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Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio

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Speaker 1: and The Black Effect, And just.

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Speaker 2: Like that, we're back on the air.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to you at another Canflee Reckless episode with

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Speaker 1: your Girl just hilarious. We're gonna jump straight into it

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Speaker 1: because y'all, I'm at work and I'll be fixing us

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Speaker 1: on the radio now only on Thursday, So catch it

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Speaker 1: on Breakfast Club every Thursday, and then I'm fixing mess

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Speaker 1: with y'all every Wednesday and Saturday. April twenty seventh at

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Speaker 1: Pullman Yard's in Atlanta, Georgia, I will be fixing Mess

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Speaker 1: live on stage what Can't Flee Reckless? Y'all know my

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Speaker 1: podcast for the second annual Black Effect Podcast Festival. Okay,

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Speaker 1: it was sold out last year and it's gonna be

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Speaker 1: sold out this year. We got some other people joining

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Speaker 1: us as well. But all I know is just hilarious.

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Speaker 1: It's gonna be live fixing Mess and I'm gonna be

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Speaker 1: pulling people out the crowd.

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Speaker 2: Now. Look, ain't none of this shit gonna be you know,

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Speaker 2: pre planned, and none of that shit.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna get people out the audience to come up

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Speaker 1: there and tell me their situations and tell me their

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Speaker 1: mess and you know, get my advice and stuff like that.

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Speaker 2: I might be able to clean it up for you.

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Speaker 1: Don't come with no heavy, deep ass stories and shit like.

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Speaker 2: Oh my God, like non mine.

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Speaker 1: I ain't even gonna give no examples, cause I ain't

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Speaker 1: trying to give you no fucking ideas. But don't come

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Speaker 1: up there and ask me some shit. Y'all know I

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Speaker 1: can't help y'all with. All right, don't come up there

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Speaker 1: and crazy. Don't come up there. I'm telling you because

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Speaker 1: y'all get tackled off the motherfucking stage. If anybody come

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Speaker 1: up there try and shit because y'a already know what

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Speaker 2: Going on with me. But yeah, y'all, I'm be very

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Speaker 2: much pregnant.

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Speaker 1: I'm even more pregnant, y'all, so I'm gonna be very emotional.

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Speaker 1: Don't try to make me cry because I already do

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Speaker 1: it at the drop of a fucking dime, all right,

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Speaker 1: so please, all right, So we're gonna jump straight and

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Speaker 1: so we got.

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Speaker 2: Two long, long, long, long, long, long, long long stories,

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Speaker 2: and we're gonna get to it right now.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Jess, listen, I am twenty three years old, and

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Speaker 1: I'm an extreme introvert.

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Speaker 2: I know what that's like.

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Speaker 1: I'm not really a big party person and I don't

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Speaker 1: do large crowds, but my friends do. One of my

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Speaker 1: good friends just throw a party for her twenty second birthday.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 1: She's way more social than me and also have many

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Speaker 1: other friends outside of me. The party was lit, all

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Speaker 1: types of different music and all types of different people.

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Speaker 1: I know you've scaate as fuck, shaking in the corner,

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Speaker 1: all types. Yes, I'm a big energy person, and when

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Speaker 1: I tell you I felt the energy shift before it's shifted,

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Speaker 1: I really did. Her other friends started to get sloppy drunk,

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Speaker 1: each other. Oh, girl, I was just at my birthday

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Speaker 1: party and I ain't no introvert or nothing, but I

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Speaker 1: guess I'm an introvert while I'm pregnant. So I felt

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Speaker 1: the same way, Lord Jesus, because everybody in my birthday button. No, man,

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Speaker 1: let me finish the story. Girl, I started going on

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Speaker 1: about my all right, so continue on, y'all. No, everyone

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Speaker 1: was not like that, but these are her other main

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Speaker 1: not my friends. I'm just here for her. They were

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Speaker 2: And screaming in my ear.

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Speaker 1: Oh lord, I allowed it for a little bit, but

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Speaker 1: I can only take but so much, and I'm already

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Speaker 2: So I told my friend that I was ready to go.

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Speaker 1: It was already close to the end of the party anyway,

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Speaker 2: I definitely wasn't going to that shit. Lol. She was

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Speaker 1: But girl, as I was telling her, her friends decided

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Speaker 1: First of all, y'all bitches is drunk and she is

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Speaker 1: But I did laugh in their face and told them

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Speaker 1: The next day, I text my friend and asked her

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Speaker 1: had a good time with her. She tells me that

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Speaker 1: she enjoyed her night, but she didn't like how I

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Speaker 2: Was also acting stiff. Oh, she didn't let her fucking

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Speaker 2: and she she was drunk. She was still drunk from

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Speaker 1: Because, bitch, you already know as my friend that I'm

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Speaker 2: But let me continue.

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Speaker 1: Immediately, in my head, I got confused because, for one,

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Speaker 1: she already knows I'm not a big party person, but

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Speaker 1: I definitely did party with her last night.

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Speaker 2: And for two, did she have her other friends get

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Speaker 1: I ain't even read your story, and I'm like all

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Speaker 1: up in your head? Girl, yes, because I just said

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Speaker 2: This is crazy.

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Speaker 1: I already know that they probably were talking about me

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Speaker 1: and that's only because I'm usually a talker before I

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Speaker 2: But I would say this did throw me off a

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Speaker 1: It's only been a few hours since she texted, but

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Speaker 1: I had no idea when you would open this message.

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Speaker 1: Just so, what do you think I would love a

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Speaker 2: Lol?

