little bit more realistic, is it me? But then again, 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:11.560 I also feel like, can you have your cake and 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:14.120 eat it too? There are men out there that are 0:04:14.240 --> 0:04:16.200 like that. Bet, you have to mind me. I'm not 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:19.560 go searching. It's like pay the lottery, like the possibilities 0:04:19.560 --> 0:04:20.960 of you pointing it. And then on top of that, 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:24.120 a man who's loyal, you know that he's faithful, that 0:04:24.240 --> 0:04:25.799 you know he's gonna be with you forever and everything 0:04:25.839 --> 0:04:28.599 he's ever gonna cheat. And then you know he loves 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:31.400 your mother, and he loves your children if you have kids, 0:04:31.480 --> 0:04:36.320 and then he'd be saygun the pause. Where are these 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:40.200 men that supposedly women have these standards for that you're 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:42.880 supposed to find a lot of women are just out 0:04:42.880 --> 0:04:45.920 here sitting around waiting for that guy to come. Where 0:04:46.000 --> 0:04:47.760 the hell is he supposed to be at the same 0:04:47.800 --> 0:04:49.080 way that I feel that a lot of men are 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:52.919 expecting these women that are fine as hell. You know, 0:04:52.960 --> 0:04:56.280 their bodies are perfectly no stretch marks, no selling light, 0:04:56.520 --> 0:04:57.960 boobs held all the way up. 0:04:57.880 --> 0:05:00.880 To her freaking chin. You know, her bud is round 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:01.359 and bubbly. 0:05:01.600 --> 0:05:03.919 She cooks, she cleans, she does the bed, she you 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:05.599 know what I'm saying, handles you as soon as you 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:06.360 come from work. 0:05:06.680 --> 0:05:08.920 That she you know, has money, and it takes you 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:09.520 out and pays. 0:05:09.720 --> 0:05:13.240 Where the hell have we gone to the point that 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:17.480 now we both have these high, unrealistic expectations from each other. 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:20.120 Then now I feel like it's so much harder for 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:23.919 women to have real, like realistic relationship in men as well, 0:05:24.440 --> 0:05:26.000 I feel like it's harder for men to be in 0:05:26.000 --> 0:05:27.200 a stable relationship. 0:05:27.600 --> 0:05:28.480 It's my opinion. 0:05:28.680 --> 0:05:32.279 I also feel that even porn men that watch porn, 0:05:32.720 --> 0:05:35.760 women that watch porn whatever. I watch it myself, but 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:40.599 I feel like even that part that has been so normalized, 0:05:40.760 --> 0:05:43.479 from only fans to social media to everything, you know, 0:05:43.560 --> 0:05:46.720 being overly sexualized, I think that that also has affected 0:05:46.720 --> 0:05:50.440 the standards of what we expect in a relationship. We 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:53.920 expect the women to, oh, she's gonna, you know, do this, 0:05:54.000 --> 0:05:56.040 and she's gonna be a porn star and she's gonna. 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:56.640 Circus, so lay me. 0:05:56.839 --> 0:05:58.840 And then the guy is supposed to do this and 0:05:58.880 --> 0:06:00.600 do that, and he's supposed to look like this, and 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:04.160 wait a second. I feel like what has happened to 0:06:04.320 --> 0:06:05.839 relationships these days? 0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:09.080 I feel that social media has also affected so much. 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:11.279 And this is only but my opinion, we're so busy 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:15.599 looking at all these fake photoshop, face tuned relationships on 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:18.880 social media, about how everybody has this pertur relationship. The 0:06:18.960 --> 0:06:21.919 dinners are so expensive and fabulous, that they're you know, 0:06:21.920 --> 0:06:24.239 they're doing TikTok dances all day together. 0:06:24.520 --> 0:06:27.039 They're here a resorts and da da la dah. You 0:06:27.080 --> 0:06:28.480 know they they bought a house together. 0:06:28.920 --> 0:06:32.320 I'm not saying that it's not possible, but how much 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:35.400 of it is it truly realistic? How many of these relationships, 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:38.040 how many of these you know couples are posting when 0:06:38.040 --> 0:06:40.839 they argue, when they wake up looking you know, crunchy 0:06:40.880 --> 0:06:44.120 as hell, when you know the bills aren't being paid. 0:06:44.120 --> 0:06:45.839 When they have disagreements. 