Speaker 1: Hey, it's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning, and you
Speaker 1: found our second.
Speaker 2: Date feed Why we're saying this. Normally Brooke would be
Speaker 2: doing it. But she's out there on the phone with
Speaker 2: her kids.
Speaker 3: She's crying.
Speaker 1: She's crying happy tears.
Speaker 2: I think, I don't know.
Speaker 1: Her daughters started middle school and it's every day.
Speaker 3: Here, so it's been a big emotional right. Yeah, but
Speaker 3: she's there.
Speaker 1: And I have not stopped reading your guys's comments from
Speaker 1: the second date, even though it was on Friday, the
Speaker 1: euro date. Jose, Yeah, Norwegian style dating.
Speaker 3: Dude, which I need to adapt and adopt. I mean,
Speaker 3: because I had no idea this existed.
Speaker 2: No, I don't know that it does exist.
Speaker 1: I count ten Norwegian listeners commented that this girl has
Speaker 1: been scammed.
Speaker 3: But you know, man, that's okay. That's actually almost funnier.
Speaker 3: I know, I love it.
Speaker 1: So if you haven't listened to Friday second date, go
Speaker 1: back and do that.
Speaker 3: Oh no, and if you're from Norway, help we have enough.
Speaker 3: Norwegians haven't confirmed, they have confirmed. Not real, But that's okay.
Speaker 2: Litter live her life that way.
Speaker 1: Sure, she seems happy and yeah, today guy says he.
Speaker 2: Has the best icebreaker.
Speaker 1: You'll ever hear icebreaker questions, so let us know if
Speaker 1: it would work on you in the comments and what
Speaker 1: your answer would be to it. Yeah, all right, and
Speaker 1: here's your second d style.
Speaker 3: Just get right back to Norway.
Speaker 2: All right, brand new second date starts.
Speaker 3: Now the Second Date updated. We obviously have heard about
Speaker 3: people meeting on dating apps or during activities like a
Speaker 3: run club or hopscotch karaoke classes.
Speaker 2: You do it all at the same time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's really fun, really challenging. But kind of a
Speaker 3: more old school thing that's been around and it's making
Speaker 3: its way back again is singles events.
Speaker 4: Oh you know, I've been really into love on the
Speaker 4: Spectrum the show and they do all sorts of speed
Speaker 4: dating on that show.
Speaker 3: And you are doing the singles events too. Oh no, okay,
Speaker 3: but apparently they are still a thing because one of
Speaker 3: our listeners went to one recently and he needs our
Speaker 3: help today. His name is Trey, So Trey, thanks for
Speaker 3: emailing and welcome to the show.
Speaker 5: Hey guys, thank you so much for having me.
Speaker 3: Oh well, thank you for thanking us for having you.
Speaker 4: Was this the first like singles mingle or whatever they
Speaker 4: called it, that you've ever done.
Speaker 5: No, so I've actually been to a couple of them.
Speaker 6: I am really anti like the dating apps, and I'm
Speaker 6: much more on making like a human connection.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's way harder to lie about yourself when
Speaker 3: you're meeting people in person. You can still pull it off,
Speaker 3: trust me, but it's harder. What do you mean, I'm
Speaker 3: about six feet I'm sitting right in.
Speaker 5: Front of you.
Speaker 3: Okay, so how did it go?
Speaker 5: So the last one I went to, it was a
Speaker 5: little weirder because there's a ton of guys there. Usually
Speaker 5: it's a good, like fifty flippy mix, but it was definitely.
Speaker 6: More of I guess you would traditionally call it more
Speaker 6: of a sausage fest.
Speaker 3: The more guys reply to the emails that when they
Speaker 3: set them up than anything.
Speaker 4: Sounds like whoever was producing it screwed up. Ye you know,
Speaker 4: because that's like the whole point of it.
Speaker 2: A sports bar, Ye, like a cutcy bar, a sports bar,
Speaker 2: I'd be a little.
Speaker 3: More excited than it's like a regular total. I never
Speaker 3: thought about the venue playing a role in that. I mean,
Speaker 3: now you're working at a disadvantage if there's more guys
Speaker 3: than girls.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean it can be a little competitive, you know,
Speaker 5: which is not really like what you want to vibe
Speaker 5: to feel.
Speaker 6: Like, I don't want to be looking at this time
Speaker 6: and be like, oh I wonder.
