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Speaker 1: My dad cheated on my mom, but is karma as

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Speaker 1: his new wife sucks. Here we go.

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Speaker 2: Hi I twenty six female have a dad who remarried

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Speaker 2: about seven years ago to his new wife, Kara. My

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Speaker 2: dad is sixty five and got his Medicare benefits this year,

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Speaker 2: but Kara convinced him to claim his benefits early, by

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Speaker 2: about five months, so that he wouldn't be able to

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Speaker 2: get the full benefits. This is one of many things

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Speaker 2: she's done, but it is the second most recent.

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Speaker 1: Doesn't sound good well, by the way.

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Speaker 2: This comes from user ok boat forty five on the

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Speaker 2: r slash Okay Storytime subern it. So the most recent

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Speaker 2: was when she said my father wasn't allowed to meet

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Speaker 2: his grandchild that my sister twenty eight female had earlier

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Speaker 2: this year. He has not met his granddaughter yet and

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Speaker 2: my sister was going to be driving up there for

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Speaker 2: them to meet. Since my father has been having car

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Speaker 2: issues for the last two years and has been unable

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Speaker 2: to visit I say unable in quotations because Kara has

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Speaker 2: a daughter from another marriage who always accompanied my father

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Speaker 2: whenever he would visit us. She would call her mom

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Speaker 2: and report back every detail of what we were doing,

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Speaker 2: saying where we were going. It was literally a play

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Speaker 2: by play and very uncomfortable when we requested that her

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Speaker 2: daughter stay home after she was already into her early twenties,

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Speaker 2: as she was a teen when this.

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Speaker 1: Started, suddenly, he could no longer visit.

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Speaker 2: When we requested that her daughter stay home as she

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Speaker 2: was already into her early twenties and she was a

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Speaker 2: teen when this started, suddenly, he could no longer visit.

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Speaker 2: A few days before my sister was supposed to drive

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Speaker 2: four hours to go visit them, my dad called to

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Speaker 2: tell my sister that Kara had decided to ban her

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Speaker 2: from visiting my father.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, because she has the total right to do that,

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Speaker 3: I guess, I guess.

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Speaker 2: So she also previously prevented my father from seeing my brother,

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Speaker 2: twenty three male, who had been trying fruitlessly to get

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Speaker 2: my dad to meet his girlfriend before he officially proposed.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow.

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Speaker 2: In the end, my dad never met her, and my

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Speaker 2: brother proposed anyway, They're happily engaged. Now I resent my

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Speaker 2: dad for his life choices. He cheated on my mom

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Speaker 2: three times. She forgave him the first two times when

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Speaker 2: we were little kids to keep the family together, but

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Speaker 2: when we were older, my mom found out. My dad

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Speaker 2: cheated again, but this time he used My sister is

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Speaker 2: a scapegoat for father daughter days that were actually dates

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Speaker 2: with other women, and he told my sister that it

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Speaker 2: was her job as the oldest to help him hide

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Speaker 2: it from my mother so that they wouldn't divorce and

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Speaker 2: tear the family apart.

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Speaker 1: Lovely, this guy is new job.

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Speaker 2: I feel awful because I used to be jealous that

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Speaker 1: He would take me and my brother out to the zoos.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes when my sister told him that he needed to

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Speaker 2: spend time with us, and taking my brother to target

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Speaker 1: He never took my sister with us.

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Speaker 2: I thought it was weird, but now I know he

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Speaker 2: as a scapegoat to blame all his problems on. She

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Speaker 2: was like thirteen when he started this. Oh no, I'm

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Speaker 1: Oh no, dude, that's so tough, the trauma. Hey, you're

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Speaker 1: my lie.

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Speaker 2: You're my lie, and you're keeping the family together now

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Speaker 2: and if you don't, it's your fault. This guy sucks.

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Speaker 2: My mom was still willing not to divorce him for

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Speaker 2: my brother, who was still a teen at the time,

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Speaker 2: if he went to therapy, confessed his sins to a

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Speaker 2: priest we're religious, and did marriage counseling. My dad said no,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, you have no It's like David and Goliath

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Speaker 3: right here. But David doesn't have his stones.

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Speaker 2: David has no stones, and he's got no legs, and

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Speaker 1: He's nothing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, when he remarried, he didn't tell us until a

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Speaker 2: few weeks after they remarried. When Kara, he sent me

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Speaker 2: My dad's extremely selfish, and while he texts me semi regularly,

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Speaker 2: he doesn't make the same effort for my sister or brother,

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Speaker 2: despite the fact that they reach out to him more.

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Speaker 3: Who knows what the dad is saying about her about

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Speaker 3: op I can tell you it's probably a bunch of lies,

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Speaker 2: I'm the one who's still single, so I think he

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Speaker 2: a part of me that wants to help him, wants

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Speaker 2: beg my aunts and uncles on his side for money

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Speaker 2: so she can spend it on designer bags and false eyelashes.

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Speaker 2: She works at a fire department as a secretary. I

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Speaker 1: She wasn't any of.

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Speaker 2: The women my dad cheated on my mom with, but

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Speaker 2: Kara tried to stay in my dad's life while he

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Speaker 2: was dating my mom, but he.

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Speaker 1: Picked my mom over her.

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Speaker 2: I find it very weird that she was there when

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Speaker 2: and neither is my mom, so I don't know how

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Speaker 2: she found him. They were together pretty quickly after the divorce,

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Speaker 2: while my mother stayed single as she didn't want to

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Speaker 2: make things weird for my brother. I've never met her

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Speaker 2: I honestly don't think she even likes my dad based

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Speaker 1: Dude, I mean this, that's what he deserves, right, yeah? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: for real? And I honestly she's just in it for

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Speaker 2: Yep, you deserve a woman who wants nothing but your money, exactly,

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Speaker 2: you disgusting troll of a man.

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Speaker 1: I think she wanted to marry him to win.

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Speaker 2: I think she wanted to marry him to quote unquote

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Speaker 2: win since my dad didn't pick her originally. I honestly

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Speaker 2: Then when he lost his job as a cashier, she

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Speaker 2: solely reliant on her. She checks his location, she isolates

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Speaker 2: My uncle has told me that my dad only ever

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Speaker 2: calls for handouts. It's sad. Yeah, that's pretty rough. That

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Speaker 2: the new the new wife from Hell. But you know

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Speaker 2: who's not the new wife from Hell? Who's on us?

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Speaker 1: All you gotta do is tap our profile. Tibby tap

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Speaker 1: tab so. I think, honestly, I'm happy with this situation. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Karma did its thing.

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Speaker 2: You cheat on your wife, then guess what you get

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Speaker 2: to to be with you know, scumbag McGee over here,

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Speaker 2: just trying to drain all of your you know, your

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Speaker 2: whether she wanted the Medicare benefits early.

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Speaker 3: Is there some sort of trying to get I feel

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Speaker 1: He got fired.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then after that, oh, we're gonna get medical benefits,

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Speaker 3: let's do it.

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Speaker 1: I know that my dad is awful, but I still

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Speaker 2: I feel like Kara is committing elder abuse, but not physically,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what to do about any of this.

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Speaker 2: It feels like karma has gotten my dad, but it

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Speaker 2: sucks to know what's happening. I told my dad the

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Speaker 1: That was months ago.

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Speaker 2: At the time, he gave the verbal equivalent of rolling

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Speaker 1: I would greatly appreciate it. Well, maybe the best advice

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's not visiting Opie anymore because he can't without

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Speaker 2: Tell him to leave this woman who's clearly a negative,

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Speaker 2: a because he's got problems. He is not perfect, lots

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Speaker 1: Is your dad and you gotta love him.

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Speaker 2: Bothering, you tell him speak your piece, and that's all

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Speaker 2: Never too late, I mean sometimes so I forty five

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Speaker 1: A few months before I filed for divorce.

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Speaker 2: I noticed Lucifer becoming increasingly controlling and paranoid, like if

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Speaker 2: I went to my NaN's flat to help her, along

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Speaker 1: Despite the fact that I had told her.

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Speaker 2: Earlier where I was going, she demanded to know where

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Speaker 1: Turns out I was right.

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Speaker 2: Basically, a friend of mine saw her and another man

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Speaker 2: He sent me photos. I filed for divorce, blah blah blah.

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Speaker 2: You get the idea. I didn't really care what I

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Speaker 1: Oh wow.

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Speaker 2: Basically her last wish was to have one last conversation

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Speaker 1: Around her in her last few months.

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Speaker 2: Somehow, my ex in laws got my number and have

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Speaker 1: But all of Lucifer's family and a few mutual friends

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be real, I would go, Yeah, dude, of

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Speaker 1: I know everyone in the comments are gonna disagree with us.

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Speaker 1: Let's hit this update.

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Speaker 2: Hi, yesterday I posted a small story about denying my

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Speaker 1: It's mostly just collectively responding to some general comments she died.

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Speaker 2: Firstly, thanks for all the advice, love, hate, and laughter

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Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, yeah, please shut up. I was just close

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Speaker 1: even too far. Is Yeah, you got it. I don't

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Speaker 2: I might not like her, but I couldn't wish wish cancer,

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Speaker 2: It's kind of messed up to say that sort of thing.

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Speaker 2: I also want to talk about my resentment to my ex.

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Speaker 2: To be clear, I do not hate her. Why that

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Speaker 2: personally think this is energy wasted. That's worse than hate.

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Speaker 1: Dog. What you just described is worse than hate.

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Speaker 2: I rarely have to do anyway, even more rare now

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Speaker 2: you gave me the advice to not speak to Lucifer

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Speaker 2: in person and instead write her a letter or make

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Speaker 2: and ask them their opinions. I also told them that

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Speaker 2: that I would grant her this wish. My kids all

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Speaker 2: they totally understand if I don't want to. I told

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Speaker 2: Strangers again, advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Speaker 3: It must have been nasty, I mean a divorce. If

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Speaker 2: Like how traumatizing was the catching them in the act?

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Speaker 2: I assume they were caught in the act. Otherwise I

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Speaker 2: don't know. Look, a dying person's last wish is one

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Speaker 2: thing when it's the person who's also the mother of

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Speaker 1: Here's the edit.

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Speaker 2: I'll start off with the two main questions. One was

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Speaker 2: did I talk to her? I ended up choosing not to. Oh,

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Speaker 2: come on, man. At first, a few months ago I

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Speaker 2: decided I would in person for the sake of my kids. However,

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Speaker 2: upon arriving at the hospital, I began hyperventilating and nearly

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Speaker 1: Oh this is pretty bad.

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Speaker 2: Then after this, I went back on my word and

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Speaker 1: In a very long time was worth it.

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Speaker 3: Your wife, he was hopper ventilating and passed out. You're

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Speaker 3: at the hospital. If there's any place to have an issue.

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Speaker 3: He feels right there, everybody feels uncomfortable, and it doesn't

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Speaker 1: I don't know it.

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Speaker 2: Just if this must have been so so bad for

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Speaker 2: op Oh yeah, I mean, I mean clearly trauma, traumatizing.

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Speaker 2: I just wish you would have been able to work

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Speaker 2: this moment. The second question is pretty much the same

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Speaker 2: or write her a letter? I also considered this. However,

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Speaker 2: I also considered this. However, after I decided I might,

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Speaker 2: something happened that made it impossible.

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Speaker 1: No, let me catch you up first. We already know.

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Speaker 2: Shortly after my post, some of Lucifer's relatives that had

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Speaker 2: I was attacked by even more people. Most of these

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Speaker 2: people I do not know. The posts were taken down

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Speaker 2: when my three kids sat down at their mother's relatives

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Speaker 1: Nice this seemed to stop it.

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Speaker 2: I'm incredibly grateful and feel blessed that my kids did

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Speaker 1: They didn't have to, but they did.

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Speaker 2: Shortly after this, we received news that Lucifer might actually

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Speaker 2: come out alive.

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Speaker 1: What a twist.

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Speaker 2: Let's go basically, what was unliving her had sort of

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Speaker 1: This was short lived. Oh well, that sucks. It was

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Speaker 2: Just last week, Lucifer passed in her sleepy My children

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Speaker 2: way through. Yeah, never mind, I'm I'm fine. My kids

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Speaker 2: have decided to begin planning her funeral. I have decided

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Speaker 2: to attend at the request of my eldest Dean, and

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Speaker 2: at the request of a mutual friend of mine and

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Speaker 2: Lucifer's who I'll call John forty two mail. He supported

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Speaker 1: I feel as though I owe it to.

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Speaker 2: Him, and by the way, you owe it to us

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Speaker 2: to join us live on YouTube every weekday at three PMPSD.

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Speaker 1: Just tap our profile, tap tap tap do it. You're

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Speaker 1: disappointed to Nope.

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Speaker 2: If I'm disappointed in Ope, I think I'm more just

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Speaker 2: disappointed in this whole situation where I mean clearly there

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Speaker 2: was some very real trauma response just going, you know,

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Speaker 2: you know, goes to therapy to address.

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Speaker 1: That, yeah, and and works through it.

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Speaker 2: But you know, it just really sounds like they weren't

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Speaker 2: have a conversation. So that's you know, that's understandable. I

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Speaker 2: am kind of confused at the whole, like I'm going

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Speaker 2: to go to the funeral at the behest of, like

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Speaker 3: There and a lot of those family members attacked you too,

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Speaker 3: I'm confused.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's it's confusing to want to go to the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and the family attacked you.

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Speaker 3: It's like, I don't know why Opie, or I don't

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Speaker 3: know why Lucifer didn't like rather letter to Ope or

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Speaker 1: That's a good point.

