WEBVTT - Alexis Bellino Is Talking I Do Part 2's! 0:00:05.760 --> 0:00:16.280 Hi everyone, It's I Do Part two and it's Alexis 0:00:16.280 --> 0:00:19.279 Billino here. You might know me from Real Housewives of 0:00:19.320 --> 0:00:22.880 Orange Counties, and I am so excited. 0:00:22.360 --> 0:00:24.360 To be here with my friend today. 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:29.120 Galina Sakowska from McBee Dynasty, and we are here to 0:00:29.160 --> 0:00:31.760 talk all things love the second time around. 0:00:32.200 --> 0:00:36.840 Galina, Hi good, I'm good. 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:40.720 It's fun to We've never been in this port platform 0:00:40.720 --> 0:00:42.720 before together, so this is kind this is gonna be awesome. 0:00:43.479 --> 0:00:45.360 Is actually will be awesome. 0:00:45.600 --> 0:00:47.720 You followed me around a lot during all this wedding 0:00:47.760 --> 0:00:50.920 celebration stuff, so we've we've had a lot of discussions 0:00:50.960 --> 0:00:53.800 about all this. But for the viewers that don't know 0:00:54.240 --> 0:00:56.160 You're and I, you know what television shows we've been 0:00:56.200 --> 0:00:58.760 on in our past, let's break it down. 0:00:58.640 --> 0:01:02.080 Just a little bit. Give them a little hiss about our. 0:01:01.960 --> 0:01:05.240 Love life, so like, how have you been married? How 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:06.520 many children. 0:01:06.400 --> 0:01:07.200 Do you have? 0:01:07.480 --> 0:01:10.320 And then we're gonna have to get into the good 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:14.000 stuff about like what's happening today with your love life. 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:15.399 Let's do that. 0:01:15.480 --> 0:01:19.400 So yeah, actually, yes, I have been married once for 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:24.600 ten years. I do have one absolutely extraordinary child. She 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:29.039 is just started her law school in University of Nebraska. 0:01:29.120 --> 0:01:32.760 She is twenty three, believe it or not. 0:01:33.160 --> 0:01:36.959 Yeah, a little wild sorry about me about my past life, 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:39.040 and you know, I'm more excited about the future. 0:01:39.880 --> 0:01:42.120 Well, it's also when you say twenty three year old, like, 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:43.800 you don't even look old enough to have a twenty 0:01:43.840 --> 0:01:46.240 three year old. So I'm like, anytime I meet my children, 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:48.240 I'm like, oh gosh, I can't believe I can say 0:01:48.280 --> 0:01:49.520 I have someone in college. 0:01:49.800 --> 0:01:51.280 I know, right, I feel. 0:01:51.040 --> 0:01:53.520 Like I'm still in college, Galina. 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:57.240 We always in college, you know. It's also life was 0:01:57.400 --> 0:01:58.960 like permanent college. 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:03.960 I feel like, yeah, so my background as we know 0:02:04.040 --> 0:02:06.560 is well, you know because you've been following me around though, 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:10.360 But I am walking down the aisle in a very 0:02:10.720 --> 0:02:13.520 few days. I'm not going to say exactly how many 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:15.040 are you ready, Galina? 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:16.640 Do you have your gown? That's what I need to know. 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:21.000 Oh my god. Actually, I have quite a few conversations 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:21.919 with all of your friends. 0:02:21.919 --> 0:02:24.920 We are planning it all like the most exciting time 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:26.359 of my year. 0:02:28.440 --> 0:02:32.160 Just letting you know that. 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:32.920 That's awesome because there's a lot of surprises we have 0:02:33.000 --> 0:02:34.760 for you guys in store. This is more of a 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:39.160 This wedding is more of a party than you know, 0:02:39.200 --> 0:02:43.080 we're not doing the Donna like you know traditional, so 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:45.440 it's going to be a lot of fun around the 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:46.440 around every corner. 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:50.040 So I'm excited anyway. But it is, it is, it is. 0:02:50.080 --> 0:02:53.120 I'm starting to get nervous now because it's not my 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:54.800 second time around, you know that, Galina. 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:57.160 Even though this is I Do Part two, for me, 0:02:57.280 --> 0:03:02.600 this is I do part three. Okay, So I was married. 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:04.520 I know you know this, but I was married one 0:03:04.560 --> 0:03:06.720 time before my Jim. 0:03:06.800 --> 0:03:06.880 So. 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:09.440 I had my high school college. 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:12.440 Sweetheart that I married for a year at like twenty three, 0:03:12.720 --> 0:03:14.560 got to twenty four. I could have probably gotten it 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:17.440 and old, but we did not. And then I met Jim. 0:03:17.560 --> 0:03:19.480 So I was with the father of my children for 0:03:19.520 --> 0:03:24.480 fourteen years and then lo and behold, I meet John, 0:03:24.600 --> 0:03:29.079 who I was just breaking up with another fiance, and 0:03:29.280 --> 0:03:32.200 three months later and strolls John. So it was the 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:35.960 timing on mine for my I do part two is 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:38.280 like really bizarre. And I fought it for a while 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:40.240 and then I was just like, you know what, when 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:42.040 you might when you find the guy or the guy 0:03:42.080 --> 0:03:44.400 find you, I feel like it's more like they find you, 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:47.080 don't you. I feel like the guys find the girls 0:03:47.120 --> 0:03:48.160 when it's like I don't know. 0:03:48.240 --> 0:03:49.840 I didn't have to seek him out. It was like 0:03:49.920 --> 0:03:50.480 he found me. 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:52.560 This is what you know. 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:55.520 Those are all the questions I have for you, because 0:03:56.040 --> 0:03:57.040 like I literally was. 0:03:57.000 --> 0:03:57.880 Married one time. 0:03:58.160 --> 0:04:02.000 You know, I'm coming from completely different cultural background, and 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:05.200 I want to have all this knowledge and all this 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:08.520 experience because sometimes I just wonder. 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:10.600 I'm like, you know, I've been married only one time. 0:04:10.920 --> 0:04:12.520 I don't have a ton of relationship. 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:15.920 I'm so looking forward to all of the ad vices. 0:04:16.040 --> 0:04:19.400 I have a billion of questions for you because I 0:04:19.400 --> 0:04:21.200 feel like I still have the chance. 0:04:21.600 --> 0:04:21.880 Girl. 0:04:21.960 --> 0:04:24.240 You cannot tell me people are not You cannot tell 0:04:24.279 --> 0:04:26.320 me people are not asking you for your phone number 0:04:26.440 --> 0:04:28.279 or asking you on dates when you're out my little 0:04:28.440 --> 0:04:30.280 I call you. I tell all my friends, I call 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:36.000 you my Russian Missouri friend, because you know I've so 0:04:36.240 --> 0:04:38.719 you know, I'm headed back to my farm in a 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:41.360 couple of weeks, and you're coming to see my little 0:04:41.880 --> 0:04:44.280 podunk farm and I don't have time to stop my 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:46.560 your ranch or oh, I don't know if you guys 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:46.919 call it up. 0:04:46.960 --> 0:04:48.440 I guess it is McBee farm. 0:04:48.240 --> 0:04:53.600 But yours is glamorous Okay, you're coming to my neck 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:56.000 of the woods, and I think my family owned only 0:04:56.040 --> 0:04:58.080 like four thousand acres, but we're in a town that's 0:04:58.120 --> 0:05:01.520 like three hundred people, and we had most of the 0:05:01.600 --> 0:05:03.480 land and it's been in our family for like two 0:05:03.560 --> 0:05:05.280 hundred and seventy years. 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:06.680 I don't know, something like that. 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:09.040 So yeah, so you're gonna come see that, Glina, and 0:05:09.080 --> 0:05:09.680 then the next one. 0:05:09.800 --> 0:05:12.520 Going to and we're going to bring the whole new 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:13.559 flair to the farm. 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:17.480 Okay, can you bring one of your really cool tracks? 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:17.960 We need that. 0:05:18.680 --> 0:05:24.120 Yeah, you know, I got you covered. I'll give you 0:05:24.160 --> 0:05:25.680 the best truck available. 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:27.800 Okay, thanks, I want to drive around in one of 0:05:27.839 --> 0:05:28.680 those I do. 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:33.120 Oh, I'm going to make you. Yeah, we're gonna have 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:34.320 a lot of fun on the farm. 0:05:35.240 --> 0:05:37.520 Okay, So what would be what would be one of 0:05:37.520 --> 0:05:40.000 your questions for that? You said you have so many then, 0:05:40.040 --> 0:05:42.320 because I I don't feel like. 0:05:42.320 --> 0:05:44.839 I have all the knowledge, but I am getting married. 