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:48.479 How many of us are really looking at the real 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:52.000 part of what a quote unquote relationship should look like. 0:06:52.720 --> 0:06:55.839 So that's why I feel personally that these standards of 0:06:56.240 --> 0:06:59.200 what men expect in a relationship and what women expect 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:02.760 are so realistic. Then now everybody just feels so much 0:07:02.760 --> 0:07:06.719 more comfortable being single and having all these options. Something 0:07:06.760 --> 0:07:09.520 else I've heard is that obviously in your youth you 0:07:09.600 --> 0:07:12.400 want to solidify and find a partner, right because the 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:15.360 older you get, Supposedly a lot of people will say. 0:07:15.280 --> 0:07:16.559 That it's harder to find someone. 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:19.600 Why because now you no longer which is okay, you 0:07:19.640 --> 0:07:21.920 can smell and see through the bullshit you no longer 0:07:21.960 --> 0:07:24.400 put up with a lot of things. You confront things 0:07:24.400 --> 0:07:27.440 straight to the point, and now maybe it'll be you know, 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:29.200 a little bit harder for you to find someone. But 0:07:29.720 --> 0:07:33.800 with that being said, I just feel like I don't 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:36.280 know what's happening. I feel like if we don't figure 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:38.360 out ways of even having we don't even listen to 0:07:38.360 --> 0:07:39.080 the elderly anymore. 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:41.800 We don't even listen to our elders anymore for advice. 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:44.240 Those relationships that used to left in the last forty 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:46.520 sixty years, now it's like you date for a couple 0:07:46.560 --> 0:07:48.240 of years, that things don't work out, then you're ready 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:59.360 to step out. It shouldn't be that way. We found 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:02.400 a study by the University of Michigan and the University 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:06.440 of Texas at Austin which measured the expectations and standards 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:08.200 of potential romantic partners. 0:08:08.640 --> 0:08:11.160 And let me tell you what they said. 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:13.960 I'm gonna read you later, I want you to catch 0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:16.840 it up. But what they said was crazy. I also 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:18.920 want to give you, you know, my personal thoughts, like I've 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:21.600 said before, on how I feel about this. But like 0:08:21.600 --> 0:08:23.360 I said before, I want you guys to also go 0:08:23.560 --> 0:08:26.280 and give me your opinion on the YouTube channel Goal subscribe, 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:30.080 Go right now, go to the YouTube channel exactly a'm 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:32.000 matat and tell me how you feel about it. Have 0:08:32.080 --> 0:08:33.920 you ever felt that you've been in a relationship where 0:08:33.960 --> 0:08:36.000 your partner has expected too much from you based off 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:39.320 social media, based off TV, based off what their mother, 0:08:39.440 --> 0:08:40.840 their father, their friends. 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:43.280 Tell you, you know, tell them that you should be. Have 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:45.280 they ever compared you to. 0:08:45.320 --> 0:08:49.680 Like Meganita's you know wife or Menganito's you know husband. Oh, 0:08:49.800 --> 0:08:52.480 Fulanito does this for her? Fulanita does that? 0:08:52.559 --> 0:08:53.839 Like? Have they ever done that. 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:56.280 To you that you feel like, yo, their relationship is theirs? 0:08:56.520 --> 0:08:58.480 Why are you comparing what we got going on. 0:08:58.400 --> 0:09:00.880 To what they have going on? And just because you 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:02.840 see that part, that doesn't mean that that's the truth 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:06.280 of what their relationship is. That's just part of it. 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:07.240 Is it me or not? 0:09:08.080 --> 0:09:08.320 Right? 0:09:08.559 --> 0:09:11.520 I also feel like the physical. 0:09:11.000 --> 0:09:15.240 Attraction for your partner, the standards have also changed so 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:18.760 much because we have these expectations of you know, you're 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:20.640 supposed to have a six pack, and you're supposed to 0:09:20.679 --> 0:09:22.200 have you know, your body's supposed to be all this, 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:25.360 But in a real solidified relationship at one point, the 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:29.880 possibilities of your body changing are one thousand percent happening. 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:32.120 Does that mean that you stop loving the person that 0:09:32.360 --> 0:09:34.559 you're with? Does that mean that you automatically go out 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:38.079 there and cheat? How are you supposed to handle that? 0:09:38.480 --> 0:09:40.720 How are you supposed to stay in love with your partner? 