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Speaker 2: John has told me that he'll sit with me and

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Speaker 2: make sure none of Lucifer's family trouble me, So that's good.

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Speaker 2: My youngest and my middle jackson Kylie, have agreed to

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Speaker 2: do a similar thing by speaking to their relatives and

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Speaker 2: distracting them it's not fully planned yet, and I will

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Speaker 2: and that is the end of the story.

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Speaker 1: So no, by post funeral. I really hope you just

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and honestly, I don't think you need to see

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Speaker 2: to be there for the wake or the funeral. If

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Speaker 2: that conversation was going to give you an anxiety attack,

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Speaker 2: I can't imagine what kind of emotions and feelings that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, good, look, yeah, be ready the therapy. I suggest therapy.

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Speaker 1: But that's the end of that episode, and that's why

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Speaker 1: we're into that story. That's the end of that story.

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Speaker 2: So we're gonna go to our next one. My husband

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Speaker 2: doesn't know I'm about to divorce him. All I need

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Speaker 2: him for is money.

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Speaker 1: Mullah baby.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, loll Wayne, this has been my plan

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Speaker 2: for six years. This is by far the craziest thing

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Speaker 2: I've done. And I can't believe I've suffered all these

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Speaker 2: ye staying with this man just so I can survive financially.

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Speaker 1: You're so crazyly, Oh my gosh, so I did this

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Speaker 1: like crazy thing. Yeah, that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from user important Audience six'

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Speaker 1: Stubreddit so the start of our marriage was. Wonderful we

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Speaker 2: Babies after the second, pregnancy he cheated on me with

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Speaker 2: a very close family.

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Speaker 2: Yikes he gave me a lazy, apology and on top of,

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Speaker 1: Body he also told me THAT i was built like a.

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Speaker 2: Refrigerator mind, YOU i was four months postpartum at the.

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Speaker 2: Guy, YEAH i secretly saw a family lawyer and to

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Speaker 2: sum it up for, YOU i would be screwed leaving.

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Speaker 2: Him we only had twenty five thousand dollars and that

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Speaker 2: being split up is basically nothing for. Me no marital,

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Speaker 2: properties no. CAR i didn't have a, job literally. NOTHING

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Speaker 2: hundreds of jobs during the time and couldn't find employment.

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Speaker 2: Anywhere so leaving with a bad decision for me financially,

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Speaker 2: really do make that a lot, harder SO i let

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Speaker 2: being his. Wife the very first time that he cheated on,

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Speaker 2: me it was with my. Cousin then he cheated. Again

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Speaker 2: he met on a night. OUT i got so MAD

444
00:19:25,600 --> 00:19:28,879
Speaker 2: i cheated back on him out of, anger and of

445
00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:30,520
Speaker 2: course he never found OUT i.

446
00:19:30,600 --> 00:19:33,720
Speaker 1: Cheated at Least i'm smart unlike. Him, yeah there you.

447
00:19:33,760 --> 00:19:37,800
Speaker 3: Go this sounds really really, toxic sounds, great But i'm

448
00:19:37,840 --> 00:19:38,159
Speaker 3: here for.

449
00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:39,159
Speaker 1: It i'm here for. It.

450
00:19:39,320 --> 00:19:41,960
Speaker 2: Yeah during the time in our, MARRIAGE i worked on

451
00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:44,800
Speaker 2: getting my independence. Back my husband paid for my trade,

452
00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:47,240
Speaker 2: school and it was a very expensive, program but he

453
00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:50,000
Speaker 2: paid for. Everything we moved and we bought a house

454
00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:52,399
Speaker 2: with his. Income he grew his money too during all this,

455
00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:54,800
Speaker 2: time so he made far more money now than when

456
00:19:54,840 --> 00:19:57,320
Speaker 2: we did so he made far more money now than

457
00:19:57,359 --> 00:19:59,600
Speaker 2: he did WHEN i originally wanted to leave. HIM i

458
00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:02,600
Speaker 2: started working. RECENTLY i have a career. Now i'm so

459
00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:05,600
Speaker 2: happy about. That BUT i haven't filed for divorce. Yet

460
00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:08,359
Speaker 2: he has no idea of my. Plans i'm EXCITED i

461
00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:12,320
Speaker 2: finally get to leave him after six almost seven years

462
00:20:12,560 --> 00:20:15,040
Speaker 2: NOW i can walk away with at least two hundred

463
00:20:15,119 --> 00:20:18,199
Speaker 2: thousand dollars and we have marital assets, now like the

464
00:20:18,240 --> 00:20:18,919
Speaker 2: house and the.

465
00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:21,520
Speaker 1: Car he also paid that off for. Me oh wow.

466
00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:22,960
Speaker 1: Wow NOW i have my.

467
00:20:23,080 --> 00:20:25,920
Speaker 2: Education and my own. Career i've been working on my weight.

468
00:20:25,960 --> 00:20:28,600
Speaker 2: LOSS i lost sixty six. Pounds he paid for my

469
00:20:28,640 --> 00:20:31,320
Speaker 2: weight loss treatment BECAUSE i can't say that. WORD i

470
00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:34,439
Speaker 2: had a breast reduction and a breast. LIFT i looked.

471
00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:37,720
Speaker 2: AMAZING i don't Doubt i'll probably get remarried.

472
00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:40,480
Speaker 1: Eventually she's wod lined. Up you just.

473
00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:45,400
Speaker 2: Scheming, yeah six seven years is, scheming, which, hey don't.

474
00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:47,639
Speaker 1: Cheat on your wife, yep and she won't scheme on

475
00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:49,720
Speaker 1: you get the. Money she's getting the, money.

476
00:20:49,760 --> 00:20:52,959
Speaker 2: Dude everything in my life is finally set and going

477
00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:53,640
Speaker 2: the right.

478
00:20:53,680 --> 00:20:53,960
Speaker 1: Way.

479
00:20:54,320 --> 00:20:56,719
Speaker 2: Edit i'm laughing at the people who are mad at

480
00:20:56,720 --> 00:20:59,719
Speaker 2: me for cheating back on. Him what did you expect to?

481
00:20:59,760 --> 00:21:02,840
Speaker 2: HAVE i stay loyal to my husband while he f's other.

482
00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:06,040
Speaker 2: Girls you guys Think i'm gonna just go without spicy

483
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:09,200
Speaker 2: sleep for almost a. Decade the marriage was already over

484
00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:11,960
Speaker 2: the first time he cheated on. Me it's hilarious how

485
00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:13,439
Speaker 2: you people think on this App uh.

486
00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:14,359
Speaker 1: Huh it's a funny.

487
00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:18,320
Speaker 2: World sometimes people get mad about the wrong. Stuff, yeah, yeah,

488
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:21,960
Speaker 2: yeah we see that. Happen yeah, sometimes, yeah more than you.

489
00:21:22,040 --> 00:21:22,560
Speaker 1: Think we.

490
00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:25,679
Speaker 2: Do have some comments, here instruction's. UNCLEAR i hope you

491
00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:28,040
Speaker 2: have a beautiful and gentle life with your children after

492
00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:30,280
Speaker 2: all this is. Over wishing you extra sunshine in the

493
00:21:30,280 --> 00:21:32,640
Speaker 2: early mornings and good health for your family without. HIM

494
00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:35,240
Speaker 2: i hope your husband gets what he. Deserves he sounds truly.

495
00:21:35,280 --> 00:21:38,680
Speaker 2: Horrible update seven days. LATER a lot of people here

496
00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:41,080
Speaker 2: wanted an update the last TIME i. POSTED i wanted

497
00:21:41,080 --> 00:21:44,240
Speaker 2: to update you guys and tell you THAT i did tell.

498
00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:46,639
Speaker 1: Him i'm divorcing. Him you know what's the funny.

499
00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:49,480
Speaker 2: Part he was honestly shocked that this is, happening as

500
00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:50,760
Speaker 2: if he didn't do anything.

501
00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:53,320
Speaker 1: Wrong, Good, no GET i get.

502
00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:56,240
Speaker 2: That you're, like you're shocked that he, shocked but also

503
00:21:56,480 --> 00:21:57,800
Speaker 2: he shocked because.

504
00:21:57,640 --> 00:22:01,719
Speaker 1: You've convinced him everything's fine for seven. Years she's been

505
00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:04,719
Speaker 1: scheming for a, while AND i support the, scheme, although,

506
00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:08,320
Speaker 1: hey it's a. Scheme you're.

507
00:22:08,359 --> 00:22:11,200
Speaker 2: Scheming he told his parents on me Because i'm really

508
00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:13,320
Speaker 2: close with his parents and he thought they could persuade

509
00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:13,919
Speaker 2: me to change my.

510
00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:15,040
Speaker 1: Mind his parents are.

511
00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:17,919
Speaker 2: Sweet, however they turned on me quickly and told me

512
00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:19,959
Speaker 2: off for leaving their. Son they let me know what

513
00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:23,280
Speaker 2: he did was, unacceptable but What i'm doing is even

514
00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:25,960
Speaker 2: worse by leaving him and our family.

515
00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:30,679
Speaker 1: Behind, OH i don't know he's trying to do.

516
00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:33,159
Speaker 3: That, well husband's not too smart and he probably, realized,

517
00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:37,080
Speaker 3: oh that's a lot of money and started panicking on saying.

518
00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:39,159
Speaker 1: STUFF i don't. Know they probably don't know about the.

519
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,600
Speaker 2: CHEATING i THINK i honestly don't even think he cares

520
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:43,320
Speaker 2: about the money right. NOW i think it's just more

521
00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:45,960
Speaker 2: for he's like rules for thee not for, me where he's,

522
00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:48,960
Speaker 2: LIKE i cheated whatever you forgave, me so it shouldn't

523
00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:49,320
Speaker 2: be a problem.

524
00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:52,560
Speaker 1: Anymore, yeah my husband cussed me out after the divorce.

525
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:55,080
Speaker 2: News he also called me a gold digger and went

526
00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:57,080
Speaker 2: on a rant about how women only want money and

527
00:22:57,119 --> 00:22:59,760
Speaker 2: blah blah. Blah he also called me a salute BECAUSE

528
00:22:59,760 --> 00:23:02,080
Speaker 2: i now with my girls and boys who are my close,

529
00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:04,960
Speaker 2: friends and we went to the bar and celebrated my. Divorce,

530
00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:08,239
Speaker 2: anyways we're in the middle of the divorce now and

531
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:11,560
Speaker 2: it's a. Process we both still live in the marital

532
00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:14,840
Speaker 2: home until further notice as noticed by the, attorney we

533
00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:17,400
Speaker 2: will both have the fifty to fifty, custody most likely

534
00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 2: a rotating. Schedule one of my kids is taking the

535
00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:23,360
Speaker 2: divorce really, rough even though he knows what. Happened he's

536
00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:26,160
Speaker 2: begging us to stay together and telling us he doesn't

537
00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:29,200
Speaker 2: want us to get a. Divorce, HONESTLY i did feel

538
00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:31,639
Speaker 2: pretty bad after my son begged me not to divide

539
00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:33,800
Speaker 2: up our family and to stay with their. Dad BUT

540
00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:36,240
Speaker 2: i know at the end of the, DAY i need

541
00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:39,479
Speaker 2: to be selfish and put my needs above everyone else's

542
00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:42,439
Speaker 2: for once in my. Life and by the, way you

543
00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:45,000
Speaker 2: can join us for the rest of your life when.

544
00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:47,119
Speaker 1: We go live on YouTube every weekday at three PM.

545
00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:51,120
Speaker 1: Psd just tap our. Profile, yaikes this is. Tough this

546
00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:53,919
Speaker 1: is quite a lot to. Unpack you did some, scheming you,

547
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:57,080
Speaker 1: waited and here we. ARE i, mean who do you

548
00:23:57,160 --> 00:24:00,560
Speaker 1: like do what percentage of like messed? Up would you?

549
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:01,359
Speaker 2: Like?

550
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:02,560
Speaker 1: Say this is like what.

551
00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:07,000
Speaker 3: Everyone all the way? AROUND i mean everyone likes three.

552
00:24:07,080 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 3: TIMES i think.

553
00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:11,840
Speaker 2: The husband cheated twice that she, knows of which who

554
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:14,840
Speaker 2: knows he could have cheated, more and then she retaliatory

555
00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:17,680
Speaker 2: cheated on him AND i guess he never found out about,

556
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:20,240
Speaker 2: that which it's an interesting, thought like if he did

557
00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:22,399
Speaker 2: know that she, CHEATED i wonder if he would have

558
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:25,840
Speaker 2: immediately broke it off even though he cheated on her.

559
00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:28,040
Speaker 1: Twice. SCUMBAG i think everyone's able.

560
00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:28,360
Speaker 5: Here.

561
00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:30,840
Speaker 1: NOT i think you might have got lost in the.

562
00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:32,360
Speaker 1: Saucer you're a little bit opie your.

563
00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:36,920
Speaker 2: VENGEANCE i mean seven years of just like pretend marriage

564
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:37,920
Speaker 2: in your heart.

565
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:38,879
Speaker 4: Cheating.

566
00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:45,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, anyways my son does hate me. Though he won't

567
00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:47,400
Speaker 2: talk to, me and he spends most of his time

568
00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 2: with his. Father my other child is younger and doesn't

569
00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:52,879
Speaker 2: fully understand what's going on and is just kind of

570
00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:55,359
Speaker 2: brushing it. Off my son just keeps saying he doesn't

571
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:57,800
Speaker 2: want divorced, parents and he wants us to stay, together

572
00:24:58,119 --> 00:24:59,520
Speaker 2: and he doesn't want step.

