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Speaker 1: My husband defended me against my toxic sister. I told

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Speaker 1: him to not apologize.

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Speaker 2: Hey, take your apology. Throw it away, all right, we

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Speaker 2: don't need it.

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Speaker 1: This is my first time posting here, but I've commented

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Speaker 1: I female and the youngest of seven kids. The problem

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Speaker 1: I have is with my eldest sibling, my sister Mary.

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Speaker 1: Mary has always undermined and judged my choices growing up.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from plus Apricot twenty sixty

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Speaker 1: seven on the r slash Okay story time subvert it. So,

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Speaker 1: for example, when I wanted to take a gap year

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Speaker 1: after high school to save money for university, Mary told

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Speaker 1: me it was a bad idea and that once I

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Speaker 1: took a gap year, I'd never go back.

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Speaker 3: Just like her.

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Speaker 1: I almost didn't go through with it because she made

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Speaker 1: me second guess myself. To be fair, it is hard

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Speaker 1: to restart school after taking time off. To be fair,

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Speaker 1: it is, but not impossible. It's not impossible. I actually

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Speaker 1: have a friend who did that. Yeah, I have a

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Speaker 1: lot of people did it. During Covidy he took a

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Speaker 1: gap year and did the Peace Corps. Oh that's sick

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Speaker 1: and then went back to that's sick.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I couldn't go back to school after

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Speaker 1: doing the Peace Corps. I feel like I would have

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Speaker 1: too much perspective.

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Speaker 4: I feel like it jazzed him up, like he wanted

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Speaker 4: to do like forest rangery.

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Speaker 3: Oh that's cool, that's really cool. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So then after the gap year, I changed my major

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Speaker 1: maybe to forrest something whatever you just said. After the

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Speaker 1: first semester, and she yelled at me for hours about

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Speaker 1: how I was going to ruin my life and waste

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Speaker 1: all my money since I couldn't make up my mind.

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Speaker 1: I have countless examples of times she made me cry

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Speaker 1: from yelling or maybe question my decisions, and at the

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Speaker 1: time I felt compelled to listen to her. After meeting

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Speaker 1: my husband then boyfriend and getting a therapist, they both

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Speaker 1: helped me realize I needed distance from Mary because she's

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Speaker 1: extremely toxic and both emotionally and verbally abusive. I took

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Speaker 1: a lot of effort, but I finally went no contact

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Speaker 1: with her. I finished university, got a job in my

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Speaker 1: chosen field thanks to my brother in law, moved in

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Speaker 1: with my husband, and eventually got married.

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Speaker 2: Congratulations.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, sounds like a little picture perfect life. Angela Connolly says,

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Speaker 1: don't say that my son is on gap year and.

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Speaker 3: He's never going back to school. Is he never get it?

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Speaker 4: Very well, go back to school because this one person's

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Speaker 4: not going back to school.

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Speaker 2: That doesn't mean it, really. I think it depends on what.

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Speaker 4: You're doing your gap year for in terms of like

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Speaker 4: what the percentage chance of you going back.

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Speaker 1: I went, I did a study abroad, which is like

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Speaker 1: half a gap year kind.

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Speaker 5: Of Oh yeah, I went back to school. Where'd you sity?

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Speaker 1: I went to Australia, He went to the Homeland. I

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Speaker 1: went to the home my motherland, and then I went

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Speaker 1: to Thailand for a couple months, which was also fun

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Speaker 1: so cool. Moved in with my husband and eventually got married.

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Speaker 1: For the first time in a long time. I felt

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Speaker 1: truly happy. I still see Mary during family events and holidays.

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Speaker 1: I hate seeing her, but it's my family too, and

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Speaker 1: I don't want to miss out because of her. However,

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Speaker 1: she always finds a way to ruin the holiday for me.

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Speaker 1: She often takes digs at my husband, saying she doesn't

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Speaker 4: Hey, maybe shut up, Yeah, just thinking, maybe shut your mouth.

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Speaker 1: A little bit right, maybe on your own business and

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Speaker 1: be hope. Art says, my gap year turned into seven years.

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Speaker 2: But see but you went back.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that just might be like call a

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Speaker 4: gap for the reason currently it's at seven years. It's

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Speaker 4: a gap for a reason.

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Speaker 2: Seven gaps.

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Speaker 3: It's like a thirty year gap year steal, a gap gap.

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Speaker 1: My husband usually tells me to ignore her because he

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Speaker 1: thinks she's only doing it for a reaction. Last weekend,

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Speaker 1: we had our Thanksgiving celebration at my mom's house. When

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Speaker 1: too small to fit everyone. Before my mom could respond,

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Speaker 1: Mary jumped in, saying we shouldn't offer a home we

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Speaker 1: Yet all you renters out there don't invite anyone in

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Speaker 2: You yeah, you gross. I can smell the lack of assets.

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Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, and it's this this smells hitting the back

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Speaker 4: walls in my knack might catch it. You know.

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Speaker 1: That comment made me mad because she knows nothing about

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Speaker 1: incredibly sensitive. Sorry, incredibly insensitive. Yeah, both my mom and

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Speaker 1: I told her off, and she quieted down for a bit.

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Speaker 1: But during dinner, my brother asked me how work was going,

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Speaker 3: I probably don't know since my husband is rich.

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Speaker 4: Oh Mary, Mary, Mary, would you please shut your mouth?

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Speaker 2: Mary?

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Speaker 3: So one seemed a little jilly.

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Speaker 4: Just if you don't have anything nice to say, don't

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Speaker 1: I corrected her, explaining that we're not rich and that

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Speaker 1: I work as a preschool teacher. And she knows this

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Speaker 1: Caitlin van Camp and says, you just made me gag.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's why I started laughing after I made that noise,

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Speaker 4: because I realized, oh no, I might have just triggered

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Speaker 4: to some people, because I literally my last roommate was

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Speaker 4: like a I mean, it wasn't that bad, but he

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Speaker 4: was like a sympathetic gagger.

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Speaker 3: Oh sympathetic gas.

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Speaker 2: So if like.

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Speaker 4: Someone did that around him, then he would like have

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Speaker 4: to stifle the urge to do it as well, oh Drew.

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Speaker 1: So, yeah, she just doesn't get deep at or anything, right.

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Speaker 2: M Yeah, No, he's that's off.

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Speaker 1: The table, so I corrected her, Yeah, explaining that we're

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Speaker 1: and she knows. The standing up for myself seemed to

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Speaker 1: completely set her off. She yelled at me, saying I

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Speaker 1: program I was in, and that she knows I'm not

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Speaker 1: happy with my temporary job and I should be pursuing

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Speaker 2: So if she keeps this up, I'm stealing this from

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Speaker 2: somebody in chat. I had a great idea.

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Speaker 4: If she keeps this up, record her, get this on,

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Speaker 4: get this on record, like to record the audio and

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Speaker 4: sit on that, sit on her just being a monstrous

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Speaker 4: meani to you and see if you know at some

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Speaker 1: But Mary kept yelling, telling, tearing into my life choices.

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Speaker 1: I got anxious and nervous, as I always do. When

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Speaker 1: she yells. It brings back trauma, she caused me. I

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Speaker 1: My mom and siblings try to get her stop, but

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Speaker 1: She called me a disappointment and claim my mom felt

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Speaker 2: How you're gonna bring my mom into this?

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Speaker 3: She is the ale. You keep my mom out of this.

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Speaker 1: At that point, my husband lost it. He started yelling

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Speaker 1: at her, which is rare for him since he's very

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Speaker 1: usually calm. He swore at her and called her some names,

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Speaker 1: including a fat bee, a cee you. Next Tuesday, he

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Speaker 1: also called her evil and said no one in the

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Speaker 3: It turned into a screaming map.

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Speaker 2: He really got her with like the one two and

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Speaker 3: There knee to the groin, the kidney hit yeah.

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Speaker 2: And she came back and she said, small wee wee.

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Speaker 2: That's I don't know. I'm sorry, I just said that.

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Speaker 4: I'm guessing if they got into a screaming match, I

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Speaker 1: I mean, it has to, it has to, you know.

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Speaker 1: It's it's in the arsenal of childhood playground tactics.

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Speaker 4: It's like pretty much the big nuclear bomb you can

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Speaker 3: Oh so, Princess t.

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Speaker 5: H no, Sam, good job.

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Speaker 1: Like like like like nodding, like like it's like when

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Speaker 2: It's like yeah because sometimes we're getting ready.

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Speaker 4: You're getting ready, when you're getting when you're getting ready

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Speaker 2: That's how your head goes.

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Speaker 3: You go giving head right now, that's.

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Speaker 5: Stop stop no, because guess what.

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Speaker 1: No anyway turn screaming about My mom tried to calm

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Speaker 1: we went back to my mom's house. My husband apologized

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Speaker 3: Mary still is with.

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Speaker 1: Her, and my mom is tired of her ranting about

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Speaker 1: I told my mom, I'm not going to make him apologize, no, sirree.

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Speaker 1: I know he was rude and some of the things

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Speaker 2: Exactly. If there's going to be an apology, then there

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Speaker 3: It's coming around the mountain.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, what you say is what you get.

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Speaker 1: So would I be the a hole for not telling

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Speaker 1: anything but apologizing would make things.

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Speaker 3: Easier on my mom.

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Speaker 1: We do have an update, but I want to pass

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Speaker 1: this question off to my beautiful lovely chats and dacoding keon.

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Speaker 1: Do you think oh p should have their husband apologize

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Speaker 3: Why or why not?

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Speaker 2: I look, I didn't hear exactly everything that was said, right.

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Speaker 3: So she he called her see you next Tuesday in

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Speaker 3: a fat.

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Speaker 4: Witch, but she came at him first, So I don't know,

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Speaker 4: it sounds like that's look, I mean, you always want

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Speaker 4: to be, you know, the bigger person is like throwing

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Speaker 4: around a lot.

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Speaker 2: It's like, however, I don't know if you.

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Speaker 3: Who comes first as who comes last.

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Speaker 4: I feel like that's like I agree, and which is

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Speaker 4: why I think that you need to determine whether or

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Speaker 4: not you even want to keep Mary around if she's

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Speaker 4: going to continue this sort of behavior, and if not,

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Speaker 4: then I don't think your husband needs to apologize to Mary.

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Speaker 2: I think you can say see you never.

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Speaker 5: I mean we're done next Tuesday.

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Speaker 1: If I was the husband, I would probably want to

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Speaker 1: Oh, Whitney said, wow, wown number. I need that round

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Speaker 1: No last I think honestly, you know, like I mean,

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Speaker 4: Mary's not gonna what? Mary's not gonna apologize exactly, so

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Speaker 4: Actually, that was like the Guru Buddha under the tree

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Speaker 3: The apology is for you. Apologies for you. G is

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Speaker 1: It's kind of like a way to allow Mary to

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Speaker 2: And then she can never play the card. Well he

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Speaker 4: It's like, well, yeah he did, he did that right

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Speaker 3: Exactly, dude, exactly.

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Speaker 1: And so I think like generally, if you can, if

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Speaker 4: But truly beautiful advice that was just cracked open by

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Speaker 3: But you know, Chat wants to be petty. Chat wants

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Speaker 4: I got lost in the pettiness on that one, for sure,

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Speaker 4: as we but often do you showed me the light?

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Speaker 1: But you know, as you know, after a couple of

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Speaker 3: Something like that?

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Speaker 4: I think it's the forget yea, And now body sta

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Speaker 2: Maybe I don't know.

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Speaker 1: We got a freaking update. I'm that we got a

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Speaker 1: Thank you all for your support. My husband also wanted

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Speaker 1: I feel bad for my mom, but making the original

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Speaker 1: My husband read a couple of comments suggesting he could

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Speaker 1: My mom said she understood and promised not to bring

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Speaker 1: I appreciate those rude comments. I agree that my mom

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Speaker 1: No, it's it's yeah, no, you're you're right, you're right.

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Speaker 1: It can marry It could literally just be like a

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Speaker 1: Sianat says, always apologeting, always apologizing plaicates abusive behaviors. Only apologize,

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Speaker 1: But she's always trying to control Mary, but Barry doesn't

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Speaker 1: Our dad passed away when I was two and Mary

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Speaker 3: It's impossible.

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Speaker 1: It's impossible, Thank you too much, Jo. It's impossible to

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Speaker 1: pay attention to everything with so many kids that I'll

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Speaker 1: blame my mom for not being able to stop the

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Speaker 1: abuse when it started. I didn't even know it was

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Speaker 1: abused with the kid.

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Speaker 4: I thought, Now I can't stop thinking about it. Sam,

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Speaker 4: do you only think about that about fourteen? You're about teen, three,

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Speaker 4: teen four.

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Speaker 1: But think about twenty four? The two go it's twenty

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Speaker 1: and then it's four thirty four. But are you trying

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Speaker 1: to reverse the teenth are reversed? Why is that all?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 6: Sam goes and make a time machine and go back

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Speaker 6: and be like, we're gonna make it teen three teens.