0:09:41.200 --> 0:09:42.559 I don't know. How are you supposed to stay in 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:43.120 love with your partner? 0:09:43.120 --> 0:09:45.880 When you see you know, people on social media consistently 0:09:46.280 --> 0:09:50.800 throwing this overly sexualized images of what oh if this 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:52.960 doesn't work out, just go to the next person, Go 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:55.080 to the next person. But all these people that you 0:09:55.080 --> 0:09:57.800 see on social media giving you advice on if she 0:09:57.920 --> 0:09:59.240 ain't this, then drop her. 0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:02.240 If he is that, then dropper. Then you'll see. 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:04.480 Those same people ending up being lonely as hell in 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:07.200 their house, still trying to figure it out. 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:10.360 So no, so they give you do whatever you think. 0:10:10.200 --> 0:10:11.840 That is right, and if you really love somebody, you 0:10:11.920 --> 0:10:14.560 work things out physically, you're not you know, you feel like, 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:16.760 oh me, nah, you've let yourself down a little bit. 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:20.120 Let's talk it out as partners. But don't fall for this. 0:10:20.640 --> 0:10:21.960 I am a woman of value. 0:10:22.000 --> 0:10:24.680 Therefore, at this point in my life, if you don't 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:27.120 look like William Levy, if you don't look like rapid 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:29.280 if you don't look like you know Michael B. 0:10:29.400 --> 0:10:31.080 Jordan's Yeah, I can't do it. 0:10:31.559 --> 0:10:34.280 I feel like we're falling into this trap where we're 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:38.400 supposed to women have become so you know, independent. Shout 0:10:38.440 --> 0:10:40.880 outs to all the independent feminist women of the shout 0:10:40.880 --> 0:10:42.920 outs to you, a to each his own. I'm just 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:47.000 giving my personal opinion. We become so independent and we 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:48.560 don't need no men, and we don't need this, and 0:10:48.600 --> 0:10:50.760 we don't need that that at the end, we're we're 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:53.280 finding a lot of like the real conversations that are 0:10:53.280 --> 0:10:56.120 happening behind closed doors. We're finding a lot of lonely 0:10:56.559 --> 0:10:58.079 you know, I don't want to say bitter, A lot 0:10:58.080 --> 0:11:01.920 of lonely, hurt women, you know, the same way that 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:05.640 we find a lot of hurt, angry men. There's just 0:11:05.760 --> 0:11:09.240 so much disconnection in this generation that I don't know 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:12.960 where we're supposed to go from here. Financially, let's go 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:15.280 to that too. I find a lot of men that 0:11:15.360 --> 0:11:17.959 are looking for women that are financially stable. Yeah, it's 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:20.640 really nice to find you a girl that she's a boss. 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:22.600 She got you know what I'm saying, She got her money, 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:24.640 she got her apartment, her house, she got this, she 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:26.360 got that, Da da da da, But do you know 0:11:26.400 --> 0:11:29.920 what that also comes with? And I and I saw 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:31.960 something on social media that I would agree with one 0:11:32.040 --> 0:11:35.920 hundred percent. Most women don't want to have masculine energy, 0:11:36.920 --> 0:11:39.040 but a lot of us have had to, you know, 0:11:39.160 --> 0:11:43.000 get you know, become that masculine energy because we haven't 0:11:43.040 --> 0:11:45.200 been able to find someone. And even when you do 0:11:45.720 --> 0:11:48.760 find a man, in many occasions, when they don't stand 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:50.480 up to the plate, when they don't stand up to 0:11:50.880 --> 0:11:54.640 what a man should be doing, you know, provide protect 0:11:54.880 --> 0:11:57.360 all of them out that we already know, then. 0:11:57.240 --> 0:11:59.040 You feel like you have to fill in that void. 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:01.480 The same way when we have a lot of men 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:04.719 that are being raised by Please forgive me. There's a 0:12:04.720 --> 0:12:06.320 lot of mothers out there that do a great job, 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:08.520 but there's a lot of mothers out there get song 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:11.480 om and apolo ad ass everything that your son does. 0:12:11.480 --> 0:12:14.400 You're right there to oh, baby, everything's gonna be okay. 0:12:14.640 --> 0:12:17.079 You know that he's doing wrong. You see him cheating 0:12:17.080 --> 0:12:19.200 on his wife, You see him, you know, cheating on 0:12:19.240 --> 0:12:21.720 his girlfriend, doing all types of and you don't say anything. 