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Speaker 1: Is it important to have sex before you get married?

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Speaker 2: I mean, listen, I think that I don't want to

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Speaker 2: just be on here like you know, religiously, depending on

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Speaker 2: what your religion is, I can't speak on that, but

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Speaker 2: me personally, I definitely would like to have sex before

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Speaker 2: I get married.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you ain't gonna go buy a car without

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Speaker 1: testing it. You cook today, you cook today?

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Speaker 2: No, I'm not getting.

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Speaker 3: Almost got me.

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Speaker 2: Listen?

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Speaker 1: Is to take it over the game. All right, everybody,

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Speaker 1: welcome to Truth after Dark.

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Speaker 3: Do you think that men or women are more toxic?

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Speaker 1: here we go. Got a few questions for you now

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Speaker 1: you want to be on the hot seat. I'm tired

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: I got a question. When you live with your partner,

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Speaker 1: some people start avoiding home because they don't want to

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Speaker 1: see or deal with them, especially when they arguing. Does

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Speaker 1: that say it's the beginning of the end or is

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Speaker 1: this something you can work out? Just say, Like, when

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Speaker 1: you get to the point you're just like, man, you

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Speaker 1: live with somebody, I don't want to go home and

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Speaker 1: you just start doing stuff to stay out later. Is

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Speaker 1: that a sign that there's trouble in paradise?

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Speaker 3: Absolutely? Yeah, I think I've done that.

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Speaker 1: You've done that. Yeah, you just like I don't like

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Speaker 1: the night was pretty much over, and you just find

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Speaker 1: ways to extend the night, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Or even the day, Like if you're home during the day,

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Speaker 2: it's like I'm getting up, I'm running errands, that I

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Speaker 3: I'm going out there.

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Speaker 2: I'm going somewhere, Like, I don't care if I either

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Speaker 2: go to the gross store here, there, there, there there.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to these places wearing myself down till seven pm.

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Speaker 2: Coming home. Oh, I need to get in the shower.

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Speaker 2: I need to get in the bad Like that's really

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Speaker 2: what I've done in my lap, Like in one of

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Speaker 2: my relationships.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, when it gets to that point, is it fixable?

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Speaker 1: Have you ever been at that point and it just

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Speaker 2: I think that everything is fixable. It just takes two

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So for me, I don't think that the problem is

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Speaker 2: So for me, it's like, if we can get to

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Speaker 2: we can have conversations without being on the defense, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think you can get to a better point. You know.

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Speaker 2: Have I was at the end of my relationship, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: pretty much, but we just weren't at that place where

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Speaker 1: Wow, that's interesting. Yeah, I've experienced that. It's just like damn,

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Speaker 1: All right, man, tell me about this. I was talking

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Speaker 1: Or it's like, all right, bag, you used to do

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Speaker 2: Well, I'm gonna tell you two reasons, right, So Number

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Speaker 2: Right now, Women internalize things and we think things way

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Speaker 2: Women and men.

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Speaker 3: A man can say something and mean.

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Speaker 1: So when a man be like, hey, bab I'm about

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Speaker 1: How does the man respectfully tell how I would say

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Speaker 2: I would just how is the How can.

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Speaker 2: I would say. I would say, first of all, as

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Speaker 3: Like I'm not saying that. I hate that. I would

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Speaker 2: Like if you want to go, hit it, like matter

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Speaker 2: of fact, you should go without me. I'm gonna say

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Speaker 2: that before I say can I go? But secondly, that's

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Speaker 3: Don't do that. If he wanted you to go, he

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Speaker 2: Secondly, it's I would tell her this, yeah, okay, she

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Speaker 2: they're not bringing none of they girls. So we just

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Speaker 3: Like a woman might feel.

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Speaker 2: A little like damn okay, but like at the end

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Speaker 2: should do this, saying you should go next week with

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Speaker 3: You feel the same.

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Speaker 2: But a man has to keep that same energy when

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Speaker 2: I know she's not gonna disrespect me and I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: let her do her thing. It has to be a

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Speaker 3: Like, oh this is crazy. She's out, she's looking good,

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Speaker 2: Like they're sick to their stomachs. Okay, so you gotta

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Speaker 1: Okay, period. Let me ask you about another situation. There's

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Speaker 1: a situation that you you say, like, let's girl, let's

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Speaker 1: let's go have dinner or something. Let's go to this

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Speaker 1: little lounge. Girl's night. Yeah, it's ball like four or

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Speaker 1: five y'all. How do you feel when you go and

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Speaker 1: it's like five girls and it's the one girl who

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Speaker 1: what's the situation? Like what is that? Because you know

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Speaker 1: it's always groups like that. They look up and they,

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Speaker 1: damn girl. I thought it was just gonna be us

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Speaker 2: You know what's crazy is I'm like that person. So

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Speaker 2: that's why I've been that versu in a bunch of

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Speaker 2: I'll be like, but they be happy because he'll come,

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Speaker 2: he'll pay for everything. You'll hit it, so they don't care.

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Speaker 2: Like I've always been there, like okay, girl, you bringing

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Speaker 3: Out without him, you know what I mean, and.

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Speaker 2: He don't trust that and he want to be there,

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Speaker 1: Can you really enjoy the night of the you can

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Speaker 2: Yeah you not my man.

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Speaker 1: Let's hit this boomo bone. Then you show up. You

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Speaker 1: not only show up, you show up with a homegirl.

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Speaker 1: Is the guy obligated to pay for that dinner?

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Speaker 3: Supplicated for the dinner? Anytime?

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Speaker 1: Like you do you feel like you ask a guy

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Speaker 3: Well, what is that?

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Speaker 2: Most women when they ask a guy and they bring

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Speaker 3: Hes gonna pay for dinner.

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Speaker 2: You want to go to dinner?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the sister.

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Speaker 2: If you're doing that, you know what type of man

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Speaker 2: I know this dude, he's thirsty, he'll pay for the dinner.

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Speaker 3: That's one hundred percent that every.

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Speaker 2: Single time he's thirsty, he thirsty, he paying for the dinner, girl,

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Speaker 2: because that's the only time.

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Speaker 3: You only are gonna ask a guy.

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Speaker 2: To dinner if you're not on him. Because if you

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Speaker 2: like that. Embarrass yourself. Let's go to dinner like we're

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Speaker 2: not dating, Like we're not dating you. You should be

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Speaker 2: I'm only doing that if it's like, girl, he gonna

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Speaker 1: Like as as a lady, how many dates is you

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Speaker 1: like like how many days he gets?

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Speaker 2: As many as you want to have fun and get

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Speaker 2: your ship paid for? And it could be sporadic. It

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Speaker 2: could be like I went on three dates, don't talk

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Speaker 3: Hey are you free?

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Speaker 2: You want to look in her random FaceTime? Random this

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Speaker 2: that's when you know a girl is just using you

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Speaker 2: dry honey, she's just calling you randomly. She don't like you.

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Speaker 1: He a god like that. If you continue to go

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Speaker 2: Hen it'd be a lot of nolls slipping on that,

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Speaker 2: because a woman when she don't want you like that,

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Speaker 2: you you rarely slip up on that.

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Speaker 1: Man's stupid to just keep.

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Speaker 3: Going for that.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, yeah there is.

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Speaker 3: I'm here to tell you, Yeah there is.

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Speaker 2: People run that play for years on the man, not years,

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Speaker 3: Could be sporadic.

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Speaker 2: It could be three days, then two months later, another

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Speaker 3: Every time you're bored.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So now how you're gonna feel about this? He'd

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Speaker 1: It's been sporadic. You know, he got money, ain't tripping

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Speaker 1: eating blue dinners. Off on you. Let's go to dinner tonight,

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Speaker 1: all right, boom on boom. Then you show up to

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Speaker 1: the dinner. He got another girl with it. What you're doing?

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Speaker 1: It's sporadic, right, You ain't You ain't sexual and you

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Speaker 1: you you're getting over a hill. Now he just brought another.

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Speaker 4: Girl to girl.

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Speaker 3: What's yeah?

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Speaker 1: Hey girl, but you ain't gonna feel like man, she

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Speaker 1: might start dipping into my dinner money.

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Speaker 2: No, because he already got other girls. Because I'm only

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Speaker 2: seeing you once in a while, I don't here.

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Speaker 1: But now he doing it in front of you.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't care.

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Speaker 1: He can come out with another ship.

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Speaker 3: I'm bringing my homegirl too.

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Speaker 1: No, no, you're not with your homegirl. This time he

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Speaker 3: Not if I'm still getting the free dinner.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but now it's like not as often as now.