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Speaker 1: Just also, I would not be thinking like this if

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Speaker 1: this hasn't happened before. There was a situation previously where

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Speaker 2: So this is just a build up.

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Speaker 1: Hold up, hold up, I know this shit getting good,

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Speaker 1: But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial.

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Speaker 2: If you love me, you'll listen.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, honey, listen. You got my attention, and I'm

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Speaker 1: definitely gonna let you know. I mean, if you haven't

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Speaker 1: exact way you're feeling, and then this is my thing.

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Speaker 1: I can certainly relate to this because I just had

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Speaker 1: a birthday party over the weekend for Cuba and Baltimore

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Speaker 1: and my little sister, my cousins, my friends, all of

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: My little sister said, you know, to some point, she's

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Speaker 2: You know. And our dad was there, and it's Baltimore.

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. Our dad ain't no little

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Speaker 1: Nigga be party and this is where we got our

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Speaker 1: my brother Dasi, he's an introvert, and he was sitting

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Speaker 2: And he was still just happy to be there.

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Speaker 1: But we all know Dazsi, we all know he's an introvert,

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Speaker 2: He's not the type to go grab a fucking mic. Now.

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Speaker 1: He is a stand up comedian, but that's when we're

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Speaker 1: working on stage, you know, that's when we are called

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Speaker 1: and everybody knows that. Ain't nobody say why does he

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Speaker 1: it's parties all over the place, Dazzy, I guarantee you

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Speaker 1: And then I went home to mine only because I'm pregnant,

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Speaker 1: hating with the withoutloquor This is who these girls are, you.

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Speaker 1: And a lot of people just don't understand introverted people,

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Speaker 1: literally y'all face every fucking time, y'all around people that

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Speaker 1: y'all don't really know, you know what I mean. It

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Speaker 1: had nothing to do with her friends being too loud. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: they're too loud for you, but it wasn't personal. Everybody's

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Speaker 1: account would have been better. Like, at least you showed

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Speaker 1: I know you don't do parties, but thank you for

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Speaker 1: Because my friends don't do that, you know, they let

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Speaker 2: You get what I'm saying. So it is what it is.

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Speaker 1: And I have all types of different friends, you know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying, and different types of family members, extroverted,

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Speaker 1: should call her. Actually, don't even respond via text. I

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Speaker 1: all that TEXI textie bullshit. Now you should call her

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Speaker 1: to think that your friends got in your head or whatever.

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Speaker 2: I mean.

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Speaker 1: I know they had a couple of remarks yesterday when

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Speaker 1: the second party, you know, and I heard their remarks

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 2: You get what I'm saying. And if you can't let

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Speaker 1: You can't let it get to you because it may

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Speaker 2: So makers adds tell the truth to you? What is it?

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 1: Do you even want to move in with me? And

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Speaker 1: you put everything.

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Speaker 2: Out there and you are level with the guy.

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Speaker 1: You're looking in his eyes and he ain't got nowhere

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Speaker 1: to run, he ain't looking at his phone. They fill

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Speaker 1: tell you to choose. And the reason why I'm saying

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Speaker 1: more than likely because less than likely he could lie too,

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Speaker 1: Like you know, when gods fell back into a corner,

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Speaker 1: they lie to they lie their way out. Oh babe,

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Speaker 1: I was just thinking about that, or you know, I

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Speaker 1: don't know. I got to take care of my moms,

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Speaker 1: or I don't know. I just I have anxiety when

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Speaker 1: it comes to moving, you know, because you said, as

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Speaker 1: that is, then he could get cold feet. You know,

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Speaker 1: he could be nervous, he could be scared, he could

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Speaker 1: be that could mean marriage for him, like, oh shit,

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Speaker 1: that's kind of like marrying somebody. But the fact that

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Speaker 1: else to do but to get comfortable.

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Speaker 2: Boo.

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Speaker 1: This is kind of an equal fault, you know, if

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Speaker 1: you and him, I do blame you because men will

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Speaker 1: only do to us what we allow.

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Speaker 2: But I love you, so my sister looking like, how

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Speaker 2: you gonna just blame her?

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just saying I do blame you a

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Speaker 1: lot because you let a lot of time will pass

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Speaker 1: and you ain't even been happy with this part of it.

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Speaker 1: You know, we can't keep putting ourselves in these miserable

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Speaker 1: situations to save a nigga feelings, Okay, because relationship is

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Speaker 1: communication amongst other things. But communication don't hold nothing in.

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Speaker 1: That's why half of us be single out here for

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Speaker 1: we didn't say we didn't tell these We didn't have

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Speaker 1: how we felt in the moment. That's why you You

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Speaker 1: still probably got things that you want to say to

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Speaker 1: your ex ten years later. Nah, bit you should have

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Speaker 1: said it. And I'll be hard on my women about

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Speaker 1: it because it's like, shit, we know damn well, the

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna do it, so you do it. Shit, Lisa lousn,

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Speaker 1: stop playing with your damn self, all right, but keep

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Speaker 1: me updated. And just like that, we've come to the

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Speaker 1: end of another carefully reckless episode with your girl.

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Speaker 2: Just hilarious.

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Speaker 1: What I'll be doing I'll be fixing mess, and I

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Speaker 1: will be fixing mess like I said. Saturday, April twenty

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Speaker 1: come and you let me know all your mess. Letter

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Speaker 1: out on the stage so we can cry together. I'll

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Speaker 1: give you some good advice so you can go home

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