0:05:44.960 --> 0:05:49.040 So well, hey, you know, first of all, like tell 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:52.440 me like all about your engagements to John, Like how 0:05:52.560 --> 0:05:56.160 did you handle you know, this is the best advice 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:57.159 you can give me. 0:05:57.720 --> 0:06:01.680 Your entire relationship will us in a public eye not 0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:04.640 only that it was extremely difficult. You know, you got 0:06:04.640 --> 0:06:06.680 a lot of hate. How did you handle, like, how 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:07.719 did you deal. 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:08.839 With all of that? Well? 0:06:09.040 --> 0:06:12.200 I cried a lot. I hibernated a lot during that time. 0:06:12.640 --> 0:06:14.840 But the beauty and all of that was you know, 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:17.240 And the funny part about that is John and I 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:20.920 both knew like the reason we felt the attraction right away. 0:06:21.040 --> 0:06:23.599 We knew, oh gosh, we're in trouble. But we really 0:06:23.600 --> 0:06:25.720 did just stay on the phone until two o'clock in 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:29.279 the morning. It was plutonic. It was no, no, no, no. 0:06:29.520 --> 0:06:30.680 You know, we were like, no, we're not going to 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:32.960 go there. We're going to just be friends. And we 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:35.960 thought we could handle it. But you know, two to 0:06:36.040 --> 0:06:37.919 three weeks into it or a month, we was like 0:06:38.000 --> 0:06:40.839 we knew there was really no no getting. 0:06:40.600 --> 0:06:40.960 Out of it. 0:06:41.040 --> 0:06:44.120 But then, you know, we tried to keep it quiet 0:06:44.160 --> 0:06:47.240 and we snuck around for a little bit, and knowing 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:50.640 that America would scrutinize us and hate us well like 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:54.400 you know, the Bravo world, b Bravo fans would not 0:06:55.200 --> 0:06:58.080 like it at all. So we did hide for a 0:06:58.120 --> 0:07:01.599 little bit, and then people were sending things into TMZ 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:04.560 behind our back, and people there was even a paparazzi 0:07:04.600 --> 0:07:07.200 that came down to OC and like got us when 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:09.240 I was because they all knew where he lives, right 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:12.240 because of his relationship with Shannon, And they even got 0:07:12.280 --> 0:07:14.240 us going to church one day. So it was then 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:15.560 it came to the point where we had to make 0:07:15.560 --> 0:07:17.720 a statement and we came out, you know, and let 0:07:17.800 --> 0:07:22.120 America know. But I think once the hate really really started, 0:07:22.600 --> 0:07:25.840 that is what kind of drove John and I closer together, 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:27.640 to be honest, because I think that can either break 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:30.240 a relationship, just like a death of a loved one 0:07:30.240 --> 0:07:31.760 can make or break a relationship. 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:34.200 But like the scrutiny and the hate we. 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:38.840 Were getting, I think is part of what just made 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:41.480 our bond so much stronger because we're like, if we 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:43.200 can get through this, and every day we'd have to 0:07:43.240 --> 0:07:45.240 pick each other up, like don't turn on your phone, 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:47.880 don't read anything in the media, don't do any of that. 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:49.320 I think it really. 0:07:50.560 --> 0:07:53.920 Really helped our relationship flourish even more. Even that it 0:07:53.960 --> 0:07:55.600 sounds so weird, you know, cause it was a very 0:07:55.600 --> 0:07:57.320 stressful time, but it's. 0:07:57.280 --> 0:07:58.400 Kind of a beautiful love story. 0:07:58.400 --> 0:08:00.920 And I always said, I always said to everyone, just 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:03.800 give us time and if everyone really watches it, it's 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:06.560 a beautiful love story how we met and how we 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:11.040 persevered through very difficult season on a national television show. 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:16.480 So you know, and honestly, I am so humbled and 0:08:16.920 --> 0:08:19.480 so happy that I got to meet both of you 0:08:19.560 --> 0:08:22.320 and got to know you on a personal level because 0:08:22.320 --> 0:08:24.200 it completely changed my world too. 0:08:24.280 --> 0:08:29.440 So you know, obviously not only you guys had to. 0:08:31.360 --> 0:08:34.880 I mean, display all your true feelings in front of 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:37.960 everybody and stay true to yourself, and you know, like 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:43.839 it's an incredibly inspiring It gives me so much hope, 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:46.800 and like I have enormous respect for both of you. 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:51.000 A lot of people like sometimes just give up under 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:53.880 this type of pressure, and you just kept who you are, 0:08:54.000 --> 0:08:59.239 you know, like you felt those true feelings and. 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:02.400 I don't know, you guys are my complete role models. 0:09:02.640 --> 0:09:05.920 Like I'm looking after you. I'm like, I'm super grateful and. 0:09:05.880 --> 0:09:09.000 You guys giving me a hope that there is something 0:09:09.040 --> 0:09:11.880 that you know, maybe in the future in store for me. 0:09:12.760 --> 0:09:14.360 Well, so are you dating? 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:19.320 I am still recovering, to be honest, I mean, for 0:09:19.400 --> 0:09:22.199 anybody who did not see Season London, Season two of 0:09:22.280 --> 0:09:27.280 mcbe Dynasty and don't know my entire previous background. 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:31.160 I'm like I am right now, I'm just observing them. 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:33.600 That's why I have so many questions for you. And 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:37.960 you know, you've been such a role model and you 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:41.959 literally give me hope because you know, obviously, my entire 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:45.240 disaster of the relationship was also on a national TV 0:09:45.400 --> 0:09:48.680 and available to public, and I got I got an 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:50.800 enormous amount of support and I got a lot of 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:51.640 hate as well. 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:53.880 So but it's new to me. 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:58.839 So your advice, your guidance, everything that you guys experience 0:10:00.080 --> 0:10:01.360 and everything that. 0:10:02.120 --> 0:10:05.040 Kind of kept me going and you know giving me home. 0:10:05.160 --> 0:10:07.080 So so grateful for you. 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:10.200 Well you did you did do kind not not do 0:10:10.360 --> 0:10:14.520 You did go through something similar on the opposite, Like 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:17.840 I had a public relationship that began that was hated 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:20.520 so much, and you had a public breakup. 0:10:20.120 --> 0:10:22.280 That was very difficult. 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:23.960 So we kind of I mean, I think that is 0:10:24.040 --> 0:10:27.160 a lot of how we you and I became fast 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:29.720 friends too, not only because I mean, you are a 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:34.920 Missouri girl now, so we have those comment but I mean, 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:36.920 if you think about it, we both did have a 0:10:36.920 --> 0:10:41.760 lot of the same scrutiny and hate for two different reasons. 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:45.240 Ones a breakup and one's a relationship. But John really 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:49.560 is what helped get me through it because he I've 0:10:49.559 --> 0:10:51.440 never known a man like him, like he is just 0:10:51.600 --> 0:10:55.680 so he is. He knows his moral compass, he knows 0:10:55.679 --> 0:10:59.040 his integrity, he is just like he saw what he 0:10:59.160 --> 0:11:01.480 wanted and he came after it and he was like, 0:11:01.600 --> 0:11:03.520 I don't care about the public, I don't care what 0:11:03.559 --> 0:11:07.160 anyone else says. And he was just just a rock 0:11:07.280 --> 0:11:08.760 and such a force, you know. 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:13.480 And this is so freaking and this is why I 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:15.640 love you guys so much. I mean the moment when 0:11:15.760 --> 0:11:19.880 we we had the bridal shower on Newport and the 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:21.880 first time, you know, we kind of like hang out 0:11:21.880 --> 0:11:27.880 on a very casual in you know format, and I 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:32.840 saw him supporting you and like genuinely absolutely adoring you, 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:35.959 and I'm like, wow, I mean, I don't even know 0:11:36.040 --> 0:11:39.640 what that feels like. But I saw how authentic you 0:11:39.679 --> 0:11:43.280 guys relationship is and it just, I don't know, it 0:11:43.400 --> 0:11:44.800 just put me in such a good mood. 