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Speaker 1: I think that would be more consistent. No, or it

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Speaker 1: should be ten four?

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Speaker 2: Would it be teen three or teen thirty?

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Speaker 5: Ten four? You want ten fifteen three?

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Speaker 2: Ten would be teen three fourteen four?

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Speaker 5: Read?

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Speaker 1: My mom worked a lot to support us when we

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Speaker 1: were kids, and unfortunately for all of us, this meant

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Speaker 1: that Mary was forced to take on a parental role,

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Speaker 1: and since I was the youngest, it made her both

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Speaker 1: very attached and resentful towards me. Words from my therapist,

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Speaker 1: My mom has made mistakes, so it has every parent,

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Speaker 1: and I'm not going to hold a grudge against the

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Speaker 1: only parent I know. However, I think having a serious

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Speaker 1: conversation with her would be a good idea.

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Speaker 3: I agree.

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Speaker 1: I might even bring her to a therapy session. Hmmm,

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Speaker 1: so we could talk about everything Mary put me through.

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Speaker 1: That would be productive.

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Speaker 3: That is a great idea.

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Speaker 1: I love that I haven't talked to her about it much,

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Speaker 1: and what my mom knows is just the tip of

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Speaker 1: the iceberg. She really does try her best to parent us,

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Speaker 1: she always has, but Mary is too much for everyone.

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Speaker 1: Many people ask why Mary still lives at home. I mention,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, Mary loves at home. I mentioned this

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Speaker 1: in a comment. But Mary has a chronic pain disease

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Speaker 1: that forces her to take a lot of time off work.

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Speaker 1: So Mary's in pain, that's why she's acting out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's yeah, that could definitely be a factor.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she probably like can't do anything because of the pain,

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Speaker 1: and so she lashes.

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Speaker 3: Out and everything.

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Speaker 2: Being in pain can make you NICs.

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Speaker 1: I also think it's another reason why she is so mean.

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Speaker 1: I won't go into details, but she does have a job,

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Speaker 1: but she can't afford to live on her own. None

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Speaker 1: of my siblings are willing to take her in, and

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Speaker 1: most of them are low contact with her since she

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Speaker 1: treats us all the same. My mom isn't the kind

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Speaker 1: of person to turn her back on her kids, so

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Speaker 1: she lets Mary stay. I also think she does this

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Speaker 1: as a way of making it up to Mary for

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Speaker 1: relying on her so much for childcare. Some comments asked

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Speaker 1: if Mary was abusing my mom. I want to clarify

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Speaker 1: that this isn't the case. For everything Mary has done.

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Speaker 1: She's never put her hands on anyone. Well, you know,

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Speaker 1: abuse can be more than physical. While she does fight

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Speaker 1: like this with my mom, sometimes she treats her much

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Speaker 1: better than the rest of us. The worst thing she

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Speaker 1: does is use my mom as her personal therapist. By

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Speaker 1: the way, if you want to use us as your

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Speaker 1: personal therapist, you can join us live on YouTube and

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Speaker 1: Facebook every weekday at three pm PSD. We're probably live

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Speaker 1: right now. Just tap our profile.

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Speaker 4: And to clarify we are not legally therapists or health

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Speaker 4: professional exactly.

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Speaker 3: We're better.

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Speaker 2: But these statements have.

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Speaker 4: Not been evaluated by the FDA or any sort of

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Speaker 4: They don't over committee, which is why it's and I

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Speaker 4: think maybe, yeah, yeah, don't stop going to therapy because

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Speaker 4: I can listen to Okay.

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Speaker 3: Storyteller, but we're better than nothing.

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Speaker 4: I guess you're right, like I gotta now, yeah, better

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Speaker 4: than nothing?

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Speaker 2: Okay, story time clip that better but nothing? We got

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Speaker 2: a little better than that story?

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Speaker 3: Wow, make some fan art of that or something. I

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Speaker 3: would love to see.

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Speaker 4: That better than nothing than nothing? But I've got we've

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Speaker 4: got bits. Does your therapist have bits? I don't think something.

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Speaker 1: To your therapist ain't as fun as us. Would you

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Speaker 1: like invite your therapist, you know, over for drinks. That

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Speaker 1: says a little over to a party, but.

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Speaker 3: I will know.

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Speaker 4: What's funny is you still have see the Wild never mind,

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Speaker 4: I don't want to spoil the watch.

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Speaker 2: Don't worry.

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Speaker 4: No what no neither here nor there. Neither here nor there.

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Speaker 1: You totally you totally gave me a low key pointed

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Speaker 1: to it there. I did a little, but you pointed

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Speaker 1: to it there. There's dirty soprano freaking.

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Speaker 2: There's more going on.

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Speaker 5: I mean, it's been out for so long.

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Speaker 1: Watching it it's till now it's it's like it's so

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Speaker 1: old that like no one should be talking about it,

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Speaker 1: and so if they are, they're specifically spoiling my experience

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Speaker 1: of it.

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Speaker 4: You're basically at the point I'm theorizing.

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Speaker 1: We haven't been able to watch a lot because Christian,

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Speaker 1: Sophia and I don't have like the same sketch. Okay, anyway,

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Speaker 1: on the monitors, we got some more. But I feel

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00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 1: like we've talked through this, so let's get straight into

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Speaker 1: this update. So I think Mary is absolutely not coming

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Speaker 1: to Christmas. I was never planning to invite her, and

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00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:13,760
Speaker 1: my husband would never allow her within twenty feet of

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Speaker 1: our home. She will throw a fit, but we don't care.

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00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:19,199
Speaker 1: I love the holidays, and for once, I'd like to

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Speaker 1: spend them with people who actually care about me. I

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00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 1: also think it's a good idea to take your advice

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Speaker 1: to avoid family gatherings if Mary is present, that will

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Speaker 1: be hard because I don't want to miss time with

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Speaker 1: the rest of my family. You know, maybe it's just

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Speaker 1: something that you have to endure for a little bit.

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Speaker 4: I don't agree with avoiding all family gatherings because of

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Speaker 4: one person, because then I always feel like that person

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Speaker 4: is quote unquote kind of like winning the situation.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and you you shouldn't win.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean it's but it's not even about winning.

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Speaker 4: To be clears, why is that quote unquote coming from us.

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Speaker 4: It's more just about, like, you don't want your freedom

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Speaker 4: of movement to be impacted because someone's presence at the

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Speaker 4: party that you don't like or don't get along.

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Speaker 3: With someone who's winning.

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00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:09,719
Speaker 2: Hey, I've had my fair share of losses.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I don't know. Someone has a zend garden in

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Speaker 3: their new apartment.

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Speaker 2: Maybe found No one's found it yet.

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Speaker 1: So I'll just make plans with them individually. Once again,

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Speaker 1: thank you to everyone who commented. You've given me a

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Speaker 1: lot to think about, and I'm planning to share some

579
00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:29,920
Speaker 1: of your comments with my therapists to work through them.

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00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:32,320
Speaker 1: Some of them hit me hard and I need time

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Speaker 1: to unpack everything. This will be my last update, and

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00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 1: I'll be deleting this account sometime after posting this. Take

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Speaker 1: care and I wish you all the best from both

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Speaker 1: me and my husband. We hope you have a wonderful holiday,

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Speaker 1: and that is where that story ends.

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00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 2: We hope it stays wonderful for everybody. Watchful.

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00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:55,280
Speaker 1: But I believe we par promised the people. We did

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00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 1: promise Max. One Max story, a Max call.

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Speaker 2: Give me a little longer than one minute.

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Speaker 4: It's not like we we did spin a call on

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Speaker 4: the wheel. It can be just a normal call, you know,

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Speaker 4: but we can also press him to make it funny.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, you should just be like, hurry up, Max, creativity,

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Speaker 1: loved constraints. That's that's where that's where I'm coming from.

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00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:16,360
Speaker 2: So I'm gonna write that down.

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Speaker 1: That is not my own, but it is a great one,

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00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 1: and I'm going to pull up. The next story is uh,

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Speaker 1: Max and the discord?

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Speaker 5: Uh No, I don't think so, Max.

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Speaker 3: Whyn't you in the discord?

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Speaker 1: I'm going to call the old fashioned way.

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Speaker 4: And Max, no cursing, No cursing? Yeah, Sam, what do

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Speaker 4: you mean?

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Speaker 1: I have Sam ever cursed Max? I have never cursed

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Speaker 1: in my whole dash darn life. Do you want to

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Speaker 1: read some donots while pull us up?

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Speaker 4: Amanda Oliver, thank for twenty dollars. You guys are the best.

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Speaker 3: I don't know read we've read though, I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, but Julia tattoo, thank you for the five dollars.

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Speaker 4: My dad played Santa at my elementary school when I

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Speaker 4: was seven. I didn't notice it first, but he has

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Speaker 4: identity probably the best way to find out. I love

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Speaker 2: For a second, I was like, where my one piece

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Speaker 2: fans at? We got Annell in the chat?

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Speaker 5: What about one?

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Speaker 1: get on it like the stream now we have over

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Speaker 4: we are caught up. Now.

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Speaker 3: Okay, we got some super.

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Speaker 2: Anna Moon.

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Speaker 3: Thanks for the twenty bucks. How do you do it all?

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Speaker 1: Y'all?

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Speaker 3: And some men? I hope you're doing well? Also, please

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Speaker 3: like the streaming? Please please please?

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Speaker 2: How do do lands?

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Speaker 7: Uh?

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Speaker 1: Before becoming a night member and vix Mix another five

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Speaker 1: gifted memberships, making them to grow a little bit more

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Speaker 1: every day with.

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Speaker 5: You said, you said one piece, and I still can't

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Speaker 5: believe you haven't noticed it.

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Speaker 2: No, I've been noticing.

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Speaker 5: Okay, good, I'm really happy that you have.

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Speaker 3: Speaking. Can you hear him? Can you hear him talk?

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Speaker 5: Max?

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Speaker 1: Can you hear him have him talk? Duc say say

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Speaker 1: your full name and title? Hey chat?

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Speaker 5: We can hear him a little bit. You just to

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Speaker 5: talk a little bit louder.

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Speaker 2: I think may you put him on top of the

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Speaker 2: mic instead, how.

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Speaker 3: Now can you hear me?

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Speaker 4: Now?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we can hear better.

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Speaker 1: Okay, m Max, please give the title of your one

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Speaker 1: minute story.

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Speaker 3: One minute story about what who I am? No, just

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Speaker 3: your best story.

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Speaker 2: Give us your one minute life story.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, your one minute best story.

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Speaker 7: Uh.

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Speaker 3: It could either be how we initially met.

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Speaker 5: It could be Max's first kiss.

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Speaker 2: Oh, your first kiss, Max's first kiss?

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00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:53,480
Speaker 3: Maybe how you Literally.

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Speaker 6: This is the worst time because I'm setting up for

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Speaker 6: a dinner party right now and I have.

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Speaker 3: To Well, luckily you only have a talk for one minute.

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Speaker 5: One minute, okay, okay, give me give me the story.

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00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 1: Topics your first guess, maybe you meeting your co founder.

681
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Speaker 1: I like that story of of that. I don't know

682
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Speaker 1: like you with uh the first kiss? Didn't you have

683
00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 1: a first kiss? Or when you were talking to who's

684
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Speaker 1: the guy with the Justin Bieber guy or Taylor Swift guy,

685
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:23,360
Speaker 1: Scooter Broun Guter Broun. Yeah, when you had when when

686
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 1: you when you were talking to Scooty Scooty.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I think I'll tell you about the story when

688
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 6: I lost my virginity.

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00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:35,719
Speaker 4: Well, no, we said first kiss, Max, we said first kiss,

690
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 4: first kiss.

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00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:42,240
Speaker 3: Oh wait, what either hung up or I hung up.

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00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:46,120
Speaker 5: It's longer than a minute ago.

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Speaker 4: Max, Max, We cared Max, think of the children.

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Speaker 2: Uh.

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00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:58,480
Speaker 3: Cassandra says, hey guys.

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Speaker 2: Yes, Cassandra, Cara Canaba. Thanks for the twenty five dollars.

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00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:06,920
Speaker 4: Hey guys, love you all. But last time Sam got

698
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Speaker 4: my name wrong. It's Canaba Cannaba.

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Speaker 2: Well that was that was the call for Max. You

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Speaker 2: guys got can Aba.

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Speaker 1: Canaba, Cannaba, Cannaba, can Aba can I think it was

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Speaker 1: a can Aba Canaba.

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Speaker 3: Cool.

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00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 2: But anyways, hope everyone has a good in stress free Christmas.

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Speaker 4: Umm, donate I lead. Thanks for the five dollars. I

706
00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 4: have spinal damage from two car accidents. I'm a walking

707
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 4: bad luck accident. We'll have to put it in the

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Speaker 4: subred at sometime. I deal with paying constantly and not

709
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Speaker 4: only am I not.

