1 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached 2 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheekyes Podcast. I'm here 3 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: to give you advice on anything and everything you need 4 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,480 Speaker 1: help with, whether you're going through a breakup or having 5 00:00:31,560 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: issues with your family, or maybe you have a question 6 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want 7 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in 8 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue 9 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:45,560 Speaker 1: or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional. 10 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 1: All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at 11 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 1: the sound of the. 12 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 2: beeB, Hi, honey, how are you? Baby? So I wonder 13 00:00:56,000 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 2: which was your inspiration to write Good Morning Buenos Dias 14 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:06,319 Speaker 2: because it reggae song and I was reprised. I was like, 15 00:01:06,440 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 2: oh my god, singing reggae, this is amazing. But why 16 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:15,319 Speaker 2: did you decide to do our reggae song? Which reggae 17 00:01:15,520 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 2: artists do you like? And yeah, that's my question. I 18 00:01:19,480 --> 00:01:22,679 Speaker 2: love you so much, baby from San Los Potos in Mexico, 19 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:33,240 Speaker 2: camas as. 20 00:01:29,360 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 1: Yo Valentina on beso as the San Luis Potosi that 21 00:01:36,640 --> 00:01:40,399 Speaker 1: tho the pasta I have gone but in and out. 22 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:44,840 Speaker 1: I hope I'm able to go out there and sing, 23 00:01:45,040 --> 00:01:49,360 Speaker 1: especially with this new music, Flor Milma and talking about 24 00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:54,160 Speaker 1: Flores Mi Alma. Good Morning, Buenos Dias, don't hit my face. Yeah, 25 00:01:54,240 --> 00:01:59,880 Speaker 1: I'm feeling great. Good morning Bueno zis. It's because it's 26 00:01:59,880 --> 00:02:02,560 Speaker 1: a happy song. I wanted a happy song, and I 27 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:06,360 Speaker 1: love reggae. So first I thought about Bob Marley when 28 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:09,880 Speaker 1: I recorded this song, because I have been a Bob 29 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 1: Marley fan for years forever, and actually as in Barrett Junior, 30 00:02:15,840 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 1: he is on this song with me, and he's from 31 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 1: the Whalers, you know, Bob Marley and the Whalers, So 32 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 1: that's freaking amazing. That's why it's very authentic. I wanted 33 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 1: it to be like real reggae. I wanted it to 34 00:02:26,720 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 1: not be when you when you do something like that 35 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 1: and step out of your genre that much, you have 36 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:33,840 Speaker 1: to make sure you do it right. So I am 37 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:35,800 Speaker 1: so blessed to have him on the song. 38 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 2: It was. 39 00:02:38,919 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 1: Nomos Perroke t es God Mornings, good Morning, and I'm 40 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:56,640 Speaker 1: always using other people's songs, so I thought, why not 41 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 1: make my own good morning song, a very cheerful, happy song. 42 00:02:59,639 --> 00:03:01,640 Speaker 1: With that the kids, I thought about something that just 43 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:04,359 Speaker 1: makes you feel good. You start the day going to work, 44 00:03:04,400 --> 00:03:07,359 Speaker 1: going to the gym, outside, watering your plants, whatever it 45 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:08,519 Speaker 1: is that you do, and you put it on and 46 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:10,359 Speaker 1: it just puts you in a good mood. So I'm 47 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:11,960 Speaker 1: so happy to know that you love it. Thank you 48 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:16,359 Speaker 1: so much for listening to it. It means a lot. Valentina, 49 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:25,799 Speaker 1: I'm amaz men. Okay, guys. Our next question comes from 50 00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: an anonymous listener. 51 00:03:27,680 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 2: Let's see, Hi, tikis. 52 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 3: I am newly married and just wanted to see if 53 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 3: you had any advice on combining finances and any tips 54 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:41,600 Speaker 3: or tricks on saving up. I'm also in California, so 55 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:44,280 Speaker 3: it is very expensive and we really do want to 56 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:46,640 Speaker 3: save up for a house. I just wanted to ask 57 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 3: how it was for you to combine the finances, you know, 58 00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 3: once starting a life together with somebody. 59 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 1: Thank you, Hi, I love your question, and thank you 60 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 1: so much for trusting me enough to give you advice. 61 00:03:59,920 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 1: I'm also newly married and in my first marriage finances 62 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:08,720 Speaker 1: and that whole conversation was very difficult to have, and 63 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 1: thank goodness for that relationship, I was able to learn 64 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 1: what I wanted, what I didn't want, what I was 65 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:17,320 Speaker 1: going to do differently in this marriage, and what we 66 00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:21,320 Speaker 1: decided was that we are a team. We're on the 67 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: same team, but we're still our individual selves and we 68 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:29,279 Speaker 1: are not at the point right now where we necessarily 69 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:33,240 Speaker 1: share our accounts or what we have in our accounts 70 00:04:33,240 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 1: and our bank accounts. But we do have a joint account. 