573
00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:01,840
Speaker 1: Parents my son is really taking it.

574
00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:04,440
Speaker 2: Hard he's also saying that he wants to spend most

575
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:06,560
Speaker 2: of his time with his father IF i go through

576
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:08,680
Speaker 2: with the, divorce AND i just told him that that's

577
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:10,879
Speaker 2: not how it's going to, work and we will both

578
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:13,520
Speaker 2: spend time with, him and he keeps saying that it's

579
00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:15,639
Speaker 2: not fair and he doesn't want to stay with. Me,

580
00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 2: well that's what happens when you split your family, up

581
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:22,520
Speaker 2: and it's not just. You, yeah you're not doing it

582
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:24,560
Speaker 2: for no. Reason, yeah but you're doing it in a

583
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:26,240
Speaker 2: way that is going to be absurdly.

584
00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:29,199
Speaker 1: Messy and, YEAH i don't. Know you might have just

585
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 1: been better off cutting your.

586
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:34,639
Speaker 2: Losses yeah years ago while your children were young and

587
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:35,159
Speaker 2: they didn't.

588
00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:36,680
Speaker 1: KNOW i, mean they're still.

589
00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:37,720
Speaker 2: Going to have to deal with it when they grow,

590
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,560
Speaker 2: up but at least it won't like straight up traumatize.

591
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:45,480
Speaker 1: Them. True we love you and see you. Tomorrow, hey It's.

592
00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:46,440
Speaker 1: Sam i'm your ogi host.

593
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Speaker 2: Here read it back to the, stories but here's three

594
00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:48,960
Speaker 2: minutes bads from our.

595
00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:53,719
Speaker 5: Sponsor my husband made so many misogynistic jokes that his

596
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 5: parents had to.

597
00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:58,399
Speaker 4: Intervene stop, it just stop, it stop.

598
00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:02,399
Speaker 5: IT i twenty eight, female have been married to my,

599
00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:05,480
Speaker 5: husband thirty three male for three. Years we have no,

600
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:08,120
Speaker 5: kids but we both work full, time but he makes

601
00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:10,920
Speaker 5: more money than. Me my husband is an identical twin

602
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:14,040
Speaker 5: with his. Brother they both are the mere reflection of

603
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:16,560
Speaker 5: each other even. Better, exactly it's, fine he got.

604
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:19,760
Speaker 4: It you got a. Twin, yeah maybe he has better you, know,

605
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:20,840
Speaker 4: Values it's just.

606
00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 5: A backup backup, guy the way they walk the same body.

607
00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:25,080
Speaker 4: Type by the.

608
00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:28,439
Speaker 5: Way this comes from friendly item nine ninety seven on

609
00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 5: the r Slash okay storytime. Sepreddit so the only thing

610
00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 5: different about them is their. Personality my husband is much

611
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:38,800
Speaker 5: more reserved and career, oriented whilst his brother is. Adventurous

612
00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 5: back to the, issue my husband has recently started making

613
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,439
Speaker 5: jokes that he will find another wife every TIME i

614
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:45,480
Speaker 5: refuse to do something for.

615
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 4: Him, hum you think you're gonna find another. Wife you

616
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:50,120
Speaker 4: think you're going to find another person who likes?

617
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 5: You, yeah she doesn't have a. Twin, no, no no

618
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 5: one likes. You this has gotten worse as he is

619
00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 5: always mentioning HOW i should obey and respect him as a,

620
00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,760
Speaker 5: man as the male of the, house or he would

621
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:07,679
Speaker 5: be looking for another wife. Soon why ya YATA i

622
00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:09,879
Speaker 5: told HIM i didn't like his, comments but he always

623
00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 5: said that he's just joking and trying to make me

624
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:15,080
Speaker 5: work for his. Attention he stopped the comments for some,

625
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:18,640
Speaker 5: time and then it started, again but this time with misogyny.

626
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 5: Comments the first one's work to, do, gosh and how

627
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:26,920
Speaker 5: my goal as a woman should always be to make him,

628
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:29,600
Speaker 5: happy and that's What god brought me in this world to.

629
00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 5: DO i lost my mind on this comment and lashed,

630
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 5: out but he quickly said That i'm just sensitive and overreacting.

631
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 4: Us he was just. Joking he's just, Joking. Sophia, well

632
00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:42,760
Speaker 4: he's about to feel the joke that he's my.

633
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:50,360
Speaker 5: Fist the following, week we had a dinner with his, parents,

634
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 5: brother and little. Sister during the, dinner somehow the topic

635
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 5: of marriage came, forward and he started again with his.

636
00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:58,680
Speaker 4: Jokes he made a joke THAT i should.

637
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 5: Be lucky that he still finds me a try active

638
00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:01,800
Speaker 5: after three years of, marriage or.

639
00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 4: Else he would have found a young woman. Already how

640
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:08,119
Speaker 4: are these jokes coming up in what? Conversations is this

641
00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 4: just like coming?

642
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 2: Up?

643
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:09,640
Speaker 1: Yeah?

644
00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:12,040
Speaker 4: Him, also who's is anyone laughing at these?

645
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:12,439
Speaker 1: Jokes?

646
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:15,760
Speaker 4: Nu, literally does anyone find you? Funny because it seems

647
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:19,600
Speaker 4: like you should stick to your career that you're in

648
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:20,800
Speaker 4: and stay out of.

649
00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,840
Speaker 5: Comedy he, SAID i should thank my stars and make

650
00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:25,919
Speaker 5: sure that he doesn't lose interest in me in the.

651
00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:28,720
Speaker 5: FUTURE i was so furious and was shaking out of,

652
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 5: anger and the whole table is.

653
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:33,880
Speaker 4: Quiet his mom looked like she was about to say.

654
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 4: Something his twin.

655
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 5: Brothers started laughing and said that his brother is crazy

656
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:40,040
Speaker 5: to think that anyone would want, him and that he

657
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 5: is lucky to have someone like, me even Though i'm

658
00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 5: out of his. League boom yeah, boo demorse your.

659
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 4: Husband mary is. Brother, okay literally he's.

660
00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:52,880
Speaker 5: Perfect the brother's also literally in love with you, too

661
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:56,120
Speaker 5: so like he's literally literally You so this is just

662
00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 5: like a rom common this. Point he's been freaking, waiting

663
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:02,600
Speaker 5: he's been way this is while you were. Sleeping, yeah

664
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:07,040
Speaker 5: one of my Favorite christmas movies Starring Sandra. Bullock ooh, yeah,

665
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:08,320
Speaker 5: Well i'll have to watch that this.

666
00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:08,920
Speaker 4: Year he.

667
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:12,200
Speaker 5: Said my husband sure shouldn't worry about, me because after

668
00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:14,880
Speaker 5: he divorces, ME i am free to have him And.

669
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:17,760
Speaker 5: Sea they made the. Bike here we, Go here we.

670
00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 5: Go that's exactly what we're talking, about AND i can

671
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 5: finally be with the better twin instead of an insecure

672
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 5: excuse for a.

673
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 4: Husband man's been, waiting man's been war abiding his. Time oh,

674
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 4: yeah oh.

675
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 5: Yeah my husband completely lost it and started shouting at his,

676
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:36,720
Speaker 5: brother who started.

677
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 4: Laughing and blurted out that he was joking just like my.

678
00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 4: HUSBAND i love that being so, sensitive not being so.

679
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 4: Sensitive it's just a. Joke it's just a, joke just a.

680
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 4: Joke funny now when it's on. You my husband was seeing.

681
00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:53,800
Speaker 5: Red things got heated and his mom intervened and started

682
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:57,239
Speaker 5: going off on my husband about his misogynistic comment and

683
00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:59,760
Speaker 5: asking him to immediately apologize to.

684
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 4: Me boom a dying you family except for this. Guy,

685
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:05,520
Speaker 4: yeah you picked the runt of the. Daughter you picked

686
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 4: the worst guy in the.

687
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:06,800
Speaker 1: Family.

688
00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 5: Crazy his dad also started laying into him then or

689
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:14,080
Speaker 5: they then turned to his brother and stated and started

690
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:17,000
Speaker 5: laying it on him about his inappropriate comments about.

691
00:30:17,040 --> 00:30:17,920
Speaker 4: Me, no, no, no.

692
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:22,000
Speaker 5: No unless he is very, uncomfortable, sure then a.

693
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:26,760
Speaker 4: Whole but if she's like then it's. Different it's totally. Fine, yeah,

694
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 4: yeah sounds sounds like just the. Romance maybe FEEL i don't.

695
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:32,800
Speaker 4: Know his parents apologize for their.

696
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 5: Behavior he and his brother started going off again at each,

697
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 5: other so his mom AND i decided to leave with

698
00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:39,640
Speaker 5: my sister in law and went to get some bubble

699
00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 5: tea and went for a walk at the beach to

700
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 5: release my mind of. Everything about one hour, later my

701
00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 5: mother in law called for us to. Come when we came,

702
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 5: back everyone was sitting in the sitting room and my

703
00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:54,960
Speaker 5: husband looked, pissed whilst his brother looked like.

704
00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 4: He's enjoying this.

705
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 5: Drama AS i walked, in the father in law looked

706
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 5: at my, husband who then came and apologized for his.

707
00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 4: Comment his brother also.

708
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:06,440
Speaker 5: Apologized his mom packed up some food since this whole

709
00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 5: thing started in the middle of having, dinner and she

710
00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:10,840
Speaker 5: warned me to let her know if he ever tried

711
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:15,040
Speaker 5: this nonsense. Again the car ride was. Quiet when we reached,

712
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:17,200
Speaker 5: home my husband turned to me and asked WHY i

713
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:19,800
Speaker 5: wasn't defending him when his brother was making those. COMMENTS

714
00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 5: i started going off at him as, well and explained

715
00:31:23,040 --> 00:31:25,320
Speaker 5: how his comments hurt me and if the roles were,

716
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:26,480
Speaker 5: reversed if.

717
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 4: He would be fine with me doing what he was.

718
00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 5: Doing he again said that he was only, joking and

719
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 5: THEN i honestly knew he would never do that to.

720
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 5: ME i told, HIM i am so disappointed in, him

721
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:40,000
Speaker 5: AND i can't Believe i'm married a man like.

722
00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 4: Him you go tell him. Off he started full blown.

723
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:46,440
Speaker 5: Crying this shocked, me As i've never seen him cry.

724
00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 5: Before he's been waiting for this. Moment he's trying to

725
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 5: guilt trip you man. EXACTLY i would crackdi. Tears there you.

726
00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:57,800
Speaker 5: Go he then asked me IF i ever had romantic

727
00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 5: feelings for his, brother AND i was like what? What

728
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 5: he explained how they both look the, same and IF

729
00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 5: i love, him that also.

730
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 4: MEANS i am in love with his. Brother she not that,

731
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:10,440
Speaker 4: work no different.

732
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 5: Personalities M, also does that mean that your love is

733
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:14,880
Speaker 5: only based.

734
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 4: Off of her looks that.

735
00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 5: We're saying the jokes actually do back that. Up BUT

736
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 5: i was just so done with him and Left. Tibet

737
00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:26,040
Speaker 5: he came to bed around three, am started, apologizing saying

738
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 5: that he loves me a, lot and THEN i am his.

739
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 5: World he woke up this morning before me and made

740
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:32,880
Speaker 5: breakfast for. US i don't know if we should go

741
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:35,800
Speaker 5: to counseling or IF i should file a divorce over.

742
00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:37,880
Speaker 5: This please help me and there is an. Update but

743
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:41,640
Speaker 5: what would we? Say i'm so incredibly. Biased divorce?

744
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:45,840
Speaker 4: HIM i think so INCREDIBLY i understand this is a.

745
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 5: Bias take, right divorce him right based off of little

746
00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:52,240
Speaker 5: KNOWLEDGE i know and how much LOVE i have for his. Brother,

747
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:54,080
Speaker 5: yeah then, YEAH i would go.

748
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:56,680
Speaker 4: DIVORCE i would go, divorce and like maybe like the

749
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:59,760
Speaker 4: year or two down the, line we started dating again

750
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:02,680
Speaker 4: and then we realized. That you, know sometimes the people

751
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 4: that are right for us have been there all along

752
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 4: and kind of like look like the guy that we

753
00:33:09,120 --> 00:33:10,080
Speaker 4: used to be married.

754
00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 5: To, yeah he's like hidden in plain, sight hidden in plain,

755
00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:15,520
Speaker 5: sight and also are in love with you, Too, right

756
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 5: so it works out, REALISTICALLY i probably go to. Canceling

757
00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:21,960
Speaker 5: but there is an, update so let's. See hi, everyone

758
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:25,160
Speaker 5: this Is. Nope sorry for the, confusion but the update

759
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:27,160
Speaker 5: before was not written by, me as you could, see

760
00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:30,120
Speaker 5: was written by my husband's. SISTER i don't understand why

761
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 5: she would do, this AND i am so angry with.

762
00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 5: Her at the anniversary, PARTY i showed her my post

763
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:38,480
Speaker 5: about her brother and she thinks THAT i am looking

764
00:33:38,520 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 5: to start some drama by moving our family issues. Online

765
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 5: me and my sister in law are very, close So

766
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:47,440
Speaker 5: i'm very disappointed with her right. NOW i just found

767
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:49,800
Speaker 5: this update this morning and have called her to. Ask

768
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:53,040
Speaker 5: she told me she did write the update yesterday WHEN

769
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 5: i left my phone with. Her she, said Since i'm

770
00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 5: looking for drama and THEN i want her twin brothers

771
00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:00,000
Speaker 5: to fight over me like some, princess she has made

772
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 5: making my dreams come true and THAT i shouldn't have

773
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:05,959
Speaker 5: brought this On reddit and should have instead discussed it with.