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Speaker 2: An a hole.

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00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 4: I went back to school and got my degree. She's

712
00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 4: got no excuse. Love you all. You're awesome and I am.

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00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:52,759
Speaker 4: I hope that that improves over time, and you are right,

714
00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:57,359
Speaker 4: it is no excuse to be a nasty little booty booty.

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Speaker 3: Hole booty hole.

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Speaker 4: First, sorry, God, I would like extra larg I am

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Speaker 4: an extra large because I like to shrink everything I wear.

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Speaker 6: Okay, yeah, it depends on the size, God Princess. If

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00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 6: it's like a loose shirt, I'd like it a little

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Speaker 6: bit more with like large.

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Speaker 5: If it's like a tighter I don't know.

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Speaker 6: If it's gonna be like cotton, just do a large, yeah,

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Speaker 6: one of those like slim fit guys, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Also, can we put a pull up that count as

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00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:28,359
Speaker 1: our call? Guys like to do another call?

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Speaker 2: No, I think that count and that can't count as

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Speaker 2: the All.

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Speaker 3: Right, then let's let's pick someone from the discord.

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Speaker 5: Then I gotta look at that, so we gotta read

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00:35:34,560 --> 00:35:35,000
Speaker 5: another story.

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Speaker 1: Okay, a man, okay, thanks for five bucks. Thank you

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00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:41,200
Speaker 1: for guys keeping the company at work. I'm new to

733
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:43,440
Speaker 1: the live streams from a bit ago, but I've been

734
00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 1: listening on Spotify.

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Speaker 2: For eight is right?

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Speaker 4: Ay, amenda to set listeners and welcome to the live stream.

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Speaker 3: Are we sure we read all those almost positive?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I read that?

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Speaker 3: Oah, yeah, you guys are the best munch of love.

741
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Speaker 3: Ye yeah? Yeah?

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00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:05,279
Speaker 1: Okay, and Hannah tipped fifteen bucks and silent Hanush in

743
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:09,080
Speaker 1: this chat, Bella, we should have a duo over with

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00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:11,000
Speaker 1: a call. We will don't you worry. Thanks for the

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00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:14,399
Speaker 1: two pounds, Mela six eight fifteen. Thanks for the five bucks.

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00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:17,640
Speaker 1: My belt almost made me fall down the stairs trying

747
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 1: to be sneaky. I wanted to see how the gifts

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00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:26,400
Speaker 1: got to the tree without a chimney, because sometimes you

749
00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:28,200
Speaker 1: don't have a chimney, had a sad to get in. Yeah,

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00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:31,600
Speaker 1: you're like, h he shifts through through the windows. He

751
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:34,280
Speaker 1: just walks through a wall. Oh my god, that's terrifying.

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00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:36,800
Speaker 1: All right, we're gonna do another call after this story,

753
00:36:37,080 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 1: a real call, not your save your wait, where's your

754
00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 1: save your max now?

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00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:43,759
Speaker 2: He asks, forsaken you?

756
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,040
Speaker 4: Also, I can't remember who asked me this. This is

757
00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:49,120
Speaker 4: a complete random thing for a hunter hunter. My favorite

758
00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:52,640
Speaker 4: character at first was Leorio, and then of course it's gone.

759
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:56,720
Speaker 4: It's my favorite's gone now, But at first it was Leorio. Okay,

760
00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:58,640
Speaker 4: all right, that was for whoever asked that.

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00:36:58,760 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 3: A half hour got another store.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, Keon is going to find someone to call after

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Speaker 1: this next story.

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Speaker 5: I will I will just Riley on discord.

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Speaker 1: If you haven't joined the Discord Discord dot Gigi slash Okay,

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Speaker 1: story time.

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Speaker 5: Yes, we join one more. Do you read?

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Speaker 3: Do you read?

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00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 1: Thanks for him being a member for two months. God,

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00:37:25,040 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 1: I made this channel part of my life. I like

771
00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:32,040
Speaker 1: listening to the content while working for the Blue Vest Mafia.

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00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:34,080
Speaker 1: I have stories from that.

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00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 3: Place that I think I know where that is? Who

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Speaker 3: are slash Okay story Time?

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Speaker 4: I think that's Look, I'm a new person. Now, who

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Speaker 4: am I?

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Speaker 2: I think I know where you're working? And we won't

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00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:45,800
Speaker 2: give them a free sponsor.

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00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:49,600
Speaker 3: No, we shan't. All right, let's freaking do this.

780
00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 1: So my brother ignored us for years now he wants

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00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 1: part of the inheritance.

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00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 2: I heard you guys got a lot of money. Can

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Speaker 2: I have some?

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00:37:57,880 --> 00:38:01,480
Speaker 1: My dad passed away almost two months ago. Now he

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00:38:01,520 --> 00:38:05,799
Speaker 1: had three children, myself and my two older brothers. Being

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Speaker 1: the only girl in the family, my older brothers had

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Speaker 1: a tendency to push me around, thinking that they knew

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Speaker 1: more than I did because they were older than me.

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Speaker 3: Whatever.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from competitive Alps eight seven

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Speaker 1: to one on the R slash Okay story Time.

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Speaker 3: Soburt it.

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00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:24,320
Speaker 1: So once we all became adults, Brother B I refer

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Speaker 1: to him brother B is call him Brad went off

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00:38:27,320 --> 00:38:31,000
Speaker 1: on his own and pretty much alien alienated our family.

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00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:34,680
Speaker 1: Then he got married, and he further alienated our family.

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00:38:35,120 --> 00:38:39,719
Speaker 1: He had only my parents. He he had only my

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Speaker 1: parents only grandchildren, and I can literally count on one

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Speaker 1: hand how many times he brought them to visit my

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Speaker 1: parents before Brother Brad's own kids became adults in spite

801
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:53,880
Speaker 1: of living only ten minutes away from my parents, so

802
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 1: he did not introduce his children to his parents at all.

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Speaker 1: Brother Brad is in kind of man.

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Speaker 2: Yes, he's a little reclusive.

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Speaker 1: Reclusive and indeed he keeps it close to the vest,

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Speaker 1: the blue Vest.

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Speaker 3: As the Brother Brad's.

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Speaker 1: Children became adults themselves, also living tenants away from my parents,

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Speaker 1: they never visited them. In case anybody is wondering, no,

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Speaker 1: Brother Brad was not abused or anything growing up. He

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Speaker 1: just has always been selfish and self centered. If anything,

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00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 1: he was the spoiled one growing up. Our parents were

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Speaker 1: way more lenient with him than they were with my

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Speaker 1: brother and I. The few times his family had contact

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Speaker 1: with my parents, his wife in particular, was quite nasty

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Speaker 1: with my mom. My mom was quite elderly by the

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00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 1: time the grandchildren were little, so that further irritated me

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Speaker 1: for her to disrespect an elderly person, you know, Brother

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00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:53,759
Speaker 1: Brad could be totally terrible, but often the abuse of

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Speaker 1: childhood is not something we might share even with family members.

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Speaker 2: Another thing that kids gets kept close to the vest.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, thing kept close to abuse.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't.

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Speaker 4: You know a lot of people will will take that

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Speaker 4: with them through their whole life without ever telling anybody.

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Speaker 4: Which if that's the case for anybody, try telling somebody

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Speaker 4: you trust.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's or you know, it's.

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Speaker 2: Not always the cleanest thing, but it's.

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Speaker 3: Nobody.

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Speaker 2: Nobody deserves to have to carry a weight like that

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Speaker 2: around with them their entire life.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes even writing it out and not even showing it

835
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Speaker 1: to anyone could be cathartic itself. Let alone there, mother

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Speaker 1: slash grandmother. But to keep peace in the family, I'll

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Speaker 1: let it slid. Strangely enough, had I spoken up, I

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Speaker 1: would have been the bad person. And I knew this,

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Speaker 1: and I didn't want to further make waves, so I

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Speaker 1: remained silent. I did speak up pretty tactfully to my

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00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:51,600
Speaker 1: dad a couple of times about it, and I already

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00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 1: saw it was going to create huge waves, so I

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00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:58,600
Speaker 1: let it go my dad and I did ask brother

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Speaker 1: Brad a couple of times why he visited my parents,

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Speaker 1: and brother Brad would say he was busy, but he

846
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:09,000
Speaker 1: sure made plenty of time for his wife's side of

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Speaker 1: the family. I mean, I get that it happens like

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Speaker 1: that sometimes, so we pretty much just accepted it. We

849
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:16,279
Speaker 1: could see nothing was going to change, so why get

850
00:41:16,280 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 1: ourselves upset over something that clearly was not going to change.

851
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:23,319
Speaker 1: Fast forward to my dad passing a couple months ago.

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00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:28,160
Speaker 1: Brother Brad has been bugging me about Dad's will. I

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00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:29,160
Speaker 1: mean literally, Dad was.

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00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 3: Not even cold in the ground yet.

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Speaker 1: And brother Brad, who notoriously never called me, suddenly was

856
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:37,839
Speaker 1: calling me asking about Dad's will.

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00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 2: That's just such, Dike, such so distasteful, thinly veiled, just

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Speaker 2: disgustingly selfish behavior.

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00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:49,240
Speaker 3: It's not veiled, man, is just like, where's my money?

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00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:51,440
Speaker 3: That death is my chesh?

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Speaker 2: True? I guess, yeah, yeah, it's there is no.

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00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:58,360
Speaker 3: There's no veil, man, man, is he could? Oh?

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00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:00,920
Speaker 2: I was just calling to see what you're doing.

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Speaker 3: Now that's it?

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Speaker 2: And then also is there money for us all? Maybe?

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Speaker 3: Please?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Then he got a copy of the will? All right, Wait, question,

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Speaker 1: do you think Daddy O put Brad in the will?

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Speaker 2: Probably? Eh, I'm gonna say it. Probably.

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00:42:19,960 --> 00:42:22,080
Speaker 1: I feel probably, but like at a much lower level,

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00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:28,439
Speaker 1: potentially because Dad only left him his gin collection. Yeah,

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00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:33,839
Speaker 1: we'll call it that little surprise. Brother Brad started contacting

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00:42:33,880 --> 00:42:38,920
Speaker 1: both myself and brother Adam. Brother Adam is Dad's executor.

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00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 1: I'm guessing he's going to try to talk to us

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Speaker 1: into giving him a percentage of our inheritance because the

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00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:46,840
Speaker 1: executor can kind of manage all of the estate executes

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00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:49,719
Speaker 1: he executes. Now I can say that Dad told Brother

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00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:52,000
Speaker 1: Adam and I many times the reason he did this

880
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 1: was because Brother Brad had already inherited a large bundle

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00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:59,240
Speaker 1: from my dad's two sisters, and Brother Adam and I

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00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 1: had not, So Dad kind of wanted to level the

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00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 1: playing field, so to speak. Oh so this is kind

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00:43:03,040 --> 00:43:06,000
Speaker 1: of like done out of fairness. It's not like this

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00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:10,040
Speaker 1: is over Brad, this is equal. But Brother Brad started

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Speaker 1: this whole conversation by basically saying he guesses he wasn't

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Speaker 1: a very good son or brother, which, yes, I guess

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00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 1: you could say that. Brother Adam and I ignored that

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00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:22,480
Speaker 1: text of his. Then brother Brad began making some small

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Speaker 1: talk through texts. I initially applied keeping it brief, but

891
00:43:24,920 --> 00:43:29,520
Speaker 1: now I'm ignoring those texts. Also, brother Adam still somewhat

892
00:43:29,560 --> 00:43:32,440
Speaker 1: talks with him via text, which I think is foolish.

893
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:36,759
Speaker 1: That's obviously his decision. One of my dad's sisters passed

894
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:39,600
Speaker 1: away earlier last year, and brother Brad was cut out

895
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:43,880
Speaker 1: of her will, though she previously signed her house over

896
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:48,120
Speaker 1: to him, which he sold for almost two hundred thousand dollars.

897
00:43:48,200 --> 00:43:51,200
Speaker 1: So I mean he's making out with the money from

898
00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:53,520
Speaker 1: these inheritance.

899
00:43:53,760 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 2: Inherent multiple inheriti Yeah, he's inheriting. Use me like an octopus.

900
00:43:58,640 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 2: Kean ketchup. Okay, we definitely said that wrong.

901
00:44:04,800 --> 00:44:14,800
Speaker 4: And it's executor, not executor, it's executor. Yeah, and everyone

902
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:17,360
Speaker 4: Chat is flaming us right now. We're saying it was

903
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:26,080
Speaker 4: an executor. He's not a hangman says this is uh yeah, executor.

904
00:44:26,440 --> 00:44:27,080
Speaker 2: And I knew that.

905
00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:29,040
Speaker 4: I knew that too, and I just kind of went

906
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 4: along with it. But now Chat's calling us out.