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Speaker 2: It's like, well, it wasn't as often anyways, because women

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Speaker 1: Women can continue to take free dates and still like

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Speaker 1: how do you continue to go out with people you

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Speaker 1: don't like?

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Speaker 2: I have no idea, because when I was young, I

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Speaker 2: That's why I don't get why women can go on

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Speaker 2: I have never been that hungry and that broke to

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Speaker 2: I don't need a vibe that bad.

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Speaker 2: Can scrounge up somebody to go to dinner with my homegirl,

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Speaker 2: like I'm not doing that because I've done that, meaning

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Speaker 3: It's just like, no, I can't be around you.

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Speaker 2: This is boring, this is draining me, Like I don't

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Speaker 2: So it don't even damn matter. That's how women feel

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Speaker 3: up with a few.

440
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Speaker 1: Come on, all right, give me an example, So let's

441
00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:07,280
Speaker 1: do it.

442
00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:10,080
Speaker 3: Okay.

443
00:19:11,480 --> 00:19:16,320
Speaker 2: So more or less of a red flag if someone

444
00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:21,560
Speaker 2: says they never argue ever in relationships, I love that.

445
00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:27,000
Speaker 1: Less of red flag, I love that. So now when

446
00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:31,560
Speaker 1: you try to start arguing, nomember what you said. Yeah, god, I.

447
00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:33,720
Speaker 2: Mean I think that it's natural that you're gonna argue

448
00:19:33,720 --> 00:19:34,360
Speaker 2: from here to there.

449
00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:36,280
Speaker 3: But it's just about the extent of the argument.

450
00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:40,560
Speaker 1: Like people you in, I feel like there's a level star.

451
00:19:40,800 --> 00:19:43,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree with you, you know, like a mini little

452
00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:44,200
Speaker 2: like disagreement.

453
00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:45,840
Speaker 3: Yes, that's not arguing.

454
00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:49,119
Speaker 1: Arguing to me is when you like really in a

455
00:19:49,240 --> 00:19:53,640
Speaker 1: dog house with one person, y'all just ain't talking. That's

456
00:19:53,800 --> 00:19:56,560
Speaker 1: real arguing to where you go in another room and

457
00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:58,600
Speaker 1: you might not even you feel in a certain type

458
00:19:58,600 --> 00:20:01,200
Speaker 1: of way that the real argu for sure.

459
00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:02,240
Speaker 3: Okay, So.

460
00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:07,159
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, more or less likely to last. A

461
00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:11,560
Speaker 2: relationship with a strong chemistry but a weak friendship, or

462
00:20:11,600 --> 00:20:14,639
Speaker 2: a strong friendship and an average chemistry.

463
00:20:16,480 --> 00:20:21,119
Speaker 1: I say for women, it's a strong chemistry weak friendship.

464
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Speaker 1: For a man, it's a strong friendship.

465
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Speaker 3: I could agree with that.

466
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Speaker 1: Weak chemistry, Well, I.

467
00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:28,200
Speaker 3: Will say this.

468
00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:30,399
Speaker 2: I mean they said average chemistry, so it's not what

469
00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:33,680
Speaker 2: I would say this though. The chemistry naturally in a

470
00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:36,400
Speaker 2: relationship will always fizzle out regardless.

471
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Speaker 3: So now in my older.

472
00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:49,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's why I'm now Now in my older life,

473
00:20:49,960 --> 00:20:54,159
Speaker 2: I realize that a friendship is way more important and

474
00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:57,400
Speaker 2: it's way better because number one, if you're friends with someone,

475
00:20:57,480 --> 00:20:59,680
Speaker 2: you can really talk to them and you could be like, yo,

476
00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:01,160
Speaker 2: what's going on?

477
00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:01,879
Speaker 3: Like this is this?

478
00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:04,560
Speaker 2: And you guys can have real conversations versus the chemistry

479
00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:05,360
Speaker 2: is going to die out.

480
00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:07,360
Speaker 3: You can't be a vibe chaser.

481
00:21:07,600 --> 00:21:10,919
Speaker 2: If you're chasing vibes constantly, you're gonna really just end

482
00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:13,960
Speaker 2: up in like a bunch of different relationships because you're

483
00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:17,399
Speaker 2: never gonna have any real stability. Relationships fizzle and go

484
00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:28,000
Speaker 2: up and down all the time, you know, Okay, more

485
00:21:28,119 --> 00:21:31,000
Speaker 2: or less respect loss. When a woman proposes to a man,

486
00:21:34,480 --> 00:21:35,160
Speaker 2: I mean, I.

487
00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:38,479
Speaker 1: Don't know what that's like. You know, I've never seen it.

488
00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:42,000
Speaker 1: It's never happened to me, so I don't know what

489
00:21:42,080 --> 00:21:44,840
Speaker 1: type of life man. That'd be? Crazy though to see that.

490
00:21:44,720 --> 00:21:46,280
Speaker 2: Man, I don't know that's been happening.

491
00:21:46,320 --> 00:21:49,320
Speaker 3: I'm not doing that. We talked about it on the show.

492
00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:51,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, but I ain't never seen it. I

493
00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:51,439
Speaker 1: don't know.

494
00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:55,120
Speaker 2: No case, ddg's sister proposed to her boyfriend, all right,

495
00:21:55,600 --> 00:21:58,240
Speaker 2: and then another actress proposed to her.

496
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Speaker 1: Man, I'm not think there's anything wrong with that.

497
00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:02,480
Speaker 2: I don't like that.

498
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:05,159
Speaker 3: I think there's a lot wrong with that.

499
00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:08,480
Speaker 1: As much American traditional values to where it's supposed to

500
00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:11,439
Speaker 1: be this way, everything's supposed to be like this, Like

501
00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:14,879
Speaker 1: who said, who made the law? Who made the rules

502
00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:15,399
Speaker 1: of all of this?

503
00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:18,600
Speaker 2: Well, I think that it goes into you can't pick

504
00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:20,680
Speaker 2: and shoes. You can't decide, like I want a woman

505
00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:22,680
Speaker 2: that's going to listen, and I want to be a leader,

506
00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:25,199
Speaker 2: and I want to be the masculine person in the relationship,

507
00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:26,800
Speaker 2: and I want to do all the things, and then

508
00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:28,560
Speaker 2: you want her to get on her knees into roles.

509
00:22:28,680 --> 00:22:30,000
Speaker 3: That doesn't make sense.

510
00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:33,160
Speaker 2: A man, No, it doesn't, because why am I making

511
00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:35,720
Speaker 2: a decision about our lives?

512
00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 1: Making decision? You're asking me something and I have the

513
00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:39,119
Speaker 1: choice to say, yeah.

514
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:39,639
Speaker 2: That's law on me.

515
00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:40,920
Speaker 3: I'm never doing that.

516
00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:44,080
Speaker 2: Me personally, I don't know what y'all are doing, but listen,

517
00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:46,760
Speaker 2: I would rather leave if I feel like, Okay, we're

518
00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:47,560
Speaker 2: not moving forward.

519
00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:51,760
Speaker 1: Stuck on traditional yeah, has proven over time to not

520
00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:52,520
Speaker 1: even work.

521
00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:54,880
Speaker 3: Actually it has.

522
00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:58,760
Speaker 1: We get taught from the day we're born to the

523
00:22:58,840 --> 00:23:01,080
Speaker 1: day we die that this is how life's supposed to be.

524
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:04,600
Speaker 1: You get up, you go to school, you go to college,

525
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:08,440
Speaker 1: you go to work nine to five. You you find

526
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:11,560
Speaker 1: a woman that likes you, you propose to her, get

527
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:14,680
Speaker 1: a white pick and fence house, happy ending story.

528
00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 3: Well, first of all, that.

529
00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:23,040
Speaker 2: The black community never even had that opportunity to do that.

530
00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:27,000
Speaker 2: That's not even real. Systemically racism and everything that we've

531
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:30,280
Speaker 2: been put through and all the things that happened, like,

532
00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:34,680
Speaker 2: we don't have that direct trajectory in our lives as

533
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 2: black people.

534
00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:36,520
Speaker 3: That's not even the thing.

535
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:40,480
Speaker 2: First of all, that's the white American dream period, point blank.

536
00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:41,800
Speaker 3: That does not include this.

537
00:23:42,119 --> 00:23:46,800
Speaker 2: Black people traditionally have been in broken homes, fathers missing.