774
00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:08,759
Speaker 5: Her she is more mad about the fact THAT i

775
00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:12,239
Speaker 5: will update On reddit if anything happened in my, comments

776
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:14,800
Speaker 5: and with that she assumed.

777
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:16,040
Speaker 4: THAT i wanted the brothers to fight over.

778
00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:18,600
Speaker 5: Me she, Said i'm trying to make my life out

779
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:21,759
Speaker 5: to be some episode drama by posting, her and she

780
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:24,400
Speaker 5: was just helping. ME i want to report her to her,

781
00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 5: parents BUT i won't because they might have the same

782
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 5: feelings with My reddit posts about their. SON i will

783
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:33,560
Speaker 5: give an actual update WHEN i clear my. Mind i'm

784
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 5: just so done with everything right, now and there is another.

785
00:34:36,600 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 1: Updates.

786
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:40,120
Speaker 4: Man that's crazy. Though, yeah your sister in law also

787
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:42,360
Speaker 4: sounds kind of. Whacked, yeah and it's also so like.

788
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:45,600
Speaker 5: ANNOYING i JUST i don't, know past progressiveness or like

789
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:48,799
Speaker 5: petty things like that just annoy me so. Much because she's, like,

790
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:51,760
Speaker 5: OH i can't believe you would go On reddit instead

791
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:54,480
Speaker 5: of talking to, Me So i'm gonna go On reddit.

792
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:56,240
Speaker 4: Instead of talking to. You that just doesn't.

793
00:34:56,280 --> 00:34:58,240
Speaker 5: Work it just doesn't LIKE i feel like some people

794
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 5: try to get revenge or, like, yeah same, thing and

795
00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:02,640
Speaker 5: THEN i, think, okay, well you've just now stooped down

796
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:03,800
Speaker 5: to the level, Right.

797
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 4: So like you care in the first, place so don't

798
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:07,520
Speaker 4: you're just so?

799
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 5: Stupid update number, Two hi, everyone thank you so much

800
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:11,880
Speaker 5: for the support and the.

801
00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:14,200
Speaker 4: ADVICE i know that some people think that this is.

802
00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:16,680
Speaker 5: FAKE i wish it, was but this is my, life

803
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:18,640
Speaker 5: and the REASON i came here is BECAUSE i know

804
00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 5: people in my life will want me to work on the.

805
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 5: MARRIAGE i just wanted an unbiased. Opinion the reason why

806
00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:27,319
Speaker 5: his comment shocked everyone is because this is not how

807
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:30,160
Speaker 5: he normally. Behaves he is normally the calmest and the

808
00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:33,760
Speaker 5: sweetest PERSON i ever. Met he is loved by. Everyone

809
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:36,719
Speaker 5: that's WHY i didn't see his comment as a red.

810
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,640
Speaker 5: Flag after the, dinner when we came, HOME i didn't

811
00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:42,279
Speaker 5: want to talk to him at, all SO i just

812
00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:45,600
Speaker 5: asked him to sleep on the. Sofa he started his love,

813
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:48,600
Speaker 5: bombing BUT i just walked past him to our bedroom

814
00:35:48,680 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 5: and locked.

815
00:35:49,239 --> 00:35:52,640
Speaker 4: The door standing. Around, yeah that was the exact perfect.

816
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:55,080
Speaker 5: Response he came knocking a couple of times during the,

817
00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:57,960
Speaker 5: night begging me not to leave. Him this, MORNING i

818
00:35:58,040 --> 00:35:59,479
Speaker 5: decided to have a heart to heart.

819
00:35:59,480 --> 00:36:01,920
Speaker 4: Conversation he sounded really.

820
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 5: REMORSEFUL i threatened to leave him if he doesn't tell

821
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 5: me the reason for his weird. Behavior, recently and he

822
00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:09,080
Speaker 5: said one of his friends made a comment that he

823
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:12,279
Speaker 5: was the female in our marriage and that he lets

824
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:12,960
Speaker 5: me do WHATEVER i.

825
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 4: Want so this man is in. Scare cut that friend.

826
00:36:15,360 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 5: Off, yeah because what and THAT i make most of

827
00:36:18,680 --> 00:36:22,040
Speaker 5: the decisions while he asks like a submissive husband whose

828
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:24,960
Speaker 5: wife is a dominant. One this friend also told my

829
00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:27,319
Speaker 5: husband that he needs to man up and be more.

830
00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:30,359
Speaker 5: DOMINANT i asked for his phone as some people would

831
00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:33,239
Speaker 5: have suspicions that he might be. Cheating but that's just

832
00:36:33,239 --> 00:36:37,959
Speaker 5: so frustrating that it's, like LIKE i understand that, typically like, stereotypically,

833
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:42,279
Speaker 5: YEAH i guess the dominant like characteristics are like associated with,

834
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 5: men but also like that doesn't need to be how it.

835
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:46,479
Speaker 5: Is you, know you don't need to be a man

836
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:48,680
Speaker 5: by being, Dominant like come.

837
00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 4: On, also like all of those, things all of those you,

838
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:56,319
Speaker 4: know stereotypes were from a time where men were the sole.

839
00:36:56,800 --> 00:37:01,399
Speaker 4: Providers So i'm not sure the sole provider, right even

840
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 4: if you, are but unless you're provider and you'll literally

841
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 4: do it like working sixteen.

842
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:10,239
Speaker 5: Hours, YEAH i also just don't think that there needs

843
00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 5: to be a definition of what a man.

844
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 4: Is but that's all another. Thing, NO i don't need

845
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:15,480
Speaker 4: to even get into that rust a.

846
00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:18,319
Speaker 5: Shirt we both don't have passwords on our, phones and

847
00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:19,800
Speaker 5: we normally use each other's.

848
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:23,000
Speaker 4: Phones my password on my phone is really just for,

849
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:26,040
Speaker 4: show because if anyone asked me what my password, WAS

850
00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 4: i would give it to.

851
00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:29,400
Speaker 5: THAT i tell, Everyone i'm, like, oh it's, This and

852
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 5: he only has TikTok And.

853
00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:35,640
Speaker 4: WhatsApp his TikTok. Liked His TikTok liked videos.

854
00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:38,920
Speaker 5: Are full of alpha male podcast video, tips end quotes

855
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 5: on becoming a dominant.

856
00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 1: Outplook that's so.

857
00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 4: Embarrassing it's legitimately so. Embarrassing it really.

858
00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:47,440
Speaker 5: Is he said he thought his comment will make me

859
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 5: want to spend more attention on him and he and his,

860
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:54,120
Speaker 5: needs and that he doesn't want to be this calm

861
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:54,680
Speaker 5: husband or.

862
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:57,000
Speaker 4: Person but now he sees that was a stupid. Idea

863
00:37:57,040 --> 00:37:58,240
Speaker 4: so he's just having an identity.

864
00:37:58,280 --> 00:37:59,840
Speaker 1: Crisis that's WHAT i needed to be.

865
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:02,960
Speaker 5: Man all these people take, over tell Me i'm not a,

866
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:04,239
Speaker 5: man told me not a.

867
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:06,839
Speaker 4: Meal SO i was figuring IF i bullied, you you'd

868
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 4: THINK i was a.

869
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:10,960
Speaker 5: MAN i told him that his attitude and personality was

870
00:38:10,960 --> 00:38:12,479
Speaker 5: the REASON i fell in love with him in the first.

871
00:38:12,480 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 5: Place and he was apologizing profusely and said that he

872
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:16,840
Speaker 5: will make up for.

873
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:19,479
Speaker 4: Everything. Yeah this is like in the movies when when

874
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:23,400
Speaker 4: like the guy already has the girl who loves him and,

875
00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:25,239
Speaker 4: stuff and he's, like BUT i need to change so

876
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:27,040
Speaker 4: she'll keep loving, me and it's, like, no, no, no,

877
00:38:27,200 --> 00:38:30,080
Speaker 4: right she loved you as you.

878
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:30,840
Speaker 1: Were why are you?

879
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:31,320
Speaker 4: Changing?

880
00:38:31,560 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 5: Yeah classic if, yeah if they say don't, change stay.

881
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:41,480
Speaker 4: There believe. Him. YEAH i just lost it with.

882
00:38:41,560 --> 00:38:43,879
Speaker 5: Him but by the, way you'll never have to lose

883
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:46,319
Speaker 5: us because you can join us live on YouTube every

884
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 5: weekday at three PM.

885
00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:50,640
Speaker 4: Psd just top our. Profile, cappit tap. It it was

886
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:53,560
Speaker 4: all a. MESS i was shouting over him while he

887
00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 4: was still.

888
00:38:54,040 --> 00:38:56,520
Speaker 5: Pleading for me to forgive, him and then he would

889
00:38:56,560 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 5: cut contact with his toxic.

890
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:00,399
Speaker 4: FRIEND i asked him to, leave and THEN i needed.

891
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:03,879
Speaker 5: Space he began crying and pleading not to leave, him

892
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:05,400
Speaker 5: and he would do WHATEVER i.

893
00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:07,120
Speaker 4: WANT i told him he needs.

894
00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 5: Therapy, yes he's at his parents' house right now and

895
00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:11,719
Speaker 5: his mom is tearing him a new.

896
00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:15,120
Speaker 4: ONE i am more disappointed than. ANGRY i really love this.

897
00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 5: MAN i really want this to work, out because this

898
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 5: is the first time he's acted this. Way but like everyone,

899
00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:24,640
Speaker 5: said he definitely needs. Therapy he has been continuously calling

900
00:39:24,680 --> 00:39:27,480
Speaker 5: and sending me voice messages WHICH i haven't opened or answered,

901
00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:28,879
Speaker 5: yet and that is the. End.

902
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:31,239
Speaker 4: Man, wow man does need.

903
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:34,680
Speaker 5: Therapy, though man need, therapy And TikTok Needs no more

904
00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:37,840
Speaker 5: alpha male podcast. PLEASE i think that's the start of

905
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:39,840
Speaker 5: this all AND i don't like.

906
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 4: It it's so frustrating because alpha male podcasters and also

907
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:46,839
Speaker 4: even just like the like the super like the. Buff, yeah,

908
00:39:46,880 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 4: yeah they're, like you need to be buff to attract Women's, like, nah,

909
00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:52,640
Speaker 4: dude that's for other. Men, yeah, exactly that's for other,

910
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:54,440
Speaker 4: Men and that's what that's what you. Want like if

911
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 4: you're trying, to you, know impress o the, men that's.

912
00:39:57,200 --> 00:40:00,120
Speaker 4: Chill but just, like, no that just be really are

913
00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 4: impressing other? Men women have different. Tastes.

914
00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:07,120
Speaker 5: YEAH i could really go on a tangent about all,

915
00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 5: that But i'll spare.

916
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:09,800
Speaker 4: YOU i will spare.

917
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:14,040
Speaker 5: You but that's the last the end of the, Story

918
00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:15,200
Speaker 5: so we'll see you next.

919
00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:21,440
Speaker 4: Time bye bye. Bye my wife DEMANDED i stop giving

920
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 4: child support to my. EX i told her to move.

921
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:28,880
Speaker 4: Out honestly? Valid, yeah kind of. Valid i'll start by

922
00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:31,080
Speaker 4: saying that the MONEY i give my ex is for my.

923
00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:35,160
Speaker 4: Kids eleven thirteen. SIXTEEN i do not pay a set

924
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 4: amount of child sport every, month BUT i support my.

925
00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:40,799
Speaker 4: Kids my ex AND i worked at something between, ourselves

926
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:44,120
Speaker 4: had lawyers look it, over then filed those documents with the.

927
00:40:44,160 --> 00:40:47,080
Speaker 4: Court by the, way this comes from Practical wind fifty

928
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:50,319
Speaker 4: five ninety four on The Okay storytime stupburn, it so

929
00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:53,800
Speaker 4: our arrangement is. Legal at the end of each, month

930
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 4: my ex AND i meet to discuss the upcoming month's expenses, rent, food, school, health,

931
00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:03,120
Speaker 4: insurance E x to, curriculars whatever expenses needed for the.

932
00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 4: Kids we sit down and discuss. It some months my

933
00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:09,520
Speaker 4: kids need, more some months they. DON'T i also put

934
00:41:09,520 --> 00:41:12,399
Speaker 4: away money each month for, emergencies like when my ex

935
00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:14,759
Speaker 4: broke her leg AND i covered her while she was off,

936
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:17,720
Speaker 4: work or when her mom passed away and she couldn't

937
00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:19,919
Speaker 4: afford to pay for her and the kids to fly

938
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:22,799
Speaker 4: to her, hometown SO i paid for the. Kids my

939
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 4: ex goes the extra mile for me too WHEN i need.

940
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:27,440
Speaker 4: It when my parked car was written off by some,

941
00:41:27,560 --> 00:41:30,399
Speaker 4: kids joy. Riding she gave me her car to use

942
00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:32,880
Speaker 4: UNTIL i got. Another or when me and my wife

943
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:35,440
Speaker 4: had to isolate during the pandemic because we HAD, covid

944
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 4: my ex did are shopping for us and brought it

945
00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:40,279
Speaker 4: all over with some home cooked meals for both of.