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:47.720 It made me so happy for both of you. And 0:11:47.800 --> 0:11:50.280 who cares what everybody thinks, you know, It's. 0:11:50.120 --> 0:11:52.360 It's at the end of the day, it's it's about 0:11:52.400 --> 0:11:52.839 you guys. 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:56.400 You know, it's about what makes you happy, and I 0:11:56.440 --> 0:11:57.680 am happy that you. 0:11:57.800 --> 0:11:59.800 Guys, at this point of. 0:11:59.760 --> 0:12:12.560 You it's easy to say, you know, who cares what 0:12:12.600 --> 0:12:16.000 everyone else thinks? Because I mean, that's John and I 0:12:16.040 --> 0:12:17.800 would have to wake up and tell ourselves that all 0:12:17.800 --> 0:12:20.760 the time. But then when you know, it starts bleeding 0:12:20.760 --> 0:12:23.679 into our children are getting affected by the negative comments. 0:12:23.720 --> 0:12:25.680 I have to turn all my comments off for three 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:28.440 months because there's so much hate. It's like, it's not 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:32.280 so easy to just go, oh, you know, who cares 0:12:32.280 --> 0:12:34.920 what America thinks? I mean, in the public eye, as 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:36.640 you know, Gileina, you have to kind of say that 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:38.560 no matter what. That kind of has to be your 0:12:38.880 --> 0:12:40.280 motto every day when you wake. 0:12:40.200 --> 0:12:41.440 Up, who cares? 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:44.200 The more haters we have, that means we're doing something right, 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:47.600 because if everybody just loves you, you're obviously a wishy washy. 0:12:47.679 --> 0:12:49.560 You don't have you don't have the things you stand for, 0:12:50.000 --> 0:12:51.400 Like you have to tell yourself all of that. 0:12:51.920 --> 0:12:53.920 But you know, and I. 0:12:53.840 --> 0:12:57.120 Often get asked like do I regret or have any 0:12:57.280 --> 0:12:58.959 insecurities or anything about the. 0:12:58.960 --> 0:13:02.640 Relationship, And it's like, I think, at the very. 0:13:02.520 --> 0:13:05.960 Beginning, I think, at the very beginning, when how big 0:13:06.200 --> 0:13:09.120 it exploded with the hate and how fast the hate 0:13:09.200 --> 0:13:12.520 came without anyone even giving us one chance. I went through, 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:16.240 you know, probably a week or two of really like questioning, 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:20.240 am I ready to do this? Is John really the 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:23.679 one and worth it? And is is it something I 0:13:23.679 --> 0:13:26.440 think I can handle? And you know, and then all 0:13:26.480 --> 0:13:29.440 I had to do Galina really was like I sat back. 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:31.400 I think one of the nights we didn't stay together 0:13:31.400 --> 0:13:33.040 because there's you know, we still keep kept both of 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:35.679 our homes. He lives in like twenty minutes from me, 0:13:36.160 --> 0:13:38.040 so it was one of the nights we weren't staying together, 0:13:38.080 --> 0:13:38.360 and I. 0:13:38.320 --> 0:13:40.640 Thought, Okay, this is what my life will be. I 0:13:40.679 --> 0:13:41.480 will be like this. 0:13:41.640 --> 0:13:44.199 I will not have him tomorrow come stay the night 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:46.199 with me. I won't be at his house. I mean, 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:48.160 that's what your future is going to look like. 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:52.840 So are you going to grow the balls? Let me 0:13:52.880 --> 0:13:55.080 just say to to make it through this? 0:13:55.280 --> 0:13:58.400 Or is it time to close the door and keep 0:13:58.440 --> 0:14:00.679 him as a friend and then America will like me again? 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:03.719 And I just thought, I can't. I can't picture a 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:05.880 day without him, you know, so I think I probably 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:06.240 even then. 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:07.360 Just picked up the phone and called him and talked 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:08.400 him till two o'clock. 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:10.959 Again in the morning. Again. I love it, And this 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:12.200 is why I love you, Sosia. 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:14.600 I mean, I know, like this is probably one of 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:16.760 those things that I wake up every morning I'm like, 0:14:16.840 --> 0:14:19.560 oh my God, and you know, I'm like, okay, I'm. 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:21.720 Just going to be me and you know, I'm just 0:14:22.240 --> 0:14:24.040 gonna make it through day. I'm not going to read 0:14:24.040 --> 0:14:25.200 any negative comments. 0:14:25.560 --> 0:14:26.640 And that's when you text me. 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:27.800 And then when I. 0:14:27.800 --> 0:14:30.640 Text you, you know, I'm like, hey, no, But then 0:14:30.680 --> 0:14:33.120 you also, I want you to keep remembering when it 0:14:33.120 --> 0:14:35.600 gets tough like that, text me and say I'm having 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:37.360 a bad day. This is one of the days that 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:39.120 it doesn't feel good because you know I've been there, 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:41.640 and I'm gonna I'm gonna either send you a Bible 0:14:41.640 --> 0:14:42.600 scripture or just give you. 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:45.000 A little oath of like, Okay, you can make it 0:14:45.000 --> 0:14:47.640 through it. You know it really is. This too Shall Pass? 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:49.840 This too Shall Pass is such a good saying for 0:14:50.000 --> 0:14:50.920 just everything. 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:52.400 But okay, I have a question for you. 0:14:52.720 --> 0:14:55.920 So what okay, if you if you had any friend 0:14:56.320 --> 0:14:59.000 that was going through like an ugly like the worst 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:01.040 part of the divorce, like they just found out or 0:15:01.080 --> 0:15:03.960 they just are just going through all the attorneys and 0:15:04.000 --> 0:15:05.200 doing the grunt. 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:07.920 Work of the divorce. What would your what would your 0:15:07.920 --> 0:15:08.360 advice be? 0:15:08.440 --> 0:15:11.280 Since you have been divorced after a ten year marriage, 0:15:11.320 --> 0:15:13.080 that's not just a quick little flame. 0:15:13.080 --> 0:15:15.920 You were married ten years and have a child also. 0:15:15.840 --> 0:15:18.680 My only child, right, yes, So. 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:21.000 What would your advice be? What would your one tip? 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:24.720 Just just focus on the future. Just focus on the future. 0:15:25.120 --> 0:15:29.800 Don't don't try to knock on the little thing that 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:31.400 you can get from. 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:32.280 You know, the past. 0:15:33.400 --> 0:15:36.440 I honestly, when I was going through that, I let 0:15:36.480 --> 0:15:39.840 everything go. I mean I knew it wasn't you know, 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:42.600 it was over. He was he is a great father 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:46.120 to my daughter. You know, we had a great marriage. 0:15:46.000 --> 0:15:47.960 You know, but abandon did not work out. 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:51.840 And what got me through it is just like focusing 0:15:51.840 --> 0:15:52.480 on the future. 0:15:52.640 --> 0:15:56.040 And yeah, it's it's definitely who's a difficult time of 0:15:56.200 --> 0:15:58.240 my life. I did not even know how to deal 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:00.560 with it. But focusing on the future that what got 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:00.960 me through. 0:16:01.640 --> 0:16:03.040 And you too, are amicable. 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:05.680 You and your ex are just so that the audience knows, 0:16:05.720 --> 0:16:07.840 because I don't think everyone knows our love stories. But 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:11.200 so you are amicable and co parented good. 0:16:11.240 --> 0:16:14.480 We are now. Yes, it took a minute to get 0:16:14.520 --> 0:16:18.680 to it, for sure. Yeah, but we are now and able. 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:21.240 To you know, come to my daughter's events together and 0:16:21.600 --> 0:16:23.560 you know, he texts me to check in and all 0:16:23.560 --> 0:16:24.000 that stuff. 0:16:24.080 --> 0:16:25.720 Yeah, it did take a minute. 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:30.640 And that was like, this is my biggest advice to everybody. 0:16:30.720 --> 0:16:33.720 You know, we we're growing at the different pace and 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:37.240 patterns in our life. We're coming from different cultures and sometimes, 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:39.640 you know, we think we are in love. You know, 0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:43.320 we have kids together. You know, sometimes it does not 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:46.800 work out, and it's it's okay, you know in some cases. 0:16:47.360 --> 0:16:50.120 But you know what is not okay is not to 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:53.040 be a co parent and not to support the kids. 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:56.080 If we had children together, let's be co parents. Let's 0:16:56.320 --> 0:17:00.280 be grown up and you know, work through things together 0:17:00.680 --> 0:17:02.840 and be supportive of our children. 