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Speaker 1: Chip Doors to your host and sometimes friend Kelly, sometimes

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Speaker 1: it's only because that is what's inside of you. Like

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Speaker 1: of our whole point to all of this is we

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Speaker 1: want to celebrate everyone. We want everyone to be treated equally,

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Speaker 1: and also like we really, I really genuinely hope for

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Speaker 1: everyone that they can develop a relationship with themselves that's fulfilling,

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm yeah, I mean I think you know, it's

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Speaker 1: laws and rules and morals and all of those things.

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Speaker 1: You know when you see those signs. And this has

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Speaker 1: applies to the reproductive rights, uh, like argument, keep your

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Speaker 1: laws off my body, Like I think like that's really important,

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Speaker 1: like keep your morals off my body, keep your opinions

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Speaker 1: off my body. All of those things really need to

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Speaker 1: apply because you know, when you take something like drunk

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Speaker 1: you know. And I think that should apply to every law,

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Speaker 1: you know, every everything. As long as my rights do

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Speaker 1: not a fringe upon the safety of your body and

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Speaker 1: hell I want. Yeah, you know, And so I think,

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Speaker 1: you know, that's that's how we can have like sort

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Speaker 1: every we're all good, you know, Like if you want

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Speaker 1: much healthier society, you know, happier society. I agree completely.

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Speaker 1: And it's also about like you find your people, you know,

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Speaker 1: Like I think this past couple of years has brought

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Speaker 1: politics and it's sad, but it's also like there really

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Speaker 1: is a community for everyone there. Really you go find

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Speaker 1: your people that you feel heard and seen with and

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Speaker 1: I'll do the same. And as painful as sometimes the

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Speaker 1: process can be, ultimately that's more fulfilling anyway. Right. So anyway,

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Speaker 1: that's our spill for today. We really just wanted to

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Speaker 1: take a minute and celebrate gay pride and also just

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Speaker 1: everyone and ourselves to just kind of bringing that energy

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Speaker 1: and um equality ultimately, it's I mean, I really do

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Speaker 1: I look, I need to work on it. I'll be

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Speaker 1: the first one to say I do. We all do so,

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Speaker 1: um and there there's no shame in that game. Yeah. Well,

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Speaker 1: as I said, we have some really exciting interviews coming

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Speaker 1: up for you. Got for you guys. UM always keep

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Speaker 1: your feedback coming to the edge at velvet edge dot com.

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Speaker 1: Chip I was preparing for act casual. We're not ready

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Speaker 1: for that yet at Chip door shits P D O

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Speaker 1: your name has truly become a thing. We have strangers

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Speaker 1: on the street that know that see it. Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: how's like, Oh, how is this the thing? This is

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Speaker 1: the thing. It's amazing. Anyway, we hope you guys are

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Speaker 1: having a great pride month and um we love you.

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Speaker 1: And as you go out into your weekend and you're

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Speaker 1: living on the edge, I hope you always remember to

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Speaker 1: act prideful. Oh what a shad. That's what you're preparing

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Speaker 1: you mentally. That's why you couldn't even think about how

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Speaker 1: to spell your name. I get it now. Wow. I

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Speaker 1: thought of that the shower today too. Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: so much happening in the shower. Don't tell us anything more. Okay,

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Speaker 1: We love you guys. Byem