Speaker 1: I just want to talk about filler because I've seen
Speaker 1: some stuff online about it, and I've seen people dispelling
Speaker 1: the rumor that filler stays there forever, and filler stays
Speaker 1: there forever like you. That's why people's faces get really
Speaker 1: fucked up because it's just sitting inside your face, and
Speaker 1: the people who are saying that it doesn't stay there
Speaker 1: forever are in some way on their own or adjacent
Speaker 1: to someone selling filler. So even plastic surgeons will say
Speaker 1: it to you in private, but they won't say it
Speaker 1: to you publicly because they are thrown so much business
Speaker 1: from dermatologists that make their living off of filler. Like
Speaker 1: most people, like you know, makeup artists aren't making their
Speaker 1: big money if they have big brands off of doing makeup.
Speaker 1: They're making their big, big, giant money off of the brand,
Speaker 1: off of the So if you're a dermatologist, you know,
Speaker 1: picking someone's pimple is not where you're making your money.
Speaker 1: It's your products and all that other stuff, and you
Speaker 1: and your filler and those botoxes. So they live off
Speaker 1: of those lasers and fillers, et cetera. So know who
Speaker 1: you can trust with the dermatologists, which is not many,
Speaker 1: by the way at all, and know that that filler
Speaker 1: is the devil. That filler is the devil. But botox
Speaker 1: is different to me. Botox I'm not counting. I mean
Speaker 1: the stuff where it puts like that shit inside botox
Speaker 1: I do believe dissolves. And the reason I know that
Speaker 1: is because botox saved my jaw. That's really primarily why
Speaker 1: botox is important to me is the reduction of my
Speaker 1: jaw muscles because they had been built up like bicep
Speaker 1: curls and changed my Facebook that I broke my jawbone
Speaker 1: or removed my job on if that's possible. That sounds
Speaker 1: quite painful and drastic. So people are fucking crazy. Another
Speaker 1: thing I think you have to try this is back
Speaker 1: to dating trust the process in dating. One thing is
Speaker 1: people are like, I'm single and they want to go
Speaker 1: meet someone, and you're grabbing onto somebody as if it's
Speaker 1: not the most important decision of your life or one
Speaker 1: of you know. I mean, whether you're gonna have kids
Speaker 1: is an important decision, But like relationship, who you're gonna
Speaker 1: spend your life with, your bed, with your your heart,
Speaker 1: with your body with that's really important. And people somehow
Speaker 1: think I'm ready to start dating and that they have
Speaker 1: to be snatched up three months later. Anything good takes
Speaker 1: waiting and it's hard to be patient. But if you're
Speaker 1: working a quality versus quantity model, and I've never really
Speaker 1: subscribed to this, I've jumped into relationships and I, for
Speaker 1: the first time in my life at this age, realize
Speaker 1: too soon. Because think about anybody who loses a tremendous
Speaker 1: amount of weight that's really gonna change their life and
Speaker 1: their body now where they're gonna look crazy and it's gonna,
Speaker 1: you know, get gained all back. But like when they
Speaker 1: do it right, it's something that lasts their whole life.
Speaker 1: If you rush to meet someone just because you're feeling
Speaker 1: insecure or like you just want to be in something,
Speaker 1: think about all the good opportunities and options you're passing
Speaker 1: up on by making a decision out of fear. Like
Speaker 1: I think, if you're dating, and you're proactively dating, meaning
Speaker 1: you're having either a matchmaker or on a dating app
Speaker 1: or having everyone set you up or whatever you're going
Speaker 1: into you know, chat rooms, whatever your means is, going
Speaker 1: out every night, meeting people, getting people's numbers, whatever your
Speaker 1: means is. But if you're dedicated to meeting someone, I
Speaker 1: think you need to give yourself six months. Six months
Speaker 1: is light like a year before you lock anything down,
Speaker 1: because it's such an important decision. And also, if anyone's
Speaker 1: setting you up, someone might still be in something, someone
Speaker 1: might be in a transition. What if an amazing person
Speaker 1: you know just wasn't available right then, but you're being
Speaker 1: patient means that they come later. It's just something I
Speaker 1: think you have to trust the process. And these matchmakers
Speaker 1: that come on my podcast say like it could take
Speaker 1: them months to introduce people to someone. Some of them
Speaker 1: charge hundreds of thousands of dollars to get people like
Speaker 1: let's say ten guys, right, But some of them wait
Speaker 1: five months, six months to introduce someone to one person
Speaker 1: and they never get them the ten guys. The person
Speaker 1: paid the seven hundred thousand dollars, but they introduce them
Speaker 1: to their perfect life partner based on what they wanted.
Speaker 1: So you have to be your own matchmaker, no different
Speaker 1: than being your own publicist. There's no majestic formula to
Speaker 1: being a matchmaker. They go on LinkedIn, they go on
Speaker 1: the apps, they go to events, they meet people, they network,
Speaker 1: they give cards. They're just a representative. They're like a
Speaker 1: dating agent. So do that for yourself and get a
Speaker 1: little dating committee. Get your friends, get a couple of
Speaker 1: people you may have blind spots, ask the advice. Get
Speaker 1: like two to three people that you ask these questions
Speaker 1: and they'll give you the truth and be your own matchmaker.
Speaker 1: But be proactive about it, like it's just something so important.