Speaker 5: If this guy is gonna have a better answer than me.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, did you come in with like a certain
Speaker 4: question you like to ask that's intriguing and good combo starter?
Speaker 6: Okay, I'll let you guys tell me how good of
Speaker 6: a question is. So you're familiar that we only have
Speaker 6: the young Sheldon because big.
Speaker 5: Bang theory exists. If you could have any.
Speaker 6: Young character show, who would you want to see a
Speaker 6: young version of?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Great question, Like we're getting the new Harry Potter series
Speaker 4: about young young Harry Potter.
Speaker 3: What about the Cosby Show? Is that a good answer?
Speaker 3: Young young? She's actually eating pudding because his mom gave
Speaker 3: it to him.
Speaker 2: I would not go with that one.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 5: My funny after that is young George Costanza because then
Speaker 5: you still get a little Jerry.
Speaker 4: Wowy somehow she's somehow still bald.
Speaker 3: That sounds like a really good icebreaker. How did the
Speaker 3: mingling actually go?
Speaker 5: So it didn't go great? Like I said, there's a
Speaker 5: lot of people.
Speaker 6: It's just hard to find time to get any FaceTime
Speaker 6: with everybody because everyone's just moving so quickly. And the
Speaker 6: host of the event came over and mentioned to me like, hey,
Speaker 6: I really appreciate you coming out, but then had this
Speaker 6: like very weird backhanded comment of I know you're not
Speaker 6: as attractive as some of the other guys here.
Speaker 3: Oh no, wild The organizer of the event said that
Speaker 3: to you, was it a guy or a girl?
Speaker 5: It was a girl, and she was like, I know
Speaker 5: what a great personality you have because you've seen me
Speaker 5: at other events.
Speaker 3: You know, there's no defending that. If she sees like
Speaker 3: a thousand eaters a week and she's just being she
Speaker 3: made us in her head and spoken out loud. Yeah,
Speaker 3: or if she is also single, maybe she was trying
Speaker 3: to neg you a little bit. I don't think we don't.
Speaker 1: Do that Rightually makes me feel good.
Speaker 2: I know, how did you get back in there? After that?
Speaker 2: My confidence would have been deflated.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it didn't go great.
Speaker 3: Not so not to rush you through this story, but
Speaker 3: we are going to be calling somebody you didn't meet
Speaker 3: a woman eventually, right, Yeah.
Speaker 5: So that takes me to the next part. So later
Speaker 5: in the event, a couple of other like girls walked in.
Speaker 5: It was late. It was nice because some of the
Speaker 5: people are already kind of matched, so I had a
Speaker 5: little bit better of an ink okay, and that's when
Speaker 5: I started connecting with Steph.
Speaker 3: Steph, Steph Okay.
Speaker 5: She was great. We tried it for like fifteen minutes
Speaker 5: one on one. I asked her out of course, I
Speaker 5: knocked out which young show would you want to see?
Speaker 5: Hers was young, It's always sunny, which I think is
Speaker 5: a perfect.
Speaker 4: Which means she's funny. Yeah, yeah, she likes humor.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, you guys are cracked. So then we
Speaker 5: set up a date. A week later. We met it
Speaker 5: just like really cool wine bar that's near min Oh
Speaker 5: you did me?
Speaker 7: Okay, yeah, I mean I had a few dreams.
Speaker 5: But right I like the hour mark.
Speaker 6: She was like, well, I has to go and just
Speaker 6: kind of cut it off, which caught me up guard
Speaker 6: because I kind of was locked in for the evening.
Speaker 6: I was like, great, we hit the wine bar down
Speaker 6: the road is really incredible taco joint that I love
Speaker 6: going to.
Speaker 5: I thought it would be like a fun like whole night.
Speaker 3: Yeah, wine and tacos, perfect combination, just because.
Speaker 4: It was right on the hour market sounds like maybe
Speaker 4: she like read something somewhere that's.
Speaker 2: Like, oh, don't let your date go more than an hour,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? I don't know.
Speaker 3: I mean my head first went to if she's doing
Speaker 3: these speed dating events with him, maybe there's multiple other
Speaker 3: guys that she matched with and had a whole idea
Speaker 3: just you're a common thing to have, like kind of
Speaker 3: a rotation or roster. Now she just knock them all
Speaker 3: out exactly. Yeah, how long ago did that date happen?