538
00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:49,080
Speaker 2: Most black men you talk to do not have a

539
00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:52,240
Speaker 2: father in the household. Most men were raised by independent

540
00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:55,399
Speaker 2: women who are strong, same with black girls. And at

541
00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:57,120
Speaker 2: the end of the day, that has not been What

542
00:23:57,200 --> 00:23:59,280
Speaker 2: has happened. So how do we know as a community

543
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:01,639
Speaker 2: if that works not. There is a larger amount of

544
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:04,760
Speaker 2: people who are unmarried with baby mothers and baby fathers

545
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:08,560
Speaker 2: than there are community connected marriage period, point blank.

546
00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:10,680
Speaker 3: So no, I think our community is broken.

547
00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:12,600
Speaker 2: I think that we need to fix it, and I

548
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:14,520
Speaker 2: think that we need to unite in a better way

549
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:15,479
Speaker 2: and a better manner.

550
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:17,200
Speaker 3: That's just the truth. At the end of the day,

551
00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:18,640
Speaker 3: we don't have that lifestyle.

552
00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:26,399
Speaker 2: Maybe you got married and I'm just let's go to

553
00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:30,680
Speaker 2: the next question the subject you hate. See that's crazy anyways,

554
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:32,359
Speaker 2: don't you have a few that you want to ask me?

555
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:34,360
Speaker 3: You said you wanted to ask.

556
00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 1: What we're more or less?

557
00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.

558
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean I wasn't prepared to, like, well,

559
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:47,920
Speaker 1: I could have read the ones that was already on

560
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 1: the script.

561
00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:53,200
Speaker 2: Okay, so do you want to you here?

562
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 1: All right?

563
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:56,080
Speaker 3: Can you see that?

564
00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:05,120
Speaker 1: All right? More or less of a problem? A partner

565
00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:13,000
Speaker 1: who flirts for attention or a partner who isolates and controls.

566
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 2: A partner who flirts for attention or a partner who

567
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:19,280
Speaker 2: isolates and controls.

568
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 1: I mean, clearly, it's both.

569
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:27,280
Speaker 2: It's tricky who like, first of all, I don't mind

570
00:25:27,320 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 2: controlling because I don't look at most controlling as controlling.

571
00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:33,159
Speaker 2: So I'm gona probably say flirting for attention, like why

572
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:34,160
Speaker 2: are you so thirsty?

573
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:35,840
Speaker 1: Yeah?

574
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:38,919
Speaker 2: Like I don't like that, so I'd rather someone just

575
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:41,920
Speaker 2: be cool like whatever, I don't care.

576
00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:47,480
Speaker 1: All right, Yeah, I guess, Okay, so now more are less?

577
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:49,760
Speaker 1: I'll come up with something.

578
00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 3: Now, okay, go ahead.

579
00:25:51,280 --> 00:26:00,360
Speaker 1: So more or less? More or less thirst traps? Yeah, say,

580
00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:04,639
Speaker 1: like you got a relationship your girl or you she

581
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:07,960
Speaker 1: go on a trip and she just flexing by the pool,

582
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 1: bie flexing on the bees food and all that more

583
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:17,880
Speaker 1: or less? Is that? Is that disrespectful? Though?

584
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:20,840
Speaker 3: That's not even a more or less question? You just

585
00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 3: want to ask.

586
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:26,200
Speaker 2: Some shit, I'm crying?

587
00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 3: Is that disrespectful as the question that more?

588
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:31,720
Speaker 1: Or do you need to get more of that? Or? Like?

589
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:33,679
Speaker 3: I think that for me?

590
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:34,560
Speaker 2: I don't know.

591
00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:35,399
Speaker 3: It depends on the man.

592
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 2: I mean, obviously, listen, I'm very aware of like, Okay,

593
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:42,200
Speaker 2: if I post this, this would be like kind of

594
00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 2: too much for being in a relationship. I think about

595
00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:48,439
Speaker 2: those things, you know what I'm saying, And I guess,

596
00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:51,200
Speaker 2: like it just depends too. Like some men they are

597
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:53,600
Speaker 2: the ones posting their woman half like I know someone

598
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:56,919
Speaker 2: who posts his wife and straight up bikini's half naked

599
00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:59,919
Speaker 2: all day every day, like he loves that ship. And

600
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:01,560
Speaker 2: there's some men who are like, I don't want that

601
00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:04,959
Speaker 2: all over the internet. That's causing the wrong amount of

602
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 2: attention and it's bringing in all this Like all these

603
00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:10,680
Speaker 2: men are you? Because no matter what any woman says,

604
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:14,960
Speaker 2: if you are pretty and you post a picture, it's

605
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:16,240
Speaker 2: going down in the DMS.

606
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:18,760
Speaker 1: All right, what are you more or less likely to do?

607
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 2: Okay?

608
00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:26,120
Speaker 1: Data? Man with more than a million followers are less

609
00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:27,080
Speaker 1: than a million.

610
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 3: Followers, less than a million followers for sure?

611
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:34,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I prefer a man who do not even exists.

612
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 1: I wonder what it is for the men. What do

613
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 1: y'all think? Man? What do you if you talking to

614
00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 1: a woman and she got like two hundred thousand followers?

615
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 1: Two hundred thousand, what is it more or less that

616
00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:49,920
Speaker 1: you could work with? That's a question. What's the number

617
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:52,400
Speaker 1: of followers she gotta have? And you'd be like, ooh,

618
00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:53,800
Speaker 1: she cold? Well?

619
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:56,200
Speaker 2: Men always the men that I know I don't know about,

620
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 2: like the new age men who like all that stuff,

621
00:27:58,080 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 2: but like the men I know be like, I don't

622
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 2: want my girl to be doing.

623
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:03,240
Speaker 3: All of that. I like a low key she ain't

624
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:04,720
Speaker 3: even on the Instagram.

625
00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:09,320
Speaker 1: If you got one hundred thousand followers, is that a

626
00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:10,040
Speaker 1: red flag?

627
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:13,600
Speaker 2: I don't know, like I have.

628
00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:16,200
Speaker 3: If you're not famous, I'm not famous.

629
00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 1: You're famous? You famous?

630
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 3: I'm definitely not famous.

631
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 1: Have you ever been out on somebody said, oh my god,

632
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:26,200
Speaker 1: I follow you? Oh my god? Can I have a picture? Yes?

633
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:26,520
Speaker 1: Or no?

634
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 2: Yes?

635
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:30,760
Speaker 1: Are the famous? Then people don't have that happen to them.

636
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 1: You're somewhat famous, you work, and you host of the

637
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 1: truth out the dark? What are you talking about? I

638
00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 1: don't want to hear that. I'm saying if a girl

639
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:47,760
Speaker 1: who's not famous got over one hundred thousand followers.

640
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 3: That she's posting, that's type of pics.

641
00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:52,480
Speaker 2: That's how you get them followers, if you're not doing

642
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 2: nothing work wise.

643
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:57,840
Speaker 1: Aside as a society, we influence and we encourage girls

644
00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:01,680
Speaker 1: to post booty and have naked pictures so they can

645
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:03,959
Speaker 1: get their followers up. Is that what we're encouraging out here?

646
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm not I don't know.

647
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:10,560
Speaker 1: Because we see people with girls with a million followers

648
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 1: and then you'd be like then what they do and

649
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 1: it's it's.

650
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 2: Just only fans naked. Yeah, because people want they fetishized

651
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:21,400
Speaker 2: and they want to Men love to see that. They

652
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 2: love like to see that, like all day, so you

653
00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:27,240
Speaker 2: want to look at that all day on the internet.

654
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:34,560
Speaker 1: I got one more fan, okay, more than twenty million

655
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:37,479
Speaker 1: or less than twenty million for you to do only fans.

656
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:41,040
Speaker 3: I'm not doing only fans twenty million.

657
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:45,600
Speaker 1: I'm not doing that's crazy. Yeah, No, I'm not twenty million.

658
00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:48,760
Speaker 3: No, you can't buy or less. You can't buy me less.

659
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:51,200
Speaker 2: And I know people won't believe that, but I will

660
00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:55,959
Speaker 2: never do only fans because that's the digital footprint last forever.

661
00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 2: And I want to have children and I don't want

662
00:29:58,760 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 2: to have that on the internet.

663
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 3: I do not want.

664
00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 2: My legacy to be like, oh, you can look up

665
00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 2: her Kouchie like. I do never want that.

666
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, only fans. What do you think you're doing?

667
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 1: Yeah?

668
00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:15,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you showing a lot. You showing a lot.

669
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 1: You want to save your integrity.

670
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 3: I want to save the integrity of who I am

671
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:21,440
Speaker 3: as a woman. I'm not perfect.