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:24.680 You're creating a there's a whole generation of a lot 0:12:24.679 --> 0:12:28.920 of soft, gentle tender, you know, with a lot of 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:32.760 feminine energy men that are not stepping. 0:12:32.440 --> 0:12:33.400 Up to the plate as well. 0:12:33.640 --> 0:12:37.960 So the roles have somewhat changed, and we find a 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:41.120 lot of men no longer wanting to be providers, no 0:12:41.160 --> 0:12:44.559 longer looking to protect. No, they're looking to be protected. 0:12:44.960 --> 0:12:48.960 They're looking to be financially you know, and invested in. 0:12:49.240 --> 0:12:50.839 And I'm not saying that if you're a good man, 0:12:50.880 --> 0:12:54.040 you don't deserve to get treated with gifts and love 0:12:54.120 --> 0:12:57.080 and appreciation and a lot of beautiful things and be 0:12:57.240 --> 0:13:00.520 treated and be shown you know that I love you, 0:13:00.600 --> 0:13:03.320 that I appreciate that I am. I'm not talking about 0:13:03.320 --> 0:13:05.640 they could go buy him some socks and some boxers 0:13:05.800 --> 0:13:08.280 and some No, go out there and put some effort 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:10.840 into your man as well. If he's holding you down, 0:13:10.880 --> 0:13:13.440 if he's tired of working, if he's providing, if when 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:15.120 something is wrong you feel like you can go to 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:17.000 your man and he got your back, or he's going 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:19.679 to stand up to the plate. That man deserves every 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:24.240 little bit of respect and love and appreciation etolo emas. 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:26.960 But then there's also in this new generation a lot 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:29.440 of men that are looking for a woman a's a 0:13:29.480 --> 0:13:32.840 boss to just you know, all I got really is 0:13:32.840 --> 0:13:36.920 is this piece of a body to provide, you know 0:13:36.960 --> 0:13:39.440 what I'm saying. And with that being said, because I 0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:42.600 look good, because I'm high, because I'm this, then you're 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:46.080 just supposed to do for me. No, So then that's 0:13:46.080 --> 0:13:49.040 what we find so many women becoming financially independent and 0:13:49.080 --> 0:13:50.960 no longer feeling that they like they need a man. 0:13:51.240 --> 0:13:53.679 We find so many women now that just feel like, oh, 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:55.880 I can just have as many one nine stands, as 0:13:55.920 --> 0:13:57.520 many things as I want, and now I'm the one 0:13:57.520 --> 0:14:01.400 who's empowering myself. I'm the one taking control and blah 0:14:01.440 --> 0:14:04.240 blah blah, all the nonsense that I personally don't believe. 0:14:04.760 --> 0:14:05.600 I don't believe that. 0:14:05.679 --> 0:14:07.520 I hear a lot of women saying it, I do 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:09.079 it because I want to, I do it because I'm empowered, 0:14:09.160 --> 0:14:11.560 or do it because of my body. I personally don't 0:14:11.600 --> 0:14:13.760 believe that any woman at the end of the day, 0:14:13.800 --> 0:14:16.600 realistically just wants to be jumping from one bed to 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:19.200 the other just because you have the power to do it, 0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:21.280 you know, because if you give it up, they're gonna 0:14:21.280 --> 0:14:21.520 take it. 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:24.400 Period. If you're out here exposing it. That's just what's 0:14:24.440 --> 0:14:24.960 gonna happen. 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:27.240 The same way that there's men out there that you know, 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:30.240 there's women who if you look good and you're giving it. 0:14:30.240 --> 0:14:31.720 Up, a lot of them would just take it. 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:35.600 But where is the love, the appreciation, the comfort, the 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:40.080 you know, moral and spiritual and mental support. Where is 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:49.520 where is the foundation of that? Let's talk about being faithful, 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:53.280 the faithful aspect of relationships. Do we expect men to 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:57.000 be more faithful than women in relationships with than men? 0:14:57.280 --> 0:14:59.560 I feel like men in many occasions have been caught 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:04.480 more cheating and women are have stayed. And according to 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:07.920 a lot of men, these high value men, we're supposed 0:15:07.920 --> 0:15:11.280 to allow men to cheat and not even cheats just 0:15:11.400 --> 0:15:14.040 you know, they're in relationship, not even in a relationship. Kay, 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:16.920 you're the main one, and I'm just you know, it's 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:19.280 just sex. It doesn't mean anything. I'm just you know, 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:21.200 I'm hogh and I got money and I'm a high 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:23.680 value man and you know the women want me and 0:15:23.760 --> 0:15:26.920 I'm just gonna wait pause. So are we no longer 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:30.680 holding each other accountable for being respectful and loyal into relationships? 