Speaker 5: That is about a week ago.
Speaker 2: All right, and you haven't heard from her at all.
Speaker 5: No, she hasn't gotten back.
Speaker 6: And I'm also not someone that's gonna like triple text
Speaker 6: someone like I'm gonna you know, I'll give the space
Speaker 6: to respond.
Speaker 3: You are self aware that is crazy on this show, dude, Yeah,
Speaker 3: that never happens. So let's come back. We're gonna call
Speaker 3: Steph for you, try and get you a second date. Update.
Speaker 3: In the meantime, if you like younger versions, you can
Speaker 3: go back and listen to old stuff from our podcast.
Speaker 3: Here are a little bit younger versions of us.
Speaker 2: Jeffrey, We're never older on the podcast, are we No.
Speaker 3: We're not, but we'll do it. With your second date
Speaker 3: update right after this second date update if you're just
Speaker 3: joining us. We've been talking to Trey about his date
Speaker 3: with a woman named Steph. They met at a singles mixer,
Speaker 3: where he learned Steph likes the show It's Always Sonny
Speaker 3: in Philadelphia, which is why yes sorry, so naturally for
Speaker 3: their date, he took her out not to an Irish bar,
Speaker 3: but to a wine bar. I thought, you want to say,
Speaker 3: should it's smart. Don't give women everything they want right
Speaker 3: up front and work for it.
Speaker 2: Just do a dumpster behind the.
Speaker 3: Would have worked justice, But at the one hour mark,
Speaker 3: Steph kind of called it all of a sudden, almost
Speaker 3: like she was timing the date, so kind of a
Speaker 3: strange end to it, and Trey, here's the deal. If
Speaker 3: we are able to get her to answer, you know,
Speaker 3: we're going to talk to her about your actual date
Speaker 3: and probably about the night you two met. So I
Speaker 3: need to ask you, is it totally off limits for
Speaker 3: us if it comes up to tell her about the
Speaker 3: host of the singles mixer calling you unattractive in the world.
Speaker 3: Mention that I'm just saying if it comes up.
Speaker 2: The date wasn't even part of that conversation.
Speaker 5: Why.
Speaker 3: Okay, Yeah, I'm sure it won't. This is great.
Speaker 2: Okay, I don't.
Speaker 7: Listen.
Speaker 5: I'm bring up because I'd be curious to hear what
Speaker 5: she would say in response to that comment.
Speaker 3: Here, dude, you know we're all together. We're a team
Speaker 3: on this. Let's all put our hands in on three
Speaker 3: one two three ugly Okay, dude, I.
Speaker 4: Will say right now that there are many people out
Speaker 4: there that may not be beautiful at the first meeting,
Speaker 4: but then they get more attractive the more you know them.
Speaker 3: God, you hear her voice. She doesn't believe that. I
Speaker 3: do believe that your rock bottom. Okay, here, it's gonna
Speaker 3: go on. It's not gonna come up. I won't say
Speaker 3: it's here.
Speaker 5: We get there's a reason why you guys are my
Speaker 5: favorite show.
Speaker 3: I guess we'll see. Okay, I'm gonna diear number. Here
Speaker 3: we go see if steph answers hello, Hey, is this Steph?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Sign all uncomfort?
Speaker 3: Yeah, the Fawns is on the show with us today.
Speaker 2: That is a reference that no one under the age
Speaker 2: of fifty.
Speaker 3: It's fine. We're a radio show. We're called Brook and
Speaker 3: Jeffrey in the morning. Steph, are you still there?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 7: Okay, Dad.
Speaker 3: Hey, as you can tell, we're a really fun, jokey
Speaker 3: type of show, but we do get serious a little
Speaker 3: bit with this segment that we do. It's called the
Speaker 3: second date update.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, has not clicking?
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe you explain it?
Speaker 4: Oh okay, Well, Steph, you met a great guy who
Speaker 4: you went out with, and now he wants another date
Speaker 4: and you aren't calling him back.
Speaker 7: Who's this guy you're talking about?
Speaker 4: I'm really bad with names that I forgot to write Joe,
Speaker 4: all right, I forgot to write his name down.
Speaker 3: It's okay, pass the baton to me. The guy's name
Speaker 3: is Trey.
Speaker 2: That's what I was gonna say, Trey.
Speaker 3: Okay, back to brook.