672
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 2: I've had my ship in my life, but at the

673
00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:27,480
Speaker 2: same time, I want to present myself like as someone

674
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:31,160
Speaker 2: who respects themselves and is classy and really like has

675
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:34,600
Speaker 2: that integrity, and that is what I'm trying to always

676
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:37,040
Speaker 2: put out there, you know, for me, And that's real

677
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 2: to me, Like I'm dead ass. Not everyone has a

678
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:43,240
Speaker 2: price to be paid, Like I'm cool on that, and

679
00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:46,560
Speaker 2: I'll well, I give it up for my dad, like

680
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:48,520
Speaker 2: you know, I had a present father in my life,

681
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:51,880
Speaker 2: and I just feel like you it's just it's just

682
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:54,360
Speaker 2: like being taught a certain way as a woman and

683
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 2: having sisters and watching them carry themselves be so classy, like.

684
00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:00,720
Speaker 3: You know, I just don't want to be that type

685
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:00,960
Speaker 3: of one.

686
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 2: I'm not speaking down on nobody who has to get

687
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 2: it how they live, you know what I mean. But

688
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 2: I've as a woman, I've had plenty of opportunities with

689
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 2: my body type to do certain stuff. What's I shouldn't

690
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:16,360
Speaker 2: even have said that, I know, I know, I know,

691
00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:19,880
Speaker 2: but like just curvy and like a big butt, like

692
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 2: you know, since I was young, I've had that. So

693
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 2: for me, it's like even when I lived in Atlanta, know,

694
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 2: even when I lived in Atlanta. Not tonight, I will

695
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 2: I'll give them something because you said I should and

696
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 2: we'll do it, like maybe next time after tune in,

697
00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 2: but not tonight.

698
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 3: Tonight we might we might get the.

699
00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:49,600
Speaker 2: Like come on, yeah, come on, maybe a one eighty

700
00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 2: like they said half, not the three sixty. But okay.

701
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705
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Speaker 1: Yeah. So I just was looking at this story. Right

706
00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:13,040
Speaker 1: this lady was like, you know, I'm not gonna have

707
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:16,240
Speaker 1: sex until I get married. And you know, they dated,

708
00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 1: they did, he caught her. They dated for some years.

709
00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:22,800
Speaker 1: It's been like a year or two. Then he proposed

710
00:32:22,840 --> 00:32:26,320
Speaker 1: and they got married, and then they got married. So

711
00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:28,440
Speaker 1: then they moved in together and then it come to

712
00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:32,720
Speaker 1: find out that the dude had ed. So you think

713
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 1: as it is it? So my question is is it

714
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:38,760
Speaker 1: important to have sex before you get married?

715
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:43,880
Speaker 2: I mean, listen, I think that for I don't wanna

716
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:47,280
Speaker 2: just be on here like you know, religiously, depending on

717
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 2: what your religion is, I can't speak on that, but

718
00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:53,360
Speaker 2: me personally, I definitely would like to have sex before

719
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:53,960
Speaker 2: I get married.

720
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:55,800
Speaker 1: I mean, you ain't gonna go buy a car without

721
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 1: testing it, right.

722
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 2: I wanna have sex before I get married because I'm

723
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:02,760
Speaker 2: like with the guy I'm married. But it depends on

724
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 2: how important sex is, you know, for you as a person,

725
00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 2: because a lot of women have sex with men all

726
00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:11,040
Speaker 2: the time where it's like it's cool, but they not

727
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:14,959
Speaker 2: like super satisfied about it, you know what I mean.

728
00:33:15,080 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 2: They have their toy and they use that and they

729
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:20,040
Speaker 2: just do what they satisfy him. You know, a lot

730
00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 2: of time for women, sex is performative anyway, So it's like,

731
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 2: I'm gonna perform for this person.

732
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:28,800
Speaker 1: And man ever told you he wasn't satisfied.

733
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:31,640
Speaker 3: No, that doesn't mean he wasn't.

734
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 1: But men tell.

735
00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:36,680
Speaker 3: Women I think men should. I don't think women tell men.

736
00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 1: Women you can tell from a woman, but a woman.

737
00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:43,200
Speaker 3: Nah, you can't say if.

738
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 1: A man's ever gonna tell a woman like that, he's

739
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 1: just not satisfied in a relationship. I think if you're

740
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 1: dating and y'all have a sexual experience, he just won't

741
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:58,520
Speaker 1: talk to you no more. Yeah, and that's telling. But

742
00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:02,280
Speaker 1: after like women will be like and probably the same

743
00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:04,480
Speaker 1: with women, they just won't talk to you no more.

744
00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:11,799
Speaker 1: You know, if it's trash. Like, can relationships exist with

745
00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 1: trash sex?

746
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:16,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think they exists all the time.

747
00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, But I think that for men it's more

748
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:22,279
Speaker 2: important for it to not be trash because men are

749
00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:25,440
Speaker 2: going to have that that in there. The men are

750
00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:29,399
Speaker 2: naturally sexual creatures more than women, and they're gonna need

751
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:32,880
Speaker 2: to have that satisfaction. So if they're not getting satisfied,

752
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:34,520
Speaker 2: it's more of a problem for a man than it

753
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:36,520
Speaker 2: is a woman in my opinion, because a man then

754
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:39,200
Speaker 2: is going to start being lustful towards other women, start

755
00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:42,399
Speaker 2: feeling like they're damn like I'm you know, like they're

756
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 2: not getting satisfied. Then you're out in the streets just

757
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:47,600
Speaker 2: like on it like damn, Like you start to just

758
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:48,839
Speaker 2: consider shit more.

759
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 3: The temptation is more.

760
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 2: Interesting, like wait a minute, she cool, she looks good, Like,

761
00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 2: I don't know, maybe just want time because I'm not

762
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 2: getting satisfied. That's why I think, like you don't have

763
00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:01,359
Speaker 2: to tell a woman like I'm not satisfied, but you

764
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 2: can be like, babe, I like it when you do

765
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 2: this like this.

766
00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:07,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, and what percentage of sex is important in the relationship?

767
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:09,319
Speaker 3: You always ask this question.

768
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 1: Well, I'm not going to get.

769
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 3: For people, it's different.

770
00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 2: I don't know yours. I think for me, the reason

771
00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:21,680
Speaker 2: I say it's high is because it's because of the man,

772
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:23,320
Speaker 2: the reason it's super.

773
00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:24,720
Speaker 3: No, listen to what I'm saying.

774
00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 2: It's important to me because I know that if I'm

775
00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:29,840
Speaker 2: not satisfying my man, it leaves room for temptation for

776
00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:32,280
Speaker 2: him to have sex with something. And that's in my head.

777
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:34,439
Speaker 2: So then I'm going to be stressed, like if I'm

778
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:36,759
Speaker 2: not doing what I need to do, I know that

779
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,160
Speaker 2: that leaves room for him to go do something else,

780
00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:41,520
Speaker 2: and I don't like that, feeling like I want to

781
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:44,360
Speaker 2: make sure we're consistently having sex and I'm freshening it

782
00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:47,000
Speaker 2: up and I'm doing the little different things to make

783
00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:50,000
Speaker 2: it like cool, because if not, then I'm going to

784
00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 2: feel like, oh my god, like I'm not doing my job.

785
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:57,680
Speaker 1: So what's so like? That's the most important part, Like

786
00:35:57,719 --> 00:35:59,520
Speaker 1: all the other shit. He could be a asshole, he

787
00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 1: could be not cute, he.

788
00:36:01,560 --> 00:36:03,720
Speaker 3: Could be No, that's not what I'm saying.

789
00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:07,839
Speaker 1: What you said, but you didn't get what I said.

790
00:36:08,880 --> 00:36:11,759
Speaker 1: On a percentage level, how much percent.

791
00:36:11,560 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 3: Is okay important?

792
00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:15,320
Speaker 2: Let me say this though, if it didn't have anything

793
00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:17,759
Speaker 2: to do with the man, like cheating or stepping out,

794
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:21,320
Speaker 2: because that then for me, it would be like fifty percent. Honestly,

795
00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:24,239
Speaker 2: if I did, if I knew like the man wasn't

796
00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 2: going to be, it would probably be fifty percent. Because

797
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:29,560
Speaker 2: I want to have sex, and I want to have

798
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:31,719
Speaker 2: sex often with my partner because I feel like it's

799
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:33,960
Speaker 2: a way to connect. But I do feel like a

800
00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:37,360
Speaker 2: lot of things are important also in a relationship. You

801
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 2: know what I mean, Like, that's not the only important thing.