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:05.960 You know, that's my biggest advice, Like, just be bigger 0:17:06.000 --> 0:17:07.720 than that. That's good. 0:17:07.800 --> 0:17:08.640 And I think that. 0:17:10.160 --> 0:17:12.679 I say this in any podcast I talk about love 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:14.600 because I am getting asked. I feel like I'm repeating 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:17.320 myself because I am still obviously in the media and 0:17:17.400 --> 0:17:19.879 doing interviews and people ask but they're so intrigued by 0:17:19.920 --> 0:17:21.800 the wedding and just everything about it. But so I 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:23.440 feel like I'm repeating myself, but I wanted to. I 0:17:23.440 --> 0:17:25.480 haven't said this to you, I don't think. But I 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:31.679 felt like when nobody goes down the aisle in a 0:17:31.680 --> 0:17:34.480 marriage thinking they're going to get divorced, nobody Nobody says 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:37.160 I can't wait to marry, pop out a couple kids, 0:17:37.160 --> 0:17:40.600 and then get a divorce. So the hardest part is 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:43.080 wrapping your brain around it and finally figuring out, Okay, 0:17:43.080 --> 0:17:44.639 it's not going to work out, which is what I 0:17:44.680 --> 0:17:48.000 had to do with mine because mine was you know, 0:17:48.359 --> 0:17:51.000 fourteen years and we were in therapy almost the whole time. 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:54.639 Oh wow, And and you know, I finally had to 0:17:54.680 --> 0:17:57.479 come to terms with you know, it's just not going 0:17:57.560 --> 0:17:57.840 to work. 0:17:57.880 --> 0:17:59.320 It's not going to work. And then I wanted to. 0:17:59.359 --> 0:18:00.320 I kept trying to in there. 0:18:00.359 --> 0:18:01.800 A couple more years, you know, you tell yourself, a 0:18:01.800 --> 0:18:03.560 couple more years, just get get the kids a little 0:18:03.560 --> 0:18:05.240 older exactly. 0:18:05.720 --> 0:18:08.000 My advice would be what I said a few minutes ago. 0:18:08.119 --> 0:18:10.520 My advice to anyone going through this is just know 0:18:10.640 --> 0:18:13.800 that this too shall pass. Like you think, I remember, 0:18:14.359 --> 0:18:15.760 I was a stay at home mom. You know, I 0:18:15.760 --> 0:18:17.399 know people don't agree with that. But Jim and I 0:18:17.440 --> 0:18:19.720 went into that marriage knowing. I mean, like he had 0:18:19.760 --> 0:18:22.399 me quit my job within a year because we were 0:18:22.440 --> 0:18:24.840 married fast, and then he wanted we both wanted to 0:18:24.840 --> 0:18:26.680 get pregnant right away because I was already twenty seven, 0:18:27.040 --> 0:18:32.560 so it was a very sped up relationship. But I didn't, 0:18:32.920 --> 0:18:35.280 you know, I autie has obviously thought I was going 0:18:35.320 --> 0:18:36.840 to stay married to this guy forever, and I. 0:18:38.480 --> 0:18:40.480 Went through with the whole stay. 0:18:40.280 --> 0:18:41.919 At home mom because I did want to be the 0:18:41.920 --> 0:18:43.600 mom that takes care of my kids. I did, like 0:18:43.640 --> 0:18:45.760 I didn't want to have a nanny, and I don't 0:18:45.760 --> 0:18:47.840 think either way is wrong. I mean, if you're a 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:50.520 dedicated worker and you're the breadwinner the family and you're 0:18:50.520 --> 0:18:52.840 a female, great good for you. If you're not and 0:18:52.840 --> 0:18:54.240 you want to be a stay at home mom, great 0:18:54.320 --> 0:18:56.600 good for you. So that's Jim and I went into 0:18:56.640 --> 0:19:00.000 that together thinking that. But then I remember the first 0:19:00.200 --> 0:19:05.439 day that we had split and I had to be 0:19:05.560 --> 0:19:08.320 alone without my kids for the first night, and it 0:19:08.359 --> 0:19:10.080 was our it was the first fifty to fifty kind 0:19:10.119 --> 0:19:12.199 of thing, and the paperwork wasn't done yet, our divorce 0:19:12.280 --> 0:19:15.560 wasn't finalized because that takes, you know, months, as everyone knows. 0:19:15.840 --> 0:19:18.480 But it was where we stopped living under one roof 0:19:18.480 --> 0:19:20.199 and we started calling nesting, right. 0:19:20.200 --> 0:19:21.800 We didn't want to disrupt the children, and I hadn't 0:19:21.800 --> 0:19:22.399 found a house yet. 0:19:22.440 --> 0:19:23.840 I knew I didn't want to stay in that house 0:19:23.880 --> 0:19:25.880 because I never liked the other house. 0:19:25.640 --> 0:19:26.119 We were living in. 0:19:26.240 --> 0:19:28.000 It was way too big and I felt an eerie 0:19:28.040 --> 0:19:30.359 spirit there. I just didn't like that house anyway. So 0:19:30.720 --> 0:19:32.800 I went and stayed at the Ritz Carlton at the time, 0:19:32.840 --> 0:19:34.640 it was, you know, and I was like, I am 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:37.240 just going to put myself in a nicer hotel and 0:19:37.359 --> 0:19:39.919 just you know, pamper myself. And I curled up in 0:19:39.920 --> 0:19:41.440 a ball and cried the whole night. I mean, that's 0:19:41.440 --> 0:19:44.320 all I did. I you know, paid for that gorgeous room, 0:19:44.320 --> 0:19:46.120 didn't use the pool, didn't use it, didn't do a. 0:19:46.080 --> 0:19:48.520 Thing, and just cried the whole night. But at least 0:19:48.520 --> 0:19:49.800 I was in a nice resort, you. 0:19:49.720 --> 0:19:52.400 Know, That's exactly I mean. 0:19:52.520 --> 0:19:54.240 It just it's the hardest thing. 0:19:54.359 --> 0:19:56.639 So I want parents to know, and even if you're 0:19:56.680 --> 0:19:59.159 not parents, that this two shall passed and you do 0:19:59.560 --> 0:20:01.879 get a over the hump of it, you know, the 0:20:02.480 --> 0:20:06.639 brutality and just not it's the brutality of the heartache. 0:20:06.240 --> 0:20:07.560 I guess is what I was trying to say. But 0:20:07.600 --> 0:20:08.840 it's just it's so painful. 0:20:09.040 --> 0:20:11.480 It really is, it really is. But it will pass. 0:20:11.680 --> 0:20:15.080 And then, you know, I'm a true believer into you know, 0:20:15.119 --> 0:20:18.000 everything happens for a reason, and you know all of 0:20:18.040 --> 0:20:21.120 our journeys and experiences are you know at the end, 0:20:21.200 --> 0:20:24.080 you know it will work out and it shall pass, 0:20:24.280 --> 0:20:27.640 and then we are on better adventures in life. Right, 0:20:27.960 --> 0:20:33.840 speaking of the better adventures in life, let's let's focus 0:20:33.840 --> 0:20:39.080 on those amazing festivities that we had about your beautiful 0:20:39.119 --> 0:20:40.040 future ahead of you. 0:20:41.280 --> 0:20:43.760 I'm done with all the hate and all this nonsense. 0:20:44.280 --> 0:20:48.080 Let's talk about celebrating you and John and everything that 0:20:48.960 --> 0:20:51.879 happened this year. Thank you so much for making me 0:20:51.920 --> 0:20:55.440 a part of it. Let's start with the retreat in Scottsdale. 0:20:55.480 --> 0:20:56.560 How fun was that? 0:20:57.600 --> 0:20:57.879 Well? 0:20:57.960 --> 0:21:00.160 I didn't realize we were going to have so many 0:21:00.480 --> 0:21:01.960 like shin digs. 0:21:01.640 --> 0:21:03.439 Before the wedding, you know what I mean, Like it 0:21:03.520 --> 0:21:03.800 was just. 0:21:03.720 --> 0:21:06.160 Like one thing and then the next thing, and and 0:21:06.440 --> 0:21:08.840 you know, I loved the nearly weds because we didn't 0:21:08.840 --> 0:21:12.439 really have the energy or the time really because it 0:21:12.480 --> 0:21:14.679 was coming up so fast to do you know, a 0:21:14.720 --> 0:21:17.359 bachelor bachelotte party. So that was kind of our way 0:21:17.400 --> 0:21:23.679 of bachelorette nearly weds. Is was our version of what 0:21:23.760 --> 0:21:25.600 a bachelor bachelorette party would be, is what I was 0:21:25.640 --> 0:21:28.200 trying to say. And so that's when we only took 0:21:28.240 --> 0:21:30.119 the six of us the Gillina. It was a very 0:21:30.160 --> 0:21:34.600 small group of us and we just went off to Vegas. Yes, 0:21:35.760 --> 0:21:37.680 but that was after the bridal retreat. But the only 0:21:37.760 --> 0:21:41.520 reason the bridal retreat happened is because this amazing designer 0:21:41.800 --> 0:21:47.840 was making a couture down for me, like like from scratch, 0:21:47.960 --> 0:21:50.479 like like we designed it together. And so I was 0:21:50.520 --> 0:21:52.840 so excited to take you guys to Scott still with me. 0:21:52.880 --> 0:21:54.440 I can't believe y'all jumped on bored. 0:21:54.440 --> 0:21:57.240 I'm like, I would love to miss that for him, 0:21:57.800 --> 0:22:00.000 And then I send it to my five closest friends 0:22:00.080 --> 0:22:02.680 and I was like Warren, and I'm like, Okay, this 0:22:02.720 --> 0:22:04.960 is fabulous, Jump on board, let's go. 0:22:05.720 --> 0:22:07.960 Thanks for all your critiques too. I needed all your. 0:22:07.880 --> 0:22:11.760 Advice on the gown. Even though I changed it a lot. 0:22:11.880 --> 0:22:13.680 You don't even know what it looks like now. 0:22:13.800 --> 0:22:19.560 I maybe should be surprised. I'm not gonna lie no thinking. 