Speaker 2: Do you remember Trey?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 7: I do.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 7: I feel kind of bad about that one. Oh you do.
Speaker 3: Oh well, we heard about the date that you two
Speaker 3: went on to the wine bar, and from Trey's description
Speaker 3: of it, it was a really nice time. So he's
Speaker 3: a little bit just confused now that there hasn't been
Speaker 3: a second meetup, no follow up afterwards.
Speaker 2: Well maybe that's why she feels bad. Is that why
Speaker 2: you feel bad? Stuff?
Speaker 7: Honestly, I don't even know if I should be like
Speaker 7: telling you about this because it's kind of embarrassing. I
Speaker 7: feel weird about it.
Speaker 3: Oh it's embarrassing. Is it embarrassing for you or is
Speaker 3: it embarrassing for Trey?
Speaker 4: Uh?
Speaker 7: I guess potentially for everyone. I don't know. WHOA.
Speaker 3: Okay, here's the deal. Whenever we have listeners on this segment,
Speaker 3: they acknowledge that there may be some awkwardness, some difficult
Speaker 3: truths that they have to hear, and Trey just wants
Speaker 3: to know the honest reason there hasn't been a second
Speaker 3: meet up no matter what.
Speaker 7: Okay, well, I mean I guess I can tell you it.
Speaker 3: Would really help him out.
Speaker 7: Yeah, basically I'm friends with some of the people that
Speaker 7: organize these singles events.
Speaker 2: Are you kidding?
Speaker 7: I mean just one particular night, you know, they didn't
Speaker 7: quite have enough people there, specifically, they didn't really have
Speaker 7: a lot of women.
Speaker 2: Oh.
Speaker 4: He had actually mentioned that about the speed dating night
Speaker 4: that you guys met, that there was.
Speaker 2: A lot of guys.
Speaker 3: Then there was like another wave.
Speaker 7: Yeah, that would be because sometimes they give people like
Speaker 7: thirty bucks to just show up and like kind of
Speaker 7: mingle with everybody. Just fill it out.
Speaker 1: You WHOA, Well, you went on the second date after that.
Speaker 2: That's true, you guys yo?
Speaker 3: Were you paid to go out with him on the
Speaker 3: second date?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 7: No, not at all. It was just the initial kind
Speaker 7: of speed dating thing with everybody. But okay, I just
Speaker 7: kept thinking the whole time, like this continues to go, well,
Speaker 7: we're gonna have to have a conversation about oh it
Speaker 7: answered the picture initially, and I just feel horrible about
Speaker 7: that because I don't I don't want him to take
Speaker 7: it the wrong way.
Speaker 2: I'm confused though, were you interested in him or were
Speaker 2: you not?
Speaker 4: Because it sounds like you out to the wine bar
Speaker 4: just for an ego boost is what I'm picking up.
Speaker 7: That was part of it. But I mean, he's really cute.
Speaker 7: He's really nice. Anyone would be lucky to go on
Speaker 7: a date with him.
Speaker 3: Are you sure he's really cute?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 3: How cute is he? To tell us how cute it is? Okay,
Speaker 3: I was cute. So where is your head at now, Steph,
Speaker 3: Because according to him, you're not reaching out to him anymore.
Speaker 3: That sends the signal that you're not interested.
Speaker 7: Well, I don't know. Sometimes I'm just really non confrontational,
Speaker 7: and I really really didn't want to have that conversation
Speaker 7: where I'm like, oh, hey, I was paid to meet you,
Speaker 7: and you're never going to get.
Speaker 3: Into a relationship with this great guy.
Speaker 4: Kind of bad news.
Speaker 3: But initially that's how they met, Like she was paid
Speaker 3: money to go there and meet him. And I can
Speaker 3: see how specifically anybody just to be there, sure, anybody,
Speaker 3: but anyone finding out the person they really like was
Speaker 3: paid to meet them, and that's not going to feel good.
Speaker 3: It is cute. I hear you that you're worried about
Speaker 3: having that conversation with him down the line somewhere it
Speaker 3: could be awkward. The good news is we already got
Speaker 3: it out of the world, like abandoned, because he's actually
Speaker 3: on the other line listening to this right now.
Speaker 7: No no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 7: Please do not say that to me.
Speaker 3: I can't not say that to you, because the truth.
Speaker 5: Is My God, Hey, how's it going, Stuffy.