802
00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 1: What's three or two percent? He's dumb? He dumb? He's

803
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 1: just two percent dumb? Three percent? What do you mean

804
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:52,440
Speaker 1: like you got two percent left of the man? That's important?

805
00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 1: You got to know.

806
00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:54,520
Speaker 3: That's how I'm scaling it.

807
00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:57,320
Speaker 1: You're scaling the relationship is one hundred percent.

808
00:36:57,560 --> 00:36:58,720
Speaker 3: Oh, I didn't know. You're skilling.

809
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 1: Don't scale it. The relationship is one hundred percent. Important

810
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:08,680
Speaker 1: things matter. What's the percentage? What's your percentage throughout the relation?

811
00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:12,360
Speaker 1: You got to have this percentage of this, this percentage

812
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:13,879
Speaker 1: of that to make the perfect man.

813
00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 2: If I had to make a perfect.

814
00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:16,800
Speaker 1: Man, you have to make the perfect man.

815
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:19,759
Speaker 2: I would say, emotional maturity needs to be out of

816
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:20,520
Speaker 2: fifty percent.

817
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:23,000
Speaker 1: Okay, that means that, that means you know.

818
00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:25,600
Speaker 2: How to communicate, you know how to be vulnerable, you

819
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:28,120
Speaker 2: know how to be intuitive with me. You know if

820
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 2: I'm not feeling good, you're like there and you're catering,

821
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:34,480
Speaker 2: like you know how to be somebody who's like in

822
00:37:34,520 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 2: tune with your woman and all that shit.

823
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 1: Fifty percent emotional intelligence, all right, Now we got fifty

824
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:40,600
Speaker 1: percent left.

825
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:42,400
Speaker 3: Then I would probably say.

826
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 2: Shit.

827
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 3: I would probably say.

828
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:49,880
Speaker 1: Like twenty five percent sex.

829
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 3: I would say, like thirty percent.

830
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 1: Okay, you got thirty percent sexual. Now you got twenty

831
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:01,800
Speaker 1: percent left.

832
00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 3: So I would do, like.

833
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 1: You building a boy, build a boy. Here we go.

834
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:12,560
Speaker 2: I don't know, I'm not I don't know what else.

835
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:15,799
Speaker 2: I can't think of it, right, Loyalty, I would say,

836
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:18,920
Speaker 2: I do. I'm not big on looks like. Hygiene is important,

837
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:22,239
Speaker 2: but I don't have to have like a major fine

838
00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:25,240
Speaker 2: fine fine vine like person like it's.

839
00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:28,160
Speaker 3: Cool like looks are cool like, but I don't.

840
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:32,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you most men out here, and these

841
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:35,560
Speaker 1: men often get divorced and they dumb. Most of them

842
00:38:35,680 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 1: US say fifty percent looks.

843
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:44,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, of course that's obvious. Men are so driven by women.

844
00:38:44,200 --> 00:38:46,359
Speaker 2: Let me tell you today, I was in traffic, right,

845
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 2: and it was this big escalade and it was just

846
00:38:50,280 --> 00:38:53,759
Speaker 2: like like he was like distracted on his phone and

847
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 2: the light was green and I was behind him, so

848
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 2: I went around him and I went to the front.

849
00:38:57,600 --> 00:38:59,959
Speaker 3: And when I went to the front, he's hocking, he's

850
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:00,879
Speaker 3: flash in his lights.

851
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:04,040
Speaker 2: He's pissed, right, So I'm like, damn, you wouldn't even

852
00:39:04,080 --> 00:39:07,359
Speaker 2: go with He comes to the side of me and

853
00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:09,680
Speaker 2: he looks at me, and he sees me, and he

854
00:39:09,719 --> 00:39:12,960
Speaker 2: goes from angry to just he was so happy and

855
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:16,040
Speaker 2: he was like and then he followed me for like

856
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:18,400
Speaker 2: five minutes, came to the side of me and was

857
00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:19,280
Speaker 2: like man man.

858
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:21,920
Speaker 3: Like trying to get my attention. I'm like yelling out

859
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:24,400
Speaker 3: the window. Your face is a queen, feel like.

860
00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:27,400
Speaker 2: Men are so driven by looks like today was the

861
00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 2: perfect example of that, because he was so pissed and

862
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:33,680
Speaker 2: literally when he saw me, he was like his whole

863
00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 2: vibe change. You went from angry to like so giddy, happy,

864
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:41,040
Speaker 2: loving it the guards and like just so fresh like

865
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:42,760
Speaker 2: and just a whole new vibe.

866
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:44,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, a man can look at a woman on the

867
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:46,080
Speaker 1: television and be like I'll marry her.

868
00:39:46,280 --> 00:39:50,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, man, yeah, Man. Love a look, man, love a look,

869
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:51,919
Speaker 3: But a look.

870
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:56,759
Speaker 1: A look changes when you get older, Like I think

871
00:39:56,800 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 1: in your twenties is looks. Yeah, when this is a man,

872
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:03,759
Speaker 1: this is a man I'm talking about. When you're a

873
00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:08,759
Speaker 1: man in his twenties, it looks, I think a lot

874
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:11,560
Speaker 1: of it more percentages looks. When you're getting your thirties

875
00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:15,560
Speaker 1: that the looks cutting half. And it's just like, all right,

876
00:40:15,640 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 1: I need some emotional intelligence. I need somebody who can

877
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:24,560
Speaker 1: take care of me. Forties, man, I think it looks

878
00:40:24,560 --> 00:40:27,680
Speaker 1: start going way out the window for me. He just

879
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:30,359
Speaker 1: you start looking for somebody that like there, I need

880
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:33,320
Speaker 1: somebody that could take care of me that's down to earth.

881
00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:41,120
Speaker 1: You know, she could be decent. Fifties jump ball. Everything

882
00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:45,680
Speaker 1: is going. So what is that timeline that I just

883
00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:48,800
Speaker 1: gave for men? What is the timeline for women?

884
00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:51,240
Speaker 3: Twenties twenty?

885
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:55,880
Speaker 2: Is like you want like that looks, No, it looks,

886
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:59,280
Speaker 2: but it's more like you want that like player like popping,

887
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:02,479
Speaker 2: he's learn this, he's cracking Like for me, I love

888
00:41:02,680 --> 00:41:04,880
Speaker 2: Like That's what I'm saying.

889
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 3: Like for women in my in the twenties, you love

890
00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 3: that's just all.

891
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:12,480
Speaker 2: I can't speak for all women, no speak for I

892
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:13,520
Speaker 2: can tell you what I think.

893
00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm telling you.

894
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:17,960
Speaker 2: Like with me and my homegirls in our twenties, it

895
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:23,239
Speaker 2: was like flashy man popping Roy's Royce, pick you up,

896
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:26,400
Speaker 2: bust you down. Like my my boyfriend drove a Lamborghini,

897
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 2: Like we're in the lamb bow. He's hitting it every time.

898
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 2: I see him as a gift, Like that was so

899
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:34,839
Speaker 2: cracking to me. If I look at that same man

900
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 2: right now, you could not try to talk to me none.

901
00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 1: Like, So that's what a woman now in the twenties.

902
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 2: So in the thirties, I would probably say, like, you

903
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:48,879
Speaker 2: look for a man who's smart, who's mature, who can

904
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:51,960
Speaker 2: actually you start a family with, who would be someone

905
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:54,560
Speaker 2: you can look to and take advice, who can teach

906
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 2: you things, who can lead you in the right direction.

907
00:41:56,600 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 2: Like it's so different from what you want, Like it's

908
00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:02,719
Speaker 2: crazy because at first it's like you know, and then

909
00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:04,720
Speaker 2: I think about these men that I was like dating

910
00:42:04,760 --> 00:42:07,560
Speaker 2: when I was younger, who were so flashy and popping.

911
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:10,319
Speaker 2: But it's like, what were y'all even talking about? Like

912
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:13,080
Speaker 2: it was just it. I can't like I'll never let you,

913
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:14,600
Speaker 2: would never have a family with you.

914
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:16,359
Speaker 3: I would never do any of those things.

915
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:17,839
Speaker 2: But my boyfriend at the time, when I was twenty,

916
00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 2: I really wanted to be with him, like I wanted

917
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:23,720
Speaker 2: to be a family like, which is crazy because I'm

918
00:42:23,800 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 2: so grateful. And that's why I say, some women they

919
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:31,200
Speaker 2: end up with the man having babies and baby daddies

920
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 2: and all that stuff.