907
00:44:31,600 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 3: No one said anything to me.

908
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 5: No, it was really funny.

909
00:44:34,680 --> 00:44:36,719
Speaker 2: We were just I was kind of going along with it.

910
00:44:37,160 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 2: I thought it was fun. Then Chad was like, these jokers, right.

911
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:43,680
Speaker 3: Is it not?

912
00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:47,399
Speaker 1: Is it not spelled the same? It's executor, but it's

913
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:49,359
Speaker 1: spelled the same as executor.

914
00:44:49,640 --> 00:44:54,040
Speaker 4: Kind of, I think, yeah, maybe is it not my eecutor?

915
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:57,200
Speaker 3: Kean, can you get on that exc how do you

916
00:44:57,239 --> 00:45:01,800
Speaker 3: spell executor and executor? Just all right, fine, executor.

917
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 2: Unreliable narrator got astonish me.

918
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:10,839
Speaker 1: Brother Brad began hounding me and also my dad trying

919
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:13,560
Speaker 1: to persuade us to get brother Adam to divide his

920
00:45:13,680 --> 00:45:16,760
Speaker 1: very large inheritance from Auntie. That aunt left the Lion's

921
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 1: shared to brother Adam. And trust to me, it was

922
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 1: a massive fortune. Brother Adam retired. Wow, that's that is big.

923
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:28,960
Speaker 3: That's a lot of money.

924
00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:30,480
Speaker 4: If you got a lot of if you got enough

925
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:32,279
Speaker 4: money to retire, that's it's a lot of money.

926
00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:36,400
Speaker 1: There's a lot of money at least, like potentially, you know,

927
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:40,120
Speaker 1: close to a million. Probably more than that, Yeah, probably

928
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:41,959
Speaker 1: more than that, but at least a million.

929
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:43,120
Speaker 2: At least at the very least.

930
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 4: I feel like you're rushing if you just retire as

931
00:45:45,560 --> 00:45:46,760
Speaker 4: soon as you get a million bucks.

932
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:48,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's a little rushed.

933
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:50,400
Speaker 2: Depending on where you live, maybe.

934
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:51,880
Speaker 1: Well, I mean I feel like you could retire for

935
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:57,280
Speaker 1: a million bucks in like most areas and like around

936
00:45:57,400 --> 00:45:58,840
Speaker 1: the states that are not cities.

937
00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:03,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, But I just mean, like maybe just way like

938
00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:06,160
Speaker 4: you can keep going a little bit. I guess there's something.

939
00:46:06,400 --> 00:46:07,880
Speaker 4: Is there something that stops you? I guess in my

940
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:09,680
Speaker 4: head when you retire, it's like there's like a rule.

941
00:46:09,719 --> 00:46:13,640
Speaker 4: It's like ah ah ah, no more work for you. No, no, no, It's.

942
00:46:13,719 --> 00:46:16,120
Speaker 1: Like you could you could like retire from doing stuff

943
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:18,239
Speaker 1: you hate. Yeah, you could be like you know, if

944
00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:19,480
Speaker 1: you don't, if you don't like your job, and.

945
00:46:19,480 --> 00:46:20,320
Speaker 3: You can quit and do somebody.

946
00:46:20,320 --> 00:46:22,520
Speaker 4: It's like someone catches you working after you retire and

947
00:46:22,520 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 4: they're like, no, we're taking you back to the notework.

948
00:46:25,320 --> 00:46:30,320
Speaker 3: So start says the same spelling, different pronunciation. Is that right?

949
00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 2: Yeah? Executor an executor.

950
00:46:34,520 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 1: It was a massive fortune brother Adam retired. Now, mind you,

951
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:40,839
Speaker 1: our dad was already in hospice by then, almost at

952
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:45,359
Speaker 1: ninety three years old. He certainly did not need that

953
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:49,560
Speaker 1: aggravation of being hounded about his sister and her will.

954
00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:53,120
Speaker 1: And I know how brother Brad is once he starts

955
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:55,759
Speaker 1: on a topic, he just doesn't shut up.

956
00:46:56,080 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 3: He was doing his.

957
00:46:56,640 --> 00:46:59,360
Speaker 1: Best persuade Dad to get brother Adam to split his inheritance.

958
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 1: At the time, I did try to see a brother

959
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:05,879
Speaker 1: Brad basically seeing a basically being banned from seeing Dad

960
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:08,920
Speaker 1: because in my honest opinion, Dad didn't need that stress

961
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:12,680
Speaker 1: an aggravation, but the hospice staff told me because Dad

962
00:47:12,760 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 1: was still of sand mind, it had to be my

963
00:47:15,080 --> 00:47:17,640
Speaker 1: dad's decision. So now here we are again. Brother Brad

964
00:47:17,760 --> 00:47:20,000
Speaker 1: is doing what he did when our aunt passed away.

965
00:47:20,040 --> 00:47:24,319
Speaker 1: Starting off was small talk, but I'm eventually sure he's

966
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:26,360
Speaker 1: going to be working his way and asking that the

967
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 1: inheritance be split up.

968
00:47:28,800 --> 00:47:31,840
Speaker 3: Incredible or should I say incredulous at any rates.

969
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:34,319
Speaker 1: When this first started happening, I felt a little bit

970
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 1: bad because I felt like I just lost my dad.

971
00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: Then I was losing brother Brad. But I quickly realized

972
00:47:40,680 --> 00:47:44,239
Speaker 1: you can't mourn a relationship that you didn't have, so

973
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 1: I don't feel bad at all. I am not one

974
00:47:47,200 --> 00:47:50,240
Speaker 1: to ignore people, and yes, it sucks that his family,

975
00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:53,239
Speaker 1: let alone immediate family, but quite honestly, I guess he's

976
00:47:53,280 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 1: getting what he deserves after all these years. So am

977
00:47:57,200 --> 00:47:59,800
Speaker 1: I wrong for feeling this way? I suppose some people

978
00:48:00,160 --> 00:48:02,320
Speaker 1: say he's trying to build a relationship, but a leopard

979
00:48:02,320 --> 00:48:05,680
Speaker 1: doesn't change his spots, and truthfully, this is his mo o.

980
00:48:06,160 --> 00:48:06,520
Speaker 3: I saw it.

981
00:48:06,560 --> 00:48:08,560
Speaker 1: Whatever my aunt passed away, and I can say with

982
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:12,160
Speaker 1: ninety nine point certainty he is never going to try

983
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:15,160
Speaker 1: to build a relationship with us slash my brother Adam

984
00:48:15,239 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 1: and I Okay.

985
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:19,000
Speaker 2: So when it comes to the.

986
00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:22,960
Speaker 4: Terms of phrase that are like the leopard never changes

987
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 4: its spots and you can't teach an old dog new tricks,

988
00:48:25,200 --> 00:48:28,239
Speaker 4: and like people never change, it's like there are there

989
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 4: are people who never change a lot of people, but

990
00:48:30,719 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 4: there are people that do. And it's like a lot

991
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:35,279
Speaker 4: of those phrases were invented at a time where like

992
00:48:35,640 --> 00:48:38,440
Speaker 4: people didn't have the resources that we have now. People

993
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:44,120
Speaker 4: people didn't understand each other interpersonally or even like internally,

994
00:48:44,160 --> 00:48:45,319
Speaker 4: like personally the way that.

995
00:48:45,320 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 2: They can now could call it.

996
00:48:47,120 --> 00:48:52,359
Speaker 4: So I don't, although it is important to like keep

997
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:55,880
Speaker 4: people honest if if they're changing or not, Like, if

998
00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:57,600
Speaker 4: someone says they're changing, you have to be like, well,

999
00:48:57,640 --> 00:48:59,279
Speaker 4: that's one thing you're gonna have to show me though,

1000
00:48:59,800 --> 00:49:02,280
Speaker 4: and then if they renege on that or they backslide

1001
00:49:02,320 --> 00:49:03,759
Speaker 4: to old behaviors, you get to go.

1002
00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 2: Hey, remember how you said you were going to change,

1003
00:49:06,000 --> 00:49:06,880
Speaker 2: You're doing the thing again.

1004
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:11,280
Speaker 1: I think, like, if you want a more positive outlook

1005
00:49:11,800 --> 00:49:14,839
Speaker 1: on life, believe that people can change because that means

1006
00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:17,080
Speaker 1: you can too, which is like a beautiful way to

1007
00:49:17,080 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 1: look at the world. And it's true. It's true, and

1008
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:22,719
Speaker 1: there's plenty of evidence of people changing, and you only

1009
00:49:22,760 --> 00:49:26,279
Speaker 1: need some people to be able to change for that

1010
00:49:26,280 --> 00:49:28,040
Speaker 1: statement to be true. It's not about everyone.

1011
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 4: That's literally what these tattoos are about on my arm,

1012
00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:33,680
Speaker 4: Like you can actually what these are? They all they

1013
00:49:33,719 --> 00:49:35,640
Speaker 4: all say it's it's a Game of Thrones quote, but

1014
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 4: it's all A man is no one And it's essentially

1015
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:40,640
Speaker 4: the same thing as like from The Iron Giant, where

1016
00:49:40,680 --> 00:49:42,279
Speaker 4: it's like we are who we choose to be. It's

1017
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:44,720
Speaker 4: like at any moment, you can wipe your slate off

1018
00:49:44,800 --> 00:49:48,000
Speaker 4: and write something else and then you can just do that,

1019
00:49:48,200 --> 00:49:51,960
Speaker 4: like it's there's nothing stopping you from doing that at all.

1020
00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 1: And that's the beautiful thing about life. It's like like

1021
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:56,480
Speaker 1: you could, you could, you could go to a new

1022
00:49:56,880 --> 00:49:59,000
Speaker 1: city right now and become a new person or a

1023
00:49:59,000 --> 00:49:59,759
Speaker 1: new town.

1024
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 2: And our core we are blank slates.

1025
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:09,279
Speaker 1: But that all being set. Uh, I really think this

1026
00:50:09,360 --> 00:50:18,359
Speaker 1: is bullshit. This guy's away, who come on? I agree though,

1027
00:50:18,440 --> 00:50:21,359
Speaker 1: I do agree, Like this guy doesn't talk to them

1028
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:24,560
Speaker 1: four years and the only two points of contact are

1029
00:50:24,760 --> 00:50:27,400
Speaker 1: when the people with the money died, he's trying to

1030
00:50:27,440 --> 00:50:31,160
Speaker 1: get the inheritance b s. I do not buy it

1031
00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:33,920
Speaker 1: at all. Yeah, this is a bunch of bologney. I

1032
00:50:33,960 --> 00:50:36,320
Speaker 1: think he is a leopard and he is not changing

1033
00:50:36,400 --> 00:50:38,840
Speaker 1: his spots, although you know leopards can change their I

1034
00:50:38,920 --> 00:50:39,360
Speaker 1: just wanted to.

1035
00:50:39,360 --> 00:50:41,520
Speaker 3: Put that out there, and I think it's important.

1036
00:50:41,640 --> 00:50:43,440
Speaker 4: It's important to stay in the gray A lot of

1037
00:50:43,520 --> 00:50:45,359
Speaker 4: a lot of times in this world, we go black

1038
00:50:45,400 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 4: and white where it's all yes, all no, all love

1039
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:50,680
Speaker 4: or all hate, and it's like there's middle ground for stuff.

1040
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:53,799
Speaker 4: But this guy definitely just wants the inheritance money, let's

1041
00:50:53,840 --> 00:50:54,200
Speaker 4: be clear.

1042
00:50:54,280 --> 00:50:54,520
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1043
00:50:54,560 --> 00:50:56,600
Speaker 1: Also, I just want to shout out kimberly Fine for

1044
00:50:56,760 --> 00:50:59,879
Speaker 1: saying Nuance is beautiful on the last stream, So shout

1045
00:50:59,880 --> 00:51:02,719
Speaker 1: out can belalely Fine for saying that if he does

1046
00:51:02,960 --> 00:51:05,480
Speaker 1: try to build a fake relationship, it's going to be

1047
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:09,960
Speaker 1: brief until he probably would get a chunk of our inheritance.

1048
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:12,640
Speaker 1: Then I can pretty much guarantee he will be back

1049
00:51:12,640 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 1: to ignoring our side of the family. The sad thing

1050
00:51:15,640 --> 00:51:17,799
Speaker 1: is like Brother A said, we could give him all

1051
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:20,680
Speaker 1: our inheritance and it still wouldn't appease him. He is

1052
00:51:20,760 --> 00:51:24,239
Speaker 1: just never happy. Nothing is ever enough for him. But

1053
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:26,799
Speaker 1: hopefully we can be enough for you when you join

1054
00:51:26,840 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 1: our live every weekday three pm PST right here on

1055
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:33,480
Speaker 1: YouTube and Facebook and TikTok and Twitch. Just have a profile.