Speaker 7: I'm really sorry you had to find out like this
Speaker 7: is pretty strange.
Speaker 6: I totally understand the awkwardness of not wanting to like
Speaker 6: mention how you ended up at said event.
Speaker 5: Obviously I was there as.
Speaker 6: A participant, But I think whatever the love story ends up.
Speaker 5: Being, it doesn't matter the origins it's more about how
Speaker 5: it ends up.
Speaker 3: Okay, So, Trey, you're not offended at all or put
Speaker 3: off by the fact that she was paid that night to.
Speaker 5: Be there, honestly not. That's kind of up to the organizer.
Speaker 5: I mean, she got Bobby's there. However they get there
Speaker 5: as long as were continuing to like have a conversation.
Speaker 5: And it's not all being paid to continue conversation.
Speaker 4: If anything, you should be you should feel guilty stuff
Speaker 4: that you took the money. Since you met somebody at
Speaker 4: the bed.
Speaker 3: You know what I mean, you should pay him thirty
Speaker 3: dollars to make it even and now he knows you
Speaker 3: really like him for him, right.
Speaker 2: I was just going to have her give the money
Speaker 2: back to the organized best.
Speaker 3: You can always send it to us too, I mean,
Speaker 3: we could always start one. But Steph, what do you
Speaker 3: think about what he just said there?
Speaker 7: I don't know. I just I enjoyed your company. I
Speaker 7: enjoyed talking with you.
Speaker 3: It's nice.
Speaker 7: I just got like nervous, and like I said, I
Speaker 7: was two in my head about the conversation we were
Speaker 7: going to have to have.
Speaker 3: But it's all out there now, yeah, and I feel
Speaker 3: some positive momentum happening. We've got some of that awkward
Speaker 3: conversation out of.
Speaker 2: The way, and you don't even realize that stuff. You're
Speaker 2: really good at conversation.
Speaker 4: You gave the best answer to his TV show question
Speaker 4: out of the entire.
Speaker 3: That's why this is gonna be kind of tricky because
Speaker 3: I want to offer to send you on another date
Speaker 3: until you we pay for it. But yeah, and then
Speaker 3: it's like her to show.
Speaker 4: Up to the dates I see where we're at a charity.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not going to offer to pay for you
Speaker 3: guys to meet up, but we will strongly encourage you
Speaker 3: to get back together. How does that sound?
Speaker 5: Honestly, I don't want this to be more confused or
Speaker 5: muddled by money being involved. I'd love for it to
Speaker 5: kind of feel more organic and genuine.
Speaker 2: It's a gift card.
Speaker 5: Still, So Steph, will you go out with me again?
Speaker 5: Can we try running it back and doing it again? Yeah?
Speaker 7: I mean I think I'm gonna say yes. It's not
Speaker 7: like a pity yes or anything like I really would
Speaker 7: like to see you.
Speaker 2: That's kind of a backwards compliment.
Speaker 7: Well, I mean, this is such an odd of going
Speaker 7: about it. It's not like I feel pressure from you
Speaker 7: or anything.
Speaker 3: Like that irative, right exactly. This is good. Nobody ever
Speaker 3: would call him that. Congratulations Tray and congratulations Steph. You're
Speaker 3: both going to meet up one more time and we're
Speaker 3: not going to pay for it. Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: What a great wedding toast story if it ever gets
Speaker 3: to that point.
Speaker 2: I think they're so cute.
Speaker 3: My friend paid me to meet him, then I fell
Speaker 3: in love.
Speaker 4: I mean, it's perfect because it's funny, a little self deprecated.
Speaker 3: Yeah, woman, you just don't hear that enough in wedding
Speaker 3: vows anymore, especially with guys as classically unattractive as he was.
Speaker 3: Had Allegedly, we said not to say it during the
Speaker 3: call calls over.
Speaker 2: It was killing deal, wasn't it.
Speaker 3: I did a great job, and you can all thank
Speaker 3: me for not bringing it up late.
Speaker 2: Oh boy, if that's the bar, yeah, sure.
Speaker 3: If you want to thank us, or if you just
Speaker 3: want our help, we're available online. You can email the show.
Speaker 3: We'll call that person who's not calling you back, and
Speaker 3: go check out all of our second dates wherever you
Speaker 3: get your podcasts at Brook and Jeffrey