Speaker 1: Should not be like a rush job. And I think
Speaker 1: so many people do that. That's fine if you want
Speaker 1: to get laid, go on these apps and go, but
Speaker 1: not to like rush into a relationships because the first
Speaker 1: person who treats you nicely, you know, you jump into
Speaker 1: a relationship with because then you're in the wrong car.
Speaker 1: And I've done that so many times. And when I
Speaker 1: go back to trusting the process. Think about an executive search.
Speaker 1: Are you looking for any basic dope? If you are
Speaker 1: not looking for any basic dope, think about an executive search.
Speaker 1: Let's say the CEO of Apple has left or a
Speaker 1: big company and they have to replace this guy. You
Speaker 1: think they're just going for any schnook to replace this
Speaker 1: man or woman, like just any schmoke. Let's let's go
Speaker 1: look around anybody. Let's look on the want ads and
Speaker 1: see if this person wants to replace the CEO of Apple. Right,
Speaker 1: what they're gonna do is carefully do vetting, interviewing. They're
Speaker 1: gonna go do research. They're going to look through LinkedIn,
Speaker 1: They're going to look through a lot of different places.
Speaker 1: They're gonna go word of mouth, they're gonna do some
Speaker 1: due diligence, and then they're gonna still try and trial
Speaker 1: and error. So you're doing your own executive search. You're
Speaker 1: not just like jumping into a position or allowing some
Speaker 1: and also take the position like you're some fucking want
Speaker 1: dad in the back of a newspaper, Like the five
Speaker 1: guys come in over the course of a couple of months,
Speaker 1: and you're just gonna one of them. You're gonna compare
Speaker 1: those five, and that's gonna be the entire buffet of
Speaker 1: the universe. Anything good doesn't come easy. I will go
Speaker 1: back to this. If it doesn't make you feel good,
Speaker 1: don't do it. That means if being with someone, if
Speaker 1: the way they're texting you, if the way they're calling you,
Speaker 1: for the way they're making you feel, if you know,
Speaker 1: you could maybe make a small tweak with some communication,
Speaker 1: but if it ultimately is really you know, I have
Speaker 1: these girls that'll call me and they'll be like no one.
Speaker 1: He called last week and he said we go next
Speaker 1: week on a trip to Europe. Then he ended up
Speaker 1: saying we're only gonna go to the Catskills for three days.
Speaker 1: And I hear the scrap voice, like it's like scraps.
Speaker 1: I'm like, who are you Like you're taking scrape You're
Speaker 1: like the way you're talking, it's talking like you're like
Speaker 1: a dog at the door that's waiting for your little
Speaker 1: pieces of meat. The way you're talking about this guy
Speaker 1: who may as a little bit of a little bit
Speaker 1: of money, or you're feeling vulnerable, you're feeling insecure, you're
Speaker 1: at a certain age like stop that right now, do
Speaker 1: not take scraps or scrubs. Be alone in that case,
Speaker 1: like be alone, go back to the drawing board. But
Speaker 1: like I hear this all the time with girls like
Speaker 1: calling their friends to like try to justify things that
Speaker 1: are basic math. You're like, we do know the two
Speaker 1: plus two? He goes four. So I'm treats you like
Speaker 1: shit and you're just sort of accepting that you gotta
Speaker 1: get out of your own way. And also you can
Speaker 1: always get the ball back. You can always get your
Speaker 1: power back, even if you are the doormat that's making
Speaker 1: bad decisions and feeling bad about yourself because you're being
Speaker 1: a little desperate, being a little needy, Like it's giving
Speaker 1: that you're like a little bit of like the wounded bird.
Speaker 1: Pull that shit together, that'll surprise that person more. You know,
Speaker 1: that person that you're texting with who's kind of blowing
Speaker 1: you off or like calling you last minute. You're accepting
Speaker 1: scraps thinking you're gonna somehow majestically get them if you
Speaker 1: just shut down and act to them the way that
Speaker 1: you act with people that you're not interested in, Like
Speaker 1: you forget to text back. Sometimes you're not that you know,
Speaker 1: obsessed with it. You're just like, oh sorry, trying to
Speaker 1: be kind. You don't care. You be nice to them,
Speaker 1: not nice, it doesn't matter to you. You're not overthinking
Speaker 1: every comma and semi colon. That's how you have to
Speaker 1: be with the people that you do like like be
Speaker 1: super nice, but you're not like overthinking it. Respond right away,
Speaker 1: then next time, respond not away. But you can shut
Speaker 1: down too. You can shut the fuck down and reset
Speaker 1: or just get out of there, and then you can
Speaker 1: just get your power back where you'll just feel good like, okay,
Speaker 1: you got the last words. Someone treated and it's never
Speaker 1: to lay. You could be a doormat. Someone could cheat
Speaker 1: on you. You could be a doormat, and you could
Speaker 1: realize on a delay, what am I doing? This person
Speaker 1: disrespecting me and I'm not respecting myself. You could pull
Speaker 1: your bootstrips up. Then anytime you can do it. It's like
Speaker 1: starting to eat healthier, exercise. You don't have to do
Speaker 1: it on a timeline right away. You may be on
Speaker 1: a delay, so do it when, but you could just
Speaker 1: you could do it very late and then get that
Speaker 1: power back. Walk back to after, walk to dock to
Speaker 1: the after