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:32.600 Are we just supposed to be you know, what I'm saying, 0:15:32.600 --> 0:15:36.640 like just having sex here and there, and what does 0:15:36.640 --> 0:15:39.320 that mean? So if you're a high value men and 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:41.800 you're allowed to have several women, does that mean that 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:45.160 high value women can also do the same. Not really, 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:47.880 because if they do it, which they physically can, will 0:15:47.920 --> 0:15:51.200 society look at them the same? No, because even then 0:15:52.160 --> 0:15:55.440 society has given us their own version of the standards 0:15:55.440 --> 0:15:57.840 that we should be held upon. Just like when you 0:15:57.840 --> 0:15:59.800 go to social media, the first thing that you see 0:16:00.200 --> 0:16:01.680 you see a rich. 0:16:01.480 --> 0:16:03.040 Guy with a whole sack of women. 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:06.680 Anyways, we've seen many, many occasions where there is marriages 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:10.040 that work, you know, one husband, several wives, one wife, 0:16:10.080 --> 0:16:11.440 several husbands. 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:14.440 But that's not the majority of society. 0:16:14.920 --> 0:16:17.120 And even when you look at that, you see all 0:16:17.160 --> 0:16:19.840 the negative comments that men and women have to say 0:16:19.840 --> 0:16:22.160 about a woman that you know that is surrounded by 0:16:22.240 --> 0:16:25.800 several men. I don't know, I just feel like I 0:16:25.800 --> 0:16:28.160 feel like social media affects a lot of relationships. The 0:16:28.160 --> 0:16:30.920 things that you see visually every day does affect what 0:16:31.120 --> 0:16:33.360 is being programmed and put into your mindset. 0:16:33.600 --> 0:16:35.560 We barely see, you know, a lot of. 0:16:35.520 --> 0:16:40.000 Relationships or people telling you to be realistic with your 0:16:40.040 --> 0:16:42.400 standards and I feel like you have the rest that 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:44.920 have as high standards as you want. But when you 0:16:44.960 --> 0:16:48.040 see yourself, you know, with're fifty sixty years old, still lonely, 0:16:48.560 --> 0:16:51.440 with no relationship, trying to figure it out. Then you know, 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:54.680 I guess that's just on you, because I think we 0:16:54.720 --> 0:17:05.240 also have to understand that nobody is perfect, no relationship 0:17:05.280 --> 0:17:08.080 is perfect. You gotta work with That's what marriage is, 0:17:08.119 --> 0:17:10.520 That's what a relationship is. That's what having a partner 0:17:10.600 --> 0:17:13.920 is about. Is working through things. You work things out, 0:17:14.000 --> 0:17:16.480 you get to know each other, your partners in life. 0:17:16.560 --> 0:17:19.520 You're looking for a partner in life. We're not meant 0:17:19.840 --> 0:17:22.119 to my understanding, we're not meant to get you know, 0:17:22.160 --> 0:17:24.960 we're born by ourselves, but God has put us so 0:17:25.000 --> 0:17:26.400 that we can find someone else. 0:17:26.760 --> 0:17:29.160 Everyone needs that physical affection. 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:32.160 And it's not just the sexual you know, affection, it's 0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:33.880 the emotional affection. 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:36.480 You know. And I just I don't know, is it me? 0:17:36.600 --> 0:17:38.800 I feel like my mom raised me old school and 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:40.400 I'd be like, but I get don't saying not They 0:17:40.400 --> 0:17:43.200 all this crap about morals and respect you to Lina, 0:17:43.240 --> 0:17:44.800 when at the end of the day, people. 0:17:44.560 --> 0:17:45.760 Don't even use it anymore. 0:17:46.560 --> 0:17:49.719 Is it just me These expectations may be influenced by 0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:52.080 so much, so much of the things that's just around us, 0:17:52.080 --> 0:17:54.560 including social media, you know, which I like I said before, 0:17:54.640 --> 0:17:56.200 I think it pays a huge part in the way 0:17:56.240 --> 0:17:59.480 that people behave their habits, how men and women are 0:17:59.600 --> 0:18:00.760 viewed by. 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:05.040 Those who consume all this action on social media, I 0:18:05.080 --> 0:18:05.480 don't know. 0:18:05.640 --> 0:18:08.560 Without also being said, what does it mean these days 0:18:08.600 --> 0:18:12.240 to actually be in a relationship? So here goes a question, 0:18:12.520 --> 0:18:15.920 what does it mean for us in our you know, generation, 0:18:16.040 --> 0:18:18.639 to be in a relationship? What is your definition of 0:18:18.640 --> 0:18:22.040 being in a relationship? What it means that we should 0:18:22.080 --> 0:18:25.440 be aware of our expectations and standards and how they 0:18:25.520 --> 0:18:28.800 may differ from those of our partners. 0:18:29.000 --> 0:18:29.520 I feel like. 0:18:29.480 --> 0:18:31.560