946
00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:43,440
Speaker 4: Us it seems like they have a really good co parenting.

947
00:41:43,440 --> 00:41:46,360
Speaker 5: Situation, yeah, honestly it feels like they've got it figured.

948
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:48,399
Speaker 4: Out they know they know how how to do. It

949
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 4: this is the type of co parenting relationship we have

950
00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:53,840
Speaker 4: And i'm not willing to change. It this works for.

951
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:57,479
Speaker 4: Us more, importantly it works for our. Kids my wife

952
00:41:57,520 --> 00:42:00,640
Speaker 4: has two, kids sixteen and, eighteen and her relationship with

953
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:03,839
Speaker 4: their dad is. Toxic they can't breathe the same air

954
00:42:03,960 --> 00:42:07,319
Speaker 4: without ending up at each other's. Throats it's her fault

955
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:09,719
Speaker 4: as much as. His they both point fingers at each

956
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:11,440
Speaker 4: other as to who was at fault for the end

957
00:42:11,440 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 4: of the. Relationship neither of them are willing to put

958
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:16,840
Speaker 4: aside their crap for the. Kids it's better for everyone

959
00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 4: if they avoid each. Other early on in our, relationship

960
00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:23,720
Speaker 4: my wife tried to involve. ME i told her that wasn't.

961
00:42:23,800 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 4: Happening her kids love their. Dad as much as they

962
00:42:26,560 --> 00:42:28,920
Speaker 4: love their mom for, THEM i wasn't going to make

963
00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:30,760
Speaker 4: an enemy of a MAN i really didn't.

964
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 1: Know now THAT i know, HIM i know he's a good.

965
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:35,760
Speaker 4: Guy so it seems like they just have a really bad,

966
00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 4: relationship THE x and her, ex, Right, YEAH i, know.

967
00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:42,640
Speaker 5: She's like kind of projecting it. On, yeah their. Relationship,

968
00:42:42,800 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 5: YEAH i. Know he's, like we're.

969
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:48,480
Speaker 4: Chill everyone's chill. Here don't involve, me no. Drama the

970
00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:51,680
Speaker 4: problem with the MONEY i give my ex started earlier this.

971
00:42:51,800 --> 00:42:55,240
Speaker 4: Year my wife's ex lost his. Job he is, another

972
00:42:55,320 --> 00:42:57,840
Speaker 4: but it doesn't pay as. Much his child support was

973
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 4: reduced because of his change and, income then reduced again

974
00:43:01,120 --> 00:43:04,359
Speaker 4: when the eldest turned. EIGHTEEN i never asked how much

975
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:06,719
Speaker 4: he paid in child support or what my wife did

976
00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:09,520
Speaker 4: with the money she received for the. Kids in my,

977
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:12,560
Speaker 4: mind that was between her and her, ex like the

978
00:43:12,680 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 4: ARRANGEMENT i have with my ex is between her and.

979
00:43:14,680 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 4: Me the kids were taken care. Of they didn't lack for,

980
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:21,960
Speaker 4: anything and she never asked me to help cover anything

981
00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:24,440
Speaker 4: for the kids besides WHAT i would normally pay for

982
00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:27,560
Speaker 4: as being dependents living under my, roof SO i didn't

983
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:30,319
Speaker 4: need to know anything. More than, That but now she

984
00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:33,440
Speaker 4: says she's not getting enough and doesn't have enough for

985
00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:36,800
Speaker 4: things like getting her hair, done spa, days paying her

986
00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 4: paying for her, insurance her, phone putting gas in her,

987
00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:44,160
Speaker 4: car and she needs me to cover. HER i have

988
00:43:44,200 --> 00:43:46,360
Speaker 4: a set amount of money that comes in every, month

989
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:49,560
Speaker 4: and every dollar is accounted. FOR i pay WHAT i

990
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 4: need for my. KIDS i pay my mortgage on, TIME

991
00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:54,919
Speaker 4: i pay my bills on. TIME i make sure there's

992
00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:57,719
Speaker 4: food in the refrigerator and the. CUPBOARDS i pay all my,

993
00:43:57,760 --> 00:44:01,360
Speaker 4: INSURANCES i pay EVERYTHING i have to. Pay that's a

994
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:04,719
Speaker 4: lot of money for necessities going out every. MONTH i

995
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:07,319
Speaker 4: don't have a lot left for savings once that's all.

996
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:10,680
Speaker 4: Gone but my wife wants what's. Left she wants me

997
00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:13,080
Speaker 4: to cut back on WHAT i give to my, ex

998
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 4: which legally he. Can't. Like that is one of the

999
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:21,600
Speaker 4: things that he legally cannot. Do, right he has to

1000
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 4: pay child some, More but doesn't he say, that like

1001
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:27,359
Speaker 4: for things like gas and. Stuff, yeah he was still

1002
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:31,239
Speaker 4: paying for TOO X BECAUSE i can, see, LIKE i,

1003
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:33,919
Speaker 4: think what to cut down on. That WHAT i don't

1004
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:37,160
Speaker 4: understand is where is all her. Money she works part,

1005
00:44:37,200 --> 00:44:40,280
Speaker 4: time she still gets support for one. Child she doesn't

1006
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:43,000
Speaker 4: pay anything towards the, household unless we count the takeout

1007
00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 4: dinner she brings home once or twice a, Month so

1008
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:50,400
Speaker 4: where is her? Money we've been fighting for months now about.

1009
00:44:50,400 --> 00:44:52,719
Speaker 4: MONEY i view her demands for the MONEY i give

1010
00:44:52,760 --> 00:44:55,040
Speaker 4: my ex as her wanting to take from my. Kids

1011
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:57,760
Speaker 4: she used to have a great relationship with my. Kids

1012
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:00,600
Speaker 4: now she treats them as though they're in p to

1013
00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:03,960
Speaker 4: getting what she sees is rightfully. Hers i've told her

1014
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:06,359
Speaker 4: repeatedly over the past few months That i'm not going

1015
00:45:06,360 --> 00:45:08,719
Speaker 4: to allow my kids to go without so she can

1016
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 4: get her nails. Done our last, argument she told me

1017
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:15,319
Speaker 4: my attitude needed to, change THAT i needed to start

1018
00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:17,719
Speaker 4: putting her first or she'll rethink whether or not she

1019
00:45:17,760 --> 00:45:20,960
Speaker 4: wants to remain married to. Me in, ANGER i told

1020
00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:23,279
Speaker 4: her to call her lawyer after she moves the f

1021
00:45:23,360 --> 00:45:25,960
Speaker 4: out of my. House AM i in the wrong? Here

1022
00:45:26,440 --> 00:45:29,600
Speaker 4: and there is an? UPDATE i think maybe in the

1023
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:35,600
Speaker 4: wrong for that, comment BUT i think she's being unreasonable

1024
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:39,000
Speaker 4: and asking you not to pay for child, support, right

1025
00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:39,720
Speaker 4: that's pretty.

1026
00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 5: Crazy, yeah it's, LIKE i, mean they're, fighting So i'm

1027
00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:49,120
Speaker 5: assuming that words have been exchanged and it's already kind

1028
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:50,279
Speaker 5: of escalated to this.

1029
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 4: Point it wasn't just like zero to one.

1030
00:45:52,040 --> 00:45:55,320
Speaker 5: Hundred, yeah but still that is that is pretty intense

1031
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:59,120
Speaker 5: telling her to move, out, yeah because then then what

1032
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:01,160
Speaker 5: then they're getting to go or something like.

1033
00:46:01,840 --> 00:46:05,120
Speaker 4: Huh, NO i mean it seems like she's like she's

1034
00:46:05,200 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 4: also the a. Hole BUT i think that you both

1035
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 4: just need to figure out how to communicate with each. Other,

1036
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:16,000
Speaker 4: yeah but if you, CAN'T i guess you do have to, divorce.

1037
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:19,960
Speaker 5: RIGHT i MEAN i feel like like money is one

1038
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:21,479
Speaker 5: of those things that you kind of got to figure

1039
00:46:21,480 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 5: out before you get.

1040
00:46:22,200 --> 00:46:26,920
Speaker 4: Married, absolutely, absolutely that should have been a. CONVERSATION i

1041
00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:29,200
Speaker 4: mean maybe it was a conversation and it's just kind

1042
00:46:29,239 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 4: of changing now because her circumstances has, changed like have

1043
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 4: changed because she's no longer getting more support from her

1044
00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:39,759
Speaker 4: you know. Ex, yeah but, YEAH i know they need

1045
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:42,359
Speaker 4: to have a conversation About, hey like we, talked maybe

1046
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 4: they talked about you, know not sharing, finances keeping them,

1047
00:46:46,280 --> 00:46:48,880
Speaker 4: separate or maybe they had talked about showing them so,

1048
00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 4: yeah something y'all just have to have another. Conversation, yeah

1049
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:55,560
Speaker 4: they're not about that like, arguing, yeah and like threatening

1050
00:46:55,560 --> 00:46:58,480
Speaker 4: each other. Exactly that doesn't help anyone, right there is an,

1051
00:46:58,560 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 4: updates so let's get into. It. Edit addressing some things

1052
00:47:02,120 --> 00:47:04,400
Speaker 4: that have come up in the, comments rather than answering

1053
00:47:04,520 --> 00:47:08,280
Speaker 4: each common. Individually my wife AND i agreed before marriage

1054
00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 4: that our finances would be kept, separate so that answers that.

1055
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:13,719
Speaker 5: Okay, gotcha in which, case it's also very unreasonable that

1056
00:47:13,760 --> 00:47:17,359
Speaker 5: she is trying to switch up yeah and trying to

1057
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:21,400
Speaker 5: like tell op rather than, say, hey can we Reconsider

1058
00:47:21,480 --> 00:47:23,520
Speaker 5: i'm having some financial trouble, Right.

1059
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:26,560
Speaker 4: She's just like, Ah she's, like you have To. Yeah

1060
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:29,880
Speaker 4: we discussed her contributing to the, mortgage but ultimately decided

1061
00:47:29,920 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 4: against it because one it's my house and two IF

1062
00:47:33,160 --> 00:47:36,279
Speaker 4: i pass, away it goes to my. Kids this led

1063
00:47:36,320 --> 00:47:40,280
Speaker 4: to discussions and ultimately decisions regarding finances and a. Prenup

1064
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:43,880
Speaker 4: we decided together that we would keep our finances. Separately

1065
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:47,440
Speaker 4: the reason for this was before, marriage my wife owned

1066
00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:50,080
Speaker 4: her own business and lived comfortably on her own. Income

1067
00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:53,520
Speaker 4: she had her own, money her own, assets and rightfully

1068
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:56,399
Speaker 4: wanted to protect that from her and her. Children, this

1069
00:47:56,480 --> 00:47:59,920
Speaker 4: plus our agreement about, finances is WHY i didn't question

1070
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:03,160
Speaker 4: where her money was. Going she didn't monitor my. Money

1071
00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:05,680
Speaker 4: why WOULD i keep an eye on. Hers she did

1072
00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:09,880
Speaker 4: contribute financially towards the household pre. PANDEMIC i apologize for

1073
00:48:09,960 --> 00:48:13,120
Speaker 4: not mentioning that in giving everyone the impression that she never. Contributed,

1074
00:48:13,320 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 4: unfortunately she had to close her doors permanently due to

1075
00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:21,600
Speaker 4: the pandemic and her business never. Recover. Dang this is

1076
00:48:21,640 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 4: WHEN i took over all household. Expenses when she gained.

1077
00:48:25,080 --> 00:48:28,320
Speaker 4: Employment because it was only part, TIME i continued paying

1078
00:48:28,320 --> 00:48:31,960
Speaker 4: all her. EXPENSES i think another apology is needed for

1079
00:48:32,040 --> 00:48:35,239
Speaker 4: implying my wife uses the child support she receives for

1080
00:48:35,280 --> 00:48:38,920
Speaker 4: frivolous things such as spa. Days she wants money for those,

1081
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:40,879
Speaker 4: things BUT i can't say she has used the child

1082
00:48:40,960 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 4: support for those. Things the payments have been reduced twice

1083
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:47,200
Speaker 4: for ALL i, know her money no longer covers her

1084
00:48:47,239 --> 00:48:49,960
Speaker 4: beauty needs because she's using it for her. KIDS i

1085
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:52,440
Speaker 4: would hope it's, That and if it, is that she

1086
00:48:52,480 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 4: could share that with. ME i can't help her IF

1087
00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 4: i don't know why she needs, help which is you

1088
00:48:56,800 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 4: just got to be curious to, me, like let's have

1089
00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:01,959
Speaker 4: a conversation about. This what exactly can you not pay?

1090
00:49:01,960 --> 00:49:02,919
Speaker 4: For what do you need help?

1091
00:49:02,960 --> 00:49:03,040
Speaker 5: With?

1092
00:49:03,360 --> 00:49:08,160
Speaker 4: Right another just open. Conversation ye be, curious. MAN i

1093
00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:10,560
Speaker 4: did say in my post that her kids are taken care.