0:22:19.640 --> 0:22:21.720 I mean, all of that was so fresh and new 0:22:21.800 --> 0:22:25.680 to me because you know, obviously I had quite a 0:22:25.760 --> 0:22:29.119 roller coaster of life, so I wasn't spoiled with having 0:22:29.320 --> 0:22:33.120 amazing girlfriends that are getting married and having this, you. 0:22:33.080 --> 0:22:34.600 Know, second chance in life. 0:22:34.760 --> 0:22:37.840 And you know, again, like I said before, you're giving 0:22:37.880 --> 0:22:39.160 me so much hope and then. 0:22:39.720 --> 0:22:42.879 Including me in all of those awesome festivities. You know, 0:22:42.960 --> 0:22:49.800 obviously Scottsdale was amazing, and the shower in Newport. Absolutely 0:22:49.800 --> 0:22:50.119 loved it. 0:22:50.160 --> 0:22:53.159 I was I think, one, Okay, you guys are so 0:22:53.320 --> 0:22:54.159 done celebrating me. 0:22:54.200 --> 0:22:54.880 That's why I'm so. 0:22:54.920 --> 0:22:56.600 Glad I'm done celebrating you. 0:22:56.680 --> 0:23:01.359 Ever, this wedding is all about spoiling you guys. So 0:23:01.440 --> 0:23:03.119 that's I think that's why John and I are the 0:23:03.119 --> 0:23:06.680 most excited is because it's it's just a big party, 0:23:06.680 --> 0:23:10.240 and it's it's We've got a lot of surprises for you. 0:23:10.480 --> 0:23:12.480 So thank you for celebrating everything for me. 0:23:13.080 --> 0:23:15.480 I feel I've got like I feel like I'm like 0:23:16.760 --> 0:23:18.600 it's almost like people are gonna think I paid. 0:23:18.359 --> 0:23:19.159 You guys to come. 0:23:19.040 --> 0:23:19.520 Do it with me. 0:23:21.920 --> 0:23:24.240 How does someone have free festivities like that that all 0:23:24.240 --> 0:23:27.120 the girls come, you know, like here, hey, girls, come, 0:23:27.160 --> 0:23:28.960 I'll give you a thousand bucks, just come join me. 0:23:29.000 --> 0:23:34.640 You know, like, uh, the whole Las Vegas trip, Oh 0:23:34.680 --> 0:23:38.000 my god, I'm still like revisiting it all the time. 0:23:38.160 --> 0:23:40.160 Like and I and I really love. 0:23:40.040 --> 0:23:43.240 The idea that instead of like bachelor or bachelorette party, 0:23:43.560 --> 0:23:47.639 having that newly wet experience when we all kind of 0:23:47.680 --> 0:23:49.200 got together had you know. 0:23:49.280 --> 0:23:53.720 So much fun. The whole mini golf was a lot 0:23:53.760 --> 0:23:56.600 of fun. Actually, I loved it. I loved it so much. 0:23:57.440 --> 0:23:59.639 I'm like, when we were planning that, I'm like, I don't. 0:23:59.720 --> 0:24:01.440 I don't want to go to a night club. I'm 0:24:01.520 --> 0:24:03.680 forty eight, John sixty two, I. 0:24:03.640 --> 0:24:04.480 Mean I don't. 0:24:04.560 --> 0:24:06.119 We can do that on another time, but I just 0:24:06.160 --> 0:24:07.200 wanted to do something fun. 0:24:07.240 --> 0:24:10.360 And put putt is like, for anyone that doesn't go 0:24:10.560 --> 0:24:12.680 do that when they're in Vegas, I think they're missing out. 0:24:12.720 --> 0:24:14.680 And the darts, I really do believe. 0:24:14.720 --> 0:24:18.960 That that was just such a fun competitive I lost 0:24:19.000 --> 0:24:20.760 a big time to John and I was I was 0:24:20.920 --> 0:24:22.800 John doesn't golf, and I grew up on a. 0:24:22.800 --> 0:24:26.160 Golf like golfing with my parents. And I'm sitting there 0:24:26.200 --> 0:24:28.200 bragging to him for like three days. I'm like, I'm 0:24:28.200 --> 0:24:29.359 gonna kick your butt. 0:24:29.080 --> 0:24:32.240 At golf, you know, put pet golf and my first one, Galina, 0:24:32.480 --> 0:24:33.520 we were on two different teams. 0:24:33.520 --> 0:24:36.120 You were behind us or no, you were you were 0:24:36.119 --> 0:24:36.439 with us? 0:24:36.480 --> 0:24:37.840 No, you were right with you. 0:24:37.920 --> 0:24:39.280 Yeah we were with us yea, yeah, yeah, because I 0:24:39.640 --> 0:24:40.000 videoed you. 0:24:40.240 --> 0:24:42.080 Anyways, the first hole, I think you guys were on 0:24:42.320 --> 0:24:44.800 the whole two you and Spencer And first all I 0:24:44.880 --> 0:24:45.560 did amazing. 0:24:45.600 --> 0:24:47.920 I got like hole in one. I was here, now 0:24:48.119 --> 0:24:50.840 you are good. And then I lost by like ten 0:24:51.080 --> 0:24:52.959 or eight at the end of it. 0:24:53.040 --> 0:24:55.159 So at the end of the day, it was all 0:24:55.200 --> 0:24:57.840 about having fun. Yeah, you know what I got. I 0:24:57.920 --> 0:25:00.440 gifted too, but we can tend a bear. 0:25:00.760 --> 0:25:03.600 I really wanted to get that clone machine and get 0:25:03.600 --> 0:25:05.199 the cable bear like it. 0:25:05.280 --> 0:25:08.160 Literally was obsessed. And I did get one, not the. 0:25:08.160 --> 0:25:09.840 Biggest one you wanted. 0:25:10.520 --> 0:25:11.080 It's okay. 0:25:11.160 --> 0:25:13.520 And how much did this beart this one time? 0:25:13.680 --> 0:25:15.119 How much did that cost you? 0:25:15.200 --> 0:25:17.640 Gilina? We got like a four hundred dollars, a little 0:25:17.640 --> 0:25:19.680 bitty I. 0:25:19.680 --> 0:25:22.919 Was really determined to have that bear, you know, and 0:25:23.000 --> 0:25:25.439 I got it. So that's what you know. At the 0:25:25.520 --> 0:25:27.600 end of the day, that what matters, right, that's I 0:25:27.640 --> 0:25:28.480 got what I wanted. 0:25:29.000 --> 0:25:41.560 That's right. I want to know when was the last 0:25:41.560 --> 0:25:42.200 time you went. 0:25:42.119 --> 0:25:47.400 On a date? Wow, you're going straight to like serious 0:25:47.480 --> 0:25:49.080 question that everybody's wondering. 0:25:49.600 --> 0:25:52.160 I to give everybody all my information. When was your 0:25:52.240 --> 0:25:56.160 last date a month ago or not at all? 0:25:56.440 --> 0:25:59.960 Or well, you know, I'm definitely not going on the 0:26:00.080 --> 0:26:00.720 dates we see. 0:26:02.200 --> 0:26:03.680 I can assure everybody of. 0:26:03.720 --> 0:26:07.960 That I would fly right to your farm if that 0:26:08.200 --> 0:26:09.040 was happening. 0:26:11.560 --> 0:26:15.240 I mean that one is in the past, but definitely 0:26:15.600 --> 0:26:20.240 moving on and open and looking forward to. That's why 0:26:20.960 --> 0:26:23.480 you know, I was asking all of those questions of you, 0:26:24.080 --> 0:26:26.920 because you guys, you're such an inspiration. 0:26:27.160 --> 0:26:28.440 You know, like you're giving me a hope. 0:26:28.440 --> 0:26:33.760 Obviously, I've always you know, I also had quite a 0:26:33.800 --> 0:26:38.320 relationship on TV and in front of everybody, and the 0:26:38.400 --> 0:26:40.640 breakup and just everything. 0:26:40.680 --> 0:26:42.800 So I'm just taking my time right. 0:26:42.680 --> 0:26:47.159 Now and feeling from all of that and meeting a 0:26:47.200 --> 0:26:48.040 lot of new friends. 0:26:48.080 --> 0:26:50.680 I've been blessed with so many. 0:26:50.480 --> 0:26:55.359 Friends here in Kansas City and everybody who's been really 0:26:55.440 --> 0:26:58.840 understanding and just taking one one day at a time, 0:26:58.920 --> 0:27:00.480 and you know, a lot more to come. 0:27:00.800 --> 0:27:04.040 I have a lot more surprises you and I will 0:27:04.080 --> 0:27:04.880 talk about it next. 0:27:04.920 --> 0:27:06.920 Okay, we'll talk about it when I see you in 0:27:06.920 --> 0:27:10.160 a few days when. Okay, So what are what are 0:27:10.200 --> 0:27:10.760 you looking for? 0:27:10.840 --> 0:27:10.919 Like? 0:27:10.920 --> 0:27:12.080 What is your type? Is it? 0:27:12.200 --> 0:27:16.320 Are you like physical and like uh like morals and. 0:27:16.800 --> 0:27:17.520 The whole package? 0:27:17.520 --> 0:27:18.280 Like what is do you? 0:27:18.400 --> 0:27:20.840 Okay, wait, this is the best question. I have two questions, 0:27:20.840 --> 0:27:23.520 but let's do part one. Do you have a type 0:27:24.240 --> 0:27:25.760 or if you look back at your past. 0:27:26.040 --> 0:27:28.920 Different I definitely have a type, that's for sure. 0:27:29.040 --> 0:27:32.199 So they all kind of look alike, not necessarily look alike, 0:27:34.600 --> 0:27:36.880 well kind of yes, Okay, So give us. 0:27:37.160 --> 0:27:37.960 What is the type? 0:27:38.680 --> 0:27:42.120 Tall, dark, handsome or shorter, more athletic build, Like, what's 0:27:42.119 --> 0:27:42.600 your type? 0:27:42.840 --> 0:27:44.040 The ranch kind of us? 0:27:45.000 --> 0:27:47.320 Okay, we have to have on cowboy boots and big 0:27:47.359 --> 0:27:48.560 buckle and a cowboy hat. 0:27:48.760 --> 0:27:53.399 You have to be yes, yeah, yeah, because. 0:27:53.119 --> 0:27:54.240 Look at you on a farm. 0:27:54.280 --> 0:27:56.600 So you're you wouldn't be attracted to like the Wall 0:27:56.640 --> 0:27:58.720 Street like the business suit. 0:27:58.760 --> 0:27:59.800 You want the rancher kind. 0:28:00.280 --> 0:28:02.320 Yeah, most likely not the Wall Street guys. 0:28:02.320 --> 0:28:04.840 But you know if she's a ranger with the Wall 0:28:04.880 --> 0:28:06.520 Street scales, yeah for sure. 0:28:06.640 --> 0:28:08.359 Okay, So then the next So I have three parts now, 0:28:08.359 --> 0:28:10.679 I thought of another question, what's that? So that's the 0:28:10.720 --> 0:28:12.960 physical part. Okay, so you want to ranch your type? Okay, 0:28:13.160 --> 0:28:17.480 facial hair or no, definitely, yes, okay. Fascinating Part two 0:28:17.720 --> 0:28:20.240 is what are well? I guess part two kind of 0:28:20.240 --> 0:28:23.119 goes together, but like for what are your negotiables or 0:28:23.119 --> 0:28:27.000 your non negotiables, like what would you and and that 0:28:27.119 --> 0:28:29.840 kind of ties into like what kind of a what 0:28:29.960 --> 0:28:35.680 kind of attribute like like emotional moral compass kind of thing, 0:28:35.760 --> 0:28:38.280 like what would be like for me? It's like John 0:28:38.320 --> 0:28:41.360 has to be God fearing. My husband, whoever I would marry, 0:28:41.400 --> 0:28:44.360 has to read the Bible, believe in, you know, with 0:28:44.400 --> 0:28:47.120 the Christian values I do. That's a non negotiable for 0:28:47.120 --> 0:28:50.160 me because it's really hard to date someone who doesn't. 0:28:50.200 --> 0:28:51.560 But what would be something for you? 0:28:52.200 --> 0:28:54.560 It definitely has to be a strong moral standards and 0:28:54.600 --> 0:28:56.880 respectful women. I grew up very different, you know, I 0:28:56.920 --> 0:28:59.360 grew up in the former Soviet unions, so initially we 0:28:59.440 --> 0:29:03.240 grew up in atheist country. However, our you know, my 0:29:03.360 --> 0:29:08.840 moral strength standards were pretty strong, you know, even going 0:29:08.920 --> 0:29:11.840 through I went through quite you know, a few changes, 0:29:11.920 --> 0:29:15.280 but yeah, it has to be a very strong basic 0:29:15.360 --> 0:29:21.800 moral standards somebody who respects women. And you know, see, 0:29:22.760 --> 0:29:26.280 you know, as women, we go through a lot different 0:29:26.360 --> 0:29:31.520 experiences in life, so those are absolutely like mass have 0:29:31.880 --> 0:29:37.200 and and this is what I did not, unfortunately had 0:29:37.400 --> 0:29:38.120 in the past. 0:29:38.240 --> 0:29:42.240 You know, I felt like I had, you. 0:29:42.200 --> 0:29:45.959 Know, just very few relationships in my life, and the 0:29:45.960 --> 0:29:48.840 guys that I've been with, they did not have exact 0:29:49.680 --> 0:29:53.000 respect for women that you know I was hoping for 0:29:53.160 --> 0:29:55.480 or imagined or you know, I grew up with. 0:29:55.800 --> 0:30:00.920 So I think that's definitely super important to maybe I. 0:30:00.960 --> 0:30:04.040 Have a daughter, right, But luckily you're not with those 0:30:04.040 --> 0:30:06.560 guys anymore. So now you can think, now you've learned, 0:30:06.640 --> 0:30:09.600 you've learned, and now you can move forward. And if 0:30:09.640 --> 0:30:12.200 you see any of those characteristics, that's when you say, 0:30:12.240 --> 0:30:14.680 this is our last date, right, That's exactly. 