921
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:32,840
Speaker 3: And just because they had.

922
00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:35,319
Speaker 2: Kids younger and they did this younger, don't mean that

923
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 2: it's better baby, because I'm grateful. There is not one

924
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:40,719
Speaker 2: man in my past that I've been with that I

925
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:44,400
Speaker 2: regret not having a child with, Like, I am so happy.

926
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:46,719
Speaker 2: And at the time, yeah, I was ready to be

927
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:48,799
Speaker 2: like I'll have a family, I'll do this.

928
00:42:49,080 --> 00:42:51,719
Speaker 3: And then I just like smartened up and was like, yeah, no,

929
00:42:51,800 --> 00:42:52,400
Speaker 3: I'm cool.

930
00:42:52,480 --> 00:42:54,320
Speaker 2: I can't do that. And thank god.

931
00:42:55,640 --> 00:42:56,439
Speaker 3: Yeah that was crazy.

932
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:58,400
Speaker 2: I can't speak for forties and fifties and all that.

933
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:00,600
Speaker 3: What did you think I would think?

934
00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 1: Forties? Now, woman in her forties, what's the standard?

935
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:07,719
Speaker 2: The woman in the forties who's single, is single?

936
00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:09,160
Speaker 3: She wants a young man.

937
00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:12,759
Speaker 1: Now, anybody speak anything her? Why she?

938
00:43:13,000 --> 00:43:14,160
Speaker 4: Huh?

939
00:43:14,480 --> 00:43:16,600
Speaker 3: I think a woman who sings on her forties starts.

940
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 3: You like, do I want to listen for the women.

941
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:21,120
Speaker 1: Listening to the all offers?

942
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:24,239
Speaker 2: That's not true. I have knows who are in the

943
00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 2: forties who are not like listening to all all No,

944
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:29,960
Speaker 2: that's not true. Like you think about like thirsty, that's

945
00:43:30,000 --> 00:43:32,760
Speaker 2: not true for women all women in their forties.

946
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 1: I don't believe that they're listening to any offer that.

947
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 3: I think if your fifties and sixties single.

948
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:42,120
Speaker 1: Is thirsty, No women forties is listening in the all offers.

949
00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:43,240
Speaker 3: I don't believe that.

950
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:45,479
Speaker 1: They can't be afford to be turning no dates down.

951
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:48,040
Speaker 2: This is what you don't realize that I think I

952
00:43:48,120 --> 00:43:50,400
Speaker 2: need you to realize a lot.

953
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:52,279
Speaker 3: Of women in their forties who are single.

954
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:53,759
Speaker 2: Do not care to be in a relationship.

955
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 3: You like, you feel good in your house.

956
00:43:55,960 --> 00:43:57,560
Speaker 2: You don't have a man in your house leaving the

957
00:43:57,600 --> 00:44:00,839
Speaker 2: toilet seat up, making a mask, stressing you out? Like,

958
00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:03,279
Speaker 2: what are you talking about? A woman who's still in

959
00:44:03,280 --> 00:44:04,160
Speaker 2: her forty singles?

960
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 3: She like, I'm cool.

961
00:44:05,760 --> 00:44:08,839
Speaker 2: You gotta be a real cool man to come mess

962
00:44:08,880 --> 00:44:12,720
Speaker 2: with me, because guess what I'm not. I'm in peace

963
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 2: in my house, my candles are burning, I feel good

964
00:44:15,640 --> 00:44:18,200
Speaker 2: and you know what I've heard statistically, and it's funny

965
00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:21,080
Speaker 2: because my mom told me this, but this is real.

966
00:44:21,200 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 2: She's like, you know, when man, when you're not messing,

967
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:25,799
Speaker 2: like when I'm not messing with your dad because they're married.

968
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 3: She was like, and I'd be like, I'm cool and

969
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:29,040
Speaker 3: I'm sleeping on the others the end of the house.

970
00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:31,720
Speaker 2: She said, he's way more depressed and just like moody

971
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:34,960
Speaker 2: and he's just a mess. I'm happy, like I'm hitting it.

972
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:38,920
Speaker 2: I feel good like women feel such. Men don't realize

973
00:44:38,920 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 2: how much men like y'all a way heavy on a

974
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:43,839
Speaker 2: woman and you just do not get that, Like men

975
00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:46,920
Speaker 2: do not understand women are there on your back and

976
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:49,719
Speaker 2: call everything that a man needs. If you're that type

977
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:51,839
Speaker 2: of woman, you're like, okay, baby, I'm here, I'm there,

978
00:44:51,920 --> 00:44:55,359
Speaker 2: I'm there, You're there, And it's like a lot, and

979
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:57,359
Speaker 2: I get it. It's you man feel like it's all

980
00:44:57,360 --> 00:44:59,160
Speaker 2: dealing with woman, But it's a lot dealing with a man,

981
00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:01,279
Speaker 2: it is, and it's a lot that they come with

982
00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 2: and a lot of shit. And women when they be

983
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 2: seeing on their forties, they probably like been through all

984
00:45:06,640 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 2: types of shit with these men and they're just like

985
00:45:08,680 --> 00:45:11,920
Speaker 2: I'm cool. I don't need that like you, I don't

986
00:45:11,960 --> 00:45:12,600
Speaker 2: need that.

987
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:15,720
Speaker 3: Like I'll just be by myself at that point.

988
00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:17,520
Speaker 2: It's just like when you were single and you just

989
00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:20,400
Speaker 2: I mean, like you know, when you're single, you feel like, Okay,

990
00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:22,800
Speaker 2: I'm cool, like I'm in the bed, I'm.

991
00:45:22,640 --> 00:45:24,759
Speaker 3: Not turning over dealing with nobody. I'm not.

992
00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:28,400
Speaker 2: Remember you were saying that women feel that too, like Okay,

993
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 2: I don't have to be.

994
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:34,319
Speaker 1: Also, women feel like they don't have that sense of

995
00:45:34,400 --> 00:45:39,880
Speaker 1: security women are when everybody itself, they they be scared

996
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:41,799
Speaker 1: a lot of nights if somebody breaking the house. They

997
00:45:41,800 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 1: don't have that sense of security that women also don't

998
00:45:45,200 --> 00:45:48,760
Speaker 1: have that that component that's a man's job around the house,

999
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:49,879
Speaker 1: Like damn, I need this.

1000
00:45:49,840 --> 00:45:53,400
Speaker 2: Dress, but that is not enough.

1001
00:45:53,400 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 1: I know that's not enough, but it's still like a thing.

1002
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 3: It's a little bit of a thing.

1003
00:45:57,440 --> 00:45:59,880
Speaker 1: It is. It's like damn. And then you start but

1004
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:02,319
Speaker 1: then that when that starts creeping in your mind for

1005
00:46:02,440 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 1: that woman to starts thinking like damn, I can use

1006
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:04,920
Speaker 1: a man.

1007
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:08,080
Speaker 3: I think that men are very useful. I would never

1008
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 3: say they're not.

1009
00:46:08,719 --> 00:46:10,440
Speaker 2: But I've been robbed at gunpoint in my home and

1010
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:12,440
Speaker 2: I could sleep peacefully at night and not be scared.

1011
00:46:12,719 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 3: I don't give it them, Like.

1012
00:46:14,520 --> 00:46:17,000
Speaker 2: Women are sleeping good and women.

1013
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:19,360
Speaker 3: Are chilling, Like it's not as bad as you think.

1014
00:46:19,440 --> 00:46:21,640
Speaker 2: And there's moments where you could feel like, Okay, I

1015
00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:22,880
Speaker 2: don't want to take out the trash.

1016
00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 3: But there's also like I'll get a housekeeper. There's little things.

1017
00:46:26,239 --> 00:46:29,759
Speaker 2: I'll hire a task rabbit. Like it's not enough on

1018
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:32,920
Speaker 2: a daily basis for women to be so desperate in

1019
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:34,799
Speaker 2: their forties to want a man. I just don't think

1020
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 2: it is like I'm not in my forties and singles,

1021
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:39,360
Speaker 2: so I don't know. But from the people I know

1022
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:42,439
Speaker 2: and the people I like, it's like that. Like even

1023
00:46:42,480 --> 00:46:44,759
Speaker 2: my best friend who's about to be forty and she

1024
00:46:45,320 --> 00:46:48,120
Speaker 2: is getting married now. But even during I remember she

1025
00:46:48,200 --> 00:46:50,399
Speaker 2: was like I do not want to date, Like I

1026
00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:52,800
Speaker 2: am cool, I have to force myself to date again

1027
00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:55,840
Speaker 2: because it's like, okay, maybe I will try one more time.