1094
00:49:10,600 --> 00:49:13,239
Speaker 4: Of they have never missed out on, anything AND i

1095
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:15,879
Speaker 4: was never called upon to pay for anything for them

1096
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:18,480
Speaker 4: except for the home we all live, in the utilities

1097
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:20,839
Speaker 4: they used in the home we live, in and the

1098
00:49:20,880 --> 00:49:23,200
Speaker 4: food they are free to eat anytime in the home

1099
00:49:23,320 --> 00:49:27,480
Speaker 4: we live. IN i also bought birthday Gifts christmas gifts for,

1100
00:49:27,520 --> 00:49:29,800
Speaker 4: them same as my wife did for my. Kids prior

1101
00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:33,120
Speaker 4: to this being stirred. Up my wife knew the arrangement

1102
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:36,239
Speaker 4: with my ex prior to. Marriage she didn't show any

1103
00:49:36,239 --> 00:49:39,280
Speaker 4: aversion to. It she, is in, fact admired the civil

1104
00:49:39,320 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 4: relationship we were able to. MAINTAIN i know that the

1105
00:49:42,719 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 4: co parenting RELATIONSHIP i have with my ex is not,

1106
00:49:45,160 --> 00:49:49,440
Speaker 4: usual is in fact. UNUSUAL i have family and friends

1107
00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:52,319
Speaker 4: that struggle with co parenting with their, Exes so my

1108
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:55,080
Speaker 4: wife's relationship with the ex didn't send up any red.

1109
00:49:55,080 --> 00:49:59,480
Speaker 4: Flags comments in this very post suggest toxic relationships people

1110
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:02,719
Speaker 4: have with that or reference what they witness slash experienced

1111
00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:06,600
Speaker 4: with their own divorce. Partners red flags don't always show,

1112
00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:10,400
Speaker 4: themselves and, frankly people can. Change my wife now is

1113
00:50:10,480 --> 00:50:13,840
Speaker 4: not my wife from even a year. AGO i don't

1114
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:18,640
Speaker 4: financially support my. EX i support my kids in everything they. Need,

1115
00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:21,279
Speaker 4: YES i contribute to my ex's rent BECAUSE i want

1116
00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 4: my kids in a decent apartment in a decent, neighborhood

1117
00:50:24,280 --> 00:50:26,759
Speaker 4: and my ex can't afford that without my. HELP i

1118
00:50:26,800 --> 00:50:29,160
Speaker 4: also want my kids to eat nutritious, meals SO i

1119
00:50:29,160 --> 00:50:31,120
Speaker 4: give my ex money to make sure they're getting fresh

1120
00:50:31,200 --> 00:50:34,040
Speaker 4: vegetables and fruits so they can eat meat and fish

1121
00:50:34,120 --> 00:50:36,960
Speaker 4: that's not processed or comes in a. Can and this

1122
00:50:37,080 --> 00:50:39,440
Speaker 4: means she's home and time to cook for our. Kids

1123
00:50:40,200 --> 00:50:43,040
Speaker 4: my ex doesn't have to work, long exhausting hours to

1124
00:50:43,040 --> 00:50:45,080
Speaker 4: live in a crap apartment in a crap part of,

1125
00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:48,640
Speaker 4: town or fill my kids up on crap food for convenience,

1126
00:50:48,680 --> 00:50:52,120
Speaker 4: sake which is all like the very positive, things.

1127
00:50:52,000 --> 00:50:52,520
Speaker 1: And it's quite.

1128
00:50:52,520 --> 00:50:54,480
Speaker 4: That op he's doing. That, yeah that sounds very. Responsible,

1129
00:50:54,560 --> 00:50:57,799
Speaker 4: yeah that they live well eat well is important to.

1130
00:50:57,840 --> 00:51:01,160
Speaker 4: Me the same goes with their, schooling the extra, curriculars

1131
00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:04,600
Speaker 4: their health, needs anything and everything they. NEED i don't

1132
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:06,440
Speaker 4: pay it for it all on my, own but BECAUSE

1133
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:08,400
Speaker 4: i pay WHAT i, do my kids can have the

1134
00:51:08,400 --> 00:51:11,640
Speaker 4: best their mother AND i can afford before anyone, Asks,

1135
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:14,520
Speaker 4: yes my step kids also get the same good home

1136
00:51:14,600 --> 00:51:17,480
Speaker 4: and good food from. Me i'm not filling them up

1137
00:51:17,520 --> 00:51:20,160
Speaker 4: on fast food and stacks that have little nutritional value

1138
00:51:20,239 --> 00:51:22,879
Speaker 4: while my kids get proper. Food by the, way if

1139
00:51:22,920 --> 00:51:25,640
Speaker 4: you watch Us live every weekday at three PM, pst

1140
00:51:26,000 --> 00:51:27,440
Speaker 4: you can get nutritional value.

1141
00:51:27,520 --> 00:51:33,040
Speaker 5: Too just tap her Pop vole's like mental nutritional value

1142
00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:34,360
Speaker 5: and there is a little bit.

1143
00:51:34,440 --> 00:51:36,799
Speaker 4: Left but do you have any final thoughts on?

1144
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:42,080
Speaker 5: THIS i, honestly it's like scary to think, that like

1145
00:51:42,640 --> 00:51:45,399
Speaker 5: your partner could be like the same one, year, yeah

1146
00:51:45,480 --> 00:51:47,239
Speaker 5: and then the next which is completely.

1147
00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:51,440
Speaker 4: Different, Yeah like that's that's, crazy especially when like circumstances

1148
00:51:51,480 --> 00:51:54,960
Speaker 4: and financial circumstances. Change it's very easy for a person

1149
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:58,160
Speaker 4: to switch up on things that they may have been

1150
00:51:58,239 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 4: totally chill with about. Before BUT i, MEAN i guess

1151
00:52:01,560 --> 00:52:06,120
Speaker 4: that MEANS i would hope it means that they're you

1152
00:52:06,160 --> 00:52:08,879
Speaker 4: can reason with. THEM i would a switch, Back, yeah

1153
00:52:09,040 --> 00:52:11,360
Speaker 4: maybe Can maybe they're just like there is a chance

1154
00:52:11,440 --> 00:52:16,600
Speaker 4: that she's just really feeling a lot of anxiety and

1155
00:52:17,120 --> 00:52:21,000
Speaker 4: over you, know over, reacting and you can just talk

1156
00:52:21,040 --> 00:52:23,799
Speaker 4: her down with a calm conversation about what we can

1157
00:52:23,840 --> 00:52:27,160
Speaker 4: do to fix the finance like finances and help your kids.

1158
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:27,359
Speaker 1: Out.

1159
00:52:28,520 --> 00:52:32,120
Speaker 4: Yeah but, yeah, yeah hopefully this is just a rough

1160
00:52:32,160 --> 00:52:33,880
Speaker 4: time in her. Life, yeah and.

1161
00:52:33,800 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 5: She doesn't know exactly how to handle it in a healthy,

1162
00:52:35,960 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 5: way but she can figure that, out and you can

1163
00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:39,920
Speaker 5: learn that through positive.

1164
00:52:39,920 --> 00:52:43,600
Speaker 4: Communication, YES i really don't see why the AMOUNTS i

1165
00:52:43,600 --> 00:52:46,160
Speaker 4: give my ex for my kids. MATTERS i would give

1166
00:52:46,160 --> 00:52:48,720
Speaker 4: my kids one hundred percent of my paycheck if they needed,

1167
00:52:48,760 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 4: it even if that MEANT i have to live in

1168
00:52:51,040 --> 00:52:53,560
Speaker 4: my car and cook ramen on a bututane burner in

1169
00:52:53,600 --> 00:52:57,000
Speaker 4: a park at. Night that's a really good. Dad that's really.

1170
00:52:57,000 --> 00:52:59,719
Speaker 4: Sweet not that that would ever happen my, ex but

1171
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:01,719
Speaker 4: me sleep on our couch if it ever came to.

1172
00:53:01,760 --> 00:53:03,799
Speaker 4: That as for MY ax and why we broke, up

1173
00:53:03,880 --> 00:53:07,480
Speaker 4: sometimes things don't work out for whatever. Reason sometimes people

1174
00:53:07,480 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 4: get along much better as friends than they do as a.

1175
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:12,960
Speaker 4: Couple from the Comments i've, read because there are already

1176
00:53:12,960 --> 00:53:15,120
Speaker 4: too many for me to get through right, now no

1177
00:53:15,160 --> 00:53:17,920
Speaker 4: one is saying anything about my step kids apart from

1178
00:53:18,000 --> 00:53:20,080
Speaker 4: they need to get. JOBS i want to say that

1179
00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:22,680
Speaker 4: my step kids are great. Kids just putting that out,

1180
00:53:22,680 --> 00:53:25,280
Speaker 4: there and that is the end of that. Story oh, wow,

1181
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:28,400
Speaker 4: Man so we don't know If opie's had the conversation,

1182
00:53:28,640 --> 00:53:30,960
Speaker 4: yeah to fix the relationship he ad and the argument

1183
00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:32,799
Speaker 4: that he had WITH i really hope there's like an

1184
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:35,399
Speaker 4: update at some. POINT i really hope figure that. OUT

1185
00:53:36,280 --> 00:53:37,960
Speaker 4: i hope that he walks it back and is, like,

1186
00:53:38,080 --> 00:53:41,360
Speaker 4: hey cause she's being unreasonable and asking him not to.

1187
00:53:41,400 --> 00:53:45,800
Speaker 4: Pay but, also you, know unreasonable can be sometimes reason.

1188
00:53:45,840 --> 00:53:48,560
Speaker 4: With but, yeah that's. Crazy, YEAH i. HOPE i hope

1189
00:53:48,560 --> 00:53:51,279
Speaker 4: everything works. OUT i don't think you're the a Whole.

1190
00:53:51,360 --> 00:53:54,760
Speaker 5: OPIE i, mean maybe certain comments could be said a different.

1191
00:53:54,800 --> 00:53:58,680
Speaker 5: Way maybe maybe, yeah but BUT i do think she's

1192
00:53:58,719 --> 00:54:01,080
Speaker 5: mostly being the unreasonable why, yeah the, SITUATION.

1193
00:54:00,800 --> 00:54:03,440
Speaker 4: I think a whole, Comment but you're not like the

1194
00:54:03,520 --> 00:54:05,000
Speaker 4: overall ehle on the. Situation.

1195
00:54:05,280 --> 00:54:05,480
Speaker 1: Right.

1196
00:54:05,719 --> 00:54:08,359
Speaker 4: Yeah, Yeah but that's the end of that. Story so

1197
00:54:08,719 --> 00:54:10,160
Speaker 4: we'll see you next.

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Speaker 5: SPONSORS i refuse to be intimate with my husband after

1202
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Speaker 5: we opened our.

1203
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Speaker 4: Marriage ooh that's what you? Get did you get she

1204
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00:54:35,719 --> 00:54:38,800
Speaker 4: twenty eight, female and my, husband thirty five, male tie

1208
00:54:38,840 --> 00:54:41,600
Speaker 4: the knot between. Us he has two kids from his previous.

1209
00:54:41,640 --> 00:54:44,520
Speaker 4: Marriage he and his ex wife are co. Parenting they're.

1210
00:54:44,560 --> 00:54:47,600
Speaker 4: KIDS i really love the. Kids one of the major

1211
00:54:47,640 --> 00:54:50,239
Speaker 4: factors WHY i got married with him was. KIDS i

1212
00:54:50,280 --> 00:54:52,399
Speaker 4: have reasons for. That by the, way this comes from

1213
00:54:52,440 --> 00:54:55,560
Speaker 4: deleted on The okay Storytime separate. It my father passed

1214
00:54:55,600 --> 00:54:58,800
Speaker 4: away WHEN i was. Fifteen my mom wasn't so highly,

1215
00:54:58,920 --> 00:55:02,920
Speaker 4: educated so with the less education, qualification she couldn't provide

1216
00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:05,920
Speaker 4: for me and my other three younger brothers all. Alone

1217
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:10,279
Speaker 4: SO i started to do part time. JOBS i, babysat

1218
00:55:10,440 --> 00:55:14,640
Speaker 4: cleaned people's, yards took out pets for, walks did assignments

1219
00:55:14,800 --> 00:55:18,239
Speaker 4: for my. CLASSMATES i earned really little amount of money with,

1220
00:55:18,280 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 4: that but it helped my family. Slightly WHEN i was,

1221
00:55:21,560 --> 00:55:24,680
Speaker 4: SEVENTEEN i took a food delivery. Job one night around

1222
00:55:24,680 --> 00:55:27,080
Speaker 4: ten to, ELEVEN i was dropping food off at the

1223
00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 4: other side of the. CITY a wasted driver hit my

1224
00:55:29,560 --> 00:55:32,960
Speaker 4: bicycle AND i got into a terrible. Accident the driver

1225
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:35,040
Speaker 4: needed to pay a large fine for that since my

1226
00:55:35,120 --> 00:55:38,080
Speaker 4: condition was very. CRITICAL i had a lot of internal

1227
00:55:38,120 --> 00:55:42,240
Speaker 4: bleeding and. Damage so because of that, accident my doctor

1228
00:55:42,280 --> 00:55:44,600
Speaker 4: confirmed that in the future the chances of me getting

1229
00:55:44,600 --> 00:55:49,920
Speaker 4: pregnant were way. Less oh that that's really. Sad it

1230
00:55:49,960 --> 00:55:51,960
Speaker 4: will be a miracle for me to have my own.

1231
00:55:52,040 --> 00:55:54,839
Speaker 4: KID i was at the lowest part of my life

1232
00:55:54,920 --> 00:55:57,319
Speaker 4: because of that. ACCIDENT i couldn't go out to do

1233
00:55:57,400 --> 00:56:00,440
Speaker 4: my work on my. Own my family took care of.