1056
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:38,680
Speaker 1: We're probably live right now. But yeah, I mean, like

1057
00:51:39,560 --> 00:51:41,680
Speaker 1: I really do think maybe you know you can.

1058
00:51:41,719 --> 00:51:42,040
Speaker 3: You can.

1059
00:51:42,760 --> 00:51:45,840
Speaker 1: You never want to shut the door on someone ideally,

1060
00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:48,799
Speaker 1: you know, but you also don't want them to damage

1061
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:50,440
Speaker 1: you and your life and your happiness.

1062
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:54,279
Speaker 4: So I think in this situation, a great thing to

1063
00:51:54,280 --> 00:51:57,120
Speaker 4: do would be to like immediately call him out and

1064
00:51:57,120 --> 00:51:59,719
Speaker 4: see how he reacts, where he's like, hey, so what's

1065
00:51:59,719 --> 00:52:01,719
Speaker 4: going on with the inheritance? You go, oh, so you're

1066
00:52:01,760 --> 00:52:03,680
Speaker 4: just you're just coming back around to get the money, right,

1067
00:52:03,960 --> 00:52:06,720
Speaker 4: you know. And then if he like starts choking on himself,

1068
00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:11,640
Speaker 4: like it's not like I would never do that, It's like,

1069
00:52:11,760 --> 00:52:12,040
Speaker 4: yeah you.

1070
00:52:12,040 --> 00:52:13,080
Speaker 2: Would, Okay, goodbye.

1071
00:52:13,560 --> 00:52:17,120
Speaker 1: I think if this was if this was my brother,

1072
00:52:17,440 --> 00:52:19,200
Speaker 1: and you know, I have a great relationship with my sister,

1073
00:52:19,280 --> 00:52:22,320
Speaker 1: so it's really hard to see this from like a

1074
00:52:22,320 --> 00:52:25,160
Speaker 1: a bad view or like see my like see what

1075
00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:28,520
Speaker 1: it would be like for this staff and to me, what, Oh,

1076
00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:30,719
Speaker 1: Sophia just came in and said I love you.

1077
00:52:32,480 --> 00:52:33,200
Speaker 3: I love you too.

1078
00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:39,360
Speaker 1: Sophia and I do this thing where she'll she'll like, uh,

1079
00:52:39,560 --> 00:52:42,279
Speaker 1: She'll be like, oh, Sam, did you see what's in

1080
00:52:42,360 --> 00:52:47,720
Speaker 1: this cup? Says I love you. But she'll be like, Sam,

1081
00:52:47,800 --> 00:52:51,240
Speaker 1: oh my god, we just got this letter from the DMV.

1082
00:52:52,160 --> 00:52:54,080
Speaker 1: It says I have to go in and say I

1083
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:55,000
Speaker 1: love you to that.

1084
00:52:56,160 --> 00:52:58,000
Speaker 3: Oh.

1085
00:52:58,160 --> 00:53:00,440
Speaker 5: I could never, couldn't.

1086
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:05,560
Speaker 1: But I think if this was, like, you know, someone

1087
00:53:05,600 --> 00:53:10,120
Speaker 1: coming into my life, I would try to assume they're

1088
00:53:10,120 --> 00:53:13,319
Speaker 1: coming with the best intentions, but I would just say, hey, like,

1089
00:53:15,200 --> 00:53:17,160
Speaker 1: I hope this is not what you're going into. I

1090
00:53:17,200 --> 00:53:19,680
Speaker 1: know you might have just heard, you know, Dad died,

1091
00:53:19,800 --> 00:53:23,160
Speaker 1: and you might be wondering about the inheritance. This is

1092
00:53:23,200 --> 00:53:25,359
Speaker 1: what we're planning to do on the inheritance. I want

1093
00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:27,680
Speaker 1: to build a relationship with you, but I don't really

1094
00:53:27,719 --> 00:53:30,000
Speaker 1: want to talk about the inheritance right now in this

1095
00:53:30,040 --> 00:53:32,080
Speaker 1: way with you, and so kind of like dish it

1096
00:53:32,120 --> 00:53:37,120
Speaker 1: all out and you know, in like forward and then

1097
00:53:37,200 --> 00:53:40,200
Speaker 1: maybe you can start a good relationship from there.

1098
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:42,480
Speaker 4: But you need to also be hold, he needs to

1099
00:53:42,520 --> 00:53:44,520
Speaker 4: be able accountable for his previous behavior.

1100
00:53:44,680 --> 00:53:46,480
Speaker 2: Like for the for the years, for.

1101
00:53:46,440 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 4: The years of the silent treatment and the ignoring, like

1102
00:53:49,840 --> 00:53:53,240
Speaker 4: and you could say, and you can't say, I want

1103
00:53:53,280 --> 00:53:56,480
Speaker 4: to grow this thing, but we need to acknowledge our

1104
00:53:56,719 --> 00:54:02,440
Speaker 4: previous you know, relationship or lack thereof, and like you know,

1105
00:54:02,480 --> 00:54:04,640
Speaker 4: I don't know, we need to put If you're going

1106
00:54:04,680 --> 00:54:06,799
Speaker 4: to put that out and the open, then everything needs

1107
00:54:06,840 --> 00:54:08,480
Speaker 4: to come out on the open, or else is not

1108
00:54:08,520 --> 00:54:11,719
Speaker 4: going to be genuine, like you know, he needs to

1109
00:54:11,719 --> 00:54:13,719
Speaker 4: be able to be like, yeah, the reason I was

1110
00:54:13,760 --> 00:54:16,720
Speaker 4: gone for all that time because X Y or Z. Yeah,

1111
00:54:16,840 --> 00:54:18,520
Speaker 4: or even if he can't give you a reason to

1112
00:54:18,640 --> 00:54:21,760
Speaker 4: just acknowledge it and like to be like remorseful about

1113
00:54:21,760 --> 00:54:22,760
Speaker 4: it or sorry whatever.

1114
00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:28,719
Speaker 1: I think you have to have that conversation to start connection. Yeah,

1115
00:54:28,800 --> 00:54:29,640
Speaker 1: and uh.

1116
00:54:30,160 --> 00:54:32,000
Speaker 3: That's a hard thing to do on both sides, on both.

1117
00:54:31,880 --> 00:54:34,600
Speaker 2: Sides, but it does certainly read like he just wants

1118
00:54:34,600 --> 00:54:35,600
Speaker 2: the money. Yeah.

1119
00:54:35,680 --> 00:54:38,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like if I was a betting man, I would

1120
00:54:38,160 --> 00:54:39,840
Speaker 1: bet this guy is trying to go after that.

1121
00:54:39,960 --> 00:54:43,359
Speaker 2: I bet my inheritance. This guy wants to take it

1122
00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:43,759
Speaker 2: from me.

1123
00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:48,720
Speaker 1: Not know about the money sp So so there's another

1124
00:54:48,760 --> 00:54:51,680
Speaker 1: relevant update. But let's discuss which we just did and

1125
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:54,280
Speaker 1: so we're gonna go into this update. So it sucks,

1126
00:54:54,400 --> 00:54:56,919
Speaker 1: it's sad, but it happens. I was hurt for many

1127
00:54:56,960 --> 00:54:59,400
Speaker 1: years by our brother alienating us, and I was further

1128
00:54:59,480 --> 00:55:04,440
Speaker 1: hurt realizing that even though we may be we maybe

1129
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:06,759
Speaker 1: spoke to him once or twice a year, we would

1130
00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:08,200
Speaker 1: not be speaking to him at all.

1131
00:55:08,280 --> 00:55:08,520
Speaker 3: Now.

1132
00:55:08,719 --> 00:55:10,880
Speaker 1: That made me sad at first, but really sad to say,

1133
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:13,840
Speaker 1: really don't care now? Am I the a hole for

1134
00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:16,640
Speaker 1: feeling this way? For my decision to ignore brother Brad

1135
00:55:16,680 --> 00:55:19,239
Speaker 1: from here on? I did try many times have a

1136
00:55:19,280 --> 00:55:21,439
Speaker 1: relationship with that brother and his family. When his kids

1137
00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:23,439
Speaker 1: were little, I would buy the nice Christmas gifts, things

1138
00:55:23,480 --> 00:55:25,839
Speaker 1: like PlayStations, that sort of thing. So I did try

1139
00:55:25,880 --> 00:55:28,279
Speaker 1: to have a relationship with them. They all chose to

1140
00:55:28,280 --> 00:55:30,759
Speaker 1: still ignore me and this side of the family. By

1141
00:55:30,760 --> 00:55:33,279
Speaker 1: the time the kids were almost ten years old, I

1142
00:55:33,320 --> 00:55:36,839
Speaker 1: stopped buying them Christmas gifts. What was the point? But yeah,

1143
00:55:36,960 --> 00:55:38,960
Speaker 1: I did try to have a relationship with them, and

1144
00:55:39,000 --> 00:55:42,759
Speaker 1: it failed. And you know, like, you know, I haven't

1145
00:55:42,760 --> 00:55:46,440
Speaker 1: had this happen with family, but I had a friendship

1146
00:55:46,440 --> 00:55:49,759
Speaker 1: that was super important to me that just like kind

1147
00:55:49,760 --> 00:55:52,839
Speaker 1: of disintegrated, and I was like I kept making an

1148
00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:55,320
Speaker 1: effort and this person just didn't want to make an effort.

1149
00:55:55,360 --> 00:55:57,200
Speaker 1: And after a certain amount of time, you just have

1150
00:55:57,200 --> 00:55:59,000
Speaker 1: to say, all right, that person doesn't want to make

1151
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:02,000
Speaker 1: an effort. I'm not gonna wish them harshly or like

1152
00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:05,000
Speaker 1: speak badly of them, but I'm going to respect that

1153
00:56:05,040 --> 00:56:09,879
Speaker 1: they want this like relationship to die, or maybe die

1154
00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:14,520
Speaker 1: is too harsh, but like like uh, toe out fade

1155
00:56:14,600 --> 00:56:18,080
Speaker 1: and you know, like uh, just as you know, like

1156
00:56:18,320 --> 00:56:22,479
Speaker 1: everyone has every right to keep the relationships they want

1157
00:56:22,880 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 1: in their in their life. And uh to for for

1158
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:30,000
Speaker 1: me to ask for a reason to me, for me

1159
00:56:30,080 --> 00:56:35,680
Speaker 1: to ask for uh for that connection, I feel just

1160
00:56:35,719 --> 00:56:37,799
Speaker 1: you know, I have no right to that. You know,

1161
00:56:38,040 --> 00:56:40,040
Speaker 1: like I think a relationship is it is a two way.

1162
00:56:39,920 --> 00:56:46,920
Speaker 6: Street totally, Any relationship, the friendship, yeah again, your partnership,

1163
00:56:47,040 --> 00:56:47,680
Speaker 6: your loved ones.

1164
00:56:47,880 --> 00:56:48,920
Speaker 5: It's a two way street.

1165
00:56:49,160 --> 00:56:49,640
Speaker 3: Yea.

1166
00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:54,200
Speaker 1: And sometimes relationship context can change without uh. Mass says,

1167
00:56:54,360 --> 00:56:56,040
Speaker 1: was it that girl with a boyfriend? Sam, Damn, you

1168
00:56:56,120 --> 00:56:58,480
Speaker 1: guys have great memory? Yes, Yes it was, Yes, it was.

1169
00:56:59,840 --> 00:57:02,360
Speaker 1: I I just know you're lord not no, not that

1170
00:57:02,480 --> 00:57:03,280
Speaker 1: well it was a girl?

1171
00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:05,680
Speaker 3: No? Sorry, was it that girl with a boyfriend? No?

1172
00:57:05,719 --> 00:57:06,160
Speaker 3: It was not.

1173
00:57:06,680 --> 00:57:09,239
Speaker 4: No, sorry, it's about to say friend from college. Well

1174
00:57:09,280 --> 00:57:11,279
Speaker 4: I feel like I know why that friendship ending.

1175
00:57:11,400 --> 00:57:13,640
Speaker 3: No no, no sorry friend from college from from college.

1176
00:57:13,800 --> 00:57:17,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, that would be a crazy twist though. Oh no, no, no,

1177
00:57:17,520 --> 00:57:23,520
Speaker 2: yeah wow uh yeah. Well yeah, it does take It does.

1178
00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:25,200
Speaker 4: Take work, and that's why as as we get older,

1179
00:57:25,240 --> 00:57:28,040
Speaker 4: our circles tend to get smaller as we get out

1180
00:57:28,080 --> 00:57:29,800
Speaker 4: of school and out of high school and out of college.

1181
00:57:30,040 --> 00:57:31,600
Speaker 3: Hard to maintain because it does.

1182
00:57:31,640 --> 00:57:34,560
Speaker 4: It takes like, it takes energy, and it takes a presence.