0:30:14.400 --> 0:30:16.440 Right, And this is what I've learned. You know, Like 0:30:16.480 --> 0:30:19.160 a lot of times, I'm such a people pleaser. You know, 0:30:19.280 --> 0:30:23.520 I grew up in Central Asia, you know, in completely 0:30:23.560 --> 0:30:30.160 different society, so I've never knew how to draw. 0:30:31.240 --> 0:30:32.720 Boundaries between men and woman. 0:30:32.800 --> 0:30:38.520 I was always a man pleaser, pleaser, and through these experiences, 0:30:38.560 --> 0:30:42.760 I'm like, Okay, you know, I know it's kind of late, 0:30:43.320 --> 0:30:44.880 but not too late. 0:30:45.120 --> 0:30:46.560 But now I'm learning how. 0:30:46.440 --> 0:30:50.320 To draw the boundaries, how to recognize some of the behaviors, 0:30:50.560 --> 0:30:52.080 and how to. 0:30:51.840 --> 0:30:56.080 Speak up for myself. Good. That's good, and I. 0:30:56.040 --> 0:30:59.840 Think that I think that that's why sometimes the relationships 0:30:59.840 --> 0:31:03.440 that don't work are a blessing in disguise, because they 0:31:03.440 --> 0:31:05.719 teach you exactly what you don't want in the future, 0:31:05.760 --> 0:31:09.080 and it also matures you. It grow, It teaches you 0:31:09.920 --> 0:31:11.560 how you know you are people pleaser. 0:31:11.680 --> 0:31:12.680 That is something that's true. 0:31:12.680 --> 0:31:15.000 So I think it's good for you to recognize that 0:31:15.040 --> 0:31:18.040 and to also be like, I need to not just 0:31:18.320 --> 0:31:21.320 please the person I'm with. It needs to be an equal, 0:31:21.640 --> 0:31:23.360 you know, to a street kind of thing. He needs 0:31:23.400 --> 0:31:23.920 to please me. 0:31:23.880 --> 0:31:26.640 Too, So exactly, exactly sure. 0:31:27.640 --> 0:31:30.400 And the thing is like, yeah, you know, maybe my 0:31:30.600 --> 0:31:34.120 life was kind of wild and turbulent and the relationships 0:31:34.120 --> 0:31:37.720 were not the greatest and I've never maybe drew the 0:31:37.760 --> 0:31:38.680 boundaries that I. 0:31:38.640 --> 0:31:40.600 Should have to begin with. 0:31:41.000 --> 0:31:44.600 But my biggest sake away is that I've passed it 0:31:44.720 --> 0:31:47.880 on to my daughter and now she is Yes, I 0:31:47.960 --> 0:31:52.000 put her through some you know, difficulties, but now she 0:31:52.320 --> 0:31:55.440 is so much better with her relationship. She knows how 0:31:55.480 --> 0:31:58.560 to draw the boundaries. She she's her own person. She 0:31:59.240 --> 0:32:03.160 you know, getting her own education. She's completely independent, and 0:32:03.240 --> 0:32:06.320 I'm so proud of her. And in a way, you know, 0:32:06.440 --> 0:32:09.600 all of the things that I went through, she learned 0:32:09.640 --> 0:32:12.480 from it and she's going to have such a better 0:32:12.560 --> 0:32:13.960 life and you know, so. 0:32:14.640 --> 0:32:15.760 That's how I look at things. 0:32:16.040 --> 0:32:16.760 That's beautiful. 0:32:16.800 --> 0:32:18.760 So then if you get married again, do you think, 0:32:19.160 --> 0:32:22.160 like for John and I, like, we didn't do marriage 0:32:22.200 --> 0:32:26.560 counseling before this marriage, but that's because we both have 0:32:26.640 --> 0:32:28.400 been through so much. I was in fourteen years of 0:32:28.440 --> 0:32:32.240 marriage marriage counseling with Jim and then I had, you know, 0:32:32.280 --> 0:32:32.840 a therapist. 0:32:32.880 --> 0:32:33.960 I still have this therapist. 0:32:34.680 --> 0:32:37.640 Through my mom's death and through the post divorce, I 0:32:37.960 --> 0:32:41.520 got a new therapist. And so John and I discussed 0:32:41.560 --> 0:32:44.160 it and we're like, well, should we and we would 0:32:44.160 --> 0:32:45.760 have and we will. We'll go to therapy if we 0:32:45.880 --> 0:32:47.840 need to, but we did not because of the fact 0:32:47.880 --> 0:32:49.280 that we've had and you know, he has his own 0:32:49.280 --> 0:32:51.360 therapist too, but we've been through so much therapy that 0:32:51.400 --> 0:32:55.160 I felt like we're okay at the time. So would 0:32:55.160 --> 0:32:57.480 you do you think you would if you find mister 0:32:57.520 --> 0:32:58.080 Wright again? 0:32:58.240 --> 0:33:02.720 I think so? I think I really would love to. Yes, 0:33:03.600 --> 0:33:04.520 I would love that. 0:33:05.520 --> 0:33:07.239 I think it's just if you haven't had a ton 0:33:07.280 --> 0:33:09.560 of the therapy like I can tell John has, because 0:33:09.600 --> 0:33:12.080 when we get into a little hiccup or anything, it's 0:33:12.200 --> 0:33:14.320 you have the tools and your tool belt that the 0:33:14.320 --> 0:33:17.480 therapists have taught you about communication and and you know, 0:33:17.600 --> 0:33:20.080 validate their feelings, like make sure it's not just a 0:33:20.080 --> 0:33:23.640 one way street. So so yeah, like so those are 0:33:23.680 --> 0:33:26.880 the tools. It's like it's like, don't raise your voice, 0:33:27.000 --> 0:33:28.120 don't go to bed mad. 0:33:28.720 --> 0:33:30.520 It's not only even about that. 0:33:30.600 --> 0:33:32.920 It's about like for me, it was an ability to 0:33:33.200 --> 0:33:37.280 just even voice myself. You know, we grew up so 0:33:37.480 --> 0:33:41.800 much not being able to talk about anything. So you know, 0:33:42.160 --> 0:33:47.880 like you agree, like I wasn't even able to vocabulary. 0:33:47.400 --> 0:33:48.360 My own feelings. 0:33:48.520 --> 0:33:51.360 So that was a scull on its own, and it's 0:33:51.400 --> 0:33:53.720 it's very hard to learn that kind of late later 0:33:53.920 --> 0:33:56.959 in your life to be able to speak your feelings 0:33:57.000 --> 0:33:58.880 openly in front of everybody. 0:33:59.120 --> 0:34:00.160 You did have to learn that. 0:34:00.160 --> 0:34:02.040 Then, you had to really you had to learn that 0:34:02.160 --> 0:34:05.360 because you were squealed when you are in the past, 0:34:05.840 --> 0:34:07.719 and obviously when you're in America, you can see that 0:34:07.800 --> 0:34:08.680 we aren't squelched. 0:34:08.680 --> 0:34:10.000 We do speak our minds. We do. 0:34:10.280 --> 0:34:11.919 Yes, that's what I love about it. 0:34:12.360 --> 0:34:13.439 Yeah, well that's good. 0:34:13.480 --> 0:34:15.920 But I think one of the biggest tools that my 0:34:16.000 --> 0:34:17.200 therapist has always taught me. 0:34:17.960 --> 0:34:19.080 This was my past therapist. 0:34:19.160 --> 0:34:21.040 She passed away or I probably still have her actually, 0:34:21.080 --> 0:34:22.920 but she was our therapist the whole time John and 0:34:22.960 --> 0:34:24.080 I or Jim and I were married. 0:34:24.640 --> 0:34:27.680 But she would always say, you don't. 0:34:27.400 --> 0:34:30.560 Have to fix every argument right now, take put put 0:34:30.560 --> 0:34:33.120 it up on your bookshelf, and and don't go to 0:34:33.160 --> 0:34:36.600 bed mad. Don't go just say, hey, babe, we're butting heads. 0:34:36.640 --> 0:34:38.080 We're not going to see eye to eye right now. 0:34:38.200 --> 0:34:40.400 We're going to shelve it. It's still there. We're going 0:34:40.480 --> 0:34:42.040 to pull it off the shelf tomorrow or in a 0:34:42.040 --> 0:34:43.600 couple of days, and we're going to revisit it when 0:34:43.600 --> 0:34:46.200 we both calm down, when we both processed and thought 0:34:46.200 --> 0:34:48.560 it through, and then we talk about it in a 0:34:48.600 --> 0:34:50.880 couple of days. And I'm telling you that is a 0:34:50.920 --> 0:34:53.279 life changer, because you know, and there's even times there 0:34:53.320 --> 0:34:55.319 was one time. We don't argue a lot, so I 0:34:55.320 --> 0:34:57.880 can count them on like like three times maybe, but 0:34:58.239 --> 0:35:00.799 the one of them I did not want to put 0:35:00.840 --> 0:35:02.759 it on a shelf. I wanted to vomit my feelings out. 0:35:02.800 --> 0:35:03.160 I wanted to. 0:35:03.320 --> 0:35:04.839 I wanted to. I'm like, no, no, no, no, no, 0:35:04.840 --> 0:35:06.120 I'm right on this one. I don't want, you know, 0:35:06.160 --> 0:35:07.200 I want to keep going. 0:35:07.480 --> 0:35:09.040 And he just kept looking at me, and he goes, 0:35:09.400 --> 0:35:10.600 you're the one that taught me to put it on 0:35:10.600 --> 0:35:12.440 a shelf. Now go put it up there and we'll 0:35:12.200 --> 0:35:14.719 pull it off tomorrow. And I'm just like, you're right. 0:35:14.800 --> 0:35:16.040 I got to listen to my own advice. 0:35:16.040 --> 0:35:18.280 Now I love it. 0:35:18.480 --> 0:35:20.320 But I think that would help a lot of married people, 0:35:20.320 --> 0:35:23.200 and a lot even to data whoever your special person is, 0:35:23.239 --> 0:35:26.320 because you do sometimes and girls are more talkative and 0:35:26.360 --> 0:35:29.040 communicate to most of the time than men. 0:35:29.120 --> 0:35:32.800 But you know, it just it's helpful, super helpful. 0:35:33.080 --> 0:35:34.360 I completely agree. 0:35:34.400 --> 0:35:36.920 I think that it made my life so much easier 0:35:36.960 --> 0:35:39.440 once I start learning how to be able to speak 0:35:39.480 --> 0:35:43.919 my feelings like to anybody, Like you know, I've been 0:35:44.080 --> 0:35:47.240 so closed up and kind of carried everything inside myself 0:35:47.320 --> 0:35:50.759 for so long, and it affected the way I was 0:35:50.800 --> 0:35:55.239 reacting to new situations. So you know, this ability just 0:35:55.400 --> 0:36:00.600 open communication makes a tremendous difference. And speaking of the 0:36:00.640 --> 0:36:05.080 open communication and changing a little bit of a course 0:36:05.120 --> 0:36:07.080 to positive things because we have a. 0:36:07.080 --> 0:36:11.480 Huge celebration next weekend yet, which I'm looking forward to. 0:36:11.680 --> 0:36:18.920 Please tell me all about next weekend, Like did you. 0:36:17.680 --> 0:36:22.839 You know, how did you and John like weathered all 0:36:22.880 --> 0:36:23.080 of that? 0:36:23.400 --> 0:36:27.600 I know that wedding preparations can be extremely stressful, and like, were. 0:36:27.480 --> 0:36:29.919 You planning all of that? Did he have any kind 0:36:29.920 --> 0:36:33.600 of contribution to it? Like, come on, how did you 0:36:33.640 --> 0:36:34.360 handle all of that? 0:36:34.960 --> 0:36:37.200 It's so funny because I was just laughing with him 0:36:37.200 --> 0:36:39.040 about this a couple of days ago, because. 0:36:38.760 --> 0:36:41.040 Now we're you know, we are down to the you know, 0:36:41.080 --> 0:36:42.360 the wire, it's very close. 