1234
00:56:00,480 --> 00:56:03,440
Speaker 4: ME i took. Me it took me around eight months

1235
00:56:03,480 --> 00:56:06,640
Speaker 4: to get. Well at, FIRST i didn't mind having a childless,

1236
00:56:06,640 --> 00:56:09,239
Speaker 4: life but WHEN i started to notice my friends were having,

1237
00:56:09,280 --> 00:56:13,560
Speaker 4: FAMILY i realized the beauty of. Motherhood SO i started

1238
00:56:13,600 --> 00:56:16,880
Speaker 4: dating guys with. Kids my husband was my second. Boyfriend

1239
00:56:17,160 --> 00:56:19,520
Speaker 4: we tied the knot after we dated for ten. Months

1240
00:56:19,640 --> 00:56:21,759
Speaker 4: WHEN i got, married his son was eleven and his

1241
00:56:21,840 --> 00:56:24,600
Speaker 4: daughter was. SEVEN i got along with them. Well it

1242
00:56:24,680 --> 00:56:26,960
Speaker 4: took them a few months before they started to call

1243
00:56:27,000 --> 00:56:30,440
Speaker 4: me MoMA on their. Own, oh that's really, sweet that's so.

1244
00:56:30,600 --> 00:56:32,719
Speaker 4: CUTE i left my job to be the stay at

1245
00:56:32,719 --> 00:56:35,799
Speaker 4: home mom for. Them, HONESTLY i adore. THEM i have

1246
00:56:35,840 --> 00:56:39,200
Speaker 4: a really good relationship with their bio mom. Too AFTER,

1247
00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:42,120
Speaker 4: covid we went To belgium for a second anniversary in

1248
00:56:42,200 --> 00:56:45,120
Speaker 4: twenty twenty. One the trip was great AND i remember

1249
00:56:45,160 --> 00:56:48,200
Speaker 4: feeling so. Loved the day before we were supposed to

1250
00:56:48,280 --> 00:56:51,440
Speaker 4: come back to our, home he proposed the idea of

1251
00:56:51,560 --> 00:56:55,919
Speaker 4: opening our. MARRIAGE whoa for your anniversary. TRIP i would

1252
00:56:55,960 --> 00:56:59,480
Speaker 4: be like to not seemingly to not expect that and

1253
00:56:59,560 --> 00:57:02,640
Speaker 4: just get that kind of thrown at. You, YEAH i

1254
00:57:02,640 --> 00:57:05,560
Speaker 4: would be. HEARTBROKEN i Would, yeah me. Too IF i

1255
00:57:05,600 --> 00:57:08,040
Speaker 4: SAY i was, hurt it would be an. UNDERSTATEMENT i

1256
00:57:08,080 --> 00:57:11,359
Speaker 4: couldn't look him in the eyes without feeling hollow and.

1257
00:57:11,480 --> 00:57:15,200
Speaker 4: SORROW i said no multiple times after coming back from the,

1258
00:57:15,200 --> 00:57:19,360
Speaker 4: trip but he kept. Persistent, discussed unless you are both

1259
00:57:19,520 --> 00:57:22,959
Speaker 4: enthusiastic about an, opening about opening your, marriage you can't

1260
00:57:22,960 --> 00:57:27,080
Speaker 4: do it. Anything. Yeah after a couple of, WEEKS i

1261
00:57:27,120 --> 00:57:28,560
Speaker 4: gave up no and.

1262
00:57:28,680 --> 00:57:29,040
Speaker 2: Agreed.

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00:57:29,360 --> 00:57:30,000
Speaker 4: Ugh oh.

1264
00:57:30,040 --> 00:57:30,840
Speaker 1: No he set the.

1265
00:57:30,920 --> 00:57:33,520
Speaker 4: TERMS i don't remember most of, it but few of

1266
00:57:33,520 --> 00:57:37,040
Speaker 4: his terms were never shared this information with. Others we

1267
00:57:37,080 --> 00:57:41,000
Speaker 4: can't date our exes or, friends no emotional attachment with our,

1268
00:57:41,000 --> 00:57:44,560
Speaker 4: partners and always use. PROTECTION i. Don't i'm not a

1269
00:57:44,560 --> 00:57:48,080
Speaker 4: fan of the never sharing it with. Others, YEAH i don't,

1270
00:57:48,480 --> 00:57:50,960
Speaker 4: like never share that you're in an open. Marriage, Yeah,

1271
00:57:51,000 --> 00:57:54,040
Speaker 4: LIKE i feel, like BECAUSE i think every person involved

1272
00:57:54,040 --> 00:57:57,360
Speaker 4: should be made aware of the. Circumstance i'm assuming maybe

1273
00:57:57,400 --> 00:58:02,000
Speaker 4: the like affair partners will. Know, yeah the, partners Like i'm,

1274
00:58:02,040 --> 00:58:04,680
Speaker 4: thinking even not saying it to like friends or.

1275
00:58:04,720 --> 00:58:08,200
Speaker 5: FAMILY i think that's especially when it. Hurts, YEAH i

1276
00:58:08,240 --> 00:58:08,720
Speaker 5: just don't like.

1277
00:58:08,760 --> 00:58:09,280
Speaker 1: THAT i don't.

1278
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:11,720
Speaker 4: Know, YEAH i don't think it's. Fair in his, words

1279
00:58:11,800 --> 00:58:14,400
Speaker 4: he still loves. Me he only opened the marriage because

1280
00:58:14,440 --> 00:58:16,640
Speaker 4: he wanted to gain experience and use it on our.

1281
00:58:16,680 --> 00:58:21,000
Speaker 4: Marriage that is such a lame, excuse that really. Is he's, like, no, no,

1282
00:58:20,880 --> 00:58:23,080
Speaker 4: NO i just wanted to like practice with other people

1283
00:58:23,200 --> 00:58:24,919
Speaker 4: SO i could be a better husband for. You, yeah

1284
00:58:24,920 --> 00:58:26,440
Speaker 4: it's all for, you but it's just for, you for.

1285
00:58:26,560 --> 00:58:29,920
Speaker 4: YOU i remember going to sleep crying and. HURTS i

1286
00:58:29,960 --> 00:58:31,720
Speaker 4: gave up on my job to take care of him

1287
00:58:31,720 --> 00:58:35,400
Speaker 4: and the, Kids yet he yearned for the. Woman we became.

1288
00:58:35,480 --> 00:58:38,680
Speaker 4: Distant he noticed that and tried to initiate intimacy with,

1289
00:58:38,760 --> 00:58:41,680
Speaker 4: me BUT i didn't feel anything at. ALL i just

1290
00:58:41,760 --> 00:58:44,960
Speaker 4: lay there until he was. Done that's oh so sad.

1291
00:58:45,120 --> 00:58:48,720
Speaker 4: GOSH i also distanced myself from him the idea of

1292
00:58:48,800 --> 00:58:51,240
Speaker 4: him having intimacy with another woman while being in a

1293
00:58:51,240 --> 00:58:55,040
Speaker 4: marriage with me disgusted. ME i couldn't look at him

1294
00:58:55,040 --> 00:58:57,720
Speaker 4: in the same WAY i used. To we always have

1295
00:58:57,840 --> 00:59:00,000
Speaker 4: our location on SO i could see where he was

1296
00:59:00,160 --> 00:59:04,120
Speaker 4: going a those you start me a lot UNTIL i

1297
00:59:04,160 --> 00:59:07,160
Speaker 4: became completely numb at this point NOW i don't see

1298
00:59:07,200 --> 00:59:09,480
Speaker 4: him as my, husband but SOMEONE i tied notts with

1299
00:59:09,600 --> 00:59:12,400
Speaker 4: to be a. Mother last, YEAR i told HIM i

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00:59:12,400 --> 00:59:14,880
Speaker 4: want to start work. Again he got, defensive kind. Of

1301
00:59:15,280 --> 00:59:17,200
Speaker 4: he tried to use a lot of reasons to show

1302
00:59:17,280 --> 00:59:19,600
Speaker 4: WHY i can't. Work when he saw all of his

1303
00:59:19,680 --> 00:59:22,600
Speaker 4: tricks were going, downhill he pulled the kids into the.

1304
00:59:22,640 --> 00:59:25,480
Speaker 4: Mess he KNEW i had a saw spot for his.

1305
00:59:25,600 --> 00:59:28,440
Speaker 4: KIDS i didn't back down that. Time he gave me

1306
00:59:28,520 --> 00:59:30,360
Speaker 4: the cold shoulder and went on a trip with one

1307
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:33,280
Speaker 4: of his. GIRLFRIENDS i applied to be a teacher at

1308
00:59:33,280 --> 00:59:36,240
Speaker 4: my brother's high. School, also that sounds like an emotional

1309
00:59:36,400 --> 00:59:38,800
Speaker 4: judgment going on a trip with one of your you,

1310
00:59:38,840 --> 00:59:42,080
Speaker 4: know open marriage, partners Right, like it's not just like

1311
00:59:42,080 --> 00:59:43,840
Speaker 4: a hook, up it's a. Girlfriend it it sounds like a,

1312
00:59:43,880 --> 00:59:46,560
Speaker 4: girlfriend and it sounds like that's a violation of one

1313
00:59:46,600 --> 00:59:50,560
Speaker 4: of your. Rules he is the youngest of all of

1314
00:59:50,560 --> 00:59:54,160
Speaker 4: my siblings and a. SOPHOMORE i am teaching chemistry in his.

1315
00:59:54,200 --> 00:59:56,440
Speaker 4: School my husband was mad at me for having a

1316
00:59:56,480 --> 00:59:58,520
Speaker 4: job for a few, months but he gave. UP i

1317
00:59:58,560 --> 01:00:01,400
Speaker 4: started to give myself alone. Time since the kids have

1318
01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:05,160
Speaker 4: extra curricular, activities they don't always stay at. HOME i

1319
01:00:05,200 --> 01:00:07,200
Speaker 4: have a friend circle from high. SCHOOL i hung out

1320
01:00:07,240 --> 01:00:09,720
Speaker 4: with him every two. WEEKS i met a guy in my.

1321
01:00:09,760 --> 01:00:12,840
Speaker 4: Workplace he's twenty, nine has three kids with his late.

1322
01:00:12,880 --> 01:00:16,800
Speaker 4: Wife one, DAY i ranted about my whole. Situation he

1323
01:00:16,880 --> 01:00:20,040
Speaker 4: showed interest in me after. That he is a nice.

1324
01:00:20,080 --> 01:00:22,640
Speaker 4: GUY i went on a few dates with. Him nothing

1325
01:00:22,680 --> 01:00:25,840
Speaker 4: physical happened between. US i Think i'm relying on him

1326
01:00:25,840 --> 01:00:29,480
Speaker 4: for mental support since he's very supportive of. ME i

1327
01:00:29,520 --> 01:00:31,920
Speaker 4: haven't felt something like that for a long time in

1328
01:00:31,960 --> 01:00:34,760
Speaker 4: my life. NOW a few days, AGO i went to

1329
01:00:34,800 --> 01:00:38,000
Speaker 4: the salon and cut my hair short into shoulder. Length

1330
01:00:38,480 --> 01:00:42,400
Speaker 4: my husband complimented me multiple. Times that, day the kids

1331
01:00:42,440 --> 01:00:45,680
Speaker 4: went to the grandparents' house for summer, vacation but during

1332
01:00:45,720 --> 01:00:50,040
Speaker 4: the night he tried to initiate. Intimacy, WELL i straight

1333
01:00:50,120 --> 01:00:52,640
Speaker 4: up said. No for the first. TIME i think he

1334
01:00:52,680 --> 01:00:55,240
Speaker 4: got taken. Aback he had a mix of a few

1335
01:00:55,280 --> 01:00:58,440
Speaker 4: expressions THAT i can't put a finger. On he started

1336
01:00:58,480 --> 01:01:00,439
Speaker 4: to use the husband guard on, me AND i put

1337
01:01:00,440 --> 01:01:03,840
Speaker 4: my foot down and said. No we had a huge

1338
01:01:03,960 --> 01:01:08,120
Speaker 4: argument and he. LEFT i saw his. Location he went

1339
01:01:08,160 --> 01:01:09,200
Speaker 4: to one of his girlfriend's.

1340
01:01:09,200 --> 01:01:10,120
Speaker 1: Place i'm.

1341
01:01:10,400 --> 01:01:15,000
Speaker 5: Upset she just this is literally, like that's like he did,

1342
01:01:15,040 --> 01:01:18,240
Speaker 5: this he did. This but also it's, like even if

1343
01:01:18,280 --> 01:01:20,160
Speaker 5: they didn't have an open, marriage even if they weren't

1344
01:01:20,160 --> 01:01:22,800
Speaker 5: having a h never you should never be you, know,

1345
01:01:22,920 --> 01:01:25,240
Speaker 5: yeah like the fact yeah, yeah like the fact that

1346
01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:27,680
Speaker 5: she doesn't want to do anything into that right.

1347
01:01:27,680 --> 01:01:29,320
Speaker 4: Now she'd never make her feel bad for.

1348
01:01:29,360 --> 01:01:29,440
Speaker 2: That.

1349
01:01:29,760 --> 01:01:30,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, no that's.

1350
01:01:30,760 --> 01:01:34,960
Speaker 5: Terrible like he's getting mad at her not wanting to

1351
01:01:35,000 --> 01:01:35,640
Speaker 5: like come, on.

