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Speaker 1: is a Strawberry Letter. Thank you. Nephew's subject I wasn't

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Speaker 1: able to tell her husband goodbye. Dear Stephen Shirley, I

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Speaker 1: advice on how to move past this situation. I have

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Speaker 1: been in a relationship for six years with a married

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Speaker 1: man that was loving and attentive and treated me like

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Speaker 1: a priority at all times. We live about an hour

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Speaker 1: to see me weekly and take me on business trips

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Speaker 1: with him and weekend outings whenever he could. He always

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Speaker 1: told me that he was in a marriage of convenience,

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Speaker 1: was waiting till his children grew up to leave his wife.

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Speaker 1: I overlooked the fact that his youngest child is twenty

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Speaker 1: and he was still married because I loved him and

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Speaker 1: the relationship worked. While tragedy struck recently and he was

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Speaker 1: diagnosed with a terminal illness. I kept in touch with

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Speaker 1: him through his coworker while he was in the hospital.

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Speaker 1: While he was recovering at home, I snuck over to

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Speaker 1: his home to visit while his wife was out. He

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Speaker 1: let me in, and that's when I realized that he

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Speaker 1: never planned to leave his wife. His wife came home

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Speaker 1: she believed it well. He died a few days later

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Speaker 1: and I got a strange phone call. His wife had

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Speaker 1: told me that she's known about me for years. She

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Speaker 1: told me that I was not welcome at his funeral

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Speaker 1: and that I should not cause her any embarrassment. I

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Speaker 1: felt bad for having an affair, for having the affair

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Speaker 1: all of those years, but I wanted to say goodbye

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Speaker 1: to my man. I showed up at the graveside service

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Speaker 1: and his co worker asked me to leave. I just

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Speaker 1: wanted to say goodbye. What's wrong with that? What's wrong

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Speaker 1: with that? What's wrong with that? You ask everything, everything

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Speaker 1: you can think of, and it's all late out here

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Speaker 1: in the letter, starting with the fact that you were

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Speaker 1: cheating with not your man, this man with someone else's Okay,

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Speaker 1: he had a wife for the past six years. You

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Speaker 1: but that's just how life is. He's not here to

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Speaker 1: you were just a friend stopping by to check on

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Speaker 1: him or anything like that. You're in this woman's home, okay.

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Speaker 1: So now the wife is in charge, okay, and she's

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Speaker 1: not having any of it. If she if she told

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Speaker 1: you out of her mouth that she's known about you

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Speaker 1: for years and she doesn't want you there, well that's

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Speaker 1: called payback. Okay, that's called revenge. Finally she's gotten it.

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Speaker 1: It's called the queen has spoken and you are out. Okay.

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Speaker 1: You should have respected her wishes and not crash the

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Speaker 1: burial service. You shouldn't have done that. I think you're

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Speaker 1: being very selfish in this situation, and I'll say it again, disrespectful.

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Speaker 1: This is not about you. What about that? Don't you

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Speaker 1: get leave this man's family alone. Now, Okay, what you

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Speaker 1: guys had for six years is over. You gotta let

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Speaker 1: it go. Don't bring any more pain and misery to

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Speaker 1: this family, to this woman, to the wife. Let it go.

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Speaker 1: He's gone. You need to move on, Okay. Ask God

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Speaker 1: to forgive you. He will. And just try to make

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Speaker 1: talking about this? What's wrong with you? Lady? For real? What? What? What? What?

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Speaker 1: What you're trying to work through? I wasn't able to

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Speaker 1: tell her husband goodbye right there. You know why because

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Speaker 1: just when he could make you seem like a priority,

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Speaker 1: he did that, But you would never the priority. Y'all

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Speaker 1: trips with him, weekend outings whenever he could always told

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Speaker 1: That is a stock old line. Every dude that's ever

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Speaker 1: I'm just going through the emotions when the kids lead

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Speaker 1: I ain't feeling nothing. You know, people die all the time,

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Speaker 1: So tragedy struck. Recently. He was diagnosed with terminal illness.

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Speaker 1: I kept in touch with him through his coworkers. Now

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Speaker 1: just a dune that no his boy's skeletons. Why he

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Speaker 1: was recovering at home. I snuck over to his home

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Speaker 1: what she got to do. Because he terminally ill. You

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Speaker 1: and hire coming in to visit. Why he cleaned up?