1183
00:57:34,680 --> 00:57:37,720
Speaker 4: And like when you're in a communal place with a

1184
00:57:37,720 --> 00:57:40,080
Speaker 4: bunch of people all the time, it's really easy to

1185
00:57:40,160 --> 00:57:43,440
Speaker 4: maintain sort of that familiarity in that presence. But as

1186
00:57:43,480 --> 00:57:45,800
Speaker 4: people move on and they like start all their own lives,

1187
00:57:45,840 --> 00:57:49,480
Speaker 4: like it does take a lot of effort to maintain

1188
00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:52,200
Speaker 4: like long distance friendships and to have them maintain the

1189
00:57:52,280 --> 00:57:54,400
Speaker 4: level of meaning and death that they had in the past.

1190
00:57:54,440 --> 00:57:57,000
Speaker 1: And especially in a place like America, where I feel

1191
00:57:57,040 --> 00:58:00,400
Speaker 1: like there's not many you know, communal spaces. There's not

1192
00:58:00,480 --> 00:58:04,320
Speaker 1: like these third spaces where people join and congregate as

1193
00:58:04,440 --> 00:58:07,040
Speaker 1: much as maybe you know in places like like there

1194
00:58:07,040 --> 00:58:10,600
Speaker 1: are some areas of Europe like I feel like as

1195
00:58:10,960 --> 00:58:14,440
Speaker 1: like America does it really well in college where everyone

1196
00:58:14,480 --> 00:58:17,000
Speaker 1: congregates and there's this massive sense of community. And then

1197
00:58:17,040 --> 00:58:19,600
Speaker 1: outside of that, maybe you get at work, but most

1198
00:58:19,600 --> 00:58:21,840
Speaker 1: abtlitely not most people would.

1199
00:58:21,640 --> 00:58:24,680
Speaker 2: Go work, maybe like church if they're if they're religious.

1200
00:58:24,800 --> 00:58:28,320
Speaker 1: It's hard, it's hard, and it takes effort. You can

1201
00:58:28,520 --> 00:58:33,320
Speaker 1: do it. It actually is like a problem that I

1202
00:58:33,440 --> 00:58:37,320
Speaker 1: uh want to work on in general, Like solving loneliness

1203
00:58:38,240 --> 00:58:39,960
Speaker 1: is something I'm super passionate about.

1204
00:58:40,680 --> 00:58:41,880
Speaker 2: It's actually really awesome.

1205
00:58:42,040 --> 00:58:45,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, which is a new show is coming out January

1206
00:58:45,840 --> 00:58:47,640
Speaker 1: that kind of addresses that problem.

1207
00:58:47,720 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 3: So stay, I haven't showed. I haven't showed. I showed

1208
00:58:50,360 --> 00:58:50,919
Speaker 3: you guys this.

1209
00:58:51,160 --> 00:58:52,920
Speaker 4: I think I think so I don't want to blow it,

1210
00:58:52,960 --> 00:58:57,439
Speaker 4: but I think I think I have But and it's

1211
00:58:57,440 --> 00:58:59,040
Speaker 4: really good honestly from what I've seen.

1212
00:58:59,320 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 3: Thanks forro I'm excited.

1213
00:59:01,640 --> 00:59:04,280
Speaker 1: But with that, that is the end of that story,

1214
00:59:04,360 --> 00:59:06,240
Speaker 1: but not the end of the stream, because we got

1215
00:59:06,400 --> 00:59:07,440
Speaker 1: a call in to do.

1216
00:59:07,800 --> 00:59:10,200
Speaker 5: That's right. I'm going to message her right now.

1217
00:59:12,640 --> 00:59:16,160
Speaker 4: Lex with a little happy face. Thanks for the five

1218
00:59:16,200 --> 00:59:19,720
Speaker 4: bucks to the tip link. Sending love and holiday holiday

1219
00:59:19,840 --> 00:59:22,680
Speaker 4: cheer to the people who cheer us up. Year round.

1220
00:59:23,840 --> 00:59:26,160
Speaker 4: Hope you folks have an awesome break. Say I'm wishing

1221
00:59:26,160 --> 00:59:29,200
Speaker 4: you a happy time in my home Mexico City.

1222
00:59:31,280 --> 00:59:34,120
Speaker 3: I will be there. I'm not going to be there.

1223
00:59:34,120 --> 00:59:36,360
Speaker 1: I'm going to be there the twenty seventh to the fourth.

1224
00:59:37,680 --> 00:59:39,080
Speaker 6: Want to keep reading the donots or you want to

1225
00:59:39,080 --> 00:59:40,960
Speaker 6: do the call first? So I'm going to add two

1226
00:59:40,960 --> 00:59:43,240
Speaker 6: minutes because Sam did two curse words.

1227
00:59:43,640 --> 00:59:46,040
Speaker 4: But technically that's four minutes, isn't it, because I think

1228
00:59:46,040 --> 00:59:47,280
Speaker 4: it's two minutes per curse word?

1229
00:59:47,400 --> 00:59:48,480
Speaker 3: Is it?

1230
00:59:50,040 --> 00:59:52,880
Speaker 5: You want to do the story for the call.

1231
00:59:52,720 --> 00:59:57,800
Speaker 3: First, fish the donuts and then and then we'll do

1232
00:59:57,800 --> 00:59:58,000
Speaker 3: the call.

1233
00:59:58,160 --> 01:00:00,760
Speaker 4: I think we and we've got I think that's actually

1234
01:00:00,760 --> 01:00:03,400
Speaker 4: everything from the tiplink, right you got I think we

1235
01:00:03,480 --> 01:00:04,000
Speaker 4: got all that.

1236
01:00:04,040 --> 01:00:05,600
Speaker 2: I think we got that. Yep, we've got that.

1237
01:00:05,720 --> 01:00:06,400
Speaker 3: Okay, let's go.

1238
01:00:06,720 --> 01:00:13,200
Speaker 4: In here, ninochkaz I hope I said that right. Thank

1239
01:00:13,240 --> 01:00:17,520
Speaker 4: you for the one dollar. We appreciate it and you

1240
01:00:17,680 --> 01:00:20,960
Speaker 4: being here. Uh Lola Liita, thank you for being a

1241
01:00:21,040 --> 01:00:24,040
Speaker 4: member for ten months, just popping in to say happy

1242
01:00:24,160 --> 01:00:27,640
Speaker 4: ten months to me and my love for the okay fam,

1243
01:00:27,800 --> 01:00:35,240
Speaker 4: little silly's you did a little emoji, uh olie. Thank

1244
01:00:35,280 --> 01:00:38,840
Speaker 4: you for the gifted membership and whoever got that, whoever

1245
01:00:38,880 --> 01:00:42,240
Speaker 4: got that, let us know, thank you, say thanks to Oli.

1246
01:00:42,320 --> 01:00:46,160
Speaker 4: I think they might have already done that. Actually maybe Ninka,

1247
01:00:46,840 --> 01:00:49,400
Speaker 4: thank you for the five dollars. I absolutely love you guys.

1248
01:00:49,800 --> 01:00:56,440
Speaker 4: Literally sunscreens one uh literally sunscreens ones to you on Facebook.

1249
01:00:56,480 --> 01:00:58,120
Speaker 3: Oh subscribe maybe?

1250
01:00:58,400 --> 01:00:59,240
Speaker 2: Uh oh literally?

1251
01:00:59,280 --> 01:01:03,240
Speaker 4: Okay, So I think it's literally uh subscribed literally subscribe

1252
01:01:03,240 --> 01:01:06,120
Speaker 4: to you guys on Facebook. Listened to your podcast on

1253
01:01:06,240 --> 01:01:08,120
Speaker 4: the way from Kansas to Florida and back.

1254
01:01:08,640 --> 01:01:08,960
Speaker 3: Wow.

1255
01:01:10,200 --> 01:01:11,640
Speaker 5: That maybe it is sunscreen.

1256
01:01:12,520 --> 01:01:15,200
Speaker 3: Maybe it's just sunscreens, the sunscreen ones.

1257
01:01:15,240 --> 01:01:19,080
Speaker 1: Maybe that's like for the for the more pale complexions.

1258
01:01:19,200 --> 01:01:20,720
Speaker 3: Yeah of the group.

1259
01:01:21,080 --> 01:01:24,360
Speaker 4: Were you guys and John extra pale back in the

1260
01:01:24,440 --> 01:01:25,440
Speaker 4: day when it started?

1261
01:01:26,120 --> 01:01:28,440
Speaker 2: Did you guys you just never saw the sun? No?

1262
01:01:28,600 --> 01:01:32,960
Speaker 1: Like literally literally when this started we were recording, we'd

1263
01:01:33,200 --> 01:01:36,720
Speaker 1: have a studio, we recorded in our closets often for

1264
01:01:36,760 --> 01:01:39,680
Speaker 1: like twelve hours a day, or in my room that

1265
01:01:39,720 --> 01:01:42,200
Speaker 1: I was sharing. I was sharing the same bedroom as Christians.

1266
01:01:42,240 --> 01:01:45,640
Speaker 1: So in the in the first few episodes or not,

1267
01:01:45,720 --> 01:01:48,320
Speaker 1: like in the first like thirty episodes, Christian's feet are

1268
01:01:48,320 --> 01:01:50,880
Speaker 1: in the background, and like it's just John and I

1269
01:01:50,840 --> 01:01:54,440
Speaker 1: are recording for like twelve hours, and I couldn't afford

1270
01:01:54,680 --> 01:01:58,080
Speaker 1: any food and so I literally just a cold cup

1271
01:01:58,080 --> 01:02:01,680
Speaker 1: of ramen, cold like chicken noodle soup cans and just

1272
01:02:01,760 --> 01:02:03,600
Speaker 1: down those. And I didn't have any time, so I

1273
01:02:03,640 --> 01:02:06,920
Speaker 1: just down those. Or I made a wait in the paws.

1274
01:02:07,400 --> 01:02:11,280
Speaker 4: You were eating condensed soup with no water, no cookies,

1275
01:02:11,600 --> 01:02:15,480
Speaker 4: just just you were raw dogging was Campbell's chicken noodles?

1276
01:02:15,560 --> 01:02:19,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my god, and soilent and cuel and so

1277
01:02:19,600 --> 01:02:21,240
Speaker 1: I would make a ship the morning.

1278
01:02:21,520 --> 01:02:23,960
Speaker 2: I can imagine what that smelled like.

1279
01:02:24,080 --> 01:02:27,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, it was. It was. That was literally all

1280
01:02:28,280 --> 01:02:28,600
Speaker 3: I ate.

1281
01:02:28,680 --> 01:02:30,840
Speaker 4: I did, and you had to have had farts that

1282
01:02:30,880 --> 01:02:32,160
Speaker 4: could knock down dude.

1283
01:02:32,400 --> 01:02:38,200
Speaker 1: My stomach was was just so bad. And I remember

1284
01:02:38,400 --> 01:02:41,640
Speaker 1: also when we first started, like John and I, I

1285
01:02:41,640 --> 01:02:43,800
Speaker 1: think it was like almost a year in that we

1286
01:02:43,800 --> 01:02:46,920
Speaker 1: were like like, should we like take breaks on the weekend.

1287
01:02:48,040 --> 01:02:50,040
Speaker 3: Because we did for a whole year.

1288
01:02:50,280 --> 01:02:53,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, dude, Yeah, you guys are amazing.

1289
01:02:53,120 --> 01:02:54,840
Speaker 3: We were we were and I didn't have a car

1290
01:02:54,920 --> 01:02:57,160
Speaker 3: and that's wow.

1291
01:02:57,400 --> 01:02:59,280
Speaker 5: It was everyone for Sam.

1292
01:03:00,200 --> 01:03:03,080
Speaker 4: Why you honestly, me and Kean are blessed to be

1293
01:03:03,120 --> 01:03:06,840
Speaker 4: here because like that level of hard work and dedication

1294
01:03:06,920 --> 01:03:10,840
Speaker 4: that you guys done has built this beautiful, this beautiful

1295
01:03:10,880 --> 01:03:13,520
Speaker 4: experience that now we get to be a part of

1296
01:03:13,600 --> 01:03:14,880
Speaker 4: and Chat gets to be a part of.

1297
01:03:15,000 --> 01:03:18,600
Speaker 3: It's so like, dude, it's so truly, it's so funny.

1298
01:03:18,680 --> 01:03:23,320
Speaker 4: God bless you for slamming raw hands of chicken noodle soup.

1299
01:03:23,760 --> 01:03:26,440
Speaker 3: Well, thank you guys for coming on on the journey.

1300
01:03:26,440 --> 01:03:27,240
Speaker 3: It makes it more fun.

1301
01:03:27,840 --> 01:03:30,760
Speaker 6: I've got two more donos and then we'll give Randy

1302
01:03:30,880 --> 01:03:34,080
Speaker 6: Joe thanks for the two bucks and the number one,

1303
01:03:34,280 --> 01:03:35,720
Speaker 6: and Allie thanks for the two bucks.

1304
01:03:35,720 --> 01:03:40,240
Speaker 3: Love you guys. But it said like Allie, I.