0:36:42.400 --> 0:36:45.799 But up until about a month ago, I have been 0:36:46.160 --> 0:36:49.279 bragging to everyone about how easy it is the second 0:36:49.320 --> 0:36:50.839 time around. I call it the second time around because 0:36:50.840 --> 0:36:52.719 I don't really count my first marriage, so it's third 0:36:52.719 --> 0:36:53.560 times a charm for me. 0:36:53.680 --> 0:36:54.719 But I just coun't. 0:36:54.800 --> 0:36:56.719 I just say, you know, this is I do part two. 0:36:56.760 --> 0:36:58.919 So to me, this is I do part two. Still, 0:36:58.960 --> 0:37:03.239 he's my second wedding, very basically, but anyway, he I 0:37:03.320 --> 0:37:05.279 was bragging to everyone, all my friends, I'm like, it's 0:37:05.320 --> 0:37:05.840 so easy. 0:37:05.880 --> 0:37:07.520 We had hired this is a funny thing. 0:37:07.920 --> 0:37:12.120 We hired my wedding planner that did my wedding with Jim. 0:37:12.680 --> 0:37:14.680 So I asked John. 0:37:14.640 --> 0:37:17.479 I said, I know, I know, and most people would think, Okay, 0:37:17.480 --> 0:37:18.520 this is really bad luck. 0:37:18.560 --> 0:37:21.920 Battleman. I had been interviewing other wedding planners. Nothing was gelling. 0:37:22.040 --> 0:37:23.600 I'm like, there were just you know, you have to 0:37:23.640 --> 0:37:26.120 have a chemistry with your wedding planner. And I'd had 0:37:26.120 --> 0:37:27.759 a lot of the wedding already planned by the time 0:37:27.800 --> 0:37:30.560 I started, you know, looking for her. I already had 0:37:30.600 --> 0:37:32.960 the vision in my mind. We already had the place, 0:37:33.560 --> 0:37:36.520 you know, solidified. So she was jumping in as kind 0:37:36.520 --> 0:37:38.319 of a part time wedding planner. But so I'm laying 0:37:38.320 --> 0:37:40.680 in bed one night, I just asked him. I'm like, honey, 0:37:40.920 --> 0:37:42.799 I'm like, the worst she can say is no, right, 0:37:42.920 --> 0:37:44.440 It's not gonna hurt his feelings, I hope. 0:37:44.640 --> 0:37:46.359 So I just said, Honey, you know I'm not having 0:37:46.400 --> 0:37:46.879 any luck. 0:37:46.920 --> 0:37:49.160 Can I just reach out to my wedding planner that 0:37:49.320 --> 0:37:52.800 worked with my wedding with Jim, because she's amazing. 0:37:53.080 --> 0:37:54.440 We get along so well, she. 0:37:54.520 --> 0:37:56.839 Knows my everything, and she already you know, she did 0:37:56.880 --> 0:37:59.200 an amazing wedding for that one. That one was different 0:37:59.239 --> 0:38:02.759 feel and you know, different venue, but did amazing with it. 0:38:03.120 --> 0:38:05.200 And she's like I. 0:38:05.160 --> 0:38:08.120 Don't care, and I'm like, Okay, this is fabulous, you know, 0:38:08.200 --> 0:38:08.600 like yay. 0:38:08.920 --> 0:38:10.160 So called her the next day. 0:38:10.200 --> 0:38:12.400 She's still in the business, even though she now she 0:38:12.480 --> 0:38:15.640 does Christian therapy and she's a travel agency and she 0:38:15.800 --> 0:38:18.040 does one or two weddings a year. But she's like 0:38:18.320 --> 0:38:21.640 the crime Delachrome of wedding planners. She had a TV 0:38:21.719 --> 0:38:23.719 show twenty years ago, back when I was marrying Jen. 0:38:23.840 --> 0:38:27.359 She had actually done a planning TV show at the time. 0:38:27.400 --> 0:38:29.520 So that was kind of interesting too, because we weren't 0:38:29.520 --> 0:38:31.239 even thinking of being on TV at that point. The 0:38:31.280 --> 0:38:33.440 housewives had not reached out to me. That was twenty 0:38:33.560 --> 0:38:36.200 years ago. I think we were married for four years 0:38:36.239 --> 0:38:39.080 before they actually you know, interviewed me to be on 0:38:39.120 --> 0:38:43.240 the show. But anyway, so bragging, okay about how easy 0:38:43.239 --> 0:38:45.640 it is, got that wedding planner, got the resorts wedding 0:38:45.640 --> 0:38:48.759 planner that they put you with someone, and then I've 0:38:48.760 --> 0:38:50.760 got all my party planning skills. 0:38:50.760 --> 0:38:52.920 So I'm like, this is a breeze, John, I'm not 0:38:53.000 --> 0:38:55.680 kidding you. The past two weeks I have not slept. 0:38:55.880 --> 0:39:00.359 I am I'm constantly forgetting something. I call it with 0:39:00.360 --> 0:39:02.319 my kids, and I call it pregnancy brain as the 0:39:02.320 --> 0:39:05.040 same as wedding brain, because when you're pregnant, you know 0:39:05.080 --> 0:39:07.319 how you forget things you don't know when you wake 0:39:07.400 --> 0:39:08.719 up that day, you're like, did I do that last 0:39:08.760 --> 0:39:12.440 night or not? Wedding brain is a real thing, everybody. 0:39:12.520 --> 0:39:16.200 I mean, it is real. I'm like, no, I did 0:39:16.239 --> 0:39:18.279 that yesterday, and then I go back to my notes 0:39:18.320 --> 0:39:19.600 and I'm like, oh, I didn't do that. And then 0:39:19.600 --> 0:39:21.000 I'll be like, hey, John, I didn't do that, And 0:39:21.000 --> 0:39:22.080 then I go to my notes and I'm like, oh, 0:39:22.120 --> 0:39:24.680 I did do that. It's like it's I cannot keep 0:39:24.719 --> 0:39:27.799 it all straight. So I don't know how we're getting through. 0:39:27.840 --> 0:39:30.040 And if I pull it all off with like without 0:39:30.080 --> 0:39:33.600 any you know, any hitch or anything on when when 0:39:33.640 --> 0:39:34.719 it is, I don't want to. 0:39:34.719 --> 0:39:36.760 Say when it is, but I will. 0:39:36.920 --> 0:39:40.640 I will wake up the next morning completely just elated. 0:39:40.719 --> 0:39:42.759 But you know what else, I know, you know what else? 0:39:42.800 --> 0:39:45.719 I know I'm gonna wake up depressed because you put 0:39:45.800 --> 0:39:48.840 so much time and energy and effort into this making 0:39:48.840 --> 0:39:52.040 sure every little detail is so perfect, and then it's 0:39:52.080 --> 0:39:53.880 just like Christmas morning and then all the presents are 0:39:53.880 --> 0:39:55.239 opened and you're looking at the tree and you're like, 0:39:55.239 --> 0:39:56.840 now I got to take the tree down, and you 0:39:56.880 --> 0:39:58.680 don't want Christmas to be over, but it's over. And 0:39:58.719 --> 0:40:00.799 I'm like I told John, I said, thank god, we're 0:40:00.840 --> 0:40:04.879 taking another little mini staycation right after. And I said, 0:40:04.880 --> 0:40:06.239 I'm going to be so glad that we're there and 0:40:06.280 --> 0:40:08.759 not going home, because can you imagine at this big 0:40:08.840 --> 0:40:11.680 high from being at the wedding, all this setting down 0:40:11.680 --> 0:40:14.160 to just being back and our boring all home, you know, 0:40:15.000 --> 0:40:19.200 watching TV. So yeah, and we're not doing a honeymoon. 0:40:19.239 --> 0:40:22.200 We did, We've done so much traveling the past six months. 0:40:22.280 --> 0:40:25.359 And then right after the wedding, because that's the number 0:40:25.400 --> 0:40:27.239 one question people ask me as words, your honeymoon. 0:40:27.360 --> 0:40:30.680 That was my number one question right after this morning, Well. 0:40:30.560 --> 0:40:31.160 We're doing it. 0:40:31.200 --> 0:40:33.759 We're going to do a big uh probably Bora Bora 0:40:33.840 --> 0:40:35.399 or Maldives, I don't know, one of those. 0:40:35.440 --> 0:40:37.680 Probably in a few months. But here's the deal. 0:40:38.040 --> 0:40:41.080 Right after the wedding is John's birthday, my twins eighteenth 0:40:41.160 --> 0:40:44.560 birthday in November, then Thanksgivings in November, then there's Christmas, 0:40:44.840 --> 0:40:46.960 and then we have three or four more other kids' birthdays, 0:40:46.960 --> 0:40:48.840 because you know, we're the Brady bunch, so we've. 0:40:48.680 --> 0:40:50.239 Got three or four more other birthdays. 0:40:50.400 --> 0:40:52.840 And I'm just like Johnny, I cannot I would not 0:40:52.960 --> 0:40:56.000 relax wherever we went, because I will be Christmas shopping 0:40:56.000 --> 0:40:58.000 on my phone the whole time. I will be planning 0:40:58.080 --> 0:41:00.440 things for all that. In my case, I wonder for 0:41:00.440 --> 0:41:05.839 everything we've got coming up. So yeah, so they it's 0:41:06.040 --> 0:41:06.879 it's just done. 0:41:06.960 --> 0:41:10.000 Somehow, I'm not surprised, Alexis, because this is one of 0:41:10.040 --> 0:41:13.640 the biggest you know, like I think that I've learned 0:41:13.640 --> 0:41:15.960 about you, and you know, I did not ask any 0:41:16.040 --> 0:41:17.799 questions about it so far, but. 0:41:18.200 --> 0:41:22.759 How particular and detailed you are, and how on top 0:41:22.840 --> 0:41:24.920 of everything at all times. 0:41:25.000 --> 0:41:27.720 We would be like at the freaking restaurant eating dinner, 0:41:27.760 --> 0:41:30.080 and you like on your phone taking care of things, 0:41:30.120 --> 0:41:32.239 you know, like because you want to make sure that 0:41:32.320 --> 0:41:35.520 everything is perfect for your children, for everybody. You know, 0:41:35.640 --> 0:41:39.040 like you're so particular, so detailed, so organized. 0:41:39.080 --> 0:41:41.960 I was incredibly impressed with it, and I promise you 0:41:42.040 --> 0:41:43.520 I noticed it immediately. 0:41:44.200 --> 0:41:46.560 Well, let's cross my fingers that you can you can 0:41:46.600 --> 0:41:49.200 have the same reaction after this big shin dig because 0:41:49.239 --> 0:41:49.960 I'm I don't know. 0:41:49.960 --> 0:41:51.640 I'm sure there's gonna be some little. 0:41:51.719 --> 0:41:52.160 That's the thing. 0:41:52.239 --> 0:41:54.239 On the On this wedding, it's like and the first 0:41:54.239 --> 0:41:56.839 one I probably would have freaked out if anything goes wrong, 0:41:56.920 --> 0:41:58.520 And on this one it's going to be like, Okay, look, 0:41:58.560 --> 0:42:01.080 let's just figure out plan and move on like it's 0:42:01.080 --> 0:42:02.000 whatever it is, you know. 0:42:02.080 --> 0:42:04.399 But so the kids. Speaking of the kids, I wanted 0:42:04.400 --> 0:42:08.440 to share this with you too. They you know, I 0:42:08.480 --> 0:42:10.040 told you it's a non traditional wedding. 0:42:10.280 --> 0:42:13.120 So one of the things that's happening, I'll give this 0:42:13.120 --> 0:42:15.120 this is this is first new hand information. 0:42:16.400 --> 0:42:18.640 You know. John and I do not like cake. We're 0:42:18.680 --> 0:42:19.400 not cake eaters. 0:42:19.520 --> 0:42:23.720 But my son Miles, this whole time planning this wedding, 0:42:23.719 --> 0:42:24.920 he's like, I'm so excited. 0:42:24.920 --> 0:42:26.439 My first wedding is going to be my mom's wedding. 0:42:26.480 --> 0:42:27.760 I've never been to a wedding before. 