71 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:38,120 Speaker 1: So he has his money, I have my money, and 72 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:41,400 Speaker 1: then we have a joint account where he puts X 73 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:43,640 Speaker 1: amount of money a month and so do I and 74 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: in that account we don't touch it. That could be 75 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 1: for our vacations, for our date nights, and emergency fund. 76 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:53,960 Speaker 1: So that account itself also has a savings account, so 77 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:56,320 Speaker 1: we put like fifty one hundred whatever it is that 78 00:04:56,360 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 1: we're feeling or we can do that month. He'll put 79 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 1: some in, output some in, and that's just like an 80 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:05,680 Speaker 1: emergency fund for our household. We also file our taxes 81 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 1: as married, just filing separately, and that works for us, 82 00:05:09,560 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: you know. And he pays groceries here and there. If 83 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 1: I go to the grocery store and I spent five 84 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:17,839 Speaker 1: hundred bucks, I'll send him a picture of the receipt 85 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 1: and then he'll send me two hundred, two hundred and 86 00:05:20,160 --> 00:05:21,920 Speaker 1: fifty or I just say, hey, can you send me 87 00:05:21,920 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 1: tw hundred bucks? I went to the grocery store and 88 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:28,000 Speaker 1: just to make things feel fair and even I think 89 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:30,599 Speaker 1: it's just a conversation just to have upfront. And I 90 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:32,120 Speaker 1: love that you guys want to save up for a house. 91 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:33,960 Speaker 1: So I think the best thing to do would be 92 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 1: to open up a joint account and you put in 93 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:39,440 Speaker 1: some money he does too. Maybe even if he does 94 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 1: a little bit more and you're better with finances, that's 95 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:43,520 Speaker 1: okay too. It does it matter at the end of 96 00:05:43,520 --> 00:05:45,560 Speaker 1: the day, does it matter who puts in more? This 97 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 1: is your guys is together, and yeah, make sure you 98 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:51,680 Speaker 1: have a little rainy day account. And it doesn't even 99 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:53,040 Speaker 1: have to be a lot. It could be twenty bucks 100 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:56,719 Speaker 1: a month, a week, whatever works for you, guys, and 101 00:05:56,760 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: that could be your household fund. So yeah, I hope 102 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:03,160 Speaker 1: I answered your question, and if you have any other questions, 103 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:07,679 Speaker 1: please let me know. But finances is always tricky in relationships, guys. 104 00:06:07,720 --> 00:06:10,640 Speaker 1: It's just always a thing. It makes one or the 105 00:06:10,720 --> 00:06:16,279 Speaker 1: other both very uncomfortable. But it's very important. Finances, sex, communication, 106 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: all of it is part of it. So I hope 107 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 1: that you guys can do that and I hope you 108 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:24,440 Speaker 1: guys get your house soon. And Amen sending you guys 109 00:06:24,480 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 1: a lot of vibes, good vibes house hunting vibes. Thank 110 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:37,159 Speaker 1: you so much for your question. All right, our last 111 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:38,839 Speaker 1: question comes from Joey. 112 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:42,360 Speaker 4: Hey, Ticky's wanted to give you an update from the 113 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:46,560 Speaker 4: question you gave me about my girlfriend and I having kids. 114 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 4: We decided to break it off, but thank god, we 115 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:52,680 Speaker 4: decided to remain cordial and friendly with each other, so 116 00:06:52,720 --> 00:06:55,599 Speaker 4: that takes care of that. One question I do have 117 00:06:55,720 --> 00:07:00,160 Speaker 4: for you, what's your favorite thing about Christmas? And what tradition, 118 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:03,800 Speaker 4: if any, do you have past and or current that 119 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:06,120 Speaker 4: you deal with your siblings. I just wanted to know 120 00:07:06,279 --> 00:07:09,560 Speaker 4: because I've watched I Love Jenny recently we're regarding to 121 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 4: Christmas episodes, and I just wanted to know how things 122 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 4: would have played out differently had this drama not ensued, 123 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 4: you know. Thank you so much. Shiki's love you and 124 00:07:19,400 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 4: sorry for sounding congested just this same this has been 125 00:07:22,640 --> 00:07:25,280 Speaker 4: taking over on me. Christ Yes the kettle. 