1028
00:46:56,239 --> 00:46:58,520
Speaker 2: But like it wasn't like I'm desperate with every man

1029
00:46:58,560 --> 00:47:00,879
Speaker 2: that comes. Like, no, she met one man and he's

1030
00:47:00,920 --> 00:47:04,399
Speaker 2: her fiance now, Like it's not that hard to get

1031
00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:06,279
Speaker 2: with a man and get married to him. It's not

1032
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 2: the hardest thing to do. Like, if you really wanted that,

1033
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 2: you can do it. There's plenty a man who will

1034
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 2: do that. And especially if you look good or have

1035
00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 2: a little body or have a little ass or something,

1036
00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:16,160
Speaker 2: you really could get it.

1037
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:17,439
Speaker 3: Like, it's not that deep.

1038
00:47:18,600 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 2: Men think that women cannot get man or they're so

1039
00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:24,400
Speaker 2: desperate to be with a man, and it's really not

1040
00:47:24,640 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 2: like that. And I hate that narrative because it blows me,

1041
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:30,040
Speaker 2: like it's women, Like I talk to women daily.

1042
00:47:30,080 --> 00:47:31,439
Speaker 3: It is not like that.

1043
00:47:32,040 --> 00:47:35,000
Speaker 2: The only reason why women even feel that remotely is

1044
00:47:35,000 --> 00:47:37,960
Speaker 2: because of societal pressure, because if you're single, you look

1045
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:40,080
Speaker 2: down upon. But once women get past that and don't

1046
00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:42,239
Speaker 2: care if people think about them, Oh they really don't care.

1047
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:45,319
Speaker 2: They really don't care. Period. Now, if you're a woman

1048
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:47,759
Speaker 2: who's like broke and you've been used to a man

1049
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:49,440
Speaker 2: taking care of you and now you're in your forties

1050
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:51,319
Speaker 2: and fifties and you don't have that man, you try

1051
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:52,839
Speaker 2: to catch that man for that check.

1052
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:53,960
Speaker 4: Period.

1053
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:54,600
Speaker 1: You try.

1054
00:47:54,680 --> 00:47:55,480
Speaker 3: Now, that's a thing.

1055
00:47:55,960 --> 00:47:58,120
Speaker 2: That's a thing where women are used to being married

1056
00:47:58,120 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 2: to man and now they money ran out, their alimony

1057
00:48:01,640 --> 00:48:04,319
Speaker 2: ran out, and they're like, oh, I need to catch

1058
00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:05,200
Speaker 2: a man real quick.

1059
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:09,359
Speaker 1: Time out of alimony run out. Yeah, they they're gonna

1060
00:48:09,360 --> 00:48:11,840
Speaker 1: be at the age to where that man that you

1061
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:14,640
Speaker 1: have before ain't there and the options books no more.

1062
00:48:14,719 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 2: No, you don't have the same options that you had

1063
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:19,120
Speaker 2: for sure, you know what I'm saying. But you gonna

1064
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:21,719
Speaker 2: try not the ones that you you're trying to catch

1065
00:48:21,760 --> 00:48:23,880
Speaker 2: that check. Like you know, I know women who are

1066
00:48:23,880 --> 00:48:26,160
Speaker 2: married to like big time people and now they're in

1067
00:48:26,200 --> 00:48:28,879
Speaker 2: their fifties and they try to catch check so much

1068
00:48:29,280 --> 00:48:31,839
Speaker 2: and it's not Yeah, and you can't. Now, I will

1069
00:48:31,840 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 2: say that it's harder to catch that man in your fifties,

1070
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:35,719
Speaker 2: that type of man that you had when you were

1071
00:48:35,719 --> 00:48:37,839
Speaker 2: young and you blew it or whatever happened, and now

1072
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 2: that's the money is gone. Good luck with that and

1073
00:48:40,160 --> 00:48:41,960
Speaker 2: you get a man, But good luck will get the

1074
00:48:42,000 --> 00:48:43,960
Speaker 2: man that's about to be paying all of that and

1075
00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:46,360
Speaker 2: doing all that. I mean, Jeff Bezos married a fifty

1076
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:51,000
Speaker 2: five year old woman, so it's possible, but it does,

1077
00:48:51,160 --> 00:48:53,560
Speaker 2: you know I do. I will say that your options

1078
00:48:53,600 --> 00:48:55,600
Speaker 2: trickled down because if it was man gonna be with

1079
00:48:55,640 --> 00:48:59,200
Speaker 2: someone who's fifty or thirty, like, why am I? A

1080
00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:01,200
Speaker 2: lot of men are not gonna they're gonna choose a

1081
00:49:01,239 --> 00:49:01,840
Speaker 2: younger woman.

1082
00:49:02,719 --> 00:49:06,879
Speaker 1: Yeah. I just feel like women that are single think

1083
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:10,479
Speaker 1: about it more than men. Men. You hear so many

1084
00:49:10,520 --> 00:49:12,799
Speaker 1: men like man because you know, you be like, I'm

1085
00:49:12,840 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 1: at peace now.

1086
00:49:14,400 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 2: Yeah what you're saying, I'm like, damn.

1087
00:49:16,320 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 1: As a man, when you, as a man, you give

1088
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:21,640
Speaker 1: so much to a woman, and you know women give

1089
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:24,960
Speaker 1: so much to a man. But then, like man, we

1090
00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:29,560
Speaker 1: asked to have more of a role in a woman's life.

1091
00:49:29,640 --> 00:49:32,120
Speaker 1: You know, we asked to take care of that woman.

1092
00:49:32,280 --> 00:49:36,799
Speaker 1: We asked to be the leader, the take the financial

1093
00:49:36,800 --> 00:49:40,279
Speaker 1: burden off a woman. We hear that, like, be the protector.

1094
00:49:40,440 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 1: We're here, we we I think we have so much

1095
00:49:43,360 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 1: more on our plate. And it's like that society says

1096
00:49:48,560 --> 00:49:50,320
Speaker 1: that a man has to take care of the woman.

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Speaker 1: That's the societal you know, think like, you know, we

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Speaker 1: got it's pressure.

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Speaker 3: That's a lot of pressure.

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00:49:58,320 --> 00:50:00,759
Speaker 1: It's pressure because then not only do I gotta take

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00:50:00,800 --> 00:50:03,240
Speaker 1: care of her and make sure she happy, she probably

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00:50:03,239 --> 00:50:05,359
Speaker 1: got ten thousand other men that want to do that

1103
00:50:05,400 --> 00:50:07,920
Speaker 1: for her, that don't know her based on her looks.

1104
00:50:07,960 --> 00:50:11,320
Speaker 1: So she constantly getting it from a thousand different men.

1105
00:50:11,719 --> 00:50:15,480
Speaker 1: Even when I have a bad day. So it's like

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00:50:15,600 --> 00:50:17,759
Speaker 1: I can't even have a bad day because something else

1107
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:21,880
Speaker 1: is gonna creep in to where if you know, if that,

1108
00:50:22,040 --> 00:50:24,880
Speaker 1: if our shit ain't strong, and then you know that

1109
00:50:24,880 --> 00:50:26,720
Speaker 1: creep through the crash, I can lose her.

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00:50:27,040 --> 00:50:29,880
Speaker 2: If you have the wrong woman, that's the most shallow

1111
00:50:30,080 --> 00:50:32,840
Speaker 2: not but that happens. It happens with the wrong woman.

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00:50:33,160 --> 00:50:35,440
Speaker 2: Men are choosing the wrong woman, and women are choosing

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Speaker 2: the wrong.

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Speaker 1: Man, choosing the wrong woman when you choose them, well,

1115
00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:40,400
Speaker 1: you know you choosing the wrong man when.

1116
00:50:40,239 --> 00:50:42,239
Speaker 2: You date them and you get to know them, and

1117
00:50:42,280 --> 00:50:45,040
Speaker 2: you put you don't know someone until you see them mad,

1118
00:50:45,280 --> 00:50:46,600
Speaker 2: until you see them sad.

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Speaker 1: Marriage, and then it can doe like people will date

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Speaker 1: for five years and then get married and divorced in

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00:50:51,719 --> 00:50:52,760
Speaker 1: six months. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: But the point is is I don't know about all

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00:50:54,719 --> 00:50:54,920
Speaker 3: of that.