1352
01:01:35,920 --> 01:01:39,160
Speaker 4: Yeah especially after like months of just not engaging with

1353
01:01:39,200 --> 01:01:42,120
Speaker 4: her at all or you, know trying taking an interest

1354
01:01:42,160 --> 01:01:44,400
Speaker 4: in her at. All and now he comes back he's, like,

1355
01:01:44,440 --> 01:01:48,320
Speaker 4: oh well NOW i want. It it's like she's, like, no,

1356
01:01:48,320 --> 01:01:51,000
Speaker 4: NOW i am stuck between two. Thoughts even IF i

1357
01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:54,160
Speaker 4: don't feel anything towards, him he's still my. HUSBAND i

1358
01:01:54,200 --> 01:01:56,800
Speaker 4: can't share this with, Anyone SO i need advice on,

1359
01:01:56,880 --> 01:01:59,440
Speaker 4: this and there is an, update but do you have

1360
01:01:59,440 --> 01:01:59,720
Speaker 4: any more?

1361
01:01:59,720 --> 01:02:03,120
Speaker 5: Advice, yes just because he's your husband doesn't mean you

1362
01:02:03,120 --> 01:02:05,760
Speaker 5: have to do anything, Exactly, like there's no husband card to.

1363
01:02:05,800 --> 01:02:08,520
Speaker 4: Play you don't owe him. Anything yeah that you don't

1364
01:02:08,560 --> 01:02:11,960
Speaker 4: want to. Give, yeah like come, On, yeah and maybe

1365
01:02:12,280 --> 01:02:15,320
Speaker 4: he shouldn't be your. Husband last NIGHT i made a

1366
01:02:15,360 --> 01:02:19,320
Speaker 4: post about my current situation in my. MARRIAGE i asked

1367
01:02:19,360 --> 01:02:23,880
Speaker 4: for a non biased. View almost three hundred people responded

1368
01:02:23,920 --> 01:02:26,880
Speaker 4: and gave me. ADVICE i couldn't respond to all of

1369
01:02:26,920 --> 01:02:29,480
Speaker 4: that SINCE i was overwhelmed with a lot of. Emotions

1370
01:02:29,760 --> 01:02:32,760
Speaker 4: there is a few THINGS i want to. Clarify, FIRSTLY

1371
01:02:33,000 --> 01:02:35,440
Speaker 4: i met my husband after my graduation WHEN i was

1372
01:02:35,480 --> 01:02:38,320
Speaker 4: looking for a. JOB i made things official with him

1373
01:02:38,400 --> 01:02:41,600
Speaker 4: AFTER i had the. Job we dated for ten months

1374
01:02:41,640 --> 01:02:44,680
Speaker 4: before getting. Married, secondly his ex wife and he were

1375
01:02:44,800 --> 01:02:47,360
Speaker 4: child with sweethearts who married each other when they were in.

1376
01:02:47,440 --> 01:02:51,080
Speaker 4: College after the birth of their second, child they realized

1377
01:02:51,120 --> 01:02:53,280
Speaker 4: they don't have the same, bond so they got divorced

1378
01:02:53,320 --> 01:02:56,000
Speaker 4: and have fifty to fifty. Custody so he's at least

1379
01:02:56,040 --> 01:02:56,680
Speaker 4: probably in his.

1380
01:02:56,720 --> 01:02:58,720
Speaker 5: THIRTIES i wonder if they didn't have the same bond

1381
01:02:58,720 --> 01:03:02,080
Speaker 5: because he asked for an open. Marriage, yeah that's a good.

1382
01:03:02,160 --> 01:03:05,840
Speaker 4: Question, thirdly a few people on my previous post asked

1383
01:03:05,840 --> 01:03:09,320
Speaker 4: me to make things official with my. COWORKER i would

1384
01:03:09,400 --> 01:03:12,400
Speaker 4: do that When i'm. Ready, currently my mental health isn't

1385
01:03:12,400 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 4: in the best. Position i'm working on. It, PLUS i

1386
01:03:15,240 --> 01:03:18,840
Speaker 4: can't have intimacy with anyone WHOM i barely. Know we've

1387
01:03:18,880 --> 01:03:21,640
Speaker 4: been coworkers about almost a, year but Still i'm not

1388
01:03:21,680 --> 01:03:24,600
Speaker 4: ready to make things all. Good, lastly those who Say

1389
01:03:24,640 --> 01:03:27,560
Speaker 4: i'm using spicy sleep as a, punishment it's quite the.

1390
01:03:27,600 --> 01:03:31,920
Speaker 4: Opposite he barely comes. Home and also withholding spicy, sleep

1391
01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:35,720
Speaker 4: is that that is your right as a. Person, yes

1392
01:03:36,640 --> 01:03:38,920
Speaker 4: he is always out with the kids or his. Girlfriends

1393
01:03:39,360 --> 01:03:42,000
Speaker 4: would love to add he doesn't have one but three,

1394
01:03:42,120 --> 01:03:44,640
Speaker 4: girlfriends and, yes all of them are aware of my.

1395
01:03:44,680 --> 01:03:48,920
Speaker 4: Existence now to the. Update last, NIGHT i made a

1396
01:03:48,920 --> 01:03:51,280
Speaker 4: post about the current situation of my marriage with my,

1397
01:03:51,400 --> 01:03:53,880
Speaker 4: husband asking IF i would be the a hole IF

1398
01:03:53,880 --> 01:03:57,040
Speaker 4: i refuse to have. Intimacy he hasn't come back in

1399
01:03:57,080 --> 01:04:00,880
Speaker 4: the last three days or contacted. Me the kids talk

1400
01:04:00,960 --> 01:04:03,680
Speaker 4: with me. DAILY i had a few conversations with their

1401
01:04:03,680 --> 01:04:07,600
Speaker 4: bio mom. Too they're over at her parents'. Place, HONESTLY

1402
01:04:07,640 --> 01:04:10,000
Speaker 4: i thought he'll get over it or won't bother me

1403
01:04:10,080 --> 01:04:12,960
Speaker 4: for a long. TIME i was wrong as. Heck during,

1404
01:04:13,040 --> 01:04:15,320
Speaker 4: lunch my mom came over to visit. Me she asked

1405
01:04:15,360 --> 01:04:17,920
Speaker 4: if everything was okay between me and my. HUSBAND i

1406
01:04:17,920 --> 01:04:21,480
Speaker 4: didn't lie this time and straight up said. No we

1407
01:04:21,520 --> 01:04:24,080
Speaker 4: had a long conversation about my marriage AND i was

1408
01:04:24,120 --> 01:04:28,120
Speaker 4: relieved after. That it felt so good after sharing everything with.

1409
01:04:28,200 --> 01:04:31,120
Speaker 4: Her i'm not ashamed to ADMIT i cried like a

1410
01:04:31,200 --> 01:04:34,600
Speaker 4: kid in her arms while explaining. Everything she stayed with

1411
01:04:34,680 --> 01:04:37,320
Speaker 4: me the entire. Day she called one of my younger,

1412
01:04:37,360 --> 01:04:40,960
Speaker 4: brothers twenty, six and told him. Everything IF i say

1413
01:04:41,040 --> 01:04:45,000
Speaker 4: he was, mad it'd be an. Understatement he asked why

1414
01:04:45,040 --> 01:04:47,400
Speaker 4: the HECK i suffered that much and scolded Me for

1415
01:04:47,400 --> 01:04:51,040
Speaker 4: a couple of. Minutes without my mom and, BROTHER i

1416
01:04:51,200 --> 01:04:54,520
Speaker 4: packed my. Stuff, YES i think this is the, solution

1417
01:04:54,680 --> 01:04:56,920
Speaker 4: because he is not treating you. Well you are not,

1418
01:04:57,040 --> 01:04:59,920
Speaker 4: Happy you just gotta, leave get it out of. THERE

1419
01:05:00,240 --> 01:05:01,840
Speaker 4: i didn't leave with any of the stuff he got.

1420
01:05:01,880 --> 01:05:06,480
Speaker 4: Me by the, way you should never leave our lives

1421
01:05:06,560 --> 01:05:08,720
Speaker 4: because you can join them every day at THREE pmpst

1422
01:05:08,840 --> 01:05:10,640
Speaker 4: on YouTube just to have her profile and there is

1423
01:05:10,680 --> 01:05:13,160
Speaker 4: a little bit. Left but when is your advice for?

1424
01:05:13,200 --> 01:05:16,040
Speaker 4: OPE i think she's doing. IT i think she's doing.

1425
01:05:16,040 --> 01:05:17,440
Speaker 4: IT i think she's doing she's getting out Of my

1426
01:05:17,520 --> 01:05:19,640
Speaker 4: advice was, divorce and you're taking.

1427
01:05:19,680 --> 01:05:20,160
Speaker 1: It there you.

1428
01:05:20,240 --> 01:05:22,320
Speaker 4: Go, yeah she's doing.

1429
01:05:22,320 --> 01:05:23,040
Speaker 1: Great, yeah good.

1430
01:05:23,080 --> 01:05:25,680
Speaker 4: Job i'm so sorry that this is all. Happening, yeah your,

1431
01:05:25,760 --> 01:05:26,360
Speaker 4: husband that is on.

1432
01:05:26,440 --> 01:05:26,640
Speaker 1: Him.

1433
01:05:26,920 --> 01:05:31,360
Speaker 4: Yep AND i would say, again anyone whose partner has

1434
01:05:31,800 --> 01:05:34,240
Speaker 4: brought up open, marriage if, again if you were not

1435
01:05:34,280 --> 01:05:37,040
Speaker 4: one hundred percent on board and you're feeling like a

1436
01:05:37,040 --> 01:05:40,040
Speaker 4: little bit achy about, it Or i'm, sure just say,

1437
01:05:40,080 --> 01:05:42,000
Speaker 4: NO i don't want to do. That and if this

1438
01:05:42,040 --> 01:05:45,880
Speaker 4: is the ultimatum for continuing our, relationship then, yeah most

1439
01:05:46,000 --> 01:05:48,280
Speaker 4: likely we will get a divorce, soon WHICH i think

1440
01:05:48,400 --> 01:05:52,080
Speaker 4: is the best. SOLUTION i texted a short message she was,

1441
01:05:52,200 --> 01:05:55,200
Speaker 4: number thanking him for being my husband AND i won't

1442
01:05:55,200 --> 01:05:58,400
Speaker 4: be continuing the marriage, anymore along with some personal stuff between.

1443
01:05:58,480 --> 01:06:02,000
Speaker 4: Us with the help my friend and. Family, CURRENTLY i

1444
01:06:02,040 --> 01:06:04,360
Speaker 4: am finding a. LAWYER i don't know how long it'll

1445
01:06:04,400 --> 01:06:06,680
Speaker 4: take me to finally get out of the. MARRIAGE i

1446
01:06:06,760 --> 01:06:09,760
Speaker 4: left the house around evening and sent the message around.

1447
01:06:09,840 --> 01:06:13,560
Speaker 4: Seven after, THAT i muted his. NUMBER i also told

1448
01:06:13,560 --> 01:06:15,760
Speaker 4: his ex wife about, this and needless to, say she

1449
01:06:15,920 --> 01:06:18,920
Speaker 4: was as shocked as everyone because he wasn't like. That

1450
01:06:19,400 --> 01:06:21,480
Speaker 4: she assured me that even after, divorce she will let

1451
01:06:21,480 --> 01:06:25,760
Speaker 4: me see the. Kids all that's. Nice i'm really grateful

1452
01:06:25,760 --> 01:06:28,360
Speaker 4: for that. Part divorcing him will be easy since we

1453
01:06:28,480 --> 01:06:32,560
Speaker 4: always had separate. ACCOUNTS i have little savings BEFORE i

1454
01:06:32,600 --> 01:06:35,520
Speaker 4: get on my own feats, PROPERLY i will be staying

1455
01:06:35,560 --> 01:06:38,400
Speaker 4: with my mom in our old. HOUSE i turned off

1456
01:06:38,440 --> 01:06:41,200
Speaker 4: my location before leaving his, house but it won't be

1457
01:06:41,240 --> 01:06:44,040
Speaker 4: long until he figures out WHERE i. Am he is

1458
01:06:44,120 --> 01:06:46,800
Speaker 4: currently messaging, me BUT i am not strong enough to

1459
01:06:46,840 --> 01:06:49,880
Speaker 4: open them and read, them SO i haven't responded or

1460
01:06:49,960 --> 01:06:54,960
Speaker 4: read his. Messages and that is the end of that. Story, wow,

1461
01:06:55,000 --> 01:06:57,240
Speaker 4: man oh, Man, wow you know WHAT i. THINK i

1462
01:06:57,280 --> 01:06:59,880
Speaker 4: think all's, well that ends, well even though it, hurts

1463
01:07:00,280 --> 01:07:02,960
Speaker 4: and it's gonna take you some time to move on from. This,

1464
01:07:03,080 --> 01:07:07,720
Speaker 4: YEP i think this is the best. Case, yeah you'll

1465
01:07:07,720 --> 01:07:10,200
Speaker 4: find someone. Better you seems like you might have already

1466
01:07:10,200 --> 01:07:10,720
Speaker 4: found someone.

1467
01:07:10,760 --> 01:07:14,040
Speaker 5: Better, true, True and it's good for you for putt

1468
01:07:14,040 --> 01:07:17,439
Speaker 5: your foot down in stand enough for. Yourself puts your foot.

1469
01:07:17,480 --> 01:07:20,600
Speaker 5: Down but that's the end of that story and also

1470
01:07:20,640 --> 01:07:22,840
Speaker 5: the end of this. Episode oh look at. That so

1471
01:07:23,240 --> 01:07:25,760
Speaker 5: if you love, us make sure to. Subscribe we love

1472
01:07:25,840 --> 01:07:27,080
Speaker 5: you and see you.

1473
01:07:27,160 --> 01:07:27,720
Speaker 4: Tomorrow