0:42:27.920 --> 0:42:28.200 Mom. 0:42:28.400 --> 0:42:30.560 What wedding cake are you getting? It better be fabulous, 0:42:30.560 --> 0:42:32.960 it better be huge, it better be this. And I'm like, Miles, 0:42:32.960 --> 0:42:34.600 we're doing an all like a Sunday bar. 0:42:34.680 --> 0:42:34.880 We had. 0:42:35.000 --> 0:42:36.960 John and I had this whole other vision of what 0:42:36.960 --> 0:42:39.280 we were going to do for like a big Sunday 0:42:39.280 --> 0:42:41.640 bar with gourmet and all this stuff, and he's like, 0:42:41.800 --> 0:42:43.040 but mom, you have to have a cake. 0:42:43.200 --> 0:42:45.640 And I'm like, I don't want a cake there. 0:42:45.880 --> 0:42:47.840 Not only are they a thousand bucks or more, It's like, 0:42:47.840 --> 0:42:51.200 I don't want a cake, okay, So I John and 0:42:51.239 --> 0:42:53.480 I then decided we're gonna make miles of a day. 0:42:53.920 --> 0:42:56.320 So we went cake tasting, we went cake shopping. We 0:42:56.440 --> 0:43:01.040 found the perfect cake, and Miles and Kenna are going 0:43:01.120 --> 0:43:04.239 to cut the cake and give serve John and I 0:43:04.280 --> 0:43:06.160 a piece of cake because we did the cake only 0:43:06.239 --> 0:43:07.359 for them, only for them. 0:43:07.440 --> 0:43:08.120 So it's like that. 0:43:08.480 --> 0:43:10.680 And then my son, well all three kids are walking 0:43:10.719 --> 0:43:14.000 me down the aisle. But then my son, James is 0:43:14.560 --> 0:43:16.799 he plays on the worship team of church. He is 0:43:16.880 --> 0:43:20.680 going to bless the whole, the whole ceremony when we 0:43:20.680 --> 0:43:22.880 first not the ceremony, the pastor will do the ceremony, 0:43:22.920 --> 0:43:25.120 but when we get into the reception, he'll be So. 0:43:25.200 --> 0:43:25.920 They each have a role. 0:43:25.960 --> 0:43:27.759 And John's kids did not want to roll, but so 0:43:27.800 --> 0:43:32.720 my kids each have a little something to make it special. 0:43:32.800 --> 0:43:35.600 But yeah, I love it. I love it. I'm still 0:43:35.640 --> 0:43:37.160 looking forward to all of that. 0:43:37.400 --> 0:43:39.799 There's so many more surprises that you won't know to. 0:43:39.960 --> 0:43:43.920 I cannot wait to get an epic weekend for sure. 0:43:45.480 --> 0:43:48.560 Well, this has been amazing to catch up with you, girlfriend. 0:43:48.600 --> 0:43:50.800 I know it will be amazing see me some more. 0:43:50.840 --> 0:43:53.720 And don't forget to keep the date that I texted 0:43:53.719 --> 0:43:55.960 you on the books for visiting my farm, and I'll 0:43:55.960 --> 0:43:56.319 have to give you. 0:43:57.080 --> 0:43:57.759 I promise you. 0:43:57.800 --> 0:44:01.799 It's like all over my computer screens all the time. 0:44:01.840 --> 0:44:04.040 And you know how many computer screens I have. It 0:44:04.160 --> 0:44:06.359 sounds something like popping up as soon as I opened 0:44:06.440 --> 0:44:07.160 up my laptop. 0:44:07.640 --> 0:44:09.040 I don't know how you don't have a headache because 0:44:09.080 --> 0:44:12.040 you are constantly looking at screens. I I after writing 0:44:12.040 --> 0:44:14.200 even my vows, I'm like my eyes hurt because I'm 0:44:14.239 --> 0:44:15.759 on the computer for so long, you know. 0:44:16.000 --> 0:44:21.200 But Alexis I actually have another question for you. How 0:44:21.239 --> 0:44:24.440 do you feel about queen ups? Do you guys have 0:44:24.480 --> 0:44:25.040 a qreen up? 0:44:25.920 --> 0:44:29.080 Because I, you know, especially you know, at this stage 0:44:29.120 --> 0:44:31.680 of our lives, I think it's, you know, becoming quite 0:44:31.680 --> 0:44:34.280 a big topic of the conversations. 0:44:34.440 --> 0:44:37.120 You're just going right for the same question any. 0:44:37.000 --> 0:44:40.200 Cohen asked, aren't you you? Probab didn't notice when he 0:44:40.239 --> 0:44:41.640 asked that on Watch what happens. 0:44:41.480 --> 0:44:44.680 Live when John and I I have important questions. 0:44:44.719 --> 0:44:45.560 I'm in finance. 0:44:46.520 --> 0:44:50.319 Yeah, we had just come I got engaged. I mean, 0:44:50.400 --> 0:44:52.520 and and Andy just went right for it. He's like, 0:44:52.520 --> 0:44:56.239 you're gonna find a preen up. So we did not 0:44:56.480 --> 0:44:56.880 and are not. 0:44:58.239 --> 0:44:59.920 We kind of both have the same flaw I know, 0:45:00.080 --> 0:45:02.960 or signed one with any of my other marriages either. 0:45:03.080 --> 0:45:04.719 We just have we have the philosophy. 0:45:04.800 --> 0:45:08.120 John and I both do that if you start your 0:45:08.400 --> 0:45:11.600 marriage like that, you're already looking for a divorce. And 0:45:11.960 --> 0:45:13.719 it's like it's like you're you're thinking in your mind, oh, 0:45:13.800 --> 0:45:15.400 this probably isn't going to make it. But then why 0:45:15.480 --> 0:45:16.920 do you want to get married if that's even a 0:45:17.000 --> 0:45:18.600 thought in your mind that it's not going to make it. 0:45:19.239 --> 0:45:20.640 I know a lot of people have a lot to 0:45:20.640 --> 0:45:22.800 say about that and are going to think we're both idiots, 0:45:22.840 --> 0:45:26.560 and you know, but I we just we trust we 0:45:26.640 --> 0:45:27.040 trust it. 0:45:27.320 --> 0:45:30.960 So no, actually I do agree with you on that, Alexis, 0:45:31.040 --> 0:45:35.040 because yes, you know, when you are starting thinking prenups, 0:45:35.080 --> 0:45:39.440 you automatically assuming that the marriage will end at some point, 0:45:39.680 --> 0:45:43.399 and we do not answer marriages thinking that it has 0:45:43.480 --> 0:45:47.040 an exploration date. So I do agree with you I 0:45:47.200 --> 0:45:51.160 know there's so many controversy about it, but I feel 0:45:51.239 --> 0:45:54.359 like if you're entering the marriage, you trust each other, 0:45:54.560 --> 0:45:58.080 so then you trust each other with the divorce proceeding. 0:45:58.160 --> 0:46:00.640 It's unfortunate that there's so many such creation that it 0:46:00.719 --> 0:46:02.759 did not happen, But this is not how I feel 0:46:02.800 --> 0:46:05.080 about it, and I completely agree with you on that, 0:46:05.640 --> 0:46:10.160 and it immediately creates like this trust between both of 0:46:10.239 --> 0:46:14.160 you and definitely does not put an exploration date to 0:46:15.040 --> 0:46:17.040 your relationship exactly. 0:46:18.040 --> 0:46:20.880 It's interesting because you and I are both probably in 0:46:20.960 --> 0:46:22.960 more of the minority for that. By the way, I mean, 0:46:23.000 --> 0:46:25.160 I have a feeling most people would disagree with us, 0:46:25.239 --> 0:46:26.279 and I trust me. 0:46:26.640 --> 0:46:30.000 I have had earfuls of people telling me I'm an idiot. 0:46:30.120 --> 0:46:30.880 What am I thinking? 0:46:31.560 --> 0:46:33.759 You need to sign a prenapp like all of that, 0:46:33.960 --> 0:46:35.960 But we're doing it our way. 0:46:36.920 --> 0:46:39.000 And I agree with you on that because you know, 0:46:39.280 --> 0:46:42.880 like I was married only once and when it did 0:46:42.960 --> 0:46:45.359 not work out, I feel like I was extremely fair 0:46:45.760 --> 0:46:47.120 through our divorce per seeding. 0:46:47.360 --> 0:46:50.360 I did not ask for anything. I did not have 0:46:50.400 --> 0:46:52.000 any kind of spousal support. 0:46:52.120 --> 0:46:54.680 I did not take one, you know, because I felt 0:46:54.840 --> 0:46:58.319 like I was, you know, one of the reasons why 0:46:58.360 --> 0:46:58.920 it happened. 0:46:59.000 --> 0:47:01.560 You know, you know, we kind of grew apart, and 0:47:01.960 --> 0:47:04.480 I wanted to make sure that it was fair. 0:47:04.760 --> 0:47:07.440 And I don't need a piece of paperwork or pre 0:47:07.600 --> 0:47:10.520 nups or anything like that to have a good moral 0:47:10.560 --> 0:47:13.480 standards and make it right for both of us when 0:47:14.000 --> 0:47:15.480 the relationship did not work out. 0:47:16.000 --> 0:47:18.400 I agree, and I think that's the best way to 0:47:18.440 --> 0:47:20.600 handle it. And that's what Jim and I did because 0:47:20.640 --> 0:47:21.680 we didn't have a prenup either. 0:47:21.840 --> 0:47:22.920 So yeah, I loved it. 0:47:23.239 --> 0:47:25.680 But you you texted me the other day and asked, 0:47:25.960 --> 0:47:28.120 you know we obviously you know Tamar and I are close, 0:47:28.200 --> 0:47:30.319 but you asked, you know who else is coming from 0:47:30.400 --> 0:47:33.440 the cast, And so I never texted you back. Obviously 0:47:33.480 --> 0:47:34.960 I knew we were going to be chatting today, but 0:47:36.000 --> 0:47:40.520 so Heather and Tamer were invited to everything. Heather, as 0:47:40.560 --> 0:47:42.279 we know, has a very busy life and has three 0:47:42.360 --> 0:47:47.480 kids in different schools. So on the wedding weekend, she's actually, uh, 0:47:48.480 --> 0:47:50.200 she's in one of our one of the towns. It's 0:47:50.239 --> 0:47:53.279 it's parents weekend at one of her kids schools that weekend, 0:47:53.320 --> 0:47:55.920 so they'll be at that kid's school. And then you, 0:47:56.040 --> 0:48:00.239 obviously Tamer and Eddie are coming, Joe and Tay and 0:48:00.280 --> 0:48:01.920 you know are coming because you were at the Nearly 0:48:02.000 --> 0:48:07.600 Weed celebration with them. You're coming. So that's it from 0:48:07.640 --> 0:48:11.839 the cast. And then my other girlfriend Brianna. I don't 0:48:11.840 --> 0:48:13.640 think she's filmed with me, but she's also in the 0:48:13.680 --> 0:48:16.880 makeup industry and has you know, it does a lot 0:48:16.960 --> 0:48:19.680 on on social media for that. So that that's actually 0:48:19.800 --> 0:48:22.359 with Spencer is your table. That's your table right there, 0:48:22.400 --> 0:48:23.160 so it's a good table. 0:48:23.239 --> 0:48:24.879 Oh my gosh, I'm going to be at the table 0:48:25.080 --> 0:48:26.520 was join Tamra and Spencer. 0:48:27.120 --> 0:48:29.960 Tamra's best friend is coming, so yeah, I'll sit you 0:48:30.040 --> 0:48:30.600 by Spencer. 0:48:30.800 --> 0:48:33.279 You'll yeah, you'll have he can be your date. 0:48:34.120 --> 0:48:35.279 I'm so looking forward to. 0:48:37.600 --> 0:48:41.239 Well, Galina, this has been so fun to catch up 0:48:42.320 --> 0:48:44.120 a lot of the information we already knew about each other, 0:48:44.160 --> 0:48:46.560 but it was good to let the listeners learn a 0:48:46.600 --> 0:48:50.000 little bit more because if there's any listeners stepping into 0:48:50.040 --> 0:48:53.600 their chapter two, our advice is do not give up, 0:48:53.960 --> 0:48:55.680 you know, and if you don't know where to start, 0:48:56.040 --> 0:48:58.880 be sure to call us or email us. 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