1305
01:03:40,280 --> 01:03:42,439
Speaker 4: Just I think I thought it might and I will

1306
01:03:42,480 --> 01:03:43,840
Speaker 4: always call you Ali now.

1307
01:03:44,520 --> 01:03:46,360
Speaker 2: But sometimes we get names where it's like.

1308
01:03:48,240 --> 01:03:51,919
Speaker 4: Still turn on you, Like we haven't an Aila who

1309
01:03:52,000 --> 01:03:56,560
Speaker 4: everyone would think it was Ila, but it's Ala Ala.

1310
01:03:56,720 --> 01:04:00,280
Speaker 3: But I want to go to this call.

1311
01:04:00,320 --> 01:04:03,880
Speaker 5: All right, I'm gonna go and get It's gonna be

1312
01:04:03,880 --> 01:04:04,600
Speaker 5: a little od on.

1313
01:04:06,160 --> 01:04:14,439
Speaker 2: Oh we know who that is? Right, Stella's making a call.

1314
01:04:14,720 --> 01:04:18,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, Stella's making a call, making a.

1315
01:04:21,520 --> 01:04:24,040
Speaker 2: Hi Dakota, Hi Stella.

1316
01:04:24,480 --> 01:04:30,960
Speaker 7: So Stella's going, Hey Stella, Hi, Samuel.

1317
01:04:31,920 --> 01:04:36,040
Speaker 3: How are you? What what is your h title for?

1318
01:04:36,120 --> 01:04:36,600
Speaker 3: Your story.

1319
01:04:36,720 --> 01:04:39,440
Speaker 5: What do you want because you had so many prompts?

1320
01:04:39,480 --> 01:04:41,560
Speaker 5: What prompt do you want that? Sam?

1321
01:04:41,760 --> 01:04:46,320
Speaker 2: Oh? Uh? Uh see, I thought that did she not submit?

1322
01:04:46,520 --> 01:04:49,480
Speaker 5: She said she did. She hasn't all she has she has?

1323
01:04:49,520 --> 01:04:51,000
Speaker 2: Everyone has your favorite one?

1324
01:04:51,040 --> 01:04:51,920
Speaker 3: Ki read it out.

1325
01:04:52,720 --> 01:04:54,480
Speaker 5: I mean, did you want the Christmas one? Do you

1326
01:04:54,520 --> 01:04:55,440
Speaker 5: want to do the Christmas one?

1327
01:04:55,560 --> 01:04:55,760
Speaker 2: Sure?

1328
01:04:55,880 --> 01:04:56,120
Speaker 3: Sure?

1329
01:04:56,320 --> 01:05:00,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, So it's the She's found Santa Claus. Not so

1330
01:05:00,920 --> 01:05:02,360
Speaker 6: when she found out Santa Claus, it was not real.

1331
01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:07,000
Speaker 6: I mean, Santa Claus is real, different on different one.

1332
01:05:08,120 --> 01:05:09,160
Speaker 3: Santa Claus is reel.

1333
01:05:09,760 --> 01:05:12,080
Speaker 2: If your kids are watching the headphones for Gina talking

1334
01:05:12,080 --> 01:05:12,320
Speaker 2: about it.

1335
01:05:12,320 --> 01:05:14,120
Speaker 5: You want to do the Christmas party? Do the Christmas party?

1336
01:05:14,760 --> 01:05:15,800
Speaker 3: Christmas party? Let's do it?

1337
01:05:15,840 --> 01:05:15,960
Speaker 4: What?

1338
01:05:15,840 --> 01:05:15,960
Speaker 8: What?

1339
01:05:16,160 --> 01:05:17,080
Speaker 3: What? What? What's the title?

1340
01:05:18,160 --> 01:05:21,360
Speaker 5: Uh? You got this? You got this Christmas Party?

1341
01:05:21,440 --> 01:05:21,919
Speaker 2: Let's go.

1342
01:05:22,240 --> 01:05:24,760
Speaker 8: Okay. So it was a Christmas party. It was so

1343
01:05:24,840 --> 01:05:30,960
Speaker 8: after a Christmas party event on Christmas Day. Actually basically

1344
01:05:31,000 --> 01:05:34,080
Speaker 8: it was for all the people who worked on Christmas Day.

1345
01:05:34,080 --> 01:05:37,080
Speaker 8: I worked at a hotel and I was room service.

1346
01:05:38,360 --> 01:05:42,120
Speaker 8: So uh, for context, I didn't have heat in my home.

1347
01:05:42,160 --> 01:05:45,040
Speaker 8: And for Sam, just in case you're thinking of it, No,

1348
01:05:45,120 --> 01:05:47,240
Speaker 8: it was not the trailer from hades. It was actually

1349
01:05:47,280 --> 01:05:50,080
Speaker 8: a completely different home, but I just didn't have heat

1350
01:05:50,120 --> 01:05:50,680
Speaker 8: during the winter.

1351
01:05:50,800 --> 01:05:54,640
Speaker 1: That's a very sell us admitted a story like like

1352
01:05:54,840 --> 01:05:58,880
Speaker 1: this was like ages ago of the worst living experience.

1353
01:05:59,200 --> 01:06:02,080
Speaker 1: Like ever, we won't we won't even go into it.

1354
01:06:02,160 --> 01:06:05,440
Speaker 1: But yes, I'm glad it wasn't the trailer from Haities.

1355
01:06:05,440 --> 01:06:07,080
Speaker 1: We do have a little echo. I'm going to turn

1356
01:06:07,240 --> 01:06:11,080
Speaker 1: this down, okay, so keep going. You're at the you're

1357
01:06:11,120 --> 01:06:12,720
Speaker 1: at the hotel. It's cold in your home.

1358
01:06:14,040 --> 01:06:17,240
Speaker 8: So I would take showers at work because we had

1359
01:06:17,400 --> 01:06:20,400
Speaker 8: a good, big size shower that had like a bench

1360
01:06:20,440 --> 01:06:22,400
Speaker 8: to sit and put your stuff on and everything. It

1361
01:06:22,480 --> 01:06:25,200
Speaker 8: was in next to the locker rooms, and that shower

1362
01:06:25,240 --> 01:06:27,400
Speaker 8: would stay warm no matter what. If I put the

1363
01:06:27,400 --> 01:06:30,080
Speaker 8: shower at home, if I would be in pain by

1364
01:06:30,120 --> 01:06:30,919
Speaker 8: the time I got out.

1365
01:06:31,600 --> 01:06:36,040
Speaker 1: So if you pause the stream in the background.

1366
01:06:36,880 --> 01:06:38,280
Speaker 8: I don't have the stream on in the background.

1367
01:06:38,320 --> 01:06:41,200
Speaker 1: Oh perfect, Okay, then you're chilling. Then chat you're crazy

1368
01:06:41,320 --> 01:06:42,520
Speaker 1: now I think they're just still landing.

1369
01:06:42,760 --> 01:06:47,080
Speaker 8: Okay, cool, but y'all might be hearing my sister is

1370
01:06:47,480 --> 01:06:48,120
Speaker 8: doing something.

1371
01:06:49,480 --> 01:06:50,520
Speaker 2: We have some echo stuff.

1372
01:06:50,520 --> 01:06:50,880
Speaker 3: It's okay.

1373
01:06:50,920 --> 01:06:56,760
Speaker 1: We addressed showers in the hotel. It's steamy. It's beautiful.

1374
01:06:57,320 --> 01:06:59,720
Speaker 8: I you know, like I I just take the shower,

1375
01:06:59,760 --> 01:07:01,280
Speaker 8: and I thought, you know, because like my hair was

1376
01:07:01,320 --> 01:07:03,439
Speaker 8: like perfectly like it was like damp but almost drying,

1377
01:07:03,440 --> 01:07:05,800
Speaker 8: so my curls were coming out, and I was in

1378
01:07:05,840 --> 01:07:08,920
Speaker 8: like my ELF sweater with my ELF pajama pants, ready

1379
01:07:08,920 --> 01:07:11,440
Speaker 8: to leave, and I thought I was gonna have like

1380
01:07:11,480 --> 01:07:13,680
Speaker 8: my early two thousands for I'm calm moment with this

1381
01:07:13,720 --> 01:07:16,800
Speaker 8: really cute guy like holding my box of Cheddar flavored

1382
01:07:16,840 --> 01:07:19,600
Speaker 8: crackers that he started talking to me about. I had

1383
01:07:19,640 --> 01:07:21,720
Speaker 8: like an instant crushing him. He had a weird last name.

1384
01:07:21,760 --> 01:07:23,280
Speaker 8: It was stukes Berry. We're not gonna say.

1385
01:07:23,320 --> 01:07:28,080
Speaker 4: His birthday shouted out to Doomsbury Stukesberry.

1386
01:07:29,720 --> 01:07:32,080
Speaker 2: So that's even better Dukesbury.

1387
01:07:33,320 --> 01:07:37,240
Speaker 1: I'm also imagining I don't know you've seen ELF, you

1388
01:07:37,240 --> 01:07:40,400
Speaker 1: know that one scene with like Zoey Dachel and she's

1389
01:07:40,760 --> 01:07:43,480
Speaker 1: like my mom, she starting.

1390
01:07:43,240 --> 01:07:46,080
Speaker 4: And then he's singing too, and she realizes out, yeah,

1391
01:07:46,440 --> 01:07:49,160
Speaker 4: that is the that is the scene that I'm imagining

1392
01:07:49,240 --> 01:07:49,680
Speaker 4: right now.

1393
01:07:50,880 --> 01:07:51,520
Speaker 2: And so.

1394
01:07:52,960 --> 01:07:54,320
Speaker 8: I was I was thinking I was gonna have like

1395
01:07:54,320 --> 01:07:56,280
Speaker 8: my early two thousands where I'm called meet cute, and

1396
01:07:56,320 --> 01:07:59,840
Speaker 8: I thought, you know, like you're vibing. Apparently the vibes

1397
01:07:59,840 --> 01:08:02,520
Speaker 8: were just like not there on his end. Apparently, I

1398
01:08:02,560 --> 01:08:05,200
Speaker 8: was just feeling like the vibrations of the floor, and

1399
01:08:05,280 --> 01:08:10,320
Speaker 8: so I give However, because I'm feeling bold, I am

1400
01:08:10,360 --> 01:08:14,600
Speaker 8: feeling like this is my moment, and so I give

1401
01:08:14,640 --> 01:08:16,960
Speaker 8: his coworker my email. I didn't give him my number

1402
01:08:17,000 --> 01:08:19,639
Speaker 8: because I was a nineteen year old female living alone

1403
01:08:20,760 --> 01:08:21,360
Speaker 8: in a city.

1404
01:08:21,680 --> 01:08:26,320
Speaker 1: There very formal email electronic mail mess I mean, you

1405
01:08:26,400 --> 01:08:27,759
Speaker 1: are at work, you're at the hotel.

1406
01:08:27,840 --> 01:08:28,960
Speaker 3: You know you want to you want to be a

1407
01:08:29,000 --> 01:08:31,800
Speaker 3: little bit professional. I see, okay. I didn't have.

1408
01:08:31,760 --> 01:08:34,400
Speaker 8: Snaps either or anything like that. So I just I

1409
01:08:34,439 --> 01:08:37,519
Speaker 8: gave him, I will give his coworker my email, and so,

1410
01:08:38,200 --> 01:08:41,400
Speaker 8: uh like, this was also not the first time that

1411
01:08:41,520 --> 01:08:43,679
Speaker 8: I was I was feeling like vibes for him, because

1412
01:08:43,680 --> 01:08:45,920
Speaker 8: he was always smiled at me into me that was like, oh,

1413
01:08:46,000 --> 01:08:52,160
Speaker 8: he's in love and so and so imagine my surprise

1414
01:08:52,240 --> 01:08:54,559
Speaker 8: because by the way, my supervisors, my supervisor was in

1415
01:08:54,600 --> 01:08:57,160
Speaker 8: on this. My supervisor and assistant manager for the night

1416
01:08:57,200 --> 01:09:00,439
Speaker 8: shift were actually very much like my wing people because

1417
01:09:01,800 --> 01:09:04,920
Speaker 8: with the other like guy that I ended up actually dating,

1418
01:09:05,280 --> 01:09:08,759
Speaker 8: they encouraged that they actually like would work things around

1419
01:09:08,800 --> 01:09:11,280
Speaker 8: so that he was like in my zone when there

1420
01:09:11,320 --> 01:09:12,479
Speaker 8: would be events and stuff.

1421
01:09:12,520 --> 01:09:16,240
Speaker 1: Wait, so they're orchestrating where everyone in the hotel is

1422
01:09:16,320 --> 01:09:19,080
Speaker 1: working to make sure you guys are like paired in

1423
01:09:19,120 --> 01:09:23,240
Speaker 1: the same area. That's a matchmaking high level strat. I

1424
01:09:23,320 --> 01:09:25,880
Speaker 1: love that that is, those are high level techniques.