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Speaker 1: You weren't in that for the Washington We're gonna stop

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Speaker 1: right there on washing Okay, No, we have part two

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Speaker 1: of Steve's three Months coming up at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour, Today's Strawberry Letters, subject I wasn't able

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Speaker 1: back right after this. You're listening morning show. All right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject, I

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Speaker 1: wasn't able to tell her husband goodbye because it was

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Speaker 1: Treat tick you like a priority. That's what you have

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Speaker 1: them like a priority, because they ain't the priority. Y'all

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Speaker 1: don't understand the game. Take you on business trip with him?

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Speaker 1: His weekend outis whenever he could. Well, how often was that?

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Speaker 1: Then he told you he was in the marriage of convenience,

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Speaker 1: The boy at twenty classic line, I'm in a manager coman.

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Speaker 1: I'm just going through the number blah blah blah. Because

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Speaker 1: you loved him in the relationship work, Well, here we go.

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Speaker 1: Tragedy recently struck. He was diagnosed with a terminal illness.

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Speaker 1: Why do you stayed in touch with him though, you know,

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Speaker 1: because I want she want us to feel sad when

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Speaker 1: kept in touch with him through his coworker. Now co

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Speaker 1: Man man, Yeah, I got you dog. He wasn't while

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Speaker 1: he was in the hospital. While he was recovering at home,

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Speaker 1: He let me in, He let you in. Of course

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Speaker 1: he let you in because you don't know what she'd

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Speaker 1: Get up, I can't get you off me. And then

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Speaker 1: know what the hell this is now. I ain't got

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Speaker 1: to feel side for nobody in this letter. I don't

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Speaker 1: know this man, this woman that went over this woman's house,

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Speaker 1: because she'd been washing on him all day, you know,

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Speaker 1: the house. Oh, ain't you lucky? He called me and

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Speaker 1: said he told his wife he was an old friend

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Speaker 1: that was just checking on it, because that's what he

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Speaker 1: That's all he told his wife that he said. She said,

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Speaker 1: she told me that she's known about me for years.

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Speaker 1: cause me no embarrassing. Let me bury my husband, Let

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Speaker 1: this fiddle. You're gonna get your ass whip. See you

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Speaker 1: have been by my house. I ain't saying nothing to you,

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Speaker 1: but you come up to this fiddle, You're gonna be

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Speaker 1: in that box with his ass. You hear me, You

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Speaker 1: hear me, she said, Steve, did you hear me? You

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Speaker 1: hear me? Heifer come up in hill. So now I

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Speaker 1: felt bad for having a fair all those years? Dog?

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Speaker 1: Did you now? But I wanted to say goodbye to

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Speaker 1: and what you want to say? Goodbye? Fol He can't

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Speaker 1: hear you right. Say bye here in the spiritual world,

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Speaker 1: And then I felt bad for having to fail, but

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Speaker 1: You know who that was? I told you about the

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Speaker 1: He saw her. He went over there and say, hey, hey, listen,

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Speaker 1: you don't don't nobody know nothing about you. You're back in.

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Speaker 1: You're crying too loud. You're crying to loud. Lower your voice.

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Speaker 1: What did you all in here? Laying all over on

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Speaker 1: to be here, he told her. Listen, listen, baby, because

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Speaker 1: the grave site, coming up here, crying extra hard with

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Speaker 1: damn funeral, damn the oval. Hey, hey hey, hey, hey, hey, hey,

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Speaker 1: hey hey, you're crying to damn hard. Stop all that sniffy.

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Speaker 1: Come on now, put yourself together. You know what this is.

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Speaker 1: You the side piece, Come talk mom. I want to

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Speaker 1: I just want to say goodbye. What's so wrong with that?

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Speaker 1: Because you the side peace? You the other one? You

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Speaker 1: in second now first, that's why you can't come say goodbye.

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Speaker 1: You couldn't go over there to say hai, it's not

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Speaker 1: about you. You can't go to say bye. It's over. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you're done going over that body, that hole that they

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Speaker 1: The woman told you, don't come down here bash me.

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Speaker 1: forty six minutes after the hour, Sports Talk with Ho Junior.

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