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00:50:54,960 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 2: But what I'm telling you is you know intuitively if

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00:50:57,160 --> 00:50:59,480
Speaker 2: this person is really rocking with you or not period,

1126
00:51:00,040 --> 00:51:02,480
Speaker 2: and say, I have intuition to have this, but then blinded,

1127
00:51:02,640 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 2: so blinded that a woman will let another man. If

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00:51:05,160 --> 00:51:08,000
Speaker 2: a man can creep in my relationship on a bad day,

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00:51:08,200 --> 00:51:10,480
Speaker 2: you was never my man to begin with. If a

1130
00:51:10,520 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 2: woman can steal my man because I had a bad week,

1131
00:51:13,120 --> 00:51:14,960
Speaker 2: then he was never my man to begin with.

1132
00:51:15,160 --> 00:51:17,360
Speaker 1: That was never my man.

1133
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:20,280
Speaker 3: It was just like, it was never my man.

1134
00:51:20,840 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 1: She was my woman. No, don't I hate when people

1135
00:51:23,120 --> 00:51:23,480
Speaker 1: say that.

1136
00:51:23,560 --> 00:51:25,799
Speaker 2: Was never my man. I wasn't.

1137
00:51:25,840 --> 00:51:29,239
Speaker 1: Don't say that because it was your man. Because you

1138
00:51:29,320 --> 00:51:32,560
Speaker 1: had a moment in that relationship to willas it felt

1139
00:51:32,600 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 1: the way. That's the reason you made him your man.

1140
00:51:34,719 --> 00:51:37,440
Speaker 1: That's the reason he made you his woman. He was

1141
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:41,719
Speaker 1: your man. It's just that it faded. He was your man.

1142
00:51:42,120 --> 00:51:45,760
Speaker 2: You're not talking about that. We're not talking about it faded.

1143
00:51:45,840 --> 00:51:48,160
Speaker 2: You just said, if I have one bad day and

1144
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:50,759
Speaker 2: I'm not able to take care of my woman, I

1145
00:51:50,800 --> 00:51:52,799
Speaker 2: could never have a bad day because another man's going

1146
00:51:52,840 --> 00:51:54,640
Speaker 2: to come in. If another man could come in when

1147
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:57,239
Speaker 2: you have one bad day, then that's all.

1148
00:51:57,040 --> 00:51:59,520
Speaker 1: One bad day. It's just like you you might be

1149
00:51:59,560 --> 00:52:01,719
Speaker 1: going through something. It just added up to where you

1150
00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:04,200
Speaker 1: just got vulnerable. You know what I'm saying.

1151
00:52:04,920 --> 00:52:05,960
Speaker 2: I don't doubt.

1152
00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:09,440
Speaker 3: Mistakes happen in relationships constantly.

1153
00:52:09,480 --> 00:52:11,840
Speaker 2: But what I'm saying is if you have a strong foundation,

1154
00:52:11,960 --> 00:52:16,880
Speaker 2: which people are lacking to build. People are building empires

1155
00:52:16,920 --> 00:52:18,280
Speaker 2: on weak foundations.

1156
00:52:18,520 --> 00:52:20,880
Speaker 3: You are building a building blocks.

1157
00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:24,040
Speaker 2: You're putting building blocks on weak foundations that are not

1158
00:52:24,160 --> 00:52:25,080
Speaker 2: built to last.

1159
00:52:25,400 --> 00:52:28,239
Speaker 3: We are not building the right foundations, and that is

1160
00:52:28,280 --> 00:52:28,920
Speaker 3: the issue.

1161
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:31,359
Speaker 2: We're going into marriages. When you are at a job,

1162
00:52:31,560 --> 00:52:34,239
Speaker 2: you get promoted because what you did a good job,

1163
00:52:34,280 --> 00:52:37,240
Speaker 2: so now you're the manager. We're promoting people that didn't

1164
00:52:37,239 --> 00:52:40,160
Speaker 2: do the work be to gain the promotion. We're promoting

1165
00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:42,320
Speaker 2: people to marriage and you didn't even do the steps

1166
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:44,520
Speaker 2: in order to become the manager. You didn't do the

1167
00:52:44,520 --> 00:52:47,040
Speaker 2: steps to become the wife, and now you're getting promoted

1168
00:52:47,080 --> 00:52:50,000
Speaker 2: to be That why we're building things on weak foundations,

1169
00:52:50,000 --> 00:52:50,880
Speaker 2: and that's the problem.

1170
00:52:51,040 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 3: A lot of people are doing that. They're moving swiftly.

1171
00:52:53,520 --> 00:52:55,400
Speaker 2: They're not getting to know a person correctly. They're not

1172
00:52:55,440 --> 00:52:57,719
Speaker 2: seeing them in rough situations. They're not seeing them when

1173
00:52:57,760 --> 00:53:00,799
Speaker 2: it's mad. You don't you People want to judge every

1174
00:53:00,800 --> 00:53:02,880
Speaker 2: little thing, but they don't judge a motherfucker when you

1175
00:53:02,920 --> 00:53:05,759
Speaker 2: see them when something really gets hit and you see

1176
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:07,759
Speaker 2: how that person really acts and it's like, no, I'm

1177
00:53:07,800 --> 00:53:08,799
Speaker 2: down for you, what's up?

1178
00:53:09,080 --> 00:53:09,160
Speaker 1: Like?

1179
00:53:09,200 --> 00:53:12,120
Speaker 2: People don't acknowledge those moments. They want to acknowledge all

1180
00:53:12,160 --> 00:53:14,920
Speaker 2: the other shit. And that's the problem. People are looking

1181
00:53:14,960 --> 00:53:18,240
Speaker 2: past the things that matter and are rocking with another

1182
00:53:18,280 --> 00:53:20,440
Speaker 2: person who ain't even showing up in them ways and

1183
00:53:20,480 --> 00:53:23,240
Speaker 2: promoting them type of people to marriage, and then they're.

1184
00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:26,080
Speaker 3: Mad at the world and all women and all men.

1185
00:53:26,320 --> 00:53:28,919
Speaker 2: No, be mad at yourself for not acknowledging the fact

1186
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:31,320
Speaker 2: that this person wasn't even in the position to become

1187
00:53:31,400 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 2: that husband or wife, period, point blank. And now you're

1188
00:53:34,680 --> 00:53:37,040
Speaker 2: judging every other person that comes along. That's not how

1189
00:53:37,080 --> 00:53:40,080
Speaker 2: that works. There's a lot of people who build strong

1190
00:53:40,120 --> 00:53:42,919
Speaker 2: foundations and have serious marriages and when things get rough

1191
00:53:43,040 --> 00:53:45,920
Speaker 2: and things get foul, they're going to stay with you.

1192
00:53:46,480 --> 00:53:49,760
Speaker 2: They are going to rock with you. You're gonna make mistakes,

1193
00:53:49,760 --> 00:53:51,759
Speaker 2: but they are going to be down for you.

1194
00:53:52,800 --> 00:53:53,200
Speaker 3: Period.

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00:53:53,320 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, we live in a community, especially within the black community,

1196
00:53:57,239 --> 00:53:58,760
Speaker 2: where we don't see that enough.

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00:53:59,040 --> 00:54:00,840
Speaker 3: But that is real and it happens.

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Speaker 2: I have five sisters, all married for more than twenty years,

1199
00:54:04,960 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 2: and that has happened. I have my parents are seventy five.

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00:54:08,200 --> 00:54:09,520
Speaker 2: You know how much they can't stand each other, but

1201
00:54:09,560 --> 00:54:13,480
Speaker 2: they are in that shit period. So like there's a

1202
00:54:13,600 --> 00:54:16,120
Speaker 2: lot of examples of that. We don't highlight that enough.

1203
00:54:16,280 --> 00:54:18,520
Speaker 2: We don't talk about that enough because we talk about

1204
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:21,879
Speaker 2: all the negative shit constantly about what women and men

1205
00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:23,839
Speaker 2: need to be doing better, But what we really need

1206
00:54:23,880 --> 00:54:26,600
Speaker 2: to be doing better is really rocking with each other

1207
00:54:26,640 --> 00:54:29,160
Speaker 2: and building shit on a strong foundation, being a good person,

1208
00:54:29,360 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 2: having real conversations, having tough conversations, and learning how to

1209
00:54:32,640 --> 00:54:35,960
Speaker 2: grow and build together with each other and as a community.

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Speaker 1: You cook today, You cooked today?

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Speaker 3: No, I'm not kidding. Almost got me.

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Speaker 4: There you have it.

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Speaker 1: This is to take it over the game, all right,

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Speaker 1: everybody welcome to truth after dark.

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Speaker 3: Do you think that men or women are more toxic