1425
01:09:26,680 --> 01:09:29,880
Speaker 8: So, like my supervisor, she knew what was going on,

1426
01:09:30,120 --> 01:09:32,080
Speaker 8: Like she knew that I had a crush on this guy.

1427
01:09:32,120 --> 01:09:34,080
Speaker 8: And now, obviously, like y'all know that when I have

1428
01:09:34,120 --> 01:09:35,839
Speaker 8: a crush on someone, I keep it subtle.

1429
01:09:36,120 --> 01:09:38,799
Speaker 5: I keep it nicey, subtle, last.

1430
01:09:38,640 --> 01:09:40,519
Speaker 3: Nay and YouTube or anything.

1431
01:09:40,800 --> 01:09:43,519
Speaker 4: We all know that you fly super low to the

1432
01:09:43,520 --> 01:09:46,240
Speaker 4: ground and you stay cool collected.

1433
01:09:47,960 --> 01:09:52,200
Speaker 8: So so because of that, because of that, you know,

1434
01:09:52,320 --> 01:09:54,559
Speaker 8: like my supervisor, she was helping me like drop hints

1435
01:09:54,560 --> 01:09:55,000
Speaker 8: and everything.

1436
01:09:55,200 --> 01:09:56,439
Speaker 2: So then I get and I.

1437
01:09:56,439 --> 01:10:00,280
Speaker 8: Checked my email. He sent me an essay about why

1438
01:10:00,320 --> 01:10:01,120
Speaker 8: he wasn't.

1439
01:10:00,880 --> 01:10:03,880
Speaker 3: Interested, an essay.

1440
01:10:05,400 --> 01:10:07,440
Speaker 8: Like it was in MLA format.

1441
01:10:08,280 --> 01:10:10,840
Speaker 3: I cited, Oh no.

1442
01:10:12,760 --> 01:10:14,920
Speaker 5: Format all wasn't at least nice.

1443
01:10:14,920 --> 01:10:17,479
Speaker 2: Oh my god, he academically rejected you.

1444
01:10:19,280 --> 01:10:23,599
Speaker 7: It wasn't nice either, Like he just like full out

1445
01:10:23,640 --> 01:10:26,360
Speaker 7: rejected me. And I was just like, it's okay because

1446
01:10:26,360 --> 01:10:28,920
Speaker 7: there's a guy in housekeeping who is very touching, feely,

1447
01:10:29,000 --> 01:10:30,800
Speaker 7: so I'm pretty sure he also likes me.

1448
01:10:31,280 --> 01:10:34,760
Speaker 8: I survived, And then also back to my supervisor and

1449
01:10:34,800 --> 01:10:37,639
Speaker 8: she she was like, she was like, it's his loss,

1450
01:10:37,880 --> 01:10:39,360
Speaker 8: it's his loss. There are plenty of.

1451
01:10:40,280 --> 01:10:42,559
Speaker 1: Yes, honestly, just printed out and give him a big

1452
01:10:42,560 --> 01:10:45,679
Speaker 1: old F and like start marking it up. He's gonna

1453
01:10:45,680 --> 01:10:49,280
Speaker 1: give you an mlmassay. You know, I give him a

1454
01:10:49,320 --> 01:10:49,960
Speaker 1: grade back.

1455
01:10:50,120 --> 01:10:51,640
Speaker 4: She should be like, give it an F and be like,

1456
01:10:51,720 --> 01:10:53,320
Speaker 4: at no point in this essay did you say you

1457
01:10:53,320 --> 01:10:55,360
Speaker 4: love me? At no point in this essay did you

1458
01:10:55,600 --> 01:10:58,120
Speaker 4: did you convince me that you were gonna, you know,

1459
01:10:58,240 --> 01:11:01,439
Speaker 4: take me on on a moonlight walk on the beach

1460
01:11:01,479 --> 01:11:05,240
Speaker 4: and give me a smooch and send him an.

1461
01:11:05,080 --> 01:11:07,439
Speaker 8: Email back because I didn't ever want to run into

1462
01:11:07,520 --> 01:11:10,160
Speaker 8: him ever again in my life, and so I sent

1463
01:11:10,320 --> 01:11:13,120
Speaker 8: him an email back just basically saying I don't see

1464
01:11:13,280 --> 01:11:18,280
Speaker 8: us moving forward in this friendship, so I don't think

1465
01:11:18,320 --> 01:11:20,040
Speaker 8: that we should continue our contact.

1466
01:11:20,120 --> 01:11:21,200
Speaker 2: Think you have a good day.

1467
01:11:22,680 --> 01:11:25,439
Speaker 3: Nice. You took the power back, hit im back hit.

1468
01:11:26,880 --> 01:11:28,519
Speaker 8: What was crazy is that I was feeling vibes with

1469
01:11:28,560 --> 01:11:31,519
Speaker 8: this guy. It took me forever to figure out about

1470
01:11:31,520 --> 01:11:34,439
Speaker 8: the guy in housekeeping. And when I say forever, I

1471
01:11:34,439 --> 01:11:36,960
Speaker 8: mean apparently all of all of the housekeepers knew what

1472
01:11:37,000 --> 01:11:38,600
Speaker 8: was going on, and there was a joke, which is

1473
01:11:38,600 --> 01:11:40,800
Speaker 8: why he was always on every single floor that I

1474
01:11:40,840 --> 01:11:42,120
Speaker 8: was ever in an elevator for.

1475
01:11:42,720 --> 01:11:43,880
Speaker 2: But also.

1476
01:11:45,560 --> 01:11:48,280
Speaker 8: I didn't know it until he had gotten suited up

1477
01:11:48,320 --> 01:11:50,880
Speaker 8: on like the roof and had come back like his

1478
01:11:51,000 --> 01:11:54,519
Speaker 8: eyes were like like like Rudolf the red nose, you know,

1479
01:11:55,080 --> 01:11:58,519
Speaker 8: and he had just like his inhibitions were as low

1480
01:11:59,040 --> 01:12:04,320
Speaker 8: as myself is he was because of and so he

1481
01:12:04,439 --> 01:12:07,360
Speaker 8: just he came up right behind me, wrapped his arms

1482
01:12:07,360 --> 01:12:09,320
Speaker 8: around my waist and put his head in the crook

1483
01:12:09,360 --> 01:12:10,800
Speaker 8: of my neck. And I was just like, oh so

1484
01:12:10,880 --> 01:12:11,640
Speaker 8: you like like me?

1485
01:12:12,920 --> 01:12:15,160
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, I'm glad it worked out, because that

1486
01:12:15,400 --> 01:12:18,720
Speaker 1: very easily turned out poorly if you did not like him.

1487
01:12:18,880 --> 01:12:21,680
Speaker 2: Glad y'all were on the same yes.

1488
01:12:21,960 --> 01:12:25,160
Speaker 1: And I'm glad you guys had your little little rom

1489
01:12:25,240 --> 01:12:27,560
Speaker 1: com romance, because that is very romcom.

1490
01:12:27,760 --> 01:12:30,160
Speaker 8: And one of these days it's going to happen. One

1491
01:12:30,160 --> 01:12:31,240
Speaker 8: of these days is going to happen.

1492
01:12:31,800 --> 01:12:34,400
Speaker 2: I believe it will, there's no doubt.

1493
01:12:34,960 --> 01:12:38,719
Speaker 4: And honestly, it rom com wise if there was ever

1494
01:12:38,800 --> 01:12:42,200
Speaker 4: a name for like the antagonist of a rom com,

1495
01:12:42,360 --> 01:12:49,480
Speaker 4: Dukesbury is definitely one of those names that was the antagonist.

1496
01:12:49,920 --> 01:12:54,400
Speaker 8: What was crazy, too, is that I I because I

1497
01:12:54,439 --> 01:12:56,640
Speaker 8: have the tendency to overshare. I don't know if that

1498
01:12:56,760 --> 01:12:59,200
Speaker 8: was very obvious, because you know, sometimes I just you know,

1499
01:12:59,320 --> 01:13:03,080
Speaker 8: I'm very to myself. I don't share very much about myself, obviously,

1500
01:13:04,160 --> 01:13:06,240
Speaker 8: and so I had shared a lot with this guy.

1501
01:13:06,280 --> 01:13:08,840
Speaker 8: I'd even like talked about how I was gonna, like

1502
01:13:08,840 --> 01:13:11,760
Speaker 8: because the next April was gonna be like the anniversary

1503
01:13:11,920 --> 01:13:14,960
Speaker 8: of like me changing my entire name, and how I

1504
01:13:14,960 --> 01:13:16,360
Speaker 8: was excited about that, and I was going to do

1505
01:13:16,400 --> 01:13:18,799
Speaker 8: like a Christmas in April because Christmas was my favorite holiday.

1506
01:13:19,080 --> 01:13:20,559
Speaker 8: And he was like talking about how he was really

1507
01:13:20,640 --> 01:13:23,400
Speaker 8: jazzed too, and how his his family had like a

1508
01:13:23,439 --> 01:13:26,320
Speaker 8: whole like celebration thing that they did for stuff, and

1509
01:13:26,360 --> 01:13:29,000
Speaker 8: I was just like, Oh my gosh, we're gonna be

1510
01:13:29,040 --> 01:13:31,880
Speaker 8: in love. Like I'm going to be married by the

1511
01:13:31,880 --> 01:13:33,120
Speaker 8: time I'm twenty five.

1512
01:13:34,520 --> 01:13:38,120
Speaker 1: Life flashing before our eyes. He's picking out her wedding rings,

1513
01:13:38,160 --> 01:13:38,920
Speaker 1: he's picking out.

1514
01:13:38,760 --> 01:13:39,400
Speaker 3: The love you.

1515
01:13:40,400 --> 01:13:42,920
Speaker 8: It's okay, because you know, it worked out the best

1516
01:13:42,960 --> 01:13:45,880
Speaker 8: for me because instead of getting like Stukesbury over there,

1517
01:13:46,360 --> 01:13:49,360
Speaker 8: I got four husbands so and I got like an.

1518
01:13:49,240 --> 01:13:52,120
Speaker 3: Awesome the four husbands.

1519
01:13:52,439 --> 01:13:55,320
Speaker 1: Uh, I love you back, and also we love that

1520
01:13:55,400 --> 01:13:58,280
Speaker 1: you're switched your day of your last day every once in.

1521
01:13:58,280 --> 01:14:00,360
Speaker 3: A while to give you to people little love.

1522
01:14:00,840 --> 01:14:07,720
Speaker 1: Yes, Marianna Massia says, bro, this is an h R nightmare,

1523
01:14:08,439 --> 01:14:09,759
Speaker 1: but you know what, it's.

1524
01:14:09,600 --> 01:14:13,639
Speaker 3: Your winter wonderland. You deserve it. Stella, thank you so

1525
01:14:13,760 --> 01:14:18,000
Speaker 3: much for calling it. We appreciate it.

1526
01:14:19,800 --> 01:14:24,680
Speaker 2: Dude, letter see you in the streets so much that

1527
01:14:25,160 --> 01:14:26,000
Speaker 2: Stella is.

1528
01:14:26,040 --> 01:14:31,439
Speaker 1: Where that stream ends. We are at the end. Stella,

1529
01:14:31,720 --> 01:14:34,599
Speaker 1: shout out for an amazing story. Also, Stella is one

1530
01:14:34,600 --> 01:14:36,800
Speaker 1: of the ogs. So a couple of shower a bunch

1531
01:14:36,800 --> 01:14:38,519
Speaker 1: of love. We got a couple of show all the

1532
01:14:38,560 --> 01:14:42,000
Speaker 1: love on earth. Distella for calling in and yes it's

1533
01:14:42,080 --> 01:14:45,400
Speaker 1: not an easy to call in on a show with

1534
01:14:45,520 --> 01:14:46,719
Speaker 1: hundreds of people watching.

1535
01:14:46,920 --> 01:14:48,439
Speaker 3: So yeah, shout out.

1536
01:14:48,280 --> 01:14:53,920
Speaker 4: To selling Stella that lernlladd Stella close us out.

1537
01:14:54,080 --> 01:14:57,479
Speaker 1: JHL Moran, thanks for the fifteen bucks with a little heart.

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Speaker 2: Nino ch.

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Speaker 5: Coley had it right.

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Speaker 3: Okay, yes you did say my name right.

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Speaker 1: I freaking love that and oops, I meant to subscribe haha,

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Speaker 1: five bucks. We appreciate you. And Tomlet remember for nine months.

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Speaker 1: I started watching a year ago. I think I remember Tomlet,

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Speaker 1: it was still Green Screen Days and right after I

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Speaker 1: started listening watching, Sophia joined. Thanks yes, good old green

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Speaker 1: Skien screen Days. That is uh, that's that's an that's

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Speaker 1: an OG reference. But back in the dizay that is

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