126 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:29,560 Speaker 1: Well, my Joey, I hope you're feeling better. You did 127 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 1: sound a little stuffy, but it's all good. I hope 128 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:36,880 Speaker 1: you are feeling better now. But in regard to the update, 129 00:07:36,920 --> 00:07:41,040 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you for the update. I am sorry 130 00:07:41,040 --> 00:07:43,000 Speaker 1: that it didn't work out, but also I love that 131 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:45,480 Speaker 1: you guys are cordial and you guys were mature enough 132 00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 1: to come to this agreement together, because again, it's only 133 00:07:48,440 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 1: fair for you guys to speak about these very hard 134 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 1: conversations and you can love someone without them having or 135 00:07:55,480 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 1: being your soulmate, you know what I mean. So now, 136 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:02,239 Speaker 1: in regard to your question, the other question, the Christmas one, 137 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:04,160 Speaker 1: I am happy to say that my siblings and I 138 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:07,440 Speaker 1: are in a much better place. We had an amazing 139 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving for Christmas, though we're not going to be together. 140 00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:13,960 Speaker 1: I decided to do things differently this year for the 141 00:08:13,960 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 1: first time in my entire life. So that's going to 142 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 1: be different, but I think I'm ready for it. We 143 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:25,000 Speaker 1: are a little bummed, all of us, but I'm excited 144 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:27,560 Speaker 1: to start these new traditions with my husband. And with 145 00:08:27,640 --> 00:08:31,120 Speaker 1: that being said, if we would have stayed home, Emilio 146 00:08:31,120 --> 00:08:35,360 Speaker 1: and I I always like to cook my posole and 147 00:08:35,400 --> 00:08:37,679 Speaker 1: I love to host. It is my absolute favorite thing 148 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 1: to do is host and see my home filled with 149 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:43,000 Speaker 1: people that I love and my nieces and nephews, so 150 00:08:43,360 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 1: that's always fun. It's very stressful to host because I 151 00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:48,240 Speaker 1: don't know how to sit down and like I'm constantly 152 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 1: like asking people if they need anything, if they're okay, 153 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:52,440 Speaker 1: did they like the food? So that's just who I am, 154 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:54,200 Speaker 1: and I think it frustrates a medio a little bit, 155 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:57,280 Speaker 1: which I could understand. So for sure I would be 156 00:08:57,280 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: making my green posolem. We'd all be in Pj's matching 157 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:02,520 Speaker 1: because we need to take, you know, a Christmas picture. 158 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:05,160 Speaker 1: It's important. And we play a bunch of games and 159 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 1: the kids by like ten o'clock, they're like, when is 160 00:09:07,240 --> 00:09:09,480 Speaker 1: there going to be twelve? Because we love opening up 161 00:09:09,520 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 1: our gifts at exactly twelve. We all say a prayer 162 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:18,120 Speaker 1: before we start opening gifts, and the games we play 163 00:09:18,160 --> 00:09:20,320 Speaker 1: are super fun, like a bunch of family games that 164 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:23,320 Speaker 1: you know are funny and make you feel silly from TikTok. 165 00:09:23,360 --> 00:09:26,120 Speaker 1: I usually get them from TikTok, but anyway, so we 166 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:29,280 Speaker 1: say a prayer before opening gifts and then each kid 167 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:31,880 Speaker 1: opens a gift at the same time and we all 168 00:09:31,960 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 1: just get excited and stuff, and then from there we 169 00:09:34,440 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 1: go with each kid. It takes a while. It's a 170 00:09:36,640 --> 00:09:39,720 Speaker 1: very long process. We're probably done around like three am. 171 00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 1: But it's fun. 172 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:41,280 Speaker 4: You know. 173 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:43,439 Speaker 1: It's like the only really the only time of the 174 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:45,200 Speaker 1: year that we stay up that late, all of us 175 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:47,920 Speaker 1: together as a family, so it's really fun. And then 176 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:50,079 Speaker 1: some leave, some stay on the couch. They come back 177 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 1: the next day for theento. So yeah, that's basically what 178 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:57,680 Speaker 1: we do. And you know, Jackie will make tamalz, Jennka 179 00:09:57,720 --> 00:10:00,240 Speaker 1: will make all the desserts. The boys will just eat eat, 180 00:10:00,760 --> 00:10:03,320 Speaker 1: so it's fun. And then we like baking cookies with 181 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:05,559 Speaker 1: the kids. That's like our favorite thing to do is baking. 182 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:07,800 Speaker 1: We love baking with the kids while we're waiting for 183 00:10:07,920 --> 00:10:12,160 Speaker 1: twelve because it's so long for them. So anyway, those 184 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:15,160 Speaker 1: are our little traditions. But maybe one day I can 185 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:18,120 Speaker 1: do a full episode on Cheekys and Chill about this 186 00:10:18,160 --> 00:10:21,719 Speaker 1: particular topic. But thank you so much, Joey, thank you Valentina, 187 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:24,320 Speaker 1: and to our anonymous listener, thank you so much for 188 00:10:24,360 --> 00:10:26,080 Speaker 1: your questions. I hope I was able to help and 189 00:10:26,120 --> 00:10:27,840 Speaker 1: make you happy and make you smile the way you 190 00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 1: make me smile. I am grateful for you. 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